"I Regret Transitioning" - Talk w/ Teen De-transitioner
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- Опубліковано 26 чер 2024
- I interviewed a woman who detransitioned. I think this is a really important conversation, and it shouldn't be taboo.
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Special thanks to Elle for being so honest and telling her story.. What do you guys wanna see on my channel next?
Love you blaire
Do a video on Kaitlin Bennet, pls
Love to see more Jessica yaniv stuff or something similar. Love your videos blaire 😘💙
I want the natural hair back.
The beastiality woman on Twitter and the weirdos in the comments. 😂
blaire: 'i started transitioning when i was 20'
girl you LOOK 20
@@upthevilla9505 girl*
@@upthevilla9505 Then why are you here? She is a woman. Doesn't matter if was born a man. She wants to be called she.
@@upthevilla9505 pls get the fuck out why are you even here
@@upthevilla9505 No it really doesn't. Why are you here? This channel is a safe place from people like you.
Sensei Lion dude, YOU learn biology. Maybe if you researched it you would find out sex and gender are different things and there’s scientifically more than XX and XY chromosomes. Love seeing transphobes ignore actual facts lmao
i feel so bad for her. she should not be attacked ever for making a mistake. she was lost and didn’t know where to turn. she was too young to make that choice
She never made a mistake. She just learned a lesson.
ɮօʊռċɛ օʄʄ that’s getting way off topic. Chill out
ɮօʊռċɛ օʄʄ i’m not saying attack as in physical attack but attacking her online. because there are people who try to silence detransitioners because they want to make it seem as if no one regrets transitioning.
Ashubel Sam she did make a mistake and she learned from it. it isn’t her fault tho. she was lost and thought that transitioning was the answer
Dude like how would someone be able to make such a decision at 15 ... it be madness to think that was okay
I’m a therapist. I grieve for this beautiful young woman. Young people who believe they are transgender NEED deep, skillful therapeutic care. If the emotional/psychological issues are addressed and resolved and the person still believes they are transgender, so be it. But so, so often, there are emotional/psychological issues - often in the family system - that are manifesting in the rejection of the self/the body. No one should make any decision in life - great or small - from a basis of self-hatred. This is consistent as I work with trans adolescents and their families: abject hatred of their femininity (for girls). This needs to be explored, not “fixed” by transitioning to male.
I love how you worded this. These ideas need to be explored!
Thank you for speaking out and speaking the truth as a therapist!
@Love 713 In my field, we use the term collusion. It’s serious. It does great harm. Ultimately, it serves the therapist alone.
100%
When I was a teen, I wanted to be male because I was bullied for not wearing make-up and being "feminine" enough. I also kept hearing about women having to wear high heels to work and just hated the thought so much. I'm honestly glad that was in the early 2000s, when we weren't as "woke". I might have made a terrible mistake I would still live to regret.
I still almost never wear make-up and never have worn high heels in my life, but I don't want to be a man. I just want to be a woman who is not a stereotype.
It mostly makes me mad and sad when they already label small kids as trans because they aren't a walking stereotype. I remember when nobody worried much about a tomboy phase in a prepubescent girl.
This is why *real* therapy is needed, not affirmation "therapy". Affirmation therapy is essentially the same as someone going to a therapist saying they're suicidal and the therapist says to the person to commit suicide.
That's not even close lol. Affirmation therapy is meant to build trust with the patient and help them discover more about themselves and draw their own conclusions. It gets better results than trying to reject a person's feelings when they come in for help
@@Ben-li9zb Children aren't old enough to draw their own conclusions lmao This is evident
@@TheSadie9110 so children arent old enough to draw their opinions? If a child thats biological female says they are female, would u say that children arent old enough to draw their own conclusions THEN?
@@fwedlovesbwead No children aren't old enough to make LIFE CHANGING decisions. They aren't old enough and their brains are not developed enough yet to make such decisions.
@Mansa Musa ??? help?? are u saying ur transphobic? or are u just saying that biologically by having a uterus your female. If so, i can understand that.
More reason why transitioning has to be a mature and informed decision made by an adult.
Agreed.
Agreed.
The hormonal part for sure has to be done carefully. Hormones for young trans ought be for those people who have been consistently trans since like 4 5 6 7...
I kind of agree but the transitioning looks better the younger you go through it since your hormones haven't done their job yet.
Andrew Wells honestly I just think they were lost in finding themselves but that’s very much a drastic change instead of understanding that everyone is different no matter what gender everyone’s unique in the own way and that’s perfectly okay. Very true on the age part but much respect ✨
“You don’t have to be a certain way to be a woman”
Demi Colbert Ironically, that concept is what motivated me to transition. I always felt like a woman, but I thought I’d make a terrible girl, so I kinda gave up on it at one point
preach
@@softlyfalling8563 i feel you but then i started listening to Blaire when she said "Can you imagine yourself growing old as your transitioned self?" and I just couldn't, which made me not want to transition
Just a woman. Which she’s always been clearly
@@softlyfalling8563 "I always felt like a woman"
How do you know what a woman feels like?
Elle hit the nail on the head. "how many young impressionable people are getting on the INTERNET and finding 'support groups' that are completely one-sided?"
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
8:48 This right here is so powerful. I remember growing up in a very sexist household and at 4 years old praying to God I would wake up with a penis. I hated everything about being a girl at that time. Then as I got older I realized that I didn’t hate being a girl. I hated how I was forced to express my femininity. Knowing that interests, colors, activities, careers don’t have a gender changed everything for me. It actually made me proud to be a woman because I felt like it was my responsibility to be true to myself and represent my definition of womanhood.
Yes! This!
We should all be living for eternity and focused on morality (including being grateful for God's design--he made us all completely unique with varying degrees of beauty, masculinity, and femininity--instead of vanities and the praises of mankind. God's definition of femininity is very different from mankind's and does not involve heels, makeup, and acquiring praise and/or lust for our outward appearance. Likewise, helping others is more praiseworthy in God's eyes than accumulating excess possessions. ua-cam.com/video/86dsfBbZfWs/v-deo.html
Freud called this stage in a girl's development "penis envy," lol. He may have been right. Freud believed most women don't remember this stage because it is at about 2 or 3 years old and they repress those feelings. If the girl gets through this stage successfully she will accept her lack of a penis and when she grows up she will enter into a relationship with a man and he can "share" his penis with her through sex and marriage. If she doesn't get through this stage successfully, Freud thought it could cause her to become a lesbian.
Yes! Exactly! That’s how I felt and still struggle with feeling sometimes. It isn’t my body I hate- it’s the way people treat me in my immediate circle.
So true.
The reason we are seeing more and more people detransitioning is because in hindsight the percentage of people with actual gender dysphoria is actually very low.
Not only that but the medical field is failing to diagnose teens on what they actually have
It is super rare. I went to 3 different psychiatrists to get a diagnosis. I knew when I was younger but never said anything because Mexican families are the worst when it comes to these types of things. It's not glamorous at all either. Dysphoria is painful and maddening. I hated waking up because of it.
CrowdControlQueen that is very true.
CrowdControlQueen Exactly. Like I totally be there are individuals are that have gender dysmorphia, but it’s not has much as the left tries to make it seem.
CrowdControlQueen the reason is because they finally wake the fucking fuck up
I feel so bad that her voice got so deep and she can’t do anything about it :/
There are probably ways she can change her voice, all is not lost
It might get better with years of detransition. After all, she did take hormones for several years and has only briefly been off them.
Also, see how Blaire's voice continued to change over years. It's a lot smoother and more 'natural' now - maybe some voice coaching helped Blaire and can also help Elle?
TooltheWetSprocket Not taking hormones won’t make her voice go back to normal. The reason why men have deeper voices than women is because the testosterone causes the vocal cords to become “longer” than a woman’s, so the slower vibration causes a deeper voice. You can’t really reverse that.
Hailey Marie you can get surgery to change that
@@ztr3v most trans women dont want that surgery because it can really fuck up ur voice worse
Nice to see a trans who is actually realistic and isn’t trying to jam a single opinion down peoples throats
“a trans”
It think you meant “trans person” haha
@@jammily7114 guess we can’t call a woman, a woman either then lmao.
A person of the woman variety 😂
@@LilacMorelli How is God good? Good is defined as moral perfection so only God qualifies to be good.
However, Some people think they are good. Have you lied (even once in your entire life), looked with lust at the opposite sex, dishonoured parents, stolen anything, had hatred towards someone, Taken the Lords name in vain, had premarital sex, adultery etc If you answered yes to any one of the above then you are a sinner like the rest of us.
Since all humans have broken the law, all humans will be punished in Hell for breaking the law. But God doesn’t want humans to perish so He sent Jesus to take the punishment that you deserve. So, either receive the mercy & love of God by repenting of sin (forsake sinful ways) & Believe in Jesus as God or pay for your own sins in Hell.
@@LilacMorellitrans isnt a noun, its an adjective. using it as a noun is inherently dehumanising
I just discovered Blaire in the last couple weeks, and she has helped me so much. I am a 36 year old man, I am married with 6 kids, and my oldest daughter who is 13 is all in on transgender. I felt at a loss and simply couldn’t connect to my daughter on this subject. How am I as a father supposed to hold a nuanced and balanced conversation with my daughter on something we both barely understand? We were simply talking past each other and not really understanding our individual positions. Blair’s videos have opened the flood gates for me and my daughter. We have deep conversation and we don’t always agree but for the first time we hear each other and actually have an understanding of what the fuck is happening. Thank you Blaire for saying the words that my old man brain couldn’t formulate
We should all be living for eternity and focused on morality (including being grateful for God's design--he made us all completely unique with varying degrees of beauty, masculinity, and femininity--instead of vanities and the praises of mankind. ua-cam.com/video/86dsfBbZfWs/v-deo.html
Your 36 with 6 kids. Bravo. Make sure a potential tomboy phase doesn't turn out into a lifetime of regret for your daughter. God speed.
@@StraightWhiteMaleNews isn't it interesting that society accepts a girl who goes through a "tomboy" phase and we even have a name for it...but we do not have this acceptance when it comes to boys. Maybe if feminine boys were allowed to go through a "tammygirl" phase, they would grow out of it. As it is now, any teenage boy who expresses feminine interests or wants to dress in a feminine manner will be labeled gay or transgender. Maybe it's just a phase though, like it is with tomboys.
She's 13, it's a phase. Don't encourage her do do sth she'll regret later.
Hi. I'm a 61 y/o Mom of 7 adult children. More than 2 of my kids went through periods of questioning their sexuality and eventually came out the other side as completely comfortable in their biological sex. One of my daughters is gay. I am thinking that maybe you and your daughter might be able to agree to share/exchange stories(like this one here of Blaire's) which give info about your opposing viewpoints, with the goal being to open up discussion and to help your daughter to weigh the pros and cons as fully as possible before taking any life-altering action.
When I was a teenager, I thought I was a transgender boy. Now that I am an adult, I realize I’m just a lesbian. I would have regretted transitioning.
And that’s okay. Sometimes you just need some time to think and just be for a minute. Glad it worked out for you.
Nowadays you would be classified as just non-binary lol
Douglas Murray talks about the damaging impact saying every tomboy girl/ feminine boy is a transgender person is having on young gay people and that adults who push children towards being transgender (parents, teachers, health care, etc.) need to stop. And, allowing children who are just at the beginning of really learning about themselves to make life altering decisions is of course a terrible idea.
Puberty is very confusing for everyone. I honestly don't think 18 is old enough to decide... even a tattoo can be removed and we have to wait till 18 to get them but the damage hormones do can never be erased.
when I was a little boy I thought I was a girl and I still do now, the fact that my parents didn't support me by not giving me puberty blockers and hormones when they should have has literally done irreparable damage to me and now I look like a hardcore masculine man that is forced to live a lie until he dies! Fun times! In my opinion, it's always better to do it than regret it later in life!
@@jimbob28642 why didn't you start at 18? How old are you now? Blair was 20 when she started...
This is really sad... this person will probably always be perceived as a trans woman which is gonna bring a whole other set of problems
VV i never thought about that but yeah :/
Lol trans women don’t have such deep voices
Yeah therapy requirements should be in place before making the choice
Ya she'll probably actually develop dysphoria now which is so sad :(
@@andreaam805 They don't after practice or shorting the vocal cords with surgery.
Doesn't mean they can't speak in a deep register.
Wow her voice is so deep 😢 this is so heartbreaking
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
@@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 stop trying to force your religion on others
@@antarexx allah is the way, not jesus.
@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 I'm a christain, and I completely agree with what you said, but there are better ways to share the gospel than randomly answering a UA-cam comment with it when it's unrelated. These things need to be handled delicately and with kindness so that it doesn't just feel like you're forcing it on someone. Sharing the gospel is so so important, but doing it tactlessly can often have the opposite effect and push someone even further away from God and the church.
@@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 marry jesus of you love him so much lmao
I’m an older trans teen myself and I’m waiting for my brain to fully develop before going on hormones myself. I’m still experimenting on what works out for me, and I’m more than willing to wait so I don’t regret my decisions. I’m going to therapy currently to help myself emotionally and it’s going great. I wish the best for Elle and other detransitioners who are struggling emotionally and physically. ❤️
Edit - Y’all making being trans look like it’s a bad thing 😭. If that’s what works out for someone, y’all shouldn’t judge someone for it lmao. Let them be.
Total respect for your patience and sensibility. Waiting until you’ve grown up is an excellent idea.
same here. I’m giving myself some time to finish puberty, turn at least 18, and really find out who I am. I just don’t wanna take any risks I might regret later
@@JoeBurrowSucks happy to hear this!
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
Respect to you! Best of luck on your journey lovely ❤❤
I love that blaire puts out the cons of transitioning even tho she is trans because not everyone who thinks they should transition really ends up wanting that when they get the procedures. Transitioning is a huge decisions and you should know the pros and cons of it
De transitioning is sooooo common. Its sad becuse its to late for most to have kids. This is why kids shouldent do this. They will fuck up there lives
It's trans activist fault they literally encourage young kids and teens who maybe even just having a teenage dysphoria and turning things that lead for them to do for that to happen. And then the ppl don't get throw puberty both physically and mentally grow they shouldn't transition... Yeah as they say they should remember Tomboys exist. So do femguys. And yea talking about detransictiom it's like taboo...
@@MaelZack lol thats y more ppl need to talk about it. More then transitioning. Haveing a happy normal life is easy. But the left trying to destroy normal life. They want u miserable and to spread that missery
That's why I agree with Blaire that teens and young kids shouldn't transition. In my opinion, it should be around the age of 18~20 to make that big decision.
'More than one way to be a women' literal feminism!! How have liberals got so wrong...oh yeah its intransdental to there ideology. Magdalen burns we miss you. Blaire is more on point as a feminist than theese fools
I really like how Blaire knows when to allow the guest to speak and she just listens quietly. Let the guest tell their story.
Really good interviewer and how she adds her story or experience without cutting off Elle
She would be a great journalist.
Yes, but her frequent hair touching and mouth movements are a bit distracting in video form.
kjc748 bad bitches tend to do that .
Thats just common sense. Why are you praising common sense? Hell, its very rare for ppl to interrupt someone they're interviewing. Unless they have an agenda against the person.
The fact that you can’t get tattoos, smoke, or drink in a lot of places until at least 18 but can completely change your body through surgery and hormones is the definition of insane. The argument for not being able to drink and smoke before 18-21 is our brains aren’t fully developed yet we can permanently alter ourselves through surgery and other drugs? Drinking throughout my teenage years didn’t do NEARLY as much damage as this now 21 year old girl was put through🤦🏼♂️ I can confidently say I’ve never in my life done any permanent damage to myself by using any of the drugs I’ve experimented with. Meanwhile people like her are called brave for doing what she did. What a sick society we live in.
All. For money
You realize you can’t have surgery until you’re 18 in most places right?? Like no 14 year old is gonna chop of breasts that they don’t even have yet. Also drugs are useless and harmful. While hormones are useful in order to help trans people off themselves less. They may have side affects but so does a lot of medicine for mental health issues. Dysphoria is a mental health issue. What we need is better therapists and doctors who will make sure the person transitioning is truly ready
Medical treatment is done before the age of 18, thats not new or strange
There are quite a few people who have undergone surgery before 18, as well as taken hormones. And the hormones have actually statistically shown to carry a lot of negative side effects, which Blair has talked more about on her channel with other people.
@@Ben-li9zb Here in Brazil we're only allowed to start hormones at 16 with the family permission or 18 without anyone, our surgeries only start at 18 and we need to wait for years in the public hospital if we don't have the money to pay private clinics.
I want to hug Elle so badly as I think she is a wonderful, hurting person that deserves love and empathy
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
@@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 No 🥱🤭
@@PuppyBIood Jesus loves you and wants to save you in this dark world, please stop runningaway fromGod, God us for you not against you
This is why therapy is so important for teenagers. Sometimes parents are quick to want to "fix" their child, and see psychiatry as the easiest option. Medication can be extremely helpful, but it is not a cure-all. It should only be used to help calm symptoms so the client can actually work through their problems.
Completely agree. This is also why I wish more Endocronogists demand a letter from a therapist before allowing those underage from starting hormone therapy.
It’s also why it’s insanity to give children hormonal treatments etc when the same hormones are frowned upon by UFC athletes for health risks
So I agree with to a degree.
As someone with bpd I can tell u when I tried to get rid of my meds cus "it's drugs!" I saw changes right away, therefore I couldn't function in therapy and could barely focus.
And tbh it was recently.
I didn't take them for a week and because of it, I couldn't get out of bed, it triggered my eating disorders and suicide thoughts.
When I told it to my therapis he called my doctor, now I had 2 options in that moment either going to the hospital or keep on taking them and on time, and lemme talk u, the change was and is crazy it worked like magic, I started to see how much calmer I feel, I started talking more, and eating normally! It was the moment when it hit me how important medications are, and in way, underrated. U hear a lot of hate when it comes to that and a lot of horror stories about it, but like if u go a bit deeper u will find more ppl just like me.
Obviously it's not an only fix but sometimes it should be the first option because when ur brain is unbalanced no amount of therapy could help (speaking from experience as I said)
I DON'T THINK THERAPY ISNT GOOD!
It's great and been helping me a lot!
What I've learned from the recent weeks is that, the right combination between therapy and meds can be literly life saving!
@Noot Noot It should be illegal to transition under 18 years old.
danneltheflannel agreed!
Blaire needs her own talk show. She is such a mature and level-headed human being.
YES, Blaire plz girl
I HATE talkshows, but damn it all if I wouldn't change that opinion if Blaire had one
Yes! Agree! Real honest issues of today's teens, young and older adults.
Blair White should've been the one who got her own talk show not iiSuperwomanii
Lmao I love her but no she's not mature and level headed she's quick to insult people who disagree with her
What's most important about Elle's experience, is that she gained self love, introspection, and wisdom that she can apply to the rest of her journey. That takes courage.
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
Wow. Blaire will eventually need bodyguards if she allows this stuff to be intelligently, politely discussed. This open platform is wonderful and a brave move.
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
Elle is a good friend of mine and i was there when she went through all of this. Please send her love, she is one of the nicest people.
Ms. Meme yes!
Katie beisecker I really hope she’s happy in life.
She seems like it. Please tell her I’m praying for her ❤️🙏🏾
She definitely comes across as kind hearted soul 🥰
Her words are so profound, she is so wise and brave for her age. My best to her. Her voice can be back with surgery and vocal therapy and time. She is very young still and pretty. My love from sunny Mexico.
I have seen girls transition because of dysphoria but afraid to go back. She had the nerve. Incredible. Glad she has good friends.
Puberty is scary and confusing and kids are always looking for ways to define themselves and fit in somewhere. Parents shouldnt be so quick to completely agree w whatever their kid defines themselves as.
@ɮօʊռċɛ օʄʄ that's such a random comment
@Chatter Box Yeah gender fluid is just teenagers going through puberty and feeling like they need to be 100% stereotypical gender while in reality it's just your personality. And they feel this safety and reassurement when they go together calling themselves this. Now we at the point where they are forcing speech and ideologies through fear of being "canceled/fired/shunned". All because children are growing up in a world that fucks so much with your mental and they dont get the help they need.
There are also non-permanent things they can do to transition when they're that young. But its over-looked because HRT is the end goal
@Chatter Box Im a 20 year old male and still struggling with my gender identity but I feel more confident in it compared to a month ago. My mental problems made me unhappy with life, I felt like I was missing something. Add on to that I dont like cars,sports,typical male things. Love female clothing and dressing up as one and make up. I was drunk every day to stop myself from thinking about my actual problems in life. And started feeling trans. Now I only drink in the weekend for fun and am working on the problems and see that I am happy with my sex/gender you see some guys cosplay female characters wear makeup and still are dudes. Yes I could call myself fluid. But I know my sex is male and can like feminine stuff. I'm just a reverse tomboy, because I still find being a dude easier and more myself. Went on a tangent but your story felt quite similar with the jealousy and that interests dont make you a certain gender.
@@Anima-bribe tomgirl. I just say tomboy and tomgirl, since it's easy to get the idea across saying it that way. I'm pretty much average by comparison but I wish more ppl would just be individuals, whatever that entails. You've only got one life so do your thing.
Teenagers go through a lot as it is already...
transitioning while being a teenager is just ridiculous
Perfect example of why anyone younger then 18 should never be able to do anything like this.
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
'My puberty was medicalized'
If thats not a failure by the adults in this child's life I don't know what is.
Wow
The Hippocratic Oath: "Am I a joke you?"
Right
@blurble923 I think there are people who transition who think that all their problems will go away from transitioning, without actually getting to the core of what those problems are they speculate and convince themselves that transitioning is the best course of action. Chris chan is the biggest example i can think of.
Agreed. Did the adults in her life not know that puberty by definition is a rough time? It is for everyone. Why not just keep talking to her, putting in the time, doing the work, helping her through? Why is everything over complicated and over medicated these days?
Growing up I was a very tomboyish girl. Many times I was even called “young man”. When I was 8-9 I thought I wanted to be a boy. Looking back I think I just had some very “masculine” interests at the time, I had no idea what transgender was. Perhaps if I was surrounded with the internet and groups of trans people I would have thought I was trans, because I was so impressionable. I can definitely see how this could happen to other young people. Best wishes to you Elle, you seem like such a sweet person ☺️ thank you for sharing your story.
Me too. As an adult through I'm a very happy woman.
How old are you?
M W also in the same boat as you. I was a tomboy since birth because it was my taste naturally. My mom is also both liberal and conservative but she naturally never enforced stereotypical things on me. She never questioned my masculine likes. However she is also a tomboy so I’m glad I wasn’t alone being the way I am
Same. I am 22 years old and have not been that way for about 10 years though.
I think a lot of kids these days show their interest in things considered masculine or feminine. And nowadays people won’t say that it’s okay to like things that are considered masculine or feminine, so the first people that speak to them about it are people who think that if you like feminine things as a boy then you’re actually a trans girl.
Blaire can you address the teachers pushing trans " education " to children.
I have a very feminine 12 year old boy with asd, limited verbal skills, learning disabilities etc, that doesn't wear girls clothes ( I've never offered them either) but loves pink, long hair, and playing with girls. My son's teacher used him as an axample on a zoom lesson of a child pretransition so I stopped her mid lesson and removed my son and later she explained that she and my son had " talked" about it ( odd considering he's basically nonverbal but ok) and my son was a girl and I needed to let him be herself. I did go to children's services because I called it grooming but was denied help, the principal had my back sort-of and reprimanded her for being inappropriately involved but how many kids are learning they are trans from teachers? My son may choose his way as an adult but he's a child that had no idea or care about gender because he's disabled he just wants to play with his gal Pals because they are kinder than 12 year old boys, he's sensitive because he has a sensory processing disorder not gender dysphoria. How would that inferring have directed another child? I know other parents who have had similar interactions as alot of asd kids have undefined gender boundaries and it's scary
As a bisexual man I always played more with the girls because they are more fun to hang around with honestly it means nothing and teachers today should be ashamed a classroom is for teaching Not Preaching
I think they should do a lesson on hey, trans people exist and if you feel this way come talk to me, but not like that. Never like thay
that’s horrible that she did that … I’m very sorry you had to deal with that
That is horrifying that a teacher would ever be talking to a child about this stuff
Wow. That’s horrifying.
So sorry that her family and society failed her. You’re beautiful, Elle.
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
Vocal feminization surgery is a thing!! She can get her voice fixed with, time, surgery and medication, and the facial hair can be dealt with as well. If medication doesn't work, laser hair removal will take it off permanently.
Yep but it’s dangerous, painful, & has consequences. The vocal chord surgery that is.
@Remy with enough treatments it is effectively permanent. Very very little growth.
While for her. Some things can be fixed. That's not true of all detransitioners. And there's also the aspect that on some levels she shouldn't need to have it fixed. Which is what they were talking about to some extent.
It’s a risky but she can go to a vocal coach
lazer hair removal does not work with light coloured hair, I can tell you from painful experience.
I really empathize with Elle- especially when she said she didn’t have to be a certain way to be a woman. Our situations seem similar. I’ve questioned my gender since I was about 10 years old. I’m now 18, and after a long time contemplating that I might be FTM, I realized that just because I am attracted to females, because I am not feminine, because I hate dresses and skirts, feel more comfortable in ‘masculine’ groups, my personal expression is gender non-conforming , etc. does NOT necessarily mean I am trans. I might be less feminine, but that doesn’t make me less of a female. I contemplated so many gender identities growing up in the midst of mental health issues and trauma. And now that I’m healing from my trauma and issues I realize that I don’t have to change to be accepted by myself or anyone else. I am who I am. I was so preoccupied by the idea of ‘boy vs girl’ I never took into consideration that it’s not that simple- every boy is not alike and neither is every girl. I wish I could’ve realized sooner, but I’m glad I finally realized, because I could’ve had to go through the stress and pain Elle is currently going through if I decided to transition when I was younger. My heart goes out to Elle (and Blaire too, she’s great). This was a nice video.
Logan L same I’m glad I realized I wasn’t and i never went through anything
Logan L wonderful story! I agree with you 100%. there is no single way to be male or female, and if you don’t fit with a stereotype, it doesn’t make you any less male or female. also, stay strong with anything you’re going through. I give you all the love and support you deserve :)
@@MilkyWay-gi8km There is 2 major way's to be male or female, be born with a penis or vagina and the DNA that causes that. Those are 2 very simple ways. I'm not knocking anyone for what they feel or what they've done and have decided to do since making a decision but that is a fact. No matter how many hormones or surgeries you have you can't alter the DNA. And to the original commenter I hope everything works out and you've found your path and continue to do what you feel is right in your heart and mind
Awesome comment! A "tomboy" is still a girl, a desirable girl, and a unique person. Own who you are and love it! Other people will too! Nothing against trans people, but if you can be happy with who you are, that seems the easier route.
Thank you for sharing your story! I think we do need to recognize that there is a grey area of gender expression, and being a masculine girl or a feminine boy doesn't change your identity!! I hate to see these people give themselves gender dysphoria because they are convinced they need to transition. I'm happy you realized, no one should have to go through this.
i love how sweet blaire is to her guests(: she always lets them talk and makes her guests feel comfortable
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
If one of my children ever wants to transition... I'll be asking them to also watch videos of de-transitioner so that way they get the full picture of the process and the positives and the negatives. You can be a feminine male and a masculine female.. i hate how people are transitioning to fit stereotypes
Yup, 1 in 10 women have a masculine temperament
@@bippitybopitybooty1127 All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
Jesus loves you and wants you for Himself (therefore repent & Believe in Him today for forgiveness of sins-10 commandments and more)
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
“I don’t have to be a certain way to be a woman.” This a million times!!! I’m a more masculine woman. I’m still a woman. Flamboyant men are still men. There is not one or two ways to be a woman or a man. The VAST majority of us are lucky and have no real problem with the body we are in. How we chose to express ourselves is how we chose to express ourselves.
Morgan O'Brien-Bledsoe yeah 100% you are your body their is no line between body\mind/emotions
David Vilar This is so not right. That's truly terrible.
Exactly. My girlfriend is a butch lesbian and for a while was struggling with if she might be trans or not because she dislikes femininity and chooses to express herself more masculine/andro. She grew up in a conservative household and to her, masculinity=man and femininity=woman, in terms of gender expression. Once she discovered she could be a butch lesbian, she knew for a FACT she wasn't trans. This is what we need to be teaching kids, at that age I think a majority of the issues are gender-expression-based.
I have had some trouble with being comfortable as a woman and I am STILL glad I never even discovered gender dysphoria as a teen. I don’t know if I would have been interested enough to do it but I would have obsessed over it, and now that I am an adult I am pretty happy with my life. I am married to a straight man, I am beautiful, and I have a son. Plus I have enough health problems to worry about. I also have a perspective in life that wouldn’t really approve transition as a solution and I would have regretted that for sure even if I liked presenting as a man instead. I think for me, I saw that my brother got more positive attention than I did, my dad was the nice parent, and I think I got the impression that life was better for boys than for girls. I related more to Simba, Little Foot and Aladdin than any Disney Princesses, etc, I liked boys’ adventures better than girls, and their role in society seemed more fun. In retrospect I think I am just broken, and I have a sort of repressed misogyny that says good girls are lame and not like me. I wanted to be the best I could be but it wasn’t working as a girl so I got anxious and wanted to be like my brother instead. I think a lot of these people who regret transition are like this, and what actually needs to be done is spiritual healing and probably some anxiety treatment
@@averagepaolidamenjoyer9855 but it is paied for so "it's ok and they love their transgender people" or so I have seen typed out. people say srs is paied for, but then others say it is but as a cure for same sex attraction
It's almost like a teenager isn't capable of making a truly informed decision like that... shocker.
hope dies they’re using trans as a new way to rebel.
Yeah, I feel bad for her. Im 14 an i used to think I was ftm, I even took testosterone starting in October the 28th and stopped in like December 13th I think. I quickly stopped after realizing it wasn't right for me, and i was lucky enough to have not gone through any physical changes from testosterone, only emotional changes.
1. I was on the lowest dose
2. I only took it for a month and a half
3. Since I was on gel packets, I had to take it everyday and would take my testosterone at like 5 am then 3 pm the next day or just not take it at all. I was very sloppy and couldn't keep up, although it was probably just my subconscious telling me I shouldn't be doing this. Im living as female again which is good. I feel so bad for this girl and I deff would've been in her shoes if I didn't realize fast enough.
The PandorasBox LMAO DUMBASS
Judge Judith Sheindlin LMFAO GTFO YOU GOON
@@wastedproductions45 I've said it since this whole transgender thing began to become more prevalent. It's either a child rebelling or it's trendy. When I was a teen in the 90s, being gay was trendy. Kids, my friends, people I knew very well and loved, would be gay for a month or a year and then all of a sudden they were straight again. And yes, this happened a lot amongst the kids who didn't have great relationships with their parents. So, I think it is a way for kids to rebel. There isn't anything transphobic about that at all. Trans folks, like Blair, who are who they are and didn't make the decision to transition as a CHILD aren't a part of that trend.
"Presenting" as a man and BEING a man are two intensely different things. I find that choice of word noteworthy when used by de-transitioners trying their best to explain themselves. These interviews are so valuable and I'm coming across more and more of them online. I'm hoping these brave people will work hard on their thinking and articulation/vocabulary because their voice are desperately needed right now. Thank you.
what people don't understand is that transitioning is typically a "last resort" form of treatment for gender dysphoria, and should only be done if you're positive that therapy is not helping. I feel really horrible for the people that have done irreversible things to their body when they didn't know things could begin to change later on.. : (
It USED to be and then the medical and mental health systems went sideways. I have friends with kids who were prescribed puberty blockers after one therapy session. This will come out as mass medical malpractice down the road.
This is her story, why would anyone get offended? People need to get a life.
People are getting offended because they think stories like these will make everyone think "see being trans is bs because people are regretting it and changing back"
@@CruellaDeVil. well that is stupid. What it should do is teach them that waiting is the best option. May suck in some ways but better than the alternative.
s B yes, exactly! You’re right it is stupid!
Cruella De Vil Who Carew what people think anyways?
@@CruellaDeVil. That's quite foolish and childish, to be honest. If a grown-ass person is offended by that they need therapy. Like how on earth is that a thing to be offended. People really need to get a life, as the original person said. One changing doesn't change the others, to be honest.
The voice is heartbreaking because she would be able to just go back to being a regular female if not for that
@baby Maharaja OH MY GOD IT DOES THOUGH
@baby Maharaja oh shit thats why she sounded familiar. thats spooky
Way off topic, but love that Half icon. The song doesn’t get enough love.
Her voice can be fixed
It luckily can be worked on with voice training just like many transwoman do or even surgery, but she likely has real dysphoria over it now.
Who allowed a fifteen year old to transition?! That is criminal!
Certainly is, I can't fathom how this is so promoted and "acceptable" today
It's like covering your entire body with tattoo you wanted when you're a teenager, and you have to live with it for rest of your life without ever fully removing it. Transition is fine, but don't decide too early - for your future self.
Yep
Such a mature and self aware young woman. Seems like she’s come a long way mentally, going off what she described when she was younger.
As a gay man, i support trans without all the politics. I worry that ‘woke’ parents / medical specialists are too eager to transition kids without due diligence.
*SAME!*
Erin FW me too..
Same.
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Shammy M yo..............................don’t do this lol
Elle is such a beautiful young woman and I am touched so much by her story. It hurts my heart that adults didnt protect her when she was a young girl. So sad...
All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
Blaire, always remember there are more supporters than haters! please never stop posting videos!
Regarding her voice!!
Elle, and any other individual who is unhappy with their voice can go to a speech-language pathologist to change the pitch of their voice in a SAFE way! Trying to modify the pitch of your voice is very doable, but should be done with research based approaches and medically monitored with instrumental testing/imaging to avoid any kind of vocal injury!
Talking outside of your fundamental frequency (the ideal pitch for your body) without the assistance of a professional (a speech-language pathologist) could lead to a bunch of voice disorders long term so it is better to seek the help of a medical professional instead of a vocal coach or voice actor!
Please like this so Elle and Blaire hopefully see this!!
jojokinn ^^^^
Could be helpful
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So trans-people are attacking and silencing people who want to transition back??
That's the most hypocritical thing I've ever heard.
Leave these people alone and let them find their true selves....that's their party line......
I'm an uncle of two gay nephews and whatever they decide I'll support them, you hypocrites are supposed to do that too.
Obviously not talking about you Blaire.....you're a normal human being.
Sad, isn't it ?
I thought we were all supposed to be accepting of everyone, no matter who or what they are?! The people trying to silence anyone that feels they made the wrong choice & need to detransition are the biggest hypocrites alive. This needs to be discussed & accepted as a very real possibility. Detransitioning is going to be a lot more common, in the years to come, because of how people push transitioning into kids. Many of these kids are doing it as a trend or attention. Literally changing your sex, with medication & a lot of times serious surgeries, shouldn’t ever be taken lightly or a “trend”.
It's even worse when you look on tumblr and see the "down with the cis" and "kill all cis people" tags, like that's just so hypocritical. How dare people want to feel comfortable with who they are.
Gays really need a loving uncle. Even if you have great parents, you need more than that. I thank you on behalf of gayness its very self.
Matt MacDonald I think this shows that some are not mentally healthy. To externalise one’s own experience like that, be unable to separate oneself from the outside world, and believe others are attacking you is not a normal mindset.
This is so important for young people to see.
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All Humans need to repent & Believe in Jesus. Why? Because all Humans have sinned (lied, lusted sexually, stolen, dishonoured parents etc). Avoid the fires of Hell (justice of God) and choose Heaven today. GOD IS HOLY
I wonder if some of the people that get triggered over the topic of detransitioning might have underlying doubt..would explain why they attack it so much. Just adding to the conversation
So true! They might subconsciusly have doubts that they aren't aware of or that they've simply swept under the rug and are scared to face. A trigger always has a reason
That's exactly what it is, and not just doubt, there must be a whole lot of them who regret going through the process and don't want to admit it, I predict that more people will come forward and denounce the whole experience
That's very true, I and other trans people haven't felt any discomfort at the mention of detransitioners (unless its an attempt to invalidate trans people existing) if it genuinely makes you unhappy to here about it, there might be some things you need to work through
The Entire LGTB movement is that way. Far to much "pride". It's overcompensating
@@smalltownhomesteadAC it's compensating for the hate directed at them from parts of society. I'd say its pretty proportional, even undercompensating
It’s almost like children should wait till they’re fully grown to decide.
Blockers are one thing, but hormones should wait
olt they shouldn’t be doing ANYTHING medically before 18. social transition is fine, but should be where the line is drawn.
Christina Garcia blockers are reversible so it’s better then permanent
@@colinrain715 Blockers do cause some problems.
Aimed2Kill life causes some problems
i love how respectful blaire is throughout the entire interview
Why shouldn't she be?
@@Lady-Mara some people can just be so rude, its actually refreshing to see her be so kind and understanding
It is incredibly irresponsible of parents to allow their kids to attempt to transition into a different gender. Teenagers are still kids who have many things to learn about life. So ridiculous!
We are living through an era of criminal medical practice. My hope, and I'm absolutely certain the day will come, that the people who have engaged in these actions will be prosecuted. They have PREYED on children and the bunk science they used to justify their greed was obvious to everyone with even a shred of ethical conciousness.
You’re such a good interviewer. No interruptions, take and give dialogue, self disclosing without being selfish about it. 10/10 need more interviews.
Rhonda H. Crane I know right I love her
Seriously. I would hire this girl if I ever became powerful.
I actually think the opposite. Not that she is a bad interviewer, but on occasions she would interrupt her to talk about her personal experience. You can see Blair literally interrupting Elle's speech.
hm she did interrupt her, ranted a bit too... so i disagree
It seems like most detransitioners follow the pattern of having gone through some sort of trauma, that or don't realize they're just gay and can still be fem or masc.
Exactly
I'm trans and i havent gone through any of that (except i thought i was a tomboy when i was young) but still when i hear detrans stories i kinda get scared and doubt im trans and wonder "what if im making this up". Its scary.
Also, is ANYONE comfortable in their body as a teenager? The previous medical best practice was “watchful waiting” because SO many dysphoric teens just...grow out of it.
I've seen alot with sexual assault trama say stuff like "I don't wanna be what they liked, if I'm a guy people like that won't want to hurt me like that" THAT'S SO FUCKING SAD, IT'S ALL SO SAD AND I WANNA HUG THEM ALL
Yeah, this entirely. I thought I was trans when I was in high school, and thankfully wasnt allowed to transition. Later I've realized that it has a lot to do with my childhood trauma. The dissociation from my gender is related to my trauma, and that means I'm not trans. I'm glad I didn't transition.
I am glad she did not go through painful surgeries. Surgeries can have long turn medical issues. 🕵🏼♂️
I can't imagine how horrible that is. I know this is an older video, but my heart goes out to Elle. And prayers her way. 🙏
I wish Elle and every other detransitioner the upmost best in their lives.
You can actually get your voice higher with vocal training, it takes practice but it's possible.
Yes! speech pathologists can help this!
And surgery, too.
Also you can have surgery for that. It's risky. Trans women do this get a higher voice
Sounds all painful
@@constantine9142 Yeah but it's the normal painful transition stuff unfortunately, least she didn't get surgery that is a completely different bag of worms.
Just throwing this out there, Lauren Bacall was considered an icon of femininity. Her voice was as deep as Elle"s.
I genuinely hope she sees this. A very kind thing for you to take time to comment this.
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unfortunately in many places around the world the response would be a hatecrime
Stuff like this is super encouraging, really hope she sees this
Lauren Bacall's still sounded vaguely feminine, however. This poor girl completely sounds like a MAN. This is tragic!
This is very educational and this needs to be heard more.
Bless Her, It is tuff. Its an up hill battle and I hope she can get the inner stability that I was lucky enough to get. I was dealing with Gender Dysphoria from age five began to transition at sixteen but at about thirty I stopped because I realized the outcome was not what I wanted for me. I felt that the cost compared to the outcome was horrible so I sought other means to be comfortable in my own skin. I had a Great teacher in my Grandfather who was a Shamon and helped me reach a comfortable state of being. :) Being of two spirits use to be a good thing in the tribes, we where looked on as Shamon, as counselors between men and women because we can see both sides and understand what they can not. Be well Elle, Be true and love self FIRST only then can you truly be well and comfortable and true with others. What a great talk, thank you both and All my best wishes for your both. :) Be well.
Transitioned at age 30; detransitioned officially at age 47. Thank you so much for doing this
Hi, If it's not too intrusive of me can you talk about how you decided to transition and then detransition? How much time did it take to realize it etc.
I'm currently questioning my gender and trying to learn as much as I can but it's okay if you're not comfortable talking about it :)
This is interesting. I would love to know more too.
@@user-wz8pc9pn8w well my question to you is why are you questioning your gender? What is there to question? I’ve had these conversations with lots of trans people of different ages. They practically admitted to the exact same things and I’m just trying to make sure or confirm my theory.
I’m someone who began to question his biological sex, not gonna use a controversial term, when I was a child. And funny enough all the people who had the guts to actually explain things to me basically had the same experience but different outcome.
So I’m trying to get to the bottom. The root cause of all this since many who don’t share Blaire’s views refuse to explain or elaborate. If anything their refusal only further confirms my theory even more.
But I don’t want to jumped towards any general conclusions just yet.
@@chrisfinnegan4223 You said that they basically all said the same thing but you didn't mention what. Could you elaborate more and what the common narrative was as you understood them? It is something that I have been extremely curious about.
@@bblcommisions yeah that whole post he made was so vague
If I was allowed to make major life decisions as a kid, then I would be covered in Pokemon tattoos...
Dan & Gib Id have a Spice Girls back tatt lol
Tbh I wouldn't mind too much having a Pokémon tattoo on me (as my profile picture might reveal lmao) as long as it wouldn't be too visible.
Dan & Gib i saw a dude with a full pokemon sleeve once. pretty fuckin sick
I would have been mrs. Michael Jackson
If I could get tattoos at 14 I would’ve had kpop art all over 🥶
elle’s final statement about how what you’re thinking now and that it won’t matter in months or years is very relatable to me, i always tell myself that in situations and it helps me realize that what’s happening now, or who am i am now, does not determine my future and change is always possible for the better
They gave Elle so much damn T. God bless her, keep her well, and helped. So much grace in the face of all this
As someone who detransitioned, thank you for this
Respect to you!
ɮօʊռċɛ օʄʄ What do you mean???
Respect to uu💖💖
Hope you're well!! ❤❤
as a male to female detranser, did your balls drop yet or are you forever ruined?
0:37 It shocks me that an already bullied community would bully someone who is *also* just trying to figure out who they are
Cults always do that to ex members.
The ' bullied community ' are the bullies.
I think it's because the vast majority of trans people are traumatised and easily triggered
@@LM-qv7cy the deaf community bullied you for joining the hearing community? Whoa that's wild
@@LM-qv7cy ooooh gotcha gotcha, I understand now. Wow, that's so interesting! I'm sorry youve had to go through that, I'm sure it would be hard
I frickin love you both. You're both so great to listen to, thank you both for putting this out into the internet, more people need to hear this.
So sorry you’re going through this Elle 💜 You are amazing for speaking out about your experience!
Woow. Her voice doesn't sound like a stereotypical trans man's voice, it sounds sooo male. And now, she has dysphoria about the permenant changes made to her body by HRT that could've been avoided if she hadn't been lead to transition at a young age.
I feel so bad for her. Thank you Blaire for sharing her story!
No I’ve seen some trans men who still have kind of a high pitch voice. I’m a reg cis woman and I can make my voice deeper than theirs. Voices vary from person to person if you have a light high pitch voice it will only go so deep. However there are also cis men with feminine voices
@LinusDickTips no, what i meant was that most trans people, men or women, transition post adolescence and even with HRT, the voice still has some cadence of their biological sex and usually with trans men, their voices do not get this deep.
As a trans man this is kind of a rude thing to say.. if you're implying the stereotypical trans man voice to be the "tranny" voice that's a huge misconception because most trans men have "cis" men voices including myself.
LinusDickTips Bullshit. I’ve never heard a “trans man” with an authentic sounding man’s voice. They all sound ridiculous. This is the first one I’ve heard.
@@ashers9225 Stop. Read the comments fully. Don't get offended, realize the reality of biology.
this is why it is important to be medically diagnosed with gender dysphoria
so you avoid incidents like these from happening in the future
except doctors are now affirmation only by law. Diagnoses are handed out easily, especially when one knows the correct things to say. There are many posts online of people asking for help on what to say in order to convince the therapist to give them hormones.
I have a friend with several issues who wants to transition but is not even sure about it and his friends wont help at all since all they do is agree with their decision and saying that he doesnt need the dysphoria for it
We almost don't know anything about human psychology/brain, these diagnostic are totally dumb. In most case all doctors are doing is giving test treatments, it's not scientific, they give u shit and then figure if it's working for you.
she WAS medically diagnosed with gender dysphoria, otherwise she wouldn't have gotten on hormone therapy in the first place.
@Zeus Christos
You can't conclusively tell a female and male brain apart on MRI right now, but we're getting there: www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fnins.2019.00185/full
What a beautiful video this is x Blair you interviewed Elle so kindly and Elle really got the chance to explain herself and in my view....shes incredible!
I love the way Blair that even though you are trans you can really see it isnt right for everyone and highlight the pros and cons and question things....I just think you are fabulous in all honesty! Xx
MAD PROPS to Blaire for publicly having this conversation.
She is cute.. the voice must be frustrating for her
I do wonder if her voice will maybe partially return to normal after a few years, now that she has stopped taking hormones, or if it's completely permanent
Elisabeth Falk like trans women, you have to change it yourself
@@cstef5592 I think it's permanent because it's a change in the shape of their voice box. I might be wrong but I remember hearing that males have oval voice boxs and females have kinda circle voice boxes. Also, young males whose voices changes are permanent but hopefully she finds a way to have a female sound voice.
Elisabeth Falk ftm voice change is permanent
safenightsarewicked FTM voice change actually happens naturally when transitioning with hormones. Voice changing, hair growth, and a couple other things are permanent
There is such pressure on teens to fully know your identity, there’s no room for doubt
That is what this ridiculous world has come to.
The thing that really bothers me is why is these people's identity so strongly related to their sex and gender. Surely you can be a man in stereotypically women's clothing and vice versa. I am especially bothered when they say I am a man but I feel like a woman...how do you know what being a woman feels like? A woman is literally just defined as a female adult human being, nothing more nothing less.
it is said that we don't really know ourselves until were in our 40's, and that is proving to be true in my life
I love how society has gone from thinking effeminate men aren't men, then effeminate men are men, then circling back to effeminate men are women
God made it simple humans are just insane
Thank you to both of you for getting this information out there and helping to stop others going through this at too young an age to know and understand.
What a brave young person. I so wish she had gotten the proper help when she was young. It's so hard for teenagers with everyday life. It doesn't help to feel alone and unable to find help. It was hard when I was a teen in the 70's but I think it's so much harder these days.
She sounds so much like a cis man, it's scary how people are trying to justify kids doing this.
Kids that are younger than Elle, and if you dare question why transitioning works for some but not for others, then apparently you're a transphobe
Using the minority of cases of regret to prevent trans people who are not confused and really want to transition is transphobic.
Snake she wasn’t fully assessed, if you can show proof of someone who had multiple therapy sessions with a gender therapist and long assessment and then for them to detransition then your point will have validity.
Amanda Vieira She’s just telling young kids to be careful and maybe wait till their alittle older her comment isn’t transphobic.
@@kanekicentipede8074 Isn't that a problem if she wasn't fully assessed yet she was still put onto hormone therapy? Her body might now have irreversible changes now. That shouldn't be allowed.
@@amandavieira2543 What? How? Anyone should wait until they're an adult and FULLY understand the scope of such a choice. Advertising and grooming an 8 year old to do it is evil. They don't even know what their favorite color is most of the time it's just what the outside influence suggest is their favorite. Only in some cases are kids truly forced to mature so fast but even then they're easy to convince of things.
We have to Literally drill cautions in their heads for years for it to stick like stranger danger. Allowing them to change their genders physical appearance and cut parts off is WAY too much when they're not even in puberty yet. It's sad people think that's strength when it's irresponsible.
When I was 10 - 12 I had a "phase" where I only wanted to dress as a boy ,only wear male underware and wanted to be called a boy name ...
My parents didnt really cared about that and just let me do my think. Beeing transgender wasnt something they knew exsisted. I am kind of thankfull for that, because I tuned out to be not transgender, in my case in really was "just a phase" and I am really happy to be a woman today.
Pls dont get me wrong I´m defenetly not saying beeing transgender is "just a phase".
Britney Smith I used to tell my mom at 2 I want to be a boy not an earl because I couldn’t even pronounce the world girl. Thank God my parents were not like some of the parents out there now. I would have been so upset
A part of being a child is cognitive (and physical brain) development.
We all do that stuff to figure our identity out, so... the issue is folks on the left see that, hone in on it, and tell someone they are this and that.
I went threw that phase too. When I was 13 - 15 I strongly believed that I was bisexual & transgender. I wanted to go by “Damon,” wanted people to use They/Them pronouns, shaved my head, wore button ups, and at some point I even bought a chest binder. I also wanted to transition so bad and forced myself to like girls because that’s what Cis males did. I’m 18 now, have been dating a guy for 2 years and am a lot more feminine. I’m also much more comfortable with myself and my body. I know my “dysphoria” was because of my mom, she would always point out the growth of my chest and it made me really uncomfortable, so I would always try to hide it with male clothing.
Yeah sometimes kids just “experiment” with gender and that’s normal. If a kid plays policeman doesn’t mean you should give it a gun and badge.
ME TOO
Love watching two people talking to each other and actually listening to each other they didn't interrupt each other once.
I'm watching this in 2023, three years after it was posted. I would love to see a "where are they now" update video.
One thing that Elle said that stuck out to me is this: "If I can go back I would tell myself that I didn't have to be a certain way to be a woman." Here here. I remember in my teens I never felt "woman" or "female" enough and it really did a lot of psychological damage to me. If I could talk to my teen self I'd say these wise words too.
I felt this way, too! Others saw me as less feminine so I had to (painfully) construct for myself what being a woman meant to me. If I hadn't, I might have been like Elle.
Moth’s Mummy ok. Thanks. English is my second language.
I see what you mean. Accepting that gender and sex do not have to align perfectly in any way. Gah, it's so tricky to navigate
Trans activists have a very reductive idea of what it is to be female.
Being a tomboy, athletic, active, interested in traditional boy things and not being interested in frilly girl stuff is actually normal for a lot of girls. A lot.
I'm 27, married, a mom, and still a Tomboy except for sometimes and I have no issues at all. Being a woman doesn't necessarily mean being feminine 😊✌️
People in US should stop giving tons of pills to children without trying to understandand rootcause.This is so disturbing.
i started getting medication at 13-14 (i’m now 15) and i quickly got off of it cuz it made me feel worse. i said i thought i had depression and anxiety (which i definitely do think that) but they just put that down as my diagnosis without much testing or talking to me. i’m now confused because idk if i have additional things then i was diagnosed with or something completely different. my friend also was diagnosed with adhd and to me it doesn’t seem like she has it. sorry for telling u my whole life story but basically i completely agree with u. it’s honestly scary how they deal with teens and their mental health.
@@mikayla9501 In the past they used to teach children whom were left handed that they were stupid and forced them to write right handed.
I see the treatment they use on children/teenagers/young adults and it is still literally that.
You like many other kids are wired differently and to partake in this society you have to conform to the immesurably high standards/pressure society demands from you.
So they make you fit in with drugs, instead of teaching you to learn from your own behaviour.
I had mental issues myself and for me (not recommended for anyone that actually needs it), but for me i have refused treatment.
Best decision i have ever made in my life, and you will learn when you are older that the ultimate contentment with the self comes when you are able to identify and articulate your own issues and deal with them.
Focus on what you want to do and if you don't know figure it out or ask adults because we've all been there. You are at an age with a world of possibility ahead of you.
And like me you might figure out that you never needed medication to begin with and that a lot of treatment for example for ADHD, mild autism, depression is being driven by the subscription pad, instead of helping by shaping them and make them understand themselves and their own behaviours.
You'll be ok. I will say, that as a former ritalin user myself. It is completely ok if you need it (can't estimate your situation from here), it does have its uses for focussing (dose should never be more than 80 mg a day, if you are on 40 MG like i was that is completely ok). But feel free to quit as well. And at some point you will find out, you don't need it. Don't use it in the weekends and in the holidays, then go to a few classes without it. You might notice no difference at all.
You can be charged with a felony such as murder, robbery, assault in most states at age 12 and in some states as young as ten years. Why? Because the law says a person of that age has the ability to form the required reasoning to plan the crime and more importantly to understand exactly what they were doing. Further, and this is key, the law in most states says that children of the same age we are talking about when it comes to gender transformation have the mental ability to understand the consequences of their actions. So, if a young person can understand the consequences of being the getaway driver in a robbery, whey are they too young to understand the consequences of putting puberty on hold?
Yetanother Top i disagree with that though, children shouldn’t have to bear criminal responsibility at that age.
@@SiobhanS1868 I agree with you. In some states, people as young as 14 can be charged as an adult for felony crimes. My point was that society has an odd view of what children can and cannot be responsible for. If a 16-year-old is late to school five times in some states the principal of the school and bend them over and spank them like a child. If the same 16-year-old gets mad about that and punches the principal in the face 2 seconds after the spanking is done, they can be charged as an adult for felony assault. We need to make up our minds about how much can a child reason and figure out the consequences of their actions. A 17-year-old boy can be told by his parents that they have decided to have him circumcised. There is nothing wrong with his penis nor foreskin - the parents have just decided they like the way a circumcised penis looks. No matter how much he protests, almost every urologist in the US would prescribe a Xanax for him to take before he leaves home, put him on a procedure table, and slice off his foreskin - even if he had told the urologist very loudly that he did not want it done. If that same 17-year-old came back the next day and trashed the urologist's office in revenge, he'd be charged as an adult in criminal court. We need to make up our minds.
This is such a valuable video. I appreciate you mentioning that while transitioning was absolutely right for you, it's not for everyone. Thanks for presenting the other side! Subbed!
Great job ladies! Very informative & well done interview. Elle, stay strong, u appear to have a much more well rounded thought process than most people your age of either gender. I appreciate you sharing your story so that it may benefit the multitudes of youth preparing to take on these very issues. I am extremely impressed with your strength to share your story publicly even though I am sure you will receive a lot of negative feedback for your efforts. Damn impressive, Elle! & Blair, excellent interview as always. Keep on being your best self, your viewers appreciate it.
I think we need to recognize and accept that women can be “manly” and men can be “feminine” and there can be different degrees of that. I
Japan and Korea is a good examples of that.
Yes but biological sex is not a decision.
Maybe stop calling some stereotypes manly or femenine so people don't have to wonder if they are male or female enough.
Even trans woman can be tomboy. That was hard for me to figure out.
@@shoutatthesky it's not a choice either. You can't change it.
A trans person feeling personally attacked by someones decision to no longer be trans is the most 2019 thing I have ever heard.
So much hate.
AddAustin you’d have to really be insecure about your transition if you get offended by someone who is detransitioning
Mary Katharine Ham It's because there is a misconception of their message. They are saying "don't make my mistake", not "don't transition". And if you (royal you, not necessarily you Mary) have a hard time seeing the difference in those two statements, that right there is why the offense is taken.
@LaVioletaAmatista There is no "transphobia." People who disagree with the whole trans thing are not phobic. Difference of opinion is not "transphobic."
We seriously need to just delete this "phobia" word. People are missusing it so hard nowadays. Its the new buzzword. Everyone has a phobia nowadays. Insert your group you relate to and add phobia and claim everyone who disagrees with you have it. The fucking logic of today.
LaVioletaAmatista of course some people who dont like trans people can use it as an excuse to show that transitioning is not a good idea, but it doesn’t change the fact that some people really do regret it and shouldn’t be hated for that. They made a major mistake that changed their lives so i think its unjust to them to be bashed by the trans community (not all of course) because of it
@LaVioletaAmatista Was that entire rant a definition or did you throw in some of your own spices at the end? If the first, then this person has some irl issues.
Im no homophobe, idc who they sleep with honestly.
Your definition of transphobe basically seems to just include "do you disagree with trans people?" If your answere is anything but "no" then you are transphobe.
I simply do not agree with how people see trans
as a positive and good thing. And if you read my comments you should see links to said sources ive come with that would back up my statements. If not i can include them here if you'd like.
And you're very welcome to look at my older comments, it's a bit weird and kinda stalker behaviour but im fine with that, i stand for what i say. I do not discriminate these people whatsoever, i simply do not think "trans" is a healthy idea. It seems to stem from a mental health issue, in which case i see it far more productive to cure said illness, than to do what said illness wants. I've also made comparison to BIID, which i've taken from studies done by psychiatrists.
Heres what i believe case in point. If you think thats "transphobic" then so fucking be it, i don't care about your buzzwords, they are irrelevant to me. Go and "reeee" somewhere else.
It's almost like transitioning is trendy and they pass out hormones like Skittles.
Blaire you’re awesome and I’m pushing all the positive vibes to you. Most of all stay safe and protect yourself and your mind. It is your most powerful asset. 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾
I have a bad feeling we are going to see more and more of this.
Vader Dave just write detrans in UA-cam search and you’ll be shocked how many videos and girls are detransitioning. Some even hate top and bottom surgery and they’re mutilated for good. It so sad.
Vader Dave we’re already seeing it. My daughter, from the age of 2 to 4 years telling me she was a boy. She wouldn’t wear pink or dresses. Now she’s almost 5 and is all about being a girl. 🤷🏾♀️
We will.
We will. People are waking up.
@@Alienwomenonearth i dont think you are interpreting this correctly
The same thing happens to body positive groups. They tend to bully members who share they wish to lose weight or change their lifestyle and habits. It seems to happen to many groups who claim to support you, only as long as you stay on their side. That is not support people!
Why doesn't this have more likes -
True!
Extremism in all of its flavors! I see the same within the group of feminists, ppl who actually just hate men. Equality isnt about hate lol. Anyone fighting an equality battle needs to understand yes they have fought hard, but supporting each other DESPITE differences and deciding to trans or de trans is part of that acceptance. Anything thats not inclusive support is extremism and hypocrisy.
Yes 👏 exactly 👏
because it's much easier to play the victim than getting up and working on making yourself better
This is aging so well.
God bless you Blaire ❤ I hope Elle is doing even better 3 years on.
An update interview would be awesome!!
I was a total tomboy as a kid it was just part of growing and developing.... I got married, had three children and I still don't do conventionally girly things. Your mind and body are still growing and forming as a teenager.... drastic measures are not necessary as you change all the time. As an adult you can decide how you want to live but before that you don't have a solid notion on anything permanent. Parents and guardians should leave these kids to grow and learn.
Elle seems like a lovely person and I wish her a happy and fulfilled life ☺️
+1 I'm the same as you. It just makes people appreciate more when I wear a jumpsuit or a dress 😅
that's why it's discouraged to transition as a kid..
At least outside of N.America.
No it’s because lots of people hate trans people.
@@AtomicHaven please come back to reality.
Alex Haven Blackburn no because kids brains aren’t developed & aren’t mature enough to make those decisions. You can change the hair and clothes and style but to make drastic changes like hormone treatments and such is iffy. The suicide rate is significant with people who have body dysphoria regardless of transitioning. There’s more to look at here
@@AtomicHaven Sorry, but that's a shit thing to say. Children need to be protected from psycho parents.
"If I could go back I would tell myself that I don't have to be a certain way to be a woman"
This part really resonated with me. I grew up in a very very sexist environment that had very strongly held traditional views of what it means to be a woman. I didn't identify with and disagreed with those views so much I began to think I wasn't a woman. It coincided with a time in my life filled with mental issues and uncertainty. Those two environments combined I believe is what caused me to really believe I wasn't a woman. Flash to now, and I have a much more healthy understanding of and love for my femininity. If you treat women like being a woman is a bad thing to be, I believe there will be more and more people being confused about their gender identity.
Cakey21 Agreed, human beings are way too complex to be put into boxes.
Omg same, I totally went to a phase because my family has very traditional gender roles and I thought the way I was, was wrong if I was a woman. For 2 years i acted and dressed like a man and then I realized I can be myself and at the same time feminine! I don’t have to have long hair or cross my legs to be a woman! And not enough people understand that!! And it leads to this kindve mentality
I really treasure how different the world is today then what it used to be
You hit on something really important there at the end, about love for your femininity and "if you treat women like being a women is a bad thing to be" there are a large group of people that seem to have real negative views on both masculinity and femininity, its like they want to destroy both.
i so agree with that! it sounds much like my experience
I'm sending you all my love and prayers Elle! You are so strong and I'm grateful for hearing your story.
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