How to hold EYE-CONTACT
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- Опубліковано 22 чер 2024
- Sustainable eye contact = balance of sharp and soft in inner and outer energy
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TIPS:
- Breathe before and throughout the interaction
- Keep eyes sharper, face softer but conscious
- For more intensity - tilt head downwards
- For 'doe-eye' - tilt head downwards, eyes focused, with relaxed or slightly open mouth
- For sharper intensity - tilt head downwards, eyes focused, with more 'hold' on the mouth without clenching
- To be more relaxed - tilt head upwards (also easier to initially practice with)
- To be relaxed AND sharp - tilt head upwards, mouth relaxed, with focused eyes (show your emotion through your eyes)
- For comfort in the mouth - gently place your tongue at the front of the roof of mouth
- To take breaks - look away in reflection then look back, without moving the head too much
- Taking natural breaks throughout keeps it sustainable for both
- To ground and flow in conversation - set an intention before every interaction
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Eye-contact examples - / c0w2dimofsf
0:00 Introduction
0:55 Tips and Techniques
11:11 Conclusion
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My name is Ariel Niu, I create, speak, and coach on improving self and social interactions. I give examples on social cues and techniques, and I share stories on how everything and everyone is connected. Since 2018, I have been practicing using my own energy to change outer experiences and people. I love creating content about human connections, and I am grateful and excited to help those who resonate with my messages.
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TIPS:
- Breathe before and throughout the interaction
- Keep eyes sharper, face softer but conscious
- For more intensity - tilt head downwards
- For 'doe-eye' - tilt head downwards, eyes focused, with relaxed or slightly open mouth
- For sharper intensity - tilt head downwards, eyes focused, with more 'hold' on the mouth without clenching
- To be more relaxed - tilt head upwards (also easier to initially practice with)
- To be relaxed AND sharp - tilt head upwards, mouth relaxed, with focused eyes (show your emotion through your eyes)
- For comfort in the mouth - gently place your tongue at the front of the roof of mouth
- To take breaks - look away in reflection then look back, without moving the head too much
- Taking natural breaks throughout keeps it sustainable for both
- To ground and flow in conversation - set an intention before every interaction
For me,
as a guy with autism, your work is pretty awesome.
When I was in college, we were winding down the semester and my professor stopped mid lecture and told the entire class that I had the best eye contact he's ever come across. The entire semester he noticed it daily but didn't want to say anything. How I'd follow him throughout the room and it was a great quality to have.
I was embarrassed and immediately broke eye contact but in that moment, that was the only time I noticed I had eye contact with him. That was also the day I began to overthink whether I'm having too much eye contact with people. lmao
That's great! Really encouraging to the Prof!! FYI I got the same compliment and public recognition in class as well! We're buddies 😊
ngl, I enjoyed the unintentional echo effect.
Good tips here. A lot of my eye contact insecurity stems from a lack of confidence in my physical appearance.
But honestly, I doubt anyone cares (that much) or even shares such a "not positive" opinion.
"Breathe!"
Brother, is that you on the Pfp?
lol, it is.@@sundus928
Attractiveness is more in the how (energy), less in the what (appearance). And we are our own biggest critics
There have been many charisma videos for men, but not so many for women. Keep it up, you will gain many subscribers
I guess I was born naturally a genius in doing things like this. 表演型人格的特质
Thank you because I don’t know why it’s so hard for me to be honest
I don't want to be rude. But maybe you should check if you're autistic it may be the problem
ok I know... less echo next time! don't @ me lol
NO. It sounds like a Guardian Angel talking to me in my head. Feels much more interactive.
Thank you for the encouragement and feedback - I’ll take this into account while I figure this whole audio thing out lol
girl firstly you look GORGEOUS, secondly you are so comforting but also you help and inspire me to grow
as a neurodivergent person i apreaciate u so much explaining step by step this stuff and also putting them in the description, its usually stuff ppl forget to explain and i always fail to get 💝⭐️
@NiuViews I request you from the bottom of my heart to make a video on how to behave sharp in different social settings. I apologize for this second request but its very challenging for me to say no. Even when i say no softly it doesnt work and my bounderies are being crossed by people left and right. I dont have time for myself, i dont have time left at the end of the day for my personal growth which is my top priority. My growth and positive aura attracts attention from people around me, I love helping people as well, but I need to find ways to be sharp so that I can pay attention to myself for a change, heal, and grow more. I hope you understand and read this and accept this request of mine. Thank you.
this is great, much more helpful than other guides ive seen. and it feels very customizable
It like something I have to do before I go out
thankyou so much!❤
❤ thank you!!!
So good, thanks Ariel
a wonderful interview !!
Great insights! 🔥 thank you
I love your content so insightful 🥰
This is great but I have a suggestion.. allow yourself to feel something and don’t be afraid to allow others to see how you are feeling. You don’t have to hide who you are because people genuinely want to know you. Then, you won’t have to force or fake a personality.
Simply...The best❤
Thank you! I needed this
The most helpful video about eye contact ever, I swear ✨❤️
Thank you 🥹👁️👄👁️♥️
Exactly what i needed at the right time. Bless
I've been waiting so long for this video thanks you're fantastic 👌🏻
LOVED this video! Thank you! Love your style and clarity!
Okay okay okay hear me out. You explain everything so easily and amazingly omg
I really love the way that you speak about these topics because I have never thought about it before and now I can come to analyze myself of how I can relate better with other people ❤ 😊 thanks for all this videos and I hope I can contact you soon, ❤❤❤❤
Gosh you have such beautiful eyes
@NiuViews I really enjoy watching your videos and unlike other youtube videos your channel and the way you speak and the content you speak off resonates with me personally. If possible, I would like to request you to make a video which i'm struggling with and I need help to navigate myself in social settings. I have a hard time saying no to people and prioritize others needs over my own needs and happiness, I love helping others but more often than not and in most cases I find myself being taken advantage off because of my softness in responses.
I know i have to prioritize myself, and I want to do so by being sharp instead of being soft. When I am sharp, I become too sharp and feel guilty later on.......I'm having a hard time finding the right balance. I'm ususally soft which makes me an easy target for others to step on me. It makes it difficult for me to set clear bounderies and even when i do set bounderies others simply cross them and i cant do anything about it.
Could you please please please make a video about how to be sharp in social settings and how to be sharp with responses in all situations in work and study life and other social settings?
I will be immensely grateful to you if you accept my request. Thanks Ariel.
you would be so good at asmr
me: autistic [challenge accepted]
People would ask me, how do you cope with eye-contact, if you are Autistic ?! It's all about modifying your natural-state. I have the upper-hand, in terms of learning the 'backwards world', considering I am left-handed and had to learn this right-dominated world. Adapt & overcome is the only motto to get ahead in life
love this. how about when you can feel someone else's anxiety or insecurity with eye contact. what's the proper response. thanks!
Today 2 ladies left 1 star reviews at a food cart I work at because they said the food was cold, and an ice cream pastry we gave them was too hard. I usually close at 5:00 but I was feeling pretty good today and the weather was lovely so I chose to remain open a half hour later, they got there at 5:25. I always feel like every customer walks away with a smile on their faces, but I guess these 2 ladies didn't, maybe my facial expressions revealed my true desire to leave and smoke weed lol. Im usually very good with eye contact, but I am still learning, and because of that, i'll soon be able to avoid situations like these. I found this video on a good day. The women were sisters and they both chose to leave negative reviews...brutal. It's a new business so 2 one star reviews hurts the ratings quite a bit but it's ok we move on !
Can you share how to comfort someone genuinely? I always have my anxiety and so I can't express myself naturally but I do want to comfort people...how do you do it?
I think I'm a bit autistic? (never got diagnosed) because I don't like eye contact for some reasons, but I'm getting better at it and this is going to be very helpful for me.
i think you should also consider social anxiety?
Can you make a video how to be therapeutic or comfort someone genuinely? I am a nervous wreck and my anxiety gets to me so I can't express what I want naturally
I need to see your assertive but stern look
I mean , technically if I tried interacting with someone from the comment section.. it could’ve been them not me😂
Ok but what is your skincare routine?
Thanks for the video! I got in a bit of trouble with the opposite gender bc I looked at them and smiled and they smiled back but some ppl didn't like it. Then I got a bit shunned. I don't know what to do bc I got misunderstood.
How do you make sure you are not staring I over analyze this part and get paranoid I am staring or not blinking
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 👁️ *Understanding Eye Contact Basics*
- Eye contact is an intimate form of expression.
- The key to successful eye contact lies in balancing two energies: soft and gentle vs. sharp and confident.
- Awareness of both internal and external expression is crucial for effective eye contact.
01:06 🌬️ *Breathing for Centering and Grounding*
- Centering and grounding are essential for balanced energy.
- Conscious breathing is a practical tool to guide and maintain energy balance.
- Breath awareness helps in staying present during eye contact interactions.
02:05 🤐 *Blending Soft and Sharp Facial Expressions*
- Upper face sharper, lower face softer approach for a comfortable yet engaging look.
- Tension in the face affects eye contact; maintaining softness in the lower face is key.
- The importance of consciously blending facial expressions for sustained eye contact.
03:00 🔄 *Head Tilting for Intensity Control*
- Tilted head down creates more intense eye contact; suitable for intentional listening.
- Facial expressions and mouth movements influence the intensity conveyed during eye contact.
- Upward head tilt signifies more relaxed and thoughtful eye contact.
04:43 🧐 *Practicing Eye Contact Intensity*
- Practicing different intensities by adjusting facial expressions and mouth movements.
- Maintaining a balance between soft and sharp intensity during eye contact.
- Recognizing the difference between serious eye contact and awkward staring.
06:23 🤔 *Comfortable Mouth Positioning*
- Tips for keeping the mouth slightly open without appearing awkward.
- Using the tongue to prevent rigidity during extended periods of eye contact.
- Balancing moments of looking away for reflection while staying present in the conversation.
08:39 🎯 *Intentionality in Eye Contact*
- The importance of being intentional before entering an eye contact interaction.
- Tailoring eye contact based on the context (professional, social, personal) and individual intentions.
- Confidence in eye contact stems from intentional practice and self-awareness.
09:47 🔄 *Building Confidence through Practice*
- Overcoming anxieties and insecurities through active practice of eye contact.
- Realizing that confidence in eye contact is a natural and effortless outcome of consistent practice.
- Connecting confidence to self-awareness and understanding one's unique expressions.
10:27 ⚖️ *Balancing Inner and Outer Energy*
- Emphasizing the foundation of energy in social interactions and self-understanding.
- Understanding oneself to identify patterns, cycles, triggers, and traumas.
- Using one's unique expressions and energy to enhance social interactions authentically.
11:09 💬 *Invitation to Personal Coaching*
- Encouraging viewers to seek personal coaching for further guidance.
- Highlighting the role of self-understanding in smoothing social interactions.
- Closing with a reminder to view things from a new perspective when in doubt.
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Interesting content.
However, I feel like when you are truly, genuinely listening to the person talking, and really trying to understand where they are saying, then you are focused on them and not on what's happening on the upper part or the lower part of your face or how to tilt your head.
you're real mf.
I actually find it really hard to keep looking at someone’s face.. because I feel like my eyes start to wander/vibrate and can’t keep focus. I don’t know if it’s something I need to practice or it’s a confidence thing or it’s a neurological thing.
That’s why it’s a practice of soft and sharp to sustain it. Sharper in the upper and softer in the lower in general. Breathe throughout, take organic breaks by just looking away thoughtfully then look back. Confidence is an inside out energy. Stay eye level with others and know you’re worthy to do so.
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Hi. Just to know. Are you using Botox or hyaluronic acid? Sorry for the potentially uncomfortable question.
Maybe you could phrase this less directly and ask open ended questions, and also add compliments in your question... Sounds really blunt so just some thoughts bc it's an uncomfortable question
how to hold eye contact: make the choice to make eye contact
Negative effects of eye contact is being drainage by narcissistic personality syndrome and they force their bored lecture or storytelling. 😪
Too much echo and Also the mic seems like smth good for asmr (or some effect on it makes it seem so) and it feels weird making a normal video in asmr. This gives a vibe more like teaching girls how to flirt lol.
Thumbnail is absurd
How so? How do you express comfort and confidence with eye contact then? Do tell.
@@ArielNiuViews naw my bad I jus thought it was a good thumbnail
@@ArielNiuViews I think he meant absurdly beautiful, or at least I do lol.