How To Get Kids To Listen And Respect
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- Опубліковано 7 сер 2024
- Being a parent alone is a challenge, and it can get overwhelming at times especially when they don't listen and when they're disrespectful. If you stay tuned long enough, this video will help realign you to what your job is as a parent and give you some tips on what you can do to get your kids to listen and respect you.
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You should have your business card posted on the walls of OBGYN offices, it gives parents a head start. There is a lot to learn. May your efforts be blessed; they are beneficial to many. And..your humor really helps me listen (rather than get frustrated to hear my mistakes out loud).
That's a great idea! Eman, I love your humor! Share away if you think it can help anyone else.
I think he should have them everywhere to
This morning my 4y daughter on the way to preschool: "mommy why do you look so happy?"
Me: "because I am so happy you and Paul (12weeks old) are with me."
The smile on her face was priceless. We didn't have the best start that morning (not listening nor respecting my privacy) but I really felt happy walking down the street . I am so greatful she asked. Smiling is the best.
Thank you for your video.
Daniela Stein, you are very welcome, thanks for sharing.
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As an angry yelling adult in progress from a product of angry physically abusive parents, your videos are helping me to break from my anger and yelling for more productive options and I very much appreciate you for helping me break the cycle of anger.
Jordan Spurlock, you made my day. Yes, you can do this difficult thing and change the pattern.
Yeess is hard I'm currently in the same situation trying to break generations cycles ...it's tough I'm not gonna lie... ☹
How is your parenting coming along jordan?? Any helpful tips...(for a mom of 3 who is use to yelling)
I am so glad that you recognize that you are in a cycle and is able to break it sometimes it’s hard to even admit that you are angry and in a vicious cycle
It’s absolutely an issue a lot of adults have. When we grow up seeing parents argue or parents treat us like we’re always wrong to them, it lasts. They can call it tough love, but we know that it creates emotional issues that we go years without knowing how to handle. There is a way to teach our kids to listen and behave properly without losing our patience. I’m still working on it as well, but we can all do it. It takes conscious effort and being patient with ourselves as well. I often get angry at myself and then it comes out as frustration with my daughter.
Lately my 7 yr old daughter has been trying me. It’s obvious my words are garbage to her. So that is why I am here. Thank you for your videos. I have watched 4 so far and they have been so helpful. I will try these approaches with her. Thank you for the reminder that my job is to love her no matter what & even if. Because the Lords knows how crazy my daughter is driving me.
Stephanie Gibson, I am so glad you are willing to try some new things. Thank you for watching.
I feel the same with mine 🤦
Stephanie I can totally relate I have a daughter also and dealing with disrespect can be very challenging but it does help to remember that we need to love them even in the midst of the choas
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As I sit here crying after screaming at my 3 year old for not going to bed I am really happy I found this video. Thank you so so much
Rachel Ruffing, glad to have you in our positive parenting group.
Good reminders: Love your children no matter what & even if. Say what you mean & mean what you say. Smile!
So, so, SO true: be an EXAMPLE to your children of what it means to listen & be respectful. Where else are they going to learn it?
Illuminating: Yelling is a parent trap. Oh my goodness, you're right!
Hilarious: "You're happy, right? Well, tell your face!" HAHAHA!
Thanks for 10 and a half minutes of entertainment & enlightenment, Dr. Paul! :)
I love how you recap this, Tecumseh A. Good to know I am cheap entertainment : )
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Not cheap at all, Doc! GREAT entertainment, & even better at informing/enlightening us! You know this is my favorite channel. 💚
Thank you. I will use these tips with my boyfriend
Glad you are giving them a try, Eli B.
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Daniel Cross he did, that’s why he said he’s glad she’ll give them a try
Daniel: yes it’s for kids; it can apply in our situations as well. But, I think Kaitlyn is saying that the host responded in lighthearted way by entertaining the humor in the comment.
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Ha! I adore Dr. Paul and how he makes me laugh as I learn..."Smile. You're happy, right? Well, tell your face."
Good to hear from you, Noreen.
I love these corner of UA-cam. Without toxic community, where we, strangers, from different places and with different stories, get together to listen to music that awakens different sensations and feelings. 😅😅
I love that also.
I like that too
Oh dear, this topic is exactly what i have to hear right now. Thank you Doctor.
Don't you love it when you get what you need. Linards Berzins. Thank you for watching.
Yessss!!! Same!!
Your words are gold to me
I try, Ankita Gupta. I can tell you have been listening.
Consistency is the key.
I agree, Brandon A. Deimel. Thank you for watching.
May God continue blessing you with great health Dt. Paul so u can continue blessing us(parents/humans) with your great advice/wisdom/ experience so we can be the parents God created us to be! Thank you so much!!!
I will take a blessing of good health any day of the week, ROSIE112109. So glad this channel has come together.
Thank you so much Dr.Paul for always reminding us what our job being a parent,because sometimes i personally forgot.Great video and very helpful as always.😊😊😊
It really does work, doesn't it, Jessica Ilano? It certainly helped us when our kids were young.
I used to follow through, I used to discipline. Then his dad happened for another go round. The last go round. Narcissism can be very damaging. Working on fixing myself but it is so hard to fix the lack of positive parenting I had had when I am barely taking care of myself and fixing my own soul... But I most definitely appreciate the harping. Love them, no matter what, and even if. It is good and I will find a nice way to put it up on the walls for a gentle reminder. Thank you all for producing these videos and posting them.
Minella, honored to be on your team.
You are exactly I’ve been looking for as I seek help as a dad. I have been doing very similar things, but this is so much more structured! I just found your channel and subscribed. There are many videos out there from a mother’s perspective and I also really appreciate the perspective from a dad. Really helps give a rounded view. So grateful for you!
There Their They're, Welcome aboard. Glad you are in our positive minded community.
Thank you so much for giving this advice. The fact that you do it for free shows that you care. I have been trying your tips and they have been working. Thank you.
Salina, thank you for letting me know. That is why we started the channel, to get the information out. Please share away.
👏👏👏 each video, man. So helpful and hits so close to home.
-no more yelling for me!
-I’m going to practice smiling and listening more!
Wonderful! Better days ahead.
I’m trying to smile more. Consciously smiling
It gets more natural with practice.
I am a big fan of yours. Watched a lot of your videos. This one is priceless! A million thanks for making it happen!
You are welcome!
Just watching your videos puts me in a great mood
ShadowRipper 25, honored to be on your team.
Thank you for the tips!
My pleasure, Nwadiutochats. I see you are viewing several videos, glad to have you at the channel.
As usual, the Best parenting channel that I chanced upon! New to my kitty, is to smile often, as I always had this misconception that smiling would make me look a little dumb and not taken seriously, so I used to always deliberately keep a straight poker face! But it's always a good idea to just smile, to show appreciation and approval for good behavior, which I always do. Thanks again for the wonderful video💖💖
Honored to be on your team, Vimi Maliakel.
Another parenting pearl video. Thanks again, Dr. J.
Glad you enjoyed it, Meirele. Glad to have you at the channel.
Thank you! Love positive parenting! No matter what!!!
It is the best!
Your videos are helping me immensely 😭❤️
So grateful you posted to let me know, kvilleify.
Wow, smiling! Wild concept. 😂😍 Ya learn something new everyday. Thanks, Doc! Happy New year! 🎆
Same to you! Emily Ann.
So much good here! Thank you!!
You're so welcome!
Sorry Dr. Paul, been very busy but still watching and taking your timeless wisdom with me alwayz 🙂👍✊. I greatly appreciate you 😁. Have a phenomenal day everyone filled with lots of unconditional lovez,light, and laughter 🙂😁😎😘👍🤘✌👋👍💝💗💕💜💖💞❤💫⭐🌠🌟🔥⚡🔥🌞🌜🌈🍀🌹🌸🌼🌻🌺🌷🐞🐝🦋🐸🐉🦁🐒🦄🐺🦊🎆🎶✨🎶🧞♀️🗝💵💰💵💰
Hi Deseree Kjersem, You add to our community.
Needed this today! Thank you!
You're so welcome!
Thank you!! Exactly what I needed to hear today
You are so welcome
Thank you so much for your videos.....they keep me going as a parent of a teen....lol
Not an easy job, G & C's Mom. Feels like we need combat pay some days.
Your channel is GOLD!
Thank you ❤️
Sarah Kiroglu, subscribers are what make it all worthwhile.
I am so grateful for this channel!
And I am grateful for you, queenSummerKeli! Thanks for being part of the Live On Purpose family.
This is gold! Thank you!
You're very welcome!
Thank you for your advice
You are very welcome, soapychikin. Glad to have you at Live On Purpose TV.
What I love in this channel is the title linked to the subject(he do explain and coach us as parents ) is not you going to watch and wasting time.I I’m truly benefiting from your videos.
marwa gazal, I am glad you are here at the channel.
Thank You
You got it!
Thank you for being on my team 😇
Ibaa Qasem, honored to be there and look forward to many more videos.
Love this
Thanks you, Jena Yeager. Honored to be on your team.
Awesome tips.... i did this today with my 4 and 2 year old and an immediate change occurred.
Fantastic!
Thank You for sharing your wisdom 🙏 listening from Ireland ☘
You are welcome, honored to be on your team.
How did you know I would roll my eyes? Pure psychology 😉 Thank you for your videos.
Kasia Misianda, I do love psychology.
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
You are welcome, Mar A.
My son has totally dehumanised me, I could say nothing to him, he sneered at me. I was still saying ''good morning!'' trying to start every day like a fresh slate. Buying him his favourite foods. The fact that I was trying to stay on the right side of him seemed to make him lose respect for me, like he wanted me to FIGHT him. Right now, he's at my brother's, respecting my brother with no problem. I am glad he is capable of showing respect. I guess that shows that he is capable of moving out of the first stage of moral development. Not to me, yet, he chose not to respect me, but it is some comfort that he is capable of showing somebody respect. It's small but it's all I have right now.
Sometimes a change of environment for a while can get a reset going on how we treat one another.
You're too funny Dr. Paul!! Thank you always for your advice. Love your channel!
Thanks for watching! Sabrina Toglia, honored to be on your team.
this is so helpfull!! thank you!!
I'm so glad!
Your teaching should be a required class for every pregnant mom and her partner
That would be awesome.
You have changed my life for the better. I watch your videos every morning and fight to apply this in my life. You're so fun, funny and easy to listen to. My kids get a better mother because of this channel!! I love you guys and I love the name of the channel, Live on purpose!!! 😁
The same thing is happening to me too. Thank you soo much dr.Paul!😊
YOU are the mother your children need. Honored to be on your team.
Thank you!
Thank you very much
Truth never changes, you are welcome.
Good stuff as always! 👍🏻
Appreciate that
i am in control 😀
Yes, you are! Johnrel Salta. You can do this.
This topic hope helps me to teach my 2 sons
Wonderful. These videos are great conversation pieces for families.
Thank you very much for those words. We are having a baby soon and we are pretty excited. Thank you, I think it’s our duty to inform our self to prepare a human being for an amazing and successful life as much as we can as parents. Subscribed to your channel. Hogs
You are so welcome! Honored to be on your team as you begin this journey, Felipe.
As a grandmother I want Repect I had to go back to basics now it's easy
Sandy Heath, thank you for taking the time to comment. You are right.
Thank you! ☺ 💗 😃 🙂 I really needed this - the smiling tip, listening to my kids better reminder, and the fact that yelling undermines my authority because it shows I've lost control.
Ok - we're not parenting in a vacuum. A 7 y/o, 3 y/o, amd 2 y/o have an ADHD mom. Are they doomed for life? What other ways can I add to these strategies to help create the best life possible for them and teach them how to create their own?
brightpage 1020, love them no matter what and even if...
Practical and common sense. 👍
We try.
Love your videos, no matter what, and even if. And yes, while I'm smiling I say it, and I mean it :-)
Wonderul, OB Joyful, you get an "A" for today."
Thank you, great tips! 👍
Could you talk about how having additional children impacts the older children? E.g. do they act up more because yourv attention is on the new baby?
It could happen, involve them as much as possible. I don't know how much older the children are, but check out this video: ua-cam.com/video/kcHdVgwJaqQ/v-deo.html
Just stumbled over this :((, wish I've seen this some 10 years back!! Any videos to the subject for +16ies ?? These teen years 😩😖😞😫😫😫
Munira El-Sabah, check out the playlist for teenagers on the channel. We take requests if there is something specific you want addressed.
My niece has been having horrible fits slamming doors cussing up a storm at her parents all the time they do not listen to us usually my brother is trying to calm the situation thank you for your advice I’ll send your video to my brother and sister in law to help with my niece temper tantrums 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
I hope they are able to use the videos to calm the situation.
Me too
This tips are useful with adults too 🤣💪🏻 Thank you
Angelike Agront, yes, isolate the principle and it can be applied differently to other groups of people.
My 8yo son has gotten totally out of control with his temper and I’m not stupid I pretty much know why he’s acting so negative and I’ve been binge watching Dr Paul & praying I’ll regain control
Beverly Rembold, keep calm and parent on.
Has he gotten any better? Would you blame screen usage for such behaviour? or something in the house thats just negative or fake.
❤❤❤❤Thank you
Our pleasure.
I like that our words might be garbage that is so true
Thank you, glad you liked the video.
Listen and respect them,smiling
Always calm, you can do this.
Hello, Dr. First I would like to thank you for all your helpful videos. Now, on a different topic (I haven't seen you speak on yet). I am a full time grandmother and wife, you probably already understand why I mentioned the two separately, but for those who don't my husband and my relationship is a different entity then my full time job as a grandparent. My daughter works retail and is a single mother of two (which makes me the main person in my grandchildren's life). She travels an hour each way for work. Since she is also the manager and salary paid she will work 9 to 10 hours, long story short, she's gone 12 plus hours a day, her schedule is every changing. My husband works the same hours everyday, and- he's the kicker! Dude to an injury I can not drive and rely solely on him to get me to my daughter's an hours before her shift starts. With ever changing schedules how can I make my 6 & 2 year old grandchildren's life's not so- crazy?(for a lack of net words). I know constancy is important, but how is this manageable without putting so much strain on my husband (no blood relation to my children) and gain some type of flow in our life's? Thank you
love laugh that's the meaning of life, have you there daily is consistency in the children's lives. Who says the children feel their lives are chaotic? If they are being cared for then they are probably ok. Sometimes it is our perception since our lives were not like that. Talk to your daughter and see if there needs to be a change.
New to the Channel! I hear you, do you have any examples of these recommendations?
I'm not sure what you are talking about. Check out some other videos on the playlist to see if it helps to make sense. Thanks!
It would be great if hospital maternity wards gave all new parents a few videos like this to take home.
Ana Long, I am down for that.
Good
Thanks
Say what you mean and mean what you say!
the last point remembers me of a sticky note i have on my workplace:
"your children will follow your example not your advice"
could very well be something you said on your channel :)
I love it, RS. I don't remember saying it, but I talk a lot, haha. Thanks for sharing.
not always i set a good example yet he is a brat!
What if you have a hard time remembering to smile? Do you have tips to help remind us RBF sufferers?
Adrian Henry, Come up with an acronym. Calm face, calm body, calm voice, smile, could be FBVS. Come up with something that works for you and it take practice.
My niece's husband committed suicide in May 2022. This was after several years of abuse to my niece and their twin 3 year olds. She was 2 months pregnant and in the Air Force when this happened. Flash forward 23 months and the kids are Tiny Tyrants. They control everything.
Specifically one twin continuously seeks negative attention. I believe he has ODD. They all have PTSD and maybe ADHD also. I am so worried for her and these kids because of their anger and rage. The baby is 17 months old now, and he is a Master Artist in Fit throwing. What in the world am I to do to help her to truly understand 90% of what they deal with is just CHAOS. And now she is trying to form a NEW relationship with a man!
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Thank god I watch this my daughter sending me crazy lol
allicia reid, glad you watched.
We also need to watch how we talk to and treat other adults. If we are short tempered and act like we don’t want to listen to others then kids see that. They see us getting upset with other adults and they think it’s acceptable even if you tell them it’s not when they do it to you. Be an example, otherwise your kids will not listen to you.
Great point. Our example should be clear so kids see how to act.
Absolutely, kids will take their cues from us.
Parenting does not come in a handbook😂😂 By any chance do you have an app or website? 😂 Very awesome tips Dr.Paul! Thank you so much. I am awake while my 6 year old is sound 😴. I can not wait to try this whole change on him. Thank you again!
Samantha Rodriguez, you can go to www.drpauljenkins.com. We have lots of help for parents, check out the site and schedule a call at www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
Gosh I was really smiling because of your goofy smile 😊 but you know it is so hard , my 9 year old girl say get really mad,’😠 do not smile you don’t laugh’ , she feels really insulted . It’s hard for a single mother with two .
I know it's hard, M M. Just remember that you are doing the best you can, even if your children don't realize it. And I encourage you to keep smiling, despite what your daughter says. : ) Remember to provide them with good times and good things as much as you can - that goes a long way with kids. Honored to have you here!
It is hard to smile, when your child has no respect, but I get the point. I lost my cool yesterday when I heard my daughter says a string of mean demeaning words. We are fighting now because she wants leave for her father and with Mike. Her father is a criminal narcissist and very manipulative. Parental alliniation hurts real bad. It's hard to fake it.
E H, I hear you; it is frustrating when a child is disrespectful. Please remember what you control and what you don't. You don't control your daughter's behavior, however you do control your reaction to the behavior. It will take practice, but you'll get better. Instead of getting upset, lovingly and empathetically give consequences when she is being disrespectful. Here are a couple more videos on respect, as well as 2 videos on discipline:
"Teaching Children Respect In 10 Minutes Or Less" - ua-cam.com/video/d8c4I7_vlqw/v-deo.html
"How To Get Kids To Listen And Respect" - ua-cam.com/video/_aPDJTFXADI/v-deo.html
"7 Ways To Discipline Your Child" - ua-cam.com/video/G3nu1QfOUqE/v-deo.html
"Consequences For Misbehavior | 6 Specific Examples" - ua-cam.com/video/Fbcwp9na04Y/v-deo.html
If you want to see more videos on discipline / consequences, just search the key word plus "Live On Purpose". Or you can always browse the Positive Parenting playlist: ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU.html
One last thing I want to say concerning respect: in order to be seen as an authority figure, you need to be viewed as a provider of good times and good things. If you are putting effort into the relationship, your daughter's respect for you will naturally increase. Thanks for watching Live On Purpose TV.
I was raised on the Parents jobs with the Is to love their kids no matter And I didYeah through my whole life and I practice Love still
Love it!
- your words are either garbage or gold- if they don't listen it may be that your words in the past were used to threaten them into compliance but not actioned it. turn it to gold by
1. say what you mean and mean what you say.
2. SMILE! if you're happy n positive, your kids are more likely to think! kids are monitering who is on control and if they feel like they are the ones in charge they start to have anxiety. smiling sends a message that you are in control that you are not tipped over. it invites them to think and respect.
- yelling is a parent trap- it gets their attention immediately but not good, as you may have to keep yelling. children seek your attention thru it. don't give your authority away. smile, see how you feel and how your child responds
3. consider how much are you listening go your child? how much do you respect them? do a self inventory which can be painful but do it and find out how you are showing up with your kids, are you being an example of them of how to listen and be respectful in a relationship? :)
You got it.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you for these resources. I was preparing to babysit 😆 will come in handy if I have kids in future :D
I have a 5 year old boy who screams, cries, kicks and hits for everything he doesn’t agree with. I’ve tried the two options strategy from previous videos to avoid the tantrums; it seems to work for things like shower and bath schedule and even chores but I’m still struggling with lunch and dinner. For example, today I gave him two options for lunch. Option 1, quesadilla with chorizo and option 2 white rice with squash and eggs. He chose the quesadilla but once it was served he started screaming and crying that he didn’t want the chorizo. I said “your screaming is showing me that you need to relax your body. I’m going to help you to your room. Once your ready your lunch will be waiting for you on the table”. He comes back apologizes and the vicious cycle starts again, screaming hitting and kicking. Any advice? Please help.
He might have to miss a lunch to understand that the behavior will not be tolerated.
Live On Purpose TV good call
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schedule a time to talk to one of our coaches at www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall. It is the easiest way.
Can you advise at all, my 5 year old has learned that if she, for example, hurts herself and cries she obviously gets cuddles from me - problem is she just keeps on crying to make me sit and hug her for ages, which isnt easy with a 2 year old running around (who them gets jealous and pushes the 5yr old off me😫 which causes more crying!) How do you comfort and then know when to stop when she keeps crying for ages (not real by the end) for attention?
She is doing it for attention so you will have to not reward her crying. Tell her there won't be hugs for crying (of course, if she is legitimately hurt, that is fine), and give her attention (hugs, singing, etc.) at other times. I know at times like this, there just doesn't seem to be enough of mom to go around, Amanda C.
I told my kids that if they cry too much their eyes won’t work anymore. They stopped immediately looool maybe not the best idea but it worked.
Sir how to help them to realise when they have done a mistake or something big and not ready to accept it
I'm so sorry. Hang in there.
Wow my brain 🤯.
Haha! EXACTLY. :)
Haha, love it, Jessie T.
Is there a video on parents who are permissive and need to work on being confident in saying no and establishing limits with their children and teens
Stephanie Flores, good idea. I will add it to the list.
What’s your website
Racha G, I have several! My main one is DrPaulJenkins.com. The one that just launched with more content is liveonpurposecentral.com/order-form1590696228507
Thanks for inquiring!
Sometimes when my 4 year old tries to test me and not do what I’m asking, I just start cracking up laughing and it makes him laugh too. I think it catches him off guard because I probably don’t smile enough when I’m asking things of him.
Great reminder, smile more and laugh with our kids.
Please help my classroom of 2 years old (there is usually around 6 kids) they don’t listen to me, they start running around and they start throwing toys and ripping things off the wall. Help !!
I hope the video was helpful, A G. If you are a teacher, there should be help with classroom management from your school or other teachers. 2 year olds can't be expected to sit still long, they will do better with activities, songs, stories where they are moving their bodies with the activity. Do you have a place for them to sit like a mat or carpet square or pillow that is theirs alone? It is important to have routines at this age so they know what to expect.
Live On Purpose TV yes there is a rug for them to sit comfortably. The thing is that I need the most help is that the kids do not listen to me. For example when I tell them if they can help me pick up the toys they threw on the floor, they say “no” and continue playing. Also they start running around and they take off their shoes!! And I tell them “walking feet” and “okay bring your shoes” but they still don’t listen.
Omg. My boy is 6yr and Dx. With ADHD. It's a struggle to get him listen and follow simple directions. Most day it's all screaming and yelling. I feel bad parent. I don't like going nowhere with him. Cause he always want do opposite of what I tell him. Do you have any advise..
gretchen rivers, you are the parent your child needs. If you are needing one on one coaching, go to www.drpauljenkins.com,
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Thank you, Kyirim.
My 4 year old tests my patience daily. I need help, so im watching videos, hoping to find some
You got this! We have an extensive playlist so check there.
I do check myself, in the midst of talking to him with that sour or irritable tone, yelling, not sounding very nice. I stop. I say Adam, I am so sorry, I sound really crabby when I'm not crabby about this. I'm just a little frustrated. Let me try again. And I scale back my tone. But how do I change that in a way that I don't have to stop and apologize. I come right from the start. I don't want to give my son the resentments and the long term negative affects with my parenting as I received from my own parents. I'm trying. I really am. I am just so lost, in so many ways. I feel like an utter failure. Period. Parent, sibling, child, partner, human being. I don't know what I am doing anymore. Do I have the right to raise my son anymore? It's terrifying and I cannot bear the thought of not having my son. But I wonder sometimes. Thank you for taking the time to read this. I know it's a lot.
Minella, It is something we practice that just takes time. Practice in your head how to respond and hopefully it will begin to become more of a natural response to take a deep breath before you say anything. This gives the mind a chance to think and not just respond. You can count to 3 in your brain before you say anything. Practice it when you aren't upset, just talking normally.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV okay. I will do my best to practice. Sometimes I will open my mouth to talk, feel my frustration and tell my son never mind. That I need to calm down first and excuse myself. Some things I tell him I need to think of the best way to approach the subject before talking to him about it. Do you have videos on that kind of thing? How do I, as a parent, best explain things like sex and those kinds of subjects, or answer questions that society says kids are too young to know about? My son asks questions that I don't have the knowledge to best communicate about with a seven year old....
😘Just loved the power N love behind that SMILE😘😂
It has worked for so many people,Grace Bock. Thank you for being here,
I keep making the same misakes to yell. And my husband not on my side and fighting with me in front of my kids cos I was frustrated. What can I do?
jojo 1998, well, you can't control your husband, only you. If he attempts to argue in front of the children, tell him that you will talk about it later or both of you go to another room where you will have some privacy. Yelling is not necessary, set some ground rules such as raising voices, how statements need to be framed, etc. If you need some help, we have coaches who can help you.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you. I appreciate it.❤
I have a 4 year old little girl but she is really disrespectful and don't listen so I'm trying what u say for months now but she will not listen what should I do I'm going crazy!!!!
shelbi Richter, I appreciate you watching and being willing to try new things. We do have another video entitled "How To Get Kids To Listen And Respect" -ua-cam.com/video/_aPDJTFXADI/v-deo.html, as well as this one: "Teaching Kids Respect In 10 Minutes Or Less" - ua-cam.com/video/d8c4I7_vlqw/v-deo.html. Those might give you extra ideas. I also want to let you know that we have a free 25 minute parenting breakthrough call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. If you think that may be beneficial, you can schedule here: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall. Don't give up, you are doing better than you think you are!
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Thanks, glad you are in our positive minded community.
Playback speed 2x much better.. nothing against you Doc!!
I like that people have the option to speed up or slow down. Makes it accessible for more people.
When your child refuses to do something...
Instead of saying:
"You have to do it. You have to write/ brush your teeth/ switch off the TV."
Say
"I can see you really don't feel like doing it.When I was small, I sometimes didn't like it too when Grandma made me do it. But we all have to do it beta. Come, I will help you."
Let's EMPATHISE before reinforcing the rule!
Let Children know it's okay to not want to do something, and sometimes we still have to and that you understand.
Be in your child's team, even while putting the boundary!
Thank you for the reminder.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you so much 💫