5 Of The Worst Thing A Husband Can Do To His Wife | Paul Friedman
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- Опубліковано 13 бер 2023
- 5 of the worst thing a husband can do to his wife.
Paul Friedman, founder of The Marriage Foundation speaks about 5 of the worst thing a husband can do to his wife and then offers truly useful marital knowledge. We revitalize marriages that most “experts” think is beyond saving. We scientifically guide you to the love and joy you rightfully expected when you said, “I do”.
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My husband and I have been married for 17 years. I became aware that something is just not right in our marriage a few years ago but could not put a finger on it. After listening to what you have to say - you have totally covered everything that has been on my mind. I still love my husband and am still attracted to him physically. However, I am willing to walk away if it comes to it (which may in a few months) because it is just not worth the trouble. I am not staying for the sake of our child, or religion, or financial reasons. I am staying because I have found the fortitude to leave whenever I want. This has given me the much-needed peace and calm.
you could use the courese for women and shhift everything in a very positive way
30 years he never told me I was beautiful to him, but he sure told me how he thought my friends were “hot” and countless other women idk who they were or are. My heart has been closed to him for a long time. He doesn’t really care tho he likes to see me suffer
You can turn this around by following an open-hearted and "change yourself" apprach. The idea of living with the pain is not a good one.
I think you are very wise and kind. I left a comment on a previous video, not being unkind, but confused. This video seemed to give me more insight to your thoughts. We are souls that belong to God and the world tends to ignore this. I would like to add that stonewalling your wife ( and that can go both ways) is very destructive. Shutting down and not wanting to talk about issues. I think many men struggle with this, because as you said... women are connected to thier heart. I think men have a hard time with communication. They are conditioned to be strong and opening up is like a sign of weakness to them. In my experience anyway. Thank you for the content.❤
So nice of you,,, but, remember, it is never a good idea to speak about your relationship unless it is to express joy and love. Otherwise, no matter what is intended the discussions will go downhill. Learn to love unconditionally and live it, no need to talk about the mind's reactions. 🙏
@@TheMarriageFoundationI’m sorry but do you mean…. no communication?
I mean to use the gift of communication to enhance happiness and love in your marriage. Express from the soul, your heart, which lis all love and joy
My husband definitely does all of these things. I’m going to be taking the course for women soon, since I realize I was making so many mistakes. Can his behavior change if I work on mine?
Yes, there is a law called cause and effect. chnges create changes
Thank you for the free therapy session. I will take this informative guide and implement it into my marriage
You are welcome :) although it isn't meant to be therapy, just good information😀
@@TheMarriageFoundation well thank you for the great information. I shared it with my wife and our friends who just got married
Great video! Thank you so much.
You are truly welcome Blessings🙏
Wow! Thank you so much for this.
I am honored to be able to present true marriage teachings 🙏
I watched this as the wife in this relationship, and this is really good. It gave me insight into why I am feeling what I feel when he expresses his anger toward me.
Thank you for sharing your helpful wisdom in marriage.
You are so welcome🙏
I know you stay away from labels and I understand why. But this is Truth.❤
truth is uplifting 🙏
Learning here each time i visit your channel 🎉
These teachings, not me, are so important for the world right now! Let everyone know 🙏
I swear I love your teaching from a woman's standpoint.
Thank you. I know we are all souls but I also recognize what each gender must go through as we strive for happiness and love in our marriages.
Thank you Sir ♥️
You are so welcome 🙏
Thank you
Honored 🙏
What will the wife do if her husband since the beginning of their marriage has these 5 worst things plus abusive & narcissistic
All of us, no matter what our predicament, will rise above when we strive to love unconditionally.
His anger makes me retreat into other bedroom because if I engage with him he will speaks harshly to me.
His anger affects you because you are not in your heart, you should watch the 5 of the worst things a woman can do... then look at the course for women themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
Thank u Mr Paul...I really appreciate ur teachings and views on marriage. My husband does the last 4...I wish he could see ur vids but I know he won't as he take things so lightly n says our marriage is perfect n that I'm jst negative n overthink things...I'm z one to change right?
We cannot change others and although it is hard to look at ourselves and see the changes we need to make it is always worth it 🙏
Your a God sent. Bless you and yours 🙏❤️🙏
I am so glad what I share helps you 🙏 It is all baout love!
God bless you!
God bless you, too 🙏
Thank you for sharing your knowledge & experience with us. My husband and I have been married for 23 years. He is chronically late all the time. He does it in the most inconsiderate ways possible. It's been like this for many years but I'm 59! He's 55 and I don't know how much more I can take. Can you possibly offer some advice on this? I know he doesn't do it to hurt me but he knows how much I suffer from it and he doesn't seem to be making any changes. He's always had issues with punctuality in every area of his life. Can you help me with this subject?
One who expects perfection from another will never see their own flaws and remain suffering forever. Your marriage will improve when yyou work on your own flaws and love him even with his.
@@TheMarriageFoundation Very well said. Thank you 🙏
I would really like to hear from your personal experiences what went wrong in your first marriage and what you learned. I understand this is deeply personal however so I would understand if you didn’t want to share. It is nice knowing that you are human too and made mistakes in the past. I really appreciate your videos.
Its not a bad or intrusive question because I should be in a spectacular marriage now or my whole thing would be BS... My first marriage went wrong from the very beginning because neither of us knew what the heck we were doing. We only knew that we would not give up but that was not enough. Then, to make matters worse we went to traditional marriage counselors who were the "best" but had no idea about marriage either. Many were divorced, or in a bad marriage, too.
The universal problem is that marriage is not considered a spiritual path so the rules of normal relationships don't apply and we are not taught this overriding truth. Nobody speaks of love the correct way and so there are no examples, no correct courses, nothing. If I had these teachings back then marriage would have been what it is supposed to be. But I didn't.
Knowing that God is charge of virtually and litterally everything I think He set me up so eventually I would do what I am doing now, formulating marital teachings that are real and relevent. and universally applicable.
Thank you Paul!! I could never figure out what you just told us!! All this four things where bothering me for many years!!!
Sometimes I get a bit ahead of myself but hang in there. It always ties back to love and happiness 🙏
The TMF Counselor course is a highlight of my life! The courses are extremely beneficial because they are linear and sequential. This alone provides clarity you won't quite get in the UA-cam videos alone. And it's all life changing! Great work! Thank you! You have brought the light!
and you are well on your way to becoming a great TMF marriage counselor 🙏
1. No anger demonstration
2. Don’t speak condescending to her
3. Don’t tell her she is wrong or make fun of her
4 Don’t reduce sex to a recreational get in done for you situation
5. Don’t look at other women,! In person or porn.
# 1 I have never really thought about it but you are right. Being angry in front of her just stokes discomfort for her. # 4. reducing sex down to a competition to please yourself. Foreplay for most women is the real sex part. Thanks for the tips. Now if men can get this.
Another one I have seem to have an issue with is.. And Ex Family Member a woman .. She Thrives on Sex, Filth and always thinking it's funny to act this way to my husband, I have had a sense that she tries to be closer to my husband in a very slight way.. I'm a woman I see it.. She is single.. She has no reason to even be a part of our family.. He does not think it's wrong to chat with her or even uses our Granddaughter to see her.. I have asked him so much to stop
However , He gets so defensive if I ask.. She is only a part of us because my daughter married her brother
They have divorced now.. am I wrong? I honestly what to know
I am not embellishing this.. She is a single woman and he gets angry at me ?? Why ?
One key element to marital fidelity is making the marriage so powerfully loving that everything else in the world is a nothing burger
USE OF PORN is a BETRAYAL TRAUMA.
The other night, once again, after many years of troubled waters, I tried to communicate my emotions with my husband of 19 years. He got so annoyed and aggravated and said, " if you want feelings/emotions go marry a lesbian" I was so hurt and that was just yet another kick while I was down 😢
He's been into porn for yearssss. We did do marriage counseling years ago and yes he's doing it again but says it's less than porn " it's only girls half naked on Instagram and UA-cam" 🤦♀️
Then there's devaluing my feelings and that goes REALLY deep , too deep to explain on here.
I understand and accept men and women are different but I don't understand and won't tolerate the disrespect anymore and the invalidation. I am also always put 2nd. I guess he forgot when he married me that I was supposed to come 1st I never have and that's my fault ,I have let it go and allowed it for so long.
Your email touched me and reminds me how terrible the usual guiidence is for us in the marriage world. I urge you to keep watching these videos, and also look through our website. You have a such a sensitive heart. Don't give up!
@@TheMarriageFoundation Thank you kindly for responding 🙂 It means a lot to me. I'm feeling pretty lost. I will keep watching. I have been listening and hearing you, you're extremely helpful, selfish, and graceful for all you do. Again, thank you and God bless you 🙏🏼
My husband would not sit through 27 minutes to hear 5 tips... I wish this video was about 22 minutes shorter
hahahaha The video was for men who want to hear it. If you want to improve your marriage then you need to work on yourself, not him 😀
@@TheMarriageFoundation I understand. You're right. 😊
My husband does all the 5 hurtful things and how do I deal with it. Please help
Our approach is to work on ourselves and thereby lift the marriage up, into love and joy. Men and women, its the same. The individual who improves themselves improves their marriage.
Amen
🙏 Love manifested is the way to live both life and marriage
Dear Sir, Thank you for sharing what’s right but….. I believe the Porn and lusting after other women is no doubt #1. I have to tell you that women naturally being understanding of her husband’s faults can put up with and work with some mistreatment but the one thing that matters the most is the husband’s faithfulness and loyalty. She knows she is just one person who isn’t perfect but when he married her, he committed to loving her and loving her beauty and making her safe in their family by being true to her. And when he is true to her and turns away from unfaithful lust then he is pleasing God and blessing himself and in return he will be blessed by God. Unfaithfulness and even comparing her to other women is just twisted. Men need to be taught this and raised this way. We have a world that denies God and is full of corrupted lust. Once a husband turns to porn or lusting after other women, he has completely destroyed her heart and love for him. He has destroyed her femininity. This happened to me and it is devastating.
It is best to neither label nor condemn the man we chose to marry because you vowed to be loyal and your words are a long way from love and loyalty
I struggle with retroactive jealousy. Do you do private counseling over phone
The best way to deal with jealousy is to deeply love all your opponents. At the very least, it keeps the mind in a state of joy. TMF may have a different view.
I never deal with any one unwanted trait, but teach you to master the mind so that you, the owner of the mind, can rise above all of the unwated traits.
I wish I had many bodies so I could gain offer private counseling but its just no longer possible. I suggest you review our offerings on the website. themarriagefoundation.org/
DONT'S OF HUSBANDS:
1. Demonstrating anger towards her or around her (worst thing). Gender related, hormonal. Testosterone creates ability to be angry. Animalistic anger. Defender warrior makes anger necessary in order to defend your wife/family. Anger should be used in order to protect her not harm her. Wife will naturally retreat because of correct perception of anger being dangerous. Goal of marriage: be happy, feel love. Anger undermines the very purpose of marriage. Anger will close her heart. Don't roll eyes, sneer (even little cues can be perceived by her as anger).
2. Condescending. Men more apt to be condescending, acting cocky towards women from feelings of superiorty. Making fun of her. Sitcom behavior in marriage is not to be emulated. How you are should not be based on her reactions to things. Insulting? Women offer men a connection to their hearts, because this is not natural for men. Do not be condescending. Do not rape a woman with your mouth/words. Your natural tendencies as male & female should compliment each other.
3. Reduce sex to a thing beneath lovemaking with your wife. Sex in marriage is not recreational, it's spiritual. Her need is to connect spiritually with you. His need comes from the animalistic drive (biological). Need to deeply connect husband/wife in marital sex life. Devotion, secure.
4. Do not give attention on other women: porn, movies, strip clubs etc. Save your eyes for your wife only.
5. Do not criticize your wife. Even if you are right. Different perspective is not automatically right or wrong. Both can be right about a subject. Check your thinking. Actions come from thoughts. Control your mind. You cannot be Truly happy without mastering your (animalistic tendencies of the) male mind.
@@redhead8777 tell me how is ignoring visible objective reality good for anything…
man needs to use feels to connect with wife, wife dont need use reason to connect with husband? how is that balance?
@@redhead8777 Thank you so much, please take care ❤️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️🌹
❤
may your marriage become spectacular 🙏
My wife decided we were to have a no sex marriage no touch marriage15 years ago, makes the sexual topic irrelevant . So do I do what to express my love pay off her maxed out credit cards again?
Yep
If a sexless marriage is imposed upon one of the spouse it is immoral. First consider if the reason is based on your lack of connection. If so it is fixable. themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
@@TheMarriageFoundation she is connected to her freinds and her image, .And bringing more and more stuff into our house . I have gone separate, money to protect myself. I am still attracted to her, but that just makes it worse. I just deny to myself that sex and touching is neccessary for my marriage, to keep my sanity, I will try and touch her but who am I kidding, the problem is year to year she does not touch me, unless she wants something. I guess I am hiding from rejection.
If you want a solution then changing your marriage by individual effort is the greatest way to benefit you
I'm very confused. How do we stand up for our own family if we can't point out when she puts her family of origin above God and our marriage?
You don't stand up to your wife, you learn to love her unconditionally. Standing up to her is toxic and judgmental
My husband just doesn't deserve to have a wife. Not me, not anyone.
That harshness adds so much toxicity to your marriage. I pray you explore ways to bring your heart into your marriage instead, regardless of how your husband is behaving.
Two days in a row of typos in the video titles.
Yes, I saw that, too. It was explained to me that it is an SEO thing....I didn't think it was distracting enough to reject it
I get it, but I believe there is a deeper reflection to observe in absorbing this content. Many blessings to you and what led you here like myself. ✌🏾 ☝🏾 💗
27 yrs and she won't try to save our marriage 😅
It isn't a matter of how long one suffers but when when one has had enough. You can save your marriage with changes on your part, thats the message
Too much info beyond the point. Get to the point.
For you it may be too much but for many the info is marriage saving
Thank you
Blessings🙏