we wrote letters to our future self in 6th grade. They were given to us in high school senior year. It was wild. I never knew at the time I was not straight. But I wrote this letter to myself, and told myself its fine if you don't have a boyfriend, if you aren't drinking, if your still going to church everyday. I just said don't do anything dumb and have a good job. Well senior year I didn't have boyfriend, was not drinking, still going to church, working a cna and was out. It was so weird to read these letters back and realize. I didn't change all that much even though I came out and found myself. I really just stayed the same person and just figured out I didn't want a boyfriend. I think this is a prime example of those people who say "you changed when you came out." No I didn't, I'm still me!! Wow long comment but felt the need to say this.
Oh Sadie, my heart. We all know as adults that it's okay. As a kid, it was lonely and confusing. But ultimately, it will be okay. There are people like you and me and all of us. There are people were different as a kid and, we are more than okay. We are happy with our lives. Thank you so much. Thanks for setting the example. And as Sadie said, keep being you...
I'm not gay I'm a man almost 70 and it amazed me every time with those videos of you two that there are so much similarities between your stories and my experiences in my live. I read in my late 40s before I recognized that it's better for me than to try to be the best in the eyes of my surroundings. At least what I thought they would expect of me to be best. This video should be used for every adolescent! So the can live their own live from the beginning.
As Oscar Wilde said, "Be yourself, everyone else is already taken". Love the new intro and as always thank,s for sharing, your honesty and sincerity in trying to help others shines out and makes your channel stand out above all the others.
Ooof, that letter hits home, especially when you said "its okay to just be making it through". This video inspired me to look for some old letters I wrote to myself and I found one from my senior yr of high school where I literally wrote "Life isn't meant to be perfect, so stop trying to make school perfect...don't obsess over a grade, that's not what defines you, you are a person with more than a report card to show for it." For me, I was the youngest in my family and having older brothers who played two sports and basically got a 4.0 in high school put some pressure on me to also succeed in the same ways. I was okay with that because I wanted to do well in school and sports, but I definitely put way too much stress on the little things, trying to make perfect grades in high school and at the beginning of college (super high expectations for 'success'). By the end of college, I had a group of friends and we all embraced that fact that some weeks we were really "surviving but not thriving" and understood that's perfectly okay. The irony is that we put in way too much energy into the facade of having everything under control despite feeling like things were being held together by a thread. Sometimes I wish someone had given me your advice and I had spent less energy trying to make others think I had my shit figured out and under control at all times - that whole acting like a duck thing where you appear calm on the outside above the water, but are kicking like hell just underneath the surface - is super exhausting and shouldn't be the social norm.
Hannah here- Becca this comment is so good and so raw and I so appreciate it. I think you and I were probably very similar growing up. Thank you for being so vulnerable and helping change that narrative that society tells us we have to look like we know what we’re doing all the time. ❤️❤️
Loved this. I also grew up in a small town. It didn't even dawn on me that I could be gay. I was a tomboy also. Felt fiercely devoted to my girl friends, but didn't know other girls didn't feel "that way". Went to college, then joined the navy and discovered ME. After that realized most of the girls I hung out with were gay also. Lol Came out of the closet running at 27, now I am 56 and it has been quite the ride. Thank you for sharing your stories.
Thanks for commenting Karin! It seems to be such a universal experience that LGBTQ+ people tend to "find" one another even when they aren't even out of the closet yet!
"I just thought we picked a crush and then eventually it would become a crush." 😂 This was almost every "crush" I had from the first time I was asked who my crush was at age 10.
In retrospect a lot what we weren't able to put into word in our youth makes sense. But back in the days when I grew up, societal norms and pressure made being "out of the norm" seem wrong and you had to fit. I also used homophobic slurs , which I really regret. When I started to realize that I could get feelings for all genders, it was also the beginning of the AIDS era and not being straight wasn't really an option. I find it beautiful how much more welcoming the world has developed since then.
In fifth grade I went on a residential trip with my class. One of the nights in the girls dorm we went round the room and were expected to say what boy in our class we had a crush on. It seemed accepted that each of us would have a crush on a boy in our class, and every one of us said the same boy. I remember lying in the dark thinking.....this is dumb.
Loved it ladies!! Great music and what an epic new intro with coffee and rainbow mugs.. What a great video, a letter to little Sadie!! I'm so glad you all are staying so raw and authentic.. You all are so funny and down to earth.. Love you all's outfits!! Much love to you both.. Stay sweet and keep on rockin!!
Whew.. love this! Very very relatable and a good message for younger us but also future generations 🥰 gives me 'A Letter To You' vibes from Shannon Beveridge but definitely with your Sadie-ness😊
Even though your videos are funny, and make me smile, they are calming, informative and especially this video, I would think it was a great help to anyone growing up to understand there is no right or wrong way to grow, but to just do it their way, when they’re ready, does that make sense, also I’m new to your channel, I love to hear you sing, you’re voices are beautiful in harmony, I don’t know why but can’t wait till you’re next video, best wishes from the UK, stay safe 😘🌈🇬🇧❤️
Aaaaaand I'm the woman who no one wanted to have a sleepover with (when I was a kid), and the one who has fallen for lots of other women and it's rarely been reciprocated. At 51 I still feel as though I'm not good enough (with a twin sister who is straight, married with two kids, and had an entirely normal childhood).
I totally did the just pick a boy to have a crush on rather than it stemming from any organic feelings for them. Sometimes it was a boy who my friends thought had a crush on me, sometimes it was a boy who I picked because they had characteristics I thought I wanted in a partner or more accurately was told to want in a partner. I may have had a "crush" on a boy in 5th grade because held the door open for me, and I was taught that's something men should do for women, so he was someone I should "like."
There's always pressure from society, education system, friends and family to fit in the mold because being different is viewed as bad education. A great quote from Eleanor Roosevelt: "Well behaved women rarely make history."
First, love the new intro🌈 Your channel is important as you are reaching the younger Sadies and Hannahs out there. Thank you for sharing 🥰 PS. My 12 year old self played truth, dare, double dare, promise to repeat inside the “red barn” we used to sneak into. I always picked double dare🙄and we’ll leave it at that😬😁
Hi Sadie & Hannah! I’ve been watching you two for about a year now & love you💖💖 I’m 68 & if I’d had exposure to all the wonderful insights you’ve posted, my lesbian journey would’ve been sooo much easier! It was what is was👍 Thank you for your honesty & creativity in your relationship, it’s beautiful! I’m from Adelaide, South Australia & I’ve been to the US several times, much to love👍 Much love to you both, De ❤️❤️
Ooo the “okay as long as it’s funny” is real. I was a senior in high school in 2016 and I wore a “make America gay again” hat to school to be excellent “ally.” 😂 LOL.
Dear Sadie, i had similar thoughts when i was young. The only difference was i knew i like girls and love them. In the 80s this was a big taboo especially being an asian, but my big brain told my younger self that i choose who i choose to love. Cause why not? I just had to keep to myself and lie about it till i am independent enough to do something about it. I am also a 5ft nothing person. 😅
@@HannahSadie I would have to say at a young age knowing that difference is a little frustrating. Not understanding the social norms and wanting to change the world... eventually i just gave up changing their opinion. Its my life, i decide what its gonna be ~
I went to the pool with my cousin and her toddler son once. He ran on ahead into the pool reception area, wearing his older sister's red salsa dancing dress, a grey and blue sweat suit, and a finding nemo inflatable swim ring. The look on the staff faces was quite something!
I smiled when you mentioned hair colour. When my brothers kids were small they would have parties at a soft climbing centre. When they went to the little room to have food, if a mother had coloured hair, the staff would ask if their children were veget but they never asked the parents with 'natural' looking hair??????
I so relate to the crush thing! I remember doing the same sleepover rituals and wondering if we just pick the boy we think is the coolest, so that's what I did. I don't think I understood the meaning of a crush - should have been a clue haha
Hola chicas! Me sentí muy identificada con el video y sentí que hasta lo podría haber escrito yo. Es increible mas cosas que pasamos de chicos. Yo solo quería jugar al fútbol o soccer y siempre recibia insultos o bromas. Gracias por esto.
Hola Anita! Siiiii me parece que éramos iguales. Espero que ahora tengas más apoyo de amigos y familia. El camino ha sido difícil pero ha resultado en una vida bella. Abrazos desde eeuu
I did the exact same thing-picking a boy that everyone thought was cute and just stuck with that for all of middle school. Luckily he went to the boy’s school and I didn’t have to deal with it. But I remember thinking the exact same thing-are we just supposed to pick someone?
I always loved wearing athletic clothing. I never felt weird about it though, because my mom has always been a fitness instructor, so that was rather convenient. lol
hell yeah, so many things that need to be said.. ❤ and I relate so much.. 😂 at school I was at least one year younger than everyone else in my class, so when the girls were talking about their crushes, I guess I always thought that had to be the reason I didn't care. if adults all say you start being interested in boys at some age. then this must mean I'm just not there yet.. 🤔 spoiler alert: I'm still not
You two are such a beautiful cute honest couple awesome video you are an awesome strong person sadie for recognising your sexuality so young you and Hannah are beautiful individuals and an adorable couple love you both so much awesome video
we wrote letters to our future self in 6th grade. They were given to us in high school senior year. It was wild. I never knew at the time I was not straight. But I wrote this letter to myself, and told myself its fine if you don't have a boyfriend, if you aren't drinking, if your still going to church everyday. I just said don't do anything dumb and have a good job. Well senior year I didn't have boyfriend, was not drinking, still going to church, working a cna and was out. It was so weird to read these letters back and realize. I didn't change all that much even though I came out and found myself. I really just stayed the same person and just figured out I didn't want a boyfriend. I think this is a prime example of those people who say "you changed when you came out." No I didn't, I'm still me!! Wow long comment but felt the need to say this.
I love how real and authentic you guys are. It's refreshing.
🥰 Thank you Hunter
Oh Sadie, my heart. We all know as adults that it's okay. As a kid, it was lonely and confusing. But ultimately, it will be okay. There are people like you and me and all of us. There are people were different as a kid and, we are more than okay. We are happy with our lives. Thank you so much. Thanks for setting the example. And as Sadie said, keep being you...
I'm not gay I'm a man almost 70 and it amazed me every time with those videos of you two that there are so much similarities between your stories and my experiences in my live. I read in my late 40s before I recognized that it's better for me than to try to be the best in the eyes of my surroundings. At least what I thought they would expect of me to be best. This video should be used for every adolescent! So the can live their own live from the beginning.
As Oscar Wilde said, "Be yourself, everyone else is already taken". Love the new intro and as always thank,s for sharing, your honesty and sincerity in trying to help others shines out and makes your channel stand out above all the others.
Thank you so much Derek:)
Ooof, that letter hits home, especially when you said "its okay to just be making it through". This video inspired me to look for some old letters I wrote to myself and I found one from my senior yr of high school where I literally wrote "Life isn't meant to be perfect, so stop trying to make school perfect...don't obsess over a grade, that's not what defines you, you are a person with more than a report card to show for it." For me, I was the youngest in my family and having older brothers who played two sports and basically got a 4.0 in high school put some pressure on me to also succeed in the same ways. I was okay with that because I wanted to do well in school and sports, but I definitely put way too much stress on the little things, trying to make perfect grades in high school and at the beginning of college (super high expectations for 'success'). By the end of college, I had a group of friends and we all embraced that fact that some weeks we were really "surviving but not thriving" and understood that's perfectly okay. The irony is that we put in way too much energy into the facade of having everything under control despite feeling like things were being held together by a thread. Sometimes I wish someone had given me your advice and I had spent less energy trying to make others think I had my shit figured out and under control at all times - that whole acting like a duck thing where you appear calm on the outside above the water, but are kicking like hell just underneath the surface - is super exhausting and shouldn't be the social norm.
Hannah here- Becca this comment is so good and so raw and I so appreciate it. I think you and I were probably very similar growing up. Thank you for being so vulnerable and helping change that narrative that society tells us we have to look like we know what we’re doing all the time. ❤️❤️
The intelligence in which you discuss such sensitive subjects is a huge reason why I watch this channel.
Thank you so much for watching and for the thoughtful comment! We’re happy you’ve enjoyed our channel:)
Loved this. I also grew up in a small town. It didn't even dawn on me that I could be gay. I was a tomboy also. Felt fiercely devoted to my girl friends, but didn't know other girls didn't feel "that way". Went to college, then joined the navy and discovered ME. After that realized most of the girls I hung out with were gay also. Lol
Came out of the closet running at 27, now I am 56 and it has been quite the ride. Thank you for sharing your stories.
Thanks for commenting Karin! It seems to be such a universal experience that LGBTQ+ people tend to "find" one another even when they aren't even out of the closet yet!
"I just thought we picked a crush and then eventually it would become a crush." 😂 This was almost every "crush" I had from the first time I was asked who my crush was at age 10.
I think you made a wonderful statement Sadie when you said be comfortable in your choices if you are life will be so much better
🥰🙌🏻
It would be a dream/wish come true to see this channel grows bigger and bigger ❤️
In retrospect a lot what we weren't able to put into word in our youth makes sense.
But back in the days when I grew up, societal norms and pressure made being "out of the norm" seem wrong and you had to fit. I also used homophobic slurs , which I really regret.
When I started to realize that I could get feelings for all genders, it was also the beginning of the AIDS era and not being straight wasn't really an option.
I find it beautiful how much more welcoming the world has developed since then.
In fifth grade I went on a residential trip with my class. One of the nights in the girls dorm we went round the room and were expected to say what boy in our class we had a crush on. It seemed accepted that each of us would have a crush on a boy in our class, and every one of us said the same boy. I remember lying in the dark thinking.....this is dumb.
yesss such an emotionally intelligent kid to just be thinking "this is dumb" 😂
Loved it ladies!! Great music and what an epic new intro with coffee and rainbow mugs.. What a great video, a letter to little Sadie!! I'm so glad you all are staying so raw and authentic.. You all are so funny and down to earth.. Love you all's outfits!! Much love to you both.. Stay sweet and keep on rockin!!
Whew.. love this! Very very relatable and a good message for younger us but also future generations 🥰 gives me 'A Letter To You' vibes from Shannon Beveridge but definitely with your Sadie-ness😊
🥰🥰 for the chickadees!
Even though your videos are funny, and make me smile, they are calming, informative and especially this video, I would think it was a great help to anyone growing up to understand there is no right or wrong way to grow, but to just do it their way, when they’re ready, does that make sense, also I’m new to your channel, I love to hear you sing, you’re voices are beautiful in harmony, I don’t know why but can’t wait till you’re next video, best wishes from the UK, stay safe 😘🌈🇬🇧❤️
Chris this comment made us both smile. Thank you so much for finding us and for leaving such a nice note. We can't wait to make more videos for you!
Love the new opening titles superb ❤️🌈. Love the letter for younger Sadie great video guys.
Thank you Alison!!
Heartbreaking and relatable. How lovely to share this with us. Thank you, Sadie!
Thank you for this kind comment Stephanie! Have a good week:)
Aaaaaand I'm the woman who no one wanted to have a sleepover with (when I was a kid), and the one who has fallen for lots of other women and it's rarely been reciprocated. At 51 I still feel as though I'm not good enough (with a twin sister who is straight, married with two kids, and had an entirely normal childhood).
Hey, you are good enough and nobody can say it otherwise. You are simply the best. Cheers😉
Roof 30 please don't compare yourself to someone else. I'm sure you have your own unique special qualities take care and keep being you.
We send so much love to you❤️
Who wants to blend in, we are all unique and being different is more than okay ❤️🌈.
Yes to this^^^
I have skipped few videos. I appreciate the higher level of tea making in the new intro.
Wonderful job, ladies. Positive. Well done. So informative for those who are still seeking and working through it all.
Thank you Tammy!!
I totally did the just pick a boy to have a crush on rather than it stemming from any organic feelings for them. Sometimes it was a boy who my friends thought had a crush on me, sometimes it was a boy who I picked because they had characteristics I thought I wanted in a partner or more accurately was told to want in a partner. I may have had a "crush" on a boy in 5th grade because held the door open for me, and I was taught that's something men should do for women, so he was someone I should "like."
Yesss to the analytical vibes here- going for someone who had “the right characteristics.”
6:08, That is heartbreaking, it's not even my experience and it hurts
There's always pressure from society, education system, friends and family to fit in the mold because being different is viewed as bad education.
A great quote from Eleanor Roosevelt: "Well behaved women rarely make history."
SUCH a good quote. Cheers to breaking the mold!
First, love the new intro🌈 Your channel is important as you are reaching the younger Sadies and Hannahs out there. Thank you for sharing 🥰 PS. My 12 year old self played truth, dare, double dare, promise to repeat inside the “red barn” we used to sneak into. I always picked double dare🙄and we’ll leave it at that😬😁
Thanks for sharing this. I can totally relate to a lot of your experiences. Sending love!
Hi Sadie & Hannah! I’ve been watching you two for about a year now & love you💖💖 I’m 68 & if I’d had exposure to all the wonderful insights you’ve posted, my lesbian journey would’ve been sooo much easier! It was what is was👍 Thank you for your honesty & creativity in your relationship, it’s beautiful! I’m from Adelaide, South Australia & I’ve been to the US several times, much to love👍 Much love to you both, De ❤️❤️
A year😊 You've been with us the whole time!! Thank you so much! We send all our love to you in Adelaide:)
Just some wholesome Sunday content
I like your new intro and that your books are arranged by colour!
Aw thank you!
Ooo the “okay as long as it’s funny” is real. I was a senior in high school in 2016 and I wore a “make America gay again” hat to school to be excellent “ally.” 😂 LOL.
YES! it's so real and so sad at the same time.
U guys are amazing as always
Thank you Teara!
Thank-you so much for this beautiful letter, this means a lot to me.
We’re so glad you enjoyed it- thank you!
Love your new intro it’s great, I appreciate and enjoy how real honest and authentic you guys are thank you for sharing this video
Thank you for watching Lou, and for always commenting!
Looks like it all turned out just fine in the end.
Everyone of your videos just make me love and respect you ladies even more ! ❤😷
Wow Elen- thank you! You just made my morning!!
Dear Sadie, i had similar thoughts when i was young. The only difference was i knew i like girls and love them. In the 80s this was a big taboo especially being an asian, but my big brain told my younger self that i choose who i choose to love. Cause why not? I just had to keep to myself and lie about it till i am independent enough to do something about it. I am also a 5ft nothing person. 😅
It must have been so different to know at such a young age. And yes- cheers to saying “why not?”
@@HannahSadie I would have to say at a young age knowing that difference is a little frustrating. Not understanding the social norms and wanting to change the world... eventually i just gave up changing their opinion. Its my life, i decide what its gonna be ~
Thank you ❤️
I went to the pool with my cousin and her toddler son once. He ran on ahead into the pool reception area, wearing his older sister's red salsa dancing dress, a grey and blue sweat suit, and a finding nemo inflatable swim ring. The look on the staff faces was quite something!
my GOSH what a fantastic image...
I smiled when you mentioned hair colour. When my brothers kids were small they would have parties at a soft climbing centre. When they went to the little room to have food, if a mother had coloured hair, the staff would ask if their children were veget but they never asked the parents with 'natural' looking hair??????
Ha! I love this idea... people think that "quirks" like fun hair colors come with vegetarianism!
I so relate to the crush thing! I remember doing the same sleepover rituals and wondering if we just pick the boy we think is the coolest, so that's what I did. I don't think I understood the meaning of a crush - should have been a clue haha
Yes! It makes me wonder how many of the other girls knew what crushes were either...
Sadie thank you for being "you" ❤️❤️🌹🌹🏴🏴
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Love the new intro.
Yay! Thanks April!!
Pre teen & teenage girls can be extremely cruel to anyone who's different. Growing up every one played truth dare double dare promise to repeat.
That’s so true. And hahah looks like Sadie was right on that one!
Hola chicas! Me sentí muy identificada con el video y sentí que hasta lo podría haber escrito yo. Es increible mas cosas que pasamos de chicos. Yo solo quería jugar al fútbol o soccer y siempre recibia insultos o bromas. Gracias por esto.
Hola Anita! Siiiii me parece que éramos iguales. Espero que ahora tengas más apoyo de amigos y familia. El camino ha sido difícil pero ha resultado en una vida bella. Abrazos desde eeuu
Sarah Fuller lived your dream as the 1st Div 1 athlete playing football for Vanderbilt University. Sorry you didn’t get your own shot.
I did the exact same thing-picking a boy that everyone thought was cute and just stuck with that for all of middle school. Luckily he went to the boy’s school and I didn’t have to deal with it. But I remember thinking the exact same thing-are we just supposed to pick someone?
So relatable!
I always loved wearing athletic clothing. I never felt weird about it though, because my mom has always been a fitness instructor, so that was rather convenient. lol
Oh niiice that’s a perk!
hell yeah, so many things that need to be said.. ❤
and I relate so much.. 😂 at school I was at least one year younger than everyone else in my class, so when the girls were talking about their crushes, I guess I always thought that had to be the reason I didn't care. if adults all say you start being interested in boys at some age. then this must mean I'm just not there yet.. 🤔
spoiler alert: I'm still not
😂😂 just haven’t quite reached that age yet...
You two are such a beautiful cute honest couple awesome video you are an awesome strong person sadie for recognising your sexuality so young you and Hannah are beautiful individuals and an adorable couple love you both so much awesome video
Thank you so much Liam!!
Hey!! 😬😲😳🤩😂😂😂🌹🌹 That was so good. Great UR great. I love U both. Always. Big hugs
Thank you George! Hugs back!!
You 2 are beautiful
Have a great day
Happy Pride ❤️
Thank you Monica
0:37 I'm such a proud patreon:))
Noa!! Hey!!! Thank you so much
@@HannahSadie I love you and I love to support your amazing and admirable work! My english is too bad for the book club, but I love your patreon!
@@theodor2186 ❤️❤️🥰 thank you! And please always feel welcome to attend (even if you don’t want to speak out loud/participate)!
@@HannahSadie oh thank you🥰🥰 maybe I will try someday
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Super GAY & that's OK !!
YAY GAY!!
I love you!