The BPD Bunch S4E5.5: Stop Saying Sorry! BPD & Over Apologizing
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- In response to some of your comments on last week's episode, Xannie, Solène and Jack come together to discuss over apologizing with BPD. They share their experiences with over apologizing, cover the importance of self respect, as well as their top tips for finding balance in the context of making amends.
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Oh my god! Loved this episode so much. Needed this, it gave me a lot of insight in my weird tendencies 😂. I always thought that everyone apologized for everything and that it was a form of politeness. but now I see that it is not always positive and can undermine your self-esteem.
I'm from the Netherlands and since I've found this chanel, I feel so understood ❤🎉. Big love.
Thanks for these and doing what you do
i am guilty of saying sorry and it makes things so much worse.
Never new this was a thing until another Borderliner brought it to my attention, thanks for all the work you do.
You’re so welcome!
@@thebpdbunch Currently watching the whole meet the BPD bunch playlist.
I am Canadian, so I blend well in this way LOL
@@tanyavandervecht6758 Sorry I don't get it, I'm in Australia, is it supposed to be something about Canadian habits? Just realised my first word was sorry 😂
@@jakebull2496 Yes! :) Canadians say sorry for everything, all the time, cultural habitual behaviour.
Yeah, the thing is that all of the pwBPD I had the immense displeasure of interacting with, apologized excessively for the most minor, trivial things but refused to take accountability for their major f ups.
I was either met with a death stare or a cold "I'm sorry *you feel that way."*
I'm happy they're out of my life.
Absolutely the switch is night and day. Then get mad 😠 or upset 😢
21:00 ❤
This is something I work on to this very DAY! I am the only child of a BPD Mommy, whom I love with all my heart, however growing up in an environment where I “had to make Mommy not yell” I was conditioned to apologize. Now, I educate the clients I have to “slow down” on the apologies as even if unknowingly (that’s the key word there) hurt someone…you’ve already apologized and that person is still there with you! They love you! ❤
I have become aware of this habit of saying 'sorry' number of times. Trying to change it....
The over apologizing I believe comes from the shifting sense of self, it’s not from not knowing who you are.. it’s from not knowing where your responsibility for other peoples actions+feelings begin and end and vice versa you don’t know when another person is “making you feel this way”.
I believe this stems from early childhood being made to feel that when your parents were for example angry, it’s your fault or when you felt upset it’s because so and so did something to you so you don’t know where you begin and end as a person, shifting sense of self….