@@AlexMDorr Sure, man, I too believe it is the clutter inside of our head that needs more attention. Thanks for the tips, I have pretty messed up brain xD
@@MahtabAlam-uf8db so well said. Start with the clutter in our heads, understand it and find clarity and the rest of our world can shift. I think you're on to something. Oh and me too! We have this human condition so in some ways we all have a pretty messed up brain at times. Let's keep on livin' man!
I love how you just built a bridge between minimalism and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). The first two techniques from a CBT standpoint are basically questioning our cognitive distortions which are thoughts we have that may or may not be true. In CBT you learn to identify these thoughts and then collect evidence such as you describe to test whether the thought is an accurate reflection of reality. I never thought of this as mental decluttering before, but I can see now how it can be!
Thank you for that feedback. I think a ton about this because the main work I do is leadership training with leaders in corporate organizations and we introduce these tools to give basically a 1.0 of CBT so you know how much your ego is playing you at work. You just hit on essentially what I was trying to take a chance at. I know it was a stretch, but I feel like it is a helpful data point on the trend of minimalism that is out there. Thank you for your perspective and additional insights. Would love to hear more of your thoughts and ideas as you have more reflections! All the best.
I’m surprised. This is exactly what I needed to learn. Becoming minimalist in the physical is way too easy, compared to declutter our mind and mental noise/drama. Thanks for those tips Alex!
So well said Lorena. I hope you liked the connection to traditional minimalism that I did with this video. Choosing any of these 3 techniques to intentionally do each day can help so much with fear, uncertainty, stress or anxiety. Thanks for watching and spread the word to anyone you think it could help!
Physical minimalism is not really easy especially when we have so much drama about our stuff. Mental decluttering is what can make physical decluttering more logical and effortless.
216th subscriber here, it's 4:30 AM, up so early due to broken sleep and a massive headache. I'm 29, constantly bugged by the thought of finishing about 45% of life, and not having accomplished much. I do have a stable job but I need to excel and switch careers ASAP. Reasons being saturation and insecurity; due to which I had to start by closing Facebook and Instagram. I've also taken a step towards the goal but due to the need to work towards it alongside a full-time job and personal commitments, the past one year has been awfully stressful. This has resulted in my inability to focus either at life or at working towards the career switch goal, leaving me worried. It has also resulted in being impatient, lacking tolerance and screwing personal relations with colleagues and friends. I want you to help me in this situation by making more videos on mental health being affected due to mind and life clutter. I may not be the only one, many more might need help on this. TIA
Hey Dhiraj - so sorry to hear about your struggle and challenges. I know this can be tough. Hope the video helped you with a few of the practical tools I use to help when I am feeling overwhelmed or believing I am not reaching my full potential. I will continue to make videos about my journey with this idea of mental minimalism and how it helps with my stress. I also invite you to check out Byron Katie's website at thework.com - she will teach you all you need to know about understanding those thoughts you are having and what to do next. Stay strong sir and let me know what else I can help with.
Also, I have some plans to make more videos on the topics you are suggesting through the lens of "Mental Minimalism." As we are able to understand a bit more about how our mind works, some of those insecurities and clutter will start to fall away. But it is daily practice and repetition of the tools I have mentioned. The Edit Your Story, the SBAR and the This Means That. I hope this was your first steps.
Love the SBAR tool to decrease the drama when communicating with teams regarding an opportunity for improvement - removes any accusatory commentary and focuses on the facts. A true game changer!
So well said Shari! I hope you could see all of the coaching opportunities at each part of the acronym and it definitely moves the energy away from accusatory comments or blaming. It also finishes with the person leaning into what are some recommendations to move forward. Doesn't necessarily need solutions, but recommendations on "how we could." Thanks for jumping in and sharing your perspective!
Shared the concept of Edit Your Story with a group of Emerging Leaders just today, and then saw your newsletter with this video in my inbox! I forwarded your newsletter to everyone on the call as a follow up. Wow. You're a psychic too, knowing just what I needed and when. Awesome!
Hahaha! When the universe lines up, the universe lines up. :) Thanks for spreading the word and sharing this information with your leaders. These foundational concepts can be so beneficial in their careers. Gotta add the psychic piece to my bio now because you said this!
This truly resonates with me, I always say our perception and reality are two different things, and we can change our perspectives if we truly watch our thoughts objectively, I’m going to watch this video a few more times and implement this Thanksgiving weekend. Mental purge, here I come. Thank you for posting.
So well said with the perception vs. reality lens. It has been my experience as well! So happy this resonated with you and I can't wait to see how the tools help to make some small shifts in your life. Let me know how everything goes! Best of luck to you.
So happy to hear that feedback. Keep passing on the word and sharing this if someone is ever struggling and looking for some quick tools. Thanks for being a fan and commenting.
I love this video Alex! I initially saw it about a year ago when you shared it to Instagram. I have been using these practices in my daily life and holy cow, it makes life a lot easier. Decluttering your mind & focusing on facts makes a huge difference. I run a handful of restaurants & will be introducing this to my leaders & staff this week. Thank you for all that you do! Keep up the good work!
Haha so glad you came back to it and it has still been helpful for you! I'm close to coming out with a similar video on a minimalist view towards resilience. Appreciate you sharing the love and so glad you are using the daily practices. This time I've had to find myself getting even more disciplined with using the tools. Made me smile with the comment!
I love that you said you will be introducing this to your staff at work! I love the restaurant I work at, and I have often mentioned workshops that speak on this topic to my management team, being that we are in the service industry. But isn't that the industry all humans are in? lol I hope you have had success in implementing this! Take care.
@@LaurawithaB So well said Laura! Just so you know we have programs for leaders and staff all around these concepts that we deliver in formal trainings. They can be shaped for any industry and delivered completely virtual as of now! Here is a link to my speaker's page to learn more about who I have been able to work with and who has loved the programs. www.realitybasedleadership.com/meet-our-team/alex-dorr/
Wow. I’ve been practising minimalism physically but mentally I felt caught up and was looking for help. Awesome techniques. Can’t wait to apply these!!! Thank you so much ❤❤❤
I appreciate the comment Greggor and so happy you found the video and tips helpful! Daily practice with these tools. I still do an edit your story or "this means that" daily especially during COVID because my mind can get so ahead of me and scattered. I invite you to keep doing the same and let me know how it goes. Best of luck you you and thanks for supporting!
Means the world for you to share that! So happy you found this video at the right time. One tool at a time whenever you are stressed. Put your mind to paper and trust the tools. All the best to you!
When I subscribed to your channel because of this amazing video I couldn’t believe that you have 1k subscribers!! At first I saw it as a 1M actually! Thank you soooo much I shared it with my friends
Oh my gosh - you are too kind! I guess it is just a matter of time haha Thanks for sharing with your friends and I hope you keep pointing people you meet to this video if they are struggling. I have a bunch of videos coming out in the next year as well. Wishing you all the best and thanks for following along!
Haha this response got me Charity! So happy you found this helpful. It is a daily practice, but over time this makes a huge difference in our own stress level, how people around us respond and our overall results in general. To the good life... Best of luck to you!
So happy you enjoyed and liked the style. Hope the tools are helpful in those stressful and cluttered situations you find yourself in. I'd love to hear back how it is going!
A watched this last year and looked for this again because i feel like my brain is so cluttered right now im working on my portfolio for my freelance job and i have a lot of ideas, i feel so overwhelmed. Thank you so much for this video, this helped me a lot. And honestly, you’re channel will blow up. Keep it up
So happy you came back to the video! I hope it was helpful the second time through. I do these three tools as daily habits so don't ever feel like you are using them too much. Every time you are feeling stressed, cluttered, frustrated or anxious - I would get writing down one of these tools. It won't always move any of your freelance work forward, but it will keep you clear and creative to have that additional energy to bring your best self to the table for that freelance work. You got this and you're welcome!
I swear this really helped and might as well do this on a daily too! Btw i already subscribed and suggested this video to my fellow creatives who’s having the same problem as mine THANK YOU SO MUCH
Edit your story is such a great tool in the workplace. Most stress and feelings of being overwhelmed are not backed by facts but more emotions. This video is going out to my team right away!
Yessss Jenna! Send it out and let's get the conversation started. I've found that most people are relieved when they learn this information and it feels nice to talk about it with your team. Hope you get some good convos started and let me know if there is anything else I can help with. Keep doing great things!
I wish I had seen this in my prior job where I was stressed and frustrated all the time due to my own mind games. My favorite tool would be the "Edit your story". Doesn't take much effort to see through the clutter once you take the time to work it out.
I appreciate you sharing and best part is that the timing is always perfect to learn these lessons. Sounds like you got it now and can quickly rise above those untrue stories that hold us back. So well said about seeing through the clutter as this becomes a mental process you can use without actually having to write it down once you have practiced it enough.
It's the greatest video so far. I have been trying a lot of ways to declutter my mind. And this has been a gem. Really practical and amazing tools. Thank you so much, Alex! ❤❤💕💗
So sorry I missed this amazing comment Ruth! I am honored that you said this and it means a ton that it was helpful for you. Let me know how the tools help you as you move along in your journey. Wishing you peace and happiness!
I think Edit Your Story is useful. It is so true how we make up stories in our mind & this tool can diffuse that habit. And is Alex related to Cy??! Their voice, speaking technique, & mannerisms are so similar. I enjoy learning from them both!
It is such a part of our human condition that we have to continually wake up to - myself included! It may always happen for us, but the more we can catch it the happier we can be. Haha glad you caught on to that! After 5 years doing all I can to study under her and immerse myself in the philosophy, I was bound to catch on to some of the cadence, story-telling flow and mannerisms that have led to her success. I am fascinated with the old apprenticeship models where if you wanted to learn from them, be around them as much as you can and play the fly on the wall. Surround yourself with the greats, but don't take too much of their time. Watch them in their natural environment and add your own style to it. Success leaves clues and don't try to reinvent the wheel. Thanks for being a big fan and for learning with us!
You're welcome! That is they key and what I was hoping for people to see in this video. There will always be circumstances and challenges we face. Many times they are unpreferred or less than ideal. Either way, there are ways forward to be able to impact and improve if we have good mental processes to approach it from clear perspective. I appreciate your insight and additions to the comments.
Such a cool look at understanding how our mind works and how it influences our happiness and results each day. Great message to share for all of us working to live a more simple life each with more intention.
Glad you loved the spin on that trend of minimalism out there. I found our tools are great ways to declutter any thinking that is leading to drama. That edit your story is definitely my go-to as well for that.
Thank you so much for watching and for your feedback. Those are 3 of my favorites and I have found myself using them more and more with what is happening in the world right now in an attempt to stay clear. Which one of the tools is your favority? Would love to know which one is most effective for you!
So happy you found your way here! I appreciate the feedback and it makes my day because I always try to make sure each video has practiceable tools that you can implement in your own life to learn about YOU. With more of this insight you can work through more of your interferences that keep you from success and happiness at work. Hope you keep coming back! I have a big video series coming out shortly with more tips like this.
Hang in there Clinton. Take one of these tools and even if you can find 5 minutes to get still and put the thinking on paper - it can start to slow things down. It's a process, but it is the best way I've found for me. Best of luck to ya - you got this!
Dang man - I appreciate the love. Means a ton for you to send over this feedback. Hope you stay subscribed as I have 4 additional videos scripted out around ideas like this or very similar. If you're interested I have a Succeed Anyway Challenge I created that helps to grow your accountability, happiness and results in life and at work. They are all free weekly videos if you'd like to go deeper: info.realitybasedleadership.com/challenge
Thank you so much! Appreciate the love and support. Working on a serious of videos around mental minimalism and how it relates to drama in our lives. Hope you keep tuning in!
Thank you so much Maryam! Happy you enjoyed and I hope to continue making similar content to this around how the mind works, how to reduce mental drama and how to lead better. I appreciate the support of the work I'm doing.
Thank you so much! I guess I would say, "Don't take my word for it, check it out for yourself and let us know." Try each one of them and see if it declutters your mind. Can't wait to hear!
great content. I like how you said don't judge. this didn't' just help me declutter my mind. It also helped better understand why God says not to Judge others. Thanks Alex.
Thank you so much. So happy that was a great reminder for you. I always say, especially at work, the moment you start judging - you stop serving, stop leading and stop adding value. All the best!
Haha so funny that you noticed that! Definitely have spent a ton of time trying to learn from the best over the last 5 years of speaking, training and consulting together. Thanks for watching Sally!
Thank you so much for the amazing comment Kathy. Means a ton to me. This is one of my favorite videos I've been able to put together and hope the 3 techniques are helpful. Should I do more around mental minimalism in 2020? Any other leadership concepts out there I could put a mental minimalism spin on?
You're welcome Hidaya! Glad you found it helpful. Hope you dive into some of the other videos as well if you are interested in some of these ideas through a leadership lens. Thanks for the feedback!
Oh my God i didn't know that my "thinking" on the situation 3 where sbar is the tool is really happening i strugle i lot in dealing with my thoughts... THANK YOU FOR THIS! REALLY!!!!
Just realized I never responded to this - so sorry! Yes, that ability to get the 'S' of the tool down to one or two sentences is the key. It also helps you stay to the facts, neutral and beyond drama as you go into the tool. All the best and hope you are well!
Thank you so much Adriana! It blows your mind the moment you sit down and actually journal that exercise. I remember when Cy first taught us it she ripped the paper in half and had us read back our THIS column. It is impossible to vent about the THIS column because it is just reality. You start to sound ridiculous! Hope you are well and keep spreading the word.
So well said Kimberly. I've found such peace every time I actually go through the tool for that reason - the clutter around the situation finally goes away. Best of luck to you and I hope you keep following along!
So happy that tool resonated! Once teams are focused on offering 3-5 ways we could move forward you have really entered an amazing space. This is where people have open minds to many different ways to get to the solution and they are willing to buy-in to whichever one is chosen to benefit the potential of the group. Pass on the word and hope you are well!
Such a good idea Shannon! I found the visual like you have keeps it top of mind and also can be something you move the conversation to when people come a bit fired up into the office. Keep doing great work out there!
this means that sounds like a great way to correct my thinking. It will be hard to convince myself of what I know is true and will take practice, but will be worth it.
You got this Cathy. You have me reflecting on how hard I fought with that tool the first time I was practicing it. My ego didn't want to cross out anything in the MEANS THAT column because it was such an engrained judgment or story. Give yourself grace and keep reflecting on it. One question that always helps me sort though this is to ask myself, "If I passed this to someone next to me, would they agree that what is written is completely true?" With that though experiment I am usually able to cross out a few additional judgments and stories. Maybe that helps! You got it and let me know how it goes.
Edit Your Story its powerful!! First it makes me reflect not only in the situation also on my internal processes. Second, makes me have more awareness of myself, and third, that I am in control of both mi internal processes and my own behavior.
Great breakdown of how that tool slows down the stressful or frustrating situation. This helps you get a handle on what has us most cluttered and upset and then you can get intentional in your choices from there. Thanks for sharing and for being a fan!
For me, Edit Your Story is the most useful because it can be done so quickly. It's also a great tool to use with others who come to me stressed with their own story.
So well said Chris! Also, most people tell me, "How can I have 20 minutes per day to sit down, write out a whole story and then cross out what I don't know to be true? I am just too busy." What they don't realize is that after doing 3-4 of these, you start to get the magic trick and then you are able to do the Edit Your Story as a mental process to get back on track quicker. You may eventually run into a situation that has you so frustrated you have to go back to writing it down, but those become fewer and far between. Thanks for watching!
Thanks for commenting Steven. Hope the video helped. What I did is picked one of those tools and took 5 minutes and did it everytime I felt cluttered in my thinking. As I got clearer, it usually showed me the next simple steps I could take to improve my life, have a better conversation or take action. Then I just followed those simple directions with trust. Until I was cluttered again and did another tool. It helped a ton! You may also like this video as well - ua-cam.com/video/aNv4xZGbImE/v-deo.html
You got this Lisa! Best time to start is now. Just notice when you feel off-center and that is probably a good time to edit the story. You got this and you're welcome!
Thank you for this video. I am going to try your techniques. Do you have other tools to use to unclutter your mind from past events that keep cropping up?
You're welcome man! Yes, absolutely. The one I start with is the Edit Your Story which you learned in this video. The other resource I recommend (although not for the faint of hearted) is The Work by Byron Katie. When I had re-occuring past events that caused me guilt, fear, stress, anxiety or suffering I always turn to her worksheets and four questions to help me understand that thinking so it doesn't continue to throw me off track. When I am really struggling with something her work is my way out. Hope that helps and enjoy that journey to freedom if you so choose to start doing the work and sitting in inquiry! Can't wait to stay connected and hear how it goes for you. - Alex
Awesome that that tool has been embraced by your team! Always the best when we can call each other up by using that tool in the moments when our human condition gets the best of us. I appreciate you sharing Jennifer and jumping to the conversation.
Hi Alex. Any relationship to Byron Katie? Something in your face and hand gestures reminds me of her (not to mention the wisdom!) Thanks for the video.
So happy it resonated with you Darla! Hope the 3 tools are something you can apply immediately. Keep doing great work out there and would love for you to share with anyone you know. All the best!
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You're so welcome Prerna - love the enthusiasm! So happy the video had some helpful ideas for you. Let me know how it goes as you start to try some of the tools. Thanks for being a new fan and I am looking forward to creating more video resources like this one. Sending tons of love to you in India 🙏🏻
Thank you so much! I am so glad you are here as well. What suggestions do you have for more content you are interested in? Would you like more mental minimalism? Leadership tips? Mindset? I appreciate your perspective and thoughts!
Haha love it Jenifer! I remember how dumbfounded I was the first time I went through the exercise. I remember thinking, "Why didn't anyone tell me?!" Thanks for jumping in!
Yessss! Thank you Melonie! Please pass it along and let me know if there are any other challenges I can help with whether it is mindset or leadership. Thanks for following along and be sure to grab the free SBAR tool at info.realitybasedleadership.com/tool
What... what are yo doing with your hands? Are those like physical queues to make sure your inflections are being done properly? Is it a hypnosis thing?
It's what ever you need it to be man! Working on using them less. This was one of my first videos where I really wanted to nail a script so there are more cuts than I would traditionally have on a presentation. Hoping to find the balance in future videos. Any of the tools helpful for you?
@@AlexMDorr Honestly I think I was way more invested in your presentation than the content (which is a me problem). I’m trying to get better at engaging with the camera and the punctuation of hand gestures is something I always find an interesting addition to any speech or conversational engagement. The type of decluttering my mind that I usually tend to need isn’t really along the spiralling anxiety line, which seems to be the main concern in the video. My mind needs a way to somehow quell the addiction it has to following idle thoughts instead of going to bed. Or to make it less pretentious: I got a daydreaming problem at night, and I’ve no idea how to quiet it down. Only consolation really has been having the forethought to recognize when I’m in too deep to discontinue it, so I might as well right ‘er down.
@@thepretentiousgentleman Gotcha - that is definitely important and good feedback. In the future, I don't want my hand gestures or presentation to take away from the clarity of the message for sure. That is such a tough problem - especially in this day and age. Toning down the thoughts to settle into going to bed. Some of the daily practice of what I brought up in this video will teach you about how your mind works to notice those thoughts running more often. I have found more consistent meditation practice has helped me with some of this. It sounds so simple, but 6 months ago or so - I committed to putting the phone down at around 8pm and only allowing myself to read a book by my bed. This has drastically helped the running thoughts at night. Just suggestions! Would love to hear what works for you down the road.
Haha I've been waiting for that question for quite some time! It actually looks more extreme than it is. The real question is, do you think the flooring is wood as well? ;)
Appreciate that Brian! Glad you enjoyed. Hope you get a chance to try out the Edit Your Story, SBAR or This Means That tool and start to simplify. Thanks for following along 🙌
So happy you have adopted that tool into your toolbox. Also, that tagline has set me free as a reminder - "Alex, stop believing everything you think." Can't tell you how many times I am reminded that my stress is never from my reality, but from the story I have made up and am believing about reality. Thanks for jumping in!
Thank you so much Emma. So happy it helped and all the best to you. I have 25 leadership, mindset and happiness videos coming out on my channel soon. They are almost done and hope you watch those as well!
Hey man . Love the video . Hmm I'm a 12th grade student and my mind is completely cluttered . Whenever I try to study , it feels like my mind is full and nothing ever goes to my head and then I get tensed and worried because of this clutter . One day I was watching Sherlock Holmes and he says that he keeps his mind attic with important things and the unnecessary stuff he forgets ( like cleaning the attic ) . I so wanted to do that as I feel it would help me in my studies and also that this is one year that I can't screw up . Also do you have any advice to increase my concentration levels because they've been decreasing for the last 3 years . Please help
Thanks for watching Aaron. I remember those days and can't even imagine how much extra is on your mind with all that is going on in the world now. Hang in there. Love that Sherlock Holmes quote and I completely agree. There are some different levels of this I would encourage you to look at. As far as study tips and retaining information, I am not necessarily an expert in that. I have loved Jim Kwik for memory content if you haven't found his work. There are a ton of others who have study tips. What I can help you with is the part where you mentioned the stressful thoughts - "nothing ever goes to my head" and "I get tensed and worried." What I would tell you is that the feeling of being tense or worried is first caused by your thinking and more specifically the stressful (untrue) thoughts that you are believing in that moment. For example when I was feeling tense and stressed, the thoughts that I was most likely believing that caused those feelings were, "My parents will be upset if I don't get good grades. I will not get into college if I have a bad 12th grade year. I am not smart enough. Everyone else gets this and I don't." What I would do is look at each of these individually and question them with the THIS means THAT tool. This helps me slow down my mind and notice the events that are happening "I got a 70% on this one math test." and how my mind then adds in "and my parents are going to be disappointed and a few more tests like that and I won't get into the college I want and this means that I'm stupid..." When I question all of those additional thoughts with a, "CAN I ABSOLUTELY KNOW EACH OF THOSE ARE TRUE?" then I realize that is my mind just making up stories and this is the cause of my stress and extra clutter. I just notice that and eventually it makes me smile because I am aware of it and notice. From that clarity, you just take it one day at a time and mentally ask yourself, "Given that I got a 70% on that test and this subject and my goal is to get better grades - what can I do next to improve it?" When I am able to get clear and reduce the ADDED STRESS - there are solutions and ways for me to improve moving forward from that wisdom. This is all you can do and you just follow this process. The more you explore where the EXTRA STRESS is coming from with your thinking WHILE ALSO LEARNING FROM someone like Jim Kwik to help with your memory - the closer you will get to what you are looking for. I hope this helps a bit. Please let me know what other video topics you'd love to hear about! - Alex
@@aliabalhebshi Love it! That is seriously the one quick tool, if you want to quickly make a transformation, I recommend everyone to start using. Good pick there!
That tool seriously changed my life! Not only for the clarity, but in not taking too much of someone else's time that I am interacting with at work with information I haven't processed yet. Good stuff and best of luck to you! Also, you can download a free PDF of the tool if you want to have it with you, print and share at: info.realitybasedleadership.com/tool
Love that you saw the value of the SBAR from that perspective. Many people that hear this tool from me can't wait to use it to help ditch the drama from someone that comes to them, but I have found the most value in using it myself to ensure I am presenting situations cleanly and with expertise and a focus on "how we could." It is the easiest way to ensure you are adding value in whatever situation you are a part of. It gives you structure to do that consistenly. You got this!
I appreciate the feedback Brooke and thank you for subscribing! In 2021, I should have a ton more videos on leadership, reducing our mental drama and living more intentionally with our tools. Can't wait to hear what you think of those as well. Stay in touch!
What about if some of your fears are things that people have expressed to you at one point, so you know they feel that way and you’re not just imagining it?
Great question here. If I am reading your question right - people can share with me something that they see me as 'fearing' - but the truth is I can choose whether I believe what they are saying or not. So it is not important whether you are imagining it or not - editing your story helps you get down to the facts of what the reality is, while watching for the story/judgments/assignments of motive you are adding on to the facts. These addition are usually what leads to fear because they focus on if THIS happens it automatically MEANS THAT. We can't know the future of how an event may play out, but the ego often assigns negativity to how it will play out. Lastly, if there is something that after reflecting, I still have fear around - it is usually down to three areas I need to focus on - 1) am I lacking the skillset needed to handle that situation? 2) Am I using an old or less than modern approach to handling that challenge or 3) Am I lacking willingness to learn more, educate myself or go in to key conversations with vulnerability and willingness to not know all of the answers before I get started? Reflecting on those 3 places after editing my story about the situation always leads to a ton of relief and helps me rise above fear I may be having. Hope that helps and that I didn't miss the question you were asking!
Take no thought for tomorrow for sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof. Cast all your cares on Him. Keep mind on God to be in perfect peace. Take every thought captive.
Welcome to the dream team. More videos like this to come around leadership, mindset and just being peaceful in the world. Can't wait to hang with you more in the comments.
I couldn't agree more. People seem to find the most relief by implementing that one tool with their teams. It simultaneously reduces venting, ensures alignment to organizational strategies, moves people from opinions to expertise and leans people into problem-solving given the reality we are in. Truly a transformational mental process to implement across an organization.
as you are solely talking to a camera it's very weird to have the shots from the side, it's more natural and calmer if you just stay filming yourself from the front as if we had a conversation. nice topic, well done- just wanted to point that one out as an option to further improve :)
Thank you for the perspective Sebastian. With future videos I am looking to adjust to more of the style you are saying. That makes sense. I was playing around with trying to switch the eye level of the viewer to keep them engaged, but maybe it backfired. Open to other tips for how you see people doing this more effectively than I did in this video. Thank you!
I think the first tool, Edit Your Story, would have the most value for me, as I can see how it really cuts through the mental "crap." And I know I do this, create this whole ridiculous fictional story. Looking forward to giving this a whirl. Thanks.
Haha so well said Becky! Let me know how it goes as you try it out. I have found that it only takes a few times to go through the tool completely to be able to recognize quicker when you are into the story and away from the facts. Thanks for watching and good luck!
You got this. I always say - pick one of them and be kind to yourself. The this means that tool as a visual is so powerful when you journal in that way for a few days. You start to see the standard ways we clutter up our brain with additional judgment and negative story-telling pretty quick. You got this!
One of my favorites! I call it the ol' reliable. Whenever I am stressed, it is a good indication I am believing things that are untrue. I need to edit my story. What a peaceful realization that there is a way out of the stress and suffering that happens at work. Thanks for jumping in!
Haha love it Joe! We're all ready for some warmer weather if you've been battling this snow and cold recently across the country. Thanks for being an advocate and for commenting.
Joe! You are one of our winners for commenting. Thanks for sharing with your team! Please send a message to info (at) cywakeman (dot) com. Thanks so much for jumping in!
this video is an undiscovered goldmine.
That's what I thought! Took the words right out of my mouth. haha
Thanks for your support and keep spreading the word.
@@AlexMDorr Sure, man, I too believe it is the clutter inside of our head that needs more attention. Thanks for the tips, I have pretty messed up brain xD
@@MahtabAlam-uf8db so well said. Start with the clutter in our heads, understand it and find clarity and the rest of our world can shift. I think you're on to something. Oh and me too! We have this human condition so in some ways we all have a pretty messed up brain at times. Let's keep on livin' man!
Agreed. 🙌🏼
Fantastic, thank you! 🙌🏼
I love how you just built a bridge between minimalism and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). The first two techniques from a CBT standpoint are basically questioning our cognitive distortions which are thoughts we have that may or may not be true. In CBT you learn to identify these thoughts and then collect evidence such as you describe to test whether the thought is an accurate reflection of reality. I never thought of this as mental decluttering before, but I can see now how it can be!
Thank you for that feedback. I think a ton about this because the main work I do is leadership training with leaders in corporate organizations and we introduce these tools to give basically a 1.0 of CBT so you know how much your ego is playing you at work. You just hit on essentially what I was trying to take a chance at. I know it was a stretch, but I feel like it is a helpful data point on the trend of minimalism that is out there. Thank you for your perspective and additional insights. Would love to hear more of your thoughts and ideas as you have more reflections! All the best.
I’m surprised. This is exactly what I needed to learn. Becoming minimalist in the physical is way too easy, compared to declutter our mind and mental noise/drama. Thanks for those tips Alex!
So well said Lorena. I hope you liked the connection to traditional minimalism that I did with this video. Choosing any of these 3 techniques to intentionally do each day can help so much with fear, uncertainty, stress or anxiety. Thanks for watching and spread the word to anyone you think it could help!
Physical minimalism is not really easy especially when we have so much drama about our stuff. Mental decluttering is what can make physical decluttering more logical and effortless.
216th subscriber here, it's 4:30 AM, up so early due to broken sleep and a massive headache. I'm 29, constantly bugged by the thought of finishing about 45% of life, and not having accomplished much. I do have a stable job but I need to excel and switch careers ASAP. Reasons being saturation and insecurity; due to which I had to start by closing Facebook and Instagram. I've also taken a step towards the goal but due to the need to work towards it alongside a full-time job and personal commitments, the past one year has been awfully stressful. This has resulted in my inability to focus either at life or at working towards the career switch goal, leaving me worried. It has also resulted in being impatient, lacking tolerance and screwing personal relations with colleagues and friends. I want you to help me in this situation by making more videos on mental health being affected due to mind and life clutter. I may not be the only one, many more might need help on this. TIA
Hey Dhiraj - so sorry to hear about your struggle and challenges. I know this can be tough. Hope the video helped you with a few of the practical tools I use to help when I am feeling overwhelmed or believing I am not reaching my full potential. I will continue to make videos about my journey with this idea of mental minimalism and how it helps with my stress. I also invite you to check out Byron Katie's website at thework.com - she will teach you all you need to know about understanding those thoughts you are having and what to do next. Stay strong sir and let me know what else I can help with.
Also, I have some plans to make more videos on the topics you are suggesting through the lens of "Mental Minimalism." As we are able to understand a bit more about how our mind works, some of those insecurities and clutter will start to fall away. But it is daily practice and repetition of the tools I have mentioned. The Edit Your Story, the SBAR and the This Means That. I hope this was your first steps.
Love the SBAR tool to decrease the drama when communicating with teams regarding an opportunity for improvement - removes any accusatory commentary and focuses on the facts. A true game changer!
So well said Shari! I hope you could see all of the coaching opportunities at each part of the acronym and it definitely moves the energy away from accusatory comments or blaming. It also finishes with the person leaning into what are some recommendations to move forward. Doesn't necessarily need solutions, but recommendations on "how we could." Thanks for jumping in and sharing your perspective!
Shared the concept of Edit Your Story with a group of Emerging Leaders just today, and then saw your newsletter with this video in my inbox! I forwarded your newsletter to everyone on the call as a follow up. Wow. You're a psychic too, knowing just what I needed and when. Awesome!
Hahaha! When the universe lines up, the universe lines up. :) Thanks for spreading the word and sharing this information with your leaders. These foundational concepts can be so beneficial in their careers. Gotta add the psychic piece to my bio now because you said this!
Helene! You are one of our winners for commenting. Thanks for sharing with your team! Please send a message to info (at) cywakeman (dot) com.
This truly resonates with me, I always say our perception and reality are two different things, and we can change our perspectives if we truly watch our thoughts objectively, I’m going to watch this video a few more times and implement this Thanksgiving weekend. Mental purge, here I come. Thank you for posting.
So well said with the perception vs. reality lens. It has been my experience as well! So happy this resonated with you and I can't wait to see how the tools help to make some small shifts in your life. Let me know how everything goes! Best of luck to you.
Anxiety relief simplified. This video is what I've needed and wanted all the time. Thank you Alex. You explain things so clearly.
So happy to hear that feedback. Keep passing on the word and sharing this if someone is ever struggling and looking for some quick tools. Thanks for being a fan and commenting.
I love this video Alex! I initially saw it about a year ago when you shared it to Instagram. I have been using these practices in my daily life and holy cow, it makes life a lot easier. Decluttering your mind & focusing on facts makes a huge difference. I run a handful of restaurants & will be introducing this to my leaders & staff this week. Thank you for all that you do! Keep up the good work!
Haha so glad you came back to it and it has still been helpful for you! I'm close to coming out with a similar video on a minimalist view towards resilience. Appreciate you sharing the love and so glad you are using the daily practices. This time I've had to find myself getting even more disciplined with using the tools. Made me smile with the comment!
I love that you said you will be introducing this to your staff at work! I love the restaurant I work at, and I have often mentioned workshops that speak on this topic to my management team, being that we are in the service industry. But isn't that the industry all humans are in? lol I hope you have had success in implementing this! Take care.
@@LaurawithaB So well said Laura! Just so you know we have programs for leaders and staff all around these concepts that we deliver in formal trainings. They can be shaped for any industry and delivered completely virtual as of now! Here is a link to my speaker's page to learn more about who I have been able to work with and who has loved the programs. www.realitybasedleadership.com/meet-our-team/alex-dorr/
Wow. I’ve been practising minimalism physically but mentally I felt caught up and was looking for help. Awesome techniques. Can’t wait to apply these!!! Thank you so much ❤❤❤
Love that you found this video. Let me know how it all goes. Should free you up even more. Welcome to peace and great results!
This video might be a year old, but really hit home for me in this moment in time. Glad I found this.
I appreciate the comment Greggor and so happy you found the video and tips helpful! Daily practice with these tools. I still do an edit your story or "this means that" daily especially during COVID because my mind can get so ahead of me and scattered. I invite you to keep doing the same and let me know how it goes. Best of luck you you and thanks for supporting!
I am feeling overwhelmed and your video just released me so much just for learning this way to deal. Loved it.
Means the world for you to share that! So happy you found this video at the right time. One tool at a time whenever you are stressed. Put your mind to paper and trust the tools. All the best to you!
When I subscribed to your channel because of this amazing video I couldn’t believe that you have 1k subscribers!! At first I saw it as a 1M actually!
Thank you soooo much
I shared it with my friends
Oh my gosh - you are too kind! I guess it is just a matter of time haha Thanks for sharing with your friends and I hope you keep pointing people you meet to this video if they are struggling. I have a bunch of videos coming out in the next year as well. Wishing you all the best and thanks for following along!
These tools are invaluable to clear our brain, ditch the drama and actually get things done! Thanks so much!
So well said Marge! Hope they were great reminders of way to sort through our thinking when we get worked up or toggle down. You got this!
Omggggg You ARE SPOT ON!!!! Wowww!!!
Thank you for these Mental Revelations and the Homework to help with me be less "mentally dramatic".
Haha this response got me Charity! So happy you found this helpful. It is a daily practice, but over time this makes a huge difference in our own stress level, how people around us respond and our overall results in general. To the good life... Best of luck to you!
I love the simple easy-going nature in which you presented these 3 tools! Thank you...
So happy you enjoyed and liked the style. Hope the tools are helpful in those stressful and cluttered situations you find yourself in. I'd love to hear back how it is going!
A watched this last year and looked for this again because i feel like my brain is so cluttered right now im working on my portfolio for my freelance job and i have a lot of ideas, i feel so overwhelmed. Thank you so much for this video, this helped me a lot. And honestly, you’re channel will blow up. Keep it up
So happy you came back to the video! I hope it was helpful the second time through. I do these three tools as daily habits so don't ever feel like you are using them too much. Every time you are feeling stressed, cluttered, frustrated or anxious - I would get writing down one of these tools. It won't always move any of your freelance work forward, but it will keep you clear and creative to have that additional energy to bring your best self to the table for that freelance work. You got this and you're welcome!
I swear this really helped and might as well do this on a daily too! Btw i already subscribed and suggested this video to my fellow creatives who’s having the same problem as mine THANK YOU SO MUCH
Great video!
Thanks for jumping in my man and watching. Appreciate your feedback on it. Fun to connect on twitter the other day!
Edit your story is such a great tool in the workplace. Most stress and feelings of being overwhelmed are not backed by facts but more emotions. This video is going out to my team right away!
Yessss Jenna! Send it out and let's get the conversation started. I've found that most people are relieved when they learn this information and it feels nice to talk about it with your team. Hope you get some good convos started and let me know if there is anything else I can help with. Keep doing great things!
I wish I had seen this in my prior job where I was stressed and frustrated all the time due to my own mind games. My favorite tool would be the "Edit your story". Doesn't take much effort to see through the clutter once you take the time to work it out.
I appreciate you sharing and best part is that the timing is always perfect to learn these lessons. Sounds like you got it now and can quickly rise above those untrue stories that hold us back. So well said about seeing through the clutter as this becomes a mental process you can use without actually having to write it down once you have practiced it enough.
It's the greatest video so far. I have been trying a lot of ways to declutter my mind. And this has been a gem. Really practical and amazing tools. Thank you so much, Alex! ❤❤💕💗
So sorry I missed this amazing comment Ruth! I am honored that you said this and it means a ton that it was helpful for you. Let me know how the tools help you as you move along in your journey. Wishing you peace and happiness!
I think Edit Your Story is useful. It is so true how we make up stories in our mind & this tool can diffuse that habit.
And is Alex related to Cy??! Their voice, speaking technique, & mannerisms are so similar. I enjoy learning from them both!
It is such a part of our human condition that we have to continually wake up to - myself included! It may always happen for us, but the more we can catch it the happier we can be.
Haha glad you caught on to that! After 5 years doing all I can to study under her and immerse myself in the philosophy, I was bound to catch on to some of the cadence, story-telling flow and mannerisms that have led to her success. I am fascinated with the old apprenticeship models where if you wanted to learn from them, be around them as much as you can and play the fly on the wall. Surround yourself with the greats, but don't take too much of their time. Watch them in their natural environment and add your own style to it. Success leaves clues and don't try to reinvent the wheel. Thanks for being a big fan and for learning with us!
Thank you so much. These are fantastic tools that will greatly improve my life. So well organized and present and modeled😊
Thanks :) Alex, great insights. Mental peace helps us to be happy and emotionally strong in difficult situations.
You're welcome! That is they key and what I was hoping for people to see in this video. There will always be circumstances and challenges we face. Many times they are unpreferred or less than ideal. Either way, there are ways forward to be able to impact and improve if we have good mental processes to approach it from clear perspective. I appreciate your insight and additions to the comments.
@@AlexMDorr Pleasure my friend :)
Such a cool look at understanding how our mind works and how it influences our happiness and results each day. Great message to share for all of us working to live a more simple life each with more intention.
Thank you so much for your perspective. Love that you noticed that correlation and thanks for following along!
Mental minimalism - love!! Edit your story is one of my favorite tools!
Glad you loved the spin on that trend of minimalism out there. I found our tools are great ways to declutter any thinking that is leading to drama. That edit your story is definitely my go-to as well for that.
thank you so much, this has gave me hope to execute these methods and feel brand new. thanks again
So happy you found it helpful! Hope you are able to put some of the tools into practice. Let me know how they work for you!
@@AlexMDorr it's been great so far my friend! thanks again
I’ll give them a try! Thank you, Alex!
Love it Jeffrey! You got this. Enjoy the shifts that are coming your way...
Amazing video. Thanks so much for sharing the tools.
Thank you so much for watching and for your feedback. Those are 3 of my favorites and I have found myself using them more and more with what is happening in the world right now in an attempt to stay clear. Which one of the tools is your favority? Would love to know which one is most effective for you!
Superb! I’ve never come across content like this in YT. Practicable and simple. I love 1 & 2. Thanks for this great vid! 👏
So happy you found your way here! I appreciate the feedback and it makes my day because I always try to make sure each video has practiceable tools that you can implement in your own life to learn about YOU. With more of this insight you can work through more of your interferences that keep you from success and happiness at work. Hope you keep coming back! I have a big video series coming out shortly with more tips like this.
What great advice and tools that can be used right away. Thanks Alex!
So happy they resonated with you! I always say pick one and test it out a bit. Even that small effort can make a big difference. You got this!
Thank you, I needed this video in times like this, have been stressing alot and couldn't hear myself think
Hang in there Clinton. Take one of these tools and even if you can find 5 minutes to get still and put the thinking on paper - it can start to slow things down. It's a process, but it is the best way I've found for me. Best of luck to ya - you got this!
I am so glad I have found this video I really hope more people watch and use this method of sorting out situations. Alex Dorr Keep working your magic.
Dang man - I appreciate the love. Means a ton for you to send over this feedback. Hope you stay subscribed as I have 4 additional videos scripted out around ideas like this or very similar. If you're interested I have a Succeed Anyway Challenge I created that helps to grow your accountability, happiness and results in life and at work. They are all free weekly videos if you'd like to go deeper: info.realitybasedleadership.com/challenge
I really love the way this video turned out, Alex! Great information.
Thank you so much! Appreciate the love and support. Working on a serious of videos around mental minimalism and how it relates to drama in our lives. Hope you keep tuning in!
Really really appreciate this information so very much.
Thank you so much Maryam! Happy you enjoyed and I hope to continue making similar content to this around how the mind works, how to reduce mental drama and how to lead better. I appreciate the support of the work I'm doing.
Very inspirational speech. I hope that the techniques would work. Greetings from 🇹🇷
Thank you so much! I guess I would say, "Don't take my word for it, check it out for yourself and let us know." Try each one of them and see if it declutters your mind. Can't wait to hear!
Wow. Thanks for making simple sense. New subscriber here.
Thanks, Alex, I love this take on the RBL Philosophy. I want to work toward being a Mental Minimalist!!
So great to hear from you Janice! Glad you enjoyed this spin and thanks for watching. Keep being intentional out there. Hope you are well!
great content. I like how you said don't judge. this didn't' just help me declutter my mind. It also helped better understand why God says not to Judge others. Thanks Alex.
Thank you so much. So happy that was a great reminder for you. I always say, especially at work, the moment you start judging - you stop serving, stop leading and stop adding value. All the best!
Such a great video and exactly what I needed today! I love that so many of your voice inflections and mannerisms are like Cy’s 😊
Haha so funny that you noticed that! Definitely have spent a ton of time trying to learn from the best over the last 5 years of speaking, training and consulting together. Thanks for watching Sally!
This is excellent and very well presented.
Thank you so much for the amazing comment Kathy. Means a ton to me. This is one of my favorite videos I've been able to put together and hope the 3 techniques are helpful. Should I do more around mental minimalism in 2020? Any other leadership concepts out there I could put a mental minimalism spin on?
Amazing video super helpful 👏
Awesome video. Keep it up man. Solid editing and content!
Appreciate that Julian! Thanks for the feedback and for watching. More of these to come. So happy you enjoyed it!
Great tools!! Thank you so much!
So happy you enjoyed them! Have you had a chance to try to implement one of them in your day-to-day? Would love to know if it helped!
Thanks a lot! Such a clear way of explanation!!!
You're welcome Hidaya! Glad you found it helpful. Hope you dive into some of the other videos as well if you are interested in some of these ideas through a leadership lens. Thanks for the feedback!
Oh my God i didn't know that my "thinking" on the situation 3 where sbar is the tool is really happening i strugle i lot in dealing with my thoughts... THANK YOU FOR THIS! REALLY!!!!
Just realized I never responded to this - so sorry! Yes, that ability to get the 'S' of the tool down to one or two sentences is the key. It also helps you stay to the facts, neutral and beyond drama as you go into the tool. All the best and hope you are well!
Love the SBAR tool. A great way to cut to the point.
So well said Gregory. Cleans up a ton of wandering and venting while also driving personal accountability all in one tool.
so worth the watch..."This" caused me stress, "This means That" !!!
Thank you so much Adriana! It blows your mind the moment you sit down and actually journal that exercise. I remember when Cy first taught us it she ripped the paper in half and had us read back our THIS column. It is impossible to vent about the THIS column because it is just reality. You start to sound ridiculous! Hope you are well and keep spreading the word.
Thank you for the video... excellent in all respects.. content, presentation , clarity 🙏
You're welcome Sudhir! So happy you enjoyed it and it got you thinking. Thanks for following along and commenting.
Great video and truly appreciate the Edit Your Story. It is easy to do and helps to get to the actual facts. Declutters.
So well said Kimberly. I've found such peace every time I actually go through the tool for that reason - the clutter around the situation finally goes away. Best of luck to you and I hope you keep following along!
Love the SBAR concept--moving forward with recommendations!
So happy that tool resonated! Once teams are focused on offering 3-5 ways we could move forward you have really entered an amazing space. This is where people have open minds to many different ways to get to the solution and they are willing to buy-in to whichever one is chosen to benefit the potential of the group. Pass on the word and hope you are well!
I love the SBAR tool! I have the steps written on my white board in my office to remind me to use and to remind my staff.
Such a good idea Shannon! I found the visual like you have keeps it top of mind and also can be something you move the conversation to when people come a bit fired up into the office. Keep doing great work out there!
this means that sounds like a great way to correct my thinking. It will be hard to convince myself of what I know is true and will take practice, but will be worth it.
You got this Cathy. You have me reflecting on how hard I fought with that tool the first time I was practicing it. My ego didn't want to cross out anything in the MEANS THAT column because it was such an engrained judgment or story. Give yourself grace and keep reflecting on it. One question that always helps me sort though this is to ask myself, "If I passed this to someone next to me, would they agree that what is written is completely true?" With that though experiment I am usually able to cross out a few additional judgments and stories. Maybe that helps! You got it and let me know how it goes.
Edit Your Story its powerful!!
First it makes me reflect not only in the situation also on my internal processes. Second, makes me have more awareness of myself, and third, that I am in control of both mi internal processes and my own behavior.
Great breakdown of how that tool slows down the stressful or frustrating situation. This helps you get a handle on what has us most cluttered and upset and then you can get intentional in your choices from there. Thanks for sharing and for being a fan!
For me, Edit Your Story is the most useful because it can be done so quickly. It's also a great tool to use with others who come to me stressed with their own story.
So well said Chris! Also, most people tell me, "How can I have 20 minutes per day to sit down, write out a whole story and then cross out what I don't know to be true? I am just too busy." What they don't realize is that after doing 3-4 of these, you start to get the magic trick and then you are able to do the Edit Your Story as a mental process to get back on track quicker. You may eventually run into a situation that has you so frustrated you have to go back to writing it down, but those become fewer and far between. Thanks for watching!
Alex sounds like Cy!! Great information.
You don't study the best without picking up some of her cadences and mannerisms. Hoping to continue to do her and the message proud!
Thanks a lot for the video mate I need to seriously declutter my mind
Thanks for commenting Steven. Hope the video helped. What I did is picked one of those tools and took 5 minutes and did it everytime I felt cluttered in my thinking. As I got clearer, it usually showed me the next simple steps I could take to improve my life, have a better conversation or take action. Then I just followed those simple directions with trust. Until I was cluttered again and did another tool. It helped a ton! You may also like this video as well - ua-cam.com/video/aNv4xZGbImE/v-deo.html
Edit your story is a great tool. I need to use it more often! Thank you.
You got this Lisa! Best time to start is now. Just notice when you feel off-center and that is probably a good time to edit the story. You got this and you're welcome!
Great info
So happy it resonated with you! Thanks for commenting and best of luck to you!
Thank you for this video. I am going to try your techniques. Do you have other tools to use to unclutter your mind from past events that keep cropping up?
You're welcome man! Yes, absolutely. The one I start with is the Edit Your Story which you learned in this video. The other resource I recommend (although not for the faint of hearted) is The Work by Byron Katie. When I had re-occuring past events that caused me guilt, fear, stress, anxiety or suffering I always turn to her worksheets and four questions to help me understand that thinking so it doesn't continue to throw me off track. When I am really struggling with something her work is my way out. Hope that helps and enjoy that journey to freedom if you so choose to start doing the work and sitting in inquiry! Can't wait to stay connected and hear how it goes for you. - Alex
The 'Edit Your Story" tool has been useful for me and my team!
Awesome that that tool has been embraced by your team! Always the best when we can call each other up by using that tool in the moments when our human condition gets the best of us. I appreciate you sharing Jennifer and jumping to the conversation.
Hi Alex. Any relationship to Byron Katie? Something in your face and hand gestures reminds me of her (not to mention the wisdom!)
Thanks for the video.
So good!
So happy it resonated with you Darla! Hope the 3 tools are something you can apply immediately. Keep doing great work out there and would love for you to share with anyone you know. All the best!
Thankyouuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu sooooooooooooooooooooo muchhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh ALEX Sir!!!!!!!!!!!! you have reallyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy and reallyyyyyyyyyyyy helped me alottttttttttttttttttttt!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am from INDIA and Lots of love and respect form INDIA !!!!!! Please keep making such videos! Thanks again!
You're so welcome Prerna - love the enthusiasm! So happy the video had some helpful ideas for you. Let me know how it goes as you start to try some of the tools. Thanks for being a new fan and I am looking forward to creating more video resources like this one. Sending tons of love to you in India 🙏🏻
Thanks for sharing 🙂
You're so welcome. Hope you enjoyed!
This is so good!! So glad I found your channel!!
Thank you so much! I am so glad you are here as well. What suggestions do you have for more content you are interested in? Would you like more mental minimalism? Leadership tips? Mindset? I appreciate your perspective and thoughts!
Edit your story is a life changer! Go Alex!
Haha love it Jenifer! I remember how dumbfounded I was the first time I went through the exercise. I remember thinking, "Why didn't anyone tell me?!" Thanks for jumping in!
This is sooooo good! Thank you!
Yessss! Thank you Melonie! Please pass it along and let me know if there are any other challenges I can help with whether it is mindset or leadership. Thanks for following along and be sure to grab the free SBAR tool at info.realitybasedleadership.com/tool
What... what are yo doing with your hands?
Are those like physical queues to make sure your inflections are being done properly?
Is it a hypnosis thing?
It's what ever you need it to be man! Working on using them less. This was one of my first videos where I really wanted to nail a script so there are more cuts than I would traditionally have on a presentation. Hoping to find the balance in future videos. Any of the tools helpful for you?
@@AlexMDorr Honestly I think I was way more invested in your presentation than the content (which is a me problem). I’m trying to get better at engaging with the camera and the punctuation of hand gestures is something I always find an interesting addition to any speech or conversational engagement.
The type of decluttering my mind that I usually tend to need isn’t really along the spiralling anxiety line, which seems to be the main concern in the video. My mind needs a way to somehow quell the addiction it has to following idle thoughts instead of going to bed.
Or to make it less pretentious: I got a daydreaming problem at night, and I’ve no idea how to quiet it down.
Only consolation really has been having the forethought to recognize when I’m in too deep to discontinue it, so I might as well right ‘er down.
@@thepretentiousgentleman Gotcha - that is definitely important and good feedback. In the future, I don't want my hand gestures or presentation to take away from the clarity of the message for sure.
That is such a tough problem - especially in this day and age. Toning down the thoughts to settle into going to bed. Some of the daily practice of what I brought up in this video will teach you about how your mind works to notice those thoughts running more often. I have found more consistent meditation practice has helped me with some of this. It sounds so simple, but 6 months ago or so - I committed to putting the phone down at around 8pm and only allowing myself to read a book by my bed. This has drastically helped the running thoughts at night. Just suggestions! Would love to hear what works for you down the road.
How do you focus with all that wood around you?
Haha I've been waiting for that question for quite some time! It actually looks more extreme than it is. The real question is, do you think the flooring is wood as well? ;)
nice quality and helpful video!
Appreciate that Brian! Glad you enjoyed. Hope you get a chance to try out the Edit Your Story, SBAR or This Means That tool and start to simplify. Thanks for following along 🙌
Thank you=)
You're welcome!
You're welcome Travis! Wishing you all the best!
“Edit you story” is my go to tool in focusing on what I know for sure and to stop believing everything I think
So happy you have adopted that tool into your toolbox. Also, that tagline has set me free as a reminder - "Alex, stop believing everything you think." Can't tell you how many times I am reminded that my stress is never from my reality, but from the story I have made up and am believing about reality. Thanks for jumping in!
Edit Your Story is my go to for sure!
Always the best to do one at least weekly. Love that you have added that into your practice. Good stuff!
This was WONDERFUL.
Thank you so much Emma. So happy it helped and all the best to you. I have 25 leadership, mindset and happiness videos coming out on my channel soon. They are almost done and hope you watch those as well!
Energizing !
Thank you so much - so happy it was helpful for you. All the best!
Hey man . Love the video . Hmm I'm a 12th grade student and my mind is completely cluttered . Whenever I try to study , it feels like my mind is full and nothing ever goes to my head and then I get tensed and worried because of this clutter . One day I was watching Sherlock Holmes and he says that he keeps his mind attic with important things and the unnecessary stuff he forgets ( like cleaning the attic ) . I so wanted to do that as I feel it would help me in my studies and also that this is one year that I can't screw up . Also do you have any advice to increase my concentration levels because they've been decreasing for the last 3 years . Please help
Thanks for watching Aaron. I remember those days and can't even imagine how much extra is on your mind with all that is going on in the world now. Hang in there. Love that Sherlock Holmes quote and I completely agree.
There are some different levels of this I would encourage you to look at. As far as study tips and retaining information, I am not necessarily an expert in that. I have loved Jim Kwik for memory content if you haven't found his work. There are a ton of others who have study tips.
What I can help you with is the part where you mentioned the stressful thoughts - "nothing ever goes to my head" and "I get tensed and worried."
What I would tell you is that the feeling of being tense or worried is first caused by your thinking and more specifically the stressful (untrue) thoughts that you are believing in that moment.
For example when I was feeling tense and stressed, the thoughts that I was most likely believing that caused those feelings were, "My parents will be upset if I don't get good grades. I will not get into college if I have a bad 12th grade year. I am not smart enough. Everyone else gets this and I don't."
What I would do is look at each of these individually and question them with the THIS means THAT tool. This helps me slow down my mind and notice the events that are happening "I got a 70% on this one math test." and how my mind then adds in "and my parents are going to be disappointed and a few more tests like that and I won't get into the college I want and this means that I'm stupid..." When I question all of those additional thoughts with a, "CAN I ABSOLUTELY KNOW EACH OF THOSE ARE TRUE?" then I realize that is my mind just making up stories and this is the cause of my stress and extra clutter.
I just notice that and eventually it makes me smile because I am aware of it and notice. From that clarity, you just take it one day at a time and mentally ask yourself, "Given that I got a 70% on that test and this subject and my goal is to get better grades - what can I do next to improve it?" When I am able to get clear and reduce the ADDED STRESS - there are solutions and ways for me to improve moving forward from that wisdom. This is all you can do and you just follow this process. The more you explore where the EXTRA STRESS is coming from with your thinking WHILE ALSO LEARNING FROM someone like Jim Kwik to help with your memory - the closer you will get to what you are looking for.
I hope this helps a bit. Please let me know what other video topics you'd love to hear about! - Alex
Thank you 😊 nice appreciate it
So happy it helped Anysia! Best of luck to you and let me know what other topics would be helpful that are similar to this one.
thanks man .. very useful
So happy you found some value in it. Which tool was your favorite?
@@AlexMDorr All of them! Specially the SBAR tool 🙂. Thank you again and keep it up!
@@aliabalhebshi Love it! That is seriously the one quick tool, if you want to quickly make a transformation, I recommend everyone to start using. Good pick there!
thank you sooooo much
You're welcome! Glad it was helpful.
Love this
So glad you found it helpful. Thanks for watching!
Here for more videos! 😊
Love it! I have another one coming out probably next week on Mental Minimalism and how it helps to overcome obstacles. Stay tuned!
SBAR tool! Best part of this video!
That tool seriously changed my life! Not only for the clarity, but in not taking too much of someone else's time that I am interacting with at work with information I haven't processed yet. Good stuff and best of luck to you!
Also, you can download a free PDF of the tool if you want to have it with you, print and share at:
info.realitybasedleadership.com/tool
I took away something from all 3 tools. SBAR is one that I will start implementing when presenting situations across my organization.
Love that you saw the value of the SBAR from that perspective. Many people that hear this tool from me can't wait to use it to help ditch the drama from someone that comes to them, but I have found the most value in using it myself to ensure I am presenting situations cleanly and with expertise and a focus on "how we could." It is the easiest way to ensure you are adding value in whatever situation you are a part of. It gives you structure to do that consistenly. You got this!
Great video, thanks!
I appreciate the feedback Brooke and thank you for subscribing! In 2021, I should have a ton more videos on leadership, reducing our mental drama and living more intentionally with our tools. Can't wait to hear what you think of those as well. Stay in touch!
What about if some of your fears are things that people have expressed to you at one point, so you know they feel that way and you’re not just imagining it?
Great question here. If I am reading your question right - people can share with me something that they see me as 'fearing' - but the truth is I can choose whether I believe what they are saying or not. So it is not important whether you are imagining it or not - editing your story helps you get down to the facts of what the reality is, while watching for the story/judgments/assignments of motive you are adding on to the facts. These addition are usually what leads to fear because they focus on if THIS happens it automatically MEANS THAT. We can't know the future of how an event may play out, but the ego often assigns negativity to how it will play out.
Lastly, if there is something that after reflecting, I still have fear around - it is usually down to three areas I need to focus on - 1) am I lacking the skillset needed to handle that situation? 2) Am I using an old or less than modern approach to handling that challenge or 3) Am I lacking willingness to learn more, educate myself or go in to key conversations with vulnerability and willingness to not know all of the answers before I get started?
Reflecting on those 3 places after editing my story about the situation always leads to a ton of relief and helps me rise above fear I may be having. Hope that helps and that I didn't miss the question you were asking!
Take no thought for tomorrow for sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.
Cast all your cares on Him.
Keep mind on God to be in perfect peace.
Take every thought captive.
I think you're on to something...
Good points
Thank you sir! What tip or tool did you like the most from the SBAR, the This Means That or the Edit Your Story? Can't wait to see if it helps you.
Alex, I love you, thank you.
Sending love back. You're welcome. Keep spreading the word.
You Sir, got another subscriber
Welcome to the dream team. More videos like this to come around leadership, mindset and just being peaceful in the world. Can't wait to hang with you more in the comments.
Thankyou:)
You're welcome - thanks for watching!
SBAR should be a part of leadership fundamentals
I couldn't agree more. People seem to find the most relief by implementing that one tool with their teams. It simultaneously reduces venting, ensures alignment to organizational strategies, moves people from opinions to expertise and leans people into problem-solving given the reality we are in. Truly a transformational mental process to implement across an organization.
as you are solely talking to a camera it's very weird to have the shots from the side,
it's more natural and calmer if you just stay filming yourself from the front as if we had a conversation.
nice topic, well done- just wanted to point that one out as an option to further improve :)
Thank you for the perspective Sebastian. With future videos I am looking to adjust to more of the style you are saying. That makes sense. I was playing around with trying to switch the eye level of the viewer to keep them engaged, but maybe it backfired. Open to other tips for how you see people doing this more effectively than I did in this video. Thank you!
@@AlexMDorr Thank YOU for being open and for taking time to answer :)
@@sebastiansimonofficial Of course - always trying to learn out here. All the best!
I think the first tool, Edit Your Story, would have the most value for me, as I can see how it really cuts through the mental "crap." And I know I do this, create this whole ridiculous fictional story. Looking forward to giving this a whirl. Thanks.
Haha so well said Becky! Let me know how it goes as you try it out. I have found that it only takes a few times to go through the tool completely to be able to recognize quicker when you are into the story and away from the facts. Thanks for watching and good luck!
Minimalism: Edit your Story and This Means That, both are great tools I need to use consistently.
You got this. I always say - pick one of them and be kind to yourself. The this means that tool as a visual is so powerful when you journal in that way for a few days. You start to see the standard ways we clutter up our brain with additional judgment and negative story-telling pretty quick. You got this!
Edit your story is a good one!
One of my favorites! I call it the ol' reliable. Whenever I am stressed, it is a good indication I am believing things that are untrue. I need to edit my story. What a peaceful realization that there is a way out of the stress and suffering that happens at work. Thanks for jumping in!
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Welcome Samuel! Thanks for being here and more to come in 2021. Let's keep ditching the drama out there!
noted
You got it man!
Also, stressed by the snow in Alex's window :)
Haha love it Joe! We're all ready for some warmer weather if you've been battling this snow and cold recently across the country. Thanks for being an advocate and for commenting.
Joe! You are one of our winners for commenting. Thanks for sharing with your team! Please send a message to info (at) cywakeman (dot) com. Thanks so much for jumping in!