Behind Every 'NO' 🚫 is a Deeper 'YES' ✅: How Elon Musk Prioritized His Vision | Justine's Insights

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  • In today's fast-paced world, the power of saying 'NO' 🚫 is often undervalued. Dive into this enlightening discussion where Justine Musk unveils the philosophy behind Elon Musk's strategic prioritization. By understanding the depth of every 'YES' ✅, Elon has mastered the art of filtering out distractions and channeling his energy 🚀 towards groundbreaking innovations.
    Justine beautifully encapsulates this mindset 🧠, shedding light on how critical boundaries are in one's journey to achieving grand visions and dreams. This isn't just about Elon; it's a lesson for us all. Embrace the deeper understanding of when to say 'NO' to make way for your profound 'YES.' 🌟
    For a more comprehensive understanding, check out: 'The art of the deep yes: Justine Musk at TEDxOlympicBlvdWomen' by TEDx Talks.
    #JustineMusk #ElonMusk #PowerOfNo #DeepYes #Prioritization #VisionaryMinds #TEDxTalks #StrategicThinking #LifeLessons #PersonalBoundaries #TimeManagement #EnergyFocus #UnlockSuccess #MuskPhilosophy #TEDxEducational #PersonalDevelopment #InnovativeThinking #MindsetMastery #ProtectingEnergy #SayNoToSayYes #AchievingDreams #PowerOfYes #BoundariesMatter #InspirationalTalks #LearningFromElon #GrowthMindset #ChannelingEnergy #TEDxInsights #JourneyToSuccess

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  • @rbakboy
    @rbakboy 11 місяців тому +3577

    She is 100% right. If you think by saying yes you are being nice, don’t be a fool. People will take advantage of you and treat you like crap really fast.

    • @ajthomas770
      @ajthomas770 11 місяців тому +41

      She didn't do it ...Why the f I listen to her... I want to hear from him, not the person who took his assets in the divorce & saying things about him & still using him to make money .

    • @ZoyaSpencer
      @ZoyaSpencer 11 місяців тому +10

      @@ajthomas770 jaded assumptions.

    • @divergentthg7925
      @divergentthg7925 11 місяців тому +13

      ​@@ZoyaSpencerwhen you live in a society the way it is a good percentage of these females do it that way it's a very good assumption especially the way she is talking the long-winded way of saying I got a lot of the stuff from the last guy

    • @davezemba9109
      @davezemba9109 11 місяців тому +13

      Gold digger who watches how much he made so she knew how much she could steal.

    • @bibekjung7404
      @bibekjung7404 11 місяців тому +1

      KABER ALMIGHTY GOD Creator of all SOULS 🙏😊

  • @Gretsch0997
    @Gretsch0997 Рік тому +1265

    The word no saved my health. It’s powerful and keeps leaches out of your life.

    • @kaikomedia
      @kaikomedia  11 місяців тому +14

      Love this... I'm glad you're doing well. :)

    • @hemanthk6960
      @hemanthk6960 11 місяців тому +24

      Yes..
      No to clot shots .. saved many..

    • @Dave5843-d9m
      @Dave5843-d9m 11 місяців тому +10

      There are ways to say no. But some people will always get upset when they don’t get a yes from you. These are the ones to avoid and over time fend off before you need to say no.

    • @ClannCholmain
      @ClannCholmain 11 місяців тому +1

      @@hemanthk6960😂
      Show us the data.

    • @Elonmuskateer
      @Elonmuskateer 11 місяців тому

      @@hemanthk6960I know one guy who had no shots and ended up with clots on lungs and in hospital on breathing apparatus, had to go on blood thinners for 6 months, crazy eh .. he was so anti vac

  • @mariobethell3731
    @mariobethell3731 11 місяців тому +193

    The greatest gift as a child that l got from my mother was the ability to say "no". That gift protected me from many dangers.

    • @serisa2769
      @serisa2769 9 місяців тому +2

      Exzy

    • @gloriavis
      @gloriavis 9 місяців тому +7

      I have been exposed to many dangers because I didn't say no!!!

    • @emumemu2303
      @emumemu2303 4 місяці тому +4

      Mine was the opposite.
      Eldest daughter from an Asian family, we were taught that saying no = disrespectful, ungrateful, shameful behavior.

    • @johnolamide6469
      @johnolamide6469 4 місяці тому +3

      ​@@emumemu2303Last born of an african family here. I existed to boost the ego of my parents and siblings. Say no and you are beaten back to shape.

    • @YuyiLeal
      @YuyiLeal 4 місяці тому

      So lucky!!!

  • @Edenismdotca
    @Edenismdotca 5 місяців тому +224

    “Behind every no is a deeper yes to what you do want”
    Beautiful ❤

    • @tiborzkarate1
      @tiborzkarate1 4 місяці тому +2

      You both need help, hurry up 😱

    • @bruceolga3644
      @bruceolga3644 3 місяці тому

      Ewe huemans are programmed backwards fixed ribosome waiting for mRNA data programming to copy paste and & DNA 🧬 y transmit the data given back like parroting parrots 🦜...ewe cliché clone huemans should be somewhat aware more 👁️

    • @517hectorhernandez
      @517hectorhernandez 3 місяці тому +1

      @@tiborzkarate1 it’s a circular argument no- yes- no yes lol

    • @Gregarious3
      @Gregarious3 3 місяці тому

      Correct, achieved my goals, gave my wife a duplex to rent out, walked into a jewelry store with her and said pick anything you want, we can afford it.

    • @alfredbenedek3398
      @alfredbenedek3398 Місяць тому

      so? when i tell you, no, i am not able to move my body, to take you,to the nearest train staion? there is a yes somewher, what nobody knows - hears or guesses?!

  • @CareerHubSpot
    @CareerHubSpot 9 місяців тому +54

    I'm having inner happiness this evening just by simply saying 'no' to a request to a friend whom i always give a 'yes'

  • @PascalBachmann
    @PascalBachmann 10 місяців тому +335

    He's not afraid to say no to things that don't align with his goals, and that's something we can all learn from.

    • @elizasales8204
      @elizasales8204 9 місяців тому +5

      But ended up loosing his marriage.

    • @missrhondam
      @missrhondam 9 місяців тому +11

      ​@elizasales8204 Sadly, his marriage wasn't a part of his long-term goals 😢

    • @MrGengad
      @MrGengad 8 місяців тому +6

      I became successful because I said NO to many times to my family and also to my parents. My ex-wife was refused to align with me, and I dropped her off and continued with my success.

    • @pasjonatpl
      @pasjonatpl 8 місяців тому +2

      ​@elizasales8204
      It's just a short so I'm not sure there is a longer video. If yes and she explained why her marriage failed, ok. However, we don't know her ex's version. If there isn't any explanation, how do you know what happened? Maybe she wasn't able to accept the fact that her husband worked so much and was more absent in their private life but she wanted money he provided. Maybe she wasn't able to say "no" to another man, when her husband was away working.

    • @Puncti
      @Puncti 6 місяців тому

      If your S/O can't support you in achieving your dreams then they are selfish. If a S/O needs attention all the time to prevent you from achieving your dreams then they are selfish. AKA this speaker is selfish and giving selfish advice.

  • @mamarobyn
    @mamarobyn 11 місяців тому +1192

    Somebody literally asked me what's the most important thing you've learned now that you're in your 40s and I said learning to say no.

    • @kaikomedia
      @kaikomedia  11 місяців тому +8

      Wow

    • @barryepsteins4984
      @barryepsteins4984 11 місяців тому +6

      What happened in your 20's and 30's? Sounds like there's a lot of baggage that's been accumulated.

    • @burstcity3832
      @burstcity3832 11 місяців тому +1

      Fire hot

    • @beccareynolds4625
      @beccareynolds4625 11 місяців тому +5

      Same here. I’m done now. It’s a firm no to anything that is excellent and part of my own personal journey.

    • @danielwilkinson1024
      @danielwilkinson1024 11 місяців тому +11

      'What is the most important thing..'
      Becoming a servant of Christ.
      I have found that if I chase after success, as the world defines it, then I am miserable, and no matter how successful I get, my success is a fruitless endeavor.
      Lol, I know it sounds ironic, but it was only when I became a servant of Christ, go all in for God, that I found freedom, liberty, joy, peace, and fulfillment.
      Going all in for God allowed my success to actually have meaning, have legitimate and eternal purpose.

  • @j0t324
    @j0t324 11 місяців тому +291

    That's a brilliant explanation about how critical it is to find our own "yes".

  • @dhz35
    @dhz35 3 місяці тому +22

    Two girls at work asked me to meet them for a drink after work one time, and I obliged them by saying “Fine, I’ll meet you for 1 drink”. We get to the bar and by the time I’ve finished my beer one of the girls had already brought another round of drinks, including a second beer for me which I didn’t ask for. I said “whoa, I can’t accept this. When you invited me out, I said I’ll stay for 1 drink. That was the deal.” They were understanding and bummed that I was leaving and so I left. The next day or so, I give the girl a ride home who bought me the beer and she praised me for telling her that I was down for 1 drink and now she respects me more for it. Learn how to say “no” gentlemen (and ladies). Stand by your word

    • @HussainYasser-qc7pk
      @HussainYasser-qc7pk Місяць тому

      So you had a double date?

    • @dhz35
      @dhz35 Місяць тому

      @@HussainYasser-qc7pk Not exactly

  • @sharon1939
    @sharon1939 8 місяців тому +13

    I haven't quite learnt the art of saying no but I have learnt how to ignore disrespectful people.

  • @davidfitnesstech
    @davidfitnesstech 11 місяців тому +177

    I can relate to this.
    I *used* to say *'yes'* to pretty much everything. And I was always mad at myself for it.

    • @kaikomedia
      @kaikomedia  11 місяців тому +6

      This post was definitely meant for everyone who can relate. And based off how many people have seen this; 10M on IG, 2M on youtube, it's safe to say - ALOT of people relate. I would go as far as to say that it's a core message of consciousness.

    • @aliatabassum6126
      @aliatabassum6126 9 місяців тому

      And how you changed this ?

    • @davidfitnesstech
      @davidfitnesstech 9 місяців тому

      @@aliatabassum6126
      I stopped being such a "people pleaser" and stopped letting people *take advantage of me.*
      I just made up my mind and changed.

  • @apbt067
    @apbt067 10 місяців тому +876

    “You can’t negotiate if you can’t say no” Jordan Peterson.

    • @DejaVuSept11
      @DejaVuSept11 9 місяців тому +25

      Nothing that J Peterson has said is of any consequence to me, the guy is terrifyingly narcissist and a good actor, because he hides it very well. Only when you hear him enough you can see the contradictions and the real cruelty of his character

    • @morganseppy5180
      @morganseppy5180 9 місяців тому +10

      JP is hardly the person to quote on that. As long as there have been car salesmen, there's been the adage: always be ready to walk away (from the deal). But it's probably predates that--8 wouldn't be surprised if Sun Tsu wrote that down.

    • @elleash3888
      @elleash3888 9 місяців тому +11

      @@DejaVuSept11not to mention a raging, unhinged genocide supporter. Calling for the death of millions of innocent men women and children living in a concentration camp is wild.

    • @SA-ey6nt
      @SA-ey6nt 9 місяців тому +3

      ​@@DejaVuSept11 Yes you can very vividly see and hear his word salad when he's interviewed by an actual journalist or interviewer and is posed with a simple yes/no question

    • @markk_g
      @markk_g 7 місяців тому

      @@DejaVuSept11must suck being a miserable sack of sh with no capacity for complex thought

  • @EasyChuckX
    @EasyChuckX 11 місяців тому +169

    As a successful contractor and generally handy person, my family has constantly asked for free help. I used to give in and do everything from framing door installs to making a whole glamping trailer conversion in a couple weekends.
    Only in the past year have I turned down each and every one of those requests. Boy does it feel good to do what you want to do.

    • @kaikomedia
      @kaikomedia  11 місяців тому +4

      I'm glad. Always get paid handsomely for what you do. Then, charge double! ;)

    • @Narrowgaugefilms
      @Narrowgaugefilms 11 місяців тому +13

      It's absolutely key to keep your skills a closely guarded secret! If you let people know, they will see them as free stuff for themselves! Your time will no longer be your own.
      This goes whether you are a doctor, lawyer, electrician, plumber or any skill people pay for.
      My friend was working with his Dad at the house. They accidentally broke a piece of molding. His Dad whipped out a set of carving tools and expertly carved a new molding and slipped it into place like a puzzle piece!
      Paul said "Dad! I had no idea you could do that!
      Dad said "Shhhh! Your mother doesn't know!

    • @Robert-ko8fi
      @Robert-ko8fi 10 місяців тому

      At least you learned a little bit about a work trade for free.

    • @kriztoppa
      @kriztoppa 3 місяці тому

      Do they all hate you now?

    • @Charmainecharmainecharmaine
      @Charmainecharmainecharmaine 3 місяці тому

      @@kriztoppaprobably. But it’s not his problem, it’s theirs

  • @nonawolf7495
    @nonawolf7495 9 місяців тому +198

    Many girls were raised to be "people pleasers"... we never learned how to say NO - and it cost us everything.

    • @anikatasnim6001
      @anikatasnim6001 7 місяців тому +3

      Just start saying no and see what happens, just for experiment. I started it in college, late.. still better than never.

    • @hlnblk
      @hlnblk 7 місяців тому

      Women are more typically agreeable by nature.

    • @manchuriancandidatethe3rd101
      @manchuriancandidatethe3rd101 7 місяців тому

      Men on average, at least the true masculine ones, are disagreeable by nature and have unwavering boundaries and beliefs. It is due to the evolutionary biology of fighting and willing to die for to protect and provide for their families. The strongest ones become leaders that are capable of protecting and guiding their tribes to flourish. Back in the days, those are the men who get to reproduce (women can sense the strength in them) and they had their pick of the hottest women because women are evolved to be hypergamous. Their male offsprings are naturally selected to continue such masculinity if raised well and go thru similar rites of passage. Can’t say this same about men today.

    • @Learnersense
      @Learnersense 5 місяців тому

      What anyone does after 18 is there choice....no mata d influence or upbringing.
      No excuses after 18 or magnanimously after 20years.
      Nobody points gun at anyone at 20 to retain or adopt choices and decisions and indicisions.

    • @nonawolf7495
      @nonawolf7495 5 місяців тому +3

      @@Learnersense You know nothing.
      Judge not, lest ye be judged.

  • @zylle1993
    @zylle1993 3 місяці тому +10

    Biggest thing i learned dealing with stress and depression was to say NO to the people not worth my time. Think about yourself before you think of others

    • @Agate_Island
      @Agate_Island 2 місяці тому

      Hmmm, I try and take an opposite approach and strive to put others ahead of myself. I’m not always successful but as I’ve put my wife ahead of my own needs and wants our relationship has been much better and she tries to do the same thing, as I’ve put my children’s needs ahead of my own I’ve been able to focus my energy on things that have strengthened our family, as I’ve tried to put the needs of friends over my own I’ve created better, longer lasting friendships with people who I now consider like family, I even try to put my coworkers needs above my own and in many ways I feel like it’s created teams that have been highly effective and we’ve developed stronger personal relationships.
      On the flip side, those times in my life where I have focused on myself have been much darker, lonelier and less fulfilling than those times I have tried to focus on others.

    • @iche9373
      @iche9373 Місяць тому

      That means you used to say yes to toxic people before?!😂

    • @zylle1993
      @zylle1993 Місяць тому

      @@iche9373 you dont get it before you have been there. Some people, including myself, give and give and give, we work overtime, help everyone in need, constantly helping out, but some people abuse your goodwill and lack of being able to say "no, i cant today" so you bend urself out of shape and abusers continue to wear you down. Once i learned to say no to these kind of people, it literally saved my life. Thats the point. Some people dont have issues with this, for some its a major struggle

  • @allosaurusfragilis7782
    @allosaurusfragilis7782 11 місяців тому +366

    I used to say yes at work a lot, in the belief i would be regarded as willing, eager and helpful.....thereby being an excellent employee.
    The result was i got treated as a doormat and my boss had little respect for me. Then , when i said no one time, for legitimate reasons, i got handed a big telling off.
    Harsh lesson there. Dont think being the yes man will do you any favours...it absolutely will not. Being non confrontational and obliging you may think will make life easy and it does....for your boss, not for you. I guarantee you will get more respect by standing up for yourself, saying no and not being afraid of confrontation. These people do way better. Choosing the path of least resistance will cost you in the end, mark my words.
    By the way, this also applies in a marriage.

    • @zigsrig
      @zigsrig 11 місяців тому +22

      Agreed 100%. I spent most of my working life being that easy-going guy who would help out with anything. It got me nowhere!

    • @letsthinkbriefly3761
      @letsthinkbriefly3761 11 місяців тому +12

      Although marriage dynamic is a bit different as it requires different emotional and sacrificial fits and sizes. Other than than in any part of our life a proper Yes and No is needed. Saying YES to something which you resent doing is worst thing ever. It builds hatred inside you which bog not just your mental health down but affects your physical health too.

    • @kellydavis6316
      @kellydavis6316 11 місяців тому +5

      @@letsthinkbriefly3761 you don't know me...stop talking about me, lol.

    • @brigittehochgreve7192
      @brigittehochgreve7192 11 місяців тому +6

      That's so right. I started to say no in my Marriage but still did not have the courage to say what I wanted. Before I could learn that he found a new Wife.

    • @Moe7133
      @Moe7133 11 місяців тому

      Stop lying women’s! Only yes dear gets the man laid at night. Those who say no will be sleeping on the couch and having a cold shower!

  • @bikeman9419
    @bikeman9419 11 місяців тому +43

    My wife and I have 6 children, all grown now. My favorite word is NO. It saved me from going insane.

    • @alexxenaosas2416
      @alexxenaosas2416 4 місяці тому

      make sense , all I understand in this video is that we all know it all ready ! " women dont know what they want " this idea of no, yes crap is only in their head . We know when to say no and yes when to say yes ! . "Behind every NO is a fucking NO women , wake up ! :)

  • @meisdetermined
    @meisdetermined 10 місяців тому +257

    The quickest way to see who a person really is-is to tell them no. They will either understand your reasoning OR they will turn on you and show you their selfishness.

    • @teepain2361
      @teepain2361 5 місяців тому +1

      Find a place 40 years from now!

    • @YuyiLeal
      @YuyiLeal 4 місяці тому

      Well said.

    • @alenaadamkova7617
      @alenaadamkova7617 3 місяці тому +1

      Well the employees have to say yes to everything...the bosses can say no.

    • @superchuck3259
      @superchuck3259 3 місяці тому

      @@alenaadamkova7617 What happens then, is the workers, they just do what they are asked. They stop being proactive and working independently.

    • @Calaxt01
      @Calaxt01 3 місяці тому

      Or just say no. You don't owe it to everyone to explain your reasoning.

  • @FreePalestineEndZionism
    @FreePalestineEndZionism 8 місяців тому +14

    I finally started saying no now in my 40’s. FINALLY I learned my worth ❤

    • @kaikomedia
      @kaikomedia  8 місяців тому +1

      Just wow... Thank you!!!

    • @Birdie101-hs4qs
      @Birdie101-hs4qs 3 місяці тому +1

      YES to Free Palestine
      NO to Zionist state

  • @CensoredComment-os8py
    @CensoredComment-os8py 7 місяців тому +5

    "NO!" has brought me MUCH more happiness.

  • @jamie.miller.inspiring
    @jamie.miller.inspiring 11 місяців тому +16

    I went past saying no and started offering prices, that quickly sends a message far more powerful than no 🙏

  • @milkshakeflake
    @milkshakeflake 11 місяців тому +203

    I always used to say yes to almost everything and everyone. The day I learned to say no especially unapologetically and without giving reason is the day I grew up in some aspect.

    • @Cheryl-z7n
      @Cheryl-z7n 10 місяців тому +2

      Yes!!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I feel your power, HUMBLENESS and respect in these 2 statements!! 😊😊

    • @sonyvalencia
      @sonyvalencia 4 місяці тому

      Yes, exactly it was a start in the right direction.

  • @brianchiasson8360
    @brianchiasson8360 11 місяців тому +134

    These words were actually detailed extremely well in a 2004 book called:
    "Boundaries: When To Say Yes, When To Say No, To Take Control Of Your Life".
    The book was written by Henry Cloud and John Townsend.

    • @theartistjodievans
      @theartistjodievans 11 місяців тому +1

      Best book I ever read

    • @kendrav.2088
      @kendrav.2088 11 місяців тому +1

      I have that book it's really good

    • @FernandoGonzalez-ub9iw
      @FernandoGonzalez-ub9iw 11 місяців тому +7

      NO, I won't read it!

    • @WernerChristianPoly
      @WernerChristianPoly 11 місяців тому +1

      Thanks for your comment. Greetings from Germany now hearing this book @ audible in German ;)

    • @brianchiasson8360
      @brianchiasson8360 11 місяців тому

      I wish the whole world could read it. I have tead thousands of books on all kinds of subject and this book was the best out of all of them.
      Unfortunately, the more people who read it will think will then think that the woman who quotes her words in this
      KaikoMedia video was plagiarizing them, since she didn't give credit to the book or its authors.
      @@WernerChristianPoly

  • @Robheadz
    @Robheadz 4 місяці тому +6

    "Maybe the reason i had trouble saying no to people was because i did not think that I was worth a yes to protect" 🤯

  • @93455Driver
    @93455Driver Місяць тому

    Helping others, sometimes less fortunate, can be very rewarding.

  • @LoStone1981
    @LoStone1981 11 місяців тому +15

    "Bright 'no's + deep 'yeses'." = clarity ✨

    • @kaikomedia
      @kaikomedia  11 місяців тому +2

      Glad you loved it :)

  • @christopherladmirault146
    @christopherladmirault146 10 місяців тому +31

    I really needed to hear this at this moment. Thank you!

  • @yvonnebarretta
    @yvonnebarretta Рік тому +89

    Thank you. That is a perfect explanation for why I can start saying no.

    • @kaikomedia
      @kaikomedia  Рік тому

      :)

    • @Gaurnet2010
      @Gaurnet2010 11 місяців тому +2

      Don't say yes to everything because corrupt human know you are so humble if they ask you as a victim while seeking sympathy you will fall in trap of trusting them and then get hurt at the end emotionally, financially and conciquence can be so bad that you might fall in trap of revenge and war

    • @yvonnebarretta
      @yvonnebarretta 11 місяців тому

      @dhimmigetwellsoonyatinarsi1342 Yeah, I get it. It's more to do with work, my family and friends. I can never say no when I really want to!

    • @Gaurnet2010
      @Gaurnet2010 11 місяців тому

      @@yvonnebarretta stay safe, follow the God, listen to your own soul and don't follow believers blindly, be a seeker and just do your own karma, don't worry about karma of other, they will face result according to their karma

  • @jesseondrumsjd
    @jesseondrumsjd 7 місяців тому

    That’s good advice for driven focused people. People who are young and figuring things out, saying yes creates more opportunities and builds connections

  • @Ipsissimus
    @Ipsissimus 11 місяців тому +350

    Man: No.
    Woman: Welcome to my TED talk.

    • @kaikomedia
      @kaikomedia  11 місяців тому +12

      XD

    • @DaveE99
      @DaveE99 10 місяців тому +5

      Yup but lots of guys have the same issues I’ve observed so I tell them to practice on me if they need it

    • @stoicism7988
      @stoicism7988 10 місяців тому +5

      This is deep 💀

    • @kaikomedia
      @kaikomedia  10 місяців тому

      @@stoicism7988 Appreciate you! 100

  • @dannymartinez9371
    @dannymartinez9371 11 місяців тому +7

    Excellent. I thought I was watching a comedian but she is serious and very insightful.

  • @pragma2017
    @pragma2017 11 місяців тому +12

    So true!!! Saying ‘no’ is very very hard for most people, you need strength to say NO!!!!

  • @avoicetocount
    @avoicetocount 8 місяців тому +1

    I had a boss for man years, who couldn't say no. It was nice at first, not getting antagonized. But in the end it broke me. My boss took on any request and all the sh*tloads of work that came with it and dumped it on her team. Interestingly enough she was rather immune to any hints and even to open criticism that we (as a department) are taking on too much and needed to set and enforce some clear boundaries as to where our services and staff capacity end. She never learned to put her foot down and say no. And I quit, eventually, when it was too late. I know how to say no. But I have to work on making it clear that I mean it right at the first time I say no. And, in fact, it's crucial to know what I have a true yes to, what I'm committed to.

  • @anthonyar3347
    @anthonyar3347 5 місяців тому +4

    Simply say No! Just stop overthinking everything!!

  • @Long_Machine
    @Long_Machine 11 місяців тому +659

    That’s her long, winded way of saying she got the house half the business and all of the kids in the divorce

    • @iridefast1
      @iridefast1 11 місяців тому +47

      Which is exactly what she was offered to begin with . By saying no her attorney got half.

    • @ajthomas770
      @ajthomas770 11 місяців тому +87

      Still making money using him ...

    • @ZoyaSpencer
      @ZoyaSpencer 11 місяців тому +36

      @@ajthomas770 do you know this for a fact or are you spewing prejudice?

    • @mrdouche9172
      @mrdouche9172 11 місяців тому

      @@ZoyaSpencer nonsense probably
      isn't this musk's first wife?
      she got a few million in the divorce, the house, and ~300k/year in child support
      Which is obviously a lot of money, but compared to the billions he has, it's pennies

    • @hashbrown4278
      @hashbrown4278 11 місяців тому +13

      He got half and he’s still the richest person on the planet?

  • @jamierose4088
    @jamierose4088 11 місяців тому +41

    After 50 years of being a no man, I realized deep inside I was really a yes man.
    I missed so many opportunities to say yes, I needed word salads to make sense of it.

    • @lftpward3167
      @lftpward3167 11 місяців тому +1

      There is no rhyme,reason,association or connection for the words in a word salad , it is truly amazing to witness for a sane person.

  • @alluring_alchemy11
    @alluring_alchemy11 Рік тому +54

    Some people in these comments are too negatively focused. As someone healing from lack of boundaries this has a profound and beautiful message for me. I wish everyone the best and I’m sorry you could not take something positive from her message because of your own limiting beliefs.

    • @scasey1960
      @scasey1960 Рік тому

      Pure BS

    • @chrissmith-lf1hz
      @chrissmith-lf1hz Рік тому

      I think to many people here, she seems to be talking complete nonsense. Myself included. It's not that people are being negative, they/we are pointing out that her discourse appears to be incoherent at an almost delusional level.

    • @ZoyaSpencer
      @ZoyaSpencer Рік тому +3

      ​@@chrissmith-lf1hz It's crystal clear to those who are attuned. Perhaps your life is either to perfect, or too far gone. No offense intended but I don't know how else to put it. Because her message is crystal clear.

    • @chrissmith-lf1hz
      @chrissmith-lf1hz Рік тому

      @@ZoyaSpencer so could you explain it to me?thanks

    • @rosannearcher6706
      @rosannearcher6706 Рік тому

      agreed

  • @NiniskoMueller
    @NiniskoMueller 4 місяці тому

    Nice. It was the best lesson of 2023. Only... my NO needed the energy and phrasing of F.OFF ! Thats how I needed to stand up for myself. With a bit of rage and clarity.

  • @peterlustig6823
    @peterlustig6823 7 місяців тому +6

    Explain them that the No to them is the Yes to yourself

    • @sefutho
      @sefutho 3 місяці тому

      🙏🏾

  • @shaunalger905
    @shaunalger905 11 місяців тому +36

    Why is this a ted talk

    • @liberalmonk839
      @liberalmonk839 11 місяців тому +6

      It's "TEDx!
      "TED Conferences are organized and run directly by TED. TEDx events are fully planned and coordinated independently, on a community-by-community basis. The goal of TEDx is to inspire a passion for spreading ideas in local communities from within."

    • @aronob
      @aronob 10 місяців тому

      Because they run out of ideas and people, they just went to the grocery store and brought the first person to say yes, and after that she realized she was supposed to say no 😂

    • @dirtsapient9638
      @dirtsapient9638 10 місяців тому

      Because she had sex with elon musk. So people are supposed to pretend she matters now.

    • @JB-1007
      @JB-1007 4 місяці тому +1

      @@aronobbecause she was married to Elon musk

    • @JB-1007
      @JB-1007 4 місяці тому +1

      She’s Elon’s ex wife

  • @Scole23786
    @Scole23786 Рік тому +8

    She’s so right! Its actually easier for ambitious men to say NO to everything and everyone else in order to be lax or focused by their partners are taking on the responsibilities of managing the family and home life. Often times, that partner is the woman!

  • @Imagineitwrite123
    @Imagineitwrite123 11 місяців тому +20

    Ah there is nothing more powerful than saying no to something where a yes was expected

    • @ZoyaSpencer
      @ZoyaSpencer 11 місяців тому +1

      No doubt it's true in the world, but I think that's a different video or podcast.

    • @knowledgeispowerofgod
      @knowledgeispowerofgod 10 місяців тому

      No

  • @limitlesssky3050
    @limitlesssky3050 3 місяці тому

    What protected me in this society is my ability to reject someone by saying yes and running as far away as possible before they knew I rejected them.

  • @brucethompson7214
    @brucethompson7214 3 місяці тому +1

    Some of us said No to a lot of things a few years back. We were mocked, excluded and even lost friends and family. Regrets? NO.

    • @CrackedCandy
      @CrackedCandy 2 місяці тому +1

      There with you bruh. Remember what happened. Don't forget

    • @brucethompson7214
      @brucethompson7214 2 місяці тому +1

      @@CrackedCandy 100%! Lost my job. Lost a lot of old friends who turned into monsters simply because I had a different view to them. Found out who my true friends were real quick!

  • @eddieyutub
    @eddieyutub Рік тому +12

    No to his kids who just wanted to play with him. But that's the unfortunate truth for most people who are not willing to sacrifice success for their children. Get healthy, healthy and then become successful with your family. Growing but no one. Their kids under 7 years old. Those are the times you need to be there. I can see what ultra successful people have many families. Because they see it like a business. If one fails, let's try another one and keep going. That's why his first son Xavier won nothing to do with him

    • @Welding_Handyman
      @Welding_Handyman 11 місяців тому +3

      There’s so much truth in these powerful words. Her ex-husband chose his job and success over family life. It’s hard sometimes to balance, work/life. Some powerful life lessons here. He should’ve said yes to his kids and wife.

    • @eddieyutub
      @eddieyutub 11 місяців тому

      @@Welding_Handyman then the world will stay the same. Jesus made his sacrifices too

    • @TheThingoftheSky
      @TheThingoftheSky 3 місяці тому

      ​@@eddieyutub yes

  • @dgbroome
    @dgbroome 11 місяців тому +30

    If you don’t get it listen again, and again, and keep listening. From the bottom of my heart, if you maybe don’t get it, this message is for you most of all. It doesn’t make you less of a person to find your boundaries and to decide where you want to put your focus; rather than let everyone around you choose (directly or otherwise) what your do with your life. Particularly if you are in a coercive or controlling relationship, this may be difficult but it will be the moment that you will look back on and be grateful for. Ask me how I know. And to the speaker, keep saying it, the rest will catch up (eventually).

    • @kaikomedia
      @kaikomedia  11 місяців тому +6

      Hey, I really appreciate this sincere comment. Thank you so much for encouraging others to listen again and again and again, not for the views, but for the message within it. You're awesome!!

    • @MRGF78
      @MRGF78 11 місяців тому

      NO!!!

  • @victorolagunju
    @victorolagunju 5 місяців тому +4

    Every no is a deeper yes to what you really want
    Why not consider buying some hot meals from a local restaurant for homeless people in your city today? It’s a great way to make a positive impact. Also, if you’re interested, take some time to study and understand the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Pastor Joseph Prince is a wonderful teacher who can help you understand it better.

  • @sophial8983
    @sophial8983 9 місяців тому +2

    That's why he's where he's at today. He's happy cuz he truly is doing what he wants and succeeding at. So the No. Can be an a very empowering word that can save you in the long run on bulshit

  • @senesiethomas7141
    @senesiethomas7141 4 місяці тому

    I never saw it this way. Saying no most of the time is saying yes to yourself on something. Trust me I would agree that most of the time we say yes to People and it affects us because we are subconsciously caught up trying to be there for everyone and no one is there for us. Sadly, they can all do without us. I have done this many a time and I can’t stress enough how powerful it is to say “no”. I remember practicing to say a quick “no” to my boss. He called me one time and just completed my shift and wanted me to show up for another shift making it look like he had me already for that. I immediately said I am just off and had not consented for any shift like that and I said I had other plans and no I can’t. I felt good that day that I stood my ground. I was caught up between trying to please my boss and actually looking for myself and I choose myself.
    Trust me, saying no is powerful most of the time

  • @PradhanmantriBruhh
    @PradhanmantriBruhh 10 місяців тому +4

    Thats all true there.
    Lot of successful people have to go off a lot of No's. Some very hard No's

    • @Merriwether-w8k
      @Merriwether-w8k 5 місяців тому

      Elon should not have children

    • @kmav23
      @kmav23 3 місяці тому

      He very wealthy, tall and good genetics.

  • @healthmet1501
    @healthmet1501 Рік тому +153

    She was actually his best wife

    • @Boredoutofmywits
      @Boredoutofmywits 11 місяців тому +4

      Talulah looked like a very sweet kid too.

    • @Ed19601
      @Ed19601 11 місяців тому +11

      ​@@Boredoutofmywitswell, apparently he did not think so and that's what counts

    • @ikeskifan
      @ikeskifan 11 місяців тому +3

      So does it matter what you die of, You're still freaking dead

    • @ashleygrant3131
      @ashleygrant3131 11 місяців тому

      Idk about that.

    • @Garett.1214
      @Garett.1214 11 місяців тому +4

      Still left him

  • @sheneedsme
    @sheneedsme 11 місяців тому +7

    Warren Buffet said he said no ten times more than he said yes and that was the key to his success. I have told no to some high end clients (I build big multimillion dollar houses) and have never regretted it. A lot of people are just more hassle than they are worth. Later on I would find out the client turned down would be an absolute nightmare for the builder that took their job.

    • @kaikomedia
      @kaikomedia  11 місяців тому +1

      I really love this! Thanks for sharing. It's much appreciated!

  • @rebeccacasas6152
    @rebeccacasas6152 3 місяці тому

    We learned from our mistakes..Thank you! For bringing no to us! God Bless!

  • @mariacirillo3486
    @mariacirillo3486 3 місяці тому

    So true. It's amazing how often people try to get in the way when you can't make time for trivial things, because you're pursuing a larger, long-term goal.

  • @sadiamufti8890
    @sadiamufti8890 Рік тому +11

    She sooooooo right.

    • @kaikomedia
      @kaikomedia  11 місяців тому +1

      Glad you love it!

    • @MRGF78
      @MRGF78 11 місяців тому

      NO!!!

  • @ronaldcole7415
    @ronaldcole7415 4 місяці тому +4

    “Extremely successful” is an extremely vague concept. This woman defines it clearly as monetary and physical gains by “protecting resources”. Two things that you cannot take with you when you leave this place. There are others that define extremely successful in an entirely different viewpoint.

    • @voguehaven5154
      @voguehaven5154 4 місяці тому

      she never defined it at all. She was talking about saying the word no.

    • @Kittonwy
      @Kittonwy 3 місяці тому

      By extremely successful she meant Elon musk

  • @Bokgat
    @Bokgat 11 місяців тому +24

    Attorney for the defence : “so you said no but meant a deep yes ?“ What claptrap

    • @cabbage-soup
      @cabbage-soup 11 місяців тому +3

      that kind of misrepresents her argument xD the "deep yes" is obviously meant for the opposite of what the defendant is saying "no" to.
      a "no" to (A) is equal to a "yes" to (not A)

    • @chrissmith-lf1hz
      @chrissmith-lf1hz 11 місяців тому

      This sounds dangerous like the twisted misogynistic "no means maybe and maybe means yes" argument used to defend rapists back in the day. Weird

    • @lindatyner3349
      @lindatyner3349 11 місяців тому +4

      When you say no to something, it frees you to say yes to other options. Options that may potentially propel you to a desired goal.

    • @kellydavis6316
      @kellydavis6316 11 місяців тому +1

      When you can say no ro someone else's BS you can start saying yes to your own needs and wants and dreams.... the deep yes.

  • @JR-se5sf
    @JR-se5sf 7 місяців тому +1

    Thank You for sharing.

  • @Mercy4u4
    @Mercy4u4 2 місяці тому +1

    Acting assertively reduces codependency and does refocus one's energy toward personal goals effectively. At risk though is one appearing selfish😮

  • @racheallovette-dm5eg
    @racheallovette-dm5eg 11 місяців тому +6

    Wow, just wow on the comments.
    I started reading them to see who her husband was, not knowing.
    But only because I am the person she is... I am in the role of always having to say yes.
    I'm amazed at all the negative comments on here. Look at the person, not what her husband has accomplished. Oh.. and he got that way from pushing and setting boundaries, to me she is saying to do the same.
    And for the nasty comments about him leaving her, I'm so happy for you who are in your 1st relationship still and no one has ever left you, that's incredible. Congratulations. Now you know how stupid you sound? Smh! Some of you care way to much about other people but sit here and point fingers.

    • @kaikomedia
      @kaikomedia  11 місяців тому +5

      Hey Racheal, I really appreciate the genuine comment.
      Yeah, unfortunately, the comments on UA-cam don't tend to be the greatest. Perhaps it's reflective of a lot of dark that has yet to see light. But I can assure you, your resonance with the message is shared with many. Myself, and up to 166K who shared this same post on IG, and on my IG - the comments, are also filled with a lot of nonsense, but there's so many who resonated with it; and saw behind surface level...
      Anyway, I trust you'll find your way...

  • @WholeFoodPlantPeople
    @WholeFoodPlantPeople Рік тому +18

    Unchecked, it is also a good way to become selfish and ignore the needs of others

    • @daveburke5177
      @daveburke5177 11 місяців тому +2

      That depends what your deeper yes is. Maybe you want to help somebody in dire need but get waylaid by requests from others who are not as desperate.

  • @BugWalk
    @BugWalk 11 місяців тому +8

    When a woman says no, it does not always mean yes.

  • @mojammer
    @mojammer 3 місяці тому

    The same applies to love and hate. “Love wins”, “say no to hate” all that jazz. You must necessarily hate that which would hurt the thing you love.

  • @poonamdayal9088
    @poonamdayal9088 9 місяців тому

    Wow! This is a Fundamental of "Manifesting!" - beautiful awareness!

    • @kaikomedia
      @kaikomedia  9 місяців тому

      Appreciate you! Thanks for watching!!

  • @arianebennion
    @arianebennion 11 місяців тому +4

    My husband says no to sex staying inside our marriage. His yes is to prostitutes and all whores.

    • @jackandblaze5956
      @jackandblaze5956 11 місяців тому

      That's the wrong thing for him to say no to, but why is he still your husband if you're not ok with it? Anyway, there was a book written by a female psychologist who experimented by becoming a high priced prostitute for a while. She said that almost half her customers didn't even want to have sex, they just wanted to talk to someone (pretty) who was non judgemental and emotionally supportive with some physical non sexual contact. Mind you, I'm not defending his actions. There's also the other kind of guy who equates sex with something vile and nasty. That kind of guy is uncomfortable having sex with someone he loves and respects & can't even get turned on by a "good" woman. Is he Catholic? There's a heavy dose of guilt about sex being vile and dirty that's hard to shake off for some Catholic guys. I personally can't think sexually about a woman who's sweet, darling, precious, beautiful, and youthful, especially if I have feelings for her.

    • @jonl716
      @jonl716 11 місяців тому

      I wouldn't cheat in a long term relationship unless my partner refused to give me what I needed, despite every attempt to get her to give it to me.
      I've never cheated in my life, but if a partner neglected me deeply in some way, it's possible.

    • @blahdedah1334
      @blahdedah1334 11 місяців тому

      Then try saying yes to him.

  • @rons2525
    @rons2525 11 місяців тому +12

    if all it took was hard work every woman in Africa would be a billionaire

    • @vigilantezack
      @vigilantezack 11 місяців тому +2

      Hard work at the right things.

    • @koolkat5217
      @koolkat5217 11 місяців тому

      Maybe men too?

  • @MrJbar41
    @MrJbar41 Рік тому +6

    I walked backwards...then i walked forward. Ummmm.... yeah thats it!!

  • @raymondbrown940
    @raymondbrown940 2 місяці тому

    She pretty much just described my life. I've never been good at saying no and I think it's probably because my Yes was a desire to say Yes to others. I learned that late in life and it's gone now. But, my mind still struggles with it. I still have a hard time saying No. I guess I need to find my Yes.

  • @jetetarro
    @jetetarro 8 місяців тому

    I have trouble saying no because i genuinely want to help others, and seeing their desperation and knowing I can help pushes me to say yes. It’s a sense of commitment and solidarity to others but truly, we can’t stop our goals for everyone because there are “vampires” who utilize and abuse you until the last drop of blood then forget about you.

  • @user-px6to1gs7z
    @user-px6to1gs7z Рік тому +4

    Sorry, this is sincere but nonsense to me.

  • @theartistjodievans
    @theartistjodievans Рік тому +17

    It’s incredible how many people aren’t intelligent enough to comprehend what she is speaking about. 😂😂😂

    • @chrissmith-lf1hz
      @chrissmith-lf1hz 11 місяців тому +5

      That's an arrogant comment if ever there was one. I've asked for another alternative explanation as l don't get it, and l have recieved zero feedback or nonsense. Would you like to climb down from the heights and maybe help us out? Thanks

    • @theartistjodievans
      @theartistjodievans 11 місяців тому +3

      @@chrissmith-lf1hz So, because you’re not smart enough to understand HER, I must be arrogant?? 🤦🏼‍♀️

    • @chrissmith-lf1hz
      @chrissmith-lf1hz 11 місяців тому +3

      @@theartistjodievans There you go again. Rude and disrespectful. You obviously don't learn much from these talks. Keep going if it makes you feel more entitled.

    • @Garett.1214
      @Garett.1214 11 місяців тому +1

      What she talking about is utilizing someone else name for clout after she left him.

    • @jamesbrice6619
      @jamesbrice6619 11 місяців тому +2

      I'm not. Sounded like a word salad to me. You can't tell me she couldn't have articulated the idea with far better clarity

  • @kimi651
    @kimi651 11 місяців тому +9

    Wow, this woman wanted to be somebody and not be behind Elon's shadow...and now that she had her independence and saw that she had no competence, she goes back to trying to live in his shadow almost 20 years later. So funny.
    She wanted more, and now she sees that nobody is interested in her without Elon.

    • @dirtsapient9638
      @dirtsapient9638 10 місяців тому

      Her greatest accomplishment in life, was being attractive to elon musk , and having sex with him. Congratulations lady you get a free ride for the rest of your life. Poor baby.

  • @avshreeanurag1010
    @avshreeanurag1010 4 місяці тому

    Beautiful message. Thank you!❤

  • @actiondefence
    @actiondefence 6 місяців тому

    Being able to say No for the right reason is a Super Power!

  • @malibudreams2873
    @malibudreams2873 Рік тому +13

    I’m sick of people trying to pretend Elon is something other than a total narcissist.

    • @Slowhand871
      @Slowhand871 11 місяців тому +5

      Good for you. He has incredible talents and as great an innovator as Emerson/ Ford or any of the greatest in history. Of course he has faults but I love his innovations.

    • @user-ez9en7vk2z
      @user-ez9en7vk2z 11 місяців тому +3

      Don't diss the greatest African American of all time... the Leonardo d Vinci of our era fighting 4 free speech with a tinge of humor.
      Jealousy makes you nasty....

    • @jcruisioso5975
      @jcruisioso5975 11 місяців тому +3

      He's brilliant and foolish at once. Blowing billions on arrogance and control. Achieving huge gains , while in denial about real problems. He's smart . Not yet wise.

    • @Muzzy0085
      @Muzzy0085 11 місяців тому +1

      Nobody said you have to marry him. Mind you own business

    • @user-ez9en7vk2z
      @user-ez9en7vk2z 11 місяців тому

      @@Muzzy0085 nobody said you have utter stupid statements.

  • @chrissmith-lf1hz
    @chrissmith-lf1hz Рік тому +6

    Is this satire? It's very sad if it is not.

    • @MRGF78
      @MRGF78 11 місяців тому

      NO!!!

  • @robcrozier1692
    @robcrozier1692 Рік тому +4

    He said no to her?

  • @AnnMiriti-kp3tq
    @AnnMiriti-kp3tq 3 місяці тому

    I love the word no and so much how she is speaking. I love her

  • @pleasebemonday
    @pleasebemonday 5 місяців тому

    Brilliantly put. I love it.

  • @ewrekzz7360
    @ewrekzz7360 Рік тому +4

    Inherit, then deny

  • @Persianversion
    @Persianversion Рік тому +4

    You are not interesting

  • @polarnaut9645
    @polarnaut9645 3 місяці тому

    I know the idea of boundaries is a pretty common principle in YT these days, but my inability to say "no," nearly destroyed my marriage. It wasn't until I read the book "Boundaries" by Henry Cloud that I realized that it is, in fact, loving to say "no" because it's honest and truthful.

  • @cpearce
    @cpearce 4 місяці тому

    I taught my children that "NO" is the most important word in the English language. It has served them well.

  • @Alone1am
    @Alone1am 5 місяців тому +1

    I was never afraid to say no but i was foolish to always say yes. Today i see my self interests and say no because i dont allow people with greed to come feed on my skills and talent. Its mine for me only.

  • @Dapryor
    @Dapryor 3 місяці тому +1

    This reminds me of a ton of those late night conversations when you’re baked.

  • @harleysmith1857
    @harleysmith1857 9 місяців тому +1

    Ty this what i have been doing! I came to that realization and i had to work on this but over time it is powerful to ones soul

    • @kaikomedia
      @kaikomedia  9 місяців тому

      Glad you appreciate it! Thank you!

  • @LoveThatRod
    @LoveThatRod 5 місяців тому +2

    Most people are too nice to say NO - and that is a downfall

  • @mahmudali5404
    @mahmudali5404 8 місяців тому +1

    Well said to focus on your gold and go far in life you have to say no

  • @natalyan6495
    @natalyan6495 6 місяців тому +1

    Be a good friend to him! I hope you are! Elon has a good taste for women!

  • @someutubchannel69
    @someutubchannel69 7 місяців тому +1

    I would never said no to Her!
    Unless... He knew something we don't

  • @jaydeepgoswami8469
    @jaydeepgoswami8469 8 місяців тому

    Behind every no is a deeper yes to whatever it is that you do want❤❤

  • @kevinhall1671
    @kevinhall1671 7 місяців тому

    What a wonderful world we live in!

  • @acz51088
    @acz51088 3 місяці тому

    I’m self employed and I can relate too 100% of what she is saying. Alot of times people will wanna do
    Things with me and I usually say no because am too tired of working hard to build my wealth and company. It’s a hard balance

  • @JaniceWilliams-wd8wv
    @JaniceWilliams-wd8wv 3 місяці тому

    100% correct. I have sat on the sidelines while my husband fulfilled his career (traveling all over the world). I put emotions and problems that needed attention on the back burner so he would be able to do his work abroad with a clear head. All that did was delay the problem solving for 36 years. We are still married but I do feel a twinge of resentment that I supported him but he has not really supported me.

  • @sakinamohamed8376
    @sakinamohamed8376 4 місяці тому +1

    أتبعت نفس الخطوات والمقادير بالضبط وأخذ الريش ٤٥ دق في الفرن علشان يستوي بالنهاية كان طعمه اوكي ومقبول وليس واو

  • @lenaleclaire1210
    @lenaleclaire1210 9 місяців тому

    YES! That is very profound!

  • @ShamusOrien
    @ShamusOrien 8 місяців тому

    The next level to this is being able to make people comfortably accept your "No" with no grudges..

    • @florencelovme
      @florencelovme 8 місяців тому

      Just use Tactfulness
      They'll agree to you

    • @kaikomedia
      @kaikomedia  8 місяців тому

      I agree.

  • @khrisstytrancal8535
    @khrisstytrancal8535 9 місяців тому +2

    Thank you for this beautiful message amen.

  • @HoneyGuys-w5x
    @HoneyGuys-w5x 8 місяців тому +1

    Funkin' brilliant❤

  • @situationalawarenes
    @situationalawarenes 3 місяці тому

    Balancing what you give and what you get. Also some people see kindness as weakness.
    Also every y or n is a decision.
    Also setting priorities.