How To Overcome Narcissistic Abuse
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- Опубліковано 16 вер 2024
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It's hard not to become petty towards a narcissist. Once I broke away from the narcissist in my life, I discovered the Stoic philosophy. It has helped me to put things into perspective and forgive that narcissist. I will never get involved with her in any real meaningful way. I put up boundaries, and I am constantly courteous towards her. I don't let myself get caught up in her lies, or self-grandiosity. Her viciousness when her lies are questioned is intense. I try and stay away from her as much as possible now.
Same.
I endlessly told myself "if only I could explain it to him better he would change and be better... and being a fairly articulate person this was kind of dumb... of course he understood what I was trying to communicate... he just didn't care... but they have that "nice" facade so you are deceived that they don't mean to hurt or disappoint you... they must just not understand...
Self compassion….I still struggle with this. Great post here!
Rise Above!❤️🙏🏻❤️
Thank you, Jim. Very helpful and informative. Your kind, calm manner set my mind at ease during this very difficult journey.
THANK YOU 🙏🏽 IT WAS VERY HELPFUL IM GLAD I CAME ACROSS YOUR UA-cam CHANNEL ❤
This is such a helpful video. You explain things so your average person can understand, without being condescending. Have a great weekend. Pamela
There aren't supportive, loving people in my life. What then?
I'm in the same boat.
Im here for either of you to talk to
Be the person that supports yourself.
I truly appreciate your expertise in this narcassustic abuse arena that not many therapist are well versed in. You have helped so many victims across the globe 🌎 and I personally cannot THANK YOU ENOUGH 🙏
Sending you blessings 🙌
Thank you, Jim. I struggle with a lifelong pattern. My family of origin is highly dysfunctional, specificly when our highly functional, all responsibility carrier - dad, had an early death long ago. As I much later dicovered, he was the empathetic, kind, and service oriented child in his own family of origin. Npd dad, among passive female siblings and three older brothers (older generation) who later on took the whole inheritance of the parents through continuous deception. And more horror episodes revealed as I along years started to pull off the wool over my eyes. Distorted perceptions had ruled my understanding of my ancestors. I thought they were like my dad was, a decent and kind man. An honourable man. These brothers, in the outside, in the church choir etc... However, I inherited my dad' s good and able nature. I have helped my mother, my siblings as a kind of transparent.(My help is never mentioned. More so, I am spoken to as if I own to help.) My attachment style is a strong sense of responsibility to help these people (they genuinly need help), but it has become very obvious to me that I receive acceptance (not love), when I keep on helping, assisting, but once the acute need of assistance is over (temp), if I express any ctiticism, objection etc, I am being attacked, it is obvious there is no love, I am being downright abused. My mother taught this to my siblings early on. The targets were the able ones, the only loving people in my family, me and my dad. My younger brother (golden child) has excluded me from his family celebrations for over 15 years etc as if I did not exist. This is totally accepted by the rest of the family ( family of origin and his spouse and children, his spouse dislikes me) who relies on my good nature when help is needed. The golden child helps no one, gives nothing to mark his mom' s birthdays etc. My younger brother would not be in life where he now comfortably and affluently is, had I not done everything in my powers with my then affluent partner' s help. As soon as I separated from this affluent partner, my brother totally discarded me. It took me several decades to stop looking for a reason in myself. Now, I get it, I am not loved by these people, they leave and desert me if I need help. I am existing for them only to be abused. My trauma is the sense of needing to take responsibility of these people's need of getting help and it is becoming the death of me when the pattern is what it is. Abuse and not one of them stands by me in the abuse. Now, it is clear to me, no longer. Better late than never. They will never change. The patterns are oriented deep in their brains, some specific lack of functionings.
Thank you for such a deep, clear ,useful information. And that type of offering of info is comfortable to comprehend
How do I set boundaries when the Narc is my sons girlfriend who he is completely under the spell of. She has kept me from my grandson (whom she is not the mother.) My son is in the justification stage of her abuse. His son, is the crown jewel in the situation. She uses him for control over their whole lives. I really believe she knows I’m on to her and that’s why she is cruel to me (and others.) This is heartbreaking as my son is not himself . Losing precious time with my son and Grandson is so painful. It’s a terrible catch 22 situation. :(
You have rights as a grand parent. You can go to family court and speak with a clerk magistrate who will lead you in the right direction
Great video!!!!
Thank you Sir
Very helpful 👍. I appreciate it
You are a great speaker on this subject
It was the most miserable 8 months in my life. He would show up for sex. Promised to marry me than disappear, same thing over and over.
I was married for 27 years. I'm a widow. I never thought I would Fall for this but my narcissistic mother created the trauma bond. I had a good husband for 27 years, and it was like it was dormant. And When he died, it resurfaced. The weeks without texting me or responding to me. It took me 7 months to realize. I was just a b**** call and the depression overwhelmed me. I didn't realize how I could fall for such manipulation. He took advantage of my loneliness, As a widow.. A cowboy truck driver, a narcisist. No way, that's what I thought. But yes, he was really good at it.
Thank you ❤
this was actually really helpful. thank you.
Lost my interest in the vid when you mentioned toxic masculinity. Trying to fit in with the gynocentric crowd much?