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Also look at the marijuana and nicotine industry since they came out with flavored vape pens. They are the most addicting and costly things I have ever tried. I am vegan and now all the vegan junk food that has come out is also so addicting. The COFFEE industry!!! Caffeine gives me anxiety but most people I know it is their base line to be caffeinated. I’m trying slowly to quit everything. Four years ago I quit going to the weed shops and spending hundreds on vape pens to help me with physical and emotional pain. That was so hard. Three years ago I quit drinking alcohol and doing street drugs. Also very very difficult. I quit smoking nicotine vape pens a few months ago and it’s been sooooooo hard. Now I am 2 days off coffee. I feel like crap. Next I am tackling processed foods. Year by year I have worked on a very deep rooted habit I picked up in my 20s that lasted into my 30s and has affected my mental and spiritual health. Also…can we talk about people addiction??? I first had to block and get away from all toxic friends in order to stop all these toxic habits!!! I won’t let anyone in my life that drinks, does drugs, or smokes! I’m slowly getting there but the years and years of putting shit into my body I know will take years to undo so I am patient 🙏🏻😭❤️
My 29 year old son died 3 weeks ago. He lost his battle with alcohol. There are no word’s to express the devastation.. Thank you for this video, it gave me a brief respite of ease.
“Addiction is not a choice that anybody makes; it’s not a moral failure; it’s not an ethical lapse; it’s not a weakness of character; it’s not a failure of will, which is how our society depicts addiction. Nor is it an inherited brain disease, which is how our medical tendency is to see it. What it actually is: it’s a response to human suffering, and all these people that I worked with had been serially traumatized as children. All the women had been sexually abused. All the men had been traumatized, some of them sexually, physically, emotionally neglected. And not only is that my perspective, it’s also what the scientific and research literature show. So addiction then, rather than being a disease as such or a human choice, it’s an attempt to escape suffering temporarily.” - Dr Gabor Maté
YES!! I love his work! I think that's a really important distinction that I don't think a lot of folks get. And that's why there is so much shame. So many addicts think its me there is something inherently flawed about me that I can't stop. I really love the work of Laura Mckowen who is a sober writer and author of We are the Luckiest and Push of From Here. Thank you❤
I was told by a spiritual teacher that if we only knew how full the Universe is with unseen beings we would never feel lonely. We think in a limited three dimensional way, but the fact is we are surrounded by spirit guides and guardian angels and a myriad of nature spirits. Also, there are many dimensions and aspects of ourselves who are communicating with us on subtle plains. We are never alone.
That’s right. I feel there are tools to bring us closer to the energy presently unseen by us - like having photos of your loved ones above your head. I feel bonded 1:32
Being lonely is also a feeling. The fact that they may be billions in this universe won’t change anything. We are already billions on this planet and still most people feel lonely.
I am a many year follower. Thousands of dollars in prescription drugs and sessions with therapist’s office brought no relief to me and my tortured obsessed soul. I say this with true conviction my obsession with finding help led me to frantically scouring the internet for answers to relief from my plague of anxiety, worry, and negative thoughts. I found individuals like you - especially - that give me the hope I can handle the darkness someday. Thank you.
Perhaps just realize you’re not the mind. You’re the ever present, always and already here audience of the mind. You are the awareness of the mind. This helped me all the way. It is the last answer for me after a very similar experience. Suicidal thoughts, depression and horrible anxiety for 40 years. Been to therapy, used medications etc etc. Today I use a dedicated consistent meditation practice, I have a therapist I use when needed, a good support system in 12 step and I understand that I am not the mind. The mind is an activity like breathing. Im not the thinker just like I don’t “do” breathing. I am being breathed by life, we all are. Im not the thinker although I can employ my mind to think. It is my servant, not my master anymore. Bless you. ❤ I hope you find this helpful and come to understanding. You are love itself. Don’t believe your mind! ❤
Not knowing my place in the world or having the opportunity to practice it, results in being more susceptible to negative, empty addiction (compulsion). People who live fully conscious of how integral they are to existence, with humility don't lose themselves randomly. I am a stone in the river of life. No more, no less. Thank you for helping all of us find ways to feel connected and have hope.
Beautifully put I wrote a poem last year that ends with the line “like water over river stones and moving ever still” Feels like we touched on something very similar there 🧡
I listened to some of your podcasts over a year ago after I became aware of my past and reactions and choices in my life that never made sense. I had years of therapy. But the secrets never came out. Major health problems did. I had no idea back then that my body was telling me to stop. My body still tells me to stop after 35 years. Now I am listening. And now these podcasts make sense as I understand and am aware of triggers that can and have determined the course of my life on so many occasions. Much to my shame, for which neither I nor anyone else was available to eleviate. So well hidden because such shame is terrifying. It tells us that we have no value at all. And the comfort we need is so huge and that need only one more source of shame. So I was locked out of my life. And still I found avenues to go down that had a lot of meaning. Of course those safe paths were in helping others. Until I couldn't. After so many years I understand your vocabulary. I asked myself this morning about the trigger I experienced yesterday when a helper canceled. I got lost in scrolling shorts in response to the trigger. I forgave myself but thought that I need to understand how to handle such triggers and ended up at one of your best podcasts. (someone called it that). These podcasts will help with my triggers. I'm grateful. I have the beliefs you share but the practices you introduce are exactly what I needed to find right now. Although awareness of feelings of helplessness and panic are so hard not to run from! This is CPTSD. The memories are all in fragments and maybe that´s as it should be. I believe that being more connected to myself, and practicing self compassion are the key. I choose a spiritual practice for healing. I know what returning home to myself feels like. I know that being moved often takes me home. I know that not feeling safe is an old prison that I need to be free of.
I deeply relate to everything you have said. I hope you find some comfort in that, in that sense those of us who feel alone are not alone I guess. We share our pain but also our willingness to heal from it. I found this video 2 weeks ago too. I was at crisis point. The short RAIN prayer at the end of episode 2 saved me...I think...I hope 🙏 sending peace to you. And gratitude to Tara x
Love the quote from Dopamine Nation, I read the book and it was a shocking realization. Society's economy now revolves around giving people cheap and easy ways to disassociate.
This was amazing. A few days ago I saw the video and turned it off off within minutes. I didn’t believe that I had any addictions to look at. Yesterday I returned to it and it really resonated. Last night I had a revelation around hiding my eating habits just as I was sneaking a snack, hiding it and feeling shame.I’ve done this for years. I told my husband and he had no idea. I felt such deep shame while I talked to him. It didn’t crush me. He listened and was so loving and supportive as usually. I was living a small hell and was not aware of how it affected me. Today a whole new revelation opened about my beliefs about others and my “role” in their lives. I see the way I make myself a point of attention. It’s as though I’m recuperating the bits and fragments of myself that I projected. Tara I am so grateful to you for your teachings, your kindness and such genuine and generous honesty. Thank you 🙏❣️
Your honesty with facing your shame was truly amazing. It will go a long way towards your healing as you seek the strength you have within to overcome. Bless you and may you find relief as you continue to seek the joy of presence of each moment.
33:01 realizing “this hurts” and “i care about this suffering” 37:55 “a knowing that the only way I could wake up was through self-kindness…through compassion”
None of us are perfect. I'm learning to let blame and shame go to embrace the fullness of who I am. Messy, needy shadow parts and all. Blessings all 🙏🏻💕
Yes. Isolation is also due to dyfunctional families especially with mental illness. The children don't realize it's not their fault until damage is done. It's good that people are waking up. We're all getting sick unnecessarily. 😢
n ones alone, there selfish all of em, even those that have and those that dooooooooooooooo. now me im built diferent tho ma says no korean spas nomo shes right, gambling with life and unaliveskey i want that mother on 66 from 1999
I really needed this right now, thank you. Strangely for me, it's a refusal to sleep. I compulsively deprive myself to such a point of delirium and dysfunction. Last year there was drinking, it used to be binge eating, etc. There's always some new compulsion to fill it's space
I can so relate, I am struggling to sleep, its like I fill my head that gets in the way of sleeping. I have not drunk alcohol for 6 months, and now I am detaching from myself in my head. This meditation was perfect for me.
Try embracing instead of resisting... Ask those habits with their there to teach you... I think mine for comforting me and no they will fall off when they're no longer serving my highest good. Refuse to worry just thank the holy spirit for comforting you through the hardest times and you will find the desire to release don't be so hard on yourself.. practice nurturing yourself. Thank you for your. Hugs
I LOVE Tara. Had the privilege to meet her when I lived in NorCal, for a day-long. She's had a tremendous effect on my growth and healing, and inspired me to become a meditation leader for my group. I believe she's now in her 70s, and has had health issues for a while now. She seems pale in this video (excuse my judgement), and I worry for her long-term health. Hope you're well Tara. May you inspire humans for another 30 years. Blessings & Love.
Dear sister of service to humanity, thank you, thank you for this golden teaching and assistance. This video alone could heal this planet’s trance state and recover billions of souls. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🧡
I was shocked by what I read about how Yogi Bhajan treated you at the ashram. It amazes me how some Indian gurus behave and yet have so many followers. Thanks for what you are doing, it has helped so many people.
The problem word guru pisses me off ..we don't need gurus ..we live in the most exciting time ..granted there is lots crap to deal with none the less the knowledge is everywhere and is clearer than ever ..is no need for gurus it is the age of aquarius..the kingdom of heaven is at hand
I was listening to this while sitting on the shore of lake Huron and right as you went quiet, it was like nature working with you and the calm water moving with birds in the background. Was just a perfect incorporation
I suffered through this because it is painful to hear truth. I am rejected from my dysfunctional family in silence. I don’t drink I’m a whole food plant based vegan exercise honest yet feel rejected because I don’t eat meat. People judge me harshly. I want to connect w more vegans and those who also don’t want to kill animals and eat processed foods. Thank you for discussing this. I thought I was alone in this situation. Maybe others I want to be close to are suffering also. I love your description of disconnection and emptiness shame alone Thank you. Healing energy to everyone. We matter. I can value myself and others. Love Buddhism
Fellow vegan here, after watching horrendous footage of what happens to these animals it disgusts me animal products could ever be considered normal. They are NOT. Thank you for being so compassionate, and a light in this world. People like you inspire me, evert single day. From my heart to yours x
I am dealing with a lot of fear and suffering and disconnection which makes resisting the habits of drug addiction really difficult. Thank you for the video, hearing someone say exactly what I feel made me cry.
Another talk which speaks clearly to me. I do wonder though (as an atheist) why Buddhist stories are referred to as mythology but Christian ones are not?
Perhaps ‘cosmology’ would be a better word. But, don’t get stuck on the forms. You KNOW instinctively the distinction is ultimately irrelevant to the journey of awakening 🙏
ONCE AGAIN dear and Beloved Tara..the Guided Meditation was so very calming, healing and transformative. And the content of your talk re: game and other addictions and the power of meditation to bring some measure of balance to our Lives was immensely beneficial to hear..for thousands of people..all in due time! Thank you All Ways for your Loving Kindness, Wisdom, and Presence. Aloha from the Heart of Hawaii {and "Aunty Maile (pron: my-lee)"..note: In Hawaii all us female elders are called Aunty )
Oh Tara... thank you for being so honest.... I smoke cigs,pot and food....I'm ready to change.... My name is Tamrah. My spiritual path is finally starting to light up. I want to quit. So difficult.
It takes work to stay off the phone you have to take a stand with it. It was embarrassing that a grown up was checking his phone when my deeper self was not even interested. Keep doing what you are doing.
Thank you for catching me up and supporting me with your words. When you share your heart, mine gets stronger. I'm less afraid of the inner voice telling me "it's time to pay attention to what and how much you are eating". How I live today is how I live my life. May I be kind in bringing my suffering above the line. ❤ I love being human the same time as you, Tara Brach.
When my father died I had a break down and found myself hospitalised. Took a little time to recover but the pain remains. Came back to my home town soon after and retrained in mental health work. Things went really well for 11 years but my breakdown happened again after being attacked by a gang. The police took me to a refuge where eventually I applied for euthanasia in Belgium. Got attacked by a Iraqi street gang in Brussels but survived to return to London after getting help from the British Consulate. I'm 61 and after 3 attempts on my life I now want to move to Lithuania to visit family. Life throws so much shit at you that only mental strength can enable survival. Hope it does not happen to anyone else for life in the UK is perturbing. Gangland, drug dealing and child prostitution racket gangs seem to be holding the elderly and disabled in ransom to extort money from the vulnerable. I've always been a Christian and my faith does help when managing stress. Sick of criminal gangs where the authorities seem overwhelmed. The aged and disabled are now targeted by gangs often because we have an income and a home. Work is normality for me but success brings a jealous reaction from others who use crime as a career and ironically are socially accepted by a terrorised public who fear retribution from gangs. Never want to experience the UK again it is a sick place and can't see any future here. Think this lady has a good understanding of modernity and the repercussions of working in a jobless community.
I have battled with addictions to multiple substances, most of them being legal, throughout my entire existence. I was introduced to alcohol by my mother at age 14, and I immediately knew that alcohol was the answer for me, it allowed me to be around people without feeling the intense social anxiety that I struggle with still to this day, at fifty~one. But at age 21, I checked self into the detox ward at Vanderbilt Hospital in Nashville, TN, because at that point I was drinking daily, and I also didn't have anywhere to go, living on the streets, and their alcohol detox consisted then of merely 5-7 days inpatient, so they helped me find halfway house all the way in Fort Smith, AR, then found out I was pregnant, so I went to a sober living home there, and was doing wonderful, until I met my late husband at an NA meeting, no less lol! At the time, both of us were sober, but after a few months of us drinking and smoking weed together, I was kicked out of the home for staying out all night. So after we moved in together, of course the using grew worse, and one day he asked me if I wanted to try heroin, which was his drug of choice, and I freaked out saying no way, I had only drank alcohol and smoked weed up to this point, but he said i wouldn't have to use a syringe, so I agreed to try it, and bought some with the $ I received as compensation for giving the daughter I gave birth to to a couple that I knew could give her what she needed. Well, I feel IN LOVE, and can still remember to this day how amazing it felt, about 15min after I snorted a line, it started at the base of my neck, and went all the way down my spine, alleviating all physical pain, then I started to feel the euphoria of it emotionally and mentally, and I felt like a little child again, it was a BEAUTIFUL experience, but it didn't last long. I was only 22 when I first tried any opiate, and of course, I had to go for the strongest most deadly one out here, but this led to a LIFETIME of chasing that high. I did heroin from 22-29, then went to a Methadone clinic, because I wanted off the heroin so bad/didn't know what else to do. So I was on 120mg of Methadone from year 2000 to the year after addiction TOOK MY BEAUTIFUL SOUL of a MOTHER from me, and a couple of years into my BATTLE with it, my PRIMARY CARE PHYSICIAN, not even a psychiatrist, KNEW I was taking 120mg of Methadone, proceeded to prescribe me THREE 2MG XANAX BARS per DAY, which is a DEATH SENTENCE in my humble opinion, this combination has killed quite a few people I love. Anyway, I of course became addicted to both substances, and did not know whom to turn to, or where to go for help, so I got d8wn on my hands/knees one night in my bathroom floor and BEGGED God to PLEASE REMOVE ANY DESIRE for Methadone or xanax I had, then I found a great inpatient rehab a few weeks later, checked in, stayed over 30 days. I haven't touched Methadone since, but have dipped into xanax here and there. Now, I have been taking prescription Suboxone for the past nine years, but at least it has kept me away from all other opiates, and I've now been clean from any benzos also for over six months now. I sure do WISH I could BE SET FREE from ALL prescription POISONS, but at this point, honestly, I have lost hope in ever being able to FREE MYSELF from all these drugs they've had me on my entire existence, and yes, I refer to "life" as existence, because I have never once experienced LIFE, I've always just existed, barely keeping head above water/in fight or flight for over 40 YEARS would take a toll on anyone. Sorry this is so long. I don't really even know why I went into this much detail, but I do hope that me sharing so openly like this will somehow help someone(s). Sending out SO V³RY MUCH L6Ve, POSITive/HEALing eNERgies, and the LIGHT of protectI0N UNd TRANSformatI9N, AlWAYsss!!!
My gosh may I suggest you look into the book hope and help for your nerves by doctor Claire weeks and also the carnivore diet . These have saved many from anxiety disorders and it might be exactly what you need . I almost cried reading this please reach out to me ; I’ll send you resources that helped me recover from agoraphobia and severe anxiety
Thank you for sharing your story. Sending you love and light and positive vibes. You are making a difference in the world I hope you know that keep going. You literally changed my mind tonight . Thank u
"To want for nothing, is the Greatest Ecstasy" - Adi Da Samraj If you simply realised you already Are all the things you want, then you wouldnt have to crave after them. This Is Divine Ecstasy. - Adi Da Samraj "If you look for Happiness in the world you must necessarily leave the place where it Always Already Is in order to seek it" ~ Avatar Adi Da Samraj "Outside the Heart, there is no satisfaction." ~ Adi Da Samraj "I am like the sunlight in the morning. I intensify the light of morning until you awaken. Until the light awakens a person, even the Light of Consciousness Itself, the person continues to dream, tries to survive within the dream, manipulates himself or herself within the dream, pursues all kinds of goals, searches, none of which Awaken the person. All ordinary means only console a person and distract him or her within the dream. I Myself, the One Who would Awaken you, am not a person, not an individual within the dream. I Am your Very Consciousness. I Am the Real, the Light, the True Waking State, the Heart - Breaking Through the force of dreaming. It is not that you are some poor person who needs some other poor person to help you out. It may appear to be so within the dream, but essentially it is your own Ultimate Self-Nature Appearing within the dream to Awaken you. I Am your Awakening, and your always already Conscious State." ~ Avatar Adi Da Samraj
This amazing talk is life-changing. Even though I am addicted to the internet and binge watching UA-cam videos is one of my favourite ways to disconnect from myself, THIS was probably one of the most difficult videos to watch, had to re-start about 10 times, but it was completely worth it. Now to part 2!
Wow, Tara! You really nailed it. Thank you for articulating a terrible samsaric cycle with such clarity and compassion. Hope i can apply this in my own life for positive change…
I watched this in the midst of having compulsive thoughts. It was hard to even click on it because it the compulsive energy was almost rejecting it. But I'm glad I did. So helpful, so many sparks of remembrance. Thank you
Dear Tara, dear everyone, I was guided to this video two days ago and I found it when I woke up felt really uncomfortable in my body because of something or the time I ate and I fell asleep with it. The next morning I got my period; which always comes on a day of great importance when a new phase of some sort starts and I felt different. I went for a long walk after washing up and I felt really good, in control, in my body again. I got what you were saying on a cellular level, or otherwise said my cells understood what is happening when I give into a craving. I am happy to say I don't have intense binges anymore, I was however daily eating some kind of thing that I would rather not, pieces of regular super sugary chocolate, small bowls of crisps. And it seems I could not not. Since yesterday I feel in control again and I have been able to choose against it. And more-over I didn't even crave it. Which is a new one. Every single day it was fighting the urge not to and the urge won. This morning my body jumped out of bed and wanted to start Yoga before my mind even was awake. Then the mind woke up and wanted to have a coffee. It took some sitting in silence and soothing my inner child and eventually I did my practice on a warm water with Ghee. It is a journey, and there will be days that I will falter, and I know that these days will be far and few. thank you very much for this amazing content. for everyone reading this, I hold the vision for you too, we are one. Namaste and lots of love. VM
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my UA-cam channel 8 months ago about self development. Now I have 850 subs and > 400 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
Maybe I'm just ready to grasp this finally, but it seems that this is the clarity, these are the words I've been seeking to move out of this "trance", swamp, prison You have shown me the path,the creek, the northwest passage, the vein leading back to my original heart. Now the work begins!!! Thank you!!!!
There is no greater addiction than constantly focusing on the I and it’s needs including the need to accept it and transcend it is all of the mind’s doing. I is the mind, it’s not you. Your entrapment to the ego is of the mind and the freeing of it, is still the mind. Who sees the I? Does this one need to do anything to be free and beyond the “me” mind and all its forms of entertainment?
I have felt disconnected from others since the pandemic. I think I do "use" things like streaming movies, UA-cam videos, reading and eating mindlessly more since then. I think I always have to some degree (used things to "fill" my time) when not working. Since I have mostly retired and am out of a long term relationship - that has added to it all. One thing I do not do any more is drink alcohol like I used to. It's occasional (very) now. I feel good about that, especially because I, too came from an alcoholic family (father). Thanks for this video Tara, I truly appreciate all that you do....
If you google “covid isnt over monthly calendar” you’ll be led to a Twitter account that has a monthly calendar of virtual activities. It’s not the same as in person of course, but you can make connections based on interests.
Thank you so much for this. I think it’s all just fueling the lie we live in. We must remember who we are as Source if we are to stop reaching for things outside of the self (aka love, fulfillment, freedom, satisfaction), “looking for love in all the wrong places” as Abraham hicks says… the only way to find security or love in a reliable way is to find it from where it comes from. Your source within 🕊️❤️ much love thank you so much for your presence on here
Quit smoking cannabis, and I've changed my diet..i feel alot better and like im living in accordance with what i want it to be like. Cannabis made me sluggish, paranoid, made acid reflux worse, hurt my lungs badly. I was very addicted to it, smoking hourly all day long. Just to escape the world and numb myself..this only made me weaker, reliant on it. I also ate myself into a hiatal hernia that may need surgery in the futur. So I've cut down on binge eating, processed foods and fried foods are gone.
Way to go. You are on the right track now. Don't be upset by the upset that may still be part of your experience. That's okay. Just keep facing the right direction and take one step at a time As you move forward. You don't have to run or even jog. Just walk. You may want to look into intermittent fasting as well. Proud of you. As hard as it is to believe, you deserve the freedom you are now experiencing even if it's not as quick or as much as you want. Way to go!
I lost my sister a little over a year ago to her addiction. She was sold drugs that contained Fentanyl. I immediately made the decision to get clean. Luckily i was already on a road to recovery and was only taking Suboxone but still felt like i was fighting an addiction due to the fact i had to have them. They are just as bad as any other drug. I'm on a slow tapper program now designed to slowly lower the dose until i can come off without being too sick. The struggle is real. I really feel like my sister saved me. God Bless her soul. We love and miss her.
I am so glad, I found this channel. Subscribed ❤ You're unbelievably accurate. I've never heard anybody explain it from such a core place, yet still so easy for anyone to understand. You're gifted and precious to this world. Namaste 🙏
Thank you this was already so transformational ! I feel I have tapped into something really deep within myself, like never before. I believe I can win this battle against my addictions.
I battled with addiction until 2 days ago. 2 months ago is when I started stopping...I can hear and see the things around us that most others cannot. Over 6 yrs ago I started focusing on this gift. In the start of my addiction. I blew it off when it was right in my face I thought I was crazy I thought I was skitzaphrenic and I would get to this point a few months ago when I realized I was hurting them. Demons are invading my house, doing bad things to those who love me till most left for their own protection I'm hoping they know I'm done and return to defeat these demons but thank you for this video because it's true and needs to be addressed no matter where you are at in this grip You are surrounded by good and evil and you are hurting the good as long as you feed the evil
Excellent!!! Extremely helpful, hopeful, informative and timely as I plod along my healing journey. THANK YOU 🙏 ❤ Tara, I truly appreciate you sharing your personal experiences. Your energy is very soothing & peaceful. Your teachings highly beneficial. You are an exquisitely Beautiful Soul & Human ❤ Love & Blessings
Thank you for this enlightening message. ❤I’m not addicted to drugs but was many years ago and the lingering shame kept me from being fully in the present now
You are incredibly well spoken. I've been trying to identify my own hungry ghost and trance state but I had trouble putting a title on it or identifying it directly as you so eloquently have. THANK YOU SO MUCH for creating this video!
To me society is obsessed with ‘belonging, being part of, loneliness, isolation’ which then generates all these obsessions: drown your loneliness’ in drink, gaming, social media etc. If we could develop a friendship with ourselves, and enjoying our time alone ‘and with others when they are around’ we’d be better off. There a reason why Spiritual people, have for centuries now, gone on retreats and spend time alone.
Thank you so much Tara. This talk brought me back to a peaceful place where I feel inspired to stay compassionately present. I look forward to your next talk on this subject.
Thank you deeply. My last video on youtube for a while. I am awakening and rising above my habitual, small self. Thank you for your wisdom. You are amazing ❤
You can almost see the light pouring out from behind your eyes. You have cultivated much positive energy!! Thank you Tara! You are helpful to so so many people!
I have recently been thinking about this subject and I just want to encourage you to continue to share these truth. It is going to take one person at a time to wake up community support . Have found Elkhart Tolle that has helped me. 🙏
I have a friend who really struggles with anorexia, but she thinks she struggles with binge eating, when she describes how she feels around food she describes what you describe at the dinner table at the ashram about always wanting more and the shame after eating, but she feels this way about all food, so she avoids it and she doesn’t eat, she thinks if she eats she’s giving in to the addiction, but she’s not eating, I’m really worried about her. She has severe ADHD and she’s tried all forms of mindfulness and meditation but she says they just make her feel even worse about herself because her mind is never there and she can’t figure out how to be present and it just feels like another area where she’s failing. How can I help her and how can I help her feel like she can trust herself to eat and that not all eating is an addiction. You describe that our society is hyper addictive environment and that there are all these people out there to get us hooked for profit, but I worry about this narrative. I know people like my friend and many more who don’t trust themselves and when they hear this then they don’t trust others either and it makes the way back even harder. My friend says she can’t eat this and that because it’s hyper addictive and she’s an addict, but what about when it’s her mothers birthday cake of a family recipe that’s been handed down for generations, or the chocolate her boyfriend gives her on Valentine’s Day - you could say it’s all just cultures way of poisoning us and we should look for other kinds of expressions of love but is this striving for purity is also a kind of striving and I worry it can threaten our connections and relationships with those who aren’t on the same path and don’t see things the same way. How can I help my friend trust that even though the world is imperfect and yes there is motivation for money and power life is still worth living and people are still worth loving but most of all that it’s safe - safe enough to let herself eat, and even if it’s dangerous, which you’re right it is, it’s more dangerous to close oneself off than it will ever be to open and to let herself be radiantly imperfect. and she’s a big fan of yours and I’m just worried she’s going to hear this and she’s not going to hear the beautiful things you say about self compassion, she’s only going to hear that she’s dangerous and that the worlds dangerous and not that she has hungry ghosts but that she is one. She’s tried to kill herself before because she gets so wrapped up in this self hatred. and I’m so scared, and I know she hears everything wrong, like it’s more evidence she can’t trust herself. How can I help her come home to herself?
I am in the very very exakt position as you friend, and I‘m so blown away by the fact that people like you even exist. Nobody in my live even knows about any of this and if they did, they by far wouldn’t have this caring and deep thoughts, so know that just the feeling of you listening and trying to understand is such an enormous help to your friend, I promise!
The path to enlightenment is a challenging path. You'll feel much pain along the way. This is impermanent and will not last forever. After the dark night of the soul always comes the dawn light of the awakening. If you choose to take this path, there is no turning back. Keep going my fellow travellers, we are all on our own journey back to our true selves and oneness with everything!
I really need to hear this right now. It’s lucky I found this one, right now, I’m feeling isolated and listening to you, I realise, I’m going through a difficult disconnection within me. This talk will be my work next few day. Here to clicking on that specific link between our bodies and out spirit with our nature and all that surround us ❤️🙏❤️
Thank you for this. What synchronicity coming across this video...even the word "wanting", which I used earlier today in coming to some awareness about that...
First if all , thank you so very much for opening your heart with such sincerity. And this program really makes me feel confort and peace. Thank you from Guadalajara Jalisco México May God bless you always
Thank you Tara. I saw you at Kripalu for Radical acceptance in 2014. I have been on quite the journey since. I am now a YTT 200 graduate and focusing on Mediation on Kirton. Namaste
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I just signed up. Sharing is caring and healing for others. you are not alone. God holds my hand everyday. Blessings ❤ ❤
Thank you so much for sharing!
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Also look at the marijuana and nicotine industry since they came out with flavored vape pens. They are the most addicting and costly things I have ever tried. I am vegan and now all the vegan junk food that has come out is also so addicting. The COFFEE industry!!! Caffeine gives me anxiety but most people I know it is their base line to be caffeinated. I’m trying slowly to quit everything.
Four years ago I quit going to the weed shops and spending hundreds on vape pens to help me with physical and emotional pain. That was so hard. Three years ago I quit drinking alcohol and doing street drugs. Also very very difficult. I quit smoking nicotine vape pens a few months ago and it’s been sooooooo hard. Now I am 2 days off coffee. I feel like crap. Next I am tackling processed foods. Year by year I have worked on a very deep rooted habit I picked up in my 20s that lasted into my 30s and has affected my mental and spiritual health.
Also…can we talk about people addiction??? I first had to block and get away from all toxic friends in order to stop all these toxic habits!!! I won’t let anyone in my life that drinks, does drugs, or smokes!
I’m slowly getting there but the years and years of putting shit into my body I know will take years to undo so I am patient 🙏🏻😭❤️
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My 29 year old son died 3 weeks ago. He lost his battle with alcohol. There are no word’s to express the devastation.. Thank you for this video, it gave me a brief respite of ease.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. This must be so painful. Know you are loved and cared for.
@@thejazztherapyjesse thank you 🌸🙏🌸
Oh my goodness, I’m so very sorry for your loss 🙏🤗❤️
So young! I'm so sorry you and your family have had this tragic illness take your son. Much ❤️ love to you.
This is heartbreakingly sad 💔 to read. As a mother please please know I’m praying for you. May you find peace in your warmest memories
“Addiction is not a choice that anybody makes; it’s not a moral failure; it’s not an ethical lapse; it’s not a weakness of character; it’s not a failure of will, which is how our society depicts addiction. Nor is it an inherited brain disease, which is how our medical tendency is to see it.
What it actually is: it’s a response to human suffering, and all these people that I worked with had been serially traumatized as children. All the women had been sexually abused. All the men had been traumatized, some of them sexually, physically, emotionally neglected.
And not only is that my perspective, it’s also what the scientific and research literature show. So addiction then, rather than being a disease as such or a human choice, it’s an attempt to escape suffering temporarily.” - Dr Gabor Maté
YES!! I love his work! I think that's a really important distinction that I don't think a lot of folks get. And that's why there is so much shame. So many addicts think its me there is something inherently flawed about me that I can't stop. I really love the work of Laura Mckowen who is a sober writer and author of We are the Luckiest and Push of From Here. Thank you❤
Thank you for understanding.
I was told by a spiritual teacher that if we only knew how full the Universe is with unseen beings we would never feel lonely. We think in a limited three dimensional way, but the fact is we are surrounded by spirit guides and guardian angels and a myriad of nature spirits. Also, there are many dimensions and aspects of ourselves who are communicating with us on subtle plains. We are never alone.
😊Lovely Thoughts. I will try to remember these. Thank you.
And yet all are one so technically we are only alone and split up.
That’s right. I feel there are tools to bring us closer to the energy presently unseen by us - like having photos of your loved ones above your head. I feel bonded 1:32
Being lonely is also a feeling. The fact that they may be billions in this universe won’t change anything. We are already billions on this planet and still most people feel lonely.
So many people think of the material third dimension and these meat suits as all there is. Truly spiritual people never feel lonely
May you be Well
May you be Happy
May you be Peaceful
May you be Free from all suffering
✨Lokah Samasta Sukhino Bavhantu💫
Love thisss
I am a many year follower. Thousands of dollars in prescription drugs and sessions with therapist’s office brought no relief to me and my tortured obsessed soul. I say this with true conviction my obsession with finding help led me to frantically scouring the internet for answers to relief from my plague of anxiety, worry, and negative thoughts. I found individuals like you - especially - that give me the hope I can handle the darkness someday. Thank you.
Perhaps just realize you’re not the mind.
You’re the ever present, always and already here audience of the mind. You are the awareness of the mind.
This helped me all the way. It is the last answer for me after a very similar experience.
Suicidal thoughts, depression and horrible anxiety for 40 years.
Been to therapy, used medications etc etc.
Today I use a dedicated consistent meditation practice, I have a therapist I use when needed, a good support system in 12 step and I understand that I am not the mind.
The mind is an activity like breathing.
Im not the thinker just like I don’t “do” breathing.
I am being breathed by life, we all are.
Im not the thinker although I can employ my mind to think.
It is my servant, not my master anymore.
Bless you. ❤
I hope you find this helpful and come to understanding.
You are love itself.
Don’t believe your mind! ❤
Meditation practice
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Try Ayahuasca
Wishing you know one day you are worth and can shine your light.
Not knowing my place in the world or having the opportunity to practice it, results in being more susceptible to negative, empty addiction (compulsion).
People who live fully conscious of how integral they are to existence, with humility don't lose themselves randomly.
I am a stone in the river of life. No more, no less.
Thank you for helping all of us find ways to feel connected and have hope.
You speak with a lot calmness & a knowing ...namasté
Such beautiful words 💞 I totally get it 🌺
Beautifully spoken ~
Beautifully put
I wrote a poem last year that ends with the line
“like water over river stones and moving ever still”
Feels like we touched on something very similar there 🧡
You are AMAZINGLY profound. Bless you. 🙏❤️
I listened to some of your podcasts over a year ago after I became aware of my past and reactions and choices in my life that never made sense. I had years of therapy. But the secrets never came out. Major health problems did. I had no idea back then that my body was telling me to stop. My body still tells me to stop after 35 years. Now I am listening. And now these podcasts make sense as I understand and am aware of triggers that can and have determined the course of my life on so many occasions. Much to my shame, for which neither I nor anyone else was available to eleviate. So well hidden because such shame is terrifying. It tells us that we have no value at all. And the comfort we need is so huge and that need only one more source of shame. So I was locked out of my life. And still I found avenues to go down that had a lot of meaning. Of course those safe paths were in helping others. Until I couldn't. After so many years I understand your vocabulary. I asked myself this morning about the trigger I experienced yesterday when a helper canceled. I got lost in scrolling shorts in response to the trigger. I forgave myself but thought that I need to understand how to handle such triggers and ended up at one of your best podcasts. (someone called it that). These podcasts will help with my triggers. I'm grateful. I have the beliefs you share but the practices you introduce are exactly what I needed to find right now. Although awareness of feelings of helplessness and panic are so hard not to run from! This is CPTSD. The memories are all in fragments and maybe that´s as it should be. I believe that being more connected to myself, and practicing self compassion are the key. I choose a spiritual practice for healing. I know what returning home to myself feels like. I know that being moved often takes me home. I know that not feeling safe is an old prison that I need to be free of.
I deeply relate to everything you have said. I hope you find some comfort in that, in that sense those of us who feel alone are not alone I guess. We share our pain but also our willingness to heal from it. I found this video 2 weeks ago too. I was at crisis point. The short RAIN prayer at the end of episode 2 saved me...I think...I hope 🙏 sending peace to you. And gratitude to Tara x
Sending you Love and Light ❤
I just feel like most of us have to be in some sort of trance/disconnect in order to survive in this world.
I feel that in my soul
Love the quote from Dopamine Nation, I read the book and it was a shocking realization. Society's economy now revolves around giving people cheap and easy ways to disassociate.
Love and blessings to everyone watching. You are not alone ♥
no it erlock, watching the hub aint been the same since nor having laughing at my own intrusive thoughts why do i think sick things without trying
Let's remember that for many, the only solution to addiction is a spiritual solution.
This was amazing. A few days ago I saw the video and turned it off off within minutes. I didn’t believe that I had any addictions to look at. Yesterday I returned to it and it really resonated. Last night I had a revelation around hiding my eating habits just as I was sneaking a snack, hiding it and feeling shame.I’ve done this for years. I told my husband and he had no idea. I felt such deep shame while I talked to him. It didn’t crush me. He listened and was so loving and supportive as usually. I was living a small hell and was not aware of how it affected me. Today a whole new revelation opened about my beliefs about others and my “role” in their lives. I see the way I make myself a point of attention. It’s as though I’m recuperating the bits and fragments of myself that I projected. Tara I am so grateful to you for your teachings, your kindness and such genuine and generous honesty. Thank you 🙏❣️
Thank you for sharing your story so honestly 🙏
You can do it . discipline is going to be easy for you I feel it
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All the best on your journey 🍀
Your honesty with facing your shame was truly amazing. It will go a long way towards your healing as you seek the strength you have within to overcome.
Bless you and may you find relief as you continue to seek the joy of presence of each moment.
33:01 realizing “this hurts” and “i care about this suffering” 37:55 “a knowing that the only way I could wake up was through self-kindness…through compassion”
For the sake of all, this can't continue. Just look into the eyes of those who walk by us. Thank you dear Tara.
None of us are perfect. I'm learning to let blame and shame go to embrace the fullness of who I am. Messy, needy shadow parts and all. Blessings all 🙏🏻💕
Amen! Yes!
Yes. Isolation is also due to dyfunctional families especially with mental illness. The children don't realize it's not their fault until damage is done. It's good that people are waking up. We're all getting sick unnecessarily. 😢
The root of it is lack of love, or, worse, presence of unlove.
So challenging, so difficult to let go, so difficult to even want to let go! Addiction is so insidious, so entrapping, so shameful!
its just korean asmr and tbh i study way more and draw too and read and sleep
Epidemic of loneliness . Right on target.
Spiritual malady.
n ones alone, there selfish all of em, even those that have and those that dooooooooooooooo. now me im built diferent tho ma says no korean spas nomo shes right, gambling with life and unaliveskey i want that mother on 66 from 1999
And the sad part is that there are some companies who orchestrated this epidemic of loneliness in order to monetise it. Facebook for example.
youre lonely because you chose to be by not improviong yourquality of life@@Ekam-Sat
I really needed this right now, thank you.
Strangely for me, it's a refusal to sleep. I compulsively deprive myself to such a point of delirium and dysfunction. Last year there was drinking, it used to be binge eating, etc. There's always some new compulsion to fill it's space
You are LIGHT. TAKE BACK YOUR POWER AND REFUSE TO ALLOW THESE ENERGY VAMPIRES TO DIM YOUR LIGHT BELOVED! YOU ARE THAT LIGHT
I can so relate, I am struggling to sleep, its like I fill my head that gets in the way of sleeping. I have not drunk alcohol for 6 months, and now I am detaching from myself in my head. This meditation was perfect for me.
I want you to know ,I love you and would love to meet you.i am looking for a spiritual friend
@@jasonblack6142 always available for spiritual friends...
Try embracing instead of resisting... Ask those habits with their there to teach you... I think mine for comforting me and no they will fall off when they're no longer serving my highest good. Refuse to worry just thank the holy spirit for comforting you through the hardest times and you will find the desire to release don't be so hard on yourself.. practice nurturing yourself. Thank you for your. Hugs
I LOVE Tara. Had the privilege to meet her when I lived in NorCal, for a day-long. She's had a tremendous effect on my growth and healing, and inspired me to become a meditation leader for my group. I believe she's now in her 70s, and has had health issues for a while now. She seems pale in this video (excuse my judgement), and I worry for her long-term health. Hope you're well Tara. May you inspire humans for another 30 years. Blessings & Love.
Dear sister of service to humanity, thank you, thank you for this golden teaching and assistance. This video alone could heal this planet’s trance state and recover billions of souls. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🧡
I was shocked by what I read about how Yogi Bhajan treated you at the ashram. It amazes me how some Indian gurus behave and yet have so many followers. Thanks for what you are doing, it has helped so many people.
The problem word guru pisses me off ..we don't need gurus ..we live in the most exciting time ..granted there is lots crap to deal with none the less the knowledge is everywhere and is clearer than ever ..is no need for gurus it is the age of aquarius..the kingdom of heaven is at hand
How did yogi treat Tara at the ashram?
self aversion is something I heavily struggle with that I never even realized, really is crucial
I was listening to this while sitting on the shore of lake Huron and right as you went quiet, it was like nature working with you and the calm water moving with birds in the background.
Was just a perfect incorporation
I live on Lake Huron as well
I hope the universe blesses you with your greatest desires
Nature is a portal to spirit. ( esp. The dead)
Mindfulness and compassionate for your freedom. That resonates. Epidemic of loneliness. My cigarette isn't my substitute friend.
I suffered through this because it is painful to hear truth. I am rejected from my dysfunctional family in silence. I don’t drink I’m a whole food plant based vegan exercise honest yet feel rejected because I don’t eat meat. People judge me harshly. I want to connect w more vegans and those who also don’t want to kill animals and eat processed foods. Thank you for discussing this. I thought I was alone in this situation. Maybe others I want to be close to are suffering also. I love your description of disconnection and emptiness shame alone Thank you. Healing energy to everyone. We matter. I can value myself and others. Love Buddhism
Fellow vegan here, after watching horrendous footage of what happens to these animals it disgusts me animal products could ever be considered normal. They are NOT. Thank you for being so compassionate, and a light in this world. People like you inspire me, evert single day.
From my heart to yours x
I am dealing with a lot of fear and suffering and disconnection which makes resisting the habits of drug addiction really difficult. Thank you for the video, hearing someone say exactly what I feel made me cry.
You are not alone❣️ This will pass🙏🕊💙
Another talk which speaks clearly to me. I do wonder though (as an atheist) why Buddhist stories are referred to as mythology but Christian ones are not?
Perhaps ‘cosmology’ would be a better word. But, don’t get stuck on the forms. You KNOW instinctively the distinction is ultimately irrelevant to the journey of awakening 🙏
This is almost exactly what my spirit guides have been showing me.
ONCE AGAIN dear and Beloved Tara..the Guided Meditation was so very calming, healing and transformative. And the content of your talk re: game and other addictions and the power of meditation to bring some measure of balance to our Lives was immensely beneficial to hear..for thousands of people..all in due time! Thank you All Ways for your Loving Kindness, Wisdom, and Presence. Aloha from the Heart of Hawaii {and "Aunty Maile (pron: my-lee)"..note: In Hawaii all us female elders are called Aunty )
Oh Tara... thank you for being so honest.... I smoke cigs,pot and food....I'm ready to change.... My name is Tamrah. My spiritual path is finally starting to light up. I want to quit. So difficult.
It takes work to stay off the phone you have to take a stand with it. It was embarrassing that a grown up was checking his phone when my deeper self was not even interested. Keep doing what you are doing.
Thank you for catching me up and supporting me with your words. When you share your heart, mine gets stronger. I'm less afraid of the inner voice telling me "it's time to pay attention to what and how much you are eating". How I live today is how I live my life. May I be kind in bringing my suffering above the line. ❤ I love being human the same time as you, Tara Brach.
When my father died I had a break down and found myself hospitalised. Took a little time to recover but the pain remains. Came back to my home town soon after and retrained in mental health work. Things went really well for 11 years but my breakdown happened again after being attacked by a gang. The police took me to a refuge where eventually I applied for euthanasia in Belgium. Got attacked by a Iraqi street gang in Brussels but survived to return to London after getting help from the British Consulate. I'm 61 and after 3 attempts on my life I now want to move to Lithuania to visit family. Life throws so much shit at you that only mental strength can enable survival. Hope it does not happen to anyone else for life in the UK is perturbing. Gangland, drug dealing and child prostitution racket gangs seem to be holding the elderly and disabled in ransom to extort money from the vulnerable. I've always been a Christian and my faith does help when managing stress. Sick of criminal gangs where the authorities seem overwhelmed. The aged and disabled are now targeted by gangs often because we have an income and a home. Work is normality for me but success brings a jealous reaction from others who use crime as a career and ironically are socially accepted by a terrorised public who fear retribution from gangs. Never want to experience the UK again it is a sick place and can't see any future here. Think this lady has a good understanding of modernity and the repercussions of working in a jobless community.
I have battled with addictions to multiple substances, most of them being legal, throughout my entire existence. I was introduced to alcohol by my mother at age 14, and I immediately knew that alcohol was the answer for me, it allowed me to be around people without feeling the intense social anxiety that I struggle with still to this day, at fifty~one. But at age 21, I checked self into the detox ward at Vanderbilt Hospital in Nashville, TN, because at that point I was drinking daily, and I also didn't have anywhere to go, living on the streets, and their alcohol detox consisted then of merely 5-7 days inpatient, so they helped me find halfway house all the way in Fort Smith, AR, then found out I was pregnant, so I went to a sober living home there, and was doing wonderful, until I met my late husband at an NA meeting, no less lol! At the time, both of us were sober, but after a few months of us drinking and smoking weed together, I was kicked out of the home for staying out all night. So after we moved in together, of course the using grew worse, and one day he asked me if I wanted to try heroin, which was his drug of choice, and I freaked out saying no way, I had only drank alcohol and smoked weed up to this point, but he said i wouldn't have to use a syringe, so I agreed to try it, and bought some with the $ I received as compensation for giving the daughter I gave birth to to a couple that I knew could give her what she needed. Well, I feel IN LOVE, and can still remember to this day how amazing it felt, about 15min after I snorted a line, it started at the base of my neck, and went all the way down my spine, alleviating all physical pain, then I started to feel the euphoria of it emotionally and mentally, and I felt like a little child again, it was a BEAUTIFUL experience, but it didn't last long. I was only 22 when I first tried any opiate, and of course, I had to go for the strongest most deadly one out here, but this led to a LIFETIME of chasing that high. I did heroin from 22-29, then went to a Methadone clinic, because I wanted off the heroin so bad/didn't know what else to do. So I was on 120mg of Methadone from year 2000 to the year after addiction TOOK MY BEAUTIFUL SOUL of a MOTHER from me, and a couple of years into my BATTLE with it, my PRIMARY CARE PHYSICIAN, not even a psychiatrist, KNEW I was taking 120mg of Methadone, proceeded to prescribe me THREE 2MG XANAX BARS per DAY, which is a DEATH SENTENCE in my humble opinion, this combination has killed quite a few people I love. Anyway, I of course became addicted to both substances, and did not know whom to turn to, or where to go for help, so I got d8wn on my hands/knees one night in my bathroom floor and BEGGED God to PLEASE REMOVE ANY DESIRE for Methadone or xanax I had, then I found a great inpatient rehab a few weeks later, checked in, stayed over 30 days. I haven't touched Methadone since, but have dipped into xanax here and there. Now, I have been taking prescription Suboxone for the past nine years, but at least it has kept me away from all other opiates, and I've now been clean from any benzos also for over six months now. I sure do WISH I could BE SET FREE from ALL prescription POISONS, but at this point, honestly, I have lost hope in ever being able to FREE MYSELF from all these drugs they've had me on my entire existence, and yes, I refer to "life" as existence, because I have never once experienced LIFE, I've always just existed, barely keeping head above water/in fight or flight for over 40 YEARS would take a toll on anyone. Sorry this is so long. I don't really even know why I went into this much detail, but I do hope that me sharing so openly like this will somehow help someone(s). Sending out SO V³RY MUCH L6Ve, POSITive/HEALing eNERgies, and the LIGHT of protectI0N UNd TRANSformatI9N, AlWAYsss!!!
THANK YOU for Sharing this Wisdom!!!
My gosh may I suggest you look into the book hope and help for your nerves by doctor Claire weeks and also the carnivore diet . These have saved many from anxiety disorders and it might be exactly what you need . I almost cried reading this please reach out to me ; I’ll send you resources that helped me recover from agoraphobia and severe anxiety
Also I love you I’ve been thru what you have and it’s torture I feel for you and am here
Thank you for sharing your story. Sending you love and light and positive vibes. You are making a difference in the world I hope you know that keep going. You literally changed my mind tonight . Thank u
"To want for nothing, is the Greatest Ecstasy" - Adi Da Samraj
If you simply realised you already Are all the things you want, then you wouldnt have to crave after them. This Is Divine Ecstasy.
- Adi Da Samraj
"If you look for Happiness in the world you must necessarily leave the place where it Always Already Is in order to seek it" ~ Avatar Adi Da Samraj
"Outside the Heart, there is no satisfaction." ~ Adi Da Samraj
"I am like the sunlight in the morning. I intensify the light of morning until you awaken. Until the light awakens a person, even the Light of Consciousness Itself, the person continues to dream, tries to survive within the dream, manipulates himself or herself within the dream, pursues all kinds of goals, searches, none of which Awaken the person. All ordinary means only console a person and distract him or her within the dream. I Myself, the One Who would Awaken you, am not a person, not an individual within the dream. I Am your Very Consciousness. I Am the Real, the Light, the True Waking State, the Heart - Breaking Through the force of dreaming. It is not that you are some poor person who needs some other poor person to help you out. It may appear to be so within the dream, but essentially it is your own Ultimate Self-Nature Appearing within the dream to Awaken you. I Am your Awakening, and your always already Conscious State."
~ Avatar Adi Da Samraj
This amazing talk is life-changing. Even though I am addicted to the internet and binge watching UA-cam videos is one of my favourite ways to disconnect from myself, THIS was probably one of the most difficult videos to watch, had to re-start about 10 times, but it was completely worth it. Now to part 2!
So sorry for your loss😢
A lot of undeniable truth here.
Wow, Tara! You really nailed it. Thank you for articulating a terrible samsaric cycle with such clarity and compassion. Hope i can apply this in my own life for positive change…
I am so grateful for your presence in this world and on this platform. Your teachings bring me great comfort, especially when I need them most.
My father was the first hand to my body.
I trust no man.
Thank you for this blessing ✨💝
What do you mean when you say first hand?
I'm sorry for your pain
So helpful. I have taken away some wonderful tools to work on one of my addictions. Blessings and love Tara ❤❤❤❤
I watched this in the midst of having compulsive thoughts. It was hard to even click on it because it the compulsive energy was almost rejecting it. But I'm glad I did. So helpful, so many sparks of remembrance. Thank you
Dear Tara, dear everyone, I was guided to this video two days ago and I found it when I woke up felt really uncomfortable in my body because of something or the time I ate and I fell asleep with it. The next morning I got my period; which always comes on a day of great importance when a new phase of some sort starts and I felt different. I went for a long walk after washing up and I felt really good, in control, in my body again. I got what you were saying on a cellular level, or otherwise said my cells understood what is happening when I give into a craving. I am happy to say I don't have intense binges anymore, I was however daily eating some kind of thing that I would rather not, pieces of regular super sugary chocolate, small bowls of crisps. And it seems I could not not. Since yesterday I feel in control again and I have been able to choose against it. And more-over I didn't even crave it. Which is a new one. Every single day it was fighting the urge not to and the urge won.
This morning my body jumped out of bed and wanted to start Yoga before my mind even was awake. Then the mind woke up and wanted to have a coffee. It took some sitting in silence and soothing my inner child and eventually I did my practice on a warm water with Ghee. It is a journey, and there will be days that I will falter, and I know that these days will be far and few.
thank you very much for this amazing content. for everyone reading this, I hold the vision for you too, we are one. Namaste and lots of love. VM
I very much related to your story. Thanks for being so honest. Namaste.
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my UA-cam channel 8 months ago about self development. Now I have 850 subs and > 400 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
Maybe I'm just ready to grasp this finally, but it seems that this is the clarity, these are the words I've been seeking to move out of this "trance", swamp, prison
You have shown me the path,the creek, the northwest passage, the vein leading back to my original heart. Now the work begins!!!
Thank you!!!!
Thank you Tara and the community here ❤✨
There is no greater addiction than constantly focusing on the I and it’s needs including the need to accept it and transcend it is all of the mind’s doing. I is the mind, it’s not you. Your entrapment to the ego is of the mind and the freeing of it, is still the mind. Who sees the I? Does this one need to do anything to be free and beyond the “me” mind and all its forms of entertainment?
I have felt disconnected from others since the pandemic. I think I do "use" things like streaming movies, UA-cam videos, reading and eating mindlessly more since then. I think I always have to some degree (used things to "fill" my time) when not working. Since I have mostly retired and am out of a long term relationship - that has added to it all. One thing I do not do any more is drink alcohol like I used to. It's occasional (very) now. I feel good about that, especially because I, too came from an alcoholic family (father). Thanks for this video Tara, I truly appreciate all that you do....
If you google “covid isnt over monthly calendar” you’ll be led to a Twitter account that has a monthly calendar of virtual activities. It’s not the same as in person of course, but you can make connections based on interests.
Thank you so much for this. I think it’s all just fueling the lie we live in. We must remember who we are as Source if we are to stop reaching for things outside of the self (aka love, fulfillment, freedom, satisfaction), “looking for love in all the wrong places” as Abraham hicks says… the only way to find security or love in a reliable way is to find it from where it comes from. Your source within 🕊️❤️ much love thank you so much for your presence on here
Energy flows where attention goes
I am so deeply sorry for your loss. Holding you both in my heart.
Thank you friend this helped me I'm not a Budhist I'm a Roman catholic but I respect you and your choice to be Budhist
Quit smoking cannabis, and I've changed my diet..i feel alot better and like im living in accordance with what i want it to be like. Cannabis made me sluggish, paranoid, made acid reflux worse, hurt my lungs badly. I was very addicted to it, smoking hourly all day long. Just to escape the world and numb myself..this only made me weaker, reliant on it. I also ate myself into a hiatal hernia that may need surgery in the futur. So I've cut down on binge eating, processed foods and fried foods are gone.
Way to go. You are on the right track now. Don't be upset by the upset that may still be part of your experience. That's okay. Just keep facing the right direction and take one step at a time As you move forward. You don't have to run or even jog. Just walk. You may want to look into intermittent fasting as well. Proud of you. As hard as it is to believe, you deserve the freedom you are now experiencing even if it's not as quick or as much as you want. Way to go!
I lost my sister a little over a year ago to her addiction. She was sold drugs that contained Fentanyl. I immediately made the decision to get clean. Luckily i was already on a road to recovery and was only taking Suboxone but still felt like i was fighting an addiction due to the fact i had to have them. They are just as bad as any other drug. I'm on a slow tapper program now designed to slowly lower the dose until i can come off without being too sick. The struggle is real. I really feel like my sister saved me. God Bless her soul. We love and miss her.
I am so glad, I found this channel. Subscribed ❤
You're unbelievably accurate. I've never heard anybody explain it from such a core place, yet still so easy for anyone to understand. You're gifted and precious to this world.
Namaste 🙏
i love ur energy. i feel like the antidote to addiction is intentionally slowing down and being present
This was an amazing talk! Thank you ❤
Thank you this was already so transformational ! I feel I have tapped into something really deep within myself, like never before. I believe I can win this battle against my addictions.
This was my first video on this chanel. Very nice. I didn't think I would last 51 munutes...but as SO good and inlightining..thank you.
I battled with addiction until 2 days ago. 2 months ago is when I started stopping...I can hear and see the things around us that most others cannot. Over 6 yrs ago I started focusing on this gift. In the start of my addiction.
I blew it off when it was right in my face I thought I was crazy I thought I was skitzaphrenic and I would get to this point a few months ago when I realized I was hurting them. Demons are invading my house, doing bad things to those who love me till most left for their own protection
I'm hoping they know I'm done and return to defeat these demons but thank you for this video because it's true and needs to be addressed no matter where you are at in this grip
You are surrounded by good and evil and you are hurting the good as long as you feed the evil
Thank you for your kindness and for sharing these practices - you are much appreciated. ❤
Excellent!!! Extremely helpful, hopeful, informative and timely as I plod along my healing journey. THANK YOU 🙏 ❤
Tara, I truly appreciate you sharing your personal experiences. Your energy is very soothing & peaceful. Your teachings highly beneficial. You are an exquisitely Beautiful Soul & Human ❤
Love & Blessings
Thank you for this enlightening message. ❤I’m not addicted to drugs but was many years ago and the lingering shame kept me from being fully in the present now
Thank you for your soothing voice and kindness. 🙏💕✨
I am HE as you are HE as you are ME...and WE are all TOGETHER.
You are incredibly well spoken. I've been trying to identify my own hungry ghost and trance state but I had trouble putting a title on it or identifying it directly as you so eloquently have. THANK YOU SO MUCH for creating this video!
I deal with anger and emotional pain from being abused. That's about it. Good luck.
you are the best person
🙏🏻peace love n light to all, thank you for this information 💕✨💖
To me society is obsessed with ‘belonging, being part of, loneliness, isolation’ which then generates all these obsessions: drown your loneliness’ in drink, gaming, social media etc.
If we could develop a friendship with ourselves, and enjoying our time alone ‘and with others when they are around’ we’d be better off.
There a reason why Spiritual people, have for centuries now, gone on retreats and spend time alone.
Wow this is so timely for me at this moment. I will listen again. Unhooking. Wow the timing is amazing 🙏🏽💟🙏🏽 I am working on breaking unhealthy habits
Thank you so much Tara. This talk brought me back to a peaceful place where I feel inspired to stay compassionately present. I look forward to your next talk on this subject.
I like yr video ..... awsome ...
Thank you deeply. My last video on youtube for a while. I am awakening and rising above my habitual, small self. Thank you for your wisdom. You are amazing ❤
Thank you for this ! I really enjoyed your video ❤
Blessings and love. May we all be free from modern habits x
Thank you so much for this - The world has never needed this more
I would love to find gifted and trustable healers that offer remote healing sessions. I feel stuck in life!
You can almost see the light pouring out from behind your eyes. You have cultivated much positive energy!! Thank you Tara! You are helpful to so so many people!
I was just pondering this last night. Can't wait to watch this tonight after work!
Sjoe you so accurately describe the steps. Thank you Tara. Iam hopeful to overcome by being present and connected to THE IAM
I have recently been thinking about this subject and I just want to encourage you to continue to share these truth. It is going to take one person at a time to wake up community support . Have found Elkhart Tolle that has helped me. 🙏
I have a friend who really struggles with anorexia, but she thinks she struggles with binge eating, when she describes how she feels around food she describes what you describe at the dinner table at the ashram about always wanting more and the shame after eating, but she feels this way about all food, so she avoids it and she doesn’t eat, she thinks if she eats she’s giving in to the addiction, but she’s not eating, I’m really worried about her. She has severe ADHD and she’s tried all forms of mindfulness and meditation but she says they just make her feel even worse about herself because her mind is never there and she can’t figure out how to be present and it just feels like another area where she’s failing. How can I help her and how can I help her feel like she can trust herself to eat and that not all eating is an addiction. You describe that our society is hyper addictive environment and that there are all these people out there to get us hooked for profit, but I worry about this narrative. I know people like my friend and many more who don’t trust themselves and when they hear this then they don’t trust others either and it makes the way back even harder. My friend says she can’t eat this and that because it’s hyper addictive and she’s an addict, but what about when it’s her mothers birthday cake of a family recipe that’s been handed down for generations, or the chocolate her boyfriend gives her on Valentine’s Day - you could say it’s all just cultures way of poisoning us and we should look for other kinds of expressions of love but is this striving for purity is also a kind of striving and I worry it can threaten our connections and relationships with those who aren’t on the same path and don’t see things the same way. How can I help my friend trust that even though the world is imperfect and yes there is motivation for money and power life is still worth living and people are still worth loving but most of all that it’s safe - safe enough to let herself eat, and even if it’s dangerous, which you’re right it is, it’s more dangerous to close oneself off than it will ever be to open and to let herself be radiantly imperfect. and she’s a big fan of yours and I’m just worried she’s going to hear this and she’s not going to hear the beautiful things you say about self compassion, she’s only going to hear that she’s dangerous and that the worlds dangerous and not that she has hungry ghosts but that she is one. She’s tried to kill herself before because she gets so wrapped up in this self hatred. and I’m so scared, and I know she hears everything wrong, like it’s more evidence she can’t trust herself. How can I help her come home to herself?
Your friend sounds just like me 😢 she is lucky to have you as a friend ❤
I am in the very very exakt position as you friend, and I‘m so blown away by the fact that people like you even exist. Nobody in my live even knows about any of this and if they did, they by far wouldn’t have this caring and deep thoughts, so know that just the feeling of you listening and trying to understand is such an enormous help to your friend, I promise!
Just the words myself needed to hear.
Thank you kindly 🙏
Thank you so very much. I am touched deeply, feel that change is possible and that I am not alone. Thanks also to Dana Falls#
Thankyou Tara.Your talks give me strength to believe in hope for humanity .The bleakness out there sometimes is overwhelming.
The path to enlightenment is a challenging path. You'll feel much pain along the way. This is impermanent and will not last forever. After the dark night of the soul always comes the dawn light of the awakening. If you choose to take this path, there is no turning back. Keep going my fellow travellers, we are all on our own journey back to our true selves and oneness with everything!
Many many thanks for your kindness and compassion. Where would I be without your wonderful talks. 🙏🏻💐❤️
I really need to hear this right now. It’s lucky I found this one, right now, I’m feeling isolated and listening to you, I realise, I’m going through a difficult disconnection within me. This talk will be my work next few day. Here to clicking on that specific link between our bodies and out spirit with our nature and all that surround us ❤️🙏❤️
Reverence - thank you for this ❤
Thank you for this. What synchronicity coming across this video...even the word "wanting", which I used earlier today in coming to some awareness about that...
First if all , thank you so very much for opening your heart with such sincerity. And this program really makes me feel confort and peace. Thank you from Guadalajara Jalisco México May God bless you always
Awakening from Trance! Great video, thank you. :)
Thank you Tara. I saw you at Kripalu for Radical acceptance in 2014. I have been on quite the journey since. I am now a YTT 200 graduate and focusing on Mediation on Kirton. Namaste
I am so happy that this video popped up today. Thank you! ❤
Blessings and love to you too, Tara. 💗