95. Dr Frederic Luskin: Forgiveness: What It Is & What It Is Not.

To forgive is one of the biggest choices we can make. It can allow us to let go of painful suffering, to move on and to find peace for ourselves.
Yet forgiveness tends to be something of a minefield. Many feel that it means letting people who have hurt them back into their lives (which definitely need not be the case). Nor is forgiveness the same thing as saying that historic mistreatment was OK. And if forgiveness is compelled by religion or a strict sense of morality, it may not bring the same easing of hurt and suffering.
In this episode Andrew and forgiveness expert Dr Frederic Luskin discuss how to go about the task of forgiving someone, and the impact this can have on the rest of your life. Whether it is infidelity, financial dishonesty or parental failings, forgiving someone who has wronged you can ultimately mean that you can be “a hero instead of a victim in the story you tell”.

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[@bellebeauty67]

This talk is powerfully insightful. Great appreciation for Fred’s teaching style. “Musterbation”-Albert Eilliss. Gratitude impairment disability,,,so good! I’m done being cranky, forgiveness is about our healing and not about the people who hurt us,😊

[@angelag2662]

Unforgiveness. Like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

[@AndrewGMarshallTherapy]

Indeed! Thank you for listening.