I totally agree because a guy should always be the one who is the leader in the relationship; and his girl should be constantly trying to keep his attention because he is on his purpose in life. The second a woman starts leading the relationship; it will end eventually.
I disagree, and I believe that that's an unhealthy way of looking at a relationship with someone you like or love. I've been independent long enough to be used to being single. If I'm in a relationship, it's because I want to be. And yeah, I'mma care about the health of the relationship and the happiness of my partner. But I'll be sure that I'm still getting what I want out of the relationship too. If I don't care enough about either my partner's happiness or my own, then I don't really need to be in a relationship. Reducing a relationship down to simply power dynamics is very naive. If one person or the other guides the relationship, that's fine, but when both people in a relationship are healthy adults with realistic expectations, you both come into it trying hard to make it work. In that case, both of y'all care.
So true! I have gained about 8 pounds during COVID. My pre-COVID job was an extremely active one where exercise was part of the work. So, I didn't have to "formally" work out as much. Anyway, I'm getting back to form. But my point is, that even at 8 pounds above my "fightin' weight", I STILL look better than over 90% of American men my age. My intention is not to brag, it's to make a point. The US has a serious epidemic and it's not so much about exercise really. The problem is more due to diet and nutrition. I know people that work out HARD and are still chubby. EAT.MORE.PLANTS!!! The unrefined and unprocessed (or minimally processed) kind. It's that simple.
My father always said, "just remember, no matter how good she looks like, someone out there is tired of her $hit, so, pay good attention at what you want and how she is"
My saying was always "show me the hottest, sexiest woman in the world...and I'll show you a guy that's tired of that p*ssy and is cheating on her" but...I know what your dad was saying too 😂
1.good shaped body 2.nicely maintained facial hair 5 oclock shadow and stubble with jawline 3.dressing well 4.nice hair style 5.look tall 6. Good grooming habbits
@@whitewalker608 Ooooo! You must be really lonely, boy. …If they don’t like you, it’s your job to _make_ them like you! For the most part, most girls don’t like you at first. You have to woo them. Girls generally have a lot of choices - - especially the ones worth having! The choice of which boy gets to be with a girl is up to the _girl_. Boys don’t have any _choice_ in the matter. They either become interested in a girl or they fall in love with a girl and that’s the end of that. What you may not know, now, is that you will love the girls you fall in love with - - for the rest of your life! …There is no escaping them! Life is hard; full of pain and emptiness; and then we die! The mistake that I made when I was young was to observe that there were plenty of fish in the sea. So when a girl resisted me too hard, I would just ‘go fishing’. I realized later that I should have always doubled-down. It’s a competition to win the right to fertilize those eggs. The girl is the judge and jury. You have to become indispensable to them. Unfortunately, the advent of really reliable and accessible birth control has caused girls to, well…. Never get pregnant. They can’t ever fall in love with you if they don’t know what love is. When they have a child of their own, they are going to love that child more than their own life. Only then is there a chance they will fall in love with _you_. The rest is just passion. Passion doesn’t last.
In my case, hitting the gym, or track or just being active also improved my state of mind. This makes me more confident where I don't have to try and overdo it. If a girl shows no interest, I move on.
I USED to be confident from workout out year.. last couple years females dont care, i dont even get looked at anymore n im constantly rejected by females. My confidence has all dwindled away.. i can’t get a female to save my life it seems. This world has turned to trash and girls minds are all mush now.. 😢
1:36 good shaped body 4:06 nicely maintained facial hair 5 o'clock shadow and stubble with jawline 5:01 dressing well 7:27 nice hair style 9:00 look tall 10:36 Good grooming habits
So you are saying personality and sense of humor have nothing to do with it? (LOL) the 2 most common things that women say on a dating profile are all lies
@@ashifarman4813 idgaf if your not interested its a fact men are being turned into sissys more and more every day by our sick society and its for a very sinister purpose … when shit hits the fan yall will be begging us to bring back our toxic masculinity 💯
I’m 64 and enjoy doing the same activities I did when I was 19. Skiing , golfing ,hiking, biking.etc…I find it funny looking back what a scrawny looking kid I was back then. I see today’s youth out of shape drinking too much coffee , eating junk , wearing odd clothes . That was my generation too , were not so much different. Keep active and exercise doing something you enjoy . I remember good looking people losing their looks and health due to bad lifestyle choices.
What about man who is covered with mud and blood .. but has freshly slain deer in tow? Proving he also can provide and protect. Oh, well. Never mind .. That was important thousands of years ago ..
Being fit transcends mere physical attraction. Somebody dropped this gem on me many years ago: Observe how well or how poorly someone takes care of themselves and their own life -- that is the very best you expect them to extend to you over any appreciable stretch of time.
5/6 isn’t bad for me. I’m 5’ 6” and have a lot of experience in the past decades. I’m in my 40s, single dad, and I’m still doing fine. I’ve always stayed in shape and take care of my appearance. For all you shorter guys like me, it’s exactly what Courtney says, it’s about your confidence only. All but two of my ladies of the past were taller than me. I like taller women, what can I say? I just don’t see myself as a short person, and if you don’t see yourself this way, then neither will women. It’s really is that simple. Walk talk, be confident.
I am same height as you. My wife has passed so I am on the market again, and the first girl I went out with was taller, it doesn’t bother me at all. I think I will do the five o’clock shadow thing though.
I’m 5’ 8” and have dated several women taller than me. They were actually very insecure about being “too tall,” if you can believe it. Having said that, I struggled with women until I put on a decent amount of muscle mass. More than anything, women want a man who looks and acts masculine.
I asked Tim Gunn once how you know what clothing is in style. His response: “Whatever you walk out of the house feeling the most comfortable in and feeling the most like YOU… that’s what’s in style.” Authenticity always wins ✊
Great calm voice, Courtney. I’m a truck driver. I’ll stack a list of videos to last a few hours and just listen with the screen off. I’m too old for your advice to matter much lol. Your voice is like a calming salve for my soul in traffic. Thanks,
I don't specifically believe in doing something just because women will find it sexy, don't spend Your whole life making girls happy and chasing them. Find your purpose and get busy in achieving it, girl who deserves you will come to you automatically.
Girls who deserve you will come to you during your progress. If they only show up once you’ve bettered yourself all alone, then they aren’t worth keeping around.
Looks do matter. Humans on a baseline psychological level are judgmental. We assess risks, threats, distance and even potential mates based off of perceptive judgment. A man's overall health is a priority if you're wanting to market yourself to a quality friendship. 🙂
Yes, I believe it's high time people start to accept that humans are just "wired" in the way that they perceive some aspects and features to be beautiful and some to be undesirable. It's just human nature to like one aspect and dislike another and people need to understand that. Looks do indeed matter.
My health is my responsibility, and I owe it to myself to keep myself in shape, exercise and eat halfway decently. That I might be attractive to someone else because I am in shape is a side benefit. As I tell my sons, if you take care of your body, it will take care of you. Treat your body as a temple and respect it.
"I won't date you unless you're 6'5"." That is such a ridiculous standard. Those women will be sorely disappointed as that's less than 2% of the male population!
I mean, I sort of understand why women want their men to be a little taller, but requiring your date to be above 6'0" is fucking ridiculous, let alone 6'5"! 😂 That is SO dumb! Notice how guys never have these preferences for women. All we want is for our girlfriends to take care of themselves and stay in shape. Having a good face obviously helps, but as far as physical attraction goes, our requirements are usually within any woman's reach. Women have standards that 80% of men LITERALLY can't compete with.
@@hasselett ehh, the large majority of women don’t have strict height requirements. The ones who say this kind of thing are usually super hot Instagram model types. They can get away with drastically narrowing their dating pool like that because they’re so sought after in general.
Luckily most girls who aren’t very tall themselves are horrible at guessing people’s heights, so if your like 5’9 and above they just assume your about 6 feet tall
I'm only 5'10" and my height has never been an issue with women. I even dated a couple women who were taller than me. Not saying there aren't women out there who are obsessed with height. But from my personal experience it's not the norm.
I like how you point out that physical qualities like body type and style of dress do matter and that it will attract a woman who is into that type of physical quality! Also, most of those traits, we do have some influence over.
I really like your approach in these videos. Lots of helpful advice that I can tell comes from personal experience and careful consideration, but at the same time delivered in a way that doesn’t make people feel bad or that that they have no choice but to live a certain way to be attractive. Keep up the great job!
100% true! To those guys who say, "Screw this dumb advice, I don't care what women notice, I do what I want." I say, thank you. That's less competition for those of us who want to win the hearts of high value women. Thanks Courtney!
Just for the record: you are not going for the 'hearts of high value' women, you are going to their panties... BTW - and it is my own observation - you get the most attraction as a man if you are neither seeking, nor trying to avoid attraction but instead you do what you exactly laughed at: if you are simply focusing on your own shit, like work, school, sports. And if anyone asks you if there is any fuckable chick in that activity you can simply not answer that because you don't know it.
From the beginning of time women have been selective when it comes to the men they want to be with. ITs about resources. Money, appearance and good genes. both men and women are shallow, men are just honest about it and women want to appear not shallow (lies they tell themselves) but yes most women will be honest with each other. I don't fault them, because if they will mate with someone they definitely want a long term investment they dont want to be stuck with a deadbeat and someone who will give them sickly children. Why do you think Elon Musk has 10 children with 8 different women? Its not his personality that these women are attracted to.
I like your honesty. If you lost out in the looks department, tough luck, life isn’t fair. Trouble is, if you did miss out (like me), getting in shape doesn’t make any difference (or very little). Looks are 85%, Money 10%, Fitness 3%, charisma 1%, SOH 1%, Good Maths skills 5%.
Or your 70yrs.old,finally gaining extra pounds,and most alarming,graying,and basically losing your hair...mostly on top,so yes,tried the hair fiber thing, and worked kinda,till you don't have enough on top for the fibers to stick to, oh well,do the old stand by,put on a sticking hat,or cool 😎 cap of some sort...da!!!oh yeah, some say just shave it all off!?!Well in my opinion, I don't want to look like a Q-ball,Not for me!!!
Dude, looks is big, but excelling in the other areas you’ll still find someone around your level or slightly better. But if you view your looks as a 3 then just assist your expectations to the same for a woman. There’s someone out there for everyone.
I can think of two people I work with who are bald, short and don’t look good facially. Both are married to attractive women so there are other things that are important - just don’t ask me what - I’m single!
I appreciate how careful you are to not offend people, make it clear that it’s all just your own opinion. Help, but not upset anyone. It’s cool. Respectful.
Indifference is the core. Even a man who has the physical traits, financial resources, confidence, looks, heighth, guaranteed women will get tired and want someone else no matter how God like the man is. Stop caring what women think.
Small details that can make a huge difference: Simply change your pillow cases more often. Whatever time frame you're doing it in, just shorten it and it'll solve the majority of your facial problems.
@@JstJaybeingJay it gets filthy and all that bacteria goes on your face :D. The skin on your face is the most sensitive. Clean your cellphone as well, at least once per day
Confidence makes you irresistible Your inner thoughts should be authentic and come as glowing on your face and eyes! I seen more hot girls with guys having chubbiness and dad bods Your confidence should be positive and spread happiness Atleast make her comfy around you
While that's true, you should still wanna be in the best shape of your life as a man. Because like Courtney said, you having your shit together as man and you in shape; puts you ahead of most of the guys in the dating market who aren't.
You're right, I agree, but being healthy, fit physique wise, and just healthy does make one both mentally strong and confident. It has changed my own state of mind. I was obese, 270 pounds with a 47" mid section. Once I dropped to 190 pounds and got down to a 36" mid section. My mindset improved and treatment by others improved too. Everything matters.
"Dad" boobs??? Sheesh. Have a little respect. Dad's are the best people around. Why does a guy even join in on disrespecting them??? Maybe someday you'll be there.
I can agree with this. Being in shape is not just physical, but it def promotes a more positive self image and confidence. Who doesn’t appreciate confidence lol.
I agree with everything you say. I was in really good shape in college, and had a great time dating. Later on like so many guys, I let my body slip and starting getting a bit fat. Then a friend challenged me to get back in shape, and because I was reaching the age my dad died at, I took this challenge quite seriously. I've been quite serious about my workouts pretty much ever since, I've definitely gotten some very positive comments over the years, though honestly the main reason I stay in shape is I enjoy playing sports and I don't want to die young like my dad. Also, pretty much agree with what you said about height, although twice in my life I had very long relationships with large women, by large I don't mean fat, I mean one was on the college basketball team, and she ended up marrying a guy shorter than her, and a girl that was just big, neither of us married, but we are both still friends.
The key takeaway trait from this is to PUT IN EFFORT. If you spend the extra 30 minutes a day to put a little effort into making yourself presentable, it shows that you'll not only put in effort for yourself, you're also someone who who puts in effort...generally. This is a key trait in maintaining any relationship and that goes a long way.
Its key to do all of this work for you and your own value not to attract a women. When you succeed your options increase and you can choose who you allow into that great life youve built.
Courtney is right about these 6 things. You should be in shape as a man not neccesarily to get a girl but so you can feel comfortable in your own skin. We always have to be on our A game as men. Because when we are, it allows us to not accept bad treatment from women. Looks definitely get you in the door but your mindset and ability to provide for the girl will keep her around. I prefer the stubble/clean cut look for myself but i try to present my best self when i do start looking for a woman. Anyways be blessed everyone ♥️
@@CourtneyRyan you're welcome! I do my best haha. I appreciate you being honest with us about what women really look for cuz so many would lie to us. Definitely do a mens skincare video cuz so many guys don't know about it
And if we are comfortable in our own skin being a bit overweight thats ok too right? Because if is not then you'll say you'll never attract a woman that way to which your point of " not necessarily to get a girl" is total bullshit
Really like how you emphasize where your advice is most useful - ie, what stage of a relationship. Always makes sense and gives us new areas to work on to make ourselves feel better and that confidence does help. Thanks Courtney :)
When I was a teenager, I took tetracycline for acne. Unfortunately, my dermatologist didn't tell me one of the side effects was darkening of my teeth. When I went to Brite Smile years ago to get my teeth professionally whitened, I was so disappointed they could only whiten my teeth two shades brighter.
Courtney, so thankful you're out here in YT land. I appreciate, YOU. Wish I was you, when I was younger. In any case....you have such a sweet spirit, unbiased, and just tryna help both males and females. Kindness, be your best self, etc. I'm an age-gap woman (older woman/younger man) and I'm always appreciating a guy of any age who keeps their body trim, and grooms up well. Height, a mating thing from Neanderthal man days (height, for some reason meant/means better able to produce/provide/strength/protection, etc); body parts match up sooooo nicely with a guy the same height or not much taller haha! May I add teeth whitening? "If you're not whitening, you're yellowing" was a Crest ad from the early 2000s. Such, a turn off, yet sooooo inexpensive to fix with strips, no matter straight or crooked teeth! May God bless your endeavors!
@@alexanderkohary1690 No problem. Actually, quiet sobbing with a little bit of tears works fine because it shows the sensitive and feminine sides of you. And get a dog. Women loves cute dogs. 😀
"Teacher, what must i do to have quality women? I've done everything that you asked me" "If you want to be perfect, go, sell all you have and give it to my sister, then you will have eternal abundance of women"
I'm new to your channel and i already like your videos I'm not quite sure why but when i see them, it gives me vibes that you are sincere and honest, you truly want to help guys. The way you talk contributes to the kindness you show in your videos. Thanks for this kind of content. I was one of those persons that gave everything from himself and receive nothing but insults and that i'm not enough.😀😃
From my perspective women are really attracted to a guys outline, physique, bone structure , if your cute ,dress code, energy which are all physiological identifications.80 % of initial attraction is physical however that 20 % abstractly vocalized is essential especially personality ,empathetic accuracy and emotional intelligence!!!!.The IMMATERIAL aspects of an individual is the most effective and VITAL conceptualization for persuading the opposite gender an also MAINTAINING a stable marriage!!!!!
Well said, Pierre! Though it is ultimately good to take care of your body and keep up appearances on the outside, it's all for nothing if you're a terrible person, or lack confidence on the inside
Courtney, I would LOVE a skincare routine video from you. As for this video, the facial hair tip is difficult for me because the career I am going for requires me to be clean shaven. However, I have never found that to be a big obstacle. If you guys prefer to be clean shaven, my suggestion is make sure you're in great shape and rock a military-like haircut.
Thank you Courtney. There absolutely must me one core ingredient woven throughout all of these physical traits and this ingredient is almost as important as money and that is "indifference."
From my experience, the taller the girl is(5’10-6’) the less she cares about height and the shorter the girl is(5’ and below) are the ones who want a basketball player for a bf. The taller girls probably aren’t picky because their options are limited as far as having a taller partner.
True, I'm 5'9 and I don't care, with heels I'm taller than most guys anyway. My kids don't have to be 6'5
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Hello! Tall girl here! (Six foot) I used to care about height. "Absolutely not, I will never go for a guy shorter than me!" As time went on though, I met guys I liked that were shorter than me (not midget, they were at least touching my head lol), and I realized I didn't care as much anymore. I wouldn't exactly say this process occured because of lack of options, because I had tall options as well. Moreso I think I learned to find it endearing. TLDR: good guys aren't worth giving up just cuz they're a little shorter than me.
Agree - super tall gals don't have many options. I'm 6'-2". I met a gal once she was maybe 5'-11" or 6'-0" who was interested in me but naw she was just too gangly for me (like me!). I like 'em at 5'-7" the perfect height for me. That said if i could design myself i'd be 6'-0" bang on - it's all about proportions if u ax me...
First video I've watched. I'm married and not really looking ran across you randomly. But just wanted to say you're spot on and beautiful as well. Keep doing what you're doing. Wish I had these videos growing up
8:28 - 'Girls prefer someone with darker hair'. I decided this was a thing years ago and decided to dye it from it's natural blonde to dark. Never doing that again. I have blonde eyebrows so it looked like I had no eyebrows. Plus I had to be clean shaven because beards dyed dark look like false beards on most men.
the irony behind all this is right on the right of this is videos UA-cam thinks I'm interested in....and there's Paul Walker. I doubt blonde hair denied him any woman :)
@@LiGHTProductions Ever hear of actor Danny DiVito? He was on a popular TV show, "Taxi", and is on "Sunny in PA". so he made the same amount of money and had celebrity status....ever see who he married? Go ahead, look it up :) women love rich dudes for one thing--women love to have fun, and rich dudes don't whine about the bill for it. also, i moved out of my parents' house at 18, no roomates, and i could afford it since I had free furniture (i was at college, kids had no choice but to toss their stuff every spring and i grabbed the best of it). back then, i couldn't understand why women were unable to see what i had, and decide it equaled "self supporting male" like they said they wanted. I still choose to buy used rather than new (that way i don't work a job i hate just to impress the neighbors) and i have female friends who don't earn a lot (for a variety of reasons) who want to copy me...but...they know the type of man their body can get them, and i ain't it. But then i know them--I want their body, but not their drama. So both of us have our "deal breakers". Point is, i don't blame people who want access to money--it solves a lot of bullshit problems in life, and the problems that it doesn't, are REAL problems, not dumb shit. I also know that I'm happier than many people who take on that stress. and i also know from my female friends...when they see a hot guy...doesn't matter if he's rich or poor. they just imagine up some story about him and plow ahead. Just like when any of us spot a hottie, we never ask ourselves, "why is she single? she's gotta be a real drag in life". and that's where we're all at :)
@@albertgaspar627 I thought DeVito married his Taxi co-star Rhea Perlman? Having no money while being in a relationships is not ideal. I was in a long distance relationship a few years ago while going through a financial struggle. I couldn't travel to see her and she was in a constant state on annoyance with me. Looking back though she was very high maintenance.
@@alexanderjacksonart you are right on both counts (they're estranged now). As an average looking man, the best luck I ever had in dating (i always have dry spells measured in more than a pair of years), the best luck i ever had was looking cross-country online (on free dating forums that no longer exist, alas. you got to know people that way, and they got to know you). However, i had an ace up the sleeve--my father traveled a ton for business, and had kept all the frequent flyer miles. that and other coupons that transferred (meals, rentals, etc) from AAA and elsewhere cut the costs down. As this was before 9/11 and flying was merely a PITA not a strip search, i got to see parts of the country I wouldn't normally have a reason to see, and I never stayed in a hotel by the railroad tracks. I enjoyed the view thru a local's eyes (only one of the four maidens I got with looked like her photos, but oh well) and caught a weekend at Summerfest in Milwaukee and of course "got my needs met". i can honestly say, i can look back on those years and wish I had more of 'em. its popular to criticize "casual sex" but I got to know people online first, we all put our best face forward when we met, and I traveled while getting laid. since i never wanted kids and thus saw no need for marriage...it wasn't a bad way to spend my 30's while others heard their biological clocks ring :)
Courtney, use the floss picks, they are so easy and get the back teeth better than floss. You will probably get hooked. Regarding white teeth, it is the enamel that makes teeth white, so use a toothpaste like pronamel from sensodyne and I have recently started to allow the toothpaste to sit in my mouth for about 10 minutes to allow the paste to absorb and not be wash away by mouth wash. I do brush the tongue, which I am hooked on. I also stated to use Oil of Olay regenerist anti aging face soap about 15 years ago, with my tight face from being in shape the glow from the face soap makes a difference. Stay well!
Hello Miss Ryan. Can you make a video about how to be confident for a non native English speaker. English isn't my first language so I'm always anxious whenever it comes to interacting with other native speakers.
An important thing to keep in mind about the whitening toothpaste is that it can be very harmful for your teeth. A lot of those toothpastes use abrasives to polish your teeth up, but in turn they remove a small layer of enamel, which is going to be very bad in the long run. They make your teeth look white, but over time your enamel will be scraped away, leaving you with yellow teeth *forever*
Thank you for your honest, helpful speaking. I never had anything like this 50 years ago. I'm 75 years old now and have been miserably lonely 98% of my life. My health is fortunartely superb, but I'm desperately trying to be with a good woman in the years I have left. You are helpful. -Can you eliminate the slight background music in your videos? Your words and voice are important. My hearing is good, but the background music is still a hindrance.
@@e-dizzy yeah I'd skip the scrub. Do you have acne? I actually helped my family and some friends get some good looking skin. I have oily skin so I use peach slices salycilic face wash, then use a hydrating toner, a vitamin c serum and moisturizer. I also don't leave the house without sun screen. I'm a dude and man, I always get compliments in my skin. Let me know your skin type and your skin tone.
I am a 40 year old male who has spent the majority of my life in sports and hanging with popular socially acquired crowds. I have always took care of myself health wise from 14 until current with clean eating and exercising. I used to be a very nice dressed, always very well groomed and styled especially when going out. All of that good jive lasted until I hit 31 or 32 then I turn the tables a bit. While still taking care of myself physically but not as religiously, I started focusing on my relationship, family and work. I quit the Abercrombie and slacks look and went to white tees and jeans, grew my beard and stash out more, stopped worrying about my hair styled as much and started getting tattoos around 34 and continue to do so while being more of a grease monkey and motorcycle enthusiasts in my spare time now and honestly, I have to say that I notice alot more females looking, talking to me and more even asking me if I'm single! Also, I do enjoy not having to worry about spending half a day on my looks anymore and more time with my family and my dogs lol! Point is in my personal experience, you don't have to be a Ken doll or male model to attract the average woman and a 10 female usually isn't the best choice for a relationship in my experience as well lol! There's so much more to life than craving attention guys and it's way too short anyways so enjoy it the best you can!!
The Body positivity only applies to those who created it… WOMEN! Men remember that! We can’t afford to be out of shape. Stay healthy and get fit if you’re not. Because having a good body MATTERS!
@@thusspokezarathustra1847 There are men out there that don't they normally lazy bums that chose not to work or do anything unless they are getting something. Good normal people will normally not run into them.
As a guy, I have a particular thing about hands too - the skin. Personally, I find hands that are too soft kinda scary. Self-care is important (clean, trimmed nails), but I found women's hands that are rougher in texture quite sexy.
God, Courtney, you are beautiful from the inside out. Thanks for your work. We, men, need constant reminders. Even if we are just trying to keep the woman that is in our lives. Women should be so happy about the work you do.
When my girlfriend and I first met, what attracted her was my attitude,personality, sense of humor and she says I look badass. I have burn scars from the top of my head and all the way down my right side. She’s shorter than me (she’s 5 feet tall) and we are inseparable.
@@40ounce58 I would venture to say that 90% of our appeal ultimately comes from inside us. All my life, I’ve seen boys overcome all sorts of apparent handicaps and win over great girls.
You're right about Each point. I dress well and am 6'5". I've had many beautiful women come on to me and be very bold towards me with advances and asking me on dates. I don't consider myself handsome or. Good looking. But many women tell me I dress well and have a nice smile. And that i walk like a king and have a regal bearing. That's very gratifying and flattering. I agree with you. You're very on the nose about the qualities of men that women like. Women tell me I have very nice hands and they like that I'm naturally muscular and im very healthy. In the last 9 years i went from 470lbs down to 225.😊😊 i didn't have any surgeries or anything fake. I dieted and i eat right and work out and swim a lot. I didn't Read anything or have surgery. All i did was choosing to get healthy for my own sake. Women liked me even heavier because I bore it well. And Still looked good and dressed Nicely and always have my regal bearing and Carried myself well and with dignity and self respect.
@@serenityinside1 it's not unhumbled or immodest to be proud of what I've achieved or how far I've come from my 470lb days. Confidence isn't ego or arrogance. Many women mistake that
@@issadegen4501 um I don't know buddy. He's good looking and successful. I think he's doing just fine. If anything the dude trying to bag the guy with money and a beautiful girlfriend is the "beta". Because we know you're just saying that shit out of insecurity. Go work on yourself then come back.
She literally advertising the kind of man she wants while she is with a man....she still cant disguise it when she tries. I was trying to clue you in on female nature that you seemed to catch, but are still a blue pill simp. Good luck dude. You will need it if you ever get to where these kind of women want you
@@teppens71 if hes still around 300k and she passes a million, give it 5 months, if she is still with him send me your paypal and I'll send you a grand
Hi Courtney I thoroughly enjoyed your video. You’re very attractive, articulate and speak very well. You spoke during the video about your voice and the comments from some listeners, it appears you have not let get to you. Well done. You will always get people who are sad about their own life and hate when someone has their life together. I’m an older guy, happily married but what you’re saying is keeping the standard high. Good video keep it up☘️
I’m 5’7” maybe 5’8” on a good day 😉. I’ve dated a girl that was 5’9” she was “out of my league” it honestly just takes you talking to her first. Shoot your shot gents. Courtney says, “take care of yourself” after almost every example. Get into a routine and make that routine your minimum effort and if there’s someone you’ve been wanting to ask out. Do it sooner than later. People are like nachos, if you don’t go after the one you want, someone else will.
Shoutout to all my bald/balding brothers, do not feel bad about yourselves! Accept that you have no control over it and let confidence arise, however slowly. Rocking a shaved head is the ultimate display of confidence and self-love in our society. This subliminally indicates people of that, and that contributes massively to initial attraction.
@@carlitobrigante330 same. men in my whole family are bald and more on the shorter side. all of them are/were successful with women all their lives... My mother was taller and 20 years younger than my dad (she was his second wife). all the women who are partnered with men in our family are absolutely in love with them, cherish and respect them. we are not even that good looking. as i said: bald/balding, shorter side (5'6 upwards), but we are all very driven, educated and adventorous. there is no way im giving another man more "power" over me just because he is taller or better looking, lol.
Initial attraction is primal and animalistic in that we notice the physical attributes of women and I know women do the same thing. You have to be more than that though to really attract someone. Personality, confidence, status and chemistry... what attracts you may not be the same for the next guy.
That's unfortunately true. Though, being rich trumps all. You could look like the guy in the leprechaun movie, and if you are rich enough. You can be banging super models til the day you die or lose your money.
Have you had speech training? My mother teaches speech trainging and i noticed that yours is really on point! Great content as well like always! You are much appreciated!
I'm 58 years old, and I've dedicated 100% of my time and effort into my career. In highschool I was the typical geek, and was laughed at and teased by my peers. I graduated highschool, went on to university, attended medical school and became a pediatric neuro-surgeon. Unfortunately, my past has left me emotionally scarred when it comes to women. I live alone, BUT I love what I do, and the rewards that come with the job.
Your beliefs have been on auto pilot since you were younger and are not a reflection of who you truly are. The universe and everything in it will treat you exactly the way you want to be treated deep down.
@@christianguenther1276 If you truly believe that, then you are correct. I'm here to say anyone can change IF they really want to and make a conscious effort to do so. We are our own worst enemy though, that negative self talk isn't the real you speaking.
The one who cares the least runs the relationship. get with the girl that adores you the most. Not the one you breakin your neck for.
I totally agree because a guy should always be the one who is the leader in the relationship; and his girl should be constantly trying to keep his attention because he is on his purpose in life. The second a woman starts leading the relationship; it will end eventually.
Have you been watching Cole Hastings? I saw that quote in one of his videos.
I literally just watched one of your videos this morning. Ngl I laughed a lot. Good memes.
i'd rather be alone that being with someone i don't desire.. whats the point then lol
I disagree, and I believe that that's an unhealthy way of looking at a relationship with someone you like or love. I've been independent long enough to be used to being single. If I'm in a relationship, it's because I want to be. And yeah, I'mma care about the health of the relationship and the happiness of my partner. But I'll be sure that I'm still getting what I want out of the relationship too. If I don't care enough about either my partner's happiness or my own, then I don't really need to be in a relationship.
Reducing a relationship down to simply power dynamics is very naive. If one person or the other guides the relationship, that's fine, but when both people in a relationship are healthy adults with realistic expectations, you both come into it trying hard to make it work. In that case, both of y'all care.
You are already ahead of most of America by simply:
--- being in shape ---
*wheezing intensifies*
Youre ahead of most of America by just not being fat. In shape is a bonus.
@@johnmcmillian8842 mhmm
So true! I have gained about 8 pounds during COVID. My pre-COVID job was an extremely active one where exercise was part of the work. So, I didn't have to "formally" work out as much. Anyway, I'm getting back to form. But my point is, that even at 8 pounds above my "fightin' weight", I STILL look better than over 90% of American men my age. My intention is not to brag, it's to make a point. The US has a serious epidemic and it's not so much about exercise really. The problem is more due to diet and nutrition. I know people that work out HARD and are still chubby. EAT.MORE.PLANTS!!! The unrefined and unprocessed (or minimally processed) kind. It's that simple.
This goes beyond physical attraction. There were other very attractive traits that you develop and exude while getting in and staying in shape.
My father always said, "just remember, no matter how good she looks like, someone out there is tired of her $hit, so, pay good attention at what you want and how she is"
Lmao 🤣 so true.
Seems like your father underwent a lot of shit
Pearls of wisdom 😎
Your dads a wiseman I like that advice 👌
My saying was always "show me the hottest, sexiest woman in the world...and I'll show you a guy that's tired of that p*ssy and is cheating on her" but...I know what your dad was saying too 😂
1.good shaped body
2.nicely maintained facial hair 5 oclock shadow and stubble with jawline
3.dressing well
4.nice hair style
5.look tall
6. Good grooming habbits
And if you don't talk to women you will still be single af
"Look tall" can be as easy as well fitted clothing and confidence
"Good shape" doesn't have to be muscular just fit/healthy energies and active.
The real #1 is unshakable confidence
Thanks
Thanks
Self improvement(gym, work, socializing)= MASSIVE CONFIDENCE
Yes!! 👏🏼
LMAO the amount of work men need to do just to a get a chance with women in dating. Sad world we're living in.
@@AmirChemE unbelievably sad but they say dont hate the player, hate the game
No. Results in any form would give confidence. Self improvement in itself does not
Also hobbies!! If your only hobby is the gym you’re lacking. Get into sports, group activities or outdoors.
"If they don't like you, why do you want them to like you anyway". Words of wisdom.
Right, high value men have many better choices
Reminded me of Ace and Ginger from the movie Casino.
As a wise man (George Costanza) once said, "she hates me so much - it's irresistible".
@@whitewalker608 Ooooo! You must be really lonely, boy. …If they don’t like you, it’s your job to _make_ them like you! For the most part, most girls don’t like you at first. You have to woo them. Girls generally have a lot of choices - - especially the ones worth having! The choice of which boy gets to be with a girl is up to the _girl_. Boys don’t have any _choice_ in the matter. They either become interested in a girl or they fall in love with a girl and that’s the end of that. What you may not know, now, is that you will love the girls you fall in love with - - for the rest of your life! …There is no escaping them! Life is hard; full of pain and emptiness; and then we die!
The mistake that I made when I was young was to observe that there were plenty of fish in the sea. So when a girl resisted me too hard, I would just ‘go fishing’. I realized later that I should have always doubled-down. It’s a competition to win the right to fertilize those eggs. The girl is the judge and jury. You have to become indispensable to them.
Unfortunately, the advent of really reliable and accessible birth control has caused girls to, well…. Never get pregnant. They can’t ever fall in love with you if they don’t know what love is. When they have a child of their own, they are going to love that child more than their own life. Only then is there a chance they will fall in love with _you_. The rest is just passion. Passion doesn’t last.
Oof that don’t leave much lol
In my case, hitting the gym, or track or just being active also improved my state of mind. This makes me more confident where I don't have to try and overdo it. If a girl shows no interest, I move on.
Looks fade, most folks need a sense of humour!
If it took the gym to alter your mind then you’re already as weak as piss
Absolutely...and better sleep.
I USED to be confident from workout out year.. last couple years females dont care, i dont even get looked at anymore n im constantly rejected by females. My confidence has all dwindled away.. i can’t get a female to save my life it seems. This world has turned to trash and girls minds are all mush now.. 😢
@@ariesscar443 Keep hitting the gym for yourself!
1:36 good shaped body
4:06 nicely maintained facial hair 5 o'clock shadow and stubble with jawline
5:01 dressing well
7:27 nice hair style
9:00 look tall
10:36 Good grooming habits
So you are saying personality and sense of humor have nothing to do with it? (LOL) the 2 most common things that women say on a dating profile are all lies
Look tall? Lol your tall or your not
@@ashifarman4813 so men wearing high heela basically lol as if they havent made men feminine enough now a days🤦♂️
@@ashifarman4813 idgaf if your not interested its a fact men are being turned into sissys more and more every day by our sick society and its for a very sinister purpose … when shit hits the fan yall will be begging us to bring back our toxic masculinity 💯
@@vanthadoun1 the vid is abt physical traits not personality
I’m 64 and enjoy doing the same activities I did when I was 19. Skiing , golfing ,hiking, biking.etc…I find it funny looking back what a scrawny looking kid I was back then. I see today’s youth out of shape drinking too much coffee , eating junk , wearing odd clothes . That was my generation too , were not so much different. Keep active and exercise doing something you enjoy . I remember good looking people losing their looks and health due to bad lifestyle choices.
Yes. Most men love women who smells nice, gentle & feminine. As most women loves masculine,well groomed & maintaining good hygiene men.
It's mostly about being healthy and taking care of ourselves (men and women) and that's attractive of course
@@JLchevz Yes people
Please do not repeat your socks 🧦 and Underwear. Change them after every use!! Even if only a few hours before taking a bath.
What about man who is covered with mud and blood .. but has freshly slain deer in tow? Proving he also can provide and protect.
Oh, well. Never mind ..
That was important thousands of years ago ..
@@matikaevur6299 Deodorant and Shampoo did not existed years ago as well…. Not sure what point you were trying to make.
@@matikaevur6299 Depending on what part of the U. S. you're in, she might see you as a keeper.
Being fit transcends mere physical attraction. Somebody dropped this gem on me many years ago:
Observe how well or how poorly someone takes care of themselves and their own life -- that is the very best you expect them to extend to you over any appreciable stretch of time.
Nice 👌🏼👌🏼
I hope your avatar is not the example of being fit. LOL
5/6 isn’t bad for me. I’m 5’ 6” and have a lot of experience in the past decades. I’m in my 40s, single dad, and I’m still doing fine. I’ve always stayed in shape and take care of my appearance.
For all you shorter guys like me, it’s exactly what Courtney says, it’s about your confidence only. All but two of my ladies of the past were taller than me. I like taller women, what can I say? I just don’t see myself as a short person, and if you don’t see yourself this way, then neither will women. It’s really is that simple. Walk talk, be confident.
I am same height as you. My wife has passed so I am on the market again, and the first girl I went out with was taller, it doesn’t bother me at all. I think I will do the five o’clock shadow thing though.
I’m 5’ 8” and have dated several women taller than me. They were actually very insecure about being “too tall,” if you can believe it. Having said that, I struggled with women until I put on a decent amount of muscle mass. More than anything, women want a man who looks and acts masculine.
This helped a lot. Thank you.
"Your personality doesn't matter if the door isn't open."
- Living A Life Of Abundance
NoCap
"Living A Life Of Abundance" ...Such a sickening verused cliche.
Lmao hard truth
Wise words bro... you are 100% right... 0 attachement...
@@yankee2666 sounds like someone not abundant
I asked Tim Gunn once how you know what clothing is in style. His response: “Whatever you walk out of the house feeling the most comfortable in and feeling the most like YOU… that’s what’s in style.” Authenticity always wins ✊
horrible advice but sounds great👍
@@bobbadman1551 said the guy walking out of the house in a forced-feeling gucci suit
@@gregorcollins If I would dress how it felt most “like me” i would go on dates in sweatpants and flip flops.
Thanks for your advice bro!
@@bobbadman1551 point being, you would be the best version of yourself, and that would come across :)
Like a bin bag?
I love how you lay out the realities of human attractiveness in such a nice and polite way.
Great calm voice, Courtney. I’m a truck driver. I’ll stack a list of videos to last a few hours and just listen with the screen off. I’m too old for your advice to matter much lol. Your voice is like a calming salve for my soul in traffic. Thanks,
this is unexpected but that's how to get product market fit .. launch something and see what stick lol
Don’t fall asleep on the road lol
@@punisher20g58 THAT’S funny! LOL.
age does not matter, try star signs are worth taking a look at before taking on a new relarionship.
You sound like a good, humble guy! You may just have an awesome adventure left with a lady who recognizes your virtues!
It’s all in the eyes, chico. The eyes never lie.
Goddangit I love it. Me and my boss always quote that movie.
"The eyes chico...they never lie!"* *
@@sigmaballs93 ay man, don be goin fuggin cracy on me OK? That’s the bosses lady
@Hubert Harmon lol in that case, if there’s anything in that eye🤢
I prefer his quote about women
These are not just to attract women but to become a better person in general. Go Courtney!
I don't specifically believe in doing something just because women will find it sexy, don't spend Your whole life making girls happy and chasing them. Find your purpose and get busy in achieving it, girl who deserves you will come to you automatically.
💯💯
taking care of yourself is something you should be doing regardless of whether youre trying to get a girl or not
@@nobee99 So true 👏
Girls who deserve you will come to you during your progress. If they only show up once you’ve bettered yourself all alone, then they aren’t worth keeping around.
100% My friend, this one is indicative of the air heads we men have to tolerate
Looks do matter. Humans on a baseline psychological level are judgmental. We assess risks, threats, distance and even potential mates based off of perceptive judgment. A man's overall health is a priority if you're wanting to market yourself to a quality friendship. 🙂
Yes, I believe it's high time people start to accept that humans are just "wired" in the way that they perceive some aspects and features to be beautiful and some to be undesirable. It's just human nature to like one aspect and dislike another and people need to understand that. Looks do indeed matter.
Couldn't agree more on this.
Yeah I learned in AP Psychology when I was in high school a while back that literally ALL people are judgemental by nature and that's just how it is.
My health is my responsibility, and I owe it to myself to keep myself in shape, exercise and eat halfway decently. That I might be attractive to someone else because I am in shape is a side benefit. As I tell my sons, if you take care of your body, it will take care of you. Treat your body as a temple and respect it.
@@slundgr I fully agree sir
She’s sweet and honestly it’s a nice channel to follow. I wish youngsters watched more such advice
And always has very tasteful cleavage. Enough to get our attention not too much so that we lose attention to the message 😅
Courtney is that female best friend or older sister that we all wish we had to talk about girl problems with, lol.
LMAO..Let us know when you LEAVE FANTASY LAND
Ha Ha
How many times a day do you get down on your knees to kiss her feet? How often do you put women on a pedestal?
@@MogamishuI did her on the kitchen table, haven't tried the pedestal... hopefully tonight!
@@Mogamishu I finally did her on the pedestal, it was great...tomorrow night the banister.
"I won't date you unless you're 6'5"."
That is such a ridiculous standard. Those women will be sorely disappointed as that's less than 2% of the male population!
I mean, I sort of understand why women want their men to be a little taller, but requiring your date to be above 6'0" is fucking ridiculous, let alone 6'5"! 😂 That is SO dumb! Notice how guys never have these preferences for women. All we want is for our girlfriends to take care of themselves and stay in shape. Having a good face obviously helps, but as far as physical attraction goes, our requirements are usually within any woman's reach. Women have standards that 80% of men LITERALLY can't compete with.
They don't always end up with very tall people, it's become an excuse or soft rejection path for women.
@@hasselett ehh, the large majority of women don’t have strict height requirements. The ones who say this kind of thing are usually super hot Instagram model types. They can get away with drastically narrowing their dating pool like that because they’re so sought after in general.
Luckily most girls who aren’t very tall themselves are horrible at guessing people’s heights, so if your like 5’9 and above they just assume your about 6 feet tall
I'm only 5'10" and my height has never been an issue with women. I even dated a couple women who were taller than me. Not saying there aren't women out there who are obsessed with height. But from my personal experience it's not the norm.
Thanks!
Having a healthy gut micro biome plays a big role in skin care/ quality. Thank you for this video Courtney
I have found this to be true
I like how you point out that physical qualities like body type and style of dress do matter and that it will attract a woman who is into that type of physical quality! Also, most of those traits, we do have some influence over.
For sure! 👏🏼
Simp
@@jimtart4271 Thats ok John Im sure you have other fine qualities. Its ok, youll find a woman who will love your simpeness 😁
I really like your approach in these videos. Lots of helpful advice that I can tell comes from personal experience and careful consideration, but at the same time delivered in a way that doesn’t make people feel bad or that that they have no choice but to live a certain way to be attractive. Keep up the great job!
100% true! To those guys who say, "Screw this dumb advice, I don't care what women notice, I do what I want." I say, thank you. That's less competition for those of us who want to win the hearts of high value women. Thanks Courtney!
Just for the record: you are not going for the 'hearts of high value' women, you are going to their panties...
BTW - and it is my own observation - you get the most attraction as a man if you are neither seeking, nor trying to avoid attraction but instead you do what you exactly laughed at: if you are simply focusing on your own shit, like work, school, sports. And if anyone asks you if there is any fuckable chick in that activity you can simply not answer that because you don't know it.
From the beginning of time women have been selective when it comes to the men they want to be with. ITs about resources. Money, appearance and good genes. both men and women are shallow, men are just honest about it and women want to appear not shallow (lies they tell themselves) but yes most women will be honest with each other. I don't fault them, because if they will mate with someone they definitely want a long term investment they dont want to be stuck with a deadbeat and someone who will give them sickly children. Why do you think Elon Musk has 10 children with 8 different women? Its not his personality that these women are attracted to.
Jason, your comment is werid man..
Simp
@@stevensmith4660 He needs to change his name to Simp. He will loose all of his money in the divorce.
A man who has been in the dating game since the late 90’s, the number one trait that all women universally love and can’t resist is this: Confidence
Fuck yea!!
Confident and 5ft 6in, yea!!!
Confidence; a good sense of humour; someone who can make her laugh; and ultimately, someone who can make her feel secure.
Wrong confidence doesn't matter looks & height does
Does it really work? I mean I'm humorous, confident but haven't ever asked a women out.
I like your honesty. If you lost out in the looks department, tough luck, life isn’t fair. Trouble is, if you did miss out (like me), getting in shape doesn’t make any difference (or very little). Looks are 85%, Money 10%, Fitness 3%, charisma 1%, SOH 1%, Good Maths skills 5%.
😆
Or your 70yrs.old,finally gaining extra pounds,and most alarming,graying,and basically losing your hair...mostly on top,so yes,tried the hair fiber thing, and worked kinda,till you don't have enough on top for the fibers to stick to, oh well,do the old stand by,put on a sticking hat,or cool 😎 cap of some sort...da!!!oh yeah, some say just shave it all off!?!Well in my opinion, I don't want to look like a Q-ball,Not for me!!!
Dude, looks is big, but excelling in the other areas you’ll still find someone around your level or slightly better. But if you view your looks as a 3 then just assist your expectations to the same for a woman. There’s someone out there for everyone.
I can think of two people I work with who are bald, short and don’t look good facially. Both are married to attractive women so there are other things that are important - just don’t ask me what - I’m single!
I appreciate how careful you are to not offend people, make it clear that it’s all just your own opinion. Help, but not upset anyone. It’s cool. Respectful.
Indifference is the core. Even a man who has the physical traits, financial resources, confidence, looks, heighth, guaranteed women will get tired and want someone else no matter how God like the man is. Stop caring what women think.
star signs are worth taking a look at before taking on a new relarionship.
@@lesjones471 i am a virgo man and have wanted a Capricorn woman for 20 years. Never found one.
Agreed g
@@lesjones471 Imagine believing this
@@lesjones471 star signs lmaoooo
Thank you Courtney. This was priceless for us men!
One of your biggest fans,
Exsosus
Courtney is the perfect person to explain us things like we're 5.
😂 I’m sorry
yeah but Im as with many men are kinda sick of women explaining alot of obvious stuff to us as we are 5...
Thats gud lol
I’m five but I read at a six-year-old level.
We are a 5? 🤣
Small details that can make a huge difference: Simply change your pillow cases more often.
Whatever time frame you're doing it in, just shorten it and it'll solve the majority of your facial problems.
What benefits there is to change pillow cases very often?
@@JstJaybeingJay it gets filthy and all that bacteria goes on your face :D. The skin on your face is the most sensitive.
Clean your cellphone as well, at least once per day
@@JstJaybeingJay Not burying your face in the oil that comes off of it every night.
I don't use a pillow, guess i have to change the whole bedsheet.
Twice a week clean that shit and never get in ur bed dirty, take a shower before bedding down!
I have only seen like 2 of your videos and I loved how you say things straight and clear without fluctuating :)
It’s always cool seeing my favorite creator do podcasts/ interviews. Hope you do more in the future after roommates?
I definitely will!
Confidence makes you irresistible
Your inner thoughts should be authentic and come as glowing on your face and eyes!
I seen more hot girls with guys having chubbiness and dad bods
Your confidence should be positive and spread happiness
Atleast make her comfy around you
While that's true, you should still wanna be in the best shape of your life as a man. Because like Courtney said, you having your shit together as man and you in shape; puts you ahead of most of the guys in the dating market who aren't.
Common sense
Ironic most dad bod dudes have more confidence than ripped dudes in this case
You're right, I agree, but being healthy, fit physique wise, and just healthy does make one both mentally strong and confident. It has changed my own state of mind. I was obese, 270 pounds with a 47" mid section. Once I dropped to 190 pounds and got down to a 36" mid section. My mindset improved and treatment by others improved too. Everything matters.
"Dad" boobs??? Sheesh. Have a little respect. Dad's are the best people around. Why does a guy even join in on disrespecting them??? Maybe someday you'll be there.
I can agree with this. Being in shape is not just physical, but it def promotes a more positive self image and confidence. Who doesn’t appreciate confidence lol.
I agree with everything you say. I was in really good shape in college, and had a great time dating. Later on like so many guys, I let my body slip and starting getting a bit fat. Then a friend challenged me to get back in shape, and because I was reaching the age my dad died at, I took this challenge quite seriously. I've been quite serious about my workouts pretty much ever since, I've definitely gotten some very positive comments over the years, though honestly the main reason I stay in shape is I enjoy playing sports and I don't want to die young like my dad. Also, pretty much agree with what you said about height, although twice in my life I had very long relationships with large women, by large I don't mean fat, I mean one was on the college basketball team, and she ended up marrying a guy shorter than her, and a girl that was just big, neither of us married, but we are both still friends.
The key takeaway trait from this is to PUT IN EFFORT. If you spend the extra 30 minutes a day to put a little effort into making yourself presentable, it shows that you'll not only put in effort for yourself, you're also someone who who puts in effort...generally. This is a key trait in maintaining any relationship and that goes a long way.
Its key to do all of this work for you and your own value not to attract a women. When you succeed your options increase and you can choose who you allow into that great life youve built.
Thanks Courtney. Truths need to be heard, doesn't matter how hard it is to digest.
Courtney is right about these 6 things. You should be in shape as a man not neccesarily to get a girl but so you can feel comfortable in your own skin. We always have to be on our A game as men. Because when we are, it allows us to not accept bad treatment from women. Looks definitely get you in the door but your mindset and ability to provide for the girl will keep her around. I prefer the stubble/clean cut look for myself but i try to present my best self when i do start looking for a woman. Anyways be blessed everyone ♥️
Absolutely ❤️ thanks for being here as always, Georgio!
@@CourtneyRyan you're welcome! I do my best haha. I appreciate you being honest with us about what women really look for cuz so many would lie to us. Definitely do a mens skincare video cuz so many guys don't know about it
And if we are comfortable in our own skin being a bit overweight thats ok too right? Because if is not then you'll say you'll never attract a woman that way to which your point of " not necessarily to get a girl" is total bullshit
I don’t know about you guys but what a woman! I love the way she carry her self and the way she think. She make me feel passionate.
Really like how you emphasize where your advice is most useful - ie, what stage of a relationship. Always makes sense and gives us new areas to work on to make ourselves feel better and that confidence does help. Thanks Courtney :)
Courtney: Have a good skin care routine.
*Tiege Hanley has entered the chat*(If you know, you know)
*"Spicy senoritas!"*
*[Alpha M]*
[GENTLEMEN!!!]
Except Courtney’s not a shill…
When I was a teenager, I took tetracycline for acne. Unfortunately, my dermatologist didn't tell me one of the side effects was darkening of my teeth. When I went to Brite Smile years ago to get my teeth professionally whitened, I was so disappointed they could only whiten my teeth two shades brighter.
Can always get some veneers.
Courtney, so thankful you're out here in YT land. I appreciate, YOU. Wish I was you, when I was younger. In any case....you have such a sweet spirit, unbiased, and just tryna help both males and females. Kindness, be your best self, etc. I'm an age-gap woman (older woman/younger man) and I'm always appreciating a guy of any age who keeps their body trim, and grooms up well. Height, a mating thing from Neanderthal man days (height, for some reason meant/means better able to produce/provide/strength/protection, etc); body parts match up sooooo nicely with a guy the same height or not much taller haha! May I add teeth whitening? "If you're not whitening, you're yellowing" was a Crest ad from the early 2000s. Such, a turn off, yet sooooo inexpensive to fix with strips, no matter straight or crooked teeth! May God bless your endeavors!
As a man, I am so happy to see this kind of advice being put out there. Great content in these videos. Keep up the great work!
Thank you, my friend! ❤️
It’s very honest compared to many other stupid pieces of advice on the internet.
Irresistibility 101: (1) bulging wallet; (2) large organic banana; (3) excellent physical shape; (4) tall; (5) handsome; (6) sense of humor.
I do not have any of these, what can I do except crying?
@@alexanderkohary1690 No problem. Actually, quiet sobbing with a little bit of tears works fine because it shows the sensitive and feminine sides of you. And get a dog. Women loves cute dogs. 😀
@@TheWanderer28 I did what you recommended. Now I am attracting sympathetic protecting and comforting MEN, damn.
@@alexanderkohary1690 Good start?🤣 May need to finetune your techniques. 🤣🤣🤣
"Teacher, what must i do to have quality women? I've done everything that you asked me"
"If you want to be perfect, go, sell all you have and give it to my sister, then you will have eternal abundance of women"
As a woman, I agree with this list!!! 🙌🏽 ♥️
She missed the fat wallet though .
do woman pick men baste on wot thay think there children will be dist curious
@@orrinclerk1454 you high af
Thank you for not pushing the "dad bod" narrative. I've always believed that it was bullshit.
I'm new to your channel and i already like your videos I'm not quite sure why but when i see them, it gives me vibes that you are sincere and honest, you truly want to help guys. The way you talk contributes to the kindness you show in your videos. Thanks for this kind of content.
I was one of those persons that gave everything from himself and receive nothing but insults and that i'm not enough.😀😃
"If they don't like you why do you want them to like you anyway?" That's pure gold.
I started lifting a month ago. I’m so mad at myself for not starting 5 years ago.
All that matters is that you started king! That’s the first step. Like all things stay patient and work hard…you got this 🤝
Wish I would have started years ago also!
@@brennanpoole7960 thanks brother I added 30 lbs to my squat today. I don’t know where the strength came from but my first max felt light.
If it doesnt become a lifestyle you wont stick with it.
@@id10t98 On my way to the gym now at 4 am
I attended the female conference earlier this year and they finally agreed that guys should focus on having more money
Courtney, you’ve helped me become a much happier person.
I’m so glad 🥺❤️
Huh? LMAO
I guess you're still single
Simp
Aww that’s so sweet to say!
From my perspective women are really attracted to a guys outline, physique, bone structure , if your cute ,dress code, energy which are all physiological identifications.80 % of initial attraction is physical however that 20 % abstractly vocalized is essential especially personality ,empathetic accuracy and emotional intelligence!!!!.The IMMATERIAL aspects of an individual is the most effective and VITAL conceptualization for persuading the opposite gender an also MAINTAINING a stable marriage!!!!!
Yes!! ❤️
Fantasy land
@ad izzle not always
@ad izzle my wife always screams during sex... especially when I walk in on her.
Well said, Pierre! Though it is ultimately good to take care of your body and keep up appearances on the outside, it's all for nothing if you're a terrible person, or lack confidence on the inside
I appreciate her taking time to help men in general she is classy a fine woman and her points are important
Courtney, I would LOVE a skincare routine video from you. As for this video, the facial hair tip is difficult for me because the career I am going for requires me to be clean shaven. However, I have never found that to be a big obstacle. If you guys prefer to be clean shaven, my suggestion is make sure you're in great shape and rock a military-like haircut.
"We all have different preferences.."
- maybe about hair and eyes color, but everyone is looking for most attractive person in our environment. :)
star signs are worth taking a look at before taking on a new relarionship.
Courtney I always appreciate your honesty. Never stop
Thank you Courtney. There absolutely must me one core ingredient woven throughout all of these physical traits and this ingredient is almost as important as money and that is "indifference."
From my experience, the taller the girl is(5’10-6’) the less she cares about height and the shorter the girl is(5’ and below) are the ones who want a basketball player for a bf. The taller girls probably aren’t picky because their options are limited as far as having a taller partner.
my experience as well. I'm 5'7 and had better luck with taller chicks than smaller ones lol
True, I'm 5'9 and I don't care, with heels I'm taller than most guys anyway. My kids don't have to be 6'5
Hello! Tall girl here! (Six foot) I used to care about height.
"Absolutely not, I will never go for a guy shorter than me!"
As time went on though, I met guys I liked that were shorter than me (not midget, they were at least touching my head lol), and I realized I didn't care as much anymore. I wouldn't exactly say this process occured because of lack of options, because I had tall options as well. Moreso I think I learned to find it endearing.
TLDR: good guys aren't worth giving up just cuz they're a little shorter than me.
Agree - super tall gals don't have many options. I'm 6'-2". I met a gal once she was maybe 5'-11" or 6'-0" who was interested in me but naw she was just too gangly for me (like me!). I like 'em at 5'-7" the perfect height for me. That said if i could design myself i'd be 6'-0" bang on - it's all about proportions if u ax me...
@@aldosigmann419 dude, I would pay for that 2 inches you don't need;)
First video I've watched. I'm married and not really looking ran across you randomly. But just wanted to say you're spot on and beautiful as well. Keep doing what you're doing. Wish I had these videos growing up
8:28 - 'Girls prefer someone with darker hair'. I decided this was a thing years ago and decided to dye it from it's natural blonde to dark. Never doing that again. I have blonde eyebrows so it looked like I had no eyebrows. Plus I had to be clean shaven because beards dyed dark look like false beards on most men.
the irony behind all this is right on the right of this is videos UA-cam thinks I'm interested in....and there's Paul Walker. I doubt blonde hair denied him any woman :)
@@albertgaspar627 Paul Walker has tons of money. When you've got tons of money, it doesn't matter anymore how you look.
@@LiGHTProductions Ever hear of actor Danny DiVito? He was on a popular TV show, "Taxi", and is on "Sunny in PA". so he made the same amount of money and had celebrity status....ever see who he married? Go ahead, look it up :)
women love rich dudes for one thing--women love to have fun, and rich dudes don't whine about the bill for it. also, i moved out of my parents' house at 18, no roomates, and i could afford it since I had free furniture (i was at college, kids had no choice but to toss their stuff every spring and i grabbed the best of it). back then, i couldn't understand why women were unable to see what i had, and decide it equaled "self supporting male" like they said they wanted.
I still choose to buy used rather than new (that way i don't work a job i hate just to impress the neighbors) and i have female friends who don't earn a lot (for a variety of reasons) who want to copy me...but...they know the type of man their body can get them, and i ain't it. But then i know them--I want their body, but not their drama. So both of us have our "deal breakers". Point is, i don't blame people who want access to money--it solves a lot of bullshit problems in life, and the problems that it doesn't, are REAL problems, not dumb shit. I also know that I'm happier than many people who take on that stress.
and i also know from my female friends...when they see a hot guy...doesn't matter if he's rich or poor. they just imagine up some story about him and plow ahead. Just like when any of us spot a hottie, we never ask ourselves, "why is she single? she's gotta be a real drag in life".
and that's where we're all at :)
@@albertgaspar627 I thought DeVito married his Taxi co-star Rhea Perlman? Having no money while being in a relationships is not ideal. I was in a long distance relationship a few years ago while going through a financial struggle. I couldn't travel to see her and she was in a constant state on annoyance with me. Looking back though she was very high maintenance.
@@alexanderjacksonart you are right on both counts (they're estranged now). As an average looking man, the best luck I ever had in dating (i always have dry spells measured in more than a pair of years), the best luck i ever had was looking cross-country online (on free dating forums that no longer exist, alas. you got to know people that way, and they got to know you). However, i had an ace up the sleeve--my father traveled a ton for business, and had kept all the frequent flyer miles. that and other coupons that transferred (meals, rentals, etc) from AAA and elsewhere cut the costs down. As this was before 9/11 and flying was merely a PITA not a strip search, i got to see parts of the country I wouldn't normally have a reason to see, and I never stayed in a hotel by the railroad tracks. I enjoyed the view thru a local's eyes (only one of the four maidens I got with looked like her photos, but oh well) and caught a weekend at Summerfest in Milwaukee and of course "got my needs met".
i can honestly say, i can look back on those years and wish I had more of 'em. its popular to criticize "casual sex" but I got to know people online first, we all put our best face forward when we met, and I traveled while getting laid. since i never wanted kids and thus saw no need for marriage...it wasn't a bad way to spend my 30's while others heard their biological clocks ring :)
I’d love if you showed us teddy’s skin care routine!!
Courtney, use the floss picks, they are so easy and get the back teeth better than floss. You will probably get hooked.
Regarding white teeth, it is the enamel that makes teeth white, so use a toothpaste like pronamel from sensodyne and I have recently started to allow the toothpaste to sit in my mouth for about 10 minutes to allow the paste to absorb and not be wash away by mouth wash. I do brush the tongue, which I am hooked on.
I also stated to use Oil of Olay regenerist anti aging face soap about 15 years ago, with my tight face from being in shape the glow from the face soap makes a difference.
Stay well!
I think skin care could be a mini series of its own
Hello Miss Ryan. Can you make a video about how to be confident for a non native English speaker. English isn't my first language so I'm always anxious whenever it comes to interacting with other native speakers.
PronunciationWorkshop
Her voice is so relaxing
An important thing to keep in mind about the whitening toothpaste is that it can be very harmful for your teeth. A lot of those toothpastes use abrasives to polish your teeth up, but in turn they remove a small layer of enamel, which is going to be very bad in the long run. They make your teeth look white, but over time your enamel will be scraped away, leaving you with yellow teeth *forever*
Good tip!
Thank you for your honest, helpful speaking. I never had anything like this 50 years ago. I'm 75 years old now and have been miserably lonely 98% of my life. My health is fortunartely superb, but I'm desperately trying to be with a good woman in the years I have left. You are helpful.
-Can you eliminate the slight background music in your videos? Your words and voice are important. My hearing is good, but the background music is still a hindrance.
I’ve struggled finding a good skin care routine and would really like to see a video on this!
Thanks!
Have you found one yet? I actually got a solid one
@@bgcm1995 I use jack black face wash and scrub. I also use First Aid Beauty 5 in 1 face cream (moisturizer). Do you have any other recommendations?
@@e-dizzy yeah I'd skip the scrub. Do you have acne? I actually helped my family and some friends get some good looking skin. I have oily skin so I use peach slices salycilic face wash, then use a hydrating toner, a vitamin c serum and moisturizer. I also don't leave the house without sun screen. I'm a dude and man, I always get compliments in my skin. Let me know your skin type and your skin tone.
Do not eat anything that is made in a factory
Its not food
Causes inflamation and skin flare ups
She's had such a soft voice.
Bedroom voice.
I am a 40 year old male who has spent the majority of my life in sports and hanging with popular socially acquired crowds. I have always took care of myself health wise from 14 until current with clean eating and exercising. I used to be a very nice dressed, always very well groomed and styled especially when going out. All of that good jive lasted until I hit 31 or 32 then I turn the tables a bit. While still taking care of myself physically but not as religiously, I started focusing on my relationship, family and work. I quit the Abercrombie and slacks look and went to white tees and jeans, grew my beard and stash out more, stopped worrying about my hair styled as much and started getting tattoos around 34 and continue to do so while being more of a grease monkey and motorcycle enthusiasts in my spare time now and honestly, I have to say that I notice alot more females looking, talking to me and more even asking me if I'm single! Also, I do enjoy not having to worry about spending half a day on my looks anymore and more time with my family and my dogs lol! Point is in my personal experience, you don't have to be a Ken doll or male model to attract the average woman and a 10 female usually isn't the best choice for a relationship in my experience as well lol! There's so much more to life than craving attention guys and it's way too short anyways so enjoy it the best you can!!
As long as you are confident in who you are, whether fat or not, you will still attract women
Wise words brotha 👊🏼
This is the most serious and realist woman I have ever met seen in my life
The Body positivity only applies to those who created it… WOMEN! Men remember that! We can’t afford to be out of shape. Stay healthy and get fit if you’re not. Because having a good body MATTERS!
@cris bro regardless get in shape not for women but for yourself.
@@DevinObi
Yes.
Do it for yourself.
Once your health and well-being takes precedence token symbols of "success" become pleasant, but secondary.
"life isn't fair and that's the way that it is"
So THAT'S where I've been going wrong.
Hahahahaha
You only get one shot. Make it count. Courtney, you are an amazing person. Continue to upload these insightful videos.
Number 1, if you’re not grooming yourself and brushing your teeth, you have more issues that need dealt with than finding a woman
But some still mange to find one with confidence.
I don't know a single person who doesn't brush his teeth daily.
@@thusspokezarathustra1847 There are men out there that don't they normally lazy bums that chose not to work or do anything unless they are getting something. Good normal people will normally not run into them.
As a guy, I have a particular thing about hands too - the skin. Personally, I find hands that are too soft kinda scary. Self-care is important (clean, trimmed nails), but I found women's hands that are rougher in texture quite sexy.
God, Courtney, you are beautiful from the inside out. Thanks for your work. We, men, need constant reminders. Even if we are just trying to keep the woman that is in our lives. Women should be so happy about the work you do.
When I was in the states, it seemed that "taller than me" actually meant. "6 inches taller than me when I am in heals."
The truth is it's 6 feet, magic number for most broads. My problem is that I'm about 5'7".
When my girlfriend and I first met, what attracted her was my attitude,personality, sense of humor and she says I look badass. I have burn scars from the top of my head and all the way down my right side. She’s shorter than me (she’s 5 feet tall) and we are inseparable.
Being short has a bigger stigma then your scars frankly.
@@40ounce58 I would venture to say that 90% of our appeal ultimately comes from inside us. All my life, I’ve seen boys overcome all sorts of apparent handicaps and win over great girls.
You're right about Each point. I dress well and am 6'5". I've had many beautiful women come on to me and be very bold towards me with advances and asking me on dates. I don't consider myself handsome or. Good looking. But many women tell me I dress well and have a nice smile. And that i walk like a king and have a regal bearing. That's very gratifying and flattering. I agree with you. You're very on the nose about the qualities of men that women like. Women tell me I have very nice hands and they like that I'm naturally muscular and im very healthy. In the last 9 years i went from 470lbs down to 225.😊😊 i didn't have any surgeries or anything fake. I dieted and i eat right and work out and swim a lot. I didn't Read anything or have surgery. All i did was choosing to get healthy for my own sake. Women liked me even heavier because I bore it well. And Still looked good and dressed Nicely and always have my regal bearing and Carried myself well and with dignity and self respect.
I think what must stand out is your modesty and humbleness 🤔
Ffs 🙄
@@serenityinside1 it's not unhumbled or immodest to be proud of what I've achieved or how far I've come from my 470lb days. Confidence isn't ego or arrogance. Many women mistake that
@@serenityinside1 being confident isn't ego. Many limited people confuse that
ZZ Top is right
Every woman is crazy about a sharp dressed man.
"Don't get me wrong, I love a baby face as well" nice save Courtney, nice save indeed. Teddy was about to be offended😂
She gotta keep those beta bucks deluxe. Cant handle an alpha. Hes on a timer the second this channel passes his. What a sucker. Lmao
@@issadegen4501 um I don't know buddy. He's good looking and successful. I think he's doing just fine. If anything the dude trying to bag the guy with money and a beautiful girlfriend is the "beta". Because we know you're just saying that shit out of insecurity. Go work on yourself then come back.
@@teppens71 watch how well this ages. Hope you learn something kid
She literally advertising the kind of man she wants while she is with a man....she still cant disguise it when she tries. I was trying to clue you in on female nature that you seemed to catch, but are still a blue pill simp. Good luck dude. You will need it if you ever get to where these kind of women want you
@@teppens71 if hes still around 300k and she passes a million, give it 5 months, if she is still with him send me your paypal and I'll send you a grand
Hi Courtney I thoroughly enjoyed your video. You’re very attractive, articulate and speak very well. You spoke during the video about your voice and the comments from some listeners, it appears you have not let get to you. Well done. You will always get people who are sad about their own life and hate when someone has their life together. I’m an older guy, happily married but what you’re saying is keeping the standard high. Good video keep it up☘️
I’m 5’7” maybe 5’8” on a good day 😉. I’ve dated a girl that was 5’9” she was “out of my league” it honestly just takes you talking to her first. Shoot your shot gents. Courtney says, “take care of yourself” after almost every example. Get into a routine and make that routine your minimum effort and if there’s someone you’ve been wanting to ask out. Do it sooner than later. People are like nachos, if you don’t go after the one you want, someone else will.
The last sentence is gold my friend, an absolute gem.
Fun fact: facial hair, when properly groomed, can help your jawline look better.
A video regarding a skin care routine for men would be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much for your content.
Shoutout to all my bald/balding brothers, do not feel bad about yourselves! Accept that you have no control over it and let confidence arise, however slowly. Rocking a shaved head is the ultimate display of confidence and self-love in our society. This subliminally indicates people of that, and that contributes massively to initial attraction.
I see tons of attractive, successful women with men that are bald and/or losing their hair.
@@carlitobrigante330 same. men in my whole family are bald and more on the shorter side. all of them are/were successful with women all their lives... My mother was taller and 20 years younger than my dad (she was his second wife). all the women who are partnered with men in our family are absolutely in love with them, cherish and respect them. we are not even that good looking. as i said: bald/balding, shorter side (5'6 upwards), but we are all very driven, educated and adventorous. there is no way im giving another man more "power" over me just because he is taller or better looking, lol.
Initial attraction is primal and animalistic in that we notice the physical attributes of women and I know women do the same thing. You have to be more than that though to really attract someone. Personality, confidence, status and chemistry... what attracts you may not be the same for the next guy.
Whatever you Say I will listen. Recent divorcee so Single for first time in adult hood. So I need advice Tia 🙏🏼
One of the first is height, 5'4" to 5'5". No matter what shape or health. Everything else doesn't matter.
Most definitely as someone that is 5'5 and 135lbs I'm invisible to all of them and I thank God for that every day when I check my savings account 😏👍
@@joeplem5329 good one
That's unfortunately true. Though, being rich trumps all. You could look like the guy in the leprechaun movie, and if you are rich enough. You can be banging super models til the day you die or lose your money.
Deff want to see like a whole skin care routine
Have you had speech training? My mother teaches speech trainging and i noticed that yours is really on point! Great content as well like always! You are much appreciated!
I'm 58 years old, and I've dedicated 100% of my time and effort into my career. In highschool I was the typical geek, and was laughed at and teased by my peers. I graduated highschool, went on to university, attended medical school and became a pediatric neuro-surgeon. Unfortunately, my past has left me emotionally scarred when it comes to women. I live alone, BUT I love what I do, and the rewards that come with the job.
Your beliefs have been on auto pilot since you were younger and are not a reflection of who you truly are. The universe and everything in it will treat you exactly the way you want to be treated deep down.
@@nickferry8909 It's too late for me to ever change my thinking now.
@@christianguenther1276 If you truly believe that, then you are correct. I'm here to say anyone can change IF they really want to and make a conscious effort to do so. We are our own worst enemy though, that negative self talk isn't the real you speaking.