You are the real deal John because you recognize the importance of what you fight for. This is waaaay more important than any gunfighting video. Thanks
The most telling thing to me is that they spent almost the entire video turned toward each other. Their body language says more than their words ever could. Awesome. I’m in.
My wife and I have been married for 39 years. About 10 years ago we sat down and wrote out our rules of engagement, ie. no name calling, no generalizations, no comparing with anyone else. No bringing up the past, etc. we decided that our relationship was more important than anything. Else. We have found that there are times when we might be technically right but still be very wrong. It’s more important to do right than be right. We go out of our way to tell each other that we love each other. It is easier to love someone you respect so we choose to respect each other. I love the fact this kind of fight requires you bring no weapons to the fight.
Honestly John during this season of my life these types of talks have been so beneficial for me. I’ve been challenged in my marriage and have had to really dig in and learn what it looks like to be a husband that is pleasing in the eyes of the Lord. Thanks for sharing resources that have helped me in this journey. Thanks for all you do. Bless you and your family!
I've been happily dating my SO for 13 years and we came to this realization... One of the most important things couples need to acknowledge before any fight or disagreement is that YOU and your SO have each other's backs no matter what. You have to have a mutual understanding that when SHTF, that you and your SO will be the only people you can rely on (Bankruptcy, Illness, Zombies). Its hard to insult or hurt another person intentionally when you realize you are both on the same team.
Early on in my marriage, I came home and my wife started to raise her voice at me. I stopped her right away and told her two things are going to happen. 1st she was gonna go into the bathroom and yell at the mirror and 2nd I was gonna leave for a couple of hours. When I came back I asked if she was done yelling and we sat down and talked about what was bugging her. That was over 20yrs ago and in the last 25yrs we started to raise our voices twice, before we stopped and decided to talk. She was raised in a family that yelled all the time and I was raised you don't yell during a disagreement because you will say something you can't take back. It's ok to disagree, but not to yell at the one you love enough to be married to.
Good video. As an older fellow, I heard you both discuss what my wife and I have practiced. It works as long as you also remember that love isn't that warm fuzzy feeling you had when you first got together. We've found that love is a choice we make every moment. It doesn't matter what emotion you're feeling, if the relationship is to last, you must choice to stay in the relationship and fight for it everyday.
A few years back an OLD man I was familiar with said; “been married 65+years and never had a fight with my wife. Every time I see a fight coming I go for a walk, and that’s why I’ve lived so long (95+) I walked a lot.” Another very wise man recommended: never play win/lose...because someone going to loose. In May we celebrate 50 years of marital bliss. Oh... and she’s been very very supportive of me buying lots of guns ....ten +. Kinda a long story... later
I came to your channel for gun & gear reviews & training tips, but I think I enjoy these types of videos more than anything. I love my guns. I’m a police officer, so the tactical stuff is great. However, this stuff, this is the truly important stuff. I have been following Fierce Marriage for awhile now. It’s awesome to see y’all collaborating for this! Great video!
I want to thank you for taking the courage to upload this. It takes a lot where you have a lot of viewers that may not be open or willing to hear what can truly help others. I was not expecting to receive a spiritual message before going to bed (always watching and researching guns and training videos.) My wife and I have been married for 4 years now, which we have hard times and stress, especially with money, BUT: we made ground rules as stated in the video. Never go to bed angry, always share your love for each other through daily compliments, and include a mediator. And for us, we try and include the Great Mediator.
Ephesians 4:26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Wrath means violent anger. I agree with there are times you do need step back. Letting the sun set when you have wrath is a bad thing. I will definitely have to look into this book. Thanks for the video
John, Thanks for showing this side of your life. I came here because of a love for shooting and firearms but who knew, as my wife and I are Marriage Coaches and have taught a variety of programs over the years. The past three years has been a program called "ReEngage" out of Watermark Community Church in Texas. God Bless you all for the work God has called you to!
Great stuff guys. So refreshing to see solid people being such an example! Marriages & families are falling apart in this country, so to see people in the public eye having such a strong foundation and putting out this sort of content, is encouraging & amazing.
So awesome to see you guys are connected with Fierce Marriage, found their podcast a few weeks ago and have been listening a ton, great content to challenge and build your marriage. Great content!
I so wish I could “like” this video a thousand times. Our society needs more of this, more love, more grace, more faith in Christ. Thank you for doing what you do! Next time you’re in Southern California, please stop by Sandals Church. Would love to have you!
So refreshing to see the four of you on this podcast, doing your best to make a positive difference in people's lives with a realistic sharing on addressing conflict with a foundation of faith. Not syrupy, not pollyannish- but pragmatic reality. Blessings on your journey and your message! From the viewpoint of 45 years and counting, just 18 and 17 years old when we were married, profoundly impacted by God's touch, and now getting ready for the next season of change ahead when so many will be searching for answers.
I love this video , I will definitely be buying the book. I wish my church had even one other person that liked the warrior path , its hard being the only person that loves guns , hunting and martial arts. This community of warrior poets is amazing.
This is great stuff! My wife and I are coming up on 2 years of marriage and just had our first baby. We apply a lot of these things in our relationship already. We are fortunate to have good role models and experienced couples in our life to pour into us. When we fight, we fight to reach an agreement, we’re a team and if one of us feels like we lost, we both did. And we always go to bed together at the end of the day, and nobody ever gets sent to the couch.
Great vid. Marriage isn’t for sissies. When I carried my bride through the threshold (fatal funnel) 40 yrs ago, I picked up a sense of humor, and lost my pride.
All of your videos are great and this one did not disappoint me. Now I realized that fighting naked isn't only physical but more so emotional and psychological to put away your shield and expose your real self. I've been thinking about fighting without clothes but without stripping ones self from the daggers and the shield nakedness could bring more things into the situation.
I'm trying to help teach my wife about firearms and self defense and was actually watching another of your WPS videos with my wife and saw the title. We watched it together and loved 100% of this. It echoes what we've tried to live in our 23 years of marriage. Thank you so much for sharing this.!!!
I watched a vid on UA-cam a while back. It was a talk given by a woman who is a marriage counselor and talking about tips for a successful relationship. She said much that made sense but the one thing I really liked, is that when you fight, you can not seek to hurt your partner with harsh words and you can only fight in the bedroom, naked! I laughed my butt off and thought that was the best advice I have ever heard.
Thank you Lovell family and friends, my wife and I are several years married and have small daughter, things have been stressful and this is very insightful. God bless y’all and thank you for being role models.
This is great stuff. Wife & I also learned to be truthful & transparent. We learned that from Tony Montana - “Me...I always tell the truth...even when I lie.”
We just reinforced the effectiveness of clickbait titles. From now on JL's vids are gonna be 'Shooting Techniques - Naked', 'Be the Warrior You Were Meant to Be - Naked', 'Taking Cover in a Gunfight, Low-Crawling, Escape and Evasion - Naked',and so on and so on.
Really wish I would have found your channel much earlier. Just recently stumbled upon you for the gun tutorials. I'm definitely staying with you for all of your beliefs. I think all four of you in the video are total rock stars. It's people like you all who should be admired for your life skills and Biblical approach to everything. Thank you so much for sharing, and may God bless you all greatly.
After almost fifty years of marriage (in June), my husband and I have discovered that probably 90% of the things that start an argument between us are stupid and not worth the emotional effort. We step back. We don’t get personal. Even if we can’t resolve an issue before bedtime, we say I love you. We might not feel it, but we say it. Love is a decision we make everyday, even when we are driving each other crazy. We might not always like each other but we always agape each other.
As a single man, I've watched and learned from couples over the years, on marriage and family. One piece of advice Ben Shapiro gave during a Q&A was, if you and your spouse share the same moral values, then your marriage can survive anything. Other things like: using the words we, us, and ours tend to help when talking about anything, admitting that there is a chance that you might be wrong when arguing, and never make important decisions when angry.
Awesome text battle! It’s great to have a friendship like that. I have been watching and have really enjoyed your content and very proud that you are so open to talk about Jesus Christ so openly. Keep it coming!
I'm single but this video was great. First: the church cliche text battle was one of the best things I've ever read since I abhor almost all "church speak." Great job on that. I love the premise of fighting with ground rules. It illustrates almost all great idea: it's simple. Simple but certainly not easy. Also, while listening, it occurred to me that friendship can create passion. I'm pretty sure that passion cannot create friendship. Thanks for all the WPS videos. I admire you and your goals. Your videos bring to life some of the lessons I learned from reading "Wild at Heart" years ago.
If each of you gives 100% and you always remember you love each other even when you don’t like each other, you'll have a good head start. And if you are friends before you tie the knot, good friends, you give yourselves another edge.
Best friends? Probably not. But friends? Yes. If you aren’t friends and don’t have that basis of like, it will be hard to get through the times when you are driving each other crazy. At least, that’s the way it works for us - almost fifty years and going strong. And it works for my son and DDIL - twelve years and going strong. So I think there is something to it. Just saying ...
You guys are hilarious. Also, I stopped the video and read some of those texts in the back and forth. I am just wondering where the lightning burn marks are. LoL I've only recently discovered you I'm doing a lot of binge-watching. Love your stuff keep it coming and thank you
Never been the type to hash over feelings, but this makes so much sense if you actually want to keep everything going in a positive direction with your relationship! Communication is always the key, but it has to go both ways or you're just trying to make yourself feel better about the situation. Thanks for sharing this, have a good night! God bless our troops 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
I like these people!! I will finish the video later...have to work now. Very good video John! Thank you for this one. My wife and I have been married for 13 years, we have 4 kids, and we are in deeper love now than ever before! A good marriage is possible with work...an incredible marriage is only possible in Christ!!
Thanks for your insight on Ephesians 4:26, you are spot on. That’s always kind of frustrated me, how people miss-use/understand that verse. The point is to deal with your anger, not just “get over it.”
Sooo funny...my wife just turned me onto this podcast last week, before I saw your video on it. (of course, I'm a week behind on WP youtubes watching, so the timing is amazing). Thanks for sharing this and all you (both) do. God Bless!
Another good video from the Poet side. Your videos are awesome and eye opening both from the Warrior and the Poet side. Look forward to meeting you at the USCCA Expo. I’ll be there working for the USCCA, but will make time to stop in and hear your seminar.
John you should check out Dave and Ashley Willis. The Naked Marriage. They have a podcast and a book call The Naked Marriage. They have been so great for my wife and I. Thanks for doing what you do.
Love this so much. On your same path. My wife and I just went through "Love and Respect". Awesome team building lesson plan for couples. Talks about two cycles, the crazy cycle and the building cycle. How to stop crazy to start building. I will check out Fierce Marrage! Thanks and much love to you all!
Buahahaha. That text war was HILARIOUS. I am not a Christian, but can appreciate your commitment to and respect for God while keeping a good sense of humor.
Oh my gosh that's the best text message back-and-forth ever! You guys were up to speed on your cliche Christian music lyrics...and, you know, Bible verses. It would be time wastingly hilarious to go back and label all the songs and verses that were used in that!
Great video...any plans to add a Mrs Poet line of clothing to your shop??? I love my shirts and hat, but would love to get my wife decked out in WPS gear too.
Mrs & Mr. Poet, thanks for the video and the insight into your friends book and examples they’ve used in their life. While I haven’t had to use the topics discussed in the video, I like the information discussed for possible future tribulations I may face. God bless.
You guys touched on this a bit and I was happy to see it. When my wonderful wife and I get into a heated disagreement where one or neither of us are in a good place to be productive, one or the other will just say "let's put this on the shelf for now." Naturally we don't leave it there forever, but come back to it as soon as is reasonable. This works for us not just in disagreements but in planning for the future, or big questions we might ask each other. If we dont know how to word the answer, instead of being pressured for an answer and saying something we dont mean, we can give ourselves time to say exactly what we think or feel. Communication is HUGE. So we are slowly doing what we can to be better in that regard, and be there for each other in it. I hope someone found this long rant helpful lol. Didnt mean to go so long.
I started watching more of your videos, love these videos you and your first lady are doing. Been married since 1990, now if I can get my 1st lady to watch with me. Blessing to you two and your family!
I have recently remarried my ex wife. The only woman I have ever married. Once we started talking about our goals and being honest with each other. We are the happiest we have ever been.
After 20 years I can still feel her heart beating in my chest. I can’t imagine life without her and yet we still fight. We are never perfect even though we may think we are. With every fight I look to see my part first and when I see it I realize that I’m also wrong. With self reflection comes the opportunity to grow.
I’m still in the new couple phase with my SO, so we don’t fight at all so far. Closest we have is tickle fights but she bites. 🤣😬 That said, I like the idea of walking away & calming down before saying things hurtful. Gary Chapman’s book “the five love languages” is quite good too.
Impressed with my 2 second reload? Just wait until you see my disrobe speed, I'll be high speed low drag in no time... maybe that's what we were fighting over.......
19:35 You do need to be best friends. Or should be. I taught that to my daughter Kaylee. Now she is married to her Jr High sweet heart. It makes life a bit more easy. Natural built in defense to not leave each other. So now you are not just breaking up with your lover.You're breaking up with your best friend.That just makes it harder to break up. And it makes it more easy to sit down at the table and hash things out.
The preacher who performed our ceremony when we got married 48 yrs ago, gave us the advice of, "Never go to bed angry, as if you do when you get up the next morning I don't want to be the SOB who caused all of this." And he said the words and he meant it too. He also advised us to never get angry and sleep in separate beds either. He said that when you do that, you aren't connecting at night, even if you are sleeping you are connecting, but if you are sleeping in separate beds when you are angry. We have lived these rules and never done either one. I really enjoyed this video and we learn much from these videos and enjoy them too.
John, when I saw you’re a fan of Ryan & Selena’s book/podcast, etc, your stock went up in my mind. But when I heard that Ryan said he’s a friend of yours...his stock went down. Kidding brother. Awesome stuff. Glad to see 2 of my favorite platforms at once. Seriously: You guys should do a couples training retreat together. Shooting and physical security coupled with marriage strengthening workshop. It would sell out fast. Since Ryan & Selena are up here in Washington, come on up to the great PNW!!
Hey, I don't know about YOU guys but if I'm naked, I could very well have a weapon and you couldn't find it!! LOL. Seriously, good vid. 'Naked' means being vulnerable which is a very hard thing for me because when I get that feeling that I need to fight or be right then it's many times because I feel like I'm right and I'm being challenged because I'm usually a low key person and people like me can be stepped on in a 'discussion' or argument. Each of us has a background or a 'history', things that are sensitive spots or things that TRIGGER us so I try to keep that in mind about myself. Perspective is a big part of being a functioning person and therefore a well functioning partner in a relationship. In the end, what does it matter if I was right and no one knew that? At the end, that's a very little, insignificant thing.
This video is relationship gold, I love this whole channel. So much insight into adulthood and being a proper responsible person in society. I came for the guns but stayed for everything else, thanks!
The most important statement there...."Divorce is not an option for us"...IMHO immediately then we become invested in each other enough to have trustful and honest fights with an outcome that suits the best of our relationships...
Been married for 26 years, very happy in my marriage, not all the time, but very happy. She and I were raised in church, although we don’t attend any church, some of the early teaching I believe have stuck. I question a lot of religious beliefs as I am a deep thinker, but I believe what y’all are putting out is really good stuff, marriage is work at times, it’s easy at times, but it’s a partnership it can only work that way. It’s a lot of give and take. Mostly giving believe me, at least you feel that way(each of you) Idk why people just give up so easy these days, They either never truly loved the other or they are so selfish that they think it will be greener pastures across that fence. I love my wife she doesn’t exactly look the same to others as when we got married and two kids later.but she does to me. Anyway I know y’all put a lot in god (christen beliefs) but some people could use these ideas to help their marriage without so much biblical narrative too. Not knocking it believe me just feel people need to take marriage much much more seriously, to easy to quit, people got no grit anymore, me and mine just aren’t quitters I guess. Anyway thank again for the talk you as always great content and knowledge.
My wife and I are looking for a new study topic for our ABF we lead having just finished a series.... Wonder if we advertise this study at church how much interest is suddenly stirred up for our group and how many husbands will suddenly drive the interest to join?! :-)
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Me and my wife tried that fighting naked once . . . .we still can't go back to that Wal-mart.
Shocking I thought that was normal at wally world
Ya'll were probably better dressed than most of those people, honestly.
Funny.
HHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAA!!!!!!!
Great!
Me and the wife tried this method, 5 kids later we don't fight anymore.
Makes sense....since you're passing out from exhaustion from raising five kids you don't have the energy to fight.
Lmao....!!!!!
That's good stuff right there!
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I love how Mrs. Poet looks at John like she just met him
Agreed. True love.
Awww ❤️
I noticed that too. How awesome
You are the real deal John because you recognize the importance of what you fight for. This is waaaay more important than any gunfighting video. Thanks
John's face when he realized he screwed up the scripture reference and Mrs. Poet nailed it. 😂
The most telling thing to me is that they spent almost the entire video turned toward each other. Their body language says more than their words ever could. Awesome. I’m in.
Great advice.
Bottom line: you once loved that one person that you would die for them, so don't hurt them by trying to be right.
My wife and I have been married for 39 years. About 10 years ago we sat down and wrote out our rules of engagement, ie. no name calling, no generalizations, no comparing with anyone else. No bringing up the past, etc. we decided that our relationship was more important than anything. Else. We have found that there are times when we might be technically right but still be very wrong. It’s more important to do right than be right. We go out of our way to tell each other that we love each other. It is easier to love someone you respect so we choose to respect each other. I love the fact this kind of fight requires you bring no weapons to the fight.
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Mrs Poet is beautiful and I love the way she looks at you. You are so very blessed to have her in your life. Cherish every second.
Honestly John during this season of my life these types of talks have been so beneficial for me. I’ve been challenged in my marriage and have had to really dig in and learn what it looks like to be a husband that is pleasing in the eyes of the Lord. Thanks for sharing resources that have helped me in this journey. Thanks for all you do. Bless you and your family!
Both of these couples have an amazing foundation and the right focus on the right things. Thank you for sharing your experiences.
I've been happily dating my SO for 13 years and we came to this realization...
One of the most important things couples need to acknowledge before any fight or disagreement is that YOU and your SO have each other's backs no matter what. You have to have a mutual understanding that when SHTF, that you and your SO will be the only people you can rely on (Bankruptcy, Illness, Zombies). Its hard to insult or hurt another person intentionally when you realize you are both on the same team.
13 years. . .
Early on in my marriage, I came home and my wife started to raise her voice at me. I stopped her right away and told her two things are going to happen. 1st she was gonna go into the bathroom and yell at the mirror and 2nd I was gonna leave for a couple of hours. When I came back I asked if she was done yelling and we sat down and talked about what was bugging her. That was over 20yrs ago and in the last 25yrs we started to raise our voices twice, before we stopped and decided to talk. She was raised in a family that yelled all the time and I was raised you don't yell during a disagreement because you will say something you can't take back. It's ok to disagree, but not to yell at the one you love enough to be married to.
Fight naked with my wife? This now brings to mind the words of Braveheart: "What are you going to do?" "I am going to go pick a fight."
Good video. As an older fellow, I heard you both discuss what my wife and I have practiced. It works as long as you also remember that love isn't that warm fuzzy feeling you had when you first got together. We've found that love is a choice we make every moment. It doesn't matter what emotion you're feeling, if the relationship is to last, you must choice to stay in the relationship and fight for it everyday.
A few years back an OLD man I was familiar with said; “been married 65+years and never had a fight with my wife. Every time I see a fight coming I go for a walk, and that’s why I’ve lived so long (95+) I walked a lot.”
Another very wise man recommended: never play win/lose...because someone going to loose. In May we celebrate 50 years of marital bliss. Oh... and she’s been very very supportive of me buying lots of guns ....ten +. Kinda a long story... later
How the hell is this possible
I came to your channel for gun & gear reviews & training tips, but I think I enjoy these types of videos more than anything.
I love my guns. I’m a police officer, so the tactical stuff is great. However, this stuff, this is the truly important stuff. I have been following Fierce Marriage for awhile now. It’s awesome to see y’all collaborating for this! Great video!
Love most of your videos but I gotta say...this is one of the best Ive seen! Awesome stuff and Praise God!!
I want to thank you for taking the courage to upload this. It takes a lot where you have a lot of viewers that may not be open or willing to hear what can truly help others. I was not expecting to receive a spiritual message before going to bed (always watching and researching guns and training videos.)
My wife and I have been married for 4 years now, which we have hard times and stress, especially with money, BUT: we made ground rules as stated in the video. Never go to bed angry, always share your love for each other through daily compliments, and include a mediator. And for us, we try and include the Great Mediator.
Ephesians 4:26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
Wrath means violent anger. I agree with there are times you do need step back. Letting the sun set when you have wrath is a bad thing. I will definitely have to look into this book. Thanks for the video
John, Thanks for showing this side of your life. I came here because of a love for shooting and firearms but who knew, as my wife and I are Marriage Coaches and have taught a variety of programs over the years. The past three years has been a program called "ReEngage" out of Watermark Community Church in Texas. God Bless you all for the work God has called you to!
Great stuff guys. So refreshing to see solid people being such an example! Marriages & families are falling apart in this country, so to see people in the public eye having such a strong foundation and putting out this sort of content, is encouraging & amazing.
So awesome to see you guys are connected with Fierce Marriage, found their podcast a few weeks ago and have been listening a ton, great content to challenge and build your marriage. Great content!
I so wish I could “like” this video a thousand times. Our society needs more of this, more love, more grace, more faith in Christ. Thank you for doing what you do!
Next time you’re in Southern California, please stop by Sandals Church. Would love to have you!
So refreshing to see the four of you on this podcast, doing your best to make a positive difference in people's lives with a realistic sharing on addressing conflict with a foundation of faith. Not syrupy, not pollyannish- but pragmatic reality. Blessings on your journey and your message! From the viewpoint of 45 years and counting, just 18 and 17 years old when we were married, profoundly impacted by God's touch, and now getting ready for the next season of change ahead when so many will be searching for answers.
This is awesome to see a glimpse of healthy connection between male friends and marriage. Thank you.
I love this video , I will definitely be buying the book. I wish my church had even one other person that liked the warrior path , its hard being the only person that loves guns , hunting and martial arts. This community of warrior poets is amazing.
This is great stuff! My wife and I are coming up on 2 years of marriage and just had our first baby. We apply a lot of these things in our relationship already. We are fortunate to have good role models and experienced couples in our life to pour into us. When we fight, we fight to reach an agreement, we’re a team and if one of us feels like we lost, we both did. And we always go to bed together at the end of the day, and nobody ever gets sent to the couch.
My wife and I have been together for 29 years. Listening to this reaffirms how we treat each other. Marriage is wholly a partnership. Thanks John!
Love how John Lovell incorporates a whole of life approach to being a warrior poet..
Great vid. Marriage isn’t for sissies. When I carried my bride through the threshold (fatal funnel) 40 yrs ago, I picked up a sense of humor, and lost my pride.
All of your videos are great and this one did not disappoint me. Now I realized that fighting naked isn't only physical but more so emotional and psychological to put away your shield and expose your real self. I've been thinking about fighting without clothes but without stripping ones self from the daggers and the shield nakedness could bring more things into the situation.
I'm trying to help teach my wife about firearms and self defense and was actually watching another of your WPS videos with my wife and saw the title. We watched it together and loved 100% of this. It echoes what we've tried to live in our 23 years of marriage. Thank you so much for sharing this.!!!
Great couple with solid advice! Thanks for making wise content full of truth. We need more of it, much love from Florida. God bless yall
I watched a vid on UA-cam a while back. It was a talk given by a woman who is a marriage counselor and talking about tips for a successful relationship.
She said much that made sense but the one thing I really liked, is that when you fight, you can not seek to hurt your partner with harsh words and you can only fight in the bedroom, naked!
I laughed my butt off and thought that was the best advice I have ever heard.
Thank you Lovell family and friends, my wife and I are several years married and have small daughter, things have been stressful and this is very insightful. God bless y’all and thank you for being role models.
This is great stuff. Wife & I also learned to be truthful & transparent. We learned that from Tony Montana - “Me...I always tell the truth...even when I lie.”
Yeah I’ll admit it I came here because I saw the word ”naked”
Oh you too?
Goddamnit!
*FACEPALM*......same....
We just reinforced the effectiveness of clickbait titles. From now on JL's vids are gonna be 'Shooting Techniques - Naked', 'Be the Warrior You Were Meant to Be - Naked', 'Taking Cover in a Gunfight, Low-Crawling, Escape and Evasion - Naked',and so on and so on.
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Really wish I would have found your channel much earlier. Just recently stumbled upon you for the gun tutorials. I'm definitely staying with you for all of your beliefs. I think all four of you in the video are total rock stars. It's people like you all who should be admired for your life skills and Biblical approach to everything. Thank you so much for sharing, and may God bless you all greatly.
Removing emotion is the most constructive step, also the hardest to do. Fighting, in any form, is easier if you can keep emotion from taking over.
After almost fifty years of marriage (in June), my husband and I have discovered that probably 90% of the things that start an argument between us are stupid and not worth the emotional effort. We step back. We don’t get personal. Even if we can’t resolve an issue before bedtime, we say I love you. We might not feel it, but we say it. Love is a decision we make everyday, even when we are driving each other crazy. We might not always like each other but we always agape each other.
As a single man, I've watched and learned from couples over the years, on marriage and family. One piece of advice Ben Shapiro gave during a Q&A was, if you and your spouse share the same moral values, then your marriage can survive anything. Other things like: using the words we, us, and ours tend to help when talking about anything, admitting that there is a chance that you might be wrong when arguing, and never make important decisions when angry.
Awesome text battle! It’s great to have a friendship like that. I have been watching and have really enjoyed your content and very proud that you are so open to talk about Jesus Christ so openly. Keep it coming!
Wow !! I'm reading their book now for the first time. Great video and content. So much help for married couples. Thank you !!
I'm single but this video was great. First: the church cliche text battle was one of the best things I've ever read since I abhor almost all "church speak." Great job on that. I love the premise of fighting with ground rules. It illustrates almost all great idea: it's simple. Simple but certainly not easy. Also, while listening, it occurred to me that friendship can create passion. I'm pretty sure that passion cannot create friendship. Thanks for all the WPS videos. I admire you and your goals. Your videos bring to life some of the lessons I learned from reading "Wild at Heart" years ago.
My wife would never buy into this... Ide pick 10 fights a day.
LOL!
I wish I had heard of “Warrior Poet Society” channel earlier. This is amazing content, thank y’all for sharing!!
As I am getting married in 102 days, this is so great to watch and I want to get this book when we get married! Thanks for the content John!!!
Congrats in advance!
If each of you gives 100% and you always remember you love each other even when you don’t like each other, you'll have a good head start. And if you are friends before you tie the knot, good friends, you give yourselves another edge.
Yay for that! But get it now.
Being good friends doesn't guarantee a good marriage. In fact it can sometimes be the killer of a marriage.
Best friends? Probably not. But friends? Yes. If you aren’t friends and don’t have that basis of like, it will be hard to get through the times when you are driving each other crazy. At least, that’s the way it works for us - almost fifty years and going strong. And it works for my son and DDIL - twelve years and going strong. So I think there is something to it. Just saying ...
You guys are hilarious.
Also, I stopped the video and read some of those texts in the back and forth. I am just wondering where the lightning burn marks are. LoL
I've only recently discovered you I'm doing a lot of binge-watching. Love your stuff keep it coming and thank you
I picture John all Ranger'd out suited up with night vision when he and Mrs. Poet fight.
Just remember the video where she took first watch with the NVGs while he slept like a baby. She can suit up too!
@@meatpopsicle42 Just the one that I was going to reference!
"Come get some!" LOL!
Never been the type to hash over feelings, but this makes so much sense if you actually want to keep everything going in a positive direction with your relationship! Communication is always the key, but it has to go both ways or you're just trying to make yourself feel better about the situation. Thanks for sharing this, have a good night! God bless our troops 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
I like these people!! I will finish the video later...have to work now.
Very good video John! Thank you for this one.
My wife and I have been married for 13 years, we have 4 kids, and we are in deeper love now than ever before! A good marriage is possible with work...an incredible marriage is only possible in Christ!!
Thanks for your insight on Ephesians 4:26, you are spot on. That’s always kind of frustrated me, how people miss-use/understand that verse. The point is to deal with your anger, not just “get over it.”
Sooo funny...my wife just turned me onto this podcast last week, before I saw your video on it. (of course, I'm a week behind on WP youtubes watching, so the timing is amazing). Thanks for sharing this and all you (both) do. God Bless!
Another good video from the Poet side. Your videos are awesome and eye opening both from the Warrior and the Poet side. Look forward to meeting you at the USCCA Expo. I’ll be there working for the USCCA, but will make time to stop in and hear your seminar.
John you should check out Dave and Ashley Willis. The Naked Marriage. They have a podcast and a book call The Naked Marriage. They have been so great for my wife and I. Thanks for doing what you do.
Love this so much. On your same path. My wife and I just went through "Love and Respect". Awesome team building lesson plan for couples. Talks about two cycles, the crazy cycle and the building cycle. How to stop crazy to start building. I will check out Fierce Marrage! Thanks and much love to you all!
Awesome video, glad to hear people being outspoken about the importance of Christianity in their lives. God bless you all.
I’ve picked so many fights since we started this… best year of my life
Had no idea you guys were old school buddies! I love Fierce Marriage & WPS! Good video everyone!
Buahahaha. That text war was HILARIOUS. I am not a Christian, but can appreciate your commitment to and respect for God while keeping a good sense of humor.
Had to pause to read that text battle. You guys are nerdy! That was AWESOME!!
Oh my gosh that's the best text message back-and-forth ever! You guys were up to speed on your cliche Christian music lyrics...and, you know, Bible verses. It would be time wastingly hilarious to go back and label all the songs and verses that were used in that!
Great video...any plans to add a Mrs Poet line of clothing to your shop??? I love my shirts and hat, but would love to get my wife decked out in WPS gear too.
3:41 John looked like he was gonna cry trying his hardest not to crack a cheesy joke.🤣🤣🤣
Haha, yeah he did
Mrs & Mr. Poet, thanks for the video and the insight into your friends book and examples they’ve used in their life. While I haven’t had to use the topics discussed in the video, I like the information discussed for possible future tribulations I may face. God bless.
That’s right! I said MRS. Poet before MR. Poet! The woman in my life rules my life and I proudly protect that life!!
You guys touched on this a bit and I was happy to see it. When my wonderful wife and I get into a heated disagreement where one or neither of us are in a good place to be productive, one or the other will just say "let's put this on the shelf for now." Naturally we don't leave it there forever, but come back to it as soon as is reasonable.
This works for us not just in disagreements but in planning for the future, or big questions we might ask each other. If we dont know how to word the answer, instead of being pressured for an answer and saying something we dont mean, we can give ourselves time to say exactly what we think or feel.
Communication is HUGE. So we are slowly doing what we can to be better in that regard, and be there for each other in it.
I hope someone found this long rant helpful lol. Didnt mean to go so long.
I started watching more of your videos, love these videos you and your first lady are doing. Been married since 1990, now if I can get my 1st lady to watch with me. Blessing to you two and your family!
I have recently remarried my ex wife. The only woman I have ever married. Once we started talking about our goals and being honest with each other. We are the happiest we have ever been.
After 20 years I can still feel her heart beating in my chest. I can’t imagine life without her and yet we still fight. We are never perfect even though we may think we are. With every fight I look to see my part first and when I see it I realize that I’m also wrong. With self reflection comes the opportunity to grow.
You really cover all aspects of being a Warrior Poet fighting for what’s right including your partner and nudity not such a bad thing!
I’m still in the new couple phase with my SO, so we don’t fight at all so far. Closest we have is tickle fights but she bites. 🤣😬
That said, I like the idea of walking away & calming down before saying things hurtful. Gary Chapman’s book “the five love languages” is quite good too.
"When naked, you can't go to war with a shield or weapons. "
The man needs to brush up in his knowledge on the ancient celts.
Impressed with my 2 second reload? Just wait until you see my disrobe speed, I'll be high speed low drag in no time... maybe that's what we were fighting over.......
19:35 You do need to be best friends. Or should be. I taught that to my daughter Kaylee. Now she is married to her Jr High sweet heart. It makes life a bit more easy. Natural built in defense to not leave each other. So now you are not just breaking up with your lover.You're breaking up with your best friend.That just makes it harder to break up. And it makes it more easy to sit down at the table and hash things out.
Certainly limits the fighting in front of others...maybe. Most kidding aside, this is really good content. Thank you for sharing this with us.
My wife and I made an agreement, no matter what we cuddle up in bed every night.
Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Reconcile your issues before you go to bed.
The preacher who performed our ceremony when we got married 48 yrs ago, gave us the advice of, "Never go to bed angry, as if you do when you get up the next morning I don't want to be the SOB who caused all of this." And he said the words and he meant it too. He also advised us to never get angry and sleep in separate beds either. He said that when you do that, you aren't connecting at night, even if you are sleeping you are connecting, but if you are sleeping in separate beds when you are angry. We have lived these rules and never done either one. I really enjoyed this video and we learn much from these videos and enjoy them too.
Love your content - sound dampening to remove echoes would bring a big quality increase. Keep it up!
John, when I saw you’re a fan of Ryan & Selena’s book/podcast, etc, your stock went up in my mind. But when I heard that Ryan said he’s a friend of yours...his stock went down.
Kidding brother. Awesome stuff. Glad to see 2 of my favorite platforms at once.
Seriously: You guys should do a couples training retreat together. Shooting and physical security coupled with marriage strengthening workshop. It would sell out fast. Since Ryan & Selena are up here in Washington, come on up to the great PNW!!
24 min in...I may or may not have paused the video to read ALL those txt msgs....🤣🤣 they are hilarious !!
I wondered if anyone would!!!! That is well over a decade old!!
@@WarriorPoetSociety I may use a few of those 😂
Great Vid... I'm not married but I love to see couples/people fighting for relationships 👍 God is Great
Hey, I don't know about YOU guys but if I'm naked, I could very well have a weapon and you couldn't find it!! LOL. Seriously, good vid. 'Naked' means being vulnerable which is a very hard thing for me because when I get that feeling that I need to fight or be right then it's many times because I feel like I'm right and I'm being challenged because I'm usually a low key person and people like me can be stepped on in a 'discussion' or argument. Each of us has a background or a 'history', things that are sensitive spots or things that TRIGGER us so I try to keep that in mind about myself. Perspective is a big part of being a functioning person and therefore a well functioning partner in a relationship. In the end, what does it matter if I was right and no one knew that? At the end, that's a very little, insignificant thing.
As usual, awesome video and a great message. My wife and I are coming to ATL this weekend. Maybe we'll run into you guys.
Y'all should have a podcast. Love to be able to download and listen at work 😁
Good stuff! Thanks for sharing. I've downloaded a few of their Fierce Marriage podcasts because of this video.
That "spiritual text battle" was hilarious! People that really know scripture will appreciate it!
This video is relationship gold, I love this whole channel. So much insight into adulthood and being a proper responsible person in society. I came for the guns but stayed for everything else, thanks!
Thanks for the video. I always try to fight to win and this will def help my relationship .
The most important statement there...."Divorce is not an option for us"...IMHO immediately then we become invested in each other enough to have trustful and honest fights with an outcome that suits the best of our relationships...
good job Mrs poet! eph 4. I'll be buying the book
This was great John, thanks for doing this video!
bless you 4 I love this channel and my country more than ever
I'm always right... when i admit I'm wrong.
Been married for 26 years, very happy in my marriage, not all the time, but very happy.
She and I were raised in church, although we don’t attend any church, some of the early teaching I believe have stuck.
I question a lot of religious beliefs as I am a deep thinker, but I believe what y’all are putting out is really good stuff, marriage is work at times, it’s easy at times, but it’s a partnership it can only work that way. It’s a lot of give and take. Mostly giving believe me, at least you feel that way(each of you)
Idk why people just give up so easy these days, They either never truly loved the other or they are so selfish that they think it will be greener pastures across that fence.
I love my wife she doesn’t exactly look the same to others as when we got married and two kids later.but she does to me.
Anyway I know y’all put a lot in god (christen beliefs) but some people could use these ideas to help their marriage without so much biblical narrative too.
Not knocking it believe me just feel people need to take marriage much much more seriously, to easy to quit, people got no grit anymore, me and mine just aren’t quitters I guess.
Anyway thank again for the talk you as always great content and knowledge.
My wife and I are looking for a new study topic for our ABF we lead having just finished a series.... Wonder if we advertise this study at church how much interest is suddenly stirred up for our group and how many husbands will suddenly drive the interest to join?! :-)
“Old Uncle John”.... You kids are cute, but wise beyond your years. Good advise. Good videos. Pray Hard. Pray Smart. God bless.
This was some awesome information, thanks for making this video!
Bought the e-book and the companion book. Still working through Rasom Heart. This is next on the list.
Great video. Lots of wisdom.