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I apologize for sounding insensitive here, truly... But I am jealous of those who can have this and have a successful career/education. I barely feel like I can be around people much less interact with them constantly.

So true. Ive also had people tell me “i dont seem like i have it” and that “ i dont seem like someone who would react a lot” which im happy i can hide it well

So true 😢 I hate living in a world 🌎 that I don't feel that I fit in to . Thank you !

You're so full of it lol

This is so accurate 😢

So great. 😂

I was unaware of most of the things that are considered SH

“These are all things I’ve been told as someone who doesn’t ‘look’ like they have BPD. Since I only meet 5/9 criteria (the minimum to be diagnosed) and am also diagnosed with Schizotypal Personality Disorder, my presentation of BPD is unique. I sometimes feel like I don’t fit in the BPD community because I don’t always behave in ways that people expect someone with BPD to be like.” ~Katja It’s important to remember that a stereotypical presentation of any condition only represents part of the population with that condition! . . . . ____________ The BPD bunch is a video podcast, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. We discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ We just wrapped our fourth season, and will be posting short form content regularly until we return with season 5 in the fall. Subscribe and turn on notifications to be the first in the know!

Very Useful. ...i can identify with the speakers' trauma

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yeah don't compare my insides to someone else's outsides

YES❤😂

Facing Love Addiction Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love By: Pia Mellody

relationships are like pouring miracle grow on my character defects , someone said that to me once seems true lol

i feel the adrenaline pumping my rational part of my brain is turned off i have to fight or run i still havnt found how to stop it other than having better boundaries i think lots of things can be stopped for me because they come from relationships where i have let people cross my boundaries previously. if its a one off random thing then i might need it to protect myself . i see it has broken most of my relationships and as above i let people walk over my values previously its interesting how i can get to rage , but i do believe people who respect me will not let me get to rage as we have had a conversation about what we both need from a relationship be it romantically or not , my take away from the whole thing is not many people really want a solid relationship they want to dominate me and that being the case we will always end up in that position my faith in humans being honest about how they really feel is low. I cant do my part and theirs too, god knows i have tried but its dysfunctional. I also agree with the shame modal being i come from CPTSD etc life is hard being from so much trauma the whole thing is sad and i do have lots of shame and it hurts and so being lied too or disrespected etc can realy end up with me in a rage state and i know when i get there i have let to many things go to even fix the thing so i make a big mess so its fully over and i cant go back. Then i just go and cry for months and try not to hurt myself too bad my biggest frustration with the humans is they dont own their stuff cant say sorry believe their own bullshit and use me as a scapegoat and so boundaries again, bottom line for me is i will be alone for the most part its safer 🥰 so many broken humans around 😋 Thanks again for this video

Was diagnosed with PMDD. I take Prozac for a week or so, basically ten days before my period and it helps so much.

my adrenaline pumps and i will snap it takes a lot to get me there and the reality is i needed to have gone left the situation long before i get to that point, um if i had better boundaries i wouldnt get to snap/split?

how come i end up crying and cant watch all of this video? my heart feels permanently broken 💔

i relate to burning all the bridges so i can't go back i know its hurting me but cant leave so i have to burn everything so i cant go back .

I feel a sense of dread and anxiety when I hear that two friends broke up, friends that I felt were in a really good relationship and very loyal, eventhough it's not my own abdandonment to me it reminds me that even if my realtionships feels secure it's not neccessarily

I thought apart of NPD diagnosis was you cant self relfect

Can you advise how to approach an undiagnosed bpd partner about getting screened for bpd and explaining the severity of his symptoms in a healthy way that is least triggering? Also, best boundaries to have in place with a bpd partner and how to approach the boundary conversation without triggering them? How common are emotionally abusive behaviors in a bpd partner? How to tell a partner their behaviors are emotional abuse in a way that’s least triggering? I want to protect myself from the emotional abuse and need ideas of good boundaries to have for that and recommended steps to take before just ending the relationship? Like how to know how many tries to give them or should I ask that they participate in some sort of program or homework in order for me to stay in the meantime? I don’t want to force him to do anything but that’s something that would make me feel safer to stay. I also can no longer assure him when he is afraid of abandonment because the relationship could end. Is there a way to tell if the abusive behavior is like a whole other dark side of a person and more about core attitudes and beliefs or if it’s simply the bpd episodes? Is there a difference even to be made here? Is there a way to tell or judge how close a bpd partner is to true healing? My partner is undiagnosed, but has had 5 years of therapy and one year of DBT. In many ways he is more mature than any man I’ve ever met and a true treasure to have as a boyfriend, but he still has residual bpd issues that I think, if he got a diagnosis and targeted therapy could be healed in 1-2 years….something I could hang on for IF I knew he was properly diagnosed and getting treatment for the abandonment wound not just the DBT coping skills. How can I approach him about this and ask him to seek that for the sake of helping the relationship without “diagnosing” him, but in a way that he knows I’m dead serious about this being a dealbreaker for me if he doesn’t? Other than DBT coping skills, what does therapy consist of to heal bpd (like is it just the abandonment wound/trauma stuff?) and how long does it take once regular treatment starts? If someone truly loves the bpd partner and doesn’t want to leave, but can’t have a full blown relationship with them in the traditional way because of the intensity and them not being fully healed, is there a way to create unique relationship terms that makes it so both of us are safe and happy to still have one another and not have to break up? Or can the bpd person only handle full access 24/7 relationships? I want more space so I can stay grounded and not get too sucked in to being their source of emotional regulation, but that triggers abandonment stuff for him….even with reassurance. I thought maybe doing a more casual dating situation for fun activities and connection (albeit still exclusive) might be an option. I’d love to hear from you guys what kind of “alterations” you’ve made in relationships to keep both partners safe and happy during the time they’re still working on healing and trying not to hurt their partners.

Is someone with un-healed bpd able to feel true love?….the kind where you love someone so much you always want what’s best for them and will do your best to act accordingly even if it means letting them go? (My theory is no because until they’re healed, they’re acting in their own interests to the detriment of the partner and a lot of their behaviors and “love” is really just feeding the abandonment wound so it’s like they don’t actually really love the partner, they love how the partner makes them feel…and they had so few experiences of real love from another/if any, that they don’t know what it is really like yet…it’s a more idealized/niave view. That’s what my bf seemed to be like. He truly believes he is in love but to me it feels like it’s missing depth and is more shallow and self serving even though the intentions to love are all there. His episodes when triggered reveal hate and not caring about my feelings. How could there possibly be real love?

Idk what love feels like tho. But may be because im also aspd. All i understand about love is “mine” and it disturbs tf outta NT they way i talk about my S.O 😂😂😂

Narc moms

And its literally always NT people or males. I have ASPD and BPD and unfortunately OCD (which of course naturally comes with CPTSD). Some male who was NT tried to call me a liar then demanded i post my personal health info on the internet for his validation. Like sir. Based on your behavior i can def tell you arent the one actually aspd. But pop off 😂😂😂😂

So basically, everything and anything.

So basically, if you're alive you're at risk.

A counting song in no case should hit this hard.

My loneliness is unbearable sometimes

Or maybe you’re just an alcoholic? Alcoholism even moderate drinking will destroy your mental and physical health in every way.

“Let me wear your skin so i know its real 😈😈😈”

This made me wanna cry wow

And that’s not even everything!!! 😱Just goes to show how there can be so many different ways that BPD comes to develop in an individual. It’s important to note that none of these things in isolation will dictate whether a person develops BPD. As the presence of more of these exists, so does the likelihood of developing borderline personality disorder! So one or two, on their own, are worth addressing but unlikely to lead to BPD. References: 1. Bertsch, K., et al. “Reduced plasma oxytocin levels in female patients with borderline personality disorder.” Hormones and Behavior, vol. 63, no. 3, Mar. 2013, pp. 424-429, doi: 10.1016/j.yhbeh.2012.11.013. 2. Chanen, A. M., & Kaess, M. “Developmental pathways to borderline personality disorder.” Curr. Psychiatry Rep., vol. 14, no. 1, 19 Oct. 2011, pp. 45-53, doi: 10.1007/s11920-011-0242-y. 3. Schwarze, C. E., et al. “Prenatal adversity: A risk factor in borderline personality disorder?” Psychol. Med., vol. 43, no. 6, 10 Dec. 2012, pp. 1279-1291, doi: 10.1017/s0033291712002140. 4. Soloff, P. H., et al. “Structural brain abnormalities and suicidal behavior in borderline personality disorder.” J. Psychiatr. Res., vol. 46, no. 4, Apr. 2012, pp. 516-525, doi: 10.1016/j.jpsychires.2012.01.003. 5. Stepp, S. D., et al. “A systematic review of risk factors prospectively associated with borderline personality disorder: Taking stock and moving forward.” Pers. Disord. Theory Res. Treat., vol. 7, no. 4, Oct. 2016, pp. 316-323, doi: 10.1037/per0000186.

Good for you!

my mum stole my blankie told me some gaslighting story why it was gone i am still traumatized like 50 years ago i still miss it

i did a cold shower in winter i think i nearly died lol but seems to be a thing that works to set off calming chemicals?

For me it feels like people hate me and that causes me so much pain that I start to split and I get super angry and afraid so I get even more angry. Splitting is more linked to past memories and my brain will start to tell me that the situation I'm currently in is the same as past abusive situations and I have to escape these situations at all costs. I also split with work and start to absolutely hate my job and then I'll start to absolutely love my job.

I have BPD. I have rage issues

i play tennis (doubles) and they are saying to me are you ready like between points and i am yep do it and so i must look like i am away and i guess i can be i will be off somewhere in the cosmos sort of feels normal to me but others can see it or they wouldn't ask right? and yeah if i want to play well i have to be fully present 🥰its interesting that other people can see it.

Thanks for this 💖 so kool you put all the helpline numbers up 🥰

i was in a mess crying on the bed and my GF at the time just sat with me i felt safe to show her me she was so good it was pretty powerful the bedside light started flickering (never did that before) so much energy ? i miss her letting me have a safe place with her , but i managed to break that as well wish i knew then what i know now i would have worked so hard to not break that 🫂 i have stayed single after that probably will stay that way for the rest of my life. it hurts too much 💔

Why should someone apologize for having been traumatized and it being blamed. A combat soldier has ptsd. The psychiatry people have all these diagnostic crap getting them lots of money for getting the victim to second guess everything they think , do , or say to get over it such as “ black and white thinking “ as some “ symptom “. Talking in psychobsbble might get them the “ strokes “ they crave as comfort from their “ therapist “ but in the long term …. All this does is stroke the therapist who then strokes the ptsd victims and the apologies are delaying the consolidation of the fragmented identity. It’s like in that song Come as You Are as ( the therapist ) wants you to be. You do gain an identity. As an idol worshpper of the therapist. Read the book of Job in the Bible. He’s blamed by all of them for the trauma. This is as old as the Bible. Sick.

Idealization, devaluation, discard.

So relatable ❤️ Such sweet hearts under the monstrous protective anger ❤❤❤ Writing (journaling) is a great tool for me. Also voice memos !!! Such a helpful thing, from the speaking it out (safely bc it’s private) to the relistening to it 😅 Thank you for this video 🙏

pls, keep sharing your experiences as a bpd if you want. these comments show how much ppl see us as pure evil, and hell, its a disorder very hard to live with, but not impossible. bpd people can be as bad as any other person if they're not good, and as good as can be if they're good, despite the disorder. stay well! ❤

I wasn’t allowed to express anger as a young child. After that it felt like anger was bad, so I’d hold it in- but that if I ever *did* let it out, it would be like a torrent. Fast forward a few decades and that rage eventually made an appearance. BPD is so hard but knowing about it helps me understand much more about myself and move forward accordingly. ❤

This is f triggering. My father is a sociopath, spend his entire life tearing me down and it just never stops. I tried building a relationship with my brother, he absolutely destroyed it. I was unable to form bonds with my family members because of his paranoia, his need to be the center of attention and lack of ability to connect and therefore seeing authentic connection as somehow threatening. I have BPD traits and I am capable of love but I also live with a sense of emptiness that comes and goes and the fact that my father has created this life for me-I can't access my family unless its on his terms makes me full of rage and hatred for anyone who says they have npd. I just hope she is able to work on herself because these people are so damaging especially when they they choose to point the finger at others.

Hey girly

I hate that this is me