Imposter Syndrome | Episode 2
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- Опубліковано 8 чер 2024
- Diary of a Rich Black Guy - Episode 2
Let’s talk about the crippling feeling of imposter syndrome. :)
Chapters:
0:00 Let's Talk About It
0:18 Intro
1:20 What Am I Doing?
3:05 You Are Not Alone
5:00 Believing in Myself
6:37 A Safe Space - Комедії
Seriously dude, that part where you're not really into writing caught me by surprise; you're skits are amazing man. You, Ryan George, and Andrew Rousso are my go-to channels man. Inspiring, interesting choice of topic, so glad you did them.
I was talking about imposter syndrome with a girl from my uni music scholarship, and she said she felt the exact same - turns out most of the choir felt like this and the head of music sat us down and just had a pep talk
@@Pylen 😢😂😂😂😂😂
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yeah....I can relate, reminds me of my first performance
I feel you. Especially at the part of you winging the UX-designer job without any real experience. I recently got a job as data analyst (incredibly important to supply correct data), and all my experience was a 7 month traineeship. Now I'm literally surrounded by a whole team of people that all have masters degrees in mathematics and business. Want to know what's shocking to me? The lead of the data team said I had the most potential out of all and I've been given quite a lot of high-stakes assignments. HOW?! I guess thinking "Why the hell should I not try?" is the most valuable mindset one can have. I hope if anyone else struggles with trying to enter a field they like, that they also will just wing it like you. You never know where things might lead you. :) (or how good you can be, even without high degrees)
That's amazing 😂
Thats called "Keeping the weakest link in the chain motivated" cuz a team only works together no matter who is part of it. You are the least experienced in this team. So your boss of course tries to keep you motivated by saying you are the bright snowflake and very special. Because everyone else who has more knowledge than you dont need it anymore. This is literally a technique that is beeing teached in seminars on how to handle your employees lol.
@@Pylen im not doing that, im not cursed
This is facts. I've experienced this as well. As someone without a bachelors degree, I can definitely understand the fear. I get it everytime I step into a field im not too familiar with. But I've proved to myself over time that im good at whatever I touch. So I pep talk myself constantly about fear and how I'm just scared at the moment. Now I dont work for corporate. I'm working with my partner to set up our 2nd small business since our first one bottomed out during covid. It's scary cuz again, a whole new field. Learning constantly, but we are more than 50% of the way there. I'm excited where life is taking me.... well besides the state of the world. But I cant keep worrying about that..what will happen will happen.
"Most potential" could be interpreted as "least performance". 😉
Dude, I suffer from horrible mania and anxiety. A few other personal issues, but I just want to say a personal Thank You for every video you and the Little One make. They always pull me out of that dark space. For real, love your videos and thank you so much for helping with laughter. Much love my guy
I’m a physician. Just finished training in January, and I’m now my own boss so to speak and it took me a while to get adjusted to that. But yea, I always feel I’m not good enough, and I try to think of alternative diagnoses in the back of my mind in case what is most common is not what is happening. So I always give precautions to patients: “you most likely have, but go to pcp or hospital in case x and y happen.” Sometimes I will come in and admit, “I’m at a loss with what you have. Here are some possibilities, but I think you need to see this specialist.” It’s very humbling and I tend to get good responses from patients this way at my clinic.
Fuckin sick bro
You haven't uploaded in a month so glad to see you back
I'll open up with you a bit. I have a doctorate and I'm preparing for the day when someone comes to take it all away because I'm an imposter. I've always felt this way, no matter what job or what level of education, from high school to now. I keep furthering my education in hopes that one day I'll feel like I actually know what I'm talking about.
I think you've convinced me that I need to seek help for this. Thanks.
keep this up man, love seeing this from fellow black content creators! Feels good to hear others are dealing with this as well. Stay strong all yall!
I'm 1 minute into the video and a smile has already made it's way to my face
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@@Pylen Nah I'm good but yeah keep spamming though
Brother I look forward to your content. Ain’t no need for imposter syndrome here. You’re unique and entertaining. Do you and I’ll always enjoy it. As a fellow young father- trust me it’s cherished and wholesome for my entire family! I’d love to share my creativity, humor, and family silliness with the world like you guys do so well.
Thank you for this. Honestly. I definitely need to take some time to reflect. I feel like I don't belong in my job often and I think I just need to remind myself that I wouldn't have gotten it if I wasn't good enough and that I still have time to learn things and get my own accolades. 🖤
I didn't actually know about imposter syndrome but I relate to it immensely. This video is what I needed
Thanks man this actually really helped! I know so many people who are going through a worse life than I am and I feel as though I struggle to admit that I have a bad mental attitude or that things like this could affect me but you being so confident to speak out about imposter syndrome has actually helped me think more about this kind of thing.
My anxiety actually prevents me from pursuing my passions. I have a degree in video game design and production. Got it seven years ago now. I haven't worked as a game designer once. Haven't even worked in the games industry. I put myself out there at first, but got rejected and just kind of let it go. Now I work in a dead in job as a cable guy.
Keep trying man. My son is into vid games and thinking of becoming something similar. You may get 1000 no's but all u need is 1 yes. That cable job will still be there. I believe u can do it, just find the right angle to get in. U are already educated. Good luck, and live ya life with purpose. Dont let life just act upon u. Much love.
Same struggle but with music production and I'm working as a sales associate serving samples at costco. The biggest issue for me right now is that I'm trying to do digital production (self-taught) but it's just a huge struggle with my anxiety and with imposter syndrome. But don't give up. Start by making a small game. Even if it's just for yourself. Do what other artists do and just create for your own sake first. Eventually someone will see it and enjoy it and you'll get work out of it (hopefully). I tell myself this every day and the only struggle is getting past yourself. I wish you luck in that. I know I need it too. Just take it slow and start with small, easy things. Technology and software advancements have made it so easy for us to do what we love. We just have to get through the chaos of our thoughts and get started.
Get yourself a couple of "game maker" programs and do it yourself. Just keep the scope of your game simple. If you enjoy it, others will too.
Do it in your free time with no pressure.
Most importantly, if you try game design for a while you will either feel the joy of fulfillment and keep doing it, or you will figure out clues as to what will bring you joy. Follow your bliss!
I've been struggling a lot with impostor syndrome lately, so I'm glad that I found this video. Makes me feel less alone. Even when I don't want to, I still find myself comparing to others. Some days are tougher than other days, but I still try to not let that stop me and to keep going and trying my best.
I'm in a never ending cycle of going between imposter syndrome and the Dunning-Kruger effect.
Well Google here I come
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Thank you for posting this video! For a while I have been feeling that self doubt of “Am I good enough?” or “ I can’t ever do that.” And now that you’ve mentioned what it is and how you have dealt with it I can apply this to my own life!
I think its your simplicity that I appreciate. The whole less is more and your comedic timing is what makes you hilarious. Being funny doesn't always translate too stand up comedy , you can be funny too in skits and being likeable is most important, That's what Dave Chappelle said himself .
Bro… I make a lot of skits and REALLY get it. Sometimes you’re constantly being someone else rather than just talking. So proud of you for taking this risk of posting something that isnt “proven” buts its authentic 💯
I appreciate this video as a content creator sometimes I feel like people are like what the hell are you doing is a lonely journey at time and you can really mess yourself up we’re getting stuck in your head so it’s nice to hear that that something that you even deal with with all your success
This was great to see and hear. Thanks for sharing and seriously look forward to anything you create.
I think I needed to hear this, personally. I sometimes feel as if I don't deserve my talent for animation. And if I do, why me? But you're right. I do need to accept that I earned my achievements, and the right to take pride in my creations.
Man, I love who you are I'm so happy you did this video. You are amazing 👏
One of the best videos you ever uploaded! Very helpful and educational!
I'm so glad I've just watched a random funny short from this channel and now I see there's so much more here. 😄
It's cool of you to show such vulnerability, many creators can relate to this. Great content!
This really feels like what you're trying to create here: 'a safe space'. Good job! 👍
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I feel this. I let my fear keep me from trying an I have regretted it. The times I do power through are worth it. I am not sure why it is so hard to keep doing despite knowing it is better to try and fail compared to not trying at all. I just have to keep fighting my fears until I conquer them more and more often.
Thanks for talking about this. I definitely suffer from imposter syndrome too. It helps to hear that it’s quite common and we’re not alone.
I don't know if it has a name, but I do feel like I'm cursed to be good at things I hate to do and bad at things I like to do. Everything I try and do something I like it never feels like I'm good enough, but when I settle for something I don't like to do I end up doing great....
Also comedy is lacking currently in our environment, that, I think, is why your reach goes so far. It's a breath of fresh air to see good comedy. Love your content
“what is something you’re bad at that you wish you could do well?”
life man.. life
IM GLAD TO SEE YOU BACK YOUR VIDEOS ARE INSPIRING TO ME
This helped. This really helped and I needed to hear all u had to say. Thanks for it
Really appreciate this video man. Great to hear and really inspiring. Keep yo the great work.
after getting out of the military i had a very very strong feeling of imposter syndrome.. i joined a little too late and my body couldn't take the stress i put it thru, but mentally i still wanted to serve. every day for a long time i felt like i didn't deserve the thank you for your service because i didn't serve as long as i wanted to and i sometimes still do hate myself and my body for it..
Dude 😎
I'm so glad you've decided to let us get to know you better ☺️
I'm a huge fan from RSA 🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦
Thank you brother! I sooo needed this...
Thank you for posting this!
Starting a new job tomorrow and really needed this reminder!
This was well made and uplifting, great job!
Every time you mention UX, a shiver goes down my spine. I studied UX for about a year with an ireland university. I don't have real world experience and I'm going into it. I haven't suffered imposter syndome yet; however, I am worried about unanticipated challenges that weren't outlined in my education. I begin my first UX job about a month from now.
Imposter Syndrome plagues the arts at such a high level. I don't know how it is in more mainstream fields but, as a music composer in Uni, I'm constantly hearing things that sound infinitely better than what I write.
I really appreciate this video and especially the "You are not alone" section. That honestly really helped me. I spend so much time thinking negatively over self-reflecting positively. It's just something I need to work on.
I never even knew what impostor syndrome was until now but I know how much its affected me. Thanks for wanting to talk
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Thank u, for taking the time to make this video.
love the video and the channel. great work !
Thanks for the free therapy session by the way keep up the amazing work
I just stumbled upon your channel and it’s excellent spot on and I after one yr got a promotion I’ve rejected multiple time and they placed me in it regardless of my protest. And then I said forget it let’s do it I get what I get from it and I don’t what I don’t.
It was so nice to meet you at a personal level …I am an introvert as well and have a serious case of imposter syndrome.. this is was so reassuring… thanks for sharing and keep up the great vlogs 👍
Thanks for sharing Rich Black Guy! I never knew that's what I was dealing with until now. Long story medium (😁), my best friend 15 years ago would always tell me I should get into sales or customer service. I would always say "I don't like people why would I do that?" So fast forward a few months and I went to the workforce center to see what was out there. I was casually dressed (shorts and a t-shirt) when a well dressed lady passed with a lot of files. I figured she worked there so I asked where did I need to sign in? She was actually a recruiter for a pretty big company and said she just wrapped up interviews for sales professionals. So I proceeded to "sell myself" and was offered a position. Needless to say, I pulled 10 pounds outta 5 pound bag if you catch my drift 🤣 But I claimed to have years experience and at the end of the day, I was one of their highest earners with 0 prior experience.
In conclusion, sometimes you have innate abilities that others may see even when you don't, and by stepping out there I have been able to make more financially than I ever expected and found a craft that came naturally ✊🏾 Sometimes you have to fake it til you make it, then realize there was no faking from the jump. You ARE it!
Thanks man, needed this right now
Good video brother. As a kid, i use to think that adults had everything figured out. Now i know that we are all guessing. We are all long babies just figuring things out
Love this video man...solid!
This was really peaceful thank you
Thanks for the captions 👍🏻💗
This is very relatable I appreciate this vid
You got this bro. You deserve what you put up with.
It’s more about allowing yourself to step outside your comfort zone. If you constantly push yourself outside your comfort zone you are always learning. Learning is the only way to grow mentally and financially.
This video really hit home. Been struggling with imposter syndrome ever since starting my first job.
Great channel. Ticked off that you have 3.22m subscribers and still seem chill.
seems like youtube hates it though.
Learning UX design without any classes sounds hard as hell. Major props
This is a dope video...nice change of pace here....
Damn I didn't know I needed to hear this until now. This was helpful
I appreciate your perspective Rich Black Guy.
I really like these!
I've never heard this articulated this way, but I totally understand what you're saying. I went to medical school, and did not get to finish, that's a long story which I'll talk to you about in DMS if you want. But suffice to say it wasn't for academic or disciplinary reasons, it was just life happened. But when you get to rotations in the third year you realize just how little you know. But you have to present that face to patients so that they have confidence in you. I was very good at that. And the doctors I work for wrote me absolutely blushworthy letters to the national board of medical examiners, and the school asking that an exception be made in my case. Ultimately however that was not done.
And with that failure, I lost all my confidence. And that very nearly destroyed me. Out of just sheer will I continued working, taking menial jobs. And after a couple of years I was able to turn my hobby, which is working with computers, into a new career for me. And now I'm doing pretty well. I'm not making neurosurgeon or dermatologist money, but I'm making solid internal medicine or ER money. And a lot of that is based on Simply Having the confidence that you can walk into any situation and work it out. My full-time job does not pay that well, but I do independent it Contracting and that pays very well. But I wouldn't be doing that if I didn't have the confidence to walk in the first time, knowing that I knew almost nothing of what they required, simply with the attitude I'll figure it out.
And I've gotten a great reputation as the guy you call when other people fail to fix it.
And looking over my life comment that is really the common thread I always had. I wasn't very good at soccer, but I still made all state because I just wouldn't quit. When I played overseas, my nickname was le soldat, the soldier, because I wouldn't quit and I would always hunt down the ball. My first career working for Bayer, Tenneco & Schlumberger as a Mr fix-it, we're all based on my ability to walk into a situation where I did not know much and be able to ask the right questions. But I frequently felt like I was completely unqualified for what I was doing.
So I guess my message is there is power in action. Sometimes you'll find out you legitimately can't do it. And be honest with yourself so you don't waste time and effort. But I wouldn't do that until you've given it an honest try.
I have to live with my medical school failure on a daily basis. But the happy side of that is I have saved six lives so far, simply be it by being the guy who was there and had enough confidence to do what had to be done to stop the bleeding, or restart the heart. Without medical school I don't know that I would have the confidence to do that. So my failure to make that career, is really Irrelevant in some ways. I've landed on my feet, I'm doing well now, and I have a trove of knowledge that lets me help other people.
Some of you out there may be suffering from your own fear, uncertainty, self blame, self-hate over a failure. I'm telling you this so that you can look past your past. It doesn't really matter what experiences you had in the past, it matters what kind of a person that makes you. Use your failures and get determined to prove to everyone, yourself most of all, that you can't be kept down.
Your story is amazing and inspiring. Quite similar to mine, but im glad u landed good pay being creative and trying. Good lessons.
I have so done that at so many jobs.. in other places.. mostly based on my sexual orientation but also just believing that I wasn't as good as them .. more comfortable after getting a whole lot of experience but wow RBG really made me see how I'm far from alone in this way.. thanks 🙏 RBG
Also, love this guy in general, he's just such a kind hilarious person
This video is EVERYTHING 🎉🎉🎉🥰🥰
First and foremost, I really enjoy your content and it's really cool to see a video of this nature tackling an important topic. I agree with you that self doubt is a necessary challenge. I also don't think self doubt is a bad thing. I feel like I suffer from two extremes - The Impostor Syndrome & Delusions of Grandeur. Two very conflicting mind states - however I think that's what keeps me balanced, hungry, and eager to learn/improve. I actually made and released a short video game [Half Empty] about how self doubt is part the creative process. The internet is a strange place and I feel like it can really reinforce the Impostor Syndrome when you're a content creator who struggles to build an audience. I'm mostly a musician, and all along I'd had this grand vision of creating 1 album called 'Greatest Hits' as a sort of tongue in cheek joke and I thought it would set the world on fire and then I could retire rich and never have to work a day in my life. I released that album in January of 2020. I've got tons of unsold physical copies and the album was largely ignored. Sometimes negative attention is better than no attention... What did this do for me? Made me aware that 1 album wouldn't cut it, so I set a goal of releasing 1 album per year. So far so good. Gave me some doubts, but also gave me the strength to keep at it and hopefully one day find what it is I seek. Whether that's money, attention, or respect - time will tell. For those suffering with the Impostor Syndrome - embrace it and become so good that you'll question yourself less! Cheers to your continued success brother!
"Fake it til you make it"
You are awesome
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For real though; you're awesome. All your videos entertain me and I can see so much creativity and hard work that you put into them. I also love how you've involved your son in something positive with you.
Nice as usual man
Love to see this side of Guy
Wow 🤩
Your creativity is what amazes me, especially your “ART BE LIKE” skit! I watched that several times and got way funnier than each time! 🤣
Regarding Imposter Syndrome:
I know some people who may be dealing with it, possibly even me!
Thank You 🙏🏾 for sharing…
I’ve definitely felt that cool video
@Galaxy bamber / nah he got hair?!?! fr I saw the notification 💀
Shiiiittt... Your serious vids are just as entertaining 🙏🙏
Wow, what a down to earth guy! I'm a new father, finally progressing in a career, recently came to similar conclusions, bit really reassuring to hear someone else say this!! Came for the funny short vids, staying for the wisdom and humor!!😊 what a fucking baller!
Thank you 🙏🏾 ☺️
Black Guy, you're Rich in info and insight too! I hope I see you so I can tell you how you've changed my life. Real spit. All love🥰😁💜💜
This is me almost every day. I do game dev but I feel like Im not doing good enough but viewers always tells me it looks great. While im thinking Im not doing good enough.
Cooking, drawing in some aspects, confidence are all the things Im bad at/ struggle with
You did UX??! I had no idea lol, but creatives be creatives. I'm doing UX design now but used to be in graphic design so I definitely feel you. I feel like I learn so much every year that it's hard to ever feel like I know a lot. It's like some weird cycle of imposter syndrome to dunning Kruger effect and back. I suppose the journey never stops if we stick it out.
P.S. I was already subscribed but this video was so uplifting I wanted to subscribe again ❤️ Keep doing what your doing!
Thank you man you really help me
#SalemTovar and a few other of my fave youtubers have been talking about this recently. Must be an omen...appreciate a rich black guy perspective on this, thanks
Tysm,i need this so bad cause I was doubting myself bc my teacher was super rude and made me feel so bad
Keep going legend!❤️❤️❤️
Im quite angry that not enough people clicked on this video. I am starting to think this tiktoked generation doesn't respect or appreciate someone giving the most insightful information ever. Like you are getting wisdom for free ffs. I just wish these children could get un tiktoked. China literally skews their algorithm to empower and wisen their youth. Our tiktok literally boosts oversexualized children and content which is detrimental to youth. All in all dont let tiktoked kids who refuse to watch a full video stop you from giving wisdom to us. You are the best man
Bro love you're videos 👍
Yes yes I do get a feeling like that-
Yesssss I'm so happy I
Pt 2 is here
Something that I hate that I'm bad at but I want to get better at is just... speaking in person. Having spent pretty much all my life up to this point, all nearly 20 years mind you, kinda just... left to be in a corner due to both shyness and rarely anyone wanting my presence, it made me a terrible talker, and the thing is sometimes I love talking, I'll gladly go on and on about stuff, but the moment I slip up or stutter for a moment, I just... wish I didn't talk at all.
Amazing words
I love this UA-cam keep making good videos
Good lord do I know this feeling well. Whenever I see some one who seems to do what I do more easily or struggles a lot less on the same task or assignment, I feel it. And it makes me feel like a phoney and yes an imposter.
Yeah definitely a daily occurrence for me and i don’t handle it as well as i could but therapy helped me a lot with this inwardly, at least. I still have a lot of problems in this department but i do at least understand that the self-doubt is just that…doubt…not fact.
I started working at a hospital as a temporary front desk employee in 2019. I'm currently the administrative director for several cancer clinics in that same hospital. I have felt a lot of those feelings you expressed. I learned that you have to embrace your inner kanye and be a little irrational when it comes to believing in yourself.
Lol inner kayne
I liked your vid, thank you I at position where I don't feel worthy hope it will be OK ang keep up the good work!
I am in advanced classes and sometimes I feel like I don't belong because of how long it takes me to understand the material. Or when I find a better and easier way to do it for me that's not how it was taught to me. It sucks when I hear what others got when mine is way lower but my score is still pretty high.
This feeling is something we all feel but we're too scared to voice it. Fake it until you make it, because you can!
Word bro. Bro is spittin
And how to I telegram
Oh, so that's what imposter syndrome is. Reminds me of the time I was offered a job as a Bioinformatician but because I had nearly failed out of college the previous semester, I didn't think I was good enough for the job and ran from the offer. I haven't recovered (career wise) from that setback almost a decade later now that I think about it. But I'm optimistic with my current career change plan.
Illuminating video.
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