I'm 45 now and I would go back in time and go for the things that I really wanted instead of what I thought was expected of me. I would put away me fears and go for what I wanted. I guess it's not too late 😊
I'm 67 and I would not get married. I'm very independent, did not want children, and would not be a traditional wife. I was married for 10 years. My husband did not want children either which is one of the reasons I married him. But in the end I think he really wanted a traditional wife that would kow tow to him and wait on him 24/7. So I tell all young people to have the conversation BEFORE they get married about what their future husband/wife expects from marriage. Talk about the hard stuff before you are living it.
Let that little girl go and do not marry her when i was 21 years old. Big learning process and now building up my second part of my life here on earth...
Trust only your ideas of what is right and true. Other people, no matter how much they think otherwise, do not understand your life and your goals. Don't listen to them. And keep your plans to yourself or they will try and shoot yours down if your plans don't agree with theirs....which is almost all the time. Just go about your business quietly. Be pleasant to the people around you. But don't give them anything to shoot at.
I’m 65. My financial advice is don’t spend money trying to keep up with others. Forget them and be frugal. And my most import advice is about personal relationships. Pay attention to red flags in people and walk away forever if you see red flags. Doesn’t matter if they are a blood family member, a friend, a spouse or life mate. No, I’m not suggesting walking away if someone is imperfect. We’re all human. But we all know what true red flags are. People don’t change. Love yourself enough to walk away from anyone who aren’t treating you as they should.
Out of all of them, the school teacher and the 80 year old women were the most “real” and seemed like they had genuine answers and understanding of life. The rest of them had NPC answers and they probably came from privilege and were clueless
I read that an astonishing 45 percent of pregnancies in the United States each year are unintended. So much for not taking on more responsibility than you want to take! 😅
I have one advice : Please surround yourself with good people. When you realise someone is expoloiting you emotionally, spiritually, financially cut them away does not matter who they are to you. Life is already really difficulty do not let people you surround yourself with become another warzone. If you do not find good people be alone. Involvement with wrong people willl ruin your peace,money,health and youth. Be brave enough to distance yourself and say no ,fight for your happiness and peace.
Your comment is the smartest of all. I wrote a similar comment but think I accidentally deleted it or it hasn’t posted yet for some reason. But you nailed it perfectly.
Sadly some people will only be good to get something and discard you letter. My advice do not take too much risk with people only give what you can afford to live with later. Use your time efforts and energy economically.
It’s important, but don’t let it be your only purpose in life is what they mean. Yeah things are tougher now for us younger people but it’s still key to find happiness in other things. I’m not blind to the fact that money does still help to some degree with that which is why we’re trynna make it out there
@@Noob-Luck-PH This is Manhattan in this video. When you see old people in NYC chilling, you can assume they are filthy rich. NYC is not an even remotely affordable city and to remain there in retirement, things have to be going REALLY well.
@@JesusisLordgh8jyou can't force anyone to believe in religion, mate😅 I personally don't believe in God or spiritual stuff. Most people in Japan are atheists. For me, we are just mammals with developed brain and turn to soil after death. I read the story and Christ seems like such a nice peace loving guy, though.
Exactly. Am guessing none of these individuals face today’s crushing housing costs. Their properties were paid off years if not decades ago. Of course it was partly due to the times they grew up in (far cheaper) and good decisions they likely made as professionals.
@@davestewart2067ppl in Africa, South America find happiness in poverty, we can all be happy, it’s we’re consumers and need things to be happy. That’s okay but we need to understand that
I’m 71 years old…never married, no kids… no big regrets…best thing I ever did was save and invest 20% of my gross income since I was 24 years old… I have good health and can travel and do anything I want now….
Oh my goodness, what a kindred spirit you are. I knew from the time I was old enough to know what marriage was that I would never do it. I came from a toxic, alcoholic, abusive home like so many others and I just knew I never wanted to be a part of something like that system ever again. I was terrified I would not be able to break the abuse cycle if I were to marry or if I were to have children so I chose neither and they are the two best decisions in my entire life as well as saving and saving and saving and investing and investing and investing. I’m just like you and so happy. Oh my goodness I feel such gratitude. It’s wonderful. ❤️
@@TopTopTopD43 here. Never married, no kids and a self made millionaire that travels the World. I still work too, but I couldn’t do all of that with extra stress and kids. So glad. Don’t care about when I’m older. These are my great years. My Golden Years and I will have done everything I wanted to do when I’m old.
“Invest into yourself” is the biggest gem I took from this! … you have to look out for you at the end of the day and realize no one is coming to save you or give you anything. You have to be passionate and consistent in whatever it is you’re pursuing. 🙏🏾
My dad just WhatsApp me mins ago and gave me some golden nuggets too, I thought I ll share. “Hi sweetie , always remember that grapes need to crushed to make wine , diamonds form under pressure , seeds grow in darkness . So whenever you feel crushed , under pressure or in darkness , you are in a powerful place for transformation and growth . trust the process .. Big hugs . Dad”
I'm just like that retired teacher sitting on that bench in the sense that I wholeheartedly believe that you shouldn't take on more responsibilities than you want to. Don't do stuff to keep up with others, or to please your parents, etc., but do what you want to do. Life is too short to live someone else's life.
I'm in my 50s. I'd tell my younger self to listen to her instincts if something felt wrong, and get the hell out 😅 I'd also say, never compromise who you truly are to keep a relationship going because you're scared of losing the other person. If you can't be yourself with them, they're not worth it.
I like the way the school teacher thinks. He seems like a very genuine and relaxed person. Keeping up with people is so pretentious and leads to more unhappiness
The advice about finding the right life partner and taking the time to really get to know each other before having kids is gold. It won’t guarantee that you will never get divorced, but it minimizes the chances.
Truth is find someone you love who has the discipline and honor to stay faithful to their commitments, it doesn’t take long if your really measuring actions.
Don't feel the need to have tons of friends. Appreciate Yourself. It is far easier than getting others to appreciate you! Be comfortable with yourself and your lifestyle (unless you are hurting others). Do not need the approval of others.
it's really not. You can care about a person, be there for them, provide a listening ear, but ultimately it's on them to work through their issues and become a better person @@rudeegruenberg9184
people wonder why america is so fucked up, it's the hyper individualized society masked in the language of self care like this, the un-nuanced absolutes of imbeciles
These are opinions based on an individuals life experience. The money issue is real for young people...we should not tell them "it's not important ". It is VERY important!! Please talk to people who are in their 70s who don't have enough.
The money issue is real for mostly every age group nowadays, not just young people. Money has always been an issue, no matter what decade you grew up in, especially for those in lower and middle classes.
I am 78 years old. My advice is to always be kind to everyone. You never know what a person is going through or has gone through. Above all love Jesus and live for Him.
I retired at 57, 6+ years ago. A key message I would communicate to others is don't delay retirement if you have the financial wherewithal to do so. Too often I have seen many people delay retirement and then experience health issues which constrain the very things they wanted to do post-retirement. Moreover, the most significant benefit of retirement for me is that I no longer have to deal with people I do not want to. That has proved to be the ultimate blessing.
@@christaylor8337 No reason to leave it then. If one is happy doing what they are doing, more power to them. I just have seen too many people hang on too long and not enjoy the fruits of their efforts. Wishing you and your family all the best.
This is excellent advice! And I'm going to take it a step further. Don't wait until retirement to do the fun or epic stuff you always wanted to do. You might encounter financial hardships later on, or have to deal with inevitable physical and health setbacks. You're better off hiking in the hinterlands of the Yukon in your 40's or 50's when your knees can still handle it and have the funds to cover it. Take that trip to Svalbard, The Torngats, or Jasper now. Don't put it off.
You are so lucky that you are healthy and can enjoy life I'm 71 too, born in 1953. Just don't let the curse of cancer strike you and puts you out of everything in your life. So, don't take life for granted. I didn't when I was diagnosed with Stage 2 HER2 positive breast Cancer in March 2023😢 I'm a fighter and survivor !!!
As a single man in my 30’s; I look at the teacher and married guy giving out all this wisdom. Makes me feel that whichever way I go, I’ll probably still be ok. That goes for everyone in the single boat contemplating which direction to go. If you find yourself wanting a family and partner and can’t find one to want to be with you; it’s not the end of the world. Some of us are destined to be alone, that’s ok.
and you are better alone than with someone that makes your life miserable. All the married persons when they are unhappy look at single men and women with envy
@Adam-go8oz I used to go out allot and when I did I had dates, many rejections. Online dating was the same but that turned to crap two years ago. Now that I go to the gym and home, do nothing; I have no dates. Very few will like you at the gym and are probably partnered and are afraid to talk to you if they find you attractive. Single ones have their options too I suppose. Allot of people link up on instagram but I find social media superficial and depressing. You could try hinge and bumble. Because you can delete it anytime you want, not be asked why you got off it unlike socials. Good luck.
Be the person you want to marry. Personal growth and ? may be needed. Would you care to marry you? What improvements would you make? The traits you are looking for in a person and the person will be easier to find it you exhibit the same.
I'm 76, so I would like to add my own 2 cents. First of all, I would tell my younger self not to be afraid to try and fail. And try again. And fail again. Because you will eventually succeed. I went bankrupt at 57 ! How is that any better than if I'd tried my wild ideas for 35 years???! Eh? It's not! Try. Work hard. Believe in yourself, but don't hesitate to change. Follow your bliss. At least then you'll enjoy the journey.
My two cents as a recent 60 year old retiree. Pursue your interests with passion and enjoy the process. While you do that, be your best, be kind, laugh often, and simply be yourself. Don't look to others for validation.
The wise words of the old man sitting next to the reporter saying:"there are no guarantees. to make good money. Even if you do a job that is your passion". That one hits home.
@@lukem2260 These days "Be cruel to be kind" is called setting and enforcing boundaries. There's a big difference between being kind and being a doormat.
We regret what we did not do in terms of being kind or helping others. You do not regret the kindness you have done. Remember to do more to help others as it seems to benefit self in long run.
“Never underestimate your power to change yourself. Never OVERestimate your power to change someone else.” That quote changed my life! Live the life YOU want to live…only YOU live with your own regret.
Dont miss any opportunity. Don't hurt people that you love. Don't hurt people that loves you. Stop over thinking. Take actions. Get over things as quickly as possible. Stop watering dead flowers.
My one piece of advice: It doesn't matter what you do for an income/career, but, since you have only one life that means you have only one shot, so do what you love, what makes you happy; follow your dreams. Never, ever sacrifice your dreams for anyone. That means, if the people around you that are trying to run with you can't keep up, don't slow down for them because all they'll do, either consciously or subconsciously, intentionally or unintentionally, they are going to slow you down and make you run at their pace, which will make you appear to be just like them. And then, all of your extra capability, all of your excellence, all of your faster running speed isn't visible to people anymore, and your extra capabilities won't matter anymore. You won't be excellent or high speed because you just made yourself just as slow as the group. Don't do that. Run on. Run on, so you can find the group that you can run with at your speed. And, in the group that you find that you can run with, you'll discover the right person to share your life with. And, IMHO, don't ever get married. You don't need marriage to live a happy life. But, commonsense practicality dictates that you absolutely need a good [enough] income and a good [enough] lifestyle to be happy, be it alone or with someone, married or unmarried. Loneliness and regret is a luxury when compared to being cold, hungry, and displaced.
Being married can be wonderful and children are a gift from God and ease the aches of old age. Don't miss the best part of life due to a poster being bitter that it did not turn out. Many love their children and the children love them. Many a husband or wife cannot go on without their spouse and die within a year or two of heartbreak. Grandchildren are wonderful. Don't miss it. God wants children to be brought in the world by marriage of two people committed to a family for a lifetime is the plan.
Such great advice. I look back and wish i had more self confidence within me, more with my personal life. I married the wrong person, i cared too much about what other people thought, and lived trying to please other people and not myself.
I'm 72. You must chase money like your life depends on it in your 20s & 30s. Then take it easy 40 onwards. I worked like a dog and at 40, I dropped down to 2.5 days a week and spent the rest of time on my boat with my wife.
Every relationship has an expiration date whether you want or not, and yes, even family. I love my family and friends, but Being independent and strong is #1 goal of my life.🙏
As someone of 65 I would say Stay on your Own. All your life . Mostly people are No good.Help others a lot , but keep a huge Distance . Get a Dulux Dog .
I'm younger than you and not in total agreement. You can't build a great institution( be it a private corporation or a thriving county, state, or country) in isolation. You need to learn to engage others, manage conflicts, accept people with dichotomy of views, manage the villains, embrace and celebrate the virtuous, etc....Staying totally on your own is not remotely realistic.
@@Tirelesswarrior Correct. The thing most people do is by 30s they find a mate and settle down and buy a house and have a few children and a dog and a cat. Then the next 30 years are living the family life. Not a bad life. Teaching the kid to fish. Singing around the Christmas tree with the kids and relatives. Getting the boy his first dog. Holding your daughter for the first time and then watching her graduate in her cap and gown. Can be great times.
This is one of the best videos of this type that I've seen - No obnoxious and intrusive interviewing and the nuggets dropped by everybody (especially the retired teacher), was just *MWAH! *chef's kiss* 👌
I'm 50. I was married to my ex husband for over 10 years. I left him February 23, 2017. Being a happily divorced person I would tell myself to NEVER get married(this advice is to myself; not anyone else). No matter what you think marriage is gonna be it's not gonna be that. We(women) were sold & told a lie from the Cinderella story. We were told we'd meet a man, fall in love & live happily ever after. Most of the time there is no happily ever after & marrying the wrong person can be detrimental to your health & finances.
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I agree 100% with the 'don't get married' advice. I was married 32 years, and when I think back on it, I'm always reminded of the song "Cold Rain and Snow" performed by the Grateful Dead, which starts with the lyrics, "Well I married me a wife, she's been trouble all my life..."
My first 5 years was ok with some hiccups. It took until year 10 to realize that it’s time to position myself for separation. The woman grew cold and negative after our time together and two kids.
I feel the golden key 🗝️ similar to unlocking the journey to success, similar to being like saint Peter where your life is that infinite space of joy is to stay SINGLE. Noting else is more important in my opinion.
The person you once knew is no long the same after 5 years. This is when you regret the signing that contract it's similar to the noose around the neck with it getting tighter as time goes by.
I would tell my younger self one of the same pieces of advice that one of the interviewed said, and that is to not worry so much about things. I'm 52 and I think back to worrying about situations that never occurred or really weren't that big of a deal
Getting married was my biggest mistake. Edit: For those who claim this is a troll. Both of us were not mature enough to marry. It was not love but infatuation that drew us. If I had to do it again, I would definitely wait till I was sure I was ready.
I just turned 70. 1) Don't get married. Rent it (sex) if need be. 2) Don't collect things. 3) Collect experiences. 4) Hold your friends close, but don't grieve too long when they die, and they will.
I think all your advice is spot on expect one, renting. If you compare the cost of a mortgage 20 years ago to today’s rental prices, you realize that it is the one thing that makes sense to buy. A home, even if it is just for you.
Experience in life are the 3 F's & 5 S's 3 F's If it floats (boat)flies (plane), fo*ks (hoe) just rent it, never buy it .... 5 big S's are found in the gym Steam Sauna Shit Shave Shower 😂
The guy is right about finding the right partner. I should have listened to my parents they could see what I couldn't, that we weren't suited, hence we divorced. It caused them a lot of undue suffering, and made my life very difficult. I can never forgive myself for what they were put through towards the end of their days. All because I was pig headed not to listen and thinking I knew better.
When adult children dismiss their parents opinion they likely are missing out. If you have 2 parents who are 50 years old - that is 100 years of life experience between the two of them! They don’t usually make suggestions because they ‘don’t have a life’ or because want to ‘control’ you - they just have seen many things over many decades, they have insights that come with time, they love you and want the best for you. More often than not, you’d save yourself a heck of a lot of trouble if you would heed their advice. You could save yourself some serious regrets. 💕
Advice from parents is not always good. My issue with my parents' advice is that it mixes actual personal wisdom with a lot of religious superstition, and it's not always easy to evaluate the quality of their advice because of that. I'm an atheist myself, and while I believe religion encapsulates a lot of centuries worth of wisdom, I also think it has many outdated ideas and superstitions that are not suited for our time.
Funny I’m in an opposite situation. My dad gave the WORST advice to me and my sister. Both of us would be happier and in better positions if we hadn’t listened to him and if we did what we wanted. Now I’m rebuilding my life at 34z
Yes you can forgive yourself, you had no control whatsoever over any of your decisions, you didnt choose your parents, you didnt choose your gender, you didnt choose your genes, you didnt choose where you grew up. If you want a better explanation watch a youtube of sam harris explaining how we have no free will
Nobody can ever know how life will turn out and what will happen. It just so happened your parents were right, but being yourself and following your gut or wants is also part of life and part of being you. I like to learn from things that didn't go well and try not to repeat bad mistakes that hurt me rather than waste any time sitting with regret.
My best decision was being open to the prospect of always being single. The older I got, the more I knew that I was on the right path. Here I am at 72, comfortable, healthy and I live my life doing what brings me pleasure and fulfillment. I wouldn't change a thing and certainly no regrets.
I relate to the teacher guy so much. He is a true role model❤ What he said about addiction is very true. If you want a peaceful life, don't start any harmful addictions, like drugs, smoking or drinking and so on. There are some relatively harmeless addictions that you can have temporarily to cope with stress, especially in your twenties, when there is a ton of stress that society puts on you
“Finding the right partner” hit home with me. That’s a hard one until you get years under your belt with them. I was very young & I thought I found someone who was going to be successful & a good provider which was very important to me since my father was the very opposite. I always worked & never had a problem keeping a job. All went well for about 2 years & found he struggled to keep a job more than a year or two. Time went on & it improved to maybe 5-7 years tops. Thought it was always the companies he chose to work for but over the years found it was him making stupid mistakes. Was in my late 30’s & for the first time in my life I asked myself “what is wrong with him?” But I kept being supportive until he had an affair. I’m 70 now & I vote to never get married. Rely on yourself & have friends. 😊
Damn, I'm sorry to hear that you went through all of that. I hope you're doing much better now after that experience. Solid advice and some authentic experience right here.
I was just reading about the "myth of the male provider". It seems it has always been hogwash. Women used to be able to "garnish" a man's wages (maybe I got the word wrong) because otherwise he would drink all the money away on payday. Men provide for themselves. My dad used to eat his lunch at a fancy restaurant every day as we had very little food at home. He had a company car and his own golf membership. The rest of the family were second class. Then he lost the house to the bank. Staying single in the best advise. Boyfriends are great. Also get a dog.
Sick of him to do. He wasted a rare opportunity with a good woman. I wish there were more younger women like you. Our current society is filled with crazy/lazy men and women.
"Never get married" isn't bad advice. I don't regret doing it because my daughter came out of it, but marriage to the wrong person can definitely be hell.
@@Elizabeth-yg2mg I totally agree. Being a recording artist, it is hard to find time to be in any kind of relationship that isn't a friendship. Fortunately, I have a few solid men friends, some of whom were lovers at one point. I hope you find a good companion yourself.
It's good advice. If you want to try marriage, marry young and get divorced early before you buy a house and have kids. That's when the pain starts, trying to keep those and not suffer during the breakup is the difficulty.
@@Spiritof_76 I agree. My daughter was four at the time of my divorce. She doesn't remember a thing, but her father continued to be a "problem child" until he died when she was seventeen. If you have kids, the divorce is never final, if you get my drift, which is why your advice is good. On the other hand, there are some really wonderful marriages out there that really do work. Those people are lucky. I just keep getting my music out there for others to enjoy. Being single can be very gratifying. Thanks and take care.
I appreciate that you showed diverse perspectives instead of just a typical "follow your passion" message - passion is important and good if you have it, but as mentioned in the video, it's not a guarantee that you will make it big by following it, and some people never find a true passion. There are people who end up doing something they don't particularly love, but it pays the bills and allows them to live comfortably and securely, and there are people who will take risks to chase a dream and either make it big or fail. Both are valid forms of fulfillment. I also like that we were able to hear from someone who stayed single and happy as well as those who are happily married. Thanks for sharing these messages with the world!
Nothing is permanent learn to flow in and out of experiences, as nothing lasts forever....with that knowledge priorities the love of a fluid changeable lifestyle
Nothing is indeed permanent! I learned that the hard way when it came to finding jobs and just work in general. That's why you need to be able to pivot!
What I’ve learned through the death of my Mom and sister is that you need to live for today, follow your dreams, work to live don’t live to work. Buy the pony, eat the occasional dessert, exercise, live well. Remember that your job will post a job opening the moment after you are no longer there, they are not family no natter how many times they say they are family. Always be able to financially take care of your own bills, don’t ever rely on someone else for that, my father’s death (at 12) was an eye opener for that. Don’t say you will travel in retirement, you may not be heathy enough to do that.
Use your tax refund every year to take a two week vacation. Hawaii, California, NYC, Rome, ...at the end of 24 years will have been 24 places in world always wanted to go. Then make a vacation fun also and use it for a one week mini vacation every year. Go 24 places in 24 years. Throw in a few extra trips and in 25 years will have been over 50 places in the world while you were young enough to enjoy it with your spouse and kids before they are all grown and you are old and not as active. Saving that money all those years will give you a big nest egg, but now is too late. They are all grown and you are not young. Don't let life and adventure pass you by because all you could think about was money piling up in the bank for old age.
Yeah. I agree with you. Life for me has been so very hard. I think the wrong people got interviewed. Let’s hear from so folks who have known catastrophic loss and survived.
I am maybe, if I am lucky, about halfway through my life (38) - The first 22yrs were full of pain, trauma, suffering, neglect and utter hopelessness. The second half of my life has brought me the joy of raising 2 kids, and experiencing love, something I was not lucky enough to experience before they came along. Unfortunately, the past 7yrs have been full of sadness and pain, because, the first 22yrs came crashing down and, the body does keep score. My body has begun failing me, my nervous system is spent. I both simultaneously fear death, yet am tired of living. I don’t want to die, but sometimes I truly feel like I can’t live much longer. I do have 2 sons who are in their teens now, and I will remain alive so long as I am blessed to, for the sake of them. But life for me, has been hard. Lonely, full of pain, full of sadness, and if I am honest I envy people who seem to find living so much easier.
I'm 73 and that is what I would say: DONT GET MARRIED!!!!! DO IT ALL FOR YOU, MAKE SURE YOU ARE HAPPY, ONLY DO WHAT YOU WANT, ONLY SPEND WHAT YOU WANT, YOU, YOU YOU!!!
We often care others what they want us to be. Several years I had experienced painful things who my sibling died of accident.He kicked off at his twenties.I was almost mad ,couldn’t sleep overnight for 3years.Eventually I got over this painfulness.I figure out Life is short, keep a peaceful life.Walk away from bad people. Keep you positive attitudes.I hope your guys are ok always.
Follow your own star, not what society tries to dictate to you and don't be a people pleaser. Follow your own calling, your own bliss. Only you can find out who YOU really are...
Some Do’s & Don’ts Don’t depend on the opinions of others, or let them compromise your dreams or passion. Don’t be afraid to fail or take chances if it feels right to you. Don’t get lost in your regrets. Don’t quit or give up when the going gets tough. Don’t only be motivated by money. Don’t forget to treat others as you would expect to be treated. Do have Gratitude each day. Do find a balance in your life. Do always try to help others along the way. Do value your relationships. Do have a plan and foster discipline. Do forgive others & yourself. Do be sure to take timeout, to appreciate all the wonders of life around you.
Develop the skills that will allow you to spend more time on what makes you happy. For 20 years, I have spent $5K-10K every year on becoming more valuable to the marketplace. I'm 43, single, never-married, no kids. I play golf everyday for 12 years. Don't get married until you've earned and saved 100K. Stay debt-free. Show up on time and show up everyday. Consistency and stick-to-itiveness is the key to success.
@@freecreator6426 The most important piece of information here is to build your skill set so that the market will pay you 100K. A person can build a skill set that will garner 100K and more in 3-5 years. Sales, electrician, welders, plumber, accounting, etc.
Don't miss out on kids when you are still young enough to do things with them. Kids that you invest in with time, love, attention, and doing things together will be there for you in most cases till the end if do not become a hard bitter old person.
Family is important, make your family (including extended family) your priority. Be kind, helpful, positive, and sincere to everyone. Save money, two pennies today will be more valuable in 40 years if you save it the right way. Be a conscientious citizen and do good things in your community.
Exactly that… money is very important, especially when you fall ill or lose your job or are unable to work. Sorry but that is the reality, no money will land you under a bridge somewhere as a homeless person
Take risks. My best friend died when she was 20 from brain cancer. My favourite uncle died when he was 45 of a drugs overdose. My grandmother died when she was 91 despite all night long, drinking and dancing, and partying into her late 80's. There are no guarantees. You could be dead tomorrow. A friend of mine just died at 30 from a brain tumor. Have fun. Go shopping. Wear the crazy shoes and dress how you want. Just don't have kids if you don't want them. Don't get married unless you really like (not simply love) your partner. You only have to please yourself.
Great clip! love hearing people in 60s-70s. As a 48y old dad, don't rush into relationships. don't put a timeline on how a relationship should progress. Let it play out.
That's the sudden new trend, promoting rejection and loneliness based on bitterness. You are so banal nowadays. You were never in control of your life and your current feelings and as much enslaved than the previous ones. You are not a free person. You just follow the trends.
Please, take good care of yourselves. I'm 74 years old but I feel so young and alive. Now my priority is the well-being of my dog Missy and myself. I throw out more and more stuff. Just stuff. And enjoy the little things. Take care of yourself cause nobody else will. If you have one real friend you're lucky. I can do anything and don't have to do anything. I love the simple life with my dog, my garden and my sweet neighbors. If you know what you want: children, business, marriage, being independent. Don't compare yourself with others. Do it your way. I always treat people the way I want to be treated. No expectations.
I'm favoured, Getting my own Truck has always been my Dream for my business. I just acquired 2 recently, earning $32K weekly has been really helpful. I can now give back to the locals in my community and also support Charity Organizations.
Wow.. I know her too she is a licensed broker and a FINRA agent she is popular in US and Canada she is really amazing woman with good skills and experience
The common denominator is that money is not important as long as you have enough. Do what you want to do. Take chances. Be yourself and be happy. I love it.
Am 38 , never married and no children. Listening to this makes me realize that am normal, i don't have to get married because everyone my age is. When i look back, am so super sure imade the right choice being true to myself. Will meet the right partner
Personal choice.I was married once,it didn't work out,we both got married for the wrong reasons. But,once I was outta the marriage I got to do the things I REALLY wanted to do.Like-volunteer to go fight in Iraq with the Texas Guard in mid-2004-and all of 2005-at Camp TQ.I was with an infantry unit and did joint missions with the marines,I volunteered to do 4 deployments total,also did 2 tours back-to-back. Arrested and detained countless Iraqee citizens and insurgents,did countless raids,had some fire-fights lasting 3/4 hrs,etc,etc,..I was bored working 2 full time jobs ( did this for 10 months )wanted a challenge with high risks and danger.So,I offered my services to the guard ( I was already in the Texas Guard ) so,off to Iraq I went. LOL. Just the risky job I needed. I have no kids and never really wanted any of my own. LOL. SEMPER-FI
@@kerry-j4m Great story man, have you thought of taking a bigger challenge: fighting Russia in Ukraine as opposed to skinny men without shoes heading goats?
I was married for 25 years. I raised a step son....that was hell. I had three natural children, they are fantastic. We divorced....best thing I ever did. She was diagnosed BiPolar later which answered a lot of questions. All those years I thought it was me. I have a great relationship with my natural kids, the narcissistic step son is completely out of my life, thank God! In hindsight, I would have never gotten married but would have adopted children being single. Stay single, live below your means, invest from day one (Read Rich Dad Poor Dad and follow Warren Buffett) in strong companies and keep them forever. Keep building your portfolio and NEVER cash it in. Have an emergency fund of at least 2K and grow it to 10K and you will never have credit card debt if you choose not to. STAY OUT OF DEBT!!! If you start your own business, do it yourself. Partnerships are worse than marriages in most instances. If you start a business with your wife, remember that if you get divorced you are stuck with each other because of the business. The last one is probably the worst scenario in my opinion!
Test your willpower early in life. What you can't commit to and see to the finish will show you what you are made of.. Don't give up so easily. Test your will power early by setting small and then bigger goals.
I'm 67 years old. I retired when I was 59. I don't worry about money anymore because I worked my butt off to make sure I had enough of it for retirement! It's a trade-off. It's great to have dreams, but sometimes you have to face reality and do what you have to do to ensure some level of financial stability. I worked my butt off as an emergency medicine RN, exposing myself to things I wish I never had to see or deal with. But food and shelter are more important than dreams Chase your dreams, but chase them only after you have worked to secure yourself some level of stability. You don't want to be dreaming about where you are going to find your next meal. ❤😮
To Young People: Don’t give your time to people that don’t give YOU anytime to listen. Don’t always be quick to give advice to young people. Listen to them. Just because you’re old it doesn’t necessarily make you wise. Whatever it is you think about in a daily basis. That’s your PATH follow that one. If you make it, ‘Whatever that means’, always remember you will have Joyful days and not so Joyful, and that’s okay. The People you see although they are no longer Young with a glow and sparkle in their eyes; those are the ones that listened to their little voice and not someone else’s voice.
As a fresh 24 yo, I’m kind of surprised how much of this has already been drilled into my mind by either my upbringing or being an introvert who reflects a lot
My 80 year old FIL was happily married 42 years. His wife and he married in their 40s when they were wise enough. His wish was also for his son to marry a good woman. When he met me, my FIL gushed over me esp because he saw how happy his son was before even meeting me. He was wealthy, came from a wealthy family too and worked for his own wealth. He lived a peaceful life too, loved hiking in the mountains with his family. He took on responsibilities he could and married a working woman with the same goals as him. I’ll take all my life advice from them.
One thing I learned is spend money on experiences and not on nice things an item loose value once you buy it but a experience will give you a memory that you can always reach back for to get you through hard times my auntie use to say boy i get chills of joy thinking of all the things I use to do
Snowsking, waterskiing, scuba diving, bull riding, camping, island hopping, cruises, Sports cars, wilderness camping, Alaska Trek..........you have to plan and go do these things to actually have them happen to you.
I'm 37 and my biggest regret is having kids young and getting married. My advice is after high school focus on yourself, while setting goals. Reach those goals whatever they may be and then think about a family. Also, don't get married without a prenuptial agreement.
And then it will never happen. You will spend your money for the rest of your life buying emotions from strangers. It is really sad to regret to have had kids. Seriously pick yourself up and go talk to your kids.
@yuw777 I have some, I worked so much that I really wasn't around and could do much for them at the time. I wish I could have had them at this age, now that I'm more stable in life. I could do more for them and have more vacations.
What is one piece of advice that YOU would give to your younger self? 💭
Invest more time, love, and recreation on yourself than those around you.
I'm 45 now and I would go back in time and go for the things that I really wanted instead of what I thought was expected of me. I would put away me fears and go for what I wanted. I guess it's not too late 😊
I'm 67 and I would not get married. I'm very independent, did not want children, and would not be a traditional wife. I was married for 10 years. My husband did not want children either which is one of the reasons I married him. But in the end I think he really wanted a traditional wife that would kow tow to him and wait on him 24/7. So I tell all young people to have the conversation BEFORE they get married about what their future husband/wife expects from marriage. Talk about the hard stuff before you are living it.
Let that little girl go and do not marry her when i was 21 years old.
Big learning process and now building up my second part of my life here on earth...
Trust only your ideas of what is right and true. Other people, no matter how much they think otherwise, do not understand your life and your goals. Don't listen to them. And keep your plans to yourself or they will try and shoot yours down if your plans don't agree with theirs....which is almost all the time. Just go about your business quietly. Be pleasant to the people around you. But don't give them anything to shoot at.
I’m 65. My financial advice is don’t spend money trying to keep up with others. Forget them and be frugal. And my most import advice is about personal relationships. Pay attention to red flags in people and walk away forever if you see red flags. Doesn’t matter if they are a blood family member, a friend, a spouse or life mate. No, I’m not suggesting walking away if someone is imperfect. We’re all human. But we all know what true red flags are. People don’t change. Love yourself enough to walk away from anyone who aren’t treating you as they should.
@FP65 your advice is spot on. Spotting red flags in relationships is so important.
Agreed. At 67 I say be frugal and be ready to walk away.
But the Jones just got a new Mercedes.
Thank You for this life changing advice.
Your message ,like this video is golden all we have to do is put it to practice 🙏
Yes I have finally got away from a toxic girl who had an unhappy childhood but won't admit she needs counciling
The single guy says he didn’t have kids but lord knows how many kids he impacted as a teacher with his compassion. Great advice from them all ❤
See "Goodbye, Mr. Chips."
Its true he had his own kids in the classroom. He didn't need more at home
Facts. I didn’t think of that. He probably knows more kids than most people who had kids.
Could he been a woman? I thought it was a woman.
Out of all of them, the school teacher and the 80 year old women were the most “real” and seemed like they had genuine answers and understanding of life. The rest of them had NPC answers and they probably came from privilege and were clueless
Don't take more responsibility than you want to take. Keep life simple!
I read that an astonishing 45 percent of pregnancies in the United States each year are unintended.
So much for not taking on more responsibility than you want to take! 😅
@@audreymay9378or how about taking on massive hospital debt for not wanting to die, or all those student debts 😂
I see this all the time with couples keep having kids they can’t afford. Or single men and women keep having kids with multiple partners.
Intelligent man.
YES..in other words, "Keep it simple stupid", Lol
I have one advice :
Please surround yourself with good people. When you realise someone is expoloiting you emotionally, spiritually, financially cut them away does not matter who they are to you. Life is already really difficulty do not let people you surround yourself with become another warzone. If you do not find good people be alone. Involvement with wrong people willl ruin your peace,money,health and youth. Be brave enough to distance yourself and say no ,fight for your happiness and peace.
Your comment is the smartest of all. I wrote a similar comment but think I accidentally deleted it or it hasn’t posted yet for some reason. But you nailed it perfectly.
Couldn’t agree more 👍👍👍.
Best comment so far.
Sadly some people will only be good to get something and discard you letter. My advice do not take too much risk with people only give what you can afford to live with later. Use your time efforts and energy economically.
Yeah...but loneliness (or being alone and not having a friend) is the worst torture one can allow to him/herself.
Mentally not healthy...
It's easy to say "money's not important"...when you have money. Money is VERY important. It gives you power, freedom, options.
Of course they are retirees with pension.
It’s important, but don’t let it be your only purpose in life is what they mean. Yeah things are tougher now for us younger people but it’s still key to find happiness in other things. I’m not blind to the fact that money does still help to some degree with that which is why we’re trynna make it out there
Yes yes yes.
@@Noob-Luck-PH This is Manhattan in this video. When you see old people in NYC chilling, you can assume they are filthy rich. NYC is not an even remotely affordable city and to remain there in retirement, things have to be going REALLY well.
"enough" money is important.
Don’t depend on others for security/happiness. Be happy and secure in your own company
JESUS CHRIST IS THE ANSWER TO LIFE
@@JesusisLordgh8jyou can't force anyone to believe in religion, mate😅 I personally don't believe in God or spiritual stuff. Most people in Japan are atheists. For me, we are just mammals with developed brain and turn to soil after death. I read the story and Christ seems like such a nice peace loving guy, though.
yeah, snort coke
I feel that nothing else can be more rewarding but this however need a bit of taming of the mind which is possible.
Thank you for your advice 🙂
Love yourself is more important !
Money doesn’t buy happiness but it removes life taking stress and gives you security and the option to create happiness
Exactly. Am guessing none of these individuals face today’s crushing housing costs. Their properties were paid off years if not decades ago. Of course it was partly due to the times they grew up in (far cheaper) and good decisions they likely made as professionals.
yeah well, "creating happiness" is the thing people don't know about, cocaine gives happiness for example, are you going to snort it all the time?
Enough money can and does buy happiness no limit yours is your limit
Even with money there are many stresses that it cant protect against like bad relationships (romantic, family, friends) or health problems
@@davestewart2067ppl in Africa, South America find happiness in poverty, we can all be happy, it’s we’re consumers and need things to be happy. That’s okay but we need to understand that
I agree 100% with the guy who said don't make self-destructive decisions. Lots of people do, especially when they are young, and it is disastrous!
I′ve been seing that shit everyday. People don′t think about the future
Yes, don't get anyone's name tattooed, let alone a couple 😑 it is ten times more expensive and painful to remove the tattoo than to do it.
Are you really choosing to make self destructive decisions? Can you really make good decisions if you are raised by wolves?
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I’m 71 years old…never married, no kids… no big regrets…best thing I ever did was save and invest 20% of my gross income since I was 24 years old… I have good health and can travel and do anything I want now….
Good for you 👍👏.
What did you invest in?
Oh my goodness, what a kindred spirit you are. I knew from the time I was old enough to know what marriage was that I would never do it. I came from a toxic, alcoholic, abusive home like so many others and I just knew I never wanted to be a part of something like that system ever again. I was terrified I would not be able to break the abuse cycle if I were to marry or if I were to have children so I chose neither and they are the two best decisions in my entire life as well as saving and saving and saving and investing and investing and investing. I’m just like you and so happy. Oh my goodness I feel such gratitude. It’s wonderful. ❤️
No regrets? No kids, grand kids to take care of you when older? BTW, I am in same position just wanted others feedback...
@@TopTopTopD43 here. Never married, no kids and a self made millionaire that travels the World. I still work too, but I couldn’t do all of that with extra stress and kids. So glad. Don’t care about when I’m older. These are my great years. My Golden Years and I will have done everything I wanted to do when I’m old.
That Pennsylvania Dutch proverb is right: "We grow old too soon and wise too late".
These people are living proof of it.
BANG! 💥
At 52 I agree time goes so quickly - worry less laugh more ❤
“Invest into yourself” is the biggest gem I took from this! … you have to look out for you at the end of the day and realize no one is coming to save you or give you anything. You have to be passionate and consistent in whatever it is you’re pursuing. 🙏🏾
Where the heck do they sell that passionate juice? I need me some passion
Invest in a good needed by society career. Take good care of teeth. Wear hat in sun even when young to keep skin younger.
Therefore:
1. Follow your dreams
2. Keep Life Simple
3. Respect & Be Kind to yourself
Use Birth Control
and dont get married
@@naren9201that should be number one
What if you dont have dreams? 🤔
@@Wuwei72-o5nget married and then you will have dreams of being happy and free again 😂😂😂
My dad just WhatsApp me mins ago and gave me some golden nuggets too, I thought I ll share.
“Hi sweetie , always remember that grapes need to crushed to make wine , diamonds form under pressure , seeds grow in darkness . So whenever you feel crushed , under pressure or in darkness , you are in a powerful place for transformation and growth . trust the process .. Big hugs . Dad”
Seeds grow in darkness?
Interesting. Cheers.
@@ianerickson2210yup. They germinate under the soil.
Amen
Awww this is great! Thank you for sharing! ❤
@@skygaz3r pleasure is mine my YT friend ;)
I'm just like that retired teacher sitting on that bench in the sense that I wholeheartedly believe that you shouldn't take on more responsibilities than you want to. Don't do stuff to keep up with others, or to please your parents, etc., but do what you want to do. Life is too short to live someone else's life.
Literally
"i want you to love me but i don't need you to love me." that's so beautiful
Immature love says: “I love you because I need you.” Mature love says: “I need you because I love you.”” Erich Fromm
That's so sad!
I'm in my 50s. I'd tell my younger self to listen to her instincts if something felt wrong, and get the hell out 😅 I'd also say, never compromise who you truly are to keep a relationship going because you're scared of losing the other person. If you can't be yourself with them, they're not worth it.
This times a thousand ❤
That sudden socially normalized trend of promoting selfishness and rejection is particularly repulsive.
I like the way the school teacher thinks. He seems like a very genuine and relaxed person. Keeping up with people is so pretentious and leads to more unhappiness
He looks like a big looser to me.
The advice about finding the right life partner and taking the time to really get to know each other before having kids is gold. It won’t guarantee that you will never get divorced, but it minimizes the chances.
Truth is find someone you love who has the discipline and honor to stay faithful to their commitments, it doesn’t take long if your really measuring actions.
Don't feel the need to have tons of friends. Appreciate Yourself. It is far easier than getting others to appreciate you! Be comfortable with yourself and your lifestyle (unless you are hurting others). Do not need the approval of others.
When people show you who they are, believe them. It’s not your job to “fix” them, that’s on them.
yes it is a job its called giving a shit aka caring plus love
it's really not. You can care about a person, be there for them, provide a listening ear, but ultimately it's on them to work through their issues and become a better person @@rudeegruenberg9184
people wonder why america is so fucked up, it's the hyper individualized society masked in the language of self care like this, the un-nuanced absolutes of imbeciles
These are opinions based on an individuals life experience. The money issue is real for young people...we should not tell them "it's not important ". It is VERY important!! Please talk to people who are in their 70s who don't have enough.
It would be interesting if he interviewed people who are not rich.
@@noreenn6976 He did. Did you see the NYC schol teacher? LIke his answers or not, he is a very wise man.
My takeaway from the richer people was money although needed of course to pay bills etc, isn’t what makes life worthwhile.
The money issue is real for mostly every age group nowadays, not just young people.
Money has always been an issue, no matter what decade you grew up in, especially for those in lower and middle classes.
@@neilc.2045 I did see the school teacher, he was interesting but most of his interviews are with rich people.
I am 78 years old. My advice is to always be kind to everyone. You never know what a person is going through or has gone through. Above all love Jesus and live for Him.
Amen
Thanks for your wisdom. Amen.
The world really needs more of this!
Love it❤
Try to be kind and help when you can. A person never knows when he may need the same kindness and help in their life.
I retired at 57, 6+ years ago. A key message I would communicate to others is don't delay retirement if you have the financial wherewithal to do so. Too often I have seen many people delay retirement and then experience health issues which constrain the very things they wanted to do post-retirement.
Moreover, the most significant benefit of retirement for me is that I no longer have to deal with people I do not want to. That has proved to be the ultimate blessing.
I love my job
@@christaylor8337 No reason to leave it then. If one is happy doing what they are doing, more power to them. I just have seen too many people hang on too long and not enjoy the fruits of their efforts. Wishing you and your family all the best.
Very few LOVE their jobs
100% agree.
This is excellent advice! And I'm going to take it a step further. Don't wait until retirement to do the fun or epic stuff you always wanted to do. You might encounter financial hardships later on, or have to deal with inevitable physical and health setbacks. You're better off hiking in the hinterlands of the Yukon in your 40's or 50's when your knees can still handle it and have the funds to cover it. Take that trip to Svalbard, The Torngats, or Jasper now. Don't put it off.
You are so lucky that you are healthy and can enjoy life
I'm 71 too, born in 1953. Just don't let the curse of cancer strike you and puts you out of everything in your life. So, don't take life for granted. I didn't when I was diagnosed with Stage 2 HER2 positive breast
Cancer in March 2023😢 I'm a fighter and survivor !!!
Advice to my younger self - Compound, compound, & compound interest.
As a single man in my 30’s; I look at the teacher and married guy giving out all this wisdom. Makes me feel that whichever way I go, I’ll probably still be ok. That goes for everyone in the single boat contemplating which direction to go. If you find yourself wanting a family and partner and can’t find one to want to be with you; it’s not the end of the world. Some of us are destined to be alone, that’s ok.
and you are better alone than with someone that makes your life miserable. All the married persons when they are unhappy look at single men and women with envy
@Adam-go8oz I used to go out allot and when I did I had dates, many rejections. Online dating was the same but that turned to crap two years ago. Now that I go to the gym and home, do nothing; I have no dates. Very few will like you at the gym and are probably partnered and are afraid to talk to you if they find you attractive. Single ones have their options too I suppose. Allot of people link up on instagram but I find social media superficial and depressing. You could try hinge and bumble. Because you can delete it anytime you want, not be asked why you got off it unlike socials. Good luck.
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@@Stevo-klo45453no wife happy life ,they either make u or break u ,its not all roses
Be the person you want to marry. Personal growth and ? may be needed. Would you care to marry you? What improvements would you make? The traits you are looking for in a person and the person will be easier to find it you exhibit the same.
I love the responsibility of having a child! It makes me happy
Don't count on any appreciation for that.
@@desiexpat7 Depends on how you raise the child and how much time you spend with child and if you show the child love.
I'm 76, so I would like to add my own 2 cents. First of all, I would tell my younger self not to be afraid to try and fail. And try again. And fail again. Because you will eventually succeed. I went bankrupt at 57 ! How is that any better than if I'd tried my wild ideas for 35 years???! Eh? It's not! Try. Work hard. Believe in yourself, but don't hesitate to change. Follow your bliss. At least then you'll enjoy the journey.
Thank You 👍
Follow your bliss. I love that! ❤
Yep
Don't chase $$
Spend it! 😮
I always wonder how old ppl feel inside. Do they feel the same like being 25?
My two cents as a recent 60 year old retiree. Pursue your interests with passion and enjoy the process. While you do that, be your best, be kind, laugh often, and simply be yourself. Don't look to others for validation.
The wise words of the old man sitting next to the reporter saying:"there are no guarantees. to make good money. Even if you do a job that is your passion". That one hits home.
people say you need to take risks in life, what they don't say is that risk can lead to failure... no guarantees.
@@heedmywarning2792maybe yes, maybe no
Not only that, but there are no guarantees of anything in life.
Live just a bit below your means and life will be easier. Save 5 percent for a rainy day.
The central message of this video is live a life of peace a life you are content with and not a life that someone else wants for you.
My wisdom is this: I very, very rarely regret the times I had a choice and I chose kindness.
So glad to hear that 👏🙏
Ever herd ,be cruel to be kind
@@lukem2260 These days "Be cruel to be kind" is called setting and enforcing boundaries. There's a big difference between being kind and being a doormat.
We regret what we did not do in terms of being kind or helping others. You do not regret the kindness you have done. Remember to do more to help others as it seems to benefit self in long run.
“Never underestimate your power to change yourself. Never OVERestimate your power to change someone else.”
That quote changed my life! Live the life YOU want to live…only YOU live with your own regret.
The school teacher out there laying it down for real. Don't make self-destructive decisions. It's worked out remarkably well for me, too.
Thumbs up for that retired high school teacher, I respect that old gentleman 👍.
Yep, plenty of people derail their lives through all kinds of stupid actions.
He is brilliant! The only smart one and is blatantly happy! I'm sure he has no debts and financial liquidity!
He could be capping lol, secretly might be unhappy or have regrets
He gave me much hope today.
An obese guy saying he has no bad habits. Hilarious!
Dont miss any opportunity. Don't hurt people that you love. Don't hurt people that loves you. Stop over thinking. Take actions. Get over things as quickly as possible. Stop watering dead flowers.
My one piece of advice:
It doesn't matter what you do for an income/career, but, since you have only one life that means you have only one shot, so do what you love, what makes you happy; follow your dreams. Never, ever sacrifice your dreams for anyone. That means, if the people around you that are trying to run with you can't keep up, don't slow down for them because all they'll do, either consciously or subconsciously, intentionally or unintentionally, they are going to slow you down and make you run at their pace, which will make you appear to be just like them. And then, all of your extra capability, all of your excellence, all of your faster running speed isn't visible to people anymore, and your extra capabilities won't matter anymore. You won't be excellent or high speed because you just made yourself just as slow as the group. Don't do that. Run on. Run on, so you can find the group that you can run with at your speed. And, in the group that you find that you can run with, you'll discover the right person to share your life with. And, IMHO, don't ever get married. You don't need marriage to live a happy life. But, commonsense practicality dictates that you absolutely need a good [enough] income and a good [enough] lifestyle to be happy, be it alone or with someone, married or unmarried. Loneliness and regret is a luxury when compared to being cold, hungry, and displaced.
Being married can be wonderful and children are a gift from God and ease the aches of old age. Don't miss the best part of life due to a poster being bitter that it did not turn out. Many love their children and the children love them. Many a husband or wife cannot go on without their spouse and die within a year or two of heartbreak. Grandchildren are wonderful. Don't miss it. God wants children to be brought in the world by marriage of two people committed to a family for a lifetime is the plan.
@@yuw777 YOU are focused on children. I didn’t bring that up. Where did THAT come from? Straight out of left field!
Such great advice. I look back and wish i had more self confidence within me, more with my personal life. I married the wrong person, i cared too much about what other people thought, and lived trying to please other people and not myself.
I made a couple of bad decisions because of not wanting to be embarrassed or humiliated by what other people would think.
I'm 72. You must chase money like your life depends on it in your 20s & 30s. Then take it easy 40 onwards. I worked like a dog and at 40, I dropped down to 2.5 days a week and spent the rest of time on my boat with my wife.
Every relationship has an expiration date whether you want or not, and yes, even family.
I love my family and friends, but Being independent and strong is #1 goal of my life.🙏
Except for death, Some do not.
The retired teacher is very wise. I wish I had him as my teacher. I am ready to read if he writes a book ❤
Very intelligent man that retired teacher, he knows that in life freedom is the highest virtue.
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As someone of 65 I would say Stay on your Own. All your life . Mostly people are No good.Help others a lot , but keep a huge Distance . Get a Dulux Dog .
I'm younger than you and not in total agreement. You can't build a great institution( be it a private corporation or a thriving county, state, or country) in isolation. You need to learn to engage others, manage conflicts, accept people with dichotomy of views, manage the villains, embrace and celebrate the virtuous, etc....Staying totally on your own is not remotely realistic.
@@Tirelesswarrior Correct. The thing most people do is by 30s they find a mate and settle down and buy a house and have a few children and a dog and a cat. Then the next 30 years are living the family life. Not a bad life. Teaching the kid to fish. Singing around the Christmas tree with the kids and relatives. Getting the boy his first dog. Holding your daughter for the first time and then watching her graduate in her cap and gown. Can be great times.
This is one of the best videos of this type that I've seen - No obnoxious and intrusive interviewing and the nuggets dropped by everybody (especially the retired teacher), was just *MWAH! *chef's kiss* 👌
I'm 50. I was married to my ex husband for over 10 years. I left him February 23, 2017.
Being a happily divorced person I would tell myself to NEVER get married(this advice is to myself; not anyone else).
No matter what you think marriage is gonna be it's not gonna be that.
We(women) were sold & told a lie from the Cinderella story. We were told we'd meet a man, fall in love & live happily ever after. Most of the time there is no happily ever after & marrying the wrong person can be detrimental to your health & finances.
Anyone married over 10 years is able to get half of spouse SSN if more than 100 percent own SSN less even if he or she remarried and if you are divorced and not remarried at the time claiming. Also works if deceased but get 100 percent. A tip for those that did not know.
I agree 100% with the 'don't get married' advice. I was married 32 years, and when I think back on it, I'm always reminded of the song "Cold Rain and Snow" performed by the Grateful Dead, which starts with the lyrics, "Well I married me a wife, she's been trouble all my life..."
My first 5 years was ok with some hiccups. It took until year 10 to realize that it’s time to position myself for separation. The woman grew cold and negative after our time together and two kids.
I feel the golden key 🗝️ similar to unlocking the journey to success, similar to being like saint Peter where your life is that infinite space of joy is to stay SINGLE.
Noting else is more important in my opinion.
The person you once knew is no long the same after 5 years. This is when you regret the signing that contract it's similar to the noose around the neck with it getting tighter as time goes by.
@@daym8that was Paul
I wish women would answer as to why men cannot recognize them years after marrying them.
I would tell my younger self one of the same pieces of advice that one of the interviewed said, and that is to not worry so much about things. I'm 52 and I think back to worrying about situations that never occurred or really weren't that big of a deal
I get that! Worrying my life away for what? Most of my worries didn't happen.
Getting married was my biggest mistake.
Edit: For those who claim this is a troll. Both of us were not mature enough to marry. It was not love but infatuation that drew us. If I had to do it again, I would definitely wait till I was sure I was ready.
I'm sorry to hear that, I hope you're doing much better now!
@@gandrew5363I hope you’re joking..
@gandrew5363 bro, do you want me to give you a slap in the face? 😂
@@gandrew5363Run. And don't look back.
However I think you're just looking for attention with that comment 😂
50% of marriages end in divorce, and the other 50% fights with each other like Palestinians vs. Israelis.
A the single guy is my hero. Keep things simple, minimize your risks, retire early and live life on your own terms. 🏆
Be awful lonely. The years will be long.
You interviewed vibrant intelligent people. So nice to hear their ideas
I love such videos. Why? because smart person learns from own mistakes, but the smartest learn from other people's mistakes.
I just turned 70.
1) Don't get married. Rent it (sex) if need be.
2) Don't collect things.
3) Collect experiences.
4) Hold your friends close, but don't grieve too long when they die, and they will.
I think all your advice is spot on expect one, renting. If you compare the cost of a mortgage 20 years ago to today’s rental prices, you realize that it is the one thing that makes sense to buy. A home, even if it is just for you.
@julittok I was not talking about renting a domicile. I was talking about sex.
@@akahina You know, right after I wrote my comment I started doubting what you really meant lol.
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Experience in life are the 3 F's & 5 S's
3 F's
If it floats (boat)flies (plane), fo*ks (hoe) just rent it, never buy it ....
5 big S's are found in the gym
Steam
Sauna
Shit
Shave
Shower
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The guy is right about finding the right partner.
I should have listened to my parents they could see what I couldn't, that we weren't suited, hence we divorced.
It caused them a lot of undue suffering, and made my life very difficult.
I can never forgive myself for what they were put through towards the end of their days. All because I was pig headed not to listen and thinking I knew better.
When adult children dismiss their parents opinion they likely are missing out.
If you have 2 parents who are 50 years old - that is 100 years of life experience between the two of them!
They don’t usually make suggestions because they ‘don’t have a life’ or because want to ‘control’ you -
they just have seen many things over many decades, they have insights that come with time, they love you and want the best for you.
More often than not, you’d save yourself a heck of a lot of trouble if you would heed their advice.
You could save yourself some serious regrets.
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Advice from parents is not always good. My issue with my parents' advice is that it mixes actual personal wisdom with a lot of religious superstition, and it's not always easy to evaluate the quality of their advice because of that. I'm an atheist myself, and while I believe religion encapsulates a lot of centuries worth of wisdom, I also think it has many outdated ideas and superstitions that are not suited for our time.
Funny I’m in an opposite situation. My dad gave the WORST advice to me and my sister. Both of us would be happier and in better positions if we hadn’t listened to him and if we did what we wanted. Now I’m rebuilding my life at 34z
Yes you can forgive yourself, you had no control whatsoever over any of your decisions, you didnt choose your parents, you didnt choose your gender, you didnt choose your genes, you didnt choose where you grew up. If you want a better explanation watch a youtube of sam harris explaining how we have no free will
Nobody can ever know how life will turn out and what will happen. It just so happened your parents were right, but being yourself and following your gut or wants is also part of life and part of being you. I like to learn from things that didn't go well and try not to repeat bad mistakes that hurt me rather than waste any time sitting with regret.
My best decision was being open to the prospect of always being single. The older I got, the more I knew that I was on the right path. Here I am at 72, comfortable, healthy and I live my life doing what brings me pleasure and fulfillment. I wouldn't change a thing and certainly no regrets.
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I wish i stayed single ,life was so much fun
As an Old Fellow , i would say .
Try to Learn, Of Other Peoples Mistakes , where Possible .
It can Save you !
I relate to the teacher guy so much. He is a true role model❤ What he said about addiction is very true. If you want a peaceful life, don't start any harmful addictions, like drugs, smoking or drinking and so on. There are some relatively harmeless addictions that you can have temporarily to cope with stress, especially in your twenties, when there is a ton of stress that society puts on you
The South African bloke is absolutely spot on with everything!
“Finding the right partner” hit home with me. That’s a hard one until you get years under your belt with them. I was very young & I thought I found someone who was going to be successful & a good provider which was very important to me since my father was the very opposite. I always worked & never had a problem keeping a job. All went well for about 2 years & found he struggled to keep a job more than a year or two. Time went on & it improved to maybe 5-7 years tops. Thought it was always the companies he chose to work for but over the years found it was him making stupid mistakes. Was in my late 30’s & for the first time in my life I asked myself “what is wrong with him?” But I kept being supportive until he had an affair.
I’m 70 now & I vote to never get married. Rely on yourself & have friends. 😊
Damn, I'm sorry to hear that you went through all of that. I hope you're doing much better now after that experience. Solid advice and some authentic experience right here.
I was just reading about the "myth of the male provider". It seems it has always been hogwash. Women used to be able to "garnish" a man's wages (maybe I got the word wrong) because otherwise he would drink all the money away on payday. Men provide for themselves. My dad used to eat his lunch at a fancy restaurant every day as we had very little food at home. He had a company car and his own golf membership. The rest of the family were second class. Then he lost the house to the bank. Staying single in the best advise. Boyfriends are great. Also get a dog.
Sick of him to do. He wasted a rare opportunity with a good woman. I wish there were more younger women like you. Our current society is filled with crazy/lazy men and women.
Proverbs is the wisest book ever written on how to live an ultimately gratifying life.
"Never get married" isn't bad advice. I don't regret doing it because my daughter came out of it, but marriage to the wrong person can definitely be hell.
Seems like most marriages don't work out very well. I never wanted to but a good companion would work.
@@Elizabeth-yg2mg I totally agree. Being a recording artist, it is hard to find time to be in any kind of relationship that isn't a friendship. Fortunately, I have a few solid men friends, some of whom were lovers at one point. I hope you find a good companion yourself.
I agree, I did.
It's good advice. If you want to try marriage, marry young and get divorced early before you buy a house and have kids. That's when the pain starts, trying to keep those and not suffer during the breakup is the difficulty.
@@Spiritof_76 I agree. My daughter was four at the time of my divorce. She doesn't remember a thing, but her father continued to be a "problem child" until he died when she was seventeen. If you have kids, the divorce is never final, if you get my drift, which is why your advice is good. On the other hand, there are some really wonderful marriages out there that really do work. Those people are lucky. I just keep getting my music out there for others to enjoy. Being single can be very gratifying. Thanks and take care.
Glad we had two happy single and married persons. So you define what makes you happy.
I love that guy's advice, quote, "I want you to like me!" I don't need you to like me!"
I appreciate that you showed diverse perspectives instead of just a typical "follow your passion" message - passion is important and good if you have it, but as mentioned in the video, it's not a guarantee that you will make it big by following it, and some people never find a true passion. There are people who end up doing something they don't particularly love, but it pays the bills and allows them to live comfortably and securely, and there are people who will take risks to chase a dream and either make it big or fail. Both are valid forms of fulfillment.
I also like that we were able to hear from someone who stayed single and happy as well as those who are happily married. Thanks for sharing these messages with the world!
Watch this movie. One follows passion and one plays it safe. The secret life of Walter Mitty 2013.
Nothing is permanent learn to flow in and out of experiences, as nothing lasts forever....with that knowledge priorities the love of a fluid changeable lifestyle
Nothing is indeed permanent! I learned that the hard way when it came to finding jobs and just work in general. That's why you need to be able to pivot!
What I’ve learned through the death of my Mom and sister is that you need to live for today, follow your dreams, work to live don’t live to work. Buy the pony, eat the occasional dessert, exercise, live well. Remember that your job will post a job opening the moment after you are no longer there, they are not family no natter how many times they say they are family. Always be able to financially take care of your own bills, don’t ever rely on someone else for that, my father’s death (at 12) was an eye opener for that. Don’t say you will travel in retirement, you may not be heathy enough to do that.
Use your tax refund every year to take a two week vacation. Hawaii, California, NYC, Rome, ...at the end of 24 years will have been 24 places in world always wanted to go. Then make a vacation fun also and use it for a one week mini vacation every year. Go 24 places in 24 years. Throw in a few extra trips and in 25 years will have been over 50 places in the world while you were young enough to enjoy it with your spouse and kids before they are all grown and you are old and not as active. Saving that money all those years will give you a big nest egg, but now is too late. They are all grown and you are not young. Don't let life and adventure pass you by because all you could think about was money piling up in the bank for old age.
Life was the saddest, most painful experience for me,I wished it had never happened. I'm happy for people that found happiness
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Yeah. I agree with you. Life for me has been so very hard. I think the wrong people got interviewed. Let’s hear from so folks who have known catastrophic loss and survived.
I am maybe, if I am lucky, about halfway through my life (38) - The first 22yrs were full of pain, trauma, suffering, neglect and utter hopelessness. The second half of my life has brought me the joy of raising 2 kids, and experiencing love, something I was not lucky enough to experience before they came along. Unfortunately, the past 7yrs have been full of sadness and pain, because, the first 22yrs came crashing down and, the body does keep score. My body has begun failing me, my nervous system is spent. I both simultaneously fear death, yet am tired of living. I don’t want to die, but sometimes I truly feel like I can’t live much longer. I do have 2 sons who are in their teens now, and I will remain alive so long as I am blessed to, for the sake of them. But life for me, has been hard. Lonely, full of pain, full of sadness, and if I am honest I envy people who seem to find living so much easier.
@@siobhanrose1680write a book, do meditation and train strength in a gym with a barbell (avoid stupid machines, elastic bands etc)
Same here, I made the mistake of the wrong partner in life.
Don't be stupid worry about yourself and stop trying to please everybody else do what makes you happy❤
I'm 73 and that is what I would say: DONT GET MARRIED!!!!! DO IT ALL FOR YOU, MAKE SURE YOU ARE HAPPY, ONLY DO WHAT YOU WANT, ONLY SPEND WHAT YOU WANT, YOU, YOU YOU!!!
YOU SIR NEED JESUS
@@JesusisLordgh8j Better yet, I have his Mother.
@@JesusisLordgh8j Oh, stop. I think he has Jesus already.
This guy has the right idea, life is too short
I hear more ME, ME, ME!!! The level zero of humanity.
We often care others what they want us to be. Several years I had experienced painful things who my sibling died of accident.He kicked off at his twenties.I was almost mad ,couldn’t sleep overnight for 3years.Eventually I got over this painfulness.I figure out Life is short, keep a peaceful life.Walk away from bad people. Keep you positive attitudes.I hope your guys are ok always.
Follow your own star, not what society tries to dictate to you and don't be a people pleaser. Follow your own calling, your own bliss. Only you can find out who YOU really are...
Don't let someone buy your life time. Figure out how you want to spend it before you make responsibilities to others.
He can't miss. Not only is your storytelling amazing but even the production quality (sound, colour, effects) is so good man.
I appreciate that!
Some Do’s & Don’ts
Don’t depend on the opinions of others, or let them compromise your dreams or passion.
Don’t be afraid to fail or take chances if it feels right to you.
Don’t get lost in your regrets.
Don’t quit or give up when the going gets tough.
Don’t only be motivated by money.
Don’t forget to treat others as you would expect to be treated.
Do have Gratitude each day.
Do find a balance in your life.
Do always try to help others along the way.
Do value your relationships.
Do have a plan and foster discipline.
Do forgive others & yourself.
Do be sure to take timeout, to appreciate all the wonders of life around you.
Develop the skills that will allow you to spend more time on what makes you happy. For 20 years, I have spent $5K-10K every year on becoming more valuable to the marketplace. I'm 43, single, never-married, no kids. I play golf everyday for 12 years. Don't get married until you've earned and saved 100K. Stay debt-free. Show up on time and show up everyday. Consistency and stick-to-itiveness is the key to success.
"Until you've earned and saved 100K", at which age you will marry then? 45?40? How realistic is this advice?
@@freecreator6426 The most important piece of information here is to build your skill set so that the market will pay you 100K. A person can build a skill set that will garner 100K and more in 3-5 years. Sales, electrician, welders, plumber, accounting, etc.
Don't miss out on kids when you are still young enough to do things with them. Kids that you invest in with time, love, attention, and doing things together will be there for you in most cases till the end if do not become a hard bitter old person.
Family is important, make your family (including extended family) your priority. Be kind, helpful, positive, and sincere to everyone. Save money, two pennies today will be more valuable in 40 years if you save it the right way. Be a conscientious citizen and do good things in your community.
Money is very important. Do not let anyone tell you it is not important. Life is hard find a good strong partner to share it with.
Exactly that… money is very important, especially when you fall ill or lose your job or are unable to work. Sorry but that is the reality, no money will land you under a bridge somewhere as a homeless person
Take risks.
My best friend died when she was 20 from brain cancer.
My favourite uncle died when he was 45 of a drugs overdose.
My grandmother died when she was 91 despite all night long, drinking and dancing, and partying into her late 80's.
There are no guarantees.
You could be dead tomorrow.
A friend of mine just died at 30 from a brain tumor.
Have fun. Go shopping. Wear the crazy shoes and dress how you want.
Just don't have kids if you don't want them.
Don't get married unless you really like (not simply love) your partner.
You only have to please yourself.
Great clip! love hearing people in 60s-70s. As a 48y old dad, don't rush into relationships. don't put a timeline on how a relationship should progress. Let it play out.
I am 60 and looking back, I wished I hadn't got married, he was emotionally abusive. I should have stayed in my rented flat and kicked him out!
Sorry that happened to you. Trouble is women pass up decent guys for the bad boys and in the end have your experience!
It’s alright hun you gave it whirl! Better to have loved than to never have loved at all❤
That's the sudden new trend, promoting rejection and loneliness based on bitterness. You are so banal nowadays. You were never in control of your life and your current feelings and as much enslaved than the previous ones. You are not a free person. You just follow the trends.
The guy from South Africa was so wise.
Please, take good care of yourselves. I'm 74 years old but I feel so young and alive. Now my priority is the well-being of my dog Missy and myself. I throw out more and more stuff. Just stuff. And enjoy the little things. Take care of yourself cause nobody else will. If you have one real friend you're lucky. I can do anything and don't have to do anything. I love the simple life with my dog, my garden and my sweet neighbors. If you know what you want: children, business, marriage, being independent. Don't compare yourself with others. Do it your way. I always treat people the way I want to be treated. No expectations.
I'm favoured, Getting my own Truck has always been my Dream for my business. I just acquired 2 recently, earning $32K weekly has been really helpful. I can now give back to the locals in my community and also support Charity Organizations.
I'm in a similar situation where should I look to increase income? Do you have any advice? What did you do? Thank you
Thanks to Mrs Mary Joanne Terry
She's a licensed broker here in the states.
Sounds familiar, I have heard her names on several occasions.. And both her success stories on wall street journey!
Wow.. I know her too she is a licensed broker and a FINRA agent she is popular in US and Canada she is really amazing woman with good skills and experience
The common denominator is that money is not important as long as you have enough. Do what you want to do. Take chances. Be yourself and be happy. I love it.
Am 38 , never married and no children. Listening to this makes me realize that am normal, i don't have to get married because everyone my age is. When i look back, am so super sure imade the right choice being true to myself. Will meet the right partner
Each follows a different path.
That man is spot on! Everyone has an addiction. Food money etc.
that man who never get married..am seeing myself in him in the future
haha same
Personal choice.I was married once,it didn't work out,we both got married for the wrong reasons. But,once I was outta the marriage I got to do the things I REALLY wanted to do.Like-volunteer to go fight in Iraq with the Texas Guard in mid-2004-and all of 2005-at Camp TQ.I was with an infantry unit and did joint missions with the marines,I volunteered to do 4 deployments total,also did 2 tours back-to-back. Arrested and detained countless Iraqee citizens and insurgents,did countless raids,had some fire-fights lasting 3/4 hrs,etc,etc,..I was bored working 2 full time jobs ( did this for 10 months )wanted a challenge with high risks and danger.So,I offered my services to the guard ( I was already in the Texas Guard ) so,off to Iraq I went. LOL. Just the risky job I needed. I have no kids and never really wanted any of my own. LOL. SEMPER-FI
@@kerry-j4m Great story man, have you thought of taking a bigger challenge: fighting Russia in Ukraine as opposed to skinny men without shoes heading goats?
I was married for 25 years. I raised a step son....that was hell. I had three natural children, they are fantastic. We divorced....best thing I ever did. She was diagnosed BiPolar later which answered a lot of questions. All those years I thought it was me. I have a great relationship with my natural kids, the narcissistic step son is completely out of my life, thank God! In hindsight, I would have never gotten married but would have adopted children being single. Stay single, live below your means, invest from day one (Read Rich Dad Poor Dad and follow Warren Buffett) in strong companies and keep them forever. Keep building your portfolio and NEVER cash it in. Have an emergency fund of at least 2K and grow it to 10K and you will never have credit card debt if you choose not to. STAY OUT OF DEBT!!! If you start your own business, do it yourself. Partnerships are worse than marriages in most instances. If you start a business with your wife, remember that if you get divorced you are stuck with each other because of the business. The last one is probably the worst scenario in my opinion!
Very liberating and depressing at the same time.
Test your willpower early in life. What you can't commit to and see to the finish will show you what you are made of.. Don't give up so easily. Test your will power early by setting small and then bigger goals.
Go out and explore, learn,have fun, meet people, be kind and helpful, no marriage needed.
I'm 67 years old. I retired when I was 59. I don't worry about money anymore because I worked my butt off to make sure I had enough of it for retirement! It's a trade-off.
It's great to have dreams, but sometimes you have to face reality and do what you have to do to ensure some level of financial stability. I worked my butt off as an emergency medicine RN, exposing myself to things I wish I never had to see or deal with. But food and shelter are more important than dreams
Chase your dreams, but chase them only after you have worked to secure yourself some level of stability. You don't want to be dreaming about where you are going to find your next meal.
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The retired NYC schoolteacher did God's work. How ridiculous for others to look down on him for not being married or having luxury stuff.
Remember to always be your authentic self.
To Young People:
Don’t give your time to people that don’t give YOU anytime to listen.
Don’t always be quick to give advice to young people. Listen to them. Just because you’re old it doesn’t necessarily make you wise.
Whatever it is you think about in a daily basis. That’s your PATH follow that one.
If you make it, ‘Whatever that means’, always remember you will have Joyful days and not so Joyful, and that’s okay.
The People you see although they are no longer Young with a glow and sparkle in their eyes; those are the ones that listened to their little voice and not someone else’s voice.
Money is important. Be patient with other people.
In 2024 - after health , Money is everything
@@spirg no its not
Money is important but after awhile... Let it go! 😮
Beautiful. Insightful. Life changing information from those that have lived it. I always appreciate your videos.
As a fresh 24 yo, I’m kind of surprised how much of this has already been drilled into my mind by either my upbringing or being an introvert who reflects a lot
I love how articulate the elderly are
I love how articulate the educated are. I've known a good number of elderly people who are nincompopes and have a hard time expressing themselves.
The man/woman at 5:13 made the utmost sense and meaning to me, very wise words of advise and life's lessons well-learned.
“Waiting a bit to have kids” really love that.
My 80 year old FIL was happily married 42 years. His wife and he married in their 40s when they were wise enough. His wish was also for his son to marry a good woman. When he met me, my FIL gushed over me esp because he saw how happy his son was before even meeting me. He was wealthy, came from a wealthy family too and worked for his own wealth. He lived a peaceful life too, loved hiking in the mountains with his family. He took on responsibilities he could and married a working woman with the same goals as him. I’ll take all my life advice from them.
One thing I learned is spend money on experiences and not on nice things an item loose value once you buy it but a experience will give you a memory that you can always reach back for to get you through hard times my auntie use to say boy i get chills of joy thinking of all the things I use to do
Snowsking, waterskiing, scuba diving, bull riding, camping, island hopping, cruises, Sports cars, wilderness camping, Alaska Trek..........you have to plan and go do these things to actually have them happen to you.
I'm 37 and my biggest regret is having kids young and getting married. My advice is after high school focus on yourself, while setting goals. Reach those goals whatever they may be and then think about a family. Also, don't get married without a prenuptial agreement.
And then it will never happen. You will spend your money for the rest of your life buying emotions from strangers. It is really sad to regret to have had kids. Seriously pick yourself up and go talk to your kids.
I married early. Big mistake...
And do you have great memories with the kids?
@marcoprolo1488 I said having kids young. I was 19 when I had my son, it was straight out of high school basically.
@yuw777 I have some, I worked so much that I really wasn't around and could do much for them at the time. I wish I could have had them at this age, now that I'm more stable in life. I could do more for them and have more vacations.
This is fantastic, glad you interviewed a South African. Well done! What a podcast. Truly brilliant