Healthy Expressions of Anger | With Dr. Gabor Maté
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- Опубліковано 24 лис 2024
- This interview took place at Wisdom 2.0, in partnership with Fetzer institute and Unlikely Collaborators.
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GABOR MATÉ
Gabor Maté is a Canadian physician (retired), public speaker and bestselling author,
published internationally in multiple languages.
His book on addiction, the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, is used as a text in many institutions of higher learning in Canada and the U.S. His most recent book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture, to be published in over 30 languages on five continents, A film based on his work, The Wisdom of Trauma, has been viewed by over 10 million people internationally and has been translated into twenty languages. It is shown regularly in many institutions, including schools and prisons, in Canada, the U.S., and abroad.
His therapeutic method, Compassionate Inquiry, has been, in the past three years, studied by over 3,000 health care providers in 80 countries.
His next book, co-written with his son Daniel, will be Hello Again: A Fresh Start for Adult Children and Their Parents, based on their popular workshop.
Learn more at: www.drgabormate.com
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Maté is a genius. Everybody should read his book “The Myth of Normal”.
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I never thought of , knew of, emotions and immune system being the same, having the same purpose. Thanks for this video and thanks Gabor Mate for this and so much more you have taught me.
Others are allowed rage but its a character defect and my fault if i experience rage.
What if I dont know what is not healthy. I feel stepped on and used so much. I have so many times told myself I am just reqacting to an interpretation or I would not be triggered if I was not hurt
How long will it take to get rid of the old anger….
It has been 5 years….
I do not act it out
I have felt it..
It never really goes away, I've found. You just have to make your peace with it and accept it lives in you because we're human. Then, not acting it out becomes more common. And, also the unrealistic goal of being free of it forever also fades, which is helpful, at least to me, because you shouldn't feel like a failure if the goal is humanly unrealistic. Instead, I celebrate being better able to meter my emotions, rather than getting rid of them.
I find this video and advice lacking and troublesome.
Pushing someone as a “boundary defense” when they haven’t even touched you is an assault. How is using physical force a healthy expression of anger? Also, what else besides pushing someone who’s in your space would be considered healthy?
If you listen closely to the video, he was creating an imagined situation where you were up against a wall and couldn't move away from the situation, where the person is one inch away from your face, facing you, and where when you asked the other person to move, the other person said they absolutely wouldn't. In that case, I believe the law in almost all countries would say that you are fully allowed to defend your space, including pushing, without it in any way being considered assault. But only if you cannot get away - or perhaps also if you are defending property that would be stolen from you or damaged if you didn't defend it.
Also, I believe even someone placing themselves one inch away from you, face to face, would already be considered close to an assault, or an actual assault, allowing personal defense.
Im not an angry person at all and viewed anger as something sort of evil but I would experience it and hate myself for experiencing it it was also this one situation that kept happening, it was always a specific person that would want to touch or hug me and I'd ask please go please please please no no, and I'd feel bad for asking so much and then they wouldn't and then I'd push and it would kill me inside why did I do that why didn't I just bear it, it feels so wrong. I can see now that me pushing and saying no is just me trying to protect my boundaries so I shouldn't be so guilty but I still don't want to do it again. I don't know what to do if it happens again. What can you do. Should you just allow whatever happens to you to happen even if you dont want to.. it would be unhealthy. I actually do have an autoimmune condition I wonder if I've caused it by constantly feeling bad for having boundaries I always try to put others first and feel so insanely guilty when I dont. When I push away or tell them please go. I don't want to hurt anyone but there's reality in which you won't hurt anyone. :(