Me and my girlfriend both did this, she came from a long term abusive relationship and I came from a cycle of self destructive habits. Both of us said "you should go because I'm gonna hurt you" but something kept us fighting and I couldn't be happier since breaking through that barrier. I think we just decided one day, we want to be together this cycle needs to stop so we will make it stop. I have cut my drinking significantly and have applied myself in school. It's a life and relationship I felt I couldn't achieve until she showed me the potential I had chosen to ignore because that was easier than accepting my current situation. If I can do it, anyone can. I'm nothing special.
First up... love this band. They never fail to be relateable to my exact circumstances. Secondly, I love your take on the lyrics. As someone who has had anger and behavioural issues all my life and only started taking 100% responsibility whenever I mess up regardless in my early 20s (I'm 25 and a half), often it feels like I'm in an endless loop of mess up, extreme regret, make inroads then mess up again. I've lost many friends due to it. However, I actually found that bit about control that you mentioned extremely insightful and it isn't something I otherwise considered. And from my perspective, when I warn people about my dark side, it's more so they're prepared for what may happen. But there is an element of control, you're right Thanks for your insight, it has helped me ❤
From NateTriesAgain: Love this - it's exciting when we take ownership over our own issues - it changes us from being a victim to our circumstances to being an agent of progress. It's hard to stomach the first bit of self-blame - but after crossing that threshold change becomes possible. Super cool that's the journey that you're on. The loop of mess up - regret - reconcile - repeat is relatable. It's hard to feel like you're AWARE of your issue, OWNING it, and yet not "nailing" it yet. It makes you feel like a fraud at times, like you aren't "really" making progress or "really" caring or "really" capable of change. Reconciling your own internal beliefs about yourself - that you are in the arena and choosing to have courage in this area of your life and that you are in process, worthy of grace and acceptance even though you're imperfect - is hard to sustain when you feel like you don't "deserve" it because you just know you're going to fail again. But these are issues you only get to face because you're actually doing something about these issues, which is reason to feel proud. Glad you gained some insight from the video and hope the journey continues to progress for you.
@HeartSupport - Mental Health Community Wow, thank you so much for your super detailed response, it really means the world!!! And you practically just read my mind, as yes, sometimes it does feel like I don't deserve the good that those in my life afford me, Thanks again, I was not expecting such a detailed and thoughtful response 😊 P.S. Check out more Holding Absence. They are so relateable, I love them
For me the combination of the instrumentals and lyrics evoke a feeling that I describe as "I'm not going anywhere in life, but I'm okay with that". I don't know why but that expression helps to cope with things. Like comming to terms with it, but knowing that I could be mistaken. A bit pessimistic with a tiny bit of optimism hidden in there.
From Micro: Yea it's like reaching some level of acceptance, isn't it? Surrendering to what is, so that it could also leave the door open to something new, something that would contradict what you've been thinking. Instead of living according to a narrative that can be hurtful, you accept that imperfection and wandering is part of the process. We may not know what the future holds or how the next chapter of our life is going to be, but we can surely stop fighting against things that are just as they are. As long as this process is not damaging to you, and doesn't prevent you from seeing your potential either. It's okay to feel lost at times. It's okay to acknowledge it. It's okay to say it. Never lose sight of the fact that you *are*, and therefore everything is possible. Appreciate you for sharing this subtle interpretation and what this part of the lyrics, combined with the music, evokes to you. It's powerful. <3
you've just given me an epiphany that brought me to tears. as someone who has never been able to get anywhere in life because of disabilites (i had to drop out of university and i struggled throughout the education system), i eventually just gave up and decided to live a life where i have all the free time and flexible responsibility i need. i never saw the song that way because i have a rough time processing lyrics as i'm always so taken up by the music. thanks so much for that
@@mylife1221I'm glad I could help you in any way. That's why I love music. It can be a way to say something that you're struggling to find the words for.
the lyrics, specifically the chorus are HEART wrenching, but it’s so hard to not just want to smile and dance to the music aspect of it.
Me and my girlfriend both did this, she came from a long term abusive relationship and I came from a cycle of self destructive habits. Both of us said "you should go because I'm gonna hurt you" but something kept us fighting and I couldn't be happier since breaking through that barrier. I think we just decided one day, we want to be together this cycle needs to stop so we will make it stop. I have cut my drinking significantly and have applied myself in school. It's a life and relationship I felt I couldn't achieve until she showed me the potential I had chosen to ignore because that was easier than accepting my current situation.
If I can do it, anyone can. I'm nothing special.
Thanks so much for sharing this!! I'm so glad you were able to find so much healing!
I really love the fact that you dont pause the song and you enjoy it first.
Love so many of their tracks. Great analysis. 'Celebration Song' is another favorite by Holding Absence lyrically. Inspiring and raw.
omg you rock! love this band
First up... love this band. They never fail to be relateable to my exact circumstances.
Secondly, I love your take on the lyrics.
As someone who has had anger and behavioural issues all my life and only started taking 100% responsibility whenever I mess up regardless in my early 20s (I'm 25 and a half), often it feels like I'm in an endless loop of mess up, extreme regret, make inroads then mess up again. I've lost many friends due to it.
However, I actually found that bit about control that you mentioned extremely insightful and it isn't something I otherwise considered. And from my perspective, when I warn people about my dark side, it's more so they're prepared for what may happen. But there is an element of control, you're right
Thanks for your insight, it has helped me ❤
From NateTriesAgain: Love this - it's exciting when we take ownership over our own issues - it changes us from being a victim to our circumstances to being an agent of progress. It's hard to stomach the first bit of self-blame - but after crossing that threshold change becomes possible. Super cool that's the journey that you're on.
The loop of mess up - regret - reconcile - repeat is relatable. It's hard to feel like you're AWARE of your issue, OWNING it, and yet not "nailing" it yet. It makes you feel like a fraud at times, like you aren't "really" making progress or "really" caring or "really" capable of change. Reconciling your own internal beliefs about yourself - that you are in the arena and choosing to have courage in this area of your life and that you are in process, worthy of grace and acceptance even though you're imperfect - is hard to sustain when you feel like you don't "deserve" it because you just know you're going to fail again.
But these are issues you only get to face because you're actually doing something about these issues, which is reason to feel proud.
Glad you gained some insight from the video and hope the journey continues to progress for you.
@HeartSupport - Mental Health Community Wow, thank you so much for your super detailed response, it really means the world!!! And you practically just read my mind, as yes, sometimes it does feel like I don't deserve the good that those in my life afford me,
Thanks again, I was not expecting such a detailed and thoughtful response 😊
P.S. Check out more Holding Absence. They are so relateable, I love them
what a band!
Booked to see these live in November. Looking forward to it. (Love your hoodie BTW) 🙂
I unfortunately just bought ANOTHER black Bad Omens hoodie LOL I may have a bit of a problem
i love your energy 🙂
Taylor, you are so incredibly beautiful, even more so than this wonderful song
You gotta do more Holding Absence!
You know we love Holding Absence over here
I love this so much!!!!!
Is perfect ❤❤❤❤
For me the combination of the instrumentals and lyrics evoke a feeling that I describe as "I'm not going anywhere in life, but I'm okay with that". I don't know why but that expression helps to cope with things.
Like comming to terms with it, but knowing that I could be mistaken. A bit pessimistic with a tiny bit of optimism hidden in there.
From Micro: Yea it's like reaching some level of acceptance, isn't it? Surrendering to what is, so that it could also leave the door open to something new, something that would contradict what you've been thinking. Instead of living according to a narrative that can be hurtful, you accept that imperfection and wandering is part of the process. We may not know what the future holds or how the next chapter of our life is going to be, but we can surely stop fighting against things that are just as they are. As long as this process is not damaging to you, and doesn't prevent you from seeing your potential either. It's okay to feel lost at times. It's okay to acknowledge it. It's okay to say it. Never lose sight of the fact that you *are*, and therefore everything is possible. Appreciate you for sharing this subtle interpretation and what this part of the lyrics, combined with the music, evokes to you. It's powerful. <3
you've just given me an epiphany that brought me to tears. as someone who has never been able to get anywhere in life because of disabilites (i had to drop out of university and i struggled throughout the education system), i eventually just gave up and decided to live a life where i have all the free time and flexible responsibility i need. i never saw the song that way because i have a rough time processing lyrics as i'm always so taken up by the music. thanks so much for that
@@mylife1221I'm glad I could help you in any way. That's why I love music. It can be a way to say something that you're struggling to find the words for.
@@PlaceHolder994 and now the album is out. have you taken a listen yet?
Is it possible that you can review Trapt-I want what I want?
you should really check out armageddon by boundaries! amazing lyrics
more holding absence songs please