Let's Talk: How To Protect Our Dance Scene From Predators on The Dance Floor - Dance With Rasa
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- Опубліковано 3 жов 2024
- Our dance community is a beautiful thing, and it is wonderful that we have the ability to go to any event around the world and be welcome to dance. However, predators and inappropriate behaviour has the potential to spoil this for everyone. But what can we do, when is it time to kick people out, and what is the role of teachers in organisers in keeping our community safe?
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Thank you Rasa to bring this important and great topic and make us feel more safe in dance floor!
Glad you find it useful 👍
What other scenes have ahead of us is that they have developed awareness concepts for their events. An awareness team is often a key aspect of this. Some people who have not yet dealt with the concept fear that it is a kind of self-appointed behavior police. But this is not the case. The team is the point of contact for critical situations in order to reflect on them and find solutions.
We have an awareness team in our local community and put up notices at our events. When dancers (especially women) from other cities visit us, they are amazed that we have an awareness concept. I would like to see it become standard practice at festivals and partys too.
I like that it's good to have a team people can turn to 😉.
In the standard partner position the follower puts her left hand on the back of the leader's shoulder.
If distance becomes too close she can move her hand to the front of the leader's shoulder and slightly push away. This is a silent but obvious signal to any leader unless he is drunk. When the follower feels that the signal is respected she can return her hand to the original position.
That's a very good advice 👍
Thank you for talking about this Rasa. The problem is when there are socials in clubs, you get all kinds of people including non-dancers on the dancefloor. I went to this one club and even though it was supposed to be a Latin social night, the dancefloor was like an overcrowded club with people dancing with their friends and couples grinding on each other.
The studio socials tend to be much better because you know that almost all the people there are there to social dance.
Absolutely, so of these things are trial by error. You have to pick a place you feel comfortable in 😉.
As a man. I have my girlfriend who is also in the community. And for me, what I find hard and I'm uneasy with is mostly in the Bachata scene. It is when followers dress too much over the top, leaving nothing to the imagination. I don't ask these followers to dance because I feel like it's innapropriate.
And I respect that so much ! If more men would feel the same way, we would have a more balanced situation 😉.
Great conversation Rasa. Maybe the organizer have a poster with a QR code on it by the DJ booth. The poster can say "Dance Safety - report inappropriate behaviour anonymously". This way, anyone feeling something inappropriate can scan the code and post a comment about what happened, and the organizers can keep an eye on that person or ask the person to leave. Maybe just having the poster will automatically promote better behaviour.
Actually thats not a bad idea 🤔
This is quite a good idea.
Thanks for highlighting this Rasa. Not enough teachers talk about this in classes. Even if the perpetrator doesn't do classes, those who do will know it is safe to speak up and/or walk away. From experience, many teachers and organisers don't want to act, and brush it off as 'a bit of fun' Only once they take it seriously will we see a real change on the dance floor. I like to think it is coming slowly, and videos and conversations like this are a good starting point 🙏💪👌
All we can do is play our part 💓.
Such an important video ❤ Thank you 🙏🏻
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I think this a a very valid video. Especially I love that you mentioned sometimes, the guys intention not being a "predator" just think this the correct way of some sensual moves. Only thing I'd like add, if somebody leading rough that also need to report to the organizer. We had a guy in heir community who was banned because he was too rough. If I'd be a follower I'd report the "arrogant preaching" leaders at social too. But you made a video about it.
If the guy is too rough I would talk to him, if he keeps doing it then yes other steps need to be taken 😉.
This video is mostly from the follower point of view, here's how I interpret it from a leader's point of view
*attend class to learn and to get vibe
*Even of you don't attend the class before the social, at least watch some of the class to get the vibe
*Some pairs you see on the floor at an event might already be in a relationship, don't take your lead from the most sensual dancers on the floor!
*just as there's a build up in the music and a dance, there's a build up in the night and in a dancing relationship. Start simple and leave your bigger moves for partners you've built an understanding with
TLDR: vibe check always
PS great videos as always
That's a fantastic comment 👏
@@realjanuary thank you 😊
I have a 3 strike rule. If they are small things, I give courtesy corrections with each strike. I give them the opportunity to control themselves. By that 3rd strike, I’m walking away. They already have been given enough warnings at that point. So, I don’t feel bad.
If they are full on gropers, I push them off and walk away instantly. It doesn’t take a class to tell you to respect someone. I’ve never experienced this behavior as much from dedicated dancers from the community. It has mainly happened in a dance club with casual dancers.
Most people are cool but I have learned not to waste time wondering if… They already know what they’re doing as men. If they don’t, that’s not my problem and they will instantly learn the hard way. We’re all adults. They know. Women are taught to tolerate and overlook. That’s how you end up in uncomfortable situations and losing respect for yourself. I keep my power. It is never surrendered or compromised.
Love that 🥰
I really wished I knew I can call the promoters about that lady being inappropriate back then!
Absolutely, now you know, and tell others 💓
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Of course we have all seen the videos by pros and pro couples. I hope most guys know not to emulate the stylistic elements of these dances. Clearly they are performed by couples, friends, fwbs etc. Most people i'm hoping would never immediately dance overly "sensual" with a stranger. I believe this to be common sense, but apparently not everyone does.
Exactly, common sense is not that common these days 🙄
Next step is getting some friends to dance sensual with comfortably.
Sensual is NOT sexual! Close embrace =\ sexual. But in the bachata scene it is interpreted differently selling sex is the main point.
Think Argentine Tango which is danced mainly in close embrace gracefully that is true sensual, not like dressing like a slut and body roll each others to dead and lick the camera …