Narcissists create their own karma. Many aging narcissists end up alone at the end of their life. They have alienated SO many people in their lifetime… even their own children.
That's so true my narcissist husband abandoned all 4 of his children two wife's ! I'm very hurt and so angry I want revenge I feel so stupid I didn't see it !I hope I heal 21 years of this I'll I did was give and give us took and took!
My ex threatened “You will end up alone(after I clean you out)” In the end she did not clean me out and she is all alone I have a wonderful life. Karma works every time
The only revenge that I know to work effectively against the narcissists is to first discard them as in cutting ties or rejecting them before they get a chance of doing anything harmful to your life, then moving on to live your best life. That's the only revenge that truly works.
@@lorenamackey218 I did exactly what you guys did... Radio silence. They tried blowing up my other phone line and I didn't even listen to the messages. "Cut them off without a word" was the video that inspired me. Now did I plan on this? No. I just knew it was time instinctively
I don’t want revenge, I just want to heal . He’s dead to me , invisible, he no longer exists in my mind . I want to move forward alone . I’m not ready to be in another relationship with any one . I’m happy alone , my adult children and my grandchildren are my life xxx
They need no help from us. Wash, rinse, repeat. They will eventually self destruct. But sadly, (and not surprisingly), it will always be someone else's fault. The best revenge is living and loving. Be happy they are shitting on someone else now☮️
the best revenge is no revenge… they don't deserve our energy… karma will serve them sooner or later… I feel sick at a thought of how a narcissistic person is experienced by other people around him… .in front of others he is an angel behind four walls he is a personified evil… thank you Andrew for another great video 🙏… love & light 💫😇🙏
Agreed, why seek revenge on a narcissist who is already miserable? Focus on yourself, and reaching your fullest potential, it's way more fun and rewarding, and is actually what hurts the narc more than anything. Wise words as always, Andrew, thank you!
That’s simply not enough. When Jesus an the angels casted the devil out of heaven they threw his horrible ass out of heaven they didn’t wait for him to leave…. Forces evil are not to be played with but are to be dealt with accordingly. That part
@@cheekslord1222 Christ's name is Yeshua, not Jesus, look it up. And one should stand up to evil, but pursuing revenge on a narcissist is a waste of time that may just ensnare you in further complications.
@@andre1987eph I don't need to acknowledge anything to a narcissist, just cut them off, because that's all they deserve. And people don't "owe" each other anything, but to manipulate and try to control others is not the will of God. Remember that, Andre.
There is no need to get your hands dirty with loser they are already so miserable because their life is about nothing they can't experience joy, happiness, peace, and love and that for itself is karma...there is nothing else to add.God bless everyone
You are 100% right! It’s sad in a way? The lies, lies have to be covered with more lies. Thank you so very much. You are right! I’m being blessed just by listening to your channel.🙏🏻
I was curious what you were gna say and you said exactly what I was expecting you to say. Good job Andrew! These narcissists are already miserable people and let's not forget. "What you sow is what you reap, they will get theirs in due time".
After having narcs in my life and learning What narcissism is, I can spot a narc a mile away. I have been surrounded by narcissism my whole life! It started with my mother and ex-husband and even some bosses. I thought it was a weak person ,but the reality was I was an empath and I couldn’t understand how people could be so evil for no reason. I will never let another narc in my life! I feel free!🙃
The only revenge that actually is an injury to the narc: 1. Complete no contact. They no longer exist. 2. Pursue your dreams and enjoy life without them. Aka they no longer exist. 3. Revenge doesn't matter to you whatsoever bc youre not a narcissist. HG Tudor and Professor Sam Vaknin, 2 psychopath narcissists, teach these are the only ways to "win".
I am currently staying away from an insanity. But I'd be lying to you if I didn't tell you that it warms my heart to hear self-professed narcs like those admit that it causes the classic NARC INJURY. That being said, this time it's about ME instead of them for once!
There was a period of time where I was so angry I did try to take revenge on my ex narc. But it made it worse for me and I saw myself stooping to the low levels of him and his low grade supply. I looked at myself in the mirror and saw someone more in pain not satisfied. So, you are right, Andrew! The best revenge against them is to just ignore and give them no recognition while I better myself and my life. Although it’s hard not to think about all the damage that’s done to me by my ex narc, I make a great deal of effort every day to be thankful for the positive things in my life. 🙏
I considered getting revenge on my ex narcissist, I could make him lose his job, house, kids, basically everything. Then I thought to myself, I would be just like him. I decided he's a pathetic little b**** and he will mess up anything good that comes his way. Thank you for all the great videos!!!
That's actually the best revenge. They want you to react and want the drama. They see how they really don't matter that much when you have the gasoline to light them up and you don't.
AMEN! Revenge is Mine saieth the Lord. Let it be His. I figure the narc has to face himself one day or another - the image will be more devastating to him than any revenge of mine ever could be. I just have to move forward. My destination didn't change because he put roadblocks in my path. Fortunately God gave me the intelligence to figure out how to get over, under, around or through them. Thank you, Andrew, for being a huge step beyond those roadblocks for me!
They will get there on revenge.... h*** is Karma!!! So glad you are doing so good.... I will be there one day soon.... there is that beautiful smile again.... have a great afternoon and enjoy your time in the pool. And thank you so your powerful words..
You feel so much better by not trying to hurt anyone else...even the narcissist. Karma. The energy you intentionally put out there you will receive in return. Let the universe take care of the narcissist. Thank you, Andrew!
Thank you Andrew! 💜💜💜 Another important topic exposed! Yes. They already are as miserable as anyone could be. The one thing I am having trouble with right now, after 15 years of really, really, horrible abuse...all aspects inclusive...is not revenge, but getting over the pity I feel for him...that is what is hurting me right now...it never had to be this way..I will let this go, I am working through it. This too shall pass. But as far as revenge goes, there is Justice, Karma, and Truth. These are energies that are designed by the Creator to take care of Judgment. Once you let go energetically, i.e. forgive and forget about them, the Judgment trio can go to work. They are way better at it than we are...that is their job. We are here to LOVE. To learn discernment without judgment. To be the best Creators we can be! Carry on beautiful Empaths! Let your light shine!
@@tootienottoofruitie1726 Yes, this is true for those who have not done their shadow work. If one still attaches emotionally to others.... Emotional attachment is a FEAR issue.
Revenge to a narcissist is just another form of supply. It proves to them that they are still able to control your thoughts and that they are still in your head. So forget it. What narcissists hate most is indifference and being ignored. Their worst nightmare is not mattering to other people. So ignore them and move on. Don't let them occupy any space whatsoever in your mind. Confine them to history.
before i pressed play i said "Take my power back! they can't stand that"... I'm 2 years 6 months sober i have the jekyll and hyde with the drink and it kept me stuck in the in the narcissist supply and i started to understand their insane thinking when (they beng the ex and his family.) thought that my sobriety was a very dangerous thing for everyone! alcoholism is insane! Empaths and alcohol is the worst if you have an addiction, the narc had fun once but now he dont, he didn't know me he never knew me i didn't know myself but i'm loving myself now and it is whole wide worlds apart from them now whole planets away from my ex and his lot, my cup is overflowing in a different kind of way and they are without my supply.
One way to teach is to show others they can trust you, cause you're the one who tells the truth. And I agree one should not seek revenge. Let the narcissist show who he is. Most people eventually will understand. Trust people.
My dad (my first narcissist) would tell me that I was stupid over and over again. My revenge is I studied. I graduated with honors in elementary, in high school, and in college. Proving a narcissist wrong is one of the best revenge and motivation.
Andrew you are awesome for making everything I've been through make sense. It's devastating, and at the same time refreshing knowing it was not me, the whole entire time, he damn sure tried to make me think it was. God bless you!! ♥️
The narcissist is punished with himself, and I don't feel the need to. He is a person who is not doing well. and it does no one any good. He doesn't have feelings, but he plays them to get love, which unfortunately he can't give. I need people who are real, can really love, who can put themselves in the shoes of others. I don't need the laughing fake fool, but someone who holds my hand even in bad situations in life. Thanks to you
I have lost myself to so many narcisists in my life and am not willing to do it any longer. The best way to start living your best life is to leave all of the narcisists behind and move on without any second thought about them. Healing for me means not forcing anything and doing only the things which feel authentic for you and bring you peace. Thank you Andrew❤
You are right…I really did love him…I brought love…he did not. As an empath, this has been one of the most difficult things for me, my husband is a narcissist
You are one of the most incredibly articulate you tubers who captures the personal hell of being with a narcissist. You label their behaviors clearly. After 23 years with someone who was insidiously evil, It is beautiful that you encourage the high road. However the high road is an alternative to the low road of vengeance. I think of the relationship as a cult of 2. I have read and read, listened and listened, but no one talks about how your soul is sucked out little by little. You look back and none of it was real. You have good advice. Like you, I would like to inform young people of some concrete behaviors we have all experienced, Thanks for you channel.
That’s right, the best revenge is to live a life beyond the narcissistic fog. Proves how insignificant the narcissist is. That’s the worst they can feel, insignificant.
I appreciate these videos so much Andrew. Thank you for making them. I am still struggling with my divorce after three years. I was married 10 years to the narcissist, and three beautiful kids with her. I am sure she will answer to the most high one day. I am thankful I understand now people operate in this manner and will protect myself moving forward. God bless you, and keep up the good work. Namaste.
I find my self again after a few months. When I was in that relationshit i lost myself en became someone i don’t want to be. I was controling his phone, i was upset all the time and very unhappy. I became an ugly person bc he did blameshifting all the time and make me crazy. So i defend myself! I was aware i lost myself and new i was a lovely, kind person before him. I am myself again and that is the best revenge.
This is so true . They just cannot take in the beauty around us. Even on holidays. They are constantly doing something.. never ever interacting with us like a normal functioning adult. They are like little kids in a grown up body.which they actually are .
Thank u for this video, this explains the narcissist I was with. It was the first time in my life to experience such treatment. It's depressing and draining. Thank God I found ppl like u who explains this sickness properly.
Out of all of the videos that I've searched for and found after just exiting out of a relationship with a narcissist, this is by far the the best and most insightful advice I've heard. I can tell you've been through what I've been through. Thank you! I'm so appreciative! 🙏
Big hugs. Big hugs. I can’t ever thank you enough for this.You know there’s times when we need to take someone and turn them around facing forward because they don’t see which way they’re facing. Man I thank you so much. It’s like the cage is opened and someone leads us out. Wow. Yeah.
This is such a horrible mental illness, that each state in the USA, should make it mandatory to pass a law to incorporate Narcissism 101 in ALL public schools!!!!! Especially, seeing how it's mental abuse is so devastating. .to the human race.
Sleep abuse. That's how I found out about narcissism. I was so fricking tired !! It didn't matter how much I begged him to let me sleep, he'd use different excuses night after night. I moved into the spare bedroom but he would SLAM the door open to wake me up, stand there all smiles and happy like a little kid on Christmas, among so many other things. Anyway, that's what got me researching about what tf his problem was with me sleeping. It turns out that I'd been dealing with this type my whole life and now they're all gone!
Hi Andrew, I'm new to your channel and thank you for your messages. Your thoughts have certainly resonated. My "revenge" came while I was in the relationship and I had to unfortunately call the authorities and send him to jail. He missed some important family events while he was incarcerated and spent his 50th birthday in a cell. Being an empath, can you believe I actually felt guilty about that even though it was because he broke the law and he had also assaulted me and choked me to the point of me nearly dying. I'm moving forward with my life now as you say and thank you for your messages. They help me and I'm sure many others to validate the mess that many of us have gone through with these disordered individuals.
When I didn’t know what was going on with him he always told me I was so strong he had no idea how mentally strong I was. I would never take revenge I would rather walk away and never have someone like that in my life. I’ve read a lot what happens to them in the end. They grow old like we all do. I’ve now lost half of my late 30’s but they are alone becuz everyone leaves. Isn’t that ironic. After someone leaves someone like that they stay to themselves until they understand it all. And I’ve known about this for 14 months and I’m still learning. Learning is all about healing and getting more in tune with oneself. That’s the most important thing for you. Respect yourself now that you know exactly what this mental illness means and how to spot it 100% so it never happens again!!!!
::deep breath:: I went from feeling all of the emotions of hurt and anger, to feeling a renewed sense of energy and a purified sense of joy to look ahead and begin chartering my best life…my own life… thank you for sharing yourself with all of us 🙏
The best revenge is live your life the best you can, be happy , improve daily! Be grateful for being out of their control!! Be happy!!! You deserve the best !!! You deserve it all!!
Another awesome video! Amazingly, just like you mention here, my ex is now being exposed and all of his lies and manipulations are finally becoming known and visible to many that originally believed his smear campaign against me 10 years ago. He is now being cornered and backed against the wall and he brought this upon himself by his own actions. Amazing!!
Agreed! I just want to heal and move on. The most beautiful gift (revenge, i guess) will be finally getting to be completely indifferent to him. It happens in tiny moments as i heal, cannot wait until it's more robustly in place... Indifference is freedom.
Saying NO! to them is priceless. He tried to tell me this wasn't the really him after 5 yrs of abuse. I almost laughed out loud a truly sick person, no demon! I am a Scorpio we r the Phoenix! 🦂
Everything you say really is so pertinent and useful, me like so many of your other listeners appreciate the guidance and advice you give borne out of your experiences. This latest is yet again an honest guide as to how to exact revenge that will yield results and in doing so closing the book but opening a new unwritten one with a complete change of emphasis to the self but not selfish. Thank you so very much for all you are doing, perhaps this was meant to happen to you to enable you to heal but achieve a destiny of reaching out globally to so many to help heal us. Many blessings.
I never understood "they saw your light and wanted it, to steal it," until today. My narc is my sister, and many times she repeats something i've said, as if they were her ideas/statements. Twice she even quoted me *to me,* instead of to someone else. I dont call her out on it because its *the least* of a narc's sneaky, decietful behaviors. So you're right, there must be something in an empath that they want/love instead of hate (i used to think they only hated us).
Great advice. The best revenge is moving on and living a wonderful, happy, fulfilling life. The best way to heal is to take time and identify what really makes you happy, what brings you joy, then pursue those activities whole heartedly. Enjoying your life is the best revenge ever.
They can introspect. That's why they can't be alone. They hate silence. Silence begins to scream the truth at them. They don't want to Introspect. Whenever they start to that ego then blames you. But deep down they know it's them. As far as revenge, they'll meet someone worse than them... Like my ex got herpes with the girl he left me for. she caught herpes by cheating on him... For example
Mine called me up pretty much 20 years ago to this day trying to triangulate me with the guy I caught her cheating on me with. This was three months after that moment. She was a side woman for him. She was gushing saying how she couldn't wait to see me and it was one of the few times I lived with my parents as an adult and they were out of town so I looked forward to her coming over. She never made it. She was in the ER for a few days instead. See, she ended up breaking her leg trying to spy on her guy being on a date at his apartment with his girlfriend and she fell two stories and literally broke her leg off almost. Talk about Karma! I literally wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. Sounds like your ex got the karma too. It's only human to feel a little schadenfreude after that moment. People like me and you did not even have to get revenge on the narcissist! Instead they did themselves when they got cocky. (Not MY circus or clowns anymore!)
@UC43etPBUXqORBxFHtZmWKIQ 😂😂 he actually now is with a decent one... Bet she didn't know about the herpes but not my place as he was cheating on me with her .. she our churches piano player... Talk about two low down dogs... He kept texting telling me he was praying for me. Like wtf. You in church with her praying for yr ex.. he can say whatever but it sounded like it wasn't going that well. Butt dialing. If I texted back he wld get me upset.. so I had to change my number
@@patriciavandevelde5469 it is. They really do escape their karma I think. I know a narc will tell you an "oh poor me I can never be happy "sob story.... But they make their own bed and once done, they move on. The lies they tell keeps them from ever truly investing emotionally, but talk you into investing.... It's freaking mean... Then they blame you. Watch that one self aware narcs videos, the dude whom has like a million subscribers.. he is always blaming the victims talking about how the new me supply probably don't put up with it, talking about how you did not ask the narc questions allowing someone to yell at you... F that!! When you are emotionally involved, you are trapped..!!! Either way you are gonna hurt!! And if I remember right, narcs don't let you just break up!!! They straighten up real quick and "catch" you. It's high emotions/lowest lows.... Until one day on their terms, they discard you horrific... On the worst day... And no, they really don't get their karma. All you can do is go no contact. Put a huge barrier up because when they hoover for real, they don't just stop and they will catch u on a day when you are needing the pick me up .. so put a barrier up.. (I changed my number and went of all social media and entered therapy) and ensure that no mf will ever be able to do this to you again. And never give up on love. Because one day it will happen with the right person. But now, you are wiser!! And it's real and authentic. I never knew how many ppl are in fake marriages/relationships... I don't want that. Now I see past all the ppl who over use the words "my husband, or my wife".. as if they are bragging... I used to be so jealous of ppl whom were married. Even I got to the point I wld had married a narc... Oh god.. I got self esteem now, that I'll never let anyone mess with again... Please don't give up on love..f em... Their karma is they missed out on you. Truth!!
Thank you for everything Andrew ❤️ I left precisely 1 year ago from a 1,5 year relationship and from then until today I watch your wonderful videos, I still need them and Dr. Ramani and Dr Les Carter (absolutely wonderful too) at 02:40 The first time I google what might be wrong, I wrote "why is a good person treated badly" that was 3 months into the relationship.
Hello Andrew! I found so many videos that I missed, I'm not gonna mention it again. Down deep inside, I already got my revenge by leaving him unexpectedly. The look on his face was DISBELIEF & SHOCK! I was in his car, then after I told him, I got out of the car, got into my car, and drove away. As for me, I was dying inside, crying. We were not living together since we were supposed to be saving for our future, TOGETHER! HOW TRUE ABOUT GETTING REVENGE ON THEMSELVES. He went to the nearest bar, picked up a rebound and married her 2 weeks later. 11.3 years ago, and I'm fine. He is NOT FINE! Great topic Andrew...♥️💙🙏
My ex is hanging out with bunch of low elements. Drug addicts and alcoholic. He would never be comfortable in his owe skin. He IS not allowed to come to my house. A mad empath is not a pretty sight. My best revenge is going forward with my life and be happy. Yes, Andrew. I keep the focus on myself. Grateful I found your video. This is the time we know who our true friends are. Namaste 🙏
Great message! I'm the focus now, not the narc. It's taken some time, but I'm at the stage where I don't want to be angry at this person anymore. What do I want to feel? Absolutely nothing. I'm ready to get to that point; and I think channeling any residual hurt feelings toward something that will benefit me is the way to go. It's a good time to start working out again... I've blocked them and everyone they know, I've thrown away pictures and deleted all texts....
The estranged ex Narcissist has made living in the small town where I live now almost IMPOSSIBLE for me. Because of his smear campaign of LIES about me. Along with his hired Flying Monkeys everywhere and his "Other Wife", and his "Other Women Of The Night Companion's." For me it's not that easy, unfortunately.
I love your videos. I love you. I love your humanity. I am writing you a longer message. It will take time. At 64 years, I finally discovered on the same day 8/28/22 that I am an Empath, and my ex wife/girlfriend/ex girlfriend is Narcissist. I am healing. I am not healed. I am learning. I have hooked up with some great people on Facebook. Remember my name. Soon I will write you. You won't be amazed. Thank you for your videos. How I would love to speak with you. Please keep teaching and sharing.
Thank you for your video Andrew. You are so right Andrew. The best thing to do is just move forward. At the start it is very painful, heartbreaking really. However when we realize just what kind of a soulless degenerative we were with we definitely begin to turn a different corner. Life has new meaning now Andrew and to hell with them we are worth so much more. Lisa
When I say my prayers at night, I always ask God to bless my ex and open his heart so that he can know the happiness that a healthy, happy human being deserves. It pains me to pray for him after all the pain but I don’t want to wish bad things for him….by doing that, I’m no better than he is
Andrew, you are so generous! And so right! Call it “karma”, the “Golden Rule” …I say, “Revenge is mine, says the Lord.” …. Forgiveness is what puts a great distance between you and anyone who has hurt you in any way. It’s in the Lord’s Prayer. I know it’s easier to forgive when you hear, “I’m sorry.” But for the sake of your own self do it. I have to re-do it. As best as I can, I keep forgiving…to help myself and to show respect the One Whose love is true. I believe God forgets our wrongs. We can do what is necessary on our part to be free. Maybe it’s ’cause we need to steer away from falling for another round of narc abuse that we do NOT forget! What do you think ? ❤ to all!
Even after 16 months no contact, I still I’ll want revenge but those thoughts/feelings have become less frequent, less in power and duration. Healing does come. Forgiveness does come.
Narcissists create their own karma. Many aging narcissists end up alone at the end of their life. They have alienated SO many people in their lifetime… even their own children.
Completely correct.. the aging narcissist is not a pretty sight to see
That's so true my narcissist husband abandoned all 4 of his children two wife's ! I'm very hurt and so angry I want revenge I feel so stupid I didn't see it !I hope I heal 21 years of this I'll I did was give and give us took and took!
Some of.them end up skipping off into the sunset
We all end up alone. Your spouse dies, your children marry and move away and start their own families. Why do you think they call them widows.
My ex threatened “You will end up alone(after I clean you out)”
In the end she did not clean me out and she is all alone
I have a wonderful life.
Karma works every time
Revenge is moving on and proving the narcissist wrong
Completely correct ☀️💯
Facts
Walking away HAPPY
Revenge is a dish best served silent.
No contact is your revenge as well as being the best thing for us....it is your victory.
YES DC 🙌☀️💯
Silence!!
The only revenge that I know to work effectively against the narcissists is to first discard them as in cutting ties or rejecting them before they get a chance of doing anything harmful to your life, then moving on to live your best life. That's the only revenge that truly works.
Moving forward everyday 💪🙌❤️
I did the same as you. I finally got strong enough to discard him first and it feels good.
I discarded him when he was at work and I feel so much happier now.
That’s exactly what I did
@@lorenamackey218 I did exactly what you guys did... Radio silence. They tried blowing up my other phone line and I didn't even listen to the messages. "Cut them off without a word" was the video that inspired me. Now did I plan on this? No. I just knew it was time instinctively
I don’t want revenge, I just want to heal . He’s dead to me , invisible, he no longer exists in my mind . I want to move forward alone . I’m not ready to be in another relationship with any one . I’m happy alone , my adult children and my grandchildren are my life xxx
This is beautiful Julie.. ☀️🙌
Bless up
No new relationship for me either. I think it will be awhile before I can trust any man again, sad to say.
@@kristinej.4182 they destroyed themselves in the end anyway karma bites hard xxx
Amen. 🙏
Revenge is not something that leads to anything good. The only revenge is to let go and move on 🙏❤️🙏
Completely true 🙏🙌💯
Amen
Amen
They need no help from us. Wash, rinse, repeat. They will eventually self destruct. But sadly, (and not surprisingly), it will always be someone else's fault. The best revenge is living and loving. Be happy they are shitting on someone else now☮️
Absolutely true. We shouldn’t carry any bad baggage around that effects our future
I will never understand why certain people are narcissists. I am an Empath. I just can’t fathom it. I can’t.
the best revenge is no revenge… they don't deserve our energy… karma will serve them sooner or later… I feel sick at a thought of how a narcissistic person is experienced by other people around him… .in front of others he is an angel behind four walls he is a personified evil… thank you Andrew for another great video 🙏… love & light 💫😇🙏
Thank you Nives .. you are amazing ☀️🙌🙏
Agreed, why seek revenge on a narcissist who is already miserable? Focus on yourself, and reaching your fullest potential, it's way more fun and rewarding, and is actually what hurts the narc more than anything. Wise words as always, Andrew, thank you!
Thank you Kira 🙏🙌☀️
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That’s simply not enough. When Jesus an the angels casted the devil out of heaven they threw his horrible ass out of heaven they didn’t wait for him to leave…. Forces evil are not to be played with but are to be dealt with accordingly. That part
@@cheekslord1222 Christ's name is Yeshua, not Jesus, look it up. And one should stand up to evil, but pursuing revenge on a narcissist is a waste of time that may just ensnare you in further complications.
@@andre1987eph I don't need to acknowledge anything to a narcissist, just cut them off, because that's all they deserve. And people don't "owe" each other anything, but to manipulate and try to control others is not the will of God. Remember that, Andre.
There is no need to get your hands dirty with loser they are already so miserable because their life is about nothing they can't experience joy, happiness, peace, and love and that for itself is karma...there is nothing else to add.God bless everyone
Amen 🙏 thank you Giuseppe 🙌
You are 100% right! It’s sad in a way? The lies, lies have to be covered with more lies. Thank you so very much. You are right! I’m being blessed just by listening to your channel.🙏🏻
Thank you 🙏
Oh yes they lie or tell partial truths
Contradictions!
@@KoolT Omitting information is one of their favorite manipulation tactics.
Me too
I was curious what you were gna say and you said exactly what I was expecting you to say. Good job Andrew! These narcissists are already miserable people and let's not forget. "What you sow is what you reap, they will get theirs in due time".
Thank you Alice.. I appreciate your honesty and sharing this ..🙌☀️🙏
Amen
After having narcs in my life and learning What narcissism is, I can spot a narc a mile away. I have been surrounded by narcissism my whole life! It started with my mother and ex-husband and even some bosses. I thought it was a weak person ,but the reality was I was an empath and I couldn’t understand how people could be so evil for no reason. I will never let another narc in my life! I feel free!🙃
Well said.. thank You Jill ☀️💯💯
The only revenge that actually is an injury to the narc:
1. Complete no contact. They no longer exist.
2. Pursue your dreams and enjoy life without them. Aka they no longer exist.
3. Revenge doesn't matter to you whatsoever bc youre not a narcissist.
HG Tudor and Professor Sam Vaknin, 2 psychopath narcissists, teach these are the only ways to "win".
I am currently staying away from an insanity. But I'd be lying to you if I didn't tell you that it warms my heart to hear self-professed narcs like those admit that it causes the classic NARC INJURY. That being said, this time it's about ME instead of them for once!
There was a period of time where I was so angry I did try to take revenge on my ex narc. But it made it worse for me and I saw myself stooping to the low levels of him and his low grade supply. I looked at myself in the mirror and saw someone more in pain not satisfied. So, you are right, Andrew! The best revenge against them is to just ignore and give them no recognition while I better myself and my life. Although it’s hard not to think about all the damage that’s done to me by my ex narc, I make a great deal of effort every day to be thankful for the positive things in my life. 🙏
Take the high road..always 🙏🙏🙏
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Will do. Thank you!
It feeeeeeeeeeeels so good to see them lonely,broke old and ugly
Your best revenge is Just moving forward and living your best Life! Andrew; I must say ; You look very Handsome . Thank you for your words
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I considered getting revenge on my ex narcissist, I could make him lose his job, house, kids, basically everything. Then I thought to myself, I would be just like him. I decided he's a pathetic little b**** and he will mess up anything good that comes his way.
Thank you for all the great videos!!!
Beautiful insight.. thank you for sharing this.. 🙏🙌☀️
It feels soooooooo good to see them struggling lonely and miserable i feel sooooo good
That's actually the best revenge. They want you to react and want the drama. They see how they really don't matter that much when you have the gasoline to light them up and you don't.
AMEN!
Revenge is Mine saieth the Lord.
Let it be His.
I figure the narc has to face himself one day or another - the image will be more devastating to him than any revenge of mine ever could be.
I just have to move forward. My destination didn't change because he put roadblocks in my path. Fortunately God gave me the intelligence to figure out how to get over, under, around or through them.
Thank you, Andrew, for being a huge step beyond those roadblocks for me!
They will get there on revenge.... h*** is Karma!!! So glad you are doing so good.... I will be there one day soon.... there is that beautiful smile again.... have a great afternoon and enjoy your time in the pool. And thank you so your powerful words..
Every video you make chips away a little darkness that has been left behind by the Narc. Thanks ❤️
Welcome 🙏
You feel so much better by not trying to hurt anyone else...even the narcissist. Karma. The energy you intentionally put out there you will receive in return. Let the universe take care of the narcissist. Thank you, Andrew!
Thank you 🙏
Andrew you are spot on, thank you.
Thank you Andrew! 💜💜💜
Another important topic exposed!
Yes. They already are as miserable as anyone could be. The one thing I am having trouble with right now, after 15 years of really, really, horrible abuse...all aspects inclusive...is not revenge, but getting over the pity I feel for him...that is what is hurting me right now...it never had to be this way..I will let this go, I am working through it. This too shall pass.
But as far as revenge goes, there is Justice, Karma, and Truth. These are energies that are designed by the Creator to take care of Judgment. Once you let go energetically, i.e. forgive and forget about them, the Judgment trio can go to work. They are way better at it than we are...that is their job.
We are here to LOVE. To learn discernment without judgment. To be the best Creators we can be!
Carry on beautiful Empaths! Let your light shine!
Beautiful reply thank you Linda☀️🙏🙌
IMO... feelings of any sort twords the narc is a trap
@@tootienottoofruitie1726 Yes, this is true for those who have not done their shadow work. If one still attaches emotionally to others.... Emotional attachment is a FEAR issue.
I tell myself the best revenge on a narcissist is not being in their life. And them knowing that I know who they are.
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Revenge to a narcissist is just another form of supply. It proves to them that they are still able to control your thoughts and that they are still in your head. So forget it.
What narcissists hate most is indifference and being ignored. Their worst nightmare is not mattering to other people. So ignore them and move on. Don't let them occupy any space whatsoever in your mind. Confine them to history.
Excellent insight thank you 🙏
"Vengeance is Mine saith the Lord"
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before i pressed play i said "Take my power back! they can't stand that"... I'm 2 years 6 months sober i have the jekyll and hyde with the drink and it kept me stuck in the in the narcissist supply and i started to understand their insane thinking when (they beng the ex and his family.) thought that my sobriety was a very dangerous thing for everyone! alcoholism is insane! Empaths and alcohol is the worst if you have an addiction, the narc had fun once but now he dont, he didn't know me he never knew me i didn't know myself but i'm loving myself now and it is whole wide worlds apart from them now whole planets away from my ex and his lot, my cup is overflowing in a different kind of way and they are without my supply.
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They are their own karma...
Being a narcissist is a karma itself...
Thx for your videos 💖
Welcome 🙏 thank you 🙌☀️
I often feel that narcissist wants to turn us into the monster they are 🙏
One way to teach is to show others they can trust you, cause you're the one who tells the truth. And I agree one should not seek revenge. Let the narcissist show who he is. Most people eventually will understand. Trust people.
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My dad (my first narcissist) would tell me that I was stupid over and over again. My revenge is I studied. I graduated with honors in elementary, in high school, and in college. Proving a narcissist wrong is one of the best revenge and motivation.
Andrew you are awesome for making everything I've been through make sense. It's devastating, and at the same time refreshing knowing it was not me, the whole entire time, he damn sure tried to make me think it was. God bless you!! ♥️
Hi Angela.. it was not you.. 🙏🙌☀️
The narcissist is punished with himself, and I don't feel the need to. He is a person who is not doing well. and it does no one any good. He doesn't have feelings, but he plays them to get love, which unfortunately he can't give. I need people who are real, can really love, who can put themselves in the shoes of others. I don't need the laughing fake fool, but someone who holds my hand even in bad situations in life. Thanks to you
Welcome Sabine 🙌🙏☀️
I have lost myself to so many narcisists in my life and am not willing to do it any longer. The best way to start living your best life is to leave all of the narcisists behind and move on without any second thought about them. Healing for me means not forcing anything and doing only the things which feel authentic for you and bring you peace. Thank you Andrew❤
Welcome 🙌😌🙏
You are right…I really did love him…I brought love…he did not. As an empath, this has been one of the most difficult things for me, my husband is a narcissist
I understand completely.. 🙏☀️🙌💯
This Bully is a Narc!! As a matter of fact every Bully is a Narc!!
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You are one of the most incredibly articulate you tubers who captures the personal hell of being with a narcissist. You label their behaviors clearly. After 23 years with someone who was insidiously evil, It is beautiful that you encourage the high road. However the high road is an alternative to the low road of vengeance. I think of the relationship as a cult of 2. I have read and read, listened and listened, but no one talks about how your soul is sucked out little by little. You look back and none of it was real. You have good advice. Like you, I would like to inform young people of some concrete behaviors we have all experienced, Thanks for you channel.
That’s right, the best revenge is to live a life beyond the narcissistic fog. Proves how insignificant the narcissist is. That’s the worst they can feel, insignificant.
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I wished them well and changed my number. Never looked back since.
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Revenge is removing them from our life for good
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I appreciate these videos so much Andrew. Thank you for making them. I am still struggling with my divorce after three years. I was married 10 years to the narcissist, and three beautiful kids with her. I am sure she will answer to the most high one day. I am thankful I understand now people operate in this manner and will protect myself moving forward. God bless you, and keep up the good work. Namaste.
Thank you London.. I appreciate your kindness and support.. stay strong 💯🙌☀️
I find my self again after a few months. When I was in that relationshit i lost myself en became someone i don’t want to be. I was controling his phone, i was upset all the time and very unhappy. I became an ugly person bc he did blameshifting all the time and make me crazy. So i defend myself! I was aware i lost myself and new i was a lovely, kind person before him. I am myself again and that is the best revenge.
K M.. that is the best revenge ☀️🙌🙏
This is so true . They just cannot take in the beauty around us. Even on holidays. They are constantly doing something.. never ever interacting with us like a normal functioning adult. They are like little kids in a grown up body.which they actually are .
Completely correct 💯💯
He made me question myself to think im the Narc x
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Thank u for this video, this explains the narcissist I was with. It was the first time in my life to experience such treatment. It's depressing and draining. Thank God I found ppl like u who explains this sickness properly.
You're right!! They don't deserve our revenge. We've wasted enough of our time and energy ...... 🌬
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Out of all of the videos that I've searched for and found after just exiting out of a relationship with a narcissist, this is by far the the best and most insightful advice I've heard. I can tell you've been through what I've been through. Thank you! I'm so appreciative! 🙏
Thank you Corina.. I appreciate your kindness and am grateful to be able to share my experiences and insight with you 💪🙏☀️
It seemed like every holiday that came around she’d start a fight. That’s crazy ugh
The narcissist creates their own exposure. The truth always comes out.
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I believe in what goes around comes back around! And Karma's a Bit*"!!
They get back what they deserve sooner or later! I'm out and moving on!
Moving forward everyday ☀️🙌🙏
Big hugs. Big hugs. I can’t ever thank you enough for this.You know there’s times when we need to take someone and turn them around facing forward because they don’t see which way they’re facing. Man I thank you so much. It’s like the cage is opened and someone leads us out. Wow. Yeah.
I am grateful to be able to share my experiences and insight with you always 🙌🙏☀️💯❤️
This is such a horrible mental illness, that each state in the USA, should make it mandatory to pass a law to incorporate Narcissism 101 in ALL public schools!!!!! Especially, seeing how it's mental abuse is so devastating. .to the human race.
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So much to offer Father and Lord Jesus and Lord Holy Spirit!
Amen 🙏
So happy to find your channel!!! This video is on point!!!!!! Wooooow
Welcome SWEETMA4LIFE.. I appreciate your kindness and being here ☀️🙌🙏
Sleep abuse.
That's how I found out about narcissism. I was so fricking tired !!
It didn't matter how much I begged him to let me sleep, he'd use different excuses night after night. I moved into the spare bedroom but he would SLAM the door open to wake me up, stand there all smiles and happy like a little kid on Christmas, among so many other things.
Anyway, that's what got me researching about what tf his problem was with me sleeping.
It turns out that I'd been dealing with this type my whole life and now they're all gone!
Thank you Beverly for this.. Time to rest up ..🙌
Oh, I totally understand this! Being so whatever l exhausted and never getting the very little sleep and still being demanded of more and more.
We have to “Let Go And Let God” …That is the best way.
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Hi Andrew, I'm new to your channel and thank you for your messages. Your thoughts have certainly resonated. My "revenge" came while I was in the relationship and I had to unfortunately call the authorities and send him to jail. He missed some important family events while he was incarcerated and spent his 50th birthday in a cell. Being an empath, can you believe I actually felt guilty about that even though it was because he broke the law and he had also assaulted me and choked me to the point of me nearly dying. I'm moving forward with my life now as you say and thank you for your messages. They help me and I'm sure many others to validate the mess that many of us have gone through with these disordered individuals.
Thank you K Max.. I appreciate your kindness and sharing this..🙌☀️
The best revenge is losing you & knowing they can never have you back.✌🏻
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Again, I am sitting here, listening, smiling, thinking, "Andrew is right" - 🙂❤
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Thank you! ❤Annie
I want peace. They’ve caused enough drama. I refuse to take on their shame.
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When I didn’t know what was going on with him he always told me I was so strong he had no idea how mentally strong I was. I would never take revenge I would rather walk away and never have someone like that in my life. I’ve read a lot what happens to them in the end. They grow old like we all do. I’ve now lost half of my late 30’s but they are alone becuz everyone leaves. Isn’t that ironic. After someone leaves someone like that they stay to themselves until they understand it all. And I’ve known about this for 14 months and I’m still learning. Learning is all about healing and getting more in tune with oneself. That’s the most important thing for you. Respect yourself now that you know exactly what this mental illness means and how to spot it 100% so it never happens again!!!!
Exactly.. beautiful insight.. thank you Emma..💯💪🙌🙏💪
Actually, is doing for a while. Hope every survivor is doing too. Blessed.
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I didn’t try to get revenge on the narcissists or the flying monkeys but karma is taking them down one by one! It took awhile but it’s happening.
It always does.. 🙌
Exactly bless up
::deep breath:: I went from feeling all of the emotions of hurt and anger, to feeling a renewed sense of energy and a purified sense of joy to look ahead and begin chartering my best life…my own life… thank you for sharing yourself with all of us 🙏
Welcome 🙏🙌
The best revenge is live your life the best you can, be happy , improve daily! Be grateful for being out of their control!! Be happy!!! You deserve the best !!! You deserve it all!!
Yes we do 🙏🙌
Another awesome video! Amazingly, just like you mention here, my ex is now being exposed and all of his lies and manipulations are finally becoming known and visible to many that originally believed his smear campaign against me 10 years ago. He is now being cornered and backed against the wall and he brought this upon himself by his own actions. Amazing!!
In time they get exposed.. usually.. in time
Agreed! I just want to heal and move on. The most beautiful gift (revenge, i guess) will be finally getting to be completely indifferent to him. It happens in tiny moments as i heal, cannot wait until it's more robustly in place... Indifference is freedom.
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May the Lord bless you and keep you and give you peace.
Thank you Ronni 🙏☀️💯
Saying NO! to them is priceless. He tried to tell me this wasn't the really him after 5 yrs of abuse. I almost laughed out loud a truly sick person, no demon! I am a Scorpio we r the Phoenix! 🦂
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Best revenge is creating an educational channel like this
Everything you say really is so pertinent and useful, me like so many of your other listeners appreciate the guidance and advice you give borne out of your experiences.
This latest is yet again an honest guide as to how to exact revenge that will yield results and in doing so closing the book but opening a new unwritten one with a complete change of emphasis to the self but not selfish. Thank you so very much for all you are doing, perhaps this was meant to happen to you to enable you to heal but achieve a destiny of reaching out globally to so many to help heal us. Many blessings.
Valerie.. I appreciate your honesty and kindness.. I believe what you mentioned is true.. thank you for sharing this ☀️🙌🙏
I never understood "they saw your light and wanted it, to steal it," until today. My narc is my sister, and many times she repeats something i've said, as if they were her ideas/statements. Twice she even quoted me *to me,* instead of to someone else. I dont call her out on it because its *the least* of a narc's sneaky, decietful behaviors. So you're right, there must be something in an empath that they want/love instead of hate (i used to think they only hated us).
Great insight.. i thank you for sharing this.. 🙌☀️
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank YOU for your channel/videos.
Andy , Thank you 😊 We so need light shinning on this issue more now than ever! You're a blessing.
Thank you .. I appreciate your kindness Dianna 💯☀️
Thank you Andrew. I’ve done all the things that you suggested. Hoping and praying he gets it.
In time it will.. be patient.. learn… grow.. understand.. it will happen.. in time.. 🙏🙌☀️
When you know you go. It's the only way to heal. They LOVE to hurt you and I promise it gets worse.
Living my best life and being the best supply they lost is their karma
Completely true 🙏🙌💯
Great advice. The best revenge is moving on and living a wonderful, happy, fulfilling life. The best way to heal is to take time and identify what really makes you happy, what brings you joy, then pursue those activities whole heartedly. Enjoying your life is the best revenge ever.
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They can introspect. That's why they can't be alone. They hate silence. Silence begins to scream the truth at them. They don't want to Introspect. Whenever they start to that ego then blames you. But deep down they know it's them. As far as revenge, they'll meet someone worse than them... Like my ex got herpes with the girl he left me for. she caught herpes by cheating on him... For example
Mine called me up pretty much 20 years ago to this day trying to triangulate me with the guy I caught her cheating on me with. This was three months after that moment. She was a side woman for him. She was gushing saying how she couldn't wait to see me and it was one of the few times I lived with my parents as an adult and they were out of town so I looked forward to her coming over.
She never made it. She was in the ER for a few days instead. See, she ended up breaking her leg trying to spy on her guy being on a date at his apartment with his girlfriend and she fell two stories and literally broke her leg off almost.
Talk about Karma! I literally wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. Sounds like your ex got the karma too.
It's only human to feel a little schadenfreude after that moment. People like me and you did not even have to get revenge on the narcissist! Instead they did themselves when they got cocky. (Not MY circus or clowns anymore!)
@UC43etPBUXqORBxFHtZmWKIQ 😂😂 he actually now is with a decent one... Bet she didn't know about the herpes but not my place as he was cheating on me with her .. she our churches piano player... Talk about two low down dogs... He kept texting telling me he was praying for me. Like wtf. You in church with her praying for yr ex.. he can say whatever but it sounded like it wasn't going that well. Butt dialing. If I texted back he wld get me upset.. so I had to change my number
Herpes is to soft!!!!!!
@@patriciavandevelde5469 it is. They really do escape their karma I think. I know a narc will tell you an "oh poor me I can never be happy "sob story.... But they make their own bed and once done, they move on. The lies they tell keeps them from ever truly investing emotionally, but talk you into investing.... It's freaking mean... Then they blame you. Watch that one self aware narcs videos, the dude whom has like a million subscribers.. he is always blaming the victims talking about how the new me supply probably don't put up with it, talking about how you did not ask the narc questions allowing someone to yell at you... F that!! When you are emotionally involved, you are trapped..!!! Either way you are gonna hurt!! And if I remember right, narcs don't let you just break up!!! They straighten up real quick and "catch" you. It's high emotions/lowest lows.... Until one day on their terms, they discard you horrific... On the worst day... And no, they really don't get their karma. All you can do is go no contact. Put a huge barrier up because when they hoover for real, they don't just stop and they will catch u on a day when you are needing the pick me up .. so put a barrier up.. (I changed my number and went of all social media and entered therapy) and ensure that no mf will ever be able to do this to you again. And never give up on love. Because one day it will happen with the right person. But now, you are wiser!! And it's real and authentic. I never knew how many ppl are in fake marriages/relationships... I don't want that. Now I see past all the ppl who over use the words "my husband, or my wife".. as if they are bragging... I used to be so jealous of ppl whom were married. Even I got to the point I wld had married a narc... Oh god.. I got self esteem now, that I'll never let anyone mess with again... Please don't give up on love..f em... Their karma is they missed out on you. Truth!!
Will do. Blessed.
The Dr Jekyl Mr Hyde analogy is extremely accurate.
Thank you for everything Andrew ❤️ I left precisely 1 year ago from a 1,5 year relationship and from then until today I watch your wonderful videos, I still need them and Dr. Ramani and Dr Les Carter (absolutely wonderful too) at 02:40 The first time I google what might be wrong, I wrote "why is a good person treated badly" that was 3 months into the relationship.
Hello Andrew! I found so many videos that I missed, I'm not gonna mention it again. Down deep inside, I already got my revenge by leaving him unexpectedly. The look on his face was DISBELIEF & SHOCK! I was in his car, then after I told him, I got out of the car, got into my car, and drove away. As for me, I was dying inside, crying. We were not living together since we were supposed to be saving for our future, TOGETHER! HOW TRUE ABOUT GETTING REVENGE ON THEMSELVES. He went to the nearest bar, picked up a rebound and married her 2 weeks later. 11.3 years ago, and I'm fine. He is NOT FINE! Great topic Andrew...♥️💙🙏
Thank you for sharing this 😊🙌🙏💯
Living well is the best revenge!♥️🙏
Beautiful Carol 🙌
Lived this entirely. Thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge with us
I appreciate your kindness and insight Lisa ☀️🙌
My ex is hanging out with bunch of low elements. Drug addicts and alcoholic. He would never be comfortable in his owe skin. He IS not allowed to come to my house. A mad empath is not a pretty sight. My best revenge is going forward with my life and be happy. Yes, Andrew. I keep the focus on myself. Grateful I found your video. This is the time we know who our true friends are. Namaste 🙏
Great message! I'm the focus now, not the narc. It's taken some time, but I'm at the stage where I don't want to be angry at this person anymore. What do I want to feel? Absolutely nothing. I'm ready to get to that point; and I think channeling any residual hurt feelings toward something that will benefit me is the way to go. It's a good time to start working out again... I've blocked them and everyone they know, I've thrown away pictures and deleted all texts....
This is a great place to be.. nice progress 💯💯☀️🙌
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Although it resonates, it’s nice to have a little laugh
Last minute of your video "Andrew is right - Focus on me and not on the narcissist..." education is key 👩🎓
I love your videos. They have given me so much hope! God bless you always. 🙏 💖🙌
The estranged ex Narcissist has made living in the small town where I live now almost IMPOSSIBLE for me. Because of his smear campaign of LIES about me. Along with his hired Flying Monkeys everywhere and his "Other Wife", and his "Other Women Of The Night Companion's." For me it's not that easy, unfortunately.
I love your videos. I love you. I love your humanity. I am writing you a longer message. It will take time. At 64 years, I finally discovered on the same day 8/28/22 that I am an Empath, and my ex wife/girlfriend/ex girlfriend is Narcissist. I am healing. I am not healed. I am learning. I have hooked up with some great people on Facebook.
Remember my name. Soon I will write you. You won't be amazed. Thank you for your videos. How I would love to speak with you. Please keep teaching and sharing.
You reap what you sow, 5,10,15 years from now god does not forget. They will get their karma! Hang tight and find peace and comfort in knowing that
Thank you for sharing this ☀️
What if u discard them first?
It’s funny because I told him I was a Phoenix and would rise from the ashes and shine!
And HERE YOU ARE..💪💯🙌
Thank you for your video Andrew. You are so right Andrew. The best thing to do is just move forward. At the start it is very painful, heartbreaking really. However when we realize just what kind of a soulless degenerative we were with we definitely begin to turn a different corner. Life has new meaning now Andrew and to hell with them we are worth so much more. Lisa
Welcome Lisa ☀️🙌🙏
The best revenge is being the best version of ourselves.
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When I say my prayers at night, I always ask God to bless my ex and open his heart so that he can know the happiness that a healthy, happy human being deserves. It pains me to pray for him after all the pain but I don’t want to wish bad things for him….by doing that, I’m no better than he is
It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord Romans 12:19
I’ve never heard of narcissist until after the four years. I felt like I was living in the abyss.
I too was like this.. educating yourself is the path 🙌
Andrew, you are so generous! And so right! Call it “karma”, the “Golden Rule” …I say, “Revenge is mine, says the Lord.” …. Forgiveness is what puts a great distance between you and anyone who has hurt you in any way. It’s in the Lord’s Prayer. I know it’s easier to forgive when you hear, “I’m sorry.” But for the sake of your own self do it. I have to re-do it. As best as I can, I keep forgiving…to help myself and to show respect the One Whose love is true. I believe God forgets our wrongs. We can do what is necessary on our part to be free. Maybe it’s ’cause we need to steer away from falling for another round of narc abuse that we do NOT forget! What do you think ? ❤ to all!
BE STRONG ENOUGH TO BE KIND
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Even after 16 months no contact,
I still I’ll want revenge but those thoughts/feelings have become less frequent, less in power and duration.
Healing does come.
Forgiveness does come.
Great progress 🙌🙌
Vengence is mine says the Lord.
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