@@kikachinchilla894it's obvious, don't you think? Anything that's overbearing, that's suffocating, you will flee from. Can you stay under the sun for hours without getting burnt? Without suffering? Can you resist someone who is continually on your back, who wants continual validation? Who judges you endlessly, who gets offended easily? Reflect mate. It's pretty simple.
@@gabykappscomposermariagabr749aaahh, you sound like a textbook dismissive avoidant. There is independence and then there is interdependence…very different. Counter dependent (which is sounds like you are) is every bit as toxic and problematic as co-dependent.
I can't tell you how absolutely needed this was for me and my partner right now. We are exactly in the thick of it. This video could not have been more tailored to our experience. You are becoming our favorite spiritual teacher, your videos really help us navigate an enormous amount of stress and pressure and trauma and triggering, which is also connected for us to the larger global crisis. Thank you and namaste!
“Awakening from reactivity and rechoosing love applies very much to how we become part of the healing of our larger world 🌎. It’s the shift in consciousness that’s needed.” 🙏🏼
Thankyou for your calm wisdom. It is so hard at times of aloneness when faced with vulnerable hard emotions to share. Listening to you has been very comforting.
I feel like I am authentic just struggling with the demand and isolation that comes with motherhood I feel like nobody understands me as a person either x
Thank you! I've been a reader and listener for about a year, but have had a few weeks of a static and empty feeling. This talk caught me at just the right time and I felt a much needed release of emotion. Very grateful for your work!
This talk couldn't have come at a better time for me. 💕 My heart is touched deeply, you always inspire to forgive and be kind, to love, and to hope. Thank you Tara for sharing. 🙏
TigerLily and I found ourselves on a long walk, distracted by the Beautiful Flowering Sunny Day here in Portland, Oregon. 💟☸️🕉 Love You. I’m very excited to Join your Heart Full Wednesday Talk! Namaste!
Thank you for reminding me to forgive myself when I choose flight when faced with fight or flight. And thank you for reinforcing the idea that I had the other day - what decision is from my higher self? And lastly, thank you for giving me the vocabulary to help people understand that my needs have not been met. Your videos help me all the time, sometimes they are so informative I feel like I’m forgetting information as you say it but I feel like my subconscious will pick it up at least and I’m grateful for that too
It’s all so sad. I feed feral cats (many very friendly) and feel such love, yet it is very difficult to connect with people. Very distressing to me. Just have never been able to bond with people.
I'm with you @Lily Cat 🐈. But people are what we've got: the good, bad & ugly. Usually a combination...and that's giving them the benefit of the doubt. Felines operate on an entirely different plane, offer unconditional love and have that uncanny barometer when it comes to determining someone's character. They soften life's edges and provide solace. Take ❤️ heart. People who feel a natural connection with cats (other animals as well) share unique qualities. Concentrate on celebrating those & be grateful that we have many ways in which we take solace in the non-human ways. Maybe we can grab a thread of that royal fabric & extend it to people as well 🐾🐈💖🙂
What do we have to do when we definitely are the OBJECT of the attempt of manipulation /ie a person that out of her insecureness tries to put us down all the time🙄. Please know she is my boss and I cannot easily walk away.. I do not have so many job alternatives. Thank you 🌺🌺
Tara, please share with people the work of Dr. John Gottman, who is very helpful with the things that you’re teaching people his work with people who are critical, defensive, contemptuous and stonewalling is directly applicable to the things you’re trying to share. He gives very concrete ideas about how to help people not do these things, and that begin to heal their relationship and each other, thank you
I enjoyed this talk. That was smb's occasional recommendation, one of those amazing cases when external world sends me helpful hint at that very moment I need it the most. Just before watching this I had a disappointing conversation with my partner. He said smth, I overreacted, got angry, felt disconnected and all of that... I hope next time I'll be able to hold me reactions and "rechoose love" instead. Thanks for the lesson! But pls allow me also to respond to the unexpected ending of your video, where you talk about Russian invasion to Ukraine. You advise to beat hate with love, think about all the humans at the other side and so on. Being an Ukrainian I cannot accept that advice. Seeing the level of cruelty, all the tortured and killed people, raped woman and kids(!), destroyed cities. Hearing call phones conversations recordings between russian soldgiers and their moms and wives who have no mercy for Ukrainians, who advise their sons to steal things from our homes, who are happy to hear about our losses... We've been a very loving and forgiving nation, and probably that was a big mistake. I rechoose to love my country, my family, my friends. But I also learn to hate russians and will make sure to disconnect from them as much as possible.
“Relationships are like the Sun, when it’s overbearing we flee it. When it backs off, we seek it.”
... why? 🙏
@@kikachinchilla894it's obvious, don't you think? Anything that's overbearing, that's suffocating, you will flee from. Can you stay under the sun for hours without getting burnt? Without suffering? Can you resist someone who is continually on your back, who wants continual validation? Who judges you endlessly, who gets offended easily? Reflect mate. It's pretty simple.
@@gabykappscomposermariagabr749aaahh, you sound like a textbook dismissive avoidant.
There is independence and then there is interdependence…very different.
Counter dependent (which is sounds like you are) is every bit as toxic and problematic as co-dependent.
Have no words to describe my state of turmoil and pain.
Thank you for RAIN.
For your gentle support and wisdom 🙏💙
I can't tell you how absolutely needed this was for me and my partner right now. We are exactly in the thick of it. This video could not have been more tailored to our experience. You are becoming our favorite spiritual teacher, your videos really help us navigate an enormous amount of stress and pressure and trauma and triggering, which is also connected for us to the larger global crisis. Thank you and namaste!
“Awakening from reactivity and rechoosing love applies very much to how we become part of the healing of our larger world 🌎. It’s the shift in consciousness that’s needed.” 🙏🏼
Thankyou for your calm wisdom. It is so hard at times of aloneness when faced with vulnerable hard emotions to share. Listening to you has been very comforting.
Re-choose love. (Even though I feel like shutting down.)
I feel like I am authentic just struggling with the demand and isolation that comes with motherhood I feel like nobody understands me as a person either x
Thank you! I've been a reader and listener for about a year, but have had a few weeks of a static and empty feeling. This talk caught me at just the right time and I felt a much needed release of emotion. Very grateful for your work!
I was feeling very reactive just before listeing to this talk, and after it I felt very calmed again. Thank you very much!
Thank you teacher Tara for a wonderful teaching about Relationship healing. I was moved to tears and healed a lot by the guided meditation.
Time outs and self compassion. Yes, difficult work. Re-choosing love. Thanks so much💕
Could not have arrived at a better moment. Synchronicity. Very very grateful 🙏🏽
Same here. Amazing.
Many Thanks for the wisdom and words of love and compassion. This was so helpful and healing. I hope I can continue with love and compassion.
Thank you, Tara. Beautifully articulated and powerful talk and meditation. I’ll be practicing this mindfully on a daily basis.
Thanks!
you have such a healing way - thank you ❤
This talk couldn't have come at a better time for me. 💕 My heart is touched deeply, you always inspire to forgive and be kind, to love, and to hope. Thank you Tara for sharing. 🙏
From the Philipines. Thank you! Namaste. 🙏
Beautifully explained Tara 🙏💜 and beautifully guided 🌱🙏⭐️
Thank you so much ❤🙏🏾
Tara, you are wonderful. I need this !
So beautiful and so needed. Thank you Tara from my awakening heart
Thank you, Tara. 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you Tara
meditation starts at 44:05
Wonderful, thank you!
Thank you Tara with all my ♥ The wisdom you share it's life changing 🙏
TigerLily and I found ourselves on a long walk, distracted by the Beautiful Flowering Sunny Day here in Portland, Oregon.
💟☸️🕉 Love You.
I’m very excited to Join your Heart Full Wednesday Talk!
Namaste!
Thank you. What a lovely message.
Thank you dear Teacher. We need this wisdom.
This is the best ever! You have a special gift of holding space and bringing me back into the present moment within myself. Thank you Tara ✨🙏✨
Thank you so much for this, it helps immensely, 🙏💜
Thank you for reminding me to forgive myself when I choose flight when faced with fight or flight. And thank you for reinforcing the idea that I had the other day - what decision is from my higher self? And lastly, thank you for giving me the vocabulary to help people understand that my needs have not been met. Your videos help me all the time, sometimes they are so informative I feel like I’m forgetting information as you say it but I feel like my subconscious will pick it up at least and I’m grateful for that too
Mahalo nui loa!!!! Aloha, love and peace from Hawaii. ❤️😘💋🌈🌺🌊☮️🙏❤️
Thank you Tara 💞
Enormously appreciate you🌹
It would be helpful to define "separation" more clearly. I interpret separation as diversification, which drives evolution.
Gold 🙏
Many thanks Tara. 🙏🏻😌🌟💖💐
Namaste
Thank you, that brought peace and understanding to my mind. Do you have specific talks for new relationships in your 50s?
It’s all so sad. I feed feral cats (many very friendly) and feel such love, yet it is very difficult to connect with people. Very distressing to me. Just have never been able to bond with people.
I'm with you @Lily Cat 🐈. But people are what we've got: the good, bad & ugly. Usually a combination...and that's giving them the benefit of the doubt. Felines operate on an entirely different plane, offer unconditional love and have that uncanny barometer when it comes to determining someone's character. They soften life's edges and provide solace. Take ❤️ heart. People who feel a natural connection with cats (other animals as well) share unique qualities. Concentrate on celebrating those & be grateful that we have many ways in which we take solace in the non-human ways. Maybe we can grab a thread of that royal fabric & extend it to people as well 🐾🐈💖🙂
@@angelwolf5089 that is a thoughtful reply. Thank You!
@@lilycat1694 My pleasure 🐾🐈❤️
Thankyou for feeding those cats. May yiu be blessed
What do we have to do when we definitely are the OBJECT of the attempt of manipulation /ie a person that out of her insecureness tries to put us down all the time🙄. Please know she is my boss and I cannot easily walk away.. I do not have so many job alternatives. Thank you 🌺🌺
That was intense
Wish I could share this with a few reactive people I know.
You could ❤
Tara, please share with people the work of Dr. John Gottman, who is very helpful with the things that you’re teaching people his work with people who are critical, defensive, contemptuous and stonewalling is directly applicable to the things you’re trying to share. He gives very concrete ideas about how to help people not do these things, and that begin to heal their relationship and each other, thank you
You can be empathy for human suffering in war without promoting propaganda.
How to connect to after class ….?
💙💙💙
🙏💖
Do you believe in twin flames?
I enjoyed this talk. That was smb's occasional recommendation, one of those amazing cases when external world sends me helpful hint at that very moment I need it the most. Just before watching this I had a disappointing conversation with my partner. He said smth, I overreacted, got angry, felt disconnected and all of that... I hope next time I'll be able to hold me reactions and "rechoose love" instead. Thanks for the lesson!
But pls allow me also to respond to the unexpected ending of your video, where you talk about Russian invasion to Ukraine. You advise to beat hate with love, think about all the humans at the other side and so on. Being an Ukrainian I cannot accept that advice. Seeing the level of cruelty, all the tortured and killed people, raped woman and kids(!), destroyed cities. Hearing call phones conversations recordings between russian soldgiers and their moms and wives who have no mercy for Ukrainians, who advise their sons to steal things from our homes, who are happy to hear about our losses... We've been a very loving and forgiving nation, and probably that was a big mistake.
I rechoose to love my country, my family, my friends. But I also learn to hate russians and will make sure to disconnect from them as much as possible.
💜🙏