This Is Why You Never Feel Good Enough

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  • THIS IS WHY YOU NEVER FEEL GOOD ENOUGH
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    Have you ever wondered why, no matter what you do you never feel good enough? You've accomplished a lot and have had success in at least a few areas of your life, but you still can't figure out how to feel good about yourself and your accomplishments. You might find it all very confusing and even often wonder "why I think I'm not good enough"
    Here we're going to talk about the brain science reasons why you have that inner critical voice that often won't let up and makes you feel like you're not good enough, no matter what you do, and what you can do to get it to back off, at least a little.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 9 тис.

  • @rhondamarshall4152
    @rhondamarshall4152 5 років тому +1211

    Feeling not good enough, not smart or likeable enough

  • @amberreid8072
    @amberreid8072 5 років тому +553

    No one has ever liked me enough to stick around

  • @kimberlyquillen1042
    @kimberlyquillen1042 3 роки тому +236

    My gremlin: no matter how much I give I'm never good enough.

  • @nicoler7964
    @nicoler7964 3 роки тому +189

    My gremlin: no one will ever love me and stay with me, I'm not good enough.

  • @Trina.b00
    @Trina.b00 5 років тому +434

    I'm not pretty enough. I'm not smart enough.

  • @CK77460
    @CK77460 5 років тому +722

    My gremlins: I feel like I suck because I'm not where I want to be or think I should be as compared to other people.

  • @tynatural4654
    @tynatural4654 3 роки тому +86

    I always find myself feeling like I’m not good enough to have what I desire

  • @lillylucas7718
    @lillylucas7718 3 роки тому +32

    My gremlin is : I’m never enough for anyone no matter how hard I try

  • @testabledaddyo5818
    @testabledaddyo5818 5 років тому +2040

    My gremlin: there is always someone better

  • @Fetchem1222
    @Fetchem1222 4 роки тому +474

    I’m not good enough. I need validation because I don’t believe in myself enough.

  • @IntellectualMuscle
    @IntellectualMuscle 3 роки тому +72

    My MAJOR Grem that covers all others is basically that I am not good enough and always trying to be better. And I HAVE to be better in order to be "worthy" of love/affection/praise.

    • @sherry7347
      @sherry7347 3 роки тому

      Yes ! Me too

    • @the_endling
      @the_endling 2 роки тому

      Same here..

    • @sophiamoreno6459
      @sophiamoreno6459 Рік тому +1

      Me too

    • @IntellectualMuscle
      @IntellectualMuscle Рік тому +1

      @@sophiamoreno6459 I have had a therapist for about 2 years now and even though I won't say this is gone and cured, I am in so so sOOOOOOOOOOO much of a better spot and position right now then I otherwise am at any point!
      Please find someone you like to talk to and discuss these things, it will definitely help you out!

    • @sophiamoreno6459
      @sophiamoreno6459 Рік тому +1

      @@IntellectualMuscle ik but no one khows how to help me with this

  • @beverleybishop6966
    @beverleybishop6966 3 роки тому +37

    I look for approval from others for feeling worthy and loved

  • @peterthegrape
    @peterthegrape 5 років тому +556

    Fear of rejection if I reveal too much of myself.

  • @suryalua
    @suryalua 4 роки тому +923

    Mine: that I won’t ever be good enough for anyone and am not lovable

  • @vanessamoisiak3346
    @vanessamoisiak3346 3 роки тому +39

    My gremlin: I feel like whatever I do, I won't succeed. In all parts of my life: working out, loosing weight, good grades

  • @creativelydest
    @creativelydest 3 роки тому +12

    My 1st gremlin: I am not good enough, I am a failure at life !
    My 2nd gremlin: My needs don't matter, others needs are more important than mine !

  • @Anastashya
    @Anastashya 5 років тому +888

    I’m too quiet compared to other people which makes me boring.

    • @temporarilyblond
      @temporarilyblond 5 років тому +2

      Serene Artist me too

    • @jenjen9618
      @jenjen9618 5 років тому +31

      Me too, so I make up for it by acting outgoing and extroverted, but it keeps me in the cycle of feeling like if people really knew me, they wouldn't like me.

    • @quotidian5077
      @quotidian5077 5 років тому +11

      Me too. Especially if there is a large group of people.

    • @jna876
      @jna876 5 років тому +1

      Me too

    • @janiewalland7678
      @janiewalland7678 5 років тому +3

      Me too but I'm loud and boring

  • @Catscalligraphy
    @Catscalligraphy 5 років тому +839

    My gremlin is that I always feel out of place and that I never really fit in anywhere.

  • @fededepa1295
    @fededepa1295 3 роки тому +39

    My gremlins: I'm not beautiful enough, a guy will always choose someone more beautiful/interesting and charming than me

  • @AM-kq6tv
    @AM-kq6tv 3 роки тому +18

    Gremlin: That I will never be worthy, no matter how I try

  • @TiffTheTyrant
    @TiffTheTyrant 5 років тому +1911

    My gremlin: I will never be successful or live up to my potential because I don’t have what it takes.

  • @kyliechunick1302
    @kyliechunick1302 4 роки тому +1140

    My gremlin: not feeling worthy enough, I will be replaced or there is someone better

  • @Cindery936
    @Cindery936 3 роки тому +30

    I’m so incredibly complicated everyone thinks I’m crazy, I’m bipolar and so nobody talks to me I’ll never be good enough no matter what. I cry for hours at a time. I’m crying right now

    • @notyetnoway8237
      @notyetnoway8237 3 роки тому

      You are as complicated as you
      Make yourself. Be kind to your self and change your thoughts because they will become your life.

    • @timothystone3726
      @timothystone3726 2 роки тому

      I need to green thumb this one but I can't for somereason

    • @laurabrookman316
      @laurabrookman316 Рік тому

      Me too

    • @santanalawrence4448
      @santanalawrence4448 6 місяців тому

      Hello, how are you and your family, I'am sorry that you are going through that, do not give up, yes, it is hard and yes, at times the process may be slow but hang in there, God has you in every way, it is okay to cry sometimes but while you cry, God has already worked it out for you, just be patient and keep depending on The Lord, God bless you and your family, in the mighty, name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior of the world, amen 🙏❤

  • @kitchenboy69
    @kitchenboy69 3 роки тому +46

    In tears! I thought the comment thing would be weird or not many people would say much but I scrolled down and the tears spilled. So many faces, different perspectives, sharing the same pain. Thank you all for sharing! MY GREMLIN: It is so easy to put myself down and lift others up. Too easy.

  • @BennettYancey
    @BennettYancey 5 років тому +689

    My gremlins: perfectionism, fear of rejection, fear of conflict, and fear of failure.

  • @alvaf2055
    @alvaf2055 5 років тому +1523

    Even if I do my best I will never be enough

  • @Latoya_T
    @Latoya_T 3 роки тому +26

    My gremlin: I’m not that important enough. I’m not that special. Its someone better

  • @unicornlover8559
    @unicornlover8559 3 роки тому +6

    I feel unproductive even when I have done something during the day, I just feel like I am a waste..

  • @jimlbeam
    @jimlbeam 5 років тому +556

    I am unimportant

  • @soKINDLYcute
    @soKINDLYcute 5 років тому +206

    Nothing I do is good enough.

  • @rominahughes7289
    @rominahughes7289 3 роки тому +12

    Gremlin: you are selfish and only focus on yourself and yet you still aren’t perfect

  • @speedyb5434
    @speedyb5434 2 роки тому +7

    I come to realize that it's not just "me" that doesn't feel good enough. It's also who you surround yourself with. There should be people around you who brings your spirits up even when you are at your lowest. You need to understand your journey and understand things for what they are. Good or bad you are you! Don't ever let you or anyone else diminish just how special you really are. God Bless.

  • @gabrielleisweird
    @gabrielleisweird 5 років тому +1712

    I always feel like I don’t have what it takes to do the things i want to do in my life

  • @jenjen9618
    @jenjen9618 5 років тому +858

    My gremlin is: I come off as a very friendly outgoing extrovert. However, deep inside, I'm afraid that if people really knew me, they wouldn't like me.

  • @ieshabrown9693
    @ieshabrown9693 Рік тому +3

    While I’m reading everybody’s comment, tears are coming down my eyes because I fight with all these things, and to know that there’s other people in the world that’s going to the same thing. I am breaks my heart, but no matter what you think of yourself you’re a great person.

    • @lesliengo8347
      @lesliengo8347 Рік тому +1

      You are an amazing and worthy person, we all have strengths and weaknesses that make us all unique.

  • @hapa9615
    @hapa9615 3 роки тому +5

    No matter how hard I work and no matter how much I accomplish I just wait for someone to see through it and understand that I am not good enough. I am kind of introverted also, not the loudest guy in social settings, so afraid people will find me to be boring.

  • @Watergirl3478
    @Watergirl3478 5 років тому +271

    Myself critical thought is that I am a burden.

  • @teresasmietana8394
    @teresasmietana8394 4 роки тому +497

    My gremlin is “you’re not doing enough”

  • @dawnalicia2778
    @dawnalicia2778 2 роки тому +10

    I always feel like nothing I do matters to anyone 😭

  • @takeishawilliams3078
    @takeishawilliams3078 3 роки тому +5

    My gremlins: fear of rejection, pain, trauma that I never told anyone, not feeling complete, anger, frustration, hurt, feeling empty, I can’t stop crying.

  • @vonhuf4110
    @vonhuf4110 5 років тому +367

    Something is wrong with me. Nothing I do is good enough.

    • @jaimeek1219
      @jaimeek1219 5 років тому

      Ray Huf me too

    • @nikkidraper357
      @nikkidraper357 5 років тому

      Me too

    • @Maddy-iv7zy
      @Maddy-iv7zy 5 років тому

      Me too

    • @julienbarney6552
      @julienbarney6552 5 років тому

      Me too

    • @evian.
      @evian. 5 років тому +3

      Ray Huf
      This one cracked me up😂 how do you know there is something wrong with you? I’m sure there is nothing wrong with you. You maybe confused and scared and not trusting yourself but you are ok otherwise. Hm, maybe your parents were shouting what was wrong with you and now you run this false belief? The parents are the cause for most of our misery in adulthood.

  • @momowells4919
    @momowells4919 4 роки тому +932

    my gremlin: i’m not likable enough, my anxiety beats me to the punch, fear of rejection, lack of self-control

  • @phillipaguilera7908
    @phillipaguilera7908 3 роки тому +12

    Gremlin: I'm scared that I'm not living my life to the fullest.

  • @anabel9449
    @anabel9449 5 років тому +603

    I am not worthy of love

    • @ct3975
      @ct3975 5 років тому

      Me too

    • @jaimeek1219
      @jaimeek1219 5 років тому

      Anabel Martinez me too

    • @tamarajessup1398
      @tamarajessup1398 5 років тому +4

      Didn't even think God could love me, and was terribly unhappy when I'd ask my husband WHY he loved me and he was NEVER able to put it into words, even though we were together over 20 years before he died.

    • @nikkidraper357
      @nikkidraper357 5 років тому

      Me too

    • @g19m75c
      @g19m75c 5 років тому

      Me too

  • @amalia4842
    @amalia4842 4 роки тому +887

    My gremlin: I feel like my friends all like other people better than me and I’m nobody’s first priority.

  • @raiderlove5923
    @raiderlove5923 3 роки тому +8

    My gremlin: I will never amount to anything good or positive. It's something that I was always told growing up at home.

  • @nom_nom3448
    @nom_nom3448 2 роки тому +2

    “These are not my thoughts.”
    and
    “They don’t mean anything.“
    are such powerful sentences.
    Thank you.

  • @jenjen9618
    @jenjen9618 5 років тому +584

    My gremlin is: Feeling scared of rejection when I ask people for help. A distrust that people will do what they say they'll do.

  • @azquaazqua2506
    @azquaazqua2506 5 років тому +220

    My gremlin is: Afraid the people I love will leave me

  • @robinjang9506
    @robinjang9506 3 роки тому +3

    I know i'm good enough for myself.
    But, the problem is that i'm not good enough for someone i love.

  • @lifeisfun_n_diy1254
    @lifeisfun_n_diy1254 3 роки тому +5

    My gremlin: i am not hardworking at all

  • @danegaehart2970
    @danegaehart2970 5 років тому +283

    My gremlin: I am not worth taking care of or protecting.

  • @azharel
    @azharel 5 років тому +182

    My gremlins: feeling rejected and unloveable.

  • @angswaerdens2594
    @angswaerdens2594 3 роки тому +5

    I feel like a failure in life all together- always the the choice and always the one left alone after loving everyone else to the extreme

  • @Britniebatt
    @Britniebatt 3 роки тому +2

    My gremlin: Feeling like I’m not in control my own life and always worrying about how others will feel about my actions.

  • @nayimarie
    @nayimarie 4 роки тому +321

    My gremlin: you're less than others because they're doing more than what you can actually do.

  • @hottyatthedisco
    @hottyatthedisco 5 років тому +251

    No one cares about what I have to say.

  • @jagritijha5841
    @jagritijha5841 3 роки тому +5

    I am always going to feel broken and attract tough experiences, things are never going to workout for me I don't even know what I want to do in life, let alone feel good enough or capable of achieving it

  • @janetacevedo2295
    @janetacevedo2295 3 роки тому +3

    I often feel like no matter how good I do by someone they always end up leaving me. I often feel unlovable

  • @jcat7553
    @jcat7553 5 років тому +262

    I don’t fit in

  • @heathers2273
    @heathers2273 4 роки тому +217

    My gremlin: no one will love me for me and no one will ever like my body.

  • @amysimon910
    @amysimon910 3 роки тому +3

    You can't compete with them. They're perfect. Just give up. 💔

  • @amandasavage5291
    @amandasavage5291 3 роки тому +3

    I'm too old to achieve the dreams one wanted and I've lost too many years fighting the anxiety to achieve them

  • @NGH99999
    @NGH99999 4 роки тому +38

    "I'm damaged, cursed, and I'm not worthy of goodness in this life."

  • @shanesomac9674
    @shanesomac9674 5 років тому +525

    I'm not intelligent as others

  • @soniahairston
    @soniahairston Рік тому +2

    Regardless of what I do, how I look, how I speak.. it will never been good enough.

  • @charliescott429
    @charliescott429 Рік тому +2

    No matter how successful I am, it is never good enough... There is always someone one or two steps above me.

    • @kiraflugh
      @kiraflugh 5 місяців тому

      dont compare yourself with others, everyone is different,you are not weak or something,compare yourself with the old you

  • @TheBlbeemer
    @TheBlbeemer 5 років тому +74

    My gremlin: That I suck at life, or don't have what it takes to be successful.

  • @mikepaden9785
    @mikepaden9785 4 роки тому +314

    My Gremlin is
    Feeling overwhelmed and I can’t get my life together

  • @rachelizabeth1
    @rachelizabeth1 2 роки тому +3

    My gremlin is not being good enough, because no matter how “good” I am, all I can see are my flaws. I talk too much, I don’t talk enough, I’m too tall, I’m too skinny, I’m lazy, I’m irresponsible, I’m not mature... I could name every flaw I see, and I cannot get myself to see the ways I am successful. I operate a LOT out of fear of rejection, and it holds me back and makes me disappointed in myself.

  • @Hakapopo90
    @Hakapopo90 3 роки тому +2

    My gremlin: I will never get over my internal negative energy and thoughts, so I will always be abandoned and in pain, which makes me undeserving of love

  • @kailanewyork7484
    @kailanewyork7484 5 років тому +88

    My gremlins are: not being enough, there is always someone better than me, not pretty enough...i guess anything that has to do with not being enough

  • @christopherlee1327
    @christopherlee1327 4 роки тому +215

    This gremlin is: That I'm worthless.

    • @Santana-Rose
      @Santana-Rose 4 роки тому +1

      Me too! You’re not.

    • @kentburke5274
      @kentburke5274 4 роки тому +3

      Only God makes me worth anything, but that's only in His eyes. I can't see it.

    • @khalexi8692
      @khalexi8692 3 роки тому

      Me too

    • @BenDover-fo5os
      @BenDover-fo5os 3 роки тому

      Me too but we’re not

    • @articlight737
      @articlight737 3 роки тому

      That’s the words from the devil my friend God says you’re beautifully and wonderfully made with a purpose he made you one of his favorite creations.

  • @Sofia-bl9cb
    @Sofia-bl9cb 3 роки тому +5

    julia, i just wanted to take the time to say that you actually managed to help me during a dark, dark night. one that i didn't even believe i could get out of myself. you helped me get back on track from thoughts that are so scary and seem so real.

  • @LethoHali
    @LethoHali Рік тому +3

    Makes such a huge difference knowing that we all struggle with these thoughts 💭 and feelings! This was definitely a mental shift!

  • @gretchenstar5658
    @gretchenstar5658 4 роки тому +467

    My gremlin: I'm too awkward and uncomfortable in social situations and feel that people judge me for it.

  • @ifiok25
    @ifiok25 5 років тому +257

    That I can’t overcome my flaws

  • @llss.335
    @llss.335 3 роки тому +4

    I feel like even if I achieve great things, my dad won’t acknowledge it and it won’t be good enough for him, like he’ll set a new higher bar instead

  • @artistgarybedell8518
    @artistgarybedell8518 3 роки тому +1

    Doesn't matter how hard you work to build something someone is just going to come along and take it or pull the rug out from under you.
    Which has been the last 10 years of my life.

  • @Chris-qc9dj
    @Chris-qc9dj 4 роки тому +67

    I’m broken. Something is missing. I’ll never be good enough.

  • @DeeeMajorrr
    @DeeeMajorrr 4 роки тому +38

    My gremlin: I overthink and feel like people are always judging me

  • @melaniesmith8455
    @melaniesmith8455 3 роки тому +5

    Me: I feel like I don’t have what it takes to achieve the things in life I desire.
    Daughter: Not feeling good/worthy enough.

  • @MsBkene
    @MsBkene Рік тому +1

    "I feel guilty for prioritizing a healthy lifestyle over studies, grades, work - everything else in life, meaning putting in lots of time and energy in cultivating what I call my "health framework" that in my brain I consider a part of my daily duties and "work"."

  • @jna876
    @jna876 5 років тому +313

    My gremlin: I don’t trust myself because I’ve made bad choices that I feel have ruined my life and so I will always be full of regrets and unhappy.

    • @fatimasamira3695
      @fatimasamira3695 5 років тому +1

      This is so me. Like, totally mirrored.

    • @inside_the_waiting_room
      @inside_the_waiting_room 5 років тому +1

      Jeanelle Ablola yep! Same

    • @sarahpercesepe539
      @sarahpercesepe539 5 років тому +1

      Jeanelle Ablola me too ❤️

    • @3LastSon
      @3LastSon 5 років тому +2

      Me too.

    • @lifeandhomewithmeredith9050
      @lifeandhomewithmeredith9050 5 років тому +5

      Jeanelle Ablola I have made so very many bad choices in my life and have had such a difficult life because of them. I am now at a place in my life 55 years old where I am happier than I ever have been. I can understand what others are going through because of what I have been through. I use that knowledge and understanding to help and unconditionally love others. Much Love.... xoxo

  • @melissaaldosari8024
    @melissaaldosari8024 5 років тому +223

    Unwanted/not good enough. All I am good for is to be used and abused then thrown away.

  • @daniellegoldin3982
    @daniellegoldin3982 3 роки тому +5

    That I wasn’t good enough for my ex and that I’m still not.

    • @shawnclark2550
      @shawnclark2550 3 роки тому

      Me too. I was never enough for the few ex boyfriends I've had.

  • @vaishnavipatil8081
    @vaishnavipatil8081 Рік тому +3

    I feel like I am worthless. No matter what I do for anyone, even my boyfriend or my bestfriend, I will just never be enough for them to care about you. It's maybe because I am too negative or something or they are far away and I am clinging on to them for my social part of life and they are busy. Maybe because of that but I feel worthless. This will kill me one day. These abandonment issues will kill me.

  • @sharonhoonhout7478
    @sharonhoonhout7478 5 років тому +445

    I always procrastinate with everything, and don't feel as if I'm worthy enough to feel accomplished. I am anxious and depressed too.

  • @PSynn
    @PSynn 4 роки тому +334

    A good guy doesn’t deserve a emotional unstable person like me.

  • @MorrisNicholas
    @MorrisNicholas 3 роки тому +4

    I feel I'm not good enough to meet the expectations of others.

  • @suheedasudheer4751
    @suheedasudheer4751 2 роки тому +3

    no matter how hard i try it seems like everyone around me is way way better than me..

  • @ruthbonne2426
    @ruthbonne2426 5 років тому +282

    my gremlin: you're not good enough, you're weird, something's wrong with you

  • @josefinhelleland2499
    @josefinhelleland2499 4 роки тому +202

    Gremling: Im not loveable, someting is wrong with me

  • @Floashworth
    @Floashworth 4 місяці тому +1

    My gremlin: I am a people pleaser, I am weak and can’t stand up for myself and what I believe. Even when I’m hurting others by trying to please them I can’t face my fears and make the change.

  • @jonathancabrera9036
    @jonathancabrera9036 5 років тому +484

    My Gremlin: I'm not good enough

    • @lloydedmonds8775
      @lloydedmonds8775 5 років тому +1

      Jonathan Cabrera I feel your struggles! Your Not Alone!

    • @CK77460
      @CK77460 5 років тому +1

      Me too

    • @jaimeek1219
      @jaimeek1219 5 років тому +1

      Jonathan Cabrera ...me too

    • @loriarthur2484
      @loriarthur2484 5 років тому

      Same

    • @samgreen4993
      @samgreen4993 5 років тому

      Recently finding myself single again I too feel like this

  • @NatureGirl1932
    @NatureGirl1932 4 роки тому +62

    No matter how good I am it’s never good enough.

  • @simob7862
    @simob7862 7 місяців тому +2

    My gremlin is that people will eventually realise who I am, pretending and that I am really a fake

    • @Sechi-mg5ie
      @Sechi-mg5ie 2 місяці тому

      Me too. Living the person that I want to be not the person that I am.

  • @arva7821
    @arva7821 3 роки тому +4

    My gremlin: I'm not smart enough to be a web developer or to achieve my dreams and live the life that I want...

  • @leahlove5949
    @leahlove5949 4 роки тому +198

    My gremlin: I feel like an imposter because I don’t feel that I’m smart enough nor do I feel like I have the social skills. I’m tired of seeking approval.

  • @biancaohlson3419
    @biancaohlson3419 3 роки тому +3

    I am never good enough for someone to want my fully, to commit to me and love me all the way through