Imposter Syndrome: It's Not You, It's What Happened to You | Sheaba Chacko | TEDxChattanooga
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- Despite the recent outcry that says, “stop telling women they have imposter syndrome” Sheaba has found a Hidden Truth about imposter syndrome’s roots as she works through her own baggage and helps her clients resolve theirs.
Imposter syndrome is the byproduct of having to project “The Representative Self” approved of by society at the expense of rejecting “The True Self.” So instead of leaving a legacy, this duplicitous living lends to a litany of physical and mental health struggles.
Sheaba believes her personal experience with imposter syndrome may have a universal message for anyone who lives on the margins of mainstream life and has spent their lives trying to press in to what their culture defines as “normal”. Sheaba is a courageous leader who knows how to lead others with her own vulnerability. Always known to march to the beat of her own drum, Sheaba ejected herself from the typical South Indian career pathways of Engineering and Medicine to become a Licensed Professional Counselor. Despite the disapproval and stigma associated with mental health, especially in communities of color, she pressed on to open her private practice, Fearless Permission! This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I've been struggling with this feeling for quite a while that I have already identified as Impostor syndrome. However, I didn't know the complexity of its root, it makes all the sense in the world given my background as a firstborn who had to take care of my siblings so young. Now I'm wondering the relation between ADHD and Impostor syndrome since its similar patterns/traits. I'm so grateful to find her talk just in time. Thank you so much!
Exactly same story here! And also thought if the both connected - IS and ADHD… the main question is how to heal trauma?? Is it even possible?
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This was the BEST TED TALK I HAVE EVER listened to❤❤
Honest, insightful and deeply honest & revealing discussion or explanation of imposter syndrome. She gives a description of the mindset and thought process- in an easy unpretentious or common sense manner. Thank you!
I love the way she speaks! She's witty, grounded, informed, she's connected, she's a great story teller/sharer! Thank you- this is what I needed to hear. It's helping me understand myself better after today I was unexpectedly given a public accolade "shout out" on Facebook from my amazing church family with my face plastered on Facebook and instead of feeling instant excitement and gratitude.. I burst into tears sitting in my vehicle and begin crying like a baby because of overwhelming feeling of unworthiness.. and discouraging feelings of "why me!".
Then I found this video that helped me better understand myself.
Thank you- I've got work to do on myself 🙏🏾 💕
The best explanation and lesson I’ve heard on the subject. Bravo!!
She described me within the first 5 minutes of her talk!!! It's about to get real for me!
I’ve never felt so seen, thank you for explaining it this way
I LOVE how she talks...the best Ted speaker I've seen...no wonder she's a therapist 😍
One of the main insights of Zen is that there is a serious mismatch between human desire and the available world of people, places and things that are in a constant state of flux…Human desire is boundless and mistakes the transient world of people, places and things as the destination which are rest stops on the way to its true desire which is called many names but source will do for now.
THE WORLD IS NOT ENOUGH…James Bond Family Motto.🎭
The only people who like change is a wet baby.
Mark twain .👶
Brilliant talk, very thought provoking. Thank you.
So well done!
In some spiritual pathways sensing feeling like an imposter is a starting point to realizing the possibility of your true nature…Greeks called it the false persona required by society but not reality.🐇
Thank you so much for this. Where can I find more of Sheaba Chacko??
Nice
Love ❤️
It's what they did to me. Hack my accounts, laptop and devices, steal my identity, impersonate me, slander me, harass me, use others to compound the online abuse.
It means you have a gift they were trying to exploit. While others probably didn’t believe the extent of the intimidation tactics. I do this is the stuff Life Time movies are made of (horrifically unbelievable REAL events.) Whatever they tried to take exploit or quiet… is priceless use it and get vindication.
That was so awesome
"It's cloudy outside" is a lone wolfs favorite quote when dealing with imposter syndrome
You are so mposter
I can say only one thing, you don't know what you are talking about.
I have never daubted my abilities and my intellect never ever in my life.
I know what my invention is, I know the quality of my work which is superior.
I know what my grades were in elementary, high and university, I know that I learned two foreign languages after I have graduated, I know my logic and know my IQ, wherever I go I never doubt of my success, simply I am ok under my skin, never scared or having doubts, simply this is nonsense for me in this case Imposter Syndrome as you call it.
I advice you to read philosophy and religious books you will understand better the things.
You can as well write or make your own presentation to the world and tell the world that you are the best person, having the best grades and having the best self confidence. That would be awesome.
You will also have people who will relate with you. Not everyone has the same experience in life though. Different people have different experiences in their lives. So stop drawing the conclusion that she does not know what she is talking about.
What if I tell you that I identify with her and that you are the one who does not t know what you are talking about?
You’re a moron and a narcissist… go watch videos on those topics. Those will serve you better.
This was really great and refreshingly different and deeper than most other tacklers of this subject. What are the top resources you recommend in this vein?
What resources did she tell finally ?
Why does she spend the first 30 seconds whining it's super annoying. It makes me not even want to watch the video
One of the top TEDx talks I've watched. Really insightful.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 thank you SOOO MUCH! I just learned about Imposter Syndrome today and it freed me❤❤❤❤ thank you.
I needed to hear this today!!!
Same here ❤
Same ❤
Well said
I have battled with this for the last 32 years of my life. Going from one trauma to another, to another my entire life has f*cked so much up for me but now I am taking responsibility and taking back my power because the biggest thing I had to do was forgive myself for not knowing, doing or being better because, as you said several times, “I could only do the best with the knowledge I had at the time.” Thank you for an extremely informative talk and for raising awareness for others, just like us. ❤️
A colleague recommended me to look this up. Thank you for this insight. 🙏
She's amazing! What are her social media handles?
@poodles
...I was a kid and grown at the same time. I felt that.
8 minutes in and I have no idea what she's talking about
Thanks so much for this word !!!
Learned a lot!
condescending for such a misunderstood topic, try again
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Very helpful. Will bring this up to my therapist in the next session.
Thank you ❤
We are trending away from meritocracy. So, the likelihood is that you are, in fact, an imposter and not the best person for the job.
it’s not about “being the best” it’s about being competent at all.
Great presentation. Clear, interesting, honest and heartfelt. Tqvm.
Thank you for confirmation what I already suspected...most helpful Ted Talk I've seen in a while ✨️
I have to go because although I don’t know what I’m doing at work, my attendance and loyalty to the company is oh wait what was I talking about? 😢
Why does she talk like that? I feel like she's talking to children or she's having moments of being a robot. Why the spaces between words and why split single words up into their syllables constantly? Really hard to follow this talk with all the random stops in the middle of sentences and then saying some words really slowly and others split up.
Yup. Lost me
Yea me too. A therapist? I think I'd need to see a therapist after seeing her. Wtf?
Your part of the reason people have imposter syndrome the irony is actually comical
@@onyxins 💯
I think it’s just nerves. And some of it is simply her personality