100% I am new to parenting with a 3 year old and I love that kid so damn much but doesn’t mean it’s not so fn hard. I wish more people were less fake about it and more real with parenting. It being extremely difficult and extremely rewarding can co-exist.
I have a 10 month old son and my husband loves him so much and has always wanted to be a dad and it's still the thing that gives him the most purpose but he will tell everyone how much of a burden our son is and said people need to be more honest about how much harder it can be but also doesn't mean you don't love your baby
I would like to add, how challenging and totally life and body changing pregnancy is, and then imagine being forced to go through this, not wanting it?
Being a first time parent is so shocking. It’s true nobody tells you what it is going to be like and that it’s not all magical moments and easy so I understand what you mean by how you feel. It gets easier is all I can say.
Thank you all for being here for this intimate story 💕💕. We are so incredibly grateful for each of you! We'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below xxx Bec.
I love your positivity. I'm dealing with anxiety and depression, to see how positive you are every day I am doing my best to follow your example. I have started with meditation and rethinking the way I start and approach my days. Love you both Frankie and Oso.
How much did Frankie weigh at birth? My twins were also born emergency c-sec 6 weeks and 2 days early! Loved listening to your parenting journey so far ❤
Thank you for sharing your story ! Births are all different and challenging. Yet, You are an amazing warrior Bec! Keep on the positive energy wave. You are both stronger through this. Make sure to nurture your relationship and have date nights once a week when she takes her naps or sleeping. It’s so important !
Thank you for sharing your story. My dad was diagnosed with leukemia when I started high school, and my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer when I started college. It was so hard to see two people who are so strong entities in my life look so vulnerable, but even though it was a horrible time we are grateful to be on the other side, grateful with the learning and growth from it. They are both cancer free for more than 10 years now. So happy to see Bec better 🥰I’m 35 years old. I do not know if I want to have kids, but sometimes I’m scared to bring a kid into a world that is so scary but seeing my nephews flourish in the world motivates me. I honestly am so happy to be able to see your beautiful family and everything you share. God bless.
Thank you so much for opening up about all the journeys you travailed in order to get your sweet Frankie! It’s incredible how all these paths crossed at just the right time and in the right way to have this come together to accomplish this amazing goal! Incredible is not a big enough word! Hugs…
I honestly wasn't expecting this level of insight and depth from your podcasts. I thought this would be a light-hearted chat show type of vibe. But damn, do I ever appreciate the level of openness and vulnerability you've shown. Your story is so compelling, yet relatable. Thank you for this. You're very right in saying that you have a dedicated base of fans who are already interested in hearing what you've got to say, despite your thumbnails, and I'm one of them.
As a new mom, it’s honestly refreshing and super validating to hear Eamon talk about becoming a parent. It’s incredibly challenging to be able to express yourself honestly without people misunderstanding or judging you. You guys are doing great ❤️
I've stopped getting notifications for your channel (yes they are turned on), had to actually search for this, so unsure if this is impacting your engagement?!
Your first podcast merch should be shirts with "I'm so proud of me" on them. I'll get one for everyone I know. I'm so proud of you too, and every woman should say that to herself in the mirror every day. You remain an inspiration, Bec ❤
Never forget how amazing you are Bec! You fought cancer in your breast and beat it. You beat the odds and conceived a child naturally. You fought cancer in your bones and delivered a baby through it all. And now you hold everything together while being the best mom ever. You support Eamon, you project love and kindness and radiate pure goodness. But the most important thing for you to remember about yourself is that the only love that matters is your own. Let your love for yourself be the secret that carries you through whatever it is life throws at you. Always know you are worth it.
@@JoHart-q2x National Breast Cancer Foundation says some women live ten years and longer with stage four. It is possible. "Geisler, a retired UW-Madison director of outreach development, has lived with breast cancer for 40 years and with metastatic cancer (meaning it spread to her bones) for 36 years. Her story inspired UW Carbone Cancer Center oncologist Mark Burkard, who now is hunting the world for other survivors like her." Source: University of Wisconsin-Madison.
In Eamon’s defense… finding out I’m autistic/adhd at almost 40, really restructured how I show up in my life. When we try too hard to fight the adhd “needs” like lack of eye contact, we tend to lower our abilities elsewhere. It’s like having a bunch of water cups that we need to make sure none spill over as we move the water to different cups. You both are so strong for opening up in such a beautiful way. The amount of love you both have is truly inspiring. ❤ So grateful for this podcast. Sending love to you, Bec 💕 🙋🏻♀️
Yes the spoon theory and the fork theory. You can’t choose not to be neurodivergent And You can meet yourself and others with love and compassion and acceptance so it’s not all resistance and negativity x
Love Eamon and Bec HOWEVER, how you " identify" is not ADHD . It is a diagnosis. If you are neurodivergent, often you get eye contact or you get our attention. Eye contact often does dysregulates/dismantles our focus because holding eye contact takes all our focus so it is difficult to listen. So if we aren't making eye contact, we can listen better. People that take no eye contact as a direct insult need to understand it has nothing to do with respect when in fact we are trying to be the most respectful we can by adapting to listen and be there for the person. Does that mean we don't need a reminder and a check, we absolutely do and we have the ability but understand that it does not mean we don't love you, care about what you are saying, that we dont want to connect.
As a recently diagnosed ADD 40+, I've always struggled with eye contact as I don't know what I'm supposed to be looking at - one eye, both eyes? What if they have an interesting facial feature, I then fixate and worry they are aware of what I'm looking at.. in the meantime I haven't listened to a word they have said to me.. it's a mine field !!!
@@kathydebby606 i went through a 'diagnostic' process with an adhd professional, who was himself diagnosed with adha in the 80s. i went through hours and hours of computerized tests - the results of which were compatable with adhd and generalized anxiety. the doctors conclusion though was to say - 'I do not like the word diagnosis, this is not who you are, the brain is changeable.'
When Bec said “we didn’t actually beat it… which is heartbreaking” my heart just broke…. As Bec was going through her cancer journey, my mom was also fighting breast cancer. It was helpful to me seeing her positive perspective and I tried to carry that over to my mom’s journey as well. Her chemo was completed, radiation completed, and the doctors thought she had responded really well. She was told she was in the clear, just like Bec… then 6 months later she was at the ER for some pain due to a kidney stone, my mom had back pain most her adult life so having back pain wasn’t odd for her, she had also broken ribs/clavicle 2 weeks after radiation ended cause a drunk driver hit the car she was in. They thought the pain was all just from that… The doctor saw her chart, saw she’d was 6 months post treatment and asked her if her team was aware of the lesions in her bones… we were not. The ER doctor from the car accident was in a different city and had not said anything either (but later reading the X-ray reports the lesions were noted and it was assumed my mom was aware so they said nothing). My mom thought she had beat cancer (her lymph nodes were also clear) and she too found out 6 months later cancer had spread to her bones and she was stage 4. Her cancer was a rarer form, more aggressive, and didn’t respond to treatment, she eventually stopped treatment and went on hospice and she crossed to the spiritual world on August 15th. Thank you for being brave and sharing your cancer story Bec, it’s been so impactful for me and I appreciate you so much for sharing. ❤️
You just made me realize: I should be very proud of myself! My husband has an incurable brain tumor and we are struggling with infertility for over 4 years now. I had 3 miscarriages in the past 4 years and developed rheumatism because of the stress. We worked very hard to feel healthy, good and happy despite of the sh*t show that is our lives. But! We did all that! We went through it and are stronger than ever. Thank you for this lesson. I follow you (from the Netherlands) with a lot of love and feel connected because life challenges us in a simmular way. Please keep sharing positive energy ánd the struggle and sadness. You are both troopers. Much love!
So glad you shared this. I was diagnosed with the same Cancer as Bec, there's never been a history of cancer in my family, so I was lost, and being diagnosed during COVID, there was NO support groups because the world shut down, hospitals were on lockdown, and even treatment, we couldn't have that ONE person come with us the first day of chemo.. I found Bec on UA-cam with the caption I HAVE BREAST CANCER!!! Not only did our cancer have the same biology, Estrogen receptor positive, we had other things in common, I always ate healthy, I NEVER eat McDonald's, Burger King or fast food. i have a sports background and like to know what's in my food.. Bec sharing her story Was our SUPPORT GROUP.. we were in treatment without family or friends, so our cancer center put Eamon & Bec on the flat screen so we'd STOP talking to each other, during Covid they wanted us to keep our distance.. Sweetie you are SO BRAVE, and it meant so much to so many people. Thank you❤ Hugs💕
That’s insane! This story alone is proof that even if it’s so hard to share your story, that it can make the biggest life impact on so many people, beautiful and so moving!
Please don’t shy away from sharing the cancer treatment you’re currently doing or what menopause symptoms you have. You have a microphone to help people. There is nothing wrong if someone needs conventional treatment to help heal. I had no idea about many of these things until I joined breast cancer groups on my journey. Dr. Joe never says not to do chemo or anything of that sort. This is why it’s important to tell both sides of what you’re doing conventionally and integrative. Blessings to you.
She will do as she wishes. She's setting herself free from the stress of constantly keeping everyone up to date. Dr. Joe doesn't tell them to seek treatment. But, if they do, he wants them to keep using it. Totally up to her.
Bec always ends up sharing what she went through but once the chapter is closed for her. So maybe in a few years we will be able to hear it and it will help others. I belive the reason why she isn't sharing those information with us in "real time" is because she doesn't want to bring more focus on those negative experiences and will hinder her healing journey. She's trying to preserve her healing, positive frequencies. Like she said what you focus on grows.
I am also looking forward to the cancer update. This podcast left me wondering if removing the ovaries helped, what happened with the tumor on her forehead, and so much more!
Dear Bec and Eamon, your story was so beautifully told. You are both heroes, and Frankie is the luckiest baby!! My cancer story began 22 years ago when I was 60(am 82 now). I was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer and doctors predicted 1 to 5 years to live. They were off by at least 21 years!! Additionally, I gave birth to my second son in 1966, 12 weeks early! No one expected him to live more than 20 years, but he survived till age 53, dying of sepsis in 2020. He was the most amazing person who brought us so much love. I have an older son age 60 and daughter age 55. Listening to your story brought back so many memories. Thank you for sharing your courageous stories. Love, Linda
My Mom recently went through menopause and spoke so often about how it is not spoken about. How she wishes more women talked about menopause, more studies were done etc. In your own time, I think your voice on menopause is one that so many women would find value in. Thank you
Eamon, thank you for your candor. I had my daughter when I was 24, single and alone, living far away from family and it was the hardest thing I've ever done. I had no idea what I had signed up for. The amount of sacrifice and WORK parenthood was was something I was woefully unprepared for. I appreciate you speaking your truth. My daughter is 13 now and special needs. It's still extremely difficult but it gets easier with each stage. Thank you both for sharing your story. 💛
I am a woman in my 70s and I love listening to your UA-cam channel. It is hard to find raw honest conversation these days. Please keep it up even oldies love it. Sending love to Frankie ❤
Bec and Eamon - I ran into you yesterday at the airport with my son Wes. I was pretty nervous and just wanted to say thank you for taking the time to come over and say Hi. You guys inspired me to convert a short bus and travel in 2016, and your cabin reno videos helped me through the long stretches of covid. I just found out I was pregnant when you guys announced your pregnancy with Frankie so it was very cool to watch you go through that at the same time. Thank you so much for all the positive content you put into the world. So happy the podcast is back. ❤️
I am crying so hard at the Yellow part and Frankie being born at 2:22 which is an angel number bc they say people who we’ve lost try to communicate through frequencies and it’s as if Lee was saying, “here she is” through the music and time and gahhhh I’m just losing it all over again! This is not the birth story or journey to parenthood either of you would have wished for or expected but it sure id special none the less and I just wish nothing but the best, healthiest and happiest lives for you two and your family ❤
I was so nervous when you said you were pregnant. I couldn't understand why the doctors would let you, with estrogen positive cancer get pregnant so early. I was flabbergasted and I remember being so mad at your doctors. When you disappeared from UA-cam, I had a sinking feeling. But Frankie is a blessing. She's beautiful and I do truly believe she is meant to be here. You are beautiful and your journey is far from over. I love your calmness and the new zen energy you put out. It's amazing. You are so inspirational and strong!! You should be very proud of yourself!!! XOXO
Yes, my mom had estrogen fed breast cancer and they put her on an estrogen blocking medication (not tamoxifen) for 5 years after her lumpectomy. Even though my Mom had already gone through menopause. She was 58 at the time. This was 20 years ago, my mom had a lumpectomy and radiation, no chemo. We live in Canada too, but in Vancouver BC. I can’t understand why Bec’s doctors didn’t do the same for her. It’s a really dangerous lack of care.
@@plannergirljones2551 Are you okay? You keep making nasty comment after nasty comment about someone’s terminal cancer, which is quite disgusting of you. Get off the internet and get a hug from someone. Stop being so mean.
Her doctors did tell her it was dangerouse but they didn't listen. They went to Mexico for 6 months without seeing a doctor and came back and found out they were pregnant.
Eamon. You made a couple of comments that I would like to reply to. First, thank you for your honesty about how you felt with the chaos of having a newborn. When I had my first child 33 years ago, our first night home from the hospital and our baby cried and screamed the entire time. Late into the evening my husband says “ what did we do? We ruined our life!” I was so angry, tired and disappointed, I called my mom and she was able to get our baby to calm down. The thing is I was thinking the same thing, but I was angry because he said it out loud! It wasn’t until last week, 33 years later I told him how it made me feel and confessed I was feeling the same way. Feelings are complicated and so is parenting. Second. My mother had cancer that was estrogen driven. When hers was discovered she was 72. The cancer had eaten through her pelvic bone. Long story short she had a terrible diagnosis, unknown primary stage 4. They gave her 24 weeks to live and was going to do nothing but “wait and see”. Being that finding primary sites of cancer was what I did for a living, that answer was outrageous! I took my mom to MD Anderson in Houston. They suppressed her estrogen with drugs. I was surprised since she was post menopausal and I didn’t think she would have any estrogen. The specialist there told me that the adrenal gland produces a small amount of estrogen and any estrogen feeds her type of cancer ( which they felt probably started in her breast, but before her immune system was able to take care of all of it it went somewhere else.). My mom lived another 7 years and did not die from cancer. Please have Bec reconsider drug suppression. Thank you for all you share.
Bec, would love an episode of your healing journey. You hint and talk a lot about it, but your journey to wellness past delivery would be amazing. A friend is on a cancer journey, and I want to hear what you are doing. Please.
The part about Bec waking up surrounded by love had me in tears. What a journey. Thank you for choosing to share with a whole world of strangers that are rooting you on from afar❤
I was debating whether to comment bc I love you guys. Still it is important to make it clear for your followers. Pregnancy right after hormone positive breast cancer has a very high risk of cancer recurrence. Especially because one needs to be skipping anti hormonal treatment. It was your doctor’s responsibility to warn you about the risks and potentially even advise against pregnancy. I am also a gynecologist and this is basic knowledge. Sometimes a Doctor’s job is to tell you a very hard truth, that you don’t want to hear ❤❤❤😢
Yea thank you eamon for saying that!!! She had an estrogen driven cancer and she wasn’t watched more closely by doctors or heard out for being in excruciating pain with her bones. The doctor should have took that complaint more seriously and did everything possibly before just telling bec it was just the pregnancy growing pains. AND YES BEC you should be so proud of yourself for growing a human and delivering her safely❤ ugh im crying watching bec cry 😢
Having a baby without doing the 5 year cancer prevention pills and KNOWING her cancer was oestrogen driven is the most irresponsible stupid thing I’ve seen a couple do it’s literally unaliving yourself
They went to Mexico right after her treament finnished and she didn't see a doctor for 6 months. I think she should have stayed home and being more vigilant with her health instead of getting pregnant.
I cried so much hearing Frankie's birth story. My daughter's birth plan went so very wrong, and I had no support. My daughter Alicia will be 27 in December and I don't think I've ever mourned that whole experience. She is the light of my my life and she is profoundly disabled. I thank you for sharing and in doing so aloud me to cry over all that happened. Alicia has taught me to be present and to find joy in the small things.
I can't wait to hear how Eamon feels about parenting when Frankie is 2 and talking. I have a 2 year old and it's amazing. Once they learn to sleep through, no more bottles and their personality really flurishes, its everything being a parent!
Yes, I can resonate so much. Our son was a colic baby. Crying non-stop for 6 months straight. Even daycare and grandparents couldn't handle it. My husband had to take time off work because he wasn't doing well because of all the stress and I wanted to go back to work. But now our son is almost 2.5yo and it's such a nice time❤ He is so happy, energetic and smart. He says such funny things and just seeing him evolve from this very unhappy baby is amazing. I really love it now!
At 35, I went into full menopause. I want you to know that it gets better. The hot flashes get better, but they occasionally flare up. I will encourage you to be test for osteoporosis and make sure that this is add to your care regimen. I wish I had fought harder for early testing and not let some doctors talk me out of it. It was recently discovered. I still can change it, but I know that I should have advocate better for myself. I’m so happy that you have learned to advocate for your physical and mental health. You have such an amazing mindset, It’s truly inspiring! ❤
Hearing bec say “I saw a picture of you before I met you” validated so much in my soul. My daughter was born by emergency c section at 29 weeks and was whisked away before I could see her because I was having a medical emergency. I didn’t meet her until 32 hours later and hold her 13 days later and the trauma I have knowing I wasn’t able to give her the love right away is something I have to work daily on to redirect my brain into the positive. But ya know every day that I give her all she needs just helps to rebuild what was broken in my heart. ❤❤❤❤. Thank you for sharing your birth story. It’s amazing more than you will ever know.
A tear jerker today. I am so proud of how strong and courageous you both are. I can’t wait for Frankie to see how strong her parents are. You overcame things no one should go through and were so authentic throughout.
Your base is always going to be here for you! Thank you for sharing your journey! My 6 yr old was diagnosed with leukemia in April and honestly watching you deal with your cancer journey has given me as a mum so much love and light. The only thing worse than hearing you have cancer is hearing your child has cancer. It’s a true out of body experience. I love how you’re choosing joy and I will be trying to implement that in my day to day cuz it is a choice.
Wow, what a wonderful podcast! I’m a 81 yr old great grandmother and I SO agreed with everything you were saying! You are very spiritually beautiful and advanced. What lovely children you two will raise. You have been through so much in your 30 years but instead of bringing you down to a victim mentality, you have grown and grown spiritually, mentally and with so much love and compassion. Thank you for sharing this deeply emotional time with us. Believe me, for those that have ears for it, you have taught deep spiritual lessons. I’m just so proud to know you and thankful that I came across you. The only thing that bothers me is when you say “ my cancer” or “ your cancer”…..I would not claim it at all. Substitute the word “the” for “my”. Love, hugs and light always.❤️👍👍🙏🙏
As someone who is childfree by choice it's so refreshing to hear a parent be honest about the struggles of parenthood. Everyone tries to make it seem like it's all sunshine and rainbows and childfree by choice is just insane.
Don’t feel alone with the shock of how much energy this little human can zap from you! Everyone is thrown for a loop! You think you know what to expect but you can’t until you experience it first hand! However at the end of the day,they are the deepest love you will ever have. I just can’t imagine having the cancer worries on top of having this brand new baby!❤ Big hugs!
Id love to hear more about Eamon’s ADD journey and what impact he feels it has on his approach to everything, his lightbulb moments the more he learns about it, etc. I can fully relate to needing to look away to focus on thinking without distractions 😊
I’m see Eamon’s view on some of the parenting blind sides. Before I had my daughter, I listened to other moms talk about this magical bond that you’ll have with your baby, the moment you set eyes on them. I loved her instantly, yes…but the bond…no. I remember crying because I didn’t have this magical moment and thinking, “anyone could come and steal my baby and she would never know who her real mom is! “ Everyone gave me false hope. She’s 16 now and the greatest kid and we have had the best time, but the beginning was hard.
Not everyone experiences a bond right away. My youngest was no exception either. Now it is so strong as she is 2 and non verbal, looks for me everywhere and I panic when she is quiet and getting into everything. My oldest kids absolutely adore her.
When Eamon took the moment to mention he feels for those trying to conceive, my heart contracted. It's been a year for me and each month I am disappointed all over again 😅 Thank you guys for diving into this topic and being vulnerable. ❤
Watching this with tears streaming down my cheeks and neck. As a 45 yr old woman, coming up on a year cancer-free from stage 3 metastatic, estrogen-positive breast cancer that had spread to my lymph nodes, I am extremely shocked that they didn't have you on any preventive meds and didn't see a problem with you getting pregnant so quickly, or at all, tbh. While I am older and was done having children, I was still considered on the younger side for stage 3 breast cancer. It was extremely aggressive. I found a tiny lump above my nipple and immediately scheduled my 1st mammogram ever. It took a little over a month before my appt and in those few weeks, that tiny lump grew the size of 13 cm and was in half my breast, closest to my armpit. They found 3 cancerous nodes in my armpit during my biopsy. I started a very strong regimen of chemo and suffered through the red devil and then months more of a less aggressive chemo. Then I had surgery followed by radiation. I was immediately put on oral chemo and hormone therapy to put me into menopause so I won't create as much estrogen and be less likely to have a recurrence. I will be on oral chemo for at least 5 years and hormone therapy for 10 years. I also get a shot in my butt once a month! They have impressed upon me how important this is and how my chances of getting cancer are significantly reduced because of these preventative measures. I am just so shocked that they didn't put you on any preventive meds! Then didn't monitor you extra carefully during your pregnancy!!! This makes me so angry for you. The fact they didn't tell you to use a surrogate is crazy to me! I cannot even begin to imagine the emotions that you went through finding out the cancer came back while pregnant. The extreme highs and lows you dealt with! The rollercoaster your mental health rode through this time. You are AMAZING, Bec!!! Just being pregnant is emotional, then you throw in cancer, stage 4 cancer!! I'm sobbing for you after the fact! You deserve everything positive and good that is coming your way! I'm so proud and I don't know you personally! ❤ Baby Frankie is a miracle and she is so blessed to have you as her Mommy! The strength that you exude is next level, girlfriend! I can't wait to watch you enjoying motherhood and watching Frankie Lee grow up! She is the cutest 😍 I pray that your body heals again from cancer, and that you live to have a long, loving life, and that Franky gets to have her Mom in her life thru all the milestones into adulthood and beyond. If anyone can beat this, it's you! Show yourself and your body grace and take care of yourself 1st and foremost so you can be there for your daughter and family like you no doubt want to be. You are an inspiration and your daughter is blessed to have you as her role model. #Fukcancer 🎀 💗 💞
@StancyTalk Me neither! I feel anxious just thinking about it! I'm so irritated with her doctors. Everything I've been thru and still going thru, I have some peace because my doctors are sooo amazing! I feel like her doctors dropped the ball and should've been way more concerned with her getting pregnant. At the very least they should've been monitoring her frequently. It shouldn't have gotten to point it did. Bec is amazing though! You would never tell by looking at her and Frankie that she's been thru everything that she has and is still dealing with it. 🩷
@@holliewood55 can you imagine an OB gyn telling this beautiful young woman shortly after she finishes treatment to go ahead and get pregnant? They need to be sued. Yes, she is the personification of healing. And that precious baby, oh my gosh such a cutey pie
@StancyTalk Estrogen positive breast cancer!! It defies logic to me! I'm not a doctor so hopefully they know way more than I learned after I was diagnosed, 😉 but.... It just doesn't add up to me.
I’m crying because I too had to have an emergency C section. I struggled with the emotions of no one being there the moment my son came into the world. I didn’t get my moment with him. I was sobbing as they were putting me under for the surgery. I had to have a complete hysterectomy at the age of 40 & that’s been a trying time all in itself. So thank you for validating my feelings that I still to this day fight. Our boy is now 23 & he is just recently engaged…..I’m blessed
I’m literally crying the whole time watching this podcast! I’m a labor and delivery nurse, and this just makes my heart burst! The positivity and warmth that both of you exude is so inspiring. Bec you are such a light and Eamon you are such a rock 🤍
Thank you for speaking the truth, always. I was the Eamon for my friends. TV, movies and a lot of people make having a baby and parenting seem so dreamy but it's incredibly difficult. It rocks your world and I never wanted the people I love to be blindsided by it. But what I learned is that you go through so many phases as a parent and it's okay to not enjoy every phase of parenting but still absolutely love the crap out of your kid(s) and be an amazing parent. Give yourself a lot of grace, raising kids is hard. When things are hard, I love the quote "this too shall pass." Thank you guys again for telling your story with nothing but honesty.
Listening to this conversation…. Oh my gosh you guys! You’ve helped me not feel crazy. I have breast cancer. I’m 67, I have Scoliosis, and chronic back pain. I’m a Diabetic. I walk with a cane. But if I have to stand and walk, I have about a 3 minute timer on how long before I have to be finding a place to sit. My Oncologist knew with everything I’ve been going through with my back, Chemotherapy would kill me. So we treated my cancer with hormone therapy. My lump was shrinking. Everything was looking good. Then my body stopped responding to the hormones and my lump started rapidly growing. Last week my areola started hardening. It felt like a thin plastic poker chip. Every morning when I wake up, the hardness around my areola is getting bigger and bigger. Years ago I tore the rotator cuff in my left arm. I knew what I did to damage that. So no wondering what happened. So 3 days ago, I woke up in excruciating pain in my right arm. My lump is also in my right breast. Felt like my rotator cuff injury. But I’d done nothing to hurt myself. At the end of August, I had a CT Scan. It showed my cancer had metastasized to my liver, to my L5 in my spine and my L1 had a compound fracture in it. So where my spine is bone, I seriously think the cancer has moved to the bone in my arm and shoulder. My family thinks I’m crazy. Hearing you say your cancer came back in your back and how bad the pain was…. BECCA!!!! I feel validated and heard. Thank you so much. I see my Oncologist on the 24th of October. We are hoing to have a serious talk! Thank you so much!! Oh and your little Frankie is amazing. What a sweetheart!♥️♥️♥️
Thank you Bec for sharing more of the stage 4 diagnosis - I know you don’t want the focus to be on that ( I feel you!!) but it is so meaningful to someone like me who also has stage 4 breast cancer. I watched you guys since long before you had your first diagnosis. I followed your whole chemo journey .. and and when you posted your chemo to 5k video - that was the week I felt a lump in my own breast. Having heard your story , I took it serious. And yes it was then already metastatic bc. But having already JUST followed your journey, it made my beginning less terrifying. Thank you. I also appreciate Eamons views on being a partner through it, it helped me navigate how my partner was feeling through it all.
So proud of you Bec!❤ My husband and I went through 9 years of fertility treatments. We had many losses and one ectopic. We almost lost our marriage because there was no help with insurance. So we were so far into debt we were both working two jobs. We almost lost our marriage! Well, here we are after being married 25 years and only through God did we get our miracle baby by private adoption. We have never been anywhere without her, not a lunch, not a dinner, or a vacation. It might sound crazy but when you have to go through all the hell of treatments. We have no reason to ever want to be without her! We miss her when she is at school. It was such a long journey. The one thing I can say, is after all the suffering it was worth it all. I had lost my will to believe in God and when I got to cut the cord for my baby, I had to run out of the room discreetly and go to another hallway in the hospital and fell to my knees I just couldn’t believe that she was my daughter. I actually hurt my knees and was crying hysterically, a man walked up to me and said mam, what’s wrong do you need help? This is a hospital we can help you, but I couldn’t talk, I was crying so hard but didn’t want the Birth mom to know. I had to hold it together during the labor for hours and I guess I was just holding my breath! I love her more than any daughter who could have come from me! I love her more than life itself! No one can understand your story and the way you feel about your experience and what you have gone through. Love you guys 💕 Sending all the love, health and happiness to your beautiful family!!
American RN here (my late mother was a kind and stoic Canadian) The point @ 34:44 Bec: so heartbreaking, so poignant, so moving, and yes, you should be proud of your self, proud of suffering through unknown, cancer induced bone pain and trusting at some point a doctor would order diagnostic imaging and labs to check for the potential source of pain, and finally discover ugly cancer recurred. It happens in America to a lot of females- they hear medical staff dismiss many new, worrisome symptoms as being benign, without prudence and due diligence by staff to order diagnostics! No one has magic vision, that is why diagnostics should be ordered for a new or persistent issue. DO NOT SETTLE LADIES, be persuasive with symptoms and what you believe you need ordered. You are amazing Bec: beautiful inside and out and courageous. Enjoy sweet Frankie Lee.
@NMV-ej4zd sadly it’s not only women who are not listening to. My husband had been telling his doctor. He didn’t feel alright only to be told it was on his head. He was a hypochondriac and get his s**t together it’s not all about you. He was even pushing me to commit him to a psych ward. Sadly he was diagnosed with cancer. We lost him within weeks. When he was asked how he felt regarding the treatment he had received from his GP he said he should’ve given me a loaded gun. It would’ve been more merciful. After his death we obtained his medical records a scan had picked up the cancer even his bloodwork it was all there and his doctor did nothing he failed him
@@tbelsom so sorry for your loss 💔We carried out my husband’s only wish to take legal action against his doctor. After many years we obtained the justice he deserved, but that only highlighted what his doctor attempted to do he even falsified his records. In doing so it only proved how neglectful he was.
I can't believe they didn't question her pain more and do tests with her medical history. It doesn't sound like the Drs gave her great advice for after chemo care either, so sad.
OMG the part where Bec woke up to all those loving hands comforting her.. she is so blessed to have such loving family friends there for her. I was sobbing this was so beautiful OXOXOOXO
Being a new parent is HARD. The way your life flips upside down is extremely difficult to adapt to and no one talks about it enough. Ivf is also extremely challenging but somehow empowering. I said I would never do it. I did 107 injections by myself. I’m extremely thankful they put me to sleep for the egg retrieval. I had 70+ follicles. Kissing ovaries caused me incredible back pain. Anyone on the ivf journey is f*ing STRONG. no matter why you are going through it. Thank you both for sharing such depth of your story 🩷🤍
I am blown away with how vulnerable and positive you both are about impossible situations! Making life altering decisions in minutes and walking forward and seeing the good things is incredible. I don’t say those things lightly you SHOULD BE PROUD Bec!
Bec is such a beautiful soul inside and out. She radiates love and light and is 10x more of all of that in person rather than on screen. The next generation that both Eamon and Bec are raising together are going to be the best people. I cannot wait. We love you guys so much too. -Kayla G
This conversation was so cathartic. My birth experience definitely didn't go as planned and I still, two years later, haven't found the time or space to fully process it. Listening to your experience and your perspective on it while things were changing one moment to the next, and now seven months later as you've reflected on everything, it is just food for the soul. Delicious, nourishing, incredible food for the soul. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. It's a gift to mama's like me. 🧡🧡
Eamon, your honesty is refreshing...it is harder than we ever knew..72 yrs old 2 sons grown and I wonder what I would have done if I really thought it through. Doesn't mean we don't love them, just means it's more work and it never really ends.
Bec you are a WARRIOR!!!! The way you have transmuted this intense experience into an energy of healing reflection and action into your full potential is draw dropping amazing. You inspire me to do the same for myself.
Just wanted to say, I sat and watched your ivf video and balled my eyes out. My husband and I had been trying for years to have a baby but had unexplained infertility. After watching your video I was finally confident enough to go through with ivf and now I’m sitting here watching this video feeding my 3 month old!! Thank you❤ Ivf was scary to me and I wanted to keep things natural but you guys just made me feel a lot more comfortable with it after you documented your journey 🙏🏻
Being neurodivergent definitely impacts eye contact. It can be very difficult. Props to Eamon for trying so hard! I can see him fighting hard not to look away. Even a few seconds is such an accomplishment!
I am so blown away, so impressed, respectful and in awe of your honesty, openness. I am understanding now your freedom in speaking the word cancer over and over again without restraint, not holding it in and not giving in to fear. Bravo to you both, your wisdom is awesome in the truest sense of the word.
I love the honesty on becoming parents. My husband recently got asked at work what it's like having kids, and he said it's the best and worst thing you'll ever do, and people always get so defensive, but it's true
Wow what an episode, I bawled my eyes out as I wasn’t able to hold my son for 3 days after he was rushed to the NICU. I was wheeled to the recovery room and waited by myself for hours before my husband could see me. Just so much to unpack there but I really appreciate you sharing everything. Eamon I’m there with you, I never truly understood how difficult parenting would be but Bec I’m there with you too, my son constantly teaches me how to be more present and joyful and it’s bliss. Love you guys!
This is honestly so beautiful! Just all the times you can see Lee shining and looking over you and Frankie. Sobbing my little heart out but feel so blessed that you chose to share this. Thank you x
ADHD and neurodivergence is a completely valid reason to not make eye contact. Making eye contact is not automatically better. It’s just what some cultures consider more socially acceptable. Your beautiful brain is literally processing the world differently and taking in so much information. The way you do things naturally is not wrong, Eamon. It can be so easy to assume that when you’ve received messages that there’s something wrong or different about the way you do things your entire life, but that doesn’t mean you need to change yourself. What you are describing, forcing I contact, is a form of masking (lots of info online on this), which has its place and can be super helpful and keep people safe, but is can also be exhausting and super detrimental. To some extent, it’s up to you when and where and how you would like to choose to intentionally mask or unmask (not all of it is intentional, and this is very intersectional), but I just hope you know that if you have safe spaces, you don’t have to. The way that works for other people, doesn’t have to be the box that you force yourself into. Sending Lots of Love from one ADHDer to another. 💙
I am so happy that your story brought you your sweet baby girl. I had an emergency c-section with my first son. He was in distress and I was rolled in and put out immediately. No one knew I would have a difficult time coming out of anesthesia and I was OUT for a long time. I remember starting to wake up in my room. I could not open my eyes. I could whisper to my husband. Then, I heard my baby. In the hall. I said, “That is my baby Sam.” And it was!. With every ounce of power I opened one eye ,because by golly, I was going to see my baby on the day he was born. I knew it was him. ❤ Love to all.
This brought back so many memories and emotions for me. Over 26 years ago I had a premature emergency c-section at 27 weeks. Being put under and not seeing my baby being born and on top of that we were transported in separate ambulances after his birth to another hospital with higher level NICU care. Didn’t get to hold him for a few weeks because he was so premature. When I look back to how scared I was for him and his health and future I am now so grateful he is a healthy 26 year old man. Remembering how miraculous she is will help you cherish all your moments with her.
Bec, you are of course not alone with your birth experience. My daughter was born a week early by emergency C-section, cord around her neck, barely alive, whisked off to NICU where she remained for four days hooked up to machines. I had an anaphylactic reaction to the epidural, could barely breathe and couldn't see my daughter for several hours, not knowing if she would make it. It felt like falling through a black hole in the universe. When I was finally taken to see her (I told them I would crawl there otherwise) I burst into tears. But it was precisely this awful experience for her and me that bonded us, we warriors got through it together, and now she is a 100% fit, healthy and intelligent 14 year old and we are very close . There is more than one way to bond with your newborn. Not just the fairytale birth. Yes you should be proud of yourself, everything your body has been through these last couple of years and here you are, radiant, chosen by the energies of this world to be Frankie's mum because they knew that you would be the best possible one precisely for her. And Frankie knows it too.
I also love Eamon's honesty speaking about becoming a parent. I think he's not alone in that feeling but I understand the guilt of not wanting or thinking you should share those thoughts so I'm grateful he feels comfortable to share them and knows that it doesn't take away from the love he has for Frankie and the gratitude that he has. Same with you Bec, gosh I just love your open honesty about everything. Thank you for willing to share this online... it's a choice you guys have made and I am really enjoying listening/watching your convo's.
My baby girl was born on the same day I buried my second child he was 18 months he died of meningitis. I went from the cemetery to the hospital. I was put out and didn’t get to have my baby until two hours after my c section. It fills like yesterday.but it’s been 50 years ago…love your journey been following you since the beginning. Frankie is darling. Keep the faith.
I'm sitting here almost 6mon pregnant feeling this all on such a deep level after a year full of some really tough health diagnoses, and then becoming pregnant after all of it. Crying with you!
“I’m just so proud of me”.. girl and so you should be! what a beautiful moment of gratitude to yourself. You’re an incredible human being and we could all learn a lot from you Bec. So much love to you x
I 100% understand where Eamon is coming from. My entire life I wanted to be a mother. I was always the mother friend of the group and I would joke about having so many kids that I would have my own soccer team. I worked with kids with autism and was a special education teacher. I really thought I was ready. Then I had my son and nothing could have prepared me for it. It was so much harder than I could have ever imagined and anxiety completely took over my life. He’s 7 now and has a 3 year old sister, and it is still so challenging. I’m now the Eamon in the group that tries to warn everybody about how hard it is. I love my children to death and I wouldn’t trade them for the world. But I do think most people could not imagine the reality of parenting until they are in it.
Bec I just want to say that you truly touched me when you said how it feels to see your baby threw a picture before you ever got to meet them. I had the same experience and I've never heard or seen someone talk about it before. Thank you so much and so much love to our partners that's took care of our babies before we could.
I’m so proud and glad for the both of you. And I don’t want to discredit Eamon, but Bec… you are one hell of a powerhouse. An inspiration. You show up every day, for yourself, Frankie, Eamon, your family and friends. And you take yourself seriously and know when to take care of yourself. ❤
I wish you two realized how much God has watched over you all through this whole journey. I too had a C-section where I was under general anesthesia. the first time I saw my son was in a Polaroid photo and the first time I got to touch him he was 12 hours old. I didn’t get to hold him till her was a day and a half old. I remember him being in the NICU and feeling like he belonged to the nurses instead of me. My husband had the more traumatic time as her stood outside the operating room and never heard our son cry and the first time he saw our son he was white and lifeless. Our son is now 34 and married and someday starting a family of his own.
Hi Bec, I am also a cancer survivor. I got cancer when I was 25 years old, but it was not the same as yours. Even still, I remember my doctor telling me that I absolutely could not get pregnant for at least 5 years. My cancer was not a hormone driven cancer, but he let me know that he has a patient that had breast cancer and she got pregnant very soon after finishing treatment and unfortunately her cancer returned very aggressively. I still remember the pit I had in my stomach while watching your video when you told us that you were pregnant. I am in the states and I’m not sure how different things are here versus in Canada medically but I am just so surprised that they gave you the greenlight to try to conceive so soon after treatment. I am so incredibly happy for your family and that Frankie is here with you, but I urge you to look more into it before you try to have another 🫶🏼 big hugs. I love your videos and your family. I have been watching you since Van life
8.5 months postpartum and even though we don’t know each other I was so excited to be pregnant at the same time as Bec! I was also slapped in the face with the reality of the challenge those first months with a baby. It hit me HARD. And I waited until 36 years old to have my first. I haven’t understood why more people don’t talk about how hard it is. So I started to think maybe I wasn’t qualified for this at times. I really appreciate Eamon’s honesty on that.
When you had cancer the first time, I wasn’t that interested. Then, I was diagnosed with breast cancer HER2 triple positive. I went back and watched your cancer journey and it really helped me! I was 76 when I was diagnosed so I didn’t feel it was a big deal but I did feel that it was so terrible that you were so young with cancer. Anyway, you two are such an inspiration!!
What a spiritual journey you guys have experienced and live. I am a retired L&D nurse. I felt your walk. She is a beautiful soul. When I first worked I cried at every birth. Then I was told, enough. Still, when a dad cried I always teared. It is a moment one cannot describe, especially for the new mom, dad, and family! I know that Deja Vue you speak of!
I had 4 daughters in 5yrs. You do have the capacity. You can hold, comfort and love 2 crying babies at once. Some days you're crying with them. And when you are, you'll feel a little hand touch your face. That's when you get that they are comforting and loving you. You'll see them do it for each other all the time, to this day as they are all in their 40's.
Requesting a meditation podcast pls!!! I'd like to know Bec's tips for daily meditation, specially for good mental and physical health ❤ Love you guys!!
I SO appreciate your honesty. Eamon: Thanks for pointing out how difficult being a parent is. It's one of the most important "jobs" a person can take on and should be approached thoughtfully. Bec, you are a warrior. Love and positive energy to you both!
Responding with love to your child’s crying will give her security that will last her a lifetime. That security will become strength and it will be her super power ❤️🙌
Becca your adorabl3! For some of us we recognize you did this at times because we ourselves have done it. And I think as woman we are taught and we nurture love and caring for others and it’s the caring for ourselves ,to interrupt doing for others to feel that feeling and being able to voice it. Thank you brave woman !❤
Eamon was right on!!! Sooo surprised the OB didn’t think of the back pain and past diagnosis were related! Anyone in the medical field would/should consider that!
It was the first thing I thought of when they announced that the cancer had returned. NO ONE thought to monitor her very closely (even monthly, if necessary) during her pregnancy (knowing that the estrogen level will increase)?! Why did they discover it so late?! I also find it strange that the doctor told her that it was ok to get pregnant so soon after the treatment (later a nurse told her that she shouldn't have done that, because it was too soon). I don't blame them, and I think it's good that they're talking about it, so that other women in her situation know to better advocate for themselves.
@@alinam5092 Although it seems counterintuitive, there is no indication for surviellance scanning after treatment of breast cancer. While it might diagnose a metastasis earlier, it does not improve longevity. They follow practice guidelines whihc may be different that what you think shoul be done. I doubt very much anyone told her that it was safe to get pregnant without doing 2 years of tamoxifen first. These two filter the world through their own reality.
Are you kidding she wouldn’t be dying if she’d listened to them! It was unprofessional of any doctor to tell you it was ok to not only do ivf but to also have a child when your cancer had been confirmed as being grown be oestrogen so so inappropriate you could have adopted and now your stage 4 and no time left a child without a mother a husband who couldn’t cope being a single dad just pure irresponsible
Thank you for sharing your story. I myself had a very traumatic birth with my first child. In the middle of labor my daughters heart rate dropped to 80 and it felt like every nurse in the hospital rushed into my room. There was no time to do anything so I had to go under as well. I was so scared that when I woke up they would tell me she was gone. My husband got to meet her first and they wouldn't tell him if I was okay for 3 hours until they wheeled me into the room where I saw the two of them. It was instant tears and the most beautiful thing I had ever seen. It took me 3 years to work through to be strong enough to have another baby and I finally had the birth experience I had hoped for. I genuinely have never felt better than being able to push and be able to be with my son as he came into this world. I know that this is in your future too. ❤
I really appreciate leaving in the pauses! You are both listening to each other and having a proper conversation and processing and it's so honest. I love it. Bec, I love you realising you need to put yourself first and take care of yourself as well. It's a lesson that took me far too long to learn and I sometimes need reminding of still!
Being diagnosed as Audhd when I was 30 really changed my life. I always was so depressed and had high anxiety thinking I was just weird and unlikable my whole life. So having an explanation for everything about what makes me who I am is so nice. Also finding people that I can unmask around and be my true authentic self with was a life saver. Eye contact and what others think is “normal” social things is SO difficult for me. Me trying to appear “normal” to others and trying to not make everyone feel uncomfortable by me just being me is so exhausting. So Eamon being able to show his full authentic self around you Bec just proves how much he loves you and how comfortable you make him feel. You will never know how much that means to people in the autism and ADHD community to have a safe space and people that love us for the real us. ❤
Bec, as the mom of an ex28 week preemie (who's now a teen), who also had an emergency c section where I was completely knocked out, and didn't get to meet my daughter until she was 4 days old, It was so emotional watching the two of you in this video. My ex partner also had to meet our daughter alone. I was also all alone before and during the c section. And in fact, we tried for 2.5 years to conceive, and every time I got my cycle was devastating. The whole experience was so traumatic, I can't imagine having to go through all of that with a stage 4 cancer dx, AND then also be thrown into full blown early menopause while being a first time mom of a preemie. Wow. So glad Frankie was able to come home after a couple weeks, but i know how hard it was to leave the hospital w/out her. Mine was in the NICU for 14 weeks. Also, You balance eachother out as parents so well.
I've watched you both from the beginning and becs strength and journey takes my breath away! I became a mum at the same time and honestly I can feel the fight within bec, becoming a mum takes your fight to a whole new level, your heart triples, quadruples, its truly a transformation and i feel like frankie will heal bec physically and emotionally and it's miraculous and so so beautiful ❤
Wow, I cried thru this whole Podcast and all I could feel is Joy and then you said it ❤ I feel you in the selfworth healing, I too have had to move thru this, and the past year has been the biggest internal layer that has bought me back to Worth and Self Love, I hear every unspoken word in your energy and I'm sooo super Proud of you and all of us that are actually healing this for all of humanity...what we heal together goes into the collective energy field and I absolutely LOVE YOU and your vulnerability in sharing. Also Eamons beautiful honest sharing of the 'truth' of bringing a baby into one's life, bravo because too many people stay quiet and it makes people feel like they are doing something wrong. So proud of you both, you are the first Podcast I've ever listened too and I'm hooked, the emotional release is heart warming, I've cried so much with you, I AM truly Grateful to you both ❤ much love from Sydney ❤❤❤
Bec - you are an absolute warrior! Birth is so worrying in the best circumstances, and you had a very different experience from the one you wanted. I have had 4 c-sections and it's so hard afterwards as well. And you're dancing, cuddling, being amazing. Warrior queen. I hope when you're 94, you can look back at this podcast and think 'damn, I was awesome'!
Thank you Bec for sharing your birth with Frankie 💛 I also needed a C-Section with my son, and I also needed to be put completely under. (The local anaesthesia was very patchy.) It was hard not only being unable to have the birth I envisioned, but also not being able to see my son when he was "brand new". I felt like here I've been with my son all throughout my pregnancy, he was literally A PART of me...and now I'm being cheated out of being the first one to see him! There's lots of emotions to unpack. But at the same time you feel like you're part of this small, secret sisterhood of mothers who's births also weren't "perfect". I'm thankful you & Eamon & Frankie are here! All three of you are awesome 😊
Thank you for sharing all of this with us. Bec you are so strong. I hope everyone who left mean comments while they took a break from posting think twice next time before commenting and give creators some grace. You never know what someone is going through. It’s hard enough becoming a new mum but Bec has had to balance so much more. You’re amazing, Bec. A true light on this earth, and you’re a wonderful mum. ❤
Can confirm this too. I just get notifications that there is a new video out and that’s all that it takes for me to watch and I love it . I didn’t actually read the thumbnail until u mentioned it but still wouldn’t stop me watching ❤
I SO appreciate Eamon’s honesty about how challenging parenting can be. Many people aren’t comfortable being honest fearing they’ll be judged.
100% I am new to parenting with a 3 year old and I love that kid so damn much but doesn’t mean it’s not so fn hard. I wish more people were less fake about it and more real with parenting. It being extremely difficult and extremely rewarding can co-exist.
I have a 10 month old son and my husband loves him so much and has always wanted to be a dad and it's still the thing that gives him the most purpose but he will tell everyone how much of a burden our son is and said people need to be more honest about how much harder it can be but also doesn't mean you don't love your baby
I would like to add, how challenging and totally life and body changing pregnancy is, and then imagine being forced to go through this, not wanting it?
Like your new format
Being a first time parent is so shocking. It’s true nobody tells you what it is going to be like and that it’s not all magical moments and easy so I understand what you mean by how you feel. It gets easier is all I can say.
Thank you all for being here for this intimate story 💕💕. We are so incredibly grateful for each of you! We'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below xxx Bec.
I love your positivity. I'm dealing with anxiety and depression, to see how positive you are every day I am doing my best to follow your example. I have started with meditation and rethinking the way I start and approach my days. Love you both Frankie and Oso.
How much did Frankie weigh at birth? My twins were also born emergency c-sec 6 weeks and 2 days early! Loved listening to your parenting journey so far ❤
Thank you for sharing your story ! Births are all different and challenging. Yet, You are an amazing warrior Bec! Keep on the positive energy wave. You are both stronger through this. Make sure to nurture your relationship and have date nights once a week when she takes her naps or sleeping. It’s so important !
Thank you for sharing your story. My dad was diagnosed with leukemia when I started high school, and my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer when I started college. It was so hard to see two people who are so strong entities in my life look so vulnerable, but even though it was a horrible time we are grateful to be on the other side, grateful with the learning and growth from it. They are both cancer free for more than 10 years now. So happy to see Bec better 🥰I’m 35 years old. I do not know if I want to have kids, but sometimes I’m scared to bring a kid into a world that is so scary but seeing my nephews flourish in the world motivates me. I honestly am so happy to be able to see your beautiful family and everything you share. God bless.
Thank you so much for opening up about all the journeys you travailed in order to get your sweet Frankie! It’s incredible how all these paths crossed at just the right time and in the right way to have this come together to accomplish this amazing goal! Incredible is not a big enough word! Hugs…
I honestly wasn't expecting this level of insight and depth from your podcasts. I thought this would be a light-hearted chat show type of vibe. But damn, do I ever appreciate the level of openness and vulnerability you've shown. Your story is so compelling, yet relatable. Thank you for this. You're very right in saying that you have a dedicated base of fans who are already interested in hearing what you've got to say, despite your thumbnails, and I'm one of them.
I couldn’t have said it any better. ♥️
Seriously and I love that they have different opinions and can move on without actually getting mad/fighting with each other.
As a new mom, it’s honestly refreshing and super validating to hear Eamon talk about becoming a parent. It’s incredibly challenging to be able to express yourself honestly without people misunderstanding or judging you.
You guys are doing great ❤️
We are an amazing design that only God could do.
Here is the way I’ve been taught. We have a Soul, We live in an earthly body, and we have a Spirit!❤
I've stopped getting notifications for your channel (yes they are turned on), had to actually search for this, so unsure if this is impacting your engagement?!
Your first podcast merch should be shirts with "I'm so proud of me" on them. I'll get one for everyone I know. I'm so proud of you too, and every woman should say that to herself in the mirror every day. You remain an inspiration, Bec ❤
Love this idea! I would definitely buy it too! ❤️
Me too! 🥺🥹
I would definitely buy this
I love that idea!
Never forget how amazing you are Bec! You fought cancer in your breast and beat it. You beat the odds and conceived a child naturally. You fought cancer in your bones and delivered a baby through it all. And now you hold everything together while being the best mom ever. You support Eamon, you project love and kindness and radiate pure goodness. But the most important thing for you to remember about yourself is that the only love that matters is your own. Let your love for yourself be the secret that carries you through whatever it is life throws at you. Always know you are worth it.
Beat it? Why are you saying that?
@007nadineL why not... what is your problem
She has stage 4. Not being cruel just a fact. She hasnt beat it its terminal
Don't let the facts get in the way of a good narrative!
@@JoHart-q2x National Breast Cancer Foundation says some women live ten years and longer with stage four. It is possible. "Geisler, a retired UW-Madison director of outreach development, has lived with breast cancer for 40 years and with metastatic cancer (meaning it spread to her bones) for 36 years. Her story inspired UW Carbone Cancer Center oncologist Mark Burkard, who now is hunting the world for other survivors like her." Source: University of Wisconsin-Madison.
The absolute rawness of this chat was just...superb. Thank you two for being human and not forgetting it.
In Eamon’s defense… finding out I’m autistic/adhd at almost 40, really restructured how I show up in my life. When we try too hard to fight the adhd “needs” like lack of eye contact, we tend to lower our abilities elsewhere. It’s like having a bunch of water cups that we need to make sure none spill over as we move the water to different cups. You both are so strong for opening up in such a beautiful way. The amount of love you both have is truly inspiring. ❤ So grateful for this podcast. Sending love to you, Bec 💕 🙋🏻♀️
Yes the spoon theory and the fork theory.
You can’t choose not to be neurodivergent
And
You can meet yourself and others with love and compassion and acceptance so it’s not all resistance and negativity x
Love Eamon and Bec HOWEVER, how you " identify" is not ADHD . It is a diagnosis. If you are neurodivergent, often you get eye contact or you get our attention. Eye contact often does dysregulates/dismantles our focus because holding eye contact takes all our focus so it is difficult to listen. So if we aren't making eye contact, we can listen better. People that take no eye contact as a direct insult need to understand it has nothing to do with respect when in fact we are trying to be the most respectful we can by adapting to listen and be there for the person. Does that mean we don't need a reminder and a check, we absolutely do and we have the ability but understand that it does not mean we don't love you, care about what you are saying, that we dont want to connect.
Found out about my ADHD when I was 43. lol it’s a rough diagnosis
As a recently diagnosed ADD 40+, I've always struggled with eye contact as I don't know what I'm supposed to be looking at - one eye, both eyes? What if they have an interesting facial feature, I then fixate and worry they are aware of what I'm looking at.. in the meantime I haven't listened to a word they have said to me.. it's a mine field !!!
@@kathydebby606 i went through a 'diagnostic' process with an adhd professional, who was himself diagnosed with adha in the 80s. i went through hours and hours of computerized tests - the results of which were compatable with adhd and generalized anxiety. the doctors conclusion though was to say - 'I do not like the word diagnosis, this is not who you are, the brain is changeable.'
When Bec said “we didn’t actually beat it… which is heartbreaking” my heart just broke…. As Bec was going through her cancer journey, my mom was also fighting breast cancer. It was helpful to me seeing her positive perspective and I tried to carry that over to my mom’s journey as well. Her chemo was completed, radiation completed, and the doctors thought she had responded really well. She was told she was in the clear, just like Bec… then 6 months later she was at the ER for some pain due to a kidney stone, my mom had back pain most her adult life so having back pain wasn’t odd for her, she had also broken ribs/clavicle 2 weeks after radiation ended cause a drunk driver hit the car she was in. They thought the pain was all just from that… The doctor saw her chart, saw she’d was 6 months post treatment and asked her if her team was aware of the lesions in her bones… we were not. The ER doctor from the car accident was in a different city and had not said anything either (but later reading the X-ray reports the lesions were noted and it was assumed my mom was aware so they said nothing). My mom thought she had beat cancer (her lymph nodes were also clear) and she too found out 6 months later cancer had spread to her bones and she was stage 4. Her cancer was a rarer form, more aggressive, and didn’t respond to treatment, she eventually stopped treatment and went on hospice and she crossed to the spiritual world on August 15th. Thank you for being brave and sharing your cancer story Bec, it’s been so impactful for me and I appreciate you so much for sharing. ❤️
I am so sorry for your loss. Truly devastating to have it work out that way. Sending you lots of internet stranger love.
You just made me realize: I should be very proud of myself! My husband has an incurable brain tumor and we are struggling with infertility for over 4 years now. I had 3 miscarriages in the past 4 years and developed rheumatism because of the stress. We worked very hard to feel healthy, good and happy despite of the sh*t show that is our lives. But! We did all that! We went through it and are stronger than ever. Thank you for this lesson. I follow you (from the Netherlands) with a lot of love and feel connected because life challenges us in a simmular way. Please keep sharing positive energy ánd the struggle and sadness. You are both troopers. Much love!
So glad you shared this. I was diagnosed with the same Cancer as Bec, there's never been a history of cancer in my family, so I was lost, and being diagnosed during COVID, there was NO support groups because the world shut down, hospitals were on lockdown, and even treatment, we couldn't have that ONE person come with us the first day of chemo.. I found Bec on UA-cam with the caption I HAVE BREAST CANCER!!! Not only did our cancer have the same biology, Estrogen receptor positive, we had other things in common, I always ate healthy, I NEVER eat McDonald's, Burger King or fast food. i have a sports background and like to know what's in my food.. Bec sharing her story Was our SUPPORT GROUP.. we were in treatment without family or friends, so our cancer center put Eamon & Bec on the flat screen so we'd STOP talking to each other, during Covid they wanted us to keep our distance.. Sweetie you are SO BRAVE, and it meant so much to so many people. Thank you❤ Hugs💕
This!
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That’s insane! This story alone is proof that even if it’s so hard to share your story, that it can make the biggest life impact on so many people, beautiful and so moving!
sending healing your way!! I hope everything is going well :)
Thank you for sharing - how beautiful.
Please don’t shy away from sharing the cancer treatment you’re currently doing or what menopause symptoms you have. You have a microphone to help people. There is nothing wrong if someone needs conventional treatment to help heal. I had no idea about many of these things until I joined breast cancer groups on my journey. Dr. Joe never says not to do chemo or anything of that sort. This is why it’s important to tell both sides of what you’re doing conventionally and integrative. Blessings to you.
She will do as she wishes. She's setting herself free from the stress of constantly keeping everyone up to date. Dr. Joe doesn't tell them to seek treatment. But, if they do, he wants them to keep using it. Totally up to her.
Bec always ends up sharing what she went through but once the chapter is closed for her. So maybe in a few years we will be able to hear it and it will help others. I belive the reason why she isn't sharing those information with us in "real time" is because she doesn't want to bring more focus on those negative experiences and will hinder her healing journey. She's trying to preserve her healing, positive frequencies. Like she said what you focus on grows.
I’m interested in this part of the journey too, but of course, if and when Bec wishes to talk about it.
I am also looking forward to the cancer update. This podcast left me wondering if removing the ovaries helped, what happened with the tumor on her forehead, and so much more!
Dear Bec and Eamon, your story was so beautifully told. You are both heroes, and Frankie is the luckiest baby!!
My cancer story began 22 years ago when I was 60(am 82 now). I was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer and doctors predicted 1 to 5 years to live. They were off by at least 21 years!! Additionally, I gave birth to my second son in 1966, 12 weeks early! No one expected him to live more than 20 years, but he survived till age 53, dying of sepsis in 2020. He was the most amazing person who brought us so much love. I have an older son age 60 and daughter age 55. Listening to your story brought back so many memories. Thank you for sharing your courageous stories. Love, Linda
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Wow I needed to read that. I’m also stage 4 ovarian and it gives me hope 💕💕
thank you for sharing
@@debbiecuthbert4286 so glad you are fighting. I will pray for you❤️
My Mom recently went through menopause and spoke so often about how it is not spoken about. How she wishes more women talked about menopause, more studies were done etc. In your own time, I think your voice on menopause is one that so many women would find value in. Thank you
Eamon, thank you for your candor. I had my daughter when I was 24, single and alone, living far away from family and it was the hardest thing I've ever done. I had no idea what I had signed up for. The amount of sacrifice and WORK parenthood was was something I was woefully unprepared for. I appreciate you speaking your truth. My daughter is 13 now and special needs. It's still extremely difficult but it gets easier with each stage. Thank you both for sharing your story. 💛
I am a woman in my 70s and I love listening to your UA-cam channel. It is hard to find raw honest conversation these days. Please keep it up even oldies love it. Sending love to Frankie ❤
I’m 62 and love listening to these 2 lovely souls tell us about their journey.
"I'm proud of myself" that just hit. Bec, you are amazing.
Bec and Eamon - I ran into you yesterday at the airport with my son Wes. I was pretty nervous and just wanted to say thank you for taking the time to come over and say Hi.
You guys inspired me to convert a short bus and travel in 2016, and your cabin reno videos helped me through the long stretches of covid. I just found out I was pregnant when you guys announced your pregnancy with Frankie so it was very cool to watch you go through that at the same time.
Thank you so much for all the positive content you put into the world. So happy the podcast is back. ❤️
I am crying so hard at the Yellow part and Frankie being born at 2:22 which is an angel number bc they say people who we’ve lost try to communicate through frequencies and it’s as if Lee was saying, “here she is” through the music and time and gahhhh I’m just losing it all over again! This is not the birth story or journey to parenthood either of you would have wished for or expected but it sure id special none the less and I just wish nothing but the best, healthiest and happiest lives for you two and your family ❤
As a music therapist, I can promise you that singing to Frankie is connecting you in ways that words can’t. You’re both amazing parents! ❤
LOVE seeing another music therapist chime in, I had the same thought! Hi from an MT-BC in San Diego 👋🏻😊
I was so nervous when you said you were pregnant. I couldn't understand why the doctors would let you, with estrogen positive cancer get pregnant so early. I was flabbergasted and I remember being so mad at your doctors. When you disappeared from UA-cam, I had a sinking feeling.
But Frankie is a blessing. She's beautiful and I do truly believe she is meant to be here. You are beautiful and your journey is far from over. I love your calmness and the new zen energy you put out. It's amazing. You are so inspirational and strong!! You should be very proud of yourself!!! XOXO
Yes, my mom had estrogen fed breast cancer and they put her on an estrogen blocking medication (not tamoxifen) for 5 years after her lumpectomy. Even though my
Mom had already gone through menopause. She was 58 at the time. This was 20 years ago, my mom had a lumpectomy and radiation, no chemo. We live in Canada too, but in Vancouver BC. I can’t understand why Bec’s doctors didn’t do the same for her. It’s a really dangerous lack of care.
@@NLR759 Agree.
My daughter is currently on hormone blockers for 5 yrs...possibly 10.
I'm glad she's now getting care in Toronto.
Doctors don’t let a patient get pregnant. They would have told Bec the challenges and dangers of getting pregnant with her type of cancer.
@@plannergirljones2551 Are you okay? You keep making nasty comment after nasty comment about someone’s terminal cancer, which is quite disgusting of you. Get off the internet and get a hug from someone. Stop being so mean.
Her doctors did tell her it was dangerouse but they didn't listen. They went to Mexico for 6 months without seeing a doctor and came back and found out they were pregnant.
Eamon. You made a couple of comments that I would like to reply to. First, thank you for your honesty about how you felt with the chaos of having a newborn. When I had my first child 33 years ago, our first night home from the hospital and our baby cried and screamed the entire time. Late into the evening my husband says “ what did we do? We ruined our life!” I was so angry, tired and disappointed, I called my mom and she was able to get our baby to calm down. The thing is I was thinking the same thing, but I was angry because he said it out loud! It wasn’t until last week, 33 years later I told him how it made me feel and confessed I was feeling the same way. Feelings are complicated and so is parenting.
Second. My mother had cancer that was estrogen driven. When hers was discovered she was 72. The cancer had eaten through her pelvic bone. Long story short she had a terrible diagnosis, unknown primary stage 4. They gave her 24 weeks to live and was going to do nothing but “wait and see”. Being that finding primary sites of cancer was what I did for a living, that answer was outrageous! I took my mom to MD Anderson in Houston. They suppressed her estrogen with drugs. I was surprised since she was post menopausal and I didn’t think she would have any estrogen. The specialist there told me that the adrenal gland produces a small amount of estrogen and any estrogen feeds her type of cancer ( which they felt probably started in her breast, but before her immune system was able to take care of all of it it went somewhere else.).
My mom lived another 7 years and did not die from cancer. Please have Bec reconsider drug suppression.
Thank you for all you share.
Bec, would love an episode of your healing journey. You hint and talk a lot about it, but your journey to wellness past delivery would be amazing. A friend is on a cancer journey, and I want to hear what you are doing. Please.
The part about Bec waking up surrounded by love had me in tears. What a journey. Thank you for choosing to share with a whole world of strangers that are rooting you on from afar❤
I was debating whether to comment bc I love you guys.
Still it is important to make it clear for your followers. Pregnancy right after hormone positive breast cancer has a very high risk of cancer recurrence. Especially because one needs to be skipping anti hormonal treatment.
It was your doctor’s responsibility to warn you about the risks and potentially even advise against pregnancy.
I am also a gynecologist and this is basic knowledge.
Sometimes a Doctor’s job is to tell you a very hard truth, that you don’t want to hear ❤❤❤😢
Getting the jab also increases it !!
Yea thank you eamon for saying that!!! She had an estrogen driven cancer and she wasn’t watched more closely by doctors or heard out for being in excruciating pain with her bones. The doctor should have took that complaint more seriously and did everything possibly before just telling bec it was just the pregnancy growing pains. AND YES BEC you should be so proud of yourself for growing a human and delivering her safely❤ ugh im crying watching bec cry 😢
Having a baby without doing the 5 year cancer prevention pills and KNOWING her cancer was oestrogen driven is the most irresponsible stupid thing I’ve seen a couple do it’s literally unaliving yourself
Having ivf and a baby within a year of oestrogen driven cancer was so irresponsible stupid and your basically unaliving yourself
They went to Mexico right after her treament finnished and she didn't see a doctor for 6 months. I think she should have stayed home and being more vigilant with her health instead of getting pregnant.
@@plannergirljones2551thank you! Finally someone says it! Especially when she’s aware she was STAGE 3 already!!
@@plannergirljones2551it seemed the doctor told her she was all good to get pregnant. She trusted the doctor.
I cried so much hearing Frankie's birth story. My daughter's birth plan went so very wrong, and I had no support. My daughter Alicia will be 27 in December and I don't think I've ever mourned that whole experience. She is the light of my my life and she is profoundly disabled. I thank you for sharing and in doing so aloud me to cry over all that happened. Alicia has taught me to be present and to find joy in the small things.
I can't wait to hear how Eamon feels about parenting when Frankie is 2 and talking. I have a 2 year old and it's amazing. Once they learn to sleep through, no more bottles and their personality really flurishes, its everything being a parent!
Yes, I can resonate so much. Our son was a colic baby. Crying non-stop for 6 months straight. Even daycare and grandparents couldn't handle it. My husband had to take time off work because he wasn't doing well because of all the stress and I wanted to go back to work.
But now our son is almost 2.5yo and it's such a nice time❤ He is so happy, energetic and smart. He says such funny things and just seeing him evolve from this very unhappy baby is amazing. I really love it now!
@@leiye5100my little brother was colic 😳 every single picture of him as an infant, he’s red and screaming his head off. It’s so hard to deal with.
I found age 3-4 very challenging also for different reasons. Juggling the discipline side of things with tantrums etc.
Thank you, the both of you for creating this space for deep conversation and sharing!
Lots of love and blessings! ❤
At 35, I went into full menopause. I want you to know that it gets better. The hot flashes get better, but they occasionally flare up. I will encourage you to be test for osteoporosis and make sure that this is add to your care regimen. I wish I had fought harder for early testing and not let some doctors talk me out of it. It was recently discovered. I still can change it, but I know that I should have advocate better for myself. I’m so happy that you have learned to advocate for your physical and mental health. You have such an amazing mindset, It’s truly inspiring! ❤
Hearing bec say “I saw a picture of you before I met you” validated so much in my soul. My daughter was born by emergency c section at 29 weeks and was whisked away before I could see her because I was having a medical emergency. I didn’t meet her until 32 hours later and hold her 13 days later and the trauma I have knowing I wasn’t able to give her the love right away is something I have to work daily on to redirect my brain into the positive. But ya know every day that I give her all she needs just helps to rebuild what was broken in my heart. ❤❤❤❤. Thank you for sharing your birth story. It’s amazing more than you will ever know.
I'm so sorry you went througth that
A tear jerker today. I am so proud of how strong and courageous you both are. I can’t wait for Frankie to see how strong her parents are. You overcame things no one should go through and were so authentic throughout.
Your base is always going to be here for you! Thank you for sharing your journey! My 6 yr old was diagnosed with leukemia in April and honestly watching you deal with your cancer journey has given me as a mum so much love and light. The only thing worse than hearing you have cancer is hearing your child has cancer. It’s a true out of body experience. I love how you’re choosing joy and I will be trying to implement that in my day to day cuz it is a choice.
Oh man, that’s a hard one. It’s hard for anybody to deal with cancer but kids? You must be a strong mama ❤
Wow, what a wonderful podcast! I’m a 81 yr old great grandmother and I SO agreed with everything you were saying! You are very spiritually beautiful and advanced. What lovely children you two will raise. You have been through so much in your 30 years but instead of bringing you down to a victim mentality, you have grown and grown spiritually, mentally and with so much love and compassion. Thank you for sharing this deeply emotional time with us. Believe me, for those that have ears for it, you have taught deep spiritual lessons. I’m just so proud to know you and thankful that I came across you. The only thing that bothers me is when you say “ my cancer” or “ your cancer”…..I would not claim it at all. Substitute the word “the” for “my”.
Love, hugs and light always.❤️👍👍🙏🙏
As someone who is childfree by choice it's so refreshing to hear a parent be honest about the struggles of parenthood. Everyone tries to make it seem like it's all sunshine and rainbows and childfree by choice is just insane.
Don’t feel alone with the shock of how much energy this little human can zap from you! Everyone is thrown for a loop! You think you know what to expect but you can’t until you experience it first hand! However at the end of the day,they are the deepest love you will ever have. I just can’t imagine having the cancer worries on top of having this brand new baby!❤ Big hugs!
Id love to hear more about Eamon’s ADD journey and what impact he feels it has on his approach to everything, his lightbulb moments the more he learns about it, etc. I can fully relate to needing to look away to focus on thinking without distractions 😊
I’m see Eamon’s view on some of the parenting blind sides. Before I had my daughter, I listened to other moms talk about this magical bond that you’ll have with your baby, the moment you set eyes on them. I loved her instantly, yes…but the bond…no. I remember crying because I didn’t have this magical moment and thinking, “anyone could come and steal my baby and she would never know who her real mom is! “ Everyone gave me false hope. She’s 16 now and the greatest kid and we have had the best time, but the beginning was hard.
Mama Dr Jones is an OB and has a youtube channel. She experienced the same thing. Not everyone automatically bonds with their babies❤❤❤
Not everyone experiences a bond right away. My youngest was no exception either. Now it is so strong as she is 2 and non verbal, looks for me everywhere and I panic when she is quiet and getting into everything. My oldest kids absolutely adore her.
When Eamon took the moment to mention he feels for those trying to conceive, my heart contracted. It's been a year for me and each month I am disappointed all over again 😅
Thank you guys for diving into this topic and being vulnerable. ❤
Sending baby dust! ✨
Watching this with tears streaming down my cheeks and neck. As a 45 yr old woman, coming up on a year cancer-free from stage 3 metastatic, estrogen-positive breast cancer that had spread to my lymph nodes, I am extremely shocked that they didn't have you on any preventive meds and didn't see a problem with you getting pregnant so quickly, or at all, tbh. While I am older and was done having children, I was still considered on the younger side for stage 3 breast cancer. It was extremely aggressive. I found a tiny lump above my nipple and immediately scheduled my 1st mammogram ever. It took a little over a month before my appt and in those few weeks, that tiny lump grew the size of 13 cm and was in half my breast, closest to my armpit. They found 3 cancerous nodes in my armpit during my biopsy. I started a very strong regimen of chemo and suffered through the red devil and then months more of a less aggressive chemo. Then I had surgery followed by radiation. I was immediately put on oral chemo and hormone therapy to put me into menopause so I won't create as much estrogen and be less likely to have a recurrence. I will be on oral chemo for at least 5 years and hormone therapy for 10 years. I also get a shot in my butt once a month! They have impressed upon me how important this is and how my chances of getting cancer are significantly reduced because of these preventative measures. I am just so shocked that they didn't put you on any preventive meds! Then didn't monitor you extra carefully during your pregnancy!!! This makes me so angry for you. The fact they didn't tell you to use a surrogate is crazy to me! I cannot even begin to imagine the emotions that you went through finding out the cancer came back while pregnant. The extreme highs and lows you dealt with! The rollercoaster your mental health rode through this time. You are AMAZING, Bec!!! Just being pregnant is emotional, then you throw in cancer, stage 4 cancer!! I'm sobbing for you after the fact! You deserve everything positive and good that is coming your way! I'm so proud and I don't know you personally! ❤ Baby Frankie is a miracle and she is so blessed to have you as her Mommy! The strength that you exude is next level, girlfriend! I can't wait to watch you enjoying motherhood and watching Frankie Lee grow up! She is the cutest 😍 I pray that your body heals again from cancer, and that you live to have a long, loving life, and that Franky gets to have her Mom in her life thru all the milestones into adulthood and beyond. If anyone can beat this, it's you! Show yourself and your body grace and take care of yourself 1st and foremost so you can be there for your daughter and family like you no doubt want to be. You are an inspiration and your daughter is blessed to have you as her role model. #Fukcancer 🎀 💗 💞
Yes, so scary that while she was looking at her positive pregnancy test, she was waiting for a biopsy result. Can’t even imagine.
@StancyTalk Me neither! I feel anxious just thinking about it! I'm so irritated with her doctors. Everything I've been thru and still going thru, I have some peace because my doctors are sooo amazing! I feel like her doctors dropped the ball and should've been way more concerned with her getting pregnant. At the very least they should've been monitoring her frequently. It shouldn't have gotten to point it did. Bec is amazing though! You would never tell by looking at her and Frankie that she's been thru everything that she has and is still dealing with it. 🩷
@@holliewood55 can you imagine an OB gyn telling this beautiful young woman shortly after she finishes treatment to go ahead and get pregnant? They need to be sued. Yes, she is the personification of healing. And that precious baby, oh my gosh such a cutey pie
@StancyTalk Estrogen positive breast cancer!! It defies logic to me! I'm not a doctor so hopefully they know way more than I learned after I was diagnosed, 😉 but.... It just doesn't add up to me.
@@holliewood55 Me neither - I wonder if the communication from the Dr was misinterpreted.
I’m crying because I too had to have an emergency C section. I struggled with the emotions of no one being there the moment my son came into the world. I didn’t get my moment with him. I was sobbing as they were putting me under for the surgery. I had to have a complete hysterectomy at the age of 40 & that’s been a trying time all in itself. So thank you for validating my feelings that I still to this day fight. Our boy is now 23 & he is just recently engaged…..I’m blessed
I’m literally crying the whole time watching this podcast! I’m a labor and delivery nurse, and this just makes my heart burst! The positivity and warmth that both of you exude is so inspiring. Bec you are such a light and Eamon you are such a rock 🤍
Thank you for speaking the truth, always. I was the Eamon for my friends. TV, movies and a lot of people make having a baby and parenting seem so dreamy but it's incredibly difficult. It rocks your world and I never wanted the people I love to be blindsided by it. But what I learned is that you go through so many phases as a parent and it's okay to not enjoy every phase of parenting but still absolutely love the crap out of your kid(s) and be an amazing parent. Give yourself a lot of grace, raising kids is hard. When things are hard, I love the quote "this too shall pass." Thank you guys again for telling your story with nothing but honesty.
Listening to this conversation…. Oh my gosh you guys! You’ve helped me not feel crazy. I have breast cancer. I’m 67, I have Scoliosis, and chronic back pain. I’m a Diabetic. I walk with a cane. But if I have to stand and walk, I have about a 3 minute timer on how long before I have to be finding a place to sit. My Oncologist knew with everything I’ve been going through with my back, Chemotherapy would kill me. So we treated my cancer with hormone therapy. My lump was shrinking. Everything was looking good. Then my body stopped responding to the hormones and my lump started rapidly growing. Last week my areola started hardening. It felt like a thin plastic poker chip. Every morning when I wake up, the hardness around my areola is getting bigger and bigger. Years ago I tore the rotator cuff in my left arm. I knew what I did to damage that. So no wondering what happened. So 3 days ago, I woke up in excruciating pain in my right arm. My lump is also in my right breast. Felt like my rotator cuff injury. But I’d done nothing to hurt myself. At the end of August, I had a CT Scan. It showed my cancer had metastasized to my liver, to my L5 in my spine and my L1 had a compound fracture in it. So where my spine is bone, I seriously think the cancer has moved to the bone in my arm and shoulder. My family thinks I’m crazy. Hearing you say your cancer came back in your back and how bad the pain was…. BECCA!!!! I feel validated and heard. Thank you so much. I see my Oncologist on the 24th of October. We are hoing to have a serious talk! Thank you so much!! Oh and your little Frankie is amazing. What a sweetheart!♥️♥️♥️
Thank you Bec for sharing more of the stage 4 diagnosis - I know you don’t want the focus to be on that ( I feel you!!) but it is so meaningful to someone like me who also has stage 4 breast cancer. I watched you guys since long before you had your first diagnosis. I followed your whole chemo journey .. and and when you posted your chemo to 5k video - that was the week I felt a lump in my own breast. Having heard your story , I took it serious. And yes it was then already metastatic bc. But having already JUST followed your journey, it made my beginning less terrifying. Thank you.
I also appreciate Eamons views on being a partner through it, it helped me navigate how my partner was feeling through it all.
So proud of you Bec!❤
My husband and I went through 9 years of fertility treatments. We had many losses and one ectopic. We almost lost our marriage because there was no help with insurance. So we were so far into debt we were both working two jobs. We almost lost our marriage!
Well, here we are after being married 25 years and only through God did we get our miracle baby by private adoption.
We have never been anywhere without her, not a lunch, not a dinner, or a vacation. It might sound crazy but when you have to go through all the hell of treatments. We have no reason to ever want to be without her! We miss her when she is at school.
It was such a long journey.
The one thing I can say, is after all the suffering it was worth it all. I had lost my will to believe in God and when I got to cut the cord for my baby, I had to run out of the room discreetly and go to another hallway in the hospital and fell to my knees I just couldn’t believe that she was my daughter. I actually hurt my knees and was crying hysterically, a man walked up to me and said mam, what’s wrong do you need help? This is a hospital we can help you, but I couldn’t talk, I was crying so hard but didn’t want the Birth mom to know. I had to hold it together during the labor for hours and I guess I was just holding my breath! I love her more than any daughter who could have come from me! I love her more than life itself!
No one can understand your story and the way you feel about your experience and what you have gone through.
Love you guys 💕
Sending all the love, health and happiness to your beautiful family!!
American RN here (my late mother was a kind and stoic Canadian) The point @ 34:44 Bec: so heartbreaking, so poignant, so moving, and yes, you should be proud of your self, proud of suffering through unknown, cancer induced bone pain and trusting at some point a doctor would order diagnostic imaging and labs to check for the potential source of pain, and finally discover ugly cancer recurred. It happens in America to a lot of females- they hear medical staff dismiss many new, worrisome symptoms as being benign, without prudence and due diligence by staff to order diagnostics! No one has magic vision, that is why diagnostics should be ordered for a new or persistent issue. DO NOT SETTLE LADIES, be persuasive with symptoms and what you believe you need ordered. You are amazing Bec: beautiful inside and out and courageous. Enjoy sweet Frankie Lee.
@NMV-ej4zd sadly it’s not only women who are not listening to. My husband had been telling his doctor. He didn’t feel alright only to be told it was on his head. He was a hypochondriac and get his s**t together it’s not all about you. He was even pushing me to commit him to a psych ward. Sadly he was diagnosed with cancer. We lost him within weeks. When he was asked how he felt regarding the treatment he had received from his GP he said he should’ve given me a loaded gun. It would’ve been more merciful. After his death we obtained his medical records a scan had picked up the cancer even his bloodwork it was all there and his doctor did nothing he failed him
@@9eyeswideopenI’m so sorry this happened to you. A very similar situation happened with my husband who is now deceased. It’s heartbreaking.
@@tbelsom so sorry for your loss 💔We carried out my husband’s only wish to take legal action against his doctor. After many years we obtained the justice he deserved, but that only highlighted what his doctor attempted to do he even falsified his records. In doing so it only proved how neglectful he was.
I can't believe they didn't question her pain more and do tests with her medical history. It doesn't sound like the Drs gave her great advice for after chemo care either, so sad.
OMG the part where Bec woke up to all those loving hands comforting her..
she is so blessed to have such loving family friends there for her.
I was sobbing this was so beautiful OXOXOOXO
Being a new parent is HARD. The way your life flips upside down is extremely difficult to adapt to and no one talks about it enough. Ivf is also extremely challenging but somehow empowering. I said I would never do it. I did 107 injections by myself. I’m extremely thankful they put me to sleep for the egg retrieval. I had 70+ follicles. Kissing ovaries caused me incredible back pain. Anyone on the ivf journey is f*ing STRONG. no matter why you are going through it. Thank you both for sharing such depth of your story 🩷🤍
I am blown away with how vulnerable and positive you both are about impossible situations! Making life altering decisions in minutes and walking forward and seeing the good things is incredible. I don’t say those things lightly you SHOULD BE PROUD Bec!
Bec is such a beautiful soul inside and out. She radiates love and light and is 10x more of all of that in person rather than on screen. The next generation that both Eamon and Bec are raising together are going to be the best people. I cannot wait. We love you guys so much too.
-Kayla G
This conversation was so cathartic. My birth experience definitely didn't go as planned and I still, two years later, haven't found the time or space to fully process it. Listening to your experience and your perspective on it while things were changing one moment to the next, and now seven months later as you've reflected on everything, it is just food for the soul. Delicious, nourishing, incredible food for the soul. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. It's a gift to mama's like me. 🧡🧡
Eamon, your honesty is refreshing...it is harder than we ever knew..72 yrs old 2 sons grown and I wonder what I would have done if I really thought it through. Doesn't mean we don't love them, just means it's more work and it never really ends.
Bec you are a WARRIOR!!!! The way you have transmuted this intense experience into an energy of healing reflection and action into your full potential is draw dropping amazing. You inspire me to do the same for myself.
Just wanted to say, I sat and watched your ivf video and balled my eyes out. My husband and I had been trying for years to have a baby but had unexplained infertility. After watching your video I was finally confident enough to go through with ivf and now I’m sitting here watching this video feeding my 3 month old!! Thank you❤ Ivf was scary to me and I wanted to keep things natural but you guys just made me feel a lot more comfortable with it after you documented your journey 🙏🏻
Being neurodivergent definitely impacts eye contact. It can be very difficult. Props to Eamon for trying so hard! I can see him fighting hard not to look away. Even a few seconds is such an accomplishment!
You two humble me. The grace you show with the chaos that surrounded you is so amazing. Thank you for sharing your story.
I’ve been struggling with postpartum depression and anxiety. It’s so hard. But listening to this I will start everyday with a positive intention.
I am so blown away, so impressed, respectful and in awe of your honesty, openness. I am understanding now your freedom in speaking the word cancer over and over again without restraint, not holding it in and not giving in to fear. Bravo to you both, your wisdom is awesome in the truest sense of the word.
I love the honesty on becoming parents. My husband recently got asked at work what it's like having kids, and he said it's the best and worst thing you'll ever do, and people always get so defensive, but it's true
Wow what an episode, I bawled my eyes out as I wasn’t able to hold my son for 3 days after he was rushed to the NICU. I was wheeled to the recovery room and waited by myself for hours before my husband could see me. Just so much to unpack there but I really appreciate you sharing everything. Eamon I’m there with you, I never truly understood how difficult parenting would be but Bec I’m there with you too, my son constantly teaches me how to be more present and joyful and it’s bliss. Love you guys!
This is honestly so beautiful! Just all the times you can see Lee shining and looking over you and Frankie. Sobbing my little heart out but feel so blessed that you chose to share this. Thank you x
ADHD and neurodivergence is a completely valid reason to not make eye contact. Making eye contact is not automatically better. It’s just what some cultures consider more socially acceptable. Your beautiful brain is literally processing the world differently and taking in so much information. The way you do things naturally is not wrong, Eamon. It can be so easy to assume that when you’ve received messages that there’s something wrong or different about the way you do things your entire life, but that doesn’t mean you need to change yourself. What you are describing, forcing I contact, is a form of masking (lots of info online on this), which has its place and can be super helpful and keep people safe, but is can also be exhausting and super detrimental. To some extent, it’s up to you when and where and how you would like to choose to intentionally mask or unmask (not all of it is intentional, and this is very intersectional), but I just hope you know that if you have safe spaces, you don’t have to. The way that works for other people, doesn’t have to be the box that you force yourself into. Sending Lots of Love from one ADHDer to another. 💙
I am so happy that your story brought you your sweet baby girl. I had an emergency c-section with my first son. He was in distress and I was rolled in and put out immediately. No one knew I would have a difficult time coming out of anesthesia and I was OUT for a long time. I remember starting to wake up in my room. I could not open my eyes. I could whisper to my husband. Then, I heard my baby. In the hall. I said, “That is my baby Sam.” And it was!. With every ounce of power I opened one eye ,because by golly, I was going to see my baby on the day he was born. I knew it was him. ❤ Love to all.
This brought back so many memories and emotions for me. Over 26 years ago I had a premature emergency c-section at 27 weeks. Being put under and not seeing my baby being born and on top of that we were transported in separate ambulances after his birth to another hospital with higher level NICU care. Didn’t get to hold him for a few weeks because he was so premature. When I look back to how scared I was for him and his health and future I am now so grateful he is a healthy 26 year old man. Remembering how miraculous she is will help you cherish all your moments with her.
Bec, you are of course not alone with your birth experience. My daughter was born a week early by emergency C-section, cord around her neck, barely alive, whisked off to NICU where she remained for four days hooked up to machines. I had an anaphylactic reaction to the epidural, could barely breathe and couldn't see my daughter for several hours, not knowing if she would make it. It felt like falling through a black hole in the universe. When I was finally taken to see her (I told them I would crawl there otherwise) I burst into tears. But it was precisely this awful experience for her and me that bonded us, we warriors got through it together, and now she is a 100% fit, healthy and intelligent 14 year old and we are very close . There is more than one way to bond with your newborn. Not just the fairytale birth. Yes you should be proud of yourself, everything your body has been through these last couple of years and here you are, radiant, chosen by the energies of this world to be Frankie's mum because they knew that you would be the best possible one precisely for her. And Frankie knows it too.
I also love Eamon's honesty speaking about becoming a parent. I think he's not alone in that feeling but I understand the guilt of not wanting or thinking you should share those thoughts so I'm grateful he feels comfortable to share them and knows that it doesn't take away from the love he has for Frankie and the gratitude that he has.
Same with you Bec, gosh I just love your open honesty about everything. Thank you for willing to share this online... it's a choice you guys have made and I am really enjoying listening/watching your convo's.
My baby girl was born on the same day I buried my second child he was 18 months he died of meningitis. I went from the cemetery to the hospital. I was put out and didn’t get to have my baby until two hours after my c section. It fills like yesterday.but it’s been 50 years ago…love your journey been following you since the beginning. Frankie is darling. Keep the faith.
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I'm sitting here almost 6mon pregnant feeling this all on such a deep level after a year full of some really tough health diagnoses, and then becoming pregnant after all of it. Crying with you!
“I’m just so proud of me”.. girl and so you should be! what a beautiful moment of gratitude to yourself. You’re an incredible human being and we could all learn a lot from you Bec. So much love to you x
I 100% understand where Eamon is coming from. My entire life I wanted to be a mother. I was always the mother friend of the group and I would joke about having so many kids that I would have my own soccer team. I worked with kids with autism and was a special education teacher. I really thought I was ready. Then I had my son and nothing could have prepared me for it. It was so much harder than I could have ever imagined and anxiety completely took over my life. He’s 7 now and has a 3 year old sister, and it is still so challenging. I’m now the Eamon in the group that tries to warn everybody about how hard it is. I love my children to death and I wouldn’t trade them for the world. But I do think most people could not imagine the reality of parenting until they are in it.
Bec I just want to say that you truly touched me when you said how it feels to see your baby threw a picture before you ever got to meet them. I had the same experience and I've never heard or seen someone talk about it before. Thank you so much and so much love to our partners that's took care of our babies before we could.
I’m so proud and glad for the both of you. And I don’t want to discredit Eamon, but Bec… you are one hell of a powerhouse. An inspiration. You show up every day, for yourself, Frankie, Eamon, your family and friends. And you take yourself seriously and know when to take care of yourself. ❤
I wish you two realized how much God has watched over you all through this whole journey.
I too had a C-section where I was under general anesthesia. the first time I saw my son was in a Polaroid photo and the first time I got to touch him he was 12 hours old. I didn’t get to hold him till her was a day and a half old. I remember him being in the NICU and feeling like he belonged to the nurses instead of me. My husband had the more traumatic time as her stood outside the operating room and never heard our son cry and the first time he saw our son he was white and lifeless. Our son is now 34 and married and someday starting a family of his own.
Hi Bec, I am also a cancer survivor. I got cancer when I was 25 years old, but it was not the same as yours. Even still, I remember my doctor telling me that I absolutely could not get pregnant for at least 5 years.
My cancer was not a hormone driven cancer, but he let me know that he has a patient that had breast cancer and she got pregnant very soon after finishing treatment and unfortunately her cancer returned very aggressively.
I still remember the pit I had in my stomach while watching your video when you told us that you were pregnant.
I am in the states and I’m not sure how different things are here versus in Canada medically but I am just so surprised that they gave you the greenlight to try to conceive so soon after treatment. I am so incredibly happy for your family and that Frankie is here with you, but I urge you to look more into it before you try to have another 🫶🏼 big hugs. I love your videos and your family. I have been watching you since Van life
8.5 months postpartum and even though we don’t know each other I was so excited to be pregnant at the same time as Bec! I was also slapped in the face with the reality of the challenge those first months with a baby. It hit me HARD. And I waited until 36 years old to have my first. I haven’t understood why more people don’t talk about how hard it is. So I started to think maybe I wasn’t qualified for this at times. I really appreciate Eamon’s honesty on that.
When you had cancer the first time, I wasn’t that interested. Then, I was diagnosed with breast cancer HER2 triple positive. I went back and watched your cancer journey and it really helped me! I was 76 when I was diagnosed so I didn’t feel it was a big deal but I did feel that it was so terrible that you were so young with cancer. Anyway, you two are such an inspiration!!
35:45 "I'M JUST SO PROUD OF ME" So much to be proud of!!! What a beautiful moment 💛💛💛
What a spiritual journey you guys have experienced and live. I am a retired L&D nurse. I felt your walk. She is a beautiful soul. When I first worked I cried at every birth. Then I was told, enough. Still, when a dad cried I always teared. It is a moment one cannot describe, especially for the new mom, dad, and family! I know that Deja Vue you speak of!
I had 4 daughters in 5yrs. You do have the capacity. You can hold, comfort and love 2 crying babies at once. Some days you're crying with them. And when you are, you'll feel a little hand touch your face. That's when you get that they are comforting and loving you. You'll see them do it for each other all the time, to this day as they are all in their 40's.
Requesting a meditation podcast pls!!! I'd like to know Bec's tips for daily meditation, specially for good mental and physical health ❤ Love you guys!!
I SO appreciate your honesty. Eamon: Thanks for pointing out how difficult being a parent is. It's one of the most important "jobs" a person can take on and should be approached thoughtfully. Bec, you are a warrior. Love and positive energy to you both!
Responding with love to your child’s crying will give her security that will last her a lifetime. That security will become strength and it will be her super power ❤️🙌
Becca your adorabl3! For some of us we recognize you did this at times because we ourselves have done it. And I think as woman we are taught and we nurture love and caring for others and it’s the caring for ourselves ,to interrupt doing for others to feel that feeling and being able to voice it. Thank you brave woman !❤
Eamon was right on!!! Sooo surprised the OB didn’t think of the back pain and past diagnosis were related! Anyone in the medical field would/should consider that!
It was the first thing I thought of when they announced that the cancer had returned. NO ONE thought to monitor her very closely (even monthly, if necessary) during her pregnancy (knowing that the estrogen level will increase)?! Why did they discover it so late?! I also find it strange that the doctor told her that it was ok to get pregnant so soon after the treatment (later a nurse told her that she shouldn't have done that, because it was too soon). I don't blame them, and I think it's good that they're talking about it, so that other women in her situation know to better advocate for themselves.
@@alinam5092 Although it seems counterintuitive, there is no indication for surviellance scanning after treatment of breast cancer. While it might diagnose a metastasis earlier, it does not improve longevity. They follow practice guidelines whihc may be different that what you think shoul be done. I doubt very much anyone told her that it was safe to get pregnant without doing 2 years of tamoxifen first. These two filter the world through their own reality.
I totally respect Bec's choice of not letting the medical system make us live in fear. Amazing choice ❤
Are you kidding she wouldn’t be dying if she’d listened to them! It was unprofessional of any doctor to tell you it was ok to not only do ivf but to also have a child when your cancer had been confirmed as being grown be oestrogen so so inappropriate you could have adopted and now your stage 4 and no time left a child without a mother a husband who couldn’t cope being a single dad just pure irresponsible
I cried. I laughed. And I'm thinking about how to infuse my 76 year old life with your energy and positivism.
Thank you for sharing your story. I myself had a very traumatic birth with my first child. In the middle of labor my daughters heart rate dropped to 80 and it felt like every nurse in the hospital rushed into my room. There was no time to do anything so I had to go under as well. I was so scared that when I woke up they would tell me she was gone.
My husband got to meet her first and they wouldn't tell him if I was okay for 3 hours until they wheeled me into the room where I saw the two of them. It was instant tears and the most beautiful thing I had ever seen.
It took me 3 years to work through to be strong enough to have another baby and I finally had the birth experience I had hoped for. I genuinely have never felt better than being able to push and be able to be with my son as he came into this world.
I know that this is in your future too. ❤
I really appreciate leaving in the pauses! You are both listening to each other and having a proper conversation and processing and it's so honest. I love it.
Bec, I love you realising you need to put yourself first and take care of yourself as well. It's a lesson that took me far too long to learn and I sometimes need reminding of still!
Eamon tells the truth_ it is challenging to have a child and it uproots your life. It it is also a blessing
Being diagnosed as Audhd when I was 30 really changed my life. I always was so depressed and had high anxiety thinking I was just weird and unlikable my whole life. So having an explanation for everything about what makes me who I am is so nice. Also finding people that I can unmask around and be my true authentic self with was a life saver. Eye contact and what others think is “normal” social things is SO difficult for me. Me trying to appear “normal” to others and trying to not make everyone feel uncomfortable by me just being me is so exhausting. So Eamon being able to show his full authentic self around you Bec just proves how much he loves you and how comfortable you make him feel. You will never know how much that means to people in the autism and ADHD community to have a safe space and people that love us for the real us. ❤
Being with Audhd is difficult for me though most others just think I’m an asshole…
when you talked about Lee holding Frankies hand in the spirit world it brought tears to my eyes for many reasons. Awesome podcast
Bec, as the mom of an ex28 week preemie (who's now a teen), who also had an emergency c section where I was completely knocked out, and didn't get to meet my daughter until she was 4 days old, It was so emotional watching the two of you in this video. My ex partner also had to meet our daughter alone. I was also all alone before and during the c section. And in fact, we tried for 2.5 years to conceive, and every time I got my cycle was devastating. The whole experience was so traumatic, I can't imagine having to go through all of that with a stage 4 cancer dx, AND then also be thrown into full blown early menopause while being a first time mom of a preemie. Wow. So glad Frankie was able to come home after a couple weeks, but i know how hard it was to leave the hospital w/out her. Mine was in the NICU for 14 weeks. Also, You balance eachother out as parents so well.
I've watched you both from the beginning and becs strength and journey takes my breath away! I became a mum at the same time and honestly I can feel the fight within bec, becoming a mum takes your fight to a whole new level, your heart triples, quadruples, its truly a transformation and i feel like frankie will heal bec physically and emotionally and it's miraculous and so so beautiful ❤
Only 2 episodes and this is already my favorite podcast ever. The energy is just great and so inspiring. Thank you for sharing it!! Much love
Wow, I cried thru this whole Podcast and all I could feel is Joy and then you said it ❤ I feel you in the selfworth healing, I too have had to move thru this, and the past year has been the biggest internal layer that has bought me back to Worth and Self Love, I hear every unspoken word in your energy and I'm sooo super Proud of you and all of us that are actually healing this for all of humanity...what we heal together goes into the collective energy field and I absolutely LOVE YOU and your vulnerability in sharing. Also Eamons beautiful honest sharing of the 'truth' of bringing a baby into one's life, bravo because too many people stay quiet and it makes people feel like they are doing something wrong. So proud of you both, you are the first Podcast I've ever listened too and I'm hooked, the emotional release is heart warming, I've cried so much with you, I AM truly Grateful to you both ❤ much love from Sydney ❤❤❤
Bec - you are an absolute warrior! Birth is so worrying in the best circumstances, and you had a very different experience from the one you wanted. I have had 4 c-sections and it's so hard afterwards as well. And you're dancing, cuddling, being amazing. Warrior queen. I hope when you're 94, you can look back at this podcast and think 'damn, I was awesome'!
Thank you Bec for sharing your birth with Frankie 💛
I also needed a C-Section with my son, and I also needed to be put completely under. (The local anaesthesia was very patchy.) It was hard not only being unable to have the birth I envisioned, but also not being able to see my son when he was "brand new". I felt like here I've been with my son all throughout my pregnancy, he was literally A PART of me...and now I'm being cheated out of being the first one to see him! There's lots of emotions to unpack. But at the same time you feel like you're part of this small, secret sisterhood of mothers who's births also weren't "perfect". I'm thankful you & Eamon & Frankie are here! All three of you are awesome 😊
Thank you for sharing all of this with us. Bec you are so strong. I hope everyone who left mean comments while they took a break from posting think twice next time before commenting and give creators some grace. You never know what someone is going through. It’s hard enough becoming a new mum but Bec has had to balance so much more. You’re amazing, Bec. A true light on this earth, and you’re a wonderful mum. ❤
Responding to 31:18 I can confirm I don’t even notice the thumbnails I just click when I see your name 😅💕
Came here to comment the same thing ❤
Same
Can confirm this too. I just get notifications that there is a new video out and that’s all that it takes for me to watch and I love it . I didn’t actually read the thumbnail until u mentioned it but still wouldn’t stop me watching ❤