Why Did She Back Away? Another Guy, Was I Too Needy, Etc.?
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- Опубліковано 27 вер 2024
- How to know why she backed away and became cold and distant.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss 2 different emails from 2 different viewers. The 1st email is from a guy who went out on a date with a female colleague. The date went well but had some awkward moments. She canceled the 2nd date because she was sick, but then dipped out with a weird explanation. The 2nd email is from a viewer who has been seeing a girl for about 5 months on and off. Recently she backed away saying they needed to pump the brakes. He wants to know why.
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Guys underestimate the power of dating LOTS of women! Keep dating other women until the WOMAN brings up a relationship. Treat them all the same!!
It's the only way until you are certain that you have a unicorn
You're absolutely right. I think a majority of all this stems from "one-itis" mindset. I think us guys forget that other women exist. But you really have to expand.
The tough part of that is how unremarkably average most women actually are. And that makes it an extremely unenjoyable experience
That’s all well and good saying that you need to date lots of women but that can only happen if women want that to happen. I came out of lockdown hearing that women would be gagging for it having been locked down inside for so long but that was not my experience, it was still just as difficult to chat them up after lockdown as it was before lockdown
Don't worry about it. More time that leaves you for your other girls.
I would advise anyone new to Corey’s work to take this video very seriously. Everything he says here is perfect advice for how to avoid coming off too needy.
Thank you Corey your helping me fix my life after a couple women had wrecked and are trying to keep me down. 1/3 of my pay to taxes and child support but with your work and my determination I am fixing my confidence and putting my life back together. I am not able to contribute to you financially at this time but I always thank you out loud after every video newsletter and I help every person I can and inside I do it partially in honor to you. Dozens of people thank me and thru me they thank you. Your making the world a better place and helping put true men back in their place of power and masculinity. From the bottom of my heart thank you. - a 3 year listener and practitioner
Keep u down? Everyone has to pay taxes and you're supposed to support your children. Probably gotta drive the speed the limit, and wipe up your own ass too huh? Those rotten cunts.😒
JK congrats bro kill it. 🤘🤑🤘
I think the biggest mistake most guys make is they are always available. Texting back right away which shows you have nothing going on in your life. Don’t always be available, be playful and funny when you are with a woman, don’t bring up relationship. Just go with the flow.
Everyone has their phone on them 24/7. Not texting back for hours or days simply is nonsense.
Maybe it is nonsense… but it works.
@@kikhazz scarcity creates value. I personally am not a person that spends all day on their phone
@@hunternixonfishing2500 not being on the phone and not having a phone ate two different things. We ALL have phones in reach and everybody is looking at them, even in the gym (i even knew a shorty who brought her phone in the shower). Not responding is its own answer…we all deal with it
So if a girl replies within hrs or 24 hrs, what to do? If she texts me, should I do the same?
The most important thing is to give her freedom,if you act too needy she’ll see you as insecure
After reading your book once I realised how much I fuck up with girls, I ruined my chances with the latest girl I was interested in and failed pretty much all her shit tests and came across as too available and needy. It was a learning experience and I'm currently going no contact and moving on.
I just want to say thank you Corey for this invaluable knowledge. Now to read your book 14 more times ...
We all learned from mistakes.
Question, i have a girl lately she is delaying answering texts, before was great replies, now, should I mirror her? So, I reply after 2 or 24 hrs?
@@ChristianYepez im really not in the position to confidently answer that question, i'm still very new to this LOL but good luck.
You allowed her to do her shit tests. You should of walked once she started them. She kept the shit tests going because you allowed her to keep doing them. I’m now no contact and unfriend on Facebook on a chick who ignored me. I immediately cut her off. If she’s into me she’ll come back around. I’m intentionally posting gym pics to show her I keep it moving, be on my program or there’s the door.
@@ChristianYepez go no contact. If she’s into you she’ll reach out. Keep it moving and find someone else, or just live your life.
This video is peak form, Coach. Love how you're continuously making jokes, super entertaining!!
1st to like and say "thanks coach for this amazing book. I finished listening to it again, gave me the strength to move on"
Gotta be James Bond. My mother has a sweet coworker (nurse) that she introduced me too. We’re both in our early 20s. Had a chat with her over the phone for an hour a couple of weeks ago and told her she’s sounds like a fun girl and that we’ll have to see each other sometime. A couple of days later we set up a date for this Thursday and she canceled on me for her dad who wants to put up Christmas lights and just had back surgery. I said no problem and to let me know whenever she’s available. The prior week she apologized for the late text response because she’s adapting to night shifts. Haven’t talked to her at all over the last couple weeks. Can’t really tell if she’s trying to let me down nicely or she’s just genuinely busy. Time will tell. Keep in mind I’ve only texted her for the date setup.
She's making an excuse. They could put up lights on a day she doesn't have a date. Talk to some other girls. Don't put your life on hold.
I think coach would say she has low interest but if she reaches out to you then she may want to see you. But if you’ve tried to meet up two times already, then move on. She’ll have to really want to meet to actually move things forward.
You also should’ve set up the date and get off the phone. Also YOU set the date. When you say “we” set the date it seems like you went with whatever she said so she was leading you. We all make mistakes when our emotions get involved but keep growing and reading the book bro. Also have options, I’m just learning and applying the book so read it, multiple times if you want to get better with each girl.
Chatting with her over the phone for an hour? COME ON MAN!!
The phone conversation ruined the mystique.
I think what actually happened is that the experience that night made her feel awkward.
Remember she was drunk and kept on rejecting him. She feels weird now cuz they work together.
Some men get dangerous with situations like this at the workplace, especially. It came on too fast she feels weird now.
I think she actually wanted to have sex with him and was playfully rejecting his advances. Then instead of staying with her to cuddle as coach said she got pissy because he left. Either way she sounds like a pain in the ass and playing mind games. Not worth his time.
@@xfoils5302 True. I forgot to consider the part that he left. From what I heard the coach say and from what I can infer, I feel that it went way too fast. But like you said, she seems like trouble. Workplace worstplace.
IMO a woman who’s into you doesn’t care about ‘too fast’. Only thing a guy needs to worry about is being too available. Go slower than her. I thought I knew it all but I blew it. I was still able to get her attraction to 9-10, and we even did the deed at the place we work at
@@oahts5906 what happened? did u become too needy?
@@NewLeaf88 yes I failed pretty much textbook. Wasn’t setting dates when she was reaching out, started calling her (and actually got myself blocked). Definitely stings and am disappointed I let my emotions get the best, but I learned a lot. We still work together but I did put my 2 week in and I’m almost out. The way it went down was hardcore embarrassing and she just seems very scorned about everything. Which I can somewhat understand from her perspective, but also she wasn’t very good material to begin with, only ever FWB, and even then a massive red flag. Kinda just hope at this point she doesn’t try to get (more)petty revenge. I fucked up but I don’t think I deserve the way she handled herself. She also left a live in bf of 5 yrs and was in the process of getting her own place which she has now. Her attraction was so high she was determined to do all that, so yeah there’s that. Read the book always
Hey Coach, you're not just an awesome life coach, but you're one damn funny comedian, lol. When you know you messed up royally with a woman who was really into you and it hurts like hell, just listening to your videos about your expertise and comedy is awesome and it helps so much. I call you coach, Mr. Wayne, or Batman, lol. 🤣
Prior proper planning prevents piss poor performance
Loving the energy lately coach. Keep it up. 💪🏽💪🏽
Yea it’s always when my ex comes back 😂
I just ignore. If they approach I engage. I don't try the pick up lines. I focus on body language. If they seem interested I try to get them laughing. If you get that far do not hesitate to get the number. That's important. I also tell them a time frame when I'll reach out. This builds anticipation and trust if you actually call them when you said you would. Good luck gents.
Same, there's this coworker that I really like but I ignored her since the day she got hired, so I probably looked cool in her eyes. A few weeks later, and she was the one doing all the initiating and pursuing, and it turns out she was willing to leave her boyfriend at the time for a new guy. I failed to get her partly because my game was sloppy, but mostly because even though I liked her physically, she had too much red flags on her, and I think even hooking up would be very problematic given that we're coworkers. Now I actually think I dodged a bullet and I currently find her unattractive in all aspects. So my other guy coworker bagged her, and I guess she's his problem now
Appreciate the knowledge coach. 👌🏾
If Corey did a stand up, I’d be the first to purchase a ticket! 😭🤣😭
Never understood guys (especially amateur guys) who pursue coworkers, neighbors, or retail workers. So many girls out there you can cold approach, and yet they choose the ones where they spend most time at without any skill level.
Lol this happened to me, situationship lasted 9 months, great connection, good energy, had a lot fun together in and out of the bedroom but then suddenly felt her moving away, she said it was because things were getting too serious… then she got into a full on relationship with someone 2 weeks later. 😂 Tbh tho I think she would have gone anyway as it was also a bit of a rebound situation, so I’m kinda happy I got needy, as it simply hastened the inevitable 😂 I still enjoyed that time and I learned a lot so even though it felt like a loss, it was actually much more of a gain in the end! I wouldn’t change anything except how I left things which I now know was wrong but emotions got the better of me unfortunately, told her I needed time to get over it after she rejected me and that was over 2 months ago. Came across as weak! Not spoken to her since and she hasn’t reached out. Oh well, her loss because I’m basically a decent fun guy. She’ll probably be back though, just in time for me to give zero fucks. 😂
Did she came back?
What I've learned lately is that man must learn to transmutate their sexual desire for woman unto their own purpose. Because doing all these silly dances just to satisfy a woman's ego seems like a very low return on investment. The silly girl that keeps making you jump through hoops, don't make other dudes she really likes go through. Use your intuition and stop simpin.
Lmao! Around 5 min mark coach was silent for a good 5 seconds trying to process this guys email i couldn’t help but start laughing
2:23 Lol hilarious Corey! Love it!!! I don’t do online dating. I do it all in person and take opportunities in public.
I wish I would have found the book 10 years ago….
This video is making me laugh more than a Kevin Hart Stand up comedy, Corey love your women's impression 🤣🤣 Also learning so much of course.
Just had a girl pull back after around 5 dates & a lot of intimacy. Cancelled a date because she was ill (I think she was) and her emotions all over the place - intense university deadlines for Masters and next 2 weeks will be hectic. I left it at that, wanted to chase but just said no problem speak soon. That was Sunday, no we're Wednesday, not a sound from her since - previously we've messaged every day for the last 5 to 6 weeks (error I know messaging just for setting dates). Question now is, in the event it's over I was going to message her in a week or two wishing her all the best & that I had a good time with her. No pleading no crap just a pleasant message, sort of closure. Would I be best to not bother with that? Leave her to wonder or at the minimum only send it if she contacts me? Don't initiate it... Cheers
Two weeks old but:
Fallback position is you wait a week before reaching out but since she cancelled a date you should wait for her to contact you before you ask her out. If she gives any response other than an excited yes go no contact forever. Start dating other women while you wait since you can’t count on her ever coming back.
Dude… you know the answer. Don’t fool yourself.
Bro, this video couldn’t have been more timely.. wtf??
I fr was getting on great with this girl, we had a little miscommunication/fight a few backs and I apologised for my shitty. So I yeah I stopped talking to her for a while and she messaged like a week later.
Now a few days ago, after we had a few sexual conversations the night before, that she isn’t in the right headspace to meet anyone at the minute. Which to I replied, it’s ok with me, but hit me up if you ever wanna hangout.
Dude’s just walk away and talk to other women.. two things happened, someone else got her attention or she isn’t in the right headspace.
But just keep moving forward boys!
I have a very similar situation. She was my co worker, we had sex a few times, then we couldn’t get another date arranged. Then we had a small argument and I was just messing up. So she pulled back and has remained distant so far. She’s happy to talk to me still it seems when we’re in person, but she isn’t reaching out. Should I just ignore her when I see her at work? I put in my 2 week notice. I think if I play my cards right I can get her back, although I’m not sweating it. Just want her as a FWB like she even mentioned.
Yep don’t treat them like a celebrity or they will treat you like a fan
@@oahts5906
Honestly man- just walk away from her. I’m sure there is plenty of other women you can have has FWB with. If she cares she’ll reach out too you.
The girl I was talking too. After she came back text, tried mentioning friendship again- I straight up laughed. Bro, just turn and walk away.. if she comes back, make her work for it.
@@rorymclaughlin1609 yeah I started a new job and haven’t had any interaction with her since leaving. Couldn’t care less if she reaches out or not tbh, validation and feeling wanted is nice and all, but I don’t have time for shoddy behavior and low quality women. I vetted her and it was painfully obvious from the beginning she wouldn’t be more than FWB, but after the last couple weeks there with her, there’s no way in hell I would even entertain that.
I did mess up I wasn’t able to maintain my emotional self control, and that was a valuable lesson. Pretty much all the women you’ll meet in life will teach you how to be a better man through the painful lessons of failure.
@@oahts5906
Hey man- shitty it didn’t work out. What’s meant for you won’t pass you. As long as we learn from it, we’ll be alright! I hope the new job is going great man 👍🏻
The first mistake this guy made is dating a female from work. This is a very touchy thing to try. I don’t even talk to females at work unless it’s for business purposes. No discussing personal topics. I might make an exception if she works in a different building and department where we rarely would run into each other during the day.
Men! Look up the UA-cam channel ‘just pearly things’ to see how this is wholesome material from a woman’s mouth to understand this is full circle from both sides of the gender fence. All thanks to you Corey!
3% man great book !
As a German, I was laughing for a moment when Corey said "Schwanz".
Pause at 2:30 😂
Women that like to play these games get no play
Yea ,keep dating several gals till one gets jealous and gets pregnant to snag ya,protect yourself guys😢😮
Assuming he isn’t hiding anything that he did wrong this girl 100% has another guy in the picture
22:50 the dude waited a whole month? oh hell naw...
Can’t stop thinking about my co worker. We hit it off over the course of a month or so and things started getting hot, I was doing everything right. Then I started to get complacent. Now I’m pretty sure she’s seeing a different co worker who has kids, and he acts like he doesn’t know nothing. So frustrating! I wanted her, but now I don’t and all I feel is disappointment around the situation. I’m getting out of there, and if she lost interest in me then I wish him all the best lol. Still hurts though. Don’t fall in love, don’t make yourself too available, be James Bond 100% of the damn time it’s the only way.
This is one of many reasons why dating co workers is a bad idea
Is this a repost?
He just keeps looking younger lol
This video story reminds me of my date . She pulled back so I said ok we can just slee,p and we cuddled,after saying she didn't want sex. In the morning the hands traveled up up and oops ...and she was showing it was very okay ,and next thing you know the shirt comes off ,and the rest is history.
LOL dude was given permission to grab her butt then went straight for “party city.” Slow down brother. You should know that after 7-times.🤣
Between 2:29 and 2:34 is how I act all the time please help
2:29
Female voice 😂😂😂😂😂.
The advice here is fine and all but women and their inconsistent emotional behavior is awful. The juice is not with the squeeze 99% of the time.
Lol no the problem is you keep choosing to deal with women whose juice is not worth the squeeze. Choose better women.
@@WillHoward2002 that is why I said 99% of the time, not 100%
3 fastest forms of communication..telephone, telegraph & tellawoman…🤭
I generally agree with Corey but what if you actually like a woman in a healthy normal way and would like to be in a relationship. But you want to do things on your time frame? What is fundamentally wrong with that? Why not say to her if you are not interested in a relationship see ya? And move on. Why all of this bullshit that gets dragged on over months and years for her to warm up like a pissy temperamental cat? Life is too short for that stuff. Seriously. If there is not mutual immediate relationship interest and attraction (if that is what you the man want) you can waste years or decades with these long dragged out courtships just to eventually be in a relationship that consumes a ton of energy and years just for her to have her be yours in many cases. It is all a huge energy and time drain. Woman and pussy are not that great anyways. I value my faith, guy friends, family members, garden and volunteer work more anyways. It’s like why are decent men dealing with a mostly awful population of modern American (Western) women? It is absurd on many levels but I guess biology is still our biology.
I habe to say this on every video of yours! Best Coach I ever found! Since I found you 3-4 years ago my life changed!
😂😂😂 *The most hilarious part of the video :* 7:42
Good morning coach!
stop telling everybody your business, haha
Cory. How you said nipples. 😂
Coach you are awesomeness
2:28 😂😂😂😂😂
Noticing that coach has been watching a lot of Bill Burr with his voices and mannerisms. Best coach watching the best comedian.
You're hallucinating.