i feel so bad for her. she should not be attacked ever for making a mistake. she was lost and didn’t know where to turn. she was too young to make that choice
ɮօʊռċɛ օʄʄ i’m not saying attack as in physical attack but attacking her online. because there are people who try to silence detransitioners because they want to make it seem as if no one regrets transitioning.
Sensei Lion dude, YOU learn biology. Maybe if you researched it you would find out sex and gender are different things and there’s scientifically more than XX and XY chromosomes. Love seeing transphobes ignore actual facts lmao
I’m a therapist. I grieve for this beautiful young woman. Young people who believe they are transgender NEED deep, skillful therapeutic care. If the emotional/psychological issues are addressed and resolved and the person still believes they are transgender, so be it. But so, so often, there are emotional/psychological issues - often in the family system - that are manifesting in the rejection of the self/the body. No one should make any decision in life - great or small - from a basis of self-hatred. This is consistent as I work with trans adolescents and their families: abject hatred of their femininity (for girls). This needs to be explored, not “fixed” by transitioning to male.
When I was a teen, I wanted to be male because I was bullied for not wearing make-up and being "feminine" enough. I also kept hearing about women having to wear high heels to work and just hated the thought so much. I'm honestly glad that was in the early 2000s, when we weren't as "woke". I might have made a terrible mistake I would still live to regret. I still almost never wear make-up and never have worn high heels in my life, but I don't want to be a man. I just want to be a woman who is not a stereotype. It mostly makes me mad and sad when they already label small kids as trans because they aren't a walking stereotype. I remember when nobody worried much about a tomboy phase in a prepubescent girl.
This is why therapy is so important for teenagers. Sometimes parents are quick to want to "fix" their child, and see psychiatry as the easiest option. Medication can be extremely helpful, but it is not a cure-all. It should only be used to help calm symptoms so the client can actually work through their problems.
Completely agree. This is also why I wish more Endocronogists demand a letter from a therapist before allowing those underage from starting hormone therapy.
So I agree with to a degree. As someone with bpd I can tell u when I tried to get rid of my meds cus "it's drugs!" I saw changes right away, therefore I couldn't function in therapy and could barely focus. And tbh it was recently. I didn't take them for a week and because of it, I couldn't get out of bed, it triggered my eating disorders and suicide thoughts. When I told it to my therapis he called my doctor, now I had 2 options in that moment either going to the hospital or keep on taking them and on time, and lemme talk u, the change was and is crazy it worked like magic, I started to see how much calmer I feel, I started talking more, and eating normally! It was the moment when it hit me how important medications are, and in way, underrated. U hear a lot of hate when it comes to that and a lot of horror stories about it, but like if u go a bit deeper u will find more ppl just like me. Obviously it's not an only fix but sometimes it should be the first option because when ur brain is unbalanced no amount of therapy could help (speaking from experience as I said) I DON'T THINK THERAPY ISNT GOOD! It's great and been helping me a lot! What I've learned from the recent weeks is that, the right combination between therapy and meds can be literly life saving!
It might get better with years of detransition. After all, she did take hormones for several years and has only briefly been off them. Also, see how Blaire's voice continued to change over years. It's a lot smoother and more 'natural' now - maybe some voice coaching helped Blaire and can also help Elle?
TooltheWetSprocket Not taking hormones won’t make her voice go back to normal. The reason why men have deeper voices than women is because the testosterone causes the vocal cords to become “longer” than a woman’s, so the slower vibration causes a deeper voice. You can’t really reverse that.
Puberty is scary and confusing and kids are always looking for ways to define themselves and fit in somewhere. Parents shouldnt be so quick to completely agree w whatever their kid defines themselves as.
@Chatter Box Yeah gender fluid is just teenagers going through puberty and feeling like they need to be 100% stereotypical gender while in reality it's just your personality. And they feel this safety and reassurement when they go together calling themselves this. Now we at the point where they are forcing speech and ideologies through fear of being "canceled/fired/shunned". All because children are growing up in a world that fucks so much with your mental and they dont get the help they need.
@Chatter Box Im a 20 year old male and still struggling with my gender identity but I feel more confident in it compared to a month ago. My mental problems made me unhappy with life, I felt like I was missing something. Add on to that I dont like cars,sports,typical male things. Love female clothing and dressing up as one and make up. I was drunk every day to stop myself from thinking about my actual problems in life. And started feeling trans. Now I only drink in the weekend for fun and am working on the problems and see that I am happy with my sex/gender you see some guys cosplay female characters wear makeup and still are dudes. Yes I could call myself fluid. But I know my sex is male and can like feminine stuff. I'm just a reverse tomboy, because I still find being a dude easier and more myself. Went on a tangent but your story felt quite similar with the jealousy and that interests dont make you a certain gender.
@@Anima-bribe tomgirl. I just say tomboy and tomgirl, since it's easy to get the idea across saying it that way. I'm pretty much average by comparison but I wish more ppl would just be individuals, whatever that entails. You've only got one life so do your thing.
This is why *real* therapy is needed, not affirmation "therapy". Affirmation therapy is essentially the same as someone going to a therapist saying they're suicidal and the therapist says to the person to commit suicide.
That's not even close lol. Affirmation therapy is meant to build trust with the patient and help them discover more about themselves and draw their own conclusions. It gets better results than trying to reject a person's feelings when they come in for help
@@TheSadie9110 so children arent old enough to draw their opinions? If a child thats biological female says they are female, would u say that children arent old enough to draw their own conclusions THEN?
@@fwedlovesbwead No children aren't old enough to make LIFE CHANGING decisions. They aren't old enough and their brains are not developed enough yet to make such decisions.
@Mansa Musa ??? help?? are u saying ur transphobic? or are u just saying that biologically by having a uterus your female. If so, i can understand that.
Demi Colbert Ironically, that concept is what motivated me to transition. I always felt like a woman, but I thought I’d make a terrible girl, so I kinda gave up on it at one point
@@softlyfalling8563 i feel you but then i started listening to Blaire when she said "Can you imagine yourself growing old as your transitioned self?" and I just couldn't, which made me not want to transition
I love that blaire puts out the cons of transitioning even tho she is trans because not everyone who thinks they should transition really ends up wanting that when they get the procedures. Transitioning is a huge decisions and you should know the pros and cons of it
It's trans activist fault they literally encourage young kids and teens who maybe even just having a teenage dysphoria and turning things that lead for them to do for that to happen. And then the ppl don't get throw puberty both physically and mentally grow they shouldn't transition... Yeah as they say they should remember Tomboys exist. So do femguys. And yea talking about detransictiom it's like taboo...
@@MaelZack lol thats y more ppl need to talk about it. More then transitioning. Haveing a happy normal life is easy. But the left trying to destroy normal life. They want u miserable and to spread that missery
That's why I agree with Blaire that teens and young kids shouldn't transition. In my opinion, it should be around the age of 18~20 to make that big decision.
'More than one way to be a women' literal feminism!! How have liberals got so wrong...oh yeah its intransdental to there ideology. Magdalen burns we miss you. Blaire is more on point as a feminist than theese fools
8:48 This right here is so powerful. I remember growing up in a very sexist household and at 4 years old praying to God I would wake up with a penis. I hated everything about being a girl at that time. Then as I got older I realized that I didn’t hate being a girl. I hated how I was forced to express my femininity. Knowing that interests, colors, activities, careers don’t have a gender changed everything for me. It actually made me proud to be a woman because I felt like it was my responsibility to be true to myself and represent my definition of womanhood.
We should all be living for eternity and focused on morality (including being grateful for God's design--he made us all completely unique with varying degrees of beauty, masculinity, and femininity--instead of vanities and the praises of mankind. God's definition of femininity is very different from mankind's and does not involve heels, makeup, and acquiring praise and/or lust for our outward appearance. Likewise, helping others is more praiseworthy in God's eyes than accumulating excess possessions. ua-cam.com/video/86dsfBbZfWs/v-deo.html
Freud called this stage in a girl's development "penis envy," lol. He may have been right. Freud believed most women don't remember this stage because it is at about 2 or 3 years old and they repress those feelings. If the girl gets through this stage successfully she will accept her lack of a penis and when she grows up she will enter into a relationship with a man and he can "share" his penis with her through sex and marriage. If she doesn't get through this stage successfully, Freud thought it could cause her to become a lesbian.
Yes! Exactly! That’s how I felt and still struggle with feeling sometimes. It isn’t my body I hate- it’s the way people treat me in my immediate circle.
I really empathize with Elle- especially when she said she didn’t have to be a certain way to be a woman. Our situations seem similar. I’ve questioned my gender since I was about 10 years old. I’m now 18, and after a long time contemplating that I might be FTM, I realized that just because I am attracted to females, because I am not feminine, because I hate dresses and skirts, feel more comfortable in ‘masculine’ groups, my personal expression is gender non-conforming , etc. does NOT necessarily mean I am trans. I might be less feminine, but that doesn’t make me less of a female. I contemplated so many gender identities growing up in the midst of mental health issues and trauma. And now that I’m healing from my trauma and issues I realize that I don’t have to change to be accepted by myself or anyone else. I am who I am. I was so preoccupied by the idea of ‘boy vs girl’ I never took into consideration that it’s not that simple- every boy is not alike and neither is every girl. I wish I could’ve realized sooner, but I’m glad I finally realized, because I could’ve had to go through the stress and pain Elle is currently going through if I decided to transition when I was younger. My heart goes out to Elle (and Blaire too, she’s great). This was a nice video.
Logan L wonderful story! I agree with you 100%. there is no single way to be male or female, and if you don’t fit with a stereotype, it doesn’t make you any less male or female. also, stay strong with anything you’re going through. I give you all the love and support you deserve :)
@@MilkyWay-gi8km There is 2 major way's to be male or female, be born with a penis or vagina and the DNA that causes that. Those are 2 very simple ways. I'm not knocking anyone for what they feel or what they've done and have decided to do since making a decision but that is a fact. No matter how many hormones or surgeries you have you can't alter the DNA. And to the original commenter I hope everything works out and you've found your path and continue to do what you feel is right in your heart and mind
Awesome comment! A "tomboy" is still a girl, a desirable girl, and a unique person. Own who you are and love it! Other people will too! Nothing against trans people, but if you can be happy with who you are, that seems the easier route.
Thank you for sharing your story! I think we do need to recognize that there is a grey area of gender expression, and being a masculine girl or a feminine boy doesn't change your identity!! I hate to see these people give themselves gender dysphoria because they are convinced they need to transition. I'm happy you realized, no one should have to go through this.
Douglas Murray talks about the damaging impact saying every tomboy girl/ feminine boy is a transgender person is having on young gay people and that adults who push children towards being transgender (parents, teachers, health care, etc.) need to stop. And, allowing children who are just at the beginning of really learning about themselves to make life altering decisions is of course a terrible idea. Puberty is very confusing for everyone. I honestly don't think 18 is old enough to decide... even a tattoo can be removed and we have to wait till 18 to get them but the damage hormones do can never be erased.
when I was a little boy I thought I was a girl and I still do now, the fact that my parents didn't support me by not giving me puberty blockers and hormones when they should have has literally done irreparable damage to me and now I look like a hardcore masculine man that is forced to live a lie until he dies! Fun times! In my opinion, it's always better to do it than regret it later in life!
The hormonal part for sure has to be done carefully. Hormones for young trans ought be for those people who have been consistently trans since like 4 5 6 7...
Andrew Wells honestly I just think they were lost in finding themselves but that’s very much a drastic change instead of understanding that everyone is different no matter what gender everyone’s unique in the own way and that’s perfectly okay. Very true on the age part but much respect ✨
Elle hit the nail on the head. "how many young impressionable people are getting on the INTERNET and finding 'support groups' that are completely one-sided?"
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Growing up I was a very tomboyish girl. Many times I was even called “young man”. When I was 8-9 I thought I wanted to be a boy. Looking back I think I just had some very “masculine” interests at the time, I had no idea what transgender was. Perhaps if I was surrounded with the internet and groups of trans people I would have thought I was trans, because I was so impressionable. I can definitely see how this could happen to other young people. Best wishes to you Elle, you seem like such a sweet person ☺️ thank you for sharing your story.
M W also in the same boat as you. I was a tomboy since birth because it was my taste naturally. My mom is also both liberal and conservative but she naturally never enforced stereotypical things on me. She never questioned my masculine likes. However she is also a tomboy so I’m glad I wasn’t alone being the way I am
I think a lot of kids these days show their interest in things considered masculine or feminine. And nowadays people won’t say that it’s okay to like things that are considered masculine or feminine, so the first people that speak to them about it are people who think that if you like feminine things as a boy then you’re actually a trans girl.
Her words are so profound, she is so wise and brave for her age. My best to her. Her voice can be back with surgery and vocal therapy and time. She is very young still and pretty. My love from sunny Mexico. I have seen girls transition because of dysphoria but afraid to go back. She had the nerve. Incredible. Glad she has good friends.
So trans-people are attacking and silencing people who want to transition back?? That's the most hypocritical thing I've ever heard. Leave these people alone and let them find their true selves....that's their party line...... I'm an uncle of two gay nephews and whatever they decide I'll support them, you hypocrites are supposed to do that too. Obviously not talking about you Blaire.....you're a normal human being.
I thought we were all supposed to be accepting of everyone, no matter who or what they are?! The people trying to silence anyone that feels they made the wrong choice & need to detransition are the biggest hypocrites alive. This needs to be discussed & accepted as a very real possibility. Detransitioning is going to be a lot more common, in the years to come, because of how people push transitioning into kids. Many of these kids are doing it as a trend or attention. Literally changing your sex, with medication & a lot of times serious surgeries, shouldn’t ever be taken lightly or a “trend”.
It's even worse when you look on tumblr and see the "down with the cis" and "kill all cis people" tags, like that's just so hypocritical. How dare people want to feel comfortable with who they are.
Matt MacDonald I think this shows that some are not mentally healthy. To externalise one’s own experience like that, be unable to separate oneself from the outside world, and believe others are attacking you is not a normal mindset.
I just discovered Blaire in the last couple weeks, and she has helped me so much. I am a 36 year old man, I am married with 6 kids, and my oldest daughter who is 13 is all in on transgender. I felt at a loss and simply couldn’t connect to my daughter on this subject. How am I as a father supposed to hold a nuanced and balanced conversation with my daughter on something we both barely understand? We were simply talking past each other and not really understanding our individual positions. Blair’s videos have opened the flood gates for me and my daughter. We have deep conversation and we don’t always agree but for the first time we hear each other and actually have an understanding of what the fuck is happening. Thank you Blaire for saying the words that my old man brain couldn’t formulate
We should all be living for eternity and focused on morality (including being grateful for God's design--he made us all completely unique with varying degrees of beauty, masculinity, and femininity--instead of vanities and the praises of mankind. ua-cam.com/video/86dsfBbZfWs/v-deo.html
@@StraightWhiteMaleNews isn't it interesting that society accepts a girl who goes through a "tomboy" phase and we even have a name for it...but we do not have this acceptance when it comes to boys. Maybe if feminine boys were allowed to go through a "tammygirl" phase, they would grow out of it. As it is now, any teenage boy who expresses feminine interests or wants to dress in a feminine manner will be labeled gay or transgender. Maybe it's just a phase though, like it is with tomboys.
Hi. I'm a 61 y/o Mom of 7 adult children. More than 2 of my kids went through periods of questioning their sexuality and eventually came out the other side as completely comfortable in their biological sex. One of my daughters is gay. I am thinking that maybe you and your daughter might be able to agree to share/exchange stories(like this one here of Blaire's) which give info about your opposing viewpoints, with the goal being to open up discussion and to help your daughter to weigh the pros and cons as fully as possible before taking any life-altering action.
Thats just common sense. Why are you praising common sense? Hell, its very rare for ppl to interrupt someone they're interviewing. Unless they have an agenda against the person.
Vocal feminization surgery is a thing!! She can get her voice fixed with, time, surgery and medication, and the facial hair can be dealt with as well. If medication doesn't work, laser hair removal will take it off permanently.
While for her. Some things can be fixed. That's not true of all detransitioners. And there's also the aspect that on some levels she shouldn't need to have it fixed. Which is what they were talking about to some extent.
@blurble923 I think there are people who transition who think that all their problems will go away from transitioning, without actually getting to the core of what those problems are they speculate and convince themselves that transitioning is the best course of action. Chris chan is the biggest example i can think of.
Agreed. Did the adults in her life not know that puberty by definition is a rough time? It is for everyone. Why not just keep talking to her, putting in the time, doing the work, helping her through? Why is everything over complicated and over medicated these days?
@@LilacMorelli How is God good? Good is defined as moral perfection so only God qualifies to be good. However, Some people think they are good. Have you lied (even once in your entire life), looked with lust at the opposite sex, dishonoured parents, stolen anything, had hatred towards someone, Taken the Lords name in vain, had premarital sex, adultery etc If you answered yes to any one of the above then you are a sinner like the rest of us. Since all humans have broken the law, all humans will be punished in Hell for breaking the law. But God doesn’t want humans to perish so He sent Jesus to take the punishment that you deserve. So, either receive the mercy & love of God by repenting of sin (forsake sinful ways) & Believe in Jesus as God or pay for your own sins in Hell.
Regarding her voice!! Elle, and any other individual who is unhappy with their voice can go to a speech-language pathologist to change the pitch of their voice in a SAFE way! Trying to modify the pitch of your voice is very doable, but should be done with research based approaches and medically monitored with instrumental testing/imaging to avoid any kind of vocal injury! Talking outside of your fundamental frequency (the ideal pitch for your body) without the assistance of a professional (a speech-language pathologist) could lead to a bunch of voice disorders long term so it is better to seek the help of a medical professional instead of a vocal coach or voice actor! Please like this so Elle and Blaire hopefully see this!!
The reason we are seeing more and more people detransitioning is because in hindsight the percentage of people with actual gender dysphoria is actually very low.
It is super rare. I went to 3 different psychiatrists to get a diagnosis. I knew when I was younger but never said anything because Mexican families are the worst when it comes to these types of things. It's not glamorous at all either. Dysphoria is painful and maddening. I hated waking up because of it.
CrowdControlQueen Exactly. Like I totally be there are individuals are that have gender dysmorphia, but it’s not has much as the left tries to make it seem.
People are getting offended because they think stories like these will make everyone think "see being trans is bs because people are regretting it and changing back"
@@CruellaDeVil. well that is stupid. What it should do is teach them that waiting is the best option. May suck in some ways but better than the alternative.
@@CruellaDeVil. That's quite foolish and childish, to be honest. If a grown-ass person is offended by that they need therapy. Like how on earth is that a thing to be offended. People really need to get a life, as the original person said. One changing doesn't change the others, to be honest.
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“I don’t have to be a certain way to be a woman.” This a million times!!! I’m a more masculine woman. I’m still a woman. Flamboyant men are still men. There is not one or two ways to be a woman or a man. The VAST majority of us are lucky and have no real problem with the body we are in. How we chose to express ourselves is how we chose to express ourselves.
Exactly. My girlfriend is a butch lesbian and for a while was struggling with if she might be trans or not because she dislikes femininity and chooses to express herself more masculine/andro. She grew up in a conservative household and to her, masculinity=man and femininity=woman, in terms of gender expression. Once she discovered she could be a butch lesbian, she knew for a FACT she wasn't trans. This is what we need to be teaching kids, at that age I think a majority of the issues are gender-expression-based.
I have had some trouble with being comfortable as a woman and I am STILL glad I never even discovered gender dysphoria as a teen. I don’t know if I would have been interested enough to do it but I would have obsessed over it, and now that I am an adult I am pretty happy with my life. I am married to a straight man, I am beautiful, and I have a son. Plus I have enough health problems to worry about. I also have a perspective in life that wouldn’t really approve transition as a solution and I would have regretted that for sure even if I liked presenting as a man instead. I think for me, I saw that my brother got more positive attention than I did, my dad was the nice parent, and I think I got the impression that life was better for boys than for girls. I related more to Simba, Little Foot and Aladdin than any Disney Princesses, etc, I liked boys’ adventures better than girls, and their role in society seemed more fun. In retrospect I think I am just broken, and I have a sort of repressed misogyny that says good girls are lame and not like me. I wanted to be the best I could be but it wasn’t working as a girl so I got anxious and wanted to be like my brother instead. I think a lot of these people who regret transition are like this, and what actually needs to be done is spiritual healing and probably some anxiety treatment
@@averagepaolidamenjoyer9855 but it is paied for so "it's ok and they love their transgender people" or so I have seen typed out. people say srs is paied for, but then others say it is but as a cure for same sex attraction
It seems like most detransitioners follow the pattern of having gone through some sort of trauma, that or don't realize they're just gay and can still be fem or masc.
Exactly I'm trans and i havent gone through any of that (except i thought i was a tomboy when i was young) but still when i hear detrans stories i kinda get scared and doubt im trans and wonder "what if im making this up". Its scary.
Also, is ANYONE comfortable in their body as a teenager? The previous medical best practice was “watchful waiting” because SO many dysphoric teens just...grow out of it.
I've seen alot with sexual assault trama say stuff like "I don't wanna be what they liked, if I'm a guy people like that won't want to hurt me like that" THAT'S SO FUCKING SAD, IT'S ALL SO SAD AND I WANNA HUG THEM ALL
Yeah, this entirely. I thought I was trans when I was in high school, and thankfully wasnt allowed to transition. Later I've realized that it has a lot to do with my childhood trauma. The dissociation from my gender is related to my trauma, and that means I'm not trans. I'm glad I didn't transition.
The fact that you can’t get tattoos, smoke, or drink in a lot of places until at least 18 but can completely change your body through surgery and hormones is the definition of insane. The argument for not being able to drink and smoke before 18-21 is our brains aren’t fully developed yet we can permanently alter ourselves through surgery and other drugs? Drinking throughout my teenage years didn’t do NEARLY as much damage as this now 21 year old girl was put through🤦🏼♂️ I can confidently say I’ve never in my life done any permanent damage to myself by using any of the drugs I’ve experimented with. Meanwhile people like her are called brave for doing what she did. What a sick society we live in.
You realize you can’t have surgery until you’re 18 in most places right?? Like no 14 year old is gonna chop of breasts that they don’t even have yet. Also drugs are useless and harmful. While hormones are useful in order to help trans people off themselves less. They may have side affects but so does a lot of medicine for mental health issues. Dysphoria is a mental health issue. What we need is better therapists and doctors who will make sure the person transitioning is truly ready
There are quite a few people who have undergone surgery before 18, as well as taken hormones. And the hormones have actually statistically shown to carry a lot of negative side effects, which Blair has talked more about on her channel with other people.
@@Ben-li9zb Here in Brazil we're only allowed to start hormones at 16 with the family permission or 18 without anyone, our surgeries only start at 18 and we need to wait for years in the public hospital if we don't have the money to pay private clinics.
As a gay man, i support trans without all the politics. I worry that ‘woke’ parents / medical specialists are too eager to transition kids without due diligence.
I actually think the opposite. Not that she is a bad interviewer, but on occasions she would interrupt her to talk about her personal experience. You can see Blair literally interrupting Elle's speech.
What's most important about Elle's experience, is that she gained self love, introspection, and wisdom that she can apply to the rest of her journey. That takes courage.
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@@constantine9142 Yeah but it's the normal painful transition stuff unfortunately, least she didn't get surgery that is a completely different bag of worms.
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@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 I'm a christain, and I completely agree with what you said, but there are better ways to share the gospel than randomly answering a UA-cam comment with it when it's unrelated. These things need to be handled delicately and with kindness so that it doesn't just feel like you're forcing it on someone. Sharing the gospel is so so important, but doing it tactlessly can often have the opposite effect and push someone even further away from God and the church.
Woow. Her voice doesn't sound like a stereotypical trans man's voice, it sounds sooo male. And now, she has dysphoria about the permenant changes made to her body by HRT that could've been avoided if she hadn't been lead to transition at a young age. I feel so bad for her. Thank you Blaire for sharing her story!
No I’ve seen some trans men who still have kind of a high pitch voice. I’m a reg cis woman and I can make my voice deeper than theirs. Voices vary from person to person if you have a light high pitch voice it will only go so deep. However there are also cis men with feminine voices
@LinusDickTips no, what i meant was that most trans people, men or women, transition post adolescence and even with HRT, the voice still has some cadence of their biological sex and usually with trans men, their voices do not get this deep.
As a trans man this is kind of a rude thing to say.. if you're implying the stereotypical trans man voice to be the "tranny" voice that's a huge misconception because most trans men have "cis" men voices including myself.
LinusDickTips Bullshit. I’ve never heard a “trans man” with an authentic sounding man’s voice. They all sound ridiculous. This is the first one I’ve heard.
Hi, If it's not too intrusive of me can you talk about how you decided to transition and then detransition? How much time did it take to realize it etc. I'm currently questioning my gender and trying to learn as much as I can but it's okay if you're not comfortable talking about it :)
@@โชที่มีความรัก well my question to you is why are you questioning your gender? What is there to question? I’ve had these conversations with lots of trans people of different ages. They practically admitted to the exact same things and I’m just trying to make sure or confirm my theory. I’m someone who began to question his biological sex, not gonna use a controversial term, when I was a child. And funny enough all the people who had the guts to actually explain things to me basically had the same experience but different outcome. So I’m trying to get to the bottom. The root cause of all this since many who don’t share Blaire’s views refuse to explain or elaborate. If anything their refusal only further confirms my theory even more. But I don’t want to jumped towards any general conclusions just yet.
@@chrisfinnegan4223 You said that they basically all said the same thing but you didn't mention what. Could you elaborate more and what the common narrative was as you understood them? It is something that I have been extremely curious about.
Wow. Blaire will eventually need bodyguards if she allows this stuff to be intelligently, politely discussed. This open platform is wonderful and a brave move.
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I have a friend with several issues who wants to transition but is not even sure about it and his friends wont help at all since all they do is agree with their decision and saying that he doesnt need the dysphoria for it
We almost don't know anything about human psychology/brain, these diagnostic are totally dumb. In most case all doctors are doing is giving test treatments, it's not scientific, they give u shit and then figure if it's working for you.
@Zeus Christos You can't conclusively tell a female and male brain apart on MRI right now, but we're getting there: www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fnins.2019.00185/full
She was diagnosed. A doctor won't prescribe hormone treatment without a diagnosis and lots of time talking to a medical professional. It took my brother about a year to receive treatment after speaking with his doctor, and it will take even longer for him to receive top surgery.
When I was 10 - 12 I had a "phase" where I only wanted to dress as a boy ,only wear male underware and wanted to be called a boy name ... My parents didnt really cared about that and just let me do my think. Beeing transgender wasnt something they knew exsisted. I am kind of thankfull for that, because I tuned out to be not transgender, in my case in really was "just a phase" and I am really happy to be a woman today. Pls dont get me wrong I´m defenetly not saying beeing transgender is "just a phase".
Britney Smith I used to tell my mom at 2 I want to be a boy not an earl because I couldn’t even pronounce the world girl. Thank God my parents were not like some of the parents out there now. I would have been so upset
A part of being a child is cognitive (and physical brain) development. We all do that stuff to figure our identity out, so... the issue is folks on the left see that, hone in on it, and tell someone they are this and that.
I went threw that phase too. When I was 13 - 15 I strongly believed that I was bisexual & transgender. I wanted to go by “Damon,” wanted people to use They/Them pronouns, shaved my head, wore button ups, and at some point I even bought a chest binder. I also wanted to transition so bad and forced myself to like girls because that’s what Cis males did. I’m 18 now, have been dating a guy for 2 years and am a lot more feminine. I’m also much more comfortable with myself and my body. I know my “dysphoria” was because of my mom, she would always point out the growth of my chest and it made me really uncomfortable, so I would always try to hide it with male clothing.
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One thing that Elle said that stuck out to me is this: "If I can go back I would tell myself that I didn't have to be a certain way to be a woman." Here here. I remember in my teens I never felt "woman" or "female" enough and it really did a lot of psychological damage to me. If I could talk to my teen self I'd say these wise words too.
I felt this way, too! Others saw me as less feminine so I had to (painfully) construct for myself what being a woman meant to me. If I hadn't, I might have been like Elle.
Trans activists have a very reductive idea of what it is to be female. Being a tomboy, athletic, active, interested in traditional boy things and not being interested in frilly girl stuff is actually normal for a lot of girls. A lot.
i started getting medication at 13-14 (i’m now 15) and i quickly got off of it cuz it made me feel worse. i said i thought i had depression and anxiety (which i definitely do think that) but they just put that down as my diagnosis without much testing or talking to me. i’m now confused because idk if i have additional things then i was diagnosed with or something completely different. my friend also was diagnosed with adhd and to me it doesn’t seem like she has it. sorry for telling u my whole life story but basically i completely agree with u. it’s honestly scary how they deal with teens and their mental health.
@@mikayla9501 In the past they used to teach children whom were left handed that they were stupid and forced them to write right handed. I see the treatment they use on children/teenagers/young adults and it is still literally that. You like many other kids are wired differently and to partake in this society you have to conform to the immesurably high standards/pressure society demands from you. So they make you fit in with drugs, instead of teaching you to learn from your own behaviour. I had mental issues myself and for me (not recommended for anyone that actually needs it), but for me i have refused treatment. Best decision i have ever made in my life, and you will learn when you are older that the ultimate contentment with the self comes when you are able to identify and articulate your own issues and deal with them. Focus on what you want to do and if you don't know figure it out or ask adults because we've all been there. You are at an age with a world of possibility ahead of you. And like me you might figure out that you never needed medication to begin with and that a lot of treatment for example for ADHD, mild autism, depression is being driven by the subscription pad, instead of helping by shaping them and make them understand themselves and their own behaviours. You'll be ok. I will say, that as a former ritalin user myself. It is completely ok if you need it (can't estimate your situation from here), it does have its uses for focussing (dose should never be more than 80 mg a day, if you are on 40 MG like i was that is completely ok). But feel free to quit as well. And at some point you will find out, you don't need it. Don't use it in the weekends and in the holidays, then go to a few classes without it. You might notice no difference at all.
You can be charged with a felony such as murder, robbery, assault in most states at age 12 and in some states as young as ten years. Why? Because the law says a person of that age has the ability to form the required reasoning to plan the crime and more importantly to understand exactly what they were doing. Further, and this is key, the law in most states says that children of the same age we are talking about when it comes to gender transformation have the mental ability to understand the consequences of their actions. So, if a young person can understand the consequences of being the getaway driver in a robbery, whey are they too young to understand the consequences of putting puberty on hold?
@@SiobhanS1868 I agree with you. In some states, people as young as 14 can be charged as an adult for felony crimes. My point was that society has an odd view of what children can and cannot be responsible for. If a 16-year-old is late to school five times in some states the principal of the school and bend them over and spank them like a child. If the same 16-year-old gets mad about that and punches the principal in the face 2 seconds after the spanking is done, they can be charged as an adult for felony assault. We need to make up our minds about how much can a child reason and figure out the consequences of their actions. A 17-year-old boy can be told by his parents that they have decided to have him circumcised. There is nothing wrong with his penis nor foreskin - the parents have just decided they like the way a circumcised penis looks. No matter how much he protests, almost every urologist in the US would prescribe a Xanax for him to take before he leaves home, put him on a procedure table, and slice off his foreskin - even if he had told the urologist very loudly that he did not want it done. If that same 17-year-old came back the next day and trashed the urologist's office in revenge, he'd be charged as an adult in criminal court. We need to make up our minds.
"If I could go back I would tell myself that I don't have to be a certain way to be a woman" This part really resonated with me. I grew up in a very very sexist environment that had very strongly held traditional views of what it means to be a woman. I didn't identify with and disagreed with those views so much I began to think I wasn't a woman. It coincided with a time in my life filled with mental issues and uncertainty. Those two environments combined I believe is what caused me to really believe I wasn't a woman. Flash to now, and I have a much more healthy understanding of and love for my femininity. If you treat women like being a woman is a bad thing to be, I believe there will be more and more people being confused about their gender identity.
Omg same, I totally went to a phase because my family has very traditional gender roles and I thought the way I was, was wrong if I was a woman. For 2 years i acted and dressed like a man and then I realized I can be myself and at the same time feminine! I don’t have to have long hair or cross my legs to be a woman! And not enough people understand that!! And it leads to this kindve mentality
You hit on something really important there at the end, about love for your femininity and "if you treat women like being a women is a bad thing to be" there are a large group of people that seem to have real negative views on both masculinity and femininity, its like they want to destroy both.
I’m an older trans teen myself and I’m waiting for my brain to fully develop before going on hormones myself. I’m still experimenting on what works out for me, and I’m more than willing to wait so I don’t regret my decisions. I’m going to therapy currently to help myself emotionally and it’s going great. I wish the best for Elle and other detransitioners who are struggling emotionally and physically. ❤️ Edit - Y’all making being trans look like it’s a bad thing 😭. If that’s what works out for someone, y’all shouldn’t judge someone for it lmao. Let them be.
same here. I’m giving myself some time to finish puberty, turn at least 18, and really find out who I am. I just don’t wanna take any risks I might regret later
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She sounds so much like a cis man, it's scary how people are trying to justify kids doing this. Kids that are younger than Elle, and if you dare question why transitioning works for some but not for others, then apparently you're a transphobe
Snake she wasn’t fully assessed, if you can show proof of someone who had multiple therapy sessions with a gender therapist and long assessment and then for them to detransition then your point will have validity.
@@kanekicentipede8074 Isn't that a problem if she wasn't fully assessed yet she was still put onto hormone therapy? Her body might now have irreversible changes now. That shouldn't be allowed.
@@amandavieira2543 What? How? Anyone should wait until they're an adult and FULLY understand the scope of such a choice. Advertising and grooming an 8 year old to do it is evil. They don't even know what their favorite color is most of the time it's just what the outside influence suggest is their favorite. Only in some cases are kids truly forced to mature so fast but even then they're easy to convince of things. We have to Literally drill cautions in their heads for years for it to stick like stranger danger. Allowing them to change their genders physical appearance and cut parts off is WAY too much when they're not even in puberty yet. It's sad people think that's strength when it's irresponsible.
Blaire can you address the teachers pushing trans " education " to children. I have a very feminine 12 year old boy with asd, limited verbal skills, learning disabilities etc, that doesn't wear girls clothes ( I've never offered them either) but loves pink, long hair, and playing with girls. My son's teacher used him as an axample on a zoom lesson of a child pretransition so I stopped her mid lesson and removed my son and later she explained that she and my son had " talked" about it ( odd considering he's basically nonverbal but ok) and my son was a girl and I needed to let him be herself. I did go to children's services because I called it grooming but was denied help, the principal had my back sort-of and reprimanded her for being inappropriately involved but how many kids are learning they are trans from teachers? My son may choose his way as an adult but he's a child that had no idea or care about gender because he's disabled he just wants to play with his gal Pals because they are kinder than 12 year old boys, he's sensitive because he has a sensory processing disorder not gender dysphoria. How would that inferring have directed another child? I know other parents who have had similar interactions as alot of asd kids have undefined gender boundaries and it's scary
As a bisexual man I always played more with the girls because they are more fun to hang around with honestly it means nothing and teachers today should be ashamed a classroom is for teaching Not Preaching
The thing that really bothers me is why is these people's identity so strongly related to their sex and gender. Surely you can be a man in stereotypically women's clothing and vice versa. I am especially bothered when they say I am a man but I feel like a woman...how do you know what being a woman feels like? A woman is literally just defined as a female adult human being, nothing more nothing less.
Yeah, I feel bad for her. Im 14 an i used to think I was ftm, I even took testosterone starting in October the 28th and stopped in like December 13th I think. I quickly stopped after realizing it wasn't right for me, and i was lucky enough to have not gone through any physical changes from testosterone, only emotional changes. 1. I was on the lowest dose 2. I only took it for a month and a half 3. Since I was on gel packets, I had to take it everyday and would take my testosterone at like 5 am then 3 pm the next day or just not take it at all. I was very sloppy and couldn't keep up, although it was probably just my subconscious telling me I shouldn't be doing this. Im living as female again which is good. I feel so bad for this girl and I deff would've been in her shoes if I didn't realize fast enough.
@@wastedproductions45 I've said it since this whole transgender thing began to become more prevalent. It's either a child rebelling or it's trendy. When I was a teen in the 90s, being gay was trendy. Kids, my friends, people I knew very well and loved, would be gay for a month or a year and then all of a sudden they were straight again. And yes, this happened a lot amongst the kids who didn't have great relationships with their parents. So, I think it is a way for kids to rebel. There isn't anything transphobic about that at all. Trans folks, like Blair, who are who they are and didn't make the decision to transition as a CHILD aren't a part of that trend.
If one of my children ever wants to transition... I'll be asking them to also watch videos of de-transitioner so that way they get the full picture of the process and the positives and the negatives. You can be a feminine male and a masculine female.. i hate how people are transitioning to fit stereotypes
@@bippitybopitybooty1127 All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
The same thing happens to body positive groups. They tend to bully members who share they wish to lose weight or change their lifestyle and habits. It seems to happen to many groups who claim to support you, only as long as you stay on their side. That is not support people!
Extremism in all of its flavors! I see the same within the group of feminists, ppl who actually just hate men. Equality isnt about hate lol. Anyone fighting an equality battle needs to understand yes they have fought hard, but supporting each other DESPITE differences and deciding to trans or de trans is part of that acceptance. Anything thats not inclusive support is extremism and hypocrisy.
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I remember back when the TransTrender craze was at its highest point, back in 2016. Strange to think how this is already four years ago. But the thing is, I absolutely knew that a few years later, there would come several stories on how people who took hormones back then would regret it later etc. And again, since we´re talking about underage people transitioning, it shows that transitioning is a thing you have to decide as an adult. As you both said, as a teenager you don´t have any ideas of the future.
@Speaking Truth puberty blockers come with their own set of problems including that they lower IQ. Also going through puberty can solve that desire to be the opposite sex.
at least the psychiatrist or the professionals should be professional and not one sided. I believe in her original video she said she got a "old lesbian" (does not matter, maybe it does) which more told her about her problems instead of listening to Elle and gave out the hormone perscription like on the same day... Currently in my country it's very strict and slow if you want to get it paid via social security. You need one or two different psychiatrist for up to a year to get the go for hormones from a doctor and I think you have to be an adult. At least a few years ago. This can be terrible especially for children. I totally get it, avoid the wrong puperty and the chance of beeing passable is so much higher... but when the psychiatrists or even not as qualified persons have a agenda and are one-sided, it just can go wrong. So wrong for a lot of people :/
Elle didn't feel trans since early childhood. That's the difference between her and people like me who transitioned at 15. I felt like that since kindergarden. I had thought about it for 10 years before taking testosterone and she only thought about it for a few years. I was seeing psychiatrists and psychologists for 5 years before the decision was made. I'm happy to live in Germany where this was possible. I don't think that it is smart to prohibit transitioning for every young person. Parents, doctors and psychiatrists should decide whether it's ok, not legislation.
my idea of the future when I was 16 was getting into the Navy... that never happened and I've been lost and adrift ever since. I THOUGHT I had found a path for my life as a truck driver... but someone else ruined that for me and now I have nothing. I;m bisexual, and someone recently suggested that with a 50%male/50% female personality that I 'might be non-binary' whatever the hell that means? IDFK anymore. all I do know is last time I had my testosterone levels checked they were half what would be considered 'normal' for my age
Dax Munro hey there, I have recently stopped my transition and would be interested if you guys/gals have any experience with how a voice develops that has just been broken by testosterone (only was on T for six months). Will the break ever go away or get smoother? I thought it should, eventually, when the vocal chords have ‘settled in’ where they are now. But no voice trainer seems to have any experience with this.
@@Connie-ty5zb glamorizing being trans is wrong on all levels? you should have just sat there and ate your food. I've never met a Connie that wasn't a total uber bitch.
I do wonder if her voice will maybe partially return to normal after a few years, now that she has stopped taking hormones, or if it's completely permanent
@@cstef5592 I think it's permanent because it's a change in the shape of their voice box. I might be wrong but I remember hearing that males have oval voice boxs and females have kinda circle voice boxes. Also, young males whose voices changes are permanent but hopefully she finds a way to have a female sound voice.
safenightsarewicked FTM voice change actually happens naturally when transitioning with hormones. Voice changing, hair growth, and a couple other things are permanent
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I'm going to comment this again, but I used to think I was trans when in reality it was trauma and an eating disorder. I didn't transition back when I was 15 because I was scared of what my conservative parents would think so I decided to wait until I turned 18, and I'm so glad I did, because I think I would have ruined my life. I'm not saying people who know they are trans since they are very young are mistaken, I'm just trying to communicate the importance of therapy and not rushing into medical transition as soon as you come out
Exactly. I know, after 4 years of knowing I'm trans, that starting T is the right thing for me. I'm 19, and will be almost 20 before I can start T, but I know I'm not trans because of some past trauma or because I don't feel like I can be a more masculine woman. I know I'm trans, and I'm glad to have waited. I don't think I could've started at 15 anyways, but I'm glad I didn't, in case I turned out to be a tomboy and not trans. It's important to wait and realize why you want to transition.
Alex Haven Blackburn no because kids brains aren’t developed & aren’t mature enough to make those decisions. You can change the hair and clothes and style but to make drastic changes like hormone treatments and such is iffy. The suicide rate is significant with people who have body dysphoria regardless of transitioning. There’s more to look at here
"Presenting" as a man and BEING a man are two intensely different things. I find that choice of word noteworthy when used by de-transitioners trying their best to explain themselves. These interviews are so valuable and I'm coming across more and more of them online. I'm hoping these brave people will work hard on their thinking and articulation/vocabulary because their voice are desperately needed right now. Thank you.
I see a lot of females who de-transition from male usually have sexual abuse in their past. I feel so bad that they have to go through that, then change their lives forever because of something horrible like that. I wish more people talked about this!!
Some of the gay men I know, were abused and started to see themselves as gay afterward, while others were targeted and abused by older children and adults specifically because of their sexuality. A friend of mine that I always felt was in denial and believed himself to be gay, was in fact heterosexual. Unfortunately he was abused and believed that it was his fault and associated that abuse with weakness and weakness with homosexuality. He spent his teenage years living as gay and was in a few unsatisfying relationships. You'd be surprised at the harassment he got when he came out as straight, it was very sad.
Chris Jackson thank you for this i’ve been trying to tell ppl this and i’m straight and ppl would call me lgbt phobic bc i would get info that my actual lgbt friends were abused, and started to wonder how much of the community has been traumatized
Jules I feel the same way , I identify myself as bisexual but I lean more towards women cause yes I am sexually attracted to them but at the same time I feel “safer” with them ... I’ve had a lot of bad experiences w men which has given me an irrational and prejudiced view , and just a general distrust of the male sex and I’m trying really hard to stop feeling this way .
@@themischeifguide I remember watching a video about this guy who was sexually abused as a child and how he now lives happily with his partner. There was this lesbian in the comments section who was very much in denial about sexual abuse playing a role in a person's sexuality. They do not want to talk about these things
adorably smug little bastard it definitely can play a role in sexual identity, but I think we have to be careful equating the two together. The stereotype of gay men being sexual predators or lesbians being assaulted by men, is a very damaging stance. We should be more open in discussing it and helping those in our community who are affected by these issues, but at the same time be aware of how it affects the prevalent stereotypes
How feasible is voice feminization for her to reverse the effects of the testosterone? I feel sad for her that she totally sounds like a guy and not even a lower register voiced woman.
Probably not easy since its more permanent of a change, but she could probably practice vocal work to make it more feminine, similar to how trans women sometimes do cause of their naturally lower voices? Either way, i hope she finds love in herself if its more permanent cause she deserves it
@@hexum7 I'm sure there are. But every female voice I've ever heard that was of a lower range, call it sultry or what you will, still "sounded" like a woman and very feminine. Hers, because it was hormonally altered, sounds like a guy. Maybe a somewhat higher pitched speaking guy, but a guy none the less. But that's just my opinion.
@@DavidFoster1967 I'm a completely straight cis guy but I can pretty much make my deep voice sound like a female's voice (mainly due to ongoing singing practice and voice acting with friends for fun). So it's plausible for her to try and go by this route whilst transitioning back
what people don't understand is that transitioning is typically a "last resort" form of treatment for gender dysphoria, and should only be done if you're positive that therapy is not helping. I feel really horrible for the people that have done irreversible things to their body when they didn't know things could begin to change later on.. : (
It USED to be and then the medical and mental health systems went sideways. I have friends with kids who were prescribed puberty blockers after one therapy session. This will come out as mass medical malpractice down the road.
Why can't both be brave? If someone transitions to another gender because they feel like that's who they are or that's who they want to be, then that is brave. If someone regrets transitioning and detransitions back to their original gender, that is also brave.
@@memegoldbars7602 thank you lmao. People play the semantics game non stop all day everyday. You cant say anything without someone getting something wrong out of it.
I empathize with Elle, she’s very brave sharing her mistakes so other can learn from it. Kids who think they are trans should wait til they are 18-20. Transitioning is not like finding out you are gay ie. ‘when you know you’re gay, you’re gay’. Because if in the future turns out you’re straight/bi instead, you can always go back, it isn’t that forgiving once you’ve transitioned. Trans folks, and I mean ALL trans folks should sit down with adults and think about their future. I personally think, if I- in the future want a kid of my own (in my 30-40s), I wouldn’t be able to if I transition at 12-15. I can WAIT til I’m 18-20, freeze my sperm/egg and save it. Transitioning is a decision with long term, irreversible effects, so please talk about it like it is, be patient, safe and careful.
I started transition at 24 and changed my mind after 6 months of hormones. Swore I was trans, since I was 16. It's possible to be wrong even as an adult. Luckily I dont have to deal with it to an extreme like this but I do have permanent changes to my body.
@@user-wc2jd3nn7u I'm sorry you went through that, and it's very brave of you to share such a vulnerable story online. I completely empathize with detransitioners, I just think that this isn't a black and white issue.
I socially transitioned at 15 and medically transitioned at 17. I'm now in my 20's, I have a very different/more mature concept of my gender identity than I did back then; however, I wouldn't go back for anything in this world, as I probably would've ended my own life otherwise, it was an extremely disparaging time to exist. Perhaps it's not a matter of age (as age doesn't equal maturity), as it is a matter of personal intent in wanting to transition in the first place and the disparities we might face with our gender. Is it due to stigma? Social expectation? Or is it something more innate, like my case and many others', for example. Though I've always been mentally mature at a very young age, which could be another critical asset. The only thing I suggest is to not base it around age at all, it means nothing when people are so different from each other.
@@nibbatron6283 yes, I was very depressed, I think a discomfort can happen with oneself and you can misinterpret it in a way. I didn't like myself, or my body, for sexual abuse I endured very young. I think I just wanted to be someone else, so I didn't have to deal with that part of my life anymore. Everyone is different, I think medical transition should be a prescription, not entirely given out easily. I just signed informed consent papers, and was given hormones. I was so sure that was what I needed. It's really not a knock on anyone trans but I think the issue is more complex for some people. Even when I was so sure that transition was what I needed after living socially male for 5+ years. Using male restrooms and all lol. I think a lot of people need therapy, I never got it, but I think it could have helped me get through those issues without supressing them for so long. I don't regret transition or that time of my life, it taught me a lot, and I'm lucky I don't feel the regrets a lot of people do. Thanks for sharing your story too
Transition as a teen bothers me a lot.. Like.. Society: It’s forbidden to drink alcohol and smoke until you’re 21! Also society: Want some hormones? TAKE THEM ALL.
1) just y'all americans, y'all r so weird with the 21 year thing like you can drive at 16 but not drink??? and 2) i wiiishhhhhhh it was that easy, but it bothers u that ppl get the help they need so they dont kts? ok
Mary Katharine Ham It's because there is a misconception of their message. They are saying "don't make my mistake", not "don't transition". And if you (royal you, not necessarily you Mary) have a hard time seeing the difference in those two statements, that right there is why the offense is taken.
@LaVioletaAmatista There is no "transphobia." People who disagree with the whole trans thing are not phobic. Difference of opinion is not "transphobic." We seriously need to just delete this "phobia" word. People are missusing it so hard nowadays. Its the new buzzword. Everyone has a phobia nowadays. Insert your group you relate to and add phobia and claim everyone who disagrees with you have it. The fucking logic of today.
LaVioletaAmatista of course some people who dont like trans people can use it as an excuse to show that transitioning is not a good idea, but it doesn’t change the fact that some people really do regret it and shouldn’t be hated for that. They made a major mistake that changed their lives so i think its unjust to them to be bashed by the trans community (not all of course) because of it
@LaVioletaAmatista Was that entire rant a definition or did you throw in some of your own spices at the end? If the first, then this person has some irl issues. Im no homophobe, idc who they sleep with honestly. Your definition of transphobe basically seems to just include "do you disagree with trans people?" If your answere is anything but "no" then you are transphobe. I simply do not agree with how people see trans as a positive and good thing. And if you read my comments you should see links to said sources ive come with that would back up my statements. If not i can include them here if you'd like. And you're very welcome to look at my older comments, it's a bit weird and kinda stalker behaviour but im fine with that, i stand for what i say. I do not discriminate these people whatsoever, i simply do not think "trans" is a healthy idea. It seems to stem from a mental health issue, in which case i see it far more productive to cure said illness, than to do what said illness wants. I've also made comparison to BIID, which i've taken from studies done by psychiatrists. Heres what i believe case in point. If you think thats "transphobic" then so fucking be it, i don't care about your buzzwords, they are irrelevant to me. Go and "reeee" somewhere else.
“You can dress how you want, you can wear make up, it doesn’t matter if your a boy or girl, you don’t need to change yourself “ You are perfect the way you are.
@@micheledesfontaine6057 because transgender therapists will not say anything to trans people about not actually being trans, because that can get them fired. I am pretty sure there was an article published recently about this, doctors, therapists, are *all* afraid to say the truth to these teens and mostly their parents in fear of losing their job
@@Jabez0 yeah but if the doctors are actually transgender I believe it would be a different story. Therapy is not about diagnosis but treatment and if you're diagnosing someone who is minor which could disrupt their treatment and the process then you're not doing your job properly. I've been in therapy for 2 years for mental health, and my therapist could of diagnosed me 1000 different things at the time but chose against it because it wouldn't of helped me and focused instead on getting through the things affecting me.
@@micheledesfontaine6057 it wouldnt be different. Psychologists still need to answer to someone. And a lot of trans people are extremely in denial about the existence of detransitioners as a whole. And it would be unprofessional, it sounds like a opportunity for a lot transference from both sides which psychologists mostly intend to avoid.
I imagine a lot of docs are probably afraid of being dragged for being transphobic at this point, that probably influences a lot of their decisions when it comes to putting kids on hormones without making sure that person is certain transitioning is really what they want, folks detransitioning having transitioned as a young teen is probably a good case for making it a process one has to be an adult already to go through
People should spend more time helping young women who deal with mental illness, sexism etc. Encouraging them to take hormones just makes their situation worse
@@phantom2615 She wad 15. You can't blame her, where are her parents? Doctors? This is their fault, it wasn't her decision to make. Not at such young age
funny you said that but people always seem to forget that men deal with mental heal issues as well The rate of suicide is highest in middle-age white men in particular. In 2018, men died by suicide 3.54x more often than women. White males accounted for 69.67% of suicide deaths in 2018. i know it's not a contest of who has it worse but it's relevant to your comment.
this is the end result of too many people having their identities reinforced by the community without prioritizing their own well-being. i hope Elle can get her life back.
Elle is such a beautiful young woman and I am touched so much by her story. It hurts my heart that adults didnt protect her when she was a young girl. So sad...
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**"you dont have to be a certain way to be a woman"** is such an important statement, and i honestly live by it, being someone that went through a lot of confusion relating to my gender. when i was a kid, i genuinely felt very disconnected from femininity to the point where i was *convinced* i would not develop into a woman when i grew up. it took a lot of questioning things, and eventually accepting the defeat of reality, until eventually i realised, i don't have to be "feminine", but that doesn't mean i have to stop being "female". it's like, there are infinite ways to be male or female, and if the vessel you're in doesn't actually cause you great distress, jumping to conclusions and making drastic decisions is not really the way to go. i'm now on the most part very happy to be in a female body, even though the way i act, dress, present, or the interests i have and choices i make are on the most part not typically feminine. i'm so glad i didn't grow up surrounded by people who actively push for transitioning in childhood or early teenage years, or even seeing content that makes it seem like any degree of not conforming implies that you're trans and should do something about it, because i'm sure that it would have got to me when i was at my most uncertain, and i would easily have lost a lot about myself if id got on hormones at that time also... this is just in my personal case, anyway. also, Elle, thank you for giving your story and being brave to express your truth! it must have been a very difficult thing to go through at such an early age, when there's so much unknown still about life itself...
My thoughts exactly! The best thing we can do as a society is to allow men and women the freedom to express themselves in whatever way feels true to them, regardless of what sex they were born as or what box they're supposed to fit into. Feminity and masculinity are just ideas and we, as people, as so much more than that. Plus, the internet has taught me that there are fans for everyone. Plenty of people out there find "feminized" men and "masculinized" women attractive.
+L RX Just curious if you found yourself becoming more "feminine" as time went on, I ask because a dear friend of mine felt the same way, and admitted as much to me (her situation was driven by not-traditionally beautiful appearance as well, but she was also as tomboy-ish as they come). Later on, however, as she got into her late teens and early 20's, she dramatically (and naturally) changed in both personality and appearance. She's still a bit tomboy-ish, but you'd have to know her to see that.
What she said, "You don't have to be a certain way to be a woman," was also one of the thoughts that helped me to accept myself as female. I think as a child there was very much sexist stereotypes about how "men and women are so different" and how men are logical and women are more emotional, and just the way children my age would argue over who was better, boys or girls, and I came to the conclusion that boys were better. I didn't like girls, because of the stereotypes I had internalized, and I didn't feel like I could relate. So "I must be different," I thought, "I must actually be a boy in the wrong body." However, when I got to middleschool and these stereotypes weren't stressed as much or even really talked about, because at that school no one really cared, and parents had stopped buying pink, girly stuff for their daughters and instead the teenage girls were making their own decisions about what they wanted to wear and what they liked. I began to realize that all the young women (and older women) around me were unique. There were different kinds of women, and I could be whatever kind I felt like. It was that freedom to still be myself and not try to fit into a mold that allowed me to be content with being a woman.
I’m a mother of a trans man. For me personally, “dealing” with the reality of my child feeling miserable and so conflicted about who they were, was difficult. All I could see was this beautiful, talented person that was full of light. Always made us laugh. Someone who I was proud of and honestly wished I could have been more like at that age. I felt like such a failure when I learned that my oldest daughter was trans. Not because I’m close minded. Not because I’m transphobic or whatever people might think. But because I felt like I had not conveyed my love clearly enough or supported enough or just wasn’t there enough. Now the “child” I’ve raised and envisioned a future for , hates who they are and now, will no longer exist. At least that’s how I felt in that moment. It all sounds very selfish now. But for me, as a mom, it was almost like my child had died. Years have past now and I see things differently but my heat breaks and memories flood back to when I had a teenager that was going thru so much. Prayers to Elle. I was introduced to this channel a couple of years ago by my youngest daughter, for no reason other than Blaire’s world views. My daughter is heterosexual but has the maturity to see past labels and loves people just for who they are. I’m a new subscriber now. I’ve only watched from time to time. So maybe you’ve covered the topic....but do you often hear from the parents of trans men and women? What that experience was like for them too? I know there are support groups out there. I live in a well accepted LGBT community now but I didn’t previously. I just think it’s important to share, when family members “struggle” to accept the changes a trans family member goes thru, it doesn’t mean they don’t love them any less. As a mom, I just don’t want to see my “kids” hurting in any way, shape or form. And if we have the knowledge or experience it may be an easier adjustment for everyone. Sorry so long winded here!! 🙈 Thanks for all you are doing Blaire!! Appreciate you sharing this topic. ❤️
Hey, it was hard for my mother as well, I'm a trans man (I'm 20. I've waited to be mature enough to do so)... It's ok as long as you help your kid and don't be afraid to ask questions. I keep telling my mom no matter what's her questions no matter how harsh or weird it is ill answer it because I understand it's hard for you parents as well. (and family members ) Stay strong and I'm proud of you for doing everything you can to support your children. Cheers.
SS edits This woman comes from a different time and it was difficult for her to understand at first. But she tried and loves and accepts her child for who he is. This woman is a wonderful mother, idk what the problem is
"My puberty was medicalized" omg I think that's a very accurate statement for many young teenagers right now who struggle with the same question about their own identity. And how it's a risk when you are with the wrong doctors who diagnose incorrectly.
It's sad, because I had the opposite experience. I have depression, anxiety, and narcolepsy. Puberty and my years as a teen were hell. Doctors told me to suck it up and just get over it. That being tired 24/7 and sleeping 15+ hours a day was just 'normal teen behavior'. That I was just acting out from hormones when I'd have panic attacks and mental breaks. Doctors (most of them) just don't care.
Forget the wrong doctors.....what about having the wrong parents? Having a trans kid is seemingly a badge of honour now. It's not just a trans issue, it's a whatever it takes to stand out issue. I read a story yesterday of a mother who has set up an Instagram account for her TODDLER. What kind of parent does that? Apparently the kid has 100K followers already.
im 15, and im a detransitioner. i was on testosterone for 11 months, and on december 15th of 2023 i stopped. thank GOD i stopped when i did. im now 3 months off and my face has gone back to normal, my voice has gotten wayy higher, and i look and sound like a girl again. im so fucking glad i snapped back into reality and realized how wrong it was, and how forced it was upon me.
Omg wtf. I am so sorry that happened you must of started so young.. As a gender queer person this is why our youth should not be able to consent to any of this.
Inaya Said they shouldn’t use hormones period. A mistake wasn’t made when a person is born. And the fact that these parents support their children doing this is sick. That’s poor parenting. As a parent your duty is to mold your child into the man or woman they need to become. Not say yes you can do whatever you want to do
@@78freewheeler not to that extent hun. Parents just need to talk more about this with their children and explain that TIME is needed before life decisions.
I myself am transgender, and I appreciate these people coming out and educating others about this whole "community". Although, it does make me think about the legitimacy of what I'm going through. . .
I would say it is good that it makes you think about the legitimacy of what you're going through. If what you are doing is truly right for you, you will keep coming up with that as your answer--that it is right. And if it is not right for you, the sooner you realize it, the better.
spermy the moth I agree. Frog, I think you should take your time and only start chemicaly transitioning when you are 1. a legal adult and 2. when you are absolutely sure you want to. Wish you all the best!
It's like covering your entire body with tattoo you wanted when you're a teenager, and you have to live with it for rest of your life without ever fully removing it. Transition is fine, but don't decide too early - for your future self.
this experience is not contingent on al trans people. there are plenty that transition at a very young age and are extremely happy with their transition.
My heart breaks for her. I think she still has a passably feminine face, but when she talks people will immediately think she’s just a MtF. I detransitioned 3 months into T, but I’m lucky. My voice hadn’t changed as much in that time, but it is slightly... gruffer I think? Like deeper and harsher, but I have learned to adjust my vocal chords to make it sound almost like it used to. I can’t get rid of that rough and bass-y undertone tho, and that kills me some days. I rarely talk in public despite still being able to comfortably raise my pitch to sound more feminine. Also there’s the “clit worm” as I call it for some reason lmao. Good for pleasure, looks gross as fuck to me. You clit starts growing within the first week(sometimes even within the first 48hrs!) of starting T and so you can imagine how different it looks now even just from 3 months. ~1in doesn’t sound like much, but when you’ve come to terms with being a cis woman, it’s really distressing to see it there. I’m blessed to have a wonderful girlfriend who doesn’t give a single shit about my baby dick, but I’ll never stop being self conscious about it. I gave myself my dysphoria like a dumbass lmao
the second paragraph is something i’ve honestly never thought of before lmao. in fact i forgot that happened haha! can i ask how old you are? or at least when you transitioned for the 3 months?
I also detransitioning (almost) 3 months into T, and I can relate to this "gruffer" voice. It's not too much deeper since i've focused on speaking from my head voice again, but it definitely has a rougher and more bass-y undertone too, which i really don't like :/
When I was 14, I cut my hair short, rarely wore makeup, and genuinely thought I was a boy for around 3 months. I could've transitioned, but I am SO GLAD I didn't. I am so proud of being a woman. I still don't wear makeup or dresses (outside of my Irish Dance competitions) or high heels (stupid female torture devices), but I'm me. And I'm a woman. If you are under ANY doubts about transitioning, PLEASE hold off until you are an adult. Don't let _anyone_ (parents, other family or friends - whether online or in-person) pressure you into changing who you are. That is YOUR decision. YOU are the only one who has to live with the consequences of changing your body - and the same goes for tattoos, piercings, or even just changing your hair. Don't do it just because of pressure, otherwise you will seriously regret it. Something as drastic as changing your gender may not be permanent, but it is NOT a decision to be taken lightly. If you make a mistake, you can feel like you've wasted YEARS of your life presenting as someone you were not. Switching back and forth can prove to be traumatic on the mind and the physical body. Wait until you're 18, and if you're still _absolutely positive_ independent of anyone else's desires, then do what you feel is right for you. You'll thank yourself later for being 100% sure before making a life-changing decision such as this.
Well written I believe there's kind of a push on young minds to make them believe they are trans. No you don't have to be a typical male or female but transitioning at such a young age is a huge mistake that most seem to regret. Pushing kids to change genders is not supportive at all.
I think a lot of people need to know that there is a reason why puberty blockers exist. The effects aren't permanent, so if you aren't trans, it won't be drastic, but, because it delays puberty, it can be a huge lifesaver for people who are actually trans.
same. especially in america (im not from the US but i currently live here) it feels like you are being pushed into those boxes or stereotypes of how you should act or behave to be “normal”. especially as a woman, with societal pressures and expectations, it can be very difficult to understand that you are a perfectly good woman while not being traditionally feminine, dont use makeup, like clothes, babies, weddings and whatever else. im 35 and have never used make up, dont wear heals, im not traditionally feminine and am i’m very introverted and private and have interests and hobbies that are not typically female either. and i’m still a women, attracted and married to a man and it took me a long time to realize that there is nothing wrong with being your own brand of woman who does things her own way. and this is what we need to teach little girls rather than encourage them to take rushed decisions that might change their lives forever. and i’d say wait til youre 25 as it takes your prefrontal cortex quite some time to fully develop. i was a mess as a teen, depressed and unhappy for multiple reasons and ended up getting out of it being a fairly happy person. just the thought of being recommended to transition as a teen (and possibly accepting it) is terrifying.
It is incredibly irresponsible of parents to allow their kids to attempt to transition into a different gender. Teenagers are still kids who have many things to learn about life. So ridiculous!
Special thanks to Elle for being so honest and telling her story.. What do you guys wanna see on my channel next?
Love you blaire
Do a video on Kaitlin Bennet, pls
I want the natural hair back.
The beastiality woman on Twitter and the weirdos in the comments. 😂
Onision in jail would be amazing heres to hoping
i feel so bad for her. she should not be attacked ever for making a mistake. she was lost and didn’t know where to turn. she was too young to make that choice
She never made a mistake. She just learned a lesson.
ɮօʊռċɛ օʄʄ that’s getting way off topic. Chill out
ɮօʊռċɛ օʄʄ i’m not saying attack as in physical attack but attacking her online. because there are people who try to silence detransitioners because they want to make it seem as if no one regrets transitioning.
Ashubel Sam she did make a mistake and she learned from it. it isn’t her fault tho. she was lost and thought that transitioning was the answer
Dude like how would someone be able to make such a decision at 15 ... it be madness to think that was okay
This is really sad... this person will probably always be perceived as a trans woman which is gonna bring a whole other set of problems
VV i never thought about that but yeah :/
Lol trans women don’t have such deep voices
Yeah therapy requirements should be in place before making the choice
Ya she'll probably actually develop dysphoria now which is so sad :(
@@andreaam805 They don't after practice or shorting the vocal cords with surgery.
Doesn't mean they can't speak in a deep register.
blaire: 'i started transitioning when i was 20'
girl you LOOK 20
@@upthevilla9505 girl*
@@upthevilla9505 Then why are you here? She is a woman. Doesn't matter if was born a man. She wants to be called she.
@@upthevilla9505 pls get the fuck out why are you even here
@@upthevilla9505 No it really doesn't. Why are you here? This channel is a safe place from people like you.
Sensei Lion dude, YOU learn biology. Maybe if you researched it you would find out sex and gender are different things and there’s scientifically more than XX and XY chromosomes. Love seeing transphobes ignore actual facts lmao
I’m a therapist. I grieve for this beautiful young woman. Young people who believe they are transgender NEED deep, skillful therapeutic care. If the emotional/psychological issues are addressed and resolved and the person still believes they are transgender, so be it. But so, so often, there are emotional/psychological issues - often in the family system - that are manifesting in the rejection of the self/the body. No one should make any decision in life - great or small - from a basis of self-hatred. This is consistent as I work with trans adolescents and their families: abject hatred of their femininity (for girls). This needs to be explored, not “fixed” by transitioning to male.
I love how you worded this. These ideas need to be explored!
Thank you for speaking out and speaking the truth as a therapist!
@Love 713 In my field, we use the term collusion. It’s serious. It does great harm. Ultimately, it serves the therapist alone.
100%
When I was a teen, I wanted to be male because I was bullied for not wearing make-up and being "feminine" enough. I also kept hearing about women having to wear high heels to work and just hated the thought so much. I'm honestly glad that was in the early 2000s, when we weren't as "woke". I might have made a terrible mistake I would still live to regret.
I still almost never wear make-up and never have worn high heels in my life, but I don't want to be a man. I just want to be a woman who is not a stereotype.
It mostly makes me mad and sad when they already label small kids as trans because they aren't a walking stereotype. I remember when nobody worried much about a tomboy phase in a prepubescent girl.
This is why therapy is so important for teenagers. Sometimes parents are quick to want to "fix" their child, and see psychiatry as the easiest option. Medication can be extremely helpful, but it is not a cure-all. It should only be used to help calm symptoms so the client can actually work through their problems.
Completely agree. This is also why I wish more Endocronogists demand a letter from a therapist before allowing those underage from starting hormone therapy.
It’s also why it’s insanity to give children hormonal treatments etc when the same hormones are frowned upon by UFC athletes for health risks
So I agree with to a degree.
As someone with bpd I can tell u when I tried to get rid of my meds cus "it's drugs!" I saw changes right away, therefore I couldn't function in therapy and could barely focus.
And tbh it was recently.
I didn't take them for a week and because of it, I couldn't get out of bed, it triggered my eating disorders and suicide thoughts.
When I told it to my therapis he called my doctor, now I had 2 options in that moment either going to the hospital or keep on taking them and on time, and lemme talk u, the change was and is crazy it worked like magic, I started to see how much calmer I feel, I started talking more, and eating normally! It was the moment when it hit me how important medications are, and in way, underrated. U hear a lot of hate when it comes to that and a lot of horror stories about it, but like if u go a bit deeper u will find more ppl just like me.
Obviously it's not an only fix but sometimes it should be the first option because when ur brain is unbalanced no amount of therapy could help (speaking from experience as I said)
I DON'T THINK THERAPY ISNT GOOD!
It's great and been helping me a lot!
What I've learned from the recent weeks is that, the right combination between therapy and meds can be literly life saving!
@Noot Noot It should be illegal to transition under 18 years old.
danneltheflannel agreed!
I feel so bad that her voice got so deep and she can’t do anything about it :/
There are probably ways she can change her voice, all is not lost
It might get better with years of detransition. After all, she did take hormones for several years and has only briefly been off them.
Also, see how Blaire's voice continued to change over years. It's a lot smoother and more 'natural' now - maybe some voice coaching helped Blaire and can also help Elle?
TooltheWetSprocket Not taking hormones won’t make her voice go back to normal. The reason why men have deeper voices than women is because the testosterone causes the vocal cords to become “longer” than a woman’s, so the slower vibration causes a deeper voice. You can’t really reverse that.
Hailey Marie you can get surgery to change that
@@ztr3v most trans women dont want that surgery because it can really fuck up ur voice worse
Puberty is scary and confusing and kids are always looking for ways to define themselves and fit in somewhere. Parents shouldnt be so quick to completely agree w whatever their kid defines themselves as.
@ɮօʊռċɛ օʄʄ that's such a random comment
@Chatter Box Yeah gender fluid is just teenagers going through puberty and feeling like they need to be 100% stereotypical gender while in reality it's just your personality. And they feel this safety and reassurement when they go together calling themselves this. Now we at the point where they are forcing speech and ideologies through fear of being "canceled/fired/shunned". All because children are growing up in a world that fucks so much with your mental and they dont get the help they need.
There are also non-permanent things they can do to transition when they're that young. But its over-looked because HRT is the end goal
@Chatter Box Im a 20 year old male and still struggling with my gender identity but I feel more confident in it compared to a month ago. My mental problems made me unhappy with life, I felt like I was missing something. Add on to that I dont like cars,sports,typical male things. Love female clothing and dressing up as one and make up. I was drunk every day to stop myself from thinking about my actual problems in life. And started feeling trans. Now I only drink in the weekend for fun and am working on the problems and see that I am happy with my sex/gender you see some guys cosplay female characters wear makeup and still are dudes. Yes I could call myself fluid. But I know my sex is male and can like feminine stuff. I'm just a reverse tomboy, because I still find being a dude easier and more myself. Went on a tangent but your story felt quite similar with the jealousy and that interests dont make you a certain gender.
@@Anima-bribe tomgirl. I just say tomboy and tomgirl, since it's easy to get the idea across saying it that way. I'm pretty much average by comparison but I wish more ppl would just be individuals, whatever that entails. You've only got one life so do your thing.
This is why *real* therapy is needed, not affirmation "therapy". Affirmation therapy is essentially the same as someone going to a therapist saying they're suicidal and the therapist says to the person to commit suicide.
That's not even close lol. Affirmation therapy is meant to build trust with the patient and help them discover more about themselves and draw their own conclusions. It gets better results than trying to reject a person's feelings when they come in for help
@@Ben-li9zb Children aren't old enough to draw their own conclusions lmao This is evident
@@TheSadie9110 so children arent old enough to draw their opinions? If a child thats biological female says they are female, would u say that children arent old enough to draw their own conclusions THEN?
@@fwedlovesbwead No children aren't old enough to make LIFE CHANGING decisions. They aren't old enough and their brains are not developed enough yet to make such decisions.
@Mansa Musa ??? help?? are u saying ur transphobic? or are u just saying that biologically by having a uterus your female. If so, i can understand that.
“You don’t have to be a certain way to be a woman”
Demi Colbert Ironically, that concept is what motivated me to transition. I always felt like a woman, but I thought I’d make a terrible girl, so I kinda gave up on it at one point
preach
@@softlyfalling8563 i feel you but then i started listening to Blaire when she said "Can you imagine yourself growing old as your transitioned self?" and I just couldn't, which made me not want to transition
Just a woman. Which she’s always been clearly
@@softlyfalling8563 "I always felt like a woman"
How do you know what a woman feels like?
I love that blaire puts out the cons of transitioning even tho she is trans because not everyone who thinks they should transition really ends up wanting that when they get the procedures. Transitioning is a huge decisions and you should know the pros and cons of it
De transitioning is sooooo common. Its sad becuse its to late for most to have kids. This is why kids shouldent do this. They will fuck up there lives
It's trans activist fault they literally encourage young kids and teens who maybe even just having a teenage dysphoria and turning things that lead for them to do for that to happen. And then the ppl don't get throw puberty both physically and mentally grow they shouldn't transition... Yeah as they say they should remember Tomboys exist. So do femguys. And yea talking about detransictiom it's like taboo...
@@MaelZack lol thats y more ppl need to talk about it. More then transitioning. Haveing a happy normal life is easy. But the left trying to destroy normal life. They want u miserable and to spread that missery
That's why I agree with Blaire that teens and young kids shouldn't transition. In my opinion, it should be around the age of 18~20 to make that big decision.
'More than one way to be a women' literal feminism!! How have liberals got so wrong...oh yeah its intransdental to there ideology. Magdalen burns we miss you. Blaire is more on point as a feminist than theese fools
Blaire needs her own talk show. She is such a mature and level-headed human being.
YES, Blaire plz girl
I HATE talkshows, but damn it all if I wouldn't change that opinion if Blaire had one
Yes! Agree! Real honest issues of today's teens, young and older adults.
Blair White should've been the one who got her own talk show not iiSuperwomanii
Lmao I love her but no she's not mature and level headed she's quick to insult people who disagree with her
8:48 This right here is so powerful. I remember growing up in a very sexist household and at 4 years old praying to God I would wake up with a penis. I hated everything about being a girl at that time. Then as I got older I realized that I didn’t hate being a girl. I hated how I was forced to express my femininity. Knowing that interests, colors, activities, careers don’t have a gender changed everything for me. It actually made me proud to be a woman because I felt like it was my responsibility to be true to myself and represent my definition of womanhood.
Yes! This!
We should all be living for eternity and focused on morality (including being grateful for God's design--he made us all completely unique with varying degrees of beauty, masculinity, and femininity--instead of vanities and the praises of mankind. God's definition of femininity is very different from mankind's and does not involve heels, makeup, and acquiring praise and/or lust for our outward appearance. Likewise, helping others is more praiseworthy in God's eyes than accumulating excess possessions. ua-cam.com/video/86dsfBbZfWs/v-deo.html
Freud called this stage in a girl's development "penis envy," lol. He may have been right. Freud believed most women don't remember this stage because it is at about 2 or 3 years old and they repress those feelings. If the girl gets through this stage successfully she will accept her lack of a penis and when she grows up she will enter into a relationship with a man and he can "share" his penis with her through sex and marriage. If she doesn't get through this stage successfully, Freud thought it could cause her to become a lesbian.
Yes! Exactly! That’s how I felt and still struggle with feeling sometimes. It isn’t my body I hate- it’s the way people treat me in my immediate circle.
So true.
I really empathize with Elle- especially when she said she didn’t have to be a certain way to be a woman. Our situations seem similar. I’ve questioned my gender since I was about 10 years old. I’m now 18, and after a long time contemplating that I might be FTM, I realized that just because I am attracted to females, because I am not feminine, because I hate dresses and skirts, feel more comfortable in ‘masculine’ groups, my personal expression is gender non-conforming , etc. does NOT necessarily mean I am trans. I might be less feminine, but that doesn’t make me less of a female. I contemplated so many gender identities growing up in the midst of mental health issues and trauma. And now that I’m healing from my trauma and issues I realize that I don’t have to change to be accepted by myself or anyone else. I am who I am. I was so preoccupied by the idea of ‘boy vs girl’ I never took into consideration that it’s not that simple- every boy is not alike and neither is every girl. I wish I could’ve realized sooner, but I’m glad I finally realized, because I could’ve had to go through the stress and pain Elle is currently going through if I decided to transition when I was younger. My heart goes out to Elle (and Blaire too, she’s great). This was a nice video.
Logan L same I’m glad I realized I wasn’t and i never went through anything
Logan L wonderful story! I agree with you 100%. there is no single way to be male or female, and if you don’t fit with a stereotype, it doesn’t make you any less male or female. also, stay strong with anything you’re going through. I give you all the love and support you deserve :)
@@MilkyWay-gi8km There is 2 major way's to be male or female, be born with a penis or vagina and the DNA that causes that. Those are 2 very simple ways. I'm not knocking anyone for what they feel or what they've done and have decided to do since making a decision but that is a fact. No matter how many hormones or surgeries you have you can't alter the DNA. And to the original commenter I hope everything works out and you've found your path and continue to do what you feel is right in your heart and mind
Awesome comment! A "tomboy" is still a girl, a desirable girl, and a unique person. Own who you are and love it! Other people will too! Nothing against trans people, but if you can be happy with who you are, that seems the easier route.
Thank you for sharing your story! I think we do need to recognize that there is a grey area of gender expression, and being a masculine girl or a feminine boy doesn't change your identity!! I hate to see these people give themselves gender dysphoria because they are convinced they need to transition. I'm happy you realized, no one should have to go through this.
When I was a teenager, I thought I was a transgender boy. Now that I am an adult, I realize I’m just a lesbian. I would have regretted transitioning.
And that’s okay. Sometimes you just need some time to think and just be for a minute. Glad it worked out for you.
Nowadays you would be classified as just non-binary lol
Douglas Murray talks about the damaging impact saying every tomboy girl/ feminine boy is a transgender person is having on young gay people and that adults who push children towards being transgender (parents, teachers, health care, etc.) need to stop. And, allowing children who are just at the beginning of really learning about themselves to make life altering decisions is of course a terrible idea.
Puberty is very confusing for everyone. I honestly don't think 18 is old enough to decide... even a tattoo can be removed and we have to wait till 18 to get them but the damage hormones do can never be erased.
when I was a little boy I thought I was a girl and I still do now, the fact that my parents didn't support me by not giving me puberty blockers and hormones when they should have has literally done irreparable damage to me and now I look like a hardcore masculine man that is forced to live a lie until he dies! Fun times! In my opinion, it's always better to do it than regret it later in life!
@@jimbob28642 why didn't you start at 18? How old are you now? Blair was 20 when she started...
More reason why transitioning has to be a mature and informed decision made by an adult.
Agreed.
Agreed.
The hormonal part for sure has to be done carefully. Hormones for young trans ought be for those people who have been consistently trans since like 4 5 6 7...
I kind of agree but the transitioning looks better the younger you go through it since your hormones haven't done their job yet.
Andrew Wells honestly I just think they were lost in finding themselves but that’s very much a drastic change instead of understanding that everyone is different no matter what gender everyone’s unique in the own way and that’s perfectly okay. Very true on the age part but much respect ✨
Elle hit the nail on the head. "how many young impressionable people are getting on the INTERNET and finding 'support groups' that are completely one-sided?"
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
Growing up I was a very tomboyish girl. Many times I was even called “young man”. When I was 8-9 I thought I wanted to be a boy. Looking back I think I just had some very “masculine” interests at the time, I had no idea what transgender was. Perhaps if I was surrounded with the internet and groups of trans people I would have thought I was trans, because I was so impressionable. I can definitely see how this could happen to other young people. Best wishes to you Elle, you seem like such a sweet person ☺️ thank you for sharing your story.
Me too. As an adult through I'm a very happy woman.
How old are you?
M W also in the same boat as you. I was a tomboy since birth because it was my taste naturally. My mom is also both liberal and conservative but she naturally never enforced stereotypical things on me. She never questioned my masculine likes. However she is also a tomboy so I’m glad I wasn’t alone being the way I am
Same. I am 22 years old and have not been that way for about 10 years though.
I think a lot of kids these days show their interest in things considered masculine or feminine. And nowadays people won’t say that it’s okay to like things that are considered masculine or feminine, so the first people that speak to them about it are people who think that if you like feminine things as a boy then you’re actually a trans girl.
Elle is a good friend of mine and i was there when she went through all of this. Please send her love, she is one of the nicest people.
Ms. Meme yes!
Katie beisecker I really hope she’s happy in life.
She seems like it. Please tell her I’m praying for her ❤️🙏🏾
She definitely comes across as kind hearted soul 🥰
Her words are so profound, she is so wise and brave for her age. My best to her. Her voice can be back with surgery and vocal therapy and time. She is very young still and pretty. My love from sunny Mexico.
I have seen girls transition because of dysphoria but afraid to go back. She had the nerve. Incredible. Glad she has good friends.
So trans-people are attacking and silencing people who want to transition back??
That's the most hypocritical thing I've ever heard.
Leave these people alone and let them find their true selves....that's their party line......
I'm an uncle of two gay nephews and whatever they decide I'll support them, you hypocrites are supposed to do that too.
Obviously not talking about you Blaire.....you're a normal human being.
Sad, isn't it ?
I thought we were all supposed to be accepting of everyone, no matter who or what they are?! The people trying to silence anyone that feels they made the wrong choice & need to detransition are the biggest hypocrites alive. This needs to be discussed & accepted as a very real possibility. Detransitioning is going to be a lot more common, in the years to come, because of how people push transitioning into kids. Many of these kids are doing it as a trend or attention. Literally changing your sex, with medication & a lot of times serious surgeries, shouldn’t ever be taken lightly or a “trend”.
It's even worse when you look on tumblr and see the "down with the cis" and "kill all cis people" tags, like that's just so hypocritical. How dare people want to feel comfortable with who they are.
Gays really need a loving uncle. Even if you have great parents, you need more than that. I thank you on behalf of gayness its very self.
Matt MacDonald I think this shows that some are not mentally healthy. To externalise one’s own experience like that, be unable to separate oneself from the outside world, and believe others are attacking you is not a normal mindset.
I just discovered Blaire in the last couple weeks, and she has helped me so much. I am a 36 year old man, I am married with 6 kids, and my oldest daughter who is 13 is all in on transgender. I felt at a loss and simply couldn’t connect to my daughter on this subject. How am I as a father supposed to hold a nuanced and balanced conversation with my daughter on something we both barely understand? We were simply talking past each other and not really understanding our individual positions. Blair’s videos have opened the flood gates for me and my daughter. We have deep conversation and we don’t always agree but for the first time we hear each other and actually have an understanding of what the fuck is happening. Thank you Blaire for saying the words that my old man brain couldn’t formulate
We should all be living for eternity and focused on morality (including being grateful for God's design--he made us all completely unique with varying degrees of beauty, masculinity, and femininity--instead of vanities and the praises of mankind. ua-cam.com/video/86dsfBbZfWs/v-deo.html
Your 36 with 6 kids. Bravo. Make sure a potential tomboy phase doesn't turn out into a lifetime of regret for your daughter. God speed.
@@StraightWhiteMaleNews isn't it interesting that society accepts a girl who goes through a "tomboy" phase and we even have a name for it...but we do not have this acceptance when it comes to boys. Maybe if feminine boys were allowed to go through a "tammygirl" phase, they would grow out of it. As it is now, any teenage boy who expresses feminine interests or wants to dress in a feminine manner will be labeled gay or transgender. Maybe it's just a phase though, like it is with tomboys.
She's 13, it's a phase. Don't encourage her do do sth she'll regret later.
Hi. I'm a 61 y/o Mom of 7 adult children. More than 2 of my kids went through periods of questioning their sexuality and eventually came out the other side as completely comfortable in their biological sex. One of my daughters is gay. I am thinking that maybe you and your daughter might be able to agree to share/exchange stories(like this one here of Blaire's) which give info about your opposing viewpoints, with the goal being to open up discussion and to help your daughter to weigh the pros and cons as fully as possible before taking any life-altering action.
I really like how Blaire knows when to allow the guest to speak and she just listens quietly. Let the guest tell their story.
Really good interviewer and how she adds her story or experience without cutting off Elle
She would be a great journalist.
Yes, but her frequent hair touching and mouth movements are a bit distracting in video form.
kjc748 bad bitches tend to do that .
Thats just common sense. Why are you praising common sense? Hell, its very rare for ppl to interrupt someone they're interviewing. Unless they have an agenda against the person.
Vocal feminization surgery is a thing!! She can get her voice fixed with, time, surgery and medication, and the facial hair can be dealt with as well. If medication doesn't work, laser hair removal will take it off permanently.
Yep but it’s dangerous, painful, & has consequences. The vocal chord surgery that is.
@Remy with enough treatments it is effectively permanent. Very very little growth.
While for her. Some things can be fixed. That's not true of all detransitioners. And there's also the aspect that on some levels she shouldn't need to have it fixed. Which is what they were talking about to some extent.
It’s a risky but she can go to a vocal coach
lazer hair removal does not work with light coloured hair, I can tell you from painful experience.
'My puberty was medicalized'
If thats not a failure by the adults in this child's life I don't know what is.
Wow
The Hippocratic Oath: "Am I a joke you?"
Right
@blurble923 I think there are people who transition who think that all their problems will go away from transitioning, without actually getting to the core of what those problems are they speculate and convince themselves that transitioning is the best course of action. Chris chan is the biggest example i can think of.
Agreed. Did the adults in her life not know that puberty by definition is a rough time? It is for everyone. Why not just keep talking to her, putting in the time, doing the work, helping her through? Why is everything over complicated and over medicated these days?
Nice to see a trans who is actually realistic and isn’t trying to jam a single opinion down peoples throats
“a trans”
It think you meant “trans person” haha
@@jammily7114 guess we can’t call a woman, a woman either then lmao.
A person of the woman variety 😂
@@LilacMorelli How is God good? Good is defined as moral perfection so only God qualifies to be good.
However, Some people think they are good. Have you lied (even once in your entire life), looked with lust at the opposite sex, dishonoured parents, stolen anything, had hatred towards someone, Taken the Lords name in vain, had premarital sex, adultery etc If you answered yes to any one of the above then you are a sinner like the rest of us.
Since all humans have broken the law, all humans will be punished in Hell for breaking the law. But God doesn’t want humans to perish so He sent Jesus to take the punishment that you deserve. So, either receive the mercy & love of God by repenting of sin (forsake sinful ways) & Believe in Jesus as God or pay for your own sins in Hell.
@@LilacMorellitrans isnt a noun, its an adjective. using it as a noun is inherently dehumanising
Regarding her voice!!
Elle, and any other individual who is unhappy with their voice can go to a speech-language pathologist to change the pitch of their voice in a SAFE way! Trying to modify the pitch of your voice is very doable, but should be done with research based approaches and medically monitored with instrumental testing/imaging to avoid any kind of vocal injury!
Talking outside of your fundamental frequency (the ideal pitch for your body) without the assistance of a professional (a speech-language pathologist) could lead to a bunch of voice disorders long term so it is better to seek the help of a medical professional instead of a vocal coach or voice actor!
Please like this so Elle and Blaire hopefully see this!!
jojokinn ^^^^
Could be helpful
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The reason we are seeing more and more people detransitioning is because in hindsight the percentage of people with actual gender dysphoria is actually very low.
Not only that but the medical field is failing to diagnose teens on what they actually have
It is super rare. I went to 3 different psychiatrists to get a diagnosis. I knew when I was younger but never said anything because Mexican families are the worst when it comes to these types of things. It's not glamorous at all either. Dysphoria is painful and maddening. I hated waking up because of it.
CrowdControlQueen that is very true.
CrowdControlQueen Exactly. Like I totally be there are individuals are that have gender dysmorphia, but it’s not has much as the left tries to make it seem.
CrowdControlQueen the reason is because they finally wake the fucking fuck up
This is her story, why would anyone get offended? People need to get a life.
People are getting offended because they think stories like these will make everyone think "see being trans is bs because people are regretting it and changing back"
@@CruellaDeVil. well that is stupid. What it should do is teach them that waiting is the best option. May suck in some ways but better than the alternative.
s B yes, exactly! You’re right it is stupid!
Cruella De Vil Who Carew what people think anyways?
@@CruellaDeVil. That's quite foolish and childish, to be honest. If a grown-ass person is offended by that they need therapy. Like how on earth is that a thing to be offended. People really need to get a life, as the original person said. One changing doesn't change the others, to be honest.
I want to hug Elle so badly as I think she is a wonderful, hurting person that deserves love and empathy
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
@@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 No 🥱🤭
@@PuppyBIood Jesus loves you and wants to save you in this dark world, please stop runningaway fromGod, God us for you not against you
“I don’t have to be a certain way to be a woman.” This a million times!!! I’m a more masculine woman. I’m still a woman. Flamboyant men are still men. There is not one or two ways to be a woman or a man. The VAST majority of us are lucky and have no real problem with the body we are in. How we chose to express ourselves is how we chose to express ourselves.
Morgan O'Brien-Bledsoe yeah 100% you are your body their is no line between body\mind/emotions
David Vilar This is so not right. That's truly terrible.
Exactly. My girlfriend is a butch lesbian and for a while was struggling with if she might be trans or not because she dislikes femininity and chooses to express herself more masculine/andro. She grew up in a conservative household and to her, masculinity=man and femininity=woman, in terms of gender expression. Once she discovered she could be a butch lesbian, she knew for a FACT she wasn't trans. This is what we need to be teaching kids, at that age I think a majority of the issues are gender-expression-based.
I have had some trouble with being comfortable as a woman and I am STILL glad I never even discovered gender dysphoria as a teen. I don’t know if I would have been interested enough to do it but I would have obsessed over it, and now that I am an adult I am pretty happy with my life. I am married to a straight man, I am beautiful, and I have a son. Plus I have enough health problems to worry about. I also have a perspective in life that wouldn’t really approve transition as a solution and I would have regretted that for sure even if I liked presenting as a man instead. I think for me, I saw that my brother got more positive attention than I did, my dad was the nice parent, and I think I got the impression that life was better for boys than for girls. I related more to Simba, Little Foot and Aladdin than any Disney Princesses, etc, I liked boys’ adventures better than girls, and their role in society seemed more fun. In retrospect I think I am just broken, and I have a sort of repressed misogyny that says good girls are lame and not like me. I wanted to be the best I could be but it wasn’t working as a girl so I got anxious and wanted to be like my brother instead. I think a lot of these people who regret transition are like this, and what actually needs to be done is spiritual healing and probably some anxiety treatment
@@averagepaolidamenjoyer9855 but it is paied for so "it's ok and they love their transgender people" or so I have seen typed out. people say srs is paied for, but then others say it is but as a cure for same sex attraction
Such a mature and self aware young woman. Seems like she’s come a long way mentally, going off what she described when she was younger.
It seems like most detransitioners follow the pattern of having gone through some sort of trauma, that or don't realize they're just gay and can still be fem or masc.
Exactly
I'm trans and i havent gone through any of that (except i thought i was a tomboy when i was young) but still when i hear detrans stories i kinda get scared and doubt im trans and wonder "what if im making this up". Its scary.
Also, is ANYONE comfortable in their body as a teenager? The previous medical best practice was “watchful waiting” because SO many dysphoric teens just...grow out of it.
I've seen alot with sexual assault trama say stuff like "I don't wanna be what they liked, if I'm a guy people like that won't want to hurt me like that" THAT'S SO FUCKING SAD, IT'S ALL SO SAD AND I WANNA HUG THEM ALL
Yeah, this entirely. I thought I was trans when I was in high school, and thankfully wasnt allowed to transition. Later I've realized that it has a lot to do with my childhood trauma. The dissociation from my gender is related to my trauma, and that means I'm not trans. I'm glad I didn't transition.
I am glad she did not go through painful surgeries. Surgeries can have long turn medical issues. 🕵🏼♂️
The fact that you can’t get tattoos, smoke, or drink in a lot of places until at least 18 but can completely change your body through surgery and hormones is the definition of insane. The argument for not being able to drink and smoke before 18-21 is our brains aren’t fully developed yet we can permanently alter ourselves through surgery and other drugs? Drinking throughout my teenage years didn’t do NEARLY as much damage as this now 21 year old girl was put through🤦🏼♂️ I can confidently say I’ve never in my life done any permanent damage to myself by using any of the drugs I’ve experimented with. Meanwhile people like her are called brave for doing what she did. What a sick society we live in.
You realize you can’t have surgery until you’re 18 in most places right?? Like no 14 year old is gonna chop of breasts that they don’t even have yet. Also drugs are useless and harmful. While hormones are useful in order to help trans people off themselves less. They may have side affects but so does a lot of medicine for mental health issues. Dysphoria is a mental health issue. What we need is better therapists and doctors who will make sure the person transitioning is truly ready
Medical treatment is done before the age of 18, thats not new or strange
There are quite a few people who have undergone surgery before 18, as well as taken hormones. And the hormones have actually statistically shown to carry a lot of negative side effects, which Blair has talked more about on her channel with other people.
@@Ben-li9zb Here in Brazil we're only allowed to start hormones at 16 with the family permission or 18 without anyone, our surgeries only start at 18 and we need to wait for years in the public hospital if we don't have the money to pay private clinics.
@@AylaMaiteSunset that's pretty much the exact same as it is in the US
As a gay man, i support trans without all the politics. I worry that ‘woke’ parents / medical specialists are too eager to transition kids without due diligence.
*SAME!*
Erin FW me too..
Same.
❤️
Shammy M yo..............................don’t do this lol
You’re such a good interviewer. No interruptions, take and give dialogue, self disclosing without being selfish about it. 10/10 need more interviews.
Rhonda H. Crane I know right I love her
Seriously. I would hire this girl if I ever became powerful.
I actually think the opposite. Not that she is a bad interviewer, but on occasions she would interrupt her to talk about her personal experience. You can see Blair literally interrupting Elle's speech.
hm she did interrupt her, ranted a bit too... so i disagree
Just throwing this out there, Lauren Bacall was considered an icon of femininity. Her voice was as deep as Elle"s.
I genuinely hope she sees this. A very kind thing for you to take time to comment this.
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unfortunately in many places around the world the response would be a hatecrime
Stuff like this is super encouraging, really hope she sees this
Lauren Bacall's still sounded vaguely feminine, however. This poor girl completely sounds like a MAN. This is tragic!
What's most important about Elle's experience, is that she gained self love, introspection, and wisdom that she can apply to the rest of her journey. That takes courage.
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
You can actually get your voice higher with vocal training, it takes practice but it's possible.
Yes! speech pathologists can help this!
And surgery, too.
Also you can have surgery for that. It's risky. Trans women do this get a higher voice
Sounds all painful
@@constantine9142 Yeah but it's the normal painful transition stuff unfortunately, least she didn't get surgery that is a completely different bag of worms.
If I was allowed to make major life decisions as a kid, then I would be covered in Pokemon tattoos...
Dan & Gib Id have a Spice Girls back tatt lol
Tbh I wouldn't mind too much having a Pokémon tattoo on me (as my profile picture might reveal lmao) as long as it wouldn't be too visible.
Dan & Gib i saw a dude with a full pokemon sleeve once. pretty fuckin sick
I would have been mrs. Michael Jackson
If I could get tattoos at 14 I would’ve had kpop art all over 🥶
The voice is heartbreaking because she would be able to just go back to being a regular female if not for that
@baby Maharaja OH MY GOD IT DOES THOUGH
@baby Maharaja oh shit thats why she sounded familiar. thats spooky
Way off topic, but love that Half icon. The song doesn’t get enough love.
Her voice can be fixed
It luckily can be worked on with voice training just like many transwoman do or even surgery, but she likely has real dysphoria over it now.
Wow her voice is so deep 😢 this is so heartbreaking
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
@@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 stop trying to force your religion on others
@@antarexx allah is the way, not jesus.
@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 I'm a christain, and I completely agree with what you said, but there are better ways to share the gospel than randomly answering a UA-cam comment with it when it's unrelated. These things need to be handled delicately and with kindness so that it doesn't just feel like you're forcing it on someone. Sharing the gospel is so so important, but doing it tactlessly can often have the opposite effect and push someone even further away from God and the church.
@@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 marry jesus of you love him so much lmao
Woow. Her voice doesn't sound like a stereotypical trans man's voice, it sounds sooo male. And now, she has dysphoria about the permenant changes made to her body by HRT that could've been avoided if she hadn't been lead to transition at a young age.
I feel so bad for her. Thank you Blaire for sharing her story!
No I’ve seen some trans men who still have kind of a high pitch voice. I’m a reg cis woman and I can make my voice deeper than theirs. Voices vary from person to person if you have a light high pitch voice it will only go so deep. However there are also cis men with feminine voices
@LinusDickTips no, what i meant was that most trans people, men or women, transition post adolescence and even with HRT, the voice still has some cadence of their biological sex and usually with trans men, their voices do not get this deep.
As a trans man this is kind of a rude thing to say.. if you're implying the stereotypical trans man voice to be the "tranny" voice that's a huge misconception because most trans men have "cis" men voices including myself.
LinusDickTips Bullshit. I’ve never heard a “trans man” with an authentic sounding man’s voice. They all sound ridiculous. This is the first one I’ve heard.
@@ashers9225 Stop. Read the comments fully. Don't get offended, realize the reality of biology.
Transitioned at age 30; detransitioned officially at age 47. Thank you so much for doing this
Hi, If it's not too intrusive of me can you talk about how you decided to transition and then detransition? How much time did it take to realize it etc.
I'm currently questioning my gender and trying to learn as much as I can but it's okay if you're not comfortable talking about it :)
This is interesting. I would love to know more too.
@@โชที่มีความรัก well my question to you is why are you questioning your gender? What is there to question? I’ve had these conversations with lots of trans people of different ages. They practically admitted to the exact same things and I’m just trying to make sure or confirm my theory.
I’m someone who began to question his biological sex, not gonna use a controversial term, when I was a child. And funny enough all the people who had the guts to actually explain things to me basically had the same experience but different outcome.
So I’m trying to get to the bottom. The root cause of all this since many who don’t share Blaire’s views refuse to explain or elaborate. If anything their refusal only further confirms my theory even more.
But I don’t want to jumped towards any general conclusions just yet.
@@chrisfinnegan4223 You said that they basically all said the same thing but you didn't mention what. Could you elaborate more and what the common narrative was as you understood them? It is something that I have been extremely curious about.
@@bblcommisions yeah that whole post he made was so vague
0:37 It shocks me that an already bullied community would bully someone who is *also* just trying to figure out who they are
Cults always do that to ex members.
The ' bullied community ' are the bullies.
I think it's because the vast majority of trans people are traumatised and easily triggered
@@LM-qv7cy the deaf community bullied you for joining the hearing community? Whoa that's wild
@@LM-qv7cy ooooh gotcha gotcha, I understand now. Wow, that's so interesting! I'm sorry youve had to go through that, I'm sure it would be hard
Wow. Blaire will eventually need bodyguards if she allows this stuff to be intelligently, politely discussed. This open platform is wonderful and a brave move.
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
i love how respectful blaire is throughout the entire interview
Why shouldn't she be?
@@Lady-Mara some people can just be so rude, its actually refreshing to see her be so kind and understanding
this is why it is important to be medically diagnosed with gender dysphoria
so you avoid incidents like these from happening in the future
I have a friend with several issues who wants to transition but is not even sure about it and his friends wont help at all since all they do is agree with their decision and saying that he doesnt need the dysphoria for it
We almost don't know anything about human psychology/brain, these diagnostic are totally dumb. In most case all doctors are doing is giving test treatments, it's not scientific, they give u shit and then figure if it's working for you.
she WAS medically diagnosed with gender dysphoria, otherwise she wouldn't have gotten on hormone therapy in the first place.
@Zeus Christos
You can't conclusively tell a female and male brain apart on MRI right now, but we're getting there: www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fnins.2019.00185/full
She was diagnosed. A doctor won't prescribe hormone treatment without a diagnosis and lots of time talking to a medical professional. It took my brother about a year to receive treatment after speaking with his doctor, and it will take even longer for him to receive top surgery.
When I was 10 - 12 I had a "phase" where I only wanted to dress as a boy ,only wear male underware and wanted to be called a boy name ...
My parents didnt really cared about that and just let me do my think. Beeing transgender wasnt something they knew exsisted. I am kind of thankfull for that, because I tuned out to be not transgender, in my case in really was "just a phase" and I am really happy to be a woman today.
Pls dont get me wrong I´m defenetly not saying beeing transgender is "just a phase".
Britney Smith I used to tell my mom at 2 I want to be a boy not an earl because I couldn’t even pronounce the world girl. Thank God my parents were not like some of the parents out there now. I would have been so upset
A part of being a child is cognitive (and physical brain) development.
We all do that stuff to figure our identity out, so... the issue is folks on the left see that, hone in on it, and tell someone they are this and that.
I went threw that phase too. When I was 13 - 15 I strongly believed that I was bisexual & transgender. I wanted to go by “Damon,” wanted people to use They/Them pronouns, shaved my head, wore button ups, and at some point I even bought a chest binder. I also wanted to transition so bad and forced myself to like girls because that’s what Cis males did. I’m 18 now, have been dating a guy for 2 years and am a lot more feminine. I’m also much more comfortable with myself and my body. I know my “dysphoria” was because of my mom, she would always point out the growth of my chest and it made me really uncomfortable, so I would always try to hide it with male clothing.
Yeah sometimes kids just “experiment” with gender and that’s normal. If a kid plays policeman doesn’t mean you should give it a gun and badge.
ME TOO
i love how sweet blaire is to her guests(: she always lets them talk and makes her guests feel comfortable
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
One thing that Elle said that stuck out to me is this: "If I can go back I would tell myself that I didn't have to be a certain way to be a woman." Here here. I remember in my teens I never felt "woman" or "female" enough and it really did a lot of psychological damage to me. If I could talk to my teen self I'd say these wise words too.
I felt this way, too! Others saw me as less feminine so I had to (painfully) construct for myself what being a woman meant to me. If I hadn't, I might have been like Elle.
Moth’s Mummy ok. Thanks. English is my second language.
I see what you mean. Accepting that gender and sex do not have to align perfectly in any way. Gah, it's so tricky to navigate
Trans activists have a very reductive idea of what it is to be female.
Being a tomboy, athletic, active, interested in traditional boy things and not being interested in frilly girl stuff is actually normal for a lot of girls. A lot.
I'm 27, married, a mom, and still a Tomboy except for sometimes and I have no issues at all. Being a woman doesn't necessarily mean being feminine 😊✌️
People in US should stop giving tons of pills to children without trying to understandand rootcause.This is so disturbing.
i started getting medication at 13-14 (i’m now 15) and i quickly got off of it cuz it made me feel worse. i said i thought i had depression and anxiety (which i definitely do think that) but they just put that down as my diagnosis without much testing or talking to me. i’m now confused because idk if i have additional things then i was diagnosed with or something completely different. my friend also was diagnosed with adhd and to me it doesn’t seem like she has it. sorry for telling u my whole life story but basically i completely agree with u. it’s honestly scary how they deal with teens and their mental health.
@@mikayla9501 In the past they used to teach children whom were left handed that they were stupid and forced them to write right handed.
I see the treatment they use on children/teenagers/young adults and it is still literally that.
You like many other kids are wired differently and to partake in this society you have to conform to the immesurably high standards/pressure society demands from you.
So they make you fit in with drugs, instead of teaching you to learn from your own behaviour.
I had mental issues myself and for me (not recommended for anyone that actually needs it), but for me i have refused treatment.
Best decision i have ever made in my life, and you will learn when you are older that the ultimate contentment with the self comes when you are able to identify and articulate your own issues and deal with them.
Focus on what you want to do and if you don't know figure it out or ask adults because we've all been there. You are at an age with a world of possibility ahead of you.
And like me you might figure out that you never needed medication to begin with and that a lot of treatment for example for ADHD, mild autism, depression is being driven by the subscription pad, instead of helping by shaping them and make them understand themselves and their own behaviours.
You'll be ok. I will say, that as a former ritalin user myself. It is completely ok if you need it (can't estimate your situation from here), it does have its uses for focussing (dose should never be more than 80 mg a day, if you are on 40 MG like i was that is completely ok). But feel free to quit as well. And at some point you will find out, you don't need it. Don't use it in the weekends and in the holidays, then go to a few classes without it. You might notice no difference at all.
You can be charged with a felony such as murder, robbery, assault in most states at age 12 and in some states as young as ten years. Why? Because the law says a person of that age has the ability to form the required reasoning to plan the crime and more importantly to understand exactly what they were doing. Further, and this is key, the law in most states says that children of the same age we are talking about when it comes to gender transformation have the mental ability to understand the consequences of their actions. So, if a young person can understand the consequences of being the getaway driver in a robbery, whey are they too young to understand the consequences of putting puberty on hold?
Yetanother Top i disagree with that though, children shouldn’t have to bear criminal responsibility at that age.
@@SiobhanS1868 I agree with you. In some states, people as young as 14 can be charged as an adult for felony crimes. My point was that society has an odd view of what children can and cannot be responsible for. If a 16-year-old is late to school five times in some states the principal of the school and bend them over and spank them like a child. If the same 16-year-old gets mad about that and punches the principal in the face 2 seconds after the spanking is done, they can be charged as an adult for felony assault. We need to make up our minds about how much can a child reason and figure out the consequences of their actions. A 17-year-old boy can be told by his parents that they have decided to have him circumcised. There is nothing wrong with his penis nor foreskin - the parents have just decided they like the way a circumcised penis looks. No matter how much he protests, almost every urologist in the US would prescribe a Xanax for him to take before he leaves home, put him on a procedure table, and slice off his foreskin - even if he had told the urologist very loudly that he did not want it done. If that same 17-year-old came back the next day and trashed the urologist's office in revenge, he'd be charged as an adult in criminal court. We need to make up our minds.
"If I could go back I would tell myself that I don't have to be a certain way to be a woman"
This part really resonated with me. I grew up in a very very sexist environment that had very strongly held traditional views of what it means to be a woman. I didn't identify with and disagreed with those views so much I began to think I wasn't a woman. It coincided with a time in my life filled with mental issues and uncertainty. Those two environments combined I believe is what caused me to really believe I wasn't a woman. Flash to now, and I have a much more healthy understanding of and love for my femininity. If you treat women like being a woman is a bad thing to be, I believe there will be more and more people being confused about their gender identity.
Cakey21 Agreed, human beings are way too complex to be put into boxes.
Omg same, I totally went to a phase because my family has very traditional gender roles and I thought the way I was, was wrong if I was a woman. For 2 years i acted and dressed like a man and then I realized I can be myself and at the same time feminine! I don’t have to have long hair or cross my legs to be a woman! And not enough people understand that!! And it leads to this kindve mentality
I really treasure how different the world is today then what it used to be
You hit on something really important there at the end, about love for your femininity and "if you treat women like being a women is a bad thing to be" there are a large group of people that seem to have real negative views on both masculinity and femininity, its like they want to destroy both.
i so agree with that! it sounds much like my experience
I’m an older trans teen myself and I’m waiting for my brain to fully develop before going on hormones myself. I’m still experimenting on what works out for me, and I’m more than willing to wait so I don’t regret my decisions. I’m going to therapy currently to help myself emotionally and it’s going great. I wish the best for Elle and other detransitioners who are struggling emotionally and physically. ❤️
Edit - Y’all making being trans look like it’s a bad thing 😭. If that’s what works out for someone, y’all shouldn’t judge someone for it lmao. Let them be.
Total respect for your patience and sensibility. Waiting until you’ve grown up is an excellent idea.
same here. I’m giving myself some time to finish puberty, turn at least 18, and really find out who I am. I just don’t wanna take any risks I might regret later
@@JoeBurrowSucks happy to hear this!
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
Respect to you! Best of luck on your journey lovely ❤❤
She sounds so much like a cis man, it's scary how people are trying to justify kids doing this.
Kids that are younger than Elle, and if you dare question why transitioning works for some but not for others, then apparently you're a transphobe
Using the minority of cases of regret to prevent trans people who are not confused and really want to transition is transphobic.
Snake she wasn’t fully assessed, if you can show proof of someone who had multiple therapy sessions with a gender therapist and long assessment and then for them to detransition then your point will have validity.
Amanda Vieira She’s just telling young kids to be careful and maybe wait till their alittle older her comment isn’t transphobic.
@@kanekicentipede8074 Isn't that a problem if she wasn't fully assessed yet she was still put onto hormone therapy? Her body might now have irreversible changes now. That shouldn't be allowed.
@@amandavieira2543 What? How? Anyone should wait until they're an adult and FULLY understand the scope of such a choice. Advertising and grooming an 8 year old to do it is evil. They don't even know what their favorite color is most of the time it's just what the outside influence suggest is their favorite. Only in some cases are kids truly forced to mature so fast but even then they're easy to convince of things.
We have to Literally drill cautions in their heads for years for it to stick like stranger danger. Allowing them to change their genders physical appearance and cut parts off is WAY too much when they're not even in puberty yet. It's sad people think that's strength when it's irresponsible.
There are voice coaches who help MtF girls develop a more feminine voice, maybe something like that would help her.
As someone who detransitioned, thank you for this
Respect to you!
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Hope you're well!! ❤❤
as a male to female detranser, did your balls drop yet or are you forever ruined?
Blaire can you address the teachers pushing trans " education " to children.
I have a very feminine 12 year old boy with asd, limited verbal skills, learning disabilities etc, that doesn't wear girls clothes ( I've never offered them either) but loves pink, long hair, and playing with girls. My son's teacher used him as an axample on a zoom lesson of a child pretransition so I stopped her mid lesson and removed my son and later she explained that she and my son had " talked" about it ( odd considering he's basically nonverbal but ok) and my son was a girl and I needed to let him be herself. I did go to children's services because I called it grooming but was denied help, the principal had my back sort-of and reprimanded her for being inappropriately involved but how many kids are learning they are trans from teachers? My son may choose his way as an adult but he's a child that had no idea or care about gender because he's disabled he just wants to play with his gal Pals because they are kinder than 12 year old boys, he's sensitive because he has a sensory processing disorder not gender dysphoria. How would that inferring have directed another child? I know other parents who have had similar interactions as alot of asd kids have undefined gender boundaries and it's scary
As a bisexual man I always played more with the girls because they are more fun to hang around with honestly it means nothing and teachers today should be ashamed a classroom is for teaching Not Preaching
I think they should do a lesson on hey, trans people exist and if you feel this way come talk to me, but not like that. Never like thay
that’s horrible that she did that … I’m very sorry you had to deal with that
That is horrifying that a teacher would ever be talking to a child about this stuff
Wow. That’s horrifying.
There is such pressure on teens to fully know your identity, there’s no room for doubt
That is what this ridiculous world has come to.
The thing that really bothers me is why is these people's identity so strongly related to their sex and gender. Surely you can be a man in stereotypically women's clothing and vice versa. I am especially bothered when they say I am a man but I feel like a woman...how do you know what being a woman feels like? A woman is literally just defined as a female adult human being, nothing more nothing less.
it is said that we don't really know ourselves until were in our 40's, and that is proving to be true in my life
I love how society has gone from thinking effeminate men aren't men, then effeminate men are men, then circling back to effeminate men are women
God made it simple humans are just insane
It's almost like a teenager isn't capable of making a truly informed decision like that... shocker.
hope dies they’re using trans as a new way to rebel.
Yeah, I feel bad for her. Im 14 an i used to think I was ftm, I even took testosterone starting in October the 28th and stopped in like December 13th I think. I quickly stopped after realizing it wasn't right for me, and i was lucky enough to have not gone through any physical changes from testosterone, only emotional changes.
1. I was on the lowest dose
2. I only took it for a month and a half
3. Since I was on gel packets, I had to take it everyday and would take my testosterone at like 5 am then 3 pm the next day or just not take it at all. I was very sloppy and couldn't keep up, although it was probably just my subconscious telling me I shouldn't be doing this. Im living as female again which is good. I feel so bad for this girl and I deff would've been in her shoes if I didn't realize fast enough.
The PandorasBox LMAO DUMBASS
Judge Judith Sheindlin LMFAO GTFO YOU GOON
@@wastedproductions45 I've said it since this whole transgender thing began to become more prevalent. It's either a child rebelling or it's trendy. When I was a teen in the 90s, being gay was trendy. Kids, my friends, people I knew very well and loved, would be gay for a month or a year and then all of a sudden they were straight again. And yes, this happened a lot amongst the kids who didn't have great relationships with their parents. So, I think it is a way for kids to rebel. There isn't anything transphobic about that at all. Trans folks, like Blair, who are who they are and didn't make the decision to transition as a CHILD aren't a part of that trend.
If one of my children ever wants to transition... I'll be asking them to also watch videos of de-transitioner so that way they get the full picture of the process and the positives and the negatives. You can be a feminine male and a masculine female.. i hate how people are transitioning to fit stereotypes
Yup, 1 in 10 women have a masculine temperament
@@bippitybopitybooty1127 All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
Jesus loves you and wants you for Himself (therefore repent & Believe in Him today for forgiveness of sins-10 commandments and more)
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
It’s almost like children should wait till they’re fully grown to decide.
Blockers are one thing, but hormones should wait
olt they shouldn’t be doing ANYTHING medically before 18. social transition is fine, but should be where the line is drawn.
Christina Garcia blockers are reversible so it’s better then permanent
@@colinrain715 Blockers do cause some problems.
Aimed2Kill life causes some problems
Good on Elle for not being afraid to tell her story!!
The same thing happens to body positive groups. They tend to bully members who share they wish to lose weight or change their lifestyle and habits. It seems to happen to many groups who claim to support you, only as long as you stay on their side. That is not support people!
Why doesn't this have more likes -
True!
Extremism in all of its flavors! I see the same within the group of feminists, ppl who actually just hate men. Equality isnt about hate lol. Anyone fighting an equality battle needs to understand yes they have fought hard, but supporting each other DESPITE differences and deciding to trans or de trans is part of that acceptance. Anything thats not inclusive support is extremism and hypocrisy.
Yes 👏 exactly 👏
because it's much easier to play the victim than getting up and working on making yourself better
So sorry that her family and society failed her. You’re beautiful, Elle.
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
I remember back when the TransTrender craze was at its highest point, back in 2016. Strange to think how this is already four years ago. But the thing is, I absolutely knew that a few years later, there would come several stories on how people who took hormones back then would regret it later etc.
And again, since we´re talking about underage people transitioning, it shows that transitioning is a thing you have to decide as an adult. As you both said, as a teenager you don´t have any ideas of the future.
@Speaking Truth puberty blockers come with their own set of problems including that they lower IQ. Also going through puberty can solve that desire to be the opposite sex.
Patrick Kelmer Just when Trump as elected the left ramped up its propaganda machine and 100 new genders was born. Coincidence ? I think not
at least the psychiatrist or the professionals should be professional and not one sided. I believe in her original video she said she got a "old lesbian" (does not matter, maybe it does) which more told her about her problems instead of listening to Elle and gave out the hormone perscription like on the same day...
Currently in my country it's very strict and slow if you want to get it paid via social security. You need one or two different psychiatrist for up to a year to get the go for hormones from a doctor and I think you have to be an adult. At least a few years ago. This can be terrible especially for children. I totally get it, avoid the wrong puperty and the chance of beeing passable is so much higher... but when the psychiatrists or even not as qualified persons have a agenda and are one-sided, it just can go wrong. So wrong for a lot of people :/
Elle didn't feel trans since early childhood. That's the difference between her and people like me who transitioned at 15. I felt like that since kindergarden. I had thought about it for 10 years before taking testosterone and she only thought about it for a few years. I was seeing psychiatrists and psychologists for 5 years before the decision was made. I'm happy to live in Germany where this was possible. I don't think that it is smart to prohibit transitioning for every young person. Parents, doctors and psychiatrists should decide whether it's ok, not legislation.
my idea of the future when I was 16 was getting into the Navy... that never happened and I've been lost and adrift ever since. I THOUGHT I had found a path for my life as a truck driver... but someone else ruined that for me and now I have nothing.
I;m bisexual, and someone recently suggested that with a 50%male/50% female personality that I 'might be non-binary' whatever the hell that means?
IDFK anymore. all I do know is last time I had my testosterone levels checked they were half what would be considered 'normal' for my age
I'm part of a group of nearly 100 detransitioners. The media needs to discuss both sides. x Thank you for this video Blaire. x
Dax Munro hey there, I have recently stopped my transition and would be interested if you guys/gals have any experience with how a voice develops that has just been broken by testosterone (only was on T for six months). Will the break ever go away or get smoother? I thought it should, eventually, when the vocal chords have ‘settled in’ where they are now. But no voice trainer seems to have any experience with this.
Blair is thinking... You can see it. Yes, glamorizing being trans is wrong on ALL levels! Thank you, Elle! You are so amazing!
Time heals everything! You are wise beyond your years, Elle.
I wish you the best! you’re incredibly strong and i’m glad you were able to figure out who you are and do what’s best for you! lots of love ❤️
@@Connie-ty5zb glamorizing being trans is wrong on all levels? you should have just sat there and ate your food. I've never met a Connie that wasn't a total uber bitch.
She is cute.. the voice must be frustrating for her
I do wonder if her voice will maybe partially return to normal after a few years, now that she has stopped taking hormones, or if it's completely permanent
Elisabeth Falk like trans women, you have to change it yourself
@@cstef5592 I think it's permanent because it's a change in the shape of their voice box. I might be wrong but I remember hearing that males have oval voice boxs and females have kinda circle voice boxes. Also, young males whose voices changes are permanent but hopefully she finds a way to have a female sound voice.
Elisabeth Falk ftm voice change is permanent
safenightsarewicked FTM voice change actually happens naturally when transitioning with hormones. Voice changing, hair growth, and a couple other things are permanent
Perfect example of why anyone younger then 18 should never be able to do anything like this.
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
I think we need to recognize and accept that women can be “manly” and men can be “feminine” and there can be different degrees of that. I
Japan and Korea is a good examples of that.
Yes but biological sex is not a decision.
Maybe stop calling some stereotypes manly or femenine so people don't have to wonder if they are male or female enough.
Even trans woman can be tomboy. That was hard for me to figure out.
@@shoutatthesky it's not a choice either. You can't change it.
I'm going to comment this again, but I used to think I was trans when in reality it was trauma and an eating disorder. I didn't transition back when I was 15 because I was scared of what my conservative parents would think so I decided to wait until I turned 18, and I'm so glad I did, because I think I would have ruined my life.
I'm not saying people who know they are trans since they are very young are mistaken, I'm just trying to communicate the importance of therapy and not rushing into medical transition as soon as you come out
Exactly. I know, after 4 years of knowing I'm trans, that starting T is the right thing for me. I'm 19, and will be almost 20 before I can start T, but I know I'm not trans because of some past trauma or because I don't feel like I can be a more masculine woman. I know I'm trans, and I'm glad to have waited. I don't think I could've started at 15 anyways, but I'm glad I didn't, in case I turned out to be a tomboy and not trans. It's important to wait and realize why you want to transition.
that's why it's discouraged to transition as a kid..
At least outside of N.America.
No it’s because lots of people hate trans people.
@@AtomicSim please come back to reality.
Alex Haven Blackburn no because kids brains aren’t developed & aren’t mature enough to make those decisions. You can change the hair and clothes and style but to make drastic changes like hormone treatments and such is iffy. The suicide rate is significant with people who have body dysphoria regardless of transitioning. There’s more to look at here
@@AtomicSim Sorry, but that's a shit thing to say. Children need to be protected from psycho parents.
"Presenting" as a man and BEING a man are two intensely different things. I find that choice of word noteworthy when used by de-transitioners trying their best to explain themselves. These interviews are so valuable and I'm coming across more and more of them online. I'm hoping these brave people will work hard on their thinking and articulation/vocabulary because their voice are desperately needed right now. Thank you.
I see a lot of females who de-transition from male usually have sexual abuse in their past. I feel so bad that they have to go through that, then change their lives forever because of something horrible like that. I wish more people talked about this!!
Some of the gay men I know, were abused and started to see themselves as gay afterward, while others were targeted and abused by older children and adults specifically because of their sexuality. A friend of mine that I always felt was in denial and believed himself to be gay, was in fact heterosexual. Unfortunately he was abused and believed that it was his fault and associated that abuse with weakness and weakness with homosexuality. He spent his teenage years living as gay and was in a few unsatisfying relationships. You'd be surprised at the harassment he got when he came out as straight, it was very sad.
Chris Jackson thank you for this i’ve been trying to tell ppl this and i’m straight and ppl would call me lgbt phobic bc i would get info that my actual lgbt friends were abused, and started to wonder how much of the community has been traumatized
Jules I feel the same way , I identify myself as bisexual but I lean more towards women cause yes I am sexually attracted to them but at the same time I feel “safer” with them ... I’ve had a lot of bad experiences w men which has given me an irrational and prejudiced view , and just a general distrust of the male sex and I’m trying really hard to stop feeling this way .
@@themischeifguide I remember watching a video about this guy who was sexually abused as a child and how he now lives happily with his partner. There was this lesbian in the comments section who was very much in denial about sexual abuse playing a role in a person's sexuality. They do not want to talk about these things
adorably smug little bastard it definitely can play a role in sexual identity, but I think we have to be careful equating the two together. The stereotype of gay men being sexual predators or lesbians being assaulted by men, is a very damaging stance. We should be more open in discussing it and helping those in our community who are affected by these issues, but at the same time be aware of how it affects the prevalent stereotypes
How feasible is voice feminization for her to reverse the effects of the testosterone? I feel sad for her that she totally sounds like a guy and not even a lower register voiced woman.
Probably not easy since its more permanent of a change, but she could probably practice vocal work to make it more feminine, similar to how trans women sometimes do cause of their naturally lower voices? Either way, i hope she finds love in herself if its more permanent cause she deserves it
There are women with deeper voices than that, and anyone can learn to speak higher
@@hexum7 I'm sure there are. But every female voice I've ever heard that was of a lower range, call it sultry or what you will, still "sounded" like a woman and very feminine. Hers, because it was hormonally altered, sounds like a guy. Maybe a somewhat higher pitched speaking guy, but a guy none the less. But that's just my opinion.
@@DavidFoster1967 I'm a completely straight cis guy but I can pretty much make my deep voice sound like a female's voice (mainly due to ongoing singing practice and voice acting with friends for fun). So it's plausible for her to try and go by this route whilst transitioning back
@@moon-ml1yo you can voice train and vocally pass as a trans woman. Que in blaire.
Honestly, shes beautiful. Even with the deep voice. I couldn't imagine the struggle shes going through but I really hope shes doing well these days.
what people don't understand is that transitioning is typically a "last resort" form of treatment for gender dysphoria, and should only be done if you're positive that therapy is not helping. I feel really horrible for the people that have done irreversible things to their body when they didn't know things could begin to change later on.. : (
It USED to be and then the medical and mental health systems went sideways. I have friends with kids who were prescribed puberty blockers after one therapy session. This will come out as mass medical malpractice down the road.
People say coming out as trans is brave, I say coming out and saying you regretted it is brave. Much respect to you! I how everything works out
Well both are.
Why can't both be brave? If someone transitions to another gender because they feel like that's who they are or that's who they want to be, then that is brave. If someone regrets transitioning and detransitions back to their original gender, that is also brave.
Heather Hussler that’s what they were saying
But to come out on a de transition I think is extra hard because that can be hard to figure out where to belong
@@memegoldbars7602 thank you lmao. People play the semantics game non stop all day everyday. You cant say anything without someone getting something wrong out of it.
I empathize with Elle, she’s very brave sharing her mistakes so other can learn from it.
Kids who think they are trans should wait til they are 18-20. Transitioning is not like finding out you are gay ie. ‘when you know you’re gay, you’re gay’. Because if in the future turns out you’re straight/bi instead, you can always go back, it isn’t that forgiving once you’ve transitioned.
Trans folks, and I mean ALL trans folks should sit down with adults and think about their future. I personally think, if I- in the future want a kid of my own (in my 30-40s), I wouldn’t be able to if I transition at 12-15. I can WAIT til I’m 18-20, freeze my sperm/egg and save it. Transitioning is a decision with long term, irreversible effects, so please talk about it like it is, be patient, safe and careful.
The hard thing about that is for trans women, male puberty will hit you like a truck. Miss London has a really informative video about it.
I started transition at 24 and changed my mind after 6 months of hormones. Swore I was trans, since I was 16. It's possible to be wrong even as an adult. Luckily I dont have to deal with it to an extreme like this but I do have permanent changes to my body.
@@user-wc2jd3nn7u I'm sorry you went through that, and it's very brave of you to share such a vulnerable story online. I completely empathize with detransitioners, I just think that this isn't a black and white issue.
I socially transitioned at 15 and medically transitioned at 17. I'm now in my 20's, I have a very different/more mature concept of my gender identity than I did back then; however, I wouldn't go back for anything in this world, as I probably would've ended my own life otherwise, it was an extremely disparaging time to exist.
Perhaps it's not a matter of age (as age doesn't equal maturity), as it is a matter of personal intent in wanting to transition in the first place and the disparities we might face with our gender.
Is it due to stigma? Social expectation? Or is it something more innate, like my case and many others', for example. Though I've always been mentally mature at a very young age, which could be another critical asset. The only thing I suggest is to not base it around age at all, it means nothing when people are so different from each other.
@@nibbatron6283 yes, I was very depressed, I think a discomfort can happen with oneself and you can misinterpret it in a way. I didn't like myself, or my body, for sexual abuse I endured very young. I think I just wanted to be someone else, so I didn't have to deal with that part of my life anymore. Everyone is different, I think medical transition should be a prescription, not entirely given out easily. I just signed informed consent papers, and was given hormones. I was so sure that was what I needed. It's really not a knock on anyone trans but I think the issue is more complex for some people. Even when I was so sure that transition was what I needed after living socially male for 5+ years. Using male restrooms and all lol. I think a lot of people need therapy, I never got it, but I think it could have helped me get through those issues without supressing them for so long. I don't regret transition or that time of my life, it taught me a lot, and I'm lucky I don't feel the regrets a lot of people do. Thanks for sharing your story too
Transition as a teen bothers me a lot.. Like..
Society: It’s forbidden to drink alcohol and smoke until you’re 21!
Also society: Want some hormones? TAKE THEM ALL.
fr. it's so dumb.
actually :') they started me on bc before I was a teenager and now I regret it so much, my body is so messed up with hormones
Thats the government
1) just y'all americans, y'all r so weird with the 21 year thing like you can drive at 16 but not drink??? and 2) i wiiishhhhhhh it was that easy, but it bothers u that ppl get the help they need so they dont kts? ok
Not "society." Leftists.
Teenagers go through a lot as it is already...
transitioning while being a teenager is just ridiculous
A trans person feeling personally attacked by someones decision to no longer be trans is the most 2019 thing I have ever heard.
So much hate.
AddAustin you’d have to really be insecure about your transition if you get offended by someone who is detransitioning
Mary Katharine Ham It's because there is a misconception of their message. They are saying "don't make my mistake", not "don't transition". And if you (royal you, not necessarily you Mary) have a hard time seeing the difference in those two statements, that right there is why the offense is taken.
@LaVioletaAmatista There is no "transphobia." People who disagree with the whole trans thing are not phobic. Difference of opinion is not "transphobic."
We seriously need to just delete this "phobia" word. People are missusing it so hard nowadays. Its the new buzzword. Everyone has a phobia nowadays. Insert your group you relate to and add phobia and claim everyone who disagrees with you have it. The fucking logic of today.
LaVioletaAmatista of course some people who dont like trans people can use it as an excuse to show that transitioning is not a good idea, but it doesn’t change the fact that some people really do regret it and shouldn’t be hated for that. They made a major mistake that changed their lives so i think its unjust to them to be bashed by the trans community (not all of course) because of it
@LaVioletaAmatista Was that entire rant a definition or did you throw in some of your own spices at the end? If the first, then this person has some irl issues.
Im no homophobe, idc who they sleep with honestly.
Your definition of transphobe basically seems to just include "do you disagree with trans people?" If your answere is anything but "no" then you are transphobe.
I simply do not agree with how people see trans
as a positive and good thing. And if you read my comments you should see links to said sources ive come with that would back up my statements. If not i can include them here if you'd like.
And you're very welcome to look at my older comments, it's a bit weird and kinda stalker behaviour but im fine with that, i stand for what i say. I do not discriminate these people whatsoever, i simply do not think "trans" is a healthy idea. It seems to stem from a mental health issue, in which case i see it far more productive to cure said illness, than to do what said illness wants. I've also made comparison to BIID, which i've taken from studies done by psychiatrists.
Heres what i believe case in point. If you think thats "transphobic" then so fucking be it, i don't care about your buzzwords, they are irrelevant to me. Go and "reeee" somewhere else.
“You can dress how you want, you can wear make up, it doesn’t matter if your a boy or girl, you don’t need to change yourself “
You are perfect the way you are.
But don’t fool yourself
@@p52893 it wasn't that long ago that musicians rocked eyeliner, long hair and epic wardrobes. They were still guys, nobody really questioned that.
Nobody's perfect the way they are. Life is a trail of fire where the only way to live happily is to constantly be improving
@@davidmcrae4791 that's meant for our character and personality, not about our physical body.
@@AnthonyPooran Long hair and eyeliner are still in fashion for rock music.
What needs to be discussed is the lack of transgender therapist and medical experts because it could prevent a lot of cases like this.
its considered transphobic to tell a kid they're not trans
estheyli Borges what does that have to do with my comment?
@@micheledesfontaine6057 because transgender therapists will not say anything to trans people about not actually being trans, because that can get them fired. I am pretty sure there was an article published recently about this, doctors, therapists, are *all* afraid to say the truth to these teens and mostly their parents in fear of losing their job
@@Jabez0 yeah but if the doctors are actually transgender I believe it would be a different story. Therapy is not about diagnosis but treatment and if you're diagnosing someone who is minor which could disrupt their treatment and the process then you're not doing your job properly.
I've been in therapy for 2 years for mental health, and my therapist could of diagnosed me 1000 different things at the time but chose against it because it wouldn't of helped me and focused instead on getting through the things affecting me.
@@micheledesfontaine6057 it wouldnt be different. Psychologists still need to answer to someone. And a lot of trans people are extremely in denial about the existence of detransitioners as a whole. And it would be unprofessional, it sounds like a opportunity for a lot transference from both sides which psychologists mostly intend to avoid.
Blaire, always remember there are more supporters than haters! please never stop posting videos!
Can’t stand when doctors go straight to pills, especially since when Elle was just a teen!
Took years for me to get prescribed accutane here in the UK but transitioning to a whole different gender is way easier, so weird
I imagine a lot of docs are probably afraid of being dragged for being transphobic at this point, that probably influences a lot of their decisions when it comes to putting kids on hormones without making sure that person is certain transitioning is really what they want, folks detransitioning having transitioned as a young teen is probably a good case for making it a process one has to be an adult already to go through
People should spend more time helping young women who deal with mental illness, sexism etc. Encouraging them to take hormones just makes their situation worse
Alex Mason when I have lots of money that’s my plan, helping girls caught up in trafficking too
She wasn't encouraged, it's very clear in the video that she made that choice herself
@@phantom2615 She wad 15.
You can't blame her, where are her parents? Doctors? This is their fault, it wasn't her decision to make. Not at such young age
And helping young men who are dealing with the same problems. Men are also the victims of sexism by women.
funny you said that but people always seem to forget that men deal with mental heal issues as well The rate of suicide is highest in middle-age white men in particular.
In 2018, men died by suicide 3.54x more often than women.
White males accounted for 69.67% of suicide deaths in 2018.
i know it's not a contest of who has it worse but it's relevant to your comment.
this is the end result of too many people having their identities reinforced by the community without prioritizing their own well-being. i hope Elle can get her life back.
Elle is such a beautiful young woman and I am touched so much by her story. It hurts my heart that adults didnt protect her when she was a young girl. So sad...
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
**"you dont have to be a certain way to be a woman"** is such an important statement, and i honestly live by it, being someone that went through a lot of confusion relating to my gender.
when i was a kid, i genuinely felt very disconnected from femininity to the point where i was *convinced* i would not develop into a woman when i grew up. it took a lot of questioning things, and eventually accepting the defeat of reality, until eventually i realised, i don't have to be "feminine", but that doesn't mean i have to stop being "female". it's like, there are infinite ways to be male or female, and if the vessel you're in doesn't actually cause you great distress, jumping to conclusions and making drastic decisions is not really the way to go. i'm now on the most part very happy to be in a female body, even though the way i act, dress, present, or the interests i have and choices i make are on the most part not typically feminine. i'm so glad i didn't grow up surrounded by people who actively push for transitioning in childhood or early teenage years, or even seeing content that makes it seem like any degree of not conforming implies that you're trans and should do something about it, because i'm sure that it would have got to me when i was at my most uncertain, and i would easily have lost a lot about myself if id got on hormones at that time also... this is just in my personal case, anyway.
also, Elle, thank you for giving your story and being brave to express your truth! it must have been a very difficult thing to go through at such an early age, when there's so much unknown still about life itself...
If you keep feminizing a Man he becomes a Woman.
If you keep on masculinizing a Female she becomes a Man.
My thoughts exactly! The best thing we can do as a society is to allow men and women the freedom to express themselves in whatever way feels true to them, regardless of what sex they were born as or what box they're supposed to fit into. Feminity and masculinity are just ideas and we, as people, as so much more than that.
Plus, the internet has taught me that there are fans for everyone. Plenty of people out there find "feminized" men and "masculinized" women attractive.
+L RX Just curious if you found yourself becoming more "feminine" as time went on, I ask because a dear friend of mine felt the same way, and admitted as much to me (her situation was driven by not-traditionally beautiful appearance as well, but she was also as tomboy-ish as they come). Later on, however, as she got into her late teens and early 20's, she dramatically (and naturally) changed in both personality and appearance. She's still a bit tomboy-ish, but you'd have to know her to see that.
What she said, "You don't have to be a certain way to be a woman," was also one of the thoughts that helped me to accept myself as female. I think as a child there was very much sexist stereotypes about how "men and women are so different" and how men are logical and women are more emotional, and just the way children my age would argue over who was better, boys or girls, and I came to the conclusion that boys were better. I didn't like girls, because of the stereotypes I had internalized, and I didn't feel like I could relate. So "I must be different," I thought, "I must actually be a boy in the wrong body." However, when I got to middleschool and these stereotypes weren't stressed as much or even really talked about, because at that school no one really cared, and parents had stopped buying pink, girly stuff for their daughters and instead the teenage girls were making their own decisions about what they wanted to wear and what they liked. I began to realize that all the young women (and older women) around me were unique. There were different kinds of women, and I could be whatever kind I felt like. It was that freedom to still be myself and not try to fit into a mold that allowed me to be content with being a woman.
L RX Nobody read that fully and stop writing essays in the youtube comments
I’m a mother of a trans man. For me personally, “dealing” with the reality of my child feeling miserable and so conflicted about who they were, was difficult.
All I could see was this beautiful, talented person that was full of light. Always made us laugh. Someone who I was proud of and honestly wished I could have been more like at that age. I felt like such a failure when I learned that my oldest daughter was trans. Not because I’m close minded. Not because I’m transphobic or whatever people might think. But because I felt like I had not conveyed my love clearly enough or supported enough or just wasn’t there enough. Now the “child” I’ve raised and envisioned a future for , hates who they are and now, will no longer exist. At least that’s how I felt in that moment. It all sounds very selfish now. But for me, as a mom, it was almost like my child had died.
Years have past now and I see things differently but my heat breaks and memories flood back to when I had a teenager that was going thru so much. Prayers to Elle.
I was introduced to this channel a couple of years ago by my youngest daughter, for no reason other than Blaire’s world views. My daughter is heterosexual but has the maturity to see past labels and loves people just for who they are.
I’m a new subscriber now. I’ve only watched from time to time. So maybe you’ve covered the topic....but do you often hear from the parents of trans men and women? What that experience was like for them too? I know there are support groups out there. I live in a well accepted LGBT community now but I didn’t previously. I just think it’s important to share, when family members “struggle” to accept the changes a trans family member goes thru, it doesn’t mean they don’t love them any less. As a mom, I just don’t want to see my “kids” hurting in any way, shape or form. And if we have the knowledge or experience it may be an easier adjustment for everyone.
Sorry so long winded here!! 🙈 Thanks for all you are doing Blaire!! Appreciate you sharing this topic. ❤️
wow, that was a roller coaster! thanks for sharing!!
Hey, it was hard for my mother as well, I'm a trans man (I'm 20. I've waited to be mature enough to do so)... It's ok as long as you help your kid and don't be afraid to ask questions. I keep telling my mom no matter what's her questions no matter how harsh or weird it is ill answer it because I understand it's hard for you parents as well. (and family members )
Stay strong and I'm proud of you for doing everything you can to support your children.
Cheers.
2 sentences in and I'm crying
SS edits This woman comes from a different time and it was difficult for her to understand at first. But she tried and loves and accepts her child for who he is. This woman is a wonderful mother, idk what the problem is
I really dislike when parents say it’s “the death of their child”.
"My puberty was medicalized" omg I think that's a very accurate statement for many young teenagers right now who struggle with the same question about their own identity. And how it's a risk when you are with the wrong doctors who diagnose incorrectly.
It's sad, because I had the opposite experience.
I have depression, anxiety, and narcolepsy. Puberty and my years as a teen were hell. Doctors told me to suck it up and just get over it. That being tired 24/7 and sleeping 15+ hours a day was just 'normal teen behavior'. That I was just acting out from hormones when I'd have panic attacks and mental breaks.
Doctors (most of them) just don't care.
Forget the wrong doctors.....what about having the wrong parents? Having a trans kid is seemingly a badge of honour now. It's not just a trans issue, it's a whatever it takes to stand out issue. I read a story yesterday of a mother who has set up an Instagram account for her TODDLER. What kind of parent does that? Apparently the kid has 100K followers already.
@@benpearson49 you are 100% correct.
im 15, and im a detransitioner. i was on testosterone for 11 months, and on december 15th of 2023 i stopped. thank GOD i stopped when i did. im now 3 months off and my face has gone back to normal, my voice has gotten wayy higher, and i look and sound like a girl again. im so fucking glad i snapped back into reality and realized how wrong it was, and how forced it was upon me.
Omg wtf. I am so sorry that happened you must of started so young.. As a gender queer person this is why our youth should not be able to consent to any of this.
And THIS is why we don't allow children to make life changing decisions.
Exactly
They shouldn't use hormones if they are young and not sure.
Inaya Said they shouldn’t use hormones period. A mistake wasn’t made when a person is born. And the fact that these parents support their children doing this is sick. That’s poor parenting. As a parent your duty is to mold your child into the man or woman they need to become. Not say yes you can do whatever you want to do
78freewheeler ...
@@78freewheeler not to that extent hun. Parents just need to talk more about this with their children and explain that TIME is needed before life decisions.
I myself am transgender, and I appreciate these people coming out and educating others about this whole "community". Although, it does make me think about the legitimacy of what I'm going through. . .
I would say it is good that it makes you think about the legitimacy of what you're going through. If what you are doing is truly right for you, you will keep coming up with that as your answer--that it is right. And if it is not right for you, the sooner you realize it, the better.
Well sit down and take your time, you have alot of time to figure your future out so think carefully
Its good to think about this and make sure your not making a mistake. You might not be but its Better to just be 100% sure.
spermy the moth I agree. Frog, I think you should take your time and only start chemicaly transitioning when you are 1. a legal adult and 2. when you are absolutely sure you want to. Wish you all the best!
That's why herd mentality is so dangerous.
Respect to her, there’s a lot of stigma to simply talking about this topic, I can’t imagine the nightmare of living through it
It's like covering your entire body with tattoo you wanted when you're a teenager, and you have to live with it for rest of your life without ever fully removing it. Transition is fine, but don't decide too early - for your future self.
Yep
People forget how impressionable young people are and how under-developed their brains are, I think it's best not to rush these major changes
this experience is not contingent on al trans people. there are plenty that transition at a very young age and are extremely happy with their transition.
@@nicoleedwards5708 thats great but the ones who do regret it are a bigger issue.
kk you missed my point entirely. congratulations.
@@nicoleedwards5708 you missed my point entirely too, so it's ok
My heart breaks for her. I think she still has a passably feminine face, but when she talks people will immediately think she’s just a MtF. I detransitioned 3 months into T, but I’m lucky. My voice hadn’t changed as much in that time, but it is slightly... gruffer I think? Like deeper and harsher, but I have learned to adjust my vocal chords to make it sound almost like it used to. I can’t get rid of that rough and bass-y undertone tho, and that kills me some days. I rarely talk in public despite still being able to comfortably raise my pitch to sound more feminine.
Also there’s the “clit worm” as I call it for some reason lmao. Good for pleasure, looks gross as fuck to me. You clit starts growing within the first week(sometimes even within the first 48hrs!) of starting T and so you can imagine how different it looks now even just from 3 months. ~1in doesn’t sound like much, but when you’ve come to terms with being a cis woman, it’s really distressing to see it there. I’m blessed to have a wonderful girlfriend who doesn’t give a single shit about my baby dick, but I’ll never stop being self conscious about it. I gave myself my dysphoria like a dumbass lmao
the second paragraph is something i’ve honestly never thought of before lmao. in fact i forgot that happened haha! can i ask how old you are? or at least when you transitioned for the 3 months?
@@DianeOBCD To be fair she did say it was great for pleasure, but I would take an educated guess at that is the only positive thing about it.
Looked it up and I can see why you'd feel insecure, it also looks like it'd be so sensitive it would hurt! Hope you're doing okay.
I also detransitioning (almost) 3 months into T, and I can relate to this "gruffer" voice. It's not too much deeper since i've focused on speaking from my head voice again, but it definitely has a rougher and more bass-y undertone too, which i really don't like :/
When I was 14, I cut my hair short, rarely wore makeup, and genuinely thought I was a boy for around 3 months. I could've transitioned, but I am SO GLAD I didn't. I am so proud of being a woman. I still don't wear makeup or dresses (outside of my Irish Dance competitions) or high heels (stupid female torture devices), but I'm me. And I'm a woman.
If you are under ANY doubts about transitioning, PLEASE hold off until you are an adult. Don't let _anyone_ (parents, other family or friends - whether online or in-person) pressure you into changing who you are. That is YOUR decision. YOU are the only one who has to live with the consequences of changing your body - and the same goes for tattoos, piercings, or even just changing your hair. Don't do it just because of pressure, otherwise you will seriously regret it. Something as drastic as changing your gender may not be permanent, but it is NOT a decision to be taken lightly. If you make a mistake, you can feel like you've wasted YEARS of your life presenting as someone you were not. Switching back and forth can prove to be traumatic on the mind and the physical body.
Wait until you're 18, and if you're still _absolutely positive_ independent of anyone else's desires, then do what you feel is right for you. You'll thank yourself later for being 100% sure before making a life-changing decision such as this.
Well written I believe there's kind of a push on young minds to make them believe they are trans. No you don't have to be a typical male or female but transitioning at such a young age is a huge mistake that most seem to regret. Pushing kids to change genders is not supportive at all.
@@chrischill5439 It is not the 1st time in history that we have had mass sterilisation.
I think a lot of people need to know that there is a reason why puberty blockers exist. The effects aren't permanent, so if you aren't trans, it won't be drastic, but, because it delays puberty, it can be a huge lifesaver for people who are actually trans.
Are you straight? I have a daughter who wants to transition and is seemingly attracted to boys and girls.
same. especially in america (im not from the US but i currently live here) it feels like you are being pushed into those boxes or stereotypes of how you should act or behave to be “normal”. especially as a woman, with societal pressures and expectations, it can be very difficult to understand that you are a perfectly good woman while not being traditionally feminine, dont use makeup, like clothes, babies, weddings and whatever else. im 35 and have never used make up, dont wear heals, im not traditionally feminine and am i’m very introverted and private and have interests and hobbies that are not typically female either. and i’m still a women, attracted and married to a man and it took me a long time to realize that there is nothing wrong with being your own brand of woman who does things her own way. and this is what we need to teach little girls rather than encourage them to take rushed decisions that might change their lives forever. and i’d say wait til youre 25 as it takes your prefrontal cortex quite some time to fully develop. i was a mess as a teen, depressed and unhappy for multiple reasons and ended up getting out of it being a fairly happy person. just the thought of being recommended to transition as a teen (and possibly accepting it) is terrifying.
It is incredibly irresponsible of parents to allow their kids to attempt to transition into a different gender. Teenagers are still kids who have many things to learn about life. So ridiculous!