How To Feel Less Alone: Strangers Open Up About Their Loneliness
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
- The causes of loneliness are complex. It could be due to a lack of social connection, a lack of self-understanding, a lack of authenticity, or just past traumas and unaddressed emotional wounds. Whatever the cause, it's important to view loneliness not as a "bad" emotion, but more an indicator that something is amiss and should be looked into, truth is on the other side of fear.
"Loneliness for me is not feeling understood. And I definitely don't feel understood if I can't understand myself"
So as SOON as she says, “There are a lot of distractions”… a SQUIRREL runs across the background”! 😂 classic!
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Better to be a bit lonely than in a toxic, superficial or fake relationship.
No it’s not. If you think this, you’ve never been really lonely.
@@Ruktiet if you’re in a toxic or abusive relationship you’re still alone. You still feel alone and isolated.
@@MaddDoggie not as alone as physically being literally alone.
This is such a wonderful and poignant and hopeful video. Only 27K views, but I'm sure there are millions of people who would really benefit from seeing it. The psychologist is terrific too.
I'm so happy I discovered this channel. This is something else.
This is great. Guys never talked about loneliness back when I was in school. I have talked to my kids about it and assure them it's normal. I've been very transparent with my kids for that very reason. Most of us are lonely a lot. So reach out to people around you. Many are craving friends, companions and yes, some lovers too.
The reality is we are eternally alone because we are one body one soul one consciousness. And we just have to love this self unconditionally. It's ok to be Alone. It's ok to go to a crowded party or sit alone in solitude. There is no pressure to not be alone because lol you the universe are alone anyway. So just love your self unconditionally with out shame or guilt and be happy and at peace. I hope this advice helps which it does.
Incredible. Always amazed by how articulate some of these beautiful people can be.
Loneliness is a fucker. I have close friends and I talk to and I am friendly to strangers everyday. But..... I miss the love and support of a good woman. Ill only admit that to a bunch of randos on You Tube. Have a good Christmas all 😊
Damn, it can be sad and difficult. Sending love and hugs to everyone though, that’s all people need whether you know it or not. ❤🤗
Glad I left Los Angeles last year after having the same experiences. Big cities are indeed pretty lonely if they lack a sense of community. I'm currently visiting Montreal and have found people in general make eye contact more, are more open to conversation, just seem happier and friendlier for damn sure way more than Los Angeles ever could hope to be. Would be interesting to actually move up here from NY.
Wow. Amazing how people opened up. That therapist is grating though.
Loneliness doesn't only affect single people. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you won't feel alone. You have to ask yourself if they left, would you miss them because you care or because you dont want to be alone? You can't make yourself love someone. You can't make them love you. Anything forced isn't real.
NYC despite being such a big city and having the largest population in the US can ironically make one feel so left out and isolated. It can be a very stressful place to live in yet it also seems people there have very high standards in what they look for in a friend which makes it even more difficult to make friends there. I may be wrong but it’s just my personal experience, not sure about others.
Just to add to my comment which may come off a bit contradicting, loneliness for me comes from the fact that I also struggle with social anxiety which does have an impact on my social skills and I tend to come off very socially awkward whenever I talk to new people hence many distanced themselves from me due to my poor communication skills.
@@JustaNobody-j8x is it possible for you to get coaching with your social skills?
Bruh stfu. Not like you're walking into the projects and trying to make friends, doubt you ever walk into a random park and try to make friends at all.
You only make friends with people immediately around you, just like everyone else.
Are you going to walk up to a random person who looks nothing like you and make offer them food or a drink? No.
That's the essence of making friends, children walk up to each other and say hi and thats it, you're not a pure minded person that would offer your time and money to a stranger to make a friend, but not many would because they don't have the faith of a child
It's sad when you look at these people and think they would probably most of them anyway would make good friends
Whatever we do, let's PLEASE not blame a society that rewards only those with money (such as Tax Cuts) leaving the rest to struggle to survive.
Candidate for President Bernie Sanders said then (and before and since) that mental health services should be a part of a free healthcare system. "We cannot afford it" however (I mean, you could check to see if I really believe that) SO we should all just concentrate on "getting ahead" and not worry about a connection with nature and with all living things. We must instead "realize that those people are lazy and not role models". Yes, "greed is good" - Ron Gordon Reagan Gecko, "Wall Street", 1987
4:43 "there's a lot of distractions now"
>Me, hyperfixating on the squirrel running in the background.
Those comments were very wise I certainly needed to hear it It makes me realize how much I’m part of the universe
You are part of the universe just as much as a grain of dust on a very distant meteorite, drifting directionless very far away from any solar system is. The universe is way too big and unambituous to want to be a part of. Try to simply be a part of a community near you that shares same ideas, values, directions. And eat good food and avoid toxic exposure. Mental disorders can really stem from being physically unhealthy.
I've been in a lot of toxic relationships. I love solitude. 😊
Ask yourself who is the common denominator of these relationships...and you'll have the answer.
You all are worthy of friendship and love and happiness... break through this new year and go try different places of volunteering ...I guarantee you will find one person that is looking like you for a friend
I've been alone all my life and I'm middle-aged, so the loneliness epidemic makes me feel less alone in being alone. Before there was Internet, I always thought I was the only one and walked around feeling like a total freak and totally vulnerable. Saying it was hard is an understatement. It's actually easier for me now. I think the ability to connect is a state of consciousness. Social alienation has to do with consciousness. I'm less socially alienated now, and don't perceive the world around me as estranged as it used to seem.
It's almost as if realizing everyone is lucky to find a single friend or 2 in life is actually liberating. And that goes for everyone. It's only a matter of WHEN not IF, something tragic happens and you find out who your friends really are. Most people haven't found out yet but they will. We all do. I'm sure people think it's super sad maybe even pathetic to have that viewpoint. But it's the truth none the less and the truth sets you free. I don't do fake but I DO see the value of having small talk with elderly people out n about. People don't realize that may be the only conversation they've had for weeks. Something I think wouldn't bother me when I get to that point but really, I'm still at a working age and therefore forced to do small talk almost daily. Hope that makes sense..
@@springrain9438 Totally make sense and nicely said!
@@Romaing7 🩵
That guy in the glasses seems super sweet.
There are literally 3 guys with glasses in this video. Maybe you need some too. Please don’t though; glasses are, ironically, the reason why people actually get myopia and why people need worse and worse prescriptions.
@@MorganHyde-ie5ru your obvious passive-agressiveness to what is obviously a playful correction from my end tells me much about you, and explains a bit more about why you stmubled upon this video. Feel free to correct me.
@@MorganHyde-ie5ru of course I’m not, and of course you’re not. I’m sorry for my response. That’s what being active in online fora that foster anonymity does to someone…
Correct me if I’m wrong, but you seem like you could use someone to talk to. I know I do.
Thank you for sharing, guys. Would like to give you a hug. I can relate and I love that you all are being so open, that is very generous
While watching this video , my 23 yr old Daughter texted me , It immediately made smile. Cause , when you're in your mid fifties , and your children are going about life , Parents sort of become an after thought. My parents went through it with me , and now it's my turn.
Anyway , her text was .... hey , do you remember when ....
Love your output, Eric ... you deserve to go far - very far !
All these people are beautiful inside. It's it a strange world when the good people can feel so lonely.
Yet, not so good people can have people all around them.
My take on it is, there's far fewer good people, than not so good.
"All these people are beautiful inside" Many of them are beautiful on the outside as well, just saying
@@foljs5858
No, there's enough evil, corrupt & horrible people in the world.
The jarring juxtaposition in this is the people speaking about their loneliness while lots of people walk around them.
Yes, although there's a substantial difference between being alone and feeling lonely - the former is a physical state when nobody else is around, and the latter is a state of mind brought on by one's disposition crossed with their environment. You can feel lonely in a room full of people (i.e. if they're not the right people for you), yet you can feel completely content while you're alone (i.e. doing something you love).
I couldn't handle the loneliness the city gave me so I moved to the country side alone. Soon 4 years have gone by. Now I'm starting to feel lonely again. It's a less depressing loneliness at least.
“My only wish is to be forgotten
But even this is wishing too much”
St Therese
"That feeling when you're about to cry, but you just don't need to." That one stung. We cry to show our people that we are hurt and need care. So why would you cry if no one is there to console you? Loneliness slowly builds a shell around me, I feel like.
I feel ya brother.
Just talk to some youths near you. Don’t let that social anxiety take control of your life and just try to talk to a stranger. It’s only a bit awkward for literally 1 minute but if you push past that you have a way to make literally thousands of friends
@@Ruktiet I'm not socially anxious, I'm lonely
@@nina.k666 that’s impossible. Keep telling that to yourself if you want to keep suffering. If you don’t have social anxiety, you’d have no trouble maing acquaintances amongst which will be people you feel a real connection with, resolving the loneliness.
You cry to purge emotions from your nervous system, because its healthy.
So glad these types of videos are not 1 million views. Because it makes it more personal seeing that low view count. More impactful. If more people are down like me hear and see this, we can get better in a way to take action towards entering back into the Job market for example.
Hey Eric, I really love your videos dude, and wholly appreciate your work. They are like a kind of therapy. I often stay a while when one of your reels pops up. This video is great, as usual. I wanted to say I for one would be well up for watching longer videos from you.
Thanks you, glad my videos resonate! More to come :)
Really good video, engaging editing , props to the creator or creators of this channel/videos, I found this video thru the funniest video I've watched in months!!! (Gen Alpha) and thanks to the strangers for opening up ❤
You found some really good and kind people in a big city full of hopelessness!
thank you for this
You are an amazing person. Thank you for your artistic nature for bringing humanity to light.
Majority of the people in this video seemed to consider phones as a major contributor to loneliness.
I think part of it is these phones are supposed to be able to conect you with other people almost instantly and at all times but if you turn-on/open your phoner and nobody is there or there are no messages and nobody tries contacting you for whatever reason.......that is one kind of loneliness.
Really great video 😊
I think there are things we want to do, we want to try just to see if x can happen. "I wonder what that would be like". Whether in a relationship or with a project but we don't follow this curiosity and do the work / take the risk because we are afraid and feel we have to do the things we are "supposed to do" instead.
But, the thing we want to see other people doing IS seeing them following their unique inclinations instead of playing a part. We don't like to see people living a life in a waiting room or imitating bad acting. We are inspired by people who cultivate a delicate, experimental inclination only they would have because they are who they are and because they are where they are.
I love your videos and your mission. Good luck
What does it mean when you accept your loneliness? We can just keep on living.
Cities are the perfect opposite of what humans need. That is why so many are lonely; the modern city fosters an environment where everyone seems replaceable because we don’t need to directly cooperate as a species anymore. It is optional to socialize, and the person you socialize with is probably not intrinsically a better friend than the next 100 people. And because we swapped so many friends due to word or school or other factors, we don’t have real comrades we shared actual adventures with, like puberty, like being out in nature and having to rely upon each other to survive. We don’t need each other, and others don’t need us. Add to that the social anxiety that the threshold of the initial approaching of a stranger poses, and you get a loneliness epidemic. Sad world. We need more nature and community. The current city structures are efficient for business, but ultimately extremely depressing. We need a hybrid.
These people think their goals will keep them company, but by midlife they will see that that isn't enough either.
Those who suffer least from loneliness have good families and community, but rabid individualism that shuns others as what was holding you back is the problem not the cure.
Forced diversity via self loathing of one's own community is a big part of this.
You need other to know yourself.
But everyone's having a blast! All day every day on Facebook?!!
Oh Cmon, it's like gen Z inherited the best characteristics of my generation, being self absorbed and happy-go-lucky because you matter and you don't give a shit, and started crying and moaning about it when they realized their peers also felt the same, this wasn't your beautiful uniqueness. Why can't we all be awesome and not give a fuck, and respect the same from others? Imagine how many people are there missing these people talking to them or even a text from them.
Do these people have Tiktoks? That woman is red is super wise, just a good vibe 🌄
0:27 Honestly cant believe she didnt realize people suffer from loneliness. besides social media probably plays a big part
Thanks!
7:00 she is beautiful inside and out.
Amazing video, thankyou!
2:43 I'd add "What do you really want??" 👍
I love it! I'm great! People are horrible! So...
Thank you
beautiful
I relate so much
very good, I love that these are New Yorkers too
Pergunta a essas pessoas se elas dão espaço para outras iniciarem uma conversa. Porque se vitimizar é fácil, difícil é reconhecer que você não ´da espaço.
I love begin alone
I could have a million people around me and I'd still feel lonely
They need a session with Sharty Marty. I'm not kidding. They can be their own support group.
Just watched her a minute ago ❤
Everyone is so frickin smart online, ridiculous. Whoever says loneliness is ok by melting it into being alone, is wrong. Also, there is fake loneliness, mostly by women, when someone is just a little bit more alone but anyway, heshe has friends and family to talk to. Circumstances and others are given so loneliness is only a result of your mistakes. Solution? GET UP and fix your fckn problems alone without waiting to anyone's help, recognition and appreciation.
Love this
It’s so inspiring!
I've often felt 'alone'/singular... but also have been lucky enough to meet other outsiders that I felt connected with, especially during/post-high-school. I have SOOO much to say/express as a composer... Yet it often feels hard to express/put those feelings out easily/honestly. My only limitation/wall is myself. It's logically silly in the face of our ultimately limited reality.
It is so funny to me when i see some people are talking about loneliness like it is such a desease or some thing !!!
And funny enough though when these people get together or live together , they start to maje issues and problems out of blue .
What i personally think ( as a introvert ) ,
I think those who can not live so calked alone , they have problem with them selves .
Another word , they either dont know them selves or either if they do , they hate them selves .
As i think there are lots in every body's inner world than some other person can give .
1 more thing ;
One should ask him self , what do these people have them selves so they can give to me ?
Any way my humble opinions .
These people will always be in these situations continually because they dont have anything that strengthens them abundantly, they have no faith in anything real.
They only look to themselves or other humans to fulfill them in increments, but they have nothing that remains consistent and constant, someome thatll never abandon them.
But thats their choice as well, theyll live a life without true fullness unless theyre with someone or doing something to stimulate them, but innthose stagnant moments theyll feel their emptiness because they dont want to look toward something ineffable
JESUS ❤
what piano-song?
Why does this have few likes?
That’s my secret, Cap. I’m always lonely.
Which city is it?
This randomly runs into Kader Sylla on the street?
ok I don't feel lonely at all
please dont use music in that serious topic
Only God can full their hearts with complete joy and fullness .
I pray that they get to know Jesus Christ , and that they have good relationships the people around them .
blame facebook
Blame self
Cat 🐈
Dude I hear a lutheran/presbyterian hymnal melody playing near the end of this video, lol :"))
I stopped feeling hopelessly lonely when I opened my heart to Jesus Christ. Everything changed.
attention young people! If you don't want to feel lonely, get married and have children. When I was in my early 20's I was super lonely. Then I got married and had kids. Now an hour or two alone is something that is highly prized when it occurs once every year or so. Trust me. Get married and have kids. It's the cure for loneliness.
You can be surrounded by people and still be lonely
I think having a family helps a lot but the issue is people don’t want to commit to living in the moment and unrealistic expectations can cause us to resent people
@@ewayjeng1exactly. Many people have the expectation of raising a family that will "like the same things" and do everything together, but it doesn't work that way for most. Every lonely person was once part of a family. There's a good argument to focus on the people that already feel lonely vs bringing more newborns into the problem.
children?? OMG forget it.
Bad advice
I blame cars centered America.... Go to Europe, you'll see. There is not loneliness epidemic there.
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there's not a lonleiness epidemic....give me a break. This therapist sounds like she's just promoting herself.
I think it's good talking about it. It's not an epidemic because loneliness has existed since the beginning of time.
It's not new. Yes, deal with it. But by saying it's an epidemic its pushing the paranoia that this period in time is worse than any other time in life
Boring.
Who cares what you think
@@andries1704 😆
Thanks!
thanks jack