I know EXACTLY where Loni is coming from, when you are a young girl who "develops/grows" fast, whether that be your height or your figure, some of your childhood goes along with it. I started to grow breasts in the 4th grade(age 9) and it impacted the way adults and other kids started to treat me. I was a child in my heart/mind, but since we are *visual* people nobody sees that. I started getting unwanted attention from men and adults would constantly make jokes about my body. There is a loss of childhood when you don't visually look like a child.
preach sister!!! same thing with me..I develop very early I was younger than you I was around 8 years old and everything came in at one time! I do remember the looks I would get from older men and it was horrible. I hope things got better for you after that...Once everyone else caught up with me and surpassed me It made me feel a little better..
Yeah I has breast at 9 years old as well, and a big butt as well (hourglass) I see why my mom had me wear overalls and lose fitting clothes all the time.
It's always funny when people start talking about their insecurities and you start to realize how true "the grass is always greener..." really is. I was so jealous of girls in my class. When I was in 5th grade there was a 4th grade girl who had B/C cups and I felt like life was so unfair, that maybe if I had her body people would want to hang with me or date me.
Megan Tiffany I'm small breast and don't mind. There are man out there that like small women. Body and breast. My husband loves my body you just have to love yours. Even exes and friends, that were tall and buff like small woman. Not all go for ridiculous boobed and bigger woman. Also alot of women in my family, probably all are C, D, DD and I use to hate being the only A. Until I got older a lot of them started wanting a reuction. Because how heavy they can be and the back pain. So it can or cannot be greener. Depends on how you look at it.
They're all lying about not picking at their bodies while looking in the mirror. Idk why Jeannie was the only one telling the truth. We've all done this.
Exactly. I remember being honest in front of my class about how I compare myself to others on social media. My teacher asked if anyone else does this and no one raised their hand.
I agree. I remember growing up thinking these actresses who are beautiful and sexy and this is what you should look like. I looked at myself plenty and picked at everything cause it didn't look like what I thought at the time what was considered sexy and attractive. It took me years to stop comparing myself to others physically.
I feel Adrienne on that one, I mean after three kids and my oldest being 15.. I go to his school for a conference and the security yells at me telling me to go back to class! Lol
Seriously people, you know Tamera loves her sister, and having a twin has done wonders for her life and career. The segment is about childhood insecurities, so of course Tamera will talk about her insecurities with being a twin, because if you're a twin, you know that's pretty much the center of your life until you grow up and make your own name.
I don't have a twin, but I imagine that growing up with someone who looked exactly like me would be hard. Because like Tamera always says she wasn't her own person it was always Tia and Tamera never just Tamera. And it probably took her a lot longer to find herself because for the majority of her life she was a set. Btw I seriously love that you have Usui as your avatar lol
Yes exactly, and she DID start her story by stating that BOTH she and Tia felt the same way. The feeling is obviously mutual, so I doubt Tia is somewhere in her feelings about it. lol
I have a twin and I completely agree with her. When growing up my mother didn't get it so she always bought the same clothes to both of us, which made us turn against each other. It was especially hard for my sister since she wanted to dye her hair so bad so that they could seperate us. Even now when people call my sister my name she gets really pissed so all the people at school know they better watch out. ;)
Ash So true! I am a twin and we have had people constantly compare us in everything we do. From our looks to what we choose to study. People would and still make remakes like so whose the brainy twin, or so and so is better looking. It really makes us both upset that so many don't see us as Individuals. Due to this I can completely understand where Tamera is coming from. People really need to learn that Twins may come into the world as a pair, but we are NOT the same. We both have our own likes and dislikes, our own personalities and our own strength. As much fun as people think being a twin is, sometimes it is not so easy at all.
I remember when Tamera originally told that 'Twitches' story on Wendy William's show. She said that Tia decided to get a mole drawn on her face, so that Tamera didn't have to get hers covered. It was sweet of her to do that.
Not even the mole, I never noticed the mole until Twitches, I just kind of always knew. But same on the Olsen twins. I'm always lost. I think because we never saw them side by side on full house, except for those few weird ass episodes. And that one show the lasted like 2 seasons, maybe.
***** LMBO I just wrote the same thing...the olsen twins are the only ones I've never been able to tell apart, and like you said, the only thing i know about them that's different is the height, but idk who's taller. and you know the funny part? tia and tamera are identical, but the olsen twins are fraternal. weird.
I think she sets herself up, poor thing. She kept looking for approval ("did you guys ever do that?"), when really all she needs to do is speak her truth and own it for herself. I feel out of all the ladies she and Loni still struggle with their childhood body issues the most.
Anybody who's been following Tamera knows she loves her twin sister! Just because she wants individuality does not mean she hates being a twin. She just hates being lumped into one, that's all. People should practice listening!!!!
They've been famous for over two decades now....yet she is CONSTANTLY reminding people she's a TWIN. who doesn't know she's a twin?!?!?! Seriously. She's the type to go to a family reunion and remind her parents she's a twin. Tamera, we know already, dear hold. We know.
Renee Wright As you said, we all know she is a twin! Her point is that AS A YOUNG woman she wanted people to see that she is NOT JUST A TWIN but an individual as well!
Renee Wright I love that Tamera speaks on being a twin and tells the story for us twins. I too struggled with finding my own identity and getting out of my sister's shadow. Regular siblings may experience being compared too, but for twins it probably is more severe. We get comments all the time that we're the same person (and maybe one is the "better version"), and growing up, that can really mess you up mentally.
+Samantha Roades no I don't have its just they don't look-a-like to me I really can't plain it they just look different like tamera has a more playful look to me and Tia has a very serious look and that's when they are smiling or serious!
Yes x 100 Adrienne! Its so important to empower little girls and teach them to see the beauty in themselves. There are so many insecure people out there seeking to bring others down (in order to feel better). People carry those ugly words. Be the positive voice that a little girl or anyone hears. It can make their day and their life better (and you wouldn't even know it). Costs nothing.
Exactly !!! One time I was working and was busy but I saw a customer with gorgeous glowing skin and something inside me was telling me to go compliment and tell her. Turns out the girl had severe acne in the past and she was so thankful for me telling her that. She then gave me the name of who she went to and I gladly accepted because I have acne too. I love it 😄😄
I sympathize with Adrienne because to this day, im 20, 120lbs and 5'1, Without makeup, hair and certain clothes I still look 15. It's a blessing and a curse
Adrienne is so right about encouraging young people! It doesn't cost anything and they remember it right up until adulthood. They get so much flack from their peers
My insecurity in my childhood was probably being blac tbh. All the schools I've been to are predominantly white. There was one school in particular where it was a private Christian school so my family, and about 2 other families were the only black families there lol I remember a time in third grade where this girl, who was supposedly me my friend ,said I had black eyes because I'm black. I kept telling her I had dark brown eyes but she refused to listen. I also remember not liking my hair or the chicken pox mark on my forehead but honestly, now that I've learned what self-love is I am enjoying my God given 4c hair and pox mark. People will always try and diminish your worth when their unhappy with themselves but realize your value because God didn't put you and I here for nothing.
Same here. I live in a white town and my classmates love to shame Hispanics and call them stupid or just exclude us. I've grown up to be proud of my heritage and nobody will ever make me feel bad about who I am. Im a proud Latina.
I went to a school that was pretty diverse but my experience was that other black kids would make fun of how dark i was. And in actuality I'm not that dark in the summer I'm a darker brown and in the winter i look like a nice even shade of brown. And the thing that bothered me the most was that it was negativity from my own people. Teachers and staff (who were white) would ALWAYS say "Oh you have such beautiful brown skin". To feel this much negativity from my own people was a big insecurity of mine. And it almost made me not wanna date black men because they were the ones who would always have something to say about. But of course my mom would tell me its because of where we live and other parents aren't teaching their kids to love themselves. Now I'm proud of who i am and the shade of brown that i am. I learned to love myself because no one else will love you like you love yourself.
Same here. I went to private catholic schools and I promise there is no ethnic group worse at judging you or making you feel worthless than an Irish Catholic. I was insecure about being black till high school
Kreauna B Same thing with me. I always wondered how someone can be darker than me and is still making fun of me being black. People are just very insecure.
i know what you mean. i went to majority white schools but had mostly hispanic or asian friends. everyone, white, hispanic, and asian would make fun of my hair because it was stiff and wasn't limp like theirs. I has a perm though and I didn't know how to do my hair. I would look at white girl magazines and be like "my hair is straight like theirs, so how come it won't grow and why can't I do the same styles?" smh. If I knew back then what I know now, I would have been natural my whole life. Also, I spoke like a valley girl, so all in all, I was too black for the whites (and other non-blacks), and too white for the black kids. A very lonely situation to be in.
Jeannie saying "You're so lucky!" to Loni having B cups in 1st grade. Lmao no girl. Although these days its more common with all the hormones added to foods.
I know exactly where Adrienne is coming from. I had the same insecurity. I was always either the skinniest in class, the smallest or the shortest. But, I've learned to be happy and I even wear heels just to make myself feel taller. In addition to that, I do not age, I look like I am 18 (people range it from 14 to 18) yet I am 22. Ah, late blooming is not cool!
oxbrizzlemynizzlexo noo you cannot let it bother you! you simply can't.. the people who know you know you're 21.. just embrace your look life is short to let such things depress you
im 30 (i look 18-20) 5 feet tall, small chested and i am so insecure. everyone feels like they can comment on my looks and ask me my age and i feel like i have to work extra hard to be taken seriously.
I'm 18... I look waaaay older for my age....about 3 years ago...I changed school.... people in my new school actually thought I was a new teacher when I entered the class only for them to discover than I was a student and they were really surprised
carmonkey I know I hate that. I know I'm small I just hate when people point it out. I'm 15 going to be a sophomore and people always assume I'm still in middle school.
I’m 22, 4’11.5”, and people find it hard to believe I’m graduating college soon. When I was in middle school, the waitresses used to always assume I’m a child and give me the kids menu, while my friend, who was significantly taller than me would get a regular menu, but I was older than her.
I call shade on another level. People, not just women, look at themselves in the mirror and notice their flaws. Even if it's just for a second or sometimes it's even before you look in the mirror you know what in-your-head is your flaw so when you do see yourself in the mirror "the flaw" is what you notice. I''m pointing that out cos how can none of these ladies sit there and pretend Jeannie Mai is crazy or the most insecure when she's being the most real!?
As a twin myself, I completely understand Tamera's insecurity. I wasn't an "individual" until I went to college because my sister stayed in our hometown and I went out of state. I love my twin and would do anything for her, but I also enjoy being myself without people always comparing me or asking me about my twin.
I do not comment a lot but when I do it is because that particular content for me deserves that attention. Your show is becoming one of my favs as it is on my end feeling more deep and real. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for each of you have the courage t open up and share those beautiful stories with us. You have no idea how validating and enlightening those acts of courage are for me and many. This right here is philanthropy in action. I am literally crying as I watch. These are such important conversations to have because they shine a light on your humanity and the humanity of others. I am truly grateful. I am going to ask that you shine a light at some point on emotional abuse: gaslighting, minimizing others pain, harshly criticising others and the impact it has on people, yourselves too... I am still trying to heal myself from emotional abuse. I get it at work too.. When I make the effort to speak up for myself which doesn't come easily I am gaslighted, have my feelings treated as if they do not matter, get attacked verbally and that in turn discourages me from standing up for myself again. And it affects all areas of my life too... In order to heal from this pain I have tried many things however nothing seems to help. It's already so scary expressing and exposing my feelings and to do it and have others minimize or gaslight me throws me off and I end up just wanting to be alone but then I realize to be in this world and live a fulfilling life one must have connection, even to work one must work with others. I am conflicted there...
Yes Tamera! I’m a twin also & it was definitely difficult to find my own identity while in school since everyone knew us as “the twins”. Now that we’re older, it’s much better.
Growing up I use to love "Sister Sister" With Tamara & Tia & I use to think that Tia was prettier then Tamara for whatever reason, which wasn't right. Idk if it was because she had moles or whatever. But she is so gorgeous❤ But since I been watching this show I literally have grown to love Tamara like she's so genuine & sweet. & she's not fake she just seem so cool like I'm so happy she's on this show because she literally balance it out.😊
I can definetly relate to both Adrienne and Jeannie.....being both small height n weight wise and always looking younger than my age. It's sometimes a blessing, but a curse because it feels like you have to go an extra mile to let it be known that you are not a kid not just to yourself, but even to a**holes that will try you.
I understand Adrienne completely. I'm 23, 5'2 and 115 pounds. I have a baby face, people think I'm 17-19. It's nice to look young but not when you're tryna hit up Vegas in style without being constantly approached by people ID'ing me 😭😅
I remember in high school being insecure about being short lol. All the guys seemed to like the girls who were lean and kinda slim and I've always been quite short and curvy and I felt like my curves would look better and more proportionate if I were taller. Ima go ahead and back up Jeannie too cuz I used to criticize my body in the mirror; it's ridiculously unhealthy though and I'm so glad I grew out of that poor habit
I wish I could grow out of that habit..I still do it...I look in the mirror and suck in my stomach and look at my body and point things I want to change...uhh it sucks
I feel what Tamera said about being a twin 100%. (Ppl always refered to us as Tia and Tamera btw lol) Me and my sister went through the same phase of fighting to be different because everyone always saw us as a pair. Not to mention the unnecessary comparing and picking apart ppl love to do. It’s sad because I always tried to express how we felt back then to our mom but even she is like everyone else in terms of not being able to understand that we’re still two seperate ppl.
See I'm like Tamar I was the tallest kid and even in Kindergarten other parents would talk about me and say I was way too big to be 5. They would always say I look like I should be in 3rd grade and they'd ask me how old I was and THAT is when I started being so self conscious about my height. Now being 19 and a 6ft tall girl it's still very awkward, I'm not going to lie especially when I stand next to grown men and I tower over them. Kids always stare and you know how honest little kids are and their parents don't really teach them not to be rude. They always say I look like a man and say I'm a giant and it shouldn't bother me but it really does. Because it takes me back to middle school and High school when all the kids would call me a lesbian big foot and laugh at me when my knees couldn't fit under the desk. It was terrible for me and my parents never understood because my mom is 5'5 and my dad is 6'4 but he's a guy and for guys it's ok but for girls its just weird apparently. BUT I also feel Adrienne on the whole 16 thing because I turn 20 in June and people still think I'm 16 literally and I don't know if it's how I dress but it's annoying because then they treat me like I'm 16. No, I'm almost 20 no no no
Awwwww , I'm tall as well, and I get that. I come from a tall family though and we would always encourage each other, being tall is beautiful ! Look at runway models !!! They're all gorgeous and long. Love yourself, I felt the same way at your age but trust me there will come a time when you won't even understand why you ever disliked your height.
Victoria Barnes I'm 5'10" and I've been this height since I was 14, ten years ago. It sucks to know that people don't take your problems serious because, everyone wants to be tall there's a million dollar industry promoted to heels. However, it's still an everyday thing to be confident , especially in heels.
I would really like for Tia to come on the show! I love them both but I would like to hear what Tia has to say. I love Tamera's honesty and I love Tia's fashion sense.
I really love when they do things like this. Keeping it honest and open. It's relatable to alot of ppl and makes ppl think. I'm not finna type what mine were here on youtube lol but childhood insecurities are something we all grow into and eventually except making us who we are. It is what it is...
I think for me it was/is a mix of both jeannie and adrienne. Being underweight "skinny" short boobless and just small in general at 19 years old i've started to accept that there's probably nothing going to change no matter how much I eat or workout. 😛 oh well i guess as long as i'm healthy
***** i doubt it! because my older sister has this issue as well. she had my niece, and literally went back to her tiny physique in no time 😔 i have given up hope
This is the exact same thing for me but I'm learning to love my body. Tonnes of people want what we have - to be able to eat whatever we want and not gain anything - so I'm learning to appreciate what I have. I'm not small and short, I'm fun size :) lol
Mary-kate and Ashley Olsen did an interview on Ellen about this. They said people will come up to them and call them Mary kate.. Or will call them Olsen twins when it was only one of them.. Im sure its pretty annoying because they are two different people..
Nicole shut up you make no sense.. They are still twins and you cant even tell them apart.. You musta not read my post this is not about identical or fraternal twins.. Its about twins being seen as one person only!
I understand what Tamera is saying about the twin thing because I used to be friends with twins who most people never bothered to get to know as individuals. we would just call them "twin" & that went on until they were in their 20s..looking back I can see that it really created a lot of friction / growing pains for them.
Yes, Adrianne's message in this segment is everything! BE THAT positive voice, uplift each other ladies. I never understood the women.. excuse me, girls.. who feel the need to make someone else feel bad in order to make themselves feel good. You never know what someone is going through and just a simple compliment can change someone's day.. week.. or LIFE!
I can so relate to adrienne’s insecurity about being short 😩. It’s really annoying cause everybody thinks you’re a little girl until you open your mouth and they hear mature/wisdom words come out. But it’s like no matter how mature I try to dress or how much make up I put on I still look 16 😤
I feel Adrienne on that one except for me it's not so much about being short as it is just looking younger in general. I'm 18 but I feel like guys my age or a few years older over look me because they think I'm like 13. I will probably be great as I get older for being able to look young but when you're in the teenage years looking extra young sucks
I know how Tamera feels. I am a twin also, although we don't look alike, people don't see that. They even combined our name into one which really bothers me. What separates us is how we wear our scarves on our heads but sometimes I feel like that's not enough. All my life we went to the same school so that was also something that contributed to it. Now that we go to different colleges I hope we can find our own identity. But I do love my sister I can tell her anything and everything and it's never awkward moment.
I have a mole like Tamera in the same spot. I use to hate it when I was in elementary and middle school. But I remember one time I was watching the behind the sense of twitches and seen that I wasn't the only one and I felt more better and didn't mind the mole
I'm 5 foot 2, almost 36, and I feel I'm not taken seriously because I never age and because I'm short, it's annoying. I'm an adult. I also always wanted to be tall.
That is so weird! My insecurities were having a scar, being short, small, and looking like I'm 12 @ 22! And I'm 100% natural! Also having a small chest! But now I'm like...both my parents are short, I take after my father's side with my size and both with my looks, I'm obsessed with my natural looks and...I had my scar for almost 20 years! Ain't nobody got time for that! Super relatable!
Mannn. I used to be so skinny when I was a kid and VERY conscious of it. My neck was longer too due to my lack of weight and I pretty much dealt with this for quite a while. I'd wear baggy pants and jackets all the time because I didn't like how skinny I was. I eventually made the change and now I'm more fit and toned. I wear fitted clothing that shows off my physique and I love it. :) I'm way more confident than I was before.
I feel you Adrienne through out junior high and high school I would always get teased about my height. I didn't like being short cause the names they called me were really getting to me, I always wished to be a little taller so all the teasing would stop but I knew that wasn't going to happen, and at the age of 19 that's when I accepted to love being short, I still get "Wow you're short" my response is "What really I didn't notice" but I still don't like it when people talk or joke about my height cause of all the name calling I got throughout my whole life. 25 and standing at 4 "11" I embrace my height.
That's funny because to me Tia and Tamera look alike without looking like lol, I have always been able to tell them apart. By the way Loni is a mess lol!
I know how Jeanie felt. I was exact same way when I was younger. I was extra skinny and I use to stand in the mirror wishing that my body was different. I know the ladies at the table couldn't relate because they probably weren't skinny, but I feel where u coming from Jeanie.!
As an identical twin I can absolutely say that it is really difficult to be grouped together. Whenever someone gets mad at me, they get mad at her and vice versa. It’s also really hard because now I don’t think this but when I was younger it felt like your friends and people around you didn’t even care enough to remember which one is which. Sometimes I would forget that we looked so much alike and I would feel like really? You don’t know my name?
right...I'm pushing 30 and still get asked if I'm in my 21-22. To all them who ask, I say thank you. I hated it for a while but now I'm grateful for my good genes. lol
This is huge because a lot of the issues women struggle with start with a misconception of who they are/were when they were little girls.. All this comparing ourselves to who we think has it all together, that we lose the true, unique self that we were created to be.. We are all unique and wonderfully made, beautiful for different reasons.. God made each of us to fit a special part in creation that could never be replicated by anyone else.. You start to lose your self worth and confidence, the minute you trade who you were meant to be, to try to be someone else.. The people that make it the furthest in life with the most inner joy and peace, are those who learn to accept who they really are from an early age and continue to move through life according to their own drumbeat, not someone else's.. The truth is, when you give anyone the power of controlling your self worth, you will never feel good enough for anyone. You will always be blowing around based on everyone else's opinion-never having any real control over your own life. You have to find the inner cheerleader within yourself that is there with you no matter what people say. That will tell you how special you are and how much of a blessing you are to the world. This builds up your inner strength so much that it won't even phase you rather or not someone thinks you are all that or not.. The truth is what you believe about yourself. If anyone doesn't see you how you see you, they more than likely aren't worth being in your life..
I used to be self conscious about my height, but then I got Bells Palsy in the 9th grade. My whole face drooped on the right side and it didn't become barely noticeable until the end of 10th grade. I still have permanent damage to my nerves; my cheek will start hurting sometimes and I have to put heat on it, the top right portion of my upper lip is pretty much dead (I can still feel it but I cant really use it), my right eye is a different shape than my left, and my right eyebrow wont go up as far as my left. When my face is relaxed you can barely notice anything, but when I talk or show emotion, you can see differences. Honestly, it's been about 9 years since I got my condition, and I've learned to live with it pretty well if I do say so myself. It really caused me to change, and I learned who my true friends are. The people back in high school don't mean a single thing to me, and if I see them on the street I just ignore their existence. I don't acknowledge people who made fun of me or talked about me behind my back. My circle of people who I love and trust is very small, and everyone else is just static and white noise. Sometimes you have to have that kind of mindset to be truly happy and focus on yourself.
I too was a late bloomer and experienced someone going to pop my bra, however I wasn't wearing one in the 4th or 5th grade. But then when I grew up, I felt my boobage were/are too big. I would slouch and I loved wearing jackets because it covered them. Plus being skinny I was picked on for that.
I don't know if it's just me being on the defensive but Tamara's insecurities always involves her having a twin. It's like she's unhappy she has one. I understand her wanting her own individuality and all, but if it's such a problem don't do things with Tia since you're worried about being seen as a pair -.- I know if Tia were to come on the real Tamera would want to do the "twin telepathy" or laugh at the same time etc, since people are there...it just seems sad to me. I guess it just seems rude to me that she says that all the time, but I've never had a twin so I don't know how she feels exactly but it seems negative e.e
If you have been noticing she doesn't hangout with Tia as much on camera. It seems negative because you are one person who has always been one person. Twins get grouped together and compared and it can be annoying. No one wants to be a 2some forever, you want your own identity.
I don't like that's she's complains so much about it....it's not that bad it got them on tv from sister sister days started their careers come on I know she might want her owe identity blah blah but she always always bring it up. Wonder if Tia feels the same way
The reason why she brings it up so much is because its a show lol adrienne has talked about being short alot and the other girls do the same thing. Its kind of rude to try and dismiss her when she is just speaking he mind about something that does happen alot. Ask a set of twins who had to dress and act alike they will tell you.
Tamera loves her sister. But she's talking from her experience growing up in high school and then having a career as a public figure. Twins already may have issues with being an individual but imagine being a celebrity. Unless you are a twin, you're not going to understand where she's coming from. She loves her sister. No doubt about that.
I got told , that i look like a skeleton, and i looked like a Dog . I got beat up by a boy in grade one for being thin and all through high school and primary school for being thin and dark skin . It hurts even more when your own grandma and aunties and cousins make fun of the body you have . But i grew to love me for me
Adrienne... I shared the exact same struggle as you!! But what's funny is I always looked up to you and thought your were gorgeous!! I'm short and I always thought that if I could just be like you shorter but look like a grown women... that'd be the dream! Still wish I could look like you! You're gorgeous!
I really related to Adrienne and Jeanie. I also have chicken legs, and look very young, and it is frustrating when people ask me how old I am because they're reactions are so strong, it makes me feel ashamed. I always think that if I was taller and gained some weight it would help me look older and more womanly. Obviously, I'll never get taller but maybe gaining weight will help.
I always wanted to be short as well when I was 11 years old people thought I was 15 and some big men used to call out to me but of course I didn’t study them. When I was in my teens especially 17 some men used to think I was 14 years old 😂 and I was a big child and my classmates was shorter than me.
I think because they've both talked about it on their how before (their reality show) that it's ok. Seems like a feeling that they've both had before, even though they'd never want to be without the other
You have to be a twin to understand how it feels to be compared to your sibling. Its not easy. Imagine trying to be an individual and always being "one of the twins." Imagine being in school and (before you even know what you want to do in life) being compared to someone in the same year as you. Imagine being around an overly harsh relative who compares who is smaller or thicker or who has this or that which the other doesn't have. I'm sure she loves her sister, but its really ridiculous how often people group twins together (in reference and in comparison). They're obviously close, but it is a genuine annoyance and irritation, when you're trying to find yourself and you're constantly compared to someone else. This was the issue I had growing up (clearly) and also, as a Black woman of colour, I had to unlearn all the internalized hatred a lot of Black people live with (re: skin colour and hair). So yea. I love Tamera and appreciate her honesty. And Like Tamar, I was the tallest in my class (stood with the boys) and always wanted to be short. Not anymore though - love being a tall Goddess.
I know EXACTLY where Loni is coming from, when you are a young girl who "develops/grows" fast, whether that be your height or your figure, some of your childhood goes along with it. I started to grow breasts in the 4th grade(age 9) and it impacted the way adults and other kids started to treat me. I was a child in my heart/mind, but since we are *visual* people nobody sees that. I started getting unwanted attention from men and adults would constantly make jokes about my body. There is a loss of childhood when you don't visually look like a child.
preach sister!!! same thing with me..I develop very early I was younger than you I was around 8 years old and everything came in at one time! I do remember the looks I would get from older men and it was horrible. I hope things got better for you after that...Once everyone else caught up with me and surpassed me It made me feel a little better..
Yeah I has breast at 9 years old as well, and a big butt as well (hourglass) I see why my mom had me wear overalls and lose fitting clothes all the time.
It's always funny when people start talking about their insecurities and you start to realize how true "the grass is always greener..." really is. I was so jealous of girls in my class. When I was in 5th grade there was a 4th grade girl who had B/C cups and I felt like life was so unfair, that maybe if I had her body people would want to hang with me or date me.
Megan Tiffany I'm small breast and don't mind. There are man out there that like small women. Body and breast. My husband loves my body you just have to love yours. Even exes and friends, that were tall and buff like small woman. Not all go for ridiculous boobed and bigger woman.
Also alot of women in my family, probably all are C, D, DD and I use to hate being the only A. Until I got older a lot of them started wanting a reuction. Because how heavy they can be and the back pain. So it can or cannot be greener. Depends on how you look at it.
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They're all lying about not picking at their bodies while looking in the mirror. Idk why Jeannie was the only one telling the truth. We've all done this.
Exactly. I remember being honest in front of my class about how I compare myself to others on social media. My teacher asked if anyone else does this and no one raised their hand.
Darkwaveduck exactly
maybe its not so easy for them..to talk about it
I agree. I remember growing up thinking these actresses who are beautiful and sexy and this is what you should look like. I looked at myself plenty and picked at everything cause it didn't look like what I thought at the time what was considered sexy and attractive. It took me years to stop comparing myself to others physically.
I think that was a sarcastic reply y’all a joke cuz look at Lonis face she was being goofy
I feel Adrienne on that one, I mean after three kids and my oldest being 15.. I go to his school for a conference and the security yells at me telling me to go back to class! Lol
Aww xD
Lol. I feel that.
Omg. Lol
Same here, it's like a blessing and a curse
I could only wish that was my portion I look my age 27 and I hate it ...I wish I looked younger
Seriously people, you know Tamera loves her sister, and having a twin has done wonders for her life and career. The segment is about childhood insecurities, so of course Tamera will talk about her insecurities with being a twin, because if you're a twin, you know that's pretty much the center of your life until you grow up and make your own name.
I don't have a twin, but I imagine that growing up with someone who looked exactly like me would be hard. Because like Tamera always says she wasn't her own person it was always Tia and Tamera never just Tamera. And it probably took her a lot longer to find herself because for the majority of her life she was a set. Btw I seriously love that you have Usui as your avatar lol
Yes exactly, and she DID start her story by stating that BOTH she and Tia felt the same way. The feeling is obviously mutual, so I doubt Tia is somewhere in her feelings about it. lol
I have a twin and I completely agree with her. When growing up my mother didn't get it so she always bought the same clothes to both of us, which made us turn against each other. It was especially hard for my sister since she wanted to dye her hair so bad so that they could seperate us. Even now when people call my sister my name she gets really pissed so all the people at school know they better watch out. ;)
Ash So true! I am a twin and we have had people constantly compare us in everything we do. From our looks to what we choose to study. People would and still make remakes like so whose the brainy twin, or so and so is better looking. It really makes us both upset that so many don't see us as Individuals. Due to this I can completely understand where Tamera is coming from. People really need to learn that Twins may come into the world as a pair, but we are NOT the same. We both have our own likes and dislikes, our own personalities and our own strength. As much fun as people think being a twin is, sometimes it is not so easy at all.
True
I remember when Tamera originally told that 'Twitches' story on Wendy William's show. She said that Tia decided to get a mole drawn on her face, so that Tamera didn't have to get hers covered. It was sweet of her to do that.
I'm I the only one who thinks that moles on the face makes a girl look even more beautiful?
Mysterious Mercy I’m with u on that !😁
I have one
Makiyah Love me too lol
jennifer maganda ❤️❤️
I have one on the right side of my cheekbone
Honestly, it's not that hard to tell Tia and Tamera apart. Even on 'Sister, Sister' and on 'Twitches', I was able to tell them apart.
you must have had super powers growing up (side eye)
Not even the mole, I never noticed the mole until Twitches, I just kind of always knew. But same on the Olsen twins. I'm always lost. I think because we never saw them side by side on full house, except for those few weird ass episodes. And that one show the lasted like 2 seasons, maybe.
It was like Two of a Kind or something like that. There was never really a plot.
ikr? i never got them mixed up. tamera has a long face, tia has bigger eyes. now mary kate and ashley? I've NEVER been able to tell them apart.
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LMBO I just wrote the same thing...the olsen twins are the only ones I've never been able to tell apart, and like you said, the only thing i know about them that's different is the height, but idk who's taller. and you know the funny part? tia and tamera are identical, but the olsen twins are fraternal. weird.
Poor Jeannie can't ever catch a break! Smh
I think she sets herself up, poor thing. She kept looking for approval ("did you guys ever do that?"), when really all she needs to do is speak her truth and own it for herself. I feel out of all the ladies she and Loni still struggle with their childhood body issues the most.
Even without the mole, I can still distinguish between Tamera and Tia. They're my favorite twins :)
They look fraternal
@@jennyoneill8879 they are identical
Yes I could always tell the difference between them!!!!
Anybody who's been following Tamera knows she loves her twin sister! Just because she wants individuality does not mean she hates being a twin. She just hates being lumped into one, that's all. People should practice listening!!!!
They've been famous for over two decades now....yet she is CONSTANTLY reminding people she's a TWIN. who doesn't know she's a twin?!?!?! Seriously. She's the type to go to a family reunion and remind her parents she's a twin. Tamera, we know already, dear hold. We know.
Renee Wright As you said, we all know she is a twin! Her point is that AS A YOUNG woman she wanted people to see that she is NOT JUST A TWIN but an individual as well!
Renee Wright I love that Tamera speaks on being a twin and tells the story for us twins. I too struggled with finding my own identity and getting out of my sister's shadow. Regular siblings may experience being compared too, but for twins it probably is more severe. We get comments all the time that we're the same person (and maybe one is the "better version"), and growing up, that can really mess you up mentally.
You silly people didn't get what I was saying. Smh.
I agree i have a twin and i understand
Am I weird because I could always Tia And Tamera part even during sister sister when they put a mole on Tia! They never looked alike to me!
+As Told By GiGi No, you're not. I could somehow always tell as well whenever I saw the two of them together with serious, non-smiling faces.
TheRetroWoman80 yea like to me they just don't look identical
+As Told By GiGi really do you have relatives that are twins I CAN NEVER TELL
+Samantha Roades no I don't have its just they don't look-a-like to me I really can't plain it they just look different like tamera has a more playful look to me and Tia has a very serious look and that's when they are smiling or serious!
As Told By GiGi veryy truee i didnt watch this show religiously so idk
Adrienne has a nice body though.
Yes x 100 Adrienne! Its so important to empower little girls and teach them to see the beauty in themselves. There are so many insecure people out there seeking to bring others down (in order to feel better). People carry those ugly words. Be the positive voice that a little girl or anyone hears. It can make their day and their life better (and you wouldn't even know it). Costs nothing.
Exactly !!! One time I was working and was busy but I saw a customer with gorgeous glowing skin and something inside me was telling me to go compliment and tell her. Turns out the girl had severe acne in the past and she was so thankful for me telling her that. She then gave me the name of who she went to and I gladly accepted because I have acne too. I love it 😄😄
Vicktoria L Amazing! You went just to tell her how gorgeous her skin was and she gifted you with information about where she went. That's so good.
This! Just sucking the life out of people
I sympathize with Adrienne because to this day, im 20, 120lbs and 5'1, Without makeup, hair and certain clothes I still look 15. It's a blessing and a curse
Girl I’ll be 27 in August with a 6 year old and I look 15 😂😂😂
Adrienne is so right about encouraging young people! It doesn't cost anything and they remember it right up until adulthood. They get so much flack from their peers
Tamar's legs compared to Adrienne's 😂just look under the table😭💀
My insecurity in my childhood was probably being blac tbh. All the schools I've been to are predominantly white. There was one school in particular where it was a private Christian school so my family, and about 2 other families were the only black families there lol I remember a time in third grade where this girl, who was supposedly me my friend ,said I had black eyes because I'm black. I kept telling her I had dark brown eyes but she refused to listen. I also remember not liking my hair or the chicken pox mark on my forehead but honestly, now that I've learned what self-love is I am enjoying my God given 4c hair and pox mark. People will always try and diminish your worth when their unhappy with themselves but realize your value because God didn't put you and I here for nothing.
Same here. I live in a white town and my classmates love to shame Hispanics and call them stupid or just exclude us. I've grown up to be proud of my heritage and nobody will ever make me feel bad about who I am. Im a proud Latina.
I went to a school that was pretty diverse but my experience was that other black kids would make fun of how dark i was. And in actuality I'm not that dark in the summer I'm a darker brown and in the winter i look like a nice even shade of brown. And the thing that bothered me the most was that it was negativity from my own people. Teachers and staff (who were white) would ALWAYS say "Oh you have such beautiful brown skin". To feel this much negativity from my own people was a big insecurity of mine. And it almost made me not wanna date black men because they were the ones who would always have something to say about. But of course my mom would tell me its because of where we live and other parents aren't teaching their kids to love themselves. Now I'm proud of who i am and the shade of brown that i am. I learned to love myself because no one else will love you like you love yourself.
Same here. I went to private catholic schools and I promise there is no ethnic group worse at judging you or making you feel worthless than an Irish Catholic. I was insecure about being black till high school
Kreauna B Same thing with me. I always wondered how someone can be darker than me and is still making fun of me being black. People are just very insecure.
i know what you mean. i went to majority white schools but had mostly hispanic or asian friends. everyone, white, hispanic, and asian would make fun of my hair because it was stiff and wasn't limp like theirs. I has a perm though and I didn't know how to do my hair. I would look at white girl magazines and be like "my hair is straight like theirs, so how come it won't grow and why can't I do the same styles?" smh. If I knew back then what I know now, I would have been natural my whole life. Also, I spoke like a valley girl, so all in all, I was too black for the whites (and other non-blacks), and too white for the black kids. A very lonely situation to be in.
Was loni supposed to say conscious 0:19 ??? LMFAOOOO
lool i heard it and came straight to the comments 😂
+Reality TV Daily i think she confused conscious and conscientious.
+1Geeked I did the same thing😂😂😂
No she said it right. It just means she was particular about it.
Calm down.
2:32 Adrienne must be talking about Kiely. Lmao. .
I really think it's Kiely. That's mean from her tho.
I don't think it's Kiely cause she had chicken legs also. So doing the process of elimination... Natauri lol
Lmaoo we all know Kiely was the problematic one in the group.
Rell Parlae Yall are forgetting about her other group member from the CG. The blond one..It could of been her too lol
Danielle A.
I didn't even consider Sabrina to say that. I think she's too nice for it. But we never know....
Jeannie saying "You're so lucky!" to Loni having B cups in 1st grade. Lmao no girl. Although these days its more common with all the hormones added to foods.
I know exactly where Adrienne is coming from. I had the same insecurity. I was always either the skinniest in class, the smallest or the shortest. But, I've learned to be happy and I even wear heels just to make myself feel taller. In addition to that, I do not age, I look like I am 18 (people range it from 14 to 18) yet I am 22. Ah, late blooming is not cool!
same here, i look 16 but I'm 21..
Yes same. I look 14 yet I'm 21 and it's something that literally bothers me and depresses me every single day.
oxbrizzlemynizzlexo noo you cannot let it bother you! you simply can't.. the people who know you know you're 21.. just embrace your look life is short to let such things depress you
Same. I always get confused for a teenager even though I'm in my 20s
Same! People are so shocked that I'm 24. I don't want to look old (older), I just want to look my age.
im 30 (i look 18-20) 5 feet tall, small chested and i am so insecure. everyone feels like they can comment on my looks and ask me my age and i feel like i have to work extra hard to be taken seriously.
Just think hate is something you dont speak out if you love yourself they are just jealous❤️💯
I'm 18... I look waaaay older for my age....about 3 years ago...I changed school.... people in my new school actually thought I was a new teacher when I entered the class only for them to discover than I was a student and they were really surprised
carmonkey I know I hate that. I know I'm small I just hate when people point it out. I'm 15 going to be a sophomore and people always assume I'm still in middle school.
I’m 22, 4’11.5”, and people find it hard to believe I’m graduating college soon. When I was in middle school, the waitresses used to always assume I’m a child and give me the kids menu, while my friend, who was significantly taller than me would get a regular menu, but I was older than her.
I call shade on another level. People, not just women, look at themselves in the mirror and notice their flaws. Even if it's just for a second or sometimes it's even before you look in the mirror you know what in-your-head is your flaw so when you do see yourself in the mirror "the flaw" is what you notice.
I''m pointing that out cos how can none of these ladies sit there and pretend Jeannie Mai is crazy or the most insecure when she's being the most real!?
I'm 21 and I still pick at all of my flaws when I look in the mirror. I could literally spend hours in the mirror being harsh on myself
I'm almost 36, and I do the same thing, my weight, body, my acne, and that I never age. I'm like you and Adrienne.
Nellie K. Adaba well I think that you are a very lovely lady according to your profile picture!!
Breanna Paez Thank you, you too. I wish you all the best.
Same and I'm 15 going on 16
As a twin myself, I completely understand Tamera's insecurity. I wasn't an "individual" until I went to college because my sister stayed in our hometown and I went out of state. I love my twin and would do anything for her, but I also enjoy being myself without people always comparing me or asking me about my twin.
I do not comment a lot but when I do it is because that particular content for me deserves that attention. Your show is becoming one of my favs as it is on my end feeling more deep and real. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for each of you have the courage t open up and share those beautiful stories with us. You have no idea how validating and enlightening those acts of courage are for me and many. This right here is philanthropy in action. I am literally crying as I watch. These are such important conversations to have because they shine a light on your humanity and the humanity of others. I am truly grateful. I am going to ask that you shine a light at some point on emotional abuse: gaslighting, minimizing others pain, harshly criticising others and the impact it has on people, yourselves too... I am still trying to heal myself from emotional abuse. I get it at work too.. When I make the effort to speak up for myself which doesn't come easily I am gaslighted, have my feelings treated as if they do not matter, get attacked verbally and that in turn discourages me from standing up for myself again. And it affects all areas of my life too... In order to heal from this pain I have tried many things however nothing seems to help. It's already so scary expressing and exposing my feelings and to do it and have others minimize or gaslight me throws me off and I end up just wanting to be alone but then I realize to be in this world and live a fulfilling life one must have connection, even to work one must work with others. I am conflicted there...
Yes Tamera! I’m a twin also & it was definitely difficult to find my own identity while in school since everyone knew us as “the twins”. Now that we’re older, it’s much better.
Growing up I use to love "Sister Sister" With Tamara & Tia & I use to think that Tia was prettier then Tamara for whatever reason, which wasn't right. Idk if it was because she had moles or whatever. But she is so gorgeous❤ But since I been watching this show I literally have grown to love Tamara like she's so genuine & sweet. & she's not fake she just seem so cool like I'm so happy she's on this show because she literally balance it out.😊
I can definetly relate to both Adrienne and Jeannie.....being both small height n weight wise and always looking younger than my age. It's sometimes a blessing, but a curse because it feels like you have to go an extra mile to let it be known that you are not a kid not just to yourself, but even to a**holes that will try you.
I understand Adrienne completely. I'm 23, 5'2 and 115 pounds. I have a baby face, people think I'm 17-19. It's nice to look young but not when you're tryna hit up Vegas in style without being constantly approached by people ID'ing me 😭😅
i could relate to tamar completely because i was the tallest in my class as well
Adrienne is sooooo bloody georgous & beautiful, it blows me away. If i could look like anyone in the world, it would be her. Xo she is just perfect.
Am I the only one who can see the difference between Tia and Tamera? I've always thought they looked different since Sister sister, lol...
Boys use to actually snap girls bras. Isn't that sexual harassment and all she could think of was " damn I don't have breasts yet!"
I can relate with Tamar... Being the tallest one is very awkward. I've always wanted to be a little shorter too.
Sadly you get made fun of either way
Me 3
I remember in high school being insecure about being short lol. All the guys seemed to like the girls who were lean and kinda slim and I've always been quite short and curvy and I felt like my curves would look better and more proportionate if I were taller.
Ima go ahead and back up Jeannie too cuz I used to criticize my body in the mirror; it's ridiculously unhealthy though and I'm so glad I grew out of that poor habit
I wish I could grow out of that habit..I still do it...I look in the mirror and suck in my stomach and look at my body and point things I want to change...uhh it sucks
I feel what Tamera said about being a twin 100%. (Ppl always refered to us as Tia and Tamera btw lol) Me and my sister went through the same phase of fighting to be different because everyone always saw us as a pair. Not to mention the unnecessary comparing and picking apart ppl love to do. It’s sad because I always tried to express how we felt back then to our mom but even she is like everyone else in terms of not being able to understand that we’re still two seperate ppl.
Wow. The mole is always the reason I knew the difference between Tia and Tamera...
I've always been able to tell Tia & Tamera apart, Tamera's face is fuller than Tias.
I don't get how people can't tell Tia and Tamera apart? To me they don't even look identical
at 0:17 ...did loni say she was "consciencus" ?
Omgosh...I had to rewind. I believe she did loool.
conscientious is a word you know
***** It is but she meant to say conscious.
Tiffany Tang It is but she meant to say conscious.
Tiffany Tang conscientious means wishing to do what is right, especially to do one's work or duty well and thoroughly.
See I'm like Tamar I was the tallest kid and even in Kindergarten other parents would talk about me and say I was way too big to be 5. They would always say I look like I should be in 3rd grade and they'd ask me how old I was and THAT is when I started being so self conscious about my height. Now being 19 and a 6ft tall girl it's still very awkward, I'm not going to lie especially when I stand next to grown men and I tower over them. Kids always stare and you know how honest little kids are and their parents don't really teach them not to be rude. They always say I look like a man and say I'm a giant and it shouldn't bother me but it really does. Because it takes me back to middle school and High school when all the kids would call me a lesbian big foot and laugh at me when my knees couldn't fit under the desk. It was terrible for me and my parents never understood because my mom is 5'5 and my dad is 6'4 but he's a guy and for guys it's ok but for girls its just weird apparently. BUT I also feel Adrienne on the whole 16 thing because I turn 20 in June and people still think I'm 16 literally and I don't know if it's how I dress but it's annoying because then they treat me like I'm 16. No, I'm almost 20 no no no
Thank you :)
Awwwww , I'm tall as well, and I get that. I come from a tall family though and we would always encourage each other, being tall is beautiful ! Look at runway models !!! They're all gorgeous and long. Love yourself, I felt the same way at your age but trust me there will come a time when you won't even understand why you ever disliked your height.
Victoria Barnes I'm 5'10" and I've been this height since I was 14, ten years ago. It sucks to know that people don't take your problems serious because, everyone wants to be tall there's a million dollar industry promoted to heels. However, it's still an everyday thing to be confident , especially in heels.
Go Adrienne, keep helping women in loving themselves.
I would really like for Tia to come on the show! I love them both but I would like to hear what Tia has to say. I love Tamera's honesty and I love Tia's fashion sense.
I really love when they do things like this. Keeping it honest and open. It's relatable to alot of ppl and makes ppl think. I'm not finna type what mine were here on youtube lol but childhood insecurities are something we all grow into and eventually except making us who we are. It is what it is...
I think for me it was/is a mix of both jeannie and adrienne. Being underweight "skinny" short boobless and just small in general at 19 years old i've started to accept that there's probably nothing going to change no matter how much I eat or workout. 😛 oh well i guess as long as i'm healthy
***** i doubt it! because my older sister has this issue as well. she had my niece, and literally went back to her tiny physique in no time 😔 i have given up hope
Me too and I'm only 18 but I'm an A-cup. Also I eat a lot and do squats a lot but I guess.
This is the exact same thing for me but I'm learning to love my body. Tonnes of people want what we have - to be able to eat whatever we want and not gain anything - so I'm learning to appreciate what I have. I'm not small and short, I'm fun size :) lol
I feel you Adrienne. I'm 22 and I still feel the same way about being short and looking young.
The mole is what helps me tell them apart and they are both beautiful
*Adrienne says a group member at **2:30** that said she has chicken legs... I wonder which member? From 3lw? Or cheetah girls?*
Im pretty sure it was Keily .
Mary-kate and Ashley Olsen did an interview on Ellen about this. They said people will come up to them and call them Mary kate.. Or will call them Olsen twins when it was only one of them.. Im sure its pretty annoying because they are two different people..
Those are the only celebrity twin thus far that i cannot tell them apart
Nicole shut up you make no sense.. They are still twins and you cant even tell them apart.. You musta not read my post this is not about identical or fraternal twins.. Its about twins being seen as one person only!
Tamera at 1:51 '......ok'
that's exactly my sentiments at this point in jeannie's story
Tia and Tamera dont look that similar are people blind or lazy? the resemblance was stronger when they were younger but not now
I understand what Tamera is saying about the twin thing because I used to be friends with twins who most people never bothered to get to know as individuals. we would just call them "twin" & that went on until they were in their 20s..looking back I can see that it really created a lot of friction / growing pains for them.
Yes, Adrianne's message in this segment is everything! BE THAT positive voice, uplift each other ladies. I never understood the women.. excuse me, girls.. who feel the need to make someone else feel bad in order to make themselves feel good. You never know what someone is going through and just a simple compliment can change someone's day.. week.. or LIFE!
I can so relate to adrienne’s insecurity about being short 😩. It’s really annoying cause everybody thinks you’re a little girl until you open your mouth and they hear mature/wisdom words come out. But it’s like no matter how mature I try to dress or how much make up I put on I still look 16 😤
I feel Adrienne on that one except for me it's not so much about being short as it is just looking younger in general. I'm 18 but I feel like guys my age or a few years older over look me because they think I'm like 13. I will probably be great as I get older for being able to look young but when you're in the teenage years looking extra young sucks
I love how Raw and Real! you Guys keep it! I hope to find friends like you guys
I know how Tamera feels. I am a twin also, although we don't look alike, people don't see that. They even combined our name into one which really bothers me. What separates us is how we wear our scarves on our heads but sometimes I feel like that's not enough. All my life we went to the same school so that was also something that contributed to it. Now that we go to different colleges I hope we can find our own identity. But I do love my sister I can tell her anything and everything and it's never awkward moment.
Jeannie reminds me of myself 😭😍
I so understand Adrienne!! You spoke straight to my heart🙌🙌
I have a mole like Tamera in the same spot. I use to hate it when I was in elementary and middle school. But I remember one time I was watching the behind the sense of twitches and seen that I wasn't the only one and I felt more better and didn't mind the mole
When Jeannie was talkin about tearing yourself apart in the mirror I related to that for real
I totally agree with Adrienne. I've been 5 ft tall all my life and I felt like no one took me seriously.
I'm 5 foot 2, almost 36, and I feel I'm not taken seriously because I never age and because I'm short, it's annoying. I'm an adult. I also always wanted to be tall.
That is so weird! My insecurities were having a scar, being short, small, and looking like I'm 12 @ 22! And I'm 100% natural! Also having a small chest! But now I'm like...both my parents are short, I take after my father's side with my size and both with my looks, I'm obsessed with my natural looks and...I had my scar for almost 20 years! Ain't nobody got time for that! Super relatable!
Jeannie: “my legs look like chicken legs”
Everyone: “mhm”
Mannn. I used to be so skinny when I was a kid and VERY conscious of it. My neck was longer too due to my lack of weight and I pretty much dealt with this for quite a while. I'd wear baggy pants and jackets all the time because I didn't like how skinny I was. I eventually made the change and now I'm more fit and toned. I wear fitted clothing that shows off my physique and I love it. :) I'm way more confident than I was before.
I love how open they are with each other
After all this time I scroll to:
“ I am a kid, Im 5, I shouldnt be watching the class.”
KILLS ME. SO FUNNY!
I feel you Adrienne through out junior high and high school I would always get teased about my height. I didn't like being short cause the names they called me were really getting to me, I always wished to be a little taller so all the teasing would stop but I knew that wasn't going to happen, and at the age of 19 that's when I accepted to love being short, I still get "Wow you're short" my response is "What really I didn't notice" but I still don't like it when people talk or joke about my height cause of all the name calling I got throughout my whole life. 25 and standing at 4 "11" I embrace my height.
Adrienne is so right being short has it ups and downs
I relate to Tamera so much! Having a twin means that people see us as one individual. If she asks for something it’s,”the twins asked if balalalalla”
I hate being a short woman too. Everyone thinks I am 16, but I am almost 21.
That's funny because to me Tia and Tamera look alike without looking like lol, I have always been able to tell them apart. By the way Loni is a mess lol!
I SERIOUSLY LOVE HOW VULNERABLE YOU ALL ARE. #INSPIRATION IT GIVES EVERYONE A CHANCE TO LOVE THE REAL YOUS.
I know how Jeanie felt. I was exact same way when I was younger. I was extra skinny and I use to stand in the mirror wishing that my body was different. I know the ladies at the table couldn't relate because they probably weren't skinny, but I feel where u coming from Jeanie.!
I Used To Get Teased About My Mole So I Tried To Take It Off But Now I Embrace It & Love It
We all pick every flaw looking in the mirror!! Unless you had someone instill self confidence young.
I just remember that the cheetah girls sang so bring it on for twitches too track...I wonder if Adrienne and Tamera meet then.
As an identical twin I can absolutely say that it is really difficult to be grouped together. Whenever someone gets mad at me, they get mad at her and vice versa. It’s also really hard because now I don’t think this but when I was younger it felt like your friends and people around you didn’t even care enough to remember which one is which. Sometimes I would forget that we looked so much alike and I would feel like really? You don’t know my name?
right...I'm pushing 30 and still get asked if I'm in my 21-22. To all them who ask, I say thank you. I hated it for a while but now I'm grateful for my good genes. lol
This is huge because a lot of the issues women struggle with start with a misconception of who they are/were when they were little girls.. All this comparing ourselves to who we think has it all together, that we lose the true, unique self that we were created to be.. We are all unique and wonderfully made, beautiful for different reasons.. God made each of us to fit a special part in creation that could never be replicated by anyone else.. You start to lose your self worth and confidence, the minute you trade who you were meant to be, to try to be someone else..
The people that make it the furthest in life with the most inner joy and peace, are those who learn to accept who they really are from an early age and continue to move through life according to their own drumbeat, not someone else's.. The truth is, when you give anyone the power of controlling your self worth, you will never feel good enough for anyone. You will always be blowing around based on everyone else's opinion-never having any real control over your own life.
You have to find the inner cheerleader within yourself that is there with you no matter what people say. That will tell you how special you are and how much of a blessing you are to the world. This builds up your inner strength so much that it won't even phase you rather or not someone thinks you are all that or not.. The truth is what you believe about yourself. If anyone doesn't see you how you see you, they more than likely aren't worth being in your life..
Me,Tamara, and Lonni share the same experience. I'm like the second or third tallest person in my class and I'm the heaviest in my whole class
And I started blooming in 1st grade
Loni was pretending like she was so fat as a child but she wasnt even chubby
I can really relate to Adrenne and Jeannie.
To me: Tamera was always the prettier one 💗 no offense to Tia... cuz she's not ugly whatsoever but Tamera has a special light
I used to be self conscious about my height, but then I got Bells Palsy in the 9th grade. My whole face drooped on the right side and it didn't become barely noticeable until the end of 10th grade. I still have permanent damage to my nerves; my cheek will start hurting sometimes and I have to put heat on it, the top right portion of my upper lip is pretty much dead (I can still feel it but I cant really use it), my right eye is a different shape than my left, and my right eyebrow wont go up as far as my left. When my face is relaxed you can barely notice anything, but when I talk or show emotion, you can see differences. Honestly, it's been about 9 years since I got my condition, and I've learned to live with it pretty well if I do say so myself. It really caused me to change, and I learned who my true friends are. The people back in high school don't mean a single thing to me, and if I see them on the street I just ignore their existence. I don't acknowledge people who made fun of me or talked about me behind my back. My circle of people who I love and trust is very small, and everyone else is just static and white noise. Sometimes you have to have that kind of mindset to be truly happy and focus on yourself.
I agree with Adrienne 100 percent
Tamera stays crying lol. I'm a crier too girl!!
I too was a late bloomer and experienced someone going to pop my bra, however I wasn't wearing one in the 4th or 5th grade. But then when I grew up, I felt my boobage were/are too big. I would slouch and I loved wearing jackets because it covered them. Plus being skinny I was picked on for that.
I don't know if it's just me being on the defensive but Tamara's insecurities always involves her having a twin. It's like she's unhappy she has one. I understand her wanting her own individuality and all, but if it's such a problem don't do things with Tia since you're worried about being seen as a pair -.-
I know if Tia were to come on the real Tamera would want to do the "twin telepathy" or laugh at the same time etc, since people are there...it just seems sad to me.
I guess it just seems rude to me that she says that all the time, but I've never had a twin so I don't know how she feels exactly but it seems negative e.e
If you have been noticing she doesn't hangout with Tia as much on camera. It seems negative because you are one person who has always been one person. Twins get grouped together and compared and it can be annoying. No one wants to be a 2some forever, you want your own identity.
Thanks! I didn't really understand what she meant at first. ^_^
I don't like that's she's complains so much about it....it's not that bad it got them on tv from sister sister days started their careers come on I know she might want her owe identity blah blah but she always always bring it up. Wonder if Tia feels the same way
The reason why she brings it up so much is because its a show lol adrienne has talked about being short alot and the other girls do the same thing. Its kind of rude to try and dismiss her when she is just speaking he mind about something that does happen alot. Ask a set of twins who had to dress and act alike they will tell you.
Tamera loves her sister. But she's talking from her experience growing up in high school and then having a career as a public figure. Twins already may have issues with being an individual but imagine being a celebrity. Unless you are a twin, you're not going to understand where she's coming from. She loves her sister. No doubt about that.
I got told , that i look like a skeleton, and i looked like a Dog . I got beat up by a boy in grade one for being thin and all through high school and primary school for being thin and dark skin . It hurts even more when your own grandma and aunties and cousins make fun of the body you have . But i grew to love me for me
Adrienne... I shared the exact same struggle as you!! But what's funny is I always looked up to you and thought your were gorgeous!! I'm short and I always thought that if I could just be like you shorter but look like a grown women... that'd be the dream! Still wish I could look like you! You're gorgeous!
I really related to Adrienne and Jeanie. I also have chicken legs, and look very young, and it is frustrating when people ask me how old I am because they're reactions are so strong, it makes me feel ashamed. I always think that if I was taller and gained some weight it would help me look older and more womanly. Obviously, I'll never get taller but maybe gaining weight will help.
I always wanted to be short as well when I was 11 years old people thought I was 15 and some big men used to call out to me but of course I didn’t study them. When I was in my teens especially 17 some men used to think I was 14 years old 😂 and I was a big child and my classmates was shorter than me.
i've always said if i had twins i wouldnt dress them up the same or only give them one cake etc, i think that's weird, they are not one person
Tamera, during Jeannie's story was like "okayyy", like she wasn't following and wasn't that interested LOL
It is true when ur the tallest it's awkward
They actually switch roles in Twitches. at Tamera's 21st birthday party, there was a time when it was tia playing Tamera
not trying to be negative but it seems like tamera always complains about being a twin and I just wonder how tia feels when she talks about this.
yea she does... maybe they've talked about it before. but it's one of those grass is greener situations... I think...just wonders
I think because they've both talked about it on their how before (their reality show) that it's ok. Seems like a feeling that they've both had before, even though they'd never want to be without the other
You have to be a twin to understand how it feels to be compared to your sibling. Its not easy. Imagine trying to be an individual and always being "one of the twins." Imagine being in school and (before you even know what you want to do in life) being compared to someone in the same year as you. Imagine being around an overly harsh relative who compares who is smaller or thicker or who has this or that which the other doesn't have. I'm sure she loves her sister, but its really ridiculous how often people group twins together (in reference and in comparison). They're obviously close, but it is a genuine annoyance and irritation, when you're trying to find yourself and you're constantly compared to someone else. This was the issue I had growing up (clearly) and also, as a Black woman of colour, I had to unlearn all the internalized hatred a lot of Black people live with (re: skin colour and hair). So yea. I love Tamera and appreciate her honesty. And Like Tamar, I was the tallest in my class (stood with the boys) and always wanted to be short. Not anymore though - love being a tall Goddess.
That's why they need to get Tia on the show as a guest star one day!!! *The Real if y'all see this can y'all please make it happen*
Ciano XoC. Great idea!