"Because she's softer than you. She's quieter than you. She doesn't yell at me. She doesn't call me an idiot or tell me to shut up all the time. She listens to me. She's nice to me. She doesn't make me feel like the only thing stopping her from being happy... is me." Why did you cut out the first part of that sentence?
Yeah agreed that one bites deep into why a lot of men are unhappy in their relationships. When your mate gives you the distinct impression you are a burden to them emotionally and the obstacle to their happiness. Soul crushing way to live.
@@idontcare-sf1vb 9 times out of 10 guys gon express their feelings about something they don’t like but that’s usually the part where y’all say something like “stfu” or “wtf u creep get out of my house” 💔😢
@@idontcare-sf1vb then in turn the girl would call him an idiot because like the guy in the show implied she doesn't listen to him and most often girls that tend to call their partner idiots regularly don't listen their partners.
Women listen to you or at least pretend to in the beginning. Then they stop finding your jokes funny. They roll their eyes every time you tell a story at a party. I gave a speech at an event when I was being awarded something and I saw she was checking her phone the whole speech. That's ok. I"m strong enough, I have enough confidence. I don't need my wife to support me, nurture me or show me an ounce of caring. But on the other hand, how much constant nagging, berating, belittling, criticizing can even a strong man take? I'm very involved in community organizations. She asked me one time why I spend all my time helping strangers instead of taking care of my responsibilities at home. I told her that's because everywhere I go, people are happy to see me. They are nice to me. They tell me how great I am. Then I go home and all of a sudden I'm just an asshole who knows nothing and can't do anything right. When we were younger, I used to worry about my wife cheating. Now I secretly wishes she would -cause that would be give me an honorable reasons for leaving.
Movie name is 'The little Death'. Great Australian film. For reference, he wasn't actually cheating on her. The woman he's referring to is actually her, but just when she's asleep. When she's asleep, she 'listens' and gives him peace, she doesn't belittle him, nag him, gaslight him etc. Even though he's referring to her, it doesn't change the importance of what he's saying. He still loves her, but he's unhappy with how he's been treated. Women have their own troubles in certain relationships, but guys really don't know what to do when they're in this situation. Despite what women think, men have feelings and being treated this way emotionally cripples you
@@cjthebusta3721How is it not about modern women? He's literally talking about the side of his wife who is soft and treats him nice, the main complaint about modern women is how masculine they are and how they treat men like wallets. This shows the problem isn't a woman's looks, age, boob size, etc., men just want to be treated like we matter. This is a very relevant analog to modern dating.
This is such a great showcase of the disconnect between what each person in a relationship perceive their partners want. The woman thinks it's all about looks, which makes sense why she thinks that as long as she stays pretty, she can act however way she wants. However, for her husband, it's not about how she looks, but instead, it's all about how she treats him.
Please give an example as to how avoiding bitter women or walking away is "treating them" in any way. Men are simply opting out. There is NO excuse to be mean to a woman, to hit a woman, to cheat on a woman, to yell at a woman or to treat women like disposable options, yeah? Cool. Same goes for men, and for those of us who walk away, we are simply doing the exact opposite of engaging. Being mad that people won't date you is incel energy. Opting to focus on what suits you best (hobbies, purpose and health) is king energy.
Kudos to the actors in this scene. They both knocked it out of the park. Very powerful and deep cutting performance. Adam Driver and Scarlet Johansson both deliver a scene as comparable in “A Marriage Story”.
But will marry this type of woman and pass over genuinely nice, kind and caring women, because the sad truth is people are use to being mistreated, whether it came from their parents or first relationships, deep down some people think they don’t deserve true happiness, too bad he didn’t marry a good hearted person in the first place.
Notice how she describe all the physical traits and all he wants was the emotional/personality traits. Men will sleep with the physical but will marry the Emotional/personality traits.
Her question early on about being "younger, skinnier and prettier" just speaks to a massive lack of compassion for her man. As if that was the only thing that matters to men. Brilliant writing and acting!
This really bothered me to watch. I’m not by far a pushover. But watching this guy I felt like I was standing there , because I could relate, not the messing around part but the loud , yelling and disrespectful tone. A lady is supposed to be a Lady at all times. Calm and collective with some dignity and class. Women these days just want to yell and fight then play the victim and say your Toxic but yet refuse to walk away after you tell them you no longer want to be in the relationship. It’s over. I’m still currently living in this type of life and still getting this type of treatment. I don’t drink , go out to bars or clubs. I go to work and straight home. Everyday.I deserve better but so does she . She deserves to be happy and I obviously don’t make her feel that way.
With different reasons, obviously, many people must've lived that moment. The moment they feel indignation and anger and incomprehension as their partner is walking away from them, and then to hear from their mouth why they are doing it, and to realize as they are saying it that they are right, and there is nothing you can do. Sometimes the reasons are true but it simply isn't something in your power. In those cases it is still hard to hear, but not as hard as to hear reasons as he gives her in this clip, which are about behavior that you knew all along were not ok but that you indulged in nonetheless, somehow taking them for granted. The moment you realize you legitimately put them off with your attitude and now it's too late.
This is what I DON'T want in a marriage. A woman who acts all sweet and supportive during the courtship, but once we tie the knot, I become the receiving end of all her frustrations in life. And I'm not the type to just give up and throw it all away. I take the vows seriously. So my big hesitation is the fear of ending up with a complaining woman like her.
@@CMichaels56true 😢 happened to me. After 6 years she let me go and told it was all my fault wtf. I aint getting married again f that. Thank god we didnt have a kids yet though.
Dude, if you end married and up in this situation , you need to get out before any kids come along. It's not gonna change, but will get worse. Its not quitting, it's saving yourself from a life of misery.
I think if this is happening have any of the men out there discussed with their wives their concerns, why is your wife acting this way, does a good woman just become reactive? Did the husband play a part? Has he ignored her needs in anyway? No poor behavior is justified, but let’s all take accountability, a woman wants to feel feminine, and how does a man bring out the best in her versus the worst!
@@Loveliveevolvepersevere I understand where you're coming from, but the problem for many is a lack of accountability. Without the ability to take responsibility for one's own actions, it is extremely difficult to grow or improve.
I remember a scene from a film where one divorced harpy is talking with another about her ex’s young girlfriend. “She thinks he invented the wheel “ Chuckles abound. I am thinking there you are. It was about appreciating who he is and his accomplishments
the men while the grown up want quiet life, but some women want yelling and, open new problems, that’s huge difference between men and women. plz, women be quiet kind .
What women don't understand and never will due to pride, is that men only want someone they can relay on, someone that will support us in any situation and won't judge but will help make a team for the present and future, is not about look it's about make us feel important
It is so simple, but it’s the hardest thing for a woman to do. Not all men are chads, not all men are jerks. Most men will do and die for their women for for 3 things love, loyalty and respect. Hard to believe, but it’s true. Feminism has done incredible damage to our society and culture by demonizing men. To the women and men out there, because morals and values are important... Choose well, your heart depends on it for a life well lived.
If you guys aren't mature enough to have the talk that it isn't working, maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship at all. Either that, or you have a motive. I know some guys stick around for the easy sex, whilst the woman just want things paid for.
Send it to her. Let her know you're secure with yourself and your value as a man. most importantly let her know she's replaceable as a female if she acts toxic.
They all (women) have treachery, vindictiveness, petulance, spiteful, and petty in them….They all can convince themselves of anything……They all are capable of complete and total domination, destruction, and/or delusion……
All he wanted was for it to be her. He longed for it to be her, he changed everything he could to make it her. She mocked him for it, belittled him for it told her friends how ridiculous he was for wanting it to be her. .
While i believe cheating is never the answer, i need to say, you're partner saying they got with someone else because you're cruel to them and the other person is kind, that hits really hard. Just wish he had the nerve to end things sooner. Things ending like this make him the bad guy for lying.
He didn't cheat on her, if memory serves he's talking about his wife, after her sleeping pills kick in..... I haven't seen the movie in a long time but I think he would dress her up in outfits and watch movies with her and talk to her, while she was asleep....
He just deacribed what men mean when we say "submissive, or submit to me" its not about being a slave, we just want a woman who is kind, soft, compassionate, loyal, and truly loves and cherishes us, a woman who feels terrible after a fight qhen she says something horrible, instead of doubling down, a woman who cant even imagine blatantly disrespecting and treating their husband as lesser. It isnt about being a slave, its about loving to be kind and compassionate and doing little things for him, men who are lucky enough to get a woman like this are the ones they fantasize about as girls, the prince, willing to go to war and fight and die for her, thats what you ladies get back for being "submissive" to a good man
Marriage is misery. I am not a stupid man: I have a PhD and an IQ in the 99.86 percentile. However, in all things and at all times, my wife treats me like a moron. It is her default position. She also never listens to me and I am restricted to just a small part of the house. I hope that my clock runs out soon.
He didn't cheat on her, if memory serves he's talking about his wife, after her sleeping pills kick in..... I haven't seen the movie in a long time but I think he would dress her up in outfits and watch movies with her and talk to her, while she was asleep....
In the movie, he didn’t cheat. He engaged with her when she was asleep. Only then was she softer, quieter, kinder. He could hold her and talk to her without fear of getting yelled at or belittled. He loves his wife, but wants to come home to a peaceful home. Some women make it hard for men to want to come home at the end of the day.
he did not cheat on her. The context of the scene is him talking about HER, when she is asleep, because only then does she not hurt him, and is still the person he loves. she only thinks he is cheating.
Maureen: She's not younger than me. She's not skinnier than me. She's not prettier than me. Why couldn't it just be me? Phil: Because she's softer than you. She's quieter than you. She doesn't yell at me. She doesn't call me an idiot or tell me to shut up all the time. She listens to me. She's nice to me. She doesn't make me feel like the only thing stopping her from being happy... is me.
How to tell someone that you're not married without saying you're not married, all in 3 short, dismissive letters. Flip the sexes and you would expect exactly the same things. Or should.
The best line, I think, everyone misses...is "the only thing stopping her from being happy, is me" nail in the coffin.
The main part of the line is that she doesn’t make him feel like that. He’s NOT saying that he’s not “making her happy”.
"Because she's softer than you. She's quieter than you. She doesn't yell
at me. She doesn't call me an idiot or tell me to shut up all the time.
She listens to me. She's nice to me. She doesn't make me feel like the
only thing stopping her from being happy... is me."
Why did you cut out the first part of that sentence?
Yeah agreed that one bites deep into why a lot of men are unhappy in their relationships. When your mate gives you the distinct impression you are a burden to them emotionally and the obstacle to their happiness. Soul crushing way to live.
This is so unrealistic.... She actually listened to him for a moment.
When its to late
That's because it's to late.. they listen when you ready to walk out the door.. he is done with her..that's why.. she knows she fd up
She's attacking him in this scene. It comes so naturally to her that she doesn't even realize what she's doing.
This scene actually revealed what men want from their woman.
And they can say this without cheating first.
@@idontcare-sf1vb F the cheating part bro , men really don't cheat emotionally...
@@idontcare-sf1vb 9 times out of 10 guys gon express their feelings about something they don’t like but that’s usually the part where y’all say something like “stfu” or “wtf u creep get out of my house” 💔😢
The best part is that this man didn't actually cheat on her in this mindblowing movie @@idontcare-sf1vb
@@idontcare-sf1vb then in turn the girl would call him an idiot because like the guy in the show implied she doesn't listen to him and most often girls that tend to call their partner idiots regularly don't listen their partners.
He said what so many western men feel.
There are millions of men throughout the world who feel like this.
COUNTLESS Tens of millions, bro. Countless.
Billions dude
Billions bro 😂 we all feel this way
I speak as one of them. it's the way my ex wife made me feel and after a 5 year battle for our kids, i'm emotionally broken.
+1
He gave the whole game away when he said "She listens to me"
Women listen to you or at least pretend to in the beginning. Then they stop finding your jokes funny. They roll their eyes every time you tell a story at a party. I gave a speech at an event when I was being awarded something and I saw she was checking her phone the whole speech. That's ok. I"m strong enough, I have enough confidence. I don't need my wife to support me, nurture me or show me an ounce of caring. But on the other hand, how much constant nagging, berating, belittling, criticizing can even a strong man take? I'm very involved in community organizations. She asked me one time why I spend all my time helping strangers instead of taking care of my responsibilities at home. I told her that's because everywhere I go, people are happy to see me. They are nice to me. They tell me how great I am. Then I go home and all of a sudden I'm just an asshole who knows nothing and can't do anything right. When we were younger, I used to worry about my wife cheating. Now I secretly wishes she would -cause that would be give me an honorable reasons for leaving.
Movie name is 'The little Death'. Great Australian film.
For reference, he wasn't actually cheating on her. The woman he's referring to is actually her, but just when she's asleep.
When she's asleep, she 'listens' and gives him peace, she doesn't belittle him, nag him, gaslight him etc.
Even though he's referring to her, it doesn't change the importance of what he's saying. He still loves her, but he's unhappy with how he's been treated.
Women have their own troubles in certain relationships, but guys really don't know what to do when they're in this situation. Despite what women think, men have feelings and being treated this way emotionally cripples you
Tell this to the red pill and passport bros passing this short around and thinking it's about modern day women
@CJ the Busta It is still very relevant to modern day women. Just giving context ti the clip itself
@@cjthebusta3721 It's relevant to events today and in the past, it also highlights just how badly some women treat their husbands.
Very well said! Thanks for the movie title
@@cjthebusta3721How is it not about modern women? He's literally talking about the side of his wife who is soft and treats him nice, the main complaint about modern women is how masculine they are and how they treat men like wallets. This shows the problem isn't a woman's looks, age, boob size, etc., men just want to be treated like we matter. This is a very relevant analog to modern dating.
She knew he was right
Right on the nose! Exactly why my wife drove me away!
I can feel the pain in his voice
This is such a great showcase of the disconnect between what each person in a relationship perceive their partners want. The woman thinks it's all about looks, which makes sense why she thinks that as long as she stays pretty, she can act however way she wants. However, for her husband, it's not about how she looks, but instead, it's all about how she treats him.
It’s so deeeeeeeeeep
Men don't want "younger" women. We want nice women who aren't bitter.
Which almost by default it *IS* a "younger" woman... finding a single 40+ year old woman who is caring, kind and not bitter is damn near impossible!!!
Remember guys all single moms are bitter.
We're not bitter, we're tired of the little boy excuses why it's okay to treat us like garbage
Please give an example as to how avoiding bitter women or walking away is "treating them" in any way.
Men are simply opting out. There is NO excuse to be mean to a woman, to hit a woman, to cheat on a woman, to yell at a woman or to treat women like disposable options, yeah?
Cool. Same goes for men, and for those of us who walk away, we are simply doing the exact opposite of engaging.
Being mad that people won't date you is incel energy. Opting to focus on what suits you best (hobbies, purpose and health) is king energy.
@user-ey9uw1ww4g
It’s not okay, but you picked your partner, not us.
Kudos to the actors in this scene. They both knocked it out of the park. Very powerful and deep cutting performance. Adam Driver and Scarlet Johansson both deliver a scene as comparable in “A Marriage Story”.
I can see tears in his eyes
And it is THEE perfect Red Pill moment.
Ehh...just let the scene be the scene.
Absolutely true 👍
But will marry this type of woman and pass over genuinely nice, kind and caring women, because the sad truth is people are use to being mistreated, whether it came from their parents or first relationships, deep down some people think they don’t deserve true happiness, too bad he didn’t marry a good hearted person in the first place.
They usually don't start out like this
Notice how she describe all the physical traits and all he wants was the emotional/personality traits. Men will sleep with the physical but will marry the Emotional/personality traits.
Everything men really want.
She refers to physical attributes and he refers to character.
Well done scene by both actors. Thought provoking indeed.
Her question early on about being "younger, skinnier and prettier" just speaks to a massive lack of compassion for her man. As if that was the only thing that matters to men.
Brilliant writing and acting!
#dontbeaBword
Man I came across this on tik tok and man! Did I felt this! Jus wish some women would truly understand this
This really bothered me to watch. I’m not by far a pushover. But watching this guy I felt like I was standing there , because I could relate, not the messing around part but the loud , yelling and disrespectful tone. A lady is supposed to be a Lady at all times. Calm and collective with some dignity and class. Women these days just want to yell and fight then play the victim and say your Toxic but yet refuse to walk away after you tell them you no longer want to be in the relationship. It’s over. I’m still currently living in this type of life and still getting this type of treatment. I don’t drink , go out to bars or clubs. I go to work and straight home. Everyday.I deserve better but so does she . She deserves to be happy and I obviously don’t make her feel that way.
You CANNOT make someone else happy. That’s a decision they make for themselves.
if it wasnt for kids, id be done
Don't waste your life with someone that doesn't value nor appreciate you.
Life is shirt, move on.
This is why a lot of men are waiting for AI to come on the scene
What she says after this scene speaks volumes!
She tells him to "Get out!" And while he drives away, he decides to call her back.
Telling.
What's the movie title
The Little Death.
That hits home
With different reasons, obviously, many people must've lived that moment. The moment they feel indignation and anger and incomprehension as their partner is walking away from them, and then to hear from their mouth why they are doing it, and to realize as they are saying it that they are right, and there is nothing you can do.
Sometimes the reasons are true but it simply isn't something in your power. In those cases it is still hard to hear, but not as hard as to hear reasons as he gives her in this clip, which are about behavior that you knew all along were not ok but that you indulged in nonetheless, somehow taking them for granted. The moment you realize you legitimately put them off with your attitude and now it's too late.
This is what I DON'T want in a marriage. A woman who acts all sweet and supportive during the courtship, but once we tie the knot, I become the receiving end of all her frustrations in life. And I'm not the type to just give up and throw it all away. I take the vows seriously. So my big hesitation is the fear of ending up with a complaining woman like her.
Good luck my brother. After a few years, no matter what you do, or how hard you work, it’s NEVER enough.
@@CMichaels56true 😢 happened to me. After 6 years she let me go and told it was all my fault wtf. I aint getting married again f that. Thank god we didnt have a kids yet though.
Dude, if you end married and up in this situation , you need to get out before any kids come along.
It's not gonna change, but will get worse.
Its not quitting, it's saving yourself from a life of misery.
I think if this is happening have any of the men out there discussed with their wives their concerns, why is your wife acting this way, does a good woman just become reactive? Did the husband play a part? Has he ignored her needs in anyway? No poor behavior is justified, but let’s all take accountability, a woman wants to feel feminine, and how does a man bring out the best in her versus the worst!
@@Loveliveevolvepersevere I understand where you're coming from, but the problem for many is a lack of accountability. Without the ability to take responsibility for one's own actions, it is extremely difficult to grow or improve.
Going through this right now with my girlfriend 😔
I still miss her I think about her sometimes but she made her choice and there’s nothing I could have done lol
Both actors brilliant
Has this gone viral yet?
Omg I get it
I remember a scene from a film where one divorced harpy is talking with another about her ex’s young girlfriend.
“She thinks he invented the wheel “
Chuckles abound. I am thinking there you are. It was about appreciating who he is and his accomplishments
the men while the grown up want quiet life, but some women want yelling and, open new problems, that’s huge difference between men and women. plz, women be quiet kind .
What women don't understand and never will due to pride, is that men only want someone they can relay on, someone that will support us in any situation and won't judge but will help make a team for the present and future, is not about look it's about make us feel important
Felt that
The English/western world is raising men out of women and women out of men
Umm naw. Women just nag more in the west.
It is so simple, but it’s the hardest thing for a woman to do. Not all men are chads, not all men are jerks. Most men will do and die for their women for for 3 things love, loyalty and respect. Hard to believe, but it’s true. Feminism has done incredible damage to our society and culture by demonizing men. To the women and men out there, because morals and values are important...
Choose well, your heart depends on it for a life well lived.
Divorce is a Money Making Venture for women…8 out of 10…..(80%) of divorces are initiated by the woman…….
If you guys aren't mature enough to have the talk that it isn't working, maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship at all. Either that, or you have a motive. I know some guys stick around for the easy sex, whilst the woman just want things paid for.
Literally not it
And when men do express their feelings, more often than not, they become weaponized and it becomes in our best interest to just stay silent.
I feel like this right now damn but I still love her
I watched this movie today. Quite good.
I live under a rock! So sorry, what is the title? Thanks
@@hammernails7393the little death
There are 8 different movies called 'the little death', which one is this ?
Definitely can't send my girlfriend this!!
Then perhaps you should leave her
If I can send this to my wife of 25 years, you'll be fine.😅👍💪🤞
Send it to her. Let her know you're secure with yourself and your value as a man. most importantly let her know she's replaceable as a female if she acts toxic.
@@crazymixture57 Spoken like a true man, good advice
Go on mate. You know you wanna lob that grenade over.
Thats y a gret saying
An immature girl is a bill,
A good women is an investment
They all (women) have treachery, vindictiveness, petulance, spiteful, and petty in them….They all can convince themselves of anything……They all are capable of complete and total domination, destruction, and/or delusion……
I’ve always liked this saying:
“A woman marries a man hoping he’ll change. A man marries a woman hoping she’ll never change.”
Better to live alone than with women who patronises alot
love.
This scenario is not uncommon. You see in the way that women talk down to their men and the trapped and broken look in their mens eyes.
All he wanted was for it to be her. He longed for it to be her, he changed everything he could to make it her. She mocked him for it, belittled him for it told her friends how ridiculous he was for wanting it to be her. .
Great
While i believe cheating is never the answer, i need to say, you're partner saying they got with someone else because you're cruel to them and the other person is kind, that hits really hard. Just wish he had the nerve to end things sooner. Things ending like this make him the bad guy for lying.
He didn't cheat on her, if memory serves he's talking about his wife, after her sleeping pills kick in..... I haven't seen the movie in a long time but I think he would dress her up in outfits and watch movies with her and talk to her, while she was asleep....
But he wasn’t cheating on her. She just thought he was and so he made up a fake affair partner to hurt her by saying this.
WOW!
The move is called, 'The Little Death'
Mere Dil ki baat kar li
He just deacribed what men mean when we say "submissive, or submit to me" its not about being a slave, we just want a woman who is kind, soft, compassionate, loyal, and truly loves and cherishes us, a woman who feels terrible after a fight qhen she says something horrible, instead of doubling down, a woman who cant even imagine blatantly disrespecting and treating their husband as lesser. It isnt about being a slave, its about loving to be kind and compassionate and doing little things for him, men who are lucky enough to get a woman like this are the ones they fantasize about as girls, the prince, willing to go to war and fight and die for her, thats what you ladies get back for being "submissive" to a good man
I feel you bro! 🥲
Marriage is misery. I am not a stupid man: I have a PhD and an IQ in the 99.86 percentile. However, in all things and at all times, my wife treats me like a moron. It is her default position. She also never listens to me and I am restricted to just a small part of the house. I hope that my clock runs out soon.
She treats him like a person
Can someone make a lofi song with these words as the lyrics??
By now, my friend... by now.
Wait a couple of years and you will see...
Where is this clip from ???
The Little Death. 2014
Messageeeeee
It’s just simple
Dear brothers, "Better to be a warrior in a garden. Than a gardener in a war."
What is this movie called
The Little Death (2014)
Movie name
The Little Death (2014)
This scene is so unrealistic… he made like 7 points and finished every sentence…. Speaking to a woman…. Who he cheated on 😂
He didn't cheat on her, if memory serves he's talking about his wife, after her sleeping pills kick in..... I haven't seen the movie in a long time but I think he would dress her up in outfits and watch movies with her and talk to her, while she was asleep....
What's is the name of the movie??
The Little Death (2014)
Please what's the title of this movie?
The Little Death. It’s from Australia, 2014, I believe.
Maybe he's wrong for cheating. But me still need respect.
In the movie, he didn’t cheat. He engaged with her when she was asleep. Only then was she softer, quieter, kinder. He could hold her and talk to her without fear of getting yelled at or belittled. He loves his wife, but wants to come home to a peaceful home. Some women make it hard for men to want to come home at the end of the day.
Women always wonder why men cheat.... take notes ladies.....
Cheating is never justified.if he want to ride of her first he should take a proper breakup
he did not cheat on her. The context of the scene is him talking about HER, when she is asleep, because only then does she not hurt him, and is still the person he loves. she only thinks he is cheating.
How can I download this shit?
There are some apps can copy and paste then we’ll have it
Men 👑
Feminism
No.
Maureen: She's not younger than me. She's not skinnier than me. She's not prettier than me. Why couldn't it just be me?
Phil: Because she's softer than you. She's quieter than you. She doesn't yell at me. She doesn't call me an idiot or tell me to shut up all the time. She listens to me. She's nice to me. She doesn't make me feel like the only thing stopping her from being happy... is me.
Oh ffs.
Spoken like a true narcissist.
How to tell someone that you're not married without saying you're not married, all in 3 short, dismissive letters. Flip the sexes and you would expect exactly the same things. Or should.
The major pfoblem with most women. Men need women like he is describing.