Why Narcissists Are Dangerous
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- Опубліковано 16 вер 2024
- In this episode, The Little Shaman discusses the danger presented by pathologically narcissistic people.
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“Narcissists believe what they want is more important than a persons life”
True. The narcissist I know is a hoarder; he places more value in things than people because he can't have fulfilling or intimate relationships with people. He ends up turning people into things.
Wow
True, they will kill to get what they want, praying the one in my life leaves me alone.
@michelleambrose4134 I've been praying for years, 4 to be exact, I had to move twice
This is precisely why they are ALWAYS running away from EVERYONE who confronts them with the truth of the AWFUL things they have done.
They are a danger to other people’s mental health and life.
Well said
Don’t forget themselves
Yes
Amen
Amen
Narcissists are not human beings. They’re beings without connection with their soul
True, however, the possibility is there, for everyone.
Not encouraging relaxed boundaries, which are priority one.
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Exactly! That's why they want to suck your soul out of you
And most of them are women too.
The Narc is so evil that they are the devil personified.
nothing to do with that the devil was the abuser of the narc in the first place
@@teresabrigham3760That comment sounds like a NARC DEFENDER one. What are you even doing commenting here?!
🍌👠👽🩰 Teresa's such a turn on as a name. Now, you're a good teresa's, and there are, I don't want to say bad teresa's, but
I don't know me to go around talking about
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They are dangerous all right. Huge ego+no empathy+ jealousy, hate and anger =Danger. Avoid at all costs. You cannot argue with them normally, ever. Their (false) definition of themselves, their "image", is the only thing that they value. That's IT.
And they have no hesitation to use religion as a shield and mask to enable them to gain someone's trust -- a reason being a religious leader is a favorite career choice for narcs.
Narcissists don't play with a full deck.
4:37 “Alone with a narcissist who feels that no one will know or see what they’re doing is a very dangerous place to be. They have no empathy, no morals, no integrity, and no impulse control. A narcissist who has never been physical abusive is a narcissist who has either never felt they could get away with it or who has never had the need to be physically abusive.
chilling. My narc stepdad is trying to become a contingent beneficiary of my mother's will. AKA, if I die, he inherits. He's broke and resents me simply because he comprehends a mother's love for her son.
Truer words never spoken!
Any girl in the world with no family will get picked up , it s the truth.
I lived it..or should I say I made it out alive...he tried to kill me May 27 ...I survived thru God's grace...he got 15 years... literally terrifying..and pure evil...
Same here. Thank God! Sending light & love to a fellow survivor.
you should post your story on youtube
I was abused daily, he would spew vulgar, hateful, cruel and hatred for me. If I dare stand up for myself I got slapped accross the face, kicked and finally I took a left hook to my face. I filed charges he had 4 domestic violence prior to mine. He only served 2 weeks in prison!!! He made a beeline to me and again on March 25,2019. He evaded and I can't get orders of protection or any help unless he's arrested. Thank u Justice system! I now need someone withe at all times
@@libra3336 Take a self defense course and carry a weapon with you 24/7.
@@libra3336 he served two weeks in jail, and never went to prison. Nobody goes to prison for just two weeks...
When you leave or reject them it gets really scary. Then they blame you for the end of the relationship. We underestimate how crazy they are if we think they are jerks and cheaters. The emotional abuse is bad enough it makes you wish you were dead. But you never know when it can become violent. Even if they only do what we perceive as small acts of violence. Be safe everyone and don't tell your narc your plans of leaving them.
The Narc will cheat every opportunity they get over and over with no guilt, regret, nor shame.
Narcissism = Abuse
They are dangerous because they never back off.
(Unless threatened by force, like a gun)
Steven Li - Then they are cowards. They're not human. Not really human. They don't act like human beings. More like predators or parasites.
I think it would be best to kill them.
@@electricjellyfish375 maybe they are demons
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*THEY ARE DEMONS*
Always above the law
This happened to me this guy i knew ..who's brother i slightly got to know fell out with his wife .so i let him stay a night ..i showed him a record i had that was worth a lot of money ..he paid me back by stealing it !
I didn't think a Narcissist was dangerous until I found myself in a deadly situation, thank God I was able to get away, the threat of a narc losing power and being revealed can end deadly, I was almost strangled to death.
I'm so sorry that happened to you, but I'm glad that you escaped safely. You are correct, that is a very dangerous situation.
She's right on. I'm sick to my stomach hearing this validation. How best can you get an adult child out of this situation?
I didn't realize how dangerous narcs are. I thought narcs were just so into themselves. Narcissistic personality disorder goes way deeper then self love. It's actually self hate. It's scary how dangerous they are. They think way different then normal empathetic people. I still can't wrap my mind around how different they think. You explained this well. I will remain no contact. I have learned so much from your channel. Keep spreading the knowledge. Many people just don't understand how dangerous narcs are. Thank you so much!
see if every person knows what actually narc means and how to spot them then narcs wont have any supply and life is different type of circle.You have to deal with such type of people.when we were child we wanted to be an adult thinking that world is beautiful ,yeah it is beautiful but every person isnt beautiful as you think.
Dont wait to have direct experience!
Me too, I thought that being a Narc was just about being entitled or a spoiled brat, but it goes a lot deeper then that.
@RainbowDreams30 trying to understand a narc is like trying to understand the joker's thoughts
They’re delusional and lack common sense and comprehension skills.
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*NO EMPATHY*
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*NO RESPECT*
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They also have NO LIMITS
Actually psychologists are now determining that they do have empathy.... BUT they just choose how and when to use it.
No Conscience, No Shame, No Remorse!!!! Unimaginable!
Lol . . . Good form.
@@Blondehairedwarrior No person holds authority to determin what choices will be deployed by an individual. "Psychologist" (Victor E Frankle). . . .Much respect.
So important not to get entangled with narcs. So important. Many life destroyers walking around free out there. Be careful.
You're right , i think the ex narc would kill me if he thought he could get away with it . I know he doesn't want to ever go back to jail. This is why he tried to destroy my mind instead. I had to get him out. I have The Lord protecting me so i have no fear anymore. 7 weeks of freedom 💪
My narc sister told me once, "A lie is not a lie if it helps you out". It sounds like someone you can really trust. Not! I learned early not to trust her.
Distance yourself one step at a time and then go no contact
Very dangerous individuals, they are capable of anything what they want they get. I found out that his last relationship was with his best friends wife and the poor man committed suicide due to the betrayal . The skeletons in his closet was like something out of a horror film.
Wow..so sad. Years ago the jerk that fathered 3 children with me abbandoned me with 2 babies and was living with his best buddies girl.
Wow he literally told me that whatever he wants he gets. At the time I had no idea what a narcissist was.
Omg 😱 wow this is serious. My ex affair with his mother of his child , cousin in her own house while she was at work, he also had affair with 2 of his friends girlfriends and 1 one of his friend wife. Along with treating me horribly for 23 years. My ex had a child by a 19 year old girl while he was 36 years old. He’s a sick individual, and to think he’s getting away with his actions .
Chynadoll77 Cyn the ex Narc i dealt with has sex with one of my so called friends (not a friend clearly and I cut them both out) in our house in our bed while I was home and awake. NO SHAME THE BOTH OF THEM. we were hosting a small gathering. He said he was going to bed. Later the now ex friend said he was going to use the washroom. She was up there a while. I was just about to go check up on her (thinking maybe she drank too much and was throwing up 🤦🏻♀️) just as I wa going up she was coming down looking a hot mess. I didn’t want to embarrass her and just asked if she needed water. Again I thought she was maybe throwing up. Fast forward 2 years and she finally told me the truth of that night.
Made me sick how the two of them could do that. Then keep it and other times secret.
Both were cut out of my life
That’s horrible. I’m so sorry
Thank you. I escaped from one I was married to 7 months ago. My life was in pieces. I’m slowly rebuilding. Some days are better than others but the general trend is upward. I’m pretty sure this “person” drugged me with sleeping pills the week I moved out. I can’t prove it but I know I fell asleep and woke up 14 hours later the day I was supposed to pack my things. I feel lucky to be alive.
Wow the ex Narc I dealt with during the last week before I left kept trying to give me OxyContin pills. To put me to sleep so he could talk to his other supply. He offered it at first cause I had bad pain from having tennis elbow. But later I noticed he only gave them to me as he knew it made me pass out and fast. Therefore giving him the evening to talk with the other woman
Narcissists are dangerous not only on the minimal level that they feel entitled, see needs as wants, etc., but that it isn’t passive. Even when they don’t turn into physical abusers or murders, they work in a way that can kill one’s soul. Eventually, that will shorten your physical life.
I’ve often said, “You can get away with murder - if you do it slowly enough.” When that came to me, I’d thought of it in the context where things like cigarette smoking or what’s in our food is concerned. I didn’t know about narcissism back then. But, it applies to this, as well.
The sad thing is that it’s a sort of Death by a Thousand Cuts existence for a narcissist’s target and we often don’t realize it, until years have passed, which is further compounded by finding out and realizing that years have been lost to anything from barely-perceptible abuse to physical abuse, and being verrry angry about it.
This twist on Death by a Thousand Cuts is further impacted by response from friends and family, who either don’t see the wrong in it or think that you are wrong. Just 2 days ago, when I mentioned to a friend that people think that one has to take care of themselves, particularly, if they’re single and have no one and that I’m sure that there are people who would feel that it was I who simply chose to leave my family, she said, “Well don’t close that door just yet!”
In my mind, I had to forgive her naïveté, merely because I’ve become quite aware that people only believe things when the flames of Hell are lapping at their own ass. Never mind that she knows my mother has “issues”. Never mind that I’ve told her about the police picking up my mother, that my mother is psychologically abusive, that she called my job after I sent her a certified cease and desist letter. I know that there are people who believe life through their own experiences and nothing else can enter their mind. And, of course, most people who have even heard of the word narcissist, only know of it in its most casual use, which is that a person is simply arrogant. How harmful could that possibly be...
Well said. I told the ex that I'd prefer a physical beating to the mind games and of course, ripping my heart and soul from me. He truly broke my spirit and zest for life... What a long journey. Ty
Very well said I hope you are healing
Marie B I hope you have been able to part from that situation. That he is no longer even in your rear view mirror. Heal up and proceed towards that which will make you flourish.
because it's not right I am. I spoke with my mother yesterday, the conversation was pleasant and we didn’t argue. But, it doesn’t make me any less learned and aware of what she is and what she’s doing. As she’s done in the past, the purpose of the conversation is to keep the door open and to prove that she can have some agreeableness that narcissists often lack. But, as a narcissist, she doesn’t understand that it isn’t that I need to be agreed with. It’s that I need to be respected and treated well, without attempts at psychological, emotional and financial abuse. But, that’s not on the menu, when dealing with a narcissist.
Sad though. Because I suspect with her that, it is sometimes as if she can’t get out of her own way. While there may be some dementia there, I know I have to realize that, while she seemed quite conscious in her attempts at being abusive and is able to maintain that trajectory long term, narcissism is as part of her basic functioning, in much the same way as a dog bites.
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Finally told my narcissistic husband that I did not have to answer his repeated questions. That I was walking away. He replied, what! “You better watch yourself. If you start acting like this, things are going to start getting real ugly around here.”
Gray rock slowly they react worst...
@@jupiterscorner5423 Very true
I am sooooo blessed to be born with extreme discernment and intuition.......I spot evil from 50 miles away....
I have seen people like this when I allowed them to stay in our home for a time. These people used my personal computer without asking even changing the settings for their convenience. When I told them they cannot use the computer anymore they threw a tantrum and moved out!!! Wow, I guess allowing them to live in my house for free was a right to them, no gratefulness at all.
They will steal your crap and help you look for it. And that's small potatoes compared to the mental and emotional torture
That IS mental torture in my opinion, but I know what you mean.
@@thelittleshamanhealing oh my goodness, it is! Thanks, I've got to go write in my journal now
I love Little Shaman.
Agreed
Yes they are! They play out school children type revenge plots but as adults. Please look after yourselves x
It starts with little things. Progresses to verbal, emotional, and mental abuse. Eventually you're getting choked unconscious and feel guilty you are breathing after. everyone in the world hates you for being beaten and tortured. Meanwhile they say and even show their "love". It's a reality that I cannot describe.
Prison's are full of these demons... Yes!!! My ex Monster in there now for attempted murder....
tracie schmida- how did you make it out alive if he tried to kill you?
Smh
She did not say he tried to kill her.
I read what she said in reference to hers is in jail for attempted murder and the last thing I thought of is how he tried to kill this woman who went through hell and as we all know some things are so painful exposing horrific events posted on a public forum. I'm so sorry you went through that and you see justice yet these wounds scar us. Be compassionate when you post replies
Tracie Schmida - GOOD.
3:04 “Nobody likes a thief and the narcissist knows that!”
I want what I want WHEN I want it...
This is such a great video.The love triangle part really struck a chord with me.I met a narcissistic female and found out quickly if things don't go there way then they would rather see you in pain or dead.They feel entitled to your attention and they want to control use and abuse you like a puppet.They are pure evil.
The danger behind these narcs are frightening I appreciate this video well needed...
5:05 “If they felt they could get away with it, and it was necessary, they would do it. A narcissist who has never killed anybody is a narcissist who has either never felt they could get away with it, or who’s never felt they needed to kill anyone.”
this reminds me of something they said to me one time. I don't remember what prompted it but they said, "wow, you actually have integrity. You're not just pretending!" And they were half smirking and seemed genuinely surprised. And i thought it was kind of strange but (of course) i brushed it off and thought it was some kind of compliment, although it felt like they were lowkey sneering or pitying me. I get it now. They TELL you what they are in so many ways.
Correct. They don't even really try to hide it. Not really. We just refuse to see it for what it is.
Yes the devil is in the details
You are right, I was told the narcissist would have killed me. At first, I couldn't comprehend that. But, now I do. Thank you for being so honest.
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It's true all domestic violence is involved with narcissist.
It's disheartening how these beings are so twisted
My exnarc husband slept with his sons wife. Disgusting!
If I stayed with my narcissistic girlfriend I really believe she would’ve started to physically abuse me. Later in the relationship I began to notice that the more I avoided allowing her actions to effect me the more mentally and verbally abusive she became. Her tantrums worsened even up until she threatened to leave me if I didn’t do what she wanted me to. I just said, “I guess we’re broken up then.” And left. She began hoovering, so much that I had to block her on everything to avoid her.
They are walking time-bombs.
Thank you for this Podcast. If you were raised by pathological narcissists, then you know for a certainty that narcissists are extremely dangerous. Narcissistic parents will do anything to control their children. When their children try to assert their own identies, this is perceived as a threat to the parents' ego. You talk about the life threatening reaction of the narcissist and I believe this to be true. In this circumstance, the narcissitic parents perceive the children as direct extensions of themselves. They believe that they own their children and can do anything that they want to do to them. The child who asserts their own identity is perceived as a threat to their own identity and this is never tolerated. They will severely punish the child if they don't conform to the parents' every whim or wish. The child who grows up in that environment is more prone to choosing narcissitic partners. As an adult survivor of abuse, he/she may suffer violent punishment from the parents and then with a partner. This subject once again points to the issue of self esteem. The violent aggressor is suffering from an extremely low self image. When they feel that they cannot control their partner, they will perceive this as life threatening and therefore assert control over that person in any way possible. This can even lead to a fatality. That is why it is so important to recognize unhealthy relationships.Trust your own intuition about people and pay attention to red flags.
Katherine Garratt very true my mother did this to my sibs and I. Always controlling always her way or the highway. Always pinning us against each other.
My sister is in a loving healthy marriage.
My youngest brother is with a toxic controlling woman. They are common law.
My other brother is a serial cheater.
I myself have had one toxic relationship after another. But the last (I was married to for 7 years) woke me up to the truth and my inner childhood wounds. I see the affects my childhood has had on me in my adulthood and I’m trying my best to heal those wounds so that I may be a healthy whole person. In doing so I have chooses to stay single until fully healed.
I have Experienced your Lectures first hand...I thank You for Your Wonderful Lectures... You gave me CLARITY about myself, and the Narsacisst in my Life... YOU know what you're Talking about.... God Bless
My former, full blown narcissist husband, was arrested for domestic violence. He threatened my life. I divorced him. After several months of divorce, I had an opportunity to ask him why he treated his family (3 sons and me) the way he did, He replied, "Because I could get away with it!"
My father's two favourite sayings that we grew up on were, "do what you want when you want to do it, but make sure you really want to do it" and " to thine own self be true" and he meant it and always always did just that, no matter how bizzare or terrifying it was. This included harming people and animals towards the latter part of his life.
This was also fuelled + + + by alcoholism, where he sometimes wandered around waving knives or darts, stating we all deserved to be dead. Some behaviour was sadistic in nature. There had to be obedience at all costs, exercising power and control......... if not, somebody or something had to be the target........not happy until he'd made someone cry, or dismissed us as useless and unworthy of his attention........ as he'd storm off in a rage....etc., it was always someone else's fault he did this or that.........no empathy or understanding of how anyone else felt etc., etc.,
He would be completely bewildered and have no recall of any of his behaviour the next day. Promptly getting very upset because no one was being nice to him. I have witnessed his actual violence towards other people on a few occasions, one in particular was brutal. He was a "terrorist bomb" waiting to go off. Tourmented soul.
He took his own life at 52 years old. It was a relief and probably for the best for us because the older he got the worse he got. What was he capable of ......... more and more? However, the other side of him was charming, funny, generous, impulsive, spontaneous, kind, helpful, wild, adventurous, spectacularly silly etc., etc.,
Beware...... he could change on a penny......... a crazy terrifying, lovely man. Over the years since his death, I've gone from total hatred.......(I was 17. I found him dead. I laughed and slowly clapped........."hmmm, So this time you really did it" and happily rang the doctor to tell him I thought my father was dead)......to forgiveness and understanding him and the reasons why why etc, and I guess I kinda like, respect him and find I loved him. It's been a long long journey, I'm now 72 but 21 at heart.
Some people, no matter how much you love them, are just too dangerous and destructive, and, yet, too wonderfully lovely all rolled up into one.
Not telling anyone what to do, only you know your own special circumstances. All I'd say is do what's right for you, and your family. Not what you think is right for them, never, never, never. No matter what you can never change or help them. Basically, my message is please protect yourself and your family from any kind/degree of harm from the people who are supposed to love, cherish and nurture you.
Wishing you all the blessings in the world as you travel your journey through the jungle into the light. Thank you little Sharman your wisdom and understanding have rung so very true to me today. I send you and your family all blessings. Nice to see you back, thank you for fighting so hard for us. God bless and keep you safe x x
What a story.
Thank you so much for sharing.
That was so wonderfully written and I appreciate the lesson you added another way for me to look at things and perhaps help my perspective 💖
@@sweettartgoodstuff438 thanks for taking time to comment it's much appreciated. Sending you all good wishes and blessing. 😊😋😊
@@victoriastanton4497 you're welcome.
You nailed it, as always. You make the best narcissism video's of them all. You really understand the core of it. I know, i was there. Luckily i survived. You helped me understand and cope with my situation to pull through. Thank you.
Kudos to a fellow survivor!
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Another thing I'd like to point out is when you said if a narcissist hasn't been physically violent it's because they I didn't think they can't get away with it or they haven't needed to yet- it's actually if the narcissist hasn't been physically violent to YOU. They may have never laid a hand on you but you don't know what they've done in their past and who they hurt. I had to go live with my grandparents when I was 10 and if I'd been a boy my grandfather would have beaten me to the ground just like he did his son. My grandmother was more abusive to her daughter and then to me but she had gotten older and frailer and had lost the ability to beat me into the ground. When I was younger I used to say to myself well they never laid a hand on me and then I started thinking about it and thinking about all the things I'd heard and seen over the years and putting the pieces together. I would lump other forms of abuse in with that as well. Just because there's not been any sexual abuse means that that's just not something they wanted. Doesn't mean that they're not capable of it . It's just a matter of preferences like flavors of ice cream. If they'd wanted that particular flavor they would have taken it. Best you can do is get away develop strong boundaries and protect yourself
Yeah, it's true that just because they didn't do it to you, doesn't mean they didn't do something heinous to others. Simply because they didn't want to. In the months leading up to my dad's death, he told me that he left my aunt to die facedown, when he walked in on her that morning. She'd fallen out of bed, and he said, "I just turned around, and she died." Couldn't even let the woman die with dignity in her freaking bed. I think he only told me that so that in case he fell, I would get him back in bed......... well, my mother stole his wallet, and he accused me of stealing it. I saw the writing on the wall, and left. So if he fell out of bed and died on the floor, I don't know. These people are scary, and as they age, they only get worse.
I believe this 100%
I have expeienced this 100%
Love how Empathy is explained re: how/why Narcissists are dangerous - You are helping so many!! Thank you!!! 💙
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I’ve been with my husband 22 years. There was always something “off” about him. I just couldn’t put my finger on it. He used my mental illness against me in many ways. I didn’t see it because of my fog.
Never, ever thought he might be a narc. He has classic covert narc traits. After the fog lifting, everything makes sense. It also makes me sad because I know I can’t continue in this relationshit. My kids and I deserve better.
I'm going thru the same problem, but I left and boy did that make him mad, he's been stalking ever sense, peace and blessings 🙌
I'm 18 years and it's really affecting our kids
And he really doesn't care
But yet tells me about his dad and how he beat him up and name calling
But really can't see he's become that
I'm disgusted by him
There is NO LOVE anymore
No attraction
Pure revulsion
@@amwil4980 I totally understand, I'm ready to not only move out if the state!! But move out of the continent!! These people are miserable and insane
I love the quote about integrity. after yet another pointless argument about my narcs dishonesty, I wrote this quote on our bedroom mirror in large letters with lipstick! As you said, I think we've all had those moments where we had the urge to do something that wasn't right and many of us probably did when we were younger but for most there comes a point of maturity and realization that it's important to have respect for yourself and your decisions, even when no one is looking. A lack of Integrity, in my opinion, is yet another example of the emotional immaturity of narcissist.
Virtues require character something these parasites dot have!
Integrity! You nailed it I identified with everything in that reply! Self respect is what I'm working on but I may be somewhat paranoid everyone is a suspect. 8yrs of his ass
OJ Simpson comes to mind.
I went to a restaurant with my little brother and friends many years ago (1999). As we left he swiped a lady’s handbag on the way out. I think we were all a bit shocked at this plus the fact that I admit I’m scared of my brother because he is prone to flying in rages if you challenge him. But I accept we were all complicit in that through our non-action. Even he admits this was wrong but he’s still a psychological tyrant and a bane in my life.
My ex narcissist was a Kleptomaniac. Stealing glasses forks knives from restaurants just to prove a point 😡
So true. My narcissistic ex told me once that if a person has a chance to do something bad, they will do it. It was probably his life motto.
They do seem to really believe that.
Mine said everyone has a buying out point like an amount of money they would take to do anything, I was like no not me he smirked and said I bet you do creepy
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This is very true. Doesn't matter the gender or the size they are. Even in a love triangle, catching your partner cheating on you can cause them to flip out.
And even worse they rather choose the worst choice.
If another person is even worse than you they do this to even amplifyingly to hurt you more.
And even say it's a way of being open minded ...as a stupid lame excuse.
And even if you try to rationally disagree with this kinda mindset they still flip out...
My exgf: if you didn't want me to steal the necklace, you shouldn't have left it sit out.
Yes. It's not their fault. It's yours.
I just thought of the perfect analogy to explain to people who only witnessed our relationship from the outside why I stayed when my Narc was so cruel, sabotaging, and undermining, even when he was undermining my art career, which was the thing that he not only latched onto me to raise his glamor profile, BUT THAT HE WAS COUNTING ON TO PROVIDE FOR HIS FINANCIAL NEEDS.
The SeeSaw effect analogy:
If a kid got onto a Seesaw and it was really fun for enough time for them to expect that to continue, and then in the balanced position, the kid on the See end suddenly stopped, then the child on the Saw end would just get off and run away after a time.
The Narcissist gathers information and keeps the Seesaw going just enough to prevent that from happening, then they keep testing how much they can get away with before you jump off the Saw end. Sometimes they leave the Saw up there so long, Saw kid kinda freaks out, maybe tries to jump off, and then the play is back on. On the way back down, Saw kid gets told what a weak little baby they are, so then Saw kid has to prove that’s not true, and it’s really fun again, until it’s not.
IN OTHER WORDS, JUMP OFF.
You’re just their Saw, and they’ll never See!
And if you’re here, you probably already Saw.
The rationale of a narc taking what he wants only fearing being caught makes perfect sense as to why my husband will sleep with the wives of people who have been friends with him since childhood. I always wondered how he could live with himself.
This is my go to video every time I question myself.
They will set you up and destroy your life and their children's life if it gets in way of new supply and when your screaming for help they have moved on and will leave you tied to a train track with the train coming fast.
That’s when they are being nice!!
Usually they enjoy destroying you covertly from within making you your own worst enemy, whilst they are entertained.
Sound scary who are these people
The Devils little workers!
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@@PlagueDoctor82 You are busted!
I needed this video today. Recently some anonymous person created a "revenge" post on social media about the Narcissist. There are captured screen shots of phone texts describing sexual liaisons. Another individual came forward and accused the Narcissist of selling their body and creating porn (they even knew the frequency for which these acts were occuring)... there was also mention of some sort of love affair (The Narcissist in question here has been married for 8 years). The comments went further into accusing the Narcissist of fraud and that they would go to prison. The Narcissist had no hesitation in pissing these people off which Im sure has other consequences attached to that.
Not once, did I ever think this person would cross the line into this behavior. I know drugs are a problem for this individual and yet, I still didn't think they would do something like this. I've done considerable research on those people who are highly addicted to drugs and a lot of their traits are narcissistic in nature- not in touch with reality or its consequences, limited to no empathy, constant state of anxiety when looking for the next hit or high.
I remember the Narcissist telling me once he would wake from dreams, absolutely horrified about the things he had done or said... and he didn't know if they had been real experiences or not. That he needed his wife to tell him what reality was. Could you imagine? Not being able to discern what is a dream or what is reality? Or to not be in control of yourself, that your actions are comparable to a nightmare?
I was discarded. I did the blocking everywhere I could. I still get stalked online 6 months post discard through another account. This person feeds on anger. They do it to other discards too.
Yes twice in a rage he ripped the phone off the wall as I threatened him with police. Dangerous times behind closed doors indeed
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Indeed!
The fact that the Nex didn’t hurt me physically was a fluke. He was a “meek” individual, in many ways, and I’m grateful that physical abuse did not accompany the emotional abuse.
Thank you for this insight.
Much love!❤️
People who knew about the abuse often said things like, "Do you really think he would have killed you? You made it this far without that happening so he's probably just making empty threats." The thought of going to prison for killing me kept him from doing it. He did not want to suffer something like that because of something so vile and lowly as me. If he killed me, it would be my fault he went to prison and that just wouldn't stand. He would threaten, but then back off and tell me I should just kill him instead, put him out of his misery. He relished the thought of me going to prison because of him. He denied any abuse, physical or otherwise, while at the same time saying he treated me badly because I was weak and it made him sick. There is no reasoning with a narcissist and no satisfaction in doing anything except leaving.
I had to wait until he found another big life goal, and put all of his energy into finding another victim, in order to be discarded rather than leaving him myself because he would have become so abusive otherwise. He would have gladly created a situation where my life and safety were at risk, facilitated an injury, and. left me for dead. He tried multiple times.
I am so glad my Narc discarded me now I can move on and live the life I am supposed to have Glory to God
Jennifer Delilah I had to do similar. Just worked really hard to make life as dull and repetitive as possible, grey-rocked him until he got bored enough to look for someone else. It worked thank God!
The only reason my ex narcopath didn't hurt me physically was because he was scared of my son... he COULD NOT GET AWAY WITH IT...
Omfg. Every point was so accurate to the T! Thank you for sharing. This clarity solidified my understanding of WTF was going on! It’s such black and white thinking and so simplistic yet so extreme and terrifying 💔
The ten commandments of the Narcisssists.
1.ensnare
2.assimilate
3.consume
4.sabotage
5.isolate
6.reverse
7.eliminate
8.infiltrate
9.selfcentering
10.socialized.
With other words
They take over everything and want you to end up
Either deadly depressed or dead in your own house.
I hate these commandments cuz ive seen it my ex gf doing it to me atleast she tried.
But I. Still alive and trying to be at my very best to keep myself strong and keep my sanity.
You are totally true about it it's so sickening that they even have their own sort of a emotional destroy agenda.
A commandment relating to Bill Clinton,thou shalt not comfort thy staff with thy rod.
Yes. Yes yes. All of this has happened too me. I am an emotional wreck. But these videos really help me. Its like oxygen to a drowning person. God bless you sweetheart
PD, court system in my experience, are also unaware of the danger.
This podcast I visited this morning, and was reminded of the necklaces and jewelry and other items stolen from me, the possessions destroyed, the extreme anger towards me when I didn’t return a laptop I purchased that he was using, extreme anger towards me when I reported my truck stolen, the extreme anger towards me when his current supply reached out to me and I told her “run!” (It wasn’t pretty: She even piled on.)
The rest of today I felt gratitude, huge gratitude, immense gratitude for being able to extricate myself from a very dangerous situation.
Be strong and smart if you are experiencing any of these experience that LS explains.
If I can escape and flee, so can you. There is so much peace and joy once you recover.
Thank you Little Shaman.
They are 💯 % aware. They dont want to deal with empaths constantly breaking the no contact. They know it takes a while before empaths hormones return to normal and until that happens an empath will go back break no contact ten times. Police don't want to be called for it ten times. Each break of no contact your hormones stay elevated so its a no win situation for police till empaths get the full knowledge and strength to stay away!
Not only are they dangerous and not only is the little shaman completely accurate but as she has abs will always point out
They don’t stop
They never stop the damage
They never stop denying
They never stop blaming
It took awhile and the wisdom presented here for me to finally understand the unthinkable
There can be no change
Even if it means preventing the horrific damage done to their own children
They just won’t stop
Thank you little shaman for putting out that which we do need to hear in order to respond ( not react) accordingly
I’ll find a way to my son again
Somehow
I won’t stop until I do
Blessings in 2021 to ALL
Gary R they do so much damage in so short a span of time to their children... please, seek custody aggressively. If you don't, your son may internalise the narcissism? I guess that is the expression. Then he is LOST to you. Do it for him.
@@steviep9780 thank you for the extra push up the proverbial hill Stevie
Yes the damage is extensive and likely will effect my son throughout his life which I will not stop trying to offset
But the court loves this narrative
I’m about to shatter it
Wish me luck
@@garyr1934 I definitely wish you luck. The stakes are astronomical for your son! You can do this Gary.
@@steviep9780 thank you so much Stevie
My sun is now 16 and doesn’t seem to be interested in changing the narrative that he knows he lied to help her with
To
Protect her from the truth of her damaging ways
@@garyr1934 I'm sorry to hear that. :'( Perhaps his own narcissistic tendencies (lying is usually narcissistic) won't be AS BAD as his mother's? One can hope. And he is still young... don't give up hope just yet. You're still a role model, so model truth for him and maybe one day he'll 'get it' that you're not his enemy, and that his mother has done him a disservice.
If they can get away with it they WILL do it!
Wow you really hit the nail on the head in this video the Narc I was with would always say “I need that laptop” or “I need those $300 running shoes” even when he could not pull his equal weight in paying our bills. I would try to explain to him those are wants not needs. We need a roof over our heads we need food to eat. A laptop and shoes for play and show are things you want not need. As a married couple I believe our basic needs like shelter and food come first.
He told me I was controlling and he was an adult and could spend his $ however he wanted. I tried to explain that as a married couple we were supposed to be a team. Make choices together. This he did not care about at all. Still went on to say “I’m an adult and can do whatever I want”
I said you choose to get married. So that means being a team. You can just reap all the good things of marriage and not care about your obligations to the marriage and me as your wife.
Again I was told by him “I’m an adult and will do whatever I want”
Besides the above there were many other issues and I choose to leave him dec 1 2017. It’s been 2 years out and 8 months full No contact. So proud of myself and how far I have come. Good luck to all you fellow survivors out there and stay strong always
Wish there were justice for them! Unfortunately you can't take cases like them to the court !
Lived with it and experienced situations like that in many occasions
I'm dealing with false accusation now and it's scary. They ate very dangerous
Glad am out of that come a long way over the last 2 years i hope that anybody still stuck breaks free and claims their lives back ❤
Deadly very quickly... I woke up in the hospital interrogated by the police and It blowing up the hospital phone...all because he felt I was going to leave once I found out his cheating and planned to leave triangle.
So sorry and glad you survived. Now you know what to look for and how to protect yourself. Stay strong. Be well.
They are absolutely dangerous! Mine has been threatening to kill me now for about a year. The last thing he told me when he thought I was leaving was "he was gonna kick in my door come in my room and cut my head off before anyone ever noticed. So what are the cops gonna do? How is calling the cops gonna help you? Your head will be cut off before anyone can even call the cops let alone get there in time to save you. Do you really think I care about going to prison for the rest of my life? My life sucks anyways and if I can't have you why bother living anyways"? That's another reason why we become so afraid to leave these people. I have three sons who already lost their dad and he knows how bad it hurts me to think about being murdered and leaving my kids with no parents.
Cut the drive belts,radiator hoses,loosen the tire lugs on your car,sneak around the outside of your house at night,come and "check up" on you. Get information from the children about how their living situation is,how is their Mom is, so the parent can take information to their attorney to try to get custody.Narc parent will shame or bait the children to reveal information about the other parent.Other parent finds out , then the children are punished for that,etc
OMG! The necklace analogy is spot on for a past experience I had with a Narcopath. I make jewelry, necklaces and key chains with glass beads), I had already gifted the Narc one of my key chains and necklaces the week before, but the Narcopath asked me if she could see my necklaces once again, so I put them out for her to view and she rudely grabbed a certain necklace from the table along with another Christmas gift I had for someone and she walked out of my house. I WAS IN SHOCK! Because that particular necklace and other gift was specifically made for someone as a Christmas gift and the Narc knew that. It took her almost 1 year to pay me for necklace and I had to make another Christmas gift for my friend. The Narc has never apologized for taking the gift or the necklace.
Before the narc exited my life she stole many of my things and things that cant be replaced. She stressed me out to point of being hospitalized.
A big red flag is they all act weird. They have a gaze and there all weird acting. It's a big red flag in new relationships. Once u know what to look for u can't miss it. I'm not afraid to date again because I know I'll see it at some point. And I'll run once I do. U will see it once u know the red flags. I'm not beating myself up anymore for not seeing it sooner. It took as long as it was gonna take and now it will stick. I've worked to hard to get over all this OMG the emotional work the pain the hurt the shame feeling like such a fool feeling so dam stupid.im not doing this anymore. I'm not beating myself up anymore. The main thing is I learned the lesson now. And now it will stick. That's all that matters. Not ever letting it happen again and it won't. It won't happen again. I've had enough. It's over!! Now I find REAL love. I'm just going to concentrate on my career and I'm working on getting a car. That's my goal and that's more important than beating myself up. It's been a year and that's enough. It's time to move on!
I know the Exact gaze you are talking about that Sadistic Evil gaze that sends chills up and down your spines
Toni Albrecht glad you are done beating yourself up! ME TOO!
I know the look. It's an evil one. I'm struggling with feeling bad about what I've accepted . About that that a accepted and allow. Such a fool was I sighh
A narcissist steals from his own wife, he sold my things, they take whatever they want they don’t care where or from who and are very dumb or sneaky about it.
What was very very difficult for me, and still is, (though nc for years now), that my ex really showed empathy, deep empathy sometimes. And no, that moment he did not wear a mask. For instance: We were drinking a coffee in a bar and I told him my son (not his son be he knew him rather well) had a relationship. Which was very special because of some birth deficit of my boy. I looked away quite some time from nex to look at some people who were coming in the bar. When I looked again to my n-ex he was teared up. He, what is happening? I asked. 'Well I wish him so much luck' he replied. I am sure it was no manipulation. I 'caught' him accidentily in the act of tearing up. There were many more moments (but always just moments) like that and I, the empath that I am, derived from that the conclusion that he really did have empathy deepdown.That was my pitfall. Because you are right, Little Shaman: he had it, but it was very poorly adapted to the rest of his life and personality. For sure he was a narcissist, diagnosed as well after a while. The narc construct that covered these 'pure moments' was there for about 95% of the time. But up to this day I do not think all his behaviour was a mask, I know authenticity when I see it. But, in the end it was not workable in a relationship and it took me a very long time to acknowledge that. Your vids helped, though. Thanks
You're welcome and I'm sorry to hear that. I put up an episode of the show recently that goes into empathy of narcissistic people deeply. You might find that interesting.
It is scary when in a family situation the narcissist is enabled by a codependent enabler validating every bad thing the narc does. This includes losing custody of her first child because she was drunk and pissed so used her kid like a rock and threw it at her boyfriend, putting a loaded gun to her cousins head because he was teasing her and stabbing someone with a steak knife for not letting her run up a huge phone bill. Dangerous, yes. Nobody taught her right from wrong. She learned that she can do as she pleases and if someone doesn't like it, the enabler will smooth things over.
They without question are the most dangerous things you can run across in life. I’d take my chances with a bucket of rattlesnakes over living with another narc again 😢
Well, this is terrifying. The wants vs needs really hit home. My grandma has no comprehension for wants vs needs. I've explained wants vs needs so many times. Nope. No comprendo.
Also, going back to a boyfriend years ago... "You're taking my grand-daughter from me." She got in his face and said it over and over.
And she has punched me in the face. Never got an apology. Came home from work, she stalked me around the house till she got mad I wasn't giving her attention. She started a fight for attention.
Then, BOOM! I got punched in the face by my grandma for no real reason other being too tired when I got off work to deal with her.
I have wondered if she would ax me. It seems so absurd to say that about a "sweet, little, old lady grandma". I never even told anyone she punched me, cause #1) Nobody would've believed it. She's known for being so nice. #2) I downplayed it to myself ever equipped to take any and all blame. 3) Who's punched by their grandma? Just acknowledging it makes me feel weird. Like I'm a weakling whining about the bullying of a vulnerable old lady that surely couldn't hurt me.
But you know what? In more ways than one it really hurt. She socked me pretty good right on the nose.
And everyone she's ever mad at she hopes will die. I come home from work one time with her and my 2nd cousin waving around a loaded gun. My grandma was actually trying to convince him to go and kill my great grandma's step kids.
Why?
They were helping to take better care of my great grandma. That's what was at the root of what had really made her mad.
Hindsight's 20/20 & this is scary.
The want and need definition was very good in this video.
Yes they are (dangerous). That's why I am trying to get me and my daughter out of here. They don't run around with a bitcher knife, but they do things that can result in harm or even death, and they do not care. Also legal and finacial harm. But physical harm as well. People don't know that about them.
Really good video this one, everytime I feel like going back..I listen to one of your videos
Often while I drift off to sleep
Your voice is soothing in a strange kinda way
Thank God you are back😉... love you!!!
I was afraid mine would kill me. Thank God I’m still here.
*ME TOO* ✋
*I FELT IT IN MY HEART*
*AND SPIRIT*
*I THANK GOD* 🙌
*I'M FREE NOW*
*I SURVIVED WHAT*
*WAS MEANT TO KILL*
*ME* 😣😳😥
*GOD PROTECTION*
*HAD ME THROUGH IT*
*ALL* 🙏
It’s hard to think there are people out there that truly don’t deserve love.
I don't think it's that they don't deserve it. I think it's that they can't receive it and it's a waste of time to try. It would be one thing if it helped them, but it doesn't. It only hurts you.
You have taught me so much about Narcissism. I thank you for helping me keep my sanity. My identical twin sister has been married to a pathological narcissist for 40 years. Our relationship has been severely damaged. Many years of no contact. After 8 years of NC they hovered and we gave them a chance with a warning. It lasted just under 2 years. Her family (kids) are estranged from them. I now know that they hovered me because I was connected to their daughter and her kids. I am 62 years old and I am struggling with grief of knowing I will never speak with her again. Q: After these many years of narcissistic abuse is my twin a narcissist as well? I see many traits and behaviour from her. Ps. Her adult children are narcissistic.