Same rules are in Finland with the addition "no small talk". If you say "how are you doing" we answer by telling how we are doing. The queue cutting rule actually comes from the first rule, you are no special and queues are always equal. Also it means that service you are getting should be same no matter who you are, which means you do NOT tip. I love that first rule, you can be rich as f and still have to behave just like everyone else. It should not be a virtue of acting like a douche just because one can afford to do so.
Just be Yourself. Be natural. You are allowed to complain or even explode. Or to comment how weird it is that Greeks expect You to do the small talk. Greeks socialize intensely and even fierce arguments are quickly forgiven. But two rules are sacred: 1. Never, ever mess up with someone's sister. Especially in the presence of her brother or male cousin. 2. Never comment on treatment of boys and girls by ther mothers. Boys are always treated like kings of life. That's just the way they are raised to be masculine. Any comments about it being sexist behaviour provokes fierece reaction both from kids mother, her husband and her son too. As for freedom of expression- You are allowed to simply be Yourself, as natural and as messy as You can be. And if You wanna make freinds with males I'm afraid it will take drinking some Uzo with them. As for woman- just let them cook for You and compliment the food. Social eating is sacred in Greece, this part of socializing works a bit like in France.
*femmeNikita27* Oh how I will LOVE to criticize why boys are treated like they rule the world..oh wait I am :-) They are treated like "kings" (a big lie) to get "masculine", ha ha really...? Maybe men from Greece are so weak, unmasculine and "mamas boys" so they´ll need it? Maybe parents of Greek boys doesn´t believe their small, fragile sons got XY cromosomes already, made by nature? They don´t need any coddling to be men... Otherwise Greece is a wonderful place! But I feel sad for girls when they grow up, hate it when parents favourising one kid, or neglicting the others.. Then you are an unfit parent..
Haha I know, it's so stupid. But you will get the look if you take it. Unless somebody offers it to you and you turn it down twice. After the third time they ask you are free to take ^^
Same unwritten rules goes here in Finland plus here is 10 more: 11) Take off your shoes when you step into someones private home. Never break this rule even if out of politeness you are advised to 12) Don't just go to someones door if you haven't called earlier to tell that you are coming for a visit, no matter how good friends you are 13) If you make a promise, keep it. As simple as that 14) If you go to elevator and it is half full, after stepping in, turn around so that you are facing the elevator door 15) If one person in group doesn't speak Finnish then everybody speaks English 16) If person is on their vacation, don't call and disturb them no matter what 17) Don't jaywalk. But if you do, feel criminal and try to see if there's any police around 18a) When visiting someone, don't take the last piece of sweets/food placed on the table for you to freely take. If you do, it means that there was not plenty enough food 18b) On the other hand, eat all the food that you take and don't leave any food on your plate. If you do, it means you couldn't eat it since it was so horrible 18c) If someone brings a big birthday cake or similar, don't panic. You are not supposed to finish it all at one sitting. People will eat it on the following day too (rule 18a applies here) 19) Don't small talk if you are not really interested to hear. If you ask a Finnish person how are them, expect to hear anything from health problems to bad relationships, whatever is going on their life at that moment 20) Don't buy rounds at the bar. Or if you do, be prepared that your Finnish friends will not return the favor next time, they just wonder how friendly and probably wealthy you are
It's really simular here as you said, we are "neighborn countrys" So I guess thats why. We have even been "stuck" together for a long time ago. (like the countries was one lol) That sounds so wrong but I guess you know what I mean lmao
OMG, I am Swedish-American and just laughed at this because I have been observing those rules and didn't even know it. Of course being 100% and growing up in a Swedish home here in America probably had something to do with it.
I live in Latvia and all these rules are comparable to my country too.. :) and yesss... DON'T WEAR OUTDOOR SHOES AT HOME, we use home slippers or just socks :)
All the rules also apply for Japan, except the hugs - no hugs EVER in Japan! I heard that you people from Scandinavian countries also take off your shoes before getting into home just like in Japan, is that true?
+Fabi 0681 Yes, we do take off our shoes - but we take them off inside, in the hallway :) It wouldn't be fun to take your shoes off outside someone's home when it's -15c and snow :D
In the summer, if it's dry outside and you have to go into the house to get something, like say you have a barbecue outside, then you generally don't bother constantly taking off and putting on the shoes, and your guests won't either for the most part. Then it's really up to how dirty you think the shoes are. But when you visit someone, then you generally take off your shoes yes. Especially in the winter.
Yeah its true. Mostly because at the winter (and other seasons to) Its to dirty outside and we dont want to have it inside our homes. But also because its kind for the owner and for yourself (If you are at home, I mean) so you dont need to clean up! I found it intresting that such a big "everyday" thing can be simular in countries that are pretty far away from each other..
Always take off your shoes when inside someones home. Also if public transportation are half full try to not sit next to others but in rush hour you can sit next to others without getting frowned upon
Bullcrap!. Here's the real list. 1. Never ever speak to anyone you don't know. 2. Always talk shit about everyone else as soon as the person leave the room. 3. Yell, scream, pick fights as soon as you had at least 2 beers. 4. If you can't find 2 empty seats next to eachother on the public transportation, keep standing. 5. Live a secluded, isolated unsocial life and complain about it everyday on social media. 5. die lonely and regret everything you've done in life.
I'm from Minnesota.Noweigian decent.All of this makes sense but around here everybody always looks you in the eyes.Somebody that don't look you in the eyes is weird or up to something no good.
Thordan. I agree with that if you don't look the person in the eye than you are considered weird and definitely up to no good.What if I like a certain girl?And I want to talk to her.What should I look at if not her eyes???Parts of her body,my shoes????Yeah that's definitely going to make me look normal😂😂😂👍👍👍
@@branislavpetriska882 if you’re talking to her, than it’s okay to look her in the eyes. The rule only applies for strangers on the bus or street. Oh, and no one behaves normal if you have a crush on someone.
I know this is an old video, but I disagree with: #2, Keep Your Distance. When standing in line at the grocery store, or queing to pay for something, everyone stands extremely close to each other. No one respects personal space. You can't back up or advance to create this space because then you would be physically touching someone else (they are that close). #4: Don't Not look People in the Eye when in Public Places. Maybe on public transportation, or in the bigger cities this applies, but everywhere else, everyone stares. And they don't speak, just stare. Up, down, all over the body, but they will not say anything!
Yes! These 'rules' are pretty biased and does of course not apply to everyone :) They were taken from my point of view (being a a resident of Stockholm and all)
In my opinion those two roles are actually correct where i live, about #2 the thing about keeping distant ofc doesn't apply to queues or when you're in a store, but normally when you don't have to be close to someone you shouldn't as it can be uncomfortable, and #4 You don't look people in the eye, like EVERYONE looks at everyone but you don't make eye contact and hold it for more then half a second before looking away. So if you "stare" someone in the eye you are a creep. :P
Nackagubben my question is... say you see a cute guy at the bus that you haven't met before, if you can't make eye contact how would you flirt with them with the hope of going on a date with them? 😂😂 you need to make a video about developing romantic relationships!!
Sweden is an incredible passive aggressive country. Very emotionally repressed, nobody can be themselves, when the group sees someone doesn't conform with the group that person gets isolated. It is amazing how a country like sweden can have that marketing as a progressive place when their people behave very much the opposite way.
Det värsta jag vet är när människor tränger sig in i tågen innan man ens hunnit ta sig ut.. OCH när någon försöker tränga sig före i kö.. Woop vad arg jag blir 😂 Då säger jag alltid till Hahaha
Fantastic! I wish people in all countries followed those. I would add: "NEVER, EVER make other people listen to the kind of music you like, when on public places, transportation, etc.". In some countries, people use their phones or even bring their stereos and everybody has to listen to their music and noise.
That's cool. In my country (Brasil) the people generally try to incentive other to be extroverts, so... If someone is introvert, hes weirdo. I would like to know if in the Sweden is the opposite. Where being extrovert is not the rule and if it is repressed.
+Rafael Gumieri it is pretty much the same here I would say. But it is nowhere close to be like how it is in the US of A. You can be introvert, but people would just assume that you are a boring person.
Maybe there's a difference what is considered introvert, I guess. The people here just "make friends" too easily, as easily "unmake". So they easily talk with strangers as closed ones but would forget or ignore quickly... I don't know... But these unwritten rules would be considered wrongs here (I'm not saying me).
+Rafael Gumieri Oh I understand. Well out in the public you can definitely be relatively anonymous in Sweden. Even our biggest celebrities can catch the subway and most people would refrain from disturbing/staring/asking for autograph etc.
Well, this is neither. It's more Political corectness and demonstartion of feminism in public sphere taken to the extreme. I'm an introvert and I didn't feel especially comofortable in this culture. Although I did like it somewhat to me it gave a sense of imposeing too much of alienation on people and simply preventing people from being spontanieous. To me Brazil, Spain, Iatly are about spontaneity, joy of life and in Sweden it was really missing.
Nice video, those rules are kinda common in a lot of country but some people don't know what the respect and the politeness mean. I went to Sweden during 1 day and I was really surprised by the calm and tranquility in this country. I love Scandinavians Countries ❤️
Pretty much the same here in Seattle. Maybe because there is a long history of Scandinavians settling here.....well not so much recently, but in the late 1800's. There's a big Nordic Heritage Festival here every year. My mom's family was Swedish!
Västergötland. They were farmers on some big estate and moved to Brooklyn for a short while, then Minnesota and finally in 1883 bought a farm about an hour north of Seattle where I now live. The house and land are still there!
Almost all of these unwritten rules apply to any civilised country, idk why swedes seem to think that this is soecific to us. This is just all about being polite which is pretty basic knowledge
I am Swedish but l used to live in Switzerland. It is true that the two countries have a lot in common in terms of social etiquette. There are, however, differences. The Swiss are even stricter than Swedes about being quiet in public. Or even in your apartment, for that matter, since you don't want to bother the neighbors. To a Scandinavian it sounds outlandish that you cannot have a children's birthday party or mow the lawn on a Sunday. Another major difference is that Swiss people very frequently say hello to strangers on the street and often make eye contact while doing so. Although I knew that this is only because they are being friendly, it drove me absolutely nuts to have to make eye contact and say hi to people who walked past me. If I was in a bad mood I sometimes dreaded going out, since I would have to say hi to people I didn't know. On numerous occasions, I also had strangers in Switzerland start random conversations with me on the elevator. This absolutely terrified me and I did everything in my power to only use elevators when nobody else was there. And lastly, people in Switzerland are much more likely to respond positively to small talk. By that I mean people you meet in certain places such as the doctor's office or while waiting for the car to be serviced. I never once met a Swiss person who did not enjoy a chat. I much prefer this to what we do here in Sweden. Swedish people almost never respond positively to a stranger who starts small talk. They will assume you are weird and ignore you. Obviously there are exceptions for everything.
I have to disagree with two things. The "not looking in the eye in public places" is more of a thing in Stockholm and maybe other big cities. When I went there the first time I got chocked people never looked at you. I'm from a smaller town and and we look at each other. If I'm in the area near my home we also often smile and nod or say "hej". And I do only hug people I know and they seem to do the same. So not after the first time you meet but after you feel like you know each other. But there's no right and wrong here, just how you feel.
I'd argue that all the things you said are of basic common courtesy (maybe hot the hugging one) but I love the fact that Sweden actually enforces and applies them.
I love your beautiful country and wise people. Been learning the language for a year, it still sucks, but I'm finally gonna visit Stockholm in 2 weeks so I hope to get some practice :) Varma hälsningar från Polen!
That's not so old and is a polite thing to do. It makes it all faster at the cashier. :) But unfortunately not everyone does. A polite thing to do is also to put your goods in a nice row and not make huge piles. Every time someone is piling up thibngs it makes everything slower.
Yep, Danes don't like bragging about anything either, but we are a proud people who values honesty and tells you what we think, even if you don't wanna hear it. ;)
first video i saw from your channel. i have an extremely good impression. ill watch the rest. ive been in sweden for 3 days in 2012. i liked stockholm, but that was not enough time to KNOW the people and the city.
Actually I look people in the eye when conversing or just passing by them - it makes easy to read their face and I smile as much as possible, it works - instant friends - sometimes...
Hey! Just found out your channel and I'm really enjoying it, I love to meet new cultures. I'm brazilian and I've recently created an english speaking channel, i'm thinking about sharing a little about Brazil as well! Keep on with the videos 😊
For me, I don't wait for everyone to leave the bus, because there's a door at the front of the bus and it's used to enter the bus while there are one or two doors used for those who wants to step out of the bus. But waiting for everyone to leave a train is a thing that everyone do, including me.
Hey there. Altough it has nothing to do with this vlog, i am wondering if you could lend a hand. I'm about to go up north (Sweden) from my point of view (the Netherlands), partly to get out on a vacation, partly to find myself a way to get to live there in time. Do you have any suggestions/advise for me where i should start out finding the basic needs (like a job e.d.)? I'd greatly apreciate the help. Sencerly, Sebastian
+Sebastiaan van Schaik Hi Sebastian! It depends on what you intend to work with. All the major cities, Stockholm, Göteborg, Malmö are great for finding work, but it can be difficult to find somewhere to live. Especially in Stockholm because there are so many people moving here every day. In general, I think you should be persitent in learning the language! People generally speak perfect English so it could be difficult, but if people respond in English, keep speaking Swedish. That will give you an advantage with working here :)
Thx, both for replying as wel in such short notice. Wel, I plan to live outdoors, eventually. Like as that family in Alaska, Browntown it's called (Discovery). I had a simulair concept in mind, Greenville, not knowing mine isn't origional. The job, wel.. For starts, i don't mind any kind of work. But eventually i wanna work with flora & fauna. And yeah, i've heard a lot of people say that whenever one found out you're not from around one wil start talking english. So that indeed wil be a extra challange to master the language. But i can be strongminded, so... Likely that wil be not to hard to overcome.
Y'all remember that sponge bob episode where squidward moves to a squid town or some shit where everything's perfect? that's how I imagine Sweden is lmao
Maybe. But i guess it's for european-culture countries. =) We're just heading to it, that's why people can stare at ya in urban transport and sometimes cut the line (often the old people) (i hate it as much as you do).
And of course, in Finland too. Smiling is about halfway between the two neighbors, we don't like if you smile too much without a reason but friendly face is always a joy. And of course: absolutely no small talk, either you have something to say or you stay shut.
I really liked this video. Very useful and veryyyyy funny. I watch lots of videos on youtube and many of them are cool and I forget to press the like button but this one was great.
Hi Carl. Its because about 150k swedes moved to Minnesota from about 1860 and established the same living rules as in Sweden. The behavior called by others MN- Minnesota Nice.
Talking quietly on the phone is the rule which would be very nesesary in Poland... Unfortunately, I always have problems when I want to read a book in a subway... However, it's a very nice video. Greetings from Poland :)
Det er meget præcis beskrivelse af tingenes tilstand i Danmark også! PRIVATLIV er NUMMER 1 på alle dagsorden når man bevæger sig rundt i det offentlige rum og man skal ikke kigge/tale/snakke med nogen. Det er farligt! Men sjov video, hvor jeg kunne genkende alle disse ting fra mit eget hverdagsliv :D
If you are going to make a video in China, count me in! XD Im also interested in learning langauges and culture, I have learnt a bit Norsk and Svenska before haha, and now learning Dutch, I need to get those langauge package installed in my head before I go into my 30s . Currently, a teacher teach Chinese as a foreign language to expats in a city called Nanjing. If you are interested in learning Chinese just let me know, free resources to share. 😉
Oh cool! Thank you so much for the offer! :D I tried to learn a few Chinese words from my colleagues, but they kept saying my pronunciation was so off that they could not understand what I was trying to say haha. Slightly discouraging unfortunately! Personally I really dislike it when people refuse to understand or even help out when trying a different language. The times people have attempted Swedish with me I find that it's always possible to somehow get what they want to express even though it might not be exactly what they are saying by picking out certain words etc. I remember when I told a German colleague a few years back that I wanted to learn more German and got the response "why would you want that?". I would be thrilled if someone I knew wanted to learn my language!
I agree! If someone is interested in my language and culture I would be so damn happy, and I would always love to share. It is very important to have a little bit patience and respect when we are having intercultural communication. like I have 6 students, they come from 5 different countries, across 3 continents! I seldom give them pressure or discourage them during learning, I prefer to use more interactive, sharing, so it is beyond teaching and learning it is the equal way of learning from each other, and the best part is-I get paid and I learnt new culture and customs haha. I am so glad, we all like each other so much and enjoy the learning hours weekly. It is really nice to connect people with different cultural background and living experiences! Human brain is magic enough to make you learn most of the languages if you would love to spend the time on it learning like a young baby.
Oh! After I've seen this video and comment, and I think Scandinavian culture people can live in East Asia very well,like China,Korea,Japan,Taiwan and Hong Kong,especially Janpan. By the way, the hug rule is not work in East Asia, and before u doing anything to other people, u should ask politely and friendly.
My dear friend in Lidingo did not tell me "Don't wear tennis shoes if you are over 18." I arrived at Arlanda with no real shoes, and spent a week getting identified as an American everywhere I went.
He forgot the 'tank you' rule. We always say thank you no matter what. For example when we buy something, the cashier say 'thank you' for getting the money and we we say 'thank you' when we get the stuff we just bought.
4 is semi correct. Moved from norrland to stockholm and this is really the case in stockholm. But not so much in my small hometown. So it applies to at least stockholm(ad faar as I know)
As a swede i do not know anyone that don’t have eye contact with all people at all times As you said, first meet handshake and after that always hug👍 applies to everyone😂 but sometimes we just say hi and do not do more🤔 The first rule though... you should not appear to think that you’re better than anyone else.. but you secretly think you are best in world!!😂
I hate when people sit next to me because it’s SO FLIPPING AWKWARD First time meeting: handshake and say name Second time: hug them ask how they are and say hey before that
Actually, in the nothern part of sweden we don´t hug people as they do in the south. When i went to university i had classmates from the southern parts of the country, and it was really awkward when they started hugging you all of a sudden for no appareant reason. Sooo...you probably shouldn´t do this since everyone might not be comfortable with it.
I am Swede af. But I am to damn lazy to stand up. So if i see a free seat. I will take it. Obviously i will look for a completely free seat, and if there's non, I will take the seat next to somebody.
Same rules are in Finland with the addition "no small talk". If you say "how are you doing" we answer by telling how we are doing.
The queue cutting rule actually comes from the first rule, you are no special and queues are always equal. Also it means that service you are getting should be same no matter who you are, which means you do NOT tip. I love that first rule, you can be rich as f and still have to behave just like everyone else. It should not be a virtue of acting like a douche just because one can afford to do so.
I hate small talk and its common in Greece and when people attempt to make small talk i seriously dont know how to respond :p
Just be Yourself. Be natural. You are allowed to complain or even explode. Or to comment how weird it is that Greeks expect You to do the small talk. Greeks socialize intensely and even fierce arguments are quickly forgiven. But two rules are sacred: 1. Never, ever mess up with someone's sister. Especially in the presence of her brother or male cousin. 2. Never comment on treatment of boys and girls by ther mothers. Boys are always treated like kings of life. That's just the way they are raised to be masculine. Any comments about it being sexist behaviour provokes fierece reaction both from kids mother, her husband and her son too. As for freedom of expression- You are allowed to simply be Yourself, as natural and as messy as You can be. And if You wanna make freinds with males I'm afraid it will take drinking some Uzo with them. As for woman- just let them cook for You and compliment the food. Social eating is sacred in Greece, this part of socializing works a bit like in France.
*femmeNikita27* Oh how I will LOVE to criticize why boys are treated like they rule the world..oh wait I am :-) They are treated like "kings" (a big lie) to get "masculine", ha ha really...? Maybe men from Greece are so weak, unmasculine and "mamas boys" so they´ll need it? Maybe parents of Greek boys doesn´t believe their small, fragile sons got XY cromosomes already, made by nature? They don´t need any coddling to be men... Otherwise Greece is a wonderful place! But I feel sad for girls when they grow up, hate it when parents favourising one kid, or neglicting the others.. Then you are an unfit parent..
Wait, Sweden does not tip for service jobs??
Jessica Sheskey No, we don’t. They are decent paid.
you forgot Never take the last piece of food!! Sooooo important
+Bianca Larsson Haha yess how could I forget! :D
that isnt just sweden
why wasted it , what's the point ?
Haha I know, it's so stupid. But you will get the look if you take it. Unless somebody offers it to you and you turn it down twice. After the third time they ask you are free to take ^^
Bianca Larsson What do you mean by last piece of food?
Same unwritten rules goes here in Finland plus here is 10 more:
11) Take off your shoes when you step into someones private home. Never break this rule even if out of politeness you are advised to
12) Don't just go to someones door if you haven't called earlier to tell that you are coming for a visit, no matter how good friends you are
13) If you make a promise, keep it. As simple as that
14) If you go to elevator and it is half full, after stepping in, turn around so that you are facing the elevator door
15) If one person in group doesn't speak Finnish then everybody speaks English
16) If person is on their vacation, don't call and disturb them no matter what
17) Don't jaywalk. But if you do, feel criminal and try to see if there's any police around
18a) When visiting someone, don't take the last piece of sweets/food placed on the table for you to freely take. If you do, it means that there was not plenty enough food
18b) On the other hand, eat all the food that you take and don't leave any food on your plate. If you do, it means you couldn't eat it since it was so horrible
18c) If someone brings a big birthday cake or similar, don't panic. You are not supposed to finish it all at one sitting. People will eat it on the following day too (rule 18a applies here)
19) Don't small talk if you are not really interested to hear. If you ask a Finnish person how are them, expect to hear anything from health problems to bad relationships, whatever is going on their life at that moment
20) Don't buy rounds at the bar. Or if you do, be prepared that your Finnish friends will not return the favor next time, they just wonder how friendly and probably wealthy you are
True! But the language should just be switched to match the country. Swedish for sweden etc.
Thank you for sharing these impressive rules , i appreciate it.
12 is not true. you can go to visit your friends without announcing.
17: it is ok to go when the light is red if there are no cars near.
It's really simular here as you said, we are "neighborn countrys" So I guess thats why. We have even been "stuck" together for a long time ago. (like the countries was one lol) That sounds so wrong but I guess you know what I mean lmao
I really wish more people practiced the rule of leaving before entering >.
its my biggest annoyance that my fellow passengers never do, or maybe goteborg is just rudest place in all scandinavia
This is definitely my kind of place lol
Well come on over :D
but not too close!
Might as well rename this to "10 Scandinavian unwritten rules"
ALL of these apply to norway as well.
+Amphibiot Yeah you're probably right. At least Norway and Sweden are very much alike!
Not the hugging one
Count us Finns in (perhaps not in terms of the hugging part, though).
@@Nackagubben Why would you hug someone that you've only met one time before
4 generations in U.S. same rules handed down.
No, those are general rules of being a decent human being...
OMG, I am Swedish-American and just laughed at this because I have been observing those rules and didn't even know it.
Of course being 100% and growing up in a Swedish home here in America probably had something to do with it.
I'm moving to Sweden in august for higher studies :D this helped a lot! thanks!
+QuirkyIndian Great to hear! Welcome :D
thank you so much :D
The rules were true but especially eye contact and public space
Gowrivation I live in Sweden
You are a woman. So they will give you high grades no matter what.
I live in Latvia and all these rules are comparable to my country too.. :) and yesss... DON'T WEAR OUTDOOR SHOES AT HOME, we use home slippers or just socks :)
then i think i am swedish :D
All the rules also apply for Japan, except the hugs - no hugs EVER in Japan! I heard that you people from Scandinavian countries also take off your shoes before getting into home just like in Japan, is that true?
+Fabi 0681 Yes, we do take off our shoes - but we take them off inside, in the hallway :) It wouldn't be fun to take your shoes off outside someone's home when it's -15c and snow :D
In the summer, if it's dry outside and you have to go into the house to get something, like say you have a barbecue outside, then you generally don't bother constantly taking off and putting on the shoes, and your guests won't either for the most part. Then it's really up to how dirty you think the shoes are. But when you visit someone, then you generally take off your shoes yes. Especially in the winter.
There are actually lots of similarities between the Japanese culture and Finnish or even the Nordics.
Yeah its true. Mostly because at the winter (and other seasons to) Its to dirty outside and we dont want to have it inside our homes. But also because its kind for the owner and for yourself (If you are at home, I mean) so you dont need to clean up! I found it intresting that such a big "everyday" thing can be simular in countries that are pretty far away from each other..
I just regonized that this video is a year old... sorry I guess lmao
Always take off your shoes when inside someones home.
Also if public transportation are half full try to not sit next to others but in rush hour you can sit next to others without getting frowned upon
Yes! You, my friend, you get it!
OOOOH how sad !!!!! I would sit in the bus next to some one and have a talk, I like communication !!!!!!!!! I'm French !!!!!!!!
Bullcrap!. Here's the real list. 1. Never ever speak to anyone you don't know. 2. Always talk shit about everyone else as soon as the person leave the room. 3. Yell, scream, pick fights as soon as you had at least 2 beers. 4. If you can't find 2 empty seats next to eachother on the public transportation, keep standing. 5. Live a secluded, isolated unsocial life and complain about it everyday on social media. 5. die lonely and regret everything you've done in life.
I'm from Minnesota.Noweigian decent.All of this makes sense but around here everybody always looks you in the eyes.Somebody that don't look you in the eyes is weird or up to something no good.
Thordan. I agree with that if you don't look the person in the eye than you are considered weird and definitely up to no good.What if I like a certain girl?And I want to talk to her.What should I look at if not her eyes???Parts of her body,my shoes????Yeah that's definitely going to make me look normal😂😂😂👍👍👍
@@branislavpetriska882 if you’re talking to her, than it’s okay to look her in the eyes. The rule only applies for strangers on the bus or street. Oh, and no one behaves normal if you have a crush on someone.
Sverige och Finland är ganska lika ändå. Eller ska vi säga, väldigt lika haha...
I've finally found a perfect place for myself! Every rule you mentioned is something I agree with. I need to move 😁
I know this is an old video, but I disagree with: #2, Keep Your Distance. When standing in line at the grocery store, or queing to pay for something, everyone stands extremely close to each other. No one respects personal space. You can't back up or advance to create this space because then you would be physically touching someone else (they are that close). #4: Don't Not look People in the Eye when in Public Places. Maybe on public transportation, or in the bigger cities this applies, but everywhere else, everyone stares. And they don't speak, just stare. Up, down, all over the body, but they will not say anything!
Yes! These 'rules' are pretty biased and does of course not apply to everyone :) They were taken from my point of view (being a a resident of Stockholm and all)
In my opinion those two roles are actually correct where i live, about #2 the thing about keeping distant ofc doesn't apply to queues or when you're in a store, but normally when you don't have to be close to someone you shouldn't as it can be uncomfortable, and #4 You don't look people in the eye, like EVERYONE looks at everyone but you don't make eye contact and hold it for more then half a second before looking away. So if you "stare" someone in the eye you are a creep. :P
Nackagubben my question is... say you see a cute guy at the bus that you haven't met before, if you can't make eye contact how would you flirt with them with the hope of going on a date with them? 😂😂 you need to make a video about developing romantic relationships!!
+y_c_k Haha I doubt I would be any good at relationship councelling xD
Sweden is an incredible passive aggressive country. Very emotionally repressed, nobody can be themselves, when the group sees someone doesn't conform with the group that person gets isolated.
It is amazing how a country like sweden can have that marketing as a progressive place when their people behave very much the opposite way.
Det värsta jag vet är när människor tränger sig in i tågen innan man ens hunnit ta sig ut.. OCH när någon försöker tränga sig före i kö.. Woop vad arg jag blir 😂 Då säger jag alltid till Hahaha
Jag vågar aldrig det XD
Haha
Jag säger också till
What???
Lol same😂 framför allt det med bussar och så
Fantastic! I wish people in all countries followed those. I would add: "NEVER, EVER make other people listen to the kind of music you like, when on public places, transportation, etc.". In some countries, people use their phones or even bring their stereos and everybody has to listen to their music and noise.
This is so accurate, herregud hahahha
Swedes are weird :D
Kim Mirae Detta var...interesant hahahah
Haha In Greece we do weird things too.
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I was born and raised in Hong Kong yet I have a pretty Swedish personality🤣
Most of them are global unwritten rules, all of them exist here in the Netherlands as well :P
Thats bullshit, the keeping distance, hugging people when meeting them and standing on the right side of the escalator is not a thing here...
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Not in Turkey 🤣🤣🤣
Wat een onzin. Hier zijn de mensen niet zo koud en afstandelijk. Jij misschien. Maar niet iedereen
That's cool. In my country (Brasil) the people generally try to incentive other to be extroverts, so... If someone is introvert, hes weirdo.
I would like to know if in the Sweden is the opposite. Where being extrovert is not the rule and if it is repressed.
+Rafael Gumieri it is pretty much the same here I would say. But it is nowhere close to be like how it is in the US of A. You can be introvert, but people would just assume that you are a boring person.
Maybe there's a difference what is considered introvert, I guess. The people here just "make friends" too easily, as easily "unmake". So they easily talk with strangers as closed ones but would forget or ignore quickly...
I don't know... But these unwritten rules would be considered wrongs here (I'm not saying me).
+Rafael Gumieri Oh I understand. Well out in the public you can definitely be relatively anonymous in Sweden. Even our biggest celebrities can catch the subway and most people would refrain from disturbing/staring/asking for autograph etc.
In Greece happens the same thing, Rafael.
Well, this is neither. It's more Political corectness and demonstartion of feminism in public sphere taken to the extreme. I'm an introvert and I didn't feel especially comofortable in this culture. Although I did like it somewhat to me it gave a sense of imposeing too much of alienation on people and simply preventing people from being spontanieous. To me Brazil, Spain, Iatly are about spontaneity, joy of life and in Sweden it was really missing.
Nice video, those rules are kinda common in a lot of country but some people don't know what the respect and the politeness mean. I went to Sweden during 1 day and I was really surprised by the calm and tranquility in this country. I love Scandinavians Countries ❤️
Pretty much the same here in Seattle. Maybe because there is a long history of Scandinavians settling here.....well not so much recently, but in the late 1800's. There's a big Nordic Heritage Festival here every year. My mom's family was Swedish!
+Scot Verdin wow! Interesting, I did not know that :) Do you know from where in Sweden?
Västergötland. They were farmers on some big estate and moved to Brooklyn for a short while, then Minnesota and finally in 1883 bought a farm about an hour north of Seattle where I now live. The house and land are still there!
+Scot Verdin cool. Have you had a chance to visit it?
Thank you for making these videos. I find them really funny and very informative.
You've described SWISS people too, oh my God :D! Awesome how similar our unwritten rules are!
Almost all of these unwritten rules apply to any civilised country, idk why swedes seem to think that this is soecific to us. This is just all about being polite which is pretty basic knowledge
I am Swedish but l used to live in Switzerland. It is true that the two countries have a lot in common in terms of social etiquette. There are, however, differences. The Swiss are even stricter than Swedes about being quiet in public. Or even in your apartment, for that matter, since you don't want to bother the neighbors. To a Scandinavian it sounds outlandish that you cannot have a children's birthday party or mow the lawn on a Sunday. Another major difference is that Swiss people very frequently say hello to strangers on the street and often make eye contact while doing so. Although I knew that this is only because they are being friendly, it drove me absolutely nuts to have to make eye contact and say hi to people who walked past me. If I was in a bad mood I sometimes dreaded going out, since I would have to say hi to people I didn't know. On numerous occasions, I also had strangers in Switzerland start random conversations with me on the elevator. This absolutely terrified me and I did everything in my power to only use elevators when nobody else was there. And lastly, people in Switzerland are much more likely to respond positively to small talk. By that I mean people you meet in certain places such as the doctor's office or while waiting for the car to be serviced. I never once met a Swiss person who did not enjoy a chat. I much prefer this to what we do here in Sweden. Swedish people almost never respond positively to a stranger who starts small talk. They will assume you are weird and ignore you. Obviously there are exceptions for everything.
I have to disagree with two things. The "not looking in the eye in public places" is more of a thing in Stockholm and maybe other big cities. When I went there the first time I got chocked people never looked at you. I'm from a smaller town and and we look at each other. If I'm in the area near my home we also often smile and nod or say "hej". And I do only hug people I know and they seem to do the same. So not after the first time you meet but after you feel like you know each other. But there's no right and wrong here, just how you feel.
Agreed. I also feel like people in small towns are more likely to say hi to people who walk by.
I'd argue that all the things you said are of basic common courtesy (maybe hot the hugging one) but I love the fact that Sweden actually enforces and applies them.
Besides unwritten rules I think this is more like education , and the people that doesn’t do this , their parents haven’t teach them anything at home
I love your beautiful country and wise people. Been learning the language for a year, it still sucks, but I'm finally gonna visit Stockholm in 2 weeks so I hope to get some practice :) Varma hälsningar från Polen!
+Edyta Oh how great :D Welcome to Stockholm! (I'll be in a warmer place by then but I'm sure you will enjoy your visit)
Åk till Malmö istället för Stockholm om du bor i Polen!
So true "keep your distance"😄.
I couldnt explain the thing with the queues any better👍😂.
Also at the till you put your products on the conveyor belt with the barcode up or facing the scanner. I learned that one
Hahaha true! i hope no one actually got mad at you for that tho, that would just be silly.
That's not so old and is a polite thing to do. It makes it all faster at the cashier. :) But unfortunately not everyone does. A polite thing to do is also to put your goods in a nice row and not make huge piles. Every time someone is piling up thibngs it makes everything slower.
I plan on going to Sweden for my senior year in highschool (I'm about to start my junior year) and this was so helpful!
Thank you! Good sense of humor and factually informative!
How do the swedes actually like meet a significant other?? No talking, touching, LOOKING... I mean...
Yep, Danes don't like bragging about anything either, but we are a proud people who values honesty and tells you what we think, even if you don't wanna hear it. ;)
As an introvert, I can definitely relate to these rules.
These exact ten rules would apply here in Costa Rica as well, so I think they are pretty international.
So if I meet someone the second or third time and I don't hug them but only shake their hand then I´m really impolite?
Nr 2 Keep your distance 2 meter. Do we have to be that close?
I think I am slightly in love with you...................
+Lana Leon
You are hilarious and adorable. Thanks for the information. I am planning a move so this is helpful.
first video i saw from your channel. i have an extremely good impression. ill watch the rest. ive been in sweden for 3 days in 2012. i liked stockholm, but that was not enough time to KNOW the people and the city.
Actually I look people in the eye when conversing or just passing by them - it makes easy to read their face and I smile as much as possible, it works - instant friends - sometimes...
Det är så kul att saker som att kolla någon i ögonen på busshållplatsen kan tolkas fel.
Jag älskar Sverige.
Haha! and they say Poles are cold and reserved to strangers 😂
Hey! Just found out your channel and I'm really enjoying it, I love to meet new cultures. I'm brazilian and I've recently created an english speaking channel, i'm thinking about sharing a little about Brazil as well! Keep on with the videos 😊
This is the most swedish channel at the whole world
Does the hug rule apply at work also?
For me, I don't wait for everyone to leave the bus, because there's a door at the front of the bus and it's used to enter the bus while there are one or two doors used for those who wants to step out of the bus. But waiting for everyone to leave a train is a thing that everyone do, including me.
Very charming. Yes, I did learn something today about Swedish culture and thank you very much! X
Hey there. Altough it has nothing to do with this vlog, i am wondering if you could lend a hand. I'm about to go up north (Sweden) from my point of view (the Netherlands), partly to get out on a vacation, partly to find myself a way to get to live there in time. Do you have any suggestions/advise for me where i should start out finding the basic needs (like a job e.d.)? I'd greatly apreciate the help. Sencerly, Sebastian
+Sebastiaan van Schaik Hi Sebastian! It depends on what you intend to work with. All the major cities, Stockholm, Göteborg, Malmö are great for finding work, but it can be difficult to find somewhere to live. Especially in Stockholm because there are so many people moving here every day.
In general, I think you should be persitent in learning the language! People generally speak perfect English so it could be difficult, but if people respond in English, keep speaking Swedish. That will give you an advantage with working here :)
Thx, both for replying as wel in such short notice. Wel, I plan to live outdoors, eventually. Like as that family in Alaska, Browntown it's called (Discovery). I had a simulair concept in mind, Greenville, not knowing mine isn't origional. The job, wel.. For starts, i don't mind any kind of work. But eventually i wanna work with flora & fauna. And yeah, i've heard a lot of people say that whenever one found out you're not from around one wil start talking english. So that indeed wil be a extra challange to master the language. But i can be strongminded, so... Likely that wil be not to hard to overcome.
Y'all remember that sponge bob episode where squidward moves to a squid town or some shit where everything's perfect? that's how I imagine Sweden is lmao
All applied exactly the same in Japan, except the handshake and hugging part. Here...you always bow. No handshake, no hugging.
+Winnugroho Wiratman Interesting! Bowing would be soo formal here. I would not even bow if I met the king :D
As a swede, if I lived in Japan and couldn't hug anyone for more than one week, I'd end up crying!
Very helpful Nackagubben......
this is super similar to germany hahhaha i thought i would find out some new stuff but its basically like people should act in germany
So happy I found your channel
Wow, det är fan sant. Jag har aldrig tänkt på såna regler innan!
you only hug people if you know the person
Except looking people in the eyes these are rules in Moscow, Russia too.
Thank you, Nackagubben!
Really nice advices to behave.
Oh cool! I didn't know that. I wonder if it is a thing for colder countries in general?
Maybe. But i guess it's for european-culture countries. =)
We're just heading to it, that's why people can stare at ya in urban transport and sometimes cut the line (often the old people) (i hate it as much as you do).
And of course, in Finland too. Smiling is about halfway between the two neighbors, we don't like if you smile too much without a reason but friendly face is always a joy. And of course: absolutely no small talk, either you have something to say or you stay shut.
I really liked this video. Very useful and veryyyyy funny. I watch lots of videos on youtube and many of them are cool and I forget to press the like button but this one was great.
These rules apply 100% one to one in Minnesota , USA. Especially up north.
Hi Carl. Its because about 150k swedes moved to Minnesota from about 1860 and established the same living rules as in Sweden. The behavior called by others MN- Minnesota Nice.
Most of these apply to the United Kingdom, especially queues!
English people are so loud.
The Brits and Swedes are remarkably similar, mostly due to the fact they are both Germanic cultures
@@makkonen0 not really, just in pubs, and football Matches
I am going to Sweden tommorow :) That was very helpful
Talking quietly on the phone is the rule which would be very nesesary in Poland... Unfortunately, I always have problems when I want to read a book in a subway... However, it's a very nice video. Greetings from Poland :)
How do you hug someone if you are a meter apart?
Det er meget præcis beskrivelse af tingenes tilstand i Danmark også! PRIVATLIV er NUMMER 1 på alle dagsorden når man bevæger sig rundt i det offentlige rum og man skal ikke kigge/tale/snakke med nogen. Det er farligt! Men sjov video, hvor jeg kunne genkende alle disse ting fra mit eget hverdagsliv :D
Ja, Danmark och Sverige är ganska lika trots allt :D
I am American and the only thing that I don't do here is the hugging thing.
I would say it's like this in all Scandinavian countries.
Loved the video 💖💖💖
You should make a video that breaks these rules. The comedy ensues.
I think I will move to sweden / YOU HAVE THE BEST CULTURE I EVER HEARD
I have a similar looking shirt! Is it from a Danish brand? XD
I think it's from Dressman which is originally a Norwegian brand I believe :)
100% bff :D
If you are going to make a video in China, count me in! XD Im also interested in learning langauges and culture, I have learnt a bit Norsk and Svenska before haha, and now learning Dutch, I need to get those langauge package installed in my head before I go into my 30s . Currently, a teacher teach Chinese as a foreign language to expats in a city called Nanjing. If you are interested in learning Chinese just let me know, free resources to share. 😉
Oh cool! Thank you so much for the offer! :D I tried to learn a few Chinese words from my colleagues, but they kept saying my pronunciation was so off that they could not understand what I was trying to say haha. Slightly discouraging unfortunately!
Personally I really dislike it when people refuse to understand or even help out when trying a different language. The times people have attempted Swedish with me I find that it's always possible to somehow get what they want to express even though it might not be exactly what they are saying by picking out certain words etc.
I remember when I told a German colleague a few years back that I wanted to learn more German and got the response "why would you want that?". I would be thrilled if someone I knew wanted to learn my language!
I agree! If someone is interested in my language and culture I would be so damn happy, and I would always love to share. It is very important to have a little bit patience and respect when we are having intercultural communication. like I have 6 students, they come from 5 different countries, across 3 continents! I seldom give them pressure or discourage them during learning, I prefer to use more interactive, sharing, so it is beyond teaching and learning it is the equal way of learning from each other, and the best part is-I get paid and I learnt new culture and customs haha. I am so glad, we all like each other so much and enjoy the learning hours weekly. It is really nice to connect people with different cultural background and living experiences! Human brain is magic enough to make you learn most of the languages if you would love to spend the time on it learning like a young baby.
Are you from Minnesota?
Okay, what if I wanna ask for directions? Are they going to freaked out when I came and ask?
Oh! After I've seen this video and comment, and I think Scandinavian culture people can live in East Asia very well,like China,Korea,Japan,Taiwan and Hong Kong,especially Janpan.
By the way, the hug rule is not work in East Asia, and before u doing anything to other people, u should ask politely and friendly.
My dear friend in Lidingo did not tell me "Don't wear tennis shoes if you are over 18." I arrived at Arlanda with no real shoes, and spent a week getting identified as an American everywhere I went.
This "Janteloven (norwegian word)" is also in Norway
A lot of similarities with the Brits, especially the queueing one and the waiting for people to leave a train/subway etc
He forgot the 'tank you' rule. We always say thank you no matter what. For example when we buy something, the cashier say 'thank you' for getting the money and we we say 'thank you' when we get the stuff we just bought.
Lol...my swedish boyfriend had the totally same reaction as you mentioned abt the cut-in-line thing...😂😂
Most of these apply in US as well but so many ignoramuses don't follow them.
4 is semi correct.
Moved from norrland to stockholm and this is really the case in stockholm. But not so much in my small hometown.
So it applies to at least stockholm(ad faar as I know)
What country does not have these rules?
As a swede i do not know anyone that don’t have eye contact with all people at all times
As you said, first meet handshake and after that always hug👍 applies to everyone😂 but sometimes we just say hi and do not do more🤔
The first rule though... you should not appear to think that you’re better than anyone else.. but you secretly think you are best in world!!😂
Also helpful for life in Seattle.
I hate when people sit next to me because it’s SO FLIPPING AWKWARD
First time meeting: handshake and say name
Second time: hug them ask how they are and say hey before that
Actually, in the nothern part of sweden we don´t hug people as they do in the south. When i went to university i had classmates from the southern parts of the country, and it was really awkward when they started hugging you all of a sudden for no appareant reason. Sooo...you probably shouldn´t do this since everyone might not be comfortable with it.
Hugs comes after you've been good friends most of the time. To hug without reason is not very common - at least not in my generation
Moving to Lund next week and it sounds perfect for me
11. dont talk about immigration problems
I am Swede af. But I am to damn lazy to stand up. So if i see a free seat. I will take it. Obviously i will look for a completely free seat, and if there's non, I will take the seat next to somebody.
take a seat next to the person and have talk with him/her. People nowadays don't communicate anymore, so sad !!!!!!!!
I always wanted to find a channel that would explain some things about Nordic countries and people. So you're kinda huge intenet-discovery so far :))
I grew up in a Svenska family in Minnesota and guess what - the rules are exactly the same!
The first rule is actually beginning to disappear. It's finally OK to say that you're awesome xP
Swedish... Scandinavian... + Finnish... You know, growing up I used to think of these things as finnish.
What if you have swedish roots?
Sweden sounds like an awesome country.
Rule 5 applies to the NYC subway too ;) Funny video, thanks for posting.