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It’s not just about submitting to your husband, doing what he says. There is trust that he will make wise decisions, trust that he will keep you safe-physically, financially, spiritually. There is respect and appreciation, which is reciprocal. Men and women have different roles because we think differently, we have different things we are good at but they complement each other. It’s kind of like riding on the back of a motorcycle your husband is driving. You put your life in his hands, you trust he will take care of you and keep you safe and do what is best for both of you. And you both pray to Jesus for guidance and protection from whatever may come at you both. And as a wife you take care of your husband so he can take care you. And if he is making a decision that you don’t agree with you don’t just do it, you talk about it together. Either you understand his thinking or you give him some other ideas. To submit doesn’t have to be a bad thing, it can be the best relationship you ever imagined when you both love to see each other happy. There is no competition, you complement each other. I have been married for a long time and I fall deeper in love with my husband all the time.
That is the timeless message for women. It is this way, because it goes against the fallen nature of women, to control and dominate- especially the husband.
The government takes away a father's responsibility through family court. I'm a single dad with 50/50 physical/legal custody and I am fortunate I had the resources to fight for that hill to die on. Most fathers don't, and every father I have worked with through my volunteer capacity with the National Parent's Organization (NPO) desperately wants to be in their child's life in a meaningful way. The problem is solved by equal custody, yet no church talks about or advocates for this.
@@andrewmarshall7569 Yep. Society wants their established financial sources of income. Then when they don't need that anymore, we are kicked out again.
@@andrewmarshall7569 Brother, I'm not judging you, but I would like to add that the problem is actually solved when husbands and wives stay married and the family has a win. Again, I am not judging you for getting divorced. I don't know your circumstance. Maybe she divorced you and you had no choice. Maybe you were committed and wanted to make it work, but you just married a "Jezebel". I don't know. Either way, I am praying for you to be the father that your children need and that, with the LORD's help, you will be. GOD bless you, Andrew! 🙏
@@WatchList-xf8ic I don't take it as judgement at all, and thank you for being civil and kind. My ex wife had an affair and would not end it, so I filed for divorce, which is a Biblical reason to do so. I'm right there with you brother in regard to a mom and a dad staying together, if possible, but it's not a good thing to allow that behavior to continue. I thank God daily that their mom and I co-parent very well.
I always call my wife "my love" because that's exactly what she is.. she has all of my love. She's my best friend, and my gift from God. ❤ She's the best thing that happened to me and I thank God for her every day! We don't always agree, and sometimes we get into arguments. We also deal with a lot of stress, but at the end of the day, she's my everything and I try to let her know that as much as I can. She's faithful, loving and respectful to me, and we never call each other a bad name. Don't be toxic to each other, ever. Once you start doing that. It's a curse on the relationship.
We had never heard of you until you took a stand against the enemy. We knew at that point we wanted to hear what you had to say. Excellent teacher!!! Thank you!
Its not just if the man won’t lead, the devil will. There’s another side. If the woman wont follow the man’s leadership is a problem too and what I have faced in my marriage and satan has destroyed it. She claims to be a christian but doesn’t care about what Gods Word says about marriage. Just saying there is more to it than just the man not leading.
Look forGods leadership maybe she can be Influenced by Jezebel not necessarily possessed so fast pray and ask God to send Holy Spirit to send fire in Jesus name.
The fact that you left such a comment is proof you aren't leading properly, because you don't understand what leadership is. Satan could not have destroyed your marriage nor mislead your wife if you had been leading to begin with. If she doubts your leadership it's likely because you have shown yourself in the past to be unreliable. And here you are publicly blaming the woman just like Adam and telling the world it isn't your fault the marriage God put you in charge of is failing. If you hired someone to run your business and came back to find it in ruin, only for him to tell you it was the secretary's fault because she wouldn't listen to him or recognize his authority...you'd fire that guy right?
1 Cor 11:3&4 But I would have you know that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man and the head of Christ is God, 4 Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered dishounoreth his head (Christ)....can someone please take the time to explain to me how pastors preach with their heads covered ...(cap)?
Same thing happened to my Christian marriage. She comes up with many excuses and ideas why to abandon the marriage bond without putting in the effort to make it work. 💔
The SSPX Roman Catholic Church ripped my family apart. My Wife filed for Divorce when I left and went back to my Church (Milestone Church) in TX. Please pray for my family as God guides us through this season.
Been there and over last 10 years learned it Jezebel and why 70 to 80% of divorces are initiated by women, because they harden their hearts to Yahweh and refuse to humbly submit to him. The corrupt court systems actually enable this by incentivising child support and government assistance. If Mark would have read Isaiah 4 & 47 he wouldn't have a stage, because it clearly looks exactly like America today and what it will look like on the next few year? Read those verses and Revelation 2: 20 that leads to Revelation 6-18 (where we are currently) I openly teach this sound doctrine when most turn to the doctrines of demons to stay popular. Not me. I will not cowar like these hired hands.
Can you explain how the SSPX achieved this? The way you word it you sound like you’re saying it was a deliberate effort on their part. If not then what do you mean? How does an entire organisation of traditional Catholics, ‘rip a family apart’?
This popped into my head while listening to the beginning of your sermon. “I am preparing you to have the huge family you’ve always wanted.” I had a counter thought of “you have no one” I responded with I may not have many people I can call family and friends. But God calls me beloved.
Brother! Keep faith and all you ask for will be given! Do not doubt it in your heart but keep faithful and keep Hos commandments and you will move mountains. I'll be praying for you Brother
Do you guys think we are at the very end of endtimes now? With all the crazy stuff happening in the world now? Definetly a lot more shady stuff going on now then say a decade ago. Some watchmen online seem to think so too.
WOW! Thank you SO much for this message, Pastor Mark! "Always remember this. Before she was your wife, she was HIS daughter." I will carry that with me for the rest of my life and invest it into my boys as well. I took so many notes, but THAT brought tears to my eyes. What a beautiful, mic dropping prayer at the end as well, "May we be willing to learn this lesson: Not to be dominated or domineering, but to be lovingly united as one; ruling and reigning together under the authority of Jesus Christ, in whose name we pray. Amen!" God bless you, brother!
I'm still hurting over this to be honest. She's totally ghosted me and is in total avoidance of our marriage. When I wanted a divorce she said no and yet she isn't willing to reconcile. I've done my part and God is my witness.
Why is it that our society always puts the happiness of the wife before the husband? I think an even better quote would be to say find a husband and wife who both have beat up Bibles and are BOTH smiling. Marriage isn't just about the woman.
Yes patronizing tired cliched quote of the day from condescending Pastor Mark. The men who do what he says will be shamed on Father’s and Mother’s Day and in every sitcom regardless.
The man of God said it right here. It’s only been two months of listening to Pastor Mark but I’ve learned so much. He deals with issues that I have. Connection with my husband, power struggles and living together as one
Great insights & analysis of today’s culture! Thank God for this man that can teach the Bible with humility, self deprecation / transparency & humor! Every young man should hear this sermon. I’ll be 67 soon and only wish I’d been exposed to this teaching when I was 18!
The fact that I've never watched a video from this channel before rarely click on things like this and happen to have just made a plate of nachos and sat down to eat them.... Crazy!
As a natural woman it's been as obvious to me as today's gender stuff. It got our generation and your the first Man brave enough to say it. Stand firm. We need Godly male leaders.
I'm so excited to make my girlfriend my wife. Shes such a good woman and even though there are problems (like with any relationship) they are OUR problems that GOD will help us solve. They arent my problems or her problems theyre our problems. Edit: and I'm glad that God trusts me to lead this beautiful woman.
This has to be be one of the best studies I have heard on this subject. Mark, thank you for clearly stating the way God has laid this out. God is good to give us good teachers.
Great sermon Mark! Great about the leadership…”if you as a man dont lead, then satan will” . Im a little older now and have 4 grown children and that has and will continue to add to my happiness
Pastor Mark Driscoll you are the best teacher!!! Im going to share this with some young men. Hopefully they will hear you. So honestly spoken and lovingly taught. Lord Jesus bless this man and his family they are truly helping us.❤❤❤
I'm a new follower and every sermon I've listened to has just been so spot on for me in life. Thank You Pastor Mark for your leadership. The Lord is truly working through you. God Bless!
MUST WATCH! I loved every minute! I've been married almost 30 years and I thank GOD for showing me that I have a place in my marriage and I was going about it all wrong for so long! God bless you, Pastor Mark!
Thank you for this wonderful message. As a mother of three boys and a wife, I found it to be very encouraging and validating. I will be sure to share this with others. God bless.
The landscape for young men to find a woman is horrible. Social Media, mostly TikTok, has set unrealistic standards in women. This makes too many young men not even try. Worthy young women need to speak out and be seen.
The dating scene and the way young people seem to do it is so sad. Young women seem to be doing such crazy things. Christian values have shrank in America.
And feminism, which is in the churches, does not help. Check out the comments under most YT men's issues vids and they're littered with plenty of Christian men who were messed over by Christian women and churches. Many were divorced by their Christian wives, and the churches turned their backs on the men. It's a mess for single men, Christian or non-Christian, really.
I really hope ppl start marrying and having kids at a more "normalized" rate. It's so great. You don't need to be rich to do it, but doing it will make you rich (with untold joy and growth/challenges).
Woman. UK. Congratulations. I’m 67 & have never had children, had uterine cancer at 43. I only have 1 cat & I wish I had a family! Am enjoying your words, but may have to sleep soon, more tomorrow……
Men you are the leader you will give an account Don’t abuse it Women be submissive to him Women when u try to take control from him he will rule over you So don’t
Being overbearing and domineering ISN'T the only way to make your way feel unsafe and insecure in the marriage...the opposite is also true....absent, neglectful , emotionally unavailable will do tge exact same thing.
An honest pastor is better pastor. Thanks for the teachings, i hope this can be shared to all the men for better understanding. It takes two to be married but it takes Christ, man & woman to stay married.. may you continue with teachings as these may God bless you and your family in Jesus name..
The real problem is Preachers not preaching the gospel. Issues we see today in our culture are issues of the heart, and the only thing that can change a sinful heart is the power of the gospel of Jesus Christ. To many ministries are trying to sell their books or “Secret Sauce” when dealing with life issues when they should preach the gospel itself and these issues would resolve themselves.
Amazing sermon Pastor Mark! I listen each week because I love your messaging for the men. I know this world is brutal for men and these sermons help me, as a woman, wife & mom to understand the enormous stress and struggle they are dealing with every day in the world. My husband goes to Real Men whenever he’s not business traveling and enjoys it so much. He’s grown, spiritually, in the last 2 years…like I never imagined! Truly beautiful to witness. Our marriage is stronger than ever now, thanks to Pastor Mark, Trinity Church, Real Men and Real Women❤ My favorite line of your sermon was telling the single guys who complain they can’t imagine being married to one woman for life: “Don’t worry, trust me, she’ll change” 🎯 😂
This popped up and spoke to me so much. I forwarded it to my fiance. Sadly he got really defensive? Said why is there always video’s on men, what about women, they have to submit. I am so trying to see Godly leadership in him, overlook flaws etc, but Spiritual leadership is what I need in a man. I was married 17 years to a “Christian” alcoholic, the drinking and issues with that were bad but the lack of spiritual head of the home is what hurt the most. I would try show him his ways, scripture on being drunk or lukewarm and was rebuffed and told scripture is not black and white. I feel torn. I love this man. When he is in a good mood he calls me God’s daughter, reads the bible and prays with me. When he gets upset he turns on me, I can’t express needs, and I don’t even see Christian character/fruits, let alone any of the biblical qualities of a husband. I am scared to marry him. Having to leave one marriage due to alcohol abuse was bad, and I don’t want to end up in a worse situation. He can be very harsh, refuse to hear my heart and flip it back on me. I am often scared to talk. I love him. But I also want to be happy, to feel safe and secure 😢 he makes me feel like I can’t do anything right or it’s all my fault. He has massive pride. Please pray for wisdom. I don’t need perfection, but the constant mood flips are hard to deal with.
Sugar, that whole"submit" thing is bad news. Can you put off the wedding? I wish you the very best and ask you to listen to your discernment. Listen to that 35 minute segment again.
I made that mistake.. Don’t do it. Being unequally yoked does not work even if he displays some signs of a Christian man. If he’s not true believer, run. Wait on Gods timing.
Whether people want to diss or second-guess Driscoll, it’s clear he does care a lot about what he’s doing and is serious about what he’s saying. That alone is helpful and raises the bar, bc it seems like not many men really do
Sure, until you realize how far off he is from teaching us to follow Yahshua. That's to hard for him, Jezebel has him under his heal. I cover all this in "The Watchman and The Warning Ezekiel 33 & 34" He's just another hired hand after the glory. "Few be there that find it." Also worth noting, admitting that your wife has to approve of what you teach is proof he shouldn't be teaching. It will all be exposed soon.
The devil only attacks that are a threat to him. A strong Christian man with a strong Christian woman can conquer and preach, destroying his world . If healing and reconciliation is GOD'S plan for you, it will happen, HIS TIME, HIS WAY. Keep having faith, trusting, and believing. GOD has you in HIS Righteous Right Hand.
I grew up in the 80s and our dads in the neighborhood worked long hours, only to come home to us crazy kids tearing up their yards as the sun was setting. Other than maybe the summer block party, the dads didn't hang out with the other dads. They were stoic, disciplinary figures. They weren't beacons of happiness, but we didn't expect them to be either.
Thanks! You started this like every divorced guy, it's horrible (challenging) being married. Made me question if i wanted to get married. But if you're use to giving more than you get, that's what marriage seems to be about. I do good things, because i can. Not because i sometimes get rewards. God created a servants heart. The devil created an entitled heart. Though what scares me about marriage is that if I give it all and I get nothing in return ever. That's what dating feminists is like. Giving everything and that not being enough.
Wow simply amazing! I've been searching and searching and searching for probably years years and years for this specific message in my life. I was trying to figure out what was wrong with my marriage and the lightbulb the proverbial lightbulb went off of my head after listening to Mark Driscoll! Amen brother keep preaching because I'm going to keep listening! I couldn't figure out what the heck was wrong with my marriage until now this is authentic right on Bible preaching! I'm so thankful for Mark Driscoll and the content that he delivers! Now if I can just pray in the spirit that God will deliver Us from this hellish marriage and get through this time in our lives I will be truly thankful!
After navigating almost two decades of seeking clarity on this topic in and outside the church, it's the first time i heard this message presented so effectively in a way that makes sense and is consistent with evidence of good examples in the world around us. Thanks pastor Mark!~
Blessed to have heard this message. Much needed in today's society. We married men carry so much weight and talks like this allow us to exhale. Thanks Pastor.
I am one of the wives that watch "Real Men" every week to gain more insight not just for an instance to share with my husband or my brothers but for myself as well. It has definitely boosted my relationship with God as well as my relationship with my husband.
My husband gave me a new name right after we got engaged..he named me "Joan" and told me that it means "God's gift"...which i didn understand back then.
He is 100% correct, I'm 46 years old and I'm scared to death of dieing alone but that's probably what will happen and i only have myself to blame for that!
I'm with you Deborah. I have a very strong personality, but I love being a partner in marriage. I strongly have my husbands back. We discuss our goals together and I head straight to completion. I try to not challenge my husband, as that is really emasculating. But I don't mind asking for clarification. Men are awesome and think completely different than we do. Don't try to change them, enjoy the differences and learn more about them. Men have been abused since the 70's and we need to nurture them. But they also need to grow up. I think that was a big part of what Pastor Driscoll was talking about. Good luck.
One thing that seems to recur in almost every sermon I hear on the issues of families is the absence of addressing young and middle aged widows. Yes unmarried women with children have it hard, but what about the widows ? It’s like the church is blind to these people - it’s not a choice for a widow with children and it’s so disheartening and discouraging to hear continuously about the importance of a father in a child’s life, when they have lost their father.
Evan, in your picture, you are wearing a wife beater and have your tongue hanging out. Try being dependable and gracious, not a party boy. If I'm mistaken, excuse me. But honestly, most women would see your picture and move on. Good luck.
I’m Christian and my wife is agnostic/atheist. It can be annoying at times but i always just remember , lead by faith and be an example for those who don’t understand. Show them what we really are and why it’s the way we’re supposed to be.
That’s rough!! I would start playing Christian music in the house if you don’t already. My cousin was listening and just realized that God loved her. Realizing that God lives us personally was key even in my reversion.
The bible says not to leave, but pray for your wife and lead her to christ, not only by your word but by your actions, all things are possible with GOD.
As a woman these are excellent. It's not just men who should be listening to these.
I’d love to see something like this for women. ❤ biblical guidance and direction for women beyond just the “submit” message we so often see.
It’s not just about submitting to your husband, doing what he says.
There is trust that he will make wise decisions, trust that he will keep you safe-physically, financially, spiritually. There is respect and appreciation, which is reciprocal.
Men and women have different roles because we think differently, we have different things we are good at but they complement each other.
It’s kind of like riding on the back of a motorcycle your husband is driving. You put your life in his hands, you trust he will take care of you and keep you safe and do what is best for both of you. And you both pray to Jesus for guidance and protection from whatever may come at you both.
And as a wife you take care of your husband so he can take care you.
And if he is making a decision that you don’t agree with you don’t just do it, you talk about it together. Either you understand his thinking or you give him some other ideas.
To submit doesn’t have to be a bad thing, it can be the best relationship you ever imagined when you both love to see each other happy. There is no competition, you complement each other.
I have been married for a long time and I fall deeper in love with my husband all the time.
Hopefully his wife would do one
That is the timeless message for women. It is this way, because it goes against the fallen nature of women, to control and dominate- especially the husband.
"Even if God gave you everything, if you don't lead it.... you lose it". We learn so much from you, Pastor Mark. Thank you
wow.🤔😬😳
It’s difficult to lead a women who refuses to be led.
“More fathers, less government.”
The government takes away a father's responsibility through family court. I'm a single dad with 50/50 physical/legal custody and I am fortunate I had the resources to fight for that hill to die on. Most fathers don't, and every father I have worked with through my volunteer capacity with the National Parent's Organization (NPO) desperately wants to be in their child's life in a meaningful way. The problem is solved by equal custody, yet no church talks about or advocates for this.
@@andrewmarshall7569 Yep. Society wants their established financial sources of income. Then when they don't need that anymore, we are kicked out again.
@@cccdy6375 can’t lose if you refuse to play the game
@@andrewmarshall7569 Brother, I'm not judging you, but I would like to add that the problem is actually solved when husbands and wives stay married and the family has a win. Again, I am not judging you for getting divorced. I don't know your circumstance. Maybe she divorced you and you had no choice. Maybe you were committed and wanted to make it work, but you just married a "Jezebel". I don't know. Either way, I am praying for you to be the father that your children need and that, with the LORD's help, you will be. GOD bless you, Andrew! 🙏
@@WatchList-xf8ic I don't take it as judgement at all, and thank you for being civil and kind. My ex wife had an affair and would not end it, so I filed for divorce, which is a Biblical reason to do so.
I'm right there with you brother in regard to a mom and a dad staying together, if possible, but it's not a good thing to allow that behavior to continue. I thank God daily that their mom and I co-parent very well.
I always call my wife "my love" because that's exactly what she is.. she has all of my love. She's my best friend, and my gift from God. ❤ She's the best thing that happened to me and I thank God for her every day!
We don't always agree, and sometimes we get into arguments. We also deal with a lot of stress, but at the end of the day, she's my everything and I try to let her know that as much as I can. She's faithful, loving and respectful to me, and we never call each other a bad name.
Don't be toxic to each other, ever. Once you start doing that. It's a curse on the relationship.
i had saved my wife mob no as my love but sadly we divorced.may god take care of her.
You need to reach the young men
Wife and boy mom! 🙋♀️ I tune in every week. Real Men has been transformative for our entire family!
We had never heard of you until you took a stand against the enemy. We knew at that point we wanted to hear what you had to say. Excellent teacher!!! Thank you!
Line of the night, " I can't be with one woman" "Let me tell ya, she's gonna change, you're gonna get some variety" SO TRUE!! 😆
That line was gold 😂😂😂
Just hope she has Jesus before that change happens.
🤣😢indeed
Lol
Its not just if the man won’t lead, the devil will. There’s another side. If the woman wont follow the man’s leadership is a problem too and what I have faced in my marriage and satan has destroyed it. She claims to be a christian but doesn’t care about what Gods Word says about marriage. Just saying there is more to it than just the man not leading.
Look forGods leadership maybe she can be Influenced by Jezebel not necessarily possessed so fast pray and ask God to send Holy Spirit to send fire in Jesus name.
The fact that you left such a comment is proof you aren't leading properly, because you don't understand what leadership is. Satan could not have destroyed your marriage nor mislead your wife if you had been leading to begin with. If she doubts your leadership it's likely because you have shown yourself in the past to be unreliable. And here you are publicly blaming the woman just like Adam and telling the world it isn't your fault the marriage God put you in charge of is failing. If you hired someone to run your business and came back to find it in ruin, only for him to tell you it was the secretary's fault because she wouldn't listen to him or recognize his authority...you'd fire that guy right?
1 Cor 11:3&4 But I would have you know that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man and the head of Christ is God, 4 Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered dishounoreth his head (Christ)....can someone please take the time to explain to me how pastors preach with their heads covered ...(cap)?
Correct, I also notice a lot of non-submitting women out there, even a lot of Christians.
Same thing happened to my Christian marriage. She comes up with many excuses and ideas why to abandon the marriage bond without putting in the effort to make it work. 💔
Love having a strong God-fearing Christian man♥️ I thank God every day for him.
Me too, AMEN!
The SSPX Roman Catholic Church ripped my family apart. My Wife filed for Divorce when I left and went back to my Church (Milestone Church) in TX. Please pray for my family as God guides us through this season.
Been there and over last 10 years learned it Jezebel and why 70 to 80% of divorces are initiated by women, because they harden their hearts to Yahweh and refuse to humbly submit to him. The corrupt court systems actually enable this by incentivising child support and government assistance. If Mark would have read Isaiah 4 & 47 he wouldn't have a stage, because it clearly looks exactly like America today and what it will look like on the next few year? Read those verses and Revelation 2: 20 that leads to Revelation 6-18 (where we are currently)
I openly teach this sound doctrine when most turn to the doctrines of demons to stay popular. Not me. I will not cowar like these hired hands.
Unfortunately the devil has had a hold on women in our country. Statistics state that over 70% of divorces are initiated and filed by women.
@@FAKERED7Are you serious?
Can you explain how the SSPX achieved this? The way you word it you sound like you’re saying it was a deliberate effort on their part. If not then what do you mean? How does an entire organisation of traditional Catholics, ‘rip a family apart’?
@@richyburnettthis is my question, too. Doesn't sound on-brand.
57 yr old man, 38 yr marriage and I really needed to hear this. Thank You
This popped into my head while listening to the beginning of your sermon. “I am preparing you to have the huge family you’ve always wanted.” I had a counter thought of “you have no one” I responded with I may not have many people I can call family and friends. But God calls me beloved.
I have one friend like really 1 friend but I have 5 kids and a wife it'll happen for you. God's got you in, Jesus name
Brother! Keep faith and all you ask for will be given! Do not doubt it in your heart but keep faithful and keep Hos commandments and you will move mountains. I'll be praying for you Brother
God bless you!!! You have a family in Christ, we are all your family an there are many of us, LOVE YOU BROTHERS!
Do you guys think we are at the very end of endtimes now? With all the crazy stuff happening in the world now? Definetly a lot more shady stuff going on now then say a decade ago. Some watchmen online seem to think so too.
WOW! Thank you SO much for this message, Pastor Mark! "Always remember this. Before she was your wife, she was HIS daughter." I will carry that with me for the rest of my life and invest it into my boys as well. I took so many notes, but THAT brought tears to my eyes. What a beautiful, mic dropping prayer at the end as well, "May we be willing to learn this lesson: Not to be dominated or domineering, but to be lovingly united as one; ruling and reigning together under the authority of Jesus Christ, in whose name we pray. Amen!" God bless you, brother!
Very well said and absolute truth!
I'm still hurting over this to be honest. She's totally ghosted me and is in total avoidance of our marriage. When I wanted a divorce she said no and yet she isn't willing to reconcile. I've done my part and God is my witness.
Something demonic could be influence, like the jezabel spirit.
Keep praying for her and asked the lord for his guidance.
I'm a wife in waiting!
Just found pastor Mark today!
I don’t know if you’ll see this comment or not but this is exactly the message I needed because of the struggles I’m going through thank you
Woman & wife that watches every week! 👋 thanks guys. I love pastor Mark & his sermons/messages
Find an old guy with a beat up Bible and a smiling wife and talk with him. Quote of the day!
Why is it that our society always puts the happiness of the wife before the husband? I think an even better quote would be to say find a husband and wife who both have beat up Bibles and are BOTH smiling. Marriage isn't just about the woman.
Right, because she is smiling after you knelt down and did exactly what she told you to do, sheesh
Bingo! Right to the point
Didn't need to watch the rest of the 50mins.
Yes patronizing tired cliched quote of the day from condescending Pastor Mark. The men who do what he says will be shamed on Father’s and Mother’s Day and in every sitcom regardless.
The man of God said it right here. It’s only been two months of listening to Pastor Mark but I’ve learned so much. He deals with issues that I have. Connection with my husband, power struggles and living together as one
AMEN THE BATTLE REALLY BEGINS IN MARRIAGE . Be strong fellas . Its up to godly men to lead.
LORD, i pray every man gets the urge to watch this video. this is beautifully said, so biblical.
Too late for me, my wife already left me for another man, please always pray together for your marriage
same here god bless u and fill the gap
You can’t lead today’s women. They are owned by the government, “Satan”
Great insights & analysis of today’s culture! Thank God for this man that can teach the Bible with humility, self deprecation / transparency & humor! Every young man should hear this sermon. I’ll be 67 soon and only wish I’d been exposed to this teaching when I was 18!
The fact that I've never watched a video from this channel before rarely click on things like this and happen to have just made a plate of nachos and sat down to eat them.... Crazy!
This sermon convicted me. Paster mark, thank you. My wife is gods daughter, Beautiful i have to do better.
As a natural woman it's been as obvious to me as today's gender stuff. It got our generation and your the first Man brave enough to say it. Stand firm. We need Godly male leaders.
Single woman here, continuing to learn and grow from some personal experiences and continue to prepare myself for being a good wife someday!
Your comment is very refreshing
No. His wife is his biggest challenge. Projecting to its fullest extent. My wife is my glory.
She has to live with MD. She is a victim or heroine.
I'm so excited to make my girlfriend my wife. Shes such a good woman and even though there are problems (like with any relationship) they are OUR problems that GOD will help us solve. They arent my problems or her problems theyre our problems.
Edit: and I'm glad that God trusts me to lead this beautiful woman.
Good luck, Jordan.
Good luck! She won’t be the same person in 5 years or sooner. You better understand that
He is spot on about marriage! Great sermon. ❤
Yes I know that in order to have control over any issue… I gotta make me the problem. It’s called humility❤
This has to be be one of the best studies I have heard on this subject. Mark, thank you for clearly stating the way God has laid this out. God is good to give us good teachers.
Do you believe we are at the end of endtimes now?
@@dayseven28 if you are asking me, yes, I believe the Rapture is closer then we think and I believe this war is escalating things.
61 y/o man 41 years of marriage this was so good I’m learning a lot
Great sermon Mark! Great about the leadership…”if you as a man dont lead, then satan will” .
Im a little older now and have 4 grown children and that has and will continue to add to my happiness
Pastor Mark Driscoll you are the best teacher!!! Im going to share this with some young men. Hopefully they will hear you. So honestly spoken and lovingly taught. Lord Jesus bless this man and his family they are truly helping us.❤❤❤
Leave them young boys alone, wierdo.
As a woman I am so glad I found this prior to marriage.
This sermon was amazing. Love the humor and seriousness. Everything you say is so true. Everyone needs to watch this. I will share this to no end
I'm a new follower and every sermon I've listened to has just been so spot on for me in life. Thank You Pastor Mark for your leadership. The Lord is truly working through you. God Bless!
MUST WATCH! I loved every minute! I've been married almost 30 years and I thank GOD for showing me that I have a place in my marriage and I was going about it all wrong for so long! God bless you, Pastor Mark!
Thank you for this wonderful message. As a mother of three boys and a wife, I found it to be very encouraging and validating. I will be sure to share this with others. God bless.
The landscape for young men to find a woman is horrible. Social Media, mostly TikTok, has set unrealistic standards in women. This makes too many young men not even try. Worthy young women need to speak out and be seen.
The dating scene and the way young people seem to do it is so sad. Young women seem to be doing such crazy things. Christian values have shrank in America.
And feminism, which is in the churches, does not help. Check out the comments under most YT men's issues vids and they're littered with plenty of Christian men who were messed over by Christian women and churches. Many were divorced by their Christian wives, and the churches turned their backs on the men. It's a mess for single men, Christian or non-Christian, really.
My fiance and I are so grateful for your teachings. I plan on ordering the book for his birthday 😊
I really hope ppl start marrying and having kids at a more "normalized" rate. It's so great. You don't need to be rich to do it, but doing it will make you rich (with untold joy and growth/challenges).
Woman. UK. Congratulations. I’m 67 & have never had children, had uterine cancer at 43. I only have 1 cat & I wish I had a family! Am enjoying your words, but may have to sleep soon, more tomorrow……
Men you are the leader you will give an account
Don’t abuse it
Women be submissive to him
Women when u try to take control from him he will rule over you
So don’t
As a woman I approve of this message
Any man who can openly admit to having faults will always have my greatest respect anyday
You have no idea
Everyman needs to see and listen to this great surman. Thank you pastor Mark.
Being overbearing and domineering ISN'T the only way to make your way feel unsafe and insecure in the marriage...the opposite is also true....absent, neglectful , emotionally unavailable will do tge exact same thing.
💯- I’m in this place sadly
God sent pastor Mark to minister to me during cov 19 and he's still doing it today!Praise God Praise God 🙌
The success of a man can be seen in the countenance of his wife.
My wife used to tell me, leave your superintendent hat outside!
An honest pastor is better pastor. Thanks for the teachings, i hope this can be shared to all the men for better understanding. It takes two to be married but it takes Christ, man & woman to stay married.. may you continue with teachings as these may God bless you and your family in Jesus name..
I still believe in the resurrection power for myself, and my wife. We've been divorced for over four years now, but i still believe!
Eve was brought to Adam
Man was made for God
Women were made for man
Don’t abuse this
We all come from women
The real problem is Preachers not preaching the gospel. Issues we see today in our culture are issues of the heart, and the only thing that can change a sinful heart is the power of the gospel of Jesus Christ. To many ministries are trying to sell their books or “Secret Sauce” when dealing with life issues when they should preach the gospel itself and these issues would resolve themselves.
A-MEN
That "Dominion for Dudes" cowboy boot and logo is awesome! Will that ever be a T-shirt?
Amazing sermon Pastor Mark! I listen each week because I love your messaging for the men. I know this world is brutal for men and these sermons help me, as a woman, wife & mom to understand the enormous stress and struggle they are dealing with every day in the world. My husband goes to Real Men whenever he’s not business traveling and enjoys it so much. He’s grown, spiritually, in the last 2 years…like I never imagined! Truly beautiful to witness. Our marriage is stronger than ever now, thanks to Pastor Mark, Trinity Church, Real Men and Real Women❤ My favorite line of your sermon was telling the single guys who complain they can’t imagine being married to one woman for life: “Don’t worry, trust me, she’ll change” 🎯 😂
This popped up and spoke to me so much. I forwarded it to my fiance. Sadly he got really defensive? Said why is there always video’s on men, what about women, they have to submit. I am so trying to see Godly leadership in him, overlook flaws etc, but Spiritual leadership is what I need in a man. I was married 17 years to a “Christian” alcoholic, the drinking and issues with that were bad but the lack of spiritual head of the home is what hurt the most. I would try show him his ways, scripture on being drunk or lukewarm and was rebuffed and told scripture is not black and white.
I feel torn. I love this man. When he is in a good mood he calls me God’s daughter, reads the bible and prays with me. When he gets upset he turns on me, I can’t express needs, and I don’t even see Christian character/fruits, let alone any of the biblical qualities of a husband.
I am scared to marry him. Having to leave one marriage due to alcohol abuse was bad, and I don’t want to end up in a worse situation. He can be very harsh, refuse to hear my heart and flip it back on me. I am often scared to talk. I love him. But I also want to be happy, to feel safe and secure 😢 he makes me feel like I can’t do anything right or it’s all my fault. He has massive pride.
Please pray for wisdom. I don’t need perfection, but the constant mood flips are hard to deal with.
Sugar, that whole"submit" thing is bad news. Can you put off the wedding? I wish you the very best and ask you to listen to your discernment. Listen to that 35 minute segment again.
I say run. Wait on the Lord
Don’t marry him. That’s a lot of red flags
I made that mistake.. Don’t do it. Being unequally yoked does not work even if he displays some signs of a Christian man. If he’s not true believer, run. Wait on Gods timing.
Whether people want to diss or second-guess Driscoll, it’s clear he does care a lot about what he’s doing and is serious about what he’s saying.
That alone is helpful and raises the bar, bc it seems like not many men really do
Sure, until you realize how far off he is from teaching us to follow Yahshua. That's to hard for him, Jezebel has him under his heal. I cover all this in "The Watchman and The Warning Ezekiel 33 & 34" He's just another hired hand after the glory. "Few be there that find it." Also worth noting, admitting that your wife has to approve of what you teach is proof he shouldn't be teaching. It will all be exposed soon.
Great sermon! Loved it!
You have all the answers and know all the tricks for my wife to be your new sister wife. Good luck.
This was a good one Pastor Mark!
Love this guy! Great preacher
Praying for restoration in my marriage. Going through a divorce for almost 2 years now. The devil has been attacking marriage heavily
The devil only attacks that are a threat to him. A strong Christian man with a strong Christian woman can conquer and preach, destroying his world . If healing and reconciliation is GOD'S plan for you, it will happen, HIS TIME, HIS WAY. Keep having faith, trusting, and believing. GOD has you in HIS Righteous Right Hand.
I grew up in the 80s and our dads in the neighborhood worked long hours, only to come home to us crazy kids tearing up their yards as the sun was setting. Other than maybe the summer block party, the dads didn't hang out with the other dads. They were stoic, disciplinary figures. They weren't beacons of happiness, but we didn't expect them to be either.
Great post about your Stoic dad. I grew up in the 60’s. Same thing with my dad.
Thanks! You started this like every divorced guy, it's horrible (challenging) being married. Made me question if i wanted to get married. But if you're use to giving more than you get, that's what marriage seems to be about. I do good things, because i can. Not because i sometimes get rewards. God created a servants heart. The devil created an entitled heart. Though what scares me about marriage is that if I give it all and I get nothing in return ever. That's what dating feminists is like. Giving everything and that not being enough.
I think this is a great sermon. Funny is good and very real!
Wow simply amazing! I've been searching and searching and searching for probably years years and years for this specific message in my life. I was trying to figure out what was wrong with my marriage and the lightbulb the proverbial lightbulb went off of my head after listening to Mark Driscoll! Amen brother keep preaching because I'm going to keep listening! I couldn't figure out what the heck was wrong with my marriage until now this is authentic right on Bible preaching! I'm so thankful for Mark Driscoll and the content that he delivers! Now if I can just pray in the spirit that God will deliver Us from this hellish marriage and get through this time in our lives I will be truly thankful!
Communication, Sarah. Long, sober conversations about where you have been, where you are and where you want to be in the relationship. Good luck.
Thank you Pastor Mark! Straightforward Truth!
After navigating almost two decades of seeking clarity on this topic in and outside the church, it's the first time i heard this message presented so effectively in a way that makes sense and is consistent with evidence of good examples in the world around us. Thanks pastor Mark!~
Lol, she's gonna change, you're gonna get a variety 😅
Blessed to have heard this message. Much needed in today's society. We married men carry so much weight and talks like this allow us to exhale. Thanks Pastor.
Yes those land whale women weight too much.
@@johnmadsen37Hahaha
I am one of the wives that watch "Real Men" every week to gain more insight not just for an instance to share with my husband or my brothers but for myself as well. It has definitely boosted my relationship with God as well as my relationship with my husband.
My husband gave me a new name right after we got engaged..he named me "Joan" and told me that it means "God's gift"...which i didn understand back then.
That is so sweet!!!!
What lmao
This is so spot on.
I am a wife watching and I love this. ❤
😮 it happened to me a long time ago..... But don't blame him. These cold ruthless heartless women never loved us.....
He is 100% correct, I'm 46 years old and I'm scared to death of dieing alone but that's probably what will happen and i only have myself to blame for that!
I'm here as a woman to learn how to balance my feminine and masculine energies within myself. I'm wanting to be a better bride for Jesus!!!
you should not have masculine energies except coming from your husband.
You don't need a pastor to show you this
Well said! Thank you❤
I’m with @mooneymakes359 on this one…. Deborah’s comment is not in accordance with scripture; rather, it sounds pagan.
I'm with you Deborah. I have a very strong personality, but I love being a partner in marriage. I strongly have my husbands back. We discuss our goals together and I head straight to completion. I try to not challenge my husband, as that is really emasculating. But I don't mind asking for clarification. Men are awesome and think completely different than we do. Don't try to change them, enjoy the differences and learn more about them. Men have been abused since the 70's and we need to nurture them. But they also need to grow up. I think that was a big part of what Pastor Driscoll was talking about. Good luck.
I couldn’t repeat on here the names my husband has called me 😂
If that was my daughter I would re evaluate my parenting. I wouldn't place blame on the husband.
Dan Mohler explains it very well.
Exactly ...thanks
One thing that seems to recur in almost every sermon I hear on the issues of families is the absence of addressing young and middle aged widows. Yes unmarried women with children have it hard, but what about the widows ? It’s like the church is blind to these people - it’s not a choice for a widow with children and it’s so disheartening and discouraging to hear continuously about the importance of a father in a child’s life, when they have lost their father.
This was awesome!!!
So funny... Love you .. and thank you 🎉9 children . Single Mama 7 grandchildren
I was abused
Best🎉 sermon ever!!!
Amen brother
Hallelujah to the Lamb of God
First time listening to you🙌🙏 thank you so much
I’m 34 and not married. It’s kind of hard to meet someone to marry 🤷🏼♂️
38 here, and 20:35 was a bit of a slap in the face. I have barely found any women to date, much less marry.
Evan, in your picture, you are wearing a wife beater and have your tongue hanging out. Try being dependable and gracious, not a party boy. If I'm mistaken, excuse me. But honestly, most women would see your picture and move on. Good luck.
Everything he saying is 100 percent tru...but it also paints a bad picture for getting married
I’m Christian and my wife is agnostic/atheist. It can be annoying at times but i always just remember , lead by faith and be an example for those who don’t understand. Show them what we really are and why it’s the way we’re supposed to be.
That’s rough!! I would start playing Christian music in the house if you don’t already. My cousin was listening and just realized that God loved her. Realizing that God lives us personally was key even in my reversion.
Recipe for disaster and divorce. I held this naive view.
@@ThePrairieChronicles Thank you very much.
@aaronkidd9450 I was a Christian in a marriage to a nonbeliever. It ended of course.
The bible says not to leave, but pray for your wife and lead her to christ, not only by your word but by your actions, all things are possible with GOD.
The head is the head
If something has 2 heads it’s a monster
A king is the leader no co leader
The devil didnt steal my 2 exes, those parasites went willingly
Thanks
Your flesh is your toughest challenge
I had my second grandson this week too!!
Good and Strong message about marriage and my roll, that I needed to hear. Thank you!
Watching from Fresno, CA. I share these with my husband who's been sharing with our small group husbands.
What a good obedient little husband. Keep him in line, sistah!