The Honest Truth About Dating in Thailand as a Foreigner

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  • @iPaulLee
    @iPaulLee  4 місяці тому +6

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    • @DoorCam-l7y
      @DoorCam-l7y 4 місяці тому

      Do you have an email...?

  • @renee_wade
    @renee_wade 4 місяці тому +84

    The pug. I can't. 😂😂

    • @iPaulLee
      @iPaulLee  4 місяці тому +13

      Haha, she’s adorable

    • @metubenoggin07
      @metubenoggin07 4 місяці тому +1

      @@iPaulLeeShe is!

    • @uk7831
      @uk7831 4 місяці тому

      Very good information and quite right, men and women should respect each other and everything went well.

    • @kessku1484
      @kessku1484 4 місяці тому

      Pugs are awesome and hilarious 😆. If i ever have a pug, his name would be Frank😂

    • @johnlozauskas778
      @johnlozauskas778 25 днів тому

      @@kessku1484 I think a variation on Frank would be the way depending on his or her personality. Franklin, Frankie, Frankie Boy, the list is endless.

  • @metubenoggin07
    @metubenoggin07 4 місяці тому +70

    It's too bad you have dance on eggshells for simply telling the truth about Western women. Having experienced the same hostility and rejection (from very average women) that most other men can tell you about, it was amazing to learn how sweet, feminine and friendly Thai women are. Good job on making a case for reality.

    • @columbus7275
      @columbus7275 Місяць тому

      This!

    • @aliendroid1
      @aliendroid1 22 дні тому

      I saw your other comment. I found a woman in Colombia who would haven been a 8/10 in the USA but she kept saying she was an average woman. She still today she feels she is that regular girl that guys don't notice even though she is hot. Her experience in Colombia was like an average guy's experience in the west. She didn't date much though she went from living with her father to living with me, she was a virgin also. Can't beat that, I got to enjoy her youth. That's the type of woman you want to be loyal to.

    • @RobinFrost-h4v
      @RobinFrost-h4v 8 днів тому

      Western females love rejecting men almost as much as they hate being lonely. Weird, right?

  • @harleydavis3814
    @harleydavis3814 4 місяці тому +32

    I didn't catch anything you said because I was watching the pug dog being all cute, it seemed like it was listening to you talk lol. I need a pug dog in my life here lol

    • @iPaulLee
      @iPaulLee  4 місяці тому +9

      She’s the star of the show 😂

  • @randomwander6389
    @randomwander6389 4 місяці тому +16

    Thailand is great for dating , hard part is living on the country . Getting a remote job is hard , making money online alone is hard . Too much competition now a days , and you need to afford the elite visa to live there long term

    • @eddiejohnson4434
      @eddiejohnson4434 4 місяці тому

      It’s easy to live in Thailand. But they don’t need more poor foreigners, they have enough poor people already

    • @nelsonegidio6540
      @nelsonegidio6540 2 місяці тому +1

      Great for dating? Where you heard that?

    • @AnthonyThomas-o4l
      @AnthonyThomas-o4l 22 дні тому

      @@nelsonegidio6540 It is, what is your problem with dating? Usually the common denominator is YOU. I blame myself for any difficulties with dating in the West. That said the bar is MUCH lower overseas and that is a direct experience. North American women, including Canadians priced themselves out of the market. If you are over 50 forget it.

  • @vattpo
    @vattpo 4 місяці тому +12

    you're spot on about dating thai woman. They are friendly and approachable. I can't wait to move over there in a few months.

    • @ijustlike0010
      @ijustlike0010 4 місяці тому +1

      Good for you man! English teacher or something else? I'm a teacher here and I love it

    • @vattpo
      @vattpo 4 місяці тому

      I m taking early retirement, not sure what I would do yet besides drinking 😆

    • @surfingtothestars
      @surfingtothestars 4 місяці тому +1

      @@vattpo drinking can add up to lots of money without you knowing. Be careful

  • @nickgrace5363
    @nickgrace5363 4 місяці тому +26

    I have a 1 way ticket to Thailand on November 4th. I’m leaving south Florida for Thailand. 🇹🇭

    • @4lan
      @4lan 4 місяці тому

      congrats

    • @Buster-m5v
      @Buster-m5v 4 місяці тому

      I too want to leave South Florida for Thailand

    • @metubenoggin07
      @metubenoggin07 4 місяці тому +3

      @@nickgrace5363 Congratulations. I'm nearing the same move ... from Texas.

    • @nickgrace5363
      @nickgrace5363 4 місяці тому +4

      Let’s get out of here guys . Better lifestyles await us at Thailand beach’s . Maybe I’ll run into you guys someday

    • @davidpark2509
      @davidpark2509 4 місяці тому +4

      I been there 5 times in the past year and half to visit my gf. Thailand is an amazing country.

  • @themacker894
    @themacker894 4 місяці тому +12

    You have a good dog. Thai women expect that a guy will be the provider, and they lose respect for you the second you're not. They also take care of their family and if you marry them, you'll be expected to help other family members take care of elderly parents. The good news is that Thai families are very accepting, as long as you are good to their daughter. Helping them financially will be a delight. The jealousy thing is a little scary IRL. Don't date serious Thai women if you're a player - stay in the bars and have you fun with the bargirls. Twenty-nine years of experience here, and I think you have a good read on Thai women as well as Western women. Never had an American woman come over and do my dishes / clean the kitchen during a date. ;)

    • @aeroAdvocate
      @aeroAdvocate 4 місяці тому +1

      Don't date POOR Thai women, that's the key.

    • @aeroAdvocate
      @aeroAdvocate 4 місяці тому +8

      @@themacker894 don’t date, let alone marry poor girls and you’re fine. Plenty of well to do, middle class ladies with a good education in the bigger cities.

    • @nelsonegidio6540
      @nelsonegidio6540 2 місяці тому +1

      Well said,mate🤛

  • @ramboexcess4469
    @ramboexcess4469 2 місяці тому +2

    Great honest clean vid. Very insightful

  • @TheGordonFamily11
    @TheGordonFamily11 4 місяці тому +70

    I am a Thai women and this is pretty on point.

    • @iPaulLee
      @iPaulLee  4 місяці тому +18

      Thank you for making me feel like what I said wasn’t too controversial 🙌

    • @robertnick5258
      @robertnick5258 4 місяці тому +5

      I appreciate comments like this , it’s like instagrams fact checker .

    • @PurpleDoritos666
      @PurpleDoritos666 4 місяці тому

      Why don’t you like your local men? That’s sad you guys hate your own men. If you have half Thai sons are you also going to hate them?

    • @ksmithpmp
      @ksmithpmp 4 місяці тому +1

      @@TheGordonFamily11 yes, we should always believe what women say and not what they do.

    • @ontheroad5555
      @ontheroad5555 4 місяці тому +6

      @KidsandCats22 when I first went to Thailand it was exactly 20 years ago in 2004. My Thai female friend was still a college student but it was vacation time. After my tour in Thailand it ended in Phuket where she attended university. By the next morning I needed to get my laundry done. I asked security if there is a place outside the hotel I can get it done (hotels are notorious for charging by the piece). He told me next to the hotel there is a lady who does laundry. I went to see her she took the clothes then gave a price. My friend grabbed them from her. Told me she will get them clean. Unknown to me she actually went back to her dorm room and washed my clothes then brought them back later. I was surprised I told her she should not have done that. She said the woman wanted too much money (150 bahts at the time).

  • @GinJ1337
    @GinJ1337 4 місяці тому +5

    Totally agree, especially on the being honest with your intentions part. Let's not waste each others time. I state clearly in my profile that I am not interested in marriage and still get tons of dates. No point in deceiving women here.

  • @leg414
    @leg414 25 днів тому +1

    From me...An African American male..What you have said is mostly true...And a very good video for newbies and those that need basic questions answered.....Peace

    • @dariuschambliss1221
      @dariuschambliss1221 5 днів тому +1

      What makes this retirement for you? Which parts are true for you?

  • @Kushal-v8b
    @Kushal-v8b 4 місяці тому +8

    Great video 😊. Thailand is indeed best country for dating especially for simgle men

  • @vw74superbeetleconvertible66
    @vw74superbeetleconvertible66 4 місяці тому +29

    You left out, because the woman is assuming her role, YOU as a man want to do more for her, provide for her and take good care of her, as a men should. Your videos are great, keep up the good work.

    • @iPaulLee
      @iPaulLee  4 місяці тому +2

      💯

    • @ksmithpmp
      @ksmithpmp 4 місяці тому +7

      @@vw74superbeetleconvertible66 men don’t owe women a better life.

  • @KpKp-s8z
    @KpKp-s8z Місяць тому +3

    After living both in Bangkok, two cities in Nort East Thailand, from my experiences , the fabric of Thai culture and dating, Thai women are completely different.
    Thai woman outside tourist cites the majority are married or in long term relationships, there are few quality woman single and available, they may not tell you they are but eventually you will discover they are emotionally and physically involved with someone, this is,a potentially dangerous sernerio as if there Thai partner finds out there will be serious reprocussions although you were the innocent party
    However, in Bangkok, Thai women gravitate there for career and work, and most are single living alone in one of the many condos
    It is a completely different mindset. most are happy being single and are not interested,
    the ones that are have social media dating websites to select from thousands of men and are selective ,status, and wealth creation bring the critical influences for most.thai woman
    It is the changing landscape of Western influences that are changing the dynamics here

    • @freedom8974
      @freedom8974 Місяць тому +1

      True. I am good looking Thai guy lived in BKK since birth still single for5 years now. It is hard when most Thai addict to thier phone and only used datting app.when i appoach them.They think this is weird and not text back even you good looking. They in the fearful state.

  • @ElliotScottDating
    @ElliotScottDating 9 днів тому

    I am glad you made this video. You can tell you actually know Thailand unlike a lot of (I hate to say it but white Europeans) who go over to BKK and get played and you hear these horror stories of scams and losing money. They don't tell you that they went to Nana Plaza or Soi Cowboy lol. They don't tell you that they are all about the night life and try to make bar girls into wives lol. I agree with 100% of what you're saying. Everyone thinks BKK is this hookup city which yes, that does happen but in general they're still much more traditional than western countries and don't wanna waste time. Thai women want relationships and don't fetishize over the white boys as much as it's led on.

  • @aeroAdvocate
    @aeroAdvocate 4 місяці тому +12

    The best life in Thailand is single life. Especially if you have a nice dog like this one. ;-) I've been in Thailand for 12 years now, and sorry, but no, I'd never date a local. Plenty of nice Korean and Japanese women living in BKK.

    • @davidpark2509
      @davidpark2509 4 місяці тому +3

      Why not local thai women? Lol

    • @wkrp01
      @wkrp01 4 місяці тому +3

      @@davidpark2509 Every foreigner I know with a Thai girlfriend pays her a monthly allowance, and they're not bar girls (so the "average" stated at 14:25 may be a bit off).

    • @aeroAdvocate
      @aeroAdvocate 4 місяці тому +1

      @@davidpark2509 I’m not into Thais. Culturally incompatible with me and I just don’t like their personalities. Of course that’s generalizing a lot, but even those who lived and studied abroad for many years still haven’t shed their Thainess entirely. 😅

  • @daustin1025
    @daustin1025 8 днів тому

    Excellent video!

  • @jimbim4405
    @jimbim4405 26 днів тому

    Its crazy, but as a westerner who was dead set against asiatic girls all of his life, I have fallen totally and uncontrollably in love with a woman from asia for precisely the reasons you mention. Their care and attention and compassion is so sadly missing in western women. It has changed my life around.

  • @apollomoon1
    @apollomoon1 2 місяці тому +2

    I think my Thai girlfriend would enjoy this video. She rarely if ever asks for anything from me other than my love which I give her freely as she does to me. Because she is like this it’s very satisfying to help her occasionally with finances. She works hard and wants to provide for herself.
    Much of what you said seemed to fit my situation well.
    Spot on about the jealousy but why would I want anyone else?
    Good video thx

    • @Blobby33
      @Blobby33 2 місяці тому +1

      As a married woman it’s great you are supportive of your partner being as financially independent as she wants.
      Even in Canada where I am, people seem to assume I’m not financially contributing when I definitely do or if they find out I am more wealthy than my husband when we married they dislike that. Weird stuff. I cut those people off.
      I’m Asian. I wish you and your gf a blissful partnership!

    • @apollomoon1
      @apollomoon1 2 місяці тому

      @ she’s a gem. Thank you! Best 🙂

    • @metubenoggin07
      @metubenoggin07 Місяць тому +1

      ... what you said, agreed. That's the experience I've had (fortunately) with my Thai woman.

  • @GenkiStarLeaf
    @GenkiStarLeaf 4 місяці тому +2

    Considering the massive women to men ratio in Thailand, I wouldn’t even bother with dating platforms. All in all, some great content here Paul.

    • @Ryhamz
      @Ryhamz 4 місяці тому +2

      What kinds of in person events/hobby groups/etc do you enjoy in thailand?

  • @ViktorMudryiWise
    @ViktorMudryiWise 4 місяці тому +10

    Your dog stole your entire video :) So cute.

  • @jsavoni6478
    @jsavoni6478 Місяць тому +1

    I started dating a Thai women about 5 months ago. I currently still live in the states. My thai girlfriend seems to only be clingy and keep track of me when I am in Thailand. When I am in the states, she doesn't seem to worry about it.

  • @Buster-m5v
    @Buster-m5v 4 місяці тому +2

    What if you don't want to marry Paul? Tell them up front? Also about the language barrier, how have you handled it? Been studying Thai?

    • @aeroAdvocate
      @aeroAdvocate 4 місяці тому

      @@Buster-m5v only date educated girls who speak fluent english.

  • @cynthianeal9277
    @cynthianeal9277 Місяць тому

    Great video. As an American woman I identify with much of this. I spent a few years on dating sites as I am not a club person. I am successful and looking for a successful partner. Sadly, I was met by a lot of men who were married, accused me of being a gold digger. 😮. Finally met the love of my life at a free concert.

    • @metubenoggin07
      @metubenoggin07 Місяць тому

      I'm sincerely happy for you and gave you thumbs up. Now, please admit that as hard as it may be for women to find a good man, that it's 10X harder for men. If you only knew how much hostility and rejection we have to endure to finally find love.

  • @paulmjprinz
    @paulmjprinz 4 місяці тому +32

    Bash on the west. It's a dating apocalypse out here.

  • @martinhoang1723
    @martinhoang1723 4 місяці тому +1

    Bro bro - Briefly saw a snippet of your workstation at the beginning of this video. Being that you spend hours in front of the screen, I'd recommend getting some sort of laptop stand that elevates it to head level so your neck doesn't suffer later down the road. In addition to the laptop stand for elevation, perhaps get a separate full-sized keyboard so it sits under the stand for added comfort to aid in your tasks. Got to look after our digital nomad lifestyle ;) I moved to BKK last year to do short-term real estate biz and am in Thonglor area. Hope to bump into you soon brotha.

  • @anitarichardson9457
    @anitarichardson9457 28 днів тому

    What he said and explain about Thai and culture of dating it so True he knows and understands very well Thai peoples very friendly and respectful in terms of dating or try to find life partner you just have to use your judgment and your instinct and your feelings about the person you dating or looking for someone to date like he said you have many’s choice and chances to find someone of perhaps your soulmate

  • @ModifiedBelle2023
    @ModifiedBelle2023 Місяць тому

    Jeez the stalking instagrams sounds scary for you guys if you aren’t dating. Glad you found someone, but hopefully that’s not too big of an issue for others

  • @B33ond
    @B33ond 4 місяці тому +2

    Don’t tell everyone how good we have it here 🤫

  • @pmg2585
    @pmg2585 4 місяці тому +5

    What do Thai women think of Black and South Asian men?

    • @J.Shabazz
      @J.Shabazz 4 місяці тому +1

      Zoom to Thailand, so Yeah you Good

    • @surfingtothestars
      @surfingtothestars 4 місяці тому +3

      if you are a foreigner and have money you're good lol

    • @ael4n
      @ael4n 4 місяці тому +2

      If I'm going to be brutally honest.. South Asian men are probably among the bottom of the list of desired men in Thailand and they(and to some extent, Middle-Eastern men) have a bit of a low reputation here. But! Nothing that can't be overcome. Might need a bit more work, but I believe as long as they can prove that they are nothing like the stereotype, they will be good. I have no idea when it comes to black men.

    • @J.Shabazz
      @J.Shabazz 4 місяці тому +1

      @@ael4n Its too many black men in Thailand that talking about their relationship with Thai Women. When Men ask about race and if a woman wants their race, they are mostly insecure. TOO MANY BLACK UA-camrs who are in Thailand and in a relationship.

    • @MrDobberdude
      @MrDobberdude 4 місяці тому +1

      $$$ and you good

  • @villagefarang
    @villagefarang 4 місяці тому +5

    You are still new Paul and your opinions will no doubt continue to evolve over time and you are surely influenced by the woman in you life. Everyone is influenced by the people they meet here in Thailand and usually that is a very small subset of people who speak English and make their living off foreigners. With over 70 million people here and tens of millions of visitors there is every type of person you can imagine. The only question is whether you can find your group here. Personally I prefer sports, gyms, classes, groups and organizations over online, clubs, bars and shopping areas. My only advice to anyone is take it slow, learn the language and don't fall victim of your own ego. If you are a 2 don't believe that you have miraculously turned into a 10 overnight.

    • @metubenoggin07
      @metubenoggin07 Місяць тому +1

      Agreed. But damn, I'm a little better than a "2"! 😆

  • @huey8431
    @huey8431 3 місяці тому

    Great insightful discussion of your observations and experiences. I will definitely be visiting Thailand soon.

  • @thomashayden2609
    @thomashayden2609 Місяць тому

    Great video. Sounds like you’re living your best life.

  • @Xarq777
    @Xarq777 27 днів тому

    Great video Paul. Was wondering do you speak Thai fluently ?

  • @lazzi2462
    @lazzi2462 4 місяці тому +2

    Do you have experience anywhere else in Thailand other than Bangkok? I'm going to Chiang Mai & Krabi soon for my first time in Thailand, and I'm trying to figure out how to meet women over there. Nothing serious, but just looking for people to hang out with, have fun, party, & meet new people. What are the hotspots in Chiang Mai? Bars/clubs, things to do, restaurants, etc? For Krabi, I'm assuming it's just resorts & stuff, so I'm guessing the only potential there are just other tourist.

    • @davidpark2509
      @davidpark2509 4 місяці тому

      Krabi is nice. I visited not too long ago. Really nice scenery landscape. Close to many different beaches and islands to visit. Fyi They do have alot of halal food bc there is more of Muslim population the further south you go in thailand.

    • @lazzi2462
      @lazzi2462 4 місяці тому

      @@davidpark2509 Ouuu, that's nice to hear. I love Halal food. Thank you!

  • @Hubie468
    @Hubie468 2 місяці тому

    That dog is the cutest dog. It’s killing me.

  • @JS-kb7ml
    @JS-kb7ml 4 місяці тому +4

    Great video Paul!
    I understand in Thailand, it’s a culture where the girl expects the boyfriend to take care of them.
    However, what’s your opinion if a Thai girlfriend asks or expect you to help pay for too many things? I.e. bills, items, etc

    • @iPaulLee
      @iPaulLee  4 місяці тому +15

      I think Thai women expect men to pay for bills (if you’re living together), and food and dates etc. But I think it’s a red flag if they constantly ask for expensive lifestyle, gifts, and allowances (like a sugar baby).

    • @svenw.6918
      @svenw.6918 4 місяці тому +10

      Keep your wallet closed for 6-12 months. A decent Thai lady will never ask for expensive things.

    • @JS-kb7ml
      @JS-kb7ml 4 місяці тому

      @@svenw.6918thanks for the advice 🙏

    • @JS-kb7ml
      @JS-kb7ml 4 місяці тому +1

      @@iPaulLeethank you Paul

    • @kevinp8108
      @kevinp8108 4 місяці тому +10

      Unless you and your girlfriend are engaged to be married, do not support her financially! If you do, there is a chance that both of you could end the relationship but you will not get your money back! Gifts of money at your own will is OK but if it becomes a condition of your relationship then get out!

  • @sk84hbi337ixcjuewn
    @sk84hbi337ixcjuewn 4 місяці тому +7

    I also don"t get it why many foreigners looking for true love keep hitting on bar girls.

    • @ericjames7819
      @ericjames7819 4 місяці тому +9

      Lowest hanging fruit.

    • @PurpleDoritos666
      @PurpleDoritos666 4 місяці тому +2

      Because the educated Thai girls have higher standards 😂

    • @iPaulLee
      @iPaulLee  4 місяці тому +3

      Easily accessible validation

    • @cooliipie
      @cooliipie 4 місяці тому +3

      I'm a foreigner and have never been to a bar

    • @SoundMind.
      @SoundMind. 4 місяці тому

      Path of least resistance, the odds of getting a Hi-So Thai woman is slim to none they rarely ever deal with foreigners they don’t have an incentive to they are very closed off and have their own social group

  • @LeoInAsien
    @LeoInAsien 4 місяці тому +1

    Great video, I agree with everything I would say. Never had a girl wanting me just for money and yes, they want a relationship quickly😅

  • @makeyourlifeeasier5794
    @makeyourlifeeasier5794 2 місяці тому

    Very good, accurate video. I love your assistant in the back...

  • @dzllz
    @dzllz 4 місяці тому

    Great vid!

  • @KpKp-s8z
    @KpKp-s8z Місяць тому +1

    After living in Issan for four years and having dated four Thai women, all had employment, but unfortunately, I had to end all four relationships as all four asked for financial support, which I refused . these were not ex bar girls, but local ladies all above 35 years old and working in office or retail,
    It does not matter if you're in Pattaya or issan the name of the game is extraction of money from a farlang. They have no reason to date a farlang as culturally, and nor being socially acceptable among thre family, not on their agenda
    There are exceptions, but a rare breed in finding a genuine Thai lady who is looking for a relationship that is not revolved around money

  • @StanShimkus
    @StanShimkus 4 місяці тому

    Great vid ... Love your style & Channel.

  • @fruitloops3718
    @fruitloops3718 4 місяці тому +2

    If you date a woman properly in the west, you will find they typically want to be the girlfriend after 2 months, and yes, they do fall in love more slowly. The above mentioned all depends upon if she's looking for a relationship and she has a good history and background. This means it's like finding a needle in a haystack. Thailand it is.😅😂😅

    • @metubenoggin07
      @metubenoggin07 Місяць тому

      I would say there's FAR more needles to be found in the Thailand haystack than in the US. Nearly every woman I've found in the US to be both attractive and possessing a friendly demeanor was - *surprise* - married.

  • @MaximusMerideus
    @MaximusMerideus 4 місяці тому +5

    I have only 1 thing to say about this really well made video- The pug is awesome.

  • @tommyflorida9204
    @tommyflorida9204 Місяць тому +1

    The pug is saying: no Thai gf is gonna replace me. Don't you dare!

  • @lifewithcapital
    @lifewithcapital 4 місяці тому

    Spot on great work 👍🏾

  • @tango12341234
    @tango12341234 19 днів тому

    @PaulLee Hey Paul do you recommend Chang Mai instead of Bangkok if you are looking for something serious. I’m slightly above attractive facially, good body and fairly charismatic with a good remote job but I want to start a family not looking for flings.

    • @davidhaylett1810
      @davidhaylett1810 10 днів тому

      Chiangmai no good as they burn crops for 3 months per year with terrible air quality. For long term stay in Bangkok as more choice of girls

  • @DavidC-zg7tm
    @DavidC-zg7tm Місяць тому

    Nothing new under the sun go where you’re treated best!!! 🍻💫😊

  • @one-more-land
    @one-more-land 4 місяці тому

    on another note brother: how long have you been living in Thailand?

  • @ChengCha-x5x
    @ChengCha-x5x 26 днів тому

    Do u have to pay for those dating app?

  • @kalyasiri
    @kalyasiri 4 місяці тому +7

    Not all thai women are open minded... Some are quite conservative .and religious.....I suggest don't looking for a woman working in bar ...

    • @harryjankovic9481
      @harryjankovic9481 4 місяці тому

      Lots of normal girls drink and party with their friends. At normal bars and clubs of course, not bar girl bars haha

    • @kalyasiri
      @kalyasiri 4 місяці тому

      @@harryjankovic9481 true..I mean don't looking for bar girls...they only drained your money

  • @altec861
    @altec861 4 місяці тому +1

    So not all foreign men just a particular type .How does that differ from any other country.

  • @achuang582
    @achuang582 2 дні тому

    Of course, among NON- East Asian guys & NON- Southeast Asian guys, white Western men are the most attractive to East Asian and Southeast Asian women. There is no doubt about this fact.
    However, let's analyze some notable points as follows:
    In the Southeast Asian region, there are clear reasons why white Western men come to the Philippines and even Thailand the most to seek out and interact with local women:
    Philippines: This is the country with the strongest influence of Western culture in Southeast Asia, and also the country with the most mixed Western blood in the region.
    Thailand: White Western men can still attract dark-skinned Thai girls here, although it is much more difficult for them to attract fair-skinned Thai girls.
    Other countries:
    Vietnam: The most beautiful and fairest-skinned women in the region, so naturally, they have the highest standards for choosing men in the region (most women here prefer local men and East Asian men).
    Cambodia: Still poor, though increasingly attracting white Western men.
    Laos: There is little influence due to its large area, sparse population, and lack of coastline.
    Indonesia, Malaysia, Brunei: These countries are Muslim with very closed-off cultural lifestyles, and women do not have much freedom to display their beauty.
    Singapore: Too upscale for average or lower-level white Western men to reach (just like in East Asian countries).
    Myanmar: A large country with a large population, but ongoing wars and violence make it unsafe.
    Timor-Leste: Too small, with too little influence.

  • @dhruvj.5412
    @dhruvj.5412 7 днів тому

    Great video man. I've been here for a couple months now and I'm trying to figure out how to move here. I'm curious how Indian guys do in the dating people here, there seems to be some poor attitudes towards Indian men, and I don't blame them based on some of the stories I've heard.

  • @WethenorthBacani
    @WethenorthBacani 2 місяці тому

    What about friends? How you find real friends there?

  • @alexandertraveler510
    @alexandertraveler510 4 місяці тому

    correction for first sentence: add for men (not for women)

  • @John-d5k7c
    @John-d5k7c 2 місяці тому

    What about AGE GAP?? I’m in New York, slim clean, don’t drink, retired 60’s. Was thinking of Philippines BUT prefer infrastructure in Thailand,

    • @metubenoggin07
      @metubenoggin07 Місяць тому

      John -- I'm in the same boat. I'll be 64 in the Spring, workout daily, failed miserably in the US, succeeded in Thailand by finding a sweet, humble, feminine and VERY loving woman in Thailand (I love the Philippines too). She's almost 20 years younger and it's not remotely "a thing".

  • @Cyrus992
    @Cyrus992 4 місяці тому +1

    Is it good for Iranian American men?

    • @vindiesel5466
      @vindiesel5466 3 місяці тому

      You got money?

    • @Cyrus992
      @Cyrus992 3 місяці тому

      @@vindiesel5466 yup

    • @vindiesel5466
      @vindiesel5466 3 місяці тому

      @@Cyrus992 Then its good for Iranian American men!
      Philipinnes the same

    • @Cyrus992
      @Cyrus992 3 місяці тому +1

      @@vindiesel5466 I have met Iranians who used the Love Me Foreign Affair service and they were amazed

    • @Cyrus992
      @Cyrus992 3 місяці тому

      @@vindiesel5466 Is it the easiest place to pick up? If so, which part?

  • @stefanofazio9089
    @stefanofazio9089 2 місяці тому

    Dating is the best in Thailand as long as it's not Bangkok or Pattaya or tourist areas

    • @metubenoggin07
      @metubenoggin07 Місяць тому

      Agreed. Sort of. I found a great, humble, sweet woman who happens to live in Bankok.

  • @johnj.todora4128
    @johnj.todora4128 4 місяці тому

    The 8:00 mark is the best perspective actually. I have lived in Asia for 8 years and you hit it on the head. I have had women I have dated clean my house in the morning while I am sleeping or in the shower.
    They "nest" quickly. But I find it's less contrived and more reactionary for them.
    Or, my condo is a mess. 😂

    • @eddiejohnson4434
      @eddiejohnson4434 4 місяці тому

      This happens to a lesser extent in Mexico too. I was surprised a girl did my dishes but she wasn’t trying to impress me

  • @victorhicks1962
    @victorhicks1962 4 місяці тому

    Thanks. A very good video. Love the pup

  • @theprimebay
    @theprimebay 2 місяці тому

    I love your perspective! I prefer more Korean, Chinese, and Japanese.. or western girls 😊

  • @rigilchrist
    @rigilchrist 21 день тому

    What about language - is English spoken by many women?

  • @CasperHanma
    @CasperHanma 4 місяці тому +4

    If you count Kathoey (LB) there is even higher ratio hahaha

  • @achuang582
    @achuang582 2 дні тому

    Of course, East & Southeast Asian girls always prefer YOUNG & fit guys
    Old/Fat guys (regardless of race) almost always have to pay the amount of money to intimate with girls
    Note: how much the money paid depending on the beauty levels of the girls.

  • @Aidenstravels
    @Aidenstravels 4 місяці тому

    What about the language barrier? I heard its not easy with the English in Thailand compared to the Philippines

  • @SanSaeteurn
    @SanSaeteurn 4 місяці тому

    What’s up Paul been watching your channel and Forest’s channel for a while as I plan to move to South East Asia and leave America. I was wondering if most foreigners adapt to Asian/Thai culture or do they bring western culture along with them ? Have heard some stories regarding foreigners being either rude or entitled ?

  • @Blobby33
    @Blobby33 2 місяці тому +1

    What about dating as a foreigner woman? I guess not really your area of expertise lol.

  • @ChengCha-x5x
    @ChengCha-x5x 26 днів тому

    Can u trust your girl with your money? What if she take your money and run away?

  • @John-d5k7c
    @John-d5k7c 2 місяці тому

    I’ve watched many videos from Philippines where there is a large age gap and these older retired men are very happily married to a much younger woman, it that only a thing in the Philippines?? Do us retired guys able to get a younger Thai woman there in Bangkok ?? I keep asking and never get an answer?? I’m on the wire of which place to move to as a retired man from N.Y. Philippines or Thailand, because one thing I like better in Thailand is the infrastructure, but
    Really want a good woman and a peaceful life??? So what do you think????

    • @iPaulLee
      @iPaulLee  2 місяці тому +1

      There is also a large gap between ages in dating in Philippines as well. It just depends on the type of girl. I’d say Thailand offers everything Philippines can, but is more developed

    • @metubenoggin07
      @metubenoggin07 Місяць тому +1

      I agree with Mr. Lee. I'm 64 and though I was massively humbled in the West, I've found a great (younger) Thai woman. The thing is, don't let your ego get out of whack from all the attention you'll get, be a gentleman, and it's nearly a "sure thing" you'll find what you're looking for.

  • @RingoSG
    @RingoSG 4 місяці тому +1

    Eastern asians also favored in some part of latin america 🎉🎉

  • @KennethMorris-b5l
    @KennethMorris-b5l 2 місяці тому

    Straight and honest ok I’m booking a flight

    • @metubenoggin07
      @metubenoggin07 Місяць тому

      Best money you've ever spent. Do it.

  • @diongongora3053
    @diongongora3053 2 місяці тому

    Hey bro is khon different from thai?

  • @mosqutio88
    @mosqutio88 4 місяці тому +10

    Thank you, Paul, for sharing your experiences. I also concur that dating in Thailand is much better than dating in the US. I also prefer not to date Westernized women, including Westernized Asian women, because I prefer feminine women who enjoy learning responsibilities and desire a family. ✌️

    • @metubenoggin07
      @metubenoggin07 Місяць тому

      I agree with you, but that's like saying I agree the sky is blue! Western culture has poisoned women and both men and women are suffering the consequences.

  • @KINGOTHL
    @KINGOTHL 2 місяці тому

    Great video...

  • @bobgoodi-jd4dx
    @bobgoodi-jd4dx 4 місяці тому +6

    You damn right Thailand is a dating heaven for everyone, to be honest now

  • @chinobonito30
    @chinobonito30 4 місяці тому +2

    foreign (mostly white) men have been going to thailnd for 40-50 years. no one really dates in the west these days.

    • @camels9654
      @camels9654 4 місяці тому +2

      I'm in Canada and the adult female obesity rate is 80%+. Basically after 30 all the women are obese. We have little options in the west.

    • @chinobonito30
      @chinobonito30 4 місяці тому

      lol

    • @metubenoggin07
      @metubenoggin07 Місяць тому

      @@chinobonito30 Nice to see you get a chuckle out of our misery. 😆

  • @anitarichardson9457
    @anitarichardson9457 28 днів тому

    He pretty much on point

  • @anthonykreis5214
    @anthonykreis5214 4 місяці тому

    Do some more videos on pet friendly…. Not necessarily condos that allow pets but are there condos we’re pets can socialize..ie dog park or doggy daycare on site ect... Is there dog parks in the area. The one park you took your dog to was cool. Is that all there is? My only hesitation in moving out there is having a small dog that likes to socialize.
    Thanks

    • @Vonsat
      @Vonsat 3 місяці тому

      Now Thailand is becoming very pet-friendly. Now, you can even bring dogs into most shopping malls if they are in a stroller.

  • @acrpthailand3843
    @acrpthailand3843 4 місяці тому

    Cutie doggie is listentening to his dad.😊

  • @LifeWithRilla
    @LifeWithRilla 4 місяці тому +9

    I think you should make a video about the red flags to look out for. Because, you gave suggestions that can lead men to run into a lot of trouble with dating Thai women. If you dated enough in Thailand then you know there is a high probability of meeting bar girls and freelancers who are on these apps hustling. While you mentioned some red flags, I don’t think you mentioned enough. I wouldn’t recommend dating on Tinder because depending on where you are aka Pattaya majority of the women there are going to be bar girls and freelancers on that app. Even in Bangkok there are a portion of women who are involved in all of that and men should be aware it’s not all sunshine and rainbows as you make it out to seem, likely not intentionally, I get that. But, it should be brought up and men should err on the side of caution & have their guard up until they figure out what kind of women they’re dealing with. Most of the women on those Facebook groups sharing men who they’re dating also tend to be freelancers and bar girls or they know a lot of those girls. It’s mostly used to communicate about those men as clients to those women. I’ve seen plenty of convos from those groups and that should be a red flag if the woman you’re dealing with is in there.
    This is why I personally prefer Filipinas but everybody is entitled to their own preferences I suppose.

    • @villagefarang
      @villagefarang 4 місяці тому +1

      There are a multitude of red flag videos already and they don't seem to help. Besides the more you focus on what can go wrong the more likely something will go wrong.

    • @LifeWithRilla
      @LifeWithRilla 4 місяці тому

      @@villagefarang the more you ignorantly date as if nothing will go wrong the more likely something will go wrong. That mindset is the exact mindset old white men have then they end up in love and being taken advantage of by bar girls lmao

    • @LifeWithRilla
      @LifeWithRilla 4 місяці тому

      @@villagefarang Because a 20/30 something has genuine interest in a 60+ year buddy, sure 😂

    • @villagefarang
      @villagefarang 4 місяці тому +2

      @@LifeWithRilla I know couples with a 30 year age gap that have been together a very long time. Personally, my wife is 20 years younger than I am and we have been together for 27 years. You won’t find a more loving and compatible couple than us.

    • @LifeWithRilla
      @LifeWithRilla 4 місяці тому

      @@villagefarang sure

  • @paulwest7459
    @paulwest7459 4 місяці тому +3

    100% agree. Did you mention Thai Cupid & Thai Friendly? I met several wonderful women on these sites including my amazing girlfriend...who is sooo jealous as you described, but I still love her! 😂 BTW, you and I have several things in common...we have the same name, live in the same district (Thonglor), we're from the same State (Georgia) and of course we both love Thailand! Great channel. Keep up the good work! 👍

  • @dimplypaprika7693
    @dimplypaprika7693 4 місяці тому +5

    First off, let me just say that I think you hurt a lot of woke westerner's feelings here -- at least I hope so! Secondly, this sounds so great to my western ears. I am from California and have sworn off dating here, this makes me feel that maybe dating could still be an option, just need to fish in a different pond. Thank you!

  • @tonydevos
    @tonydevos 4 місяці тому +2

    why would you say women are traditional and yet they generally reject thai men and prefer western men? don't western men, relative to thai men, represent modernity?

    • @SoundMind.
      @SoundMind. 4 місяці тому +2

      They aren’t actually traditional 9/10 they were rejected by the local men for various reasons and now are going after foreigners

    • @eddiejohnson4434
      @eddiejohnson4434 4 місяці тому

      Maybe he should say “more traditional”. Western men have money. And traditionally that’s been more important than most other things to a woman

    • @metubenoggin07
      @metubenoggin07 Місяць тому

      @@SoundMind. Rejected, maybe, yes ... but also, treated like crap by local men. Nobody's innocent.

    • @metubenoggin07
      @metubenoggin07 Місяць тому

      Maybe because I'm old and I remember a time when women loved men as men love them, but I'm Western and yep, traditional. This means I have certain demands of the woman I'm with ... and I understand and deliver on the demands placed on me.

  • @Lazybughonestly
    @Lazybughonestly 4 місяці тому

    What about am American women moving there permanently? I feel like I’ll just come across temporarily living there - people.

  • @RicsBag
    @RicsBag 4 місяці тому

    😮... Nice video ❤

  • @villagefarang
    @villagefarang 4 місяці тому +1

    It is hard to generalize when it comes to dating. It depends on age, looks, personality, confidence and where you hangout. What worked for me during my 20 single years in Bangkok wouldn't work for someone else. There are just too many variables.

    • @eddiejohnson4434
      @eddiejohnson4434 4 місяці тому +1

      It’s easy to generalize because we look in general. The factors don’t all carry the same weight and you control for them. That’s how comparison and generalization it works.

    • @metubenoggin07
      @metubenoggin07 4 місяці тому

      @@villagefarang Generalizations have merit -- high school dropouts occasionally become millionaires, but generally speaking, most millionaires are well educated. In that vein, some Western women are approachable, feminine and worth pursuing. But as a rule, Thai women are MUCH more worthy.

  • @Vonsat
    @Vonsat 3 місяці тому

    Your dog....OMG she is so cute and funny😆🥰

  • @janeadams1627
    @janeadams1627 4 місяці тому

    Can we meetup in Thailand

    • @metubenoggin07
      @metubenoggin07 Місяць тому

      Wow! His woman might go from sweet to savage in a hot second though.

  • @讙
    @讙 4 місяці тому

    what if i was some south indian who knows thai? what if i speak english, but in an american accent (as a south indian)?

    • @Cubes-3
      @Cubes-3 3 місяці тому

      Problem is going to be your profile photo. When chatting online or in person then you can accepted as not fitting the stereotype.

    • @metubenoggin07
      @metubenoggin07 Місяць тому

      Dude, simple ... and you know this. Be the best man you can be. Work out. Eat right. Always be confident, never arrogant. Be a gentleman, not a jerk. Demand a lot of the woman you chose and give her a lot of (good) man in return. Can't fail.

  • @ceeIoc
    @ceeIoc 3 місяці тому

    What about dating western women in Thailand?

    • @metubenoggin07
      @metubenoggin07 Місяць тому

      Isn't that like bringing an air conditioner to the North Pole?

    • @ceeIoc
      @ceeIoc Місяць тому

      @ I’ll be honest. I love everything about Thailand but I’m not that attracted to the women.

  • @ChengCha-x5x
    @ChengCha-x5x 26 днів тому

    Good video

  • @faithheyison
    @faithheyison 4 місяці тому +2

    I am a foreign woman who is friends with many successful highly educated Thai women who own their own companies, who are in international finance, who are recognized artists, and who are accomplished in their fields. And no, they are not cooking and cleaning for their western partners. They have nannies and other staff to take care of the household needs which gives them the time to pursue their professional and social lives. They would find your point of view regarding Thai women insulting. Of course, this is not your intention I am sure. But please do not forget that there is another Thai woman who does not fall into the category you describe, just like there are different categories of women in all the world. It just depends on which pond you swim in.

    • @iPaulLee
      @iPaulLee  4 місяці тому +1

      Of course. These are generalities and my intention is not to insult anyone here.
      But to your point, successful women (and men) hire staff because they have money. The average Thai working class family probably isn’t able to afford as much staff, so they might resort to the tradition of the woman/mother taking care of the house, while the man works more.

    • @faithheyison
      @faithheyison 4 місяці тому

      @@iPaulLee yes of course. It depends on the society experience and level. same as everywhere in the world.

    • @vonbyronbedell8950
      @vonbyronbedell8950 4 місяці тому +1

      @faithheyison I believe that you (a white woman who doesn't see how difficult it is for affluential American Black men to come to Bangkok and just starting meeting successful) will never know the problems some men face when we first in Thailand.
      Thai women upon our arrival! I have lived in Bangkok for 7 months now, and I learned to speak Thai in 6 months. It is very difficult for me to have a conversation with Thais because they are so SHY!!!!!
      How on earth do you meet decent Thai women if EVERYONE is so reserved and so conservative and truly thinks every Black person they see in Bangkok is from Africa?
      Local Thai women are SCARED of Black American men and the only way people look at me with respect is if I pay two women to go eat with me at a fancy restaurant, now everyone looks at me because I am spending 15,000 to 20,000 baht in CASH and the see that I have more CASH to THROW AWAY!
      This is what I have to deal with as a former banking lawyer now living in a very respectful and luxury building here in Thong Lor, Bangkok!

    • @dariuschambliss1221
      @dariuschambliss1221 5 днів тому

      ​@@vonbyronbedell8950 Thank you for your insight. Some people really refuse to acknowledge the realities of how Thai folks act. Some content creators sell dreams with no confirmation nor receipts. Would you be willing to share more of your experience? It's quite unique

  • @whiteraven69
    @whiteraven69 2 місяці тому +1

    Thailand is an ego booster for foreign men , as many Thai women dream to marry a farang. The culture is starkly different and sex is openly marketed walking along the malacon…Pattaya was a city that I had a difficult time to accept, as everything is openly observed including old white guys procuring the very young for entertainment. Many come from very poor villages and are expected to support their families.. Ive seen so much grooming of young girls by older foreigners as they mold them into what they desire. The underground sex for hire is a very dark place and this is not spoken about ….

  • @OnlyEricNg
    @OnlyEricNg 3 місяці тому

    Your pug is so cute, human best friend.

  • @Thenorthmanz
    @Thenorthmanz Місяць тому

    Wow I couldn’t agree more. I also want to add that not only Thailand has higher female population due to demographic. But we also have more female single due to the big population of ladyboys and monks. 😂 No kidding.

  • @saksitb3491
    @saksitb3491 2 місяці тому

    Thai culture respect people, so the lady try not let you to lose your face. She will talk to you with equal respect if you respect her, not creepy approach. You can ask her directly whether she has a boyfriend or not. Foreigner has good reputation among many Thai ladies, so don't firsting around as a playboy. Do you know why many Thai women prefer foreigner? One of the most important answer is because Thai man is firsting around too much. The reason for Thai man approach many ladies is because there are too many beautiful women who are difficult to resist your mind. Finally, Thai men has some negative reputation among those women. In conclusion, there are a lot of beautiful ladies in which it creates high pressure among women as well. Once she wants to be in serious relationship with you, she will easily get jealous. There are pros and cons for these behavior. Many men, not only foreigner but also Thai men, find that it is difficult to handle.

    • @nelsonegidio6540
      @nelsonegidio6540 2 місяці тому

      Respect you so much until you spend all the money you have with schemes and other "kind gestures" 😂😂
      C'mon, get real! No offense! 🤛

    • @saksitb3491
      @saksitb3491 2 місяці тому

      @ I don’t think you have enough money to spend on these women. I strongly believe that some of Thai women are wealthier than you. 😛🥳🤭 get real. No offense. 🤑🤑🤫If you think that Thai women are bad people, don’t approach them. If you think that your money is so important to you, keep it yourself. I have seen a lot of western guys with only average income or less think that they are so wealthy in developing countries. That’s narrow mindset.

    • @dariuschambliss1221
      @dariuschambliss1221 5 днів тому +1

      No they won't. Even if you speak to them in Thai, they will ignore you most of the time.

  • @xxfreedom
    @xxfreedom 4 місяці тому +2

    A curious tidbit about Thailand. The highest rate of infidelity in the world for the last few years consistently. 😅

    • @metubenoggin07
      @metubenoggin07 Місяць тому +1

      True. That puts the burden on all of us to proceed with caution, but as men, we're used to burden.