CNA | On The Red Dot | S7 E09 - House-hunting for a supersized family

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  • Опубліковано 25 лис 2024
  • On this episode of On The Red Dot, the Lim family is looking for a large enough home for their five children, one aunt, one helper and two dogs. All this as their eldest daughter Crystal’s ‘sweet sixteen’ approaches. For the nine-strong Heng family, a fight erupts among the younger siblings and at the Zainal household, two daughters struggle to fit in with their new family.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 174

  • @nadhirasultan6520
    @nadhirasultan6520 5 років тому +513

    The malay family seems so calm and composed. even the children speak eloquently, job well done to the single mother

    • @Bieberfanatic911
      @Bieberfanatic911 5 років тому +14

      anne dee hahahah yup, when you’re forced into adulthood at a young age, we are forced to take on huge responsibilities, means we also need to act like adults..

    • @rofidganteng1
      @rofidganteng1 4 роки тому +6

      yeah but still there will be some negatif effect from that. the big sister tends to hide her feelings and keep all the problem to herself coz she is being forced by condition to surpress her feelings.
      but on positif side, she is mature before her age.

    • @annikatan378
      @annikatan378 3 роки тому +2

      I couldn't agree more with some pros and cons you guys have outlined for an elder (likely eldest) child going through maturity. On one hand it's good to be obedient and responsible (respectful as well), but on the other hand being quiet and reserved may harbour regrets of missing out childhood/simply being a child later in adult life. Nothing can ever be prepared for what is to come to life… is the price I paid for being too sensitive and solemn of being an adult in the 12-yr-old me.

  • @shuzler
    @shuzler 5 років тому +239

    How come the elder child of each family is so mature and well spoken? I like the elder child of the each family.

    • @eddy-currents
      @eddy-currents 5 років тому +14

      Because they are older? Lmao

    • @clashwitheli3425
      @clashwitheli3425 4 роки тому +2

      because they got the most attention when they were younger

    • @jasminetay9820
      @jasminetay9820 4 роки тому

      LMFAO... How come not 🤣🤣

    • @Melissa-jl2zb
      @Melissa-jl2zb 2 роки тому

      I am the eldest child and I agree 😉

  • @esetenguyen9234
    @esetenguyen9234 5 років тому +140

    I’m very impressed with the two elder sisters in the Malay family: very well-spoken and well-mannered. They are both wise and graceful beyond their years. Kudos to the single mom.

    • @jotarokujo1311
      @jotarokujo1311 5 років тому +8

      Mom raised them well. The dad is a very bad dad.

  • @RayrayTgh
    @RayrayTgh 5 років тому +288

    Father : i love children...
    Have u thought about the mother?Also not u clean the house, take care of them.
    Still wan to quit without a job? where u get the money to support them financially?

    • @sharine04
      @sharine04 4 роки тому +4

      He obviously has the means to support such a huge family and he isn't living off child support. One bring in bread and bacon, the other party does the housework. Nothing wrong with that.

    • @beezlebub9
      @beezlebub9 3 роки тому +6

      @@sharine04 they depend on gifts and contributions from their church as well. I don’t see it as ideal. The mom looks half dead trying to do all the work and budgeting endlessly.

  • @slaiyfershin
    @slaiyfershin 5 років тому +209

    Apart from the Heng family, the other 2 are loaded. 1 can afford bungalow and rent a 2 storey condo while the other can renovate the flat that nicely.

  • @ChinRubbingVideos
    @ChinRubbingVideos 5 років тому +346

    the heng family mother is so miserable. it must be the husband's own egoistic selfish reason to want so many kids. cant get a stable job yet want so many kids, making his wife have such a miserable life

    • @sofya3033
      @sofya3033 5 років тому +8

      Feminist

    • @RH-vd3yu
      @RH-vd3yu 5 років тому +38

      @@sofya3033 bro im actually agreeing with what op said. Wife like misreble af lol

    • @kai-rb4ry
      @kai-rb4ry 5 років тому +3

      Wow that's rude. Honesty that isn't nice.

    • @rolnah
      @rolnah 5 років тому +4

      no, hes already trying his best. so i think its good enough

    • @kichaa13
      @kichaa13 5 років тому

      Yes they're buying a house because they're so poor, listen first.

  • @mickayla1914
    @mickayla1914 5 років тому +44

    i think it would be better for esther to return to work as a teacher and for the father to find a part time job somewhere. this allows for a salary for the mother and more income for the family while the father can spend time with the kids and earn money at the same time.

  • @D-me-dream-smp
    @D-me-dream-smp 3 роки тому +29

    While children should contribute to the family and do chores I think it is wrong to put a big burden on the older children by having a large family if you do not have adequate resources. The older kids did not choose this so should not be burdened with a lot of responsibility for looking after their younger siblings. They deserve to have some freedom to enjoy their childhood and focus on their studies without constant anxiety and stress. You can see how the pressure is negatively impacting Izzah and Izzati who are lovely bright girls.

    • @tarshagunalan4974
      @tarshagunalan4974 3 роки тому +1

      Yes i agree with you

    • @bal-xx7fh
      @bal-xx7fh 2 роки тому +1

      as the oldest sister in a 6 person household this is so true, sometimes I feel like my parents only got me to take care of their stuffs

  • @iw4075
    @iw4075 5 років тому +138

    nah, this video just convince me not to have so many children.

    • @fatimah3921
      @fatimah3921 5 років тому +3

      Same

    • @Zenocius
      @Zenocius 5 років тому +14

      Sponsored by Durex

    • @isabelgoh6477
      @isabelgoh6477 4 роки тому

      1 enough

    • @beetledune9264
      @beetledune9264 4 роки тому +2

      Having so many children is not wrong,but its wrong when they cant provide quality life to them.The parents should know this,as simple as provide study room,but instead they make it as store.its 1 of the mistake,also making their eldest as co parenting.They need to change the mindset.

  • @clementwang7097
    @clementwang7097 5 років тому +28

    In Singapore, people like to stare at families with a lot of kids. It is really uncomfortable for the family.

  • @amelial3396
    @amelial3396 5 років тому +63

    Sometimes I wonder what made them want to continue having kids after like the 4th one. Like I find that quite selfish and they sort of put themselves into this stressful situation that’s not ideal for them or their kids

  • @bangbangtangahwei
    @bangbangtangahwei 5 років тому +93

    Its crazy to have kids more than 2 in such small country like SG

    • @ZachATL
      @ZachATL 5 років тому +3

      @Animation moonlight especially if you do have money. Having many kids causes inheritance battles.

  • @lofoten8315
    @lofoten8315 5 років тому +49

    38 yrs old with 7 children OMG.

    • @jasminetay9820
      @jasminetay9820 4 роки тому +2

      Nothing new.. my grandma has 9 children at 35 😱😱

    • @dobbly9868
      @dobbly9868 3 роки тому +1

      @@jasminetay9820 oh yah my grandma had 13 kids

    • @jasminetay9820
      @jasminetay9820 3 роки тому +1

      @@dobbly9868 good for her 😍 this original comment or prob never seen parents with many kids before

  • @Blackshot987123
    @Blackshot987123 5 років тому +59

    In the Lim family, crystal , melody and the Brother share the same look while the rest look like their Mother.

    • @賣萌-u4j
      @賣萌-u4j 5 років тому

      carb day Melody is the youngest child, the 10 year old :)

  • @MrBoliao98
    @MrBoliao98 5 років тому +29

    Inherently this show how systemically wrong our houses are. People who want to buy a home to have this many children face so many hurdles. Even if you want, you have no space, and what, you Rob the future of your kids.

  • @vasn
    @vasn 5 років тому +15

    Lol 16:58 “why are girls braver than boys?” I loathed on that 😂

  • @danasingapore135
    @danasingapore135 5 років тому +10

    The Lim family seems the happiest

  • @justinzy5
    @justinzy5 4 роки тому +9

    9 person in 3 rooms ..wow ..and nowadays new HDB become smaller and smaller. I think they need to find old HDB where the space is bigger. Gov really don’t know how to plan.. want us to have more kids but new HDB getting smaller.

  • @rolnah
    @rolnah 5 років тому +117

    crystal is so beautiful omg

    • @beezlebub9
      @beezlebub9 5 років тому +1

      iirachxl I think so too.

    • @leezaccary5939
      @leezaccary5939 5 років тому +1

      Dig out her ig HAHAHA

    • @noahinfinityx553
      @noahinfinityx553 5 років тому

      yes please what’s her ig !! Haha

    • @rolnah
      @rolnah 5 років тому

      Lee Zaccary yes HAHA im gonna find

    • @rolnah
      @rolnah 5 років тому +1

      Noah InfinityX ehh idk. lets find it hahah

  • @ailinseah3190
    @ailinseah3190 5 років тому +9

    I grew up in a family of 5 but i need to be responsible for my 2 younger brothers i was always angry and kept thinking why so unfair till now although I'm a grandmother now i sometimes still blame my mother for being unfair to me but i stilll take care of her

  • @grace-qu9ks
    @grace-qu9ks 5 років тому +24

    12:15 *bangtan enters*

  • @oldbutbold
    @oldbutbold 5 років тому +17

    I'm not going to judge them for having a large family. But it's plain to see from this and the next episodes that having many children is a tremendous strain mentally on the parents and on the children themselves unfortunately.

  • @CaptainG1001
    @CaptainG1001 5 років тому +16

    Maybe they were staring cuz of the camera lmao

  • @jasminetay9820
    @jasminetay9820 4 роки тому +6

    "I don't see children as burden"
    Me: Are you sure...

  • @sihamsimp
    @sihamsimp 4 роки тому +7

    i've just relise that these three family only had one boy 🤣
    is it too late ?to relise that ?😂

  • @jammy144_
    @jammy144_ 5 років тому +13

    I think more people are staring bc there is a camera lol

  • @rosamariamendoza1466
    @rosamariamendoza1466 4 роки тому +4

    Why Rachel and not the eldest? Rachel is going to grow up wanting to get out of her family's house, amid so much responsibility!!

  • @card1y3
    @card1y3 5 років тому +37

    13:20 go library study!!

    • @contentdeleted4987
      @contentdeleted4987 5 років тому +1

      Ya lah!

    • @shermaynelim9665
      @shermaynelim9665 5 років тому +6

      omg yall she said she hang out with her friends more than her siblings because she always go out study what lmao

    • @tommyfield8449
      @tommyfield8449 5 років тому

      @@shermaynelim9665 depend what kind of hang out?maybe her mother had a curfew for them i guess?
      Library is a good option,but teenagers they won't uses Library anymore.They will know gather at starbuck & coffee beans to study,but most 20% studying 80% talking about other things.
      To me,their children need to learn to be patience.You can't simply blame everything on your parents.Just because your dad promises to move does not mean he doesn't care about you guys.
      He already taken note of his children request & he know it,but his children need to understand the job that their father has.
      Be grateful that she can own an Iphone(most probably all uses data,cheapest plan probably $30,wearing a braces,yet not grateful.
      They are so lazy,not wanting to help their mom pack the stuff(except the eldest daughter) & their parents not handling the youngest child attitude.
      Boy,if you can't study is ok,but try to improve & stop playing games.
      Their children had so many request yet they can't even take note of their parents request.
      Your parents just ask you to just pass your exam.they don't expect you to score 80 or A.They are not even scolding you.Prove to others that you can pass,but he look like he doesn't care about it.It time for his parents to confiscate his phone.
      As for the 2nd daughter,i don't what to say about her.she need to improves on her attitude.
      Yes your father may not be a sociable person,but he cares for you guys.he send you guys to school for Free,not even a single thank you to your own dad?
      Why?because he broke the promises.He mentions that he is getting job overseas which is giving him good pay unless the jobs in SG give him a good pay.
      This children have they ever think about 'who paid the utilities,electric,water,phone bills,school education,groceries,basic necessities) lmao this kids..they need a spank.
      They are too spoiled.

  • @SW-fy8pq
    @SW-fy8pq Рік тому +3

    Poor couples want a big sized family whereas rich or highly educated couples tend to be childless or have 1 child.

  • @ayowhat2417
    @ayowhat2417 5 років тому +10

    The lim family stay near my house lol

  • @thetreasonseason
    @thetreasonseason 2 роки тому +2

    this is depressing to watch. I am 39 this year and I'm still petrified at the thought of asking a girl out. 🤣

  • @jasminetay9820
    @jasminetay9820 4 роки тому +2

    The Lim family
    *Knock the door multiple times*
    Opens
    "Shut up!"

  • @socealdestance7315
    @socealdestance7315 5 років тому +15

    12:16 OMG IS THAT DNA SKSKSKSKSJ

  • @samsara2684
    @samsara2684 5 років тому +7

    Whenever I see family with more than two kids , I just look at them , and ask myself , why can’t I have siblings ?

    • @i8cccq583
      @i8cccq583 5 років тому +2

      Well there are perks of being a single child too.

    • @葉歡-w2o
      @葉歡-w2o 4 роки тому +2

      I tell you, you will confirm regret one

    • @alecrosewell6959
      @alecrosewell6959 4 роки тому +2

      Too many siblings will have sibling rivary.

  • @winonaar
    @winonaar 5 років тому +18

    normal people: hMm the Heng family , the Malay family.....
    army : DNA ?! BTS ?!!?

    • @xfiona787
      @xfiona787 5 років тому

      Winona Tan lmao relatable

  • @wahab197391
    @wahab197391 4 роки тому +2

    Yesss represent our school Bryan and melodyyyy

  • @ingenuity168
    @ingenuity168 5 років тому +8

    It's very unfair to the kids of big families.

  • @ailinseah3190
    @ailinseah3190 5 років тому +9

    See their parents daily schedule i also tired

  • @dianacaa
    @dianacaa 3 роки тому +1

    Me: being the youngest and having 8 older brother, Oh my life was just like them but more chaotic

  • @jotarokujo1311
    @jotarokujo1311 5 років тому +6

    I think it's good, when the kids grow up their sense of tolerance will be better.

  • @magnus1001
    @magnus1001 Рік тому +1

    Esther should be ashamed of herself interrupting her daughter Rachel from studying to play peacemaker for two of her little siblings in a minor argument. All because Esther wants to be 'friends' with her kids and not a responsible Mother. Grow up lady, they are YOUR kids, not Rachel's.

    • @pllee1956
      @pllee1956 Рік тому

      u also have to understand she has multiple children.

    • @magnus1001
      @magnus1001 Рік тому +1

      @@pllee1956 That isn't Rachel's fault.

  • @ingenuity168
    @ingenuity168 5 років тому +9

    The big family. It's a hell hole.

  • @IkhwanIsnawan
    @IkhwanIsnawan 3 роки тому +1

    1:30 See SMB1419E on Bus Service 302 at Choa Chu Kang. The Sgwiki says on Bus Service 300 under Choa Chu Kang Bus Feeder.

  • @delwinlee8870
    @delwinlee8870 5 років тому +24

    They should come malaysia, alot of empty big houses.

    • @rene6608
      @rene6608 5 років тому +6

      Yea but they must still work in sg. Unlikely they can get a comparable job in Malaysia, and also must take into account the exchange rate...still very hard for large families to survive

    • @skytan5617
      @skytan5617 5 років тому

      I live malaysia and that is true 🇲🇾🇲🇾

    • @sofya3033
      @sofya3033 5 років тому +4

      This can work:Buy house in JB take bus/airplane to SG work.

    • @tomryann86
      @tomryann86 5 років тому +2

      Galaxy _Cupcake and they have to wake up 3 hrs earlier due to not stuck on the causeway jam

    • @xcre8ionx
      @xcre8ionx 5 років тому +7

      Nah.. Malaysia worst place ever.. Alot of crime, expensive and everywhere far..

  • @beverlyteh4676
    @beverlyteh4676 3 місяці тому

    As a doctor, I’m concerned that Bernice has an adenoidal voice. Note to parents-if she snores, sleeps poorly and is irritable, sleepy during the day and can’t concentrate, please get her tonsils and adenoids checked out :)

  • @ailinseah3190
    @ailinseah3190 5 років тому +4

    The eldest in the family is growing up so alot of changes why parents didn't explain to them when they grow up they will also behave like that

  • @garrysim
    @garrysim 5 років тому +4

    Hey hey hey, life is short, think positively your kids are your happiness not your troublemakers. Teach them to be more independent, it will be hard but it's worth the effort. 👍😁👌😜😏😔

  • @Jacob-he9dl
    @Jacob-he9dl 5 років тому +4

    Love your on the red dot videos!

  • @devisweeta
    @devisweeta 4 роки тому +15

    Wonder how they can afford to keep hsewifes in such a big family. I mean shouldn't they work to contribute? Just hire a maid!
    Minimum an educated wife can earn: $2K+
    Minimum wage for a maid: $400-$500
    2 maids: $800

    • @cassieang1601
      @cassieang1601 4 роки тому +5

      I think its more of spending time with the the kids, educate them and give them time and affection

  • @siddiqirfan114
    @siddiqirfan114 5 років тому +24

    How come the malay house like to clean and doesn't have books every where compared to the other families lol

    • @StealthLACHESIS
      @StealthLACHESIS 5 років тому +4

      ,We malays dont really study thats why many of us end up in ITE

    • @oldbutbold
      @oldbutbold 5 років тому +1

      Malay families generally (not all) take pride in their homes ala an abode to retire to after work or school

    • @oldbutbold
      @oldbutbold 5 років тому +3

      @@StealthLACHESIS Do you really have to be self deprecating of your own community like this?

    • @StealthLACHESIS
      @StealthLACHESIS 5 років тому

      @@oldbutbold Yes, we are fasting now. ramadan

    • @oldbutbold
      @oldbutbold 5 років тому +1

      @@StealthLACHESIS don't see the relevance but ok

  • @tiffanylim1412
    @tiffanylim1412 3 роки тому +1

    This feels ironic for me cause my parents have 6 kids but have a huge house go on vacation our parents are our biological parents but I rarely see my 3 other siblings cause their overseas and so much older than me.

  • @troyhyatt7568
    @troyhyatt7568 3 роки тому +1

    Im sure esther would have earned more staying in the teaching service

  • @weiwenwwe2066
    @weiwenwwe2066 4 роки тому

    2:32 SAVAGEEEE

  • @Samuel-xz8bz
    @Samuel-xz8bz 5 років тому +2

    I have one older brother how I wish I could have a big family and a lots of siblings

    • @i8cccq583
      @i8cccq583 5 років тому +2

      Go study hard earn money next time you want 50 children also no problem

  • @sillysallyy4962
    @sillysallyy4962 5 років тому +6

    ok.. i need to point this out ok... I HEARD FREAKING DNA LIKE OMFG BRO DNA ARMY HERE

    • @jasiaa5164
      @jasiaa5164 5 років тому +1

      Kerine Huang -Kookielover MOOD

  • @nisaa0431
    @nisaa0431 4 роки тому +3

    i got 8 siblings:)

  • @jiadongyu131
    @jiadongyu131 5 років тому +2

    It takes money lol

  • @123samanthastar
    @123samanthastar 3 роки тому

    Rachel is very mature good for her

  • @elson4120
    @elson4120 5 років тому +1

    As a single child I beg my parents to have a brother.

  • @Ilovebutterpopcorn
    @Ilovebutterpopcorn 5 років тому +3

    Crystal is cute tho

  • @staaaa9154
    @staaaa9154 4 роки тому

    12.26 DNA I HEARD DNA OMG

  • @shawnkelly8341
    @shawnkelly8341 Рік тому

    Except for the Lims, how other two family survived? Unless they have side hustles to bring in extra income. Senior PSA max pay is $2900 before cpf as of 2021. Not sure now. Really overpaid.

  • @paperfirealarmboy4398
    @paperfirealarmboy4398 Рік тому

    Just realized that Raphael is the same age as me now as this is filmed in 2019 so Raphael should be 12 now

  • @Steven-ef8yk
    @Steven-ef8yk 5 років тому +8

    whAt DId i hEaR? 12:15

    • @weiwenwwe2066
      @weiwenwwe2066 4 роки тому

      BTS followed by Exorcism taking place

  • @heesbigheart
    @heesbigheart 5 років тому +9

    isit only me ? OR I heard DNA !!

    • @xfiona787
      @xfiona787 5 років тому

      Yu Xuan I WAS ABOUT TO COMMENT THAT

    • @xfiona787
      @xfiona787 5 років тому

      Yu Xuan IT IS ACTUALLY DNA

    • @heesbigheart
      @heesbigheart 5 років тому

      @@xfiona787 WOW OK

    • @tannie0907
      @tannie0907 5 років тому

      ARMYY💞😏

  • @SW-fy8pq
    @SW-fy8pq Рік тому +1

    why do they want to have so many children?

  • @nothingison3633
    @nothingison3633 5 років тому +2

    12:25 DNA!!!!!

  • @soop4108
    @soop4108 5 років тому +5

    12:17 OMG they’re listening to bts

  • @boyan619
    @boyan619 5 років тому +1

    should just buy the JUMBO house much more better settle

  • @xynderella
    @xynderella 5 років тому +1

    The heng family have 7 children wheres the 7th one

    • @kweaonk
      @kweaonk 4 роки тому +1

      the father?

  • @DarkwearGT
    @DarkwearGT 4 роки тому +1

    Family of 5 is not even that much
    My cousins have 4 and5
    Not that much

  • @Daanmytime
    @Daanmytime 5 років тому

    @1:28 HELL YEAH

  • @fukinsginvain832
    @fukinsginvain832 5 років тому

    LITTLE RED DOT... ONCE PRESSED THE DOT GONE OUT OF MAP.... JUST SAY FEW WORDS ... SIN CITY OF SODOM GOMMORAH GOT CURSED HAHHAHAHHAHAHAHAABAHAHAHHAHAHA

  • @hengloun9173
    @hengloun9173 5 років тому +4

    Lim family
    Mother said this:
    I want their my own space
    Hahahahahah🤣
    I am not being rude ok

    • @pinkpurp001
      @pinkpurp001 5 років тому +2

      heng loun poor mother she is so tired can’t think of her speech properly

    • @hengloun9173
      @hengloun9173 5 років тому

      I know right
      I am not being rude ok
      Just call me Henry

  • @celeste-mx1qh
    @celeste-mx1qh 5 років тому +2

    OMG DID ANYONE HEAR DNA BY BTS ON 12:16

  • @m2cys
    @m2cys 3 роки тому

    Wow l get to school at 6.30 everyday

    • @tarshagunalan4974
      @tarshagunalan4974 3 роки тому

      I need to get up at 3 my school starts at least than 6 so 5 30 and i come back at 7 30 pm

  • @nurulhxriana4754
    @nurulhxriana4754 5 років тому +1

    I hear bts DNA

  • @ailinseah3190
    @ailinseah3190 5 років тому

    Rent an executive flat got enough space

  • @thanzizausoof8667
    @thanzizausoof8667 5 років тому

    12:15
    Oof was that dna??

  • @__tachibana8072
    @__tachibana8072 3 роки тому

    MSF worst fear

  • @danielblue4460
    @danielblue4460 4 роки тому +3

    Malays will someday dominate the demography of Singapore.
    They procreate faster than the others. It's cultural and religious.

  • @ailinseah3190
    @ailinseah3190 5 років тому

    Not easy

  • @pooch7449
    @pooch7449 5 років тому

    That's a lot

  • @tianmu5507
    @tianmu5507 4 роки тому +1

    16:52 feminist will be triggered.

  • @kyo2401
    @kyo2401 5 років тому

    DNA

  • @TheLushProduction
    @TheLushProduction 5 років тому

    Anyone with Crystal's ig?

  • @angelynn98
    @angelynn98 5 років тому +3

    DNA????? Wthh hahahah. Bts army???

    • @winonaar
      @winonaar 5 років тому +1

      Angelynn24 75 ikr

    • @angelynn98
      @angelynn98 5 років тому

      @@winonaar hahahha

  • @curiositywtf1396
    @curiositywtf1396 5 років тому +3

    they should go home to china ..there are a lot of empty house there

    • @weiwenwwe2066
      @weiwenwwe2066 4 роки тому +4

      Are you stupid or very stupid? They are Singaporean already

    • @beezlebub9
      @beezlebub9 3 роки тому +2

      This is their home?