On Being Undesirable

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  • Опубліковано 13 гру 2022
  • Tackling the non-physical aspects of unattractiveness and the importance of first impressions.

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  • @david3188col
    @david3188col Рік тому +37

    Again, so many people need to hear this message from someone in your community. We, as a society, just don't get this from anyone who is disabled. It just gives us a chance to grow and realize a giant failure in how we perceive individuals who are disabled. Possibly the right person hearing this will treat someone they meet differently just because they heard your words. That's powerful. Keep it up, man, and thank you.

  • @giuseppeLizzi-rj3er

    This guy has probably been through so much ❤️

  • @chirastuthakur366
    @chirastuthakur366 12 годин тому +1

    To anyone who is struggling in life, and anyone who have been look down upon or treated like shit by other people, I just want to give everyone a hug and want to tell you guys that you all are incredible, because i am also a loser and feel like a piece of shit 😢

  • @alal7194

    Personally I believe, without any negative, not to try to find love in this scenario because it will only hurt, just accepting that its impossible is the only real rescue in this situation, not feeding by absurd hope, the comment like “you will find someone” don’t make any sense, just accept the different set of basic facts and concentrate on different stuff where the physical traits doesn’t play a role or play less. The enormous capacities of human mind can create the unimaginable in sphere where physical touch is not involved.

  • @kingchris1233
    @kingchris1233 День тому +1

    Try to be the best YOU that you can be. Regardless of where you rank on the scale, there are improvements you can do. Don't compare yourself to anyone, but yourself. Remember there are billions of girls on the planet. There is several out there that would want to be with you.

  • @chriswilson1968
    @chriswilson1968 16 годин тому +3

    Nice vid Walter Jr

  • @EdonaChoi
    @EdonaChoi 21 годину тому +2

    I was put in special education class back in 2019 because i did not talk and they thought i was disabled i feel like just because i have a different style from other girls no one called me beautiful only they praised my popular older sister she had.more compliments then me im a girl who is not complimented because im a tall girl it will be ok for us you are a handsome boy 😊i hope you find a girlfriend😊

  • @matthewJ142

    Trust me when i tell you. People will never make you happy. I always used to compare my situation and have ended up laughing at myself seeing how the people who have more are actually more miserable

  • @Fern_SiciliaMusicStudios

    Gabe. You rock brother. You have a very humble and truthful way about you. I want to simply state that there is ALWAYS someone for everyone. Just difficult to find em. You're strong. Don't give up.

  • @melaniereynaerts3711

    Im a disabled girl and i used to hate my disability and people with disabilities ive learned to accept it i actually feel more comfortable dating someone who also has a disability bc i grew up around disabled people and am more usefd to it also we can share struggles a "normal person " would shrug off

  • @slair_i
    @slair_i  +13

    I'm glad youtube recommended this video, because as a fellow disabled dude, you've echoed a lot of similar thoughts I've had, and it's nice to hear someone else recognize the tough reality that disabled people have to face, especially when it comes to romantic relationships. I've never had issues making friends, but like you said, first impressions are so important, and if there isn't an initial attraction, chances are the romantic aspect of a relationship will never develop further.

  • @jamesjoshi4861

    It takes courage to come up at camera speak it. Hats off 👏 ❤

  • @hhjhj393
    @hhjhj393  +34

    I am an incel pretty much, I have always known deep down that I never really had a chance with women, but it's becoming more and more cemented, my problem I guess is that I don't really know how to spend the rest of my life. I feel so trash, I am not particularly smart, not attractive, lazy, don't really have much going for me, like I kinda question why I am even alive. I just work, get money, and just exist.

  • @logans.507
    @logans.507 2 години тому +1

    I needed to hear this. Thank you good sir.

  • @theguy153d7

    Damn, this was a really eye opening video. I love your vids, and I love how you keep it real. Head up king! You may feel ugly on the outside, but your an extremely bright and beautiful young man

  • @Paul_pp
    @Paul_pp 2 години тому +1

    You are strong my man for being able to make this and I hope you the best. It's good to be realistic about things but also don't be too negative becasue things can change.

  • @bb-od9ku
    @bb-od9ku Рік тому +11

    I'm not even sure how I found you but you popped up. I am so depressed. I'm not disabled but man mentally I dunno I am a mess. I like you videos.

  • @lmclrain
    @lmclrain Рік тому +4

    I agree, Gabe. Some aspects of ourselves make us "undesirable" to a degree. In my case, it was acne, it still followed me to my adulthood and to this day there is a pimple here and there. Not to mention the scars that were left on my face. In your case, I would say that perhaps you do not need to fool yourself and as you say it "get your hopes up". Maybe you only need to look deeper for that person. It might be harder but the world is quite big. Just imagine how many people you will not ever get to know because you do not share the same language. That is why I am learning Japanese lol. I would have not been able to reach quality content as yours, raw, well presented, well educated, had I not learned English as a second language.

  • @tropicalermine
    @tropicalermine Рік тому +6

    I’m very new to your channel but I’m hearing your story and believe me, I wanna know more. I wanna watch your videos and hear more about what you think. Everything you have to say in this video is so fucking real. I really can’t imagine navigating through life having a physical disability that signals me as different from other people in the world. The think I admire is your ability to take in the raw truth and just come to terms with it. Fuck…. And what you said about your childhood friends having some of the only people to get a glance at your true self… it’s an unfortunate truth. I’m glad your sharing your thoughts because you’re a smart dude and you are able to just run with reality

  • @cowface9996
    @cowface9996 Рік тому +4

    Well said. Keep up the enthusiasm!!