1. Be kind and loving-- never lose your temper at her -- women yell to make themselves as big as you, not to be disrespectful. 2. Appreciate her every day-- women are naturally unsure they are or are doing enough. 3. Tell her she's beautiful-- women feel inadequate without their beauty to you acknowledged. 4. Show and tell her that you love her -- often. 5. Be affectionate-- women need physical affection that is not just sexual. Also use sex for connection, not just for recreation or satisfaction. 6. Admire her -- pay attention to how she does things and praise her for it 7. Be her mirror on the wall -- affirm her.
I would add: Honey-do lists! There are some things women depend on their men to do that they can't do themselves. Fulfilling these requests is an act of providing. It shows loyalty. It shows commitment. It shows dedication to your wife. It shows her that you take your responsibility to her and the home you are building together seriously and shows her you want to stay in the environment she is making for you.
Its actually very easy, shes your WIFE for a reason.. she didnt marry you just out of the blue. You wanted her so bad enough to marry her so at one point you were head over heels. So all you got to do is go back to that stage were things started, even if you dont have the feelings or love eventually itll come back because the feelings were there once.. its just all about not giving up no matter what you see.
Paul you’re the best, I took course for men 6 months ago and I still go back to it and these you-tube videos especially when I catch my mind doing it’s own thing, it’s very, very stubborn but my marriage has improved tremendously and so has my life. I’m so happy because my beautiful wife of 30 years was half way out the door! Forever grateful!
Actually, I'm the wife watching this, but I'm definitely going to get my husband to watch it tonight! This is such a great video! You are soooo good at this! Love your videos!
I pray that God blesses you and your work to save as many marriages as possible! You are doing His work! God bless every viewer and open their hearts to these messages that lead from a position of LOVE!!!
Paul its clear youve made the importance of maintaining and enjoying a happy marriage your ' Lives Work' . This shows in the crystal clear ,valuable advice you impart to Married couples & Singles looking to remarry. Such a wonderful gift 🎁 you give to all who cross your path. God bless you for doing this work💯 💫❤️
I found your channel recently I must say I really appreciate and agree with everything that you mentioned in every video, has really been my own experience. Iam going through it at the moment. I don't know but now I have totally got exhausted and gave up on my husband. I feel we as women often undermine the importance of our gut feeling especially when it comes to coming our of bad relationships. Even now iam stuck but just because of my son I am staying in the marriage. I feel hopefully once my son grows up I really need to take this big decision. Thank you so much for your videos. In this video I particularly agree with all 7 points, spot on.
These lessons are intended to uplift and guide the one watching,. None of us are perfect so we should look for the lessons that we need. It is impossible to get good results from telling another what they should do.
You could share with him that these points really hit home for you and put into words how you feel and ask him if he would like to watch it and that it would mean a lot to you if he would.
My husband doesn't have an affectionate bone in his body. My beauty is appreciated more by other people. I'd rather recieve complments from him. I appreciate your videos, but I rather be unhappy by myself. Sometimes second is really the charm.
You may give up if you wish, you have free will. But, here we inspire people to utilize their free will and change themselves so their future is positive and they do not blame others for the mess they are in now but take responsibility for their future
@LauraC Surprisingly, we are still together. Sometimes when you get to the point where I was , God will extend his wisdom/knowledge and place stumbling blocks intended to deviate any plans you have. I came to the realization that I failed to acknowledge God's view of what marriage should be, but instead acknowledged warped views. I was comparing my marriage to others, the media, what I believe marriage should be. Though I was at my lowest, God revealed to me I still had room for restoration. Through obedience to God, he started making some areas in my marriage straight and helped me to see my husband from a different light.
Look I can hold my temper,but the not self responsible for actions and pushing and pushing,frustration comes out,so I get don’t show anger,but how do we feel when they keep on saying and doing and never her fault
As a man we have to recognize that our wives are incredible wells of love and learn how to appreciate them for what they are, who they are, and that they are not men.
What do I do when after we got married, my wife missed her life of hanging out with her friends, and prioritizing her friends time over time with me. How do I fix myself when I’m not her priority?
What happens when she has been sexually abused by her step dad and I get punished for what he did to her. I tell her she is beautiful, I help with the dishes and housework, work a full time job, help with our daughter and get very little in return besides publicly humiliated for the things I don't do. When it comes to intimacy I have to ask for it and get rejected 9 out of 10 times. 5 years of marriage have seemed like 500. I also buy her flowers and take her out for special occasions and on the spur of the moment. I very seldom get any thing in return. She says she doesn't know what to get me. I told her anything just to know that she loves me.
You are mixing apples and oranges. Marriage is a union that teaches us how to love without expectations. The mind teaches us we should be rewarded. One must learn to love unconditionally to feel inner joy
Thankfully the Lord constantly forgives us and more importantly, encourages us to keep up our loving efforts and focus on the future. And, BTW when it comes to being an idiot I am sure in that category 😂
1. Be kind and loving-- never lose your temper at her -- women yell to make themselves as big as you, not to be disrespectful.
2. Appreciate her every day-- women are naturally unsure they are or are doing enough.
3. Tell her she's beautiful-- women feel inadequate without their beauty to you acknowledged.
4. Show and tell her that you love her -- often.
5. Be affectionate-- women need physical affection that is not just sexual. Also use sex for connection, not just for recreation or satisfaction.
6. Admire her -- pay attention to how she does things and praise her for it
7. Be her mirror on the wall -- affirm her.
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Amen Will Said And 100% True
I would add:
Honey-do lists! There are some things women depend on their men to do that they can't do themselves. Fulfilling these requests is an act of providing. It shows loyalty. It shows commitment. It shows dedication to your wife. It shows her that you take your responsibility to her and the home you are building together seriously and shows her you want to stay in the environment she is making for you.
Love can and should be expressed in every way to the one we love and who is our soulmate...what a golden opportunity!
Its actually very easy, shes your WIFE for a reason.. she didnt marry you just out of the blue. You wanted her so bad enough to marry her so at one point you were head over heels.
So all you got to do is go back to that stage were things started, even if you dont have the feelings or love eventually itll come back because the feelings were there once.. its just all about not giving up no matter what you see.
I just wish we could travel like back then. He's become lazy and cheap
You have the revelation! Pray for other husbands to get it as well!!!
Paul you’re the best, I took course for men 6 months ago and I still go back to it and these you-tube videos especially when I catch my mind doing it’s own thing, it’s very, very stubborn but my marriage has improved tremendously and so has my life. I’m so happy because my beautiful wife of 30 years was half way out the door!
Forever grateful!
Perhaps that's what most men need.....a fiery wake up call!!
It makes me so happy when I read these messages of success. Good for you that you made the effort! God bless you both 🙏
Actually, I'm the wife watching this, but I'm definitely going to get my husband to watch it tonight!
This is such a great video! You are soooo good at this! Love your videos!
Thank you 🙏
I pray that God blesses you and your work to save as many marriages as possible! You are doing His work! God bless every viewer and open their hearts to these messages that lead from a position of LOVE!!!
Paul its clear youve made the importance of maintaining and enjoying a happy marriage your ' Lives Work' . This shows in the crystal clear ,valuable advice you impart to Married couples & Singles looking to remarry. Such a wonderful gift 🎁 you give to all who cross your path. God bless you for doing this work💯 💫❤️
I am so Blessed!🙏
Teared up. Great insight
Sorry about the tears, but glad to be of help
You got me tearing up listening to this man. Thank you for this video
Thanks so much Paul for giving me this detailed plan to follow. I will review it and practice them everyday going forward
Fantastic! Change yourself an you will inspire others. Best thing to do is create cycles of love, giving love.
Crying watching this
I cried the whole video too
Cry for joy that you have free will and the achievable goal of happiness and love🙏
I always seem to watch these videos when I'm not angry with my husband it just pulls me in
You are a real blessing for this world, thanks a lot !
We are all loved equally by our Farther who blesses us always 🙏
Excellent, sir. I think you saved my life. Thank you.
It is you who saved your life. I am only an agent of good news themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
Thank u bro for giving me and my husband clarity
I try my best 🙏
Really good advice
Fantastic insights Paul.
I found your channel recently I must say I really appreciate and agree with everything that you mentioned in every video, has really been my own experience. Iam going through it at the moment. I don't know but now I have totally got exhausted and gave up on my husband. I feel we as women often undermine the importance of our gut feeling especially when it comes to coming our of bad relationships. Even now iam stuck but just because of my son I am staying in the marriage. I feel hopefully once my son grows up I really need to take this big decision. Thank you so much for your videos. In this video I particularly agree with all 7 points, spot on.
Thank you Paul
Thank you very much for sharing your wonderful thoughts
I'm blessed to share this knowledge 🙏
How to make my man watch this? He said he knows it all already
These lessons are intended to uplift and guide the one watching,. None of us are perfect so we should look for the lessons that we need.
It is impossible to get good results from telling another what they should do.
You could share with him that these points really hit home for you and put into words how you feel and ask him if he would like to watch it and that it would mean a lot to you if he would.
same ,my husband think he is to clever to look this videos ,sadly he will never look.
I’m a husband, and if he knows all this he must be a god of a man. Or he has a giant ego.
Know that you alone can fill your marriage with happiness and love!
I needed to see this. This really hit home. Thank you
My husband doesn't have an affectionate bone in his body. My beauty is appreciated more by other people. I'd rather recieve complments from him. I appreciate your videos, but I rather be unhappy by myself. Sometimes second is really the charm.
such a defeatist attitude! Don't you know how much power you have to become the most beautiful woman in the world?
You may give up if you wish, you have free will. But, here we inspire people to utilize their free will and change themselves so their future is positive and they do not blame others for the mess they are in now but take responsibility for their future
My wife 😞too as dead as a door nail 🤷🏻♂️I know how you feel !
Did you leave him?
@LauraC Surprisingly, we are still together. Sometimes when you get to the point where I was , God will extend his wisdom/knowledge and place stumbling blocks intended to deviate any plans you have. I came to the realization that I failed to acknowledge God's view of what marriage should be, but instead acknowledged warped views. I was comparing my marriage to others, the media, what I believe marriage should be. Though I was at my lowest, God revealed to me I still had room for restoration. Through obedience to God, he started making some areas in my marriage straight and helped me to see my husband from a different light.
SPOT ON
Thank you again before I messed up. It’s challenging to be affectionate while watching porn and social media. But the help of god it will be okay.
You will be better if you get the eductaion you need. Porn is a bad idea themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
😭😭😭😭 this was so good and on target!
Thanks Paul it help alot
Look I can hold my temper,but the not self responsible for actions and pushing and pushing,frustration comes out,so I get don’t show anger,but how do we feel when they keep on saying and doing and never her fault
As a man we have to recognize that our wives are incredible wells of love and learn how to appreciate them for what they are, who they are, and that they are not men.
I just wish the current situation I'm having with my wife for 14 years, doesn't affect madam next course surely i will be leaving this marriage
Running away? Try the course for men themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
What do I do when after we got married, my wife missed her life of hanging out with her friends, and prioritizing her friends time over time with me. How do I fix myself when I’m not her priority?
I think you need to learn to improve yourself to improve your marriage...start with one of my books before the trend goes too deep
@@TheMarriageFoundation how does improving myself help change her attitude about time with me.
What happens when she has been sexually abused by her step dad and I get punished for what he did to her. I tell her she is beautiful, I help with the dishes and housework, work a full time job, help with our daughter and get very little in return besides publicly humiliated for the things I don't do. When it comes to intimacy I have to ask for it and get rejected 9 out of 10 times. 5 years of marriage have seemed like 500. I also buy her flowers and take her out for special occasions and on the spur of the moment. I very seldom get any thing in return. She says she doesn't know what to get me. I told her anything just to know that she loves me.
You are mixing apples and oranges. Marriage is a union that teaches us how to love without expectations. The mind teaches us we should be rewarded. One must learn to love unconditionally to feel inner joy
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I've been such an idiot for such a long time! Lord forgive me, I don't know what I was doing, wasn't aware.
Thankfully the Lord constantly forgives us and more importantly, encourages us to keep up our loving efforts and focus on the future. And, BTW when it comes to being an idiot I am sure in that category 😂
Thank you I needed that, you've helped understand my bride, my wife, the love of my life much better. I pray for you and yours!🙏
Talking about me
Yes, we all are affected by similar world views so all need to learn the right ways that create love and happiness in our marriages
Extreme Simp-jitsu 🤦🏾♂️
But because I love her, I will apply some if not most of what you say.
Yes, love is the greatest "weapon" of all time!