"People now are increasingly treating intimacy and emotional connection as products that can be consumed, rather than bonds to be nurtured." DAMN Aevy!
true...looks matter more online...but it's crazy how mediocre girls on these sites get a big head and think they're a supermodel or something because so many simps msg them. I eventually realized the deck is stacked, esp. against Indian men...but you're right also against non-hot men.
False it’s only if you are Asian. If you’re ugly and go to Asian countries you will get thousands of matches. If your average Asian man in Asia, you are invisible to Asian women in dating apps. It only gets worse when Asian men go to western countries, you were never born
@@sebastianmosqueda5959 Basic biology.🤷🏻♂️ Our primal instinct is to choose the most physically gifted individual as our mate - be it height, broad shoulder, strength and mental fortitude among men, or long, healthy hair, even skin tone, large feminine organs and caring attitude among women.
@@Farhan_049The only part most of us are dissatisfied with are the lies. It's OK to be "shallow". Just don't lie to literal generations of men about it, especially at the age when it influences their future life decisions the most.
Because every women on dating apps think they are aiswarya rai and they deserve someone like hritik roshan. Edit: Avoid going into replies, it's white knight sheethole
@@Shayistic I have experience in dating apps. Avg Women get 10 times the likes men get, that makes women think they are hot short and men are dying to attract them which inflates their ego and start swiping left for even above avg men. Most of these Women below avg or just avg looking women looking for validation on internet, which they could never get in real life. And men fulfill their wish cause they are wanna fuck.
Bro is from reddit. And the reason why women on such apps think they are Aishwarya is because men give them that much validation and attention. So instead of being desperate and right swiping every girl you see, try having some standards lmao. Edit: Bro is indeed a basement dweller redditor cause he can't accept the other side of the coin and coping by calling others white knights
what nobody talks about is how even healthy relationships are discouraged in indian families even when you are an adult and old enough to make your life decisions. so the prime teenage years when you should be learning how to bond and have healthy connections, you are asked to not get too many friends or dont go out so much, which ends up having a negative impact on a teenager and that person will struggle to find a connection or be scared to commit even if they want to because they constantly feel they're going behind their parents back and doing something wrong and feel guilty about it.
@@chillingboi9172that's a skill issue of parent's parenting. They rather keep you away from something rather then teach you the ways to indulge in healthy way. They choose a shortcut and their kids pay the price later on. They might have not known themselves but they also didn't invest time in learning it.
All these points are great but u need to understand that a 25 year old in India belonging to poor background will consider spending energy and money on family and himself as 1st priority. So dating and socializing will be considered luxury
What you're talking about is generational curse. Most parents weren't smart enough with their family planning and didn't work hard enough to give their kids any luxury. Break the cycle, and prioritise yourself or you'll get stuck just like them.
@amitrane3910 Agreed! The video is repeatedly harping on a point that applies to a small demographic of people who have the luxury and freedom of socializing and dating at that age and are, equally importantly, WANTING to date and socialize. I don't like the fact that this video implies that EVERYONE at that age SHOULD be looking for long-term relationships. What if someone simply does not WANT that for themselves, at least not at that juncture in their lives? That's okay too!
I have been living in the Netherlands for the last 2 years, and I have some friends. They feel very insecure about themselves after using such dating apps. It's not only happening in India but everywhere
@@Pranav8077that's not true brother. Birth rates are falling drastically in the West. They complain a lot about how shitty their dating culture is. And in India most people find a partner eventually thanks to arranged marriage.
@@avinashprasadfilms it's not about marriage, dating is usually easier in other countries than india due to the culture, in Western countries dating is very casual where even the parents don't mind it, meanwhile in India such type of dating is considered taboo where even a totally mature woman of age more than 20 is prohibited from dating by their parents in most households
I was so madly in love with my EX... Breakup after 4 years on 2015 and till now I am single... Focusing my career, taking care of my mom... Earning decently in hometown, have few dear friends, Debt free and yet I am single and happy
Same. Only difference is breakup after 8 years last year. Women are not worth it anymore. Most of them are toxic, come with high body count and baggage. Stay single, take care of old parents, make money and travel the world. I swear on my life, women are not worth it. Please try to see the truth
That’s an excuse to not try, okay not everyone will get it right but some will, if nobody tries because of fear of failure then how anyone ever experience a good relationship
Good tip here: stop, dating apps suck. Just go get yourself in a salsa dancing class or something similar fun and don't be a creep. Just be nice and soon you'll meet someone who likes you
Women find ugly men approaching them as creep while handsome guy making some "daring moves" as flirting we all know women make rules for men they don't like but break thier rules and for guys they like .
Quite yapping we all know what type of men woman want to be approached,they want to be approached by tall,handsome, 6 pack ,6inch plus millionaires to approach them
Spent way too much time on dating apps for years. Left it for good to eventually find a partner in the office. Also, when you try too hard you'll keep bashing yourself for not getting it. Least expectations, best results at the most unexpected time. That's what worked for me. Also, great editing. Loved every shot.
There's something else that I believe is also happening. People completely stopped setting up their single friends with each other due to jealousy. Even if they know someone who could be a potential match, they would rather make sure both of them are single. People who still set up people are the ones who are married or in a long term relationship which is already a very small group.
YES, so much this. This culture of setting their friends with others was common in older generations, i rarely see it happening today in my friend's circles and others. It is purely out of jealousy most of the time. Whenever i was given the contact to connect with a girl, it usually came from older parents.
Yes i have seen this my so called best friend(as they called me) never told me that there were in relationship and sidelined me. After breakup they just came back. One of my friend always faked promises and gave false hope that she has a junior who is single and i will set you. Everything i came to know he was just having fun or just being nice.
@@kamartaj3010 that is definitely one of the reasons why they don't set you up as well. They wanna make sure if their relationship bombs, you're alone and available as a friend so there's someone to talk to.
Just a week ago, I got catfished by a female match. She literally asked to meet after 5 mins of talking, and my desperate ass, sensing all the red flags, ignored it. I literally didn't carry any safety precaution. Although she turned out to be a real woman with whom I spent an hour or so, she made me pay 5000rs for 2 drinks and one snack. During payment, she said she didn't have that much cash and she didn't use online payments, so she will get it done by her friend later. I had sensed this very early, but desperation and the fear of making any scene at a place where dating is frowned upon made me helpless. In the end, I had to pay 5000rs. She blocked me immediately after that :)) PS: I am just a college student with a monthly pocket money of 3000rs :))
@@HeavenlyFlames09 You don’t get women using money. Take the girl to a tea shop, if she doesn’t want to go. She isn’t the one, she is not looking for relationship, she probably is looking for guys who spend a lot on women for their affection.
@@rajeshjsl they are not looking for love. they are using these apps for thier FREE MEAL. most of them are bombarded with love since early they are not despsparate for love n affection. whereas men are desparate for love and touch. they will go to any extent for that need. in our class 98% of girls had or having a relationship. whereas 99% boys are single, never talked to a girl. most of these girls go for same men.
Honestly, its one of this sensitive topics , the animation u guys did so awesome. It never so water downed or never over exaggrreated to look creepy. Just right visuals to convey right thoughts in mature ways.
31 years old, almost 32. Never been in a relationship. Never had sex. Never even kissed a girl. Got close to something of the sort maybe a handful of times I even got 50+ matches on dating apps in a matter of weeks, but nothing solid ever came out of it. My friends were shocked but after watching this video I realised I was gaming the algorithm without even realising it. I was swiping right on maybe 5% to 10% profiles, but that's genuinely because most profiles didn't even have pictures or were simply not attractive. People have said, and I know, that I'm above average in looks. But I've had incredibly low self esteem, confidence issues and crippling social anxiety. I know I'm fucked. I have accepted I'm never going to find anyone and need to learn to be alone for the rest of my life. I'm probably not going to make it past 50.
28, male here. I am in the same boat as you. Been having random chest pains for a short while whenever I see some relationship topic or some form of exposure to relationship. I have accepted that I will die alone in my 40s. It is getting easier to adjust to this lonely lifestyle but the nights of the chest pain are really tough.
Yes.. Totally relate. People like us do exist 🥺I'm just 23 right now but reading all this makes me think this might be me just 10 years later. I do feel that I have above average looks, but no girl has ever approached me in my entire life! Me being an introvert, I could never imagine myself in a relationship in the future too. I guess I would have to fall into some trap set by family called arranged marriage lol
Why ? Here is the answer - 1. He should be more than 6ft 2. He should have a deep voice 3. He should have blue eyes 4. He must be handsome 5. He should have 6 figures salary 6. He should have great communication skills (which is nothing but telling lies in a charming manner) 7. His zodiac should be matched with her 8. He should have hobbies (according to what she wants ) 9. He must not live with parents 10. He must not take dowry but he has to pay alimony and give his 50 % property to her. Too many unrealistic expectations of women nowadays 🙂
💯! Yes! Especially as the woman gets much older . She starts to realise that a big, thick ,fat...wallet is amore of a turn on than...I'll just leave it to your imagination.
I do get right swipes! But usually from women who asks for “can you paytm me 500/- I didnt bring my wallet, and I need to buy medicine. I will pay you back” or from fake accounts! 😂
@ Then I got smart, one girl I got matched from nepal border, damn she was pretty, but she said, she will take money in exchange for her services, I said, I can offer you something better, I will get you stupid guys like me, and you give me 20% commission Real story maa kasam, well she didnt agree, but added me in instagram
It's not just Indian men. It's all men unless they look like Bratt Pitt. I was talking to a girl (not conventionally attractive) and she didn't want to meet because she was talking to a 'male model' who was from Wales, lived in Australia but was in the UK with an American accent lol. I told her it's a scam and she said, 'ill prove you wrong'. Yeah I blocked her.
It's all men unless they look like Bratt Pitt. Very true! The *vast majority of females want a white male who looks like Pitt,Cavill or DiCaprio. That's why as a black male who has lived in London, UK for decades (and keeps fit , eats very healthy food, doesn't smoke, drink alcohol)...I no longer try and ''compete''. Not worth it when all I see now (especially in the more affluent parts of London) are lots....and I mean LOTS of non white females( especially from South east asia) with white husbands or boyfriends.
Because Indians abroad don’t want to rock the boat. They like being the “model minority”, which also means that their women are extra supply while their men are celibate.
Based on genetic research, only 40% of men in history ( starting from caveman days) procreated, the rest did not. Part of it could be sexual selection of women and environmental variables. Back then, even if a guy wanted to explore "greener pastures", it was very risky since they didn't have the means to safely travel. But with modern technology, we have those opportunities. Utilize it and improve the odds of continuing your bloodline : )
@@arthurkenfleck-vf5nb here the fish has an opinion and also plays a role in "wanting" bros comparing apples to oranges. What red pill content did you watch lil bro😂
It’s actually simple, we Indians especially males think in a vacuum. In terms of international dating scene it’s all about adapting to what’s the fashion standard of the current generation, which i feel like we lack when it comes to international dating scene.
Dating in India as a Man is difficult. Like if u are a woman then 70% of work is done if u r good looking and attractive. For Men they literally have to be over the mark in mostly everything like looks, muscles, height, confidence humour and maturity. Which makes dating a cut throat competition for Men in India. And I feel this is our fault. It's we men who give women way more attention, validation that they don't even deserve which makes them feel over the sky. As a Man it's better to be picky and not be desperate for women. Have some standards and approach only when the other person is worth it. Not every woman deserves our precious time and efforts. Working on oneself, being selective and interacting is the best way to overcome this issue in offline mode. Also the most ironic yet worst part is that social media was designed to interact and establish connections with people but it's totally opposite today. Most of the ppl especially men are lonely compared to women. Sending Love to all Brave Men out there❤️
It’s nothing wrong with us. It’s just the society has put the higher pedestal based on looks and appeal of woman and they are hormonal creatures on top of that. They play the flute as per the hormones kicks in. So, don’t work just to get this , get that. Work on yourself continuously. Remember men are always alone and will ever be and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that no matter how society deludes us.
@@Zaheed-ip8mpnah it's harder in India as dating is culturally frowned upon so unless you have massive charisma only option for most guys is dating apps and they are just hell
@@Zaheed-ip8mp India is very conservative country and these things are looked down. Especially for women. Usually labelled as slts for just being in a relationship.
I don't like to brag, but I have all the qualities you mentioned women are looking for in a man, so much so I have been approached by about 5 to 6 women in my 34 years of existence. All of them while I was already in a long term relationship that ended last year. Trust me when I say this, most women are not worth your time or the trouble. Stay away and learn to love your life and travel the world
I just watched Blade Runner 2049 for the first time as a 18 year old and I'm scared to see that the emptiness of the main character K is kinda the same for me. Idk if that's something that all males face. I'm preparing for jee 2025 btw
Nah man i have been single since 2019 i swear on my mother lol i am 22 now and have never gone to dating or had any sorts of physical relationship lmao..(yeah cause i Don't go out of my home😂 i am juts 5.4 lmao💀😆I have over enflated ego which has lead me into not talking to any gurls since my college days to now bachelors days lol and yeah the most importantly i am freaking poor qnd have zero eca skills like guitar playing or good at any other sports and activities lol
People have become kinda more isolated after the covid. Everyone feels like they are lonely. I know it's hard to talk to people in real life and make some real and meaningful connections but that shouldn't stop you from trying because at the end its all worth it. Hope you find some good people and best wishes to you for your JEE exams kiddo.
The only reason I try dating apps is because its extremely difficult to socialize with women. The most female interaction I have in person would be while ordering food in hotel. No place I go has women who are ready for relationship, not in gym, office, cafe, middle of the road, sidewalk, grocery store, petrol station, biker meets, movies, .... (gym is the worst, every woman there is accompanied by at least 1 guy and they look like they'd pick up a fight even if I remotely try to approach their woman). Even in dating apps, it is extremely difficult to build a healthy conversation (first of all, I never matched with an attractive woman). I think the only way for men to survive is to visit Thailand on weekends.
India does not have the culture where you can just aproach a stranger and strike conversation and ask to get tea together. Internet gives us certain freedom but our social cultre from the outside is still conservative. Even if you had aproached me in a park just to talk and I, a woman was lonely and looking for a partner, I would still be hesitant to go chat with you or go anywhere with you. Thus the whole point of making connection outside is not possible unless you are in school, college or in a workplace where people like you.
Who told you that you are supposed to be ashamed of getting your wife via arranged marriage? If you are not an orphan, ask your parents to find your wife.
@@rayrwyr that kind of skips all the good part. And I don't have faith on my parents choice either as they would be looking for cast and status. I personally feel disgusted to bring up cast and status in choosing partner. I'd rather stay single than get into that dirty culture.
This is why dating apps in india don't work. In most college programs, the gender ratio is 80:20. 20 being female. Therefore, there is more demand for each girl than each boy. If the girl wants to date, they already have so many options. They have 100s of request pending on their insta. Their request section is a dating app in itself, hence most indian women don't use dating apps cause there is no need for them to do so. Same in usa, there gender ratio in clgs is close to 50:50. Hence, both girls and boys have options. Hence, more females use dating apps over there. Hence, more matches. Dating apps will be useless in india until the gender ratio. Improves in india
14:38 I'm single since birth. I'm not only healthy, but I can handle 10x more stress than a normal person and still get a sound sleep at night. I love my peace and solitude. I play football, play guitar, do workout, read books, and so much more as my hobbies. In fact, the only time my mental health is disturbed is when I start talking to a woman. Relationships are good if you are with a compatible person, otherwise, they are not worth the time. And not every person is supposed to be in a relationship all the time.
honestly you struck a chord with the last part of the video. lots of us perhaps including myself aren't even trying and have given up the hope to find a partner. this vlog of yours seems so persuasive, exhorts me into thinking. I am eager to take a step. I will take a step. life is worth living to the fullest extent! Thanks for this lovely video, Achina!
What will tell those men who says after five years of dating- gharwale nahin manenge. Women holds the consent card and men hold the commitment card so..... We need to raise responsible men and alert women.
Any men who finds his partner attractive will never give the excuse of ghar pe nehi manega. If your guy dumped you saying this then you had chosen wrong. You tried to fly too high dating someone who's not at your level. So, naturally he found a better substitute and moved on. Love is about equality. Only then it will flow it's natural course. If you try to raise the bar too high and try to entangle someone much better than you, someday or the other they will invariably find their actual worth and move on.
Just because they are with you they are not obligated to commit. Maybe you are not worth being a wife or a long time partner. So, why should he commit.
@@conscireshooter Truth. Even if as a male you find a woman you want to commit to who is a good person all-round - the parents won't give the green light if your choice doesn't "match up" to the class/social strata they decide. Then the choice becomes parents/family vs her.
The problem is the dating apps have monopolized dating by becoming the only space where its become socially acceptable to approach women with explicit romantic intentions in mind. Anywhere else you go to try to meet women in real life and women will be on their anti-social shit and be all like, “ew no don’t talk to me I did not come to the gym/bookstore/coffeeshop/grocery store/work/bar/anywhere else to get hit on.” Women have to take some responsibility and start giving men safe openings where they can try to make an approach without fear of being called a creep. Because if they don’t then the only men who will ever approach will be the actual creeps who don’t care about your personal space or comfort.
nah we don't like being approached every now and then, take some responsibility and learn how to approach women without creeping her out. If women allow anyone to approach her, she will become an easy target for too many creeps
i have had 8 crushes over my 28 years of life, i have expressed my feelings to them in person and got rejected by all of them, then I tried dating apps thinking it cant be worse than this, well its 10 times worse XD trust me I am not ugly, I dress well, I speak well, I have a job, I don't do drugs or alcohol but i just cant get someone to like me.
I even stopped trying , well you cant force anyone to like you. Currently I'm 25 . But i thinking to stay single my all life. It will be better that way
@@Gangadhar_55 I hope you don't 😇 I hope you find yourself a nice girl and end up in a loving relationship. I hope I can hear all about it here in the comments
@@mobasasuke3610 thanks for kind words but honestly all this evergy isnt worth. I will enjoy more things in life with less money. I can travel . See life
@@Fantomstranger keep believing my friend, one day everything will be better. Also keep working on yourself, excercise daily, eat healthy, get that new haircut, find a new style of dressing you know small things add up.
It's just the difference in behaviour and habits of men and women. Men will swipe on a lot of women profiles but a lot of women will only swipe on the same absolute best profile. Hence only the top 1% guy will get all the girls on the app while the rest 99% are stuck on zero😂
Same is true in hinge app. I tried it once and they bait men to pay through bot accounts when you join and then it goes dark, no activities. Very predatory. Stop using these apps. They are not good for men
Dating apps don't work at all - not for someone like me. I'm in my 50s now. Despite earning a BSEE, and an MSEE, working as a design engineer in Silicon Valley, and buying a home in Silicon Valley - I'm 100% alone and likely will never find someone. I have no family, no parents, no kids, no siblings, no close friends and no love. I spend every Christmas alone. If I were to disappear tomorrow only the bill collectors would notice.
This is what I try to make my single friends understand. A lot of them think they "deserve" a good relationship because they're well educated and successful in their careers. What they don't realise is that they spent the last 6-7-8 years of their lives (including college) to get where they're at. How can they expect to achieve the same success in the dating market by spending just 2-3-4 months in it?!
It is happening to people in general, so one can imagine the situation of disabled people, being blind myself I'm facing the same problem that has been explained in the video. But I believe hoping to meet the right person and keeping a positive attitude in general and not being rigid is the key.
I am 19 and currently in 2nd year of my college. I have neither got into a relationship nor dated anyone. I approached a girl in 1st year but got rejected. We never talk, she rejected me on my looks ig. I don't want an arrange marriage. If I don't find a girl, it's better to stay single forever.
bina bike ke ya guitar 19 mein ghanta ladki tumhe bhav degi!! wait karo thoda sucessful ban jao(societal definition) phir dekho tamasha!!aur haan prayatna karo kuch mahila mitra banane ka stree ke manovigyan ko samjho!!
I somehow broke through that social akwardness. In any gathering, known or unknown people, regardless of gender, i am often the conversation starter. Important thing I learnt in keeping the talk going on doesn't depend on your intelligence or how well you talk, it's just letting out what's on your mind. If people like what you are, good for you, or else, move to next
Below 25 Girls = Looking for a Greek God like Hrithik Roshan. Post 25 years = Looking for a Richie Rich, either your Dad should have the money OR you should have 30-40 lpa package, and at this age I don't care about your looks.
How else is she going to take care of the children ? Ever thought bout that? Unless she's working herself even then men don't contribute equally in childcare. That's the reason for them looking for this type
@@dis_appointed8626Well its only natural for women to find a much settled guy, but women these days have become so delusional about what they want and how much a man should earn which seriously makes it hard for men to make up for
@@Harsha-D311nowadays girl earning 15k monthly dont want to settle with a guy atleast a lac monthly. Do you think 12 lpa girl will settle for the same pay. Lol no
@@donydha21910 no bro of you are not attractive, then there are some equally unattractibe and broke girls to match up with you. Nature is balanced. If you feel looks are the reason for not matching up, then you are looking in the wrong place
Not only dating sites. Matrimony sites also do the same. I have been in multiple matrimony sites for last 2 years. It's difficult to get a match and I have Select Shaadi as well for last 4 months. Not yet married.. I work in IT and has a good profile too. Just highlighting that something is wrong about the society. Loosing the hope at this point after talking to hundreds of girls. I think online dating and matrimony doesn't work anymore.
Bro i set up matrimony profile for my pgmate , he is 5'3 and 16lpa ,28yrs old He got 50 matches in a month(mostly avg looking girls), what are you talking about
It has never worked. I would recommend you to delete those apps, it's filled with shameless males who are catfishing as women and scamming many innocent males. Talk to women in your company, join book clubs, chess clubs, etc.
Basic white girl here. In-person or online, I always seem to gravitate toward Indian men/get matched with Indian men. No complaints here - Indian men have a good attitude imo. I love all men, tho :) But since we’re taking about Indian men, I just wanted to contribute by saying Indian men are gorgeous inside and out ❤ (My personal experience!! 🙏)
@@D_402S not actually. Dating apps are booming in india these days actually, especially with Gen Z. You will be surprised to see how many of the gen z couples these days have met on some sort of dating app or social media app.
The closer and more friendly I get the more insults and humiliation I receive in life. It's debatable wether we need close friends and relations. Maybe human beings are supposed to live alone.
People used to look up to India in the ancient times. Foreigners used to study in Nalanda university. I remember ancient Chinese called India “civilized” and “center of knowledge”. Scientists and mathematicians of the islamic golden age admired our work. Greeks and Romans also used to look up to us. Good old times. Anglo-Saxons and other Westerners are the reason that South Asians face discrimination worldwide. They ruined our image by portraying us as animal f*ckers, street sh*tters, unhygienic (India needs to work on hygiene, I admit, but man often it is over exaggerated), savages, r*pists, etc. West butchered our reputation. We think South Asians face discrimination because of skin color, but that is not the case. When you are brown, people think you are from South Asia, and South Asia has a bad image. Many Italians, Middle Easterns, and Hispanics have a bronze tone, but they face far less discrimination. Even light skin Indians face discrimination, just tell them you are Indian and attitude changes.
The culture around dating apps is so weird like, you're looked at as an outsider or some sort of an alien if you're not on one of these apps. I often get asked or even suggested by my friends to be on a dating app, and I always reply with "what's the point?", and it's always funny when they say "to find someone that makes you happy" My brother in Christ, I am someone who makes myself happy, I absolutely refuse to depend on an app for happiness, let alone find someone. Hell no
Ma'am, what about loyalty? As per my experience, love is painful. In today's era, people add the 3rd person (bestfriend) and other complexities which results in heartbreak. I have given up... Nhi hota hai, koi pyar nhi krta.., everyone is selfish...
don't expect expensive stuff from cheap people???remember the more they smile the fake they are!! you want loyalty pet a dog!! keep your bullshit tolerance as low as possible
Feels like confirmation bias here. Not denying that it happens but cheating is not a new thing. We just see more of it because there's more people and then there's the internet.
I don’t understand how to talk to a girl or start a conversation. I also wonder what she thinks about me. It’s not that I’m not a good communicator. I believe my communication skills are quite good, having won a gold medal in debate at the district level.
why are u pushing introverts? Not everybody is an extrovert. Edit: the comments I'm getting tells me how unaware people are about introverts. First of all, introversion is not loneliness but solitude. We enjoy our own company and things we do. We have our own world inside ourselves. You do not understand it. U will never understand it as an extrovert who feels recharged by meeting people. I feel recharged by spending time alone. On my own doing things i love such as sing or play guitar or do coding or whatever. First understand the difference between lonely and solitude before u say that we should step out because your butt cannot rest in peace. They talk like personality types Don't exist But they do believe in zodiac signs. I can literally spend time in luxury prison with just internet and food. U do not understand this. I enjoyed the time i spent at home in covid. It wasn't a Situation of "unrest" for me. While other people were so restless that they were ready to get spanked by police on street for being outside of their homes. They couldn't just stay at home. But i had 0 problem with staying at home for 2-3 yrs. Stop asking us to give up on our comfort. Because you like being a bouncy butt. U enjoy that, and that's why u do it. It's not because u are hardworking or something.
@@an_mous here is my advice for you. I think you are faking introversion. Introverts always have something to do. I can stay in my home for months without wanting to meet anyone in person. I play guitar , i sing, i do a lot of other stuff. Life of introverts are not boring and you maybe useless but most of the introverts have their own world. Where they live happily. There's nothing lonely about it. It's solitude. Lonely is when you hate the feeling of being alone while solitude is when you enjoy being alone. You are not an introvert. U are just a lonely person who doesn't know what to do with their lives.
In arriange marriage most times u get a girl which is used by other. Like amabani married to radhika. Radhika was in relationship already with couple of guys. 😂. Bt ananat ambani not. @@ArpanRayTV
Isn't it really funny though there are so many different women of different ethnicities and ages, who have no bf, and yet still tons of guys are lonely and desperate😂😂😂😂?
Good content. Content which can genuinely make a difference in the viewer's lives. I feel I signed up for this. Keep it up Aevy tv. And btw, great editing.
It's the 80/20 rules. Most men in any society are inherently unattractive. So even if our standards of living has improved, you will be compared with the best of the best and social media/internet has made that trivial to do (for women).
Honestly you struck a chord with this video, especially the last part. A lot of people; men, women and myself included aren't even trying and have given up the hope to find a partner and want everything to be spoon fed including finding love. I am regular viewer of your channel and this video is so persuasive exhorting people into thinking that life is worth living and not playing with dating apps to find love. Thanks for this lovely video with the very good research and the way you put it, Ma'am.
There are some people like me who are introverts, who don't have friend groups or a social circle so it becomes hard to meet new people. So that's one of the the reasons we rely on dating apps. we know it's a trap but we do not have any other options too.
I tried once it was horrible experience for me. It was like a beauty competition more like people were there for their ego satisfaction rather than making bond. I am a newbie gov officer so I hide that job profile I got few matches and all behaved rudely when I started showing it I got many swipes. Everything seemed very fake. I left.
Girls' unrealistic expectation is one of the key factor behind this. If a girl is 6 out of 10. She will be looking for a guy who is 8. Also if a girl is earning she will be looking for a guy who earns much higher than her with higher socio-economic status than her. They also think that their earning potential will compensate for their own physical appearance and over age. But most of the guys will choose a girl who is relatively more attractive and young rather than a girl who earns money.
Exactly par galtiya hum ladko ki hai insta pe ladki ek pic upload kar di 1000 likes and followers woh bhi hum hi karte hai. We should have leverage on girls by make them feel left out than only this imbalance will be balanced.
Even a 2/10 girl wants exclusively 9/10 guys. Hell with women too. Lets wish the worst befells upon them. Lets try to boycott women in other aspects of life.
I hate it when foreigners say Indian man is the least attractive…. Indian man are attractive too but just need glow up new dressing sense and some skin care….
Indian women are actually the least attractive, look at Richard Nixon, however Indian men statistically marry out more than Indian women in every country on the planet, even 80% of Chindians have Indian fathers and Chinese mothers
"People avoid for far too long, only to realize that now they are too scared to form any sort of connection because of fear of rejection." I believe this also makes sense on why some part of Indian Men are unsuccessful in dating life. Some of us are too shy and scared to be rejected by women after being rejected by some already. So Instead we try staying away from it altogether, rather than putting the effort to improve ourselves and meet more women who are actually open to finding partners.
Okay I'll give you the reality on those offline mixer events. Again a lot more guys than girls. Even though guys are charged like 2-4k and girls have free entry. The prettier girls who come there are generally a part of the hosting company (hosts of other events from the same company). The women who come naturally are generally low on the attraction scale (dont judge me for this). I've been to this event, I just sat at a table and looked at 2-3 guys trying to talk to one girl. Or guys just talking to each other. Its kinda depressing 😐
Jeez, this channel is so good, It's my second video and I've already subscribed. Very informative, though provoking, well researched and interestingly narrated. Kudos the Aevy Team. 🔥
This comment section is depressing (and quite disturbing) I didn't realize there were so many young to middle aged Indian men who have never been in a relationship. Depressing because so many of these men have given up. Disturbing because almost all of these men blame women and society for their failure to find a relationship - instead of working towards self-improvement. Edit: I've never been in a relationship either, guys.
Lol, the fact that you, a staunch advocate of self improvement, haven't been in a relationship should be a wakeup call that this has less to do with lack of self improvement, this is a systemic issue. Unless society addresses the systemic forces befind this, self improvement will hardly make any difference.
@@Ghostrider-ul7xn Who is society and what are these systemic forces? What can we do about it? If the answer is 'nothing' then we should focus on what is in our control.
@@anon-y8w Hmm. What I read in much of the comment section was on the lines of "there aren't enough good women" and "women expect more from their partners than they should", and "I'm sick of being friendzoned by these women". I have met a lot of interesting women, many who have a lot in common with my interests. Maybe because I'm lucky. Or maybe because I've met a lot of women (without the intention of a relationship).
@@dmxsavitar7614 You dont need people to create/Share Memories, Itna Dependable nahi banna ki Dusro ki Jarurat lage Khush rehne ke liye. Ik Carrier is not everything isiliye " Carrier/Life" Likha he
I'm glad to have stumbled onto this video. 4 years back I worked on a system design project that challenged the dating apps business model from a socio-economic perspective. If you have high affordability, you can avail Premium benefits, higher chance of matching, etc. But if the service is meant to help me find a partner, why does my affordability play a role in it? As an alternative I suggested getting restaurants, cafes, theatres as advertisers to provide avenues for a "date", provide offers and help them generate revenue too. But well, I dream.
Such apps, brings out the insecurities in you. Even tho it sounds exciting to post and expect in return. At the end its you sitting heartbroken with endless thoughts.Some of them are forced to marry whereas some have got different intentions you never know. Whats meant for you will come its way.
The same thing happened with me. I joined a dating app this morning only, and i have got like 250+ matches, and still, i feel like i don't like or know any of them
The problem is people go to dating sites because they can't meet someone. Like my example, I'm making my own games and apps for phone. I'm doing an internship which is work from home. So there's no way for me to meet anyone. Plus I don't have much to talk about so can't approach someone. Dating site was something that might have helped but didn't got a single match for months.
Sometime back even I used to be in the FOMO, looking at people around me finding partners etc. But later when I looked closely I find amongst my seniors and older cousins people who have never been in any relationship throughout their life and are in their late 20s or early 30s but are professionally robust and well established. You can always arranged a partner any day in India for marriage. Finding a good relationship maybe important but nothing is of any use if as a student u are poor in academics and if as a man u are poor in ur wallet. Kinda depressing but if you compare a man in late 20s who has girlfriend but earn poorly to a man who who has been lifelong single but makes good wealth, its always safer and better to be the later. Godspeed everybody. Stay Blessed!
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blah blah blah ....no one cares ....anyways i am gonna die as single ...and that thing is inevitable
@@SatishALaudea Wait for me I'm Coming! Haha
Amazing video, I think it is the first time watched a whole video from this channel, very good animation, narration and research! Nice. ❤
I hope you guys @aeytv will make a good video next time on an important topic.
@@Copycat-edit I hopr you rest in pe..
"People now are increasingly treating intimacy and emotional connection as products that can be consumed, rather than bonds to be nurtured."
DAMN Aevy!
Women don't consider Indian men attractive
HOLY FOCK!
Dating starts with curiosity and attraction, BUT relationships start with adjustment and compromise
Absolutely 💯
Relationship starts with love if u love someone u will adjust, have understandings, compromise for them.
relationship starts with admiration. take an exit it feels like an adjustment and compromise. Thats a wrong teaching by the society. Think deep!
Indian men get the highest votes on AYI Britain, Indain women the lowest, 17.5%
@@ellenrogers2555That was a decade ago, before the 'Bob and vagene' meme became popular. Not sure if its the same today..
It's not just Indian men; if you're not conventionally handsome, you don't get matches, period. Doesn't matter what country you belong to.
true...looks matter more online...but it's crazy how mediocre girls on these sites get a big head and think they're a supermodel or something because so many simps msg them. I eventually realized the deck is stacked, esp. against Indian men...but you're right also against non-hot men.
False it’s only if you are Asian. If you’re ugly and go to Asian countries you will get thousands of matches. If your average Asian man in Asia, you are invisible to Asian women in dating apps. It only gets worse when Asian men go to western countries, you were never born
Okay, but why do you think that is?
@@sebastianmosqueda5959 Basic biology.🤷🏻♂️ Our primal instinct is to choose the most physically gifted individual as our mate - be it height, broad shoulder, strength and mental fortitude among men, or long, healthy hair, even skin tone, large feminine organs and caring attitude among women.
@@Farhan_049The only part most of us are dissatisfied with are the lies. It's OK to be "shallow". Just don't lie to literal generations of men about it, especially at the age when it influences their future life decisions the most.
Because every women on dating apps think they are aiswarya rai and they deserve someone like hritik roshan.
Edit: Avoid going into replies, it's white knight sheethole
atleast look at the data bro, in USA it's 80:20 (Male to female), in India this could be even less, your Generalizations are somewhat dumb
Bro thinks Tinder is Dhoom
@@Shayistic fk the ratio do your research properly 1 percent of the men date 80 percent of the women, theyrs a hierarchy
@@Shayistic I have experience in dating apps. Avg Women get 10 times the likes men get, that makes women think they are hot short and men are dying to attract them which inflates their ego and start swiping left for even above avg men. Most of these Women below avg or just avg looking women looking for validation on internet, which they could never get in real life. And men fulfill their wish cause they are wanna fuck.
Bro is from reddit. And the reason why women on such apps think they are Aishwarya is because men give them that much validation and attention. So instead of being desperate and right swiping every girl you see, try having some standards lmao.
Edit: Bro is indeed a basement dweller redditor cause he can't accept the other side of the coin and coping by calling others white knights
what nobody talks about is how even healthy relationships are discouraged in indian families even when you are an adult and old enough to make your life decisions. so the prime teenage years when you should be learning how to bond and have healthy connections, you are asked to not get too many friends or dont go out so much, which ends up having a negative impact on a teenager and that person will struggle to find a connection or be scared to commit even if they want to because they constantly feel they're going behind their parents back and doing something wrong and feel guilty about it.
they see it as a form of distraction, kinda true if you end up with the wrong person
Being in a relationship is fine but f*kcing around behind parents back and being in a casual relationship is baaad
Wait until you hit 30. Then the same parents will agree if you ask to marry a rock! 🤣
@@mathurp6889 but even the rock wouldn't agree after I'm 30
@@chillingboi9172that's a skill issue of parent's parenting.
They rather keep you away from something rather then teach you the ways to indulge in healthy way.
They choose a shortcut and their kids pay the price later on. They might have not known themselves but they also didn't invest time in learning it.
All these points are great but u need to understand that a 25 year old in India belonging to poor background will consider spending energy and money on family and himself as 1st priority. So dating and socializing will be considered luxury
What you're talking about is generational curse. Most parents weren't smart enough with their family planning and didn't work hard enough to give their kids any luxury. Break the cycle, and prioritise yourself or you'll get stuck just like them.
@@talkingtochaprieasier Said then done
@@talkingtochapriparents did work hard ... Don't judge them circumstances are also a thing
@amitrane3910 Agreed! The video is repeatedly harping on a point that applies to a small demographic of people who have the luxury and freedom of socializing and dating at that age and are, equally importantly, WANTING to date and socialize. I don't like the fact that this video implies that EVERYONE at that age SHOULD be looking for long-term relationships. What if someone simply does not WANT that for themselves, at least not at that juncture in their lives? That's okay too!
I have been living in the Netherlands for the last 2 years, and I have some friends. They feel very insecure about themselves after using such dating apps. It's not only happening in India but everywhere
Like how's the people height there like they say average is above 6" so how do you feel and what's your height
Who feels insecure? The Dutch or Indians in the Netherlands?
@@balu.92 basically every male on planet earth after using dating apps
How does this even apply to India though. It applies more to the West than in India.
@@balu.92Indians.
Its not just in India, but all around the world.
Yes, it's more difficult for a man to find partner, but in other parts of world specially western countries it's easier to find a match
@@Pranav8077that's not true brother. Birth rates are falling drastically in the West. They complain a lot about how shitty their dating culture is. And in India most people find a partner eventually thanks to arranged marriage.
@@avinashprasadfilms thanks to arrange marriage ? Really? 😂😂😂
@@avinashprasadfilms it's not about marriage, dating is usually easier in other countries than india due to the culture, in Western countries dating is very casual where even the parents don't mind it, meanwhile in India such type of dating is considered taboo where even a totally mature woman of age more than 20 is prohibited from dating by their parents in most households
No this is only in India.
Because boys are so underrated.
Dating apps will
reduce confidence in males &
boost confidence in females
except women have be murdered on the apps and so many are getting off them.
@@lillypilly6440 we are not talking about murders madam
@@rzc661 It has happened sir as well as rape and making women feel very uncomfortable. Not worth the risk
@@rzc661 most dudes on the apps want to have sex only and women are over it which is why you guys aren't having any luck
100 men who are liking the women will like other women also.
It's not any special.
I was so madly in love with my EX... Breakup after 4 years on 2015 and till now I am single... Focusing my career, taking care of my mom... Earning decently in hometown, have few dear friends, Debt free and yet I am single and happy
Nee dhaan thala massu
Wow 😲
Same. Only difference is breakup after 8 years last year. Women are not worth it anymore. Most of them are toxic, come with high body count and baggage. Stay single, take care of old parents, make money and travel the world. I swear on my life, women are not worth it. Please try to see the truth
be fr, youre sad and thats why you felt the need to type it out for similar losers to upvote
@@deadbutworking Real asf
it's better to die alone than to be with those with whom you'll feel alone eventually
I've seen how my parents suffered in their marital life and it's was worse to even think how they might be feeling it
@@sidprivt26 I am basically in the same boat as you
Usually said as consolation tbh
That’s an excuse to not try, okay not everyone will get it right but some will, if nobody tries because of fear of failure then how anyone ever experience a good relationship
@@Sasuke-d8lmaybe its not a fear of failure but a different lifestyle🎉
Good tip here: stop, dating apps suck.
Just go get yourself in a salsa dancing class or something similar fun and don't be a creep. Just be nice and soon you'll meet someone who likes you
How tho? a lot of women these days are scared of men and don't take chances with guys no matter how kind they are
👍👍👍 u know I want to make a good dating app , just my desire .
Women find ugly men approaching them as creep while handsome guy making some "daring moves" as flirting we all know women make rules for men they don't like but break thier rules and for guys they like .
Quite yapping we all know what type of men woman want to be approached,they want to be approached by tall,handsome, 6 pack ,6inch plus millionaires to approach them
@@GamestormEntertainment all women are not like that but our upcoming generation is being spoiled
Spent way too much time on dating apps for years. Left it for good to eventually find a partner in the office.
Also, when you try too hard you'll keep bashing yourself for not getting it. Least expectations, best results at the most unexpected time. That's what worked for me.
Also, great editing. Loved every shot.
loved it.
same for me wasn't expecting anything nor looking for anyone and I found my woman happily living together
This is a gamble. Worst case outcome could be HR complaints, jail time and loss of your job.
Congrats buddy
There's a saying, Don't shit where you eat. I guess you beat it and had a romantic relationship with a coworker
There's something else that I believe is also happening. People completely stopped setting up their single friends with each other due to jealousy. Even if they know someone who could be a potential match, they would rather make sure both of them are single. People who still set up people are the ones who are married or in a long term relationship which is already a very small group.
setting up is mostly bad among many indians , even girls are open about it , but a guy would barely help , he dont want to be a pimp.
YES, so much this. This culture of setting their friends with others was common in older generations, i rarely see it happening today in my friend's circles and others. It is purely out of jealousy most of the time. Whenever i was given the contact to connect with a girl, it usually came from older parents.
Yes i have seen this my so called best friend(as they called me) never told me that there were in relationship and sidelined me. After breakup they just came back. One of my friend always faked promises and gave false hope that she has a junior who is single and i will set you. Everything i came to know he was just having fun or just being nice.
@@Ghostrider-ul7xnjealousy among friends is happening a lot and they dont to other to be successful than them. F rat race
@@kamartaj3010 that is definitely one of the reasons why they don't set you up as well. They wanna make sure if their relationship bombs, you're alone and available as a friend so there's someone to talk to.
Tbh this whole 'soulmate' bullshit has become a religion of its own thanks to bollywood.
Read Rollo Tomassi's The Rational Male. The very first chapter talks about the Oneitis mindset, or the soulmate myth in boys and men.
Just a week ago, I got catfished by a female match. She literally asked to meet after 5 mins of talking, and my desperate ass, sensing all the red flags, ignored it. I literally didn't carry any safety precaution. Although she turned out to be a real woman with whom I spent an hour or so, she made me pay 5000rs for 2 drinks and one snack. During payment, she said she didn't have that much cash and she didn't use online payments, so she will get it done by her friend later. I had sensed this very early, but desperation and the fear of making any scene at a place where dating is frowned upon made me helpless. In the end, I had to pay 5000rs. She blocked me immediately after that :))
PS: I am just a college student with a monthly pocket money of 3000rs :))
Seedha bolo tum barbaad hona chahte the aur woh tumko barbaad kar rahi thi😂😂
@@HeavenlyFlames09 You don’t get women using money.
Take the girl to a tea shop, if she doesn’t want to go. She isn’t the one, she is not looking for relationship, she probably is looking for guys who spend a lot on women for their affection.
Itna sab bata diya hai, toh dating app aur bandi, Dono ka naam bhi bataa dey!
@@rajeshjsl they are not looking for love. they are using these apps for thier FREE MEAL. most of them are bombarded with love since early they are not despsparate for love n affection. whereas men are desparate for love and touch. they will go to any extent for that need. in our class 98% of girls had or having a relationship. whereas 99% boys are single, never talked to a girl. most of these girls go for same men.
🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
Honestly, its one of this sensitive topics , the animation u guys did so awesome. It never so water downed or never over exaggrreated to look creepy. Just right visuals to convey right thoughts in mature ways.
I met a girl on tinder in 2015, began dating in 2 months after that and now we're married since the last two years. It ended well for me
We are rebuilding society from scratch ....😂
@@dhyanprakash7761 instead we should be building linux from scratch
Society Totally destroyed after 2020's
fr bro, its our responsibility to save this generation
@@Benisonbaghel u cant even if u want to. I m gen-z myself. I do acknowledge our lack of capability to listen to what other ppl say.
@@Iswearcrixket least thing we can do is Guide our kids in future...
31 years old, almost 32. Never been in a relationship. Never had sex. Never even kissed a girl. Got close to something of the sort maybe a handful of times
I even got 50+ matches on dating apps in a matter of weeks, but nothing solid ever came out of it. My friends were shocked but after watching this video I realised I was gaming the algorithm without even realising it. I was swiping right on maybe 5% to 10% profiles, but that's genuinely because most profiles didn't even have pictures or were simply not attractive.
People have said, and I know, that I'm above average in looks. But I've had incredibly low self esteem, confidence issues and crippling social anxiety.
I know I'm fucked. I have accepted I'm never going to find anyone and need to learn to be alone for the rest of my life. I'm probably not going to make it past 50.
Same here and I'm 25, I have looks but being an introvert is what holding me back, even my friends are shocked that how can I be single since birth
28, male here. I am in the same boat as you. Been having random chest pains for a short while whenever I see some relationship topic or some form of exposure to relationship. I have accepted that I will die alone in my 40s. It is getting easier to adjust to this lonely lifestyle but the nights of the chest pain are really tough.
Must be so hard being straight :( I'm happy that rainbow is thriving😂
That’s deep
Yes.. Totally relate. People like us do exist 🥺I'm just 23 right now but reading all this makes me think this might be me just 10 years later. I do feel that I have above average looks, but no girl has ever approached me in my entire life! Me being an introvert, I could never imagine myself in a relationship in the future too. I guess I would have to fall into some trap set by family called arranged marriage lol
Why ? Here is the answer -
1. He should be more than 6ft
2. He should have a deep voice
3. He should have blue eyes
4. He must be handsome
5. He should have 6 figures salary
6. He should have great communication skills (which is nothing but telling lies in a charming manner)
7. His zodiac should be matched with her
8. He should have hobbies (according to what she wants )
9. He must not live with parents
10. He must not take dowry but he has to pay alimony and give his 50 % property to her.
Too many unrealistic expectations of women nowadays 🙂
"You are not ugly, you are just not rich"
💯! Yes! Especially as the woman gets much older . She starts to realise that a big, thick ,fat...wallet is amore of a turn on than...I'll just leave it to your imagination.
@@tonyadams8812nah stop trying to speak for us we can work a man needs to have more than money to get a woman now
@@tonyadams8812Man made artificial money can never be a turn on.
It can impress, but can't become a turn on.
@@factchseck
in your life if no one has complimented you , then u r ugly , nature tend to appreciate good genes and bendff bad genes .
And you’re men also
I do get right swipes!
But usually from women who asks for “can you paytm me 500/- I didnt bring my wallet, and I need to buy medicine. I will pay you back” or from fake accounts! 😂
Wtf😂😂
Perk of being a desperate guy 😂
That is disturbing.
Is that real???
@ Then I got smart, one girl I got matched from nepal border, damn she was pretty, but she said, she will take money in exchange for her services, I said, I can offer you something better, I will get you stupid guys like me, and you give me 20% commission Real story maa kasam, well she didnt agree, but added me in instagram
It's not just Indian men. It's all men unless they look like Bratt Pitt. I was talking to a girl (not conventionally attractive) and she didn't want to meet because she was talking to a 'male model' who was from Wales, lived in Australia but was in the UK with an American accent lol. I told her it's a scam and she said, 'ill prove you wrong'. Yeah I blocked her.
It's all men unless they look like Bratt Pitt.
Very true! The *vast majority of females want a white male who looks like Pitt,Cavill or DiCaprio. That's why as a black male who has lived in London, UK for decades (and keeps fit , eats very healthy food, doesn't smoke, drink alcohol)...I no longer try and ''compete''. Not worth it when all I see now (especially in the more affluent parts of London) are lots....and I mean LOTS of non white females( especially from South east asia) with white husbands or boyfriends.
Just Indian man
Looks matter 😔😔
The blatant indian racism is getting out of hand.
And we are DOING NOTHING about it.
Black raised their voice, why cant we?
We as a whole dont have the physical strength to follow up...thats why
We must do it too.. beginning from appreciating dusky actors and Indian products
Because Indians abroad don’t want to rock the boat. They like being the “model minority”, which also means that their women are extra supply while their men are celibate.
Because we are busy fighting amongst ourselves how can we fight collectively towards something
Because the system doesn't see Indians the same way. The borderline baby blk people over here. Indians are held to a higher standard.
All for offline connections but i have had shitty experiences so far. Unfortunately, my bloodline ends with me :)
Dhruv bhai Germany chale jao oha milega
@@RikMahanta yeh badhiya tha guru
Same bro :')
Based on genetic research, only 40% of men in history ( starting from caveman days) procreated, the rest did not. Part of it could be sexual selection of women and environmental variables. Back then, even if a guy wanted to explore "greener pastures", it was very risky since they didn't have the means to safely travel. But with modern technology, we have those opportunities. Utilize it and improve the odds of continuing your bloodline : )
@@Ghostrider-ul7xnwhy?
It's like telling a homeless person go buy a house, it's not that simple🙃
😂😂😂😂
you do not ask a fish
about
how to fish
- a wise man
Shit logic that doesn't make sense but okay
@@omsurvase9130 fish doesn't catch fish . ask a fisherman. its commonsense that you clearly lack
@@arthurkenfleck-vf5nb here the fish has an opinion and also plays a role in "wanting" bros comparing apples to oranges. What red pill content did you watch lil bro😂
@@arthurkenfleck-vf5nb also fish does catch a fish idk what you on
@@omsurvase9130 men/fishermen hunt tons of fish in an hour... come back after you grow a brain 🤡
I don’t usually comment, but you have spoken absolute truth !! Very good research and nicely put.
Indian men marry out more than Indian women in every country on the planet
It’s actually simple, we Indians especially males think in a vacuum. In terms of international dating scene it’s all about adapting to what’s the fashion standard of the current generation, which i feel like we lack when it comes to international dating scene.
Dating in India as a Man is difficult. Like if u are a woman then 70% of work is done if u r good looking and attractive. For Men they literally have to be over the mark in mostly everything like looks, muscles, height, confidence humour and maturity. Which makes dating a cut throat competition for Men in India.
And I feel this is our fault. It's we men who give women way more attention, validation that they don't even deserve which makes them feel over the sky.
As a Man it's better to be picky and not be desperate for women. Have some standards and approach only when the other person is worth it. Not every woman deserves our precious time and efforts. Working on oneself, being selective and interacting is the best way to overcome this issue in offline mode.
Also the most ironic yet worst part is that social media was designed to interact and establish connections with people but it's totally opposite today. Most of the ppl especially men are lonely compared to women.
Sending Love to all Brave Men out there❤️
Dating everywhere as a man is difficult and if you think dating in India is hard then dating in the west is impossible 😂😂😂
It’s nothing wrong with us. It’s just the society has put the higher pedestal based on looks and appeal of woman and they are hormonal creatures on top of that. They play the flute as per the hormones kicks in. So, don’t work just to get this , get that. Work on yourself continuously. Remember men are always alone and will ever be and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that no matter how society deludes us.
@@Zaheed-ip8mpnah it's harder in India as dating is culturally frowned upon so unless you have massive charisma only option for most guys is dating apps and they are just hell
@@Zaheed-ip8mp India is very conservative country and these things are looked down. Especially for women. Usually labelled as slts for just being in a relationship.
I don't like to brag, but I have all the qualities you mentioned women are looking for in a man, so much so I have been approached by about 5 to 6 women in my 34 years of existence. All of them while I was already in a long term relationship that ended last year. Trust me when I say this, most women are not worth your time or the trouble. Stay away and learn to love your life and travel the world
I just watched Blade Runner 2049 for the first time as a 18 year old and I'm scared to see that the emptiness of the main character K is kinda the same for me. Idk if that's something that all males face. I'm preparing for jee 2025 btw
How we feel like K, Tyler durden, while we have parents, siblings at home and friends at school....God only knows
Nah man i have been single since 2019 i swear on my mother lol i am 22 now and have never gone to dating or had any sorts of physical relationship lmao..(yeah cause i Don't go out of my home😂 i am juts 5.4 lmao💀😆I have over enflated ego which has lead me into not talking to any gurls since my college days to now bachelors days lol and yeah the most importantly i am freaking poor qnd have zero eca skills like guitar playing or good at any other sports and activities lol
People have become kinda more isolated after the covid. Everyone feels like they are lonely. I know it's hard to talk to people in real life and make some real and meaningful connections but that shouldn't stop you from trying because at the end its all worth it. Hope you find some good people and best wishes to you for your JEE exams kiddo.
@@GTFO_0 dude r u like stalking me ? m f you explained my whole life with my accurate height 🤨you even know i am 22 how the hell
E bhai tu youtube bandh karde IIT / NIT Join karle. Iss problem ka solution success se hai
Being in a relationship is better than being single, and I'm tired of pretending it's not
Thumbnail looks so damn good 🔥
Ya
Tera alg hi chl rha hai
@@incredulous- kya
@@madhu84818Indian women smell
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Apparently taken from the channel Memeable Data(they too have a similar video with similar content)
The only reason I try dating apps is because its extremely difficult to socialize with women. The most female interaction I have in person would be while ordering food in hotel. No place I go has women who are ready for relationship, not in gym, office, cafe, middle of the road, sidewalk, grocery store, petrol station, biker meets, movies, .... (gym is the worst, every woman there is accompanied by at least 1 guy and they look like they'd pick up a fight even if I remotely try to approach their woman). Even in dating apps, it is extremely difficult to build a healthy conversation (first of all, I never matched with an attractive woman). I think the only way for men to survive is to visit Thailand on weekends.
This is exactly the problem in india.
Dating culture is frowned upon in our society that's why
India does not have the culture where you can just aproach a stranger and strike conversation and ask to get tea together. Internet gives us certain freedom but our social cultre from the outside is still conservative. Even if you had aproached me in a park just to talk and I, a woman was lonely and looking for a partner, I would still be hesitant to go chat with you or go anywhere with you.
Thus the whole point of making connection outside is not possible unless you are in school, college or in a workplace where people like you.
Who told you that you are supposed to be ashamed of getting your wife via arranged marriage? If you are not an orphan, ask your parents to find your wife.
@@rayrwyr that kind of skips all the good part. And I don't have faith on my parents choice either as they would be looking for cast and status. I personally feel disgusted to bring up cast and status in choosing partner. I'd rather stay single than get into that dirty culture.
This is why dating apps in india don't work.
In most college programs, the gender ratio is 80:20. 20 being female. Therefore, there is more demand for each girl than each boy. If the girl wants to date, they already have so many options. They have 100s of request pending on their insta. Their request section is a dating app in itself, hence most indian women don't use dating apps cause there is no need for them to do so.
Same in usa, there gender ratio in clgs is close to 50:50. Hence, both girls and boys have options. Hence, more females use dating apps over there. Hence, more matches.
Dating apps will be useless in india until the gender ratio. Improves in india
14:38 I'm single since birth. I'm not only healthy, but I can handle 10x more stress than a normal person and still get a sound sleep at night. I love my peace and solitude. I play football, play guitar, do workout, read books, and so much more as my hobbies. In fact, the only time my mental health is disturbed is when I start talking to a woman. Relationships are good if you are with a compatible person, otherwise, they are not worth the time. And not every person is supposed to be in a relationship all the time.
Wow 👏 👏
fuck yeah tell this dumbasses
If your mental health is disturbed just by talking with women then something must be really wrong with you.
Completely agree 💯
I get mentally disturbed when i talk to men and women so i understand 100%
honestly you struck a chord with the last part of the video. lots of us perhaps including myself aren't even trying and have given up the hope to find a partner. this vlog of yours seems so persuasive, exhorts me into thinking. I am eager to take a step. I will take a step. life is worth living to the fullest extent! Thanks for this lovely video, Achina!
🤗🤗
I’m not Indian but I literally have no idea on how to even try without using the shit tier dating apps
Koi nahi swarg mein bahut saari mil jayegi.
Not just Indian men, most men on dating apps. Have a nice day
What will tell those men who says after five years of dating- gharwale nahin manenge. Women holds the consent card and men hold the commitment card so..... We need to raise responsible men and alert women.
Bro/sis most men never had any relationships to begin with, few men who were attractive in some way, we're in relationships
Any men who finds his partner attractive will never give the excuse of ghar pe nehi manega.
If your guy dumped you saying this then you had chosen wrong. You tried to fly too high dating someone who's not at your level. So, naturally he found a better substitute and moved on.
Love is about equality. Only then it will flow it's natural course. If you try to raise the bar too high and try to entangle someone much better than you, someday or the other they will invariably find their actual worth and move on.
Just because they are with you they are not obligated to commit. Maybe you are not worth being a wife or a long time partner. So, why should he commit.
@@conscireshooter Truth.
Even if as a male you find a woman you want to commit to who is a good person all-round - the parents won't give the green light if your choice doesn't "match up" to the class/social strata they decide. Then the choice becomes parents/family vs her.
@@conscireshooteror maybe they changed?
Or maybe they weren't serious to begin with
Like Karl Rock says, "Nahi chahiye ji."
lol what🤣
@@BLOoMINDmai hindustani hai.... Hindustani ki mkb 🤡💀
Americans do not like Indian women
Indian women smell
Exactly😂
The problem is the dating apps have monopolized dating by becoming the only space where its become socially acceptable to approach women with explicit romantic intentions in mind. Anywhere else you go to try to meet women in real life and women will be on their anti-social shit and be all like, “ew no don’t talk to me I did not come to the gym/bookstore/coffeeshop/grocery store/work/bar/anywhere else to get hit on.” Women have to take some responsibility and start giving men safe openings where they can try to make an approach without fear of being called a creep. Because if they don’t then the only men who will ever approach will be the actual creeps who don’t care about your personal space or comfort.
nah we don't like being approached every now and then, take some responsibility and learn how to approach women without creeping her out. If women allow anyone to approach her, she will become an easy target for too many creeps
i have had 8 crushes over my 28 years of life, i have expressed my feelings to them in person and got rejected by all of them, then I tried dating apps thinking it cant be worse than this, well its 10 times worse XD trust me I am not ugly, I dress well, I speak well, I have a job, I don't do drugs or alcohol but i just cant get someone to like me.
I even stopped trying , well you cant force anyone to like you. Currently I'm 25 . But i thinking to stay single my all life. It will be better that way
@@Gangadhar_55 I hope you don't 😇 I hope you find yourself a nice girl and end up in a loving relationship. I hope I can hear all about it here in the comments
@@mobasasuke3610 thanks for kind words but honestly all this evergy isnt worth. I will enjoy more things in life with less money. I can travel . See life
I sometimes think if even people like you are facing such issues then it's game over for others like me
@@Fantomstranger keep believing my friend, one day everything will be better. Also keep working on yourself, excercise daily, eat healthy, get that new haircut, find a new style of dressing you know small things add up.
It's just the difference in behaviour and habits of men and women.
Men will swipe on a lot of women profiles but a lot of women will only swipe on the same absolute best profile. Hence only the top 1% guy will get all the girls on the app while the rest 99% are stuck on zero😂
That's how the nature is .
@@prabhWalia11this is dating app heritage
@@prabhWalia11Indian women rank the least in America
@@phylicia595Ok and ?
The solution is that men need to stop being desperate, and that ain't happening anytime soon.
Same is true in hinge app. I tried it once and they bait men to pay through bot accounts when you join and then it goes dark, no activities. Very predatory. Stop using these apps. They are not good for men
You're on a roll! Heavy hitting topic after heavy hitting. Nice.
If guys stop putting females on pedestal and stop thinking about sex this will all stop now it’s high time to that
Sex is very important in a relationship. Just because your parents didn't love each other doesn't mean it's normal. Grow tf up.
@@alaster1403 I’m saying the need for sex by men to random females not to the ones in relationships
what a crass statement! Men are biologically hardwired to want and crave sex that's what keeps our species alive and thriving!
@@alaster1403 I don't think you got the point
@@genos1458 the argument was pretty weak as it was
Dating apps don't work at all - not for someone like me. I'm in my 50s now. Despite earning a BSEE, and an MSEE, working as a design engineer in Silicon Valley, and buying a home in Silicon Valley - I'm 100% alone and likely will never find someone. I have no family, no parents, no kids, no siblings, no close friends and no love. I spend every Christmas alone. If I were to disappear tomorrow only the bill collectors would notice.
just get a pet if no human gets you
At 13:45 she says it right, building relationships is a skill, but not everyone is good at it and it needs patience
This is what I try to make my single friends understand. A lot of them think they "deserve" a good relationship because they're well educated and successful in their careers. What they don't realise is that they spent the last 6-7-8 years of their lives (including college) to get where they're at. How can they expect to achieve the same success in the dating market by spending just 2-3-4 months in it?!
It is happening to people in general, so one can imagine the situation of disabled people, being blind myself I'm facing the same problem that has been explained in the video.
But I believe hoping to meet the right person and keeping a positive attitude in general and not being rigid is the key.
Stay positive. God bless you and your family.
Well majority women on dating app are there to get there validation if they are feeling low or had a breakup
Both men and woman do this!
I am 19 and currently in 2nd year of my college. I have neither got into a relationship nor dated anyone. I approached a girl in 1st year but got rejected. We never talk, she rejected me on my looks ig. I don't want an arrange marriage. If I don't find a girl, it's better to stay single forever.
same bro but I haven't interacted with any in the first place
It's easy to say approached people but the fear of rejection is the reason we are still single
bina bike ke ya guitar 19 mein ghanta ladki tumhe bhav degi!! wait karo thoda sucessful ban jao(societal definition) phir dekho tamasha!!aur haan prayatna karo kuch mahila mitra banane ka stree ke manovigyan ko samjho!!
@@RikMahantaTrue
@@RikMahanta yeah man 🙂🙃
I somehow broke through that social akwardness.
In any gathering, known or unknown people, regardless of gender, i am often the conversation starter.
Important thing I learnt in keeping the talk going on doesn't depend on your intelligence or how well you talk, it's just letting out what's on your mind.
If people like what you are, good for you, or else, move to next
That actually seems like solid advice , thanks
Don't think being rich will get you girls on dating apps, you will still get ignored, that's where it gets really frustrating
It's looks. Pure looks. People are simply coping. Nothing else.
Below 25 Girls = Looking for a Greek God like Hrithik Roshan.
Post 25 years = Looking for a Richie Rich, either your Dad should have the money OR you should have 30-40 lpa package, and at this age I don't care about your looks.
How else is she going to take care of the children ? Ever thought bout that? Unless she's working herself even then men don't contribute equally in childcare. That's the reason for them looking for this type
@@dis_appointed8626Well its only natural for women to find a much settled guy, but women these days have become so delusional about what they want and how much a man should earn which seriously makes it hard for men to make up for
No
12 lpa n increasing is okay
Also his parents should have same money as me
100 percent
@@Harsha-D311nowadays girl earning 15k monthly dont want to settle with a guy atleast a lac monthly. Do you think 12 lpa girl will settle for the same pay. Lol no
It's Becoz we're ugly and broke af 🌚
@@shreyash1mujeet
Lol. Money is definitely a big factor. Going out is expensive.
@@donydha21910 no bro of you are not attractive, then there are some equally unattractibe and broke girls to match up with you. Nature is balanced.
If you feel looks are the reason for not matching up, then you are looking in the wrong place
Speak for yourself mate
@@shreyash1 tf is wrong with you kid
Damn! All the editors deserve a raise ❤
Editors who copy Johnny Harris?
This is a direct copy of two videos repackaged for an Indian audience + some yapping about Indian culture. I get it though. Life of an influencer
It's simple...90% of women dating 10% of men in online dating....
thats why they get used and passed around lol
It's hypergamy 2.0 😂
@@jasonw3055 Indian men date out more
yep. average guy gets no matches lol. it's all looks, that's the only thing matter in these apps
@@deeptangshusarkar8868that's why you're used to being a leftover 😂
When people stop watching porn, popularity of social media and dating apps will vanish. When i say people, i mean both men and women
Non binary can watch however any amount
@@SoJangHo37 They dont exist
No, when women stop dating impossible. Then the porn and the apps will disappear.
The power of arrange marriage in the palm of my hands...........at last
arrange marriage will be gone in 20 years, it will only last for millenials
Buhahahahahaaahaha. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Arrange marriage is 💩
Full of compromise
Wait for it. Drum roll..........
Men are f-ed in Marriage too,
Go see Indian laws regarding Marriage and how it is biased.
😂😂😂😂😥😭🥱
Go try 😂 it's the same situation there
Not only dating sites. Matrimony sites also do the same. I have been in multiple matrimony sites for last 2 years. It's difficult to get a match and I have Select Shaadi as well for last 4 months. Not yet married.. I work in IT and has a good profile too. Just highlighting that something is wrong about the society. Loosing the hope at this point after talking to hundreds of girls. I think online dating and matrimony doesn't work anymore.
get the f out of that site use older ways ghatak system if you want arranged marriage otherwise it te acho date kore nao office er kauke!!
Bro i set up matrimony profile for my pgmate , he is 5'3 and 16lpa ,28yrs old
He got 50 matches in a month(mostly avg looking girls), what are you talking about
Lower your expectations. Merry someone from tire 2 cities.
It has never worked. I would recommend you to delete those apps, it's filled with shameless males who are catfishing as women and scamming many innocent males. Talk to women in your company, join book clubs, chess clubs, etc.
Basic white girl here. In-person or online, I always seem to gravitate toward Indian men/get matched with Indian men. No complaints here - Indian men have a good attitude imo. I love all men, tho :) But since we’re taking about Indian men, I just wanted to contribute by saying Indian men are gorgeous inside and out ❤ (My personal experience!! 🙏)
On behalf of the Indian men; thank you for your kind words.
I know they are so into white girls that they act too sweet in order to impress them... ever seen how they act on seeing any foreigner woman in India?
Shouldn't generalize about any population for better or for worse.
Stop the 🧢 ladyy
I'm I the only one who never installed these apps & least bothered😐?? I'm i missing out anything..
I don't think most Indians even use dating apps. Dating apps are mainly popular in the west, especially in the US.
You are not alone
India has more than 1 billion people. Why would you think you are the only one lmao?
@@D_402S not actually. Dating apps are booming in india these days actually, especially with Gen Z. You will be surprised to see how many of the gen z couples these days have met on some sort of dating app or social media app.
The closer and more friendly I get the more insults and humiliation I receive in life. It's debatable wether we need close friends and relations. Maybe human beings are supposed to live alone.
So true. Humans have a tendency to create problem for themselves
See it's like wearing a pretty dress... even gorrilla will look good. But if you get close, 😂😂😂😂 they knows
It's all good bro, relax and live your life
@@IndianTiger-0P Exactly
People used to look up to India in the ancient times. Foreigners used to study in Nalanda university. I remember ancient Chinese called India “civilized” and “center of knowledge”. Scientists and mathematicians of the islamic golden age admired our work. Greeks and Romans also used to look up to us. Good old times. Anglo-Saxons and other Westerners are the reason that South Asians face discrimination worldwide. They ruined our image by portraying us as animal f*ckers, street sh*tters, unhygienic (India needs to work on hygiene, I admit, but man often it is over exaggerated), savages, r*pists, etc. West butchered our reputation. We think South Asians face discrimination because of skin color, but that is not the case. When you are brown, people think you are from South Asia, and South Asia has a bad image. Many Italians, Middle Easterns, and Hispanics have a bronze tone, but they face far less discrimination. Even light skin Indians face discrimination, just tell them you are Indian and attitude changes.
The culture around dating apps is so weird like, you're looked at as an outsider or some sort of an alien if you're not on one of these apps. I often get asked or even suggested by my friends to be on a dating app, and I always reply with "what's the point?", and it's always funny when they say "to find someone that makes you happy"
My brother in Christ, I am someone who makes myself happy, I absolutely refuse to depend on an app for happiness, let alone find someone. Hell no
Ma'am, what about loyalty?
As per my experience, love is painful. In today's era, people add the 3rd person (bestfriend) and other complexities which results in heartbreak.
I have given up...
Nhi hota hai, koi pyar nhi krta.., everyone is selfish...
Ye kalyug hai meri jaan. Aha aisa hi hota hai. Ladke ko dowry chahiye ladki ko alimony. Saab loog paise ke piche bhag rahe he
don't expect expensive stuff from cheap people???remember the more they smile the fake they are!! you want loyalty pet a dog!! keep your bullshit tolerance as low as possible
Feels like confirmation bias here. Not denying that it happens but cheating is not a new thing. We just see more of it because there's more people and then there's the internet.
Sympathy doesn't work dude
@@marshmallow._ But Cheating, Especially from Female side, have been Normalized
I don’t understand how to talk to a girl or start a conversation. I also wonder what she thinks about me. It’s not that I’m not a good communicator.
I believe my communication skills are quite good, having won a gold medal in debate at the district level.
You clicked by reading the title and the thumbnail, you've realised that the whole content was totally different but IT WAS WORTH IT!
why are u pushing introverts?
Not everybody is an extrovert.
Edit: the comments I'm getting tells me how unaware people are about introverts. First of all, introversion is not loneliness but solitude. We enjoy our own company and things we do. We have our own world inside ourselves. You do not understand it. U will never understand it as an extrovert who feels recharged by meeting people. I feel recharged by spending time alone. On my own doing things i love such as sing or play guitar or do coding or whatever. First understand the difference between lonely and solitude before u say that we should step out because your butt cannot rest in peace. They talk like personality types Don't exist But they do believe in zodiac signs. I can literally spend time in luxury prison with just internet and food. U do not understand this. I enjoyed the time i spent at home in covid. It wasn't a Situation of "unrest" for me. While other people were so restless that they were ready to get spanked by police on street for being outside of their homes. They couldn't just stay at home. But i had 0 problem with staying at home for 2-3 yrs. Stop asking us to give up on our comfort. Because you like being a bouncy butt. U enjoy that, and that's why u do it. It's not because u are hardworking or something.
Writing this as a former introvert
This introvert /extrovert divide is not accurate
@@i_love_sparrow2502 then u do not understand introvert. we are not lonely. we like solitude.
fir maro single
Introvertness is an illusion, come out of it forcibly, then only you will be free and reach the maximum potential of a human
@@an_mous here is my advice for you. I think you are faking introversion. Introverts always have something to do. I can stay in my home for months without wanting to meet anyone in person. I play guitar , i sing, i do a lot of other stuff. Life of introverts are not boring and you maybe useless but most of the introverts have their own world. Where they live happily. There's nothing lonely about it. It's solitude. Lonely is when you hate the feeling of being alone while solitude is when you enjoy being alone. You are not an introvert. U are just a lonely person who doesn't know what to do with their lives.
arrange marriage sounds like a plan
Never lol would rather delete myself rather than arrange marriage
What's the problem in that
In arriange marriage most times u get a girl which is used by other. Like amabani married to radhika. Radhika was in relationship already with couple of guys. 😂. Bt ananat ambani not. @@ArpanRayTV
Bad plan
Anant and radhika are childhood friends they did love marriage not arrange lol and women can have friends she had guy friends not bfs idiot@@sankkham
Isn't it really funny though there are so many different women of different ethnicities and ages, who have no bf, and yet still tons of guys are lonely and desperate😂😂😂😂?
Good content. Content which can genuinely make a difference in the viewer's lives. I feel I signed up for this. Keep it up Aevy tv. And btw, great editing.
It's the 80/20 rules. Most men in any society are inherently unattractive. So even if our standards of living has improved, you will be compared with the best of the best and social media/internet has made that trivial to do (for women).
also f0r men wallet factors also come into play.
Honestly you struck a chord with this video, especially the last part. A lot of people; men, women and myself included aren't even trying and have given up the hope to find a partner and want everything to be spoon fed including finding love.
I am regular viewer of your channel and this video is so persuasive exhorting people into thinking that life is worth living and not playing with dating apps to find love. Thanks for this lovely video with the very good research and the way you put it, Ma'am.
This channel produces some awesome content, definitely one of the best on UA-cam.
This video is so important. Thank you ❤
There are some people like me who are introverts, who don't have friend groups or a social circle so it becomes hard to meet new people. So that's one of the the reasons we rely on dating apps. we know it's a trap but we do not have any other options too.
I tried once it was horrible experience for me. It was like a beauty competition more like people were there for their ego satisfaction rather than making bond.
I am a newbie gov officer so I hide that job profile I got few matches and all behaved rudely when I started showing it I got many swipes.
Everything seemed very fake. I left.
It's really a high quality video. Thanks
A good line I would like to add is, any amount of rejections are all worth a single partner.
what a pain in the ass, I am not gonna do allat, gonna live to 90 without a partner or smth
great bro 🗿
Lets make a old age home and fill it with PS5 n Xboxes.. atleast no loneliness with homies
@@BasicMewMewNICE.meme
@@BasicMewMew real
it's actually a great idea@@BasicMewMew
On dating apps many girls are actually bots.
I'm glad some people are awake
Girls' unrealistic expectation is one of the key factor behind this. If a girl is 6 out of 10. She will be looking for a guy who is 8. Also if a girl is earning she will be looking for a guy who earns much higher than her with higher socio-economic status than her.
They also think that their earning potential will compensate for their own physical appearance and over age. But most of the guys will choose a girl who is relatively more attractive and young rather than a girl who earns money.
Exactly par galtiya hum ladko ki hai insta pe ladki ek pic upload kar di 1000 likes and followers woh bhi hum hi karte hai. We should have leverage on girls by make them feel left out than only this imbalance will be balanced.
@@veeral01 Yup.. that's why I don't do the things you mentioned.
Even a 2/10 girl wants exclusively 9/10 guys.
Hell with women too. Lets wish the worst befells upon them. Lets try to boycott women in other aspects of life.
same with guys... being 2 out of 10 and looking for Russian
@@shweta-kg8ky wo to aise hi fantasy hoti h sabki lakdiyon ko bhi kaale African lambe ache lagte u know what i mean
I hate it when foreigners say Indian man is the least attractive…. Indian man are attractive too but just need glow up new dressing sense and some skin care….
@tikamuchhu wrong
Its not foreigners saying that, these are Indian dating apps, also Indian men rank high on AYI Britain
Indian women are actually the least attractive, look at Richard Nixon, however Indian men statistically marry out more than Indian women in every country on the planet, even 80% of Chindians have Indian fathers and Chinese mothers
Watch any which race would you not date video in the West
They all say no to Indian women 😊
@tikamuchhuwatch any which race would you not date video in the West
They never say yes to Indian women
These mixers charge 99 rupees for women and 1500 from men. They even have women setup themselves, not actual women who come here.
"People avoid for far too long, only to realize that now they are too scared to form any sort of connection because of fear of rejection."
I believe this also makes sense on why some part of Indian Men are unsuccessful in dating life. Some of us are too shy and scared to be rejected by women after being rejected by some already. So Instead we try staying away from it altogether, rather than putting the effort to improve ourselves and meet more women who are actually open to finding partners.
You could've just told me I'm ugly and I would've believed it
Okay I'll give you the reality on those offline mixer events. Again a lot more guys than girls. Even though guys are charged like 2-4k and girls have free entry. The prettier girls who come there are generally a part of the hosting company (hosts of other events from the same company). The women who come naturally are generally low on the attraction scale (dont judge me for this). I've been to this event, I just sat at a table and looked at 2-3 guys trying to talk to one girl. Or guys just talking to each other. Its kinda depressing 😐
oh shit , thats actually depressing, thanks for the info tho.
Don't judge me, but the way you found those women unattractive is the same way women are finding you attractive which is keeping you single.
Jeez, this channel is so good, It's my second video and I've already subscribed. Very informative, though provoking, well researched and interestingly narrated. Kudos the Aevy Team. 🔥
This comment section is depressing (and quite disturbing)
I didn't realize there were so many young to middle aged Indian men who have never been in a relationship.
Depressing because so many of these men have given up.
Disturbing because almost all of these men blame women and society for their failure to find a relationship - instead of working towards self-improvement.
Edit:
I've never been in a relationship either, guys.
Fact that you haven't been in relationships. Make me even more worried about my future. Anyways have an ice cream
@@yash31400 Why did the fact that I've not been in a relationship make YOU worried about your future? They're completely disconnected.
Lol, the fact that you, a staunch advocate of self improvement, haven't been in a relationship should be a wakeup call that this has less to do with lack of self improvement, this is a systemic issue. Unless society addresses the systemic forces befind this, self improvement will hardly make any difference.
@@Ghostrider-ul7xn Who is society and what are these systemic forces? What can we do about it? If the answer is 'nothing' then we should focus on what is in our control.
@@anon-y8w Hmm. What I read in much of the comment section was on the lines of "there aren't enough good women" and "women expect more from their partners than they should", and "I'm sick of being friendzoned by these women".
I have met a lot of interesting women, many who have a lot in common with my interests. Maybe because I'm lucky. Or maybe because I've met a lot of women (without the intention of a relationship).
1. Delete all Dating Apps
2. Focus on Carrier/Life
3. Less Trauma/ Good Mental Health
4. Read Indian Laws for Mens after Marriage/Relationship.
whats the use if u dont have ppl to share your feeling and create memories, carrier is important but its not everything
Career career and career
@@dmxsavitar7614 You dont need people to create/Share Memories, Itna Dependable nahi banna ki Dusro ki Jarurat lage Khush rehne ke liye.
Ik Carrier is not everything isiliye " Carrier/Life" Likha he
@@projjal828 have a life and enjoy
@@dmxsavitar7614you can have friends
We see so many open source, 100% free apps and social networking platforms. But this is the only category which humanity actually needs free of cost!
I'm glad to have stumbled onto this video. 4 years back I worked on a system design project that challenged the dating apps business model from a socio-economic perspective. If you have high affordability, you can avail Premium benefits, higher chance of matching, etc. But if the service is meant to help me find a partner, why does my affordability play a role in it?
As an alternative I suggested getting restaurants, cafes, theatres as advertisers to provide avenues for a "date", provide offers and help them generate revenue too.
But well, I dream.
Such apps, brings out the insecurities in you. Even tho it sounds exciting to post and expect in return. At the end its you sitting heartbroken with endless thoughts.Some of them are forced to marry whereas some have got different intentions you never know. Whats meant for you will come its way.
Loved it! 💙eye opening!
Meanwhile me scrolling through 50 matches but can't differentiate between real and fake ones. lmao!
Suffering from success i see
@@velansaravanan4869 Hopepless romantic In a hook-up culture bhai!
I'm Also facing Tough Situation in Betterhalf, I'm See Upto 35+ matches. But I'm not Get benefit
Speed Swiping
The same thing happened with me. I joined a dating app this morning only, and i have got like 250+ matches, and still, i feel like i don't like or know any of them
The problem is people go to dating sites because they can't meet someone.
Like my example, I'm making my own games and apps for phone. I'm doing an internship which is work from home.
So there's no way for me to meet anyone. Plus I don't have much to talk about so can't approach someone.
Dating site was something that might have helped but didn't got a single match for months.
Sometime back even I used to be in the FOMO, looking at people around me finding partners etc. But later when I looked closely I find amongst my seniors and older cousins people who have never been in any relationship throughout their life and are in their late 20s or early 30s but are professionally robust and well established. You can always arranged a partner any day in India for marriage. Finding a good relationship maybe important but nothing is of any use if as a student u are poor in academics and if as a man u are poor in ur wallet. Kinda depressing but if you compare a man in late 20s who has girlfriend but earn poorly to a man who who has been lifelong single but makes good wealth, its always safer and better to be the later. Godspeed everybody. Stay Blessed!
Everyone has their own priorities
I read the title "Why Indian Mom get Zero Matches on Dating Apps" ☠
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lol 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Indian men get a lot of matches on AYI Britain
Moms ko matches mil jyegi, but mostly ladko ko nai milegi😂