How To Never Be Boring If You're Usually Quiet
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In today’s video, you’ll learn how to be extremely likable, whether you’re an energetic extrovert or a soft spoken introvert.
We’ll cover how to make an amazing first impression AND how to turn that first impression into deep relationships with people that love and admire you.
⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
0:00 - Intro
0:11 - #1: Charismatic body language
- Listening With Warm, Soft Eye Contact.
- A Duchenne Smile.
- Speaking Through A Smile.
- Expansive Gestures.
1:34 - #2: Capture attention
- A Pre-Story Laugh.
- A One Line Hook.
2:54 - #3: Making someone feel good around you
- Laugh When Someone Makes A Joke.
- Adding A Light Platonic Touch And Compliment.
- Be Universally Kind.
- Playful Teasing.
6:31 - #4: Be a shield in their shield wall
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Finally one for us introverts
Yeah, i only need to learn to laugh like a human and not like an awkward darf
All of these videos on how to temporarily impersonate fictional characters are for 'introverts' (and more specifically people who are carrying a lot of baggage, not just introverts). People who are sane are simply themselves, no need to copy phrases or attitudes or any of that insane bs...
Just be handsome bro
This channel made me realise being an “introvert” or just avoiding people and claiming to be one is just a lazy excuse for not being a nice sociable person. I’m an introvert and been watching this channel for years and made me realise that I can be an “extrovert” and still retreat to my room at the end of a long day and be alone to recharge … got a way better job that pays x3 times better than I was doing menial office work avoiding people which I had before.
@Davi2010jk Most people are carrying a lot of baggage. That's part of life and part of being human.
The best thing about this channel's advice is the way it emphasizes how being kind and making others feel good cannot be manipulative but genuine. The general message is that to be likeable you actually need to be a good person.
Great comment!
The worst thing about this channel is how it's always the super-celebrities which are used as examples.
But you need to learn some manipulation tips also for backup 💯
@@conforzoif this video was about me doing those things, you wouldn’t have clicked on it
@@sambhavjain8422 I ain't gonna manipulate nobody
I'm glad you made that caveat: Not everyone you go out of your way for will stay in your life. BUT it shouldn't stop you from continuing to be kind and generous. Don't do favors for people expecting a certain response.
This should be a common sense. People like their relationships to feel genuine, and that rule aplies to people who tend to be fakers too, so you should not expect that every kindness needs to be out of some favour, because people will notice and noone will actually want to associate. However, it's true that not all the people deserve kindness, but that's where the rule of never chasing after people comes. If you feel you have to force the relationship (romantic and friendly), than give it up, it's dead already.
females always pick the wrong ones and hurt the good ones
Brad Pitt has always seemed like the nicest dude you could meet.
Just want to say, I love myself more because of your videos and little things I changed in my behavior. When I am at work, with friends, girlfriend, with just one person or group of people, I am a more approachable and make better connections. Also I feel like I am respected more. It is hard to sum it up in one comment here. I never did any of your paid courses, but just from your free videos here on this channel I changed my life to better.
no, thank you for posting this dude i whole heartedly agree, i realize now i have been watchin their videos since i was in high school. truly they helped me grow into myself and for not a dime off my back
You done deepthroating him?
@@thecoffeecurator I've had the same experience. I've got a ton of value out of the podcast as well (which is also free)
Man, I feel so emotionally dumb watching this, lol, but it's like every time I talk I forget there's this whole world outside my head. Sometimes I knock and there's nobody there. This video sets me back in place. Much love!! ^__^
I used to do these things naturally. But life happens. I’m really appreciative for these examples and insights. They serve as reminders to be your best self.
Brads really just a great guy. Period 😂
I've watched almost all of the videos released by Charisma on Command, and here's one of the big self-corrections I had to make on my journey of putting these tips into practice:
Many of their videos give the guidance to make others feel comfortable around you, by
1) Complimenting
2) Playful teasting
I've found that when I watched these videos, I often forgot the 1st and tried to capitalize on the 2nd. Because I've focused so much on how to get a laugh through teasing, I eventually lost what natural skill I had in complimenting others. And it's shown. So to anybody with a similar experience, go back to the first point, and be free in your conpliments to others.
Thank you Charisma on Command for the awesome video!
The quiet types don't gossip and that's a plus
We have nobody to gossip to
This channel but this video specifically is so amazing. They really teach you emotional intelligence and act quick with social ques and make yourself memorable in the best way. Being a genuine human being. Just fantastic. I’ve been watching for years now and have made such drastic changes in my life.
thank you for the summary at the end! that really helps. I have today a big group event and feel uncomfortable talking (or just even being there: social anxiety), but I will try some of these tips. 🤞
It is spot on that when you say "fake laugh", a clip of Jimmy Phallus briefly appears.
I love your correct placement of Jimmy Fallon when you talk about a forced laugh.
You're videos are amazing. Keep on rockin'!
This channel should be at the top of UA-cam, amazing content, congrats.
You’re my favorite channel ever. Thank you for your work. 😍
Can you do a video on how to engage other people to ask you questions back? I feel like conversations with people I'm still getting to know never really go anywhere. I'm curious about them, but I'd also like to be shown that same curiosity. Anyone else having this problem?
Maybe start off with talking about you first. Like, "I recently started getting into x hobby. Have you heard of x or what is your experience with x?" I don't think you should worry about being self-absorbed. Odds are they don't mind you giving some information about yourself, they're just too clueless to ask
@@hipnhappenin I've tried that before, but whenever I share something about myself that could be used as a jumping off point to further conversation, the response is so dull. Like they don't really respond one way or another. Not much interest or reaction, definitely no follow up question. So I'm just like...?😂 It's really strange because even if I like the person, the interaction feels a little lopsided and perplexing, and I walk away feeling kind of lonely for a couple days. I do think it's mainly an issue of people not knowing how to, so I'm trying not to think so deeply on it and focus on what does work for me within the friendship.
@@chai_lattesThere’s also the possibility that the person you’re trying to talk to has no interest and is just being nice about it. I’ve been on both sides, it’s frustrating
This is a tip from one of their other recent videos about Chris Pratt: "Learn having fun with yourself." Then, when you are out or in a conversation, look for ways you could have some fun. This time you are not in the conversation to learn something about someone else or getting yourself noticed. You are simply trying to have some fun for yourself. Side effect: People will find you interesting, but you won't even care anymore ;)
If you try it out, please let me know how it went
@@c.s2193 There's a possibility😂 It's definitely an insecurity that comes up for me. 1) The awkwardness and difference in communication style makes me feel lonely, and 2) Do they even like me???
Sometimes the beginnings of friendship can be awkward and clunky. I really appreciate that these friends make an effort to message me and make plans that we actually follow through on. Hopefully, we can break down the wall of awkwardness together.
Thank you for the re-cap! 😊
We need more of these videos for our fellow introverts
I love how you still have to be an extrovert for this
Wish I had a curated short list of the best content from this channel
@3:52 I find watching comedy has taught me to make quips about different situations on the fly and making others around me laugh
Be extremely attractive
Do one just in brad Pitt. I know people only see his face but I think they are attracted to his personality over his looks.
if he only had the face he'd be another high fashion stonefaced model. but theres a reason he was the leading hollywood man in 80s and 90s
love it, thank you
Love your content ❤️❤️❤️
Your creative skills are awe inspiring❤
This channel is awesome. Thanks for the content
You should make a video about the tv show 'would I lie to you" It shows really good examples of charismatic and funny people, great story telling, good and poorly executed banter. I would love to know how the hosts of the show are seemingly effortlessly funny and why when other guests sometimes attempt to make a joke it doesnt get received as well.
Another great video Ben
How to be extremely likable using 7 words.... um, ok. "I have free cocaine for everyone here!"
Be your best self!
Smile, always. Move with confidence. Know your worth.
You should do a breakdown of Barney about his charisma and charm! (from how I met your mother) It would be a super helpful video
I already smile like this while talking, but instead of this confidence it’s that nervous smile
nice, simply what i need
i already do these things thanks to your videos . PHEW that's a relief. I find myself overthinking it sometimes but i realized these tips are just guidelines for your inner self everybody has a unique strength of expression
Gwyneth Poltrow's story about BP is so cool🔥
4:15 I was one of those guys that said "girls don't like nice guys" and it was painful of the idea to think nice guys finish last but the problem is I didn't have insight. If there was a grizzly bear in the group I wouldn't nearly give her the attention as a 10. Just let things happen and be in the flow of the moment and give props to people where you see fit without it becoming nauseating 💁🏽♂️
I recommend for you guys to make a video on Jon Zherka. Dude is so charismatic, yes he says some crazy stuff but every podcast he's on and every video I've seen him on, he's always the star of the show. I watched both his podcasts with Bradley Martyn, I watched them both, start to finish.
This channel in a nutshell: Be kind.
A Duchenne smile is not just wrinkles around the eyes, they have to come in at an angle to be a genuine smile
I do feel that status and looks naturally help though
Summary of the tips is at 8:10.
i was at a party and i tried to strike a conversation with a group of guys i never met and found myself in an awkward situation not adding anything to the conversation. they were busy speaking about somebody I didn't know. how to have a good conversation finding yourself in the situation i hust described?
Ask them how they know one another. Wait for the moment you have something in common. That’s you’re in.
More for introverts please
I would like to see an analysis of Damon Salvatore's charisma from the Vampire Diaries
the problem is that most people will mistake your kindness for weakness
The advice in this video is really good but why do i feel like it never works irl for me.
Guys, you're the best
Good stuff thank u
Your advice is great and all, I've seen many of them, but you use professionally trained actors in so many examples, they are in situations and have natural skill to use these tricks, it's not really transferrable to normal daily life for the rest of us. You should use broadcasters, interviewers, or ted talks or even student demo reels of what works and what doesn't. Anything to make it more realistic for 99.9% of the population.
Valid point. Actors can make articial appear genuine. Further, actors generally have great upturned symmetrical smiles to go with good looks. Advice may have merit, just more difficult for most to execute.
Fully agree.
But on the other side, wouldn't you want to learn these skills from the best of the best?? The guys are so good wouldn't you want to observe them??
I'm a hard-spoken introvert.
This is my favorite yet coz I have a similar personality
I have a problem that people like me on the first day, but get more distant when we continue to meet. Why is that?
Was a huge Brad Pitt fan before and now I’m a even bigger fan!
Best video you've made :)
Be really good looking if you are quiet is the message.
We need more womens examples 🥲
Tip 8: Be a Brad Pitt
Hi guys, 3rd season of The Morning Show is out now. Please do Cory Elisson!
can you make a Channing Tatum charisma video? it would be nice
Has anyone done the program? Is it worth it?
My problem is I am quiet + awkward + insecure + not physically attractive 🙃🙃
I need to be remade completely 😂
bradd pitt starring this youtube video too be like 😂
aww I had no idea brad Pitt had a sweet personality
I feel like I am naturally charming. But I still get rude glances and people treat me like I’m nothing. I go to Uni here in Texas and I attended a frat event and literally everytime I was speaking theses people would roll their eyes
So maybe you might not be as "naturally charming" as you think?
You’re probably just very cringe and socially unaware ngl
How do I do that Duchenne Smile?
I have a friend who is selectively kind to only one person in our group. You're definitely right that it comes off as manipulative and it makes him sorta insufferable.
how do you have relaxed eye contact though
I always look intense and angry
Lol that’s funny!
A Mona Lisa smile helps
Practice your eye contact looking at people on screen
Press your tongue to the roof of your mouth. The rest of your face will relax.
I love how the video cuts to Jimmy Fallon laughing as he says you don't have to force the laugh
that random soprano clip 😂
Please do Tony Soprano
Thank you, now i am good at humaning
Can you make one about aragorn
Next video on Michael Scofield from prison break. Pleaseeee Btw nyc video
How do any women get over Brad Pitt? The most basic thing about me is that I absolutely love him.
Him:- "Watch something you know will make you laugh before you go out"
me: who sees my brother's face right after he wakes up everyday:
Step 1: Be EXTREMELY good looking like Brad Pitt.
I'm now in my 50s. I've owned my own custom built home, I've been homeless, and everything ib between. I recently didca luttle self reflection on my dreams..what they used to be, and what they are now.
I used to dream of being married, the big house on land, 2.5 kids, the shining new car, "white picket fence" life. Now, my dream is to have a safe, sound roof over my head with a comfortable bed, a reliable vehicle,and enough mobey to pay my bills without worry, pay for my medical needs and to keep healthy food in the fridge. I don't NEED designer clothes. I don't NEED flashy jewelry or the newest tech. Would it be nice to be able to travel and see new places? Yes. Would it be fun to be able to purchase something i see just because I want it? Yes. But I don't NEED to have enough money for those kinds of things in order to be at peace, to be happy.
Do a video on asap rocky
God, I’ve been killing it for 33 years. Not in a good way.😅
Does it Mean Brad pitt is an Introvert 😮😮❤❤❤
what if your smile scares people asking for a friend
This is why Sean Strickland has the most aesthetic physique in the UFC
Man, in addition to being that handsome, Brad Pitt is also charismatic AF.
The MOST IMPORTANT thing to do is actually have stories. Do this by experiencing life. Go outside and make a fool of your self. At least you’ll have a good story to tell
Saved this video on my WatchAgain playlist, never to be watched again😂
Hi
Brad Pitt's apparently face blind. That would impact how he chooses to interact with people.
Adam Sandler was starstruck in that interview with Brad
Conclusion: You cannot get over Brad Pitt both physical appearance and personality.
The lifekind. Perchance.
great video but for anyone interested in the gwenyth paltrow bit:
" Angelina Jolie says she and ex-husband Brad Pitt 'fought' about him working with Harvey Weinstein.
The three-time Golden Globe winner, 46, addressed the alleged abuse she faced during the 1998 Weinstein-produced film Playing by Heart, in which she starred at age 21, noting in an interview with The Guardian's Weekend magazine that she downplayed the encounter at the time.
'If you get yourself out of the room, you think he attempted, but didn't, right? The truth is that the attempt and the experience of the attempt is an assault,' Jolie said, adding: 'It was beyond a pass, it was something I had to escape.'"
Sounds like he's not really there for people who need him, he's just a bit possessive.
Amazing
Great video! But I personally dispise the pre-scentence laugh, it annoys me a lot when people to it
In short: be yourself
I'm not going to have a douchey smile!
Does anyone know how to prevent the resentment response that people often have later down the line after you help them in a time of need? It's not an uncommon occurrence when people feel an immeasurable dept to someone who helped them for them to turn it into resentment to free them from the cognitive dissoance.