The BPD Bunch S3E8: BPD & Validation Seeking
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- Опубліковано 1 лип 2024
- Ever felt the weight of seeking approval or struggled with the constant need for validation?
Dive into a discussion with Xannie, Mo, Solène, Jay, and Melanie on the topic of validation and validation-seeking behavior in the context of living with borderline personality disorder (BPD).
The Bunch explores the impact of validation-seeking on their lives, including negative effects on self-perception and authenticity. They also share coping mechanisms for managing validation-seeking urges, emphasizing the importance of self-validation.
Regardless of whether you're navigating BPD or simply wrestling with the universal challenges of seeking validation and self-worth, you’re not alone! Tune in to this episode and consider which nuggets of wisdom you can take with you on your journey of self-discovery.
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About Us:
The BPD bunch is a UA-cam talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!
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Disclaimer:
Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
Instead, we hope that by sharing our stories and what was helpful for us, you can gain some insight and direction into your own recovery ❤️🩹
As someone with NPD, I am gaining so much from watching this channel. Hats off to Xannie for setting this up so brilliantly. The topics are so well thought out and the discussions are so interesting. The editing is also really good.
The discussions relate to NPD in many respects because the two disorders overlap in various respects.
I am in recovery from NPD, working on myself everyday. These videos are helping me understand my own thoughts, feelings and behaviours, as well as giving me some tips on how to manage my symptoms.
Thank you for creating and continuing this channel, which is helping and surely others no end.
Thank you for the work y’all do- it’s so refreshing to be audience to these conversations!
Very useful and informative...
Thank u for having this channel, gives me HOPE and no villification for us with BPD.
This video was so helpful. I have struggled with a lot of internalized stigma around my BPD and the videos you all make really makes a difference. Thank you Xannie and crew💗
I relate so much to crumbling under negative feedback, even constructive feedback. Like you said, I tie my worth to that. I am working on that in therapy
Good for you! It takes a lot of strength to work on things like that.
This is a great video everyone. I always think one of the most difficult aspects of dealing with my BPD is that cognitively and emotively speaking the feelings I have are valid and intrinsically human, yet the issue arises from the healthy baseline at which I should feel them, and then sometimes I ignore dealing with them because they are too painful.
When I try to explain this to people who don’t suffer with BPD, I analogise it in the way that my reaction to a perceived slight or fear of abandonment gives me the feeling as how someone might react to being in threat of their life ending. Not always but sometimes. And I need external influences to validate that, and whilst I know rationally that is unhealthy, my emotions take over.
I’m really happy I’ve come across this channel btw. It takes bravery and courage to be open and honest in such a public way, and you guys do this in such a normalised, structured and happy way 😊❤
Thank you for your support! You described that feeling so well! Great user name, BTW!
@@Shellbelle02 thanks I appreciate it. I make contact about feminism on my channel. My name is Dan btw 😊👍
Would definitely love to be a guest, I done my own podcast for a few years before moving away from social media to see wgat life was like away from mental health issues.
It's hard to not confuse validation with reassurance and wow she just said that as I'm typing haha. Its hard to be a "borderline" and then finding that safe spot to draw your border where you know where your own boundary is ugh
I think that it’s not unusual for validation seeking to arise from the conflict between what one is experiencing and others’ perception/feedback on that experience. For instance, if I hurt myself and relayed that to someone else, and that person said, “You’re fine - why are you complaining?” I’d want to seek validation that I was indeed experiencing pain, because otherwise, I’d feel like was going crazy. I’d worry that my perception of reality was warped, and doubt my experiences, which would likely lead to further validation seeking.
100% this is me, I need validation that everyone else is experiencing what I’m seeing and also validation from someone that they would feel the same way I do if in my situation. When that doesn’t happen I just exhaust myself with trying to make them understand and then feel invalidated
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