How To Simplify Your Life
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- Опубліковано 20 сер 2019
- What many of us long for more than anything else is a simpler life; we feel overwhelmed by our responsibilities, schedules, commitments and obligations. This is a film about how to create the simpler life we deserve.
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“It is well understood by good parents that life should only ever get so exciting for a baby: after friends have come around and brought presents and made animated faces, after there has been some cake and some cuddles, after there have been a lot of bright lights and perhaps some songs too, enough is enough. The baby will start to look stern and then burst into tears and the wise parent knows that nothing is particularly wrong (though the baby may by now be wailing): it is just time for a nap. The brain needs to process, digest and divide up the welter of experiences that have been ingested, and so the curtains are drawn, baby is laid down next to the soft toys and soon it is asleep and calm descends. Everyone knows that life is going to be a lot more manageable again in an hour.”
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I did... But it was hard😓 needless to say, I quit
One simple thing I do everyday is take a walk in nature, away from the busyness of life and just breath fresh air. Try it, I implore you.
Want less. Train yourself to want less.
I try to not overthink, either by employing an intrepid countenance or simply by convincing myself its not worth wasting my thoughts on
Wonderful! I was just thinking the other day how to much information from media blurs our personality and gives us a generic internet mindset.
Thank you School of Life!
when i was younger, i imagined a life with the "big dogs", going from city to city on business, having a large house and a night life. Now after all the "noise", both at work and at home, all i want is a debt free life, a safe small home, a healthy diet and lifestyle, a non-toxic inner circle, and everything within walking distance. i just want to see the sun shine.
Judy Simon same
Same...
How old are you?
yes
aww ❤
In the words of the late Alan Watts. “The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple. And yet, everybody rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves.”
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I don't think everyone is rushing around to achieve something beyond themselves... is that even possible?….Maybe they are just making the most of it while they are here.
Exactly the point. You can never get enough from this life. You can only have what time can give you, so assign time to things that truly matter.
Simplicity is true wisdom
anyone else come from wills comment/post??
Omg I did, the way he writes things are so silly, i luv him so much man
YES
YESS
still sobbing
Just got here after wills upload
Thanks for bringing me here, Will
I’ve deleted all social media accounts other than UA-cam. Best decision I’ve made!
naturallybronzed xo I love it! Great move
Have tried it before, but didn't work out with me, I have to keep in touch with my family and friends through it, just tell your phone what content to display like positive vibesss that makes you happy. :>
Facebook. A social media of depression.
Just turning off notifications has saved me tons of time
Deleting your social media is a phenomenal step towards overcoming certain components of your anxiety, depression, and insecurity. You stop comparing your life with others even on a subconscious level and start working towards improving yourself. Thank you for the inspiration.
1 Restrict number of persons and commitments in your life
2 Make sure you sleep enough
3 Limit news intake
4 Sift the chaotic content of your mind
5 Manage your expectations
What I came to the comments looking for
Thank you
In 2021 even limiting news intake is overload!
Ugh. Limiting news intake is so hard when your on the internet!
@@janetstansberry8637 the "need not-to-know" bit in the video struck a real chord; trying to find the fine line between staying informed and staying sane
Danke, Wilbur
thank you will.❤
Honestly the stuff about news is so true. I can’t tell how many times my parents or friends will stress themselves about things happening 1000s of miles away, but proceed to ignore the problems and joys that are three feet away from them.
Ikr? It's like, who cares about climate change?!
100%, I don't watch the news anymore
@@ScottSwalwell So you're not voting 2020?
@@sebastianelytron8450 I think you didn't understand the point. There should be balance in both aspects.
Here its very opposite. People are only concern about their feelings and everyday interactions. The only foreign news that matters is news from USA
It's all FOMO. We're convinced that if we have free time, it means that we are either lazy or are losers.
Yes pretty much😂
@Smoothie "anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on social media." - google definition
@Smoothie fear of missing out
I accept that I am both.
@Punchy This is also my plan. I am working a job that requires me to be away from home 10 months of the year. I am 22 now and hope to save up ~90% of my wages for about 7 years. That should allow me to buy a home, mortgage-free and live life on my own terms for the rest of my life. I plan to take up passion-based part-time work on the future.
thanks william
Thank you will
It’s funny how I get judged by people because I have a pretty simple life... judged by stressed out people. Ironic.
Says the person with that handle 😜😂
Probably because they are jealous?
If they aren't your parents and aren't paying your bills an you are healthy financially, fisically and mentally, they are just jealous then because having all these things is already an accomplishment.
Maybe....they're jealous !!
Same here
“Has it ever struck you that life is all memory, except for the one present moment that goes by you so quick you hardly catch it going?”― Tennessee Williams
Very moving quote😢 , thanks
L ppm
Oh my God :o
present is endless
I don't understand
Thanks wilbur 🙏🙏
Thank you Wilbur🫶
In conclusion, we need more naps. I’m way ahead of you.
That’s Not Mayo i hear you mate!
That's Not Mayo, that's an instrument
Say no more.
Not an instrument but maybe I’m a condiment.
I STILL can't believe that's not Mayo!
Health is the most precious thing. You lose it, you lose everything.
This year has taught me that more than anything else 💯
You have health, you have hope!
Should life be simple, how should you experience it, should you prepare and be organised, anxiety could be the result, don't be a slave, manage a household, explanations are needed, health could be at risk, options keep changing, could you change it, how do you rest at night, requires sanity to succeed, the fun of simplicity🚩🆘🆗🔥✅
And you usually lose it by trying to have everything.
Whos here because of Wilbur?
Meee
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Meee
Me
Meee
Thank you will
thank you, will ❤
Thank you Wilbur 💕
thank you will
Welcome chat
Thank you Wilbur Soot for sending me to this video
thanks will! we love you!
Thank you William 🫶🫶🫶
It's funny when you consider these things:
Some people tell to strive in life, others say to stay calm.
Some people tell to control/ reduce sleep, others say to increase it.
Some people tell to earn more money, others say to stay low because money cant buy happiness.
Some people tell to be more social, others say to be less.
Some people tell to try to understand the philosophies of life, others say to ignore philosophies.
The truth is, you gotta live your life as it pleases you. The standards given by people will always keep you at unrest mode.
Both spectrums have merit. It's good to be ambitious in your 20s, achieve all you can, go through the hardest labor you can endure, trial by elimination of earned lessons and experiences but take heed of the wisdom which accumulates years of other's struggles that you have yet to endure, and mantle yourself as a giver back to those around you to help perpetuate what is amassed material and hard work that keeps a standard of living, health and opportunity possible
!!!, I had just the exact same thought. This vid surely isn't telling me to quit my 'somewhat ambitious' goals, or is it?
balance, dude. you need money, but you sure need sleep. you also need friends but not all the time. spend some time alone, often, learn to love yourself
c'est la vie
Find your OWN balance.
I totally agree! You choose your own pace and live the life you love to live! 😊
I sometimes feel like a robot: have to keep up and be super productive at all times!
Rea Kariz // That’s good. You are using every second of your life.
Being a robot has its benefits ,robots are much better than human beings but u need to seperate when to be a robot and when to be a human ,don't mind if my English is bad ( Sorry )
Rea Kariz it might feel productive but sometimes stopping and taking that daily break to refuel is exactly what you need to continue to feel joy, passion, excitement and be present in the moment and not wondering how you could have done more ❤️
@@Fco.JavierLemus_deElSalvador that's a positive thought .Many times I too get critical about stuffs i have to do . Thank u
I take break but thats not break exactly ,in my case its loss of interest in doing stuffs which are not mandatory. I just lie down and watch such videos as much as i can . Now i have started feeling bad about it . But it feels like i have to learn so much about life and how to live and i end up watching videos whenever i am doing nothing . ( Kind of addiction )
Anybody here from Wilbur?
Thank you Wilbur
Omg hi twt moot!!
Life is good when you learn to love and enjoy the simple stuff. A cup of coffee in the morning, the sound of the rain falling, a smile from a stranger...
An astronaut on the international space station lamented how he missed rain.
@@alanhowitzer That is actually amazing.
Exacly. 😊
As I am an introvert and maybe as weird as it gets, a smile from a stranger (especially if it is a female smiling) unease me and the inability to respond to it like a normal human being upsets me as hell
That's why small pleasures are a big deal😆.
Thank you wilbur
here from wilbur's msr post :') thank you sm for this, will
Thanks Wilbur ♡
Thank you will!
thanks wil
thanks wilby
I was brought here by Wilbur soot. Now I am inspired
Same 😅
Got to say, the same, and this just reinforces in my mind, that he is a wise and aware gentleman, of the human condition. I try to do the same now, and honestly, I’m more stable, and people close to me have seen this. The moral is, be like Wilbur.
Same
Merci Wilbur
thank you will!!! awesom,.e
thanks will
maybe one day i’ll live in La Jolla
drinking cocktails out over the water
Minimalist lifestyle, planning and scheduling ones behavior for maximum efficiency of mental health continuity.
As you put the day together
Schedule the rest/fun
And organise the work around it.
Important comes first, that might even be rest. Fun you can have at any time. Even in your business or job
Work sleep eat untill you die
True minimalism
I heard about Minimalism last week.It is so great.Less headaches
@@anduro7448 ??? TRUE minimalism doesn't include _work._
Journaling and getting in bed early with no extra phone time after a good evening shower are my favorite ways to de-stimulate and sift from all that was collected/experienced from the day. Long walks too!
Hi can I just ask how u managed to stay away from ur phone for a while, without giving in?
@@elahwong5196 Diversion. Busy yourself with another activity.
@@elahwong5196 you can destroy habits but you can replace them. Like if you have habit of using phone daily, switch it off and read books. slowly you will get rid of addictions. I tried this, in jan of 2022 by reading harry Potter books instead. It really works.
@@hetvisampat ahh, so like finding a better substitute instead of just overall quitting
@@elahwong5196 Put it in a drawer in another room at a set time every night, and every time you feel compelled to go get it, pause and ask yourself "do I REALLY need the phone rn or am I just fulfilling an urge."
Thanks Will :)
As a freelancer, I’ve realized over the years that I have fallen into the “if you’re not hustling, you’re worthless” mindset and therefore the idea of a “simple” life feels like a colossal failure. Thank you for putting a different spin on it, detailing what that actually entails, and offering this very healthy perspective. I think it will help me a lot going forward as I try to “deprogram” myself.
How are you doing
Hell I got whooped for "not being productive".
It was beaten into us.
Then my body said No More....
And I got Cancer. It made me slow down, minimize my life, and not worry my adult children.
How To Make Life More Simple Why it gotta be So Complicated bro
hope you are doing fine bro
Make Life Simplified Don't Make Life Complicated Everything Should Be Easy in Life Nothing In Life Should Be Hard
Thanks Wilbur
I nap most days. I also meditate. My life is my own, so I am happy.
Congrats! That's an awesome place to be. Can I ask, what type of meditation do you do?
@@ScottSwalwell It is a mix really, I have been meditating since I turned 21, I am soon to be 57, so have tried all kinds of meditation.....
@@TheRamblingsofBry That's a good stint. I'm starting my days with calming my mind and gratitude before exercise and planning my day. I think I can optimize my meditation however.
Binaural meditation 🧘♂️ work for my brain
Oooh you look and talk like a guru i love it
Thank you wil
Ty wilbur💗💕👏🏻
Thanks Wilbur for the therapy 🥲
I like the way the video emphasizes that leading a simple life doesn’t equate to running away from challenges !!
But facing the challenges in a simple way, I guess, that's what important😁
Yes, exactly
@@danzavalidrov9645Well said 😊
I find that differentiation hard. To lead a simple life I need to not take on certain challenges
thank you silly little streamer dood
thanks wilbur
Of course, it might be pleasant to be extraordinary, famous and world-beating,
But maybe it’ll be an even Greater Achievement to stay sane and kind.
👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Sina Seirafi And happy!
you cannot be extraordinary if you are not allowing yourself to be you
This is soooo important, especially in a world where many of us are constantly comparing ourselves and our lives to others.
couldn't have said it better. what's all the success if you're tormented in your head.
And the great thing is, people who focus on staying sane and kind most of the time finds success in the end. Bc they are happier, and pressure themselves less so everything just happens naturally!
Thanks wilbur
Thanks Wilbur ❤
Thank you Wilbur. I appreciate you more than I could ever attempt to put into words, grateful for you man.
Ty will
Thanks Wilbur
Thanks will :D
thank you will
Insomnia and anxiety are the mind’s revenge for all the thoughts we refuse to have consciously in the day.
very true
That's the answer. Now I know. I've been wondering why for a long time. 🤔
Its important too and better than dieing
thanks Wilbur :)
thank you Wilbur i really needed this video
thanks will
Thank you Wilbur
- Meditation
- Reading
- Developing your Passion
Those are the three pillars of a good, simple and fulfilling life
& sleep, diet and exercise being the 3 of a healthy body/mind :)
Some of the happiest and healthiest people don't read more than necessary. I find novels to be archaic forms of information and very droll. The written word is a modern construct if anything and has no basis on one's fullfilament. You've just been indoctrinated to believing it's so cool when in fact any idiot can write a book and by the time it's published the information is outdated most of the time...
@@blaze556922 That sounds a little short sighted to me. Books are the greatest source of knowledge there is.
Inerize what type of meditation? And on what?
@@blaze556922 WROOOOOOOONG!!!! any idiot can publish something over the internet but books are much more difficult to publish making them more reliable than the internet
Thanks wilbahh
ty wilbur :)
will honestly thanks
MAMMALIAN SIGHING REFLEX
Thank you Wilbur, for this lovely video.
Gracias Wilbur :]
Watch the video, then read comments don't mulitask
I'm in this comment , and I don't like it
How do people even manage to read and listen at the same time?? I simply cannot do multiple thing that actually require me to concentrate at the same time
that's what I did. A good tip is to watch the video fullscreen to improve your concentration.
Great advice, honestly. You’re the hero we needed.
Checking in
Hello Wilbur gang
Hello
Thank you Wilbur.
Thank you so much Will
This video reminded me of the great philosophy of Seneca: Retire into your study & do not envy the person most revered in the office, for such fame is won at the cost of life.
yea yea I've been sent by Wilbur, hiya chat!!
WILBUR SOOT TOOK ME HERE IM CRYING
thank you wilbur 💜
Thank you. I think a lot of high schoolers can relate. We're all so tired from school work and extra curriculars that the way we spend our free time is mostly through passive entertainment--watching videos and TV for hours, instead of giving our mind rest. That makes us sleep deprived and even more tired the next day, fueling the dangerous cycle of overstimulation and fatigue. Mental health should be a priority for all students.
And also for all teachers, who don't care at all if the students are depressed and overworked. At least my teachers
High school and college was like a vacation to me when compared to my work life. Enjoy every moment because it's getting worse and worse.
@@GENCOMAN ah, the fake, fake nostalgia of memories :-)
@@eleonorvoncarter6769 - As a generalisation, In a species where 90% are dysfunctional ( see my synopsis below for more context ) most politicians are not only corrupt, but obsessed with obtaining-retaining power - as a form of re-enacting the traumas-dramas of their toxic child hood ) As a result of this obsession with power, THE last thing they want is a population intelligent enough to think for themselves & be free enough to constantly challenge the establishment / present version of the
" MATRIX" (See Pt.1 of the sci fi film series ). so they have deliberately rigged the conventional education system, in order to make us become "dumbed down" - partly by only educating us to become able to work for a living * ( & make the rich ever richer [ where money = power ! ] ). But we are NOT given the LIFE tools ( e.g. PROBLEM SOLVING/CRITICAL THINKING/ LOGIC [ With regards to the last, not being taught a useful form of logic such as Non Newtonian MULTI valued, holistic logic we are forced to fall back on the quite inadequate 2 valued, either /or logic of the ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle ] ) * but we need far more appropriate life tools to cope with surviving in a society becoming ever more dystopic which becomes ever more obvious as the corrupt politicians refuse to deal with an increasingly negative reality as they are solely concerned with maintaining a status quo which benefits them - @ our expense - & @ that of our planet !
Apart from that, despite the fact I was told I was going to a "good" school, only two teachers ( both doing history ) were any good. The rest were just going through the motions. To make a bad situation worse it was exacerbated by the fact schools only cater for the average person with an IQ of 100. In time I came to view my time @ school as the "3Bs" - Bored Beyond Belief !
SYNOPSIS ( To give more context to our species wide ORIGINAL cause of our problems )
THE child psychologist ALICE MILLER stated that 90% of our species are dysfunctional because of authoritarian - abusive- toxic parenting The symptoms that result from that cause @ one end of the continuum, people who take nicotine-alcohol-drugs to medicate their emotional pain to @ the other end the "great" dictators of the 20th century Hitler/Stalin/Mao/Pol Pot ( It is no random coincidence that they were all abused children who's pathological defence mechanism was to become psychopaths e.g. shut down emotionally & seek power to protect themselves) Unfortunately these dictators obtained such power as to allow them to re-enact their child hood traumas-dramas on the world stage leading to World War / Holocaust - Genocide / deliberate famine / etc
While I feel sorry for what happened to them as kids clearly, @ the VERY least psychopaths should NEVER EVER be given power - & clearly we have yet to learn that lesson ! BTW - ALICE MILLER has written over a dozen books on this topic & a good starting point is "For Your Own Good: The Roots of Violence in Child-Re
@@GENCOMAN in school you have to do a bunch of work and study stuff that you don’t like or is not necessarily interesting to you. But when it comes to your worklife, yes it will be harder and more work but at least it’ll be a job that you like. I mean doesn’t everyone choose a job that they take interest in? So if i like my work I won’t have a problem in overdoing it and working restlessly.
i’d already watched this but thank you wilbur for bringing me back
thank u will :)
Thank you will :)
1. Fewer people and fewer commitments
2. Two third of the day to ourself
3. Sleep (7)
4. Limit social media to minimum
5.introspect (what's making me anxious, what's causing me pain, what excites me)
6. prioritize your expectations and outcomes
7. Simplicity is true wisdom
Thanks for the summary.
Best summary ever!😁🙏🏾
2/3 of the day to ourselves
Me with my 12-hour working day as a teacher: I'm not sure how this works
(Although I'm finally going on vacation, woohoooooooo!)
Exactly. I'm 40 years old and live in the center of beautiful Heidelberg Germany. I inhabit a flat with 2 students, to save money. I can walk to work (ICU nurse), but I have an old used bike for less then 200 bucks. I don't need to travel. Heidelberg is paradise. No car, no kids. I only work part time so I have enough money for my hobbies: Bouldering, Running, Gaming on Sony PlayStation and Nintendo Switch (when our house burns down, I can't lose those games, I own them in the cloud). Life is beautiful nowadays, why would I waste it at work. I only buy cloths when I really need them, mostly cheap.
You can eat healthy for 5 bucks a day (coffee included). I consider whole grain pasta to be healthy, but you should have them split up in to maximum 2 meals a day, and with a good amount of healthy plant seed oils (I prefer olive). Other than that I eat nuts and vegetables. Only drink water, coffee, and tea without milk or sugar. If you're vegan have your vit.B12 and a good source of omega-3 fatty acids (like algae oil), maybe vit.D if you're a nightshift worker or not out in the sun much, and you're good. I'm 40 years old, athletic, everyone thinks I'm much younger. Take good care of your bodies folks and enjoy life 💟
@@eSKAone-❤
thanks will this helps ❤
Thank you Wilbur
Thank you Wilbur for the free therapy
I'm crying and will sent me here so hi :)
The mind needs rest...I lock myself up in my room without books, without phone, without music. I just sit, close my eyes, and I rest. Some people call it meditation. I just call it rest, or restfullness. The more I do it, the more I notice my 'system' desires peace, silence... nothingness. It's a wonderful feeling, to just be able to sit and come to a certain peace of mind. I Just observe my thoughts and emotions without trying to push them away. They are there, floating around, but they don't bother me so much because I am in 'rest-mode'. I try to do this every day 10 minutes. And I must say it changed my life for the better.
Thank you will❤
the school of life said I'm Baby
Goo goo.
@@Jotaku27 Ga ga. :-)
we Baby out here
We bebe out here
We all are babies. It's not possible to be a human without going through the baby period. A lot of it remains in adulthood, the most obvious one: love.
I recently decluttered my physical space and am now working on *decluttering my relationships* - It's challenging to say the least, but some connections are better severed.
Same here. It's tough at first but so freeing!
I've heard that decluttering physical space helps a lot. How was your experience? My plan to declutter has been lingering since years and it's becoming more and more challenging to commence the same!
@@TheSwaroopB it was rejuvenating! Less items = less things to worry about. I actually made a video of myself decluttering and my thoughts if you'd like to check it out!
Oh so, so, true!
@@SeanLei Sure, I'll check out! Thanks!
thanks wilbur :D
Thanks Wil :]
Thank you our silly wilbur