Baggage Check! ‘The Real’ Ladies Let It Go
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
- The hosts are checking all of their baggage at the door and opening up about insecurities, painful memories and harsh criticism that have made them stronger women today. Watch the ladies chuck the deuces to excess baggage in this emotional clip.
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Loni cares soo much about Tamera. And it's adorable 😍😍
I have notice she does treat her different compared to the other two
They’re both cancers
I read soo as too and I was about to go off on you😂
#guyscantsayshitlikethat!
I see both Tia and Tamera as equally beautiful twins!
I agree!
DAlana M 😁
+Angel Grant Duh! Where you been???
yes girl! I can't believe that people didn't call her beautiful as well. especially with her beauty mark, and how refined she is. I was so jealous as a little girl watching twitches how stunning they both were
+Angel Grant I absolutely second that! They are both so beautiful and inspiring
Best segment ever! As women we carry SO MUCH "baggage" or guilt from our past that we never talk about. So to hear you ladies (who seem to be perfect in our eyes) talk about your insecurities really helps in a MAJOR WAY. I think this needs to turn into a campaign! I'd love to be apart of it xoxo
It's crazy because I was talking to my fiance' about something like this even before I seen the episode. I have so many things going on in my head to start something for women addressing insecurities, struggles etc. I'm praying that this will come to life. I know that we all have issues going on and we try to be strong and a lot of us carry these things and they are very painful.
Shardae Avents Please do!
beautynista email me!
U said! The Netherlands agree 100%
I totally agree with you about the campaign and here's my suggestion for the title~ Flaws and All meaning love me in spite of my flaws and all cause we all have them whether people will be honest enough to admit it or not.
It looks like Tamera cries diamonds, or glitter
Nafisa al Londoniyyah she is so gorgeous omg right!!!
Omg yes
She’s an angel 👼 ❤️
Those are Genuine Tears
😂😂😂
Loni, you are not your clothes. You are so much more. Jeannie, your eyes, skin and height are beautiful. Tamara, you and your sister are both beautiful and sexy. Whoever said you weren't must feel like morons now. Tamar, it is your imperfections that make you unique and being unique is way more beautiful than being the same. Adrienne, your job is just a part of who you are. You are a strong, beautiful, talented woman. Those are the things men care about, only boys care about your money.
Aww that is so nice!
So true
SweetAnSowaCandi
Everyone at one point or another have been their clothes. They have been judged for it.........In short she is just saying that is the world as it is
SweetAnSowaCandi wow we need more people like you in the comments
I always called Tamera the 'goofy' one when watching Sister Sister but I never thought of it in a negative way. I loved that about her because she was like me. It makes me sad that she held that negatively :(
+Blessing Bakare right and she was my favorite twin because I would always get called cute and goofy as well. While my older sister recieved what tia recieved.
Miss Bakare That was her character on the show...but she was the clubbing going out sister... Tia mentioned on their reality show... Bc Tamera sloooowed down big time once she got with her now husband
I will always be the goofy cute one. i dont have a twin but i think its a cpmpliment
She talking about being goofy as a teen ,
She took it negatively because she was a teen. The time in your life where you want to feel sexier because you're not a little girl anymore. It would hurt if you were told you weren't as sexy as your twin especially when you are identical.
All of the girls had me crying. I understand why it was hard for Tamera. Tia was always considered the "pretty twin" on Sister Sister, while she was the goofy, less attractive one. I am sure Tamera felt really insecure about that. She even talked about being turned down by her crush Quintin Adams because he thought Tia was prettier. Even on her reality show, Tamera was crying because it was hard for her to get roles. Producers thought she was "too cute" and didn't have enough range as an actress. Tia would get hired before she would, because she was sexier and can do drama.
Empressive not to me🤷🏽♀️ when o watched Sister Sister I always pretended to be Tamera
Nasjah Alsina Right! I never thought or imagined that Tamera felt insecure about the way she looked in comparison to Tia! They were both beautiful, succesful, strong women and thats what I felt when I watched them together. Personality has a big influence on self expression, I think she was fostered to feel a type of way about herself because of the "funny" role she played, but that doesn't take away from her beauty. Just look at her lol.
Empressive I honestly don't see the difference. They both look the same to me.
Empressive Amazing because they are identical twins! They look so much alike!
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I'm a grown ass man at work and Yall have me damn near BALLING right now! Whew Lord Jesus be a fence and hold back these tears LOL Jesus be a Kleenex!!
Awww. Lol.
LMAOOO
You are a fool! Thank you for the laugh after all the crying I did over here. I should have called on Jesus to be a Kleenex for me.
Lol
I think it's good for the fellas to see what we women go through before y'all get to us. Maybe then the fellas will be more sensitive, kind, patient, and understanding.
Tamar's voice while she was talking just broke my heart....
why was she talking like that
@@ellenimeseret1331 Because she was trying her hardest not to cry while she was talking so her voice kept cracking.
That part was tough
She was lying though
@Michelle Appiah
Google vitiligo
Masks and hand sanitizers. They were ready for 2020
Also wondering why they had masks around , did they know about 2020? 🤭
Its true 😂
Great observation 😂
Omg yesss🤣🤣🤣
Illuminati lol
Almost in tears listening to Tamera, similar to when your friends are hotter than you😩
+QueOndaWey1984 aww you're so sweet ❤️
If you're friends are better looking than you...You must have angels as friends! Cause you look so good!!❤❤
Yep, been there!
i relate so much to tamera even though im not a twin, people think im just so cute and they pinch my cheeks, but i wanted to be pretty and hot or whatever, and i still do. but im getting better
Naomi whew Chile. You hit something in me real deep. I always compare myself to my friends. Whew my heart. My heart is so heavy. You just don’t know.
cant help but cry when tamar talked about her skin disorder.. i have eczema and it used to be all over my body. and kids in high school used to think it was contagious and didnt want to be around me or touch me.
+skyspruill I'm so sorry for that pain you faced. I didn't have a skin issue but I was bullied for other reasons. People can be the most cruel beings alive. I hope you are in a better place and love you, all of you, 24/7, in this stage of your life and beyond.
TheRetroWoman80 thank you so much. I love myself more now than i did then. I love me some me LOL.
You are most welcome. I'm so glad for your wonderful reemergence. Anytime I come across someone who has done a 360 within their journey (regarding pain from being an outcast of some sort, like myself) I like to reach out and spread positive vibes.
well i really appreciate it (tearing up alittle bit)
Aww:-) Take those GOOD tears and have a great rest of the day.
I love how people are uplifting Tamera while putting down Tia by saying you felt Tamera was prettier. Neither should be made to feel the way Tamera did. That was her whole point.
I agree. Tamera would not like people to uplift her by saying she is sexier than Tia. She is saying don't compare people. If you prefer one to the other, it is ok. Just go on the site and tell them but you don't have to say, "I love Tamera MORE THAN..." Just stop at Tamera or Tia. To me, both are talented and gorgeous!
Esther Grace yes I totally agree with you 100%
tamera was always the ugly twin with dat big ass nose. ijs
Thats so mean tatum635
Come on now, Tamera knew this would happen. Do you really think that Tamera was only trying to make a point? Tamera had to think this thing through before telling her story .She would have to be plain STUPID not to realize this would start a bunch of comparisons and bad comments toward Tia and her son.
I feel Adrienne so much! I literally had a guy tell me that I'm not in his league because I still work in customer service. It affected me and somehow confirmed my fears that I'm not good enough for anyone and the same goes for my appearance. I identified with everyone's insecurities on the show. It's hard measuring up when you're constantly compared to others.
Watching them wipe their tears with masks hit different now
Why they had that I always wondered
I completely identify myself with Adrienne. I felt like if I wasn't successful, I wasn't good enough to date or be in a serious relationship. It still bothers me today, but I know God opens and closes all doors and He controls my life. The right people and doors will open at the right time. Ecclesiastes 3:1
that's just me. .and people don't get why I don't wanna date these good guys after me.
I realized I feel like this sometimes ugh
It's tough. So many of us are aching inside. We just need someone to hold us and tell us we will be fine. I'm so glad to know Jesus. He's such a faithful friend :)
Amen ! :) 💜
Indeed!!
I can't bear to watch them cry. I will cry even though no matter how many times i watch this.
😁
I wish my wife would have been like that last woman. I busted my ass n broke my back literally and now recovering from surgery but I'm now suffering from not being a man. Married 23+ yrs.
I have my own personal baggage. My ex told me years ago, what man is going to accept you and 3 children? That stuck in my head for a long time. Now , that he's no longer in my life, I know only the right one will accept me and my children. Yes, this show really got to me
I remember my dad saying that to my mom, among other things. Its sickening that a man tries to break down a woman because he is mad or broken down. But I believe my mother is happy now and I believe you are blessed and will continue to receive blessings as she has.
Thank you! The blessing came when he left in an ambulance *I had nothing to do with it* but he hasn't been back since. It's been 3.5 years. Divorce is in its final stages. It's taking forever
My mom had 5 kids when she met my stepdad and ended up having 2 more... there's a man out there who will love u no matter what!
Thank you very much!
My mom had a few also including me and God sent her a man she had 3 more and shes happy
I feel sorry for Tamera because I used to compare them too. So I genuinely feel her pain.
And people still do it and it’s mean!
What Adrienne said really touches me because that's how i felt right now without a job as if am worthless .
but am resting on the promises of God
Dear Tamera,
I do not have a twin but I have an older sister. We're 2 years apart, she's the tiny-beautiful/big butt, crazy-loud Hispanic. And I was tall, thicker everywhere, loud, average looking Hispanic. And every time some one found out we were sisters they would say "Oh, so she's the pretty sister?" The first time I heard that I went home crying. My sister was also abusive towards me my 7th&8th grade year and took all her anger out on me. My parents were separated at the time and had no clue. As she would hit me she would say I'm fat and ugly, that's why no one would love me. Hearing this as a up coming teen broke me. And now that I'm 20 years old I deal with a lot of insecurities, self-esteem issues, and low confident a in myself. Seeing that you went through something similar gives me hope that I will be somewhere where your at today. Ive watched every show/ movie you have been in and you're a true inspiration. Thank you so much!! 😊💋💕☯
+Mariya Campos Just know that when you look in the mirror to not see what people see and to see who you are as a beautiful person. Do not by any circumstances let ANYONE tell you anything different than what you should think. As long as you accept every part of yourself you can move in the world not giving a care about who says what to you and how people think of you because the only person that matters is you! Don't let your mom, sister, people in life, friends, etc, say things to you that could hurt your self-esteem. You got this.
Se pone mejor hermoso. Cuando te levantas por la mañana recuerde siempre se diga eso y también recuerde que usted no tiene que demostrar nada a nadie, excepto a Dios.
+Chris L Rey That was beautiful, thank you😊
+Mariya Campos Thie Bible says in Psalm 139:13-14 "For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well." God created you wonderfully and loves and rejoices over you. Do not let anything negative of what someone told you take hold in you mind, heart, soul and Spirit. God loves you!
You are a beautiful person. Please keep your head up and know you are loved💯💯
Jeannies eyes aint even small in the asian world
Wow....
fr
IKR
She's wearing mascara and fake eyelashes.
Nina Goertz So
I definitely shouldn't have watched this at work. Now I'm all emotional. I love this show. You all are so beautiful.
Me toooo and somebody saw me!!! :(
Girl I was sitting here crying with my door wide open. I thought people was going to think she's crying cause of an aunt that passed. I should have waited until I got home to watch this. I mean it's on the DVR for goodness sake!
Nikia Delaney me too at work. .lol
Nikia Delaney I felt the same way, and I was at home lol!
You not alone. I'm at work right now messing myself up with this video. :(
Tamera's story really resonates with me, and I think it probably resonates with a lot of people even though they aren't twins or even compared at all.
She didn't take "goofy and cute" negatively because it has an inherent negative meaning. She took it negatively because that compliment was all she got, especially in contrast with her sister. I'm not a twin, but I can relate. My token compliment is "smart". I do well in school.
When I was a kid I loved being told how good I was doing in school. Being told I was smart felt like such a compliment. But in terms of looks I'm a meh. And there have been some times when I was feeling down and where I just really reflected on everything negatively. And then I would inevitability try to cheer myself up and think back to any compliments I've gotten in my life, alas. It's always the same damn thing. "You're so smart" or "good job in school!" Etc. It honestly killed me if at one of those times someone would come up to me and tell me I'm smart in any sort of way. Not because I think being called smart is a bad thing. But because all I hear is, you're ugly. And the resentment of what used to be a heartwarming compliment "smart" (or in Tamera's case "goofy") just keeps on building up, until at some point in time it only has a negative connotation. If you were to congratulate me for my school performances at this point, I'd smile and thank you, while wanting to hit myself with a wooden stick. And it has absolutely nothing to do with being called smart (or goofy). It just has to do with the fact that that's all you're ever called. You're never pretty or beautiful or sexy. You're goofy or smart. And so that word that you *are* called simultaneously becomes to you a reminder of everything that you aren't called.
What Adrienne said. That's me for 10 months now. I've learnt to just be grateful for what I do have around me and working on volunteering, and doing online courses hoping something will come from it.
I'm a twin and I can totally relate to Tamera's insecurities about constantly being compared, as well as to Adrianne's issues about being unemployed. My twin has a much better job than me and it sucks because we started off in life with the same advantages. Her success makes me feel like she is so far ahead of me and I'll never catch up. I've been laid off many times, whereas she works for the government and will be there until she retires at 40. It seems as if she will always be the more successful one no matter how hard I try. Thanks ladies, for sharing such a personal topic.
Dnt worry never worry be your best and just ensure that you're happy .material things may define your success in society ...but its what you do for others thats truly defines you and your success enjoy life and don't harbor these because eventually you will entreat ur twin like this love her love you and just reach for the stars
I read your comment and thought to drop my two cents. You need to understand that you are one of your kind and are not conjoined to your sister. You might not be satisfied with what you're doing at the moment which of course leaves room for improvement but you should be contented with who you are. Excellence is not rooted in being better than others but in bringing out the best that is in you. One love sis! #Real
maybe God wants you to stop looking at your sister's life in comparison to yours for validation and look to him for validation. ask him what you should be doing, whats the plan and you'll start to blaze a trail you didnt even know you had the option to take .. he loves you forever :)
***** This is so true.
***** Amen girl!!! You took the words right out of my mouth! Even though you have a twin, you both are two different people. You don't even have the same finger prints. God made you special, as well as your sister. As Tamar said on the show today, sometimes our insecurities are what we ourselves start in our (OWN) minds.
I understand why Vince married Tamar...she has a good heart....a diva, sometimes too much...but she has a good heart
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i agree and i think the personality of being a diva is to merely cover up her pain inside and her insecurities, i have always liked Tamar.
Shes has always said she has insecurities and she was verbally abused about her cheekbones and nose so she behaves divaish to cover it ...i love it
BriLineFilmEditor I agree with you. Not just her,I know a few women like her. Wayyyyy to over the top, therefore I believe they have some hidden issues. As women, and definitely black women, we need to start building one another up, giving more compliments, etc, instead of tearing each other down. I love these ladies even more for being honest and so REAL!!! There are a lot of women in the world who have hidden insecurities, and they put on a smile, when they are really hurting deep down inside. The first step to healing is admitting you have a problem.
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What Adrienne said is where am at right now..
I know it feel
me too
NoOrdinaryGirl same
You worth a lot, You are worth so much that Christ died for you.
yes
These are the talks that are important and that people relate to. I love this show for this very reason. They talk about things that no other show wants to shed light on, and its real and brutally honest and the fact that they share these things makes me feel like its ok to share my story to others as well.
Tamera is so pure she is a cancer sun and cancer moon of course! lol I love her
princess jackson
princess jackson yeah that explains why she's so emotional
I love cancers.
no lie tamera and I have the exact birthdate. excpet im 1992 but still same day :) Cancers Rule
Auset Ausar She’s a Scorpio rising. She has MAD water influence in her chart lol.
I can totally relate with Adrienne. My career has always validated me and when that was taken away, it was a huge struggle. I had to learn to love myself despite not having a career. One of my biggest fears is not becoming as successful as I have told everyone that I am going to become. The struggle is so real.
You will sis believe it okay. Chin up love❤ you will get and be all that God created you to be
I relate too especially now and to worsen the fact that my environment doesn't favour me at all
billiebillie if you work hard YOU WILL SUCCEED but don’t go around telling people of your plans, until they can see it 😉
I feel you!
Me and you are both gonna come up. Sending blessings your way
So glad I know Jesus! He validates EVERYTHING about me. My wrongs, my rights, my ups and my downs! His love is so great and beautiful that NOONE an take it from me. Not even a comment from an unbeliever! Lol These ladies made a wonderful step today and in order for them to have everlasting peace about themselves is to trust the ALL LOVING GOD! I hope I've blessed someone....did you know God loves you and you belong to Him?
amen yes he loves us all even when we dont love ourselves or we feel others dont love us, he will always the most unconditional love for us.
Amen
Amen
My God, yessss!! I use to be very insecure and even now, sometimes a thought will come into my head, but I thank God for revealing who I am in him, and I'm still learning. But I know I am worth it, I a beautiful and I am who HE says I am!
You are amazing! May God bless you through your journey. God is proud of you. Your words, your wisdom, your a One and Only.
Sometimes our loved ones say things and their intention was to help but it ends up hurting. Jeannie's aunt I'm sure thought she was helping her with good advice, not realizing she encouraged an insecurity in her. I'm happy she overcame that because she is really beautiful.
Yeah I felt the same thing no one want want me to marry me or date me because I didnt make to much money and I wasn't popular or pretty enough that called me bushy head through out my school years I was to my self kind person so sad u get older u grow and people use to say I'm not going to make me what I've dream of today being a successful person with children.....god will open doors for u to better things
Ms. Tamera i am 14 years old and i can tell you just by your personality that you are beautiful just the way you are and dont ever forget that. Both you and your sister and wonderful, beautiful, and funny women. Don't let the hater's win. You and Tia may look the same but you are two totally different people. I love you guys. Hater's are gonna hate, but don't let them get to you.
I love how they are being so vulnerable, this is so real. But Why are they drying their eyes with surgical masks 🤔
Six Empress lol! I was asking the same question about the face mask! 😂
There was a clip right before this where Tamar was talking about being the germaphobe on the set lol
watching this in 2020 has me triggered
Lmao right
Omg! Thus segment alone makes me love you all and this show even more!!!!!!!!!!!!! You all are amazing, classy, and can speak to every woman no matter what. You uplift and keep us humble with fierceness! Thank you for sharing such vulnerability with us! I love you all and this show is my favorite and I watch everyday! Keep up the good work and don't ever get so successful you forget to keep it "REAL"!!!!!
Amen!!!!!
wowwwwww i always loved all these ladies but wooww seeing them expose this vulnerable side...just shows how real they are i love them even more and they don't need to feel like that ..because they're all amazing individuals..God bless you guys!!
Amen!!!!
Adrianne, I can truly relate.
I can relate to Adrienne and tamar the most
I thought I was alone on this one... 😢
When Loni, Adrienne,Tam and Tamar and some of the audience started to cry I realised that tears is beauty.
I have NEVER heard that Tamar has vitiligo! Wow...
she and vince did a quick interview about it like 6 months ago. that was the first time i had heard about it too.
I have heard it on several occasions and in several different media. There are also some pictures out there of her hands and what the vitiligo has done to them.
she said it in a interview a while back
she doesn't have that disease
Stefanie Williams You Know Again How ?
I was tearing up like a baby when Tamera was talking because I am guilty of seeing her that way 😥 and she's such a gorgeous beautiful person inside and out
Well I think alot of the reason people think she's cute (I'm also guilty) is because we still see her as sister sister's Tamera Campbell. It's kinda hard for me to see them grow up but I think we have to get over that...I've stop saying that she's cute, I say she looks beautiful or pretty, when she says something "adorable" I'm like "I love you Tamera" because she's awesome and she's sexy...not a little kid anymore.
We grew up with her and her sister, so it's incredibly hard to sometimes see themselves as anything other than the girls we felt like we knew. I feel bad for her but at least she has happiness now with a husband that loves her and that cute cute cute ass baby!!
True that lol :)
KING090589 in this instance I think she meant it hurt to be compared to her sister Tia. She was called the cute goofy one while people called her sister the sexy one.
Y'all are not gonna have me crying.
yass i had to hold on to my pillow
I can 100% relate to adrienne on this one
me too
ChocolateHeartz agreed
ChocolateHeartz me too
I love it when the girls open their hearts and souls to help others.
I love this segment because it demonstrates that we ALL have insecurities; whether rich, poor.. famous or w.e. We're all human.
Christy-Jessica Preach girl preach.
Dang. This made me cry. Hug
awwww Blac!
Aw how sad 😭
Caring and understanding is wonderful! Some people may find you being honest with your feelings makes u less of a man but I say u keep it real.
Take care :)
InsaneSuper Saiyan Wow....really? I'd rather him express his emotions then keep them bottled up only to explode someday and blow up a building or go around shooting people. So, stop with the name calling. NOT NICE!!!
Black Supremacy wow karma is a mug sir!
dear Adrienne
I know this video was from two years ago but I love this show so I watch alot of old episodes but I completely understand your baggage because I felt the same way I'm not successful yet but I'm working on it but however I lost my aunt a couple months before this video was published to UA-cam and I was going through a really rough time and I didn't feel sexy because I was successful or beautiful or anything. and I felt like guys didn't want me and I still feel like that sometimes but I'm getting married and life is looking good for me for now. don't get me wrong I still have these moments but you're not the only one out there that feels like this. stay beautiful
*wasn't
This comment is 9 years later, but what I like the most is that they (and we) are all overcomers!!
What Adrienne is saying is very much true. That's an insecurity I had and it really puts you in a depressed staged where it's a never ending cycle and you loose all confidence.
Am i the only one who didn't cry?
No............especially not for that spoiled selfish junk Tamera was talking about. I did feel for Tamar though.
lolz i didnt either....I didnt get all the tears i felt weird at first for not crying but now i feel betta!
MrChalaki LMFAO! Almost everyone in the comments was like "OMG I cried" and I was like WTF is yall crying for? smfh
quincy logan WORD!
lolz A. Jay right like where this come from smh
My baggage: Back when I was younger I was a little heavier then most people that I knew. Because of this I used to get bullied not only at school but within my own family and that was even worse. My Family members have always been skinny, so they would always tease me and call me fat. It really got to me when my own younger sister called me fat and ugly and threw things at me. Because of these things happening to me, I would often have really bad tempers with everyone, my self esteem was at its lowest, I used to think that i was the ugliest thing walking around so I would often hide myself from society. Since then I have learned to control my anger and I also have learned to be more loving because there is better things in life then just being angry,and depressed all the time. I have come a long way i am now a sophomore at a university studying to become a doctor and my self esteem is way better and I now have people in my life that care about me.
I'm a BMW-Black Muslim Woman, and I've always been criticized all my life. I've been told because I'm black and smart that I'm a nerd, or because I talk properly that I sound white. I thank my mom for validating who I am at an earlier age, and for telling me that I'm not different, I'm unique, and there's nothing wrong with that. I can feel their pain. I heard about Tamar's skin condition, but I didn't know how serious it was. It just adds to her insecurity, and I feel I understand her as a fuller person now. I can relate to Tamera-I'm the smart, goofy one, but I wear it as a badge of honor. I listen to K-pop-long before Gangnam Style came out, and studying Asian culture and their beauty standards-their views on skin color and facial features are no joke, so I knew where Jeannie was coming from. I liked this segment, I wish in the future they'd do more of it. Just because we see them on television doesn't mean they're not dealing with real issues as well.
AND THE VERDICT IS Are you calling me a terrorist?
Aquila Lynch Precisely.
May I ask why?
AND THE VERDICT IS may I ask why?
Aquila Lynch I don't know, but i'm kinda scared to keep communicating with you, because you may be looking up my I.P. I don't want my house to be bombed.
what Adrienne said was the realest..... I bet a lot of ppl feel like that
Yes
nikki hell I feel like this now
All of these women are BEAUTIFUL and it's horrible that these things weighed so heavy on them....
WOW!! This was the most inspirational segment I've ever seen on this show. You guys are remarkable women who keep it REAL and not afraid what other's think. Famous women like your selves gives us hope that just because you guys are famous and magazine and media say your perfect... truly shows us that we are all equal. Thanks for making us believe we are all the same and we all have something that we carry/baggage we can finally let go, as well.
I didn't know it was possible that I could love you ladies more! The realness you all are not afraid of showing is what sets you apart from other shows. It's what makes you relatable. My gosh, you have shown me that regardless of what other people may say about me, I need to learn to like AND love myself!
I can relate so much to Tamera, I also have a twin sister and we are compared by default and she is known as the sexy twin and funny and i am known as the good cute goofy twin and that affects me til this day. At this moment she has a bf and i don't because she is so much more confident and she knows she is beautiful and sexy as she should be and i am still working on that and she helps me a lot. But i do accept myself as being goofy and cute because i know someone would love me for me and they will find me sexy.
wow, same for me and my sister. I'm one year older than her but everyone says she is the sexy prettier twin. I struggle with the same things you do, but I done one who loves me.for exactly who I am. and you will too. and guess what, my sis can never keep a guy.. so it's not always about looks. just be yourself!! kisses :-)
your awesome and don't 4get it no matter what other people think. don't let others label you, you determine who you are and who your going to be don't forget that
You look sexy to me 😉😘
Thank you
+Diahnet Santos i me the some place like you i don't like my self
These women are amazing to share their life's struggles and how they overcame their most challenging challenges!!! #❤The Real show!!! 👍😀
I can totally relate to not having a job. I have chronic immune diseases that have made it hard for me to do my job. I worked in the medical field for 12 years and letting that job go has been so hard for me. I love taking care of people and I loved my job. I've always been the one with a job, the reliable one, the responsible one and once I didn't have a job I felt lazy. I've worked since I was 15, I'm not lazy but I feel that way because all I know is working and having that responsibility. I was in an abusive relationship for about 7 years and I was always told by him that I have to work. I worked two jobs at one point and I was sick all the time. So, it's still been imbedded in me even though my husband is amazing and understands that my body needs a break. I am so thankful to God for him. I love this show. Y'all are the best. I feel like y'all are some of my best girl friends, lol.
I'm 12 and I have vitiligo on my neck and forehead. I went to lazer treatment for 2 years. it was very depressing so I stopped. I have white patches of hair cause it now has spread to the back of my head. I used to get bullied all the time. cause Im not pretty to begin with. I put on makeup and no one noticed it. boys liked me. when I wore makeup. this year I rarely wear makeup. I have a lot of friends. and the boy I like talks to me all the time. no I'm still not happy with myself I still feel ugly but my new friends accept me for me. I'm literally crying writing this.😢😢
Aww... You don't have to look a certain way- you are a unique individual with value and purpose. I know it's hard to be different, especially in middle/high school. I hope you have good friends and believe in yourself- no matter what anyone else says. You're beautiful not "in spite of" your vitiligo, but because you're you.
+Joce217 thank you I needed that I'm not doing so good right now cause I'm starting to get bullied ALOT and it hurts and it's even worse than before
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So sorry to hear your about what you've gone through. I hope you still have good friends despite negativity around you at times. Looking at people today, a lot of them dye there hair gray or white, or a whole bunch of colors. One could say you were ahead of everyone else!.🤗 Wishing you well, and hope you continue to shine on so bright it's reflected in your (white) hair!😄❣
Oh wow. It got really REAL on the real today huh. Got me crying too!
Same
I can't forget about Tamar!!! I looove her!!! She's bold as a lion and gentle as a lamb!!! Love you Tamar!!!
These ladies have always been the realest of real. I would sit in the commons with my backpack after school when I was in highschool and watch all the clips from the show. Clips like this helped me a lot as a teenager and showed me how powerful women truly are.
This just teaches me that everyone has something that they are internally struggling with and that we should all strive treat each other in the best way that we can. It can surely make a huge impact on someone else.
Tamar really touched me. One of my good friends' daughter has that skin disorder. She was 5 when she was diagnosed, she's 10 now, and it has been so hard for her. Stares and comments,people don't realize the damage they cause. I'm going to show her this clip, so she can see that she is not the only one going through this, and that she is still gorgeous.
preach tamar!!! i started crying when i heard her story i had no idea about her skin problem but she definitely is helping me learn to love the skin im in!
No one can make me Laugh so loudly and cry so painfully like the "Real Ladies"...! You are just soooo amazing...! I am always inspired by this Amazing show! Waw! Hats off! :-)
I can relate to Adrienne's story. I always thought something was wrong with me.
This is REAL. Segments like this helped me so much and are the reasons I watched this show. Bring these topics back!
This is my go to cry video lol, Tamera's story gets me every time and then Ardienne just takes it home.
+Isaac Johnson same here i needed to cry and seeing this relateable post brought it home for me as well
This Is Why I Love Tamera!!!! Immediately Brought Tears To My Eyes!!!!!
Tamera Is Just Pure Class!!
so unfair i cant watch the rest of the real episodes because they stopped posting links Online. All the way in the Uk
Same here girl! I wanna cry!!!
Today's episode comes on BET at midnight tomorrow.
Shyquinca Ford
I just checked the tv guide its not showing it, i don't think its ever aired on British television.
i know right they stopped at episode 21
CHECK OUT TVMUSE .COM nd search for the real. IN D COMMENTS SECTION U LL FIND LINKS.xo
That was probably the Realest I've seen from these ladies. Just a reminder for the rest of us that deep inside we are very similar. I love them even more for coming through
I relate with Tamara so much. I'm still working through accepting that I'm goofy and that I'll find love just the way I am.
Omg, you guys have me crying my eyes out right now😭😭😭😢😢😢. First I would like to thank you all for sharing such personal stories about yourselves with the world, and for that we love you guys. I would like to say how much I adore, love and respect all five of you, now more so than ever. Stay strong because we got your backs. Listen everyone we all need to love ourselves first before anyone else can, and with that said......HAVE A SAFE AND BLESSED DAY ALL
Even though I don't have a twin, but I have a sister, people would say she's the fun, always can get guys, crazy, pretty one and all I get was quiet, and serious. Smh.
I hope that that's you in the picture then, because I can honestly tell you that you're gorgeous. From that photo you look like a model, which is why I'm just asking to make sure it's you. If it is, you are seriously good looking. At the very least an 8/10.
I feel how Adrienne feel so much
I have been broken I don't even have money to buy my baby food I was broke I sleep with men to feed my baby but today life is good I think God for all blessings in my life today I can feed myself even though I lost my baby life is hard sometimes so gugs don't let anyone bring you down just believe in God everything will be fine
I'm in tears. Everyone has something painful but our pain makes us beautiful and stronger. Mine was my dad committing suicide when I was 11. As a child I felt it was partially my fault..was I not good enough? Did I do something wrong? Was I so unlovable he chose death over me? At 33 I can rationalize it I know it was not my fault but I can never get rid of the 'you're not good enough' and I also feel unlovable. These are such wonderful women I'm so glad they shared their stories. x
They are all so beautiful. I love Tamara and I felt so bad for all of them in this moment. :(
they made Tamera seem that way on Sister Sister.
That's what I was thinking. So her fans started thinking of her as goofy and she started believing it too. Aww :(
Lynda Harris yeah I think that's what it is. she's gorgeous though. And the voice on her! But the show definitely portrayed her as more the goofy, fun, cute one.
In real life, the twin’s roles are in reverse. Tia is the really goofy, crazy one.
Yup that was what caused it
Tia was Tamera on Sister Sister.
I just watched this segment on BET. The tears just won't stop flowing. Thank you for this moment. It made me realize what my baggage is.
Same here
One of the best episodes, being real for sure... showing up and speaking from experience. Too many people judge these kinds of moments as sappy or the people who are courageous enough to be vulnerable and real as playing the victims or looking for sympathy, and that's part of the reason we rarely see people opening up this much and being this real cause we judge those in a negative light. Wish there was more of this on television. Shows that really get to the heart of people and show their humanity rather than always putting on a happy face, and favoring one side of a human being. Thank you @TheRealDaytime
I absolutely LOVE sister circles...we have to support each other ladies!
Tamera looks gorgeous here. Dark hair and red lipstick suit her well :)
I started crying during this segment!!! Ugh, why did yall do this to me :'( yall are brave for being celebrities and speaking up about these common issues that other people face today..you guys are helping a lot of people.. And helping people like me become more transparent. Thank you girls. This is why I love you ALL!!!
Adrianne, you touch me today!!! I been feeling like you have for that last year. I love you, your my inspiration.
Beautiful and so vulnerable...as women we bottle up so much inside.... I cried when every lady spoke their truth #Salute♥️
I relate to Adrienne so much on this one. especially now that my boyfriend is more “successful” than me makes the insecurities about myself even worse making our relationship not good when the feelings come up so I feel like if your feeling this way don’t get into a relationship until you feel content about your success and where you are in life, it’ll make things worse in the long term in my opinion since I’m living this experience people are afraid of.
There is power in the tongue! What amazes me is that although we have all been told hurtful things that have clearly stayed with us our entire lives, it doesn't stop people from uttering words that will knowingly sting another person. The phrase, "hurt people, hurt people" should not be the social cliche that never ends, repeating itself in spite of the apparent harm that it causes. You would think that people would learn from this historical error in humanity and at best attempt to change it by being more mindful/ careful of the words they choose to use. Even if in self defense of being hurt(which I too am guilty of), instead of being quick to respond to hurtful words with more hurt take just a moment to breath. Stop, and refuse to spew hurt. No one is immune to hurt & emotional hurt is the most difficult to heal from because the wounds run deep, so they're easier to hide and not deal with. I know I try to hold onto the thought that I never know the condition of a persons heart by the time they get to me. Just because they wear a smile on their face doesn't mean they can handle my anger. Or just because someone is mad doesn't mean they're mad at me, when they really just need someone to hear their wounds and not the anger. Not everyone knows themselves like that, everyone deals with life's hurts differently. Thank God the women of the show have managed to persevere through it all to be here today and reveal to us all just what it means to say hurtful things. Thankfully, these strong, beautiful, intelligent, talented, successful women of powerful ethnic backgrounds have proven that you don't have to let those hurtful words hurt people speak hold you back from every good thing in life that was meant for you to have!!! Thanks ladies for flippin' the script and passing on powerful positive words with this platform! I so totally love this show.....ok, the snot has officially reach the upper lip now.....not a good look booboo, jus sayin
Dang near sniffed my sinus cavity into my lungs, crying so hard after watching this and writing that...she's uncomfortably emotional with this....lemme call Jesus right quick
Owatta Lady777 ahaaaahaaaaha girl u a fool but you speak truth. I commend you. Kudos love
***** Silly? Yes, but I'm far from a fool. I do get what you're saying love!
Owatta Lady777 You always somewhere preaching. lol, hallelujah!
I completely understand how the ladies feel. I always felt like because of being bigger that no one would love me and because I got teased a lot throughout my education and guys never wanted to give me the time of day. Most felt that because I was bigger lady that I was easy and use me to get to my more "attractive" skinnier friends.
I decided that I wanted a full plastic surgery reconstruction of my entire body one day because just for one day I wanted to feel desired like how my friends felt when we would hang out. But I realized now as I get older that there is someone out there who will love me for me but I have to love myself first and truly understand who I am.
This is why I decided that I wanted to be a radio and TV host myself because I wanted to just like these ladies that I can prove them all wrong and become successful through hard work and not being a stereotype.
Thank You ladies of The Real for helping this big woman to feel not only better about myself but knowing that I can make it in this business.
Thanks so much for the support! I know will make it just like The Real you have to keep it real in order to be successful!
freegratuits Thanks!
***** Thanks for understanding! But I stay strong! My prince will come someday!
Yes you can make it sista! So proud of you for the turn-around. And concerning dating and love- look around- have you noticed, hardly any women are finding love these days - size and looks has absolutely nothing to do with this epidemic. Yes, love is out there for you, but you tapped into the formula - love yourself first and develop your confidence. Confidence on anyone is a head turner! Um, girrrrl, it's just like a good book!!
I just cried like a baby! I love this show and all of the ladies bring something Real! Tamera honey you are beautiful..
They makin me wanna cry, my goodness! I love how raw they are.
Tamera, you are one of my favourite celebraties EVER! I have a facial impairment, and get | got called ugly and get stared at all the time. You are NOT ugly or goofy. You are an amazing, beautiful person!! xx
This made me cry because I could relate to the last one. I currently work a retail job at age 25 and I'm not dating anyone because I feel like who would want to date me when I have nothing going on. I also owe 10k from college which I didn't finish... My friends laugh because my situation isn't beyond repair and I even have a really nice guy trying to ask me out who knows all of this but I still feel not worthy.
Hi. Don't feel bad and unworthy. No one is ever perfect and no one has a perfect life. Just work hard in all you do and value urself. Give the guy a chance if ure into him as well if he is a nice guy and stop feeling unworthy.😊😊
i can definatly relate. I'm also 25 working retail. with 20k in school loans... i feel the same way. like I'm not worth dating.
I felt the same way after college barely making it out alive! But I found that whatever I focused on the most came to fruition. What I found was that there are people and programs that help you with your situation. Email me and we can chat off line shardae.avents@gmail.com
Silvia Lopez I would love to connect with you two ladies about your situation. Email so we can connect shardae.avents@gmail.com
Name you are totally worth it
This show stays making me cry Oh Man Love these Ladies
wow made me cry. I have the worst insecurity of smiling in pictures. I've had bells palsy and it never fully recover.
Yeah, I also had to deal with a low self esteem when I was 19 because a guy I really liked left me for another lady. His friend said"she doesn't have anything to offer you" and that stuck in my head for a long time.
Loni you are my inspiration. You have such a beautiful soul. I truly, truly respect you for all that you have overcame and for the woman you are today. God bless
I am so glad Tamar finally opened up about her vitiligo problem because I get upset when people say she is bleaching. Tamar you are a beautiful woman and know that vitiligo doesn't have you but you have it so you are in charge aka you are beat to capacity love.@Adrienne honey you deserve that seat and so much more. I so love your spirit and deep down in my heart I always thank the The Real Daytime for putting you there. much love to you.@Jeannie girl you are probably the hottest Asian lady i've ever seen (my boyfriend and I both love you), so please earn your Asian ethnicity, own it and fly high.@Loni Now i know that interview conductor can have several seats love because she can afford so many outfits lol you are beat sister.@Tamara, honey you are sexy, classy, composed, collected and so sassy to me you embody all those qualities and so much more and your husband is right so whenever he acknowledges how sexy you are, smile and take it girl. y'all are beautifully and wonderfully made. lol i just wrote a novel, please forgive me..
Yeah whenever Tamar whispers you know things just got real. I love the show and appreciate this meaningful segment.