Matthew Perry shares his incredible story of survival and why fame wasn't the answer to his problems

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  • @naterey92
    @naterey92 Рік тому +2316

    Crazy how his death, just now, brought a lot of us to this beautiful interview. RIP 🙏🏽

    • @LAFITZ10
      @LAFITZ10 Рік тому +48

      crazy about the doctor's prescription as an infant.... i bet his body was waiting for that NEXT addictive thing & when he got that first sip of alcohol....as he said "heaven" - so sad. but IT WAS HIS PURPOSE TO HELP OTHERS GOD BLESS HIM & RIP

    • @kaleabgetachew6715
      @kaleabgetachew6715 Рік тому +9

      Absolutely right!

    • @lynspies1363
      @lynspies1363 Рік тому +19

      Matthew is such a role model fir us to Wake up to the addictions that are so easy to acquire and so hard to quit. God Bless him. RIP Matthew ❤❤🙏🙏

    • @betts3824
      @betts3824 Рік тому +9

      So true.I learned things wonderful things didn't know. RIO
      He made a difference.❤❤❤❤

    • @melindawood3644
      @melindawood3644 Рік тому +17

      Not so crazy. We just don't want to say goodbye. 😢🙏

  • @spotteddog1716
    @spotteddog1716 2 роки тому +4075

    I’m a retired paramedic and I have seen addicts in all shapes, sizes colors, age groups, etc. etc. Addiction does not discriminate. He is very lucky that he could afford to go to all the treatment centers he went to. Some people aren’t so lucky. I read this book and it was fantastic. I wish him nothing but the best and it is my hope that we take addiction a lot more seriously in this country and have a better facilities for people to get well in.

    • @mikearchibald744
      @mikearchibald744 2 роки тому +109

      I wish he'd get more political and help with the decriminalization of drugs as a first step. In my province our conservative government is building a new prison that everybody says we don't need, but as the homeless keep growing, thats the kind of housing he's thinking of.
      Way too many people still unbelievably think addiction is a 'choice'.

    • @RebekahCurielAlessi
      @RebekahCurielAlessi 2 роки тому +24

      Yes yes yes yes yes.

    • @londonwright173
      @londonwright173 2 роки тому +72

      Agreed. Hes very wealthy from one mildly funny TV show and has like most addicts taken a lifetime to start dealing with their addiction. I've loved and married addicts and have a son that's an addict too. I have a very jaded view on addiction sadly. I find them all similar and self loathing and at the same time selfish. As we all know they have to get better alone and start to grow up as they never mature until they get and stay sober. This guy does sound medicated but who knows? But by saying I didn't want this says a lot. He's still in victim mode and has much work to still. And BTW blaming colic for your addiction is ridiculous. I had 2 kids with it and one is an addiction. He needs to continue to grow up and become a really good human.

    • @mikearchibald744
      @mikearchibald744 2 роки тому +1

      @@londonwright173 Thats kind of unfair. What we know about addiction is that it affects the brain in very particular ways. Soem people can take drug a and it has no affect, others become addicts. Of couse its self - ish, when you get hit by a bus you go to the hospital. Your process of getting better is 'about you'. If you are implying addicts can never be selfless then I have a wealth of samples saying thats very wrong, in fact many addicts are fighting for legislation because of OTHER addicts.
      Addiction is a disease, and there is no evidence that ONLY can they get better alone, in fact thats found to be very untrue. Most addicts, unlike most of hte public, already live in a social culture of other addicts and dealers. Nothing ANYBODY does do they do alone. Addiction is now described as a disease, same with alcoholism, and thats why they have AA, which isn't great, but its supportive. Like ANYTHING in life it ultimately rests on an individual, but they certainly don't have to 'do it alone', in fact there is no reason for them to do so.
      I didn't listen to him talk, its the issue I'm interested in and criminalization is problem one. After that then like alcoholics we can try to deal with it in other ways. But his position is irrelevant, good luck to him, its addiction services and public policy that are the issue. As you say, INDIVIDUALLY its not like I can adopt an addict and 'turn them around', its just too much. It takes a social stance. And sadly we live in a celebrity world, so he does have a platform, and I say it because he's already DONE debates in europe on decriminalization.

    • @gw593
      @gw593 2 роки тому +86

      In Canada we have free residential treatment centres. I’ve been 4 times. Treatment centres aren’t the solution. It gives you sometime to clear the fog but it’s recovery groups “AA, NA, CA” that saves lives. 3 years clean myself. I’ve seen countless people come in to these rooms while at treatment centres and then once the rehab stint is done, not come around anymore and then end up dead or back in prison or rehab again. AA is the only thing that works and has worked for almost 100 years. Mathew knows this well and addicts and alcoholics know this very well. It’s the ignorant public who for some reason think it’s a cult that deters sick people from walking through a door and asking for help. All AA is is 1 alcoholic helping another. There is no forced religion, no forced anything. I sat beside an atheist today, nobody cares. Once we can stop stigmatizing groups then we can really help people. But we can’t even stop stigmatizing the sick, let alone the solution. It’s obviously an anonymous program but as someone who attends meetings I can tell you that everything he is saying about addiction and the solution is coming from a place of AA. We speak a language and he is speaking it and I love it.

  • @Macattack-wc1cu
    @Macattack-wc1cu Рік тому +1211

    Rest easy Matthew, your impact on a generation can't be understated 😢🕊

    • @juanmartinreborati7928
      @juanmartinreborati7928 Рік тому +19

      Sad sad day… RIP

    • @datacipher
      @datacipher Рік тому +6

      Lol. Yeah… come on. Sad that he killed himself over years despite having all the chances and resources in the world, but he did. Another Hollywood punk in the end. And no… chandler didn’t change the world…
      Recent generations have no perspective and overdramatize everything.

    • @thetrappedchatterbox7941
      @thetrappedchatterbox7941 Рік тому

      ​​@@datacipher No matter what people's opinions of the man, I'll even agree the changing the world stuff is a bit strong - he had people that liked him and ones he didn't. But there's no doubt that you're a sad fella. And if you're not, you're lucky that you're too naive to have a real look at yourself.

    • @TheCambra
      @TheCambra Рік тому +52

      ​@@datacipherdisrespectful

    • @nintony2994
      @nintony2994 Рік тому +27

      @@datacipher My Grandfather smoked his whole life. I was about 10 years old when my mother said to him, 'If you ever want to see your grandchildren graduate, you have to stop immediately.'. Tears welled up in his eyes when he realized what exactly was at stake. He gave it up immediately. Three years later he died of lung cancer. It was really sad and destroyed me. My mother said to me- 'Don't ever smoke. Please don't put your family through what your Grandfather put us through." I agreed. At 28, I have never touched a cigarette. I must say, I feel a very slight sense of regret for never having done it, because your post gave me cancer anyway.

  • @amandarb119
    @amandarb119 Рік тому +379

    People really nailed it when they said losing Matthew Perry felt like losing an actual friend. I feel like I knew him, even though I didn’t. He’s the only celebrity who I’ve ever felt connected to even though we never met. RIP friend. You were loved.

    • @JisooTurtleRabbitt
      @JisooTurtleRabbitt Рік тому +7

      I've been seeing people saying it's like losing one of the Beatles, friends has been iconic world wide for decades :(

    • @melissagregoire9278
      @melissagregoire9278 Рік тому +11

      Matthew seemed sincere and loveable. The others, not so much. They seem like they're out for publicity now on Matthew's sad death. I love his honesty. RIP good man 😢

    • @christophermiller159
      @christophermiller159 11 місяців тому +5

      @@JisooTurtleRabbitt. Yea I remember on December 8th 1980 when John Lennon was killed. Bummer man

    • @virginias6357
      @virginias6357 10 місяців тому

      I agree with you

    • @virginias6357
      @virginias6357 10 місяців тому

      I agree with you

  • @danoyse8233
    @danoyse8233 Рік тому +1233

    ‘Alcohol wants you alone, it wants you sick and then it wants to kill you’. I have borne witness to this line since I was a small child. Prayers to all those struggling with addictions.

    • @len6871
      @len6871 Рік тому +19

      I pray for you. I see you.

    • @Erica-yr3gf
      @Erica-yr3gf Рік тому

      Alcohol not only kill people, it also kills families. It killed my childhood and killed my marriage. I’m the first non alcoholic in my family.

    • @tonyallewellyn7304
      @tonyallewellyn7304 Рік тому +6

      Thank you 😔

    • @marymedal8665
      @marymedal8665 Рік тому +2

      😅😊😅😊😅😅😅I

    • @davekenny8292
      @davekenny8292 Рік тому +25

      Alcohol wants nothing, if a person has a hole in their life they will try and fill it with something

  • @4kryptik4
    @4kryptik4 Рік тому +725

    "When I die I don't want Friends to be the first thing that's mentioned." - Matthew Perry
    He wants to be remembered for his impact on helping people struggling with addiction and alcoholism. Rest easy Matthew.

    • @dardanelka9415
      @dardanelka9415 Рік тому +29

      and yet that's exactly what's happening( I know people have good intentions but i still feel sorry for him because there was so much more to him than Chandler

    • @SampleTracks2224
      @SampleTracks2224 Рік тому +5

      Agreed. Good on ya, Mr Perry, I hope you will.

    • @bdkB134
      @bdkB134 Рік тому +4

      His friends co-star failed him to be a true friend when he was alive. RIP Mathew Perry. Your book will inspire more people in real life than your so so co stars in reel

    • @RichieW90210
      @RichieW90210 Рік тому +14

      @@bdkB134why are you saying that? They were all loving and supportive to him.

    • @watermelonqueen1755
      @watermelonqueen1755 Рік тому +23

      @@bdkB134 Huh? Jennifer Anniston was one of the best support systems during his struggles. She was there for him and it’s written in his book.

  • @shaunhedden47
    @shaunhedden47 Рік тому +515

    I celebrated 17 years clean and sober back in August but around this time last year I almost went back out, was going through a horrible time. I read Matt's book cover to cover and I credit that experience for helping to keep me sober. Rip Matt and THANK YOU

  • @missc2896
    @missc2896 Рік тому +598

    When Matthew speaks about feeling better after a drink, I knew what he meant. This life is so harsh and it's difficult to fit in. I think he was a sensitive soul who struggled with this life. I hope his Legacy will help others with addiction. Rest in Peace Matthew, you will be missed.

    • @Ilahaa89
      @Ilahaa89 Рік тому

      🕊️🤍🤍🕊️♥️🕊️🕊️😢😢😢❤️‍🩹

    • @danewoods4712
      @danewoods4712 Рік тому +7

      Yea I completely understand.
      I feel more at ease with life.

    • @tankthearc9875
      @tankthearc9875 Рік тому +7

      his life wasnt harsh , but he just couldnt get a hold of this addiction.

    • @blakefletcher9834
      @blakefletcher9834 Рік тому

      @@tankthearc9875 Yeah but mental illness and addiction don't care if you're rich, famous, have people who love you. Mental illness and addiction can and will still take you

    • @melissapereira9879
      @melissapereira9879 Рік тому +16

      He was very sensitive. In friends interview Lisa made it sound like they all keep in contact. But when James corden asked "who doesn't pick-up" he said no one calls me then breaks down in tears.
      He was very lonely too i feel and missed his "friends" cast.

  • @TobyKneib
    @TobyKneib Рік тому +606

    I am so very saddened that the "rest of his life" was only 11 months. He struggled so much in his life, but brought so much joy to many, myself included. He was brave to share his story. I pray it helps many people like he wanted it to. RIP Matthew. I pray God has brought you peace and comfort. Thank you for all the laughs, and I am so sorry that your life ended too soon.

    • @kathrynbaker7529
      @kathrynbaker7529 Рік тому +29

      I can't stop thinking about that, too. Yes, heartbreaking, to say the least.

    • @mercedehalemipour3906
      @mercedehalemipour3906 Рік тому +13

      RIP dear mathew

    • @ReturnOfTheJ.D.
      @ReturnOfTheJ.D. Рік тому +11

      I didn't follow Friends at all in the 90s but after he died I started watching videos of him talking about addiction and his struggles with it. And I found that very illuminating and revealing. I guess we should now all know why he talked with such directness and gravity in his voice about his matter - he clearly knew he was near death. And the world's lost a voice that was badly needed to shine light on this vital issue. Not one human being, not one soul, has gained anything from this person's death. We've lost, we've all lost.

    • @lorraineb.4698
      @lorraineb.4698 Рік тому +5

      Other babies may have been given this too for colic. (Phenobarbital) Not sure. Maybe this was given in the olden days before 1970. Hope it did not have long term affects on him though. May never know

    • @alsea1968
      @alsea1968 Рік тому +3

      What were the autopsy results? Anyone know?

  • @jaybartlett2561
    @jaybartlett2561 Рік тому +497

    8,148 days clean for me. There is hope. ❤

    • @Emzzz78
      @Emzzz78 Рік тому +5

      Woohoo!!

    • @timgustave6105
      @timgustave6105 9 місяців тому +5

      Amazing! That’s inspiring!

    • @danielaeiterer
      @danielaeiterer 9 місяців тому +3

      Keep going, you're strong!

    • @ravindavemidnight6422
      @ravindavemidnight6422 9 місяців тому +1

      Amen, brother

    • @robfield-n7v
      @robfield-n7v 9 місяців тому +2

      i Hope the best for you,
      1 Corinthians 3:16-17& 6:16-20,
      Ephesians 5:18,
      Galatians 5:19-23,

  • @danoyse8233
    @danoyse8233 Рік тому +993

    From an Irish family, full of drinking, arguments, death, I am so desperately sorry that MP has come to an early end. My son is recovering, I have sent this to him. Thank you. RIP Matthew Perry.

    • @enchiladasqueretanas
      @enchiladasqueretanas Рік тому +30

      Death is not a bad thing, he was ready, and that’s why he left. Great people sometimes chose a short stay.

    • @sharonsparks900
      @sharonsparks900 Рік тому +26

      @@enchiladasqueretanasthere’s no choice in addiction.

    • @christinascibetta1043
      @christinascibetta1043 Рік тому +13

      Do u think the irish have more addiction than others.

    • @carnivorous_vegan
      @carnivorous_vegan Рік тому +1

      @@sharonsparks900 There is a choice. You just choose not to do it. Simple. If you can't, you're weak, and you're not a man.

    • @pats1943
      @pats1943 Рік тому +9

      Oh do I KNOW THE LIFE STYLE FOR MY BROTHERS, NEPHEWS UNCLES, AND I AM ALSO IRISH BLESS YOU HON AND MP

  • @marieharris1230
    @marieharris1230 11 місяців тому +126

    My heart breaks for this beautiful man. No one knows how hard he struggled.

    • @MoonOverYou
      @MoonOverYou 9 місяців тому +7

      I do. I've been drinking for 43 years. How I survived, I don't know. If Matthew had admitted to using, instead of saying he could help his fellow addicts, he would have found a world of support~the "penguins," as he described his friends, especially. But you can't help an addict until you are 100% clean and sober, and he never was.

    • @Abr022575
      @Abr022575 5 місяців тому

      Poor baby

    • @MoonOverYou
      @MoonOverYou 4 місяці тому

      @@perryolsen1370 There was no ethanol in his system when he died, so they say. Authorities are still searching for the sources of the ketamine he took off-label. I am convinced that the autopsy was incomplete and sloppy. What bothers me is that the coroner claimed Perry drowned, but there was no foaming around his mouth, which is typical of drowning, and there was no water in his lungs.

    • @Bert-lw1ot
      @Bert-lw1ot 3 місяці тому

      Self inflicted. Millions of people go through worse, through no fault of their own

    • @rileysummers9757
      @rileysummers9757 2 місяці тому +1

      @@Bert-lw1othe suffered. He was human. He deserved support and compassion like anyone else.

  • @estudandofrancêssozinhocomigo
    @estudandofrancêssozinhocomigo Рік тому +345

    The interviewer is a very sensitive, empathic and sensible person, and now that Mr. Perry has sadly passed, I am very grateful to him for that.

    • @rhondawhittaker456
      @rhondawhittaker456 Рік тому +13

      He’s the wonderful Tom Power, a Newfoundland musician and longtime host of CBC Radio One’s Q. Love his warmth and approachability. ❤

    • @92dore
      @92dore Рік тому +7

      I felt the same thing. Seemed like he knew he was dealing with someone very likely high as a kite at the moment, talking about helping others with addiction.

    • @mehranrostami6967
      @mehranrostami6967 Рік тому +7

      Can you be anymore honest?
      The world is better because you lived in it.
      Love you,
      Rest In Peace.

    • @nj0991
      @nj0991 Рік тому +1

      🇨🇦

  • @easttowest5984
    @easttowest5984 Рік тому +331

    Anyone else watching this just days after his passing? This should be required reading (watching) for addicts or anyone. He helped many just by telling his story. Farewell friend.

  • @natashat3778
    @natashat3778 Рік тому +453

    This is one of the most honest interviews I've ever seen - he was so open, relaxed, didn't try to play Chandler or be funny, and so vulnerable. It is such a great discovery of this beautiful person who suffered much but still stayed so deeply human. Rest in peace Matthew, we will remember you like this.

    • @neomacchio4692
      @neomacchio4692 Рік тому +14

      Hate to say it but he’s probably high. The way he’s talking sounds like it too… slightly slurring. This isn’t a criticism of him or his character… but I’ve been around people on opiates and this is exactly how they talk when they’ve taken a LOT.

    • @randomeyes
      @randomeyes Рік тому +2

      ​@@neomacchio4692I did notice that also and he looked a tad rough... no offence...

    • @ΣοφίαΛινού-ψ3γ
      @ΣοφίαΛινού-ψ3γ Рік тому +9

      Many people talk like this without being "high", and he wasn't young anymore, things change. And I think he was under specific doctor medication nevertheless, exactly because of his addictions etc

    • @robwessels6899
      @robwessels6899 Рік тому +19

      He had several surgeries a few of which resulted in comas. Basically he sounds like a person recovering from a stroke. My gramma had several diabetes related strokes back in the day and it caused slurred speech and even some facial paralysis

    • @MAYWAHITO
      @MAYWAHITO Рік тому +8

      Complete human interview ❤❤

  • @RebeccaT-y3s
    @RebeccaT-y3s Рік тому +276

    My mother was an alcoholic and eventually died from her addiction. I found her passed away at her home. Reading about Matthew’s addiction has given me a different point of view . It’s like he’s explaining exactly how she felt , why it was so hard for her to stop. It is a massively misunderstood disease that deserves far more understanding and respect.
    I hope he found some peace ❤

    • @frannyyamuna
      @frannyyamuna Рік тому +15

      I was touched by your message❤ after a life time of alcohol abuse I am finally 2 years sober at the age of 70. Its a miracle, and compassionate friends and family and trained support workers , are the reason I have been able to achieve my aim . To own my alcoholism was the beginning of recovery . Matthew Perry helped me a lot , witnessing some of his struggle and , in later years his path to recovery . The honesty of people like Matthew is so very brave , and helps break down the myths about addiction . Matthew brought joy and honesty as a person and I miss him even though I didn't know him. R.I.P. dear soul 🙏🙏🙏

    • @RebeccaT-y3s
      @RebeccaT-y3s Рік тому +12

      @@frannyyamuna I have so much respect for anyone who manages to beat addiction . Even the people who try and fail , at least they tried . I grew up with addiction. It took my childhood from me . I lost my father to cancer , so I couldn’t understand why she was choosing to destroy her health . It took me a long time to realise it wasn’t her choice . It is a disease .
      Well done for overcoming this illness and please continue to fight on ❤️

    • @dianahalili1658
      @dianahalili1658 11 місяців тому +4

      Omg! Its like you reading my mind. My father was an alcoholic and it killed him. I have never forgave him till i read Matthews book. Its eye opening isnt it!

    • @RebeccaT-y3s
      @RebeccaT-y3s 11 місяців тому +6

      @@dianahalili1658 the trouble with my mother was she never admitted she had a problem . She ‘ just liked a drink ‘ so she never sought out help or even tried to detox, not once … she even turned up to my wedding drunk and made a scene . I was forced to care for her and I hated what she was doing to our family … but she was ill . I wish I knew then what I know now !
      Matthews book helped me forgive and to make peace with the past . He was a wonderful human being

    • @a.j.4024
      @a.j.4024 11 місяців тому +3

      It's only misunderstood by those who either consciously choose not to study the massive amounts of available data on it, or who don't have the IQ to do so. He's so ridiculously far from the first addict to describe EVERY word of this. My Mom (68), and younger brother (43) both died from addiction (alcohol as the primary for both). It's a cruel, awful, heartbreaking disease. It's deeply frustrating and profoundly painful for those who love an addict. RIP to Matthew AND anyone/everyone else whose life was cut short by this tragic illness. Including your Mom... I relate. I'm so grateful he was an outspoken advocate for addicts and that this book was released prior to the end of his life. His fight is over.... may he rest easy at last.

  • @reneebellette635
    @reneebellette635 Рік тому +202

    As a fellow addict I truly hope your brutal honesty and bravery in sharing will be your legacy
    Rest now 🙏

    • @TheoMutumbo
      @TheoMutumbo 3 місяці тому

      He understood what it's like. I just wish he didn't go the Michael Jackson route with his dealers

  • @l.takeyev
    @l.takeyev 2 роки тому +429

    Everyone in the comments supports Matthew (understandably), but I also would like to pay my respect to the interviewer. Witty, funny, polite an on point, awesome job!

    • @trashleigh87
      @trashleigh87 2 роки тому +18

      Tom Power is a class act - best male radio host in Western culture in my humble opinion big claim, but I'm making it). He's just so authentic and thoughtful. Check him out on Q on CBC!

    • @katejones2172
      @katejones2172 2 роки тому +7

      @@trashleigh87 never seen him before but yes Integrity humour intelligence all the things that as tr important to me plus darling chandler of course lovely lovely man

    • @bubbleshughes6169
      @bubbleshughes6169 2 роки тому +8

      He’s a fellow Newfoundlander! We have love and kindness and an ease for making others comfortable that’s naturally embedded in our souls ❤❤❤❤

    • @OMGAnotherday
      @OMGAnotherday Рік тому +1

      Haven’t watched yet, just picked this up.
      Looking forward to it.
      I sooooo hope this helps him conquer (or at least keep it under control) that horrible disease!

    • @melb4116
      @melb4116 Рік тому +2

      @@OMGAnotherday enjoy it's an amazing book

  • @hanulbahm
    @hanulbahm Рік тому +106

    Rest well, Matt. You are deeply loved. You left a monumental legacy by speaking your truth.

    • @adriantrusca1245
      @adriantrusca1245 11 місяців тому

      Calm down. He just left a mediocre show behind. That's it.

    • @terryhorrocks9529
      @terryhorrocks9529 5 місяців тому +1

      But he didn’t tell the truth.He led us to believe in his sobriety.How sad his legacy will be drug addict instead of great actor.He could have been honest.Those of us that have struggled would have stood by him.

    • @HeRacesTheSun
      @HeRacesTheSun 3 місяці тому +1

      @@adriantrusca1245 Shut up.

  • @jerone31
    @jerone31 Рік тому +145

    Feels like going to a funeral of someone who is still able to communicate. You achieved everything you asked for here. Rest well my friend

  • @julescosta7000
    @julescosta7000 2 роки тому +381

    Let’s celebrate the interviewer - engaged his guest with grace, wit, charm and support.

    • @Booboonancy
      @Booboonancy 2 роки тому +7

      Yes, he is great.

    • @samichgrrl
      @samichgrrl 2 роки тому +5

      Tom Power is fantastic!!

    • @alesiaburris45
      @alesiaburris45 2 роки тому +5

      Agreed! This interviewer is very talented.

    • @randomlady6899
      @randomlady6899 Рік тому +7

      Yes…truly fantastic. No fawning and no gotchas

    • @bullcrap9409
      @bullcrap9409 Рік тому +1

      Ha ha ha. The interviewer can’t stand not being the focus.

  • @michaelsabando7962
    @michaelsabando7962 Рік тому +280

    Rest in peace to the man who shaped my personality and childhood. While Friends wasn’t the greatest show of all time it was a form of comfort when I didn’t have it. Forever never meant forever, it’s just remembering our yesterday with every single day after. May he rest knowing that he was not only just an actor, but as an icon of an era.

    • @shay3783
      @shay3783 Рік тому +32

      It was and is and will be the greatest show of all time

    • @JeDxDeVu
      @JeDxDeVu Рік тому +16

      @@shay3783Amen. I know of no show that people have watched over and over again.

    • @edwardr5084
      @edwardr5084 Рік тому +1

      Of all time...lol...do you think in 100 - 200+ years, they'll know the TV show friends?

    • @shay3783
      @shay3783 Рік тому +6

      @@edwardr5084 if the earth would be having human presence...sure

    • @drjanitor92
      @drjanitor92 Рік тому

      ​@@edwardr5084People still watch it almost 30 years later so the possibility is there.

  • @TheRuckus-ji4wt
    @TheRuckus-ji4wt Рік тому +179

    His transparency and harsh honesty here about his addiction will stick with me forever. It's not easy. RIP brother.

  • @andreymaslov1641
    @andreymaslov1641 Рік тому +139

    this interview helped me make peace with him passing. he, obviously, finally had a goal, had forgiven himself, and despite of his health issues he still was witty and still a beautiful person who helped a lot of us. Thank you Matthew

    • @TheoMutumbo
      @TheoMutumbo 3 місяці тому

      A cautionary tale for all of us. He went to get help and his helpers killed him

  • @debgwilliam8756
    @debgwilliam8756 Рік тому +455

    I know he wants to be remembered for helping people first and foremost, not as a character in a sitcom, but I think he perhaps didn’t realise the extent of people he helped ‘just’ by playing a character on Friends.
    A safe escape and antidote to a sometimes overwhelming world, a restbite from the pressures of daily life.
    He’s left a lasting legacy in the sharing of his story, I’m sure his parents, friends and loved ones will be so incredibly proud of him.

    • @mashoodhaque252
      @mashoodhaque252 Рік тому +14

      Your comment just blew me away , I agree completely , I subscribed to your contentless channel just for this :P , so make some content and share your thoughts with the world , it truly needs it right now.

    • @JoanneParsooramen
      @JoanneParsooramen Рік тому +12

      Absolutely, he gave us some humour to lighten up our day and was a gifted actor, but most definitely a brilliant man. R.I.P Matthew Perry

    • @jenninscho1980
      @jenninscho1980 Рік тому +2

      Yes!

    • @molliegann8107
      @molliegann8107 Рік тому +12

      I totally agree with what you said. He was that safe escape for so many even if he couldn't be for himself. Friends, The Whole Nine Yards, and all his other work is what may have stopped some people from taking that drink or pill. Shows with that much humor soothed the soul in the healthiest of ways making life a little easier to take. I'm eternally grateful that he shared his story with the world. He really covered all his bases when it came to helping people, and I hope he sees the amazing impact he has made on so many.

    • @lorraineb.4698
      @lorraineb.4698 Рік тому +2

      Yeah he will be remembered as Chandler.I will be comforted by watching him on ‘Friends’. It is a responsibility to have children and not neglect them. Felt bad about his mother. He felt the loss

  • @pellsoul897
    @pellsoul897 2 роки тому +1203

    As an early intervention therapist, an attachment and trauma specialist for more than 40 yrs, it is upsetting to hear what Matthew's parents were told to do. I heard laughter in the audience because they do not understand what he is saying. But it is SO IMPORTANT for the public to learn and hear the impact of a Dr's prescription of phenobarbital to a 30 day old infant, for 30 days. I think what he doesn't realize even to this day is that his infant self became accustomed to this substance: it is not genetic, it is not a "disease" as such, but a result of early exposure to a highly addictive substance, ie phenobarbital. This is an early adaptation for need of a substance, fed to this baby Matthew. This is not ok, it is tragic - and the effect on Matthew's life has been profound. But he is strong, intact and here to make a statement. Please read Gabor Mate's books, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, and his recent book The Myth of Normal to gain greater understanding of addictions. Thank you, Matthew Perry, for being brave and determined to share your personal history.

    • @lindajohnson2149
      @lindajohnson2149 Рік тому +25

      TY for sharing. I totally agree with you.

    • @angelategos7217
      @angelategos7217 Рік тому +80

      the sad part is that he had to go through withdrawal as a baby!! can you imagine the pain, helplessness and confusion??!! this surely must've damaged him and set him up for addiction later on. anything intense like that gets seared into one's subconscious and must be dealt with eventually.

    • @ceciliaj3300
      @ceciliaj3300 Рік тому +33

      Yes to Dr. Gabor Mate, his depth of understanding is amazing 👍

    • @coachtim6188
      @coachtim6188 Рік тому +61

      I can't believe you don't know how genetic alcoholism is. I mean the stuff his parents gave him may have exacerbated it. I do agree there. But for alcoholics with that gene, they all, every one, have that exact same 1st time experience with alcohol that people without the genes don't experience. Our body metabolizes alcohol differently than normal people from the get go. We experience the insane cravings from the 1st time because of that metabolizing. For many of us that had nothing as a child, we experience the exact same thing he experienced. My buddy drank 2 wine coolers, I drank 10 until it was all gone. That was my first time at 16 years old. But numbers have proven that the chance of being alcoholic is largely determined by the family history. For people like us, we are alcoholic long before we ever take the 1st drink. We don't drink ourselves into alcoholism.

    • @Faith-ko5eg
      @Faith-ko5eg Рік тому +10

      Your reply is interesting. Was that drug prescribed to babies/children routinely at one time?

  • @jynnithejew
    @jynnithejew Рік тому +196

    RIP Matthew! You helped so many of us addicts find help and ourselves. We will miss your comedy but more than anything your beautiful heart!

  • @jam-nc8ut
    @jam-nc8ut Рік тому +146

    His book is incredibly powerful to other addicts. It feels like he was given one last mission to help as many people as possible, whilst sober, before he had to go. The book, and these interviews that he did to publicise them, will absolutely save lives.

    • @lifegline
      @lifegline Рік тому +3

      I agree!

    • @lizsteeds6697
      @lizsteeds6697 11 місяців тому +3

      Well said ... only just in time before he died. Sad.

    • @rl7012
      @rl7012 10 місяців тому

      @@sharonmorine5407 There is a free audio book of it on UA-cam.

    • @jam-nc8ut
      @jam-nc8ut 10 місяців тому +2

      @@sharonmorine5407 I hope you do still read it Sharon - I don't know if I read it as the legacy he wanted to leave when I read it before he passed away, but it certainly feels like that's what it is now. It deserves to be read by many, for years to come.

    • @swolfe9668
      @swolfe9668 10 місяців тому +1

      He was never sober, he was a liar and a drunk/druggie. He had everyone fooled

  • @mom.4life
    @mom.4life Рік тому +401

    My sister was a heavily alcoholic. My family tried everything we possibly could to try and help her. For 8 years she just got worse, wrapped up with the wrong crowd. Meeting a guy with the same alcoholism addiction and drugs, who murdered her in 2020.
    I'm currently listening to MP book, and watching this has made me understand my sister's mindset at her time of alcohol and drug use. It breaks my heart.
    RIP Matthew Perry ❤

  • @praj2389
    @praj2389 Рік тому +243

    Wow the thing he said about wanting his mother's attention is powerful..we parents have no idea how our small gestures are huge for our kids. I will always try to remember this for my little one..

    • @sharinmythoughts2510
      @sharinmythoughts2510 Рік тому +19

      This part BROKE MY HEART!!! 😭😭😭💔💔💔

    • @kathrynbaker7529
      @kathrynbaker7529 Рік тому

      ​@@sharinmythoughts2510me too!

    • @happyhands117
      @happyhands117 Рік тому +18

      ...yes, it is really important, and it's also a huge reason as to why the addiction takes over. Parents' love is so important to a child, and has a lifelong impact.

    • @MS-bs8dd
      @MS-bs8dd Рік тому +8

      As a parent thankful for the advice like this given to me, to intentionally get on your chill speed around them and NOTICE them. Miracles occurred when I did that around my little one. They feel seen and that love sinks deep in them.

    • @Suey529
      @Suey529 Рік тому +1

      Yes!

  • @drakedrones
    @drakedrones Рік тому +132

    FRIENDS has been my warm security blanket whenever I have been in dark places. It has and will be my therapy in deep distressing times. RIP Mathew, you are and will always be my favorite. 😫😫😫😫😩😩😩😩

  • @HRat-vs7wl
    @HRat-vs7wl 11 місяців тому +69

    His opening story brought back a memory. When I was 8, I saw my aunt giving my 3 year old cousin sips of beer at a family gathering. I was shocked and questioned her doing that. She chastised me, saying, "Oh it's good for him". He drank himself to death by the time he was 30. I guess at 8, I was wise beyond my years.

    • @buyerofsorts
      @buyerofsorts 5 місяців тому +2

      Damn.....

    • @FunUrth4All
      @FunUrth4All 3 місяці тому +1

      Oh that's so sad, I'm sorry for him😢

    • @beerman3876
      @beerman3876 2 місяці тому

      My dad would give us beer at dinner as kids

  • @Kamon8888
    @Kamon8888 Рік тому +226

    Matthew Perry made huge wholesome deeds by opening up in his memoire, interviews to help people with addiction. This will go a long way even after his passing. He has a good and big heart. RIP Chandler/Matthew.

    • @marcellespencer124
      @marcellespencer124 Рік тому +3

      Miss mathew all ready, 😢😢🇬🇧🙏🏿

    • @ETTe316
      @ETTe316 Рік тому +4

      God Bless His Soul! ✝️🙏😥📿🕊

    • @doc2703
      @doc2703 Рік тому

      Depression made him choose that path...cause he did not feel better like normal people.

  • @kreid444
    @kreid444 Рік тому +134

    The bravest man I'll ever know. This man is bearing his soul to the world. I've been in recovery for 30 years, and it's not easy. This one hit hard. It's like I lost my best friend. You will be missed beyond measure Mattew Perry 😢

  • @jerrimanibusan6750
    @jerrimanibusan6750 Рік тому +136

    Rest in peace Matthew. I grew up watching Friends. There was never a dull moment. You brought so much life to Friends. Thank you for your humor and quirky personality. You will be missed.😥

  • @SandraHertel-u3b
    @SandraHertel-u3b Рік тому +62

    Mathew seemed to have reached a good place before his passing. He seemed happy and had a focus for what was important to him so I’m glad he made it there. His acting work will be remembered and celebrated. His advocacy will be appreciated and his openness and honesty will continue to help people. Condolences to all his loved ones. Rest in Peace Mathew, you will be greatly missed.

  • @Taylor15SwiftFan
    @Taylor15SwiftFan Рік тому +221

    Rest in peace Matthew Perry 💔 You will be very missed!

  • @heatherbesocial
    @heatherbesocial Рік тому +140

    Fly high 🕊 Matthew Langford Perry (August 19, 1969 - October 28, 2023). You brought millions of people such joy with your talent and saved millions more by sharing your story. Rest easy friend. 💔 You'll never be forgotten.

    • @lynnholler3599
      @lynnholler3599 Рік тому

      He was on epsteins plane wake up!!! Got his nasty neck snapped at GITMO

  • @msangelz
    @msangelz Рік тому +167

    Matthew, may not have realised at the time, that he was helping people that watched friends. He entered into so many homes, DV homes, Abusive homes, poor homes, people battling an illness, grieving home, etc and for just that 20min some people/children were able to have escapism, peace, hope or whatever friends episodes did to the individual. His life impacted so many and sometimes you don’t always know how . Rest peacefully Matthew 🫶🏼🌟🕊️💫🙏🏼

    • @RachelAnn27
      @RachelAnn27 Рік тому +8

      This is so true. I was bleeding and cramping whole pregnant from a high stress situation, and I intuitively knew to relax instead of think about it and go to a doctor. I laid down and said to my husband, “Just put on friends and don’t talk to me.” I had the series on DVD, just put one disc in after another until it stopped. As my son was growing up, we continued to utilize that that show for stress relief.

    • @manjarisivakumar3279
      @manjarisivakumar3279 Рік тому +3

      ​@@RachelAnn27same with me. All the sleepless nights ,friends was thr only thing which got me through

  • @johnnyscoolstuff8427
    @johnnyscoolstuff8427 Рік тому +152

    my wife and I are so saddened by Matthew’s death and we weren’t even avid watchers of the friends series when it was on. But there’s something about his honesty and vulnerability that is touching and inspiring.

    • @lorraineb.4698
      @lorraineb.4698 Рік тому +4

      Well said. Agree. He pretty much bore his soul

    • @denisebayer8748
      @denisebayer8748 Рік тому +2

      So true...such inner strength to do so...

  • @cosmicstargazer10
    @cosmicstargazer10 Рік тому +346

    His honesty & courage defined him, not his addiction. I feel that his self-deprecation was, as well as a coping mechanism, an enduring sign of his humility & his humanity, no arrogance whatsoever. So, thank you, Matthew, for being a Friend, to struggling addicts everywhere. You are so adored, greatly missed already & your dazzling light of love will shine forever more. Amen.

    • @sandrasillery4493
      @sandrasillery4493 Рік тому +14

      Very well said! Every word is so true.

    • @christinecolborne7939
      @christinecolborne7939 Рік тому +8

      I agree so well said. Rest peacefully matthew prayers to his family

    • @MiriamAppelbaum
      @MiriamAppelbaum Рік тому +1

      I so agree.

    • @Kipper1997
      @Kipper1997 Рік тому +2

    • @toneloc-cz2xi
      @toneloc-cz2xi Рік тому

      Parry was a bum who attempted to pay his way out of addiction thru getting pi55ed and spending millions on FrAudian shrinks (todays equivalent of confession). A55hole gave false hope to weak & vulnerable pi55heads everywhere. Prolly rotting in hell for it right now

  • @kris10g737
    @kris10g737 Рік тому +198

    I grew up in a home with two alcoholic parents and also struggled with addiction myself and everything he says resonates so strongly. Going to miss this man ❤ RIP

    • @lizcutajar9352
      @lizcutajar9352 Рік тому +11

      Be encouraged. I pray the best for you. I found someone who completely set me free , from all my problems. Jesus. Not advising religion but seek Jesus , the Son of God, God incarnate who truly sets people free.

    • @MARIUS2776
      @MARIUS2776 Рік тому

      ​@@lizcutajar9352stop foisting religion on people, it's so fuckkn rude.

    • @arcticmonkey3
      @arcticmonkey3 Рік тому

      @@lizcutajar9352lol. Ah yes. The imaginary man

    • @ETTe316
      @ETTe316 Рік тому +3

      @@lizcutajar9352 Amen!

    • @angelina68
      @angelina68 Рік тому +2

      🙏🏾 ❤RIP Marty

  • @rachelrhee
    @rachelrhee Рік тому +187

    What a courageous man to speak so openly on his personal pain and struggles, all in an effort to help others.

    • @aislingtuffy6515
      @aislingtuffy6515 Рік тому +6

      And I am thinking more & more about Jim Carey how he has been so frank about depression & struggling at various stages. People heed icons & when it's a person who steps up to help people. Oh, he's after mentioning Jim Carey...rest in Peace Matthew Perry.

    • @SandraHertel-u3b
      @SandraHertel-u3b Рік тому +4

      I believe when you make it through the hell he did, he was incredibly grateful and it was important to him to help others.I also think it was helpful for him. Despite his addiction illness, he truly seemed like a pretty wonderful guy.

  • @e2theoc
    @e2theoc Рік тому +36

    The stories of his infancy, youth and how he was raised show just how much it was responsible for his addiction.... its so sad. it shows just how unbelievably important childhood is to creating a content, healthy adult.

    • @norms3420
      @norms3420 Рік тому +7

      This may be true, and I’m sure it didn’t help him any, but tons of addicts are raised in solid homes and still have the disease. I think that’s his point with emphasizing it being a disease, sometimes it just happens because of genetics.

    • @TheJuliefrom
      @TheJuliefrom 2 місяці тому

      hard to believe doctor's could give barbiturate to a baby! 70's....

  • @karentucker3460
    @karentucker3460 Рік тому +90

    What a brave man, to bare his soul so honestly to others, so sorry he had to fight that terrible fight for so long, RIP Matthew, Godspeed.

  • @lancel71
    @lancel71 Рік тому +303

    I've struggled myself for years from addiction. This breaks my heart man. I was always pulling for Matthew. Rip Matthew Perry🙏

    • @Evy-1988
      @Evy-1988 Рік тому +12

      stay strong my friend

    • @lawschoolpro
      @lawschoolpro Рік тому +8

      Brother same. Pick up a phone and call.

    • @DimitriosChannel
      @DimitriosChannel Рік тому +4

      Same here but with sleeping pills. I have tried every drug never got addicted and never smoke a cig in my life. Since Xmas of 2009 till now every night I take (8-15 per night) 50mg of those sleep gel pills. There were a few times where I took 20-25 in one night.

    • @horaciocapanelli-soto4710
      @horaciocapanelli-soto4710 Рік тому +10

      Please continue trying. He left this world clean, he was trying.

    • @JESSEXTO
      @JESSEXTO Рік тому +5

      As a fellow addict, I’m sending you a huge virtual hug ❤️❤️ I’ll pray for you

  • @michelleross4810
    @michelleross4810 Рік тому +209

    This makes me just want to hug him. Hug him to thank him for his bravery, his honesty, his heart, and his talent that he shared with us all. Growing up with an alcoholic teaches you it isn’t a choice. It is a disease and like he said, it doesn’t mean you’re weak by any means. My heart break for his family and friends, because I know the pain of losing a recovering alcoholic once they are getting their life back on the right path, are repairing relationships and have a vision to accomplish so much more. His words will live on and continue to heal more lives long after we are gone.

  • @traceybobeldyk4575
    @traceybobeldyk4575 Рік тому +70

    I admire Matthew's vulnerability and that he opened up in the way he had about something so personal. Rest easy💔

  • @Fireoncityy
    @Fireoncityy Рік тому +237

    There are some celebrity deaths that just hit you so strongly. You’re attached to their characters and then their actual personalities. You bind with moments in your life and their shows or movies or even their true personalities. Matthew and Chandler are both incredibly special and important for so many moments of our lives. This one hurts and it hurts bad. Poor man suffered so deeply. I truly hope he’s resting somewhere filled with love.

    • @MiriamAppelbaum
      @MiriamAppelbaum Рік тому +14

      So very true. His death bothers me so much. There are not enough words. Matthew was so very special. I think that none of us except his close family and friends knew all of his struggles. Such a tragedy, that this wonderful man lost the battle.

    • @LilyBecca
      @LilyBecca Рік тому +12

      I'm feeling the same. This is the first death since River Phoenix, that has really hit home. Matthew Perry and his character, Chandler, represent my generation. I see so many of my friends in him. He is only a few years older than me, and I think that is part of why this hurts so much. We are getting older, and we are not invincible. Those of us who partied hard or maybe haven't taken the best care of our bodies are finding that it eventually catches up to you.
      RIP dear Matthew Perry. You will be missed more than you could ever imagine ❤

    • @kimberlybrown5257
      @kimberlybrown5257 Рік тому +4

      His death really did seem to hit a lot of people hard.

    • @JohnB-dr8sk
      @JohnB-dr8sk Рік тому +1

      Drugs and alcohol sure didn't help with Matt's long term health, but he also took that damned shot and promoted it with t-shirts on his Instagram. People are in total denial about it. There are a ton of people young and old prematurely dying, or, they had successfully battled health issues and then after taking the shot, their cancer in remission, etc went wild, like Jimmy Buffett's and Suzanne Somers. Teens dropping dead all over the country from heart attacks. It's insane, and yet all of you zombies just believe all the liars in mass media who get tons of money from Big Pharma. A war crime has been committed by Big Pharma, the govt and mass media and none of you care or will even look into it. Sad.......

    • @kathylowes4645
      @kathylowes4645 Рік тому

      ​@@MiriamAppelbaum+5

  • @l7weenie273
    @l7weenie273 Рік тому +277

    As a woman who has struggled with depression and anxiety for most of my life, I had the EXACT same experience when I got tipsy for the first time at 20. I literally thought "This is how normal people must feel". I've since gone through periods where I drink way too heavily but I'm trying to stop because I could easily picture myself spiraling in a similar manner as Matty. Mental health problems and addiction are no joke. RIP Matty. 🥺 Gone too soon 🪽❤️

    • @julian.6869
      @julian.6869 Рік тому +19

      I hear you loud and clear. May you win this battle. Sending you love for this journey.

    • @dominikastrauss5208
      @dominikastrauss5208 Рік тому +9

      I am so sorry to hear that, keep going with your sobriety, you’re strong ❤ Wish you all the health and happiness

    • @lettherebelight...
      @lettherebelight... Рік тому +11

      May God bless you. ❤

    • @TracyDurso-uv8tg
      @TracyDurso-uv8tg Рік тому +3

      Best wishes & positive affirmations to you as the journey to sobriety, healing & health.

    • @Joeypeeps-le3xw
      @Joeypeeps-le3xw Рік тому +2

      Same with me. Turned on the right switch, turned off the ones I didn't want on. Normal

  • @70s80sVintage
    @70s80sVintage Рік тому +92

    Rest in Peace, Friend. You were a big part of my life...every Thursday...for years. You did good, Matt. May God keep You and Bless You.

  • @natashaflynn3554
    @natashaflynn3554 Рік тому +43

    I always got this sense that he didn’t ever feel like he was good enough & that makes me so sad bc he was good enough. He was and will always be an inspiration. He went through hell and back & the fact he stood up every day & was able to bring Chandler Bing to life & create this iconic character that helped millions of us around the world deal with anxiety and depression. Thank you, Matthew for helping so many addicts & thank you for helping us deal with our mental health through Chandler Bing. You will never ever be forgotten. RIP.

  • @randomeyes
    @randomeyes Рік тому +120

    Its almost as if he could sense his time was near but he wasn't gonna let that stop him and still lived life to the full and wrote a wonderful book. The man is amazing... He's definitely left his mark on the world. RIP Matt

  • @ilmareverticale
    @ilmareverticale Рік тому +178

    As a therapist I find his analysis and message so powerful. You are helping and will help so many people, I am deeply sad for this world to miss your beautiful presence. But you're also bringing a lot of resources for people who don't feel aware or resourced enough to understand how complex and hard is do deal with addictions. Sending you a big hug from here. ❤

    • @kathleenhofmann4057
      @kathleenhofmann4057 Рік тому +10

      His story always makes me cry... What this poor man had to live through and stuff he had to endure .. RIP Mathew Perry.... ❤❤❤❤

    • @nw2496
      @nw2496 Рік тому +3

      Agree, my prayer is he is in heaven, at peace

  • @petelosuaniu
    @petelosuaniu Рік тому +92

    Matthew Perry has made me understand my alcoholic brother for the first time in decades. After years of being angry at him for his alcoholism. In tears that he’s now gone. RIP you beautiful man.

    • @MusicMatters1983
      @MusicMatters1983 Рік тому

      Have you tried Al-Anon?

    • @alliejones9864
      @alliejones9864 Рік тому +1

      @@MusicMatters1983sadly unlikely to help until his Brother wants that help.

    • @MusicMatters1983
      @MusicMatters1983 Рік тому

      @@alliejones9864 Al-Anon is help for people who are affected by someone else’s drinking. It’s not for the alcoholic.

  • @angeljones5309
    @angeljones5309 Рік тому +86

    This man knew he was going to make a difference in people's lives after his passing. I'm happy they got Matthew Perry House foundation going. This will be a conversation starter and could help others for years to come. He knew what he was doing. He truly wanted to help people. He's very honest and funny. I listen to the audio and find myself chuckle. I can relate to alot of what he's saying. Rest easy Matthew. You're work here on earth is not done. It's not going unnoticed.

    • @swolfe9668
      @swolfe9668 10 місяців тому

      The only difference matthew made was the scam he pulled over Americans eyes and claiming he was sober

    • @swolfe9668
      @swolfe9668 10 місяців тому

      He hardly made a difference in anyone's life except to show how you can pull the wool over people's eyes, Matthew was a drunk and a druggie and never got sober

  • @shawnperri8825
    @shawnperri8825 Рік тому +83

    I was a full blown addict/junkie for 13 years and i know exactly the struggle he went through and addiction doesnt care what your age is or what race you are, addiction has one purpose in the end and that is to ultimately take your life in every sense of the word. I lost everything and everyone and then i was reborn the day my daughter was born, she saved my life. I will never use again cause my baby girl needs her daddy in her life forever. To all the addicts out there, i feel your pain, but believe me, there is hope and there is a way out of that life, please dont let yourself be just another statistic. Your life means something, believe in yourselves like i chose to believe in myself.

    • @user-Legaleagle
      @user-Legaleagle Рік тому +6

      Now THIS IS BEAUTIFUL! ❤ LOVE SAVED YOUR LIFE 💓 I LOVE THIS!! People like you should SHARE THIS STORY. Celebrities aren't the ONLY ONES who make a difference. Souls like you!!! And thank you and God Bless and thank you for THIS BEAUTIFUL Share and TESTAMENT that turned your life around 💕💖 👏 BRAVO! PLEASE GET OUT ON LINE and share this. BLESSINGS 💞🙏

    • @zxy78267
      @zxy78267 Рік тому +2

      I am so happy for you! Our oldest struggled for years, but is currently doing extremely well. One day at a time is what they always say, but she used to say that and end up back to rock bottom. Now she says never again. I'll always worry, but I try to spend more time being grateful for how well she's doing right now.

    • @RebeccaT-y3s
      @RebeccaT-y3s 11 місяців тому +1

      Keep fighting . Congratulations on sobriety

    • @adriantrusca1245
      @adriantrusca1245 11 місяців тому

      I don't care about you at all. :)

    • @zxy78267
      @zxy78267 10 місяців тому +1

      @@adriantrusca1245 This comment is extremely rude. I don't understand why you felt the need to make it. It's also strange that you included a winky face.

  • @ianmccarthy1323
    @ianmccarthy1323 Рік тому +41

    As a guy with substance abuse problems, im gonna miss him. Straight up watching Friends rn. His interviews lately have touched my heart. RIP friend:)

    • @zxy78267
      @zxy78267 Рік тому +5

      I have a daughter who has struggled with addiction issues. She's clean and sober now, but I'll always worry. I hope you are able to beat it and live a great life.

    • @SingingInTheRainToo
      @SingingInTheRainToo 11 місяців тому +1

      Praying for you, my friend. I suffered much of my life as well.

  • @kristinashiapanis8668
    @kristinashiapanis8668 Рік тому +74

    He will not only be remembered for Friends, he will be remembered for his beautiful heart and his ability to make others smile and laugh even though he was suffering. Such a beautiful soul. He will be so missed. We love you Matthew, rest in peace.
    Still can’t believe he is gone.

    • @stevrgrs
      @stevrgrs Рік тому +1

      The lives he touched with his book and personal help are A THOUSAND times more important than any movie/show he's done :)

  • @chowe9
    @chowe9 Рік тому +143

    We all struggle to some extent from addiction. And it's by design. Phones, drama, sugar, endorphins, etc. Thank you Matthew.

    • @mgm579
      @mgm579 Рік тому +15

      You have no clue what he is talking about… if you compare his addictions to the ones you listed.

    • @JH-qs7ph
      @JH-qs7ph Рік тому

      @@mgm579nope YOU are the one without a clue. This toxic bullshit has no place in this world. Who the hell are you to dictate how someone else finds sobriety?

    • @bhmglam317
      @bhmglam317 Рік тому

      ​@@mischaraine1645phone addiction is somewhat relevant but yes you can still be highly functional with phone addiction. But depression can still increase because of phones

    • @mcw-lg2dm
      @mcw-lg2dm Рік тому +5

      Imagine you have a severe panic attack, and severe case of the flu everytime you put your phone down, or don't eat sugar, lasts for 30-60 days and that's what opiate addiction is like.

    • @dearmadeline
      @dearmadeline 11 місяців тому

      @@Julia-nl3gqi mean.. eberyone is addicted to something, conditioned to something, clings to something. if that was taken away you'd lose your mind, lose yourself, and spend your life trying to get it back. everyone is striving to find meaning. going to drugs is the worst of it but going to other things that mentally and physically harm you can destroy your brain and your livelihood too. some people don't have access to drugs or money for alcohol. they find something else or take it out a different way. drugs and alcohol are the RESULT of depression and trauma and loneliness. they a way of punishing & rewarding yourself for feeling like you're not normal and don't fit in.

  • @nicole_a_11
    @nicole_a_11 Рік тому +168

    Very sad to be watching this after his passing. He was not like most celebrities, he seemed like such a genuine person with a good soul. I'm sure we will all be forever grateful for what he brought to this world, whether it was laughter, smiles, or help for those with addiction. Rest in peace Matthew Perry.

    • @sarahcashmore6736
      @sarahcashmore6736 Рік тому +17

      Thats the thing, people have a pre conceived notion that addicts aren't good people. When in fact they are the best people because they have so much empathy and understanding of others. I just wish the stigma of addicts was understood more by non addicts

    • @Dallashygienist
      @Dallashygienist Рік тому +3

      Same

    • @bonjovilover81
      @bonjovilover81 Рік тому

      ​@@sarahcashmore6736But that doesn't apply to all addicts is the thing. There are those who are some of the worst people to begin with and addiction makes them worse.

    • @Nina5144
      @Nina5144 Рік тому

      He’s dead? Wow that passed me by

    • @christofferjenzen78
      @christofferjenzen78 Рік тому +5

      ​@@Nina5144You been under a rock? Pretty odd to have missed this.

  • @Ayoshina
    @Ayoshina Рік тому +61

    Very sad news, I can’t believe it
    RIP Matthew
    You would be remembered forever all around the world in our hearts

  • @tiffanynicoley
    @tiffanynicoley Рік тому +30

    When he teared up and said "it’s not fair" that crushed me. It really is not fair. He deserved to live the rest of his life in peace. Maybe find true love? Idk but I’m heartbroken. I truly hope he’s at peace on the other side, he’s been through enough he certainly deserves it❤

  • @Kathryn-qs1tb
    @Kathryn-qs1tb Рік тому +15

    I love this interviewer. Not intrusive and asks good questions.

  • @Petertrottierrealtor
    @Petertrottierrealtor Рік тому +50

    What a thoughtful, well spoken gentleman. His sudden death is so bloody tragic. 😢

  • @DonyaLane
    @DonyaLane Рік тому +351

    Wow, phenobarbital at 30 days old... No wonder that first night of drinking at 14 felt like "this is how good normal people must feel." His cellular memory was, no doubt, responding to something he knew as an infant. I truly appreciate his honesty about all of this. I have a new-found respect for Matthew, and I wish him well!

    • @FIshfood500
      @FIshfood500 Рік тому

      You have literally no clue what you’re talking about.
      And he’s not sober here

    • @EnDependance123
      @EnDependance123 Рік тому +10

      Lets get something strait. The phenobarb did not make him an addict by any stretch. But it did feed that inner desire at such an early age and might have had profound effects later on.

    • @mrbig1022
      @mrbig1022 Рік тому +54

      @@EnDependance123 let's get another thing straight. You're trying to refute the claim just to basically support it in your very next sentence lol

    • @yfoog
      @yfoog Рік тому

      @@mrbig1022loooooool

    • @Dave..1978-i9t
      @Dave..1978-i9t Рік тому +9

      Mmmmm...... no not really. There were millions of babies given the same medication and they didn't grow up to be addicts.
      Also the whole "this must be how normal people feel" would simply have been the removal of inhibition, social awkwardness and anxiety due to being drunk.

  • @maraleenfajardo5277
    @maraleenfajardo5277 Рік тому +167

    This interview is one of the best I have ever watched in my entire life. The host asked the right questions and gave the guest the time to share the details that led to the main answer. Kuddos.
    I love how Matthew Perry presented himself as a common, normal human being who had a "disease," made a mistake, didn't understand what he's doing, or what's happening, and correcting those mistakes, and on top of that, offering help who are having the same journey as him.
    I watch F.R.I.E.N.D.S. whenever I'm depressed and anxious. I always adored/hated how Chandler Bing is using sarcasm and timely jokes as a defense mechanism and JANICE! And I never knew MATTHEW PERRY aside from being Chandler Bing.
    Now, knowing a bit of your personal story, I'd remember you as the MATTHEW PERRY, also a human who has his own ghosts and struggles despite of, like you said, "achieving your dreams."
    Rest in peace, and thank you for being a part of my life simply by sharing the lessons you've learned in this journey called life and FRIENDS.

    • @lifesolo
      @lifesolo Рік тому

      I feel you...

    • @Adi-mj3cb
      @Adi-mj3cb Рік тому

      I somewhat disagree, like ok the interviewer asked good questions but every conversation just felt like Matthew chucking an interesting topic down a black hole. Like there was no back and forth, just a one sided volley of questions. Like "so in the book you mentioned doing blah blah.." "Yeah " "So anyway in the book you also mentioned ... " Like bro just make some interesting remark about what Matthew just said lmao.

    • @j_vinsmoke2576
      @j_vinsmoke2576 Рік тому

      @@Adi-mj3cb It's his "the best interview" in life what he have ever watched, not everyone is smart/knowledgeble, don't worry he might've talked out of emotion,..

    • @Adi-mj3cb
      @Adi-mj3cb Рік тому

      @@j_vinsmoke2576 I have no idea what you just said. All I'm saying is that the interviewer could have engaged in actual conversation rather than just asking questions.

  • @caroliinec
    @caroliinec 11 місяців тому +26

    31:20 is a beautiful moment. After being so honest and raw, it's wonderful he was able to hear that we still love him. And despite being in the middle of a heavy topic, he was still able to make a joke. This man was truly talented and we are forever honored to share the world with him. ❤

    • @dylanyoung5490
      @dylanyoung5490 11 місяців тому +3

      He was truly an amazing man. One of my idols now, especially with myself being an alcoholic. Matthew's openness about everything has truly helped me and I am sure countless others. Amazing man in and out

    • @caroliinec
      @caroliinec 11 місяців тому

      @@dylanyoung5490 you got this!! Don't give up!

    • @LillyMarz777
      @LillyMarz777 10 місяців тому +1

      ​@dylanyoung5490 Make no man your idol.

  • @had64198
    @had64198 Рік тому +334

    I too am an addict/alcoholic with 19 years sobriety this month and I can relate to everything he has talked about. I am so proud of Matthew
    and I wish him a lifetime of health and peace.

    • @morofoka
      @morofoka Рік тому +18

      Be proud of yourself too.

    • @cynthiawolfe3419
      @cynthiawolfe3419 Рік тому +9

      I'm so proud of you. God bless you Holly!

    • @ront0803
      @ront0803 Рік тому +4

      YOU are a true hero. Regular folks, battling and surviving, inspire us ALL. The rest is just a different vocation. Thank you for sharing. Truly, really...hero. You saved your life and many family and "friends" lives. :) Bless you!!

    • @lisadavie5819
      @lisadavie5819 Рік тому +2

      Me too.. It's true though it's a daily fight even being clean for years it never goes away.. Sober and clean is a daily fight no matter how many years clean people have
      Some will have 10 yrs clean and relapse. Mental illness and addiction go hand In hand is usually self medicating for mental illness pain and trauma. x

    • @margarethayes9888
      @margarethayes9888 Рік тому +4

      I wish you a lovely lifetime of health and peace too. You are inspiring.

  • @Peeegoska
    @Peeegoska 2 роки тому +236

    Oh boy, Matthew is actually self-aware. That bid with his mom and him wanting to turn around, that is extremely vulnerable to say. I can't wait to read his book.

    • @kathybastow7469
      @kathybastow7469 2 роки тому +17

      She didn't turn around..heartbreaking for a little kid, and it has stayed with him all his life. So sad.

    • @Peeegoska
      @Peeegoska 2 роки тому +16

      @@kathybastow7469 Yes, I wish more parents knew how many things can impact a child. But he is aware, and hopefully he knows that he deserves people that do turn around.

    • @BlueVelvetBear
      @BlueVelvetBear Рік тому +6

      Agreed, and so many of us can relate to the damage 💔 and impact those things can have on our psyche 😢 he is right as an adult you find it continues.

    • @المجنونخوردابس
      @المجنونخوردابس Рік тому

      Me too, I cannot wait to read but unfortunately I am poor.

    • @jillrobertson6126
      @jillrobertson6126 Рік тому

      ​@@المجنونخوردابس- get the audio book from the library.

  • @jennbeth1
    @jennbeth1 Рік тому +32

    I'm so glad I stumbled on this interview. What a lovely man. Rest In Peace

  • @naomiking8287
    @naomiking8287 2 місяці тому +20

    Im 31, i struggle with alcohol. Im a functioning alcoholic and i dont want to be. Its a Wednesday night and im currently drunk - i have to work at 830 am tomorrow. My dad gave me my first drink when i was 13 while i was going through my parents divorce. He didnt do it in malicious, it was your typical give a child a sip and they wont like it. But i liked it, it made me feel good, it taught me problems can be solved by getting drunk but as an adult i know this isnt true. I didnt want this or this problem. I still struggle with my addiction but i can feel your pain

    • @donna4865
      @donna4865 2 місяці тому +5

      Prayers for u

    • @Naomi-gc3ud
      @Naomi-gc3ud 2 місяці тому +2

      How are you doing? Hope you're OK.

    • @Inahwang
      @Inahwang Місяць тому +2

      Did you look for AA meeting near where you live?
      I think that would be the first step

  • @laurenc2976
    @laurenc2976 Рік тому +114

    Rewatching this after learning that he's gone. We never truly know someone's struggle but Matthew decided to share his in his book. His pain was indescribable but I hope he can rest now. I'm speechless and so sad for his suffering when he brought so much laughter and light to other people. He reached true enlightenment and self-awareness here and I'm glad of that. He came full circle but I'm also dismayed that his story ended like this. He truly made it his mission to understand his disease and the affliction he was so tortured by.

  • @peacelife
    @peacelife Рік тому +66

    Oh Matthew!!! Thank you for being raw. I'm so sad. Crying my eyes out. I missed you. Thank you so much for your contribution. You made me laugh so much and eventhough you struggled you never shown us. RIP Matthew ❤

  • @RunningInSuits
    @RunningInSuits Рік тому +122

    I cannot believe that this is how the story ends… after everything he’s been through… truly heartbreaking 😢

    • @reeree5259
      @reeree5259 Рік тому +11

      Right? So heart wrenching

    • @sararkh
      @sararkh Рік тому +7

      I wish this was just an awful prank by Chandler and we could see Matthew again 😭

    • @2artzy
      @2artzy Рік тому +4

      His story will live on in the recovery of all the people he's helped and the laughter he gave to many generations.

    • @jenniferblume4559
      @jenniferblume4559 Рік тому +10

      I am with you. How is it that he comes out on the other side of addiction only to pass away. It’s sickeningly unfair as he had so much more to give to those struggling with addiction. Hard to understand ….

    • @dencampo
      @dencampo Рік тому +1

      He expressed so well the felling of depending. You will we really miss Mr Matthew

  • @Brosmit08
    @Brosmit08 Рік тому +48

    What an inspiration. So glad he wrote this book before his untimely death. He indeed will be helping people, long after his life here on Earth.

    • @swolfe9668
      @swolfe9668 10 місяців тому

      Matthew is not helping anyone, he was a liar, he had everyone fooled thinking he was sober

  • @lpickman8514
    @lpickman8514 Рік тому +57

    I feel like I lost a good friend. He will be missed. What a life he lived. He walked through the fire and lived to talk about it. I wish his family and friends comfort and peace. Much Love.

  • @laurenct0824
    @laurenct0824 Рік тому +73

    This is heartbreaking. He still had so much life to live and good to do. I hope he left this world knowing that his legacy will live on and he will continue to help so many people through his book and by being so open and honest about his struggles. Rest in Peace, Matthew Perry. You were a good person, and so funny. You will be greatly missed.

  • @robynrose3328
    @robynrose3328 Рік тому +47

    What a beautiful soul. So honest and vulnerable, compassionate and funny at the same time. He will be deeply deeply missed. 😢❤ Rest In Peace Matthew

  • @bettybrits6884
    @bettybrits6884 Рік тому +21

    Oh how I wish that my son could of heard this interview.....my son passed away in May this year, he was 44. He had kidney failure. Now Matthew has passed.....my heart is broken. May our God's peace surround you always😢😢😢😢

  • @SalMiniYo
    @SalMiniYo Рік тому +51

    Matthew Perry was my middle school and high school celebrity crush. My mom and I never missed an episode of Friends. Chandler could always make me belly laugh out loud. Matthew could convey so much with just his face and body. He made being a comedic actor looks effortless. In interviews, he always seemed like such a smart, kind, warm and giving person. I’m shocked and heartbroken. Like when Robin Williams died, I feel like a small part of my youth has disappeared. Thank you, Matthew Perry, for the light you brought to the world. Your talent with live on forever.

  • @Little_Man152
    @Little_Man152 Рік тому +78

    After watching this, I have a new respect for Matthew. I've been through a lot of the same addictions especially alcohol. And also came close to death at one point. But after recovering from an aortic aneurysm dissection I went clean but relapsed. Then finally quit drinking and am now 4 years totally clean. But it's a real disease that haunted me for 25 years. I'm 53 now and still struggling with my health but doing much better. Rip Matthew Perry 😢

    • @Little_Man152
      @Little_Man152 Рік тому

      @mercygrace7347 I do. Congratulations and thank you.

    • @saigeharrison3450
      @saigeharrison3450 Рік тому +1

      Excellent effort Littleman. Maybe the wrong words but well done. Keep going ❤

    • @MiriamAppelbaum
      @MiriamAppelbaum Рік тому +1

      Never give up.

    • @Igboman87
      @Igboman87 Рік тому

      @@mercygrace7347 Amen

    • @gssarma02
      @gssarma02 Рік тому

      Keep going...

  • @MiniTrainLoco
    @MiniTrainLoco Рік тому +82

    I just started listening to his book again last week, it has already helped me so many times. His life and the way he talks about everything he’s gone through is beyond incredible.
    Chandler made me laugh, but Matthew Perry saved my life.
    You’ve shared your life, love and laughter with us, there’s no way I can thank you enough. ❤

  • @LauraDeclue
    @LauraDeclue Рік тому +25

    Beautiful!!! My daughter is 5 years sober, I am so grateful. I hope this video gets out to everyone, especially those it will help.❤

  • @TheRoxyblues
    @TheRoxyblues Рік тому +45

    His energy was simply golden in so many ways.

  • @hollytrevathan8629
    @hollytrevathan8629 Рік тому +94

    His opening words in the book say to listen as if hearing from the grave... I'm literally listening to it, read by him, and its exactly that. Just heartbreaking 😢
    Rest in peace Mattman ❤

    • @stylinsue535
      @stylinsue535 Рік тому +8

      Me too. I’ve been listening the last 2 days and the first 27 secs had
      Me in tears. 😢. His struggle was real. He’s resting in paradise now, pain and addiction free. God Bless.

    • @Cklasvegas
      @Cklasvegas Рік тому +3

      My son passed from addiction... I too am listening from the grave. Thank you for including this comment 💙

    • @haleyt3754
      @haleyt3754 Рік тому +1

      @@Cklasvegasvery sorry for your loss, I can’t imagine. I hope you’re doing well

    • @Cklasvegas
      @Cklasvegas Рік тому +2

      @@haleyt3754 Thank you for your kind words. I'm doing ok, mostly relieved he's no longer suffering.

    • @Cklasvegas
      @Cklasvegas Рік тому

      @@mercygrace7347 Thank you for kind words ❤️

  • @madhumahtani8749
    @madhumahtani8749 Рік тому +102

    This is the most touching interview I have ever seen! Matthew Perry was evidently not only a brilliant actor - he is such a real person! Such honesty, such humility, such goodness-of -heart! The world has lost a very special person! Yes Matthew - you will never be forgotten for your Friends moments; but I know that even though you are no longer in our presence - you will continue to help many in their struggles to live as normal a life as they are able with this terrible disease! Thank you for all those special words you have left behind!
    IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT!

  • @LazySusan.
    @LazySusan. 11 місяців тому +13

    "This is what normal people feel like all the time "..... such an incredibly true statement. This pill is what I've been missing my entire life. Thats what so many addicts assume. A part is missing and that substance is what you needed to be the "better " you. Sadly, it's the complete opposite...

  • @sodds3599
    @sodds3599 Рік тому +56

    The best actor in Friends. An absolute comedic genius. Like Jerry Lewis and Buster Keaton before him, he managed to make others laugh and keep them entertained while pulling from his own deep darkness. Thank you for everything, Matthew! RIP my Friend!

  • @minnacarlson1881
    @minnacarlson1881 Рік тому +89

    RIP Matthew! You are so sorely missed! Watched friends with my daughter for years and now at 75 still love it. Loved your character Chandler! Most of all so proud of you for dealing with your disease, writing your book and your huge heart to help people struggling with addiction. My deepest condolences to your family, friends, colleagues and worldwide fans. ❤️💔❤️

  • @theoelliott5944
    @theoelliott5944 Рік тому +47

    Rest in peace. Such tragic news. Prayers for his family and friends.

  • @earthling8585
    @earthling8585 11 місяців тому +3

    I've been watching "Friends" reruns forever and always will. It's even more endearing since losing Matthew. R.I.P. Sweet Soul ❤

  • @josebernaolalicetti6751
    @josebernaolalicetti6751 Рік тому +50

    May he rest in peace. I thank him for using his experience and platform to shed light on this horrible disease.

  • @BShor2t
    @BShor2t Рік тому +47

    I just watched this a few hours ago, before I heard the sad, sad news. Rest peacefully, Matthew. No more struggles for you.

  • @ArmandoKozomara
    @ArmandoKozomara Рік тому +79

    It's crazy how shortly after his book released he passed away. One last project which will help out some struggling folks out there. Sad day. Rest well, Matthew.

    • @Lotus1111
      @Lotus1111 Рік тому +9

      So true, his book was released 11/1/2022, almost a year ago. Matthew, may your soul be at peace now🙏🏽.

    • @lastjob2011
      @lastjob2011 Рік тому +5

      Actors have died right before their film is released. It is creepy. But, we must understand we all have a check out date, already determined.
      And it doesn't matter what is going on in our life. When are date death arrives, we die.

    • @TheAislynnRose
      @TheAislynnRose Рік тому

      I hate that he is gone, but my feeling in him leaving...mission here accomplished.

    • @lastjob2011
      @lastjob2011 Рік тому +1

      @@TheAislynnRose We all gave a check out date. And when that day arrives, we check out.

  • @Tracey..H
    @Tracey..H 11 місяців тому +10

    His book was fantastic! One of the best on addiction ever. He kept humor and Hope going in his life while struggling deeply. Rest in Gods arms ❤

  • @bonnsterthemonster
    @bonnsterthemonster 2 роки тому +307

    "The secrets are what kill us." 👏 "It's not your fault." And, "It never goes away." Are quotable quotes from Matthew Perry in this interview.

    • @jayaom4946
      @jayaom4946 Рік тому +7

      My sister was living with my brother while he was using heroin and she begged him to get some help and he said "I think I can manage this..." He died a few days later from an overdose. Those are definitely powerful quotes from Perry.

    • @aljabirxiju9475
      @aljabirxiju9475 Рік тому +1

      so cliche common sense stuff ok

    • @ot8479
      @ot8479 Рік тому +1

      @@jayaom4946 Best wishes s
      , sincerely, to you and your family. I hope you will all get closer to each other and understand that trying to help and be with the people you love is all that you can do. 👍🏾💖💖💖💖👍🏾

    • @jjoliet79
      @jjoliet79 Рік тому +5

      @@aljabirxiju9475 Then you have obviously never suffered from addiction. It's ok, you can't truly understand it unless you experience it.

    • @madelynmele4212
      @madelynmele4212 Рік тому +1

      ⁠p

  • @riddhi777
    @riddhi777 Рік тому +31

    We addicts can feel your pain matthew..
    You helped many addicts by sharing your story.
    I'll miss you ❤️
    Rest in peace 🕊️🕊️

  • @sheenalawson
    @sheenalawson Рік тому +103

    Thank you Tom Power and the remarkable interview with Mathew Perry. It’s worth the rewatch. We love him so much. This hits hard 😢

  • @kgclayton
    @kgclayton 11 місяців тому +10

    Just finished the book. It’s incredibly real and tragic. RIP Matty