The Imposter Syndrome Paradox | Lisa and Richard Orbe'-Austin | TEDxDeerPark
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- Опубліковано 22 бер 2020
- Lisa and Richard describe the phenomenon known as the Impostor Syndrome where people have trouble internalizing their accomplishments and are in constant fear of being exposed as a fraud. The paradox is that people who have Impostor Syndrome are not frauds; they are high achievers, extremely competent, skilled and often very successful. Lisa and Richard offer tips for recognizing triggers and dealing with the Imposter Syndrome. Drs. Lisa and Richard Orbé-Austin are the husband and wife dynamic duo behind Dynamic Transitions Psychological Consulting, a career and executive coaching consultancy in NYC. Both Lisa and Richard are licensed psychologists and executive coaches who focus on leadership development, career advancement, job transitions, and diversity, equity and inclusion issues. Lisa earned her doctorate in Counseling Psychology from Columbia University, Teachers College, while Richard earned his PhD in Counseling Psychology from Fordham University’s Graduate School of Education. Dr. Lisa’s views are regularly sought by the media such as The New York Times, NBC News, Forbes, The Huffington Post, Refinery29, Business Insider, and Insight Into Diversity. Dr. Lisa’s book, Own Your Greatness: Overcome Impostor Syndrome, Beat Self-Doubt, and Succeed in Life (Ulysses Press, 2020) coauthored with her partner, Dr. Richard Orbé-Austin, will be released in April 2020. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
Repeat: when you work as hard for yourself as you do for others you will be unstoppable.
When you make yourself a commodity not just a want… but a need. I had a I value me! Work hard to value me…
Just thinking before I scrolled to comments (btw yours is the 1st one on my screen): 🤔 I will make a poster and hang it on the wall💯.
Start your own business
Yes Malcom bet untiv we discover this "imposter" we feel guilty helping others because we think we help ourselves...but the fact is win-win
I think a lot of us who end up with condition had very critical parents, who not only were hypercritical, they also told us that caring about ourselves is selfish. And selfishness is a deadly sin.
Oh, I so much agree. Here I am, impostor syndrome since a kid (they never realized it was serious and simply joked about how I shouldn't be insecure) and a people pleaser.
Great talk. Recognizing the fact that you are not valued is important. And anger is a powerful emotion and can fuel action.
Great TED Talk! Extremely relevant in a COVID age where many of us work remote and it’s difficult to set boundaries.
Thank you so much!!
I'm in absolute tears and awe hearing this helpful presentation! I heard every.single.word and it did something transformative in me. I learned that sometimes we don't take our own good advice when we need it most. Im a big cheerleader and encourager of other, but not to myself. I often felt a positive compliment given to me was given in pity, not bcs I deserved it. I work extra hard or not enough and have often fallen into that imposter syndrome not knowingly. I guess i just needed to hear this articulated in a way that doesn't shame the volunerable feeling it gives. I DO need to work harder on ME and healing ME...but in a healthy way where I'm not masking my shortcomings as being a failure or overcompesating with empty positive affirmations. So much to unlearn and relearn, but hearing this presentation so eloquently verbalized, I feel I have a clearer view of what what I've been struggling with these past few years. Thank you!! 🙏🏽
such a good ted talk. Cheers to all good managers that show appreciation for work done.
The best 12 minutes I’ve ever spent on UA-cam!!!!
Thank you! What a kind thing to say!! We appreciate it!
I've been with same company for 10 years, the pay is good but I'm undergrad and feel I don't deserve to work there. But it's a blessing to work there tbh
I needed to hear this. Everything resonated with me. Thank you 🙏🏾
Lisa and Richard are True professionals. I loved this Ted talk.
This is how I’m feeling right now. Thanks Lisa and Richard for putting words to how I’m feeling and a way out.
You are so welcome! Thank you for watching!
Excellent TED talk Lisa and Richard on a very important topic!
Thanks so much, Nathilee!
Very good information! Inspiring! Well done!
Thank you so much for this great talk! The combinstion of impostor syndrom and a toxic work environment ( PhD supervisor in my case) can be so hard and lead to depressionand more ... so thank you so much for speaking out about it !
Completely agree! There should be more protections in general, but definitely in academic environments where it is rife for exploitation.
Exactly!!!
Excellent talk on the imposter syndrome. What she says about how a work culture with excessive expectations can fuel the imposter syndrome fits very well with the phenomenon in medicine. Many doctors suffer from the imposter syndrome and the culture of healthcare can feed into it. Thank you Lisa and Richard!
Listening to this makes me feel like someone is retelling my story. Lisa's story is identical to mine!
The beauty of good storytelling
I’m Lisa too! I did my dissertation and got my doc degree 😢
Thank you for your talk🌹
I have this problem. Got my PhD in 2018 and it still feels strange to use my title.
You are worth it Dr Anayawa Nyambe! Yes Doctor !
Amazing! Currently dealing with this and this TED talk will help me make changes to my priorities and the way I perceive myself. Thank you Lisa and Richard
You are so welcome! Thank you for watching!
I’m glad I was able to find this after I watched the IG Live on the Switch Pivot or Quit podcast
Glad you found it, too! Hope you enjoyed it and found it useful!
Awesome Ted talk, thank you both!
Thank you so much!!
As we develop into adulthood ,there are tools that we will obtain from sources that provide support and guidance for the trajectory/ journey of life and death, for which is needed to assist in pivotal moments in needed times during your transition periods to knowledge and experience with understanding ones self, tools for life.
It is amazing how we as human just like one another but yet try everything we can to bring others down instead of building each other up. I can resonate & quit my job not because I did not love what I do but because I did not want to give others the power of saying how much I worth based on how unwilling they are to match up the paid to my ability until they willing to match all and then more until I serve them another offer. This is not how company should retain talents. I did felt the anxiety of making mistakes for leaving afterward. But eventually, it is the best decision I have taken to ...free ...me....
I can relate all too well to Lisa's story. I am just month's away from completing my MBA and I am having trouble with imposter syndrome for the 1st time in my life. 🤔
be super careful; I was expelled from mine after thinking I successfully graduated. It is hard to see mistakes and poor choices when prone to self sabotaging. It ruined me internally. Wish you the best!
oh oops, two years ago LOL! Hope things are well for you...
I have this thanks to my PhD supervisor! Never will be forgiven.
So interesting!
Excellent collaboration ❤
Great speech
Fantastic talk Lisa and my old NYU classmate Richard! Imposter Syndrome is insidious, especially amongst professionals of color. Another related issue, especially in grad school, is infantilization.
wow..this syndrome is effecting me for 25 years..
i struggle with this deeply hopefully i can learn to overcome it
awesome talk !I could relate 100%
Thank you!!
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Excellent presentation, thank you! I've seen it up close - how workplace culture breeds impostor syndrome. There's no room for psychological safety in the office, something we need to be fully productive.
This basically just said prioritize self care, value your work even if has mistakes & others don’t give you recognition. It doesn’t say HOW. HOW to change. What comes first? Is it environmental change? (You said you hit a bottom and with support from partner quit and got out of that toxic environment) behavioral change? Cognitive change? Affective change? Which behavior, environment, cognitive or affective changes should be addressed and which first? This is nice that you happened to find this shift for yourself, but a Ted talk I would hope would enlighten others to understand a pathway to those changes not just the end result.
All minds are connected through thought and resiliency with unrelenting strength from God, our lord, the creator of all that exist .
How can we fix it?
Sounds like her old boss was a Narcissistic.
how do get help I'm have the syndrome
The impostor has sabotaged the problem and made it even worse
where was it? Deer Park what?
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We are trending away from meritocracy. So, the likelihood is that you are, in fact, an imposter and not the best person for the job.
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Am I the only one wondering what that man does there? I mean, it's her story. Right? Mmm
He's a part of the story. They have a business together. He was a first hand recipient of her frustrations. He should infact be there😂
THAT is what we call a partnership
@@ozifirebrand be there? Definitely. He's essential. I just would've loved to listen to her more, that's all.
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