As a funeral director who has done several disinterments, I can tell you exactly what is going on. The widower wants his wife moved so he can have the monument the way he wants and he is within his rights to do that. Understandably he wants to be there to see things through and is told no which sends up red flags. Either the cemetery and funeral director in this case did not explain the process good enough or the plaintiff misunderstood everything. It should have been explained to him that he is welcome to come and witness, however, there is always the possibility that things don’t go as planned. Burying something in the cold, wet, and heavy dirt can have negative effects. Depending on the outer burial container (burial vault) chosen at time of burial, there may be a chance it will crack or need to be broken open to let water and other elements out. If this isn’t done, the equipment may not be able to lift the container because of its added weight. This can be very traumatizing for a family to witness, but they do so knowing what could happen. During a disinterment, the company that supplied the outer burial container must be present with another one just in case something goes wrong. Something clearly did go wrong because in the video it is shown that the new container is used. By the looks of it, the outer burial container is not the greatest. The funeral director and cemetery likely knew this from looking at the records and knew there would be issues. But instead of explaining things to the widower and keeping him informed, it sounds like they just told him no, he cannot be there which made him suspicious. The cemetery, vault company, funeral director had no motive to do any harm or anything with the body, they were just trying to prevent trauma to the plaintiff. They unintentionally created more trauma by not informing him fully of the situation. This is common in the industry, families think everything is within the funeral directors control and the funeral director, not wanting the family to be traumatized by the truth, tries to fly things under the radar to protect them. It comes off as sneaky which is why the funeral profession is not always looked upon in a good way. In the end, the director wasn’t doing anything with the body or stealing jewelry or any other grave goods, they were just doing what they thought would help, and it turned out to be a bad decision. Just please remember that not everything is in the control of the funeral director. Sometimes no matter how hard we try, people still look terrible, ceremonies don’t go as planned, accidents happen, and lots of things just cannot be accommodated because it isn’t logical. Thankfully I learned early in my career that the truth needs to be spoken to the family, even if the truth hurts, because then the family can make an informed decision on what to do next.
Very nice explanation. I was thinking that the reason the cemetary said no family was because things could go wrong. I do wonder if the funeral director strongly suggested no immediate family and recommended the gentleman have someone besides family be there. Then the gentleman in his confused state took that as a direct refusal.
@@leamullett08 Paranoia or delusional thinking can also be related to trauma. It can be a trauma response to attempt to avoid dealing with the trauma itself by distracting the mind from it with delusions.
Wow, I’ve officially heard it all now. It’s either grief or old age that’s caused this man to believe the whole world is out to get him. In all honesty I can guarantee him right now that it doesn’t matter where her outer shell is whether it’s in that cemetery or that vault or here or there. She’s been gone a long time and she could care less. The only real purpose for places like these is to bring some kind of comfort for those still here waiting our turn. Whatever happens I hope the wife Rest In Peace and he finds his as well. Letting go is truly the hardest thing to do dealing with loss. Bless his heart.
Apparently he doesn't like your idea or he wouldn't be making such a fuss. He's from another generation. I feel the same as you do and would never, EVER plant a loved one in the ground. Make them nice and warm before you spread their ashes to the wind.
Well to be fair seventh day Adventists believe that when Jesus comes back corporeal forms will be reanimated. I’m not saying that’s what he is. This man obviously needs mental help
@Greg Downer It has nothing to do with having something to hide. They don't want people there freaking out, hassling them and interrupting the process. The same can be said about why they don't let family members in operating rooms. Imagine them lifting the casket out of the ground and some grief stricken relative is yelling at them to be careful the entire time, as if they're going to kill the person again. That's unnecessary drama that's easily avoidable.
@@DavidKen878 they don't want family members making a scene while they are trying to operate heavy machinery. It's a safety issue and a business efficiency thing. If the truly was so distrustful of funeral homes, he had so many other options (cremation, ecopod, etc) to minimize interacting with them.
He had probably been with her all his adult life and really wants to visit her "monument". It's his own way of grieving; it may not be our way but we have to respect his feelings.
They don't want family there likely because they don't want loved ones freaking out and interfering with the process. They don't need that hassle in the middle of that kind of job.
@@Lovinlife1234 Yes, and such incidences would be far more likely to happen with emotional family members there possibly causing a distraction. I would think some could handle and some couldn't but I can understand why they don't want to deal with family being present when they're digging up and moving their dead loved one.
Yes imagine a still grieving partner seeing his wife's casket not as gleaming and shiny as it once was. Not to mention embalming slows the process of decomp but it eventually happens. All that can be traumatic, people often think they know better than the people who do that job everyday. They may start interfering in the process, yelling, distracting, then with an open 6 foot hole someone could fall in. There are just as many shady people who could be looking to do something so they could sue the companies.
nope its bc funeral people are the very slickest. they do not bury anyone in a cemetery, they cremate everyone and resell the casket. its a known fact. the owner knew sum1 was there that is why they pulled the vehicle in his precise and exact vantage point so he could not see their trickery and debauchery. that was all FAKE ALL OF IT
I feel so sorry for this man. Unfortunately this is an issue for the elderly. It is indicative of the deterioration of the mind. Let me add...I am not speaking of his mistrust or his grief... only his lack of understanding and how he handled it. By which the aforementioned can exacerbate.
Oh for God's sake, how did you glean that from this video? Some cemetery people are a bit shady, I really didn't blame him and if he has money to burn, WTH. Do you trust everybody? If this cemetery doesn't allow family members on the grounds when this is being done is fishy in and of itself.
Your mind is deteriorating if you think that's what's going on here. He's just a dude that's grieving and probably generally suspicious in life, but it's magnified bc of the high emotions.
I think it could be a combination of things. Paranoia, grieving, and possibly a little deterioration of the mind. Either way it’s sad and I too feel bad for him :/
@@getin3949 You can't have family right there with the crew thats transferring the casket. People can lose all reason when it's there loved one. Plus heavy equipment and emotional family members can be a huge safety concern.
That was Guilt....Let's be real...Wife is GONE!!!! DEAD!!!!! She's not in that Casket!!!! That $2000. Could have been spent on Grandchildren or Given to a Pet Charity ..this Lispy Man is nuts
Plaintiff seems to be a bit paranoid, at least as far as this situation goes. I almost feel he'd also be suing the defendant if the casket were always in sight but he still couldn't prove misdoing on the part of the cemetery. And I'm not sure plaintiff would be convinced even if he exhumes the body. "It might not be her!"
Yep reminds me of my mom, she is paranoid and sometimes doesn't make any sense. There is no reasoning with her. She needs help but you could never convince her of that.
People need to realize that once your loved one is gone, they are gone it doesn’t matter where they’re at all you’re talking to is dust, I know it’s sort of insensitive to say but stuff like this drives people insane
Tis true. I am a pastor and one of the things I was taught about was to not let shady funeral homes take advantage of families with expensive coffins etc if I am involved in walking a family through it all. People understandably want to give their family member the Rolls Royce of coffins but the dead do not care. All the "air tight" functions are worthless. All coffins deteriorate over time and also no one will see it again.
If he mistrusts them so much he goes through all of THIS to try to ensure it's done as it should be, he should have just left it all well enough alone. Also doesn't make sense he left to go give someone a ride in the midst of it all. Feels a bit like he was trying to set the cemetery services up to be sued so he could make $$$.
My family in that generation always at the end of the funeral stood by to make sure that everything was complete. One member of family would always stand guard to make sure the crypt was sealed and enough dirt was on top to satisfy them it was secure. As a kid it puzzled me, did they think Granny could come back? Later on I think it had to do with making sure the corpse was not disturbed, that the jewelry and gold fillings were not stolen.
The plaintiff was so concerned about his wife's body being moved that he went off to get a friend and have breakfast at IHOP. No wonder his children wanted no part in this nonsense. Now, he wants to dig her up again? smh
This is exactly why I want to be cremated, it's clean, the ashes can be sprinkled across somewhere beautiful then be set free. I don't want my kids to worry about anything like this. ♥️
Not only can ashes get mixed up and your can get something that's not even ashes, but this issue has nothing to do with being buried. This man was just paranoid and distrustful. And this happened AFTER she was originally buried.
My whole body is going luke warm straight to the Medical School at my local University.Far more useful to help teach the next generation of Drs After 2 years cremated- no funeral costs at all.Then getting chucked into two rivers that are relevant to my life.Job done!
Either he has some info on the first cemetery that he needs to report or he's beyond paranoid. I'm thinking that he's not thinking straight after losing his wife
Plaintiff has a VALID concern. Why does the judge act like he’s being overly cautious or silly because he hired a investigator record?! With all the crap going on in the world and the disturbing stuff funeral homes do to our loved ones . I feel he was acting accordingly in addition, she should understand he was also acting out of grief . Which doesn’t let us think properly
@@DavidKen878 Generally a law is made to stop people from doing something. You don't need to have a law for something no one is doing (though I recognize laws that were never taken off the books and are no longer required exist, etc.)
It's because his actions aren't consistent. He's so worried that he hires a videographer, but then leaves in the middle of it to give someone a ride and have breakfast.
We have no idea of the exact location of where my mother and aunt are buried at (just a general idea) because the cemetery didn't write down their plot numbers. They died in the winter within two months of each other. Another funeral home got wind of the story and paid for two exhumes for us due to the cemetery lying and making up the plot numbers once the news got a hold of the story. We were allowed to be present for both and my mom and aunt were not where they said they were buried. :(
@@manthony777 - No we have not found their exact spots. When they exhumed my aunt, it was just a hole filled with water and a white "body" looking bag in there. When they exhumed for my mom, the casket wasn't the right color so that's how we knew it wasn't her. My grandmother and I sued for my mom (I'm an only child) and only got $10,000.00 each. I'd much rather know where my mom and aunt are.
@@busybeingcryssi , oh Crystal, that is so sad. I'm deeply sorry for what you've been through. I pray that your mom and aunt are resting in peace. God bless you.
This guy wasn't trying to prevent them from doing something wrong, he was trying to catch them doing something wrong so he could sue them. If he was really trying to prevent a problem he'd have the videographer stand right next to the workers in plain sight, not hide in the distance.
I disagree. That funeral home was basically holding him hostage and he fear for his deceased wife. Funeral homes are callous and many should be closed down. A funeral home that tells you you're not allowed to watch or we will refuse your requests, should be sited and reported to the Better Business Bureau.
@@sueriansean He said that only family wasn't allowed to be there so he could have had the investigator or anyone else view and record up close. Recording from a hidden location is a good way to catch someone doing something nefarious, recording right in front of them is a good way to deter it.
@@aydinsha Regardless what they said, he was under the impression that only family members were allowed therefore he could have asked anyone else do it. Maybe they would have tried to stop that person, but he didn't even try.
To anyone saying the old man is out of it or not thinking straight you have to realize the old man lost his wife and since than has been isolated thru covid. I feel for the man and hope we all can have empathy for the man.
If they won't allow him to be present while the casket is exhumed, I highly doubt they are going to allow him to, "Take a look" into the casket, I don't care if it is a different cemetery. It appears the plaintiff is stuck in the grief cycle at some point, he would be better to start shifting his energies into doing something else, perhaps in his wife's memory, and allow her to finally rest. Depending ones beliefs, this constant disturbance could be interfering with her journey, I hope his family will recognize his struggle and step in. 🕊
Did you see Doug's face at 16:51 he was speechless. If the law in his county states you can't be present at the exhumation, what makes him think that he can get her exhumed again and this time 'lift the lid' to look inside. Firstly, he's not allowed to be present, secondly if she's in a crypt they would have to open the crypt then open the casket then allow him to come over to 'take a look' and what he will see will be with him for the rest of his life because it won't be the wife he remembers, but a very dried up corpse...
Omg...I am 100% certain that the plaintiff killed his wife and is so worried that she is not in the damn crypt that he's going to keep moving the body all around the damn state just so he can keep lifting the lid to see if she's really DEAD. This whole story is so macabre and the plaintiff is so damn creepy, its not at all like he really cared about the wife per se, only cares about if she is really DEAD and BURIED to his satisfaction (or more like guilt!). Police need to re-open this case and do an autopsy on this woman!
When looking up paranoid delusion in the dictionary there is a picture of this guy. Sad that he lives in a delusion that cemeteries are scheming to keep his wife’s body. It is the height of craziness.
Sometimes when you get old, you have time to think too much and you start to get paranoid about things. It's part of dementia, you lose things, then you start to think things are stolen etc. I've worked in nursing homes, you see it with a fair amount of people with memory issues. I'm sure the grief he is feeling from losing his wife tends to weigh on his mind and he is being protective.
I thought it was about a photographer taking a shot of a doctor giving a shot to a thug who was shot after taking a shot at a club but that’s just my opinion
Just because you're an elderly doesn't mean you get to make people's lives complicated and get a pass. I've taken a lot of slack from people and told to get over it because they're "elderly NO! If you can vote, trash the youth and tell them how they're lazy, then you can handle being told off and deal with the consequences of your actions.
@@jessicamingin9618 Policies apply to customers/patients/clients too lmfao they don’t just apply to employees. If you don’t it, go somewhere else. You can make a difference between policies and laws but at the end of the day, a “who’s going to make me” attitude erodes the respect for both and pushes further towards an uncivilized society.
I couldn't imagine being that suspicious of things and/or people that I'd exhume my loved one a second time. I feel so bad for the plaintiff, he seems a little lost.
Don't be so hard on the guy. Grief can mess up the mind pretty badly. Esp. When you add in old age and paranoia. Poor guy isn't in his right mind. Lots of people trashing him in the comments. Cut him a little slack, for all we know he could be getting dementia.
I think perhaps the plaintiff was mistaken that he couldn't be there for his wife's exhumation /disinterment. The funeral home and cemetery director probably advised him that it may be too emotional for him. Usually, family members can be present for a exhumation of a loved one. I guess It's different where he lives.
JM is partially right about video taping in the delivery room. HIPPA laws are very strict. Sedated & partially sedated patients can't consent while being taped, that tape of JM giving birth could end up on UA-cam or on any social media disgruntled friends & relatives do it to each other all the time. The "no camera" rule is there to protect the patients privacy but if there is some suspicion of that facility i e rest home abuse; then by all means, i say video tape the HELL out of that place.
@@ericablige9449 HIPPA is still in effect for medical personal. Anyone can ask anyone about medical history and everyone can answer or not answer. For public health concerns that affect everyone it’s only smart to get appropriate treatments.
@@benmartinez1267 who told you that? HiPPA protects patients sensitive health information, recording a woman during child birth is considered sensitive, private health information & is definitely considered a violation of HIPPA laws. As long as that patient in in a health facility, they're protected under their privacy policies of that facility, which includes HIPPA.
@@the4cqueen148 I work with HIPAA and PHI and only healthcare workers or people who work with PHI are subject to the law. Average people are not. The only reason hospitals don’t allow recording is because of liability concerns or consent of the staff.
While I do think the plaintiff wasn't in the right in this case, I do have to admit that the cemetery having a policy that family members can't be there when they move the casket sounds shady.
David Ellis --- well hey someone has to do it. The world would be much "creepier" if nobody moved them and there were just corpses laying around everywhere.
JM saying the hospital told her that she couldn't video the birth of her children and her basically the hell I won't, helped me realize that she can be really difficult to people 😂
The defendant did nothing wrong. The plaintiff could have sent a trusted friend so he wouldn't have any doubts later. Hopefully he does not move her again and get some grief counseling.
My husband and i video taped my sisters birth of her daughter in 2001. Although they told us to turn it off when complications started. The nurses stood on the bed and were pushing down on my sisters stomach to get the baby out. We thought it was because they did not want us to have tape in case they were doing anything wrong. We were allowed to resume taping when the baby was coming out.
I DO FEEL SOOOOO SORRY FOR THE PLAINTIFF BUT IF WE'RE JUST GOING ON CONTRACT ALONE IT'S FAIR TO SAY HE BREACHED IT BY NEEDING HIM 2 1/2HRS EARLIER HE WAS BEING VERY EMPATHIC & SHOWING COMPASSION FOR HIM BY ACCOMMODATING DENNIS THE PLAINTIFF I JUST PRAY THAT HE HAS CLOSURE THAT HIS BELIVED WIFE IS IN HER FINAL RESTING PLACE BLESS HIS HEART
Why would the cemetery ever say family members cannot be at the cemetery? Especially for a casket extraction and move. Family can be there but they are told of circumstances that can arise when exuming the casket such as casket cracks, needing to remove water etc. Family cannot be close to the equipment.
So sad the grief this man has he just can't control it and say bye to his wife. So sad! I can't imagine having to say bye to my husband. I feel for this poor man, sometimes reality doesn't set in when we lose a loved one that has always been there.
I'm so use to landlord and car and loan cases...I have to admit this one was not at all expected... all I have to say is God bless his heart ❤ and I hope he finds peace and if u all Google theirs a ton of diggers that usually invade the love ones sight etc but again moral of the story this is truly love
@@thomascooper5050 Almost 80% of currently known cases of the new variant in the US are vaxxed, and some of them even boosted, per the C D C. So there goes THAT theory. (which has been proven FALSE even before the news on this new strain)
If the P.I. guy had another guy with him, why wasn't the other guy being the fence in the first place? You know, they could have been taping from two vantage points.
FYI judge most hospitals dont allow video in the delivery room and not just for liability reasons but privacy. No everyone wants their face on someone else's video including doctors and nurses.
Words are funny things, and no matter how proficient you are with the language, it's impossible to know them all. I taught a friend of mine that I had known for years about a year and a half ago, lackadaisical. He'd never heard the word before and did not know what it meant. After we had the conversation about that word, I swear I heard it like half a dozen times the next week. That's definitely more than normal. Lol
My first thought is the plaintiff would be worried of grave robbers and them trying to steal something out of the casket. There’s no reason that he shouldn’t be able to hire a videographer to tape the physical casket coming out and being put into the concrete vault and being taken somewhere else and re-put back in the ground. As for him giving someone else a ride, he should’ve made other arrangements for that and been there himself. That was very irresponsible on his part. And I also would have asked how long it took to from the time the concrete vault was being taken off the truck to the time it was being put back on the truck. To compare that with the time it took for the guys filming to move.
I suspect that this guy was clearly being so delusional that they made up a rule about family members not being there just to keep this nut from interfering with the process. I suspect that anybody else would be permitted to view the process so long as they are are outside the area of operating machinery. If I was trying to organize this job I would be worried that he would rush forward to check the coffin, maybe throw himself in the hole. I wouldn’t want him anywhere near the job.
I truly feel bad for the people that have to deal with the plaintiff on the daily! All the way down to the cashiers at the grocery stores he goes to! He seems like he mistrusts everyone and accuses of all kinds of crazy things!
Why is she entertaining a lawsuit brought my someone who is trying to film something at a cemetery where filming is clearly not allowed. Isn't this illegal? why is she talking to them about it. Probably just for variety. He's not going to get his money back.
As a funeral director who has done several disinterments, I can tell you exactly what is going on. The widower wants his wife moved so he can have the monument the way he wants and he is within his rights to do that. Understandably he wants to be there to see things through and is told no which sends up red flags. Either the cemetery and funeral director in this case did not explain the process good enough or the plaintiff misunderstood everything. It should have been explained to him that he is welcome to come and witness, however, there is always the possibility that things don’t go as planned. Burying something in the cold, wet, and heavy dirt can have negative effects. Depending on the outer burial container (burial vault) chosen at time of burial, there may be a chance it will crack or need to be broken open to let water and other elements out. If this isn’t done, the equipment may not be able to lift the container because of its added weight. This can be very traumatizing for a family to witness, but they do so knowing what could happen. During a disinterment, the company that supplied the outer burial container must be present with another one just in case something goes wrong. Something clearly did go wrong because in the video it is shown that the new container is used. By the looks of it, the outer burial container is not the greatest. The funeral director and cemetery likely knew this from looking at the records and knew there would be issues. But instead of explaining things to the widower and keeping him informed, it sounds like they just told him no, he cannot be there which made him suspicious. The cemetery, vault company, funeral director had no motive to do any harm or anything with the body, they were just trying to prevent trauma to the plaintiff. They unintentionally created more trauma by not informing him fully of the situation. This is common in the industry, families think everything is within the funeral directors control and the funeral director, not wanting the family to be traumatized by the truth, tries to fly things under the radar to protect them. It comes off as sneaky which is why the funeral profession is not always looked upon in a good way. In the end, the director wasn’t doing anything with the body or stealing jewelry or any other grave goods, they were just doing what they thought would help, and it turned out to be a bad decision. Just please remember that not everything is in the control of the funeral director. Sometimes no matter how hard we try, people still look terrible, ceremonies don’t go as planned, accidents happen, and lots of things just cannot be accommodated because it isn’t logical. Thankfully I learned early in my career that the truth needs to be spoken to the family, even if the truth hurts, because then the family can make an informed decision on what to do next.
That was interesting.
Very nice explanation. I was thinking that the reason the cemetary said no family was because things could go wrong.
I do wonder if the funeral director strongly suggested no immediate family and recommended the gentleman have someone besides family be there. Then the gentleman in his confused state took that as a direct refusal.
Very nice explanation I believe that the husband is a bit mental deficient to start with
Oh my! Imagine this case in front of Judge Judy
*”Are you on any type of medication?!”*
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Accurate 🤣🤣🤣
SO accurate
😂😂😂💯💯
The plaintiff really needs to get some grief counseling.
I was thinking the same.
Exactly. Especially when he said he might dig her up AGAIN. Let her rest.
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That and someone needs to find him loony and take over his affairs
Sounds like dementia maybe
@@leamullett08 Paranoia or delusional thinking can also be related to trauma. It can be a trauma response to attempt to avoid dealing with the trauma itself by distracting the mind from it with delusions.
Wow, I’ve officially heard it all now. It’s either grief or old age that’s caused this man to believe the whole world is out to get him. In all honesty I can guarantee him right now that it doesn’t matter where her outer shell is whether it’s in that cemetery or that vault or here or there. She’s been gone a long time and she could care less. The only real purpose for places like these is to bring some kind of comfort for those still here waiting our turn. Whatever happens I hope the wife Rest In Peace and he finds his as well. Letting go is truly the hardest thing to do dealing with loss. Bless his heart.
Well said.
Apparently he doesn't like your idea or he wouldn't be making such a fuss. He's from another generation. I feel the same as you do and would never, EVER plant a loved one in the ground. Make them nice and warm before you spread their ashes to the wind.
And I'm sure the defendant is more than happy then happy to not service him the next time go round.
Guilt...he was probably a bastard to Wife
Well to be fair seventh day Adventists believe that when Jesus comes back corporeal forms will be reanimated. I’m not saying that’s what he is. This man obviously needs mental help
He’s going to exhume her body a SECOND time just to satiate his paranoia! Absolutely insane behaviour.
@Greg Downer you see the casket at the funeral? i think he was mistaken about the rules on who could be there.
@Greg Downer It has nothing to do with having something to hide. They don't want people there freaking out, hassling them and interrupting the process. The same can be said about why they don't let family members in operating rooms. Imagine them lifting the casket out of the ground and some grief stricken relative is yelling at them to be careful the entire time, as if they're going to kill the person again. That's unnecessary drama that's easily avoidable.
@Greg Downer I agree
Grief is a painful mistress
@@DavidKen878 they don't want family members making a scene while they are trying to operate heavy machinery. It's a safety issue and a business efficiency thing. If the truly was so distrustful of funeral homes, he had so many other options (cremation, ecopod, etc) to minimize interacting with them.
This was a weird case. Plaintiff seems paranoid
SEEMS!? More like the definition of
I think he's suffering from psychosis, due to his loss.
Read my comment please
Poor guy is losing his mind, hope he finds solace and finds a hobby.
He had probably been with her all his adult life and really wants to visit her "monument". It's his own way of grieving; it may not be our way but we have to respect his feelings.
They don't want family there likely because they don't want loved ones freaking out and interfering with the process. They don't need that hassle in the middle of that kind of job.
...or in case of accidental drop of casket...and body dropping out would certainly be trauma and lawsuit...come on, funeral homes cover their bases...
@@Lovinlife1234 Yes, and such incidences would be far more likely to happen with emotional family members there possibly causing a distraction. I would think some could handle and some couldn't but I can understand why they don't want to deal with family being present when they're digging up and moving their dead loved one.
Yes imagine a still grieving partner seeing his wife's casket not as gleaming and shiny as it once was. Not to mention embalming slows the process of decomp but it eventually happens. All that can be traumatic, people often think they know better than the people who do that job everyday. They may start interfering in the process, yelling, distracting, then with an open 6 foot hole someone could fall in. There are just as many shady people who could be looking to do something so they could sue the companies.
@@honestyisadyingvirtue I think we are all correct...many reasons...
nope its bc funeral people are the very slickest. they do not bury anyone in a cemetery, they cremate everyone and resell the casket. its a known fact. the owner knew sum1 was there that is why they pulled the vehicle in his precise and exact vantage point so he could not see their trickery and debauchery. that was all FAKE ALL OF IT
Old people have so much to worry about. I hope he’s doing well today.
He seems a lil “off” to me! has nothing to do with old age
@@trafficjam. Grief makes people act and seem strange 😢 poor guy, I hope he finds the courage to seek counseling and overcome this stage of grieving.
I feel so sorry for this man. Unfortunately this is an issue for the elderly. It is indicative of the deterioration of the mind. Let me add...I am not speaking of his mistrust or his grief... only his lack of understanding and how he handled it. By which the aforementioned can exacerbate.
Oh for God's sake, how did you glean that from this video? Some cemetery people are a bit shady, I really didn't blame him and if he has money to burn, WTH. Do you trust everybody? If this cemetery doesn't allow family members on the grounds when this is being done is fishy in and of itself.
Your mind is deteriorating if you think that's what's going on here. He's just a dude that's grieving and probably generally suspicious in life, but it's magnified bc of the high emotions.
I think it could be a combination of things. Paranoia, grieving, and possibly a little deterioration of the mind. Either way it’s sad and I too feel bad for him :/
@@getin3949 You can't have family right there with the crew thats transferring the casket. People can lose all reason when it's there loved one. Plus heavy equipment and emotional family members can be a huge safety concern.
That was Guilt....Let's be real...Wife is GONE!!!! DEAD!!!!! She's not in that Casket!!!! That $2000. Could have been spent on Grandchildren or Given to a Pet Charity ..this Lispy Man is nuts
Plaintiff seems to be a bit paranoid, at least as far as this situation goes. I almost feel he'd also be suing the defendant if the casket were always in sight but he still couldn't prove misdoing on the part of the cemetery.
And I'm not sure plaintiff would be convinced even if he exhumes the body. "It might not be her!"
Sorrow is a tricky thing..
Folks do and say crazy things during that time.
Yep reminds me of my mom, she is paranoid and sometimes doesn't make any sense. There is no reasoning with her. She needs help but you could never convince her of that.
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Nothing this plaintiff says makes any sense whatsoever 😐
He's really clueless....😐
People need to realize that once your loved one is gone, they are gone it doesn’t matter where they’re at all you’re talking to is dust, I know it’s sort of insensitive to say but stuff like this drives people insane
Truth
Tis true. I am a pastor and one of the things I was taught about was to not let shady funeral homes take advantage of families with expensive coffins etc if I am involved in walking a family through it all. People understandably want to give their family member the Rolls Royce of coffins but the dead do not care. All the "air tight" functions are worthless. All coffins deteriorate over time and also no one will see it again.
Well said.
Exactly right.
Absolutely agree!!!
If he mistrusts them so much he goes through all of THIS to try to ensure it's done as it should be, he should have just left it all well enough alone. Also doesn't make sense he left to go give someone a ride in the midst of it all. Feels a bit like he was trying to set the cemetery services up to be sued so he could make $$$.
The defendants drive thru mic is fabulous
My family in that generation always at the end of the funeral stood by to make sure that everything was complete. One member of family would always stand guard to make sure the crypt was sealed and enough dirt was on top to satisfy them it was secure. As a kid it puzzled me, did they think Granny could come back? Later on I think it had to do with making sure the corpse was not disturbed, that the jewelry and gold fillings were not stolen.
The plaintiff was so concerned about his wife's body being moved that he went off to get a friend and have breakfast at IHOP. No wonder his children wanted no part in this nonsense. Now, he wants to dig her up again? smh
lmao at dougs face when said, "Just to take a quick look?!"
🤣 i caught that too
Lol I rewinded twice 😂😂😂
Judge Mathis would definitely think this guy was all cracked out....
This is exactly why I want to be cremated, it's clean, the ashes can be sprinkled across somewhere beautiful then be set free. I don't want my kids to worry about anything like this. ♥️
Great minds 💡 alike.
Not only can ashes get mixed up and your can get something that's not even ashes, but this issue has nothing to do with being buried. This man was just paranoid and distrustful. And this happened AFTER she was originally buried.
@@DavidKen878 it’s all ceremonial at that point. Who cares if it’s mixed up. If your family thinks it’s you, it’s you.
My whole body is going luke warm straight to the Medical School at my local University.Far more useful to help teach the next generation of Drs After 2 years cremated- no funeral costs at all.Then getting chucked into two rivers that are relevant to my life.Job done!
Yes!! I want the same.
He's just an old man that loves his wife. No more analysis is needed.
big facts
Amen
Indeed. Amen 🙏🏾
Either he has some info on the first cemetery that he needs to report or he's beyond paranoid. I'm thinking that he's not thinking straight after losing his wife
Poor lady's body can't even rest in peace.
its just bones. n how can a dead person REST IN PEACE. The spirit (lifeforce) is long gone.
Plaintiff suffers from paranoia.
Plaintiff has a VALID concern. Why does the judge act like he’s being overly cautious or silly because he hired a investigator record?! With all the crap going on in the world and the disturbing stuff funeral homes do to our loved ones . I feel he was acting accordingly in addition, she should understand he was also acting out of grief . Which doesn’t let us think properly
What funeral home? His wife was already buried. At that point, the funeral home was no longer involved.
Body snatching is a crime because people otherwise do it. Grave robbing is a crime because people do it.
@@tanekrune5873 It's a crime because people do it. That doesn't make any sense.
@@DavidKen878 Generally a law is made to stop people from doing something. You don't need to have a law for something no one is doing (though I recognize laws that were never taken off the books and are no longer required exist, etc.)
It's because his actions aren't consistent. He's so worried that he hires a videographer, but then leaves in the middle of it to give someone a ride and have breakfast.
I am having a Roast Beef sub with Doritos for lunch 😋
Chili cheese dogs 😁 🍴
@@Sweetee_xoxo Sounds Awesome 👌
Just polished off baked porkchops, smashed tatoes & gravy, biscuits..🍽️
Lucky. Being fat sucks. I'm on keto. Enjoy though! 😉
Roast beef with doritos.....hey ima try😂🙌buen probecho.....
Love the behind the scenes Q and A with the judges 🥰
Great verdict! This is his fault! I am truly sorry to know you lost your wife though! So sorry. He’s taking it hard!!
We have no idea of the exact location of where my mother and aunt are buried at (just a general idea) because the cemetery didn't write down their plot numbers. They died in the winter within two months of each other. Another funeral home got wind of the story and paid for two exhumes for us due to the cemetery lying and making up the plot numbers once the news got a hold of the story. We were allowed to be present for both and my mom and aunt were not where they said they were buried. :(
I’m so sorry. May they RIP. 🙏🏻
@Crystal, did they find them? Finish the story please.
@@manthony777 - No we have not found their exact spots. When they exhumed my aunt, it was just a hole filled with water and a white "body" looking bag in there. When they exhumed for my mom, the casket wasn't the right color so that's how we knew it wasn't her. My grandmother and I sued for my mom (I'm an only child) and only got $10,000.00 each. I'd much rather know where my mom and aunt are.
@@busybeingcryssi , oh Crystal, that is so sad. I'm deeply sorry for what you've been through. I pray that your mom and aunt are resting in peace. God bless you.
@@manthony777 - Thank you. I am sure that they are. It's been 23 years that my mom passed on 12/13 and it still seems like yesterday.
This guy wasn't trying to prevent them from doing something wrong, he was trying to catch them doing something wrong so he could sue them. If he was really trying to prevent a problem he'd have the videographer stand right next to the workers in plain sight, not hide in the distance.
I take it you've never dealt with a cemetery. They most like said no one is allowed to be nearby. The guy is confused.
I disagree. That funeral home was basically holding him hostage and he fear for his deceased wife. Funeral homes are callous and many should be closed down. A funeral home that tells you you're not allowed to watch or we will refuse your requests, should be sited and reported to the Better Business Bureau.
@@sueriansean He said that only family wasn't allowed to be there so he could have had the investigator or anyone else view and record up close. Recording from a hidden location is a good way to catch someone doing something nefarious, recording right in front of them is a good way to deter it.
@@aydinsha Regardless what they said, he was under the impression that only family members were allowed therefore he could have asked anyone else do it. Maybe they would have tried to stop that person, but he didn't even try.
Plaintiff looks both male & female , straight & gay, intelligent & slow, happy & sad, speaks normal & deaf.
I’m sooo f’kn confused.
That was so fun my coworker looking at me crazy because I’m 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
He also looks like a young guy playing an old man part
🤣🤣🤣🤣
I agree with the judgment. I just feel bad for the plaintiff because he clearly needs grief counseling and a good support system.
To anyone saying the old man is out of it or not thinking straight you have to realize the old man lost his wife and since than has been isolated thru covid. I feel for the man and hope we all can have empathy for the man.
That plaintiff has major trust issues…
plaintiff
@@hln573 Opps! Corrected. Thanks!
I am loving the Q + A at he end
If they won't allow him to be present while the casket is exhumed, I highly doubt they are going to allow him to, "Take a look" into the casket, I don't care if it is a different cemetery.
It appears the plaintiff is stuck in the grief cycle at some point, he would be better to start shifting his energies into doing something else, perhaps in his wife's memory, and allow her to finally rest.
Depending ones beliefs, this constant disturbance could be interfering with her journey, I hope his family will recognize his struggle and step in. 🕊
Did you see Doug's face at 16:51 he was speechless. If the law in his county states you can't be present at the exhumation, what makes him think that he can get her exhumed again and this time 'lift the lid' to look inside. Firstly, he's not allowed to be present, secondly if she's in a crypt they would have to open the crypt then open the casket then allow him to come over to 'take a look' and what he will see will be with him for the rest of his life because it won't be the wife he remembers, but a very dried up corpse...
This man is crazy paranoid.
Plaintiff looks like a very old Brad Pitt lol
He really loved his wife.
This poor man needs therapy
Omg...I am 100% certain that the plaintiff killed his wife and is so worried that she is not in the damn crypt that he's going to keep moving the body all around the damn state just so he can keep lifting the lid to see if she's really DEAD. This whole story is so macabre and the plaintiff is so damn creepy, its not at all like he really cared about the wife per se, only cares about if she is really DEAD and BURIED to his satisfaction (or more like guilt!). Police need to re-open this case and do an autopsy on this woman!
When looking up paranoid delusion in the dictionary there is a picture of this guy. Sad that he lives in a delusion that cemeteries are scheming to keep his wife’s body. It is the height of craziness.
Why does he think everyone is out to get him?
Sometimes when you get old, you have time to think too much and you start to get paranoid about things. It's part of dementia, you lose things, then you start to think things are stolen etc. I've worked in nursing homes, you see it with a fair amount of people with memory issues. I'm sure the grief he is feeling from losing his wife tends to weigh on his mind and he is being protective.
Anyone else read the title of this and assume it had to do with the covid vaccine
No, I thought he got shot shot
I did!
I thought it was about a photographer taking a shot of a doctor giving a shot to a thug who was shot after taking a shot at a club but that’s just my opinion
OMG!! Yes exactly what I thought!!😂
Gosh Judge Milian looks great. That's just natural beauty. And her teeth! I'm a little obsessed.
Just because you're an elderly doesn't mean you get to make people's lives complicated and get a pass. I've taken a lot of slack from people and told to get over it because they're "elderly NO! If you can vote, trash the youth and tell them how they're lazy, then you can handle being told off and deal with the consequences of your actions.
I hope someone loves me this much after I’m gone. 💕
The plaintiff is nuts. I'm sorry. He needs therapy to deal with the passing of his wife and paranoia .
Dementia and Grief.
Loss of Control. So 😢 sad.
Try compassion.
@@moniqueengleman873 Can't have compassion when his issues are affecting others BUSINESS. It's not dementia. He was able to converse just fine.
Judge Judy would’ve had this resolved within 45 seconds or less with the same outcome
Not JM saying to just go against a business’s policy with a “who’s gonna stop me” mindset🥴 ma’am you are supposed to be for law and order
She respects LAW.... "company policies" of companies that she is not employed/bound by, not so much.
@@jessicamingin9618 Policies apply to customers/patients/clients too lmfao they don’t just apply to employees. If you don’t it, go somewhere else. You can make a difference between policies and laws but at the end of the day, a “who’s going to make me” attitude erodes the respect for both and pushes further towards an uncivilized society.
I can't finish watching this. It's just so sad😥🦋
I dont understand why he felt they wouldnt take his wife casket from one place to another! This is really sad 😢
I couldn't imagine being that suspicious of things and/or people that I'd exhume my loved one a second time. I feel so bad for the plaintiff, he seems a little lost.
Don't be so hard on the guy. Grief can mess up the mind pretty badly. Esp. When you add in old age and paranoia. Poor guy isn't in his right mind. Lots of people trashing him in the comments. Cut him a little slack, for all we know he could be getting dementia.
I think perhaps the plaintiff was mistaken that he couldn't be there for his wife's exhumation /disinterment. The funeral home and cemetery director probably advised him that it may be too emotional for him. Usually, family members can be present for a exhumation of a loved one. I guess It's different where he lives.
Plantiff has a paranoia and persecution issues. Either this is super corrupt cemetary or plantiff has a few screws loose.
JM is partially right about video taping in the delivery room. HIPPA laws are very strict. Sedated & partially sedated patients can't consent while being taped, that tape of JM giving birth could end up on UA-cam or on any social media disgruntled friends & relatives do it to each other all the time. The "no camera" rule is there to protect the patients privacy but if there is some suspicion of that facility i e rest home abuse; then by all means, i say video tape the HELL out of that place.
HIPPA is for medical employees not patients.
HIPPA went out the window with co>id. Everybody wants to know your vax history now.
@@ericablige9449 HIPPA is still in effect for medical personal. Anyone can ask anyone about medical history and everyone can answer or not answer. For public health concerns that affect everyone it’s only smart to get appropriate treatments.
@@benmartinez1267 who told you that? HiPPA protects patients sensitive health information, recording a woman during child birth is considered sensitive, private health information & is definitely considered a violation of HIPPA laws. As long as that patient in in a health facility, they're protected under their privacy policies of that facility, which includes HIPPA.
@@the4cqueen148 I work with HIPAA and PHI and only healthcare workers or people who work with PHI are subject to the law. Average people are not. The only reason hospitals don’t allow recording is because of liability concerns or consent of the staff.
While I do think the plaintiff wasn't in the right in this case, I do have to admit that the cemetery having a policy that family members can't be there when they move the casket sounds shady.
right
Kind of a creepy job " I transfer 😬 Coffins ⚰ " 😨
I think it's creepier someone chooses to move one (as opposed to the various circumstances where you HAVE to move one).`
David Ellis --- well hey someone has to do it. The world would be much "creepier" if nobody moved them and there were just corpses laying around everywhere.
JM saying the hospital told her that she couldn't video the birth of her children and her basically the hell I won't, helped me realize that she can be really difficult to people 😂
Bless him... Gotta give him grace because loss hurts... ❤️
I feel for the plaintive, but he seems really really strange to me.
There’s something wrong with this plaintiffs mind..
The judge is so lucky that Americans LOVE Litigation or there would be no story :)
The plaintiff looks like Jordan Peele in whiteface
What does he think they want to do with his dead wife? Using a 2nd cript and/or leaving her there would cost them money. What's in it for them?
I don't understand why he thinks this...what would they have to gain from not actually moving his wife??
This man(plaintiff) doesn't trust No One!
smart man!
Feel sorry for the plaintiff but I'm glad he lost. The other man's time is worth something.
This man is losing his mind....God bless him 😬
Gives new meaning to the term RIP, leave her alone!
The defendant did nothing wrong. The plaintiff could have sent a trusted friend so he wouldn't have any doubts later. Hopefully he does not move her again and get some grief counseling.
Why does the old guy look like a Thunderbird? 😂😂🥴
What would be the motive to keep the body. What would be the upside for the cemetery? I feel for the plaintiff, I hope he can find peace.
The video of this trial is all the family needs to get power of attorney for him. Senility is scary, especially when they have no sense of it.
This plaintiff is unreasonable. With some people they're of no help at all they're just a lost cause.
We could do videos back when I had my daughter in 2001.
You had to have people permission
Phones arent the only way to video.
This guy is Nuts
My husband and i video taped my sisters birth of her daughter in 2001. Although they told us to turn it off when complications started. The nurses stood on the bed and were pushing down on my sisters stomach to get the baby out. We thought it was because they did not want us to have tape in case they were doing anything wrong. We were allowed to resume taping when the baby was coming out.
I DO FEEL SOOOOO SORRY FOR THE PLAINTIFF BUT IF WE'RE JUST GOING ON CONTRACT ALONE IT'S FAIR TO SAY HE BREACHED IT BY NEEDING HIM 2 1/2HRS EARLIER HE WAS BEING VERY EMPATHIC & SHOWING COMPASSION FOR HIM BY ACCOMMODATING DENNIS THE PLAINTIFF I JUST PRAY THAT HE HAS CLOSURE THAT HIS BELIVED WIFE IS IN HER FINAL RESTING PLACE BLESS HIS HEART
CAN YOU SPEAK UP I CAN’T HEAR YOU?
Why would the cemetery ever say family members cannot be at the cemetery? Especially for a casket extraction and move. Family can be there but they are told of circumstances that can arise when exuming the casket such as casket cracks, needing to remove water etc. Family cannot be close to the equipment.
I’m confused 🤦🏾♀️Sir if you didn’t trusted him from the get-go why didn’t you hire someone else?
So sad the grief this man has he just can't control it and say bye to his wife. So sad! I can't imagine having to say bye to my husband. I feel for this poor man, sometimes reality doesn't set in when we lose a loved one that has always been there.
I wish the judge called the funeral director. I think there’s more to this story.
We call the outer container a VAULT here.
I'm so use to landlord and car and loan cases...I have to admit this one was not at all expected... all I have to say is God bless his heart ❤ and I hope he finds peace and if u all Google theirs a ton of diggers that usually invade the love ones sight etc but again moral of the story this is truly love
Didn't think you could sue for not getting the vaccine ;)
My first thought was that it had to do with that, too!
I’d say just the opposite, another person vaccinated will never get the Rona , success!
@@thomascooper5050 you can still catch and spread rona with the vax..you do know that right?
@@thomascooper5050 Almost 80% of currently known cases of the new variant in the US are vaxxed, and some of them even boosted, per the C D C. So there goes THAT theory. (which has been proven FALSE even before the news on this new strain)
Brings a whole new meaning to Rest in Peace.....🙄.
This poor guy apparently didn't get the memo.
This is very sad.
People will sue for ANYTHING!! This guy is so paranoid! I am AMAZED these types of people make it through the world!
Man she hates her husband so much. You can see it.
How can he be sure that his wife is still in the coffin? He should have insisted that the coffin be opened.
Lol he left him speechless with his mouth opened for a sec when he hit him w/ “I might dig her back up “ answer
If the P.I. guy had another guy with him, why wasn't the other guy being the fence in the first place? You know, they could have been taping from two vantage points.
FYI judge most hospitals dont allow video in the delivery room and not just for liability reasons but privacy. No everyone wants their face on someone else's video including doctors and nurses.
After I'm gone I don't want to take up any more space on this planet.
Cremate my body , scatter my ashes and be done with it .
I'm with you!
Words are funny things, and no matter how proficient you are with the language, it's impossible to know them all. I taught a friend of mine that I had known for years about a year and a half ago, lackadaisical. He'd never heard the word before and did not know what it meant. After we had the conversation about that word, I swear I heard it like half a dozen times the next week. That's definitely more than normal. Lol
My first thought is the plaintiff would be worried of grave robbers and them trying to steal something out of the casket. There’s no reason that he shouldn’t be able to hire a videographer to tape the physical casket coming out and being put into the concrete vault and being taken somewhere else and re-put back in the ground. As for him giving someone else a ride, he should’ve made other arrangements for that and been there himself. That was very irresponsible on his part.
And I also would have asked how long it took to from the time the concrete vault was being taken off the truck to the time it was being put back on the truck. To compare that with the time it took for the guys filming to move.
I suspect that this guy was clearly being so delusional that they made up a rule about family members not being there just to keep this nut from interfering with the process. I suspect that anybody else would be permitted to view the process so long as they are are outside the area of operating machinery. If I was trying to organize this job I would be worried that he would rush forward to check the coffin, maybe throw himself in the hole. I wouldn’t want him anywhere near the job.
Well Learned something new today the real meaning behind the word Loophole thanks
I love the ending.
I truly feel bad for the people that have to deal with the plaintiff on the daily! All the way down to the cashiers at the grocery stores he goes to! He seems like he mistrusts everyone and accuses of all kinds of crazy things!
Why is she entertaining a lawsuit brought my someone who is trying to film something at a cemetery where filming is clearly not allowed. Isn't this illegal? why is she talking to them about it. Probably just for variety. He's not going to get his money back.
Defendant said he had to ask a cop to move for a better view. If it was illegal, cop would've said so.
Why is filming not allowed at a cemetery? I've never seen a no camera sign at a cemetery
There may be no filming stated in a specific cemetery but filming a cemetery is not illegal.
Get him to a home quickly.