4 Proven Ways To Be More Attractive Than Most Men
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In this video, we’ll break down some clips of Robert Downey Jr and Charlie Hunnam to highlight 4 different personality traits you may have that are psychologically attractive to a lot of women.
We’ll also go through how you can show you have these traits in a way that feels natural, rather than try hard or braggy. You don’t need every single trait in order to attract someone, this video is meant to give you a menu to choose from. Some come through in the stories you tell, others only require one sentence for you to establish.
And yes, both these guys are handsome, but the techniques in this video will help anyone to be more attractive regardless of how you look.
Also it’s worth noting, these are far from the only ways to be attractive. There are many other traits we can cover in future videos if this turns out to be a topic you’re interested in.
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0:00 - Intro
0:40 - Use the story baiting method
3:02 - Show that you're a protector
4:11 - Be the first to be playful in serious situations
4:17 - Make yourself the director of any situation
4:44 - Give the spotlight to someone who hasn't had it
6:01 - Be a successful risk taker
8:47 - Be playfully cocky
9:26 - Go over the top with your cocky persona
9:54 - Follow cocky statements up with a joke
10:31 - Be quick to compliment others
11:58 - Tell the story in an attractive way
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Confidence is not walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, its walking into a room not comparing yourself to anyone at all
Instagram quote material
@Juan Cruz Stakys yea therefore there wouldn't be a point in comparing yourself to anyone
Do you comment the same thing in every video? Even on the best food review channel lol🤣
@Juan Cruz Stakys in that occasion, yes but generally speaking, it's better to focus on yourself
Yes exactly you dont need to compare yourself to anyone When you know your are way better than everyone. LOL im joking
*5 things to quit right now:*
*1. Overthinking*
*2. Trying to make everyone happy*
*3. Living in the past*
*4. Worrying*
*5. Doubting yourself…*
Love from a small channel💙
Taabish, just jumped to your channel. Your vids look knowledgeable and interesting. Just subbed. Will be exploring your content very soon.
Working on those
Just living in the present would fix most of this. Try meditation along with it, seems to help.
*6. Paying for goods one has not received.*
I did all of those things when i was younger. The result, i couldn't even talk to girls
Confidence is like “Show up in every single moment like you’re meant to be there.”
it works all the time, I've gotten quite expensive parties by simply dressing the part and walking through with confidence, smiling at the wait staff, nodding at them and then waving to someone who briefly made eye contact with me. It's ridiculous what acting like you're meant to be somewhere can get you
Where ever you go,act like you belong there and dont look around. No one will confront you
Not trying to be negative, but Charlie sounds like a douche that made up the cat story to look like a hotshot. Seemed scripted.
Like. Pfff
Every moment. You've never not meant to be there😊
Appreciate you ✊
Imagine Robert Downey jr as a late night talk show host. He’d be legendary
He’s automatic legend at any job that puts him on a screen.
Podcast for rdj would be soo much betterrr, TV would just censor everying thing
Completely agree
i disagree,he's better off as an actor
He would get cancelled for speaking his mind so quick lol
Guys. I was at a party w/ few friends and there was this girl and we clicked. I invited her for a date and she said yes, but our date somehow became a group hang again and I got overwhelmed by the number of people and could not "focus" properly to getting to know the girl properly. I think, it would be a good idea for a video: How to be seen in a group, or smth like that.
I dont know the situation but I would suggest just being honest that you were excited to spend some time just with her. Not getting in to a group dynamic in the first place.
bruh no video needed. you need to single her out from the group and hang out with her 1v1.. make the next hangout clear that it will only be you two, and if it somehow turns into a group hang again; sorry bro, but looks like you in the friendzone.
@Kenton Nguyen
@Corban S
Oh god no. Don’t listen to these people. She’ll think you’re the biggest creep ever and destroy your rep on social media if you suggest that to her. Be more subtle about it and do not make any mistakes. Also not a bad idea to have audio or video (preferably both) surveillance on every inch of your property so she can’t say you tried to grape her.
@The Daily Weather Forecast
Yet they have a free pass and are even encouraged to be as subtle as they want whenever they want.
Hey man, all is not lost, it was just the first date. I like some of these comments about taking the initiative to ask her out again, women love confidence in a man - like just be low key about it and put it out there a little, get her reaction, build up a bit of contact between this time and the next time you see each other. She will definitely have still ‘seen’ you in that group hang, but yeah, just keep being you, that is what took her eye and attention in the first place.
Relaxed and attentive eye contact shows confidence and assurance to what they’re saying matters to you. As it genuinely should.
And what if what they're saying matters not one whit to me?
Some think "it should", but honestly after Ive listened to a "poor me" martyr over and over again, I could really give not one whit about what he/she says about her life as a self perceived victim.
And I still maintain eye contact, and somehow he/she still thinks I give a damn about what they're talking about.
@@1005corvuscorax - That’s when you can sell them anything you want. 😎
@@1005corvuscorax - But really, I’d just organically move on. They got the coat check into my interests, but I’ll save us from stepping on each other’s toes by not dancing around this conversation. I’m sure you do the same.
And for woman looking to gain and keep attraction through conversation? I feel the wider scope of 'attractiveness' would be interesting to address. For example attracting colleagues, the public when speaking in general, family, friends etc. Attraction doesn't have to be refined to sexual interest. Communication and general engagement is important in all forms of relationships.
Right. I love their videos! I do wish they would keep their female audience in mind and add more female celebrities breakdowns for us to learn from. 😉
@@Mistyfaery thank you for your comment.
I also think more wider scope on charisma could be covered because relationships with family - parents, children, strangers, colleagues and friends are all important connections for happy healthy lives.
@@littlevoice_11 I'd recommend you any Jordan Peterson lectures on family interactions and communications
But this video wasn't "refined to sexual interest"....?
@@corynorell3686 no, but it was aimed at a particular kind of attraction and relationship dynamic
The worst thing you could do to a person in a group conversation is to shine the spotlight on that person when he/she doesn't want it (has nothing interesting to say). It could be a passive aggressive way to show people how uninteresting/uninteresed that person is. So be mindful of when you call on people to share their opinions because they might not have an opinion they feel is worth sharing at that very moment.
Good point.
Great point man .. 🔥🔥so relatable
@@tonic1667 in other words, be fake. noted ✔
You mean don't FORCE the spotlight on someone, right ? Obviously you don't always know berorehand if they are interested or not. There is nothing wrong in including someone that didn't talk much. If they make it clear they don't like the conversation, just change the subject idk
“Being a successful risk taker may not be attractive to 100% of women but, nothing is” 💀☠️💀☠️
😂😂🤥
Mans speaking truth
Boom
Well, we aren't a hivemind😂
Roll credit scene
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Ambition is always attractive. Fortune favors the bold.
The funny thing is that they're not using any "tips", they are just natural themselves. The biggest tip here is to find your passion in life that makes you happy and confident, then your natural traits will come out
The funny thing is, that discovery is hard enough as itself. But once you find it, everything else becomes easier.
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Good one
How do you know that? They're actors. Being charming and confident, telling stories, keeping people's attention...this is their profession.
@@jayjohnx Why are you Lying??
Please make a vedio on Captain Jack Sparrow's charisma
Yes please
Yesssss
I'd love that!
That's too easy. He gets his charisma from all the rum he drinks.
Yes.
RDJ is the king of "playfully cocky". It's a rare gift
Know what help too? Integrity. Knowing who you are. Liking who you are. Absolute confidence and peace with who you are, and who you are not. Something to think about before you start practicing in the mirror how not to be yourself.
I scoffed at the title but actually ended up feeling very attracted to these men lol
me too.!!!!
just kidding.... but seriously, that was a wonderful story.
Really? To me they were less attractive.
You were attracted to celebrities? Wow imagine that
suckerrr lol jk.
*You can NOT control what happens to you, you can only control how you respond to them.*
There is power in your response. 🔥
Istg you’re everywhere. How many channels do u comment on? I’m just curious
Spam
Stoicism
There's a lot you can do to control what happens to you. Life isn't just reactive.
You 100% can control what happens to you. This quote is like someone saying... "nothing lasts forever so love what you have" but saying it like they came up with it.
When Charlie tells that story about the joke prom invitation. He knows for a fact every girl in that room would be thinking they would go to the prom with him. And every guy relates to him or is inspired to become successful despite previous rejection. Well done Charlie, this story hooked in 100% of the audience. RDJ could speak gibberish and you'd still listen with intent. His personality and charisma is just that huge.
Where in the f is that guy from?
That's the weirdest accent I've ever heard.
Last name?
@@rickonethousand6304 Charlie Hunam. I don't know where he's from. First movie I saw him in was Green Street. So I always thought he was a cockney.
@@rickonethousand6304 He's from Newcastle in England. And yeah, it's such a messed up accent.
I love how we all love RDJ. Like he really is an extremely charismatic guy. It doesn't matter if you're attracted to him sexually, you're attracted to him because he shines and you just want to pay attention to him. Amazing guy.
Just wanted to say, I’ve been watching your videos for years and they really are so good. The way you include real world examples is so helpful and also makes it a pot of fun to watch. Life changing stuff. Thanks again.
I love how Robert Downey Jr. has a different haircut in every clip.
I met and hung out with Robert Downey Jr. In the late 1980s at China Club in Manhattan. I have to say super nice...very down to earth guy. We didn't talk acting or movies..just life in general. Neither of us was feeling any pain that night..lol. I have to say his voice was definitely different than most men. It was kind of deep but direct. Cool guy in general though.. I could clearly see why women would want to hang out with him for him. Not for his money or fame. Just because he's a cool dude. He was kind of short guy but big personality. Almost animated. Very similar to Tony Stark. Think he has something special? In the 1980s he was in a movie called weird science. His sidekick in that movie was a model looking actor. Downey stole every scene...made himself more attractive than the other guy. If you held up two pictures of these two actors...he would never be picked. He went on to super stardom and the other guy was never seen or heard from again as an actor. I believe what Robert Downey Jr. Really has is charisma. Huge self confidence... NO FEAR.
Tip #1 Look like Hollywood movie stars.
Tip #2 Don't forget Tip #1
Or $$$$$
Only found this channel a couple of days ago. These videos are UNBELIEVABLY insightful! Good work!
Excellent points, I really like the one of the idea of being a successful risk taker, it's an important sign of leadership (which is attractive)
I think its very important to point out that most of this traits shows up spontaneously when a man actually feels realized in an activity that is intimately interesting for himself
One thing girls love is if you achieve soemthing and instead of talking about that, talking good things about your mother and how grateful you are. Gets them everytime.
I agree, another one is talking about what you have learned in life and why you're thankful for it. It shows me that you have humility to recognize you didn't know something before, introspection to have been able to realize it, a will to improve yourself and a positive mindset to be thankful for all of it.
Can you PLEASEEE do more group videos, or parties and how attention and focus flows and what causes it etc. I think it's something a lot of people struggle with
Well my question is, what about the conversations where you're asking questions, but they're not asking anything back? I have a hard time trying to work in my stories because it doesn't seem natural to me. Like I might end up sidetracking us on a tangential topic, but then come back to the original story, and after the story is done, there's just an awkward lull where I want to share something but I haven't been asked.
Me: So tell me more about that necklace you got, it looks very interesting!
B: Oh yeah, (blah blah blah)
Me: Insert questions to expand on details that I find interesting, then going off on tangents
B: Ends story
Me: (awkward silence until I ask another question)
The problem is I find myself feeling like I'm doing an interview, and not talking with someone. Do I just share stories or experiences, unprompted? I have enough social skills to know which ones to share and which ones to keep to my chest obviously, but I'm so confused by these interactions, and I think it's gotten worse since 2020. If anyone has any advice, or video links, I would really appreciate it. Thank you all.
I'm in the same boat my friend. You can try to be direct and call them out (for example I usually say: "Ok can you ask me something?") but if after that they still don't add to the conversation, I for one believe that the other person is not interested in you and I don't interact with them anymore bc I know my worth and if the person is not making any effort in getting to know me why should I?
RDJ is the man. Everyone knows that. He is a really cool funny guy. I like Charlie as well SOA was a fantastic show.
I literally wait for your video!! They are great and I love it. They help me grow as a person alot
Whenever I see RDJ, I can't help but think about the time, not long past, when he was so drug addicted and spending time in jail that "everyone" presumed his career, and maybe his life, would end soon. What a remarkable human being!
Hey Charisma, could you do a video on the short series called ‘Mixology’ . The series is 13 episodes long and follows the story of complete strangers on their night out, giving insight on night out situations and the do’s and don’ts when approaching someone of interest.
Though the series is quite comedic, I still think there is some pockets of knowledge to be acquired from it.
man I was a fan of this show, not the kind of thing I probably would have watched before or since but it landed at just the right time and I got my whole house into it.
Great, now I'm going to be self-conscious; I'm definitely a group leader, but I've never done it to make myself look more attractive; I group-lead as described here because I like to allow everyone to get a turn to be in the spotlight, I like to allow everyone to get involved if they want to, and I like to give everyone a chance to be heard. But now I'm afraid knowing about this is going to make me feel like I have ulterior motives.
love your videos. I always learn so much. Thanks for sharing!!
This may be my new favorite UA-cam channel. I usually agree with everything you guys say. I think we are on the same page but I will keep watch to continue to improve on my personality.
Did the audience just laugh at rigor mortis setting in on the cat...
Chill out, the audience knows kitty is now his much loved pet, but they had not expected to hear that kitty had almost died
i fell out of my chair laughing
Great video - a video on how to handle group conversations when you're interested in a particular woman would be helpful.
so basically be a leader, aware of others around you, complement people and tell stories ;d
Basically :)
He’s the guest on a talk show people, understand situational awareness. He knows he has everyone’s attention already, put him alone somewhere and uncomfortable and we’re almost all the same, a human that isn’t perfect
The thing is
In the end - your natural instinct comes forward .
You got to train yourself at an early age or spend time with intellectual people .
Hey thanks so much bro for all your videos. No joke these videos have changed my life for the better… no.. I mean for the GREATEST!! Lol but seriously though,I absolutely can’t believe on all the opportunities that I have passed up due to my self being my worst enemy!!.. these videos gave me my faith in myself so THANK YOU A ZILLION!!
Be confident and be yourself. Worked like a charm for me.
Great video as always
Can you guys do more breakdowns on women when it comes to charisma? 😀
Like Ariana Grande, Marilyn Monroe, Rihanna, Beyonce to name a few. It's easier to learn from someone we relate more easily to. 😀
You dont know them personally so how are you going to relate to them?
@@purplelove3666 People think they "know" celebrities. Ha ha
Charlie ran two miles to the vet with his nearly dead cat, that's both so strange and so awesome at the same time. Respect, my guy.
Bull hockey...
you fell for it too lol.
Fantastic channel thank you again for these videos.
Your break down of story telling was clear and concise that was super help ful and I'm gonna use this technique you just saved my life
You need to do a video on Jesus from "The Chosen". He seriously portrays such incredible charisma and genuine kindness. I've learned so many things from watching this actor.
Hard to emulate to talented.
I've always been relatively charismatic but I'm somewhat introverted as well. Sometimes it attracts negative attention from people who become overly sensitive to your opinions and perspectives in general. There's a time and place to show a little charisma but it's usually better to show a calm and stoic personality overall. IMO
Robert confirmed what I've been thinking in social occasions for so long! He's a Genius Mentor!
The succes of this type of videos obviously shows how much people are totally lost in this collapsing society.
"If he would do that for a random cat, imagine what he would do for a loved one." Except many that proclaim to love animals are the types to treat family and co-workers like garbage.
Agreed! That extrapolation does not always work. Fallen for that trap before. :P
It seems that when people brag about being anything it turns out to be more of a warning. Like the 'nice guy' phenomenon or those that say how they don't like drama...
Action speaks louder than words
That's because a large portion of animal lovers are narcissists, and they use it as a tool to virtue signal and look like better people than they are. Almost every extreme animal lover I've ever met that has too many pets was a covert narcissist.
OP: Quite accurate 👏.
I never agreed with a point so much as playful cockiness, that always gets me. I'll take a playfully narcissistic joke over a self-deprecating one any day
Great video
Always valuable ❤
I’d like to personally give an award to the people who commented “first” to commemorate their stupendous achievement
If you’re interested, I do great in depth BREAKDOWNS of MARVEL and Star Wars Movies and TV shows (if you’re not interested, just ignore this and have a great day:)
These are the same friendless inbreds that edit their comments to thank for likes
😂😂😂
Haha XD
First
Attractive people can get a halo effect easily.
Also, in a talk show, many things depend on the host as well. All is set up for the interview to be as interesting as posible.
Celebrities are used to this. You get the laughs and the attentions just because of your fame.
This video is great. You guys are awesome.
For myself who is introverted and not super good in social interactions but not shy at all! These videos are really usefull so thx a lot!
What have u learned
watched this just to see if it was accurate and it really is. I can see all of those things "working". The bad light story does more than what he suggested though, it engages the woman's heart, which is already primed and ready. lol We have the most overactive brains (too many pathways working in too many directions at once) AND hearts or emotions that are always ready to be engaged in any situation. Also, our sexual attraction or desire is sometimes directly connected to our heart/emotions. So take care with your words. They are more powerful than you will ever know, believe or be able to comprehend.
My husband reeled me in by telling me about the time he saved an injured owl lol
This is pretty dang accurate. I use many of these tactics in tech negotiations every day. Very observant… And if this course is as good as the insights in the video, it’ll be worth it (to guys especially). Level up your COMMUNICATION skills guys. Women adore that!
There is finally another video I hit it off impatiently
Charlie is that guy who just keeps telling you stories about how great and caring he is, whether you want to hear it or not. Do women really fall for that? I guess a lot do.
I think you miss how he tests the waters always, and then tells the story when there's clear interest expressed from the other person
It helps he is hot
This is a Great video. After watching I realized I'm the 1st one - The protector..
I protected my sister and brother from my mom !!... (continue to read to know the story)
I'm from India.
We are 3 sibling and I'm the eldest - 1 brother and 1 sister. I'm the most obedient one and doesn't backtalk to elderly even when its not mistake.
We are not really outgoing, we stay at home and play with each other all the time.
When we were little we did something mischievous. My mom got very angry about it.
She beat me with a one of the big sticks at home. I took it and I cried a lot didn't say a word.
Then she went to beat my sister. I don't know what happened to me at that point she beat her once my blood was boiling. I was furious with rage. At that point , I'm not what I normal was.
As my mom tried to beat her again . I blocked her , got hold of the utensil , shouted at her. Didn't let go of the stick. She was shocked I never did anything like that.
Then she left That's how I protected my brother and sister.
PS : Beating kids is very typical in asia . She still loves us a lot and does take a lot of stress for us. We love her a lot. Beating is a way asian parents use to discipline kids. Looking back though it was harsh and had some side affects I realized it was necessary.
By the way I tried using "story baiting method" here . Give a like if I worked.
Thank you.
Excellent
Love your videos, You should check out some older shows main characters, like... castle, burn notice, and white collar, also great examples of charisma
I wish I had an older face. Women usually think I'm 30+ years younger than I am. It may sound great, but trust me, it's kind of embarrassing when the number is SO far off.
When I was 30, and people guessed 20, it was great. At 40, it started to change for the worse. Over 50, I'm at the point that I'm thinking to just tell people that I am 25-30, and just let them think I'm wise for my age.
I naturally do this story baiting thing, but I think I overdo it a bit much cuz people often say I talk too much.
Then maybe you're not actually telling interesting stories. Or maybe you should put the spotlight on others more
I’ve always believed story baiting only goes well if you can hold the audience’s attention. Make sure you’re highlighting the tense/dramatic/funny parts, but being brisk and succinct with all other details. Otherwise your audience will lose interest.
Tell your story pause and ask the listener a question, just engage the listener and make them talk and give feedback during story telling is great as well
In a one on one situation, try to only talk about 40% or less of the time, people talk more than they think
Please upload more videos like this. I like it
amazing video
I feel like these things cannot be taught but learned by experience. You certainly won't reach RDJ level charisma by following these rules.
that's the spirit!
The first story is just making me think of Dennis Reynolds and his fake dog story on It's Always Sunny.
thnk you terece ivan and andre
Beautiful right on time video
Soren Keikegarrd, the Danish philosopher, referred to as the Danish Time Bomb, in his younger and "anesthetic" days, before he takes his 1st, "Leap of Faith" into his Moral stage, was always the life of the party. But, after the party he wanted to get a gun and shoot himself. He had some physical abnormalities, which did not seem to
bother him. One leg was shorter than the other and he was a hunchback. His 2nd leap of faith was his conversion to Christianity. He received a degree in Theology but did not want followers. He was never ordained and wrote to save himself rather than an audience. The bulk of his writings were found 50-70 yrs. after his death. It's possible that he hoped to save the world.
Can you do a video on how to respond to someone who attempts to mischaractarize you? ie. Falsely accusing of racism, assuming you're something your not or whatever.
I love the time stamp you have damn
Is it possible to make a video about Raymond Reddington from Blacklist? I think there is a lot to learn about him, especially regarding his personality and confidence.
when I see people tell stories like that it makes me roll my eyes and tune it out. it feels too much like bragging, and in my eyes, bragging is very unappealing.
Yeah, I'm the straight to the point kind of person. Just get to the point, don't waste my time and also yours.
Yeah, but it's good story telling advice, just content doesn't appeal to me either
This is why humans overcomplicate life. We tell stories to engage. To share our experiences. To entertain.
The story telling and social directing advice works flawlessly. I'm a 7, but have always attracted higher using these techniques. Thanks for these videos. Helped me transform myself in the early days of this channel.
Yo this video is must watch for men and understanding social dynamics
Im at a loss. There is some of these tips on that i have had working organically at some point in my youth but have seemed to go dormant or evaporate. Itd be nice to be my full self again and thats attractive to myself if to no one else
The trick is to make sure you're not just a walking version of these videos, normal conversation and being yourself is a big part of connecting with people as well as these tips.
Agreed. You mix in some of these traits with your own traits to create your own genuine style. Even with a genuine style, not everyone is going to like you and that is ok
To make this all clear about the interview. Sherlock is not depressed. He's observing.
I love your videos you are the best
Believe it or not just being nice works too… it’s gotta be intentional and meaningful but I can confirm it does work.
to the women watching this: you're not alone
Lol glad to know
@@SoVidushi what a woman response
@@corbans5796 glad to have a woman response
@@SoVidushi nice
As a guy, what does that mean ? Women feel alone ? Women don't know these techniques of charisma ? Thanks.
Don't forget looks play a big part in whether you're seen as attractive or not, I get this video is used for motivation but being honest about how much looks effects how others see you as attractive or coming off as creepy is more important than being blue pilled about everything
Sounds like excuse to me already. Having an attractive disposition can overcome anything.
@@camzeee840 I haven't said anything about my looks though have I? I'm on about those below who are below average in looks not to rely on these videos to get their self esteem up only to get it blown apart with over confidence that can be a direct result of watching videos like this
Thank you, can you make a video on the bare basics of how to interact with people
Ty
Please do a charisma breakdown of luther (played by idris elba).
Anyone who's watching these and are skeptical if any of this works. Let me tell you.
It does. Tailor your personality to steps of what he is telling you.
Confidence is key!
More videos of this topic plzzz🥺
All other things aside, that first guy’s story about the cat definitely did not happen lmao
Make videos for women too... Please
For dating I can really only give advice from the perspective of a straight man, at least until we get other people in as research assistants or writing the videos. But I'd say 95% of our videos work for all genders, it's probably one every 15-20 videos that's specific to dating
Be attractive and hot guys with throw themselves at you.
Okay be cooler than I currently am. Got it!
Looks is what catches all the attention in the first place. It's what makes others interested in you and things related to you.