Why Women Like Bad Boys

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  • Опубліковано 10 чер 2018
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    Have you ever asked, "Why do women like bad boys?" If so, Coach Lee of MyExBackCoach.com discusses why bad boys are often popular with the ladies. His answer isn't likely what you expect.
    As Coach Lee points out, it isn't really the "bad," that makes bad boys more attractive to women than nice guys. In fact, it's actually a character strength that many bad boys have that draws females to them like salmon to Capistrano.
    Coach Lee discusses why nice guys finish last, bad boys are often more what women want, and that men don't have to be bad in order to make themselves more attractive to women.
    Be sure to subscribe to Coach Lee's channel and like this video if it was helpful to you in some way. Schedule a coaching call at myexbackcoach....

КОМЕНТАРІ • 87

  • @apope06
    @apope06 3 роки тому +15

    When i became a badboy everything changed. I just speak my mind and never apologize. Being blunt and honest gets you LAID.

  • @alexp4898
    @alexp4898 5 років тому +29

    Holy shit man. I wish I would have watched this two days ago before she dumped me and I groveled. Now I'm on the NC day 1. UGHHHH. You live and learn man.

    • @valentin19998
      @valentin19998 4 роки тому

      any update?

    • @alexp4898
      @alexp4898 4 роки тому +14

      @@valentin19998 I worked on myself during NC. Lots of youtube videos on attraction and coach lee's tips. I also lost 12 pounds over 4 weeks working out and eating right. I went on 2 dates with 2 different women. I was patient and did 27 days of NC before I reached out with a funny cool text and my Ex responded! Well....We exchanged a few texts I asked her out to dinner she said yes then canceled the day of the date, which I did NOT freak out and I played it totally cool. I was patient even though she was hesitant and it worked! I got her out on a date 3 weeks ago and we have been dating ever since. So we are back to dating again and I couldn't be happier.

  • @harryhavana
    @harryhavana 5 років тому +12

    This is the real Coach Lee

  • @dafyddllyrdavies6601
    @dafyddllyrdavies6601 3 роки тому +8

    I definitely shouldve had more balls in my relationship but I always worried if I was straight she wouldn't like and she'd hate me

  • @angelafranklin6333
    @angelafranklin6333 2 роки тому +4

    This is so true. I have ran away from good guys because they were scary to me lol I don’t do that anymore, I had issues then

  • @chrisbryant2283
    @chrisbryant2283 6 років тому +7

    sir coach lee this is very good sir. for my brothers please listen to sir coach lee. this happen to me i became too loving and very much weak sir coach lee. i was very strong man at first and became too loving into relationship. sad i only find such news only now but i will keep inside mind for future. salute you sir coach lee for work!

  • @kimberlysmith5404
    @kimberlysmith5404 4 роки тому +6

    Thank you so much for sharing your perspective and explanation on the subject of the "bad boy" attraction ! This is golden and incredibly accurate in my experience. Please make more videos with these type of taboo content and hard cold truths. Its needed and appreciated!! Xo

    • @emmanuelshaul1358
      @emmanuelshaul1358 2 роки тому

      A badboys is a warrior. ..and women are attracted.to.his.heart....womem mistake.little boys who watch tv and mimics.tv.show.as.badboys.does.are.little boys. ....badboys are at the top.of.thw food chain

  • @brickhead48
    @brickhead48 5 років тому +11

    Sigh, i wish i'd have seen this video about 10 years ago

  • @frankscaglione4155
    @frankscaglione4155 Рік тому +1

    I would like to see a new video of this subject. Over the years your presentation has improved so much, this deserves a revisit.

  • @waltervila33
    @waltervila33 6 років тому +14

    Hi coach Lee can you do a video on attachment styles and how to re attract someone with an anxious attachment style this is a subject that most people don’t know about and can go a long way in helping relationships flourish

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  6 років тому +4

      Good idea. Thank you for that!

    • @jorgewong910
      @jorgewong910 3 роки тому +3

      @@RealCoachLee Coach Lee, Is the "bad boy" the same as the Alpha male?

    • @bestchannel6662
      @bestchannel6662 3 роки тому +1

      @@RealCoachLee unforutenaly bad boys get any girls they want but nice boys are rejected and ignored by girls and its same situation everywhere

  • @keren1899
    @keren1899 5 років тому +8

    You're right as usual 👌

  • @NAJAlliance
    @NAJAlliance 6 років тому +5

    Exactly. This is so good!

  • @silverlining7298
    @silverlining7298 5 років тому +6

    Thanks lee, powerful stuff. Id love to see more about you personally and your life. Like a day in the life?

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  5 років тому +3

      Natalie, I’m shy. (;

    • @silverlining7298
      @silverlining7298 5 років тому +1

      @@RealCoachLee haha no way..well I love your work. Has helped me through a really dark place x

  • @sajanpatel7285
    @sajanpatel7285 6 років тому +4

    I think its balance. Being a decent guy doesnt mean you have to be "nice" nice is fake. Where as being your true self is honest. Wether you enjoy someones personality and have interest in having sex. If its genuine then its genuine. The key thing is to be who you are. And be confident.

  • @jorgewong910
    @jorgewong910 3 роки тому +3

    God bless you, Coach Lee!

  • @sandrasorci5527
    @sandrasorci5527 6 років тому +5

    You are right on!

  • @abhijitc251083
    @abhijitc251083 3 роки тому +1

    True. Always have a life outside the r'ship...coz you dont know if they'll truly stay.
    Never forget friends and family.

  • @heavymetaldude3966
    @heavymetaldude3966 5 років тому +4

    I got too nice, had a little bit of self-doubt, I told her I feel that I'm being too nice and over supportive - she was like "no no I like you the way you are" days before break up, I put her up on a pedestal near the end...do I even have a chance? been officially done a month ago and has been 10 days since I heard from her and I haven't reached out in any form.

    • @VoiceOfThe
      @VoiceOfThe 5 років тому

      What happened? Did she reach out?

    • @Rawyalty220
      @Rawyalty220 2 роки тому +1

      Dude u stopped being a leader of course she would leave. Be a leader

    • @Lovedrug96
      @Lovedrug96 11 місяців тому

      Update

    • @williamconrad6561
      @williamconrad6561 10 місяців тому

      I went through a similar thing. I never bought my ex flowers, or left cards, or little gifts for her. She started complaining that I never did those things. I started giving her flowers, gifts, etc... She started getting snappy, and testing me after that. I think these females say they want one thing, but really want the opposite. I think they take kindness as a weakness. It is crazy, but I think that is the way it is

  • @LiLgPnoy15
    @LiLgPnoy15 4 роки тому +2

    I wish I knew this in high school

  • @digittydog
    @digittydog 4 роки тому +2

    This is such a clear explanation compared to other things I’ve heard and read. A unique question.... How does a middle aged man whose wife divorced him.... who’s faith includes abstinence until marriage navigate this? I want closeness and sex. Of course. But if I insist on waiting it seems I will repel many good women.

    • @kedabro1957
      @kedabro1957 4 роки тому +1

      Mathmatically, you are rare, and women who share your beliefs are rare. So it will take much longer to find a woman who fits you. There is no way to "navigate" this problem, except to spend more time meeting more people.
      That's the only answer I can give without proposing you change your beliefs. Let me know if you want to hear that part.

  • @NofyahShemTov
    @NofyahShemTov 4 роки тому

    i love this. it is one hundred percent on point

  • @wessowesso1752
    @wessowesso1752 6 років тому

    Top notch topic👍
    Brand new!
    .

  • @rick15666
    @rick15666 2 роки тому

    You make so much sense

  • @hellooholly
    @hellooholly 6 років тому +5

    This works for women as well.

    • @LuvLeiah
      @LuvLeiah 5 років тому

      Indeed!

    • @juap
      @juap 5 років тому +2

      No, i like summisive and femmenine woman

  • @hauntedasylum8194
    @hauntedasylum8194 2 роки тому +1

    Because they're ignorant. They don't understand that bad boys are bad because they're going to eventually punch you in the face. They like tough guys, but that toughness is going to turn on you.

  • @voiceinthedesert153
    @voiceinthedesert153 Рік тому

    Hard to disagree. But he is VERY right. 💯👍

  • @runer007
    @runer007 3 роки тому

    I am passionate about meeting lots of new girls. But maybe that's a problem if I also want my ex back...

  • @anitasalipan5048
    @anitasalipan5048 3 роки тому

    Thanks coach Lee

  • @Vishalkumar-mu5hy
    @Vishalkumar-mu5hy 3 роки тому

    This video's title should be.
    Nice guy to bad guy converter.

  • @julialednicky7542
    @julialednicky7542 Рік тому

    Very interesting!

  • @Vadi88
    @Vadi88 2 роки тому +2

    Nice guys don't always finish last. I'm a good guy, and I always finish first in bed.

  • @andrewgonzalves699
    @andrewgonzalves699 3 роки тому

    Thanks coach

  • @piorundip8705
    @piorundip8705 4 роки тому +4

    So all people are "bad" and there are just "honest" types ("bad guys") and weak guys scared to be honest ("nice guys") who secretly are bad but dont know it yet or are acared to show their true bad side. That is bullshit. The truth is, womans love DRAMA, love EMOTIONS and love is an emotion, and they love strenght and "bad boy" is the archetype of strengh - a guy who doesnt care. Woman love to pursuit and its some kinf od manipulation that someone that doesnt care abou us and is not nice is BETTER THAN ME woman cannot separate Bad Guy who is trash and just doesnt care about anything, and a Hight Value guy who is just much better than that woman and is not interested in her. She just know that the guy who is nice is not good for her. And she want to be trated like trash. IT have nothoning to do with being honest. Why womans are not honest? Are all womans "nice guys"? Its just in womans intuition that "nice guy" is just WEAK guy and not good genes material. So the absurd in the situation is that woman will chose a guy without job, addiced to some drugs, who is just a trash guy, over a well educated guy with money who is well maniered beceause her simple ancient mindset tell her that the more rude guy is better guy. Its that simple. Nice guys are polite, they care about emotions, they dont want to hurt. While bad guys often intentionally hurt feelings and emotions, and what is the result? TResult is that woman love to be hurt, love to suffer, they are addicted to it. Nice guys are boring, they dont bring any emotions and drama to their lives. Tere is no game no war with a nice guy. And love is some kind of constant game and war for woman. No game, no war, no drama mean no love, and that have nothing to do with beaing honest or not.

    • @Gnomesmusher
      @Gnomesmusher 2 роки тому

      This is so true. I mean I agree that to a certain extent that "bad boys honesty" is one part of the attraction but it's actually the drama that some women love.

  • @antbeanz5
    @antbeanz5 4 місяці тому

    So we always supposed to stay in no contact even IN the relationship? I can understand after the fact but im lost in this video.

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  4 місяці тому

      No contact is NOT for when you are in a relationship. That would be called the silent treatment and it's not a good thing.

  • @adilouerradi8763
    @adilouerradi8763 3 роки тому

    bro this is right, lol now i understand whats going on, next girl will be fucked hahahahaha, thanks for letting me know, i was blind and dont understand, cheers to u lee

  • @stacym2201
    @stacym2201 4 роки тому

    Idk dat if bad boys are honest and nice guys are liers is true or not. But u r d expert Coach Lee. All i knw is men does lie ALOT...especially wen dey ready 2 do their shit and som men d frens dey keep is REALLY jus BADD company. And single guys incourages d ones who r in comitted r'ships 2 mess around...simply b cuz dey r single and hav NO responsibilities in life. They r free 2 play d fool wit women and by bein around these frens...dey feel dat dis is sooo kool...so dey start liein and wen problems arise they r ready 2 walk out d door. B cuz dey knw their so called frens r single so it's NO problem 2b d same.

  • @BlakeSakalMusic
    @BlakeSakalMusic 3 роки тому

    💯%

  • @walterabeyta733
    @walterabeyta733 5 років тому

    does this work vice versa

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  5 років тому +3

      Men are usually attracted to women for different reasons, but honesty and genuineness is still a huge factor.

    • @kedabro1957
      @kedabro1957 4 роки тому

      @@RealCoachLee
      Only after they have experienced enough suffering at the hands of bad women, that they are willing to sacrifice their other standards.

  • @piorundip8705
    @piorundip8705 4 роки тому +1

    1:37 But you said mystery is attraction

  • @emanuelazote8988
    @emanuelazote8988 2 роки тому

    So it's not bad guy..it's just guys who has passion and didn't put relationship at there first priority. And no it's not nice guys..it's just guys who are selfish and manipulating.

  • @mataharon5952
    @mataharon5952 2 роки тому

    Women cant have it both ways

  • @NomadUrpagi
    @NomadUrpagi 2 роки тому

    Telling a truth gets you a woman? Telling the truth pushes people away, including the good ones as well. You think good, valuable girls and men don't lie? Everyone lies and everyone hides something. Some women are liars themselves and are attracted to liars. Lying is not always detrimental to one's image. It's just "bad boys" unknowingly present themselves as honest guys and women get the bait. The nice guy can be honest as well, but will the women like the truth HE tells? Hardly so.

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  2 роки тому +5

      A real man doesn’t care if she likes his truth or not. If your goal in life is to never push people away, you will certainly fail.

    • @NomadUrpagi
      @NomadUrpagi 2 роки тому

      @@RealCoachLee everyone cares about what other people say or think. The correct statement would be "care little about what stranger women think". If what you said were true, one could walk naked on the street and mutilate people for sport, but do a lot of people do it? Those who always do only what they want end up making the whole surroundings as enemies and get outcast. Not giving a care about what people think about you is not a viable social strategy. The correct strategy is to care less about people who are not close to you. But overall, your coachings are the best. I always give credit when it is due.

  • @Ninja4hire110
    @Ninja4hire110 6 років тому +2

    This is wrong. It has nothing to do with honesty and trust. It has all to do with the balance of value. When a person mistreats another person he communicates that he's more valuable than her. Women are after men that they feel are more valuable than them.

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  6 років тому +16

      And when a person puts on a false act to someone or lies to them, they communicate that they don’t believe they are valuable enough in reality. That demonstrates low value and that’s a large part of what the nice guy does. A weak man believes he must mistreat or belittle someone to demonstrate value and build attraction. A strong man knows that he doesn’t have to. I don’t have to mistreat a woman for her to be attracted to me because I’m plenty attractive without manipulative tricks or having to make her feel lower. I don’t have to do that, nor would I. Other people feeling good about themselves does not threaten me.

    • @Ninja4hire110
      @Ninja4hire110 6 років тому +1

      Coach Lee For the record I enjoy all of your videos and think they are right on. Just this one doesn't make sense to me. Don't you think that if a nice guy were to be "honest" and unafraid to express himself to a girl he likes. He would over lavish her with praise and adoration to a point of turning her off?

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  3 роки тому +3

      No, usually some men think complimenting her is a way to get in her pants or get her to like them (like bribery). There is nothing wrong with paying someone a compliment but motivation is key and it can turn into worship.

    • @Ninja4hire110
      @Ninja4hire110 3 роки тому

      @@RealCoachLee You're a rockstar!