“I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone.” - Robin Williams
@@omganotherun You're comment made laugh but it's true some men go through hell with women which i most likely won't because i don't plan on ever getting in a serious relationship.
@@melchiorlise2466 Totally true. Now examine the data. The divorce rate, who files for divorce, the results on men in Family Court, the % of couples who are simply miserable together "cheaper to keep her". Would you buy a car that has a well over 50% chance of exploding? Honestly, most men would probably prefer the exploding car to the exploding family and the demographic data proves it. The soon to be majority of men are not dodging happiness, they are dodging misery. Less of one, more of the other. It is a rational decision.
@@marathonog8849 What is a woman supposed to pay a man for might I ask? And what will a man offer a woman to put her life on the line to have his child?
85% of all divorces are the women’s idea. Why would any man work hard and try to be successful knowing that if he gets married he’ll become a part time dad, lose half of everything and pay these 85% ters a monthly check for years? Dating is the best example how modern women objectify men………”does it have a good job?, does it drive a nice car?, does it live in a nice place?, does it have money? No thanks.
Sorry to say, but 85% of all divorces are women's idea because they often have the lion's share of responsibility...so they take care of their children, the household, and sometimes they even have to clean up after a grown man, and have you thought about about the ways that women are objectified, often in the most demeaning and degrading way? -- does it have a nice figure? Can it get rid of those stretch marks after birthing my children? Can it cook? Can it replicate what I've seen on porn sites... and the list goes on and on.
I wonder if men understand how often women are taken advantage of in every way that a person can be taken advantage of. And yes, women have to know whether a man has a good job and if he's able to provide financially for a family, before moving forward with a relationship, OTHERWISE, it falls on the woman to handle her own load as well as the load of a man who is unable, or unwilling to do his part. it happened to my mother and countless other women.
I'd absolutely love to have a partner, but I'm not going to give up who I am in order to have it. I have a steady career, a home of my own and nice cars. I'm stable. However, if I invite someone in my life I'm not doing it at the cost of that stability.
But having a partner (if that's what you want) is better. I swear I've seen this exact comment on every video I've seen talking about loneliness. We don't gotta focus on what's worse, but more on what's better.
I'm not against having a partner but I'd rather be sure I've made the right choice. I'm not about to gamble away my peace again without knowing if I can trust them when I'm not around. Maybe one day, maybe never.
No such thing as a incel just low sexual value dudes who dont like there options. We all want a Ferrari but most of us will have to setttle on a honda. Just settle on what you can realistically get if you keep getting shot down your shoping out of your league. Just like cars houses and life in general you have to be realistic and get what you can get. Take what you can get beggers cant be choosers and dont be a bitter ass hole about it. As bad as you got it some one else has it worse.
Why is everybody so seemingly terrified about being alone? Are you really that weak, that fearful of venturing forth by yourself? If you have friends who are there for you when you need them, if you have family who love you, what else do you need? WHY do we buy into the scenario presented to us by billionaires and to which we in this filthy rotting capitalist society are brainwashed practically from birth onward that we MUST do this, we MUST do that, we MUST "marry" (even though 50% of American marriages end in divorce) and we MUST reproduce even when we can't afford kids and government does practically ZERO to help those who DO have kids, and so they're now trying to FORCE WOMEN TO HAVE KIDS THEY DON'T WANT. Those people don't give a damn about you or me, they only want more workers to produce more money for them so they can sell their junky products to them, they want them to have tons of babies and make yet more poor people for future generations so they can continue backwards to the time of slavery - and not just for Black people, folks. If you meet somebody and you both fall in love, then go for it. Leave the rest of us alone. It's not a FLAW to be single and not have kids, for pete's sake!
Scott Galloway totally nailed this argument. Maybe 5% of the people posting her, give a damn what Scott Galloway said. Everyone else was bitching about everything else and nothing will get done. Scott is correct. We will become Italy or Japan.
I'm 64 and have been single for the past 10 years. Sometimes boring but far better and more peaceful than with a woman who is never content with anything. The worst and most lonely period was with a woman who was always critical about everything. I kicked her out of my life. Best decision ever.
Middle aged married women with kids tend to be the types who will take a supportive husband for granted criticizing and belittling him all the while while she gains weight and wrinkles making her less and less attractive …no wonder many husbands get younger fresher looking side pieces …The late Kevin Samuels tell today’s ‘modern’ women who are looking for a ‘high value’ man that these type men keep side pieces and that they need to accept that as a fact. For some men their side piece will be online porn and their 🖐️
You said a mouth full, but the problem is in order for women ( or people in general) in order for them to be truly appreciative they need to have it bad and I mean great depression bad and those days are coming and going to happen but worse. A great trial is coming to the whole world. Revelation 3:10
@@Rnankn It's basically saying that you need to be careful, because some people that try dating you won't do so because they love you, but rather that they want something from you. In other words, it's a relationship set up for failure as soon as you stop providing what they want. Obviously genuine love is a lot more forgiving than that.
Reading some of these replies...Its like all we did (in my case during early 90s) and older Gen X 80s was hang out, go to malls, movies, downtown, etc. and meet girls like all the time half the time they made the first move and talked to us. I generally wasnt the most outgoing teen either its just thats how it was done. I noticed the world had departed from that and I been bringing those simpler times to today.
Feminism has killed respect for important jobs held by men. Example: I used to work in water purification plants and sewage. I've left, feeling like I'd never find a relationship if I stayed there. Now the field as a whole is 40% understaffed and infrastructure is crumbling. Trans-activism and feminism sucked the air out of the room, when demographics showed us that had we not listened to mor0ns who weaponize their ignorance, we should have instead double-downed on infrastructure to make sure we're ready for what is to come. Why should an individual man do the right thing, when feminism teaches women to do the exact opposite? I once saw journalists run from my explanations to automate risk management for water systems, shouting : "OH! THERE! A WOMAN ENTREPRENEUR!". That "woman entrepreneur" was selling another crappy yoga-pants-by-mail dead business model. I'm 36yo. I'm watching the world burn.
Yup. There's not a single man alive who does not know a father, brother, uncle, nephew, friend or acquaintance who have not been shafted in and by the 'Family' Court. Forewarned is forearmed.
I’m currently dealing paying 1500$ a month to my ex wife and my monthly income is 4800. I’m laying her rent, brand new car note, insurance, and phone bill. It’s been 2 years of separation, she misses every one of the court dates to prolong the divorce. February 2025 is hopefully the month I get granted the divorce. I
To all the single dudes out there that are struggling, I am 30 years old with a 6 figure income, I'm in good shape physically, live a fun lifestyle and have my shit together, and I still never had any luck with dating or relationships. So don't believe in the lie that all you have to do is improve yourself to be successful with dating. It is hard for just about everyone. Improve yourself for you, not for a woman.
Social media is to women what porn is to men. Men get the sexual release from porn, and women get their emotional fulfillment from instagram and only fans.
an ex said to me "Why don't you post pictures of us on social media?". I said "why?". Her reply. "So people can see how happy we are". That was the beginning of the end for her and i.
It sounds like you all gave up on life. And in the prime of your life. There are 8 billion people out there and you are saying to me. None of them matches your expectations. Maybe you're too spoiled or privileged to make a real effort. Maybe that's for the best that your lineage will go the way of the dodo 🦤.
and when you put God and His son Jesus Christ first in your life there is no loneliness, just bliss. repent, convert and sin no more. Jesus Christ loves you.
I am stepping out here but was it St. Paul who was quoted in the Bible for saying a Chaste Life is a Perfect Life? If you are ever bored read The Wanting Seed written by Anthony Burgess, Burgess also wrote A Clock Work Orange. I wonder if Galloway read The Wanting Seed.
@@GuacamoleyNacho the reason St. Paul said this is because our relationship to God is the most important relationship we can cultivate in our lives. Those who are called to take up a spouse typically have sexual desires they want fulfilled and therefore, taking on a husband/wife in the sacrament of matrimony will allow said person an outlet for this disposition that is pleasing to the Lord. Those who remain unmarried and abstain from sex are able to focus more clearly on scripture and the presence of God in their lives and mortify themselves in this way. You don't even have to be a layman to take on this practice. Though it seems there's a war on marriage during this time, it is true that marriage is not the only way and there are those called to live in abstinence/chastity but, it is something that must be prayed about. Being alone doesn't have to be ostracizing it could just be in the sense of intimate relationship but, you can still be socially involved with loved ones and friends. unless of course, you choose to live as a hermit which is also not wrong. All this to say, there are varying lifestyles you can take on that can be pleasing to the Lord, it is just a matter of how you use your circumstances to glorify and grow closer to Him whether it be through marriage, singleness, or even being a hermit.
It does suck to be alone, I won't argue that. I'm 40, and I have been happily married 12 years. The point is that sometimes in the haste to "not be alone" we end up in relationships that make us miserable.
@@McRemmyBabyYou can always outsource beautiful women whenever you want to release your sexual desires. It is better to pay a woman to leave than to pay her to stay. There is no such thing as a love from a woman. Women are in business while men are in love. A woman love for a man is based on the expectation that he can provide something, it is conditional not unconditional. A woman only have unconditional love for her children but not her husband, some women don’t even have unconditional love for their own children so what make you think that they will love you for you but not what you provide. If you get in a relationship with a woman you will regret it and wish you was single and living by yourself. I was like you in the past but I learned the hard way. My friends told me never to get in a relationship but I decided to prove them wrong but I ended up proving them right. A man who learn how to live by himself alone is stronger than a man that is in a relationship.
Idk about that xD Men seem happy not being married. Problem is not many guys aren't willing to go out for friends as they used to because of social media and games. Anything that prevents any social interaction pretty much. Another thing is that women culture has changed, and many males are not used to it or don't accept it because it is obviously one-sided. Nothing will change my mind about that, and if you think it isn't, you're insane.
@@yourfriend4104 "Another thing is that women culture has changed, and many males are not used to it or don't accept it" What has changed about women is that they have turned into men. But why should men accept women that have the mindset of a man when, according to their core identity, they are repelled by such mindset in a prospective partner? Surely women are going to realize how unsustainable it is for a society to be composed of predominately masculine women rather than predominately feminine women. Consider the following from one of the greatest living geniuses, professor Sam Vaknin, in his video called "Men’s Last Stand (Women: Listen up! and Taylor Swift)". “Women had come to identify themselves more and more in masculine terms. This is very evident in studies over the last 40 years. Women are becoming, have become, men, actually, for all intents and purposes. And so, by doing so, women have invaded the psycho-social turf, the territory of men. Not in order to obtain equity and equality but in order to challenge and supplant and replace and to substitute for men.” The fundamental problem at the root of all this is the Hegelian master slave dialectic and this problem can only be addressed at this level.
But they can take everything you work for and everything you create, and consume and desrity it, along with society. They couldn't care less. Women have always been no sighted when it comes to the future. This is because it is always men who make sacrifices. All women got is their shaming language.
@Mr.Anti-Hero I hope you aren't talking about harming yourself in any way, that would end your life. If you are, please don't do that, it's not worth it. Give Jesus a try if you haven't yet. I know life can be hard sometimes, God Bless. 🕊️
After a terrible marriage with a abusive woman i can say i do not want to waste time in a relationship she sucked all my money, energy and mental health. It was a nightmare. Being single is the best thing that ever happened to me.
Wayyyy more to it than that. Social media, for one has destroyed our minds. Truly. But yeah, that's the core of it. In reality, all developed societies seem to have their numbers decline. Births, sex etc.
@@jonny-b4954 That, and certain trade agreements, globalization, and gross levels of immigration disrupt industry and stagnate wages, which ultimately harms the host population.
I’m 36 years old, just ended a 9 year relationship two months ago. I have met some women and gone on some dates, I’ve noticed that a lot of these girls are highly influenced by feminist youtubers or tiktokers whose material is based on making women feel entitled just because! During a date, a girl said she wanted this and that and be treated like a queen and she went as far as asking me how much money I made, all on that one first date! I asked her why she was talking about all of that and she said “because I know my worth”, I asked “what do you bring to the table?” She started talking gibberish, a whole lot of nothing. i got up and said good night!
Yep. Born in 1973, and being a kid in the 80s, to high school in the 90s was awesome. Gen X used up the last of everything good, and left the backwash for the following generations. sorry.
A woman should not be the center of your world. Have a purpose. If a woman comes around great. If not it’s no big deal. When you have no one in your life bothering you some people call that peace.
As an almost 20 year old male, I think I can speak for other men in saying that I don’t have time to be in a committed relationship as I’m just trying to get by financially.
I had a date with a girl who said her parents were so special because when they met the dad had no money and nothing to his name. And she said her mom was special because her mom stayed with the dad through thick and thin. The same girl also mocked me for being a college student with no money to go out to fancy restaurants A lot of women cannot see their own hypocrisy and i think it is because they have the illusion of infinite options. .
I stopped looking for dating simply because alot of women (not all of them) nowadays are simply not relationship material. They come in with these unrealistic expectations and standards while having a bunch of baggage or trauma from their past that you're supposed to just accept with open arms. It doesn't help that we've also made it the norm where a man simply glancing at a woman is now considered "creepy".
I'm with you - there was only a couple girls I thought about marrying when I was younger - but even then they were still flighty enough that I could not see myself with them The politicians and MSM have all been pushing the narrative that men are the problem in our society - when they are guilty of tearing down our society. I have no interest in any woman that debts. diseases, or a child/children from a previous relationship unless she was widowed - the poor choices she made in the past are her responsibility - not mine
Millennial girls were extremely fearful and Gen Z even moreso, so I never even glance at them. I think a lot of guys are the same way, we just immediately look away because we don’t want them to “catch” us. The ironic thing is they are looking while we’re looking away to check where we’re looking. It’s not that we’re intimidated, it’s that we sense how fearful they are and want to reassure them.
I'm 63, and ran around chasing and dating women up until 9-10 years ago. I am much happier now, hanging out with cats and dogs. No people, no drama. I socialize at work only. People suck, these days.
I know what you mean, this is the day and age where animals have never been this loved till now. I might be making my German Shepherd a little to timid. Well at least his very happy and well loved after all he is my best mate. Love the way he comes racing out to see me when I get up and make a Macchiato.
I have a cat, a dog and a ferret. They were all raised up from lil babies together. It's non-stop comedy when I get home from work. Critters flying everywhere. @@adriansumner1412
At least you had the chance to date and chase, boomer. God you’re so blind to how good you had it. Literally the best possible American experience, seriously f you
Men are done. When Tom Brady, who is in the top 1% of the top 1% of men can’t keep a modern woman happy, what chance do the rest of us have?!?!? Men are done, and we are now focusing on ourselves for the first time in human history. Here endeth the lesson.
@@P.90.603 Says who? Gisele herself said the reason was "they grew apart" so maybe it more likely that she got bored because he was on the road so much? So maybe, it was, yet again, the woman's fault and you just maybe don't want to accept that?
Young men don't have a lot to look forward to. Universities are horrifyingly expensive, Amazon has made it nearly impossible to compete as a small business owner, and computers have replaced so many types of jobs that just about all that's left is security guard or Amazon warehouse worker. The world has become a playground for billionaires and the rest of us have been left to eat scraps.
If you aren’t given a silver spoon, trades, logistics and security/LEO are pretty much all you can choose from as a peasant. Maybe if you work hard and stay competitive you might break $100k by your 50’s, but your back would have given out, your shoulders fragile and knees shattered. Retirement will consist of medical bills, doctor visits, discomfort and diminishing benefits. Office jobs are a luxury we can’t get to until age starts to chip away at our ability, and that’s assuming we aren’t just dropped as a liability.
All the problems you described do also apply to young women. University and housing is equally expensive for women as it is for men. And career opportunities are worse for women than for men - due to (real or implicitly expected) childbearing. That manifest in gender pay gap - men do generally earn more than women.
@@samuela-aegisdottir - women don’t date broke men & men don’t care if a woman is broke - That study on men being payed more was not done properly (fact) - way More is expected of men in terms of being qualified for dating when bare minimum is expected of woman. - men are competing with women in the job market but a man still expected to provide and out earn her to be considered worthy of respect. - quotas exist to hire women just because they’re woman and reject men bc they are men. - men still make up majority of dangerous “dirty” jobs that maintain infrastructure of civilization but these jobs are not considered “sexy” compared to a corporate job bc women overwhelmingly go into desk jobs that require college degrees. - More women are going to college than men now and they want a man to also have a college degree bc hypergamy.
I'm 20 and have only had one girlfriend, but it wasn't really a real relationship, just a dumb middle school thing. But yeah I've gotten rejected by pretty much every girl I've ever been interested relationship-wise (probably around several dozen). At this point in my life I'm focusing more on school, hobbies, and developing my professional career.
As a woman I will tell you dear you’re doing the right thing. Focus and build yourself. Build the best life you can think of for yourself. Workout, take care of your body. The women will come. Build the life and yourself fully. Find your happiness and create a great life. The women will come. ❤
@@TruthesekerWomen aren’t just going to SHOW UP. Your giving him the worst advice possible- to just wait, which is literally advice you’d give a woman. He should either accept he’ll be alone, or radically change his personality.
@@aidanmurray7319 I am saying he should become his best self. Women are very attracted to men who are strong in themselves and are self aware. Women notice the intangibles about men. He is young and has time to live a good life and meet women. He won’t be alone the rest of his life geez. They won’t magically appear but he definitely has a better chance at finding a healthy relationship once he knows himself and builds himself. Him being strong in himself will definitely attract the right kind of woman. Let him take what he needs and discard what he doesn’t from my comment.
@@aidanmurray7319Personalities don’t radically change unless there are drugs or mental illness involved. Behaviors can be modified through pinpointing maladaptive schemas. Those would be thinking that you have to be alone because you were rejected once. Or that porn is what real sex should be like. These are dysfunctional thoughts that can be unlearned.
Blame your grandfathers they knew what they were doing when they set up these laws and allowed again for women to be able to have equal choice (which they should) by letting women be aware and leave religion behind they can sexually choose better which is what nature intended it to be. Sometimes it’s better or for worse
that disconnect already existed, que the demo reel of the 90's and 80's newsfeeds of the social and political trends that created the modern era. Social media just gave that mad world one big social pot instead of the tiny little ones in your local community. Now everyone has to deal with the nutcases in every corner of the planet and must have an opinion of what they ate for breakfast! :D
I've been married for over a decade. Choose the wrong one and you'll wish you single. A good marriage is better than a good single life but a bad marriage is worse than a bad single life.
@@RandJ1996 I fell off that cliff. Sex is destroying the selection process. Attraction is important but people need to know dating is a series of job interviews and a marriage is basically a joint business venture, not a group vacation.
@@Gunshinzero agreed, but I'm not sure if I would go as far as saying business venture. BUT I put VERY little value (if any at all) on my materialistic possessions or money etc. Relationships and experiences are far more important (to me).
@@RandJ1996 You know that saying, "mind your business". Now it's your (plural) business if you get married. Enjoying a person is great but there is utility in a marriage. Starting a family is basically creating and organization. So you have personnel, facilities, income, expenses, goals, etc. All of those have to be managed by you and if you don't have a good management system of the day to day life quality tasks your enjoyment if each other will almost never carry the relationship. It's like being roommates with your best friend but he skips rent due to poor money management. Sooner or later that friendly love will cook down, at least until they move out and your business isn't mixed.
You know it. When fake news CNN starts talking about the effects of liberal toxic feminism and governments contributing to the handouts and breakdown of the traditional family…..you know the left is in trouble 😂
@@mackayladavis4021 I was more so talking about the loneliness and isolation aspect 70% of men 18-35 choosing to not participate in society can not end well
@Mackayla Davis i don't believe anyone has said that. What we are saying is it gets lonely. I'm assuming u a female. U don't and will never understand struggles of a man
Stop hearing those bs label, shaming argument, cherry picking facts, mislead information and we just realize how simple life is. Even with a basic life can make us satisfied.
Well I certainly wouldn't call it a blessing. We are not blessed by being appart from each other, because no matter how you look at it, life is harder for people who are alone, they have to fight more. Yes, social disconnect is a chioce that we make but forcibly. I would say that our mutual weakness leads us to connection failure. We are weak people who can't connect with one another. So make no mistake, social disconnect is no blessing, it s just a unfortunate circumstancial choice.
As a young man, dating is rough. You have to meet standards. You have to be a certain height, financial level, attractiveness, if not good luck. When you hear” Men ain’t shit!” Well what are we supposed to do 🤷🏾♂️. I’d rather focus on myself and be happy.
As a man we should meet standards, much like we should have standards for women. You have been alive long enough to understand what those standards are for men and to have found a way to achieve them. It seems like men are mad that they can't find a woman for themselves. As far as "men ain't shit", as a man I feel that way about the younger generation men nowadays. They completely lack masculinity and the baseline skills that men should have.
Maybe lower your standards. I see young people both 3's themselves and both are wanting 7's and higher. Back when I was young you knew your dating pool. Nerdy girls and guys dated. The unattractive people dated and the good looking people dated. Women are just as bad. I see young 200 lb women with a face of makeup thinking they are a 10 😂. Cheer up and lower your standards if you yourself are not that great looks or financially
Also do not be afraid to approach a women. It's better when she is not in a group of friends and don't be afraid of rejection you will never see them again
I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone. Robin Williams
Women can be very quick to decry “hatred” when you calmly/neutrally state facts/data/observations that potentially paint women in a bad light, even if it’s indirectly or by implication.
They know it, they just don't admit it. Dating app data shows less than 5% of men on dating apps get matches, yet most women get matches. Women would rather share a man than have one they perceive to be of low status.
I'm calling BS, because I'm hearing and seeing the exact opposite in practice, AND despite the repeal of Roe v Wade, birth rates are still dropping. Which is 100% a good thing.
I'm shocked CNN covered this. This guy is absolutely right; some how, talking about men's issues is mistakenly seen as anti-woman misogynistic. It is not. That attitude is exactly what has gotten our entire western society to where it is.
Yea, he is dancing around the problem that he doesn't want to actually say, FEMINISM/WOKE/MARXIST/LEFTIST all add up to rejection by both sexes. Thanks to your DEMOCRAT PARTY! MAGA = everything changing direction for the better for young people. Men don't want 30+ year OLD combative females and nobody cares what 30+ combative females want except them!
@@blueteopadsnice5486race, height, and wealth preference is soooo apparent among young women now. Now men have to be 6’0, born into wealth, white (yes after blm women have been fetishizing white men more), and bend over for women.
Fr. Simply complimenting or asking a woman a question is already a coin toss if you’re gonna be accused of harassment. Dating and flirting these days is like a minefield or defusing a bomb where one wrong move and it’s over. Only stress comes out of it
Dating today requires a guy to spend $200 to $500 for a first date because the spoiled little princesses think they deserve that treatment. They are super picky which is fine as long as they accept the fact that they not be of high enough value for the type of men they are chasing. Statistics show not only show young men giving up and feel women aren't worth the trouble, but many women are complaining about where all the "good" men have gone & they end up alone too. I think there are very valid reasons that young men today aren't willing to play their game. It is just not worth the hassle!
I want to congratulate all of the single men with no divorce, no kids, and no drama that they invited into their lives. You are champions that didn't fall for societies gimmick and whether you know it or not, your on the green side of life. Hope I meet some of you in my travels.
Problem is whose going to take care of us when we get old and alone? Id rather at least try and get a woman, child and if it doesn't work out then at least I can tend to my child. Idk, just living life alone sounds depressing
@@jponz85 everyone dies alone and the fantasy of passing away at your death bed surrounded by your wife and kids is just that - a fantasy. Make enough money to exit on your own terms. Many married men leave this earth under assisted living care
Yeah I thought man we’re bluffing when they mention this until I saw the numbers. It’s really a small percentage of men that are creating the generation
This. What's funny is those pool of men the women are dating aren't even necessarily high value males either, most of them are average brokies who don't even look special but they're just very good with bullshitting and attracting women. Most aesthetic, educated and wealthy guys I know aren't actually getting any pussy at all and don't have the confidence to approach women hence they remain invisible to women even if they're much higher value than she is. We live in a upside-down world.
Don't give up young man. I didn't find the right partner until I was 40 years old, but we've been married for 20 years now. When you give up, your chances go to zero.
Find a social group of people that do things you like. But stay away from women. They just want your paycheck and home. And the police and judges almost always side with them
My ex of 4 years cheated and left me for another guy because he had more money. Not gonna be dating again anytime soon if not ever. Tired of women seeing us men as atms.
I’m 43 and I’ve noticed this shift gradually over the last 20 years. Social media has filled the gap of social needs of many rather than actually going out and having meaningful relationships, either romantically and platonically. There is a reason we have an anxiety and depression problem in this country. A lot of people have become shut ins and some (not all of them) haven’t developed the social skills to function in a public setting and that brings a lot of anxiety to some.
@@P.90.603 I never go on social media to meet people because I’m not very trusting of people, so it’s important for me to always have a face to face conversation for the beginning.
@@felixrodriguez-rivera1787 please don’t get offended by my reply. I’m just trying to help. I’m not trying to be mean. But I’m not sure if you understood the guest and what he was saying. 75 years ago there were none of these problems. And the internet is NOT the cause of these problems today. It’s not that men need to be held accountable to be socially and emotionally competent. It’s because the government and all our institutions have begun to eradicate the middle class. That begins with taxation and allocation of resources. With the current trickle down economics only the elite, top 10% are seen by women as having enough resources to be a viable mate. And most men don’t have the education and career that makes them attractive to females because we, the country, the government, have not given them the economic opportunity to do so.
No. The cost of marriage is too high. If you cannot afford kids, don't get married. When society takes the child rearing income and uses it for rent, then making babies is economically impossible. Unless you are so poor, you are on welfare and just don't connect to raising them outside of gangs.
Having been brought up in Mexico of an American mother and Mexican father and exposed equally to both cultures, I have always noticed that emotional bonds between people in the US are much, much weaker. People don’t have wide social circles. Their nonchalant attitude toward people they should feel close to and just how they greet them, the lack of interest in their lives, is astounding.
We have several Mexican families in my neighborhood and I have noticed this one right off the bat. Americans stay in their back yards, behind a fence and the Mexican families have their Barbeque out front on the lawn and that's where they have their parties and family gatherings. I also have noticed in Europe that people go out. At night the cafes are full of people dining on the sidewalk and younger people hang out in the squares or plazzas...depends on the countries. Americans hide in their houses or fenced in back yards. It's not healthy IMHO.
Social media is to blame. I’m 37 years old and haven’t had sex in over two years. It’s because no one wants to take the time to get to know each other or women expect you to be what they want you to be as opposed to getting to know who you are as a person. Our society is failing men in general not just young men.
Men have lost all ability of the art of communication. I lose interest fast when a guy starts texting stupid stuff like “hey” and “wyd” and every interaction is either one word or abbreviation or he just resorts to sending pics or videos instead of asking questions trying to get to know me, or telling me anything about himself. It is like they have no freaking clue of how to even carry on a conversation or anything. This is one reason I usually try to meet people in the real world - in hopes that they aren’t so backwards socially. I just feel like these types are just trying to waste my time online because they are just bored and want to annoy someone. No communication is an absolute dealbreaker for me and I am not that hard to talk to. I just refuse to be carrying the entire conversation and only getting one word responses from an uninterested individual. If I cannot get to know you, then don’t be wasting my time. Plain and simple.
And to be honest, too many men seem to only be interested in having sex instead of actually getting to know somebody. This is another reason why I don’t bother with men who don’t communicate properly. I am not looking for sex, I am looking for a relationship.
It's not just young men. I'm in my 40's and have not sought out a date in 7-8 years. I've been burned so horribly bad in the past that I would rather be a little sad and lonely than be emotionally traumatized by false promises and unfaithfulness.
This makes no sense to me ... I'd rather accept unfaithfulness as a fact of life than to die alone... But i judge not... If this works for you, I'm truly happy for you.
@@tok1879 WHAT You'd rather accept unfaithfulness???? or you'd accept the risk of such a thing. Risk is okay, but accepting being crapped on is NOT IMO.
@@Cocoisagordonsetter the worst after accepting the risk is what we refer to as "unfaithfulness"...i don't know, but looking from a POV that's not solely American with its unrelenting and uncompromising desire to have someone only for you and have it purely to yourself... Personally, rather than die by myself, I'd share. Yeah, it doesn't sound as romantic as your feel-good movies and romance novels but IMO dying by myself sounds even less romantic. Unfortunately life is not like Disney movies for everyone.
@@tok1879 Interesting point of view and I came to a similar conclusion (although I took sex out of the equation, and I'm just happy having good friends). I found that Disney ideals don't live up to our expectations irl: either you feel trapped, or your partner feels trapped. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ But maybe I just didn't meet the right guy. Not that it matters. I'm convinced people can find happiness outside the Disney model. And it's damaging to tell them otherwise.
The important thing to note here is that young men aren't just failing to find romantic relationships, they're failing at finding any sort of relationship. 1 in 7 young men don't have any close friends. It was 1 in 33 for the previous generation. Human beings have lost their sense of community, and it's effecting young men the most because women do have some built-in solidarity through political and social movements. Young men don't.
It has to do with social media, the internet, and video games. A large percentage of guys in these younger generations get their social needs fulfilled through these outlets which leads to them spending a lot more time alone at home and becoming less and less socialized. When (or if) at some point they do want to find a relationship, they struggle because they don't have experience and because they've become socially awkward as a result of the stranglehold that technology has had on them.
Takes money to maintain friendships(going out to eat, birthdays etc etc), same as it takes money to have a decent dating life. The low wages relative to cost of living are the real reason behind the majority of these social issues.
If young men are not capable of forming and maintaining friendships would you consider them mentally healthy and fit to form a romantic relationship with your daughter?
I wouldn’t say women have it built in through political movements. Most women I know are not super political. I think it’s cultural. Women are encouraged to open up emotionally with each other, whereas I’ve heard from men that if they open up with another man they get made fun of or it gets brushed off: “you’ll figure it out bro.” So it’s up to men individually, and dominant culture through media to start changing that narrative.
I'm 50 years old. I can tell younger people this. Everything changed upside down from the year 2000, and it ain't getting any better. People have become Androids without realising it. When life had no apps and socials, society was the opposite of what it is today. It's truly depressing.
This is true, but it got exponentially worse in the 2010s. You could still run in-person game on girls back in the 2000s, and most girls were friendly and receptive to it. MySpace and FB were around in that decade, but it didn't stop people from communicating face-to-face, as compared to today. Now, after TikTok, IG, Tinder, Bumble, Only Fans, etc. took over, society is done.
As a 50yo man I agree it's gotten much much worse since the launch of the web! I believe this gave women too many choices and too much free attention that they used to have to earn from the few men they saw in real life. I still remember when lots of guys were dating women above them in looks but this seems much more rare now. As a single father I figured I would probably die alone as I don't get much attention and when I do they usually are not good people. I even find women my age set in ways and expecting something they shouldn't! This extreme pickiness is killing society! It's causing social problems men are Not meant to be alone. I mean God created women just for us men to keep us company and help us in life but since so many girls don't believe in God today they sleep with each other and have a higher body count than I do at age 50! We men who want a family which is very good for society must find a willing partner in order to build this family and unfortunately they usually leave you after a few years from "I'm just not happy anymore" or "it's not you it's me". We need to get back to reality average women need to love average men again please for the future of society! 💯 🙏
Marriage pros and cons? Cons: Getting cheated on, losing 50% of everything, paying alimony, paying child support for 18 years, toxicity, stress, depression, getting blamed for everything.
He kind of glosses over it here, but that "Loss of the 3rd Place" thing is actually a huge goddamn deal, not only for dating but society in general. There are a few people and books who go more into depth about this topic (like NotJustBikes, Charles McMohan etc.) but basically the idea of the "3rd Place" - a place (or places) where you can regularly, easily, casually and reliably be around other people has almost been completely wiped out in the US. Or just the concept of regularly being around people who aren't your coworkers or family in general. The two leading factors of this decline are economic - working harder, longer hours for less pay and less time off, travelling more for work etc. - but also physical; we physically destroyed the concept of the "3rd Place" by designing everything around the personal automobile which is the anti-thesis of the "3rd Place" because of the physical separation it creates and space it demands. If you want to create a society of lonely, friendless, loveless people (and probably a bit sociopathic) then you really can't do any better than not only working them to the bone but also making it damn near physically impossible to casually be around people without effort.
well women are not ready for a lasting relationship why do you think Americans move to other countries and stay there its not like you cant get the same health care elswhere for better and cheaper
@@nevergiveupbaby1720 nobody has to be with an average woman either. Even though most men would be happy with average. The fact that more and more men are deciding to not bother says a lot.
I'm a man that divorced at 34. I have a child with my ex-wife and I'm forever grateful for that. I dated for over 6 years after the divorce with no rush in mind doing the online thing and just naturally meeting woman through daily routines. What i have realized as i got older (40ish now) is that I'm happy single and my need for a life partner has diminished. I'm more than fine alone, I'm happy and content as a single person in this life with no regrets or gripe.
Same exact situation barring no children in tow, but same age as you. Dated some here and there. The women I've dated in their 30s are just leftovers from nobody wanting to deal with them in their 20s. They do end up getting married to some simp. The zest to find romance is gone. Looking forward to getting older and further away from the dating scene.
I'm over 50 and if you're like me, you'll grow into that even more. I would never be in a live-in relationship of any kind, I cherish my space and time. I spend money on young women to take care of my desires, and it's the best option I could ever have. Also have a substantial social circle. A woman would just be a burden, and most men know that.
Hey CNN.... why don't you do a televised segment of the harm that the current family court system inflicts on good men due to misrepresentation or outright lies women make against men in relationship. Our society failed young men. Here's a poll question your reporters can ask both men and women... " What benefit is there for young men to get married?" Also... ask folks why women only get to make the decision to abort a fetus? Why deos the boyfriend, common law partner, or husband have to just sit and take it when a woman chooses to kill his offspring without even consulting the biological father? And you ask why young men have decided to stay single... A woman can kill a man's offspring with no recourse, can file for divorce even if she cheated, take the man's estate, the children (whether they are his or not), be awarded a subsidy by the government designated alimony & child support (even if it's not his child), and ruin his professional reputation by a false allegation. Why are young men staying single, really? .... because they have personally witnessed what women have done to devastate their fathers, male friends, and male family members for the last 40 years... It will only change when the institution of marriage (contract), and the Family Court System is fundamentally rewritten to protect men's lineages, estates, and ability to raise complete and enduring nuclear famlies.
I’ve never had a girlfriend and probably will go my entire life without one too. It’s sad but I’ve accepted reality for what it is and just thank god for being alive and healthy
@@ameripharmalaboratorio4427 No disrespect but, sex with love and bond is way more overrated. At least when your pay, you both know what to expect and do
That's kinda true, I think some of us were taught about having a bond to have sex and some not, both things are right, but the main problem here is that women standards to have sex have skyrocketed and we cant keep the rate of natality with the rate of deaths and they can put the blame on us like it´s always been, but women decide who have sex or have children, they didnt have that power before the pill or those methods to avoid getting pregnant @@777kiya
That may be my reality. Now I've had relationships in the past with girls but nothing ever stuck and they were way older than me. There are girls I'm interested in but they do not want a relationship and I can respect that, I completely understand.
I have never had a girlfriend either. Go to Latin America or maybe somewhere in south east Asia like the Philippines. And I am sure it will be much easier. I got zero matches on dating site in the US. But if I change my location it is 100 times easier.
As long as 80% of the women are chasing 20% of the men, we are going to have a LOT of men withdraw from the market, other men capitalize on their position to run through as many women as possible without commitment, and a ton of women wondering where all of the “good men” have gone while 20-30 walk past them unseen every day.
@@GrowMasterGeneral Your argument is correct and incorrect. You are correct in saying that women will be more attracted to the more stable individuals who've built their lives up. It is also correct to not necessarily blame the women for this. However it is incredibly stupid to undermine men by saying "they need to learn how to be real men", still trying to shift the blame on men as much as possible and ignoring any amount of necessary context. Some people aren't capable of getting fit, some aren't capable of attaining financial security, some aren't capable of owning a house or resources, ect. Your argument is an unfair and idealistic view of what men should be. Again, not wrong to seek high standards. But stating that those high standards should be baseline is ridiculous. The other problem is that society does have a double standard and will not hold women to the same degree. And if you do then you will be vilified.
@koreyardoin3695 Yeah, so the point I'm making is that men can do things to make themselves more attractive to women and also that women have delusional standards. Two things can be true at once. Go figure. Men are no longer taught how to do the things that make them attractive to women. The key here is doing the things that make you a "provider" and "protector". As advanced as a species that we are.. we are still running on caveman software. Millions of years of evolution won't be undone by a few decades of wokeness (for lack of a better term). I'm not shifting the blame on men.. which is why I said "it only paints half the picture".. "it" being the fact that 80% of women are chasing the top 20% of men. Half the blame lays squarely on women's delusional standards... (and the other on men lacking drive and ambition). Those standards are based in evolutionary psychology. Women, in general, are not going to be attracted to low-income (provider) men who are physically weak (protector). You say some men are incapable of these things (true), and these men will remain single. The good new is, most men are capable of attaining these things. It's not easy, but it is possible. If it was easy, then everyone would do it, and it would lose it's value. "But stating that those high standards should be baseline is ridiculous.".... I never stated what "should be" only what "is". Millions of years of evolution has made it so. Women are attracted to providers (i.e. high-income earners) and protectors (i.e. physically fit). And if you want to attract a women, then you have to attain these things to the best of your ability. Sorry, but women are not attracted to their pudgy Uber drivers. I'm simply a messenger of what "is", not stating what "should be". So, in short, men can do things to make themselves more attractive to women. And women have delusional standards that won't go away because it's based in evolutionary psychology. Which is why we (men) have to do the things that woman are attracted to, if you want to attract a woman. Don't expect woman to drop their standards. It's deeply instinctive. You can tell women all you want that they have unrealistic and delusional standards, but it won't change their mind on who they're attracted to.
I'm 40 and I gave up on dating and relationships because I spent the past 20 years of my life trying to find love and realized that none of those women truly loved me. I kept at it for 20 years because women would say "pick better" or "you haven't found the right one" The hard truth is there are no unicorns. The only woman that truly loved me for me was my mother may her soul rest in peace. Now I'm in a loving relationship with myself. All the love and energy I used to give to women now I give it to myself.
At least you had a mother who loved you. God bless her. But when I was 13 my own mother threw me out the house after she came home from going out. I’m 23 now. Haven’t talked to her since.
Spent my entire 20s being depressed and thinking I needed a girl in my life. But once I realized happiness comes from with-in, I stopped looking for someone else to make me happy. You also become stronger and more attractive, and feel a sense of self worth. Don't worry about what women want, care about what YOU want! and let women do what they do. You just might discover how great Life can be and people will flock towards that energy :) men, women and everything in between alike.
Boxer Sugar Shane Moseley fought in the ring, took punches to the face, yet divorce court decided he had to give his championship belts to his ex wife who never did anything. Dr. Dre produced all the hits, spent hours in the studio yet divorce court tore up the prenup and gave his ex wife money even though she didn’t even sing back up.
Honestly the biggest problem with dating is that the majority of woman all feel as though they deserve/entitled to a top 10% man and that’s it. The other 90% are so beneath them that it isn’t even a consideration. I don’t know if this was social media or society that have propped them up on these fragile pedestals.
To be fair, I know a lot of men who feel the same way. Some of my mates wouldn't even look at a woman with the wrong body type. I'm not even talking unhealthy weight either. Just the wrong genetics.
I am a woman and not looking for a top 10% man. I don't need man of any specific appearance or of high income. I need a man who has similar values and compatible lifestyle. Who wants to share housework and childcare equaly. Who takes my feeling seriously and is able to comunicate about his emotions.
Female hypergamy combined with social and economic success. Its that simple. Women date across and up the social spectrum. The more successful they become, increasing amounts of men become invisible to them. Women can increase the amount of available men by focusing on building families first and then pursuing career interests later in life.
After losing everything I owned and becoming in debt from the aftermath of a brutal separation, I don’t think I can bear another loss like that at my age. If I lose everything again, I may end up homeless.
As a guy married for twenty one years, I never cheated, never hung out in the bars with the guys, never once hit her, made good money and provided a beautiful home, and helped produced two beautiful and successful children. But it was never good enough. She chose to cheat on me, divorce me, and to finally marry a city sewer worker, who was an alcoholic and beat her up. She is now divorced from him too. After having another girlfriend for 13 years who could never commit to anything, I give up. I'd rather put my efforts into something that provides benefits.
Same story here but when she cried to me that here high new husband beat her I laughed and hung up the phone If you lye with dogs you shall rise with flees
Dating is exhausting and soul crushing. Better to be alone than with someone who makes you miserable. And who wants to bring kids into this mess of a world ? I watched my parents divorce and it was traumatic. No way. Not worth it.
Crazy as it sounds, I'm at the point where I'd almost rather date a single mother than try to have biological kids of my own. In this climate, it's better to help take care of kids that already exist, instead of bringing new ones into this nightmare world.
@@Zalis116 I was nodding my head the entire time reading your post. It's not being pessimistic. Things are really bad out there. I couldn't have children with the amount of narcissism and violence. It's very sad how things are going
@@sudo3870 and if you marry her and get divorced there’s a high probability you will have to pay child support for kids that aren’t even yours. Stay away from single moms. Most of them just want you for your resources.
"Men are sexless and lonely." Just because men aren't dating these "new age" women doesn't mean that they are lonely. They are just smart. It's not worth it being cheated on or left when she gets "bored".
Women actually cheat themselves from having a great time and potentially being with someone who is more mature articulate and humorous and someone you can have proper adult conversations with. But instead they go for guys they know will only provide a temporary thrill due to maximum sex appeal a lot of guys that get turned down are well built and work out and also work hard but its still not good enough for them. This is why I'll be moving to bali to see my large bum girlfriend 😊
I stopped dating at 19, currently 30 and havent been in a relationship since. I made a conscious choice back then to stop dating because I wanted to find myself and what I wanted. I realized I was happier alone. Women being hypergamous makes dating a constant game of trying to prove oneself with very little actual payoff. I came to the conclusion that there are 4 main reasons to be in a relationship. 1. pleasure (can be achieved without a partner) 2. companionship (can be achieved through a pet) 3. help around the house (can be achieved with a roommate, family, or hired help) 4. reproduction (I could honestly care less)
😆😆😆😆 I agree with your conclusions!!! 😆😆😆😆 If you get REALLY lonely, there are always hookers, and many of them are actually quite pleasant and friendly. Just be a bit selective, and don't ask one to marry you.
I think most young men have just given up. My single son wants to meet a good woman, settle down and have kids, but cannot see himself taking on the reaponsibilities of being a husband and father with the current society and financial troubles.
Tell him to find an educated woman who is willing to work and contribute to the family's support. She might even make more money than he does. Among the most educated people is not uncommon to have stay at home men because plenty of women are financially doing better, and when children are old enough, both work full time. My daughter brother in law is a pediatrician, his wife is Ceo of a huge international company. He took patients booked when their children were at school. Now they are all in college
@Peggy Gilespie I totally agree with this comment. To add to this, most women would lose a lot of respect for their husbands if they were to become stay at home dads. There is absolutely nothing wrong with doing something like that, but it essentially reverses gender roles by putting the woman into a masculine provider position in the family. All of this stuff is instinctual/subconscious behavior and preferences. It's the exact reason why women won't date "down" by going out with men who make less than they do. They also seem to assume that having a degree somehow means anything and refuse to date blue collar worker men, who in reality can make very good money. Overall, the dating market is fucked and I think we are seeing the early stages of a demographic collapse here in America.
I'm 21 and yes most have given up, why? because all the girls I meet are narcissistic and addicted to drama while having stupidly high standards and offering nothing in return for them there's no point, now I'm sure there are girls out there that aren't like that but the price of finding them is just not worth it any more especially when it's practically impossible to get something as simple as a home to have stability for any family down the line that just stack on top of all the other issues
I’m 49. Had relationships with Women. Been married and divorced. I’ve been single 5 years apart from a relationship I had recently which lasted 2 months. I ended it because I realised I’m happier, more content living alone. No drama. No pointless arguments. I value my peace of mind.
Marriage was a necessary union when women were reliant on men giving them shelter, and providing for them, these days they simply DON'T NEED MAN. Humanity shot itself in the foot with the Feminist Movement which has now morphed into the LGBTFQ.
@@danielbroomhall8882 I have an 18 year old daughter. She comes to stay for a week every month or so. She was always a great kid when she was growing up. Was lucky that way. Never had one bit of bother with her.
How is living alone equivalent to no relationships? I know many people who always lived along and always had relationships. There is no mutual exclusion. maybe some of the stress is a matter of defining what relationships are. My wife's relationships before I knew her have stayed intact. Each of them has its own definition.
@@JimMork Most women want a relationship to progress into something more than I actually want. Move in together etc. I would be happy with a casual fuck buddy but there are very few women want that. I can live without sex or a relationship. I don’t need other people to make me feel happy or content. I’m not really a people person. Can only take company for small periods of time.
@@JimMork You're a guy, guys are mostly able to cope with loneliness. Not women. This article/news like many others with liberal/feminist agendas is deliberately pointed at the wrong direction to give everyone the wrong impression.
Why is it such a problem when men decide to stop dating and stop getting married? Society has been telling women for 50 years that they don't need no man. I think the men are finally getting the message.
Because some of us aren’t doing it out of a decision. Im 22 and would love to have a good woman by my side. The unfortunate reality is they are far and few in between. The only thing I can bank on is snagging one when I’m older.
Many of us guys are giving up on America and getting passports and plane tickets to the Philippines. Lots of sweet, traditional, housewife and mommy types over here.
@@Parzzyval the only problem with that strategy is she'll probably have about two or three kids for two or three different dads, about a fifty body count, 50k in student loans and be working at starbucks. This is when she will reach her epiphany and declare, "I've had my fun and am ready to settle down with a good man" lol. AND THATS YOU!
@@UlrichW-mm8yzTHANK YOU for pointing that out! Women with AWESOME dads, are less likely to deal with a low count, no count dude. Hell, her dad (granddad & uncles) won’t allow it. If over 30, sometimes wedding money gets flipped to her first house money.
@@Captain_Insano_nomercyAMAZING lightbulb moment - that’s the POV of fatherless daughters or abused daughters. Statistically, men have done much more mis-deeds as awful dads compared to awful moms (who fly under the radar IMO). Had there been tougher accountability, we’d have fewer bad parents.
@wegotthis247 that's because women don't do obvious and visceral things like beat you, my dad definitely hit us a lot and I was afraid of him for most of my childhood, but women abuse you psychologically and emotionally; there are no bruises or scars from that
I think a lot of them don't even care any more. The number of women I have seen describing themselves as being in "situationships" or "it's complicated" have sky-rocketed.
Larger amount of women dating other women compared to men in a relationship with other men A substantial amount of 24-29 year old women, especially 26-29 year old women have male partners old enough they fall out of the equivalent 18-29 age group Female scarcity is real up until 50s & late 40s - this is when men start dying off. 103-105 boys are born every year for every 100 girls. So teen boys, twenty something men & thirty something men always outnumber age matched women.
I mean when you slowly remove all the places to meet other people that aren't purely for drinking alcohol and replace that with social media this tends to happen
Agreed, and worse. Every traditional mate-meeting spot (schools, colleges, work, church, etc.) has been eliminated by peer pressures, policies, or harassment laws. Women can literally destroy a man with an allegation no matter how absurd, triggering armed police agents to arrest him and a myriad of state weapons to use (red-flats, domestic violence, sex assault, etc.) ranging from loss of assets, lawyers fees, loss of gun rights, and often PRISON.... Women are naturally vindictive and have huge $$$ incentives if there is marital property involved.
Yeah but you guys could still go to parks or whatever like why are you guys all freaks as soon as they remove the socialization place you guys just gave up on the concept almost like it was all routine anyway
I like how Americans love to blame "the media" for everything, without realizing it makes them seem like children. Like they re completely impotent, and at the whim of outside forces. "The MEDIA," is actually a series of companies that compete with each other, and give people what they want so they can make money. If your issue is ever with t"the media," your problem is really with yourself. America is a country whose greatest fear is taking responsibility for it's own actions.
The National Defense Authorization Act (NDAA) and Mundt- Smith Act 2013 legalized propaganda on the American public and foreign enemies. WhitEU The "patriot act" from 2001 was the official start of spying on american people. The two you mention are its' natural evolution because the stupid muricans never demanded it be repelled and its creators hanged for high treason. Once that "act" passed and esisted the opposition, which was small because of all the lies and propaganda about the "externl terrorist threat" after the 9/11, the two following , and there are a few more just cannot remember their official names right now, had the door opened for them to march in, fanfares 'n ll.
And there's so much more loneliness now. Young people are anxious about dating, jobs, student loans, cost of living. It's scary and NOT the same as it was. We used to meet at church, community functions, dances, restaurants, etc. Now everyone stays at home in lonely isolation. It's so sad.
I stay at home a lot. Alone, but not lonely. I can't remember the last time I attended a social function, but it was long before covid. The last girlfriend was in 1997, and I haven't dated since. But I make my own wine and beer, and I like to cook. For social interaction I can watch a movie. My cat died a few years ago, I really should get another. They're always nice to cuddle with.
I don't like to say people have changed because really people have always been sketchy. It seems those types are prevalent now. At 46 I choose to minimize interactions with people unless I am working. I love being alone. No drama, mindless shallow conversation, or folks misinterpreting what your saying because they have serious issues within themselves.
Several years ago, after my divorce, I started online dating. I was in my mid 50s, with a professional career and middle class lifestyle. The number of lonely women I met who were in their mid 40s to mid 50s was staggering. Most of them used me as their therapist. Many were emotional wrecks, still angry with their ex husbands. Some of them had unrealistic expectations in wanting a man who would “take care” of them. The constant refrain I heard from them was how difficult it was for them to find any decent men.
As a 28yr old black man who is the right height good looks. Finding a good woman these days is like finding a needle I'm a haystack. I'm through dating
Go overseas, brother. No need to limit yourself to America anymore. I'm a black man and married an East African woman and couldn't be happier. They are feminine, traditional and inspirational. Marriage is serious for these women. They don't divorce easily for dumb reasons like "irreconcilable differences" Been married almost 10 years now and it's only getting better. I truly believe if I had married an American woman, I'd be divorce by year 5.
With all 30 years of my existence i"ve been chasing women who wants me to meet their high standards, and entertain them for a mere 1 word answer text and joke spreading as a reward i forgot to love the people back home who believe in me before i even have my clothes on.
People need to listen to this man. I’m not even American but the same thing is happening in the UK. The working classes are being hollowed out, the middle classes are shrinking, if there’s no wealth creation and only population decline, the powers that be are literally killing the goose that lays the golden eggs. Then factor in the rise in crime and trafficking of vulnerable youth.. It’s frankly unsafe to have children, in the modern era. I wish politicians cared about issues that are actually relevant and important.
@@MariyahPhoenixduring the pandemic when so many white collar workers began to work from home, my concern was that if you can do your job from home so can someone in a poor country for a fraction of the price. I feel the middle class is about to experience what the working class experienced during the 1970s through to the 1990s.
“I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone.” - Robin Williams
Robin Williams was the best...
@@melchiorlise2466 Took 3 wives for him to finally decide that death was preferable.
@@omganotherun You're comment made laugh but it's true some men go through hell with women which i most likely won't because i don't plan on ever getting in a serious relationship.
@@omganotherun You do realize some men are happy with their wives though right ?
@@melchiorlise2466 Totally true. Now examine the data. The divorce rate, who files for divorce, the results on men in Family Court, the % of couples who are simply miserable together "cheaper to keep her". Would you buy a car that has a well over 50% chance of exploding? Honestly, most men would probably prefer the exploding car to the exploding family and the demographic data proves it. The soon to be majority of men are not dodging happiness, they are dodging misery. Less of one, more of the other. It is a rational decision.
Dating for men is like paying for a job interview.
so..... I quit 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Well said. It feels eerily similar.
For a job that you would have to pay them instead of them paying you.
Why waste your time and money applying for jobs you don't really want then?
@@marathonog8849 What is a woman supposed to pay a man for might I ask? And what will a man offer a woman to put her life on the line to have his child?
I gave up on dating because I was tired of being made to feel both like an ATM and a therapist.
Lol, men are mostly the ones that are treated like ATMs.
welcome to the club.
Don't forget a "r@pist"
Maybe some of them were just seeking understanding?
So true
85% of all divorces are the women’s idea. Why would any man work hard and try to be successful knowing that if he gets married he’ll become a part time dad, lose half of everything and pay these 85% ters a monthly check for years? Dating is the best example how modern women objectify men………”does it have a good job?, does it drive a nice car?, does it live in a nice place?, does it have money? No thanks.
Nailed IT!
Sorry to say, but 85% of all divorces are women's idea because they often have the lion's share of responsibility...so they take care of their children, the household, and sometimes they even have to clean up after a grown man, and have you thought about about the ways that women are objectified, often in the most demeaning and degrading way? -- does it have a nice figure? Can it get rid of those stretch marks after birthing my children? Can it cook? Can it replicate what I've seen on porn sites... and the list goes on and on.
ALL ABOUT RESOURCES
I wonder if men understand how often women are taken advantage of in every way that a person can be taken advantage of. And yes, women have to know whether a man has a good job and if he's able to provide financially for a family, before moving forward with a relationship, OTHERWISE, it falls on the woman to handle her own load as well as the load of a man who is unable, or unwilling to do his part. it happened to my mother and countless other women.
@@Skidderoperator - If we take it back to traditional gender roles, men were always the providers before women ever joined the workforce.
Being alone isn't the worst. Being with someone who doesn't love you is worse.
Being alone is the best thing in life
I'd absolutely love to have a partner, but I'm not going to give up who I am in order to have it. I have a steady career, a home of my own and nice cars. I'm stable. However, if I invite someone in my life I'm not doing it at the cost of that stability.
I'm 64 and have been married 40 years... your comment is right on the money!
But having a partner (if that's what you want) is better. I swear I've seen this exact comment on every video I've seen talking about loneliness. We don't gotta focus on what's worse, but more on what's better.
I'm not against having a partner but I'd rather be sure I've made the right choice. I'm not about to gamble away my peace again without knowing if I can trust them when I'm not around. Maybe one day, maybe never.
If even CNN is covering this, you know it's gotta be bad.
CNN be like : "Girls are picky ?"
Haha
No such thing as a incel just low sexual value dudes who dont like there options. We all want a Ferrari but most of us will have to setttle on a honda. Just settle on what you can realistically get if you keep getting shot down your shoping out of your league. Just like cars houses and life in general you have to be realistic and get what you can get. Take what you can get beggers cant be choosers and dont be a bitter ass hole about it. As bad as you got it some one else has it worse.
If CNN is covering this then it’s actually far worse than it really is
@@praetorian3902 yup they have the right to....we can b picky too if we improve ourselves. Self improvement.
My grandmother had a great saying "Its better to be alone than to wish you were". Best advice I ever got.
Why is everybody so seemingly terrified about being alone? Are you really that weak, that fearful of venturing forth by yourself? If you have friends who are there for you when you need them, if you have family who love you, what else do you need? WHY do we buy into the scenario presented to us by billionaires and to which we in this filthy rotting capitalist society are brainwashed practically from birth onward that we MUST do this, we MUST do that, we MUST "marry" (even though 50% of American marriages end in divorce) and we MUST reproduce even when we can't afford kids and government does practically ZERO to help those who DO have kids, and so they're now trying to FORCE WOMEN TO HAVE KIDS THEY DON'T WANT. Those people don't give a damn about you or me, they only want more workers to produce more money for them so they can sell their junky products to them, they want them to have tons of babies and make yet more poor people for future generations so they can continue backwards to the time of slavery - and not just for Black people, folks. If you meet somebody and you both fall in love, then go for it. Leave the rest of us alone. It's not a FLAW to be single and not have kids, for pete's sake!
No Money No Honey🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨
Was grandam married? I bet grandma wasn't alone
Put that on a T shirt
Scott Galloway totally nailed this argument. Maybe 5% of the people posting her, give a damn what Scott Galloway said. Everyone else was bitching about everything else and nothing will get done. Scott is correct. We will become Italy or Japan.
I'm 64 and have been single for the past 10 years. Sometimes boring but far better and more peaceful than with a woman who is never content with anything. The worst and most lonely period was with a woman who was always critical about everything. I kicked her out of my life. Best decision ever.
Middle aged married women with kids tend to be the types who will take a supportive husband for granted criticizing and belittling him all the while while she gains weight and wrinkles making her less and less attractive …no wonder many husbands get younger fresher looking side pieces …The late Kevin Samuels tell today’s ‘modern’ women who are looking for a ‘high value’ man that these type men keep side pieces and that they need to accept that as a fact.
For some men their side piece will be online porn and their 🖐️
the most lonely I've ever felt is sharing my home and resources with someone who doesn't appreciate it. Never again.
Amen bro 😎
I'm right there with you, bro.
Absolutely bro
And ungrateful.
You said a mouth full, but the problem is in order for women ( or people in general) in order for them to be truly appreciative they need to have it bad and I mean great depression bad and those days are coming and going to happen but worse. A great trial is coming to the whole world. Revelation 3:10
"Be careful who you start dating. A lot of people ain't looking for love, they're looking for help" - Johnny Bravo
Are they mutually exclusive? I would say beware anyone who isn’t flawed or damaged in some way. Everyone is helpless without others.
@@Rnankn It's basically saying that you need to be careful, because some people that try dating you won't do so because they love you, but rather that they want something from you.
In other words, it's a relationship set up for failure as soon as you stop providing what they want. Obviously genuine love is a lot more forgiving than that.
Boom exactly
@@joev3783 they're looking for help with love
Not always a bad thing
As a Gen X, I honestly feel we were the last generation to get any enjoyment out of society and jobs. What a mess things are today.
Reading some of these replies...Its like all we did (in my case during early 90s) and older Gen X 80s was hang out, go to malls, movies, downtown, etc. and meet girls like all the time half the time they made the first move and talked to us. I generally wasnt the most outgoing teen either its just thats how it was done. I noticed the world had departed from that and I been bringing those simpler times to today.
Feminism has killed respect for important jobs held by men.
Example: I used to work in water purification plants and sewage. I've left, feeling like I'd never find a relationship if I stayed there. Now the field as a whole is 40% understaffed and infrastructure is crumbling.
Trans-activism and feminism sucked the air out of the room, when demographics showed us that had we not listened to mor0ns who weaponize their ignorance, we should have instead double-downed on infrastructure to make sure we're ready for what is to come.
Why should an individual man do the right thing, when feminism teaches women to do the exact opposite?
I once saw journalists run from my explanations to automate risk management for water systems, shouting : "OH! THERE! A WOMAN ENTREPRENEUR!". That "woman entrepreneur" was selling another crappy yoga-pants-by-mail dead business model.
I'm 36yo. I'm watching the world burn.
yep when college degree mint you could land a stem job.
it's because everything was so much easier
@@sacareapyro6326 Boomer time was the easiest.
Check into the gynocentric unfair divorce laws and you might start understanding this decline.
Yup. There's not a single man alive who does not know a father, brother, uncle, nephew, friend or acquaintance who have not been shafted in and by the 'Family' Court. Forewarned is forearmed.
any man would need to be quite naïve to sign a marriage documentation.
I’m currently dealing paying 1500$ a month to my ex wife and my monthly income is 4800. I’m laying her rent, brand new car note, insurance, and phone bill. It’s been 2 years of separation, she misses every one of the court dates to prolong the divorce. February 2025 is hopefully the month I get granted the divorce. I
May God console and heal your heart@@Killersofdirt
@@Killersofdirt file a case on her and get a lawyer. How did it happen? If you are not separated you don't need to pay your spouse. Stop it at once
To all the single dudes out there that are struggling, I am 30 years old with a 6 figure income, I'm in good shape physically, live a fun lifestyle and have my shit together, and I still never had any luck with dating or relationships. So don't believe in the lie that all you have to do is improve yourself to be successful with dating. It is hard for just about everyone. Improve yourself for you, not for a woman.
Stop fighting it and join the other team.......😅
My ass hurts 🤕@@will7its
it's over
B.S
Improving yourself will make YOU feel good, and that's what counts.
I truly believe our society's obsession with social media has ruined modern relationships, both romantic and simply friends.
Yeah, dating apps and the pandemic has screwed up dating for all genders.
Social media is to women what porn is to men. Men get the sexual release from porn, and women get their emotional fulfillment from instagram and only fans.
I agree
Absolutely. Social media has destroyed our society and our values as a whole.
an ex said to me "Why don't you post pictures of us on social media?". I said "why?". Her reply. "So people can see how happy we are". That was the beginning of the end for her and i.
Young men have no interest in women that hate them.
Gillette would agree.
It's simply better to move abroad. Women in Latin America, Asia, Africa and some parts of europe are better
@@D402SI'm Portuguese (Europe). Its terrible here.
Ouch
Women do not have interest in abusers or adults who's brains did not develop
Your point is?
Most women don't like most men, period.
Yes, we don't😂
It depends, but i myself i decided to be single because i hate lies from men
We don’t for a good reason
@@rajkharwar-x2iRight most are ugly short broke ride deadbeats
I like how your replies prove your point
Honestly putting up with loneliness is better than putting up with some people.
Too aware now
Agreed. Never ever trust a b*tch.
Amen, brother.
It sounds like you all gave up on life. And in the prime of your life. There are 8 billion people out there and you are saying to me. None of them matches your expectations.
Maybe you're too spoiled or privileged to make a real effort. Maybe that's for the best that your lineage will go the way of the dodo 🦤.
and when you put God and His son Jesus Christ first in your life there is no loneliness, just bliss. repent, convert and sin no more. Jesus Christ loves you.
My mother always told me "there are worse things in life than your own company". She was right.
I am stepping out here but was it St. Paul who was quoted in the Bible for saying a Chaste Life is a Perfect Life? If you are ever bored read The Wanting Seed written by Anthony Burgess, Burgess also wrote A Clock Work Orange. I wonder if Galloway read The Wanting Seed.
@@GuacamoleyNacho the reason St. Paul said this is because our relationship to God is the most important relationship we can cultivate in our lives. Those who are called to take up a spouse typically have sexual desires they want fulfilled and therefore, taking on a husband/wife in the sacrament of matrimony will allow said person an outlet for this disposition that is pleasing to the Lord. Those who remain unmarried and abstain from sex are able to focus more clearly on scripture and the presence of God in their lives and mortify themselves in this way. You don't even have to be a layman to take on this practice. Though it seems there's a war on marriage during this time, it is true that marriage is not the only way and there are those called to live in abstinence/chastity but, it is something that must be prayed about. Being alone doesn't have to be ostracizing it could just be in the sense of intimate relationship but, you can still be socially involved with loved ones and friends. unless of course, you choose to live as a hermit which is also not wrong. All this to say, there are varying lifestyles you can take on that can be pleasing to the Lord, it is just a matter of how you use your circumstances to glorify and grow closer to Him whether it be through marriage, singleness, or even being a hermit.
I spent my life alone, it suck’s dude, no friends no sex, I’m soon 38… keep thinking it’s fun for a couple years
It does suck to be alone, I won't argue that. I'm 40, and I have been happily married 12 years. The point is that sometimes in the haste to "not be alone" we end up in relationships that make us miserable.
@@McRemmyBabyYou can always outsource beautiful women whenever you want to release your sexual desires. It is better to pay a woman to leave than to pay her to stay. There is no such thing as a love from a woman. Women are in business while men are in love. A woman love for a man is based on the expectation that he can provide something, it is conditional not unconditional. A woman only have unconditional love for her children but not her husband, some women don’t even have unconditional love for their own children so what make you think that they will love you for you but not what you provide. If you get in a relationship with a woman you will regret it and wish you was single and living by yourself. I was like you in the past but I learned the hard way. My friends told me never to get in a relationship but I decided to prove them wrong but I ended up proving them right. A man who learn how to live by himself alone is stronger than a man that is in a relationship.
men single: bad, awfull, the worst
woman single: empowering, amazing, cool
@thebigljare u dumb?
@thebiglj aww, you poor poor thing. too bad nobody cares. life is unfair, stfu and get over it.
Idk about that xD
Men seem happy not being married. Problem is not many guys aren't willing to go out for friends as they used to because of social media and games. Anything that prevents any social interaction pretty much.
Another thing is that women culture has changed, and many males are not used to it or don't accept it because it is obviously one-sided. Nothing will change my mind about that, and if you think it isn't, you're insane.
@@yourfriend4104 "Another thing is that women culture has changed, and many males are not used to it or don't accept it" What has changed about women is that they have turned into men. But why should men accept women that have the mindset of a man when, according to their core identity, they are repelled by such mindset in a prospective partner? Surely women are going to realize how unsustainable it is for a society to be composed of predominately masculine women rather than predominately feminine women. Consider the following from one of the greatest living geniuses, professor Sam Vaknin, in his video called "Men’s Last Stand (Women: Listen up! and Taylor Swift)". “Women had come to identify themselves more and more in masculine terms. This is very evident in studies over the last 40 years. Women are becoming, have become, men, actually, for all intents and purposes. And so, by doing so, women have invaded the psycho-social turf, the territory of men. Not in order to obtain equity and equality but in order to challenge and supplant and replace and to substitute for men.” The fundamental problem at the root of all this is the Hegelian master slave dialectic and this problem can only be addressed at this level.
@@meltingintoair7581You're being emotional. Calm down.
modern women have nothing to offer
You have nothing to offer
@@nonamewillbegiven7228And you're wasting away crying on CNN. Femcel.
Yep. Just ran through pootang and a headache.
But they can take everything you work for and everything you create, and consume and desrity it, along with society. They couldn't care less. Women have always been no sighted when it comes to the future. This is because it is always men who make sacrifices. All women got is their shaming language.
America has the worst women in the world. It's impossible to unsee it after traveling the world and seeing what women in other cultures are like.
If society doesn't want you, instead of trying to prove your worth, just say "Adios Amigos" and leave.
Self improvement is masturbstion
@Mr.Anti-Hero I hope you aren't talking about harming yourself in any way, that would end your life. If you are, please don't do that, it's not worth it. Give Jesus a try if you haven't yet.
I know life can be hard sometimes, God Bless. 🕊️
Leave what? No. Find your own purpose.
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I’m stunned that this information has been presented by CNN.
Same
Same, about time though…
(2:54) He used the keywords to apear in CNN, "conspiracy theory", "misogynistic content", "climate change".
These guys are going to get canceled. They should know better than to engage in wrongthink.
Yet ...it was. Now , will you remain stunned for life ;))))?
After a terrible marriage with a abusive woman i can say i do not want to waste time in a relationship she sucked all my money, energy and mental health. It was a nightmare. Being single is the best thing that ever happened to me.
Sounds like she had a mental illness. I've been there too. Glad I'm single and have peace.
wish the best of luck to you in your healing journey.
people from usa, very very Dangerous
@@pelesaudavel7655 thank you 😊
They only want your MEAT. Money Energy Attention and Time. Then move on to the next sucker. The end.
Yea I’m a guy society has made relationships completely one sided and the approaching of women basically impossible.
Keep charging 2000 a month for apartments and jobs pay 12 an hour and this is what u get. This society has lost its mind
Wayyyy more to it than that. Social media, for one has destroyed our minds. Truly. But yeah, that's the core of it. In reality, all developed societies seem to have their numbers decline. Births, sex etc.
Yup, inequalities are mainly driven by real estate accumulation by rich
40 hours × $12 = $480
Minus taxes you get $380 weekly
$1,634 per month
@@jonny-b4954 That, and certain trade agreements, globalization, and gross levels of immigration disrupt industry and stagnate wages, which ultimately harms the host population.
Low value people should not mate
I’m 36 years old, just ended a 9 year relationship two months ago. I have met some women and gone on some dates, I’ve noticed that a lot of these girls are highly influenced by feminist youtubers or tiktokers whose material is based on making women feel entitled just because! During a date, a girl said she wanted this and that and be treated like a queen and she went as far as asking me how much money I made, all on that one first date! I asked her why she was talking about all of that and she said “because I know my worth”, I asked “what do you bring to the table?” She started talking gibberish, a whole lot of nothing. i got up and said good night!
Well done. That is precisely how one needs to deal with someone like that, male or female.
More Men need to do this!! "What do you bring to the table??" It would weed out the crazy Disney Programmed Princesses
LMAOOO the girls are crazy bro the game is fucked up nowadays 😂
Good for you, well done!
Being treated like a queen isnt feminism its entitlement. They asked how much money you make because they want a family, with you as the dad
The 90’s were the best time growing up. I honestly feel bad for millennials and gen z because they have no idea of what a normal society is
Modern Wohmen are pure evil users, and get what they deserve, they will burn in hell.
Yep. Born in 1973, and being a kid in the 80s, to high school in the 90s was awesome.
Gen X used up the last of everything good, and left the backwash for the following generations.
sorry.
Its really bad nowadays,just look at today's kids and the violence nowadays.
80s better than the 90s
Millennials were born in the early/mid 80s 😂
A woman should not be the center of your world. Have a purpose. If a woman comes around great. If not it’s no big deal. When you have no one in your life bothering you some people call that peace.
As an almost 20 year old male, I think I can speak for other men in saying that I don’t have time to be in a committed relationship as I’m just trying to get by financially.
Me too. I am 27 and life keeps getting more expensive. Even if I craved romantic relationships, I just can't afford it.
I’m 35 and feel the same way.
Seems to be true of a lot of young people these days. Also why younger people are having less kids..
Dude you're 20. You should be hitting the skins and setting a foundation for your life. Dating wasn't in my vocab at 20.
Do NOT get into a relationship in your 20s. Big waste of time.
I had a date with a girl who said her parents were so special because when they met the dad had no money and nothing to his name. And she said her mom was special because her mom stayed with the dad through thick and thin. The same girl also mocked me for being a college student with no money to go out to fancy restaurants
A lot of women cannot see their own hypocrisy and i think it is because they have the illusion of infinite options. .
Maybe her parents just lied about 'the great love story' to the little princess.
This is why they find ‘The One’ and end up divorced. Females initiate divorces first and most of the time look for the Bigger better deal. 😂
They do in their 20s and early to mid 30s if they haven't had kids yet.
The only infinite options they have is on their backs for a night.
When woman can say anything and have little to no repercussions hypocrisy is but a symptom of the root problem.
I stopped looking for dating simply because alot of women (not all of them) nowadays are simply not relationship material. They come in with these unrealistic expectations and standards while having a bunch of baggage or trauma from their past that you're supposed to just accept with open arms.
It doesn't help that we've also made it the norm where a man simply glancing at a woman is now considered "creepy".
But they won't accept YOU with open arms. There's the irony.
I'm with you - there was only a couple girls I thought about marrying when I was younger - but even then they were still flighty enough that I could not see myself with them
The politicians and MSM have all been pushing the narrative that men are the problem in our society - when they are guilty of tearing down our society.
I have no interest in any woman that debts. diseases, or a child/children from a previous relationship unless she was widowed - the poor choices she made in the past are her responsibility - not mine
If you’re gross and/or poor, anything you do is creepy.
I never make any eye contact with females at all for that reason
Millennial girls were extremely fearful and Gen Z even moreso, so I never even glance at them. I think a lot of guys are the same way, we just immediately look away because we don’t want them to “catch” us. The ironic thing is they are looking while we’re looking away to check where we’re looking. It’s not that we’re intimidated, it’s that we sense how fearful they are and want to reassure them.
Shut down all social media and watch the world return to normal. It would be like floodwaters receding back into the ocean.
I'm 63, and ran around chasing and dating women up until 9-10 years ago. I am much happier now, hanging out with cats and dogs. No people, no drama. I socialize at work only. People suck, these days.
I know what you mean, this is the day and age where animals have never been this loved till now. I might be making my German Shepherd a little to timid. Well at least his very happy and well loved after all he is my best mate. Love the way he comes racing out to see me when I get up and make a Macchiato.
I have a cat, a dog and a ferret. They were all raised up from lil babies together. It's non-stop comedy when I get home from work. Critters flying everywhere. @@adriansumner1412
Amen
At least you had the chance to date and chase, boomer. God you’re so blind to how good you had it. Literally the best possible American experience, seriously f you
Feel you bro
Men are done. When Tom Brady, who is in the top 1% of the top 1% of men can’t keep a modern woman happy, what chance do the rest of us have?!?!? Men are done, and we are now focusing on ourselves for the first time in human history. Here endeth the lesson.
@@P.90.603 It's not Tom's fault. Victim blame more.
Bill Gates and Jeff Bezos: both divorced. If they can’t manage it with all the money in the world, what hope do ordinary men have?
I think you mean Western women? Traditional women still exist but they're mostly outside of the Western hemisphere
@@P.90.603 Says who? Gisele herself said the reason was "they grew apart" so maybe it more likely that she got bored because he was on the road so much? So maybe, it was, yet again, the woman's fault and you just maybe don't want to accept that?
We are giving free to women now what our ancestors trade with women.
Young men don't have a lot to look forward to. Universities are horrifyingly expensive, Amazon has made it nearly impossible to compete as a small business owner, and computers have replaced so many types of jobs that just about all that's left is security guard or Amazon warehouse worker. The world has become a playground for billionaires and the rest of us have been left to eat scraps.
True that.
If you aren’t given a silver spoon, trades, logistics and security/LEO are pretty much all you can choose from as a peasant. Maybe if you work hard and stay competitive you might break $100k by your 50’s, but your back would have given out, your shoulders fragile and knees shattered. Retirement will consist of medical bills, doctor visits, discomfort and diminishing benefits. Office jobs are a luxury we can’t get to until age starts to chip away at our ability, and that’s assuming we aren’t just dropped as a liability.
All the problems you described do also apply to young women. University and housing is equally expensive for women as it is for men. And career opportunities are worse for women than for men - due to (real or implicitly expected) childbearing. That manifest in gender pay gap - men do generally earn more than women.
Young men do experience problems you described, but not because they are men, but because they are young. All young people have these problems.
@@samuela-aegisdottir - women don’t date broke men & men don’t care if a woman is broke
- That study on men being payed more was not done properly (fact)
- way More is expected of men in terms of being qualified for dating when bare minimum is expected of woman.
- men are competing with women in the job market but a man still expected to provide and out earn her to be considered worthy of respect.
- quotas exist to hire women just because they’re woman and reject men bc they are men.
- men still make up majority of dangerous “dirty” jobs that maintain infrastructure of civilization but these jobs are not considered “sexy” compared to a corporate job bc women overwhelmingly go into desk jobs that require college degrees.
- More women are going to college than men now and they want a man to also have a college degree bc hypergamy.
Most women are looking for help and don’t want a relationship and I rather protect my heart and my wallet
Dating as a men is like making an investment that has a 99% chance of failing I literally almost went broke dating last year .
"A men"?
I have no money but I'm sure if I did, I'd have things I'd rather spend it on than dates.
An attitude like that - Yoda would posit, "That is why you failed."
You're not ready for a family if you can't even afford to go out and meet people.
@@JC-jk3kl nah
Sounds weird coming from someone who isn't American. Sounds brutal there
I'm 20 and have only had one girlfriend, but it wasn't really a real relationship, just a dumb middle school thing. But yeah I've gotten rejected by pretty much every girl I've ever been interested relationship-wise (probably around several dozen). At this point in my life I'm focusing more on school, hobbies, and developing my professional career.
As a woman I will tell you dear you’re doing the right thing. Focus and build yourself. Build the best life you can think of for yourself. Workout, take care of your body. The women will come. Build the life and yourself fully. Find your happiness and create a great life. The women will come. ❤
@@TruthesekerWomen aren’t just going to SHOW UP. Your giving him the worst advice possible- to just wait, which is literally advice you’d give a woman. He should either accept he’ll be alone, or radically change his personality.
@@aidanmurray7319 I am saying he should become his best self. Women are very attracted to men who are strong in themselves and are self aware. Women notice the intangibles about men. He is young and has time to live a good life and meet women. He won’t be alone the rest of his life geez. They won’t magically appear but he definitely has a better chance at finding a healthy relationship once he knows himself and builds himself. Him being strong in himself will definitely attract the right kind of woman. Let him take what he needs and discard what he doesn’t from my comment.
@@aidanmurray7319Personalities don’t radically change unless there are drugs or mental illness involved. Behaviors can be modified through pinpointing maladaptive schemas. Those would be thinking that you have to be alone because you were rejected once. Or that porn is what real sex should be like. These are dysfunctional thoughts that can be unlearned.
smart young man.. continue to strive.. trust me you aint missing a damn thing out here lol...
I foresee a future of rich men with harems and poor men in the military.
We are going back to the times of kings and slaves.
Blame your grandfathers they knew what they were doing when they set up these laws and allowed again for women to be able to have equal choice (which they should) by letting women be aware and leave religion behind they can sexually choose better which is what nature intended it to be. Sometimes it’s better or for worse
Possible, I also think mother will become a full-time job, because otherwise pur society would collapse
literally warhammer 40k
Dont yall love how social media connects us virtually and yet, disconnects us in reality? Ah, you gotta love it 👍🏾
Deep 💯
that disconnect already existed, que the demo reel of the 90's and 80's newsfeeds of the social and political trends that created the modern era. Social media just gave that mad world one big social pot instead of the tiny little ones in your local community. Now everyone has to deal with the nutcases in every corner of the planet and must have an opinion of what they ate for breakfast! :D
🎯 will only get worse too
especially with meta, neuralink, starlink…
no lies detected in that statement.
Well Said!
I've been married for over a decade. Choose the wrong one and you'll wish you single. A good marriage is better than a good single life but a bad marriage is worse than a bad single life.
That's the issue, people are not taking time, being patient, searching hard enough and getting intimate WAY too fast in order to find the right one.
@@RandJ1996 I fell off that cliff. Sex is destroying the selection process. Attraction is important but people need to know dating is a series of job interviews and a marriage is basically a joint business venture, not a group vacation.
@@Gunshinzero agreed, but I'm not sure if I would go as far as saying business venture. BUT I put VERY little value (if any at all) on my materialistic possessions or money etc. Relationships and experiences are far more important (to me).
@@RandJ1996 You know that saying, "mind your business". Now it's your (plural) business if you get married.
Enjoying a person is great but there is utility in a marriage. Starting a family is basically creating and organization. So you have personnel, facilities, income, expenses, goals, etc. All of those have to be managed by you and if you don't have a good management system of the day to day life quality tasks your enjoyment if each other will almost never carry the relationship.
It's like being roommates with your best friend but he skips rent due to poor money management. Sooner or later that friendly love will cook down, at least until they move out and your business isn't mixed.
@@Gunshinzero - Perfect, that's what marriage is about. You become ONE.
It's definitely getting bad if CNN is discussing men's problems
You know it. When fake news CNN starts talking about the effects of liberal toxic feminism and governments contributing to the handouts and breakdown of the traditional family…..you know the left is in trouble 😂
Men's problems?Just because no one wants to date you doesn't mean you're oppressed. People have the right to not date you.
@@mackayladavis4021 I'm not impressed, Mackayla.
@@mackayladavis4021 I was more so talking about the loneliness and isolation aspect 70% of men 18-35 choosing to not participate in society can not end well
@Mackayla Davis i don't believe anyone has said that. What we are saying is it gets lonely. I'm assuming u a female. U don't and will never understand struggles of a man
Social disconnect is a blessing. Life has never been better
Stop hearing those bs label, shaming argument, cherry picking facts, mislead information and we just realize how simple life is. Even with a basic life can make us satisfied.
Well I certainly wouldn't call it a blessing. We are not blessed by being appart from each other, because no matter how you look at it, life is harder for people who are alone, they have to fight more.
Yes, social disconnect is a chioce that we make but forcibly. I would say that our mutual weakness leads us to connection failure. We are weak people who can't connect with one another.
So make no mistake, social disconnect is no blessing, it s just a unfortunate circumstancial choice.
As a young man, dating is rough. You have to meet standards. You have to be a certain height, financial level, attractiveness, if not good luck. When you hear” Men ain’t shit!” Well what are we supposed to do 🤷🏾♂️. I’d rather focus on myself and be happy.
As a man we should meet standards, much like we should have standards for women. You have been alive long enough to understand what those standards are for men and to have found a way to achieve them. It seems like men are mad that they can't find a woman for themselves. As far as "men ain't shit", as a man I feel that way about the younger generation men nowadays. They completely lack masculinity and the baseline skills that men should have.
Today women only care how men look.
Maybe lower your standards. I see young people both 3's themselves and both are wanting 7's and higher. Back when I was young you knew your dating pool. Nerdy girls and guys dated. The unattractive people dated and the good looking people dated. Women are just as bad. I see young 200 lb women with a face of makeup thinking they are a 10 😂. Cheer up and lower your standards if you yourself are not that great looks or financially
Also do not be afraid to approach a women. It's better when she is not in a group of friends and don't be afraid of rejection you will never see them again
Its why I don't approach women I realise I'm nowhere near good enough lol
I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.
Robin Williams
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That's a good quote but look what he did...unfortunately
@vibora 👏💯
@@spittingame4241 That’s why he did what he did. Stay alone!!!
Well said
3:54 Being "Pro-Men" does not mean being "Anti-Women." I'm glad this interview guest said that.
Lol incel
Being feminist is supposed to be pro men.
"why"
Being pro men is misogynistic
Women can be very quick to decry “hatred” when you calmly/neutrally state facts/data/observations that potentially paint women in a bad light, even if it’s indirectly or by implication.
Feminist killed the dating game! Men tired of unappreciated and selfishness in women!!
Feminism didn't liberate women. It liberated men.
Women being in relationships more than men is basically telling you that women are out here sharing without even knowing it.
They know it, they just don't admit it.
Dating app data shows less than 5% of men on dating apps get matches, yet most women get matches.
Women would rather share a man than have one they perceive to be of low status.
They know and don't care. It's Chad, Brad, Pookie, Ray Ray, Caramello or NUFFIN!
I'm calling BS, because I'm hearing and seeing the exact opposite in practice, AND despite the repeal of Roe v Wade, birth rates are still dropping. Which is 100% a good thing.
Also more are lesbo now than before
this is the biggest awakening for men in HISTORY. period.
I'm shocked CNN covered this. This guy is absolutely right; some how, talking about men's issues is mistakenly seen as anti-woman misogynistic. It is not. That attitude is exactly what has gotten our entire western society to where it is.
Yea, he is dancing around the problem that he doesn't want to actually say, FEMINISM/WOKE/MARXIST/LEFTIST all add up to rejection by both sexes. Thanks to your DEMOCRAT PARTY! MAGA = everything changing direction for the better for young people. Men don't want 30+ year OLD combative females and nobody cares what 30+ combative females want except them!
This problem must be super bad if even CNN is covering it. Normally you'd only hear something like this talked about on more conservative outlets.
It’s not seen as misogynistic.
@@NexusKin very shocking. I guess you american degenerates really are making progress, good job CNN.
@@eenchantress5113 No, but it is seen as an excuse to indulge in misandry.
As a 22 year old guy, it’s more rough than you may think
Being in the dating field is rough for a guy
@@blueteopadsnice5486race, height, and wealth preference is soooo apparent among young women now. Now men have to be 6’0, born into wealth, white (yes after blm women have been fetishizing white men more), and bend over for women.
As a 20 year old, I feel you. Years pass in between each “fling” or little relationship, gets lonely a lot of the time.
nocap
Fr. Simply complimenting or asking a woman a question is already a coin toss if you’re gonna be accused of harassment. Dating and flirting these days is like a minefield or defusing a bomb where one wrong move and it’s over. Only stress comes out of it
Dating today requires a guy to spend $200 to $500 for a first date because the spoiled little princesses think they deserve that treatment. They are super picky which is fine as long as they accept the fact that they not be of high enough value for the type of men they are chasing. Statistics show not only show young men giving up and feel women aren't worth the trouble, but many women are complaining about where all the "good" men have gone & they end up alone too. I think there are very valid reasons that young men today aren't willing to play their game. It is just not worth the hassle!
If she refuses the coffee date then you know she's not for you AND you have dodged another bullet.
I want to congratulate all of the single men with no divorce, no kids, and no drama that they invited into their lives. You are champions that didn't fall for societies gimmick and whether you know it or not, your on the green side of life. Hope I meet some of you in my travels.
Me too bro. Women ain't shit in the west.
Problem is whose going to take care of us when we get old and alone? Id rather at least try and get a woman, child and if it doesn't work out then at least I can tend to my child. Idk, just living life alone sounds depressing
@@jponz85 You care more about yourself than your children. Do not reproduce. The world has had enough worthless parents to last a millennium.
I'm 63 and never married. I can highly recommend it.
@@jponz85 everyone dies alone and the fantasy of passing away at your death bed surrounded by your wife and kids is just that - a fantasy. Make enough money to exit on your own terms. Many married men leave this earth under assisted living care
Women are also dating the same pool of men, there's a lot of side chicks that don't know they are side chicks. it's really sad lol
Finally, someone with a brain.
Exactly. In fact vvomen don't even care that they're getting passed around by the same men because they only want seggs these days, not relationships.
Yeah I thought man we’re bluffing when they mention this until I saw the numbers. It’s really a small percentage of men that are creating the generation
Exactly. Women are sharing the Alpha Chads, that's what no one is talking about.
This. What's funny is those pool of men the women are dating aren't even necessarily high value males either, most of them are average brokies who don't even look special but they're just very good with bullshitting and attracting women. Most aesthetic, educated and wealthy guys I know aren't actually getting any pussy at all and don't have the confidence to approach women hence they remain invisible to women even if they're much higher value than she is. We live in a upside-down world.
Yep I'm a trucker and I'm 24 and feel so alone sometimes. I cry and I feel better but it never goes away. No one cares
I care. Your not alone
Go hit the gym brother you got this.
While you have the most thankless underrated and important job in America, it is also one of the most lonely.
Don't give up young man. I didn't find the right partner until I was 40 years old, but we've been married for 20 years now. When you give up, your chances go to zero.
Find a social group of people that do things you like. But stay away from women. They just want your paycheck and home. And the police and judges almost always side with them
My ex of 4 years cheated and left me for another guy because he had more money. Not gonna be dating again anytime soon if not ever. Tired of women seeing us men as atms.
I’m 43 and I’ve noticed this shift gradually over the last 20 years. Social media has filled the gap of social needs of many rather than actually going out and having meaningful relationships, either romantically and platonically. There is a reason we have an anxiety and depression problem in this country. A lot of people have become shut ins and some (not all of them) haven’t developed the social skills to function in a public setting and that brings a lot of anxiety to some.
@@felixrodriguez-rivera1787 You go girl!
@@P.90.603 And a lot of people go on social media today and meet the worse kind of people.
@@P.90.603 I never go on social media to meet people because I’m not very trusting of people, so it’s important for me to always have a face to face conversation for the beginning.
@@felixrodriguez-rivera1787 please don’t get offended by my reply. I’m just trying to help. I’m not trying to be mean. But I’m not sure if you understood the guest and what he was saying. 75 years ago there were none of these problems. And the internet is NOT the cause of these problems today. It’s not that men need to be held accountable to be socially and emotionally competent. It’s because the government and all our institutions have begun to eradicate the middle class. That begins with taxation and allocation of resources. With the current trickle down economics only the elite, top 10% are seen by women as having enough resources to be a viable mate. And most men don’t have the education and career that makes them attractive to females because we, the country, the government, have not given them the economic opportunity to do so.
No. The cost of marriage is too high. If you cannot afford kids, don't get married. When society takes the child rearing income and uses it for rent, then making babies is economically impossible. Unless you are so poor, you are on welfare and just don't connect to raising them outside of gangs.
Having been brought up in Mexico of an American mother and Mexican father and exposed equally to both cultures, I have always noticed that emotional bonds between people in the US are much, much weaker. People don’t have wide social circles. Their nonchalant attitude toward people they should feel close to and just how they greet them, the lack of interest in their lives, is astounding.
Thank you Asian Guy for telling me how emotional bonds are in Mexico. You’re completely right, but it’s ironic.
Absolutely!
It's sickening. I'm a Mexican living here & just have seen things tumble to toxic sludge overtime 🙃
I heartedly agree. I'm Latin American and the difference between U.S. and Latin American societies is strikingly different socially.
We have several Mexican families in my neighborhood and I have noticed this one right off the bat. Americans stay in their back yards, behind a fence and the Mexican families have their Barbeque out front on the lawn and that's where they have their parties and family gatherings. I also have noticed in Europe that people go out. At night the cafes are full of people dining on the sidewalk and younger people hang out in the squares or plazzas...depends on the countries. Americans hide in their houses or fenced in back yards. It's not healthy IMHO.
Social media is to blame. I’m 37 years old and haven’t had sex in over two years. It’s because no one wants to take the time to get to know each other or women expect you to be what they want you to be as opposed to getting to know who you are as a person. Our society is failing men in general not just young men.
True, but social media is just part of the reason, not the only reason.
@@integrityborn6156 What are you getting at, homey?
Get a passport and get up out the US. Travel abroad you’ll find more traditional productive women.
Men have lost all ability of the art of communication. I lose interest fast when a guy starts texting stupid stuff like “hey” and “wyd” and every interaction is either one word or abbreviation or he just resorts to sending pics or videos instead of asking questions trying to get to know me, or telling me anything about himself. It is like they have no freaking clue of how to even carry on a conversation or anything. This is one reason I usually try to meet people in the real world - in hopes that they aren’t so backwards socially. I just feel like these types are just trying to waste my time online because they are just bored and want to annoy someone.
No communication is an absolute dealbreaker for me and I am not that hard to talk to. I just refuse to be carrying the entire conversation and only getting one word responses from an uninterested individual.
If I cannot get to know you, then don’t be wasting my time. Plain and simple.
And to be honest, too many men seem to only be interested in having sex instead of actually getting to know somebody. This is another reason why I don’t bother with men who don’t communicate properly. I am not looking for sex, I am looking for a relationship.
Men are tired of the toxic modern women who think they're a 10 and are only a 5
More like one at best
We call em 49ers . A 4 but act like she’s a 9
It's not just young men. I'm in my 40's and have not sought out a date in 7-8 years. I've been burned so horribly bad in the past that I would rather be a little sad and lonely than be emotionally traumatized by false promises and unfaithfulness.
This makes no sense to me ... I'd rather accept unfaithfulness as a fact of life than to die alone...
But i judge not... If this works for you, I'm truly happy for you.
@@tok1879 WHAT You'd rather accept unfaithfulness???? or you'd accept the risk of such a thing. Risk is okay, but accepting being crapped on is NOT IMO.
@@Cocoisagordonsetter the worst after accepting the risk is what we refer to as "unfaithfulness"...i don't know, but looking from a POV that's not solely American with its unrelenting and uncompromising desire to have someone only for you and have it purely to yourself... Personally, rather than die by myself, I'd share. Yeah, it doesn't sound as romantic as your feel-good movies and romance novels but IMO dying by myself sounds even less romantic. Unfortunately life is not like Disney movies for everyone.
@@tok1879 Interesting point of view and I came to a similar conclusion (although I took sex out of the equation, and I'm just happy having good friends). I found that Disney ideals don't live up to our expectations irl: either you feel trapped, or your partner feels trapped. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ But maybe I just didn't meet the right guy. Not that it matters. I'm convinced people can find happiness outside the Disney model. And it's damaging to tell them otherwise.
Dude I’m 45 and I’ve always been successful with women. But the modern American woman just isn’t worth the energy.
The important thing to note here is that young men aren't just failing to find romantic relationships, they're failing at finding any sort of relationship. 1 in 7 young men don't have any close friends. It was 1 in 33 for the previous generation. Human beings have lost their sense of community, and it's effecting young men the most because women do have some built-in solidarity through political and social movements. Young men don't.
It has to do with social media, the internet, and video games. A large percentage of guys in these younger generations get their social needs fulfilled through these outlets which leads to them spending a lot more time alone at home and becoming less and less socialized. When (or if) at some point they do want to find a relationship, they struggle because they don't have experience and because they've become socially awkward as a result of the stranglehold that technology has had on them.
Takes money to maintain friendships(going out to eat, birthdays etc etc), same as it takes money to have a decent dating life. The low wages relative to cost of living are the real reason behind the majority of these social issues.
Solo dolo
If young men are not capable of forming and maintaining friendships would you consider them mentally healthy and fit to form a romantic relationship with your daughter?
I wouldn’t say women have it built in through political movements. Most women I know are not super political. I think it’s cultural. Women are encouraged to open up emotionally with each other, whereas I’ve heard from men that if they open up with another man they get made fun of or it gets brushed off: “you’ll figure it out bro.” So it’s up to men individually, and dominant culture through media to start changing that narrative.
I'm 50 years old. I can tell younger people this. Everything changed upside down from the year 2000, and it ain't getting any better. People have become Androids without realising it.
When life had no apps and socials, society was the opposite of what it is today. It's truly depressing.
Let it burn
This is true, but it got exponentially worse in the 2010s. You could still run in-person game on girls back in the 2000s, and most girls were friendly and receptive to it. MySpace and FB were around in that decade, but it didn't stop people from communicating face-to-face, as compared to today. Now, after TikTok, IG, Tinder, Bumble, Only Fans, etc. took over, society is done.
"people have become androids"
Facts. It's very difficult to humanoid robots, it's very easy to make robotic humans. We've been programmed.
As a 50yo man I agree it's gotten much much worse since the launch of the web! I believe this gave women too many choices and too much free attention that they used to have to earn from the few men they saw in real life. I still remember when lots of guys were dating women above them in looks but this seems much more rare now. As a single father I figured I would probably die alone as I don't get much attention and when I do they usually are not good people. I even find women my age set in ways and expecting something they shouldn't! This extreme pickiness is killing society! It's causing social problems men are Not meant to be alone. I mean God created women just for us men to keep us company and help us in life but since so many girls don't believe in God today they sleep with each other and have a higher body count than I do at age 50! We men who want a family which is very good for society must find a willing partner in order to build this family and unfortunately they usually leave you after a few years from "I'm just not happy anymore" or "it's not you it's me". We need to get back to reality average women need to love average men again please for the future of society! 💯 🙏
My dating life was a lot better in the 2000s, it has gotten worse for me in the past 10 years or so.
Marriage pros and cons?
Cons: Getting cheated on, losing 50% of everything, paying alimony, paying child support for 18 years, toxicity, stress, depression, getting blamed for everything.
There is also a negative side.
@@bramposthumus9300 hahahahah
He kind of glosses over it here, but that "Loss of the 3rd Place" thing is actually a huge goddamn deal, not only for dating but society in general. There are a few people and books who go more into depth about this topic (like NotJustBikes, Charles McMohan etc.) but basically the idea of the "3rd Place" - a place (or places) where you can regularly, easily, casually and reliably be around other people has almost been completely wiped out in the US. Or just the concept of regularly being around people who aren't your coworkers or family in general.
The two leading factors of this decline are economic - working harder, longer hours for less pay and less time off, travelling more for work etc. - but also physical; we physically destroyed the concept of the "3rd Place" by designing everything around the personal automobile which is the anti-thesis of the "3rd Place" because of the physical separation it creates and space it demands.
If you want to create a society of lonely, friendless, loveless people (and probably a bit sociopathic) then you really can't do any better than not only working them to the bone but also making it damn near physically impossible to casually be around people without effort.
It's huge, you didn't overstate it at all.
Very interesting comment thank you for sharing
well women are not ready for a lasting relationship why do you think Americans move to other countries and stay there its not like you cant get the same health care elswhere for better and cheaper
I don't think the forced lockdowns helped either. The result is paranoia and mistrust of others. It's bleak out there.
Lies again? Mental Health Design Technology
Most women would rather share a top 10% man rather than have an average man all to themselves.
In other words: inc*ls are right, but they still run their mouth too much and say horrible things about women.
They all share a few men.
Stop trying to speak for women. Also no one has to be with an average man
@@nevergiveupbaby1720 nobody has to be with an average woman either. Even though most men would be happy with average. The fact that more and more men are deciding to not bother says a lot.
@@Paul-cu9lu ok? Never said they did but men in general have no problem being with an average woman and that’s reality 🤷♀️
I'm a man that divorced at 34. I have a child with my ex-wife and I'm forever grateful for that. I dated for over 6 years after the divorce with no rush in mind doing the online thing and just naturally meeting woman through daily routines. What i have realized as i got older (40ish now) is that I'm happy single and my need for a life partner has diminished. I'm more than fine alone, I'm happy and content as a single person in this life with no regrets or gripe.
Same exact situation barring no children in tow, but same age as you. Dated some here and there. The women I've dated in their 30s are just leftovers from nobody wanting to deal with them in their 20s. They do end up getting married to some simp. The zest to find romance is gone. Looking forward to getting older and further away from the dating scene.
People can convince themselves of anything.
Do you still have to deal with the bitch? Or was u able to write this thing off once and for all?
I'm over 50 and if you're like me, you'll grow into that even more. I would never be in a live-in relationship of any kind, I cherish my space and time. I spend money on young women to take care of my desires, and it's the best option I could ever have. Also have a substantial social circle. A woman would just be a burden, and most men know that.
You are going to commit suicide you just don’t know it yet
Hey CNN.... why don't you do a televised segment of the harm that the current family court system inflicts on good men due to misrepresentation or outright lies women make against men in relationship. Our society failed young men.
Here's a poll question your reporters can ask both men and women... " What benefit is there for young men to get married?"
Also... ask folks why women only get to make the decision to abort a fetus? Why deos the boyfriend, common law partner, or husband have to just sit and take it when a woman chooses to kill his offspring without even consulting the biological father?
And you ask why young men have decided to stay single...
A woman can kill a man's offspring with no recourse, can file for divorce even if she cheated, take the man's estate, the children (whether they are his or not), be awarded a subsidy by the government designated alimony & child support (even if it's not his child), and ruin his professional reputation by a false allegation.
Why are young men staying single, really? .... because they have personally witnessed what women have done to devastate their fathers, male friends, and male family members for the last 40 years...
It will only change when the institution of marriage (contract), and the Family Court System is fundamentally rewritten to protect men's lineages, estates, and ability to raise complete and enduring nuclear famlies.
I’ve never had a girlfriend and probably will go my entire life without one too. It’s sad but I’ve accepted reality for what it is and just thank god for being alive and healthy
Keep fighting, you can pay for sex but sex without a bond or feelings is overrated
@@ameripharmalaboratorio4427 No disrespect but, sex with love and bond is way more overrated. At least when your pay, you both know what to expect and do
That's kinda true, I think some of us were taught about having a bond to have sex and some not, both things are right, but the main problem here is that women standards to have sex have skyrocketed and we cant keep the rate of natality with the rate of deaths and they can put the blame on us like it´s always been, but women decide who have sex or have children, they didnt have that power before the pill or those methods to avoid getting pregnant @@777kiya
That may be my reality. Now I've had relationships in the past with girls but nothing ever stuck and they were way older than me. There are girls I'm interested in but they do not want a relationship and I can respect that, I completely understand.
I have never had a girlfriend either. Go to Latin America or maybe somewhere in south east Asia like the Philippines.
And I am sure it will be much easier. I got zero matches on dating site in the US. But if I change my location it is 100 times easier.
As long as 80% of the women are chasing 20% of the men, we are going to have a LOT of men withdraw from the market, other men capitalize on their position to run through as many women as possible without commitment, and a ton of women wondering where all of the “good men” have gone while 20-30 walk past them unseen every day.
Equality has the nasty side effect it turns from pareto 80/20 into 90/10 making half of men invisible to women.
@@GrowMasterGeneral Your argument is correct and incorrect. You are correct in saying that women will be more attracted to the more stable individuals who've built their lives up. It is also correct to not necessarily blame the women for this. However it is incredibly stupid to undermine men by saying "they need to learn how to be real men", still trying to shift the blame on men as much as possible and ignoring any amount of necessary context. Some people aren't capable of getting fit, some aren't capable of attaining financial security, some aren't capable of owning a house or resources, ect. Your argument is an unfair and idealistic view of what men should be.
Again, not wrong to seek high standards. But stating that those high standards should be baseline is ridiculous. The other problem is that society does have a double standard and will not hold women to the same degree. And if you do then you will be vilified.
@koreyardoin3695 Yeah, so the point I'm making is that men can do things to make themselves more attractive to women and also that women have delusional standards. Two things can be true at once. Go figure. Men are no longer taught how to do the things that make them attractive to women. The key here is doing the things that make you a "provider" and "protector". As advanced as a species that we are.. we are still running on caveman software. Millions of years of evolution won't be undone by a few decades of wokeness (for lack of a better term). I'm not shifting the blame on men.. which is why I said "it only paints half the picture".. "it" being the fact that 80% of women are chasing the top 20% of men. Half the blame lays squarely on women's delusional standards... (and the other on men lacking drive and ambition). Those standards are based in evolutionary psychology. Women, in general, are not going to be attracted to low-income (provider) men who are physically weak (protector). You say some men are incapable of these things (true), and these men will remain single. The good new is, most men are capable of attaining these things. It's not easy, but it is possible. If it was easy, then everyone would do it, and it would lose it's value.
"But stating that those high standards should be baseline is ridiculous.".... I never stated what "should be" only what "is". Millions of years of evolution has made it so. Women are attracted to providers (i.e. high-income earners) and protectors (i.e. physically fit). And if you want to attract a women, then you have to attain these things to the best of your ability. Sorry, but women are not attracted to their pudgy Uber drivers. I'm simply a messenger of what "is", not stating what "should be".
So, in short, men can do things to make themselves more attractive to women. And women have delusional standards that won't go away because it's based in evolutionary psychology. Which is why we (men) have to do the things that woman are attracted to, if you want to attract a woman. Don't expect woman to drop their standards. It's deeply instinctive. You can tell women all you want that they have unrealistic and delusional standards, but it won't change their mind on who they're attracted to.
You missed the speakers whole point, pal.
20%? more like the top 5% pal
Marriage has gone down in flames and now dating is on the way out.
taking humanity with it. I'm happy for the animals.
A soulless society chasing after the vain fleeting things of this world.
Why do you have nato profile lmao
@@supdude1476 A question is not an opinion.
@@Bob31415 you are dumb
The single men are the luckiest men in the world.
I'm 40 and I gave up on dating and relationships because I spent the past 20 years of my life trying to find love and realized that none of those women truly loved me. I kept at it for 20 years because women would say "pick better" or "you haven't found the right one" The hard truth is there are no unicorns. The only woman that truly loved me for me was my mother may her soul rest in peace. Now I'm in a loving relationship with myself. All the love and energy I used to give to women now I give it to myself.
Only person who truly loves you as a man is your mother, mother's are the best we have as men.
At least you had a mother who loved you. God bless her. But when I was 13 my own mother threw me out the house after she came home from going out. I’m 23 now. Haven’t talked to her since.
@Inquisitor117 some people just aren't suppose to be mothers, your is still alive who knows maybe down the road yall can forgive
@@realname4898 Maybe so
@@realname4898 please don't ever date
Spent my entire 20s being depressed and thinking I needed a girl in my life. But once I realized happiness comes from with-in, I stopped looking for someone else to make me happy. You also become stronger and more attractive, and feel a sense of self worth. Don't worry about what women want, care about what YOU want! and let women do what they do. You just might discover how great Life can be and people will flock towards that energy :) men, women and everything in between alike.
amen brother!
I like your thinking. 😉
Underrated comment. I'm just realizing this.
So, so true, self worth sets you on a road to freedom, you feel liberated.
Sucks you had to waste 10 years
CHEERS!! To the single men with no kids and not divorced. We made it. 🎉🎉
Based
Boxer Sugar Shane Moseley fought in the ring, took punches to the face, yet divorce court decided he had to give his championship belts to his ex wife who never did anything. Dr. Dre produced all the hits, spent hours in the studio yet divorce court tore up the prenup and gave his ex wife money even though she didn’t even sing back up.
Single life is best. No worries, no drama, no expenses
@@gulfstream0079 Agreed
Money and freedom 👌
I am 35, alone for 6 years now. No friends too. Got my weed, dog, music and no women will disturb my peace no more.
You won't get a dime from me.
You are a king of kings!
I'm 49, and I feel very sorry for the younger generations. I think mine was the last that had genuine fun and community.
AGREED
😢
Also, economically, you guys had the best time in history. Now we are in a new age of insane inequality and declining social mobility.
I'm 56 this yr. And a single parent never was married.
I'm in your generation and the risks were too high even then
Honestly the biggest problem with dating is that the majority of woman all feel as though they deserve/entitled to a top 10% man and that’s it. The other 90% are so beneath them that it isn’t even a consideration. I don’t know if this was social media or society that have propped them up on these fragile pedestals.
Dating apps, social media and reality TV dating shows skewed their perspectives on what an average man is.
To be fair, I know a lot of men who feel the same way. Some of my mates wouldn't even look at a woman with the wrong body type. I'm not even talking unhealthy weight either. Just the wrong genetics.
I am a woman and not looking for a top 10% man. I don't need man of any specific appearance or of high income. I need a man who has similar values and compatible lifestyle. Who wants to share housework and childcare equaly. Who takes my feeling seriously and is able to comunicate about his emotions.
Female hypergamy combined with social and economic success. Its that simple. Women date across and up the social spectrum. The more successful they become, increasing amounts of men become invisible to them. Women can increase the amount of available men by focusing on building families first and then pursuing career interests later in life.
@@samuela-aegisdottir Are you a liberal? Stop being that and your problems will be solved.
After losing everything I owned and becoming in debt from the aftermath of a brutal separation, I don’t think I can bear another loss like that at my age. If I lose everything again, I may end up homeless.
Hey, I hope you get back on your feet. Don't give up.
How old are you?
Br00tal
@@utuberme1 Old enough to know better.
I have court next month 😢
As a guy married for twenty one years, I never cheated, never hung out in the bars with the guys, never once hit her, made good money and provided a beautiful home, and helped produced two beautiful and successful children. But it was never good enough. She chose to cheat on me, divorce me, and to finally marry a city sewer worker, who was an alcoholic and beat her up. She is now divorced from him too. After having another girlfriend for 13 years who could never commit to anything, I give up. I'd rather put my efforts into something that provides benefits.
Yourself,forget these BIATCHES
Sorry to hear that bro I feel you
Same story here but when she cried to me that here high new husband beat her I laughed and hung up the phone
If you lye with dogs you shall rise with flees
sorry to hear you didn't yet find your soul partner
Try men!
Wages have been stagnant on this planet for 30 years and you wonder why people are not wanting kids?!lol
only in the USA though. I live in Poland. Average salary in 1980: 20usd a month. Average salary today: about 2000usd a month.
@@paulb7207 hmmmm interesting
It's a no-brainer. You would think.
@@paulb7207 you cannot compare communist wages with capitalist wages..
@@DINO5551000 why not?
Dating is exhausting and soul crushing. Better to be alone than with someone who makes you miserable. And who wants to bring kids into this mess of a world ? I watched my parents divorce and it was traumatic. No way. Not worth it.
Crazy as it sounds, I'm at the point where I'd almost rather date a single mother than try to have biological kids of my own. In this climate, it's better to help take care of kids that already exist, instead of bringing new ones into this nightmare world.
@@Zalis116 I was nodding my head the entire time reading your post. It's not being pessimistic. Things are really bad out there. I couldn't have children with the amount of narcissism and violence. It's very sad how things are going
@@Zalis116 LMAO CUCK
@@sudo3870 and if you marry her and get divorced there’s a high probability you will have to pay child support for kids that aren’t even yours. Stay away from single moms. Most of them just want you for your resources.
@@Zalis116 Nahh bro, rising someone else kids dosen't worth it let her sttrugle because of her poor choices
"Men are sexless and lonely." Just because men aren't dating these "new age" women doesn't mean that they are lonely. They are just smart. It's not worth it being cheated on or left when she gets "bored".
You mean how women had to live for all of history 😂😂😂
Women actually cheat themselves from having a great time and potentially being with someone who is more mature articulate and humorous and someone you can have proper adult conversations with. But instead they go for guys they know will only provide a temporary thrill due to maximum sex appeal a lot of guys that get turned down are well built and work out and also work hard but its still not good enough for them. This is why I'll be moving to bali to see my large bum girlfriend 😊
@@angiedoe597 WRONG. Low hanging fruit, but nice attempt. All you did was try to flip it around. It's not the same on both sides.
@@Nick-tj8ek 9 years ago, COSTA RICA!!
Cope more
Are people going to care though? Or just blame men again and make them the problem? Genuinely curious.
I stopped dating at 19, currently 30 and havent been in a relationship since. I made a conscious choice back then to stop dating because I wanted to find myself and what I wanted. I realized I was happier alone. Women being hypergamous makes dating a constant game of trying to prove oneself with very little actual payoff. I came to the conclusion that there are 4 main reasons to be in a relationship.
1. pleasure (can be achieved without a partner)
2. companionship (can be achieved through a pet)
3. help around the house (can be achieved with a roommate, family, or hired help)
4. reproduction (I could honestly care less)
😆😆😆😆 I agree with your conclusions!!! 😆😆😆😆 If you get REALLY lonely, there are always hookers, and many of them are actually quite pleasant and friendly. Just be a bit selective, and don't ask one to marry you.
You "couldn't" care less, you mean?
@@nploda1408 ah yea, I guess grammatically "couldn't" would be correct.
Pay them hoes to leave 🥶
Dang, a shrink all up in your head is what you fear the most no doubt.
I think most young men have just given up. My single son wants to meet a good woman, settle down and have kids, but cannot see himself taking on the reaponsibilities of being a husband and father with the current society and financial troubles.
Don’t give up you’ll meet someone eventually maybe it’s not the right time for you right now that’s it.
Yep
Tell him to find an educated woman who is willing to work and contribute to the family's support. She might even make more money than he does. Among the most educated people is not uncommon to have stay at home men because plenty of women are financially doing better, and when children are old enough, both work full time. My daughter brother in law is a pediatrician, his wife is Ceo of a huge international company. He took patients booked when their children were at school. Now they are all in college
@Peggy Gilespie I totally agree with this comment. To add to this, most women would lose a lot of respect for their husbands if they were to become stay at home dads. There is absolutely nothing wrong with doing something like that, but it essentially reverses gender roles by putting the woman into a masculine provider position in the family. All of this stuff is instinctual/subconscious behavior and preferences. It's the exact reason why women won't date "down" by going out with men who make less than they do. They also seem to assume that having a degree somehow means anything and refuse to date blue collar worker men, who in reality can make very good money. Overall, the dating market is fucked and I think we are seeing the early stages of a demographic collapse here in America.
I'm 21 and yes most have given up, why? because all the girls I meet are narcissistic and addicted to drama while having stupidly high standards and offering nothing in return for them there's no point, now I'm sure there are girls out there that aren't like that but the price of finding them is just not worth it any more especially when it's practically impossible to get something as simple as a home to have stability for any family down the line that just stack on top of all the other issues
I’m 49. Had relationships with Women. Been married and divorced. I’ve been single 5 years apart from a relationship I had recently which lasted 2 months. I ended it because I realised I’m happier, more content living alone. No drama. No pointless arguments. I value my peace of mind.
Marriage was a necessary union when women were reliant on men giving them shelter, and providing for them, these days they simply DON'T NEED MAN. Humanity shot itself in the foot with the Feminist Movement which has now morphed into the LGBTFQ.
@@danielbroomhall8882 I have an 18 year old daughter. She comes to stay for a week every month or so. She was always a great kid when she was growing up. Was lucky that way. Never had one bit of bother with her.
How is living alone equivalent to no relationships? I know many people who always lived along and always had relationships. There is no mutual exclusion. maybe some of the stress is a matter of defining what relationships are. My wife's relationships before I knew her have stayed intact. Each of them has its own definition.
@@JimMork Most women want a relationship to progress into something more than I actually want. Move in together etc. I would be happy with a casual fuck buddy but there are very few women want that. I can live without sex or a relationship. I don’t need other people to make me feel happy or content. I’m not really a people person. Can only take company for small periods of time.
@@JimMork You're a guy, guys are mostly able to cope with loneliness. Not women. This article/news like many others with liberal/feminist agendas is deliberately pointed at the wrong direction to give everyone the wrong impression.
No men are finally walking away because there is no benefit for getting involved with a woman who will ultimately screw you over.Drizzle Drizzle 😂
Why is it such a problem when men decide to stop dating and stop getting married? Society has been telling women for 50 years that they don't need no man. I think the men are finally getting the message.
Because some of us aren’t doing it out of a decision. Im 22 and would love to have a good woman by my side. The unfortunate reality is they are far and few in between. The only thing I can bank on is snagging one when I’m older.
Many of us guys are giving up on America and getting passports and plane tickets to the Philippines. Lots of sweet, traditional, housewife and mommy types over here.
@@Parzzyval the only problem with that strategy is she'll probably have about two or three kids for two or three different dads, about a fifty body count, 50k in student loans and be working at starbucks. This is when she will reach her epiphany and declare, "I've had my fun and am ready to settle down with a good man" lol. AND THATS YOU!
@@MichaelBrown-zp1sf he meant his future wife isnt born yet
@@Parzzyval
"Bank" might well be the key word there..
I can’t imagine dating in the digital age. It must be a nightmare.
If you are a horrible person. However it’s easy to find a mate by simply not being a wanker.
@@NegativeSpacesPositiveEntropy yeah Your comment is a red flag
Elle told u , now u know all
It actually makes it easier to meet people with similar likes and interests. CNN misses the mark again💯✔️
@@24james The guy that spoke wasn't CNN
We are more than an ATM.
True
My mom is the only woman that truly loves me she gave me everything 😢
Now imagine having an awful mother, like myself and many other men do
Same bro
@@UlrichW-mm8yzTHANK YOU for pointing that out! Women with AWESOME dads, are less likely to deal with a low count, no count dude. Hell, her dad (granddad & uncles) won’t allow it. If over 30, sometimes wedding money gets flipped to her first house money.
@@Captain_Insano_nomercyAMAZING lightbulb moment - that’s the POV of fatherless daughters or abused daughters. Statistically, men have done much more mis-deeds as awful dads compared to awful moms (who fly under the radar IMO). Had there been tougher accountability, we’d have fewer bad parents.
@wegotthis247 that's because women don't do obvious and visceral things like beat you, my dad definitely hit us a lot and I was afraid of him for most of my childhood, but women abuse you psychologically and emotionally; there are no bruises or scars from that
The girls that are “In relationships” are sharing the few high value men. They’ve just deluded themselves to believe that they are “The One”
@UA-camUser2k cold world
All avarage dudes can get nowdays is chads leftovers
I think a lot of them don't even care any more. The number of women I have seen describing themselves as being in "situationships" or "it's complicated" have sky-rocketed.
A lot of them are dating other women.
Larger amount of women dating other women compared to men in a relationship with other men
A substantial amount of 24-29 year old women, especially 26-29 year old women have male partners old enough they fall out of the equivalent 18-29 age group
Female scarcity is real up until 50s & late 40s - this is when men start dying off. 103-105 boys are born every year for every 100 girls. So teen boys, twenty something men & thirty something men always outnumber age matched women.
I mean when you slowly remove all the places to meet other people that aren't purely for drinking alcohol and replace that with social media this tends to happen
so true
Deep.
Agreed, and worse. Every traditional mate-meeting spot (schools, colleges, work, church, etc.) has been eliminated by peer pressures, policies, or harassment laws. Women can literally destroy a man with an allegation no matter how absurd, triggering armed police agents to arrest him and a myriad of state weapons to use (red-flats, domestic violence, sex assault, etc.) ranging from loss of assets, lawyers fees, loss of gun rights, and often PRISON.... Women are naturally vindictive and have huge $$$ incentives if there is marital property involved.
Yeah true
Yeah but you guys could still go to parks or whatever like why are you guys all freaks as soon as they remove the socialization place you guys just gave up on the concept almost like it was all routine anyway
it is not just young men, they don't want older men either
I love how the media doesnt look in the mirror and hold itself accountable for the majority of problems in this country.
I like how Americans love to blame "the media" for everything, without realizing it makes them seem like children. Like they re completely impotent, and at the whim of outside forces.
"The MEDIA," is actually a series of companies that compete with each other, and give people what they want so they can make money. If your issue is ever with t"the media," your problem is really with yourself.
America is a country whose greatest fear is taking responsibility for it's own actions.
SOCIAL media
ITS CALLED LObbyist master media oy vey
The National Defense Authorization Act (NDAA) and Mundt- Smith Act 2013 legalized propaganda on the American public and foreign enemies.
WhitEU
The "patriot act" from 2001 was the official start of spying on american people. The two you mention are its' natural evolution because the stupid muricans never demanded it be repelled and its creators hanged for high treason. Once that "act" passed and esisted the opposition, which was small because of all the lies and propaganda about the "externl terrorist threat" after the 9/11, the two following , and there are a few more just cannot remember their official names right now, had the door opened for them to march in, fanfares 'n ll.
*MEDIA*
You do the math. There’s a lot of women thinking they’re in an exclusive relationship, but the data says absolutely not.
Trust me they know, they'll make exception for those guys
There are going to be a lot of women suing for alimony and child support then.
@@TomikaKellyYou can’t sue broke people
Women would rather be with Chad in a situationship than exclusively with an average guy.
@@TomikaKellyYes, that is the truth!😢 There are lot of abusive wives and girlfriends in courthouses did the evil deed to abused victims.
And there's so much more loneliness now. Young people are anxious about dating, jobs, student loans, cost of living. It's scary and NOT the same as it was. We used to meet at church, community functions, dances, restaurants, etc. Now everyone stays at home in lonely isolation. It's so sad.
You're much happier alone than living your life being tormented by a trashy woman. You're afraid of being alone because you're weak and dependent
I stay at home a lot. Alone, but not lonely. I can't remember the last time I attended a social function, but it was long before covid. The last girlfriend was in 1997, and I haven't dated since. But I make my own wine and beer, and I like to cook. For social interaction I can watch a movie. My cat died a few years ago, I really should get another. They're always nice to cuddle with.
@@drewthompson7457 I was born the year after you had your last girlfriend, and I'm drowning in loneliness, even with a cat and movies.
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I don't like to say people have changed because really people have always been sketchy. It seems those types are prevalent now. At 46 I choose to minimize interactions with people unless I am working. I love being alone. No drama, mindless shallow conversation, or folks misinterpreting what your saying because they have serious issues within themselves.
Several years ago, after my divorce, I started online dating. I was in my mid 50s, with a professional career and middle class lifestyle. The number of lonely women I met who were in their mid 40s to mid 50s was staggering. Most of them used me as their therapist. Many were emotional wrecks, still angry with their ex husbands. Some of them had unrealistic expectations in wanting a man who would “take care” of them. The constant refrain I heard from them was how difficult it was for them to find any decent men.
As a 28yr old black man who is the right height good looks. Finding a good woman these days is like finding a needle I'm a haystack. I'm through dating
Same here except im not black. Women in America these days expect too much and they are never satisfied
Go overseas, brother. No need to limit yourself to America anymore. I'm a black man and married an East African woman and couldn't be happier. They are feminine, traditional and inspirational. Marriage is serious for these women. They don't divorce easily for dumb reasons like "irreconcilable differences" Been married almost 10 years now and it's only getting better. I truly believe if I had married an American woman, I'd be divorce by year 5.
@BryceTheobald-vm1rj Those types of women are lost.
With all 30 years of my existence i"ve been chasing women who wants me to meet their high standards, and entertain them for a mere 1 word answer text and joke spreading as a reward i forgot to love the people back home who believe in me before i even have my clothes on.
It's rough man, women jump to conclusions about us.
People need to listen to this man. I’m not even American but the same thing is happening in the UK. The working classes are being hollowed out, the middle classes are shrinking, if there’s no wealth creation and only population decline, the powers that be are literally killing the goose that lays the golden eggs. Then factor in the rise in crime and trafficking of vulnerable youth.. It’s frankly unsafe to have children, in the modern era. I wish politicians cared about issues that are actually relevant and important.
The working class can barely afford to have children even if men and women are actively dating.
@@jewelspsyche exactly. And so many jobs are going to be automated, even middle class jobs
@@MariyahPhoenixduring the pandemic when so many white collar workers began to work from home, my concern was that if you can do your job from home so can someone in a poor country for a fraction of the price. I feel the middle class is about to experience what the working class experienced during the 1970s through to the 1990s.
The only issues politicians care about is getting re-elected.
But hey you better get those pronouns correct! 🤡