I was listening to you Candace and than I paused the video because the thought came to me that we are looking for the mom and dad in the other people that we never had, that warm feeling of acceptance to be our selves, that attention and then I started listening to you again and you said the same exact thing. Like bravo. I felt like I just found the root cause of my insecurities.
Hope you had them because I didn’t. Some people are never meant to be parents but God chose them for me for a reason, knowing that I could rise above it all.
We should "people please" our inner child over anyone else and put her/him on THE pedestal because that is where she/he truly belongs 💜. She/he deserves the best!
Can someone please pray for me, I'm not doing well at all and I don't know what to do, I feel scared n hopeless and have so much PTSD and damage from relationships that I'm terrified of being ignored and I'm always stressing 24/7 not eating much and don't think I'm gona survive
This how I feel, I just lie in bed, either anxious, crying or sleeping. Lost 5 lbs in 2 weeks. Even worse is my recent abuser is living over the road. So scary. Trying to move.
Thank you for this amazing information. I cried even just listening to this. I'm full of love and understanding towards my inner girl. I'm much better at turning attention towards myself rather than to people who doesn't choose me. Thank you for your work ❤️
I’m going through the withdrawal Process right now. We broke up in the beginning of October but worked with each other up until the beginning of November. It’s been two months no contact. I have a new phone number and it’s been no contact. It’s been hard for me getting sleep, but I know that with the grace of God and strength of the Lord I can get through this. I need to work on self care !
It’s funny! I was driving in silence asking God to please let me hear him. I then pulled over to think and decided to play some UA-cam videos and your video literally pulled at me to play!! The universe did that for sure!! I’m struggling with this exact thing right now at 53!! Recently divorced and in my first relationship in 30 years. All these new things are coming up for me one being that I’m addicted to a toxic man that I’m finding very difficult to detach from. I know that it’s a trauma bond and I have lots of work to do on myself. Thank you!!
OMG, consciousness!!! I am crying as I write this. Thank you so much for this info. It's so hard to find answers when you are in a deep emotional whole! Thank you, thank you, thank you so much.
I started on the journey to heal my inner child and protect and provide for her. I started watching pro wrestling bc I loveeeeed it growing up!! I also love hair and makeup. I love rollerblading too. I bought a pair and omg I forgot about my bad back pain!! I’m gonna work on my back so I can go rollerblading again. I played tennis alone 2 years ago bad back pain and all. I hit some balls against the wall. I’ve always wanted to play. I think I might go try again. My back hurts so bad 😢😢
God bless you for helping us, especially the ones that cannot afford your groups or classes. I have been sad because my parents were very negative, especially my mom and seems like no matter what I do, the minute I am busy doing something that F voice comes up. I know it is my mother criticizing or making projections that are all bad. Her thinking used to drive me nuts when young and left my house and country mainly because of her. Now a mature woman, still have her telling me shit in my head. I Love her, but it is very bad for me to have too much contact with her. I feel like 10 years old all over again. I have been manipulated by her my whole flipping life because I feel bad for her. I even sent her many for years and not thinking about my own future. I did therapy for years, but this negativity and auto criticism is not out of my system. GRATEFULLY, ERIKA
Thank you so much for your work. I'm doing the work to love and affirm myself after so many years of being a wounded soul. Thank you again sister Candace.
Candace I have seen so many of your videos but this one… THIS ONE!! So powerful it is like a laser beam from the universe for me. It’s answered a question and provided the path forward. The most important thing we can do is constantly be loving to our inner child… thank you xx
So I’m new to your channel. I’ve definitely had to pause to self reflect. I never knew that this was the problem I’ve been facing for a long while now. Thanks for the advice.😊
Wow thank you Candace I always knew. I’ve struggled with these issues. But I never knew it was an addiction behavior. I will work on my inter child work that is needed.
Thank you fore the video, the beloving Mother Eart & Univers of love send me your video to day* Beacus this is what I whanted to heal better* Thank You Candis 🙏🌷🌸🍀❤🧡💖❤🧡🍀🌸🌷🙏
A couple days after I watched this I randomly woke up with this vision of two versions of my inner children. One is around 5 and very feral, wild, ferocious, raised by wolves, she can’t even speak, she’s this angry afraid animalistic, tattered girl… and this other version between 7-9 who has been stabbed to death several times and is somehow still alive just standing there… and it appeared that the younger one stabbed the older one but I’m actually not too sure. I have seen an image of the one being stabbed many years ago and I just thought it was me, so angry with myself and wanting to die. I try to hold the feral one with my higher self as she screams and cries and lashes out. I don’t really know what to do to heal the stabbed one… I think she represents joy.
Wow I have just found your video and I am really impressed how you really explained to me WHy I still have those drawbacks and WHy I happen from time to time to be in period of doubts thabk you Wow
Hi Candace. I'm a man with relationship addiction and I relate with everything you said here! I'm wondering if you know of a guided inner child work UA-cam video that I could use every day in order to do what you talk about here (bring forth my inner child). If you do know of such video, I'd appreciate if you share it. Thanks!
I just want to be happy 😭😭 My greatest fear is being alone , I don’t trust myself with myself, I fear that my other self will kill me one because she said I am stupid, indecisive and too scared 😭😭😭 she insults me most times and even makes me cry that’s why I always run to hide in relationships hoping a boyfriend can protect me from myself but always end in break ups
I think I see what you are saying…the criticizing self that shames yourself. But I still think there is validity and admitting that your beliefs were not the highest and I agree it can come from truama. I think I get it now : )
I need your help! I'm in the pits of disparity! I have a relationship addiction, I'm going to SLAA, but I don't feel like it's right, I know I need inner child work but I don't know how to do it! I really feel like I won't survive this!
What does it mean to listen to your inner child? When I was a child, I had friends and family. Now I don’t. I want what I had as a child but I can’t have it. I’m so lonely and depressed
I have addiction with prostitutes I think, also relationships... but when I cannot find love I go to prostitutes so I can feel "Love" and passion. Yes it is about the hit, I am trying my best to solve this issue, but I see little to no progress for years. Haha sometimes I fall in love in hookers but, I try to do shadow work everyday, I ask myself why do these emotions come up, from where? Where did these emotions come from. Why am I in this cycle that I cannot seem to break out of... any thoughts :P
Two things come to my mind. 1. Have you considered a Twelve Step program for love addicts? Many people have found it helpful. 2. Also, be extra good for yourself, like a very good parent.
I feel a little bit torn about what you are saying here. Are you implying that no one has ever done anything wrong here? Bc this seems like an “anything goes mindset” which feels like moving away from one’s spiritual identity. It feels like compromising. If someone cannot admit that they are wrong about something or thy something wasn’t the highest choice it can put one into a state of denial which doesn’t lead towards self transcendence bc it is a compromise of spiritual identity. Maybe I’m misplacing the context of what you are saying ?
Stumpwhacker Stump (Nhqeshphatpoh-phrenosomnia) is for ill bone Desire and Whacker ( Nhqeshphatpoh-in Pleed) is for divinity.i`m so going to Stumpwhack me. Lol
see, what is wrong with your strategy is that it doen't really permanently heal you. I was following this path since childhood, while being abused. but once my spirit was corrupted by cynical bad people, my weaknesses exploded
I was listening to you Candace and than I paused the video because the thought came to me that we are looking for the mom and dad in the other people that we never had, that warm feeling of acceptance to be our selves, that attention and then I started listening to you again and you said the same exact thing. Like bravo. I felt like I just found the root cause of my insecurities.
👍👍
Hope you had them because I didn’t. Some people are never meant to be parents but God chose them for me for a reason, knowing that I could rise above it all.
Incredible ❤
Same here! ❤
We should "people please" our inner child over anyone else and put her/him on THE pedestal because that is where she/he truly belongs 💜.
She/he deserves the best!
This approach is a long way from where I started when I thought that getting the other person to change was the key to feeling better.
Can someone please pray for me, I'm not doing well at all and I don't know what to do, I feel scared n hopeless and have so much PTSD and damage from relationships that I'm terrified of being ignored and I'm always stressing 24/7 not eating much and don't think I'm gona survive
We’ve all been there. I suggest you watch crappy childhood fairy, teal
Im going through this, how are you feeling now?
Much love hope your okay ❤️
You are a beautiful tapestry of wisdom ,experience and dreams don't give up
This how I feel, I just lie in bed, either anxious, crying or sleeping. Lost 5 lbs in 2 weeks. Even worse is my recent abuser is living over the road. So scary. Trying to move.
Thank you for this amazing information. I cried even just listening to this. I'm full of love and understanding towards my inner girl. I'm much better at turning attention towards myself rather than to people who doesn't choose me. Thank you for your work ❤️
Isn't it just amazing? This single video I think changed my life. Check out Candace's other videos if you haven't already. She is INCREDIBLE.
Our inner child always felt imprisoned and needs to be liberated.
I agree
@@jerrypixar9245 I am gathering all of my childhood photos and do a collage to celebrate her and giving her voice, being, childhood and life back!
Someone please explain this?
I’m going through the withdrawal
Process right now. We broke up in the beginning of October but worked with each other up until the beginning of November. It’s been two months no contact. I have a new phone number and it’s been no contact. It’s been hard for me getting sleep, but I know that with the grace of God and strength of the Lord I can get through this. I need to work on self care !
It'll get better just give it some time.Best of luck.
It’s funny! I was driving in silence asking God to please let me hear him. I then pulled over to think and decided to play some UA-cam videos and your video literally pulled at me to play!! The universe did that for sure!! I’m struggling with this exact thing right now at 53!! Recently divorced and in my first relationship in 30 years. All these new things are coming up for me one being that I’m addicted to a toxic man that I’m finding very difficult to detach from. I know that it’s a trauma bond and I have lots of work to do on myself. Thank you!!
OMG, consciousness!!! I am crying as I write this. Thank you so much for this info. It's so hard to find answers when you are in a deep emotional whole! Thank you, thank you, thank you so much.
I started on the journey to heal my inner child and protect and provide for her. I started watching pro wrestling bc I loveeeeed it growing up!! I also love hair and makeup. I love rollerblading too. I bought a pair and omg I forgot about my bad back pain!! I’m gonna work on my back so I can go rollerblading again. I played tennis alone 2 years ago bad back pain and all. I hit some balls against the wall. I’ve always wanted to play. I think I might go try again. My back hurts so bad 😢😢
Candace this I think changed my life. That is my comment. Thank you.
"Souls having human experiences" you nailed it again, beautiful Candace!
God bless you for helping us, especially the ones that cannot afford your groups or classes. I have been sad because my parents were very negative, especially my mom and seems like no matter what I do, the minute I am busy doing something that F voice comes up. I know it is my mother criticizing or making projections that are all bad. Her thinking used to drive me nuts when young and left my house and country mainly because of her. Now a mature woman, still have her telling me shit in my head. I Love her, but it is very bad for me to have too much contact with her. I feel like 10 years old all over again. I have been manipulated by her my whole flipping life because I feel bad for her. I even sent her many for years and not thinking about my own future. I did therapy for years, but this negativity and auto criticism is not out of my system. GRATEFULLY, ERIKA
Thank you so much for your work. I'm doing the work to love and affirm myself after so many years of being a wounded soul. Thank you again sister Candace.
Candace I have seen so many of your videos but this one… THIS ONE!! So powerful it is like a laser beam from the universe for me. It’s answered a question and provided the path forward. The most important thing we can do is constantly be loving to our inner child… thank you xx
Your videos have to be HEAVEN SENT... FIRST TIME SEEING ANY OF THEM AND CAN NOT STOP WATCHING**!!!**
Awww thank you so much 😇😇😇I’m really glad you are here!
So I’m new to your channel. I’ve definitely had to pause to self reflect. I never knew that this was the problem I’ve been facing for a long while now. Thanks for the advice.😊
Welcome to my channel ✨🫶🏻
I have stumbled upon an angel. I needed this video. I resonate so much with all of this. Thank you
Thank you Candace 🙏😊❤️
Kinda explains what I was partially going through in the past. Just had no clue what exactly to call that but it makes sense 😅😂
Amazing message Candace, thank you for sharing! I was wondering if I could interview you for my podcast on the topic of: healing the inner child.
Wow thank you Candace I always knew. I’ve struggled with these issues. But I never knew it was an addiction behavior. I will work on my inter child work that is needed.
Thank you fore the video, the beloving Mother Eart & Univers of love send me your video to day* Beacus this is what I whanted to heal better* Thank You Candis
🙏🌷🌸🍀❤🧡💖❤🧡🍀🌸🌷🙏
Really enjoyed this. Thank you for your authenticity!
One day when I'm financially stable I will definitely come to you for coaching for now I will just work with your amazing videos ❤
This is so well expressed and so on point. Thank you so much for this video. I hope it helps many others too! ❤
I really needed this
thank you
Thanks so much for sharing, I am going through this right now!❤️❤️
A couple days after I watched this I randomly woke up with this vision of two versions of my inner children. One is around 5 and very feral, wild, ferocious, raised by wolves, she can’t even speak, she’s this angry afraid animalistic, tattered girl… and this other version between 7-9 who has been stabbed to death several times and is somehow still alive just standing there… and it appeared that the younger one stabbed the older one but I’m actually not too sure. I have seen an image of the one being stabbed many years ago and I just thought it was me, so angry with myself and wanting to die. I try to hold the feral one with my higher self as she screams and cries and lashes out. I don’t really know what to do to heal the stabbed one… I think she represents joy.
Epic video, thank you Candace
Sending you healing energy. The pieces are about to fall into place for you
Wow I have just found your video and I am really impressed how you really explained to me WHy I still have those drawbacks and WHy I happen from time to time to be in period of doubts thabk you Wow
Wonderful! I’m so glad to have you here
1000% true‼️ thank you. 🙏
love your energy
This is what i needed to hear 😊
Awesome!!
@@CandacevanDell :)
This is good ❤
Very, very good video, thank you so much x
This was so helpful, thank you so much!
BEST🎉Thank you!
Thank you.
Give your inner child permission.
Absolutely loved this ♥️
Omg!! I need help doin this. Guidance would be amazing!!
Hi Candace. I'm a man with relationship addiction and I relate with everything you said here!
I'm wondering if you know of a guided inner child work UA-cam video that I could use every day in order to do what you talk about here (bring forth my inner child). If you do know of such video, I'd appreciate if you share it. Thanks!
thank you Candace
Thank you for this vídeo
Massive amounts of self-care...I hear that.
I just want to be happy 😭😭
My greatest fear is being alone , I don’t trust myself with myself, I fear that my other self will kill me one because she said I am stupid, indecisive and too scared 😭😭😭 she insults me most times and even makes me cry that’s why I always run to hide in relationships hoping a boyfriend can protect me from myself but always end in break ups
I think I see what you are saying…the criticizing self that shames yourself.
But I still think there is validity and admitting that your beliefs were not the highest and I agree it can come from truama. I think I get it now : )
i see your inner beauty, Thank you for radiating exquisiteness!!!
I need your help! I'm in the pits of disparity! I have a relationship addiction, I'm going to SLAA, but I don't feel like it's right, I know I need inner child work but I don't know how to do it! I really feel like I won't survive this!
I understand. I highly suggest checking out my emotional rehab program. You can email me with questions candacevandell@gmail.com
I feel your pain man, I've gotten so bad I'm barely eating n stressing 24/7 idk how this happened to me but I feel like I'm going to die
How can I follow you?
@@esperanzashoe9266 push subscribe and go to Instagram @candacevandell
What does it mean to listen to your inner child? When I was a child, I had friends and family. Now I don’t. I want what I had as a child but I can’t have it. I’m so lonely and depressed
💔💔
What if I keep going for jobs that just keep me secure but I really want to do art?
I have addiction with prostitutes I think, also relationships... but when I cannot find love I go to prostitutes so I can feel "Love" and passion. Yes it is about the hit, I am trying my best to solve this issue, but I see little to no progress for years. Haha sometimes I fall in love in hookers but, I try to do shadow work everyday, I ask myself why do these emotions come up, from where? Where did these emotions come from. Why am I in this cycle that I cannot seem to break out of... any thoughts :P
Well done for having insight and being honest with yourself
Maybe have look into 'inner child healing' definitely helped me a lot
Two things come to my mind. 1. Have you considered a Twelve Step program for love addicts? Many people have found it helpful. 2. Also, be extra good for yourself, like a very good parent.
You're so aware, and also brave to share
@@jazzyfruits Will do fam thanks
fascinating
After u parent urself and fix u has anyone ever went back to the addiction and was the relationship normal or was it toxic again? I’m just wondering
It's gotten worse n worse everytime for me
Innerchild, Please explain this?
W😍NDERFUL
Awesome!!!
Are you still doing the tribe thing?
Absolutely! Every Friday, join is
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how to do inner work :P
Sir you need to go into yourself and sit with yourself and try to figure out what you truly need
I feel a little bit torn about what you are saying here. Are you implying that no one has ever done anything wrong here? Bc this seems like an “anything goes mindset” which feels like moving away from one’s spiritual identity. It feels like compromising. If someone cannot admit that they are wrong about something or thy something wasn’t the highest choice it can put one into a state of denial which doesn’t lead towards self transcendence bc it is a compromise of spiritual identity.
Maybe I’m misplacing the context of what you are saying ?
❤️❤️❤️
How would you know ? You’re in a long term committed relationship. Try being single.
Under 5min into the video and hit the subscribe button x
Only way huh? There is always more than one way.
Stumpwhacker Stump (Nhqeshphatpoh-phrenosomnia) is for ill bone Desire and Whacker ( Nhqeshphatpoh-in Pleed) is for divinity.i`m so going to Stumpwhack me. Lol
see, what is wrong with your strategy is that it doen't really permanently heal you. I was following this path since childhood, while being abused. but once my spirit was corrupted by cynical bad people, my weaknesses exploded
Is hard to stop a relationship addiction looking at you 😆