the moment a girl clicked on this video is a fact that she is currently obsessed with someone in a bad way which she hoped not to. i wish everyone of you can surpass this challenge ❤🍀
Dopamine is a rough ride, man! Whether you want it or not, whether you’re married or not, you can catch feelings and have thoughts because dopamine feels good…and we want more of what feels good. Some men make us feel fantastic and we want to be near them and other times I think as women, our desire to be loved and us seeing a man’s interest perks our hopes up. It can be very, very rough sometimes.
I was getting ready obsess over someone, who just ghosted me… But I stopped myself and said he does not deserve you and life is too short to waste time on someone who does not want you. So now I am taking care of me and now I am ghosting him.😊
When you're authentic and happy in your own life (not perfect, but happy) you will naturally never obsess over anyone. Prioritize being happy where you live (What do you need to live in a place that suits you? A better job? Qualifications? A side Hussle for extra cash? Sort these out first.) Hobbies, friends and keeping yourself fit and healthy. Romantic partners will fall into place once you're content in these other areas of your life first. TRUST ME.
This is so true!! I obsessed about a guy in 2020 who just stopped contact after I asked for a break as I was having a hard time. It absolutely broke me for a long time and did everything that you shouldn't, chasing him constantly and basing my worth on his opinion. I was mad!! Looking back he was never good enough in the first place but as I was feeling down on myself it got to me so bad I ended up seeing a psychologist. Now, a year on I am so happy with a wonderful man who makes me feel amazing. He loves me and he constantly shows it. I will NEVER obsess again as there is slways someone out there that will love you for who you are 💕
The scarcity mindset....yes....that sabotages us everytime. Thanks for reminding us that on a very populated planet, scarcity is not an issue. Being treated badly is.
Some good points - however the tendency toward obsessive thinking is often not a choice. CPTSD is often the real cause of limerence. The brain is actually wired for intermittent connection as was modeled in a person's primary care relationships from childhood and those mixed messages are then mislabeled as love. The brains job is to solve things. So as a coping mechanism the person compartmentalizes the experiences and their brain relies on limerence to fill the void. Often fixating on the person or the relationship that hurts them the most and placing their person on a pedestal in order to reconcile their attachment and feelings for them. Love is not surviving someone. Obsessive thinking involved in limerence has also been associated with low levels of serotonin and elevated levels of dopamine and norepinephrine - which is quite common in persons who have adrenal exhaustion from the trauma they survived.
I needed to read your comment. "Love is not surviving someone" Hit home. When it's your caregivers who have shaped your definition of love. Certainly influences the choice in the wrong partner, hence the constant over thinking, to solve whats not right, yet feels like love. Mindbending stuff.
Needed this did the worse mistake by running back to an asshole who will never value/ respect me and I’m still there asking for his attention the more I do it the more he takes advantage
We don't obsess and overthink when everything is great and awesome. Thanks Brian Nox for sharing all your knowledge. You are so brilliant and kind. 🙏🏻🐦
i hate that i start to obsess someone who gives me the slightest bit of attention. i end up hurting myself in the end. but for some reason i can't let go. i still a think about him everyday and romanticize
This almost made me cry. It’s a solid reminder on what I am and who I am currently and how I can slowly shift focus and love myself more and see my self-worth.
I needed this message more than you know. I have obsessed over the last guy I dated after my divorce. It is just so hard at my age because I hate being alone
Thank you for such a timely reminder! It is lighthearted, funny, easy to listen to yet something I really really need. Obsession is not healthy and certainly limiting to the capacity to self love. Thank you !
I need to learn to go with the flow whenever I meet a man. But this time he was upfront & said he has a lot on his plate & we should just be friends. I want to get to know him better but he doesn’t feel the same. I should not ever find happiness by wanting a relationship & the man doesn’t initiate or chase
@@SteveWKk I’m trying not to think this way because it’s a lack mindset. People do meet and remarry in middle age. I just need to be patient and be hopeful someone good will come along.
Thank you! I needed to hear this today. I was in that mindset not long ago. I was over thinking, obsessing over my recent break up and said I can’t do this anymore. It’s getting better and now I am thinking about myself and said to myself, he isn’t chasing me or trying to look for me in any kind of way. I deserve so much better then this and there is someone out there that is for me. Just not rushing in with anyone and take it day by day.
"...because if it does, well then it does." THANK you for so much clarity and sobriety. Sometimes you just need an honest outside view ... also feels good to be reminded that they are not the last person on this earth (u don't feel this when ruminating, of course )
Dear Brian, I am so thrilled I am finally on youtube shortly after you posted and there are not too many comments yet, so I will make use of this chance to tell you the most sincere Thank You ❤ I've been following you since my worst breakup ever in the second half of 2020. I did indeed put that person on a pedestal while he was dismissive and avoidant, which made me obsess more. (Funny how I happen to comment on a video exactly on this topic!) I never really had self-esteem due to the parenting style my parents went with, and I internalised that I am not loveable, no one would want me, and that I would most probably have to sacrifice everything for the martyr who would decide to stay with me. You made such a difference in my life, I am getting emotional even thinking about it. You made me realise that I matter, that I deserve the kind of love I give, that I should stop remolding myself to fit others' boxes. That the kind of love I aspired to have is actually real, and I just need to set the bar high enough so I get someone on my level. You gave me so much confidence, I cannot even begin to explain it all. So, in hopes you ever get to read this, dankje ❤ You do nothing less than angelic work and I hope you never stop to inspire and empower others, but as well I wish you never stop to be inspired and empowered yourself! I wish you all the best and can't wait to see you in future videos! ❤
Ok. This helps. But we were at the beginning of a new long distance relationship. And it was great. He was great. But he had to take a job, even further away (it was in the works but uncertain prior to our meeting). So, now he’s transitioning and we had a conversation and agreement about taking some time and reconnecting once he’s settled (about a month) into his own place. And seeing if we both still want to do this from afar. Very respectful. It’s me! I’m the problem. I go into fear and lose myself. And then when we do connect-I feel needy. And I don’t want to be. So-thank you for this.
thanks , we know that’s wrong , some times our ego wants win something that it’s not even convenient for us .. you are very clear , we destroy our dignity obsessing
I will tell you what i found up that help. Dont let the feeling control you in life. I mean in food, dont be lazy, do sport and others... it make your brain be stronger than feelings and than the feelings will be less and less harder. You make your mind be strong and feelings be wick by the daily tasks!! Good luck for all of us!!!
Definitely need this, just in time I broke up w a guy who claims works all time ,but yet was spending time doing other things. And couldn't and wouldn't find time for me and I told him if you can't find time for me no need to be together, of course I was verbally abused cause I broke up w him..already putting myself in a better place. This been coming for yrs..not worring about finding someone else
Nicely said! Now I don't pursue the guy. I am learning to say my kind of man is a man that puts EFFORT towards getting me. I am a woman I don't pursue even in the privacy of my own place I don't obess about a man. I go with flow n live my life
Excellent, excellent advice! Thank you Brian! (Or Geert ;-) ). Sure wish I had known this before. Could've saved so much valuable time (and health!) obsessing over people who are not worth losing the time for. I made an effort to stop obsessing about anyone during summer 2021 and boy what a difference. Started focusing on my life and what I want to do and achieve and experience and what's healthy for me. Each guy I dated I was completely relaxed about and just saw it as a new opportunity and to enjoy life and have fun. While holding my boundaries in place and being elegantly clear about it. Dating became so much easier and fun! For nearly 5 months I have a great guy with me now and we have a wonderful time together. Respecting each other's life's and space in it. Sharing and communicating. I am 50 and I never thought a relationship could be so easy and fluent. So grateful!
I was manipulated by the worst and that made me hate (not the only thing that happened but def the worst) dating sites and apps. I also hate dating. And many men are not right in the head.
This issue has troubled me in the past -- it's a trauma response. So I appreciate your creating this video, and ALL of your videos, Brian! Thank you so much for all you do!
It is very hard not to obsess, when you are searching FOR YEARS for someone suitable & when you finally find HIM, he leaves you. Statistically speaking, it might take me ANOTHER FEW YEARS to find someone like him, so yea...not so much fish in the sea :(((
@@Polarisld33 time does it's thing, I feel much better now...tommorow exactly 2 months of breakup & NC. I do not cry anymore... I still plan to break no contact soon, to see if there is a chance... if not, then I will really move on, I will be able to do so, as I am in a much better state now
Excellent, demonstration of what I've done several times, which I won't be doing any longer. Makes sense to me the way this is explained. This information is very calming and offers me much peace. Also, I believe I won't freeze if I see someone I like or fear looking at him straight on. This knowledge will give me caution to not get infatuated or question myself so much. Very good delivery and something switched in my brain getting me on the right track.
I haven’t found that to be true. That was the person I was for 29 years of my marriage only to discover that my husband was taking me for granted and decided that I didn’t love him anymore and so he cheated! Then, I found out and confronted him. For the last 5 years I’ve been obsessing over our marriage, him and his slow progress in repairing and restoring our relationship. Sadly, he’s not showing the growth I need to see to continue with him. But I’m still obsessing over the 34 years of my life and marriage that I’m losing. So, maybe your scenario is only good for short term relationships or the dating scene but not for the “long haul”.
Bless your heart. I have always "gone with the flow" re men . As a result l ( despite not being a great beauty) have many men who wish to know me better . Yes girls wise words in this video. Follow it -- it really works !!
That was GGgRreat!!! Perhaps that obsessing needs to be a sigb that we already see the potential good & bad immediately! And is a red flag! Dont expect much ! And stay present!
Dear Brian, I am so happy youtube has recommended me your video. Your advices are extremely useful and after watching this video my anxiety has washed away. Especially after this phrase "you might think that you will not find anyone else, but there are 8 billion ppl on Earth". I fell in love with a guy who lives in another country. He is very nice, gentle and educated. But I was pushing him so hard, begging for his attention... out of scarcity and fear to loose him. I really like him. The most important thing for me is that he is doing well. With or without me. I really feel it. Of course, I want to be with him, but if he does not want the same thing... I will respect it. I hope he will give me some clarity. Wish you a great day!
Ty God for giving him wisdom because now I am convinced to my self im judt being myself im going with the flow with our friendship I thought I was. Tnx God he use you as an instrument. Ty so much.
Thank you for helping me “ Save Face” with myself. I noticed that recently I was feeling out of sorts and couldn’t figure what the heck my problem was; now I know and you’re absolutely correct. I also got some similar advice from you as I have given to someone a few months ago but I must’ve forgotten it. Thank you for your gentle reminder. Now I can “ prep talk “ myself and write myself a note that should I forget, I can find the note that I leave for myself that reminds me that it’s o.k. to not obsess or over think about him. Thank you. 👍👍✨ 🦋 8:08
Thanks very much for that video. I am/ was obsessing over a guy who one time said nice things to me. Then I was constantly overthinking. It started to get exhausting tbh... And whenever I wanted to start a conversation with him, he would just say something to make me go. Before he showed that little piece of affection, I didn't care at all about him really. Thanks for making me realize that
I remember when I was a young girl, my classmates told me that a certain boy fancied me. As soon as I found out, I got so excited, I started obsessing about him and eagerly waiting for him to take things further, but because he was taking time and I was too impatient, I decided to act and to wrote him a nice letter. After that he was completely turned off. And when my classmates set up a meet-up for us, as we walked next to each other, he told me that ‘It’s a cat that should chase a mouse, not the other way round.’ My heart sank. That was an early lesson for me to just let men pursue you in their own time, if they wish so, and win you over. It works. That’s what men are biologically designed.
This is what I was doing when I saw this video. How the hell did youtube and you know? :) Just lying in my bed, drinking and wasting my holiday. Thank you for this video.
Thank you, needed to hear this again. Still struggling to forget someone who really wasn't good for me, but got under my skin. Just don't know where/how to meet all these "other amazing guys"? Where are they?
Hey! This video is really something I needed, like, I needed someone to tell me these things. Thank you so much for being the one to tell me these vitals. You are a great help.😊
What a great way to run business by making videos for women .. as they say, as long as u start a business with women in mind, it never faces a loss!! 🤣
I can honestly say, I’ve never obsess about a man. And I hate when they obsess about me. Those are the ones I ran away from 🤣🤣🤣. And at 50 I’ve been married for almost 20 years. Hubby says I don’t love Him, because I don’t obsess. Oh please. Ain’t got time for that. Just love and live and keep it moving.
This has popped up as I'm lying in bed obsessing and wishing I didn't
same. this is so strange. Just what we needed 😊
The same!!!
Same here.
Absolutely the same))) there are lots of us as I see😄 Lying in bed obsessing brought up here though)
Me too.... 😀
the moment a girl clicked on this video is a fact that she is currently obsessed with someone in a bad way which she hoped not to. i wish everyone of you can surpass this challenge ❤🍀
Thankyou❤
Thank you
Thank you :)
Dopamine is a rough ride, man! Whether you want it or not, whether you’re married or not, you can catch feelings and have thoughts because dopamine feels good…and we want more of what feels good. Some men make us feel fantastic and we want to be near them and other times I think as women, our desire to be loved and us seeing a man’s interest perks our hopes up. It can be very, very rough sometimes.
I was getting ready obsess over someone, who just ghosted me… But I stopped myself and said he does not deserve you and life is too short to waste time on someone who does not want you.
So now I am taking care of me and now I am ghosting him.😊
Love it
Wish that was me
When you're authentic and happy in your own life (not perfect, but happy) you will naturally never obsess over anyone. Prioritize being happy where you live (What do you need to live in a place that suits you? A better job? Qualifications? A side Hussle for extra cash? Sort these out first.) Hobbies, friends and keeping yourself fit and healthy. Romantic partners will fall into place once you're content in these other areas of your life first. TRUST ME.
This is a great reminder :)
This is not true, unfortunately.
@@Zuuzaankaaa It is actually.
Yup. Struggling with that.
Not everyone has the resources and accessibility to do that
This is so true!! I obsessed about a guy in 2020 who just stopped contact after I asked for a break as I was having a hard time. It absolutely broke me for a long time and did everything that you shouldn't, chasing him constantly and basing my worth on his opinion. I was mad!! Looking back he was never good enough in the first place but as I was feeling down on myself it got to me so bad I ended up seeing a psychologist. Now, a year on I am so happy with a wonderful man who makes me feel amazing. He loves me and he constantly shows it. I will NEVER obsess again as there is slways someone out there that will love you for who you are 💕
This was encouraging :) Thank you!
I would like to meet someone who likes my personality and who doesn't want to go to bed with me as soon as possible😩
@@EWAMILENAP I'm sure one day you will...you just have to trust it will happen x
@@EWAMILENAP Don't give up, that will happen : )
I hope you appreciate the efforts of a man who loves you, despite all that a sincere man needs the love and attention of his beloved🙏
The scarcity mindset....yes....that sabotages us everytime. Thanks for reminding us that on a very populated planet, scarcity is not an issue. Being treated badly is.
Some good points - however the tendency toward obsessive thinking is often not a choice. CPTSD is often the real cause of limerence. The brain is actually wired for intermittent connection as was modeled in a person's primary care relationships from childhood and those mixed messages are then mislabeled as love. The brains job is to solve things. So as a coping mechanism the person compartmentalizes the experiences and their brain relies on limerence to fill the void. Often fixating on the person or the relationship that hurts them the most and placing their person on a pedestal in order to reconcile their attachment and feelings for them. Love is not surviving someone. Obsessive thinking involved in limerence has also been associated with low levels of serotonin and elevated levels of dopamine and norepinephrine - which is quite common in persons who have adrenal exhaustion from the trauma they survived.
I needed to read your comment. "Love is not surviving someone" Hit home. When it's your caregivers who have shaped your definition of love. Certainly influences the choice in the wrong partner, hence the constant over thinking, to solve whats not right, yet feels like love. Mindbending stuff.
Okay can you tell me what books your reading cause this insight though😍😍
"Adrenal exhaustion." Interesting.
Amazing insight
This feels right and eye-opening to me. I guess you work or studied in the field... Thank you
Needed this did the worse mistake by running back to an asshole who will never value/ respect me and I’m still there asking for his attention the more I do it the more he takes advantage
I'm obsessed with a relationship that doesn't exist
Oh my God it's like I'm having a personal counselling session everything I need to hear.
We don't obsess and overthink when everything is great and awesome.
Thanks Brian Nox for sharing all your knowledge. You are so brilliant and kind. 🙏🏻🐦
i hate that i start to obsess someone who gives me the slightest bit of attention. i end up hurting myself in the end. but for some reason i can't let go. i still a think about him everyday and romanticize
Ditto
That's called Limerance
I think it’s better to genuinely not care instead of pretending to not care. After everything that’s happened not caring has come so naturally to me.
This almost made me cry. It’s a solid reminder on what I am and who I am currently and how I can slowly shift focus and love myself more and see my self-worth.
I needed this message more than you know. I have obsessed over the last guy I dated after my divorce. It is just so hard at my age because I hate being alone
I hate being alone too. There are so many liars outhe there
You are so right! I often find myself thinking that I’ll never like someone as much as I like him. But I will, one day
You are so funny. You said, “I'm sure even your dog and cat know that he is not the right person for you.” 😂
I almost spit out my coke when he said that cuz it’s so true omg
I think I need to rewatch this a couple more times lol. Hit the nail on the head.
Thank you for such a timely reminder!
It is lighthearted, funny, easy to listen to yet something I really really need. Obsession is not healthy and certainly limiting to the capacity to self love. Thank you !
I need to learn to go with the flow whenever I meet a man. But this time he was upfront & said he has a lot on his plate & we should just be friends. I want to get to know him better but he doesn’t feel the same. I should not ever find happiness by wanting a relationship & the man doesn’t initiate or chase
Obsessing too but really trying not too
He’s definitely not worth it. This has helped .THANK YOU
It's different when older. The chances of love coming by again are slim to none. Obsessive thinking mixed with hurt feelings, is overwhelming
I feel the same way. Dating in my 50s, decent prospects are few and far between. I wish finding a good relationship wasn’t so damn difficult.
@@LW-wg4ny I'm 45 and already worried about this!
@@SteveWKk I’m trying not to think this way because it’s a lack mindset. People do meet and remarry in middle age. I just need to be patient and be hopeful someone good will come along.
Matthew huffy: hope and anxiety v. grief and Healing
Prayer ladies
Every word makes so much sense. Been crying and obsessing for a week over my ex guy. Ah! It's time to let him go. Thank you Brian 💖
Thank you! I needed to hear this today. I was in that mindset not long ago. I was over thinking, obsessing over my recent break up and said I can’t do this anymore. It’s getting better and now I am thinking about myself and said to myself, he isn’t chasing me or trying to look for me in any kind of way. I deserve so much better then this and there is someone out there that is for me. Just not rushing in with anyone and take it day by day.
Perfect video. As a professional over thinker, I really value this advice. Thank you!
When obsessed and missing my crush and his attention, Such videos fill me with positive energy. And energy of this guy is also v positive. Thanks.
My God! I never thought a video about relationship would resonate so much with me.
"...because if it does, well then it does." THANK you for so much clarity and sobriety. Sometimes you just need an honest outside view ... also feels good to be reminded that they are not the last person on this earth (u don't feel this when ruminating, of course )
Dear Brian,
I am so thrilled I am finally on youtube shortly after you posted and there are not too many comments yet, so I will make use of this chance to tell you the most sincere Thank You ❤
I've been following you since my worst breakup ever in the second half of 2020. I did indeed put that person on a pedestal while he was dismissive and avoidant, which made me obsess more. (Funny how I happen to comment on a video exactly on this topic!)
I never really had self-esteem due to the parenting style my parents went with, and I internalised that I am not loveable, no one would want me, and that I would most probably have to sacrifice everything for the martyr who would decide to stay with me. You made such a difference in my life, I am getting emotional even thinking about it. You made me realise that I matter, that I deserve the kind of love I give, that I should stop remolding myself to fit others' boxes. That the kind of love I aspired to have is actually real, and I just need to set the bar high enough so I get someone on my level. You gave me so much confidence, I cannot even begin to explain it all. So, in hopes you ever get to read this, dankje ❤ You do nothing less than angelic work and I hope you never stop to inspire and empower others, but as well I wish you never stop to be inspired and empowered yourself! I wish you all the best and can't wait to see you in future videos! ❤
Thank you also for your comment 😊
Ok. This helps. But we were at the beginning of a new long distance relationship. And it was great. He was great. But he had to take a job, even further away (it was in the works but uncertain prior to our meeting). So, now he’s transitioning and we had a conversation and agreement about taking some time and reconnecting once he’s settled (about a month) into his own place. And seeing if we both still want to do this from afar. Very respectful. It’s me! I’m the problem. I go into fear and lose myself. And then when we do connect-I feel needy. And I don’t want to be. So-thank you for this.
Brian Thank you for this message💛💛. Obsession is just an illusion. I realize I had a scarcity mindset.
"Why am I not as important as a iPhone?!" 😂😂😂 this made me laugh. Great video Brian. I also loved your book She Comes First.
this go also for people obsessing over a woman, very useful video! Thank you Brian
thanks , we know that’s wrong , some times our ego wants win something that it’s not even convenient for us .. you are very clear , we destroy our dignity obsessing
I will tell you what i found up that help. Dont let the feeling control you in life. I mean in food, dont be lazy, do sport and others... it make your brain be stronger than feelings and than the feelings will be less and less harder. You make your mind be strong and feelings be wick by the daily tasks!! Good luck for all of us!!!
Definitely need this, just in time
I broke up w a guy who claims works all time ,but yet was spending time doing other things. And couldn't and wouldn't find time for me and I told him if you can't find time for me no need to be together, of course I was verbally abused cause I broke up w him..already putting myself in a better place. This been coming for yrs..not worring about finding someone else
Nicely said! Now I don't pursue the guy. I am learning to say my kind of man is a man that puts EFFORT towards getting me. I am a woman I don't pursue even in the privacy of my own place I don't obess about a man. I go with flow n live my life
I really needed this today ... only if it was not easier said than done ...I will summon all my strength to get over this!
Excellent, excellent advice! Thank you Brian! (Or Geert ;-) ).
Sure wish I had known this before. Could've saved so much valuable time (and health!) obsessing over people who are not worth losing the time for.
I made an effort to stop obsessing about anyone during summer 2021 and boy what a difference. Started focusing on my life and what I want to do and achieve and experience and what's healthy for me. Each guy I dated I was completely relaxed about and just saw it as a new opportunity and to enjoy life and have fun. While holding my boundaries in place and being elegantly clear about it.
Dating became so much easier and fun!
For nearly 5 months I have a great guy with me now and we have a wonderful time together. Respecting each other's life's and space in it. Sharing and communicating. I am 50 and I never thought a relationship could be so easy and fluent. So grateful!
I was manipulated by the worst and that made me hate (not the only thing that happened but def the worst) dating sites and apps. I also hate dating. And many men are not right in the head.
I really needed to hear this. It was on my recommended, I think YT knew I needed it today.
I smile every time you end your videos with, and there you go. It sounds cute and comforting. Thank you.
" I don't know who has invested this mechanism" this made me cry 😭😭😭.Your knowledge is so valuable, your advices are just bomb 🔥🔥🔥. Thanks 👍👍👌👌
Thank you for this clip. Struggling to divert my course of thinking right now
I wish I was able to time leap and watch this in 2017. It could've saved me from therapies. Either way, thanks for all this wisdom.
This is exactly what I needed to hear! Thanks for snapping me back to reality. This helps a lot:)
This issue has troubled me in the past -- it's a trauma response. So I appreciate your creating this video, and ALL of your videos, Brian! Thank you so much for all you do!
I feel called out. Thank you for this video!!!
It is very hard not to obsess, when you are searching FOR YEARS for someone suitable & when you finally find HIM, he leaves you. Statistically speaking, it might take me ANOTHER FEW YEARS to find someone like him, so yea...not so much fish in the sea :(((
You never know, girl it will come to you
Let him find you. You don't go find him. Be in place you good.
We share the same hurt and defeat. Just know you're not alone and it's ok to be ok with being single.
@@traceybunche4927 no one finds me...it just doesn't work like that :(
@@Polarisld33 time does it's thing, I feel much better now...tommorow exactly 2 months of breakup & NC. I do not cry anymore... I still plan to break no contact soon, to see if there is a chance... if not, then I will really move on, I will be able to do so, as I am in a much better state now
Excellent, demonstration of what I've done several times, which I won't be doing any longer. Makes sense to me the way this is explained. This information is very calming and offers me much peace. Also, I believe I won't freeze if I see someone I like or fear looking at him straight on. This knowledge will give me caution to not get infatuated or question myself so much. Very good delivery and something switched in my brain getting me on the right track.
Your advices are always great ! You deserve that we stay until the end !! Thank you for being here helping us !
It’s so hard not to obsess though!!
Thank you Brian. Definitely something I am struggling with right now. Loved the message and the practical tips to overcome.
Brian not only Brilliant but has a great sense of humor 😁,he is a real gem!
Thank you so much. This hit me at exactly the perfect time. I can not tell you how much this has helped me. Thank you.
This popped up after I texted the guy in obsessing about, two times after he seenzoned me. Damn!!
If only my heart wld accept this!! My brain is like, "see. This is what I'm saying!!"
Will listen to that every day till i got it !
Thanks
Lol I think this video just saved my mental health. Love how much love I feel from this
I haven’t found that to be true. That was the person I was for 29 years of my marriage only to discover that my husband was taking me for granted and decided that I didn’t love him anymore and so he cheated! Then, I found out and confronted him. For the last 5 years I’ve been obsessing over our marriage, him and his slow progress in repairing and restoring our relationship. Sadly, he’s not showing the growth I need to see to continue with him. But I’m still obsessing over the 34 years of my life and marriage that I’m losing.
So, maybe your scenario is only good for short term relationships or the dating scene but not for the “long haul”.
Another outstanding message. Clear, relatable, great analogies, and, best of all, actionable. Thanks!
Bless your heart.
I have always "gone with the flow" re men .
As a result l ( despite not being a great beauty) have many men who wish to know me better .
Yes girls wise words in this video.
Follow it -- it really works !!
That was GGgRreat!!! Perhaps that obsessing needs to be a sigb that we already see the potential good & bad immediately! And is a red flag! Dont expect much ! And stay present!
Thank you for this video, it was really helpful Brian
Have you ever made a video on how to enjoy solitude? If you haven't please make one.
Thank you so much, I really needed to see this today 🙏🏻 sending everyone all my love ❤️ we've got this!! 💪🏼
Dear Brian,
I am so happy youtube has recommended me your video. Your advices are extremely useful and after watching this video my anxiety has washed away. Especially after this phrase "you might think that you will not find anyone else, but there are 8 billion ppl on Earth". I fell in love with a guy who lives in another country. He is very nice, gentle and educated. But I was pushing him so hard, begging for his attention... out of scarcity and fear to loose him. I really like him. The most important thing for me is that he is doing well. With or without me. I really feel it. Of course, I want to be with him, but if he does not want the same thing... I will respect it. I hope he will give me some clarity.
Wish you a great day!
I like your accent, your perspective, and your advice. It really resonates with me. Thank you!
Brian, This is literally the best video on this topic. Thank you so much! This helped me instantly regain my power.
Ty God for giving him wisdom because now I am convinced to my self im judt being myself im going with the flow with our friendship I thought I was. Tnx God he use you as an instrument. Ty so much.
Thank you for helping me “ Save Face” with myself. I noticed that recently I was feeling out of sorts and couldn’t figure what the heck my problem was; now I know and you’re absolutely correct. I also got some similar advice from you as I have given to someone a few months ago but I must’ve forgotten it. Thank you for your gentle reminder. Now I can “ prep talk “ myself and write myself a note that should I forget, I can find the note that I leave for myself that reminds me that it’s o.k. to not obsess or over think about him. Thank you. 👍👍✨ 🦋 8:08
Perfect timing…!
Just what I needed…
Just now…
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Needed to hear this today, thanks for the reminder.
Watched this as a man and it's true for us aswel.
Thanks very much for that video. I am/ was obsessing over a guy who one time said nice things to me. Then I was constantly overthinking. It started to get exhausting tbh... And whenever I wanted to start a conversation with him, he would just say something to make me go. Before he showed that little piece of affection, I didn't care at all about him really. Thanks for making me realize that
This resonated with me so much, I kept questioning was it just my ego & the temporary loss of affection...YES it was
Brian- this is one of your best videos. Really helpful & great writing, delivery & very helpful❤
I needed to hear it. Man to man.
I remember when I was a young girl, my classmates told me that a certain boy fancied me. As soon as I found out, I got so excited, I started obsessing about him and eagerly waiting for him to take things further, but because he was taking time and I was too impatient, I decided to act and to wrote him a nice letter. After that he was completely turned off. And when my classmates set up a meet-up for us, as we walked next to each other, he told me that ‘It’s a cat that should chase a mouse, not the other way round.’ My heart sank. That was an early lesson for me to just let men pursue you in their own time, if they wish so, and win you over. It works. That’s what men are biologically designed.
This video came on my timeline and somehow it got to you describing exactly what I am going through right now. Thank you for giving me some clarity
thank you Brian. This is wholesome things I’ve heard all day. Hoping I find myself peace with this heartache. This is such an ease for me. God bless x
Thank you 😊 you make so much sense. I'm trying to get off of that. Pieces of my life are making sense now.
This is what I was doing when I saw this video. How the hell did youtube and you know? :) Just lying in my bed, drinking and wasting my holiday. Thank you for this video.
UA-cam knows you better than your mom😉
This is exactly what I wanted to hear, amazing pointers!
Yo thank you So much Brian you are the BEST!! Freedom for my Soul!!!✨🦋✨💫🙌❤️🤗🤗 Thank you for helping me remember my true self!!!❤️❤️❤️
I really needed to hear this now because of my current situation. Thanks Brian, love your videos!
Thank you, needed to hear this again. Still struggling to forget someone who really wasn't good for me, but got under my skin. Just don't know where/how to meet all these "other amazing guys"? Where are they?
I watch so many dating advice channel but your advice really works thanks for helping us 🙌🏻💖
Hey! This video is really something I needed, like, I needed someone to tell me these things. Thank you so much for being the one to tell me these vitals. You are a great help.😊
I had to see this I overthink everything I will definitely try and stop
Wow 🤩 you are better than a therapist 😳😳😳😳😮😮😮
Just the words I needed to hear..thank you so much ☺
U have no idea how much i need this video! Thaaaaanks!
What a great way to run business by making videos for women .. as they say, as long as u start a business with women in mind, it never faces a loss!! 🤣
Thanks so much Brian . Wish I could have listened to you Twenty Years ago . 😁
I needed this thank u
Brian is so funny and has great advice!
I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much for posting this video.
I can honestly say, I’ve never obsess about a man. And I hate when they obsess about me. Those are the ones I ran away from 🤣🤣🤣. And at 50 I’ve been married for almost 20 years. Hubby says I don’t love
Him, because I don’t obsess. Oh please. Ain’t got time for that. Just love and live and keep it moving.