CNA | On The Red Dot | S7 E10 - Being a dad of a super-sized family
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- Опубліковано 31 бер 2019
- On this episode of On The Red Dot, father of five Nick Lim tries to make up for lost time with his kids despite working overseas. Meanwhile David Heng, dad to seven, abruptly quits his job as a social worker to set up a new business. For stay-at-home dad Zainal, money becomes tight as he considers a job to supplement his wife’s income.
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The malay father don't even WORK to give his step daughters financial freedom, yet treat them like free maids.
Even stated that he is “in charge” of the house and they can’t scold their younger siblings 😭
i realize it's kinda randomly asking but do anybody know a good website to watch new series online?
@Leland Kane i use FlixZone. You can find it on google :)
I don't mind him being a house husband, no different than a stay at home wife, I do mind his treatment of his step daughters! I mind the fact that both he and his wife use guilt to dismiss the girls feelings, such as favoring his blood children yet at the same time expecting the right to discipline the two elders who help out the most yet does nothing to his own bio kids when misbehaving!
Exactly he seems a bit selfish because he’s not making an effort to understand how they feel. He is not showing them respect or appreciation yet expects it from them.
“I can go hungry but not my wife and kids”
That’s a real father/husband figure right there
Actually while I understand where Crystal is coming from, I also understand how Mr Lim would prioritize his work. When it comes to work, sometimes, there truly is little to no choice. Especially overseas. I gather she would feel differently if there was not enough money and the family has to live on a very tight budget.
He's a good father. He said that he will definitely work, and all that he does is of course, for them.
I think he’s a good dad but he doesn’t know how to express himself
I do really like the series amidst the controversies... gives you insights on the different kind of family right here in modern day Singapore. Well done, CNA but i also do notice some repeated clips in the series.
Its only the starting.. Its like a intro
i'm a father of one boy... BIG respect for all there hard working Fathers..
The househusband dad has 2 teenage sons from previous marriage, and he's not working, how does he keep up with the maintenance for those kids?
I know. It is horrible. He needs to make better prioritization for his children and also his job.
Rubbish man! You know what I hate? Why was the Malay guy being protrayed as lazy compared to the other two men? There are so many other families with large family with hardworking Malay husband.....pffffft.
Seems like he retired from SPF, usually regulars retire after taking large bonuses. If he was careful with money, which he would have plenty to work with.
@@mmuhd Why so sensitive? Everything can be seen as an attack on your raca if you want it to
@@mmuhd you can make a big family and be on the next season then. Make sure you be the role model
I know those days our parents use to have 12 children, they did not have any other form of entertainment, nor TV or telephone, but now in this modern Singapore, so many children, the cost of living is so high, can you afford to give quality lives to your children or even manage your own affairs, there is always a way to have family planning, l reckon history repeats itself, even if you have the financial means, so many kids, how do you manage your time????
I have a dad who miss out on a lot of my life events but i know he tried. To crystal, you need to try to be more understanding to your dad. No matter what hes your dad and always care for you all. Hes trying his best. Communication is the key to bridging the gap.
no work , no $$ , that singapore life ,there are food, bills to pay ,all dont come free .
Glenn Chua true. but i think time with children is equally important. if you have that much of a workload, better use condoms than keep spawning and not be there for your kids.
Agreed. A hard working father is always breaking his back for his family first. The mum needs to provide extra emotional support for the children . At the end of the day, be blessed to have a father who actually cares for you in whatever way. People are worse off. Families are broken and children are without a proper support system.
CNA needs to make more videos like this. How Singaporeans raise their children in the modern age.
Vasectomy is the way
No way for me!!! I don't want to be tai kam.
condom is also a way
Having a big family is a personal choice . Hats off to those families who have taken up this great ordeal. I always wanted a big family but I don't have that energy. 😁
They gon have hella good memories when they grow old
wasabisazzdafirst with siblings not with dad.
Love this series!
Looking at these families, i decided to use my right hand more often...their so-called blessing and 'everything is worth it' frightened me like hell.
can't really imagine a life with 7 children....
That's why don't make alot of children that's what it will cost
Exactly la. I don’t know why they have so many children. Sohai
It will cost you a bomb.
it's fun esp when your kids are close to you.
That was common in my mum's generation.
"why achooo"
"Because I have a sensitive nose".
Now 2020
*ACHOO*
"Ehh covid ahh"
XD
16:30 Nutella much cheaper at Value Dollar shops
16:49 Shampoos and soaps too
Ya but check exp date
To speak truthfully, it is a blessing in disguise to have many siblings. We were four and we loved 🥰 being siblings
Mr Lim doesn’t seem to have the soft skills required for good parenting. He doesn’t know how to engage his children in a way that fosters closer bonds with his children. His eldest daughter is feeling neglected. The burning question is: would he have chosen to work overseas which pays more if he had fewer children?
aukahkay that’s a bit harsh. I think he feels that his key role is being a provider.
Anita Rai-Tiwari All fathers have to play the role of being a provider. He is no exception. He may be able to provide financially, albeit on a tight budget, but there is more to fathering than simply providing for their financial needs. Soft parenting skills are just as important.
aukahkay tbh each family has their own way of caring. his father may feel that with such a large family he needs more money to be able to give them the most comfortable life they can have. the disconnection may be sad but it’s a reality that many parents face.
@@Pushkin62 that's true but he could be subscribing to an old model of fatherhood whereby how good a father he is is shown by what he's providing for them. My dad was like that and it was really because grew up poor.
his wife is grateful to him, his children do listen to him, he can afford to buy landed. if i were him, I'll be happy
I never experience to have many sibling coz we’re just 2. My mom even my dad they missed especial event in my life. Sometimes they can’t not attend our own graduation day for business trips and seminars at work. But even though I understand both of them coz without there hard work I will never be like this and my sister never be a nurse. I suggest, they try to understand coz all of there hard work is for all of them. 😊
I go value dollar to buy almost all my items. Especially soap, food, file, or pen. Because this item i may need to keep stock a lot because i sometime use a lot. They should apply for ntuc membership for discount.
Especially soap, men uses it alot
@@aishawok1251 i agree some stuff we need to stock up.
@@stellalLee-vs6gp yes men love to use alot of soap. But once the soap bar drop. Men dont talk
you gotta really love each other to have so many kids knowing there would be financial issues
I think it’s Super sad that they can’t even afford the bread Raphael wants....
They have to be fair to rest of 6 kids. If one by one started asking for $2 bread, it means $14 in total every now and then. Things are getting so ex, I wonder how they will cope with a school fee of the tertiary education. Mama and Papa Heng looked so exhausted. God bless them 🙏🏻
Coming from a big family myself, the siblings are going to grow up hating each other fo sure.
It's hard to find a space for yourself and have time to yourself with a large family, sometimes you feel like you don't get heard no matter how much you repeat yourself... It can be a hard, there are ups and downs just like any family but space is something that can be few and far between
girl i understand , my father also working overseas , but what can we do ?
manlike 6 stop the greed. be content. once the kids are all grown up and becomes distant to him, he can't blame anyone but himself
@@lifeisgood2542 it is all about perception. Some may say they father is not fatherly enough. Others will argue he is trying to earn as much as possible to provide the best for his family.
Personally I believe the father is being more selfless than selfish and no one will voluntarily work overseas.
7:07 to 7:09 if you want a better future. you have to go overseas. sum up everything about living conditions in Singapore.
Facts bro unless u a doctor or lawyer. Engineer in Singapore barely get paid over 5k. Depending on what diploma or stuff.
Nice documentary.
Men always like a lot of children.
No pregnancy.
crystal and melody are soo cute omg
Sg don't even have the space to have so many children. You one exec max one person one room you 3 kids. You have so many you sacrifice your own kids quality of life.
And what, he also need to hunt a landed. Your URA, where is your guideline for more space, want to have also cannot.
I have a thing about mr heng not giving his wife a say in number of kids and his career change.
5:25 that’s like me and my father a year ago
I pity the neighbours. They also deserve their peace abd quiet
1:55 yep they are playing PUBG
14:37 why they explicitly sensor the two faces at the back?
Kudos to Mr Zainal! It’s not easy looking after the household and children in the day and driving the graveyard shift at night:(
His biased
ethel is really a supermom
승철아내 IS THAT SCOUPS?
AHAHHAHA HI CARATS
imagine being neighbours with the heng family-
That's mad
Sorry I think it is selfish to have a lot of kids if you do not have the resources (financial and time) or are not willing to commit to taking responsibility for caring for them. While it is reasonable for children to contribute to the household it is unfair to over burden the older children with the responsibility of caring for their younger siblings. The children didn’t have a choice in the matter and this is the only time they have to have freedom from adult responsibilities. You can see how anxious and stressed all the older kids are already when they should be allowed to enjoy some carefree time. These fathers wanted big families but aren’t taking responsibility for their day to day care, supporting their wives or considering what their children truly need. Honestly these fathers don’t seem very sensible or realistic when it comes to practical matters. They are very poor at communicating and working as a team with their wives. When you have children it is your responsibility to do whatever it takes to provide them with what they need.
You guys should meet Gen Halilintar from Indonesia 😂 They had 11 children and 10 of them are in one house
Dont compare about the halilintar family.. They are RICHHH
Tef'MUSIC CHANNEL can afford lah
That was unexpected. From hdb to terrace house
Not HDB. It's a 2-floor condo. Not unexpected. Even if it's a 2 floor mansionette it already shows wealth.
Yeah if you work hard in Singapore, you can get very far as long as you stick to your principles and beliefs. Stay firm in your mindset and don't give up, always set for higher expectations. I always hear people complaining about being poor yet they don't do anything to change their life which triggers me as they think they are always entitled because they come from a lower SES , I wasn't raised from a well-to-do family and my dad didn't had any income for 2 years when I was young, we were literally getting by day-to-day and our expense were very low surviving on instant noodles sometimes. My mom also used to contemplate very long before buying me a $1 goodie bag but now we came from a background of HDB household to a condo and then landed property.
Most importantly, I've always felt my parents' love even when we were poor and that made me very contented because they spent a lot of time with me and built bond. Although we progressed to a better household, sometimes wealth doesn't necessarily bring about happiness. I'm 19 now and I felt much happier when I was that young, carefree boy doing the simple things but what I'm saying is, you can do whatever you want to do in life as long as you listen to yourself and not judge circumstances on what you may have now as it can change ! :)
*condo
@@kennethmajorSG I know right, people need to stop playing the victim card and work hard
I am the only kid in my house and rest r grown ups
so I have
3 scooters
13:22 that guy in blue looks familiar! anyone knows his name? is he an actor?
Children is indeed a blessing, but don’t produce if you can’t afford
humans always look at the bright side , rainy days come , all hell break loose
Nick’s family look well to do lol
With many kids makes them less well off though. But at least he tries hard and not be irresponsible when it comes to having kids.
Zach at the expense of time with kids
Money is always the main issue in most marriage.
Why did Zainal leave his job as a prison guard?
Maybe the working hours is so long that he quit so that he can spend more time with his kids.
7.13 what is she holding
Is it me but all the eldest kid in the familys are 16
and middle child are boys
Thumbs up for zainal Family....
malay property agents makes lot of money, cos different marriages will need to sell and buy houses after houses, i am not kidding, my malay colleague is making 50k on a good month
quite irresponsible family planning actually, the rich are limiting themselves to only 1 or 2 kids...
5:40 - 6:00 so cute 😍😍
Lifes hard
From 11:45 you can see that the couple do not have a good relationship... They dont even look at each other's eyes when talking... so sed
Not necessarily. I think she was just mad or annoyed at her husband quitting his job.
@@janicejanisjan ya
Overworked fathers trying to provide for their families needs and wants. The problem is rather the increasing costs of living forcing people to work harder for less money.
Use protection otherwise you will be stuck in this situation.
Either they are too horny, irresponsible or have poor family planning skills
WB IsMe or they want more children
@@zenniz1992 maybe they have no sex education and they never heard of condoms or don't know how to use them.
So it's not just crazy rich asians there.
I don’t think you can find crazy rich asians anywhere
When I thought having 3 siblings was a lot-
Every child is a creation of God n every child is Gods gift to us.When I had my third child I left teaching in a govt school early so that I can stay home with our 3 children as we were moving to another town,with no relatives around.But, as a Christian, praying n talking, praising n worshipping God, changed my circumstances from just enough to more than enough, with the children receiving overseas scholarship offers n help...much more...all because we believe that God our Heavenly supplies all our needs, more than enough. They are holding good jobs, well behaved, loving n supportive of my husband n I.Believing n trusting in Jesus made all the difference in our lives
supersized, but well off
Ok won't be having more kids
It seems to me that the wife is putting money and her comfort ahead of her husband being able to be home more to be present in his children’s lives money isn’t everything
2.500 Dollar? Man I couldn't even feed, house and cloth my one kid and cat with this money, this is really cheap.
Family planning
I have 10 siblings 🙃
Works.
The husband should work too. At least find part time job
They should just stop breeding can’t give the best... u need when to stop
I have a lot of respect for Mr. Zainal. Keep it up!
He biased to his step daughter go watch the other vid
You should visit my friend she has 10siblings
With or without children, a man still likes to work full-time on career. 💰 💰 💰 fulfilling his financial ambitions.
So its more fulfilling if he can provide for his children instead of his dogs 🐶
I don't like fathers who spend too much time on his children.
Fathers just like to rule over the wife and kids.
Its better a man just work to give his wife and kids financial freedom
Loud house
crystal is a cutie
Bernard Liang Bernard aiyo ah boy don’t be thirsty can not?
I just want to know why tf these niggas quitting they job when you got more then 3 kids to feed😂 like don’t do that to your wife
Lim family 16year old daughter her father have tried to provide the best for the family Till can complain. So ungrateful.生在福中不知福。
Darren wait what
*Are you sure Crystal is your daughter? She doesn't look Chinese at all.*
then what race does she look like?
Yeah then what race do you think she is?? I’m a Dayak from borneo... and she’s nothing like Dayak nor Malay. Lol