Growing up watching this show as a young teenager I thought it was hilarious, but now as a grown ass adult it's a hard watch. That man kept making it perfectly clear that he didn't want her. Called her all types of names but she always heard what she wanted to just like a lot of us women do. Everytime she started to move on and take the hint the professor out of no where caught feelings. I hated that she left the other man at the alter to be with the professor. Nikki finally found a man that didn't play games with her and wanted to be around her.
MY SAME SENTIMENTS! 1 of my favorite shows as a child but as an adult, I only love the 1st 2 seasons, even though by season 2, they drummed up her obsession, it still wasn’t as bad as the last 2 seasons! The Ending was the worst! Not only was Johnny more physically attractive but he actually loved her as opposed to Stanley
I also wanted her to tell the Professor no and marry the other guy. Professor O. Didn't like or want her but he liked the fact that she wanted him. That made him feel good. When she moved on he couldn't deal with it. And he wanted to keep someone else from having her and treating her well. I hated the ending too.
I find it weird how people think he treated her cruelty for no reason when she literally harassed and stalked that man lol. He wasn’t even mean in the beginning, he even told her she didn’t need to do too much. Like when she moved on the first time, he was suffering from PTSD because she would always find some way to show up. He went to a fake therapist who convinced him that his PTSD was love and he went with that because why else would he constantly think his stalker and harasser would keep harassing him. I think it’s weird how people overlook her treatment of him. Like no she didn’t deserve any better because she was a stalker and a harasser. He deserved better than Stockholm syndrome
Thank you somebody telling the truth. there is a reason he acted that way she weaseled her way into his life. I blame the producers tho for writing them that way. Mammy Trope
EXACTLY! He told her he was not interested and she stalked him repeatedly. It was embarrassing how she went after that man. But HE was at fault? I mean she was breaking into his apt and ruining his dates and everything from the first time she met him!
THANK YOU! I was about to type this very thing. It's the same issue I have with fans of Family Matters where Laura gets vilified for initally rejecting Steve Urkle where he would disrespect her personal space, barge into her home, hang outside of her window, embarrass her, make unwanted passes etc. Nikki was even worse than Steve. The professor was stalked, harrased, photographed, had his mail and other personal items tampered with, had people around him that he was interested in threatened or actually harmed, assaulted, SA'd- both touched and the actual assault, lied on, had opportunities ruined for him because of her, his home broken into MULTIPLE times and the list goes on. Infact his reaction is better than most people's who would've had the police (which he tried many times) or a family member handle someone like Nikki. Just because it's played for comedy and that the stalker(s) are likeable protagonists doesn't change the fact that what they were doing were messed up crimes that if it were real life, they would've caused emotional and psychological damage to the victim(s) and probably land themselves behind bars. I agree with not having him want her when she would finally move on but in some of the instances where the plot and comedy did not rest on either extreme (either she criminally harassing him or her paying him dust) the professor did genuinely enjoy her company and respected her academic intellect. Nikki didn't even deserve those men because she used them as place holders and she was not 100% available to them which was not fair to them.
Nikki Parker is not INNOCENT. She would sneak into that man house, pop up on his dates, throw herself all over him in public, lie to people about them being together and he CONSTANTLY on NUMEROUS OCCASIONS told her HE DID NOT WANT HER. She was obsessed with him, she was a Stalker.😂
I didn’t feel bad for Nicki because a lot of great guys were in her life and she kept stalking a guy who didn’t want her. I wanted her character to end up with Kenny.
@KaliyahGriffin I'm happy that Nikki got with her man Professor Oglevee in the end because he was the only man she loved unconditionally and even though he didn't deserved her but after so many years of her stalking him and sabotaging his dates including his girlfriend Veronica and introducing people to him as her fiancee Professor Oglevee and realized that Nikki was the woman for him because she never cheated on him or rejected him
@@16vamps no I’m not . I know this tv series I watch it every night on Netflix and I can tell that even though Stanley rejected her throughout the episodes but after her always being there for him like giving him a blood double when he needed surgery for his gallbladder and having the dean to give him his job back and saving him from when Paris Walker tried to kill him he realized that she did those things because she loved him and he was always jealous when he saw her with other men but at the end he realized that he would be making a big mistake letting her get married to Johnnie so he made his move and got with her
The thing that got me is that he didn't want her until the last 15 minutes of the last episode of the SERIES. He treated her like absolute garbage and to do such a roundabout because she was getting married was horrible writing. She should've told him to kick bricks and the series end with him resolving to get her back. Moreover, it wasn't so much that he rejected her, he was CRUEL about it. He made fun of her weight, her personality, he took glee in hurting her feelings and she glossed over it all. Season 1 seemed to be the only time he was courteous and seemed to enjoy her company but it regressed into insults and rudeness as time went on. Nikki Parker deserved so much better.
Yes definitely and if I was Andell I would have never let her do it the hole last episode was poorly written. I wish she thought more of herself than to settle for someone who treated her so poorly. To add to it he wasn’t good looking at all.
And you know he only said "i gotta stop that wedding" he didn't even say that he loved her even on the last episode he was insulting her for somebody who wants to speak up over things that are wrong she should have spoke to the writers about the way they were making this character chase after somebody
@@DemandMoexhilarated Right?! I didnt care for her stalking the man n doing illegal stuff but she deserved so much better, honestly I bet if nikki wasnt a big girl Professor wouldve wanted her a lot sooner, look at how shallow he is with women. Though instead of Johnny I wouldve wanted her to stay with Kenny, he quit his playboy ways for her, She was "that one" for him. And he wouldve treated her like the queen she is
Why you acting like Nikki’s crush was innocent and he was cruel for no reason lmfao. She literally stalked abased that man. He had more than every right to be cruel to her
What's crazy to me is how Johnny treated Nikki like a princess, but she stupidly pushed him away for the man who humiliated her, played in her face, and disrespected her numerous times each season.
POSSIBLE THEORY!! I think in this relationship dynamic with Nikki and Oglevee, they both have self-esteem issues, of course. Ogleevee was a bigger child, who loved to eat, and was brutally bullied for it (at least from how they portrayed it in the episode ). Nikki, being a voluptuous woman, that loves food and doesn't hide it, as well as retaliating against anyone who tries her. Ogleevee looked at Nikki, like his younger self and I think lowkey envied her for her outer confidence in being big and confrontational (when needed), which caused him to say cruel and harsh things to her. The ONLY excuse he had to explain his annoyance with her was that she was obsessed with him and his every move. Other than that, I think there is another layer to his disdain, which leads back to his inner/younger child.
I believe Nikki Parker was wounded by her father. He easily discarded her after she got pregnant. She went from being the favorite to an outcast and had to struggle. That probably played a huge part in it.
Okay but also Nikki outfits!!! Kim’s too. It was rare for bigger women to have fashions and Nikki & Kim ALWAYS gave fashions. And Nikki’s hair? Laiddddddd
@sacredlove-st8wt That’s great that Stanley got used to Nikki stalking him. Cuz I remember in the episode where Nikki fights out a woman in a boxing ring was throwing herself on Stanley and when Nikki walked in he said Thank God you’re still stalking me
@lauracorbett4577 I always noticed that a lot of the women Stanley dated made Nicki look like a saint, and if not for her interference, would've ended up worse.
@@humps678 Veronica had an on and off relationship like in the episode My Funny Valentine he proposed to her but she wasn't ready and every time Veronica went to Stanley's house and saw Nikki she would never give him a chance to explain the fact that there was nothing going on between him and Nikki.
I wish she woudlve stayed with Kenny, The man quit his playboy ways and went through hoops and hurdles to prove his love for her. thats him and when Stanley tried to get him to back off Kenny got in his face letting him know "you had your chance"
I mean, you can tell in some episodes that she was starting to like Steve... they went to prom together, had a wonderful night, and kissed passionately.. they had many moments, but I wish they wouldn't have rushed it towards the end...
@talltalllady Yeah that was awesome how relationships between Laura and Steve and Nikki and Stanley had the same chemistry where they were both rejected for years but kinda missed each other when they weren't and that's when Nikki and Steve would show up.
@talltalllady I really love how in both Family Matters and The Parkers The main characters of both shows ended up together in the end. I wish that in Family Matters at the end of the show they would have shown Steve and Laura actually getting married and having a wedding instead of Laura just confessing her love for Steve and them talking about wedding plans
@thewrongshoes I really do love that. That a guy that you want may not want you at first but as you keep being there for them and make yourself irresistible to them then they miss you being there when you’re about to move on to someone else that’s when they start to act and feel that their life won’t be the same without you and they miss you being in their life and they get with you
@thewrongshoes I already got a man I love and he doesn’t mind me pursuing him. His name is Christian and he’s my coworker who works with me at Home Depot and I love him so much. I have dreams about him and I every night. I’m gonna do everything I can to be there for him so we’ll be together in the future
Unpopular opinion: the professor always wanted nikki. Yes she was crazy as hell and harassed him every chance she got. He loved her chasing him. How come he didn't put his foot down in the beginning? If somebody harasses me constantly I'm reporting them. Why the professor didn't report nikki harassing him? He loved the attention. Remember they did it when he was drunk but you know what they say about drunk people. Drunk people think with a sober mind. He always wanted her from the jump. But he was one of those dudes that scared to be with a fat woman publicly. You've mentioned that some big girls have low self-esteem. Well that's because society doesn't think that big girls are attractive. Yes there are men that do like big girls but let's keep it real big women are not considered sex symbols. Big girls are told to take any man that comes along no matter what. Even if we don't like him. It's like we can't have any standards.
@@misfittv313 wow everything you said is true I just sometimes think forget what society thinks about but girls you know because society comes up with all these stupid rules for everyday people to follow and I hate it. I just want people to make their own rules and do what ever there heart saids believe in yourself and love yourself. I was saying this the whole time watching this..I just Wish she loved herself more and better And your right he definitely loved the attention!!
@@simplyjuannie5128 she's the one who was stalking him broken to his apartment ruined his relationships sexually assaulted him while he was drunk if this was a reverse when will have a field day
@@niratomas579 the reason why Nikki kept going after the professor is because he deserved better than a girlfriend who had a on and off relationship with him which Veronica had
@@lauracorbett4577 But that’s not her place or her business. Realistically, you don’t get to stalk someone just because you feel they “deserve better.” 😂
Everytime I watched this show as a kid I always said " Why is Monique chasing this Gay man" I AVOIDED this show until now in my 20's. It hard to watch with adult eyes Also, now it makes sense why Kim was obsessed with Hakeem. He treated Kim like dirt until she moved on in Moesha.
Eh…being that his initial intention was to ‘conquer her’ bc she had turned him down, I dont think he was the best choice either lol. She should have married Johnny😭
Nah. She stalked and harassed this man, the women he dated, and the women she THOUGHT he dated. She went too far with him too many times, and he was cool in the beginning. He told her from the jump she didn't have to do too much, and she STILL went overboard. She broke him down, and I'm not saying he was right for "catching feelings" whenever she got into a relationship either. I ain't mad at him for growing to be meaner and meaner to ber because she kept growing more and more obsessed with him crossing way too many boundaries. She wasn't unconditionally in love, she was criminally obsessed.
The reason why a lot of gorgeous plus size women appeared to have lower confidence back in that era is because we constantly tell plus size women that they shouldn’t have confidence. If they show any semblance of self love and self respect, coupled with freedom to feel sexy we act like they’re committing a crime. That’s where the low self-esteem and desperation trope came from but it was really confusing to a lot of folks watching the show because this woman is literally beautiful and intelligent. She’s got multiple, straight a student, and you cannot tell me her hair was not whipped, and she was not dressed down in every episode.
Exactly. I am a bigger woman and was a big girl during the 90s in middle and high school when Moesha and the Parkers was airing. Several cousins lived in the house with us. Everybody in the house called me fat pig. During my teen years i literally got called fat pig everyday and the adults allowed it. My self esteem was low because of it.There was no body positivity back then. Today calling people fat pig would not fly.
I hate how society has pushed this trope that you can only have standards and confidence if you have a "normal" body type, and if you're plus size, you can't have standards and should just accept whatever man or woman comes your way.
@@iammissalicia2098 I am so sorry that happened to you! I come from a family of beautiful plus sized women and I was taught about beauty and femininity from them so seeing that breaks my heart. But fat phobia was still present in our family despite the fact that everybody was. I’m still one of the smallest people in my family and I’m not thin by any means.You didn’t deserve that.
@carmellem6813 Well Stanley was the only man she loved and went after and she wouldn't settle for second best even though Stanley disrespected her every chance he got and he got jealous every time she was with other men. But just as she was about to marry someone else in the end Stanley realized that Nikki was the woman and that he would be making a huge mistake if he had let her get married so he got with her
Finally we are talking about this one. I use to say watching the show when I was a little girl. Around 7 or 8 years old. That she needed to pick up her dignity and move on. Yet she still choose the professor. Who clearly told her he didn't want her. Up until she had moved on. Toxic and typical of a man who comes to his senses and realizes that he had a good woman but ignored her. So when she moved on he looked back and was like oh she's the one. I wanted Nikki in that moment on her wedding day to have said no to him. She needed to consider how he had done her. What he had said. I have experience this in really life first hand. My ex wanted me back now that I have moved on. I never chased him. I just closed that chapter. Now he realizes what he had and wants to come back. But he can't. Ladies never let a man disrespect you out loud. He mistreated her so bad. I would have never spoke his name again.
are we not gonna talk about her creepy antics like stalking him, remaking keys to his apartment, running off potential love interests, etc. Bffr, as a man you wouldn’t want her either😂
It irked my nerves how on Moesha Kim Character chased Hakeem, now on The Parkers Nikki chasing after professor who was lame as’f. Ngl it hurts to be rejected but I’m not about to keep pressing a man I’m a gtfo. Couldn’t stand the last episode, I would have told the professor to kick rocks tskk 🙄
@@Lanaee1207 period like they tried so hard to push the fat girls have low self esteem narrative and I’m like nah like they was beautiful women with a lot going for themselves why they always gotta be chasing a man that don’t want them like wtf just cuz they fat don’t mean they don’t love themselves
@@DemandMoexhilarated Literally they had some bomb outfits, and hair was laid! 9/10 the man they was chasing weren’t even worth giving a Second look. Plus like you said in the video had some fine suitors coming they way interested, but still chasing a ninja who treat them like they a roach, chile.
Watching this show as an adult is cringe... It's part of the reason people think that plus size women are desperate and have low self esteem... I've been plus size nearly all my life and baby.... It's never stopped me from getting or keeping a man... and Oh, I don't text back either.. it's not just the thinner girls. 🥰😘
I may be one of the only people that doesnt let Nikki’s obsession ruin the show for me during my older years (not speaking to you lol its just something ive noticed in the comments when I watch a Parkers’ recap). The Parkers was an ensemble cast so separate from the dynamic between her and the Professor, literally every one else on the show was funny as hell - Nikki by herself, Kim, Andell, T, Stevie, the Professor, Woody, etc
@@bobbyhill8341For a season that would be funny but they made it her whole personality through the whole show even when she had her own things going on…
-If she woulda married and then her and Oglevee had became really good friends. -If he spent years coming to appreciate her, ‘She funny. I like her. I wanna be around her.’ *Then* him as her 2nd husband, would be appropriate. After years of him dissin her. (He dissed her in public. In fronta other women. In fronta her family. On a boat. In a moat. On a train. In the rain) And with a sudden jealous epiphany. She waited till her hair follicles had never been more moisturized, to jump for him. 😷 🚶🏿♂️
I’m a curvy girl myself. Maybe there are some plus sized sistas that don’t know their worth. But my dance card has always been full. Never settled, and no one should settle regardless of their weight.
This was such a good analysis. I watched every single episode when I was a kid. It’s crazy what you realize as an adult that flew over your head as a kid.
I’m happy you’re talking about this, I think you’re one of the first, I haven’t seen anyone else. The season finale always left a bitter taste in my mouth, because number 1, it seemed rushed and number 2, he treated her so bad during the entire show yet every time they got together or something happened between Nikki and the Professor he would want her one day then leave her the next. It makes me think even if they’re married he’d do the same
I think the gag was funny strictly because it’s a sitcom but I hate they ended up together and if the writers wanted them together so bad they shouldn’t have waited TO THE VERY END to make that happen. I feel she should’ve married the chef or us the audience watch her go through a love triangle for at least half of the last season because the sudden realization 15mins before the ENTIRE SERIES ended was unnatural and felt weird
@theclassicgamer20 I loved how they ended the show and the fact that I would call it Nikki finally got with the man she loved and had been after for so many years
I still love this show, but I do enjoy that we can look back on shows we loved as kids and see it from our adult point of view. Nikki was a curvy, black woman obsessively chasing after a man that DID NOT want her!!! The way she behaved (stalking him, attacking his girlfriends, breaking into his apartment many times, and not taking no for an answer) would’ve been considered outrageous if she were a man. One thing I’ve learned is that when certain people are used to toxicity or dysfunction in their life…. Though they may hate it and complain about it, once they don’t have it anymore… they actually no longer know how to function without it. That could’ve been the case for the professor. The second Nicki finally moved on, got engaged and didn’t want him anymore…. Suddenly he convinced himself he wanted her. This stalking woman, who was a constant presence in his life for years, was finally gone from his life and he didn’t know what to do without her. You were spot on!!! Stanley, deep down, loved that Nikki wanted him so bad. Any brief period where she had no interest in him, he was bothered.
As he rejected her, she validated a lot of his insecurity too. Her perseverance, for a lack of better words, confirmed to him that he was wanted. The women he perused were not very interested in him. The women he dated were here and there and I think they put at the cruz that he underlying wanted her. Or at least loved the attention she gave him that the women he dated did not provide. I always looked at it as a double edge sword. They deserved each other, both insecure and unseen.
11 year old me was sick to my stomach when she chose Oglevee over Johnny. To this day I'm pissed 😂😂😂 Nikki deserved much better. Plus Johnny was fine and treated her with love and respect.
The thing with being a larger girl is a lot of times they are treated less than all throughout childhood and adolescence. They always compared to the skinnier, cousins and sisters. Also, they are not picked throughout adolescence for romantic relationships. A lot of boys be completely. Ignore the girls on them because of their size. That’s the reason why a lot of them act like this in relationships. Most of them are not raised to have high self-esteem due to having a higher weight.
I hated the ending of that show so much. Professor literally got Stockholm Syndrome and "fell in love" with her an hour before her wedding. So what was the real ending? They get in the car after their wedding and just forget everything that transpired between then over the past years? The professor just forgets all the stalking & harassment and Nikki forgets all the ways she was DIRECTLY told she was not wanted????
Honestly, you couldn’t really blame Nikki because her mother and Grandmother were the same way when they got their men. Also, when Nikki knock Stanley out and she took care of him, he did let her know that she didn’t have to push so hard. And let’s not forget the episode when that younger guy was trying to get with Nikki, he even told her that it would be inappropriate to have a relationship with one of his students. So I don’t believe it was about self-esteem, this is what she was taught all her life.
@TheMrsSoto I guess it was a thing for all the Parker women they went after men that didn’t want them but kept going after them and got with them in the end
7:12 it doesn’t come from nowhere. Society constantly tells bigger women they’re ugly, they’re undeserving of love, they’re often the butt of the joke. Therefore if you’ve grown up hearing that your whole life of course you’d have low self-esteem. Often times bigger women are told they’re lucky to have somebody want them.
Nikki was insane. I didn’t get it back in the day but rewatching it, sis needed straight jacket and they even joked about the fact she was crazy. The Professor made it clear he didn’t like her fr but she wore him out basically. Nikki technically assaulted him, stalked him, controlled him, manipulated all of his circumstances, even committed fraud with his name. Then when he does cave in more so for his own ego reasons, she finally gets what she wanted but it was very much unhealthy between the two. Even Kim got over it after a while. I really don’t like how she rejected two good men who liked her for her over someone who called her a fruit loop 24/7 😂
In an episode of the Early season he literally told her if she stopped stalking him and sexually harassing him he’d maybe entertain her. Hence why when she did stop, he paid attention. She could’ve been got her man if she calmed down and carried herself better.
One thing… The Professor did try to marry Veronica. Howeve she was too busy in her work and he realized that’s something he did t want to put up with at the time.
Neither of these people were their best selves when they were together & that's why I hate them as a couple! Stanley was mean & cruel until her undivided attention wasn't on him. Then he was jealous & spiteful! He ruined her other relationships & let other people mistreat her way too often! Nikki was far worse imo, stalking him, breaking into his home, making copies of his keys, going through his garbage, ruining his other relationships & crossing EVERY boundary imaginable in the name of "love" when truly she was just unhealthily obsessed with the man for no real reason! It feels like in the end, they both get "rewarded" in a sense for this horrible behavior & it just sends the wrong message!
This happens a lot in blk shows, particularly with the heavier or dark akinned friend. The proud family, the parkers, moesha, third bring it on movie, etc
Actually I don't think that Stanley played in Nikki's face. He straight up told her that he wasn't interested and he deliberately tried to stay away from her for a long time. She came on to him HARD the very first time she met him. She even got to the point where she was stalking him and as a big girl myself I was always insulted by that because the writers of this show thought that it was funny to have a beautiful big woman constantly chasing some dude who didn't even want her. And the crazy part is Monique's stand up was always about being a confident big woman who loved herself but then Nikki's character was all about making a fool out of herself for some man even though she was very strong when it came to other things going on in her life. Stanley was her weakness. I mean The Parkers was a great show and I really liked it but the way she chased that man always made me cringe. I just hated that.
When I saw this thumbnail I said “YES TALK YOUR ISH” lmfao if the Professor has one hater, I am that hater. If he has zero haters, I am gone to the upper room!
This is one of my favorite shows. I have to disagree, however. Olgevee didn’t play in her face. Nikki was a literally stalker and a (in today’s world) sexually assaulted him several times.
i just recently watched the emmy winning series, baby reindeer....looking back at the parkers, so many similarities...was nicki parker mentally unwell? she was basically stalking mr o--at home, at school, everywhere...like this is extreme mental illness
I don't like how her limerence and stalking was overlooked. He rejected her multimedia explicitly, and she still relentlessly pursued him. I wouldn't want my children watching this behavior at all.
12:37 I think it was her relationship with her Dad that shifted her and caused her to feel she didn’t deserve love.. Remember how she struggled for his love/affection after she got pregnant? And it doesn’t help that Nana was the same way with PopPop… and the professor. 😅😂 As a black sitcom enthusiast, I appreciate this discourse so muchhhhhh!!! Ahhh 🥰
As an adult I realized what a damn fool she made out of herself for this man 😂😂 clown ass behavior 😂 no man is worth everything she did for him nahhhhhh 😂 didn’t even like her until the last 3 mins of the final episode 😂
There's plenty of reasons why we bigger black women are frowned upon. From media to rejections from love interests, it's no wonder we tend to have low self-esteem. I'm at the point that I don't care what others think. I'm 35 and don't have much dating experience mostly from being sick. I hope more of us can work on loving ourselves one day. Yeah I hated how Stanley settled for her. I think aunt del wasn't supportive in a lot of nikki's endeavors. She spoke her mind and tried to help Nikki. Wow a total betrayal of girl code, aunt drl. Man I'd love to be with a chef. Haha Great video essay!
R.i.p to Andelle ❤ I think she loved Nikki and tried several times to tell her friend leave that man alone he don't want but Nikki kept it going.. Sometimes as friends you can only do so much
@@DemandMoexhilarated I love The Parkers I watch it all the time on Netflix and what I love about it is that after so many years of Nikki chasing after Professor Oglevee and sabotaging his dates he finally got with her in the end. Just like her I already got a man I love that I’m chasing after and I believe will someday love me back. His name is Christian and he works with me at Home Depot. Our chemistry is different he doesn’t mind me stalking him he loves having me around. Every time I talk to him he always puts his arms around me and he doesn’t call me psycho. He always comes to work around 1:00pm until store closing which is 10:00 pm. I’ve had my schedule changed to 10am-2pm so I can be there when he comes in.
The professor loved her the WHOLE time HE was the one who was insecure about how he would look with her that’s why he always went for the “prettier/skinnier” women it didn’t help that she was obsessed with him and aggressive with her flirting. Every time she would move on he would get jealous mostly cause he loved the attention but he also because deep down whether he knew or acknowledged that he loved her. It was really a game he enjoyed playing (watch the show again from that pov the show is completely different) but I agree Nicki should’ve moved on ALONG time ago.
Last night I was watching the Parker’s season 1 episode 15 and the professor proposed to Veronica but she turned him down and said she wasn’t ready for marriage. It was the Valentine’s Day episode
They covered a few episodes on her relationships with her father, (adopted) father, and her mother. I think it makes sense why her actions were created this way. She was an awesome friend and awesome mother. But family members and professors shows us why (agree with it or not).
To be completely fair the way she stalked that man if was hard to actually Iove her . Notice how she did that to only the professor . If she didn’t stalk and do all that he actually liked her from the jump. And not once did he body shame or judge her weight lol.
I already agree. I don't even have to watch this video to say that. He didn't want her and showed her that in every single episode that he didn't and then one day AT HER WEDDING TO SOMEONE ELSE he busted in and professed his love to her and she fell for it. He only wanted her cuz someone else wanted her
I honestly always hated how the character was portrayed…. As much as I didn’t like his treatment of her….. how many times doesn’t a person have to show you they don’t want you! I was happy when she got with the other guys and wished that she chose either of the one of them because they truly adored her and treated her like a queen!
This video is THE hard watch! The Parkers was and still is a classic, still on Tv over 20 years later! 4 minutes in and I’m gone have to bow out GRACEFULLY, I think the culture shift into the “love and hip hop” REALITY type of tv shows has ruined A LOT OF people, it’s acting, scripted, FICTION NOT really real or reality. But 🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️next I guess yall believe Countess Vaughn (Kim’s character) is really challenged.
No not even that m, first I would like to say I respect your decision to bow out gracefully because everything isn’t for everyone. I understand this was a show however many individuals made this there real life couple goals so I just wanted to explore this relationship from a realistic standpoint and give my opinion on it. If this was a real situation what are my thoughts on it and why I feel it. Shows like these are made to spark real conversations on self worth and what we deem okay in relationships and how we should progress in romantic relationships and love.
She didn't take advantage of Stanley, he took advantage of her! He used her to make himself feel better then dissed her afterward. But I agree with just about everything else you said. I loved her with Kenny & Johnny. I loved how Johnny kissed her- it really looked like love. I always wondered what the years would look like after she and Stanley got married. Did he really love her like in that dream about what Kim's life would look like married to Jerrell? Or, did he change his mind, like he'd done so many times before?
She became obsessed with the idea of having him as winning. Which is sad as well cause to think that would even be healthy for them as a couple. Sheesh this was rough just watching clips to be honest.
And can we talk about Nikki's hair and make-up throughout the series? FLAWLESS. I still want to replicate some of those top tier Y2K looks.
🌹Beautiful. Just Beautiful.💅🏿
YES she was a baddie
Dead asss always ATE! Hair make up and her outfits baby was lit
Period. She showed big girls can look good too and not just wear them ugly plus sized clothes
I was a “skinny b” back then but I loooooved her style and Countess Vaughn’s less flamboyant outfits.
Growing up watching this show as a young teenager I thought it was hilarious, but now as a grown ass adult it's a hard watch. That man kept making it perfectly clear that he didn't want her. Called her all types of names but she always heard what she wanted to just like a lot of us women do. Everytime she started to move on and take the hint the professor out of no where caught feelings. I hated that she left the other man at the alter to be with the professor. Nikki finally found a man that didn't play games with her and wanted to be around her.
She shouldn't had married him
So hard to watch as an adult that I couldn’t continue
@@niratomas579 Right? She's so creepy.
MY SAME SENTIMENTS! 1 of my favorite shows as a child but as an adult, I only love the 1st 2 seasons, even though by season 2, they drummed up her obsession, it still wasn’t as bad as the last 2 seasons! The Ending was the worst! Not only was Johnny more physically attractive but he actually loved her as opposed to Stanley
I also wanted her to tell the Professor no and marry the other guy. Professor O. Didn't like or want her but he liked the fact that she wanted him. That made him feel good. When she moved on he couldn't deal with it. And he wanted to keep someone else from having her and treating her well.
I hated the ending too.
I find it weird how people think he treated her cruelty for no reason when she literally harassed and stalked that man lol. He wasn’t even mean in the beginning, he even told her she didn’t need to do too much.
Like when she moved on the first time, he was suffering from PTSD because she would always find some way to show up. He went to a fake therapist who convinced him that his PTSD was love and he went with that because why else would he constantly think his stalker and harasser would keep harassing him.
I think it’s weird how people overlook her treatment of him. Like no she didn’t deserve any better because she was a stalker and a harasser. He deserved better than Stockholm syndrome
Thank you somebody telling the truth. there is a reason he acted that way she weaseled her way into his life. I blame the producers tho for writing them that way. Mammy Trope
I like that perspective
EXACTLY! He told her he was not interested and she stalked him repeatedly. It was embarrassing how she went after that man. But HE was at fault? I mean she was breaking into his apt and ruining his dates and everything from the first time she met him!
@@CaseWilTrus
THANK YOU! I was about to type this very thing. It's the same issue I have with fans of Family Matters where Laura gets vilified for initally rejecting Steve Urkle where he would disrespect her personal space, barge into her home, hang outside of her window, embarrass her, make unwanted passes etc. Nikki was even worse than Steve. The professor was stalked, harrased, photographed, had his mail and other personal items tampered with, had people around him that he was interested in threatened or actually harmed, assaulted, SA'd- both touched and the actual assault, lied on, had opportunities ruined for him because of her, his home broken into MULTIPLE times and the list goes on. Infact his reaction is better than most people's who would've had the police (which he tried many times) or a family member handle someone like Nikki. Just because it's played for comedy and that the stalker(s) are likeable protagonists doesn't change the fact that what they were doing were messed up crimes that if it were real life, they would've caused emotional and psychological damage to the victim(s) and probably land themselves behind bars. I agree with not having him want her when she would finally move on but in some of the instances where the plot and comedy did not rest on either extreme (either she criminally harassing him or her paying him dust) the professor did genuinely enjoy her company and respected her academic intellect.
Nikki didn't even deserve those men because she used them as place holders and she was not 100% available to them which was not fair to them.
Nikki Parker is not INNOCENT. She would sneak into that man house, pop up on his dates, throw herself all over him in public, lie to people about them being together and he CONSTANTLY on NUMEROUS OCCASIONS told her HE DID NOT WANT HER. She was obsessed with him, she was a Stalker.😂
She made a key to his apartment!!!!😮
@@DavinOdum There was one episode where she got him to inadvertently sign a marriage certificate. Sis was a bona-fide nut.
I didn’t feel bad for Nicki because a lot of great guys were in her life and she kept stalking a guy who didn’t want her. I wanted her character to end up with Kenny.
@KaliyahGriffin I'm happy that Nikki got with her man Professor Oglevee in the end because he was the only man she loved unconditionally and even though he didn't deserved her but after so many years of her stalking him and sabotaging his dates including his girlfriend Veronica and introducing people to him as her fiancee Professor Oglevee and realized that Nikki was the woman for him because she never cheated on him or rejected him
@lauracorbett4577 are you trolling 😭😭
@@16vamps no I’m not . I know this tv series I watch it every night on Netflix and I can tell that even though Stanley rejected her throughout the episodes but after her always being there for him like giving him a blood double when he needed surgery for his gallbladder and having the dean to give him his job back and saving him from when Paris Walker tried to kill him he realized that she did those things because she loved him and he was always jealous when he saw her with other men but at the end he realized that he would be making a big mistake letting her get married to Johnnie so he made his move and got with her
She didn't have unconditional love for him, she was obsessed with him. wtf is wrong with yall? neither of them was a catch😂
😂😂😂😂😂 she had lust for him lol
Facts
Lol 😆 Right
The thing that got me is that he didn't want her until the last 15 minutes of the last episode of the SERIES. He treated her like absolute garbage and to do such a roundabout because she was getting married was horrible writing. She should've told him to kick bricks and the series end with him resolving to get her back.
Moreover, it wasn't so much that he rejected her, he was CRUEL about it. He made fun of her weight, her personality, he took glee in hurting her feelings and she glossed over it all. Season 1 seemed to be the only time he was courteous and seemed to enjoy her company but it regressed into insults and rudeness as time went on. Nikki Parker deserved so much better.
Yes definitely and if I was Andell I would have never let her do it the hole last episode was poorly written. I wish she thought more of herself than to settle for someone who treated her so poorly. To add to it he wasn’t good looking at all.
And you know he only said "i gotta stop that wedding" he didn't even say that he loved her even on the last episode he was insulting her for somebody who wants to speak up over things that are wrong she should have spoke to the writers about the way they were making this character chase after somebody
@@DemandMoexhilarated Right?! I didnt care for her stalking the man n doing illegal stuff but she deserved so much better, honestly I bet if nikki wasnt a big girl Professor wouldve wanted her a lot sooner, look at how shallow he is with women. Though instead of Johnny I wouldve wanted her to stay with Kenny, he quit his playboy ways for her, She was "that one" for him. And he wouldve treated her like the queen she is
Why you acting like Nikki’s crush was innocent and he was cruel for no reason lmfao. She literally stalked abased that man. He had more than every right to be cruel to her
@@DemandMoexhilaratedshe treated him poorly lol. She was literally harassing him and couldn’t take no for an answer
What's crazy to me is how Johnny treated Nikki like a princess, but she stupidly pushed him away for the man who humiliated her, played in her face, and disrespected her numerous times each season.
POSSIBLE THEORY!!
I think in this relationship dynamic with Nikki and Oglevee, they both have self-esteem issues, of course. Ogleevee was a bigger child, who loved to eat, and was brutally bullied for it (at least from how they portrayed it in the episode ). Nikki, being a voluptuous woman, that loves food and doesn't hide it, as well as retaliating against anyone who tries her. Ogleevee looked at Nikki, like his younger self and I think lowkey envied her for her outer confidence in being big and confrontational (when needed), which caused him to say cruel and harsh things to her.
The ONLY excuse he had to explain his annoyance with her was that she was obsessed with him and his every move. Other than that, I think there is another layer to his disdain, which leads back to his inner/younger child.
@@Musicbeastful wow this is another way to look at things I never saw it this way wow😮
The episode I’m referring to is S1 E13 “Big is Beautiful”
@@Musicbeastful yes and your right he seems himself in her.
That was an excellent theory
Ohhh I like this one , very believable theory , I feel like the show needs to be written in book form now 😂
I believe Nikki Parker was wounded by her father. He easily discarded her after she got pregnant. She went from being the favorite to an outcast and had to struggle. That probably played a huge part in it.
She was a big girl, I think that’s the main if not only reason.
I came to say this, that's why she lack self esteem
Okay but also Nikki outfits!!! Kim’s too. It was rare for bigger women to have fashions and Nikki & Kim ALWAYS gave fashions. And Nikki’s hair? Laiddddddd
He liked her chasing him
Cus when she stopped he was jealous
@sacredlove-st8wt That’s great that Stanley got used to Nikki stalking him. Cuz I remember in the episode where Nikki fights out a woman in a boxing ring was throwing herself on Stanley and when Nikki walked in he said Thank God you’re still stalking me
@@lauracorbett4577 that’s true
@lauracorbett4577 I always noticed that a lot of the women Stanley dated made Nicki look like a saint, and if not for her interference, would've ended up worse.
@@humps678 Veronica had an on and off relationship like in the episode My Funny Valentine he proposed to her but she wasn't ready and every time Veronica went to Stanley's house and saw Nikki she would never give him a chance to explain the fact that there was nothing going on between him and Nikki.
@@sacredlove-st8wt I love that Stanley liked Nikki chasing him. It seems to me that every time she backed down that’s when he would start to act
I wish she woudlve stayed with Kenny, The man quit his playboy ways and went through hoops and hurdles to prove his love for her. thats him and when Stanley tried to get him to back off Kenny got in his face letting him know "you had your chance"
Loved her with Kenny
Kinda like how Steve chased Laura and she rejected him for many years and then they finally ended up together. It makes no sense 😅
I mean, you can tell in some episodes that she was starting to like Steve... they went to prom together, had a wonderful night, and kissed passionately.. they had many moments, but I wish they wouldn't have rushed it towards the end...
Wasn't that because the actress who played Myra died?
@@arleedennis791 She died way after the series ended.
@talltalllady Yeah that was awesome how relationships between Laura and Steve and Nikki and Stanley had the same chemistry where they were both rejected for years but kinda missed each other when they weren't and that's when Nikki and Steve would show up.
@talltalllady I really love how in both Family Matters and The Parkers The main characters of both shows ended up together in the end. I wish that in Family Matters at the end of the show they would have shown Steve and Laura actually getting married and having a wedding instead of Laura just confessing her love for Steve and them talking about wedding plans
The funny thing is ... guys that "don't want you" do act feel it when you move on and they do feel some sort of way. Lol
@thewrongshoes I really do love that. That a guy that you want may not want you at first but as you keep being there for them and make yourself irresistible to them then they miss you being there when you’re about to move on to someone else that’s when they start to act and feel that their life won’t be the same without you and they miss you being in their life and they get with you
@thewrongshoes I already got a man I love and he doesn’t mind me pursuing him. His name is Christian and he’s my coworker who works with me at Home Depot and I love him so much. I have dreams about him and I every night. I’m gonna do everything I can to be there for him so we’ll be together in the future
@@lauracorbett4577get some therapy
Unpopular opinion: the professor always wanted nikki. Yes she was crazy as hell and harassed him every chance she got. He loved her chasing him. How come he didn't put his foot down in the beginning? If somebody harasses me constantly I'm reporting them. Why the professor didn't report nikki harassing him? He loved the attention. Remember they did it when he was drunk but you know what they say about drunk people. Drunk people think with a sober mind. He always wanted her from the jump. But he was one of those dudes that scared to be with a fat woman publicly. You've mentioned that some big girls have low self-esteem. Well that's because society doesn't think that big girls are attractive. Yes there are men that do like big girls but let's keep it real big women are not considered sex symbols. Big girls are told to take any man that comes along no matter what. Even if we don't like him. It's like we can't have any standards.
@@misfittv313 wow everything you said is true I just sometimes think forget what society thinks about but girls you know because society comes up with all these stupid rules for everyday people to follow and I hate it. I just want people to make their own rules and do what ever there heart saids believe in yourself and love yourself. I was saying this the whole time watching this..I just Wish she loved herself more and better And your right he definitely loved the attention!!
Ohh very interesting perspective 🤔, I can see this being true . Loving the comments on this video
He said he would’ve been a bit kinder and more attracted to her if she stopped sexually harassing and stalking him. She didn’t stop so he ran
I thought it was so romantic when I was a teenager. Now that I'm an adult, she could have done so much better than Stanley
@@simplyjuannie5128 she's the one who was stalking him broken to his apartment ruined his relationships sexually assaulted him while he was drunk if this was a reverse when will have a field day
Exactly... the professor was corny anyway.
Word! It was so funny when we were teenagers…. I tried to find the funny as an adult but couldn’t! Nikki had the ability to do so much better!
@@niratomas579 the reason why Nikki kept going after the professor is because he deserved better than a girlfriend who had a on and off relationship with him which Veronica had
@@lauracorbett4577 But that’s not her place or her business. Realistically, you don’t get to stalk someone just because you feel they “deserve better.” 😂
Did I expect to ever watch a 1 hour long video about the Parkers? No.
Am I tuned in at work anyways? Yes.
Thanks sis I’m glade you enjoyed ❤️
Everytime I watched this show as a kid I always said " Why is Monique chasing this Gay man" I AVOIDED this show until now in my 20's. It hard to watch with adult eyes
Also, now it makes sense why Kim was obsessed with Hakeem. He treated Kim like dirt until she moved on in Moesha.
Chillllllllle you saying a word!!!!!
I’m in early season 3 and I hate how she didn’t pick Kenny he was so fine and sweet
He sure was, and all that for what? For a man who played in ur face for years😳smh
@@noelle2k3 And for the professor to take it back just because his therapist went to jail. If I was Nicki, I would have given him two black eyes.
Eh…being that his initial intention was to ‘conquer her’ bc she had turned him down, I dont think he was the best choice either lol. She should have married Johnny😭
@@DemandMoexhilaratedy’all really act like stalking and harassing is okay and that he should have been grateful for it
@@simplyjuannie5128he went to jail because he wasn’t a real therapist lmfao. He was a fake one
He was jealous of any man that she liked
Yep! Stanley sure was jealous of and other man that took up time with Nikki
@@eileencarter3189 yes
These are the types of videos I come on UA-cam for 😂
@@ReesePieces4096 thanks I worked really hard on it
😂😊
@@DemandMoexhilaratedyou did great girl I really enjoyed it 😄👌🏽🥰
Ma’am! Yes!! Thank you for covering this. I’ve always hated how they portrayed her character as desperate and incapable of finding love.
Nah. She stalked and harassed this man, the women he dated, and the women she THOUGHT he dated. She went too far with him too many times, and he was cool in the beginning.
He told her from the jump she didn't have to do too much, and she STILL went overboard. She broke him down, and I'm not saying he was right for "catching feelings" whenever she got into a relationship either.
I ain't mad at him for growing to be meaner and meaner to ber because she kept growing more and more obsessed with him crossing way too many boundaries. She wasn't unconditionally in love, she was criminally obsessed.
💯nice to find the ONLY one who ain’t bitter in the comments and sees with her own eyes
The reason why a lot of gorgeous plus size women appeared to have lower confidence back in that era is because we constantly tell plus size women that they shouldn’t have confidence. If they show any semblance of self love and self respect, coupled with freedom to feel sexy we act like they’re committing a crime. That’s where the low self-esteem and desperation trope came from but it was really confusing to a lot of folks watching the show because this woman is literally beautiful and intelligent. She’s got multiple, straight a student, and you cannot tell me her hair was not whipped, and she was not dressed down in every episode.
Exactly. I am a bigger woman and was a big girl during the 90s in middle and high school when Moesha and the Parkers was airing. Several cousins lived in the house with us. Everybody in the house called me fat pig. During my teen years i literally got called fat pig everyday and the adults allowed it. My self esteem was low because of it.There was no body positivity back then. Today calling people fat pig would not fly.
I hate how society has pushed this trope that you can only have standards and confidence if you have a "normal" body type, and if you're plus size, you can't have standards and should just accept whatever man or woman comes your way.
@@iammissalicia2098 I am so sorry that happened to you! I come from a family of beautiful plus sized women and I was taught about beauty and femininity from them so seeing that breaks my heart. But fat phobia was still present in our family despite the fact that everybody was. I’m still one of the smallest people in my family and I’m not thin by any means.You didn’t deserve that.
In that era? It’s still like that now. Being huge is not a flex. You can love yourself and be cute but we’re not about to promote unhealthy weight
@@iammissalicia2098 I am so sorry those people played in your face like that!!! How cruel and disgusting
She lost alot of great relationships because of the Professor. I was so mad when they got married in the series finale. I guess it was for the fans 😑
@carmellem6813 Well Stanley was the only man she loved and went after and she wouldn't settle for second best even though Stanley disrespected her every chance he got and he got jealous every time she was with other men. But just as she was about to marry someone else in the end Stanley realized that Nikki was the woman and that he would be making a huge mistake if he had let her get married so he got with her
Which means she settled for second best. She settled for the man who didnt want her. @lauracorbett4577
Finally we are talking about this one. I use to say watching the show when I was a little girl. Around 7 or 8 years old. That she needed to pick up her dignity and move on. Yet she still choose the professor. Who clearly told her he didn't want her. Up until she had moved on. Toxic and typical of a man who comes to his senses and realizes that he had a good woman but ignored her. So when she moved on he looked back and was like oh she's the one. I wanted Nikki in that moment on her wedding day to have said no to him. She needed to consider how he had done her. What he had said. I have experience this in really life first hand. My ex wanted me back now that I have moved on. I never chased him. I just closed that chapter. Now he realizes what he had and wants to come back. But he can't. Ladies never let a man disrespect you out loud. He mistreated her so bad. I would have never spoke his name again.
are we not gonna talk about her creepy antics like stalking him, remaking keys to his apartment, running off potential love interests, etc. Bffr, as a man you wouldn’t want her either😂
@@Mslee8320 I would't want Nikki if I was a man lol
We talking about the same Nikki who stalked this man to high heaven who is this sweet, loyal woman you speak of?
Both of them were toxic as fuck.
He did have a moment where he genuinely liked her. It was when so knocked him out during the working out episode.
He told her she didn’t need to do too much but she still kept doing it and he was also still with Veronica
@Sammiieso exactly that was the whole problem... but you know the show and ratings she could of been had that man lol 😂😂
It irked my nerves how on Moesha Kim Character chased Hakeem, now on The Parkers Nikki chasing after professor who was lame as’f. Ngl it hurts to be rejected but I’m not about to keep pressing a man I’m a gtfo. Couldn’t stand the last episode, I would have told the professor to kick rocks tskk 🙄
@@Lanaee1207 period like they tried so hard to push the fat girls have low self esteem narrative and I’m like nah like they was beautiful women with a lot going for themselves why they always gotta be chasing a man that don’t want them like wtf just cuz they fat don’t mean they don’t love themselves
@@DemandMoexhilarated Literally they had some bomb outfits, and hair was laid! 9/10 the man they was chasing weren’t even worth giving a Second look. Plus like you said in the video had some fine suitors coming they way interested, but still chasing a ninja who treat them like they a roach, chile.
But I think after a while, Kim laid off of Hakeem on Moesha.
Nikki was doing this for the entire series.
Hakeem was tryna get wit Kim on the parkers too at the beginning. But she was going after T
I was so irritated when he ruined her wedding.
Watching this show as an adult is cringe... It's part of the reason people think that plus size women are desperate and have low self esteem... I've been plus size nearly all my life and baby.... It's never stopped me from getting or keeping a man... and Oh, I don't text back either.. it's not just the thinner girls. 🥰😘
You were doing good until the last part 😂😂😂
@@kaelinjefferies9267 😂😂word
Speak on it 👏🏿🤣🥰
The last makes you look arrogant, lol
Maybe your personality needs work 😂
I may be one of the only people that doesnt let Nikki’s obsession ruin the show for me during my older years (not speaking to you lol its just something ive noticed in the comments when I watch a Parkers’ recap).
The Parkers was an ensemble cast so separate from the dynamic between her and the Professor, literally every one else on the show was funny as hell - Nikki by herself, Kim, Andell, T, Stevie, the Professor, Woody, etc
Yeah I liked the obsession running joke 😂 it’s a joke on a sitcom. In real life yeah that’d be terrifying but it’s not so let’s laugh
@@bobbyhill8341For a season that would be funny but they made it her whole personality through the whole show even when she had her own things going on…
-If she woulda married and then her and Oglevee had became really good friends.
-If he spent years coming to appreciate her, ‘She funny. I like her. I wanna be around her.’
*Then* him as her 2nd husband, would be appropriate.
After years of him dissin her. (He dissed her in public. In fronta other women. In fronta her family. On a boat. In a moat. On a train. In the rain) And with a sudden jealous epiphany.
She waited till her hair follicles had never been more moisturized, to jump for him. 😷
🚶🏿♂️
I’m a curvy girl myself. Maybe there are some plus sized sistas that don’t know their worth. But my dance card has always been full. Never settled, and no one should settle regardless of their weight.
Ok exactly 👏
Yes nikki hair stayed SLLLAAAYYYEEDDD❤
I actually had a favorite on the show
This was such a good analysis. I watched every single episode when I was a kid. It’s crazy what you realize as an adult that flew over your head as a kid.
I’m happy you’re talking about this, I think you’re one of the first, I haven’t seen anyone else. The season finale always left a bitter taste in my mouth, because number 1, it seemed rushed and number 2, he treated her so bad during the entire show yet every time they got together or something happened between Nikki and the Professor he would want her one day then leave her the next. It makes me think even if they’re married he’d do the same
I think the gag was funny strictly because it’s a sitcom but I hate they ended up together and if the writers wanted them together so bad they shouldn’t have waited TO THE VERY END to make that happen. I feel she should’ve married the chef or us the audience watch her go through a love triangle for at least half of the last season because the sudden realization 15mins before the ENTIRE SERIES ended was unnatural and felt weird
@@bobbyhill8341 soo true
Right I want her to be with Kenny, in my opinion
I hated that ending he married his stalker
@theclassicgamer20 I loved how they ended the show and the fact that I would call it Nikki finally got with the man she loved and had been after for so many years
I still love this show, but I do enjoy that we can look back on shows we loved as kids and see it from our adult point of view.
Nikki was a curvy, black woman obsessively chasing after a man that DID NOT want her!!!
The way she behaved (stalking him, attacking his girlfriends, breaking into his apartment many times, and not taking no for an answer) would’ve been considered outrageous if she were a man.
One thing I’ve learned is that when certain people are used to toxicity or dysfunction in their life…. Though they may hate it and complain about it, once they don’t have it anymore… they actually no longer know how to function without it.
That could’ve been the case for the professor. The second Nicki finally moved on, got engaged and didn’t want him anymore…. Suddenly he convinced himself he wanted her.
This stalking woman, who was a constant presence in his life for years, was finally gone from his life and he didn’t know what to do without her.
You were spot on!!! Stanley, deep down, loved that Nikki wanted him so bad. Any brief period where she had no interest in him, he was bothered.
Stanley getting with Nikki in the end was the best thing that happened
Absolutely tf not !!!
As he rejected her, she validated a lot of his insecurity too. Her perseverance, for a lack of better words, confirmed to him that he was wanted. The women he perused were not very interested in him. The women he dated were here and there and I think they put at the cruz that he underlying wanted her. Or at least loved the attention she gave him that the women he dated did not provide. I always looked at it as a double edge sword. They deserved each other, both insecure and unseen.
11 year old me was sick to my stomach when she chose Oglevee over Johnny. To this day I'm pissed 😂😂😂 Nikki deserved much better. Plus Johnny was fine and treated her with love and respect.
Same story line on Family matters! Laura never wanted Steve, but they both manifested who they loved..!!!!🥴
The thing with being a larger girl is a lot of times they are treated less than all throughout childhood and adolescence. They always compared to the skinnier, cousins and sisters. Also, they are not picked throughout adolescence for romantic relationships. A lot of boys be completely. Ignore the girls on them because of their size. That’s the reason why a lot of them act like this in relationships. Most of them are not raised to have high self-esteem due to having a higher weight.
@@user-dk1hv4pv3x wow thanks for this insight 😳 I never thought about this from this perspective.
I hated the ending of that show so much. Professor literally got Stockholm Syndrome and "fell in love" with her an hour before her wedding. So what was the real ending? They get in the car after their wedding and just forget everything that transpired between then over the past years? The professor just forgets all the stalking & harassment and Nikki forgets all the ways she was DIRECTLY told she was not wanted????
Honestly, you couldn’t really blame Nikki because her mother and Grandmother were the same way when they got their men. Also, when Nikki knock Stanley out and she took care of him, he did let her know that she didn’t have to push so hard. And let’s not forget the episode when that younger guy was trying to get with Nikki, he even told her that it would be inappropriate to have a relationship with one of his students. So I don’t believe it was about self-esteem, this is what she was taught all her life.
@TheMrsSoto I guess it was a thing for all the Parker women they went after men that didn’t want them but kept going after them and got with them in the end
*he downlow liked her too, but she embarrassed him cause of her weight😔*
Love how you put this video together!! So great!!
@@babygurll7 thanks so much
Off topic but I always loved Kim’s hair 👱🏾♀️
7:12 it doesn’t come from nowhere. Society constantly tells bigger women they’re ugly, they’re undeserving of love, they’re often the butt of the joke. Therefore if you’ve grown up hearing that your whole life of course you’d have low self-esteem. Often times bigger women are told they’re lucky to have somebody want them.
Nikki was insane. I didn’t get it back in the day but rewatching it, sis needed straight jacket and they even joked about the fact she was crazy. The Professor made it clear he didn’t like her fr but she wore him out basically. Nikki technically assaulted him, stalked him, controlled him, manipulated all of his circumstances, even committed fraud with his name. Then when he does cave in more so for his own ego reasons, she finally gets what she wanted but it was very much unhealthy between the two. Even Kim got over it after a while. I really don’t like how she rejected two good men who liked her for her over someone who called her a fruit loop 24/7 😂
Anybody placing blame on the professor and excusing Nikki is just as delusional as her character 😂
In an episode of the Early season he literally told her if she stopped stalking him and sexually harassing him he’d maybe entertain her. Hence why when she did stop, he paid attention. She could’ve been got her man if she calmed down and carried herself better.
One thing… The Professor did try to marry Veronica. Howeve she was too busy in her work and he realized that’s something he did t want to put up with at the time.
Neither of these people were their best selves when they were together & that's why I hate them as a couple! Stanley was mean & cruel until her undivided attention wasn't on him. Then he was jealous & spiteful! He ruined her other relationships & let other people mistreat her way too often!
Nikki was far worse imo, stalking him, breaking into his home, making copies of his keys, going through his garbage, ruining his other relationships & crossing EVERY boundary imaginable in the name of "love" when truly she was just unhealthily obsessed with the man for no real reason! It feels like in the end, they both get "rewarded" in a sense for this horrible behavior & it just sends the wrong message!
I love the Parker’s and I’ve had no one to discuss this with! So happy you made this video lol
This happens a lot in blk shows, particularly with the heavier or dark akinned friend. The proud family, the parkers, moesha, third bring it on movie, etc
Actually I don't think that Stanley played in Nikki's face. He straight up told her that he wasn't interested and he deliberately tried to stay away from her for a long time. She came on to him HARD the very first time she met him. She even got to the point where she was stalking him and as a big girl myself I was always insulted by that because the writers of this show thought that it was funny to have a beautiful big woman constantly chasing some dude who didn't even want her. And the crazy part is Monique's stand up was always about being a confident big woman who loved herself but then Nikki's character was all about making a fool out of herself for some man even though she was very strong when it came to other things going on in her life. Stanley was her weakness. I mean The Parkers was a great show and I really liked it but the way she chased that man always made me cringe. I just hated that.
When I saw this thumbnail I said “YES TALK YOUR ISH” lmfao if the Professor has one hater, I am that hater. If he has zero haters, I am gone to the upper room!
@@lukesguywalker 🤣🤣🤣 me too did cuz he did that women wrong!!
This is one of my favorite shows. I have to disagree, however. Olgevee didn’t play in her face. Nikki was a literally stalker and a (in today’s world) sexually assaulted him several times.
i just recently watched the emmy winning series, baby reindeer....looking back at the parkers, so many similarities...was nicki parker mentally unwell? she was basically stalking mr o--at home, at school, everywhere...like this is extreme mental illness
Nikki Parker and Thelma from "Amen" OMG
Yess
she was too good for the professor to be running after him all the time and i stand on that.
I don't like how her limerence and stalking was overlooked. He rejected her multimedia explicitly, and she still relentlessly pursued him. I wouldn't want my children watching this behavior at all.
Yesssss!!!!! Thank for this break down, I have been looking for a breakdown about this relationship..
12:37 I think it was her relationship with her Dad that shifted her and caused her to feel she didn’t deserve love.. Remember how she struggled for his love/affection after she got pregnant? And it doesn’t help that Nana was the same way with PopPop… and the professor. 😅😂
As a black sitcom enthusiast, I appreciate this discourse so muchhhhhh!!! Ahhh 🥰
True your home relationship sets the blueprint for future relationships to come I believe that.
As an adult I realized what a damn fool she made out of herself for this man 😂😂 clown ass behavior 😂 no man is worth everything she did for him nahhhhhh 😂 didn’t even like her until the last 3 mins of the final episode 😂
Nikki whole ensemble was lit hair outfits she always slayed she allowed her weight to determine her value
There's plenty of reasons why we bigger black women are frowned upon. From media to rejections from love interests, it's no wonder we tend to have low self-esteem. I'm at the point that I don't care what others think. I'm 35 and don't have much dating experience mostly from being sick. I hope more of us can work on loving ourselves one day.
Yeah I hated how Stanley settled for her. I think aunt del wasn't supportive in a lot of nikki's endeavors. She spoke her mind and tried to help Nikki. Wow a total betrayal of girl code, aunt drl.
Man I'd love to be with a chef. Haha
Great video essay!
R.i.p to Andelle ❤ I think she loved Nikki and tried several times to tell her friend leave that man alone he don't want but Nikki kept it going.. Sometimes as friends you can only do so much
Sex and the city and the Parker’s were really the reason I took so long to get over my ex 🤣
She didn't settle because she never had him. She is a stalker and abuser
BEEN SAYING THIS!!!!!!!!! Nikki deserved better😫
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Aww thanks😊
@@DemandMoexhilarated I love The Parkers I watch it all the time on Netflix and what I love about it is that after so many years of Nikki chasing after Professor Oglevee and sabotaging his dates he finally got with her in the end. Just like her I already got a man I love that I’m chasing after and I believe will someday love me back. His name is Christian and he works with me at Home Depot. Our chemistry is different he doesn’t mind me stalking him he loves having me around. Every time I talk to him he always puts his arms around me and he doesn’t call me psycho. He always comes to work around 1:00pm until store closing which is 10:00 pm. I’ve had my schedule changed to 10am-2pm so I can be there when he comes in.
The professor loved her the WHOLE time HE was the one who was insecure about how he would look with her that’s why he always went for the “prettier/skinnier” women it didn’t help that she was obsessed with him and aggressive with her flirting. Every time she would move on he would get jealous mostly cause he loved the attention but he also because deep down whether he knew or acknowledged that he loved her. It was really a game he enjoyed playing (watch the show again from that pov the show is completely different) but I agree Nicki should’ve moved on ALONG time ago.
Last night I was watching the Parker’s season 1 episode 15 and the professor proposed to Veronica but she turned him down and said she wasn’t ready for marriage. It was the Valentine’s Day episode
I couldn’t stand seeing her chase and swoon over him while he rejected her at every turn. So sad.
They covered a few episodes on her relationships with her father, (adopted) father, and her mother. I think it makes sense why her actions were created this way. She was an awesome friend and awesome mother. But family members and professors shows us why (agree with it or not).
To be completely fair the way she stalked that man if was hard to actually Iove her . Notice how she did that to only the professor . If she didn’t stalk and do all that he actually liked her from the jump. And not once did he body shame or judge her weight lol.
I already agree. I don't even have to watch this video to say that. He didn't want her and showed her that in every single episode that he didn't and then one day AT HER WEDDING TO SOMEONE ELSE he busted in and professed his love to her and she fell for it. He only wanted her cuz someone else wanted her
I liked the little obsession she had with him but at one point I was like girl stand up!!
I remember thinking that man wasn’t 💩 with how he treated her. But thinking back I’d someone was harassing me for years I would be rude too
Yeah now growing up I see it all different , Stanley was rude af and I hate that she settled for him🙄 Johnny was way better
I honestly always hated how the character was portrayed…. As much as I didn’t like his treatment of her….. how many times doesn’t a person have to show you they don’t want you! I was happy when she got with the other guys and wished that she chose either of the one of them because they truly adored her and treated her like a queen!
Time to rewatch the Parkers
This is your sign from the universe
Does anyone else remember the episode about professor's twin brother? It felt like a fever dream 😂😂
@@VampressoftheNIGHT 🤣🤣🤣I remember didn’t she and him get it on? Or was it just a kiss I don’t remember too well
@DemandMoexhilarated they just made out a little 😂 but then he stole her key necklace. It was the trading places episode
She just didn’t become valuable to him until somebody else wanted her
I cant believe monique played this role for so long 😂 its embarrassing girl
I will wake up out my sleep to turn this show off! The way she chased after him made me nauseated, girl move on!
Right it’s all things struggle love ❤️
She deserved better… she had a hole bunch of people around her with weird energy but she was a wonderful person
@DemandMoexhilarated She was in love with the idea of him! They relationship wouldn't of lasted cause he showed her over & over WHO HE WAS!
@@darklovely2431 very true and she kept on choosing not to believe him, like he only want you when someone else does smhh
@DemandMoexhilarated I enjoyed your content, keep going til you reach 1 mill!
@@darklovely2431 thanks soo much I appreciate you
Kenny is sooooooo fyneeee fine in 03 and fynnnnneeeeeee now!! Where is he now 😂😂 his fyneness got me 🤰
Facts I remember him from the soap opera
@@biggie_angel these new men ain’t the same 😭
100% she settled
Nikki gotta be an Aries 😂. We’re freaked out by people who like us too much and turned on by people who are a challenge 😒😮💨😂
Interesting lol
Her birthday was 4/24.
5:34 “Is this the part when you kick me out? 🥺” EW!
The weight comments were so mean
@@sacredlove-st8wt heartless
She kept rejecting guys who wanted her to chase him
Yes and when she did give those guys a chance he kept on running them off so she can chase him it’s a stupid cycle🤣
Low self esteem. Of course
Definitely
This video is THE hard watch! The Parkers was and still is a classic, still on Tv over 20 years later! 4 minutes in and I’m gone have to bow out GRACEFULLY, I think the culture shift into the “love and hip hop” REALITY type of tv shows has ruined A LOT OF people, it’s acting, scripted, FICTION NOT really real or reality. But 🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️next I guess yall believe Countess Vaughn (Kim’s character) is really challenged.
No not even that m, first I would like to say I respect your decision to bow out gracefully because everything isn’t for everyone. I understand this was a show however many individuals made this there real life couple goals so I just wanted to explore this relationship from a realistic standpoint and give my opinion on it. If this was a real situation what are my thoughts on it and why I feel it. Shows like these are made to spark real conversations on self worth and what we deem okay in relationships and how we should progress in romantic relationships and love.
@@DemandMoexhilarated 👌🏽
She didn't take advantage of Stanley, he took advantage of her! He used her to make himself feel better then dissed her afterward. But I agree with just about everything else you said. I loved her with Kenny & Johnny. I loved how Johnny kissed her- it really looked like love. I always wondered what the years would look like after she and Stanley got married. Did he really love her like in that dream about what Kim's life would look like married to Jerrell? Or, did he change his mind, like he'd done so many times before?
When you’re eager and desperate, you’ll excuse the red flags and your own red flags
Nikki didn't value herself. She literally passed up all those good men for Stanley. Smh.
She became obsessed with the idea of having him as winning.
Which is sad as well cause to think that would even be healthy for them as a couple.
Sheesh this was rough just watching clips to be honest.
This is very true but many relationships exist like this In Real life.